Why Sunday School SCARED me

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  • @illymation
    @illymation  Місяць тому +944

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  • @eeveefennecfox
    @eeveefennecfox Місяць тому +4422

    teachers are so mean when they tell you to stop asking questions,asking questions is how you oh I don't know *LEARN* teachers should know that,that's the number 1 rule to teaching,ask questions

    • @baffledbrandon3132
      @baffledbrandon3132 Місяць тому +132

      NEVER stop asking questions and NEVER stop learning.

    • @Purpliz
      @Purpliz Місяць тому +78

      Teaching religion is hard because they don't know any more than anyone

    • @WendyLee-y6n
      @WendyLee-y6n Місяць тому +24

      I felt that when I switched schools

    • @AndersWatches
      @AndersWatches Місяць тому +36

      They usually only want you to learn enough to hold the same opinions as them, and not enough to question them, that’s why.

    • @timberwolf700
      @timberwolf700 29 днів тому +9

      I agree with you that teachers can be very mean when they tell you to stop asking questions, especially if they are Sunday School teachers

  • @Jo-qh1jk
    @Jo-qh1jk Місяць тому +4339

    As a fellow autistic person who grew up going to Catholic school, I felt this. They don't really know how to respond to us.

    • @Trix_starz
      @Trix_starz Місяць тому +94

      Well they gotta start figuring it out.

    • @AstrinExavier
      @AstrinExavier Місяць тому +12

      true

    • @JonBrase
      @JonBrase Місяць тому +35

      I'm pretty sure my religious environment growing up was heavily autistic (it certainly has been since my teens), so I never really had this problem.

    • @meatIers
      @meatIers Місяць тому +15

      LOOK IN THE URL LMAOOO

    • @sunviche
      @sunviche Місяць тому +14

      It felt so unreal having to memorize all that stuff

  • @DefrostedChicken
    @DefrostedChicken Місяць тому +514

    Never trust anyone or anything that asks you not to question what you do not understand

    • @ianbuick8946
      @ianbuick8946 29 днів тому +11

      The longer you live the more unanswered questions you will have. At some pointn you have to have faith to live.

    • @_pan-tastic_28
      @_pan-tastic_28 29 днів тому +49

      @@ianbuick8946 There will always be unanswered questions, but that doesn't mean that you don't give up trying to find answers to them.

    • @redplaybuttonuser
      @redplaybuttonuser 27 днів тому +2

      Yep, basically islam.

    • @doughertyyy
      @doughertyyy 26 днів тому +3

      Well yeah...but a good caring leader will often allow and answer questions

    • @Emeralds4u
      @Emeralds4u 23 дні тому +2

      if you're referring to God then I have to say this; God encourages questions and loves it because it helps you grow more in your faith

  • @Oh-2ALEX
    @Oh-2ALEX Місяць тому +892

    What church fails to teach is that Jesus was told to ALSO ask alot of questions,questions that they couldn't quite answer

    • @ItzJewelryByMona
      @ItzJewelryByMona Місяць тому +55

      @@daleprice1490incorrect. Source is the Bible. Jesus encouraged questions, doesn’t matter if you’re religious or not. Jesus was real and he said that

    • @40Ccents
      @40Ccents Місяць тому +20

      does that mean you can ask questions about christianity and some of the morals?

    • @ItzJewelryByMona
      @ItzJewelryByMona Місяць тому +33

      @ yes, you can ask questions, as long as your respectful (hence “love thy neighbor”) btw it seems like I’m trying to push my religion on others im not

    • @40Ccents
      @40Ccents Місяць тому +15

      @@ItzJewelryByMona oh okay, also it's alright, i'm also christian and just curious

    • @Michael_The_cat
      @Michael_The_cat Місяць тому

      Unfortunately there are plenty of victims that go to corrupt churches that only care about money, and not you; and feed you lies.

  • @monkeylady8150
    @monkeylady8150 Місяць тому +3193

    I like how this wasn't an anti-religion video, but more of an anxiety video, that takes place in religion. I'm agnostic, but I am still glad this wasn't a "this church did this horrible thing" video.

    • @TommyCashLover420
      @TommyCashLover420 Місяць тому +34

      Exactly, I am too!

    • @alx1703
      @alx1703 Місяць тому +17

      @@TommyCashLover420 Same here!

    • @Midnight_Star1021
      @Midnight_Star1021 Місяць тому

      Churches sometimes do horrible things, doesn’t mean the religion is inherently bad or that talking about it is antireligion

    • @grimmcorvid5713
      @grimmcorvid5713 29 днів тому +118

      Yeah but critocising church is important. You cant constantly ignore the bad stuff they do.

    • @michaelmulloy5925
      @michaelmulloy5925 29 днів тому +42

      It's important to remember that every Christian has their doubts and that you're not alone. Nobody likes to show it on the outside, so it's understandable to feel alone

  • @nerdsikle
    @nerdsikle Місяць тому +110

    It is in human nature to question what we are taught. It doesn’t make you broken or sinful or defective.

  • @Moon525
    @Moon525 Місяць тому +3975

    Tbh those are legit questions.
    It seems really unfair (and somewhat problematic...) to just be quiet, listen, and join the herd mindlessly.

    • @QUBIQUBED
      @QUBIQUBED Місяць тому +105

      it IS unfair

    • @HaloMan-813
      @HaloMan-813 Місяць тому +7

      Not mindlessly wdym

    • @ForeverMe217
      @ForeverMe217 Місяць тому +45

      The bible literally says seek the truth. We’re not mindlessly listening tf?

    • @stephencastle3307
      @stephencastle3307 Місяць тому +127

      Yeah, you should ask questions, that's how you learn. Faith was never meant to be completely blind, it's something you should search for and seek out. Most problems with the faith come from people who never questioned or actually explored it because they never asked themselves those answers either.

    • @AkilGoldsboro
      @AkilGoldsboro Місяць тому +6

      Agree

  • @ThroughTheLensOfAutism
    @ThroughTheLensOfAutism Місяць тому +6411

    Growing up autistic, I had many problems with religious education, particularly contradictions I would find, but I am still practicing.

    • @TheRomanSkull
      @TheRomanSkull Місяць тому +54

      Can I get some examples, I have a few mates who brought this up to me, and neither I and them can recall the verses they said. It would really help me

    • @josevlog945
      @josevlog945 Місяць тому +208

      No but seriously dinosaurs is like where my own belief was put into question. That and general science education which you know is SCIENCE.

