Bilkul sahi and 100% agreed. No doubt we have so many male child in our society. Even parents suffer more in joint family instead of being happy and at peace.
I've grown up in a joint family system and i can write a book how it can destroy anyone's mental and physical health. Only Allah knows how much me, my mother has suffered. I literally hate it so much that if someone says that mil jul k rehna chahie. I just wanna slap him and take him back to reality. If you are choosing to be in joint family system always remember you are going to destroy your kids life and you are responsible for it. You are not a man you are just a typical mummy daddy kid whose emotional intelligence is so low that even after getting married you want to live with your previous family. Don't get married then.
Koi system tab bura banta hai jab laug khud gharzi dikhaien. Joint family system koi farz kaam nahi hai jis per zid lagai jai na hi zeher hai keh pabandi lagai jai. Jinhein sharing nahi aati ya kisi apnay k liye apna haq chorna nahi aata ya keh lo jisay dosron say mohabbat kerni nahi aati woh akaila rahay.
@@Alifaizalifaizyours is an exceptional case .....we have seen 99.9999% families which are disasters......education ki baat to mat karo aap India Pakistan m......sab educatedly uneducated hote h
A wife should take care of her parents and prioritize them over her husband's parents because a daughter is responsible for her parents, not the daughter-in-law
💯 true.aurat jitni b smjhdar ho disciplined ho sughar ho .aksar susral waly uski qadar nahi krty usko bewqoof aur khudgarz smjha jata hy.apny Haq k liy Uthai hui sach ki awaz b tlaq ki dhamki de kr chup krwa d jati hy.
Very true. Joint family system main husband bohat majbor ho jata hay. Wo sach jantay hoay bhe bewi Ka sath Nahi Deta. Kitni zalim saso nay Ghar tak turwa diay. I'm a victim of this thing😢. Mere in laws main decision making completely parents in law k hath main thi. Nanden har waqt wahen. Saas nandon ko Dekh k aur batamezi Karti thi k Dekho main nay bahuon ko nechay lagaya hoa hay. Mere request hay in laws say k apni bahu ko plz beti Ka darja dain. Plz. Bahu ko Kam karnay main koi masla Nahi hota, na he ap ki khidmat karnay say magar har waqt apni insult koi bear nahi Kar Sakta hay. Mujhay joint family say nafrat ho gayi hay. Main apnay Bhaion ko b samjhati hon k alag raho. Mere in laws k joint family system nay mere life barbad Kar Di. Allah will held them accountable one day.
My sister also went through the same situation. As the in-laws feel that their son is shared and he will get out of their hands, due to this insecurity, they develop hatred against the daughter-in-law in their minds and start doing things to make her feel as if she is a piece of shit. And they give her food and a place to seek hide.
Allah farmate han "Hm insan ko koi takleef ni dete insan khud apne lie mushkilat khri krta ha" Joint family hm ne khud apne lie mushkil khri ki ha Ab joint family se niklna bht mushkil ha
Just one thing is destroying in all this the future of grand children, when mother is busy in serving her in laws how could she able to give enough time to her children, unki taleem tarbiyat Kisi khaty m ni ati , or bigarny m sb sy agy grand father's hoty hn
Zabardast..main khud experience kr chuki hon tabah kr diya hy susral walon ne aur jab tak susral waly jaan chorrty hain tab tak shohar bhi aik saas ban chuka hota hy
Man can keep parents with him and do everything for his parents and not rely on wife for any thing. Because many times Grandparents are happy to see their grand children and also leaving them alone whole day will be like they are living in old age house
This issue can be solved by seperate portion for wife and parents where son can take care both parents and wife and less chances of unnecessary intervention in life of one another, because problem starts when there is unnecessary intervention. Mother in law don't just want son or bahu to take care of her but she also wants to have hold of complete house.
@@amalik1171 💯 agreed Also there should be separate kitchen. And cocking and food taking care responsibility should be of son. As his jannat lies at the feet of his mom not his wife
Look! When there is no understanding among Husband and wife resultant wife doesn’t understand him for his family love support and if there is also no understanding between in the women and Bahu there is also be a big clash, so understand each other and lived happily bcs Nothing is permanent in this short life spain❤
@@graphicdesigner9392 Gents kia Samjhy ? Ladies ko b to Smjhna chahye Sb ko nhin keh rha but mostly aaj Kal aisey han Jo Shadi k bad Alag hony k Liye kia Kuch nhin krten Wo Insan jisko Maan 9 months apny pet men rkhti ha Paal k barha krte ha Kia Kuch Usk Liye bardasht krte ha Baap kitni mushkil Sy Usk Liye sb Kuch krta ha Aakhir men JB Maan Baap ko Muhabbat aur Care ki Zrurat Hoti ha Us time Alag hony ka kehti han Wives So Farz nhin ha to Ikhlaqan to Unki khidmat kren Unki Izzat kren aur Zindgi ki khubsurati isi cheez men ha Alhamdulillah
@@technical.boy57Its a bad system. Children are not given independence to live and navigate life. Problem is parents don't prepare for old age. This could be financially or support. When the average person marries their parents are not retired pensioners. The father in law is still working. We need to look at reality.
Sir aisa pakistan mein hona mumkin nahi hai hum pori Tarah hindu culture mein dansay howe hain. Agar aik aurat apna woh haq mangti hai tou uss ko Allah ki Taraf say 1400 saal pehlay ata kar dia gaya tha tou yeh naam nehaad hindu culture mein dhansa howa joint family uss kay haath mein 2, 3 bachon sameet talaq day deta hai. Aur zyadataar joint family mein mard Jo talaq deta hai woh apni AMMA ABBA aur Behnon kay pressure mein deta hai. Dua hai Allah say kay Jo jis kay sath jaisi ziyati Kare uss ko waisa sila zaror Milay. Ameen
I got married with a divorced person. His all children married. I also have a minor daughter. Man's married children two 50 plus sisters all living in one house. ......joint family system. Whole family made my life a mere toture cell as well as for my daughter. I demanded separate living. He divorced m becaz my demand non Islamic. Man is Hafiz e Quran.
Men cant afford homes because of interest. If you are going to ignore one rule of islam, the rest of the rules wont work. The root cause of poverty is interest.
