Why It's Okay To Just Want One Child
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- Опубліковано 20 жов 2024
- Insight into why people can get so judgemental about someone's choice to have just one child, and how to navigate that judgement, in addition to guidance for figuring out how many kids YOU want to have.
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Its funny to see people believe that the only child is weak,spoiled,etc meanwhile the reality is opposite. Since we are the only one we are stronger mentally,independent,brave one !
I certainly agree that being an only child does not destine a person to a life of loneliness and selfishness.
The hardest part for my wife and me is that we aren’t choosing this. We want another baby so badly, but we’ve had 4 miscarriages and recently lost our son who was stillborn. I guess I’m just watching these videos to try to find some logical assurance that our 4-year-old will be okay and still have a full and joyful life.
I’m so incredibly sorry to hear that. I can’t even imagine how difficult that must be. I certainly hope you’re able to have another happy child, but I’m sure either way your son will have an amazing life.
I’m a male 34 from Chennai India 🇮🇳
I believe having only child is best as it’s easy to plan and take care of the child’s careers goals.
I feel that after having 2 or 3 kids time is mostly spent for them which can affect the intimate relationships with self and spouse.
Making decisions on other’s validation always makes one feel insecure and dependable 😟
Being confident and happy over decision made makes life fulfilling ❤️
Thanks for sharing 👍
Thank you, Bailey! This video is spot on and perfect timing! I'm 8 months pregnant with my first (and most likely only child). My husband and I feel this is the best choice for us for several reasons, mostly finances and our ages (late 30's). Plus we both grew up as only children, so we don't have a clue about how to handle sibling rivalry! 🤣 It's amazing how this can be such a controversial topic. Every time I go to an ultrasound apt, the doctors/nurses/techs act so disappointed when they discover that I only plan to have one baby. It's like I personally let them down. They react with a dramatic "Oh No!! You can't do that! Your little girl will need a sibling!" Drives me nuts. When I mention my age being a factor, someone always responds with a "Oh it's not too late, we just had a 40/50 something year old woman who delivered a healthy baby last week." Or acquaintances/colleagues will share a similar example of their friend/cousin/neighbor, etc. Of course that's awesome, but I can't see myself wanting to try again at that age. I love your line of "We decided that this is the best choice for our family". I'm going to start using that immediately! 💖 Thanks again!
So glad it came at the right time for you! What you’re experiencing sounds SO frustrating. It’s wild how people act like they have a right to pass judgement on other people’s family planning choices. Super lame. Hope that line helps people back off!
Tara Justice What made you decide to become a parent to one child? You didn't want to stay childfree?
Actually, more than a choice, I think people also need to take into account their financial situation...
I see many families who don't really fare well and have 3-4 kids and complaint that they struggle...
I wish people would be more considerate when deciding how many kids to have.
I will tell you like this just as pure as the sun rise: why do you only have ONE spouse? Why Not 2? is not 2 spouses much better then 1, especially if your happy with 1, then why wouldn't 2 be better, why not 2 spouses? why are children any different? why not CHOOSE, to have a VERRY intimate relationship with the 1 child you do have, and love them "the best of ALL".?
Thank you for this perspective.
Just do what is right for you,dont be pressured to do anything in life.Its your uterus and your choice.Its also your time and energy.Just relax and take your own decisions.I also have one daughter and she Will be one and done.
Agreed!
My daughter is going 3 and until now, I cannot see myself having another child. My husband also thinks we dont need another one unless I want to.
In our country, being childless and having only 1 child is like a crime 🤣
There is no support group for One and Done Parents and the topic is a taboo. I wanted to start one soon 😊
You should totally start one! I’m sure you would be helping so many people also wanting acceptance for only wanting one child.
I agree with you. But it’s hard when you feel pressured by your spouse
I just want to have one child as I think I will take care of him/her in a better way.
