Joint Family ke jhanjhat aur pareshaniyan!

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  • @Shridharlifeschooling
    @Shridharlifeschooling  4 роки тому +7

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  • @shivanishuklaofficial1374
    @shivanishuklaofficial1374 Рік тому +14

    kitne mature ho aap...😘😘😘apke jesa hubby ho to life kitni best😍😍

  • @trueindian5475
    @trueindian5475 2 роки тому +112

    In joint family my life really became like he'll..I'm suffering from depression 😪

  • @rims1104
    @rims1104 2 роки тому +24

    I would say that joint family is a complete hell for women.They are treated like slaves.
    I was born and brought up in a joint family but I had seen clashes more than happiness. The atmosphere was highly toxic and everyday saas bahus used to fight like cats and dogs and there was no privacy.
    The peaceful atmosphere I found later was in a nuclear family. Even after marriage I live separately with my husband bcoz I already decided not to marry in a joint family. My husband had already buy a house before marriage.

    • @anshukamahagaonkar3710
      @anshukamahagaonkar3710 Рік тому

      Ohh wow but you are lucky but joint family have also have advantages help support

    • @smulestar
      @smulestar 3 місяці тому

      ​@@anshukamahagaonkar3710bullhlsheeet

  • @simpleliving3505
    @simpleliving3505 4 роки тому +38

    I used to suggest this solution from past 30 years but people want slave to dominate so they donot want to live separately.
    Some people enjoy day to day small fight as they have lots of energy and that is spice of their life.

  • @hiteshpatil8978
    @hiteshpatil8978 3 роки тому +47

    Kuch kuch log buss tanne marte rehte kisi ko jo sun leta rehta hai 🥺

  • @kavitagupta385
    @kavitagupta385 4 роки тому +11

    Much needed video...Indian families refuse to understand the advantages of neighbouring families concept...

  • @shivislifestyle9858
    @shivislifestyle9858 4 роки тому +11

    Shridhar , today onwards I m fan of yours....I was following most of these changes but sometimes people make us feel guilty for such behavior....but now you gave a big thumps up...thank u so much for addressing such crucial yet most discussed topic....

  • @monikapatel5613
    @monikapatel5613 4 роки тому +17

    Loved this video .... all the small small but really mind taking points covered. I could relate your childhood story with mine after my marriage. How to deal with the mother in law who is too much dominant and never let daughters in laws have peace is a biggest problem. We are nuclear families but fight is tend to happen between the couple wherever she goes. My husband and his brother both respect her so much. Even me and my jethani also understand and respect that. Then also it happens that I console her when mil stays with her and she is an sympathetic ear to me when mil is with me. Specially in this covid time when we don't want them to stay separate but it is at the cost of our mental peace. Thanks for taking this issue.... I really admire

  • @Terimaakasaakinakalol
    @Terimaakasaakinakalol 2 місяці тому +2

    Overall good content. Mere kuchh points:
    1) Most of the cases me bade bhai ki family se expect kiya jaata hai ke vo sacrifice kare
    2) kuchh bahuein aisi bhi hoti hai jo neighborhood family ke concept ko poori tarah exploit kar sakti hain. So aisi narcissistic bahu, bhai, ya parents ho to bahut door jaana hoga
    3) mujhe lagta hai parents ki sabse zyada responsibility hai ye dekhne ki ke bhaiyo ki family me partiality na kare. Udhar se sab shuru hota hai

  • @makelifeeasy6777
    @makelifeeasy6777 4 роки тому +20

    Beautifully explained
    Especially nayi bahu concept, totally agree

    • @irfukhan2931
      @irfukhan2931 2 роки тому

      @Preeti Srijith shadi kare ge aisa sun ke

  • @mrs.zikriya
    @mrs.zikriya 4 місяці тому +2

    Bht zbrdst suggestions ap ny dye.. Allah apko muslaman kary.. ameen

  • @sapnabhogal7376
    @sapnabhogal7376 2 місяці тому +2

    Respect ki definition wow..

  • @dayitamaity542
    @dayitamaity542 3 роки тому +16

    3:38 biggest scam.... 🤣🤣
    9:14 people don't spend time with each other that's the sole reason families were sustained for so many decades

  • @jyotsnajha8767
    @jyotsnajha8767 3 роки тому +7

    What an amazing content again! Very very required for lots of families.

