Best example I got of this was an IOU I had with an ex-friend. I had written what they owed and told them that the grocery money I gave them had to be returned in cash. They erased the IOU and disappeared. I didn’t know where they were, so I rewrote the IOU as it wasn’t paid off then left for the scheduled movie date with my boyfriend. Ex-friend texted me how I am a horrible friend and person, to the point that my boyfriend had to get involved. Thankfully we were alone in that theater, but it really soured the date for us. Then the ex-friend told me that I did agree to be gifted with salad packets for the $100 I gave them for the IOU in grocery money. I was 6 months pregnant at the time and didn’t have a job, and I did loose my cool. Ex-friend used that moment to tell my boyfriend how they are the victim and I just want to steal my ex-friend’s money. Still short $400 (rent and groceries) but my baby and I don’t have that toxicity to deal with no more.
Glad this term is getting recognized at a larger scale now, so many times where people gaslight someone, and the person knows that they are gaslighting them but they just can’t think of a proper term to call them out on it.
I partially agree. It's good the word is getting spread if it's being understood and used correctly. But some people don't fully understand it and use it incorrectly, which endangers people who are being gaslighted in relationships all the time. My friend uses it incorrectly and essentially says if you're messing around and he's getting triggered, that's gaslighting, which is not true. I was gaslit by my mum as a child all the time that my reality when I grew up was warped, and what I thought was "normal" was not. Been 10 years and I'm still in therapy working on it.
A gaslighter’s motto “I’m not the problem, you’re the problem” I will never forget the story an ex friend said to me and our other friends one time, she was in a relationship that was going CALM, SMOOTH, BUTTERY! No drama at all….and she started a petty argument out of nowhere because she said, and I quote “this shit is too calm” some people can’t let go of their need to fuel their ego through drama
Sorry you had to deal with that. Some people literally just want to tear good things down. Silence can be deadly, and the best reaction (if you deem appropriate) can sometimes be no reaction & slowly distancing yourself from them.
what's true for this can also be their upbringing. If they feel comfortable in chaos because that's home for them. They'll continue to seek out fucked up situations or worse gaslight to create the chaos they so badly crave to feel like its actually love. Because the love they've grown to know, and the only version of love they've cultivated for themselves, is the love that was given to them as a kid.
@@UnknownCartoonEditor No reaction is absolutely the move. As soon as they start a lie, literally just walk away and give them the silent treatment. An intentional gaslighter has the very specific goal of altering your perception. If you put up a wall every time they lie, they physically do not have access to your perception. Not to mention shunning is very upsetting to humans, who are social creatures. So you're effectively punishing them for bad behavior at the same time. "You lie to me, you get no interaction with me" There's zero purpose in trying to reason with one. You can literally slam down piles of video evidence, and they will STILL find a way to rationalize their way out of it in their own minds. It will only serve to ruin your own mental state. The only option is total rejection
I've been gaslighted, emotionally manipulated, cheated on 4 times, i've been through a lot. I'm sorry you had to deal with it, and I'm glad you're here man.
I don't think anybody who tries to be a good partner in a relationship should be cheated on, much less to that extent. Even despite possibly having feelings of reliance or attachment to that person. After getting cheated on, there's just no mending that trust and would be better off cutting ties.
I think there's an important difference between lying and gaslighting. Lying is just not telling the truth/trying to convince someone they're wrong. Gaslighting is making the other person feel crazy and like they're the one who's at fault. And usually it's slow and over a long period of time. Not just telling a lie
The "be honest" advice is the best you can get. I admit I was once the dishonest type in my relationships, after some self reflection and desire to change I decided honesty was the best policy and my life and relationships have improved so damn much. Less drama and less worries. This man hitting us with the facts
I’ve been watching Adande since 2008 since he first started, to the point that he gave my brother (pennixballer) and I a shout out in one of his early videos. This man has not aged a day since the “I ran from the cops” video and he still tells great stories. Keep doing your thing brother ✊
As a professional Swoozie watcher can confirm he self admitted to having too many trust issues to be an instigator.😂😂 Missed you a lot Swoozie ❤ keep posting 😊
Holy shit I used to watch you years ago when I was a kid waiting for my mom to finish work and now Im in my second semester of college. You came back up on my feed and I clicked the video and saw your name and it hit me. Thats crazy I can’t wait to rediscover your videos, your story times were the best growing up.
