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Thank you so much for your videos. My daughter is still struggling with throwing things when she is upset or told no. What has changed is she is not doing it as much and she has pick up 2 skills that is cause-and-effect. She cleans up well and when I ask her to pick up her toy she does not resist she knows the drill. It’s getting better for sure. She will also ask me “daddy play,please.” Work in progress. But as her dad I am working on validating her feelings. I also need to work on our communication with each other. Your insight has been so impactful in our house hold and I will continue to learn as much as I can from you. Thank you again.
My 3yo daughter always gets angrier and more frustrated when I try to validate her feelings and say something like "you're feeling really frustrated"...how can I connect with her instead? When she gets frustrated she gets really angry sometimes, hitting and throwing the thing she is doing. I don't know what to do about that :/
Great question. Definitely follow their cues. Stay close by, limit your words and provide a presence that says - "I hear you. Let it out. I'm not trying to stop your feelings. I get it." Again, don't forget to have her pick what she's thrown once she's calm and debrief about what's happened. Hope that helps! By the way, my new course goes into so much depth about this (how to be your child's emotional coach and tips for better behavior). Here's the link if you want to learn more: www.themompsychologist.com/pda
Do you have a video on throwing food? Especially when they’re non-verbal? 12-18 months. My kid is 14 months and she will drop food on the floor and her water bottle or milk cup. Any tips on that? She doesn’t talk at all. She does communicate in other ways of course. It would be great to get some tips on that. I can’t find good material on that
Awesome video! What would you say or do when you are making dinner or tending to baby while they start throwing and there is nothing you are doing with toddler after they throw? I wouldn’t be able to say “after or when you pick up your toy we can do xyz “because I’m busy feeding baby or making dinner and need them to play independently. I hope this makes sense lol
I have a 2 year old who isn’t very verbal and definitely wouldn’t understand me talking it out with him, I can block his dangerous actions or gently take the toy out of his hands but he doesn’t understand my words so how do I let him know that his actions can be very hurtful (he tends to throw things at people and at the tv) but to also validate and lead with connection. I tried picking him up or rubbing his back but I’m not sure if this is right and it doesn’t seem to help him (he tends to get either more frustrated or stay just as frustrated)
Thank you once again!! I’m wondering about the natural consequence part. My 2.5 year old will refuse to pick up the toy but what if we weren’t about to do anything we are just hanging out at home? Can I say I will have to take the toy away if he refuses to pick it up?
Question about the when...then... My 2.5 throws a lot! This might prevent us from going to the park until he picks up what he threw... How do I explain that to my 5 yr old also wanting to go to the park? Thank you. (I'm just starting your pda course so you might answer it there. But I'm very excited to be learning from you! Thank you!)
You can just let them know matter of factly what's going on (without shaming other child) and thank them for their patience and understanding. You'll find way more help and strategies inside PDA. So happy to have you as a student!
My 2.5 yo instantly pushes back against if/than statements - he’s remarkably stubborn! How might we help him move past that..? Funny enough, I see the same behaviour in my husband 🤣🤣🤣
For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. (John 3:16). For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved. He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. (John 3:17-18) Repent ye therefore, and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, when the times of refreshing shall come from the presence of the Lord. And he shall send Jesus Christ, which before was preached unto you: (Acts 3:19-20).
►Are you ready to finally see better behavior? Join Positive Discipline Academy - A practical 7-week online parenting course designed to take the guesswork out of disciplining young children (10 and under).
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Thank you so much for your videos. My daughter is still struggling with throwing things when she is upset or told no. What has changed is she is not doing it as much and she has pick up 2 skills that is cause-and-effect. She cleans up well and when I ask her to pick up her toy she does not resist she knows the drill. It’s getting better for sure. She will also ask me “daddy play,please.” Work in progress. But as her dad I am working on validating her feelings. I also need to work on our communication with each other. Your insight has been so impactful in our house hold and I will continue to learn as much as I can from you. Thank you again.
