Wow I’m 50 and my children are all grown and starting their own family . I am blown away what you are able to purchase to make mum and bubs life easier . How much fun shopping I can just imagine how excited you are to have your baby girl and using all those goodies . Keep well mentally and physically. Try not to put so much pressure on yourself and don’t think to far ahead . Things always work out . Everything will be ok .
Also, Jessica Braun shows you how to pack your hospital bag, what are great products from Amazon etc and what are not used or worth it and also where to get cheap but awesome maternity wear and bub clothing etc. All at reasonable prices. She really speaks about her 1st and 2nd pregnancies and what worked and what didn't. As I said below in my other comment, she also addressed her feelings and post partum depression.
As I said, check out Jess's old videos from like 12 months ago - her 2nd baby is around 9mths - she also talks about her bub being breach and going to have her flipped and how it didn't work for her but bubs switched just before her C section. As she did elective C section due to her 1st experience. She also emphasised that what works for her doesn't work for everyone but also has a LOT of realistic tips and tricks. And as it's not from a family or friend, it can be totally unbiased advice and help pre natal, during the pregnancy and post natal and how to travel with kids etc. She found some amazing packing lists online to print out to help you pack for certain ages and so on. Out of ALL the pregnancy ppl I've seen online, I think Jess is the most realistic
Also, when bubs arrives. Prioritise. Screw the washing not being put away. Or toys everywhere etc. Just ensure you do self care like have a shower or take a nap etc. And please, PLEASE keep asking for help. Especially when baby is born and don't hide how you feel as I said below. We need to normalise pregnancy and all the "negative" issues that can crop up as well as the "positive " 💚💚
Also the zip up sleeping sacks can be a game changer. 1 holds arms in and 1 is arms out and zip at base to change nappies in the night. And you don't need blankets at night when they sleep. Also, get your family and friends to get Whooping cough vaccines BEFORE bubs comes. As she will be susceptible to it and I've had to do it every pregnancy of a friend's so I can visit in the early weeks and hold baby.
Hi Tanika, I just wanted to jump through the screen and give you a hug when you were crying. But at least you seem to have a lot more good days than bad days now. I can’t believe that you’re already on the third trimester. It doesn’t even feel that long ago when I bumped into you in Chermside and you weren’t even pregnant yet. Time really flies. Before we know it I will be seeing videos of you with your baby girl. I’m so excited for you! Wishing you all the best, you gorgeous mama!❤️
Hey lovely, thank you!! The 2nd trimester was definitely better emotionally but I still had my days. I can’t believe it either, I totally agree it doesn’t feel like that long ago we bumped into each other! Hope you’re doing well, thanks for watching ❤️❤️
Also, as they grow out of clothing. Wash them and fold them into tubs and pop away. As if you need them for 2nd baby, you won't have to wash a massive pile of clothing or blankets etc. And if you donate any, they're already clean.
The only thing that works for my nausea is Disovable under the tongue Odanstetron 8mg tablets. As you don't have to take with a drink, so you don't gag. Also, you may be getting headaches due to dehydration and lack of water as you've not been able to drink a lot etc. But I hope things improve a bit. Check out Jessica Brauns videos during her last pregnancy (her 2nd), as she experienced post natal depression and didn't realise on her 1st pregnancy. So this time around, they started her on meds. As a precaution. She felt SO much better and connected on her 2nd pregnancy than her 1st. She advised if you're not feeling right up to 2 weeks post partum, to immediately tell your partner and your Dr. As you may need some medication for a few months and even some counselling to just get you through. I've personally witnessed a lot of mums go through things like this and not feeling connections etc. And they went through hell as they didn't think they could go to a Dr and tell them and ask for help. Unfortunately, this is s subject that isn't spoken about enough of and it's NORMAL. Just reach out and ask for help from someone you trust. This is applicable to EVERY mum, not just Tanika. Do not judge anybody when they're pregnant or just had a baby. It puts your body and brain and emotions through hell. Especially your mental health both pre and post natal. Please take care of yourself as your health and bubs health is more important than people's opinions. You do what YOU have to do to make it through and feel as good as possible. Good time WILL come. Some just need a little helping hand sometimes. 💜💚🫶😉