I have recently had this unfortunate discovery with friends and gaslighting. It's always the most insecure/immature ones that try gaslighting you. You might even call them out for it step by step what you saw them doing and they will still try to further lie to your face even when you're giving them a chance to come clean. Like, nope. Block and move on. You don't need friends like that.
Swoozie, your one of the only UA-camrs that has kept uploading for over 10 years now, damn I feel old, your one of the most entertaining UA-camrs out there and I want to thank you for all the great content you’ve put out over the years. Wish you all the best! 👍💜
yo swoozie, u were like the 3rd content creator i ever started watching. stopped watching a while ago but this popped in my feed and it made me rly happy to see ur still doing videos and doing well!! best wishes swoozie keep it up
I feel like sWooZie knows when I’m dealing with a problematic friend. First, he made a video a while back about toxic friends and now one about gaslighting, both during times where a friend has straight up been manipulative and toxic. This is definitely the sign I needed to full on cut this friend out of my life!
My dad is the literal definition of gaslighting. I had emotional stress over him for a very long time, as he basically destroyed my mother's life in more ways than one, and if I so much as say "well, here's hoping you don't-" And that is enough to send him on a rant, as if a stranger scolded him just them.
it's important to note that there is a difference between gaslighting and lying, everyone lies at some point, gaslighting is specifically lying with the intent to make someone question their own sanity.
Swoozie is that one toxic boyfriend who leaves us for 5 months and comes back like nothing happened but we still love him and beg for more content from him
I have heard a million times over people trying to say that communication is the key in a relationship, and then those exact same people lie, gaslight, pick fights, create drama, play games, and then think that their partner is the problem -_-
Thank you Swoozie. I never really understood Gaslighting. You explained it so well. I just broke up with my partner and during the breakup fight she accused me of Gaslighting. I watched your video and understood that she was the one doing the Gaslighting. I've missed you and your videos.
I went through that same experience when my ex got mad I would be calm and then she would be like "oh, thats how yk that u don't care" I didn't even know she gaslighted me until this vid bro thx
I gaslit my mom once, it was self defense. She somehow knew I was doing something I had no business doing and she was about to drag me down to a clinic. I knew it was wrong, but it was either that or I'd get shit from my whole family. I came home with a hickey and she called my grandma and my uncle
I missed your videos soo much they’ve given me such a reality check with everyone I come encounter with … I’ve been depressed without your videos.. I’m so happy that you’re back ❤
man this guys fucking videos are some of the most entertaining shit ive ever watched , been watching for years and still get mad excited and go on a swoozie binge everytime he post a new video lmao
I love these videos that don’t have PNG’s as animation, because it’s always really fluid, & also, kinda rare, you can tell though by the fact that these videos usually take longer to make
We've got to make sure that people, particularly those of a certain generation, know that "Gaslighting" is *not* the same thing as "Lying". Telling a lie and Gaslighting are two very different levels. Gaslighting is a concerted and repeated effort to convince someone that the reality they experienced was wrong. Lying is a *part* of Gaslighting, but being lied to is not being Gaslit. Ooooor, am I Gaslighting you about Gaslighting?
I haven’t seen a Swoozie upload in ages! :) so happy you’re back! I’ve always enjoyed your relationship takes! The topic of people manipulating others so that there’s equivalent anger is something I’ve experienced with my parents, siblings and romantic relationships. I prefer keeping things peaceful but I need to start creating boundaries around this dynamic.
I feel like gaslighting is one of those words that instantly popped up everywhere last year, and I only then realized I've basically been gaslighted my whole life by someone I know.
Being honest, most importantly owning up to your mistakes and your bs, is goddamn hard. But it's totally worth it. It feels so much better to have that short burst of shame and then everything getting resolved rather than lie and worry you're gonna be caught. The longer you lie, the harsher the consequences when you're found out. Just. Be. Honest.