My 3yo daughter always gets angrier and more frustrated when I try to validate her feelings and say something like "you're feeling really frustrated"...how can I connect with her instead? When she gets frustrated she gets really angry sometimes, hitting and throwing the thing she is doing. I don't know what to do about that :/
Great question. Definitely follow their cues. Stay close by, limit your words and provide a presence that says - "I hear you. Let it out. I'm not trying to stop your feelings. I get it." Again, don't forget to have her pick what she's thrown once she's calm and debrief about what's happened. Hope that helps!
By the way, my new course goes into so much depth about this (how to be your child's emotional coach and tips for better behavior). Here's the link if you want to learn more: www.themompsychologist.com/pda
@@TheMomPsychologist thank you so much! 🙌💜
Shared with husband and checking out online sessions. Thank you so so much for your time…!! 🤞🏼🙏🏼
I'm a grandma of a toddler...taking care of her 💯😊❤️....this video was very helpful 🙏❤😊....also I just subscribed to your UA-cam channel on 10-17-23 ❤
Thanks
Gonna need this channel in the future
Do you have a video on throwing food? Especially when they’re non-verbal? 12-18 months. My kid is 14 months and she will drop food on the floor and her water bottle or milk cup. Any tips on that? She doesn’t talk at all. She does communicate in other ways of course. It would be great to get some tips on that. I can’t find good material on that
You did not go over how to deal with throwing when they are testing the limits??
Awesome video! What would you say or do when you are making dinner or tending to baby while they start throwing and there is nothing you are doing with toddler after they throw? I wouldn’t be able to say “after or when you pick up your toy we can do xyz “because I’m busy feeding baby or making dinner and need them to play independently. I hope this makes sense lol
Come back to having them pick up the toy when you're done with what you're doing. :)
im going through it with my son
he tends to throw when we are eating
whether its food or toys at us, and he would laugh after and continues
I have a two part video series on food throwing that I hope you find helpful! Here's part 1: ua-cam.com/video/T4AraDgbAhs/v-deo.html
I have a 2 year old who isn’t very verbal and definitely wouldn’t understand me talking it out with him, I can block his dangerous actions or gently take the toy out of his hands but he doesn’t understand my words so how do I let him know that his actions can be very hurtful (he tends to throw things at people and at the tv) but to also validate and lead with connection. I tried picking him up or rubbing his back but I’m not sure if this is right and it doesn’t seem to help him (he tends to get either more frustrated or stay just as frustrated)
I usually take it if its unsafe to throw and replace it with something else and say hey you can throw this instead. Is this wrong to do ?
Thank you once again!! I’m wondering about the natural consequence part. My 2.5 year old will refuse to pick up the toy but what if we weren’t about to do anything we are just hanging out at home? Can I say I will have to take the toy away if he refuses to pick it up?
You wouldn't move on to whatever activity is next until they pick up the toy.
@@TheMomPsychologist thank you dr. Jazmine!!
Question about the when...then... My 2.5 throws a lot! This might prevent us from going to the park until he picks up what he threw... How do I explain that to my 5 yr old also wanting to go to the park? Thank you. (I'm just starting your pda course so you might answer it there. But I'm very excited to be learning from you! Thank you!)
You can just let them know matter of factly what's going on (without shaming other child) and thank them for their patience and understanding. You'll find way more help and strategies inside PDA. So happy to have you as a student!
Super helpful! Thank you!!!
My 2.5 yo instantly pushes back against if/than statements - he’s remarkably stubborn! How might we help him move past that..? Funny enough, I see the same behaviour in my husband 🤣🤣🤣
It's not IF, it's WHEN. Subtle but powerful difference. Try it out and let me know how it goes.
For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. (John 3:16). For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved. He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. (John 3:17-18) Repent ye therefore, and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, when the times of refreshing shall come from the presence of the Lord. And he shall send Jesus Christ, which before was preached unto you: (Acts 3:19-20).
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