Start se sahi kaha h.... Jese mere in-laws mn Jeth Father k barabr drja dya gya h .. Shohr ki kro na kro pr jeth , devr (baap) ko mna nh kro un k lye hr tym hazr rho pani bhi woh khud na pyn bhabhi pelain...
Allhamdulilh me and my brother moved out whe we got maried it wasnt easy esp financially,and the relationship of our wifes and family is excellent. I knew from young age joint family is not in islam and even morally wrong ,its a hindu tradition like it or not.if you cant afford to move out the minimum you can do is put a partition wall in the same house.or simple dont get married ( fast instead)
As a senior I totally agree with u Shaheelbhai , capable honest , sensior towards parents son also can't live with his wife in seprate home , due to " log kiyah kahaygay ? " ruine the life of young couple for society n some more their ego satisfaction , selfishness to take service from his wife 😔
Sir join family system ko mana kar rahey hai to ej baat k aj kal pakistan k jo halat hai is mai ek banda agar 50 hazar kama raha hai to is mai rent bills grocery aur doosrey malat jis mai maa baap ko bhi kuch dega yeh kaisey mumkin hai ? Aur maa baap burhapey mai ab kahan jain akeley rahein???
Burhapay may sath rhain aur khidmat kren. 50 saal k uncle borhay nae hotay. 46 saal ki maa apki wife ki zindge ajeeran kr dy ge. Jb wo helpless honay lgain tb unki help kren aur khidmat kren.
Issi liya ma inn ki baat ko nahi agree kerti , jin sahaba kay dour ki baat kertay hain wahan too aik aik khajoor say bhi oratin guzara ker laitti thi , aik toota kumara bhi unn kay liya buaht hotta tha , lakin aaj kal kaya larkiyan assay rah pain gi ????
There is too much politician in Joint family system 😂. I personally brought up in single family system and trust me we siblings hardly tell a lie and quit good with our fields. But after marriage, I realized that In Pakistan why we are stuck and couldn’t grow overall as nation. Because old and young generation are busy in less productive talk, gossips. First I thought that what a wonderful family and now uff.
Sahil Bhai I m a practicing muslimah doing sharai parda and searching for the practicing Muslim but sadly sary practicing Muslim is bat pay aa ky bhag jaty Hain jb men kehti hon ky men inlaws ky Sath na rahun gi na unki khidmat karun gi becoz I want to be productive or aesi ummat bharrhana chahti hon Jo Salah uddin ayyubi jesy hon men ye inlaws ky mamly men parh ky khd ko zaya ni karna chahti but sadly no one understands this or ab itny rejections ky bad it's very difficult for me to search a proposal I thought ky practicing man at least smjhta hoga is cheez ko but koi ni smjhta
It is bad system. No easy solutions at time People are forced due to economic conditions but should avoid as much possible. It is bad enough for bride to leave own house after getting married then she has to comply with joint family system. Men live under parents shadow and never get out of it.
Sahil bhai ur v much linked to human behavior u saying that a guy shud tel his father that (don’t get me married until I’m independent ill rather FAST) yar do u really believe this sentence is even close to H psychology
سچ بات یہ ہے کہ مجھے اس گفتگو میں خیر محسوس نہیں ہو رہی۔ جوائنٹ فیملی سسٹم کا مطلب والدین نہیں بھائیوں سے الگ ہونا ہوتا ہے تا کہ محرمات کا تقدس برقرار رہے۔
Ji bilkul Mera bhi yahi khayal hai aksar larayi khagrey Bhai aur aur unki biwion me zyada hotay Hain aur phir Dewar ko maut kaha gaya baaki maa baap ko phir apne paas hi rakhna chahiye
@@rabiasheikh5949 Aj kal k zmanay mein jub dono partners k job kernay se hi nazam chalta hai us mein waldien ka hona aur un ka contribution core ho jata hai bachon ki tarbiat k hwalay se.
Mostly now a days is that wife is not liable to take care of husband's parents. But there is issue that is man should give separate house to his wife. N if he is living with ur parents then pay rents n bills, plus take care their house as your own. Mostly man are like..... can't live on rent plus can't take care of parents hard earn house.... Bcz there is nothing in my pocket...... N my wife can't help or take care of parents etc
Joint family system destroy a women mental and physical health. Sas susar ki hukmarani ki waja se 1 orat apny husband aur bachon ko time ni dy sakti Ku k Sas susar he apni khidmat ma lagai rakhty .
Nabi pak (S. A. W) ki hr choty se choty masly hadison ki sorat me rahnumai mojud ha kbi b aisi koi hadis nhi suni or pr hi jis me ho k shohar bv ko ly kr alhda ho or waldain ko tanha chor dai ya joint family system ko bura kha gia ho QURAN pak me b aisa kuch nhi likha. . Hmry han zra sa deen ka ilm hasil kr k sb se joint family system pr hamla awar hoty hain kisi trh sari family ko bikhair dain.
Nhi isse boht se nuqsanaat Hain aur Quran me sirf biwi par. Shohar aur bachon ki hi zimmedari aayed ki gayi hai baaki Ghar walon ki nhi maa aur baap ki Tou alag BAAT lekin har chota bara Bhai aik hi Ghar me aur unke Bache bhi fitne hi fitne bepardgi ka fitna aurton ki laraion ka fitna aik doosre ke maamlo me interfair ka fitna aur isse Ghar boht zyada toot Rahe Hain hum khud dekh Rahe Hain logon ke haalat aap duniya ke maamlat Dekho Tou sahi
@@Storytimeurduandhindi it doesn't make any sense. Is tarah to wo bilkul b burhe maa baap ka khyal ni rakh pae ga.... Unke lie khana kon bnae ga, wghera wghera... air biwi to sirf milty h apne parents khyal rakhne k lie to ni jaty khyal to biwi k bhai aur unki Biwia rakh rhy hoty h
why u not wonder when kisee ki akloti beti huti hay par woh unhay akela chhordeti hay..apna ghar basati hay..maa baap tab akele nhi rehtay? yeh bete k alag hune par itna wawela kyun huta hay bhui?