  • @aimansaniya3783
    @aimansaniya3783 3 роки тому +30

    Kabi kabi joint family ki wja se ldkiyo ki life b kharab ho jati h

  • @jamilanuruddin7830
    @jamilanuruddin7830 3 роки тому +4

    But see in this case it father has to sacrifice he has to live in old house n ur kaki family got new house . U are really right

  • @jamilanuruddin7830
    @jamilanuruddin7830 3 роки тому +5

    Superb I wish we can put ur video in family so that they accept

  • @ghanshyamdas5598
    @ghanshyamdas5598 2 роки тому

    Yah Jo sari baten aapane batai yah hamari family se bilkul मिलती-जुलती hai

  • @tiyaslife190
    @tiyaslife190 3 роки тому +2

    I have seen your this video first time ..aisa lag raha tha ki ye to meri hi baare me baat ho rahi h ..bahut achhe se samajh aayi aapki baat me joint family me rehte hue peace nahi h koi private space nahi h ....mai bhi sochti hu akele kaise rahenge Kya karenge but this option too good...thank you so much meri life ki itni badi problem solve Karne k liye really thank u bottom of my ❤️

  • @nadeemqureshi8312
    @nadeemqureshi8312 4 роки тому +5

    Thanks a Lot Brother Shridhar..This Video was very Informative

  • @tiyaslife190
    @tiyaslife190 3 роки тому +2

    Bahut sahi kaha aapne I m fan of yours

  • @factsaboutknowledge2988
    @factsaboutknowledge2988 4 роки тому +5

    Wow bhai awesome speech.

  • @kopallovepreet3208
    @kopallovepreet3208 3 роки тому +5

    its fantastic video sir ...

  • @sobiaali8647
    @sobiaali8647 2 роки тому +5

    You’re great at your work.. keep up the good work of spreading awareness on this topic which is really needed for millions of people around the world👍
    there’s still so much of illiteracy within people because of which the system of joint families is collapsing..
    if possible please touch base the topic of how to deal with your husband who is brainwashed to such a manner that he thinks going against his parents and living in a separate house will bring all sorts of calamities and unluck in his life!!

  • @pritraj_10
    @pritraj_10 Рік тому +1

    Wah kya video haii ♥️♥️♥️

  • @pradeepKumar-y1x5y
    @pradeepKumar-y1x5y 9 днів тому +1

    You have lot of experience about joint family just like same happening with me

  • @jattajnala
    @jattajnala 2 роки тому +3

    Fantastic video! Thanks

  • @reshmirouth1816
    @reshmirouth1816 2 роки тому

    sir aapne mera bht had tak prblm solve kiya... thnku sir....

  • @PritiKumari-lw5vy
    @PritiKumari-lw5vy 2 місяці тому +1

    Kash aapke jesa soch har pati ki ho

  • @ankitamcdv
    @ankitamcdv Рік тому +7

    This is the solution where parents in the family are financially independent …but what will someone do if the in laws are totally financially dependent on the couple …no income whatsoever…and still does not corporate at all. Basically they are dependents so you cannot be separate because of the expenses and your mental health just gets broken because of living with them. Living separately is not poss and living together is hell.

    • @ranirathi3379
      @ranirathi3379 Рік тому +4

      yes. in childhood when we were dependent on them, as kids our opinions and preferences had no value, we had to "get first rank in class" to get small wishes met. but now when we become independent and they become dependent, but their opinion they want to have as much weight as it had earlier. they won't compromise on anything, moreover indirectly coerce and manipulate by gossiping in relatives and friends about how DIL is such a useless person coz she won't listen and comply to their wishes.
      i grew up in joint family and it pissed me off so much, i won't have kids. i don't want them to be judged by their score and asked every year "what you want to become" when their freedom to explore is suffocated out of them.

  • @user-em8oo5dm7x
    @user-em8oo5dm7x 3 місяці тому

    Thank You So Much. You've been a great help! Thanks again for the clarification ❤

  • @haridwaragrahari5216
    @haridwaragrahari5216 2 роки тому

    I like this video too much... zindage jeenay ke rasta bata de aap nay...