Tanika, you are amazing. It is so wonderful to see the ups and downs of pregnancy. It is not a walk in the park! I had three babies with no medication - I had no plans for either of them, but the second one (second husband) we did actual birth classes (calm birth HIGHLY recommend). My first was scary and painful, it it wasn’t very long and he was quite big! Second and third were quicker but breathing and meditation works! You already do that so you will be totally fine. Have a ‘plan’ but be aware it may not happen. Don’t be too rigid on it and then you won’t be disappointed if it changes, or look back and regret things. Your body will know what to do, you just need to trust it and Clinton will be there to support you. Love is important - the energy of love is powerful. It’s a beautiful thing, enjoy everything
Thank you! Such beautiful, kind words ❤️ It’s nice to hear experiences like yours that calm north worked for you. It’s the path i definitely want to take so hoping it works out. But as you mentioned the plan may not go to plan and I don’t want to be disappointed. So much to think about isn’t there. Thanks for your support ❤️
You spoke about needing help with small things and how it's kindof embarrassing and frustrating I haven't been pregnant but I am neurodivergent and I have to ask for help a lot or else I burn out - I know the frustration!! But you have to learn to say yes to help because with a little one you'll need the help So excited for your journey ❤️
Hey lovely So very happy for you guys that you are having a little girl Cannot wait to see her It's going so fast for you Hang in there and take care 😘💕
@@TanikaJaun you are very welcome I wanted a girl first too but I had a little boy and I was very happy about that Ended up having a little girl second time around anyway so had a pigeon pair Have a great week and don't forget to rest when you are tired 😘💕
Congrats!!! So excited to see your little girl!! When I was a preggo and with baby kicking and moving, that was the time I felt connected, excited and that I’m starting to know her a little. I missed the movements in my belly. Enjoy those moments. For me the 2nd trimester went by so fast and it was the smoothest. First and third were hard for me, maybe the third was the hardest. It’s more fatigue and discomfort as my belly grew. I’m a short gurl so it feels like my baby is squished and pushing all my organs 😅 Oh Tanika, I’m so excited for you and I hope you feel better. Hoping for a positive outcome with the counselling. Pregnancy is hard work and it can be rough sometimes. Don’t let people bring you down. Do what you think is best for you and dont be too hard on yourself. And lastly, You will be a great mom! ❤️
Thank you! I appreciate your comment ❤️ it’s definitely been a wild ride so far and we’ll see what the third trimester brings 😅 I totally agree that feeling her move forms that connection, I LOVE feeling her kicks and movements, it’s so special 🥰
Sorry I'm commenting so much haha but I also wanted to advise you - this advice saved us with sleep. Research baby sleep cycles - active sleep vs. deep sleep. Babies have a 50minute sleep cycle, where they move through deep sleep to active sleep. During deep sleep they're really quiet and don't move, in active sleep they will move around, grunt and sometimes (like my son) call out once or twice. A lot of Mums mistake babies in active sleep as being awake, and they pick baby up and actually wake baby up in the process. This then teaches babies to wake up every 50minutes/hour, and trains them into bad sleeping habits. If baby is in active sleep and not continuously crying, leave them for a minute and see if they put themselves back to sleep, and this teaches them to self soothe back to sleep. Baby will need to feed every 2-4 hours, so you might need to wake baby up (if they have jaundice especially, because it makes them sleepy) to feed through the day and night until they pass their birth weight (because babies lose some weight the first week of being out of womb :) ). My son sleeps so well because of that advice, that my sister gave me. He slept 14hours through the night at 3 months and still sleeps 10hours through the night at 6 months. I think the advice helped him get good sleeping habits. Each baby is different but my baby slept really well with lovetodream swaddles and tommee tippee lightweight pacifiers :) (But you cant use a pacifier the first few weeks until baby gets breastfeeding down of course.)
Oh Tanika, I'm sorry you have had a rough time. Pregnancy can be so rough on your emotions. Baking a baby is hard bloody work, I had to finish work early my first time because I would have legit told someone to go eff themselves 😅 Edit: With the change table drawers, have you tried swapping them around? Sometimes if I swap the drawers around, they fit a bit better.