My ny ye video aik lfz b nhe Suni uper Jo joint family system.k bary my lekha tha us sy mutaliq bat krun.hum 4familes aik ghr my rehty hn kitchen sb k alag hn APNA APNA khrch krty hn but aik chat k nechy rehty hn.na bachun k school k ly driver ki zarort hoti hy sb ki duties taqseem hn bht araam r skoon ki zindgi hy.ye ghrun ko torny Waly manhos shakln khurafat bythty hn zehno my
Tum bkws qn karhi ho zruri ha ap set ho to sab set he hon Baki sb k comments b parh lo....main b 5 Saal se joint family me hon 28 log Hain main full Pagal ho chuki hon depression ki mareezz bn Gai hun
frz Kro Lrki b ilkoti Thi Kya Usk Maan Baap Ni Huwy Burhy Unhe Zaroorat nhi hai Sahary ki?? Mrdon ko hi Q Maan Baap ki Goud Me bethna Yad ata hai bar bar? Islam Me Joint Family System ka Koi Riwaj Nhi Hai Hmare Nabi ki B Sari Wifes K Alg Alg hujry Thy Or Whn Jb B Shadi Hoti Thi To Lrka Hujra Ly K Apni Family Rkhta tha Whan Koi B Sas Susar Ka Concept Nhi Tha, Khud Socho Susar, Dewar Nan Mehram Hain to Kya Allow Kry Ga Islam Namehramon K samny Ghoomny ko Jis Me Shar Ka Khtra ho???
I think aaj kal ki chote bachon ki maa bari akalmand hoti hai. Woh next generation ko change karengi and decide not live in joint family when her son grows up and gets married. They know the pros and cons of joint family system and want to break the cycle. I've read plenty of other people's comments of how they will encourage their sons, when they grow up, to live separately with their wife.
Joint system, Is baat ko to khawateen endorse krengi agar wo biwian hun lkn maaa or behn ko ye hazm nhi hota . Aik hi aurat k mukhtalif auqat me munafiq hoti hai.
Ye zarooro nahi me ne apne inlaws me dekha ha mere devar aik din bhi joint family me nahi rahe lekin unka ghar khrab hua kyok dono ko larne se rokne wala koi nahi hota tha samjhame wala koi nahi thia biwi shohar k jaane k baad mohalle me ghoomti rehti thi unko rokne wala koi nahi tha
Hum hindu culture ma itni buri terhan phas gy hyn k hum ny isy deen ka hisa bna diya hy or mazy ki bat ye k ab hinduon ny b is culture ko change ker dia hy ab shadi sy pehly hi larky apny paon per khary ho ker alag rehna shuru ho jaty hyn or hum is jhanjhal pura ma phasy bethy hyn
وہ جو رشتے ہیں محبتوں کے،قربتوں کے،چاہتوں کے،امیدوں کے انہیں اولڈ ہوم میں ڈال دو اور اپنی آزادی کے جھنڈے گاڑ دو۔۔اے سعادتمند اولاد۔۔سمجھ نہیں آتا کہ تجھے دعا دوں کہ بد دعا
Sir sorry i am totally confused because Islam asked when boy or girl stronger earlier basis arranged his marriage and Parents should be must backup the kids not inter fer wife and husband Problems and Father teach them to how handles the things in world because he have a experience but not influential on his disiyan
Living with parent/parents after getting married is not always due to economic issues. What if ones mother is bedridden and there is no one to rely on to take care of her. It all depends on circumstances. If wife serves her husband's parents, it is considered as a good deed in the light of Islam and there is nothing wrong with it. Why choose the words joint family or economy instead of care and love for parents? Sons are usually more close to their parents. Wives approach their mother in law's to get their husbands agreement or permission.
No women in her right mind will look after someone who is not her own parents,in the light of Islam it's a bad deed not a good ,it's emotional blackmail .one give me single example of any sahabas who's wife looked after his mother,iv heard these kind of excuses
@@umaydniassuh6511 What if it is other way round? Wifes mother is ill and no one is there to care for her? If he is really a good husband he would care for his mother in law by atleast letting his wife look after her. One day you and I will also come to that stage when we will need attention from our kids.
پاکستانی ایک بیوی سنبھال لیں بڑی بات ہے عدل کرنا ان کے بس کی بات نہیں ہے۔ آ پ صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے فرمایا تھا کہ اپنی بیوی کے معاملات میں اللہ کریم سے ڈرو اپنی بیوی کے ساتھ حسن سلوک کرو اور عدل و انصاف کرو اس کا حساب بہت سخت ہے جو اللہ کریم نے خود لینا ہے اس میں کسی قسم کی معافی کی کوئی گنجائش بالکل نہیں ہے۔۔
Meray shohar ny mujh sy tesree shadi ki or mera koi haq adaa nh karta na meri bati ka 4saal sy mujhy meri maa k ghar rakha howa ha kya mera haq allah nahi nikaly ga es insan sy
اسلام علیکم بھائی دین یوٹیوب سکالرز سے نہیں بلکہ ان سے سیکھیں جنھوں نے اپنی ساری زندگی مدارس میں گزاری ھے یہ کون لوگ ہیں شکل وصورت دیکھے کیا انہوں نے مدرسے سے تعلیم حاصل کی نہیں بلکہ یوٹیوب چینل سے سیکھا ہے
Very true ... Ye joint family system anay wali larki ko tabah kr deta mentally health mn b r physicall health mn b .... r mostly gharon mn joint family system ky asoll sirf baho ky sar pe thopay jty ... Apni baityun ki dafa wo susr khud wo asol tor ry hoty .. unhn apni baitiyun ky liy akaila larka chahy hota . 😂😂😂😂😂
join family m bivi sayghulami karwai jati hai wo ghalat hai ghar walon ko khush karnay k ly bivi ko izzat na dena ye kon sa mazhab hai shadi k ly mazhab yad aata hai
@@minecamf-ee7ihji bilkul Karna hoga lekin sirf shohar aur bachon ka. Maa baap aur baaki Ghar walon ki zimmedari betay ki Hoti hai. Phir thk isi Tarah aap bhi uske maa baap ka kharcha uthao
@@rabiasheikh5949 thats why todays girls are under heavy problem Miss there are no silver trees in boys home nor chests filled with gold . If you want to marry the terms will apply or home sweet home.