    • @poopupupu2441
      @poopupupu2441 Місяць тому

      It is for this reason I am atheist

    • @amyk5929
      @amyk5929 Місяць тому +112

      @@josevlog945 this exactly. One of my science teachers was christian and I had talked to him about it, but tbh he was in the same 'boat' as me about knowing what to trust and believe

    • @micellaragua
      @micellaragua Місяць тому +41

      @@josevlog945a lot of the important scientists were Christian

  • @JacquelynIngram-h4h
    @JacquelynIngram-h4h Місяць тому +146

    I’m an atheist with some religious trauma, but I love learning about religion. If the person is respectful it’s always interesting

    • @dimensionninja4929
      @dimensionninja4929 27 днів тому +10

      thanks for the respect, I'm sorry for your Trauma as a Christian

    • @EzLagz
      @EzLagz 21 день тому +5

      It alwayss sucks when I see someone turn away from Christ due to trauma. I'm to shy to tell people Christianty is about having a relationship with Christ and not go to church listen and do what is said.

    • @dimensionninja4929
      @dimensionninja4929 21 день тому +1

      @@EzLagz defo brother.

    • @EvansKeita-we2yv
      @EvansKeita-we2yv 14 днів тому

      ​@EzLagz yeah man its sad thing to see

    • @BasedKeyboardCrusader
      @BasedKeyboardCrusader 14 днів тому

      That breaks my heart it’s crazy how different peoples experiences can be for me my Catholic faith and the community it’s put me around saved me from a doomer
      /y.o.l.o mentality that caused me to do stupid stuff I’d regret and it gave meaning and warmth unlike any other. But then I hear the other side and how organized religion has hurt others and made them feel ashamed of themselves (and especially if you grew up Lutherans Anglicans and other Protestant downright deny basic science big reason Im drawn away from them). I hope you can one day recover from what has happened to you and come out better in the end. I hope you don’t mind if I pray for you in the meantime. ❤️

  • @SonofTuscon99
    @SonofTuscon99 Місяць тому +2107

    I can relate to the questions.
    My main one was, “If God made Adam and Eve, wouldn’t that make us all related?’

    • @jacoblass3224
      @jacoblass3224 Місяць тому +240

      Technically speaking yes 😅

    • @cat_poopuuu
      @cat_poopuuu Місяць тому +48

      Yesss

    • @ookami5329
      @ookami5329 Місяць тому +212

      I'm surprised no one could answer that to you. In my circle we would often reference that we're all distant cousins

    • @AJHayes614
      @AJHayes614 Місяць тому +42

      I ALWAYS used to ask that question-

    • @SonofTuscon99
      @SonofTuscon99 Місяць тому +48

      @@ookami5329 nah,they’d usually hear me ask it then immediately change the subject.

  • @Alucard_Ander
    @Alucard_Ander Місяць тому +1303

    Why the hell can't we say hell on UA-cam when half the ads are NSFW

    • @pupu416
      @pupu416 Місяць тому +109

      I swear those ads are creepy

    • @Cheesycheesecheese64
      @Cheesycheesecheese64 Місяць тому

      @@pupu416Fr

    • @DavidLyles
      @DavidLyles Місяць тому +84

      You ever see the body wash ads? I swear what UA-cam deems as appropriate is widely varying and very biased.

    • @Trix_starz
      @Trix_starz Місяць тому +6

      @@DavidLylesits just body washnman

    • @stariijells
      @stariijells Місяць тому +35

      I just got an ad about diddy 😭

  • @ArielEarl
    @ArielEarl 29 днів тому +49

    Thanks for staying respectful during the video, I’m sorry that you felt that way in that time and thank you for having the courage to share the experience.

  • @Delphadae
    @Delphadae Місяць тому +535

    As someone who is Christian, but is actively deconstructing/reconstructing faith, I really wish there were more spaces for children and teens to express their questions, doubts, and fears about their faith. (With no judgement from their teachers, pastors/priests, and peers). Thankfully, there are spaces to ask these questions online now, but there is so much more that religious communities can do.

    • @vinx.909
      @vinx.909 29 днів тому +8

      sadly the religion gets little out of helping you question it, so it has no systems for (and more often against) help with such questions.

    • @Eileen_Lola
      @Eileen_Lola 27 днів тому +3

      I grew up Unitarian Universalist and this is EXACTLY what growing up in my religion is like. I wish it was like that everywhere because growing up I always felt secure in my faith when I was questioning things and even to this day. I’m hoping it continues to change to this.

    • @dimensionninja4929
      @dimensionninja4929 27 днів тому +2

      yes, I agree

    • @biblesforbreakfast
      @biblesforbreakfast 26 днів тому +2

      Agreed. It says in the scriptures that is God's job to judge and people's responsibility to love. But people want to play God. That's why there are none of those safe spaces. It's sad.

    • @stormninjabros025
      @stormninjabros025 18 днів тому +1

      I go to a Christian school, and I'm really glad my school is really open to questions about faith and doubts and good teachers who actually answer those questions

  • @JaytheblueJ
    @JaytheblueJ Місяць тому +2674

    I’m autistic too and became atheist by the time I was 10 because the adults told me “just have faith” and it didn’t satisfy any questions I had.

    • @b00nz0r
      @b00nz0r Місяць тому +123

      I saw that as 'shut up' and they said it even after I told them, 'love'.

    • @Somerandomturkie
      @Somerandomturkie Місяць тому +81

      Sad you went at 10. Not because you were supposed to NOT leave, but because people probably didn't take you serious at the time due to your age. I mean in my country, the republic of turkey, people sure as all the might hate LGBT people. Especially ones in pubrety as they're seen as young and stupid.

    • @mignonne_
      @mignonne_ Місяць тому +8

      What questions do you have

    • @Iamafanofthings50
      @Iamafanofthings50 Місяць тому +12

      there is evidence that points to God's existence.

    • @Cat_egg1
      @Cat_egg1 Місяць тому +81

      ​@@Iamafanofthings50That is? Please tell

  • @charlesbennett7484
    @charlesbennett7484 18 днів тому +20

    I was lucky enough to have a youth pastor that welcomed all questions. "There are no dumb questions", he told us and since I was the sort that was always curious about absolutely EVERYTHING and wanted to understand all the "hows" and "whys", it was very encouraging to have someone I could turn to with my questions. If only more teachers were like that. ✝️ Southern Baptist, by the way.

  • @butterflywingzz0
    @butterflywingzz0 Місяць тому +1283

    As someone who is questioning their faith this video came at just the right time

  • @figurativeElement
    @figurativeElement Місяць тому +1177

    This is reminding me how I was baptized at 8 while incredibly sick with the flu; the ceremony was more important than my well-being.

    • @niamhturner1451
      @niamhturner1451 Місяць тому +28

      because its perfectly safe, Holy Water isn't going to kill you

    • @AidanBurnett-y8g
      @AidanBurnett-y8g Місяць тому +17

      If it makes you feel better back in the early Christian years some Christians got baptized in prison

    • @AkilGoldsboro
      @AkilGoldsboro Місяць тому +197

      ​@@niamhturner1451 that's not the point

    • @squeak.z
      @squeak.z Місяць тому +161

      @@niamhturner1451they were SICK.