  • @pritraj_10
    @pritraj_10 Рік тому +1

    This is the first video i have watched and i am the new subscriber & watching great valueable content
    Thank you Shridhar

  • @Dorara2
    @Dorara2 3 роки тому +14

    Joint family is good until the whole financial burden is upon one member....

  • @GaneshShau-e5l
    @GaneshShau-e5l 4 місяці тому

    Apki baaten 💯 parsent sach hea

  • @amitkumarsah98302
    @amitkumarsah98302 Рік тому +1

    Example - after partition still have joint huge home..... independent nuclear joint family(separate kitchen): all nuclear family rooms are set together make them joint family (clarity - financial (division), amount of autonomy in subject), privacy, dicision making

  • @virensridhar4079
    @virensridhar4079 3 роки тому +2

    I really liked this video sir. There is only one point on which I have a different view. You said towards the end that "ek baar shaadi kar leta hai toh uska status ek adult ka hota hai". I don't agree that marriage is necessary for a person to be considered an adult. Because there may be a person who chooses not to marry. So in my opinion, once a person is around 22 years of age and has a job, he is an adult.

  • @musarratparveen550
    @musarratparveen550 3 місяці тому

    Very good.... And nice to hear you

  • @little.boy30
    @little.boy30 2 місяці тому

    Thank you sir aapne to mere dil ki bat kah di, Mai apani joint family ko lekar bahut pareshan hu ye baat mai apne husband ko kaise samjhau

  • @nisha02menon
    @nisha02menon 2 місяці тому +1

    I just suffered a lot . Before marriage the only thing I requested was I wanted to work and he gave a positive answer. After I became mother the family was not supportive . They wont take care of child and not let nanny to come and look after the child. They said the lady will steal things and she cannot micromanage nanny. I made my daughter to go to playschool. Thankfully I got a good lady who looked after my kid. When child was sick my husband's parents wont take care. I had to take 4 days leave every month as child got sick by infection from other children. My husband didnt do anything. I was stuck. He didnt leave the place as it was comfort zone for him. During corona my husband lost his job and got second job in Bangalore. I came here and started working night shifts after 8 years gap. Lost so many years.

  • @saumisinha9616
    @saumisinha9616 7 місяців тому +1

    The concept of a neighborhood family will work only when the necessary ground work is done. Those wishing to stay in separate houses in the vicinity of each other should have proper love and affection for each other from the beginning. Otherwise not many people will like to stay in houses very close to each other.

  • @tejaswishriniwas6076
    @tejaswishriniwas6076 4 роки тому +7

    Sir can u please make video what is the role of husband in a joint family for her wife. Because many times wife feel that he just listen to his family not wife

  • @NishaShah-c3e
    @NishaShah-c3e Рік тому +3

    Sir can u give the ideas! How to separate from joint family to nuclear family?

  • @shivangthakkarvlog
    @shivangthakkarvlog 2 роки тому +1

    Very nice video i feel this is the solution

  • @nidayousuf6076
    @nidayousuf6076 2 роки тому +1

    I love your videos

  • @sagarrvidya512
    @sagarrvidya512 3 роки тому +3

    Thank you so much

  • @mukhtiarsingh488
    @mukhtiarsingh488 2 роки тому +2

    very nice video

  • @Bankingcareerchoice
    @Bankingcareerchoice 11 місяців тому

    Very nice video,
    Thanks😊😊

  • @madhumitabagchisingharoy8848
    @madhumitabagchisingharoy8848 2 роки тому +9

    I have been going through a very bad situation for the last 2 years, my in-laws are very bad people, my husband's mind is very good but he doesn't listen to me. With my husband for my in-laws My relationship is getting worse,😭😭😭😔

  • @krishnair2427
    @krishnair2427 4 роки тому +5

    Sir can you make a video on how to regain/ rebuild trust once broken in married life..