Hahah it’s like that isn’t it! I’ve never felt this angry/annoyed at things before 😂 and yeah, we tried swapping the drawers but unfortunately it didn’t work 😓 I don’t know what happened there hahah
You'll be okay when baby comes, its normal to be nervous. Our bodies are made to have and care for babies, so trust your motherly instincts and trust yourself :) The first few months are hectic, but doable, you will get through it - sleep when baby sleeps is the best advice. Also it helps if family brings around food, thats the one thing you probably wont want to make when looking after baby haha. The first 2 weeks you go through all these hormones and its normal to get emotional, just know it will pass, its just your body reshifting itself after having baby and drastic change in hormones. I actually cried cos I missed being pregnant (the weirdest thing to cry about hahah) My Mum came around and told me she remembers feeling similar and going through all the hormone changes haha After a few weeks I felt more back to normal :)
Aww dont beat yourself up, I felt it was hard to bond with my baby when I was pregnant (I had a miscarriage before and I think I didn't want to get ahead of myself with my 2nd pregnancy so I found it hard to bond). But over time I did bond with my baby and when he was born, I definitely bonded with him :) It can take a few months after birth even to bond with baby (Since you'll be so tired) so if that happens, don't worry either :)
Hi Tanika, What wonderful news for you both, a baby girl . So sorry to see you are having such an emotional roller coaster, those damn hormones! It looks like nesting has commenced with all your organising 😉. I had gas while giving birth to both our boys. I remember I was sucking on that gas like there was no tommorrow and the doctor said you dont need that anymore. I said yes I do & he said well its been turned off for the last 15 minutes! Ahh the memories!🤣🤣 Anyway wishing you all the best for the remainder of your pregnancy. Take care 💗
Be careful too post natal with Maternal Health Nurses or as we call them Mental Nurses. Some are harridans and are just mean or make new mums feel super guilty. If they do find a new one immediately. As you don't want ANY negativity from them or anybody else. Unless of course it's a very serious issue e.g. the brain growth development or something. If they say baby is over weight or something - ignore them and seek out another nurse to deal with. I've had so many new mums bawling as they think they've don't stuff wrong coz a nurse has shamed them or their baby. Not cool.
Haha not a problem!! I loved reading them all ☺️ I love Jessica braun so I’ll have to go back and watch those videos of hers. Appreciate all your advice 🫶🏻💕
Wow I’m 50 and my children are all grown and starting their own family .
I am blown away what you are able to purchase to make mum and bubs life easier .
How much fun shopping
I can just imagine how excited you are to have your baby girl and using all those goodies .
Keep well mentally and physically. Try not to put so much pressure on yourself and don’t think to far ahead .
Things always work out .
Everything will be ok .
Omg there’s soooo much available, even that is overwhelming 😅 thank you, I have to constantly tell myself one step at a time!!
Also, Jessica Braun shows you how to pack your hospital bag, what are great products from Amazon etc and what are not used or worth it and also where to get cheap but awesome maternity wear and bub clothing etc. All at reasonable prices. She really speaks about her 1st and 2nd pregnancies and what worked and what didn't. As I said below in my other comment, she also addressed her feelings and post partum depression.
As I said, check out Jess's old videos from like 12 months ago - her 2nd baby is around 9mths - she also talks about her bub being breach and going to have her flipped and how it didn't work for her but bubs switched just before her C section. As she did elective C section due to her 1st experience. She also emphasised that what works for her doesn't work for everyone but also has a LOT of realistic tips and tricks. And as it's not from a family or friend, it can be totally unbiased advice and help pre natal, during the pregnancy and post natal and how to travel with kids etc. She found some amazing packing lists online to print out to help you pack for certain ages and so on. Out of ALL the pregnancy ppl I've seen online, I think Jess is the most realistic
Also, when bubs arrives. Prioritise. Screw the washing not being put away. Or toys everywhere etc. Just ensure you do self care like have a shower or take a nap etc. And please, PLEASE keep asking for help. Especially when baby is born and don't hide how you feel as I said below. We need to normalise pregnancy and all the "negative" issues that can crop up as well as the "positive " 💚💚
Also the zip up sleeping sacks can be a game changer. 1 holds arms in and 1 is arms out and zip at base to change nappies in the night. And you don't need blankets at night when they sleep.
Also, get your family and friends to get Whooping cough vaccines BEFORE bubs comes. As she will be susceptible to it and I've had to do it every pregnancy of a friend's so I can visit in the early weeks and hold baby.
Hi Tanika, I just wanted to jump through the screen and give you a hug when you were crying. But at least you seem to have a lot more good days than bad days now. I can’t believe that you’re already on the third trimester. It doesn’t even feel that long ago when I bumped into you in Chermside and you weren’t even pregnant yet. Time really flies. Before we know it I will be seeing videos of you with your baby girl. I’m so excited for you! Wishing you all the best, you gorgeous mama!❤️
Hey lovely, thank you!! The 2nd trimester was definitely better emotionally but I still had my days. I can’t believe it either, I totally agree it doesn’t feel like that long ago we bumped into each other! Hope you’re doing well, thanks for watching ❤️❤️
Also, as they grow out of clothing. Wash them and fold them into tubs and pop away. As if you need them for 2nd baby, you won't have to wash a massive pile of clothing or blankets etc. And if you donate any, they're already clean.
The only thing that works for my nausea is Disovable under the tongue Odanstetron 8mg tablets. As you don't have to take with a drink, so you don't gag.