    • @roachmorphine8018
      @roachmorphine8018 Місяць тому +130

      That's just irresponsible parenting.

  • @notgeniepenne
    @notgeniepenne Місяць тому +69

    I’m Muslim and I love learning about other religions and exploring their beliefs I encourage everyone to do that as well !

    • @AhmedAhmed-fu6dn
      @AhmedAhmed-fu6dn 29 днів тому +3

      Fellow Muslim here

    • @notgeniepenne
      @notgeniepenne 29 днів тому +1

      @ alhamdolilah

    • @LyrLyrPantsOnFyr
      @LyrLyrPantsOnFyr 29 днів тому +3

      i rlly dont like when fellow muslims are disrespectful to other religions

    • @notgeniepenne
      @notgeniepenne 29 днів тому +6

      @@LyrLyrPantsOnFyr yea that definitely doesn’t represent Islam. Everyone should respect everyone regardless of their religion

    • @redplaybuttonuser
      @redplaybuttonuser 27 днів тому +1

      @@LyrLyrPantsOnFyr Yeah, they are violent and arrogant. I'm not a fan of them, they been quite destructive.

  • @Smallges
    @Smallges Місяць тому +886

    You are so incredibly talented when it comes to story telling. Your way with words and the way you convey emotions is just absolutely brilliant.

  • @juliacheneyillustration3928
    @juliacheneyillustration3928 Місяць тому +323

    I really love how your videos tackle topics that can be uncomfortable or "taboo" in ways that feel genuine, honest and empathetic

    • @geikaci
      @geikaci 21 день тому +2

      shes goated for that exact reason

  • @millanierosario2151
    @millanierosario2151 Місяць тому +28

    i almost cried watching this because i always feel guilty for feeling like this,and when i watched your video,you made me feel so much better,lots of people feel the same way as me,but sadly not alot of people talk about it,thank you so much for being the person who talks about it❤

  • @AmariaThe
    @AmariaThe Місяць тому +1689

    For almost 16 years I was the most faithful, devout, God-fearing Christian boy... I was praised for being so nice and kind and generous, for embodying what it meant to be a follower of Jesus. But then cracks that had been long withstanding, unanswered questions, inconsistencies began to widen and suddenly everything fell apart. If I'm a girl, what does the Bible say? If my friends are gay, what will happen to them? If we have free will, why did God control Pharaoh? How did the ark work? It was deeper than a few simple questions, and it was too much. How can one keep one's faith if the item of faith makes no sense and can't be proven? I tried to maintain it, but it fell apart under the words and abuse of people toted as the best Christians around. And what for?
    I stared at the sky one night, lying on a vast stretch of grass and thought, how beautiful it is to be free from divine purpose? How marveolous that we're so tiny and inconsequential? How much better are actions motivsted out of genuine love than fear of hell?
    I have religeous trauma, but I am myself, my own, and not defined by it or Christianity any longer. And that is freeing.

    • @danyinthetardis5683
      @danyinthetardis5683 Місяць тому +114

      this was so nice to read! i’m glad u found ur place in life!!

    • @HUNTER-Cg9
      @HUNTER-Cg9 Місяць тому +82

      I'm so happy for you finding yourself

    • @juanranger4214
      @juanranger4214 Місяць тому +75

      I am so sorry for what people have made to you, even under the name of Jesus Christ.
      My testimony is quite the opposite...
      For almost 22 years of my life I was an atheist, and questions like yours is what prevented me from believing in God.
      But being an athiest almost got me killed, for purposelesness is a road to suicide... man needs purpose in order to live, and purpose can only come from being created by a creator.
      So after many events of my life, I started seeking God, and after seeking Him with all my heart, strength and mind, He came to me and made Himself known through signs and miracles... and then I knew that He is real, He saved my life and He is good.
      If you were taught that you should do good out of fear of Hell, you were taught wrong.
      The love of God is to love one another, just as He loves us, and there is no spirit of fear that comes from God.
      Tell me, what keeps you from trusting in Jesus Christ?
      Have you never seen any sign or miracle of His?

    • @juanranger4214
      @juanranger4214 Місяць тому +14

      @ Tell me them, so I may help you.
      One thing we must do when seeking answers is to listen to both sides.
      What made me not believe in the first place is only listening to the naturalistic/atheist side…

    • @juanranger4214
      @juanranger4214 Місяць тому +20

      @@PowerPlayerz100 Heaven is for forgiven people, people who have been forgiven by God from their sins, through the blood and sacrifice of Jesus Christ and have repented from their sins.
      Homosexuality is a sin, for it is not the intended purpose of God for man and woman, and the disobedience of God’s law always brings death and wickedness in the end somehow, which attracts God’s judgement against wickedness.
      God allowed homosexuality to exist because man sinned against God and caused corruption in all of creation, corrupting the flesh and the spirit, breaking the link between man and God.
      Homosexuality can have a number of causes, like: a past event that made one believe that they are born this way or that they are attracted to the same sex, or it can even be spiritual oppression from a demon.
      I have seen a testimony from an ex homosexual that instead of praying to God to take the “gay” away, they asked God why were they gay, and God answered her, showing her past events that led her to believe that she was gay, when in fact she was not.
      In the end, she did not feel same sex attraction anymore.

  • @isabellareynolds7030
    @isabellareynolds7030 Місяць тому +1042

    When I realized I was Bi I started to distance myself from my religion and very religious people of my family because I’ve herd of conversation camps that do very bad things to try and show that this way of life is bad. Illy came out and helped me realize some things with this video, they really are the person we all need in our lives.

    • @rommix0
      @rommix0 Місяць тому +44

      > conversation camps
      lol. It's any BUT conversation. It's conversion, and it's just as bad.

    • @MilkshakePeanut
      @MilkshakePeanut Місяць тому +58

      God loves you no matter your orientation❤❤❤

    • @isabellareynolds7030
      @isabellareynolds7030 Місяць тому +22

      @@MilkshakePeanut Thank you 🥹

    • @wanniesup
      @wanniesup Місяць тому +10

      Jesus loves us all

    • @Lily-c4i
      @Lily-c4i Місяць тому +16

      I'm also bi and I'm afraid to come out to parents

  • @katrinawinter5645
    @katrinawinter5645 29 днів тому +13

    We're so fortunate to have you. The videos you make are always insightful. You are so articulate and able to get your points across in an easy to digest way. We love your videos and are so grateful to have someone like you in the world

  • @kyliewitmer1882
    @kyliewitmer1882 Місяць тому +376

    I can relate to this soooo much. My parents also used the “ if you can memorize lines for shows, why can’t you memorize verses?” on me. I feel so terrible about it and the fear of my teacher sitting me down and yelling at me until I cried always maked me scared of going back to church.

