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What if another child takes away what your child is playing with and you’re currently in the process of teaching them these tips and tricks. Especially in a public setting?
Thank you, this is so helpful! I just dealt with another little girl trying to take toys from my son in a public setting and I did not know how to handle it. I felt like I failed him by not saying enough. I want him to know how to share but not to get used to just giving things up when other kids say they want to play with what he’s using.
Thank u so much for this video. My son is 3, nonverbal, and just started school. The school admin said he is having a hard time sharing and gets upset when pushed to do so. I was a little upset that they put this expectation on him and its his 2nd week being enrolled in school. This video helps me understand that he does not have a problem he just does not understand and they need to watch this and understand themselves as well.
Q: my 2 year old and I spent a weekend camping with a friend and her 3 year old. We are both first time mothers and just trying to figure it out as we go along. As soon as they arrived we were witnessing this behavior from her daughter. At first we were just letting them figure it out but it got very aggressive as the weekend went on. We both did very patiently try to explaining the situation to the 3 year old. Every single item that my 2 year old would pick up the 3 year old would snack, even after she had just snatched a different toy from my 2 year old, toy after toy. After a while my 2 year old wanted nothing to do with my friends 3 year old, and seemed timid to even try to play with any toy at all. My 2 year old is mellow and wouldn't make too much of a big deal out of having her toys taken out of her hands, but it did become very noticeable that my 2 year old didn't want to play with her daughter anymore. I was upset and just ended up feeling like my baby was being bullied. I know the other baby is only 3 and still learning but the entire weekend became very tiring. What do I do with this situation? Do I continue to do play dates with this child?
What to do when whatever toy my child holds the other kid grabs? We usually just give in to this kid and pick up whatever toy he's let go of, but once my child is holding it, this child grabs it again. And he wont allow anyone to play with any toys. This kid is 2 and 4 months and mine is 1 and 7 months.
So I have a question. I dont know if you can help though. I am an RBT. I have a 4 year old boy who is autistic and barely verbal who I work with. He has a little sister who is going to be 3 next month. She is extremely smart and very verbal. She loves constant attention. I will do the same tasks I do with brother with her, but I usually have her do them after because a) Im getting paid to be with brother and b) brother is working on wait. Sister will always snatch whatever brother has regardless if she is playing with it or not. Today she actually smirked when she got a blanket that brother was wanting. Mom did not know and gave it to sister, but I was already telling sister all day “its not your turn we have to wait/you have to ask before you take” and then giving her the words and having her do the actions. The problem is I feel like it is not helpful at all. And brother, who is non verbal, is just now understanding “can I have it?” And using that phrase correctly. I know toddlers like to take but what is the psychology behind this? Do you know? Because she snatches whether an adult is watching or not. She loves just taking things from brother and she wont even want to play with it. It is merely so she can take it from him. Which isn’t fair to him, especially being non-verbal.
You mentioned that snatching a toy isn't necessarily a mean gesture, but mostly them wanting to initiate play. What if the other child doesn't want to play, but rather alone? Then what? That's what usually happens with my 2 & 5 year Olds.
Can you give me feedback on how to address the situation when the friend doesnt say when he/she/they/them is done but they set the toy down or are policing the toy while playing with another toy?
At what age are kids developementally able to share. What about a 6 year old who doesnt want to share with a toddler sibling. How do you teach the older one to want to share
Thank you so much Jazmine for this video. really helpful. Quick question - How to deal with this when two year old and 10 month old is involved. My son (2.5 year old) snatches the toy from my 10 month old daughter. What should I be doing in this situation.