Bhai if he has been treated badly by his family it dos not mean that he supposed to apply his experience on other. Bewaqoof if someone dying on roadside meray farz nahi kay mein uski Mada Karon. YE SUFI HAI BHAI
Mashra bigra hi is joint family ki waja se aurat bcho ki achi tarbiat k ilawa baqi sare kamo ma lg jati ha ur apne asal maqsal bcho ki tarbiat se hat jati ha is ka zimedar shohor ha
اسلام میں ساس سسر دیور نندجیٹھ کوئی نظام نہیں ہے لوگ جوائنٹ فیملی نظام کو ختم کر یں اس نظام سے باہر نکلے جوائنٹ فیملی نظام نے گھروں کی بہت زیادہ تباہی کی ہے۔۔ یہ شوہر کی زمہ داری ہے کہ وہ اپنی بیوی کو الگ گھر میں رکھے یا الگ پورشن میں رکھے شوہر بیوی کے معاملات میں کسی قسم کی کوئی مداخلت نہیں ہونی چاہیے شوہر کو اپنے والدین سے الگ رکھے تاکہ کسی قسم کا کوئی مسلئہ مسائل جھگڑا پیدا نا ہو۔ شوہر بیوی ایک دوسرے کو عزت دیں شوہر بیوی اسلامی اصولوں کے مطابق زندگی بسر کریں۔ بد اخلاق شوہر ساس سسر دیور نندجیٹھ مستقل جہنم میں رہے گے۔۔
In ki apni live tu barbad hi bus dosron ki me Laga regte han . Pakistan me har Banda wo bat karta hi jis ka usko ilm nahi. Gahje log bal uga ka mashwara dete han impotent log sex ki tips dete han 😂😂. Bus ye hi sab
Q k isse jhagre zyada hotay saas aur bahi ki banti nhi ab isse mard ke sar ke Baal utarte Hain Tou isliye Shaam ko jab mard Ghar se waapis aaye Tou apne bachon ko lekar unke paas waqt bitane bhi jaaye aur maa baap aur biwi ka Ghar aas paas hi rakhe
@@ComputerScience-r5u jhagray do wajeh se hote na insafi ya adm bardasht ki wajeh se. Masla ye hota k bahu me sabr nahi hota ya phir saas ko. Lkn iska ye hal nhi k apne waldain ko banda chor day.
@@soothingsouls204chorne ka kisne kaha alag Rahe unke kharche uthaye unko waqt de har Shaam ko jab Ghar se waapis aaye dono gharon ko aas paas rakhe aur bachon ko bhi lekar jaaye aur begum se pooch le k aapko chalna hai to chalen har Sunday ka din apni maa k Ghar me guzare aur unko Saath me ghumaye phiraye bhi lekin aik dafa jab jhagre lag jaayen na Tou do aurton ko kabhi dalail se samjha nhi sakte phir Ghar ka mahol kharab se kharab tar hone ka hi andesha hota hai
بہت زبردست باتیں کیں ساحل صاحب نے۔ مگر اس معاشرے کا اللہ ہی حافظ ہے۔
Bilkul sahi and 100% agreed. No doubt we have so many male child in our society.
Even parents suffer more in joint family instead of being happy and at peace.
Another good point that MAN has to take a stand and they do have a power to do this in our dear society.
جی بالکل جوائنٹ فیملی نوٹ گڈ
I've grown up in a joint family system and i can write a book how it can destroy anyone's mental and physical health. Only Allah knows how much me, my mother has suffered. I literally hate it so much that if someone says that mil jul k rehna chahie. I just wanna slap him and take him back to reality. If you are choosing to be in joint family system always remember you are going to destroy your kids life and you are responsible for it. You are not a man you are just a typical mummy daddy kid whose emotional intelligence is so low that even after getting married you want to live with your previous family. Don't get married then.
I absolutely agree with you
@@Alifaizalifaiz exactly they are not grown up so much
😢joint family system is just a bullshit pagal krdairs hy logun ko
Koi system tab bura banta hai jab laug khud gharzi dikhaien. Joint family system koi farz kaam nahi hai jis per zid lagai jai na hi zeher hai keh pabandi lagai jai. Jinhein sharing nahi aati ya kisi apnay k liye apna haq chorna nahi aata ya keh lo jisay dosron say mohabbat kerni nahi aati woh akaila rahay.
@@Alifaizalifaizyours is an exceptional case .....we have seen 99.9999% families which are disasters......education ki baat to mat karo aap India Pakistan m......sab educatedly uneducated hote h
Reality is that highly educated couple who spend all their life as single family (living alone), they are forcing their sons to live as joint family.
This is soo true....
what's the reason behind it?
Joint family system within a house is worst practice...better make houses near to each other and keep meeting.
A wife should take care of her parents and prioritize them over her husband's parents because a daughter is responsible for her parents, not the daughter-in-law
V true i grew up in single family .but married in join family daily depression ki medicen kha kr soti hu.
Mashaallah! You put off the man from his roots.
I totally agree with it larkey bohat vulnerable hojaty Hain, jabke separate main larkey mentally bohat strong hote Hain.
They become more responsible
200% true agree apne sath yehi hal
It's really true I hope k log samjhein is cheez ko
Strongly agree with you sir sahil
Family joint system aik aurth ko نفسیاتی طور پر کمز ور کرتا ہے
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💯 true.aurat jitni b smjhdar ho disciplined ho sughar ho .aksar susral waly uski qadar nahi krty usko bewqoof aur khudgarz smjha jata hy.apny Haq k liy Uthai hui sach ki awaz b tlaq ki dhamki de kr chup krwa d jati hy.
True
Exactly
Ex😢actly
Great 👍 Bilqul sahii kaha hai Aap nee
Very true. Joint family system main husband bohat majbor ho jata hay. Wo sach jantay hoay bhe bewi Ka sath Nahi Deta. Kitni zalim saso nay Ghar tak turwa diay. I'm a victim of this thing😢. Mere in laws main decision making completely parents in law k hath main thi. Nanden har waqt wahen. Saas nandon ko Dekh k aur batamezi Karti thi k Dekho main nay bahuon ko nechay lagaya hoa hay.