    • @AidanBurnett-y8g
      @AidanBurnett-y8g Місяць тому +26

      That does not sound Christianity of someone to yell at you until you cried

    • @anisa2273
      @anisa2273 Місяць тому +10

      this is the same with the memorizing the Quran too(except probably harder as its in Arabic). id feel guilty that I can remember most movies/songs word for word but no the quran it was sad. I'm doing better now and taking the memorization at my own pace

    • @AidanBurnett-y8g
      @AidanBurnett-y8g Місяць тому +10

      @ as far as I know, this is an exclusively Lutheran thing which is ironic because Martin Luther didn’t actually say peoples should memorize the Bible. Most other Churches do something different

    • @notgeniepenne
      @notgeniepenne Місяць тому

      @@anisa2273did teachers ever scream at u for not memorizing?

    • @heuzame6198
      @heuzame6198 Місяць тому

      Honestly this would be literally impossible for me to memorize the whole bible, I'm not sure if that can be linked to my aphantasia or not.

  • @Phoenix-et1vw
    @Phoenix-et1vw Місяць тому +736

    0:31 wow you already sound like me, haven’t watched the full video yet but ended up with some religious trauma in the end for being neurodivergent and lgbtqia+
    Update: I needed this video. Thank you. I’m almost 22 and I am still scared of talking to my family about it because the church we went to taught that they fail as parents if I don’t follow the rules which really affected our relationship

    • @chancia8990
      @chancia8990 Місяць тому +14

      wait what we're the same!

    • @billcipher4368
      @billcipher4368 Місяць тому +41

      Speaking of LGBTQ , the video's ID/URL is *nXLTlyimGAY* .I know it's a bit random but I Just wanted to point out the fun coincidence .

    • @ShadowSkyX
      @ShadowSkyX Місяць тому +8

      Toxic, toxic toxic. That's absolutely unacceptable! There's parents that pull this same manipulation tactic

    • @froggy_art1
      @froggy_art1 Місяць тому

      ​@@billcipher4368That's amazing lol

    • @liz_violet
      @liz_violet Місяць тому +1

      @@billcipher4368 pog.

  • @Gamercatgirl5
    @Gamercatgirl5 29 днів тому +39

    I was raised Evangelincal. I'm LGBT and I was told that 'Good Christian men would kill anyone LGBT' It was horrifying. I was completely silent about who I was. I moved away from the church and ran from any form of Christianity.

    • @nullname0
      @nullname0 29 днів тому +2

      sorry to hear that

    • @ianbuick8946
      @ianbuick8946 27 днів тому +11

      Not sure who told you that because they are not telling the Truth. "Thy shall not murder" is one of the commandment in the Bible. If you read the Bible you would know....but i doubt you ran away for that reason.

    • @redplaybuttonuser
      @redplaybuttonuser 27 днів тому +4

      They are wrong, that is not Christ-like. We are not supposed to harm/kill the sinner. We are not Islam.

    • @Gamercatgirl5
      @Gamercatgirl5 27 днів тому +3

      @ianbuick8946 I read the entire Bible. I'm not a bad person. I have morals but not for any god.

    • @ianbuick8946
      @ianbuick8946 26 днів тому +3

      @@Gamercatgirl5 You may read the *entire* Bible, but do you understand?

  • @rinsabnormality
    @rinsabnormality Місяць тому +611

    This hits close to home especially after Christian camp were there were some f-ed stuff being said i started questioning my faith and not feeling safe in the community. Great video as always ❤

    • @rommix0
      @rommix0 Місяць тому +10

      You had a similar experience I did. The camp I went to was a Pentecostal one, and that very camp experience was what led me to swear off religion entirely.

    • @blissteh
      @blissteh Місяць тому +15

      Man, as a christian, nobody should ever be treated like that. That's not what jesus was like.

    • @garrettsattem4799
      @garrettsattem4799 Місяць тому +3

      F-ed up stuff like…?

    • @garrettsattem4799
      @garrettsattem4799 Місяць тому

      @@rommix0Well your problem was being Pentecostal. The correct choice would have been to switch to Catholicism.

    • @rommix0
      @rommix0 Місяць тому +5

      @@garrettsattem4799 i never said I was pentecostal. I was catholic. Big difference. The camp was pentecostal.

  • @KidA1117
    @KidA1117 Місяць тому +127

    I'm sorry you had to go through that. Religious faith should never make anyone feel bad about themselves

    • @ShadowSkyX
      @ShadowSkyX 26 днів тому

      Depends on what they're feeling bad about.

    • @KidA1117
      @KidA1117 26 днів тому +2

      It's about self worth, love and acceptance. ​It should never make you feel wrong or less than who you really are

    • @EzLagz
      @EzLagz 21 день тому

      It alwayss sucks when I see someone turn away from Christ due to trauma. I'm to shy to tell people Christianty is about having a relationship with Christ and not go to church listen and do what is said.

  • @alextheloser
    @alextheloser 25 днів тому +10

    i can’t properly put into words how closely i relate to everything you said in this video. the religious trauma, the internalising of doubt, the “jesus doesn’t mean anything to me”, the “what if i’m practicing the wrong religion”, etc etc. very recently i’ve been rediscovering my faith and figuring out what God means to me (and no one else!). thank you so much for creating this and opening up about your experiences 🩷

  • @CatFoxHybrid
    @CatFoxHybrid Місяць тому +1357

    ✝️✡️☯️🕉️☪️I’m Atheist, but I love you Christian people & other different religions out there. Love yourself and love the world you live in❣️

    • @crystal03marie
      @crystal03marie Місяць тому +214

      It's refreshing to see atheists that knows how to respect other ppl's beliefs. Very contradictory to "Christians" who thinks their beliefs deserve entitlement 😔

    • @alexdeghost2729
      @alexdeghost2729 Місяць тому +70

      Awe thank you :3. This christian loves u!!❤

    • @USCO3441
      @USCO3441 Місяць тому +18

    • @YungandRekless545
      @YungandRekless545 Місяць тому +62

      We appreciate you respecting others beliefs. And we also respect your beliefs. It's very much possible for people with differing opinions to live harmoniously with each other ❤

    • @HisamiYomotsu
      @HisamiYomotsu Місяць тому +45

      I’m with this Athiest, I love all of you guys, even with my religious trauma

  • @SnakeitySpoonGilmour
    @SnakeitySpoonGilmour Місяць тому +581

    I CAUGHT IT EARLY! As someone who grew up religious, I'm excited for this video.

  • @emmy_grace
    @emmy_grace Місяць тому +19

    Your story was so moving. Thanks for sharing Illy

  • @Paulettchen
    @Paulettchen Місяць тому +160

    I'm catholic and I only live my religion the way I'm comfortable with. My family accepts it and I question a lot of things. I think if religion makes you hate other people or even hate yourself, it's not healthy

    • @blobfishstudios
      @blobfishstudios Місяць тому +10

      Exactly! Love isn’t for just the people who fit the perfect religious mold, it’s for everyone!

