I like your message that kids aren't clay, they're sponges, we need that in a world where parents put too much pressure and kids are almost forced to be what their parents want them to be, not what they want to be.
I like it too. People really shouldn't try to live viscerally through their children. It just doesn't seem right. Also, the saying that parents are always right and should never be argued with is absolute garbage. I once tried giving constructive feedback to my mom and she decided to attempt to emotionally manipulate me.
It sucks how even some of the best schools can have hostile elements for neurodivergent kids. When I worked as a teachers aid, I had one of my leads refer to a student as a “sociopath” *with in ear shot of him.* Literally all he did was display classic early warning signs of adhd. I ended up loudly talking about how sweet and helpful he was to neutralize that fuckery
I’m autistic and I’ve been experiencing this level of isolation on top of the run of the mill bullying to the point where I brought up threats to try and make it stop. I went to teachers, staff, even my parents about these incidents before hand but they told me to “not make myself a target” and just act like everyone else. If I ignored them they’d go away. Before I moved those same people would harass me and my boyfriend when we’d go places. It’s like as soon as people have an opinion of you you’re just that way forever. I always got in trouble for making the threats but the other kids were never punished for barking at me, breaking my stuff, or screaming in my face. I was an outcast but instead of being told to walk into the pit I was thrown in it. I was the outcast of the outcasts. I was societal scum. And for what? Because I liked to draw wolves, because I had dinosaur hands? I was different and always made to feel like it.
Thank you. My mom and younger sister have adhd, and you can make more of an impact than you think by doing things like this. I'm sure your words brought him some comfort.
@@ButtercreamedreamI’m very sorry you dealt with that and that the ppl u were supposed to trust didn’t have much of an impact in ur situation, I really do hope u are doing better and are in a better situation than u were before
@@Buttercreamedream I'm so sorry that you're going through that, like honestly I don't even know what to say, people hate us for the stupidest things imaginable
@@birb7353 I hope so, I'm autistic and have adhd so I'm always very pissed and bewildered when adults who's entire job is to be in charge of children seemed to have never cracked open a psychology/ neurodevelopmental book in the past twenty years
As someone who has had to deal with grooming, a destroyed childhood, and bullying online and irl, i can somewhat feel the pain of an abuse survivor, i feel happy knowing that people are teaching kids that that is not ok, and that nobody ahould treat you like that or make you feel unsafe
I hope that you are doing better these days, and that you can( or already have) heal(ed) from your abuse. Much love too everyone that has been through this❤
I'm autistic and have ADHD, I know how that first kid felt. I was so isolated and outcasted but thankfully, that hasn't slowed me down. Thank you and god bless you, Illy.
A fellow AuDHD person. I was raised in a very inclusive diverse town, in a really small school, so I never had to face these things until I got to middle school. But by then I knew that what those kids said wasn't true. It still hurt and felt like that sometimes, but I had friends stand beside me. I was adopted by a group of neurodivergent/queer kids, and felt very at home.
I have ADHD and Autsim to but... I was bullied alot in school and I learned not to trust anyone. I don't have friends now as an adult but I'm happy that way. I don't need friends to be happy.
@@mulletmonkey63 They didn’t self-diagnose. If they find certain symptoms presenting themselves, they have every right to believe they maybe are some kind of neurodivergent. They key word here being *maybe*.
As a fellow abuse survivor I’m really grateful that you talked about that with those little kids. I never want anyone else to go through what people in our situations had too. ❤️
Yeah, it can be helpful to tell kids enough for them to make a connection later like "Oh, that's what they meant." At my elementary school, they once gave us each a paper from D.A.R.E & instead of explaining it, they just let us read it. It said that if someone wants to see parts of your body that you don't wanna show, it's none of their business because it's not their body. I thought that was a weird scenario & wondered if that was even a real thing but I still internalized the lesson because the logic was sound. I think it showed someone asking a boy to take off his shirt as an example but it didn't go any further than that since they weren't trying to teach us why people would ask such a thing. They just wanted to teach us that it's not okay.
@@D_YellowMadness definitely. Even if it’s very mild and child friendly they will internalize the message and know what to do when they get older. It’s very important we teach kids about healthy relationships from a young age and stop that “He hits you because he likes you” bs that’s taught to little girls.
6:20 Think of it this way: They'll eventually learn about these things. Its best if they learn from someone who has experience with it, and can give advice and wisdom. Worst case scenario, an angry parents yells at you, while still helping the kids whether said parent accepts it or not.
As a child my husband had a terrible family and learned things he shouldn’t have. Now as an adult his sister has said I’ve helped him so much learn new things and to accept himself.
2:41 thank you for not yelling at the kids like other people may do because my family would argue a lot which would leave my parents frustrated and if i did something wrong they would yell at me... which mentally scared me and now arguing, fighting, and yelling is now triggering to me and i start to cry because of it...
As a neurodivergent person I heavily relate to Stitch. I was immediately outcasted on my first day of school ever 😭 it’s like they just knew I was different… Autism, ADHD, visual dyslexia, schizoaffective, photophobia (severe light sensitivity) and an anxiety disorder is what I was born with 🥲 adding depression and a respiratory condition later in life
(Un)Fun fact, they did! I did my undergrad in psychology, and one thing I learned is that Neurotypical people DO immediately clock ND people as different, even when they’re masking as much as possible. They understand something is ‘wrong’ even without knowing what is, to the point that even in interactions where an autistic person was being perfectly “well behaved” and adhering to all social cues, the Neurotypical people STILL ranked them as less likeable than their neurotypical peers As somebody with autism… that study will haunt me forever
@@emilywright1390 so you’re telling me my “neurodivergent magnetism” could actually be a real thing? Like, I’m ND, and basically all of my friends are also ND, and that didn’t happen on purpose
@@arospacechaos yeah!! I did a whole module on it this year and as my lecturer put it, aut-dar is a very real thing! A lot of your friends are likely to be ND (mine are too) because their brain is wired like yours is, so you recognise each other even before you know you’re all ND :)
these are some very sweet stories. Also i love the Castle in the Sky reference at 8:12, its one of my favorite Ghibli movies and the robot scenes were so emotional!