Mere request hay in laws say k apni bahu ko plz beti Ka darja dain. Plz. Bahu ko Kam karnay main koi masla Nahi hota, na he ap ki khidmat karnay say magar har waqt apni insult koi bear nahi Kar Sakta hay. Mujhay joint family say nafrat ho gayi hay. Main apnay Bhaion ko b samjhati hon k alag raho. Mere in laws k joint family system nay mere life barbad Kar Di. Allah will held them accountable one day.
ALLAH ap ki madad kary ameen
My sister also went through the same situation. As the in-laws feel that their son is shared and he will get out of their hands, due to this insecurity, they develop hatred against the daughter-in-law in their minds and start doing things to make her feel as if she is a piece of shit. And they give her food and a place to seek hide.
Sorry but today married girls can't be trusted it's an overwatch by husband's parents to look after
@@Anonymous25279also my aunt faced this situation Roz laraiyan Roz maar peet Hoti lekin phir bhi jaan boojh kar alehda nhi hotay.
Me too
Impressive Ma Sha Allah
Bilkul durust kaha aapne.....
Allah farmate han
"Hm insan ko koi takleef ni dete insan khud apne lie mushkilat khri krta ha"
Joint family hm ne khud apne lie mushkil khri ki ha
Ab joint family se niklna bht mushkil ha
بلکل صحیح ابھی تک گیتا سے باہر نہیں نکلے
Very well said!. And definitely spoke my mind.
Precisely.... 100% agreed
Bilkul Sahi kaha Bhai
Just one thing is destroying in all this the future of grand children, when mother is busy in serving her in laws how could she able to give enough time to her children, unki taleem tarbiyat Kisi khaty m ni ati , or bigarny m sb sy agy grand father's hoty hn
Exactly that's my point
You're right 💯
Zabardast..main khud experience kr chuki hon tabah kr diya hy susral walon ne aur jab tak susral waly jaan chorrty hain tab tak shohar bhi aik saas ban chuka hota hy
Perfectly said❤
Right 👍 Jazak Allah
Man can keep parents with him and do everything for his parents and not rely on wife for any thing. Because many times Grandparents are happy to see their grand children and also leaving them alone whole day will be like they are living in old age house
Plz come out from indian culture
This issue can be solved by seperate portion for wife and parents where son can take care both parents and wife and less chances of unnecessary intervention in life of one another, because problem starts when there is unnecessary intervention. Mother in law don't just want son or bahu to take care of her but she also wants to have hold of complete house.
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💯 agreed
Also there should be separate kitchen. And cocking and food taking care responsibility should be of son.
As his jannat lies at the feet of his mom not his wife
o M G every word is true
Very well explained
Absolutely 💯
Bilkul sahi
Sahi kaha ap nay wesay sir
Look! When there is no understanding among Husband and wife resultant wife doesn’t understand him for his family love support and if there is also no understanding between in the women and Bahu there is also be a big clash, so understand each other and lived happily bcs Nothing is permanent in this short life spain❤
Absolutely true and 💯 present right. He might have very closed experience of joint system.
Kash gents samjhe is bat ko
@@graphicdesigner9392ladies would definitely endorse this 😊
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Gents kia Samjhy ?
Ladies ko b to Smjhna chahye
Sb ko nhin keh rha but mostly aaj Kal aisey han
Jo Shadi k bad Alag hony k Liye kia Kuch nhin krten
Wo Insan jisko Maan 9 months apny pet men rkhti ha
Paal k barha krte ha
Kia Kuch Usk Liye bardasht krte ha
Baap kitni mushkil Sy Usk Liye sb Kuch krta ha
Aakhir men JB Maan Baap ko Muhabbat aur Care ki Zrurat Hoti ha
Us time Alag hony ka kehti han Wives
So Farz nhin ha to Ikhlaqan to Unki khidmat kren
Unki Izzat kren aur Zindgi ki khubsurati isi cheez men ha Alhamdulillah
Joint family system is not bad at all. However the power/authority should not be centralized, sons should be independent to take their decisions
Joint family sarei cheezon ka Bera gark Karti ha
You’ve to first understand that it’s not Islamic
i know it's not islamic, rather it's in our culture but a good culture@@TheFatimahashmi
how?@@sajid88559
@@technical.boy57Its a bad system. Children are not given independence to live and navigate life. Problem is parents don't prepare for old age. This could be financially or support.
When the average person marries their parents are not retired pensioners. The father in law is still working.
We need to look at reality.
V well said.
Sir aisa pakistan mein hona mumkin nahi hai hum pori Tarah hindu culture mein dansay howe hain. Agar aik aurat apna woh haq mangti hai tou uss ko Allah ki Taraf say 1400 saal pehlay ata kar dia gaya tha tou yeh naam nehaad hindu culture mein dhansa howa joint family uss kay haath mein 2, 3 bachon sameet talaq day deta hai. Aur zyadataar joint family mein mard Jo talaq deta hai woh apni AMMA ABBA aur Behnon kay pressure mein deta hai. Dua hai Allah say kay Jo jis kay sath jaisi ziyati Kare uss ko waisa sila zaror Milay. Ameen
Hindu mein to koi talaq nahi deta joint family mein. I am from India. All live happily in Joint family system
I got married with a divorced person. His all children married. I also have a minor daughter. Man's married children two 50 plus sisters all living in one house. ......joint family system. Whole family made my life a mere toture cell as well as for my daughter. I demanded separate living. He divorced m becaz my demand non Islamic. Man is Hafiz e Quran.
He was a Jaahil person. He had no knowledge of Islam.
Isliye kehte Hain Quran ko samajh k parhna bhi boht zaroori hai
@@nailasaba2601apne bhaiyoon ko bhi keh do na kay burhay maa baap se separate hojain.
Men cant afford homes because of interest. If you are going to ignore one rule of islam, the rest of the rules wont work. The root cause of poverty is interest.
Tarjuma jo nai parhtay yehi hoga
100000‰ right
😢😢😢😢😢😢👏👏zabardast 👏👏
Joint family me aurat rul jati Hy larky ko koi parwa nhi Hoti I m the victim of this
Same
Very true.
