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We have play dates with friends from school. He has been in a daycare setting since he’s very young.

@urcinnamongirll, if you are lonely, do something about it. It has nothing to do with siblings. People can have siblings and be lonely. Why don't you do things with your parents? Make friends at school. Babysit younger children. Hang out with your cousins. It doesn't matter if they are closer. You can still have a relationship with them. Having a sibling does not mean they will like you or be your friend. What if you had a sibling and they hang out with their friends or their romantic partners, or cousins? Then you are still left out. So if you are lonely and miserable, do something about it. Stop waiting for imaginary siblings who might leave you in the dusk. Get out there and enjoy life and make some connections. It's up to you. Siblings are not the only people whom can keep you from being lonely. If you are miserable and lonely, it's up to you to make a change. Enjoy your parents, your friends, cousins etc. Please, stop worrying about "what if?" You don't know the future. Again, you don't know if a sibling would be with you later in life either.

@@renealexander2703 none of those relationships are the same. i have friends and i do things with my parents. i barely see my cousins and they’re all in their 30s or 40s because my parents had me later. i don’t like younger kids so i’d only want an older sibling. and yes you can still be lonely with siblings but in most cases even if you fight your older sibling they’ll still love you and sometimes do things for you or with you. being an only child it sucks knowing once my mom and dad pass i could be all alone. my parents are already older than my friends parents.

@@urcinnamongirll , no sibling relationship is the same. Some siblings can be loving and some can be awful. Some siblings fight you because they don't love you and never will. If that's the case, cousins and friends and others can fight you and love you and sometimes do things for you or with you. My point is, it doesn't have to be a sibling. Even if you had ONE sibling, you could STILL be alone. What if your ONE sibling died before you or your parents? What if your ONE sibling didn't like you and you barely saw them? Instead of crying about imaginary siblings and waiting for your parents to die, go out and make some connections. Connect with friends, cousins, or whomever. If you are lonely and it sucks, it has nothing to do with being an only child. You could have ONE sibling and still complain about the very same thing. Again, people with siblings complain about being alone and being lonely. If you are lonely and your life sucks, do something about it. It's on YOU.

@@renealexander2703I agree with you so much. I have two older siblings, we have barely a relationship. Growing up they hated me and wanted absolutely nothing to do with me. The rejection hurt so badly and my brother was my biggest bully whenever he did bother to acknowledge me. My mom could never leave us alone because she couldn’t trust him. Didn’t change much when I got older, neither sibling has visited me since I moved 8 years ago, any effort to see or have a relationship is 100% on me. My sister invited myself and my son to a fair, she promptly ditched her daughter with me and disappeared for over an hour to chat with her mom friends. I’ve made wonderful friendships with others that I treasure and are much more meaningful than the relationships with my siblings.

Thats so emotional to read. Thank you for your perspective. My husband thinks we are too old now. 42 and 45 and he is right.. But i agree with what u say... The hardship is temporary and when my son is older im sure he would want a subling. He had no cousin and no aunties that eve visit or car. I feel he has such a small family.

@perfectlyprincessparties1660, that is not a "downside" of being an only child. People don't have to have someone their own age to hang out with. That doesn't make sense. Children should learn to be able to hang out and do things with all kinds of people of any age. And a sibling wouldn't help. Your 14-year old daughter would probably find a 9 year old or 10-year-old younger brother annoying. If she doesn't enjoy you and her dad, I don't think ONE younger, baby sibling would make much difference. Maybe she just finds the vacation boring. Or maybe you could ask a female friend or female cousin who is the EXACT age as your daughter to go along. However, I think she needs to learn how to enjoy herself with all people, not just with a sibling and not just with people her own age. Also, people with siblings get lonely. So siblings are not a cure for that. What seems to help loneliness is having friends your exact age and the same sex as you. Siblings can be years younger and the opposite sex. And, again, people with siblings can be lonely. I think the major cure for loneliness is to find enjoyment in being in the company with people. Your parents are people. Siblings or people your own age shouldn't be the only people you can have a good time with. Your daughter should enjoy your company and her dad's company as well. If she does not enjoy your company, there is no guarantee that she will enjoy a sibling's company. Having another human being for another child is not a good idea, in my opinion. You should have a child because you want one, not as a human toy for your current child.

I was an only child and I would travel to be with my grandparents in the summers, even at her age. I loved hanging out with my grandparents and all their friends. To this day I prefer talking to the older people at the coffee shop or on campus than I do people my own age. Haha Not sure if this will be the case with your child, but 14,15,16 is only 3 years of their life. There might be benefits in her life later in that you just can't see yet.