Kids are always curious they always want to know more and what's happening around them sometimes too curious but you handled it better than 70% of most of the teachers out there.
When the teacher suddenly intervened before you could in such a positive way, I started jumping up and down with excitement. I fucking WISH I had teachers that direct when I was that age. God fucking speed to that woman
“He was mean to me when I said no about a lot of things” that’s such a good way to put what happened to you. ♥️ Hope sounds a lot like me growing up. I’m glad she had you and the other adults in her life to help set her straight and teach her better. Not to mention to stand up for Phil when he was being targeted.
I love how Illy goes into more serious topics than most animation channels, combine that with the fact that we share a lot of the same beliefs, almost perfect channrl
My jaw actually dropped when the kid said that. I feel bad for kid because in all honesty she definitely deserves a better home life, but I also feel bad for the boy. I am bisexual and I’ve had my fair share experiences with people being homophobic, to me and to my friends who are more open about it. I’m glad that people finally stand up for what they know is right or wrong. Kids aren’t just to be whatever you want them to be and put these idiotic thoughts in their head, every kid deserves a loving family and loving parents who want and know what’s best for them. ❤
As someone who's also bisexual and had a terrible childhood home before disaster to disaster, this hit me, as having to be a closeted bisexual around my family due to most of them being quite homophobic, only having my grandmother as a figure to take care of me, this comment and video just hit me
Kids are really smart! which means they also know what their parents will let them get away with. which can be a massive problem when it's a behavior that will actively get them hurt or the people around them hurt. not all parents deserve kids. I'm so glad you where one of the adults these kids needed!
As a child who grew up hearing these things with my mom being lesbian and me openly being bi by 12 (20 now and pansexual) thank you. Thank you and your old coworkers for not allowing this to just be said and nothing done about it. You changed that lil boys future in good ways and hopefully the lil girls too
@@summerd3214my mother raised me as a Christian, she loves the lord, she came to me a year ago to apologize to me for the years of not accepting me as gay. Her exact words were “I was listing to the wrong voices, not his voice” stop listening to people who preach hatred for they are false prophets
As somebody who both has a degree in elementary education and was 9 years old when 9/11 happened -- the "talk about it but in an age-appropriate way" is spot-on. Do you divulge all the nitty-gritty details? Absolutely not! You handled the conversation well, and you hit the "sponge, not clay" analogy on the head. 💜
can we just appreciate illy? we need more people like her to teach kids about things that absolutely suck but teach it in a way that the kid can understand and that it sn't too much for them? i love the message she sends to her viewers
WHY, why is it so important to teach kid inappropriate things. Like, dude, wdym, please understand that vulnerable. Teaching kid sexaul, attractive is just so weird to me!
@@Mothlikeskiwi yeah, i get what u mean but like you need to teach it a an age appropriate way. like when a girl is 9, tell her smth like "hey, you're going to get your first period in the next few years" briefly explain that its normal, you arent dying, there will be blood in your underwear, this is how a pad works. any questions? once a parent thinks the kid is ready to know more, they can choose what to tell and when. but i think little kids should know that not all adults are safe and if they make or do something that makes you feel uncomfy, tell me even if that adult doesnt want anyone to know. hopefully you understand what i mean. js dont think i want to teach a 7 yr old how babies r made. if u want me to explain what im saying more i can
@wehateasphalt What I'm trying to say is that we shouldn't pressure kid serious stuff gay, sex, Tran, you get the deal. Adults should just let kids be kids and not interfere with them. Let them age up a little while longer. But yes, I think that Aduit teaches kids. PRIDE month is everywhere, right now. Kids nowadays are trans. I am a teenager about to turn 15, and I think that kids should not learn LGBTQ. However, adults shouldn't let kids learn inappropriate content. Yeah, blood is okay if not inappropriate. Again, what I'm trying to say is leave the kids alone.
I love that your bringing a topic like this to light. A lot of people don’t realize just how much of an impact that a simple interaction with a kid can have on them in the long run. Even a simple yes or no to something they want can alter their personality for years to come.
Teaching sexaul kid about sex and pedophiles is weird ok. 🙏 understand that. Yes teaching simple interaction is good for the long run. But yes this comment is mostly right
@@Mothlikeskiwi It's weird alright, I think they should be taught about it at possibly 10-13. SA and Pedophiles are pretty much related to that as well, so it's good to teach kids about them and learn how to avoid them. I was taught about them when I was 10 after my teacher was caught trying to inappropriately touch my classmate. Better to be aware than being unaware about stuff like that.
I feel for that boy on the spectrum because I felt something similar going through public school. I acted kinda like him and for the most part, kids weren’t outright mean, they were awkwardly nice, and it was patronizing. They would act nice to me in school but either didn’t mean it, or would blow me off later on.
Illy is my favorite of the UA-cam animators because she’s not afraid to talk about hard situations in her videos. Also her art style and comedic skill. My day is impossible to ruin when Illy posts a video, and believe me, I’ve had some very unfortunate timing in that department. TL:DR, illy is an amazing animator that deserves all the praise she gets. I want to get into animation and illy is a very high form of inspiration.
I like "treat others the way *they'd* like to be treated." more than "treat others the way you'd like to be treated." Everyone's different! A big hug might be comforting to you but overwhelming for someone else!
I've been watching your videos a lot lately, and I just want to say, thank you for always making me smile and feel better about myself. Also I find your voice very calming Lol-
I am crying at the last story because someone when I was a kid told me that gay people go to heck, and I didn't even know what gay was, so I internalized it "Don't be gay or else you'll burn in heck" then in the middle figured out I was gay and I was terrified. You saved that kid from so much down the road, and thank you for that.
@@hereforonereasonmany people don’t. You don’t really need to because there are plenty of people with the same first name and appearance. Of course don’t throw a persons address, full government name, etc. out on the Internet without their permission but I don’t really see a problem with using the same first name or design. If these kids ever found Illys UA-cam channel, they probably know who they are just by the description.