    • @cagedguitarist1208
      @cagedguitarist1208 Місяць тому +2

      So what does that look like? I’m just wondering what you mean by this

    • @Republic-Studios1
      @Republic-Studios1 29 днів тому +1

      So you’re not actually following religion?

    • @EvansKeita-we2yv
      @EvansKeita-we2yv 14 днів тому +1

      Its god not religioun

  • @SmugSpike
    @SmugSpike Місяць тому +418

    Nothing like religious trama to create some quality entertainment! Seriously though I love your videos.

    • @EzLagz
      @EzLagz 21 день тому +2

      It alwayss sucks when I see someone turn away from Christ due to trauma. I'm to shy to tell people Christianty is about having a relationship with Christ and not go to church listen and do what is said.

    • @captainsoldier3899
      @captainsoldier3899 10 днів тому

      @@EzLagzAmen keep going

    • @kenthuang436
      @kenthuang436 10 днів тому

      I once commented on a FB group for mental health trauma and experiences asking if religious talk should be allowed and I said yes and explained that I really needed a safe place to discuss all my religious trauma and this woman got really nasty towards me and said that I was “faking” my trauma and that I was a liar because “Christians don’t do things that traumatize people.” People don’t realize how a few bad experiences involving churches can really affect someone.

  • @Fragmentstudio-w6l
    @Fragmentstudio-w6l 4 дні тому +2

    I grew up being the most Catholic person you will know, but just like you, I began to question my faith, asking questions that would make people mad, and I prayed, I prayed...my prayers were never answered...but after I fully came to understand my beliefs...I improved myself a lot ❤

  • @theplushybros6140
    @theplushybros6140 Місяць тому +130

    I grew up in a catholic family. For the first few years of my life, I was the faith believing child. Always believing whatever my mother, father, or priest told me. I even became an alter boy when I was old enough. I went through first communion and confirmation. For me, what started my faith crisis was thinking about the Norse gods from Norse mythology. I started asking myself “if my religion is correct, does that mean that everyone else is wrong? Are Muslims wrong for not being Christian? Are Hindus wrong for believing in multiple gods?” This started me on the path that took me away from my faith. Eventually I left my church and became agnostics. I don’t believe in god, but I didn’t know what was truly out there. Eventually I became an Athiest, but more along the Agnostic side than full Athiest. I don’t believe that there is an afterlife, but I’m not certain of this.

    • @ForeverMe217
      @ForeverMe217 Місяць тому

      I love mythology but I know they are just myths. Barely anyone believes in the Old gods anymore and if they were real, they would have been fallen angels. And yea, Muslims, Hindus, Jews are wrong.

    • @roachmorphine8018
      @roachmorphine8018 Місяць тому

      There is plenty of evidence of an afterlife. Look up some first hand accounts of near-death experiences and unexplainable ghost sightings. It's fascinating.

    • @user-DragonWhiskers
      @user-DragonWhiskers Місяць тому +4

      @@ForeverMe217what makes them wrong but you right?

    • @ForeverMe217
      @ForeverMe217 Місяць тому +2

      @ Not about me. It’s about Jesus. And every religion (other than Judaism for obvious reasons). Respects Jesus and Jesus said: He is the way, the truth and the life. So, yeah, I’m going with Jesus. Hope that helps.

    • @user-DragonWhiskers
      @user-DragonWhiskers Місяць тому +6

      @@ForeverMe217 but how do we know that?

  • @wordsmith6154
    @wordsmith6154 Місяць тому +266

    I'm Roman Catholic and am always interested in hearing about other religions. In the Catholic religion, despite how by the rules many claim us to be, is very relaxed and we do things different. We never had to memorize the Bible, just prayers. Our classes went from Kindergarten to 8th grade and the last two years were for confirmation classes. During that time, we chose our patron saint and participated in community service. It's what got me interested in doing it in the first place. I was sure in my faith, but I was always reassured that I had to be sure and I could always pull out if I was unsure. I wish more religions were as understanding.

    • @b00nz0r
      @b00nz0r Місяць тому

      ... you see that you're in a trap and you think it's fine because nothing has happened yet? Personally take how I left the religon and actually read the bible, all of it where you find Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John weren't real people so literally almost all the stories (including the last supper) were all made up. They're saying 'Jesus was real' and that he didn't have a body because it went up into heaven? Nah; and even if so then christians are purposefully lying to you.

    • @Annagator-ze8oo
      @Annagator-ze8oo Місяць тому +36

      I also find it interesting hearing about other religions! I too am Roman catholic and I really enjoyed this video. I’m not sure I’d ever receive communion if I had to memorize the entire bible.

    • @tuna._.fishhh
      @tuna._.fishhh Місяць тому +17

      Im trying to learn about different religions at the moment so I was just wondering what’s a patron saint?

    • @valebdro20hn
      @valebdro20hn Місяць тому +15

      @@tuna._.fishhh it's basically like the saint u are devote for and get most inspired by her/his testimony, making him/her your guardian. (If I'm wrong just correct me, but that's what I know.)

    • @AJsans
      @AJsans Місяць тому +6

      I'm a roman Catholic to but for at least at my parish we had first communion and then we had confirmation and they were both pretty easy I never had any stress about not passing

  • @josie2679
    @josie2679 Місяць тому +55

    Skip the ad 3:07

    • @Garbagekǐd-l
      @Garbagekǐd-l 26 днів тому +1

      I LUV ur pfp :]

    • @the_pengu
      @the_pengu 23 дні тому +1

      I hope your phone battery never dies 🥰

    • @josie2679
      @josie2679 23 дні тому

      @@Garbagekǐd-l thank you

    • @josie2679
      @josie2679 23 дні тому

      @@the_pengu I hope so too

    • @AliyahC-rq6it
      @AliyahC-rq6it 15 днів тому

      No it’s okay this helped me

  • @RamshacklePrefect896
    @RamshacklePrefect896 Місяць тому +671

    I renounced my Christianity in my teens. What did it for me was our pastor. He would always say 'come as you are' while also saying 'you must change everything about yourself to please God'. I just learned to love myself and your saying to give that up? No thanks, I'd rather burn.

    • @jessica9999
      @jessica9999 Місяць тому +49

      we enter the shower dirty but to get clean
      what is the use of entering the shower if you dont get clean?

    • @mignonne_
      @mignonne_ Місяць тому +45

      You'd rather burn in Hell forever and forever because you accept your sinful nature instead of changing your ways like how Christ taught us?

    • @RamshacklePrefect896
      @RamshacklePrefect896 Місяць тому +79

      Absolutely, I enjoy life so much more

    • @Chu2chompsankles
      @Chu2chompsankles Місяць тому +195

      ​@@mignonne_ Threats of "burning in hell" is exactly why religious trauma happens. Your god doesn't sound so loving if he's willing to put people through eternal damnation for being themselves.