I would like to know how to handle when the other kid who is waiting or snatching aggressively is a peer’s kid. We were playing in our house. My son was playing with his train and he is 3. My friend’s kid 2yo came fast to snatch his train and my son started crying badly. He was about to throw things at him wen i stepped in and touched him and asked him “looks like he wants to play with u would you like to share” he said a clear no. I told him “then u can tell him no without throwing stuff “ and he did exactly tat. Now the other kid wouldn’t stop even after a stubborn no so my son looked at me with a helpless expression and i didn’t know what to do next coz am not familiar with this other kid and his mom so i couldnt step in to regulate him on her behalf. I just hugged my boy and took him away from the scene. One side i was happy he turned it verbally on the other side i felt so guilty tat as a mon i couldn’t help him with better solutions after the no didn’t work. If anyone has any suggestion would he helpful
Hi there. My son is 1 year old and daughter is 4 years old. I cannot communicate with my son to stop grabbing toys out of my daughter's hands. Obviously he wants to either play with her or with the toy, but how do I stop him from just bulldozing her to get to the toy? If she moves away to another toy, then he will follow and it all starts over again
I needed this. Thank you so much as always! One question : do we enforce them giving up the toy eventually if they don’t give a turn in a reasonable amount of time or just try to sportscast again that they still have the toy? Thank you :)
Great question. We don't enforce it. They will give it up when they're ready. Unless it's public equipment, then yes - we should teach them how to take turns and the natural flow. Does that help?
I understand that toddlers aren’t expected to share, but is there a good response in situations where they continue to grab another child’s toys and throw fits when you give the child’s toy back? The moment my toddler sees another kid play with a toy (that’s not his) he wants it and cries for it and the other kid could move on find another and the cycle repeats
Wen my kid did this i tried sitting next to him and as usual validated his feeling with some touch too and kept repeating that someone else is using it and we can wait for our turn. Sometimes it works sometimes am clueless too.
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What if another child takes away what your child is playing with and you’re currently in the process of teaching them these tips and tricks. Especially in a public setting?
Thank you, this is so helpful! I just dealt with another little girl trying to take toys from my son in a public setting and I did not know how to handle it. I felt like I failed him by not saying enough. I want him to know how to share but not to get used to just giving things up when other kids say they want to play with what he’s using.
It's been an uphill battle teaching my two year old to play with my five year old. These are great tips that's I'll implement. Thank you ❤️
You had me at point number 1 - changed my whole perspective
Head Start Teacher, class of 18 tuning in!! Appreciate this.
As an uncle I find this helpful. As an adult,
In the age of “the millennial” some have not grown our this development stage. Thank you for sharing 🙏
Aww, you're welcome!
Thank u so much for this video. My son is 3, nonverbal, and just started school. The school admin said he is having a hard time sharing and gets upset when pushed to do so. I was a little upset that they put this expectation on him and its his 2nd week being enrolled in school. This video helps me understand that he does not have a problem he just does not understand and they need to watch this and understand themselves as well.
So glad this was helpful! Also check out my video on helpful phrases to teach kids to help him navigate these social situations.
It's great to hear you say all this. I already do most of it and it's reaffirming to hear someone else say it. Sometimes I have doubts.
Just put this in practice and wanted to comment on how much help your info and advice is! 🤗
Awww this is so great to hear. Thanks for keeping me updated!
Q: my 2 year old and I spent a weekend camping with a friend and her 3 year old.
We are both first time mothers and just trying to figure it out as we go along.
As soon as they arrived we were witnessing this behavior from her daughter. At first we were just letting them figure it out but it got very aggressive as the weekend went on. We both did very patiently try to explaining the situation to the 3 year old. Every single item that my 2 year old would pick up the 3 year old would snack, even after she had just snatched a different toy from my 2 year old, toy after toy. After a while my 2 year old wanted nothing to do with my friends 3 year old, and seemed timid to even try to play with any toy at all.
My 2 year old is mellow and wouldn't make too much of a big deal out of having her toys taken out of her hands, but it did become very noticeable that my 2 year old didn't want to play with her daughter anymore.
I was upset and just ended up feeling like my baby was being bullied. I know the other baby is only 3 and still learning but the entire weekend became very tiring. What do I do with this situation? Do I continue to do play dates with this child?
same problem with me. and i don't know how to communicate with the other parent since they pretty much let their kid run the show.
this was very helpful! thank you so much! My 2 and 3 yr old constantly fight over toys. EVERYDAY!
What to do when whatever toy my child holds the other kid grabs? We usually just give in to this kid and pick up whatever toy he's let go of, but once my child is holding it, this child grabs it again. And he wont allow anyone to play with any toys. This kid is 2 and 4 months and mine is 1 and 7 months.
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Fantastic video! You delivered this information in such a relatable and organized way. Thank you!
Needed this info before this weekend loll 5 toddlers under 4 in 1 house with no outdoor time because of the weather. Thank you for this!