5:36 (for the full context of the conversation) 6:24 you did an amazing job handling such a difficult situation and topic, making you cut your hair is just as much about bodily autonomy as everything that happened to you and kids can process that as just as much a no-no without needing to necessarily hear all the gritty,complex scary rest of the story, without needing to ask their parents if they can hear about stuff like for example: someone being forced to take feet pics; if i was put in that scenario i would've taken a long time to figure out my words and the feet thing that's probably the metaphor i would've used but if parents were in the room they might've disapproved so needless to say you handled that perfectly.
About Hope: I read "My Brain is Different" (Read: Bean Cup) and I will never forget something that one of the narrators said about their experience working with "problem kids" while being neurodivergent herself: "These kids are not trouble. They are in trouble." Holy crow that was so important for me.
I'm glad this came across my feed, even though I'm a tad late to the party. I also work with kids, and have been for a few months now! And I've very quickly encountered kids similar to each of these examples, leading me to all sorts of challenges and opportunities. Where I'm at in life has brought a lot of,,, teaching moments and the before/after school program is humbling to say the least. I want to be like you, giving your best shot to be a good example and kind of adult these kids need in their life! Especially for the neurodivergent (like me) and troubled kids. I want to love on them all!!! Seeing your perspective and sharing these moments is really special, thank you. [P.s. trying to revert from my triggers and stop yelling at the kids! They just keep pushing and pushing til I react sometimes but that's not the kind of response I want to have, nor normalize for these guys. If you, or anyone, has suggestions for how to better interact with limit pushing or just overall conflict, please help a guy out!]
I'm a part time daycare teacher myself and I often struggle with the thought of being a proper adult/role model to the kids. Some days are better than others, and I'm relieved to know I'm not alone. 💕
I have to give Illy a lot of credit, it takes a lot of hard work and patience to work with kids especially nowadays. Stitch was my favorite part of the story and I loved his Stitch doll and backpack, it was a nice touch. This video was great and thank you for sharing it with us.
I absolutely love how she puts a bunch of children shows and movies references in the background,it proves her love for children and the fact she knows there are young viewers of all age
This is a nice series. Hope you make a third episode! Child-care jobs can be tough, but full of good stories to tell. Children are often misunderstood and raised to follow a "this or that" from someone that can be silly to them. As someone studying in ECE in college, I hope to be a better childcare worker!
As a psychologist and psychopedagogue who works with kids for around 7 years, i might say, you are spot on about that part of kids being a sponge. gj as allways Illy
The part about how you explained your ex to her was amazing! It inspires me on how I'd want to address things when kids ask. It was an age appropriate way but honestly it was the perfect amount of information. In the end, through all the gross details, it really is as simple as how you said it. They realized "Wow, I don't want someone being mean to me if I say no. I won't let anyone do that." And while they learned about it through even just the "small" act of cutting hair, that scenario will come flying back to them when any of their partners try to do something worse, like to have sex. It may be more "simple", but the lesson is paramount and kids WILL be able to apply that in their futures.
That's a sign of autism, or possibly trauma of abuse or other adults trying to influence their beliefs into You like in the video. You should probably seek therapy. People care about you no matter where you're at. Even if it seems like no one does.
The last story with fill hit my heart in the happy spot because sexuality be it straight gay or bi is hard to tred through no matter what and if gay people are going to help for their sexuality then everyone should be no matter who they like because it's basically saying "you can't have romantic feelings for anyone" I'm glad we're finally getting rid of that way of thinking it's a breath of fresh air when someone stands up for another knowing very well that they should help them no matter what
I have two moms as well and I’m glad to report things were pretty alright throughout my school experience, though I know it can still be incredibly hard out there
My cousin's husband jokingly told his teen son not to be afraid to burn a few calories as we set up for his sister's birthday party. After he asked if he was calling him fat, he assured his son that he wasn't insulting him. It was wholesome and could've led into constructive advice on healthy eating, if he eventually wanted to feel better and have more energy.
I've worked in childcare for almost 8 years now and I have literally met every kid you described in this. Gosh I love these little monsters. Especially the kids who are "tough to work with".
Honestly I appreciate it sm that Illy was able to explain a bit of what her ex did in a child friendly yet informative way to the kids and didn’t just say, “I’ll tell you when you’re older” or somethin. Kids should know about dangerous people and Illy being able to educate them briefly yet informatively gave me massive respect for her instantly.
I worked at a daycare with kids and this little boy Asher was autistic, he was so sweet and literally adorable dude. Everyday he’d ask me for a ball to play with and when he got it his face just lit up so much
I just wanted to say that you are like a comfort channel to me on youtube:) i have been having sone problems lately and being kinda embarrassed about my autism and uncomfortable about my sexuality and gender but you remind me that that is nothing to be ashamed of and i just love the messages you have in your videos❤ the poeple who know you and have you as a part of their life are really lucky people and if they aren’t greatful to have you that is their lost😊 I can’t explain how much happiness your videos give me❤❤❤
Illy trusting us about all the things she wouldn't say to a stranger is pretty heart warming and we will always support you illy and the things you do.
As college student on his way if becoming a teacher, these videos have provided more tips and healthy ways to deal with difficult situations with kids than any of my classes! Its so sad but we are still getting taught that kids with autism and or ADHD are aggressive and stupid
@@hereforonereason I know, but my professors haven't taught children in decades if they even have ever taught children and teach using books written by people who didn't believe in evolution so the system is fucked
the sequel we never knew we needed, but we all wanted :) stich reminded me of a younger version of myself, I am also autistic and I was and still am protective of things, an autistic trait I guess ? (also fuck homophobia)
This video made me tear up. I don’t feel it’s time to share my story yet, but all of these topics have been relevant to me at some point. Thank you, Illy. You’re truly one of the best people on this platform.