Very well said
U are right jzakallah
💯 agree
Maaa Shaa Allahhh
اسلام کے اصول ہر معاشرے کے لحاظ سے اپناے جا سکتے ہیں اس کے لیے علما کو رہنمای دینی چاہیے
Very right
Start se sahi kaha h....
Jese mere in-laws mn Jeth Father k barabr drja dya gya h ..
Shohr ki kro na kro pr jeth , devr (baap) ko mna nh kro un k lye hr tym hazr rho pani bhi woh khud na pyn bhabhi pelain...
Allhamdulilh me and my brother moved out whe we got maried it wasnt easy esp financially,and the relationship of our wifes and family is excellent.
I knew from young age joint family is not in islam and even morally wrong ,its a hindu tradition like it or not.if you cant afford to move out the minimum you can do is put a partition wall in the same house.or simple dont get married ( fast instead)
Great🎉🎉
Beautiful ❤
Agreed
Right 👍
Very Well Explained
Zabrdast
Yae sahial hay kon aor kab aor khdar say tabka hay koi mujhy be bata de please
Very nice video 👍
As a senior I totally agree with u Shaheelbhai , capable honest , sensior towards parents son also can't live with his wife in seprate home , due to " log kiyah kahaygay ? " ruine the life of young couple for society n some more their ego satisfaction , selfishness to take service from his wife 😔
,v nice
Sir join family system ko mana kar rahey hai to ej baat k aj kal pakistan k jo halat hai is mai ek banda agar 50 hazar kama raha hai to is mai rent bills grocery aur doosrey malat jis mai maa baap ko bhi kuch dega yeh kaisey mumkin hai ? Aur maa baap burhapey mai ab kahan jain akeley rahein???
Burhapay may sath rhain aur khidmat kren. 50 saal k uncle borhay nae hotay. 46 saal ki maa apki wife ki zindge ajeeran kr dy ge. Jb wo helpless honay lgain tb unki help kren aur khidmat kren.
To sas susr apni zabanein control rakha karein na phir rakh bhi laein unko
Issi liya ma inn ki baat ko nahi agree kerti , jin sahaba kay dour ki baat kertay hain wahan too aik aik khajoor say bhi oratin guzara ker laitti thi , aik toota kumara bhi unn kay liya buaht hotta tha , lakin aaj kal kaya larkiyan assay rah pain gi ????
اسلامی اصولوں کے مطابق اپنے فرائض نبھائیں کتاب اللہ سنت سے مدد حاصل کریں اور شکر گزار بنیں
There is too much politician in Joint family system 😂. I personally brought up in single family system and trust me we siblings hardly tell a lie and quit good with our fields. But after marriage, I realized that In Pakistan why we are stuck and couldn’t grow overall as nation. Because old and young generation are busy in less productive talk, gossips. First I thought that what a wonderful family and now uff.
Sahil Bhai I m a practicing muslimah doing sharai parda and searching for the practicing Muslim but sadly sary practicing Muslim is bat pay aa ky bhag jaty Hain jb men kehti hon ky men inlaws ky Sath na rahun gi na unki khidmat karun gi becoz I want to be productive or aesi ummat bharrhana chahti hon Jo Salah uddin ayyubi jesy hon men ye inlaws ky mamly men parh ky khd ko zaya ni karna chahti but sadly no one understands this or ab itny rejections ky bad it's very difficult for me to search a proposal I thought ky practicing man at least smjhta hoga is cheez ko but koi ni smjhta
It is bad system. No easy solutions at time People are forced due to economic conditions but should avoid as much possible. It is bad enough for bride to leave own house after getting married then she has to comply with joint family system. Men live under parents shadow and never get out of it.
Sahil bhai ur v much linked to human behavior u saying that a guy shud tel his father that (don’t get me married until I’m independent ill rather FAST) yar do u really believe this sentence is even close to H psychology
سچ بات یہ ہے کہ مجھے اس گفتگو میں خیر محسوس نہیں ہو رہی۔
جوائنٹ فیملی سسٹم کا مطلب والدین نہیں بھائیوں سے الگ ہونا ہوتا ہے تا کہ محرمات کا تقدس برقرار رہے۔
Waldain se alag na ho lakin wife ka koe farz nei unke neche lagne ka. Beta jitne khidmat karna chahay kre.
@@carttoclickshow Please elaborate.
Ji bilkul Mera bhi yahi khayal hai aksar larayi khagrey Bhai aur aur unki biwion me zyada hotay Hain aur phir Dewar ko maut kaha gaya baaki maa baap ko phir apne paas hi rakhna chahiye
@@rabiasheikh5949 Aj kal k zmanay mein jub dono partners k job kernay se hi nazam chalta hai us mein waldien ka hona aur un ka contribution core ho jata hai bachon ki tarbiat k hwalay se.
Mostly now a days is that wife is not liable to take care of husband's parents. But there is issue that is man should give separate house to his wife. N if he is living with ur parents then pay rents n bills, plus take care their house as your own.
Mostly man are like..... can't live on rent plus can't take care of parents hard earn house.... Bcz there is nothing in my pocket...... N my wife can't help or take care of parents etc
Taking care of husband's parents is not obligatory on a wife according to Islam ,and there is no joint family system concept in Islam.
super
Ye system India se Aaya h islam se nhi
Joint family system destroy a women mental and physical health. Sas susar ki hukmarani ki waja se 1 orat apny husband aur bachon ko time ni dy sakti
Ku k
Sas susar he apni khidmat ma lagai rakhty .
Nabi pak (S. A. W) ki hr choty se choty masly hadison ki sorat me rahnumai mojud ha kbi b aisi koi hadis nhi suni or pr hi jis me ho k shohar bv ko ly kr alhda ho or waldain ko tanha chor dai ya joint family system ko bura kha gia ho QURAN pak me b aisa kuch nhi likha. . Hmry han zra sa deen ka ilm hasil kr k sb se joint family system pr hamla awar hoty hain kisi trh sari family ko bikhair dain.