I love this video. I'm a young sole parent to one awesome little toddler. And when I was younger I always envisioned myself as having 2-3 kids down the road. I even considered it about a year and a half or so after my child was born. But in the last year, so much has changed for me and I constantly questioned if I even want to have another child. And it is now to my understanding that I do NOT want another child. People often say to me that I will change my mind when I'm in a loving relationship, or if I forget what It's like to be pregnant, in labor, or going through the first 4 years. But I disagree with all of that. I absolutely adore children and I'm great with children. But I've come to realize what having more than one kid would look like emotionally, physically, financially and successwise, and while I know it would be nice for my child to have a sibling, but with all of the other things in mind, it's something that I don't want for myself, and don't see myself thriving in (partnered or not). I would absolutely love to give my child and I the greatest opportunity to succeed, and thrive and be happy, and having another child would take away from everyone involved a little bit. Of course there's more to love, but also more challenges, emotionally, physically, and financially. And I know myself well enough to know that, that is not right for me. Even if I had a partner, it is still not right for me.
I can envision myself possibly adopting an older kid or a teen later in life (which I would actually prefer if I had a kid, based on my knowledge in justice, sociology, and psychology), but I know forsure that just want to skip the whole pregnancy and post Partum experience.
But wholeheartedly, I would be perfectly happy raising my one and only child, giving her and myself the absolute best shot in life for a successful and healthy, fulfilling future.
Maybe my mind will change in ten years, but right now, and within the next ten years, I know for certain that is absolutely not going to change.
It sucks because I know both my parents would love to have more grandchildren, and being a female and the oldest sibling, I am the person that can easily fulfill that wish for them, but unfortunately for them, it's not about them and their wants, but about mine and my child's wants and needs. 😅
I love that you’re honoring the needs of yourself and your child above the desires of others! Good for you. Definitely follow your instincts ♥️
Thank you so much for sharing this! These are my thoughts a d feelings! I’m married but feel like a single mom in the union most times. It’s stressful for me especially not having any support. It’s physically, emotionally and financially challenging and i was pushing because of guilt not giving my child a sibling especially since my family and my husband’s family either live far away or close by but estranged. I feel like I should love myself enough to consider myself for once especially having a complicated pregnancy and being high risk in several aspects. I definitely want my daughter (27 yo) and I to succeed at life and be happy. With my husband’s poor and remorseless spending habits, i dont see us having a good quality of life having another child. We just can’t afford it. I also get anxiety thinking i could die in next pregnancy (based on the last). I’m almost 40 and gave some resentment towards my husband and guilt about my choice but i see you can relate to my reasoning to just have one
👉👪👍Of course it is okay to want only 1 child! I don't understand why people want to have 2!? Even with only one child it is quite difficult, maybe quality is much more important than quantity in our Planet which has already age milliard of people?!
Hi Bailey,
A lot of people would assume that have one child means that the parents are from mainland China. I am an only child. My parents only wanted one. However, since people know that I was born in China, they think we are supporting the one child policy.
That’s a great point. There are so many misconceptions about the choice to just have one child.
One child for me I’m happy my attention . My child don’t ask for a sibling. She have siblings
Gut instinct tells me it’s pretty lonely having no siblings. Compared to having siblings, that is.
Dismiss this as an attempt to validate something or as a myth, as you please.
Being spoiled and being narcissistic is two very different things. Typically a lonely child gets the whole attention and that is just natural. If parents have one child they focus all their time, attention and expectations to that child. If they have 2 they have to split it. That is just facts. But it is not necessarily a bad thing. I do, as a teacher, sometimes see entitlement being stronger with lonley children. Or the seek for constant attention. Howewer, that does not make them narcissistic. Or bad people. They grow up to be as good people as children who have siblings
I'm an only child and being an only sucks there people who CHOOSE to to have an only child are degenerates; don't encourage degeneracy.
Lol 😆 🤣 😂
@@FromHomeWithLove24 glad that you’ve had such a positive experience as an only child!
@@BaileyGaddisDoula Seems OP doesn't like himself very much.
Brother having sibling is many billion time curse.....If you are only child then pls seriously consider it as a boon
Well I have 2 siblings and they are useless to me so I’ll give them to you. My child is the only and he’s having a much better life than I had we did him a favor