  • @asthamishragarg3493
    @asthamishragarg3493 2 роки тому +42

    Par sabse badi samasya to yah hai ki....ghar ke purusho ko koi fark nahi padta join family me.. esliye agar unki wife alag hone ki baat karti hai to unko lgta hai ki vo unko unke ma baap se alag karana chahti hai

  • @neelamyadav3362
    @neelamyadav3362 2 місяці тому

    Bhaiya aap jo samjha rahe hai ye sb kash meri mummy papa ko samjh me aata to aaj mujhe itana rona ,overthink aur depression nahi hota aur nahi aapki video search karake dekhana nahi padata😢😢😢

  • @abdullahvlogs754
    @abdullahvlogs754 3 роки тому +5

    Very effective and simple words thx

  • @rireshjainjain1611
    @rireshjainjain1611 2 роки тому

    Right sir very very helpful video for me 🙂☺️

  • @Reeyanaparveen-rw5qt
    @Reeyanaparveen-rw5qt 5 місяців тому

    Very very good adwaiz bro

  • @spandane
    @spandane 3 місяці тому

    Very useful video.

  • @jayeshbijan-takavalikar7955
    @jayeshbijan-takavalikar7955 6 місяців тому

    Superb Videos bro👍👍

  • @mairajbegum3377
    @mairajbegum3377 Рік тому

    I like your video what u said is true

  • @rireshjainjain1611
    @rireshjainjain1611 2 роки тому +1

    Very helpful video 🤠

  • @jamilanuruddin7830
    @jamilanuruddin7830 3 роки тому +3

    India mai log bohat board minded hai but gulf ke log bohat conservative hote hai bcoz they live in rent house

  • @akkutiwari8629
    @akkutiwari8629 Рік тому

    Koi kisi ka ni sochta sab khud ke bare m phle sochte h seprate raho khush rho

  • @Priyanka19049
    @Priyanka19049 3 роки тому +1

    Hi sir good morning 🙏 thanks u so much

  • @dipalimagar9010
    @dipalimagar9010 3 роки тому +1

    Very nice thinking

  • @tanvitayal6300
    @tanvitayal6300 4 роки тому +2

    Very nice

  • @komaldhiman4855
    @komaldhiman4855 5 місяців тому

    Problems faced by Newly married couples in joint family, plz make।a video

  • @Englishofficial466
    @Englishofficial466 5 місяців тому

    Amazing ❤😊

  • @pritraj_10
    @pritraj_10 Рік тому

    Thank you for the suggestion

  • @manasguddi
    @manasguddi 9 місяців тому

    Bhut ache

  • @sowmyavgs6893
    @sowmyavgs6893 4 роки тому +5

    Hi your videos are very practical...
    But my question is that is it correct that a girl marries into a family and does not stay with them. She does not even try to mix into the family....
    They immediately move into Newhouse. Dont parents get offended and feel bad. Is it correct

  • @zignamite
    @zignamite 6 місяців тому +1

    Bro my joint family was totally chilling and happiness as i was born in it but when my all cousins got married specially because of sister in laws use to fight all day and seperated the family for themselves. Now my cousins are suffering so much 😭

  • @MrKhan-A07
    @MrKhan-A07 2 роки тому +17

    Joint family me rahna bewakoofi hain bhai kabhi bhii na rahna , agar cousins hote hain toh unhme fights ho jaati hai , agar bahuen hoti hain unme fight ho jaati hai , ek dusre se jalan jalapa rahta hai , isse accha hai ki agal ghar ya flat me sukoon ki zindagi jiyo.

    • @anshtiwari9664
      @anshtiwari9664 3 місяці тому

      What should I do plz tell

    • @MrKhan-A07
      @MrKhan-A07 3 місяці тому

      @@anshtiwari9664 separate ho jaao , batwara karwalo sukoon se toh rahoge

    • @anshtiwari9664
      @anshtiwari9664 3 місяці тому

      @@MrKhan-A07 aap rehte ho joint family meh?

    • @MrKhan-A07
      @MrKhan-A07 3 місяці тому

      @@anshtiwari9664 yes tabhi toh bta raha hun bhot jald ghar bechne ka hai , bhai meri sirf nahi baat hai jisse puchoge who yahi kahega ki joint family me bekar hai rehna

    • @anshtiwari9664
      @anshtiwari9664 2 місяці тому

      @@MrKhan-A07 aapka kab hua thaa batwara?