    • @AkilGoldsboro
      @AkilGoldsboro Місяць тому +1

      ​@mignonne_ That's basically threatening people with eternal torture if they don't join that boring religion

  • @MrHydesAlterEgo
    @MrHydesAlterEgo Місяць тому +80

    This was so sincere and emotional, Illy. Thank you for making this.

  • @giovanmorabonilla6400
    @giovanmorabonilla6400 26 днів тому +6

    As a Christian, it is totally normal and should be encouraged to question your faith. Just because you have questions or it becomes difficult does not mean you're any less a Christian. I am so sorry that you had to go through that❤️

  • @kingofweird1
    @kingofweird1 Місяць тому +81

    Ex-mormon here. I relate very heavily with your story. I felt so guilty for being who I was because you can't be gay or trans in that religion. I'd try my best to not cry in the chapel. I eventually left, and I'm atheist because of what's happened. Religious trauma isn't easy- never was. Thank you for posting something about this- genuinely.

    • @fuzzyshark7513
      @fuzzyshark7513 Місяць тому +2

      You’re allowed to be gay, just not act on it 🤷‍♀️

    • @faeriee_soup
      @faeriee_soup Місяць тому +26

      @@fuzzyshark7513they just said they no longer have that religion so they don’t have to follow that rule..

    • @Quinn-he3vn
      @Quinn-he3vn Місяць тому +22

      ​@fuzzyshark7513 That basically means you can't be gay lmao. Idk what logic you're following

    • @fuzzyshark7513
      @fuzzyshark7513 26 днів тому +1

      @@Quinn-he3vn there’s a difference between having the feelings vs actually going out and doing stuff. Like, not dating anyone doesn’t mean you’re any less gay

    • @fuzzyshark7513
      @fuzzyshark7513 26 днів тому +2

      @@faeriee_soup I meant “you” as a general term, yk? Like “people” not him specifically

  • @ChioChompi
    @ChioChompi Місяць тому +119

    It's interesting to hear communion is earned in some other churches! I used to go to church with my family when I was pretty young, and communion was done every day for everyone. The more you know! ✨

    • @supotter377
      @supotter377 Місяць тому +17

      Yeah thats wild to me since even first time visitors were given communion at the one I went to

    • @amberballard90s
      @amberballard90s Місяць тому +3

      At my church you can have communion once your baptized.😊

    • @saturnthemirrorball
      @saturnthemirrorball 29 днів тому +4

      I grew up catholic and once I was baptised, I got to join communion! Illy’s journey sounds so overwhelming to me as an autistic person, im glad my church was kind and welcoming.

    • @RileyJenkins-w8n
      @RileyJenkins-w8n 24 дні тому +1

      Yeah, in my church we have communion every once in a while. Although we encourage first time visitors to engage, we also make sure that they do it because of their personal faith, not religious pressure. Also, Jesus loves you!!

  • @Day_Star8
    @Day_Star8 Місяць тому +5

    You always release videos when I'm feeling at my lowest and teach me sm about life. Im so grateful to you and this channel and for being open about your experiences all of which ive heavily related too. Thank you so much Ilyssa

  • @lelouch344
    @lelouch344 Місяць тому +109

    Anybody who teaches children that they have to "earn" their faith or the love the God has the story all wrong. Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. Your doubt will never make you less valuable to God. You are loved. ❤

  • @TinyCatSpoons
    @TinyCatSpoons Місяць тому +96

    Religious trauma sounds really tough. I have no experience with it as my parents are both secular but holy smokes the damage this can do is criminal.

    • @TheRomanSkull
      @TheRomanSkull 28 днів тому

      @@TinyCatSpoons wait the smoke is what now??? (Sorry I had to)

    • @RileyJenkins-w8n
      @RileyJenkins-w8n 24 дні тому

      Jesus loves you so so so much!!!

  • @artysmartyzz3102
    @artysmartyzz3102 16 днів тому +5

    If someone tells you to stop asking questions and to just believe and follow them, run.

  • @bellabunnyy
    @bellabunnyy Місяць тому +147

    Well, as an (ex) catholic myself, this video are soooo relatable, I was also pressured to do an confirmation, anxiety, and coincidentally or not, I was also bullied in 6th grade… So, basically, it’s also religious trauma lol, adults shouldn’t force their faith into their children like that, this only makes them more resentful about religion, thanks for this video illy, and I’m sorry for what happened to u, stay safe

    • @KarenTravis-u8s
      @KarenTravis-u8s Місяць тому +4

      I don't have that much religious trauma but I got lucky with my confirmation teacher he's my friends dad and he's hilarious.

    • @eveningjaguar
      @eveningjaguar Місяць тому +2

      Same. I’m extremely resentful of Christianity and most if not all Christians I meet

    • @micellaragua
      @micellaragua Місяць тому +2

      @@eveningjaguarthat’s harsh

    • @eveningjaguar
      @eveningjaguar Місяць тому +1

      @@micellaragua Too bad

    • @graece5948
      @graece5948 Місяць тому +4

      Wasn’t Jesus’s whole thing about being kind?

  • @WeAllWumbo25
    @WeAllWumbo25 Місяць тому +50

    It’s nice to know I’m not the only one out there struggling. I’m struggling with my faith for very different reasons, but it’s nice to know I’m not alone. Appreciate everyone still figuring it out like me💜

    • @DashieDe
      @DashieDe Місяць тому +3

      Virtual hugs🫂💛

    • @RileyJenkins-w8n
      @RileyJenkins-w8n 24 дні тому

      I pray God will get you through this season. You are not alone, I struggle a lot too. God has gotten me through all the seasons of life, I know He can and will do the same for you!

    • @EzLagz
      @EzLagz 21 день тому

      It alwayss sucks when I see someone turn away from Christ due to trauma. I'm to shy to tell people Christianty is about having a relationship with Christ and not go to church listen and do what is said.

  • @mercedesswan7205
    @mercedesswan7205 2 дні тому +1

    Honestly, yeah! Those questions are very valid! I wish you had someone who would’ve answered them for you as a child.
    I’m a Non Denominational Christian, and school can be hard as a child Christian. Like, who am I supposed to believe?
    My dad told me that when in school, I don’t have to believe everything they teach me, as long as I learn it. That really helped me growing up.

  • @Bandit2Cool
    @Bandit2Cool Місяць тому +54

    Just got the worst news of my life and this genuinely made my day

    • @charlesberry3677
      @charlesberry3677 Місяць тому +16

      I'm sorry to hear you didn't receive the best news. Hopefully, your day gets better

    • @TaylorCharlie
      @TaylorCharlie Місяць тому +8

      Sending so much love and comfort to you 💕💕.

    • @banebriggs7486
      @banebriggs7486 Місяць тому +2

      Sorry to hear that

    • @40Ccents
      @40Ccents Місяць тому +2

      @@banebriggs7486 unrelated, but bfdi pfp?!