I honestly was afraid he was going to give us an example of gaslighting by trying to make us all believe he hasn't been gone for the past 5/6 months 😂😊
Now we know where he's been this whole time... at Hogwarts.
Is that why he looked like an off-brand Griffendor with his tie and sweater vest?
Swoozie should convert to Slytherin
I'm sure Filch chained him in the dungeons
AVADA KADAVRA!!!! 💀🟢🐍
I knew it!!!!
Swoozie, I don’t care how many times you leave to go get milk, but as long as you keep uploading, We good.
😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
we gucci snakes 😎
Dang 😂😂🤣😂🤣🤣💀☠️
Swooz could you tell my dad hey whilst u there 😂😂😂😂
Use this as a “I’ve missed Swoozie button”.
Good to have you back Swoozie❤
“Guess who’s back and better than ever? Ya girl T!”
@@swoozie guess who just replied to a bot🫵🫵🫵🫵🫵
@@swoozie Omds no way u actually replied😂. Huge fan of you bro❤❤❤
I thought you were a bot cause your pfp
@Don't Read My Profile Picture nigga no one care
Gaslight isn't just lying. It's convincing someone that they are going insane by deceiving them and manipulating their environment
THANK you!! Geez. 💯
Best example I got of this was an IOU I had with an ex-friend. I had written what they owed and told them that the grocery money I gave them had to be returned in cash.
They erased the IOU and disappeared. I didn’t know where they were, so I rewrote the IOU as it wasn’t paid off then left for the scheduled movie date with my boyfriend. Ex-friend texted me how I am a horrible friend and person, to the point that my boyfriend had to get involved. Thankfully we were alone in that theater, but it really soured the date for us.
Then the ex-friend told me that I did agree to be gifted with salad packets for the $100 I gave them for the IOU in grocery money. I was 6 months pregnant at the time and didn’t have a job, and I did loose my cool. Ex-friend used that moment to tell my boyfriend how they are the victim and I just want to steal my ex-friend’s money.
Still short $400 (rent and groceries) but my baby and I don’t have that toxicity to deal with no more.
Facts
Nah fam it’s still lying.
Glad this term is getting recognized at a larger scale now, so many times where people gaslight someone, and the person knows that they are gaslighting them but they just can’t think of a proper term to call them out on it.
I partially agree. It's good the word is getting spread if it's being understood and used correctly. But some people don't fully understand it and use it incorrectly, which endangers people who are being gaslighted in relationships all the time. My friend uses it incorrectly and essentially says if you're messing around and he's getting triggered, that's gaslighting, which is not true. I was gaslit by my mum as a child all the time that my reality when I grew up was warped, and what I thought was "normal" was not. Been 10 years and I'm still in therapy working on it.
Why are you gaslighting me?
the closest i got was “tricking” or decieving
A gaslighter’s motto “I’m not the problem, you’re the problem” I will never forget the story an ex friend said to me and our other friends one time, she was in a relationship that was going CALM, SMOOTH, BUTTERY! No drama at all….and she started a petty argument out of nowhere because she said, and I quote “this shit is too calm” some people can’t let go of their need to fuel their ego through drama
Sorry you had to deal with that. Some people literally just want to tear good things down. Silence can be deadly, and the best reaction (if you deem appropriate) can sometimes be no reaction & slowly distancing yourself from them.
what's true for this can also be their upbringing. If they feel comfortable in chaos because that's home for them. They'll continue to seek out fucked up situations or worse gaslight to create the chaos they so badly crave to feel like its actually love. Because the love they've grown to know, and the only version of love they've cultivated for themselves, is the love that was given to them as a kid.
@@UnknownCartoonEditor No reaction is absolutely the move. As soon as they start a lie, literally just walk away and give them the silent treatment. An intentional gaslighter has the very specific goal of altering your perception. If you put up a wall every time they lie, they physically do not have access to your perception. Not to mention shunning is very upsetting to humans, who are social creatures. So you're effectively punishing them for bad behavior at the same time. "You lie to me, you get no interaction with me" There's zero purpose in trying to reason with one. You can literally slam down piles of video evidence, and they will STILL find a way to rationalize their way out of it in their own minds. It will only serve to ruin your own mental state. The only option is total rejection
@@catcheney7518 God damn that is sad but accurate
it's like gambling. gambling is one of the most pointless passtimes ever invented but humans get addicted to it for one reason: adrenaline rush
Aw Swoozie, I'm sure we missed you more than you could comprehend
We demand more videos or else we, the swoozie subscribers, will file a class action lawsuit
@@blazer511 yes
I've been gaslighted, emotionally manipulated, cheated on 4 times, i've been through a lot.