Also, you may be getting headaches due to dehydration and lack of water as you've not been able to drink a lot etc.
But I hope things improve a bit.
Check out Jessica Brauns videos during her last pregnancy (her 2nd), as she experienced post natal depression and didn't realise on her 1st pregnancy. So this time around, they started her on meds. As a precaution. She felt SO much better and connected on her 2nd pregnancy than her 1st. She advised if you're not feeling right up to 2 weeks post partum, to immediately tell your partner and your Dr. As you may need some medication for a few months and even some counselling to just get you through.
I've personally witnessed a lot of mums go through things like this and not feeling connections etc. And they went through hell as they didn't think they could go to a Dr and tell them and ask for help.
Unfortunately, this is s subject that isn't spoken about enough of and it's NORMAL. Just reach out and ask for help from someone you trust.
This is applicable to EVERY mum, not just Tanika.
Do not judge anybody when they're pregnant or just had a baby. It puts your body and brain and emotions through hell. Especially your mental health both pre and post natal.
Please take care of yourself as your health and bubs health is more important than people's opinions. You do what YOU have to do to make it through and feel as good as possible.
Good time WILL come. Some just need a little helping hand sometimes.
💜💚🫶😉
Tanika, you are amazing. It is so wonderful to see the ups and downs of pregnancy. It is not a walk in the park! I had three babies with no medication - I had no plans for either of them, but the second one (second husband) we did actual birth classes (calm birth HIGHLY recommend). My first was scary and painful, it it wasn’t very long and he was quite big! Second and third were quicker but breathing and meditation works! You already do that so you will be totally fine. Have a ‘plan’ but be aware it may not happen. Don’t be too rigid on it and then you won’t be disappointed if it changes, or look back and regret things. Your body will know what to do, you just need to trust it and Clinton will be there to support you. Love is important - the energy of love is powerful. It’s a beautiful thing, enjoy everything
Thank you! Such beautiful, kind words ❤️ It’s nice to hear experiences like yours that calm north worked for you. It’s the path i definitely want to take so hoping it works out. But as you mentioned the plan may not go to plan and I don’t want to be disappointed. So much to think about isn’t there. Thanks for your support ❤️
You spoke about needing help with small things and how it's kindof embarrassing and frustrating
I haven't been pregnant but I am neurodivergent and I have to ask for help a lot or else I burn out - I know the frustration!! But you have to learn to say yes to help because with a little one you'll need the help
So excited for your journey ❤️
❤️ appreciate that!
So exciting!!! A baby girl...how wonderful! CONGRATULATIONS to you both💗
Thank you! We’re so excited to be having a girl 👶🏼💕
Hey lovely
So very happy for you guys that you are having a little girl
Cannot wait to see her
It's going so fast for you
Hang in there and take care
😘💕
Thank you! I was for sure it was going to be a boy so when the room was pink I was so excited!! I did want a girl deep down 🥰
@@TanikaJaun you are very welcome
I wanted a girl first too but I had a little boy and I was very happy about that
Ended up having a little girl second time around anyway so had a pigeon pair
Have a great week and don't forget to rest when you are tired
😘💕
Congrats!!! So excited to see your little girl!! When I was a preggo and with baby kicking and moving, that was the time I felt connected, excited and that I’m starting to know her a little. I missed the movements in my belly. Enjoy those moments. For me the 2nd trimester went by so fast and it was the smoothest. First and third were hard for me, maybe the third was the hardest. It’s more fatigue and discomfort as my belly grew. I’m a short gurl so it feels like my baby is squished and pushing all my organs 😅
Oh Tanika, I’m so excited for you and I hope you feel better. Hoping for a positive outcome with the counselling. Pregnancy is hard work and it can be rough sometimes. Don’t let people bring you down. Do what you think is best for you and dont be too hard on yourself. And lastly, You will be a great mom! ❤️
Thank you! I appreciate your comment ❤️ it’s definitely been a wild ride so far and we’ll see what the third trimester brings 😅 I totally agree that feeling her move forms that connection, I LOVE feeling her kicks and movements, it’s so special 🥰
Sorry I'm commenting so much haha but I also wanted to advise you - this advice saved us with sleep. Research baby sleep cycles - active sleep vs. deep sleep. Babies have a 50minute sleep cycle, where they move through deep sleep to active sleep. During deep sleep they're really quiet and don't move, in active sleep they will move around, grunt and sometimes (like my son) call out once or twice. A lot of Mums mistake babies in active sleep as being awake, and they pick baby up and actually wake baby up in the process. This then teaches babies to wake up every 50minutes/hour, and trains them into bad sleeping habits. If baby is in active sleep and not continuously crying, leave them for a minute and see if they put themselves back to sleep, and this teaches them to self soothe back to sleep. Baby will need to feed every 2-4 hours, so you might need to wake baby up (if they have jaundice especially, because it makes them sleepy) to feed through the day and night until they pass their birth weight (because babies lose some weight the first week of being out of womb :) ). My son sleeps so well because of that advice, that my sister gave me. He slept 14hours through the night at 3 months and still sleeps 10hours through the night at 6 months. I think the advice helped him get good sleeping habits. Each baby is different but my baby slept really well with lovetodream swaddles and tommee tippee lightweight pacifiers :) (But you cant use a pacifier the first few weeks until baby gets breastfeeding down of course.)