God I had a student who was saying Trans people were gross and whatnot. Around 11 years old. And he was making a few students uncomfortable. Like they were very upset and trying to get him to shut up. I reminded everyone that in the classroom we are not allowed to make fun of, or bully people based on their appearances, beliefs or identities. Regardless of what that was. And if anyone felt uncomfortable with someone or something they tell me, and dont confront others and make them feel unsafe. I made sure to tell them that each of them deserves respect no matter what. And I told the parents that exact same thing. And what did dad tell me? "Well who was he making uncomfortable huh? What about his comfort?" Like? I told the parent If another kid was mocking that boy for his beliefs or shouting how weird and gross he was I would have defended him too. But he doubled down and said well it's his right to say whatever he believes. Like??? Gross. All my students deserve the ability to concentrate on their SCHOOL WORK in school. It's unfair and disgusting how entitles parents can be! Their kid deserves accommodation and a feeling of safety. But God forbid another student deserve the same. And another kid, bullied a girl for being fat. Didn't hear jack from the parents. But that girl isn't in my class anymore and mr jackass is still joking around mocking the other kids. He's awefule to other people, but because his parents don't care about him he gets to ruin a class he doesn't like for everyone else. It's so frustrating. Kids would be so much happier if parents were just nice people!!!! These poor kids suffer because they go through life being cruel. And they make everyone else miserable too. Ugh. I just wish parents would shut up and be kind.
My childhood was alot like Hope's i might not remember alot of it, but from what i DO remember it was not a childhood. No kid should go through what i went through or anything similar ot worse. Kids are indeed like sponges, they take the words of their parents, teachers, and other adults directly to their heart.
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I like your message that kids aren't clay, they're sponges, we need that in a world where parents put too much pressure and kids are almost forced to be what their parents want them to be, not what they want to be.
that way of teaching in my opinion is wrong. Let the people do what they want to do.
Honestly, yea!
Also when people worry so much about kids being “made” to be gay or trans or whatever else. Like, if that’s how it worked then I would be cis
Well I feel like I’m a sack of potatoes no deep meaning here
I like it too. People really shouldn't try to live viscerally through their children. It just doesn't seem right. Also, the saying that parents are always right and should never be argued with is absolute garbage. I once tried giving constructive feedback to my mom and she decided to attempt to emotionally manipulate me.
Give the background artist a raise. All the little easter eggs were having a party in the bg the whole time
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THE COLLECTOR COSTUME AT 7:33
@@r_o_c_k_i IKR?!?! And she put the elemental characters and hobbie brown from across the spiderverse too!
Fr! I love all these little references from shows I love to watch and so many other cool little details :D!
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It sucks how even some of the best schools can have hostile elements for neurodivergent kids. When I worked as a teachers aid, I had one of my leads refer to a student as a “sociopath” *with in ear shot of him.* Literally all he did was display classic early warning signs of adhd. I ended up loudly talking about how sweet and helpful he was to neutralize that fuckery
I’m autistic and I’ve been experiencing this level of isolation on top of the run of the mill bullying to the point where I brought up threats to try and make it stop.
I went to teachers, staff, even my parents about these incidents before hand but they told me to “not make myself a target” and just act like everyone else. If I ignored them they’d go away.
Before I moved those same people would harass me and my boyfriend when we’d go places.
It’s like as soon as people have an opinion of you you’re just that way forever.
I always got in trouble for making the threats but the other kids were never punished for barking at me, breaking my stuff, or screaming in my face.
I was an outcast but instead of being told to walk into the pit I was thrown in it. I was the outcast of the outcasts. I was societal scum. And for what? Because I liked to draw wolves, because I had dinosaur hands? I was different and always made to feel like it.
Thank you. My mom and younger sister have adhd, and you can make more of an impact than you think by doing things like this. I'm sure your words brought him some comfort.
@@ButtercreamedreamI’m very sorry you dealt with that and that the ppl u were supposed to trust didn’t have much of an impact in ur situation, I really do hope u are doing better and are in a better situation than u were before
@@Buttercreamedream I'm so sorry that you're going through that, like honestly I don't even know what to say, people hate us for the stupidest things imaginable
@@birb7353 I hope so, I'm autistic and have adhd so I'm always very pissed and bewildered when adults who's entire job is to be in charge of children seemed to have never cracked open a psychology/ neurodevelopmental book in the past twenty years
As someone who has had to deal with grooming, a destroyed childhood, and bullying online and irl, i can somewhat feel the pain of an abuse survivor, i feel happy knowing that people are teaching kids that that is not ok, and that nobody ahould treat you like that or make you feel unsafe
NO NO NO, YOU ARE *NOT* RAMBLING IT SEEMS YOU'VE BEEN THROUGH A LOT AND YOU DESERVE TO HAVE SOMEONE TO TALK YOU >:(
I hope that you are doing better these days, and that you can( or already have) heal(ed) from your abuse. Much love too everyone that has been through this❤
I’m so sorry that happened
I'm autistic and have ADHD, I know how that first kid felt. I was so isolated and outcasted but thankfully, that hasn't slowed me down. Thank you and god bless you, Illy.
A fellow AuDHD person. I was raised in a very inclusive diverse town, in a really small school, so I never had to face these things until I got to middle school. But by then I knew that what those kids said wasn't true. It still hurt and felt like that sometimes, but I had friends stand beside me. I was adopted by a group of neurodivergent/queer kids, and felt very at home.
I have ADHD and Autsim to but... I was bullied alot in school and I learned not to trust anyone. I don't have friends now as an adult but I'm happy that way. I don't need friends to be happy.
I'm pretty sure I have adhd and autism to
@@SophiaLamoruex remember not to self diagnose until you've gotten diagnosed! :)
@@mulletmonkey63 They didn’t self-diagnose. If they find certain symptoms presenting themselves, they have every right to believe they maybe are some kind of neurodivergent. They key word here being *maybe*.
As a fellow abuse survivor I’m really grateful that you talked about that with those little kids. I never want anyone else to go through what people in our situations had too. ❤️
Yeah, it can be helpful to tell kids enough for them to make a connection later like "Oh, that's what they meant." At my elementary school, they once gave us each a paper from D.A.R.E & instead of explaining it, they just let us read it.
It said that if someone wants to see parts of your body that you don't wanna show, it's none of their business because it's not their body. I thought that was a weird scenario & wondered if that was even a real thing but I still internalized the lesson because the logic was sound.
I think it showed someone asking a boy to take off his shirt as an example but it didn't go any further than that since they weren't trying to teach us why people would ask such a thing. They just wanted to teach us that it's not okay.