Nhi isse boht se nuqsanaat Hain aur Quran me sirf biwi par. Shohar aur bachon ki hi zimmedari aayed ki gayi hai baaki Ghar walon ki nhi maa aur baap ki Tou alag BAAT lekin har chota bara Bhai aik hi Ghar me aur unke Bache bhi fitne hi fitne bepardgi ka fitna aurton ki laraion ka fitna aik doosre ke maamlo me interfair ka fitna aur isse Ghar boht zyada toot Rahe Hain hum khud dekh Rahe Hain logon ke haalat aap duniya ke maamlat Dekho Tou sahi
Brother plz tell me a hadith or quranic verse or sahabis name
true
I wonder how will a man take care of his old mother and father if he lives separately from them ?
They way we ‘allow’ wife to take care of hers.
Jaisay wife apnay ma baap ko visit karti rehti hai hr kch din baad waisay hi wo bhi karay ga
@@hamzamaqbool1564 Wive cannot take care of her parents
@@Storytimeurduandhindi it doesn't make any sense. Is tarah to wo bilkul b burhe maa baap ka khyal ni rakh pae ga.... Unke lie khana kon bnae ga, wghera wghera... air biwi to sirf milty h apne parents khyal rakhne k lie to ni jaty khyal to biwi k bhai aur unki Biwia rakh rhy hoty h
why u not wonder when kisee ki akloti beti huti hay par woh unhay akela chhordeti hay..apna ghar basati hay..maa baap tab akele nhi rehtay? yeh bete k alag hune par itna wawela kyun huta hay bhui?
My ny ye video aik lfz b nhe Suni uper Jo joint family system.k bary my lekha tha us sy mutaliq bat krun.hum 4familes aik ghr my rehty hn kitchen sb k alag hn APNA APNA khrch krty hn but aik chat k nechy rehty hn.na bachun k school k ly driver ki zarort hoti hy sb ki duties taqseem hn bht araam r skoon ki zindgi hy.ye ghrun ko torny Waly manhos shakln khurafat bythty hn zehno my
Agreed yeah sala pagal hai sahil ka Bacha
Joint family system ka Islam se koi taluq nahi , na mehram AK dusre ke sath nhi reh sakte .
Tum bkws qn karhi ho zruri ha ap set ho to sab set he hon Baki sb k comments b parh lo....main b 5 Saal se joint family me hon 28 log Hain main full Pagal ho chuki hon depression ki mareezz bn Gai hun
Sir ap to pakistan mai old age house ki taleem de rahey mai band alfaz mai q k jab koi nai hoga to kya walid ya walida tanha rahein ge??
Maid rkh do roz jao khidmat kro . !
frz Kro Lrki b ilkoti Thi Kya Usk Maan Baap Ni Huwy Burhy Unhe Zaroorat nhi hai Sahary ki?? Mrdon ko hi Q Maan Baap ki Goud Me bethna Yad ata hai bar bar?
Islam Me Joint Family System ka Koi Riwaj Nhi Hai Hmare Nabi ki B Sari Wifes K Alg Alg hujry Thy Or Whn Jb B Shadi Hoti Thi To Lrka Hujra Ly K Apni Family Rkhta tha
Whan Koi B Sas Susar Ka Concept Nhi Tha, Khud Socho Susar, Dewar Nan Mehram Hain to Kya Allow Kry Ga Islam Namehramon K samny Ghoomny ko Jis Me Shar Ka Khtra ho???
Ye taleem to Hazrat muhmmad Saw NE 1400 sal pehly di thi ke APNI bwiiyoon ko algh gahr Main Rakho or larka MAA BAAP ki khidmat Karey
I think aaj kal ki chote bachon ki maa bari akalmand hoti hai. Woh next generation ko change karengi and decide not live in joint family when her son grows up and gets married. They know the pros and cons of joint family system and want to break the cycle. I've read plenty of other people's comments of how they will encourage their sons, when they grow up, to live separately with their wife.
Joint system, Is baat ko to khawateen endorse krengi agar wo biwian hun lkn maaa or behn ko ye hazm nhi hota . Aik hi aurat k mukhtalif auqat me munafiq hoti hai.
Ye zarooro nahi me ne apne inlaws me dekha ha mere devar aik din bhi joint family me nahi rahe lekin unka ghar khrab hua kyok dono ko larne se rokne wala koi nahi hota tha samjhame wala koi nahi thia biwi shohar k jaane k baad mohalle me ghoomti rehti thi unko rokne wala koi nahi tha
Hum hindu culture ma itni buri terhan phas gy hyn k hum ny isy deen ka hisa bna diya hy or mazy ki bat ye k ab hinduon ny b is culture ko change ker dia hy ab shadi sy pehly hi larky apny paon per khary ho ker alag rehna shuru ho jaty hyn or hum is jhanjhal pura ma phasy bethy hyn
وہ جو رشتے ہیں محبتوں کے،قربتوں کے،چاہتوں کے،امیدوں کے
انہیں اولڈ ہوم میں ڈال دو اور اپنی آزادی کے جھنڈے گاڑ دو۔۔اے سعادتمند اولاد۔۔سمجھ نہیں آتا کہ تجھے دعا دوں کہ بد دعا
We're not supposed to be in join family system
💯👍🏻
Sir sorry i am totally confused because Islam asked when boy or girl stronger earlier basis arranged his marriage and Parents should be must backup the kids not inter fer wife and husband Problems and Father teach them to how handles the things in world because he have a experience but not influential on his disiyan
Living with parent/parents after getting married is not always due to economic issues. What if ones mother is bedridden and there is no one to rely on to take care of her. It all depends on circumstances. If wife serves her husband's parents, it is considered as a good deed in the light of Islam and there is nothing wrong with it. Why choose the words joint family or economy instead of care and love for parents? Sons are usually more close to their parents. Wives approach their mother in law's to get their husbands agreement or permission.
No women in her right mind will look after someone who is not her own parents,in the light of Islam it's a bad deed not a good ,it's emotional blackmail .one give me single example of any sahabas who's wife looked after his mother,iv heard these kind of excuses
@@umaydniassuh6511 What if it is other way round? Wifes mother is ill and no one is there to care for her? If he is really a good husband he would care for his mother in law by atleast letting his wife look after her. One day you and I will also come to that stage when we will need attention from our kids.