    • @banebriggs7486
      @banebriggs7486 Місяць тому +1

      @@40Ccents yup, BFDIA 1

  • @izaiahcunningham5882
    @izaiahcunningham5882 Місяць тому +123

    I agree with you. I've always said that it's okay to question your religion or to want to know, why you do said religion. The inventions that were made weren't so they can be all normal. It was so they can question and learn about them.

  • @karolwithaz
    @karolwithaz 29 днів тому +4

    Thank you for making this video because although this topic is controversial, it is good to see it being addressed since it is common but not often talked about.

  • @Mayo_Jared
    @Mayo_Jared Місяць тому +96

    7:29 king in the background made me so happy😭🫶

    • @RexTheT-Rex
      @RexTheT-Rex Місяць тому +4

      I WAS WAIT FOR SOMEONE TO SEE HIM SHE DREW HIM SO CUTELY

  • @sumn_like_that.1454
    @sumn_like_that.1454 Місяць тому +27

    6:32 I felt all this too hard. When I was younger and at communion school, i felt the same way. Difference was that I didn't have any friends because I didnt know (still dont) how to talk to people (because I am possibly autistic). I wasn't bullied, but never felt welcomed. I appreciate all of your stories, they make me feel less alone.

  • @stargirlss8708
    @stargirlss8708 27 днів тому +2

    I felt so heard. Thank you for this video. I'm litterly am crying right now because of how much you reached me lol. I do believe I have experienced religious trauma and feel like I understand myself more from this video. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. ❤

  • @spiceupyourafterlife
    @spiceupyourafterlife Місяць тому +47

    I remember questioning my faith when I reached my teens because I saw so much cruelty happening in the name of Christianity and being a neurodivergent queer girl coming to terms with her sexuality and experiencing a lot of pent up anger from being bullied and emotionally abused, I thought that my natural feelings would send me to hell. This feeling gave me even more anxiety than I was already experiencing. I left the church when I was fifteen and now my spiritual beliefs lean more towards the Pagan side, which always made more sense to me.

  • @mariedufore8795
    @mariedufore8795 Місяць тому +65

    I remember that my school had a field trip to the police station (wow very fun 🙄) and we passed the church school for a shortcut, but then a teacher and nun yelled at us for “trespassing” my dad said that it was ironic because there is a line in the Bible that says to forgive “trespassers”

    • @philippeparvais284
      @philippeparvais284 26 днів тому

      Plus, that church is probably built on stolen land talk about trespassing

  • @-patpat-7805
    @-patpat-7805 14 днів тому

    As someone else who grew up very anxious and always doubting her faith, thank you for making this video. You are so right when you say that it always seems like no one else shares your doubts/fears, and it feels like everyone’s got it figured out except for you, when that’s not the case.

  • @Detectivecomics150
    @Detectivecomics150 Місяць тому +38

    I have adhd, I am Jewish, grew up Christian I had trouble too and feel it glad we have so much in common glad I am not alone

    • @Detectivecomics150
      @Detectivecomics150 Місяць тому +6

      As for what my religious trauma was me finding myself and coming out the closet and finding out that Christianity is very anti gay

    • @Detectivecomics150
      @Detectivecomics150 Місяць тому +6

      Luckly I found out my Jewish heritage and found out that I didn't need Christianity but not to give up on religion at all

    • @niamhturner1451
      @niamhturner1451 Місяць тому +1

      so you're Christian... not jewish

  • @Pepperoni.Pizza.Box22
    @Pepperoni.Pizza.Box22 Місяць тому +54

    Growing up autistic and in the church, life was rough. Mass never held my attention, and I never got to participate in the sacraments because of home things. I’m now out of Catholic school and no longer with the church, but happy.

    • @ianbuick8946
      @ianbuick8946 28 днів тому

      Can you define happiness?

    • @Pepperoni.Pizza.Box22
      @Pepperoni.Pizza.Box22 23 дні тому +1

      I don’t feel the weight of being condemned to hell for loving who I love.

    • @ianbuick8946
      @ianbuick8946 22 дні тому +1

      @@Pepperoni.Pizza.Box22 No. That's the definition for guilt.

    • @Pepperoni.Pizza.Box22
      @Pepperoni.Pizza.Box22 21 день тому +1

      @ I don’t appreciate a random stranger on the internet telling me what I’m feeling. You don’t know my body or mind, sorry to break that to you.

    • @ianbuick8946
      @ianbuick8946 20 днів тому +1

      ​@@Pepperoni.Pizza.Box22 I agree. Your feeling is your responsibility, no one else is responsible for your feeling. On the other hand, if you want to elevate to a more mature conversation, we can stick to facts no matter if it make us feel uncomfortable.

  • @marzgamingmaster
    @marzgamingmaster Місяць тому +85

    5:05 Oh dear. I know pretty much exactly where the "maybe the church will fill in the gaps!" Train goes. :(

  • @АндрейБобров-ь5у
    @АндрейБобров-ь5у Місяць тому +71

    I grew up as Orthodox Christian and I never needed an examination pass in order to attend Communion! The more you know huh, it's very interesting actually

    • @illymation
      @illymation  Місяць тому +47

      it's so interesting to learn how others do it!

    • @Trix_starz
      @Trix_starz Місяць тому +8

      @@illymationi grew up as nothing!! :D when I found out that Christians got to drink wine under the drinking age my mind was blown😭

    • @micellaragua
      @micellaragua Місяць тому +10

      @@Trix_starzit’s not usually alcoholic wine

    • @PlanetElsonYT
      @PlanetElsonYT Місяць тому +1

      @@illymationhi ;-3

    • @nightwalker9875
      @nightwalker9875 Місяць тому

      @@Trix_starzif it makes you feel better; I never got wine when I was a Christian. I got grape juice to go with a cracker

  • @LiseniMqala
    @LiseniMqala Місяць тому +17

    I'm so lucky my church taught me truthfully and welcomed all questions I'm so blessed

    • @AlexanderNayebi
      @AlexanderNayebi 21 день тому

      Yes you are. God bless you. It's a shame the way some Churches in the US kill the faith of young people. Having questions answered in an intellectually satisfactory way will grow faith.

  • @CoupleOfNerds_YT_channel
    @CoupleOfNerds_YT_channel Місяць тому +181

    I questioned my religion when I was told people I knew who were not straight were going to hell and deserved it. I renounced my religion when my friend killed himself and I was told he was going to hell and deserved it.
    This was when I was in middle school and have no regrets.

    • @mignonne_
      @mignonne_ Місяць тому +11

      Bro what? If your friend killed yourself and people said he deserved it why you blaming it on Jesus?

    • @pohmot9933
      @pohmot9933 Місяць тому +72

      ​@@mignonne_ he's not blaming jesus he's blaming the faith for forcing his friend into that situation to begin with.