I'm sorry you had to deal with it, and I'm glad you're here man.
Ik why
Ur a furry
@@BraysxVision Male
I don't think anybody who tries to be a good partner in a relationship should be cheated on, much less to that extent. Even despite possibly having feelings of reliance or attachment to that person. After getting cheated on, there's just no mending that trust and would be better off cutting ties.
You being cheated on has nothing to do with you but your partner’s personality. Be careful who pick, it’s starting to become a selfish world
I think there's an important difference between lying and gaslighting. Lying is just not telling the truth/trying to convince someone they're wrong. Gaslighting is making the other person feel crazy and like they're the one who's at fault. And usually it's slow and over a long period of time. Not just telling a lie
This video really touched me because iv'e did some toxic stuff to my friends and lied about it and now I wish I'd seen this sooner.
The "be honest" advice is the best you can get. I admit I was once the dishonest type in my relationships, after some self reflection and desire to change I decided honesty was the best policy and my life and relationships have improved so damn much. Less drama and less worries. This man hitting us with the facts
I haven’t watched this guy in years I’m so glad he’s still uploading!!
not much tho
@@dysonjyonder3453 better than nothing
@@MichaelTurner856 true
@@MichaelTurner856please mom l😊 😢😢😢😮😢😢 bc hh
I’ve been watching Adande since 2008 since he first started, to the point that he gave my brother (pennixballer) and I a shout out in one of his early videos. This man has not aged a day since the “I ran from the cops” video and he still tells great stories. Keep doing your thing brother ✊
As a professional Swoozie watcher can confirm he self admitted to having too many trust issues to be an instigator.😂😂 Missed you a lot Swoozie ❤ keep posting 😊
Holy shit I used to watch you years ago when I was a kid waiting for my mom to finish work and now Im in my second semester of college. You came back up on my feed and I clicked the video and saw your name and it hit me. Thats crazy I can’t wait to rediscover your videos, your story times were the best growing up.
The internet is so dark but Swoozie always brings light back on this platform when he appears ❤️
Honestly - He brought warning signs of more darkness coming 🙄
Glad your back swooz! Tacos on me tonight! 😎
Thanx bay! Tacos on me next time I’m in Vegas!
@@swoozie 😎😊
I have recently had this unfortunate discovery with friends and gaslighting. It's always the most insecure/immature ones that try gaslighting you. You might even call them out for it step by step what you saw them doing and they will still try to further lie to your face even when you're giving them a chance to come clean. Like, nope. Block and move on. You don't need friends like that.
Amen! I needed to read this today, I cut ties and blocked a former friend because her lying and gaslighting was level 10. It is what it is.
Swoozie, your one of the only UA-camrs that has kept uploading for over 10 years now, damn I feel old, your one of the most entertaining UA-camrs out there and I want to thank you for all the great content you’ve put out over the years. Wish you all the best! 👍💜
yo swoozie, u were like the 3rd content creator i ever started watching. stopped watching a while ago but this popped in my feed and it made me rly happy to see ur still doing videos and doing well!! best wishes swoozie keep it up
I have missed this man and I am so happy he is back
Honestly - He might not be that b⚫ack as you think he is
Swoozie drinking game: drink every time he says "there's this guy and this girl" 😂
Honestly - I only drink Coco Milk so how do I play this game?
@@gurunextreplace the powder with crystal meth
@@THE_funnyaltgood one
is it me or is he like a therapist to us all?
he definitely dressed the part this time
Yeah it’s you.
It's just u dawg
Strong word
@@realestace2446 wdm
I feel like sWooZie knows when I’m dealing with a problematic friend. First, he made a video a while back about toxic friends and now one about gaslighting, both during times where a friend has straight up been manipulative and toxic. This is definitely the sign I needed to full on cut this friend out of my life!