@@D_YellowMadness definitely. Even if it’s very mild and child friendly they will internalize the message and know what to do when they get older. It’s very important we teach kids about healthy relationships from a young age and stop that “He hits you because he likes you” bs that’s taught to little girls.
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It makes me so sad that people avoid adressing deeper topics with kids because when they grow older it's harder for them
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I'm so happy I have LGBT family members because I think that's why my mom explained it to me when I was young.
The only thing that pride people do is just make kids nothingness.
6:20 Think of it this way:
They'll eventually learn about these things. Its best if they learn from someone who has experience with it, and can give advice and wisdom.
Worst case scenario, an angry parents yells at you, while still helping the kids whether said parent accepts it or not.
I am so happy that you could explain on an age appropriate way how bad toxic relationships can be
Exactly! It’s good she told her and warned her
You were awesome with those kids.
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As a child my husband had a terrible family and learned things he shouldn’t have. Now as an adult his sister has said I’ve helped him so much learn new things and to accept himself.
What kind of terrible family?????????
Huh Wdym as a kid my husband
@@HappyTailsFarmFl when my husband was a child
2:41 thank you for not yelling at the kids like other people may do because my family would argue a lot which would leave my parents frustrated and if i did something wrong they would yell at me...
which mentally scared me and now arguing, fighting, and yelling is now triggering to me and i start to cry because of it...
You’d be my favorite teacher too!
That part about telling kids about serious topics is so true. It’s why I’m glad Bluey exists…and this channel!
And Arthur.
Bluey like a liberal
Bluey was in the background of this video, and the psych ward one…
@@mi2438what do you mean lol
@@paul2019. a troll perhaps
i love how illys animation is so much different from any other youtuber I've seen, it really makes me realize how different and unique everyone is
Hey if you saw the owl house did you notice the collected outfit in the background
As a neurodivergent person I heavily relate to Stitch. I was immediately outcasted on my first day of school ever 😭 it’s like they just knew I was different…
Autism, ADHD, visual dyslexia, schizoaffective, photophobia (severe light sensitivity) and an anxiety disorder is what I was born with 🥲 adding depression and a respiratory condition later in life
(Un)Fun fact, they did!
I did my undergrad in psychology, and one thing I learned is that Neurotypical people DO immediately clock ND people as different, even when they’re masking as much as possible. They understand something is ‘wrong’ even without knowing what is, to the point that even in interactions where an autistic person was being perfectly “well behaved” and adhering to all social cues, the Neurotypical people STILL ranked them as less likeable than their neurotypical peers
As somebody with autism… that study will haunt me forever
@@emilywright1390 so you’re telling me my “neurodivergent magnetism” could actually be a real thing?
Like, I’m ND, and basically all of my friends are also ND, and that didn’t happen on purpose
@@arospacechaos yeah!! I did a whole module on it this year and as my lecturer put it, aut-dar is a very real thing! A lot of your friends are likely to be ND (mine are too) because their brain is wired like yours is, so you recognise each other even before you know you’re all ND :)
@@emilywright1390 cool
When I was in nursery I never talked to the other kids and my mum said that it was so bad I couldn’t remember the names of my classmates 😭
these are some very sweet stories. Also i love the Castle in the Sky reference at 8:12, its one of my favorite Ghibli movies and the robot scenes were so emotional!
I'm outright crying, you guys helped raise those kids in such important ways. Especially telling them about your ex, that one really hit home.
Same here
That really felt like one those amazing moments in bluey. What I'm saying is, that was amazing on it own too.
Kids are always curious they always want to know more and what's happening around them sometimes too curious but you handled it better than 70% of most of the teachers out there.
honestly it's probably because i would've done in my opinion worse but my guess is more like 90%
The sequel that was well worth the wait.
Yes, indeed.
The drama
We need more illy sequels
10:05 god bless that girl for saying that, i almost cried when she said what her parents said ahout gay ppl (im gay) thats so messed up
Honestly the girls right, it's just that's rude to say right in front of that kid.
Did any of the kids ever know you are an animator? It'd be cool if ya had the situation Emirichu had.
I hadn't started doing youtube yet! But I do wonder if any of the kids are watching my videos now years later 🤔
It'd be hella cool, yeah hahhaa
@@illymationyes they are! Why? I'm one of them! 💛 :)
It’d be awesome if that was the case!
@@that_sally_starlet_simp Oh snap, for real?!
When the teacher suddenly intervened before you could in such a positive way, I started jumping up and down with excitement. I fucking WISH I had teachers that direct when I was that age. God fucking speed to that woman
“He was mean to me when I said no about a lot of things” that’s such a good way to put what happened to you. ♥️ Hope sounds a lot like me growing up. I’m glad she had you and the other adults in her life to help set her straight and teach her better. Not to mention to stand up for Phil when he was being targeted.
story time animators are always a delight to watch. Your videos are really relaxing to watch.
The glare he gave when your brother said “thanks, I know”
A real girl boss right there💅
ok
I love how Illy goes into more serious topics than most animation channels, combine that with the fact that we share a lot of the same beliefs, almost perfect channrl
The long awaited sequel is finally here!
yes. YES. YESSSS!!!!!!
I cannot WAIT for the next one. ( hopefully we get more kiddo stories)
The drama is good in this one
10:20 that was the sweetest harsh thing anyone ever said and I love it so much 🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹
My jaw actually dropped when the kid said that. I feel bad for kid because in all honesty she definitely deserves a better home life, but I also feel bad for the boy. I am bisexual and I’ve had my fair share experiences with people being homophobic, to me and to my friends who are more open about it. I’m glad that people finally stand up for what they know is right or wrong. Kids aren’t just to be whatever you want them to be and put these idiotic thoughts in their head, every kid deserves a loving family and loving parents who want and know what’s best for them. ❤
As someone who's also bisexual and had a terrible childhood home before disaster to disaster, this hit me, as having to be a closeted bisexual around my family due to most of them being quite homophobic, only having my grandmother as a figure to take care of me, this comment and video just hit me
lowkey....WOMP WOMP sorry i had to
@@taylor_swiftly- Leviticus 19:18
@nollie632 ngl,that's very disrespectful.