I agree with their, my kindest, most loyal friends are onlies ❤️

The sweet spot for kids is 2. Everything basically goes down hill after 2 kids. But even between 1 or 2 kids, the expenses are double and given today's economy and lack of time, I could still see an advantage of having one child over 2. I personally only think 2 kids is only slightly better than 1. Mostly because you can have one boy and one girl and get the joys of raising both. However, the problem is we don't have.control what we get. While there is ways to influence it, there is no guarantee. I do feel that some people just get too greedy and keep trying to have the other one only to end up with a bunch of boys or a bunch of girls and end up with more kids than they can realistically handle. 2 kids is not too much and assuming you have two parents that are both involved, it's easily doable. However, two kids still can potentially bring issues that wouldn't exist with a single child such as jealousy issues and fighting/arguing. This only can get amplified more with more kids.

I was an only child, and I turned out fine

How is a child growing up in solitary confinement? She is not growing up on a deserted island away from people. And how is ONE sibling going to make a difference? If thats the case, wouldn't the child and the ONE sibling be growing up in solitary confinement?

What I'm basically saying is that it's can be very lonely

I have sibilings close in age. Our personalities are completely opposite we are not really close. A sibiling does NOT guarantee companionship!

My sister was 4 years younger, and we didnt not get along although we loved each other. She is the complete opposite of me.

@itz.gee.x8589, why does someone have to be around your age to communicate with? Don't you go to school or see other people? And a sibling is not always with you. And some siblings will not do stuff with you. What if you are a 14 year old boy who does not want to do things with his 11-year old sister? What if the 14-year old boy wants to hang out with other 14-year old boys? And siblings do not always understand you. And some siblings will bully you. Siblings can come and go. And what about cousins? Siblings don't do fun things with each other either. Many siblings fight each other. And siblings aren't always around you. No one is never always around anyone.

@@itz.gee.x8589, you can have a sibling and be very lonely. If you are lonely, that's on you. Get out and make connections with all kinds of people. Stop discriminating against people due to their ages. Make friends with your parents, cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents, spouses, and make friends. Get a pet. Become more social and do things. If you are lonely, thats on you. What if you had a sibling who had friends, cousins, a romantic partner and did things with your parents and others and left you crying in the dusk about being lonely?

0 kids is the best.

Siblings are not the only ones who can give you a support system. And some siblings are not a support system. You can have a sibling and be lonely. So if you are lonely, that's on you. I'm an only child and I was NEVER lonely. The only children that I know are not lonely either. And you say have two kids. What if they don't like each other? What if one child hangs out with friends, cousins, their spouse and children and leaves the other sibling lonely and in the dusk?

Disagree. I am one of 3 and childhood sucked i could never get the things I wanted, I was the middle child and looked over, we all fought so bad. I missed out on the sports and passions I wanted to pursue bc wasn’t enough money for all of us. It’s not worth biting off more than you can chew just to give a kid siblings. I don’t even have a relationship with my one sibling and the other one we didn’t get along for years. My son will be an only child and he’s thriving he’s never lonely he has so many friends and other family members. He’s so happy.

You are lonely. Think about it, having siblings is not the cure

Despite a billion people on the planet, an only child is indeed alone once parents and grandparents have left this world. Cousins, uncles and aunts are great, so are friends, but there is nothing that compares to having a sibling who grew up with you, understands you, and who go through life with you. During life's tough times you want that one person who you can turn to and most often that's a sibling. A billion other don't share your child's DNA, background, history, won't stop and listen to them when there's a problem. If a person's only child dies, kaput, that's it, the bloodline is gone for good unless that child had children. Also, more children equals more love.

But how will your son be alone? Don't you have cousins, aunts, uncles, friends, nieces, nephews, etc.? What if the sibling dies young or what if the sibling does not like your son?

@@texan903, a sibling might not understand you. And going thru life is not important. What is important is that someone is there for you and cares about you. They don't have to go through life with you. Besides, cousins, uncles, aunts, friends, romantic partners and children can go through life with you. People also can turn to cousins, aunts, uncles, friends, romantic partners, their children and even their church group during life's tough times. You could have a sibling who does not listen to you or your problems. Heck, some siblings are the REASON for your problems. And what if a person has two children and their bloodline is gone for good? Also, more children can equal more chaos, frustration, competition, and resentment and hate.

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Just curious did you ever get therapy for this? I feel like I had ppd/ppa just like this and I just pushed through but it made me just want to be one and done.

I Really relate to this!!!

I experienced the same thing. I wish I’d gotten help in hindsight but the intrusive thoughts faded away eventually. I generally was just depressed during pregnancy and in the first year. 17 months in and I am feeling so good. Better than I’ve felt in years. I don’t think I could go back and do it all again and keep my sanity.

Hi! I am 42 and pregnant, I always have this fear in my head that my baby will be alone one day. We also don't have family around. No grandparents, and the rest of the family is not very supportive. How do you handle without family support? Does your kid ask for seeing cousins or other family members?

Thank you!

Thank you so much!

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I’m a former preschool teacher and now I tutor after teaching second grade and special education. I am SHOCKED how little academic things I want to do with my child. She’s going to be an only as well. I realize parenting and teaching are very different. I just don’t want to cram my daughter full of facts. I thought I would want more kids but one is enough. It turns out I enjoy being paid to teach and be with a lot of kids 😂

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