  • @NishantKumar-ep4hw
    @NishantKumar-ep4hw 4 місяці тому +1

    NUCLEAR VS JOINT FAMILY ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @satvinderkour3779
    @satvinderkour3779 Рік тому

    Really good vedio

  • @MdNaeem-zg9ih
    @MdNaeem-zg9ih 10 місяців тому

    Allah khush rakhey Aamin

  • @whisperingnature1877
    @whisperingnature1877 4 роки тому +7

    Hi, what to do if husband didn't listen to you. He can't take his decisions independently. For every thing he want to talk to his mother. As of now also our relationship is towards divorce. But he still don't want to take any step without his parents decision.

    • @simpleliving3505
      @simpleliving3505 4 роки тому +5

      This is in almost every Indian house so don't worry , adjust thinking instead of giving Cancer or any dangerous disease God gave this problem and try to be calm.

    • @Uuditabhansali
      @Uuditabhansali 2 роки тому +3

      Aur ladkiyo se expect kara jata hai ki won 100% adjust kare
      Agar hum apne mummy ko baat baat m lane lagge tho inlaws k muhun ban jata hai
      Jab ladke k ma baap interfare karte hai tho ladkiyo k kyu nahi

  • @Chaitushah-oy2nx
    @Chaitushah-oy2nx 8 місяців тому

    I have a suggestion Content topic- how to make husband bond with wife family

  • @mswr3351
    @mswr3351 11 місяців тому +2

    Mom dad jan buzke unke bête ko space nahi dena chahte…
    I wish every boy was mature like you

  • @rohitbhardwaj90
    @rohitbhardwaj90 2 роки тому

    Sam broni did same thing I am happy

  • @deepikavijh3409
    @deepikavijh3409 5 місяців тому

    U r too good

  • @shivanimishra8019
    @shivanimishra8019 3 роки тому +1

    Sir please go some detaile thanks for this talks talk about joint business in joint familey

  • @PositiveMotivation75
    @PositiveMotivation75 2 роки тому +2

    Aaj apki video dekhi pahli bar same situation mai apne in laws me face kr rhi hu meri shadi love marriage huyi hai mere sasural me har 4 din bad koi n koi bahah jhagde hote rahte h kabhi khana banane ko leke kyunki mai ghar me sabse choti hu to sara kam mujhpe chhod diya jata h chhote hone ki wajah se kisiko kuch bolna bhi sahi nhi hai .।।। Mere sasural me kuch dino se problem chal rahi h mere husband 3 bhai h mere saas sasur nhi hai meri do badi jethaniya h mai ghar me sabse chhoti hu meri shadi ko ek saal ho gye hai mere husband police me h wo jiski wajah se wo ghar se dur rahte h bas chhuttiyo me hi ghar aate h unka man h mujhe apne sath leke jane ka lekin meri dono jhethainiyo ko ye bilkul pasand nhi hai wo log soch rahe hai ki hum log unka ghar tod rahe h bar bar shadi ke tane marti h kyunki hamari shadi mere jheth jethaniyo ne ki h wo log chahati h ki sab sath rahe bahut bahas huyi es bat pe chup rahne ke bad bhi sunana padata h mujhe aur mere husband ko samjh nhi aata kya kru sasural me rahu join family banke jo ki bas naam ki join family h ya phir husband ke sath bahut pareshan hu pls koi suggetion dijiye 🙏🙏

    • @awantikagupta5552
      @awantikagupta5552 2 роки тому

      Bhn meri bhi love marriage h bhn ye log na dil se except nhi krte h sach btau to sabse bdi baat husband wife ki bat nhi mante to log fayda hi uthate h mere saas sasur jethani hai saas jethani ki bnti h mujhe har baat p taane marte rehte h pehnne odhne o dikkat husband ko bhdkana jbse m shadi kr k gai hu inke ghr m kuch na kuch hota hi h mujhe pehle nhi pta tha ab ye sara blame mujh p dete h tu pnoti h Inka kam nhi chl rha shadi k bad 3 bar kam chhod k Beth gae paise bhi nhi mile nokri kha gai mayke aai hu lene nhi aa rhe 3 month ka baby h pragnent hu aisa lg rha h meri zindagi khtm ho gai h mummy papa bhi nhi h bhaiya bhabhi h unse bhi meri mere bhai se suru se nhi bni wo shadi se khush bhi nhi tha bus bhai ne kr di kl ko m na bolu ab krne k baad bhi sab khrab hi chl rha h