@@nollie632actually .... you didn't !
When the world didnt expect her to return, she blessed us in the blink of an eye
Why are you everywhere?
Yah gworlie slay mama Yaas queen
@@alicebthegachaweirdo8378cause he’s a bot I think
I'm often on UA-cam comments, and I am not a bot. I'm a Bob.
@@robertwilloughby8050 that’s different
Kids are really smart! which means they also know what their parents will let them get away with. which can be a massive problem when it's a behavior that will actively get them hurt or the people around them hurt. not all parents deserve kids. I'm so glad you where one of the adults these kids needed!
As a child who grew up hearing these things with my mom being lesbian and me openly being bi by 12 (20 now and pansexual) thank you. Thank you and your old coworkers for not allowing this to just be said and nothing done about it. You changed that lil boys future in good ways and hopefully the lil girls too
🩷💛💙 pan pog
This is so wholesome 💗
@@summerd3214my mother raised me as a Christian, she loves the lord, she came to me a year ago to apologize to me for the years of not accepting me as gay. Her exact words were “I was listing to the wrong voices, not his voice” stop listening to people who preach hatred for they are false prophets
@@summerd3214tbh I think it is really wholesome, acceptance of people will always be a good thing in my eyes 🙂
@@AceLeGoose homosexuality is a sin you satanic leftist
As somebody who both has a degree in elementary education and was 9 years old when 9/11 happened -- the "talk about it but in an age-appropriate way" is spot-on. Do you divulge all the nitty-gritty details? Absolutely not! You handled the conversation well, and you hit the "sponge, not clay" analogy on the head. 💜
“And then what?”
“He was still mean to me.”
That was so moving to me and all she needed to understand:)
10:14 that random staff lady ate that speech up
Man that last minute conflict resolution made me tear up, so glad to hear there's people out there willing to step up in dicey situations 🥲
can we just appreciate illy? we need more people like her to teach kids about things that absolutely suck but teach it in a way that the kid can understand and that it sn't too much for them? i love the message she sends to her viewers
WHY, why is it so important to teach kid inappropriate things. Like, dude, wdym, please understand that vulnerable. Teaching kid sexaul, attractive is just so weird to me!
@@Mothlikeskiwi yeah, i get what u mean but like you need to teach it a an age appropriate way. like when a girl is 9, tell her smth like "hey, you're going to get your first period in the next few years" briefly explain that its normal, you arent dying, there will be blood in your underwear, this is how a pad works. any questions? once a parent thinks the kid is ready to know more, they can choose what to tell and when. but i think little kids should know that not all adults are safe and if they make or do something that makes you feel uncomfy, tell me even if that adult doesnt want anyone to know. hopefully you understand what i mean. js dont think i want to teach a 7 yr old how babies r made. if u want me to explain what im saying more i can
@wehateasphalt What I'm trying to say is that we shouldn't pressure kid serious stuff gay, sex, Tran, you get the deal. Adults should just let kids be kids and not interfere with them. Let them age up a little while longer. But yes, I think that Aduit teaches kids. PRIDE month is everywhere, right now. Kids nowadays are trans. I am a teenager about to turn 15, and I think that kids should not learn LGBTQ. However, adults shouldn't let kids learn inappropriate content. Yeah, blood is okay if not inappropriate. Again, what I'm trying to say is leave the kids alone.
@@Mothlikeskiwi yeah, thats what i thinking.. kids dont need to learn abt that..
@@justmebeingweird agreed
You are my favorite UA-camr and I love the way that you talk about serious topics in a comedic way
The perfect combo
My soul briefly left my body when I saw that you hearted my comment edit: also what is the font on your channel banner
“THANK YOU FOR ASKING IT” -Chris Griffin
7:30 the collector and star butterfly outfits in the background
Yeah it's a refrence❤
I LOVE THE OWL HOUSE SM The collector is my fav
Yes someone noticed!
My eyes when I saw the collector😮😀
Whos the green hair one????
"Don't litter, instead feed harry" is such a creative idea to stop kids from littering!
We need more people in this world like you.
- A caustic smartass who genuinely loves what you do.
I love that your bringing a topic like this to light. A lot of people don’t realize just how much of an impact that a simple interaction with a kid can have on them in the long run. Even a simple yes or no to something they want can alter their personality for years to come.
Teaching sexaul kid about sex and pedophiles is weird ok. 🙏 understand that. Yes teaching simple interaction is good for the long run. But yes this comment is mostly right
@@Mothlikeskiwiteaching kids about potential threats is weird? i learned about that shiz at like 5.
@@Mothlikeskiwi It's weird alright, I think they should be taught about it at possibly 10-13. SA and Pedophiles are pretty much related to that as well, so it's good to teach kids about them and learn how to avoid them. I was taught about them when I was 10 after my teacher was caught trying to inappropriately touch my classmate. Better to be aware than being unaware about stuff like that.
7:34 i love the little the collector refrence
As a neurospicy gremlin, the Stitch story really got to me. Especially the part about everyone else yelling 🥺
I love this comment.😂
I think we can tell r3tard
Neurospicy lmao i love that word
I feel for that boy on the spectrum because I felt something similar going through public school. I acted kinda like him and for the most part, kids weren’t outright mean, they were awkwardly nice, and it was patronizing. They would act nice to me in school but either didn’t mean it, or would blow me off later on.
I was bullied at both primary and high school for being different. This was back in the 90s when autism wasn't mainstream.
You're one of the few animators who still do story time. I really miss the large scope but I'm glad that we still have one.
0:38 ooop that surely gave him the ✨sparkles✨
XD
Illy is my favorite of the UA-cam animators because she’s not afraid to talk about hard situations in her videos. Also her art style and comedic skill. My day is impossible to ruin when Illy posts a video, and believe me, I’ve had some very unfortunate timing in that department. TL:DR, illy is an amazing animator that deserves all the praise she gets. I want to get into animation and illy is a very high form of inspiration.