Man’s dressed like he’s about to go to Hogwarts
My dad is the literal definition of gaslighting. I had emotional stress over him for a very long time, as he basically destroyed my mother's life in more ways than one, and if I so much as say "well, here's hoping you don't-"
And that is enough to send him on a rant, as if a stranger scolded him just them.
*Gaslighter's mind:* "I am being honest. I don't have to tell *EVERYTHING,* just what they need to know and hear. I'm allowed my privacy!"
...true
May I add....what they need to know and hear to get them do do/behave/give me what I want (aka some kind of validation).
Based on his outfit, I can only assume that the exams at Hogwarts are finally over. So glad to see my favorite Gryffindor back!
it's important to note that there is a difference between gaslighting and lying, everyone lies at some point, gaslighting is specifically lying with the intent to make someone question their own sanity.
Man, you’re so chill. Always manage to keep UA-cam og’s good vibes. Just you being you. The wholesome UA-cam.
"If you tell the truth, it becomes a part of your past. If you tell a lie, it becomes a part of your future."
Bro I miss swoozie
sameeeee 🥹
Samesies
Same bro
Same I used to make videos inspired by him!
Same dude
Your story telling skills are on another level!!! love your videos.
bro got in a whole suit just to sit in a room and talk
Dude, it’s been forever. It’s great seeing that you still have your humor going on. With your cartoons.
God this vid hits too close to home. Just left a relationship with a prototypical gas lighter. Took too long to realize. Glad you're back, Swoozie!
Honestly - we should have a relationship now because you might have some free time
I gaslight myself into thinking I'm better off being alone than in a relationship 🙂
it works for me
Lol same.
You ARE better off being alone than in a *relationship
*toxic relationship
Me and you both 😂😭
this is not gaslighting
Been watching for 10 years, still never miss a video.
My boy got on the "Ten points to Gryffindor" ass fit
Bro keep the good times rolling no matter how long your gone so long as you return your still the king 👍🏾
Swoozie is the kind of creator that makes the notification bell feature worth it. Thanks for popping back in with this important story!
Swoozie is that one toxic boyfriend who leaves us for 5 months and comes back like nothing happened but we still love him and beg for more content from him
I've had a pretty bad week, so seeing Swoozie back is exactly what I needed. Thank you for another relationship lesson. I need this.
Don’t care how long u been gone just glad u keep coming back❤
this some real shi i been dealing within my family, thanks for making it swoozie
1:54 that omnitrix edit tho, brought me right back to childhood
Love your content and stories Swoozie. Love the lessons in your videos.
I have heard a million times over people trying to say that communication is the key in a relationship, and then those exact same people lie, gaslight, pick fights, create drama, play games, and then think that their partner is the problem -_-
Honest huh
YES YES YES
No its true. There are people like that but true communication is so important
the animation is good, that guy is so talented!! 😍
"So there is this guy and this girl" 😂😂😂
Thank you Swoozie. I never really understood Gaslighting. You explained it so well. I just broke up with my partner and during the breakup fight she accused me of Gaslighting. I watched your video and understood that she was the one doing the Gaslighting. I've missed you and your videos.
1:03 that transition is clean AF
I don't understand why people who lied, will still lie, about a lie, in the middle of lying, while lying down, and lying to your face!
I went through that same experience when my ex got mad I would be calm and then she would be like "oh, thats how yk that u don't care" I didn't even know she gaslighted me until this vid bro thx
"HI ITS ME IM THE PROBLEM ITS ME" yes proper lyrics for the video
Yes ! Honesty is indeed the best policy . When trust is broken ,relationship will never be the same .
Your animations are elite! Please don’t leave again
I gaslit my mom once, it was self defense. She somehow knew I was doing something I had no business doing and she was about to drag me down to a clinic. I knew it was wrong, but it was either that or I'd get shit from my whole family. I came home with a hickey and she called my grandma and my uncle
Honestly I really like your voice like this swooz. Relaxing to listen to
I KNEW I RECOGNISED THAT ANIMATION FROM SOMEWHERE
I missed your videos soo much they’ve given me such a reality check with everyone I come encounter with … I’ve been depressed without your videos.. I’m so happy that you’re back ❤
He really does spread light.