  • @aishwaryasuvarna
    @aishwaryasuvarna Рік тому

    5:49 about respect ❤

  • @Chaitushah-oy2nx
    @Chaitushah-oy2nx 8 місяців тому

    Please make more content on joint family

  • @RashmiKhan-b1b
    @RashmiKhan-b1b 5 місяців тому

    Very nice sir

  • @SadiyaWasim-k2b
    @SadiyaWasim-k2b 10 місяців тому +3

    Apne bilkul sahi kaha lekin Mera kehna h k agar joint family me sab graduate hain tab adjust karna sahi h lekin agar apke alawa koi graduate na ho to aap jald se jald us joint family se door ho jayen.

  • @nntv2149
    @nntv2149 2 роки тому +2

    Such a great advice sir thank you so much 😊

  • @radhatiwari9985
    @radhatiwari9985 Рік тому

    Bilkul shii beat mere bhai

  • @ahanadivine6342
    @ahanadivine6342 4 роки тому +8

    Could you tell about living with a narcissist, I am living in this narcissist relationship for 30 years. Should I leave him?

    • @inzayurveda4935
      @inzayurveda4935 3 роки тому

      Leaving him is not an ultimate solution! Learn, make urself strong & ultimately teach him. Gud is always gud! Patience pays a lot! U can make a Gud history for urself & ur children!
      God bless u knowledge & strength !

    • @apurvashyam620
      @apurvashyam620 3 роки тому

      @@inzayurveda4935 leaving is the answer. Over and out.

    • @apurvashyam620
      @apurvashyam620 3 роки тому

      Leave him

    • @ankitrawal3240
      @ankitrawal3240 Рік тому

      Leave him after all it's your life who is going to be hell

    • @gamesforfun94
      @gamesforfun94 Рік тому

      Leave him.

  • @lalbahadurjamatia6048
    @lalbahadurjamatia6048 Рік тому

    To sir humein alag hi rehena chahiye na. Kya na hum sath rehe kar jagra karein, jagra hone se pehle alag se rehe bohi atsa hoga na sir.

  • @Amarkumar-gh3lb
    @Amarkumar-gh3lb 2 роки тому

    Thank you.

  • @aakankshazia5021
    @aakankshazia5021 3 місяці тому

    Film bnegi hm sath sath hai..😊

  • @rpteacher2097
    @rpteacher2097 4 роки тому +3

    Sir mujhe Mera past me failure bhut dukh deta h.... Vo memory mere mind se ni niklti h &. Present bhi hope less ho jata h.. aage exam AA rhi h but Mera dimag to us baat ko lekar regret krta h ki ...." KASH us time mene exam clear KR liya hota to aaj life kuch or hoti"...

  • @charugoel4132
    @charugoel4132 2 місяці тому

    Nice

  • @shiwanikasana1804
    @shiwanikasana1804 3 роки тому +1

    Thnku🙏

  • @deepakjadhavdj
    @deepakjadhavdj 2 роки тому

    2 room 2 bhai ek ko sab facility ek jhopdi, dono bhai ka contro same, acchi life style chote bhai ko automatic mil rahi hai ,aur hum zopli chawal room me

  • @shiwanikasana1804
    @shiwanikasana1804 3 роки тому +2

    👏👏man ki shanti se bdhkr kuch nhi or bchcho ko time desktw h

  • @juiesingha4884
    @juiesingha4884 3 роки тому +1

    ThankYou very much sir

  • @KishorKumar-ke2nj
    @KishorKumar-ke2nj Рік тому

    Please creat a debate on this topic

  • @kiranjarariya7308
    @kiranjarariya7308 2 роки тому +6

    Meri family pehle nuclear thi. Joint family m Sadi ho gai. Sara Kam mere upar thop Diya.

    • @Mohittiwariji
      @Mohittiwariji 5 місяців тому +1

      Divorce le khud kama apni life jee fir tujhe kuchh saal baad pata chalega ki wo life jo tu chhor ke ayi thi wahi jannat thi