I like "treat others the way *they'd* like to be treated." more than "treat others the way you'd like to be treated." Everyone's different! A big hug might be comforting to you but overwhelming for someone else!
8:14 I love the little Bill Cypher and Steven! Thanks for that XD
Didn't even notice that did you notice grimace on the right minute 7:00
@@ChobouYT omg no I didn’t 🤣
@@Chickaen_Cannibal 🤣
That makes me so happy for no reason, lil bill and steven lmao
I've been watching your videos a lot lately, and I just want to say, thank you for always making me smile and feel better about myself. Also I find your voice very calming Lol-
I am crying at the last story because someone when I was a kid told me that gay people go to heck, and I didn't even know what gay was, so I internalized it "Don't be gay or else you'll burn in heck" then in the middle figured out I was gay and I was terrified. You saved that kid from so much down the road, and thank you for that.
8:47 that kid in the upper left is just having the time of his life XD
We has so happy
I really love how she gives the people in her stories privacy by not using their real names❤❤ love u Illy!
who doesn’t do that?
@@hereforonereasonmany people don’t. You don’t really need to because there are plenty of people with the same first name and appearance. Of course don’t throw a persons address, full government name, etc. out on the Internet without their permission but I don’t really see a problem with using the same first name or design. If these kids ever found Illys UA-cam channel, they probably know who they are just by the description.
Props to you and that southern teacher who worked with you
I also love your videos ❤
I love hearing your stories, but this one feels especially wholesome. That daycare and you probably did a lot of good for those kids
Does anybody else appreciate how much nods she doesn’t the background to like movies and TV shows it’s amazing ⭐️🤩
10:11 W TEACHER W TEACHER
100% Agree with you
@@Norakom they might be spamming L but that just means we need to spam W
ABSOLUTE QUEEN OF A TEACHER
W
So tr
I love the subtle hints to different supportive animes/TV shows❤
Steven Universe! ❤
As a kid with two moms in the 1990s... I'm glad that teachers stick up for kids like that now.
Mom: "Now look what you did!"
Dad: "I didn't do anything!" LOL
@@sirmoony5633 look at his pfp he doesnt look 30. what a liar
5:36 (for the full context of the conversation) 6:24 you did an amazing job handling such a difficult situation and topic,
making you cut your hair is just as much about bodily autonomy as everything that happened to you and kids can process that as just as much a no-no without needing to necessarily hear all the gritty,complex scary rest of the story,
without needing to ask their parents if they can hear about stuff like for example: someone being forced to take feet pics;
if i was put in that scenario i would've taken a long time to figure out my words and the feet thing that's probably the metaphor i would've used but if parents were in the room they might've disapproved so needless to say you handled that perfectly.
may i ask how you explained it then, just curious :)
About Hope: I read "My Brain is Different" (Read: Bean Cup) and I will never forget something that one of the narrators said about their experience working with "problem kids" while being neurodivergent herself: "These kids are not trouble. They are in trouble." Holy crow that was so important for me.
A part 2 I never knew we would have
We need more illymation sequels
I'm glad this came across my feed, even though I'm a tad late to the party. I also work with kids, and have been for a few months now! And I've very quickly encountered kids similar to each of these examples, leading me to all sorts of challenges and opportunities. Where I'm at in life has brought a lot of,,, teaching moments and the before/after school program is humbling to say the least. I want to be like you, giving your best shot to be a good example and kind of adult these kids need in their life! Especially for the neurodivergent (like me) and troubled kids. I want to love on them all!!! Seeing your perspective and sharing these moments is really special, thank you.
[P.s. trying to revert from my triggers and stop yelling at the kids! They just keep pushing and pushing til I react sometimes but that's not the kind of response I want to have, nor normalize for these guys. If you, or anyone, has suggestions for how to better interact with limit pushing or just overall conflict, please help a guy out!]
I'm a part time daycare teacher myself and I often struggle with the thought of being a proper adult/role model to the kids. Some days are better than others, and I'm relieved to know I'm not alone. 💕
I have to give Illy a lot of credit, it takes a lot of hard work and patience to work with kids especially nowadays. Stitch was my favorite part of the story and I loved his Stitch doll and backpack, it was a nice touch. This video was great and thank you for sharing it with us.
I absolutely love how she puts a bunch of children shows and movies references in the background,it proves her love for children and the fact she knows there are young viewers of all age
This is a nice series. Hope you make a third episode! Child-care jobs can be tough, but full of good stories to tell. Children are often misunderstood and raised to follow a "this or that" from someone that can be silly to them. As someone studying in ECE in college, I hope to be a better childcare worker!
I’m an after school teacher right now and this video speaks to my soul
Your video are literally like serotonin to me. Thank you for saving me🫶🏾
I hope Phil is doing well today. Props to that teacher for sticking up for him and his mom's 😤👍
0:39 LOOK AT THE BLUEY PLUSHIESSSSS YOU ARE NOW MY FAVE UA-camR
I’m impressed that it took less than a month for this new video to come out.
my team has been working really hard to help me upload monthly!
@@illymation You should tell them that they’re doing a great job.
As a psychologist and psychopedagogue who works with kids for around 7 years, i might say, you are spot on about that part of kids being a sponge. gj as allways Illy
The part about how you explained your ex to her was amazing! It inspires me on how I'd want to address things when kids ask. It was an age appropriate way but honestly it was the perfect amount of information. In the end, through all the gross details, it really is as simple as how you said it. They realized "Wow, I don't want someone being mean to me if I say no. I won't let anyone do that." And while they learned about it through even just the "small" act of cutting hair, that scenario will come flying back to them when any of their partners try to do something worse, like to have sex. It may be more "simple", but the lesson is paramount and kids WILL be able to apply that in their futures.
8:37 this kid is literally me, my step mom was homophobic and I was abused for 7-9 years
I’m so sorry that happened, I hope you feel better ❤️🩹
I am better now! I don’t have to deal with her anymore thankfully
Oh thats sad
2:51 "I don’t like it when people yell at me either."
Me: Same…..
You ok?
i hope your ok!
That's a sign of autism, or possibly trauma of abuse or other adults trying to influence their beliefs into You like in the video. You should probably seek therapy. People care about you no matter where you're at. Even if it seems like no one does.