Currently dealing with this with my 4 and 3 year old, thank you so much for this info, will definitely practice it tomorrow 💕
So I have a question. I dont know if you can help though. I am an RBT. I have a 4 year old boy who is autistic and barely verbal who I work with. He has a little sister who is going to be 3 next month. She is extremely smart and very verbal. She loves constant attention. I will do the same tasks I do with brother with her, but I usually have her do them after because a) Im getting paid to be with brother and b) brother is working on wait.
Sister will always snatch whatever brother has regardless if she is playing with it or not. Today she actually smirked when she got a blanket that brother was wanting. Mom did not know and gave it to sister, but I was already telling sister all day “its not your turn we have to wait/you have to ask before you take” and then giving her the words and having her do the actions. The problem is I feel like it is not helpful at all. And brother, who is non verbal, is just now understanding “can I have it?” And using that phrase correctly.
I know toddlers like to take but what is the psychology behind this? Do you know? Because she snatches whether an adult is watching or not. She loves just taking things from brother and she wont even want to play with it. It is merely so she can take it from him. Which isn’t fair to him, especially being non-verbal.
Wish I'd seen this sooner 😪
Thank you for your tips.
You mentioned that snatching a toy isn't necessarily a mean gesture, but mostly them wanting to initiate play. What if the other child doesn't want to play, but rather alone? Then what? That's what usually happens with my 2 & 5 year Olds.
Can you give me feedback on how to address the situation when the friend doesnt say when he/she/they/them is done but they set the toy down or are policing the toy while playing with another toy?
Thank you for the tips 😊
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Love that. Your job as a parent is to get out of a job 😂
At what age are kids developementally able to share. What about a 6 year old who doesnt want to share with a toddler sibling. How do you teach the older one to want to share
Thank you so much Jazmine for this video. really helpful. Quick question - How to deal with this when two year old and 10 month old is involved. My son (2.5 year old) snatches the toy from my 10 month old daughter. What should I be doing in this situation.
Is this not covered in the video? That's exactly the problem I constantly have and want to solve :/
I would like to know how to handle when the other kid who is waiting or snatching aggressively is a peer’s kid. We were playing in our house. My son was playing with his train and he is 3. My friend’s kid 2yo came fast to snatch his train and my son started crying badly. He was about to throw things at him wen i stepped in and touched him and asked him “looks like he wants to play with u would you like to share” he said a clear no. I told him “then u can tell him no without throwing stuff “ and he did exactly tat. Now the other kid wouldn’t stop even after a stubborn no so my son looked at me with a helpless expression and i didn’t know what to do next coz am not familiar with this other kid and his mom so i couldnt step in to regulate him on her behalf. I just hugged my boy and took him away from the scene. One side i was happy he turned it verbally on the other side i felt so guilty tat as a mon i couldn’t help him with better solutions after the no didn’t work. If anyone has any suggestion would he helpful
Hi there. My son is 1 year old and daughter is 4 years old. I cannot communicate with my son to stop grabbing toys out of my daughter's hands. Obviously he wants to either play with her or with the toy, but how do I stop him from just bulldozing her to get to the toy? If she moves away to another toy, then he will follow and it all starts over again
A bit off topic, what about when they're spilling food and not letting go of the bowl?
I needed this. Thank you so much as always! One question : do we enforce them giving up the toy eventually if they don’t give a turn in a reasonable amount of time or just try to sportscast again that they still have the toy? Thank you :)
Great question. We don't enforce it. They will give it up when they're ready. Unless it's public equipment, then yes - we should teach them how to take turns and the natural flow. Does that help?
@@TheMomPsychologist absolutely. This makes sense thank you so much
My two year old won't even barley make eye contact with Me when I'm trying to talk with her without getting upset and having a tantrum
I understand that toddlers aren’t expected to share, but is there a good response in situations where they continue to grab another child’s toys and throw fits when you give the child’s toy back?
The moment my toddler sees another kid play with a toy (that’s not his) he wants it and cries for it and the other kid could move on find another and the cycle repeats
Wen my kid did this i tried sitting next to him and as usual validated his feeling with some touch too and kept repeating that someone else is using it and we can wait for our turn. Sometimes it works sometimes am clueless too.