پاکستانی ایک بیوی سنبھال لیں بڑی بات ہے عدل کرنا ان کے بس کی بات نہیں ہے۔ آ پ صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے فرمایا تھا کہ اپنی بیوی کے معاملات میں اللہ کریم سے ڈرو اپنی بیوی کے ساتھ حسن سلوک کرو اور عدل و انصاف کرو اس کا حساب بہت سخت ہے جو اللہ کریم نے خود لینا ہے اس میں کسی قسم کی معافی کی کوئی گنجائش بالکل نہیں ہے۔۔
Meray shohar ny mujh sy tesree shadi ki or mera koi haq adaa nh karta na meri bati ka 4saal sy mujhy meri maa k ghar rakha howa ha kya mera haq allah nahi nikaly ga es insan sy
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اسلام علیکم بھائی دین یوٹیوب سکالرز سے نہیں بلکہ ان سے سیکھیں جنھوں نے اپنی ساری زندگی مدارس میں گزاری ھے یہ کون لوگ ہیں شکل وصورت دیکھے کیا انہوں نے مدرسے سے تعلیم حاصل کی نہیں بلکہ یوٹیوب چینل سے سیکھا ہے
Shi kha ye ek bohut bara fitna h aur log is fitna h phaste jrhe h ajkl hr banda ek hadees prh kr apne apko pura alim smjha betha h
very right 😊😂
Very true ... Ye joint family system anay wali larki ko tabah kr deta mentally health mn b r physicall health mn b .... r mostly gharon mn joint family system ky asoll sirf baho ky sar pe thopay jty ... Apni baityun ki dafa wo susr khud wo asol tor ry hoty .. unhn apni baitiyun ky liy akaila larka chahy hota . 😂😂😂😂😂
join family m bivi sayghulami karwai jati hai wo ghalat hai ghar walon ko khush karnay k ly bivi ko izzat na dena ye kon sa mazhab hai shadi k ly mazhab yad aata hai
تو تم کو کیا رانی بنانے کےلئے لاءیں ۔ اگر شادی کرنی ہے اور تو کام تو کرنا ہوگا ۔ ورنہ باپ کے پاس اتنی روٹیاں تو ہونگی کے عمر بھر گھر بٹھا کر رکھ سکے ۔
@@minecamf-ee7ihji bilkul Karna hoga lekin sirf shohar aur bachon ka. Maa baap aur baaki Ghar walon ki zimmedari betay ki Hoti hai. Phir thk isi Tarah aap bhi uske maa baap ka kharcha uthao
@@minecamf-ee7ihbhae apki bt glt ha islam ko prho
@@minecamf-ee7ihbray chotay insan ho app bhae bhttt choty
@@rabiasheikh5949 thats why todays girls are under heavy problem
Miss there are no silver trees in boys home nor chests filled with gold . If you want to marry the terms will apply or home sweet home.
Bhai if he has been treated badly by his family it dos not mean that he supposed to apply his experience on other. Bewaqoof if someone dying on roadside meray farz nahi kay mein uski Mada Karon. YE SUFI HAI BHAI
Very nice sir.mere husband apni married sister se order lete ha hr bat k lye 😮😢😂
Is mulk mein jahan kamany wala aik ho aur kuch bhi apna na ho na ghar na kuch wo kahan marray
Esi videos viral kiyu nae hoti
Mashra bigra hi is joint family ki waja se aurat bcho ki achi tarbiat k ilawa baqi sare kamo ma lg jati ha ur apne asal maqsal bcho ki tarbiat se hat jati ha is ka zimedar shohor ha
اسلام میں ساس سسر دیور نندجیٹھ کوئی نظام نہیں ہے لوگ جوائنٹ فیملی نظام کو ختم کر یں اس نظام سے باہر نکلے جوائنٹ فیملی نظام نے گھروں کی بہت زیادہ تباہی کی ہے۔۔ یہ شوہر کی زمہ داری ہے کہ وہ اپنی بیوی کو الگ گھر میں رکھے یا الگ پورشن میں رکھے شوہر بیوی کے معاملات میں کسی قسم کی کوئی مداخلت نہیں ہونی چاہیے شوہر کو اپنے والدین سے الگ رکھے تاکہ کسی قسم کا کوئی مسلئہ مسائل جھگڑا پیدا نا ہو۔ شوہر بیوی ایک دوسرے کو عزت دیں شوہر بیوی اسلامی اصولوں کے مطابق زندگی بسر کریں۔ بد اخلاق شوہر ساس سسر دیور نندجیٹھ مستقل جہنم میں رہے گے۔۔
Parents apne bachon or grand children k sath rehna chahte hain isme galat kia hai?
In ki apni live tu barbad hi bus dosron ki me Laga regte han .
Pakistan me har Banda wo bat karta hi jis ka usko ilm nahi.
Gahje log bal uga ka mashwara dete han impotent log sex ki tips dete han 😂😂.
Bus ye hi sab
Q k isse jhagre zyada hotay saas aur bahi ki banti nhi ab isse mard ke sar ke Baal utarte Hain Tou isliye Shaam ko jab mard Ghar se waapis aaye Tou apne bachon ko lekar unke paas waqt bitane bhi jaaye aur maa baap aur biwi ka Ghar aas paas hi rakhe
@@ComputerScience-r5u jhagray do wajeh se hote na insafi ya adm bardasht ki wajeh se. Masla ye hota k bahu me sabr nahi hota ya phir saas ko. Lkn iska ye hal nhi k apne waldain ko banda chor day.
@@soothingsouls204chorne ka kisne kaha alag Rahe unke kharche uthaye unko waqt de har Shaam ko jab Ghar se waapis aaye dono gharon ko aas paas rakhe aur bachon ko bhi lekar jaaye aur begum se pooch le k aapko chalna hai to chalen har Sunday ka din apni maa k Ghar me guzare aur unko Saath me ghumaye phiraye bhi lekin aik dafa jab jhagre lag jaayen na Tou do aurton ko kabhi dalail se samjha nhi sakte phir Ghar ka mahol kharab se kharab tar hone ka hi andesha hota hai
@@soothingsouls204 mard khusry ban rahy hain, poora ghar mard k dum peh chalna chaiye. Woh kuch kary ta k ghar meh jhagry na ho