Not a problem, I appreciate the advice! I definelty have sleep on my to research list! Thanks for the tips 🫶🏻💕
You are so beautiful! Your bump is so precious, congratulations on a beautiful baby girl. Keep your chin up you are doing an amazing job ❤❤
Thank you so much, I appreciate your kind words 😌❤️
I just knew it was going to be a girl!!! Congrats!!!! 💖💖💖
Thank you 🤗💕
Oh Tanika, I'm sorry you have had a rough time. Pregnancy can be so rough on your emotions. Baking a baby is hard bloody work, I had to finish work early my first time because I would have legit told someone to go eff themselves 😅
Edit: With the change table drawers, have you tried swapping them around? Sometimes if I swap the drawers around, they fit a bit better.
Hahah it’s like that isn’t it! I’ve never felt this angry/annoyed at things before 😂 and yeah, we tried swapping the drawers but unfortunately it didn’t work 😓 I don’t know what happened there hahah
You'll be okay when baby comes, its normal to be nervous. Our bodies are made to have and care for babies, so trust your motherly instincts and trust yourself :) The first few months are hectic, but doable, you will get through it - sleep when baby sleeps is the best advice. Also it helps if family brings around food, thats the one thing you probably wont want to make when looking after baby haha. The first 2 weeks you go through all these hormones and its normal to get emotional, just know it will pass, its just your body reshifting itself after having baby and drastic change in hormones. I actually cried cos I missed being pregnant (the weirdest thing to cry about hahah) My Mum came around and told me she remembers feeling similar and going through all the hormone changes haha After a few weeks I felt more back to normal :)
Thank you, I appreciate your comment and tips 🤗💕
Congrats 🎉 Glad you are feeling better. Such a cute belly. So happy for you both
Thank you! 💕 Omg me too, such a relief 😊
Aww dont beat yourself up, I felt it was hard to bond with my baby when I was pregnant (I had a miscarriage before and I think I didn't want to get ahead of myself with my 2nd pregnancy so I found it hard to bond). But over time I did bond with my baby and when he was born, I definitely bonded with him :) It can take a few months after birth even to bond with baby (Since you'll be so tired) so if that happens, don't worry either :)
Thank you ❤️ I can imagine how hard that was to form a bond after miscarriage, the fear must have been tough.
I'm so excited for you! What a blessing
Thank you!! 😁💕
Hi Tanika, What wonderful news for you both, a baby girl . So sorry to see you are having such an emotional roller coaster, those damn
hormones! It looks like nesting has commenced with all your organising 😉. I had gas while giving birth to both our boys. I remember I was sucking on that gas like there was no tommorrow and the doctor said you dont need that anymore. I said yes I do & he said well
its been turned off for the last 15 minutes! Ahh the memories!🤣🤣 Anyway wishing you all the best for the remainder of your pregnancy. Take care 💗
Hormones hitting me hard some days 😅 We are so excited to be having a girl, just had a dr's check up to and she looks healthy and happy in there 🤗
It’s very overwhelming I felt like that when I was pregnant and it still is to this day with a 2 yr old lol it gets better I promise ❤
It’s crazy isn’t it! So much going on
Sorry for so many seperate comments from me 😆😂
Be careful too post natal with Maternal Health Nurses or as we call them Mental Nurses. Some are harridans and are just mean or make new mums feel super guilty. If they do find a new one immediately. As you don't want ANY negativity from them or anybody else. Unless of course it's a very serious issue e.g. the brain growth development or something. If they say baby is over weight or something - ignore them and seek out another nurse to deal with. I've had so many new mums bawling as they think they've don't stuff wrong coz a nurse has shamed them or their baby. Not cool.
Haha not a problem!! I loved reading them all ☺️ I love Jessica braun so I’ll have to go back and watch those videos of hers. Appreciate all your advice 🫶🏻💕
Gotta love the annoying crows
Omg they just keep going I tell ya 😅😅