Ditto.
Same
The last story with fill hit my heart in the happy spot because sexuality be it straight gay or bi is hard to tred through no matter what and if gay people are going to help for their sexuality then everyone should be no matter who they like because it's basically saying "you can't have romantic feelings for anyone" I'm glad we're finally getting rid of that way of thinking it's a breath of fresh air when someone stands up for another knowing very well that they should help them no matter what
Those kids were so lucky to have you and that other teacher spreading positive messages to them.
I have two moms as well and I’m glad to report things were pretty alright throughout my school experience, though I know it can still be incredibly hard out there
My cousin's husband jokingly told his teen son not to be afraid to burn a few calories as we set up for his sister's birthday party. After he asked if he was calling him fat, he assured his son that he wasn't insulting him. It was wholesome and could've led into constructive advice on healthy eating, if he eventually wanted to feel better and have more energy.
I've worked in childcare for almost 8 years now and I have literally met every kid you described in this. Gosh I love these little monsters. Especially the kids who are "tough to work with".
Honestly I appreciate it sm that Illy was able to explain a bit of what her ex did in a child friendly yet informative way to the kids and didn’t just say, “I’ll tell you when you’re older” or somethin. Kids should know about dangerous people and Illy being able to educate them briefly yet informatively gave me massive respect for her instantly.
Yep
i love this story and i love the little things in the background to. Like the elemental, toh and starv the forces of evil manequins.
Petition for Illy to turn this into a full series with every episode focusing on a diffrent kid
I'll sign
signed!
I’ll sign!
sign time
*Signs* WHERE ARE THE OTHER 500 SIGNATURES!?
I worked at a daycare with kids and this little boy Asher was autistic, he was so sweet and literally adorable dude. Everyday he’d ask me for a ball to play with and when he got it his face just lit up so much
7:30 Love the background for the clothes where they showed the collector. He’s one of my favorite characters in our house
I just wanted to say that you are like a comfort channel to me on youtube:) i have been having sone problems lately and being kinda embarrassed about my autism and uncomfortable about my sexuality and gender but you remind me that that is nothing to be ashamed of and i just love the messages you have in your videos❤ the poeple who know you and have you as a part of their life are really lucky people and if they aren’t greatful to have you that is their lost😊 I can’t explain how much happiness your videos give me❤❤❤
Aww this is so sweet
Illy trusting us about all the things she wouldn't say to a stranger is pretty heart warming and we will always support you illy and the things you do.
As college student on his way if becoming a teacher, these videos have provided more tips and healthy ways to deal with difficult situations with kids than any of my classes! Its so sad but we are still getting taught that kids with autism and or ADHD are aggressive and stupid
We are 100% not. we are just kinda.. idk..different
@@hereforonereason I know, but my professors haven't taught children in decades if they even have ever taught children and teach using books written by people who didn't believe in evolution so the system is fucked
7:30 COLLECTOR REFERENCE ALERT COLLECTOR REFERENCE I LOVE THE OWL HOUSE ❤
the sequel we never knew we needed, but we all wanted :)
stich reminded me of a younger version of myself, I am also autistic and I was and still am protective of things, an autistic trait I guess ? (also fuck homophobia)
9:45 W coworker
@@Polemimic we need more staff like this in schools
@@user-ni6uv2uu2k it is exclusively religious people and people who hate any minority
I love how Illy censored the phrase, "Burn in hell" with keyboard sounds! LMAO
@@snakesbakecookies tbh it is common
This video made me tear up. I don’t feel it’s time to share my story yet, but all of these topics have been relevant to me at some point. Thank you, Illy. You’re truly one of the best people on this platform.
God I had a student who was saying Trans people were gross and whatnot. Around 11 years old. And he was making a few students uncomfortable. Like they were very upset and trying to get him to shut up.
I reminded everyone that in the classroom we are not allowed to make fun of, or bully people based on their appearances, beliefs or identities. Regardless of what that was. And if anyone felt uncomfortable with someone or something they tell me, and dont confront others and make them feel unsafe. I made sure to tell them that each of them deserves respect no matter what. And I told the parents that exact same thing.
And what did dad tell me?
"Well who was he making uncomfortable huh? What about his comfort?"
Like?
I told the parent If another kid was mocking that boy for his beliefs or shouting how weird and gross he was I would have defended him too. But he doubled down and said well it's his right to say whatever he believes.
Like??? Gross. All my students deserve the ability to concentrate on their SCHOOL WORK in school. It's unfair and disgusting how entitles parents can be! Their kid deserves accommodation and a feeling of safety. But God forbid another student deserve the same.
And another kid, bullied a girl for being fat. Didn't hear jack from the parents. But that girl isn't in my class anymore and mr jackass is still joking around mocking the other kids. He's awefule to other people, but because his parents don't care about him he gets to ruin a class he doesn't like for everyone else. It's so frustrating.
Kids would be so much happier if parents were just nice people!!!! These poor kids suffer because they go through life being cruel. And they make everyone else miserable too.
Ugh. I just wish parents would shut up and be kind.
bro like i joke about being homophobic and stuff but like what the actual hell
So it's ok to shut him up but not the other kids defending the transgenders? Hypocritical
@@Logmankixass12what? He was the one being a bigot
@@Whyisthiscold ok and? Nobody should silence anyone else.
@@Logmankixass12Yeah, but one can educate and learn. School is supposed to be a safe place for everyone.
Thanks for everything Illy!! Your stories are so funny and always make me feel safe and smile. 💕
9:44 Laying down the LAW!
Man, Illy, your content always manages to be so wholesome whilst covering challenging topics; you could be the next Mr. Rogers
Girls can have short hair and boys can paint their nails -kmk
I agree
Boys can have long hair also
Exactly
@@TinyRobotED-tm9rs yes
Exactly, nothing has to be only for one gender or the other
My childhood was alot like Hope's i might not remember alot of it, but from what i DO remember it was not a childhood. No kid should go through what i went through or anything similar ot worse. Kids are indeed like sponges, they take the words of their parents, teachers, and other adults directly to their heart.