So glad to see a new upload from you Swoozie, great video 🔥🙏🏼
PS: that Ben 10 animated part legit killed me lol 😂
My fave line…”so theres this guy and this girl” 😅😂
Only swoozie can start a video like this 😂😂
man this guys fucking videos are some of the most entertaining shit ive ever watched , been watching for years and still get mad excited and go on a swoozie binge everytime he post a new video lmao
When the world needed him most, he RETURNED, AT LAST
This man never misses. Gaslighting has been a topic recently
Right?! Like that’s been a huge life lesson for me too
Swoozie please don't ever stop being you my man literally my favorite UA-camr of all time ❤💯
Swoozie is the Dad that goes to the store but occasionally comes back every once in a while
You right tho
i love when swoozie apologizes for disappearing but he’s always done it😭 like it’s okay we love you for who u are
6 months, but it feels like you never left💪
Swoozie seems like such a cool guy to hangout with. Wish I knew people like him.
Honestly - I wish I knew more racist people like myself
Not only is did we get swoozie back, but UCHE IS ANIMATING IT. WE BEING FED GOOD TODAY 😫🤚🏾
Bro went to Hogwarts for five months
I love these videos that don’t have PNG’s as animation, because it’s always really fluid, & also, kinda rare, you can tell though by the fact that these videos usually take longer to make
I swear to god every time this man drops a video I get happier and more giddy than a kid on Christmas. Shit is alway S Tier
So glad swoozie is back
PLEASE SWOOZIE UPLOAD MORE OFTEN! EVEN IF THEY’RE SHORT VIDEOS, WE MISS YOU! OR MAKE A GAMING CHANNEL
Same
We've got to make sure that people, particularly those of a certain generation, know that "Gaslighting" is *not* the same thing as "Lying". Telling a lie and Gaslighting are two very different levels.
Gaslighting is a concerted and repeated effort to convince someone that the reality they experienced was wrong.
Lying is a *part* of Gaslighting, but being lied to is not being Gaslit.
Ooooor, am I Gaslighting you about Gaslighting?
I haven’t seen a Swoozie upload in ages! :) so happy you’re back! I’ve always enjoyed your relationship takes! The topic of people manipulating others so that there’s equivalent anger is something I’ve experienced with my parents, siblings and romantic relationships. I prefer keeping things peaceful but I need to start creating boundaries around this dynamic.
Swooize is giving therapists vibes and I love it lol😂❤
I feel like gaslighting is one of those words that instantly popped up everywhere last year, and I only then realized I've basically been gaslighted my whole life by someone I know.
Weird right?
btw the video starts at 3:57 so, dont bother watching all of that.
Being honest, most importantly owning up to your mistakes and your bs, is goddamn hard. But it's totally worth it. It feels so much better to have that short burst of shame and then everything getting resolved rather than lie and worry you're gonna be caught. The longer you lie, the harsher the consequences when you're found out. Just. Be. Honest.
It's been so long, I forgot how much I enjoyed swoozie's videos.
0:06 it’s been 6 months
I miss you❤
I know we’ve all missed swoozie ❤ but can we also discuss how horrible that relationship was
I love you swoozie! I been watching your videos since I was in high school! Please continue posting !
Gaslighting isn't real... you're crazy man!
2:37 I see what you did there Swoozie 😉
I honestly was afraid he was going to give us an example of gaslighting by trying to make us all believe he hasn't been gone for the past 5/6 months 😂😊
We can all agree that he never disappoints us with his content
That is the best UA-cam user name in existence.
I KNEW I recognized the animation!! Great work all around! :D
This was very wholesome Swoozie content that I missed dearly
Video starts at 6:24.
2:43 Taylor 😝
2:20 my ex 😂
Oh nah I’ve gaslighted before. It’s been a while but I’ve definitely done it a few times
I blame the parents for the way these people are. They were raised in a toxic environment so they think it’s normal.
story starts at 0:30