    • @nightwalker9875
      @nightwalker9875 Місяць тому +41

      @@mignonne_also they didn’t say what religion they deconverted from

    • @Pancakes-n-Waffles168
      @Pancakes-n-Waffles168 Місяць тому +13

      Oh gosh.
      I'm so sorry for your friend and you, I hoe you're doing okay now

    • @CoupleOfNerds_YT_channel
      @CoupleOfNerds_YT_channel Місяць тому +10

      @@nightwalker9875 Christianity

  • @exposedshadowstruth5926
    @exposedshadowstruth5926 Місяць тому +213

    1:04 what's wrong with asking these questions?

    • @epicjker
      @epicjker Місяць тому +46

      Yeah they kinda need explanations

    • @QUBIQUBED
      @QUBIQUBED Місяць тому +1

      Religion doesn't like it when you point out its flaws.
      Therefore, it's elders, who are all indoctrinated, tell you to "just have faith" aka, "just shut up."

    • @alicehodges9964
      @alicehodges9964 Місяць тому +9

      ​​@@QUBIQUBEDI'd Point Out it's Flaws About Why Some Religions Foolishly Believe The Earth Is 60.Thousend Years Old When The Earth is Actually 4.543 Billion Years Old 😁 So Ha

    • @ImNotEnoch
      @ImNotEnoch Місяць тому +12

      There nothing wrong with asking those questions. You can find it in the Bible

    • @exposedshadowstruth5926
      @exposedshadowstruth5926 Місяць тому +20

      @@ImNotEnoch but what if these questions aren't answered in the Bible?

  • @LsOneAndOnly
    @LsOneAndOnly 29 днів тому +2

    This is honestly very reliable and nice to know other people deal with the same things

    • @josephg755
      @josephg755 17 днів тому

      Have you had a religious trauma?

  • @Mister_Shoe
    @Mister_Shoe Місяць тому +137

    Even tho I'm an ex-Muslim and have no affiliation with Christianity whatsoever, this was so fucking relatable. I wish no one would ever have to endure such hardship, to lose sight of who they are just because of some ancient stories that people of the time made to make up for their lack of knowledge. But we all know that wish is never coming true

    • @notgeniepenne
      @notgeniepenne Місяць тому +3

      What made u leave Islam (genuine question)? And I’m sorry u had to go through whatever trauma u went through and just know it doesn’t represent Islam. 🫶🏻

    • @Mister_Shoe
      @Mister_Shoe Місяць тому +8

      @@notgeniepenne Also, what happened to me does represent Muslims and therefore Islam. Otherwise, there wouldn't be so many ex-Muslims.

    • @notgeniepenne
      @notgeniepenne Місяць тому +3

      @@Mister_Shoe this is actually my first encounter with an ex Muslim but if u don’t mind me asking what experience led u to leave Islam?

    • @TheBigJayAgenda
      @TheBigJayAgenda Місяць тому +11

      @@notgeniepenne Probably the fact Muslim women are forced to cover up and are clearly less than their husbands

    • @SunlitPetals
      @SunlitPetals 29 днів тому

      ​@@TheBigJayAgendaI'm sorry, but muslim women aren't forced to cover up.

  • @MissCassieCrochets
    @MissCassieCrochets Місяць тому +66

    Growing up as an autistic person, I always wanted to learn about my religion and pray but when I see people going to church even my grandparents I always thought “How do I pray or what I can say to God if I mess up on what I tell him?” And to this day I still have trouble praying or figuring out what I want to do or what to believe. But my dad told me one day that he doesn’t have a religion. He only believes the Bible by the book itself. And he told me ‘it will take time and patience, even if it takes years’.

    • @-V0rtx-
      @-V0rtx- Місяць тому +9

      amen !! I have a suggestion for praying though, if you ever don't know what do to. A good way is to read the psalms, and pray them back to God. That may sound a little weird, but the Psalms were originally prayers themselves. You basically just read the words back to God, but in your own voice, thinking of your own hardships or triumphs.

    • @micellaragua
      @micellaragua Місяць тому +3

      @@-V0rtx-I might start doing that, that’s so smart

  • @usure-i3e
    @usure-i3e 6 днів тому +4

    Making it to heaven is not about religion, it’s about giving your life to God and following him faithfully and true.

    • @Dhshevhsusjzns
      @Dhshevhsusjzns День тому

      And if I don't, I'll go to hell because I didn't have enough faith. "If you don't love me, I'll send you to hell," says the ALL LOVING GOD.

  • @mixedberryfebreeze3844
    @mixedberryfebreeze3844 Місяць тому +52

    I’m no longer religious after having very similar experiences as you and this made me feel so seen. Thanks for sharing your experience with us

    • @sonicthehedgehog1606
      @sonicthehedgehog1606 Місяць тому +4

      I'm sorry about that. Jesus still loves you thi

    • @vinx.909
      @vinx.909 29 днів тому +4

      @@sonicthehedgehog1606 if that's true he can start to show it, not have other proclaim it.

    • @sonicthehedgehog1606
      @sonicthehedgehog1606 28 днів тому +1

      @@vinx.909 he already did. He died for us. Is that not enough?

    • @aiyanahamilton8023
      @aiyanahamilton8023 27 днів тому +1

      @@sonicthehedgehog1606people are still suffering and your god still hasn’t done anything.Dying for our sins didn’t do anything so no it’s not enough

    • @ZiggyZero_
      @ZiggyZero_ 27 днів тому

      @@sonicthehedgehog1606 he died knowing he would come back though the whole point of dying is that it's forever he cheated death

  • @iamgholden
    @iamgholden Місяць тому +69

    Taboo is the biggest evil of the world. All things should be talked about and communication is the key to all kinds of health. As someone who is currently suffering from religious trauma, not because doubts but because of the hatred and ostracizing I'd suffer if I ever break the perfect child mold I built to show my true colors (gay christian alert), I wish nothing but the best in the same or worse situations. Amazing video, Illy! :)

    • @rommix0
      @rommix0 Місяць тому +1

      > Taboo is the biggest evil of the world.
      Yet those Christian people were stupid enough to elect someone evil as president. Get the irony?

    • @liz_violet
      @liz_violet Місяць тому +6

      bro, hope you can break that mold too (also still in the closet)!

  • @elyser
    @elyser Місяць тому +150

    As a teen who’s just trying to discover their religion, this video helped me so much to realize i’m not alone in this. I’ve only had my sister, who’s also new to Christianity, help me learn about my faith. And not having a well developed relationship with her has made it really difficult and awkward for me.
    Thank you so much for sharing your experience ❤✝️
    Thank you so much for the support!!! 💙

    • @ilove_seungmin
      @ilove_seungmin Місяць тому +22

      i’ll pray for you ❤️ following God isn’t easy, but it’s so worth it. even if your prayers aren’t answered immediately, they always will be answered eventually. i’m so happy you’re broadening your horizons and i hope that you can find some kind people within the church instead of ones that make you feel the opposite of God’s love. God bless you

    • @lovethemiracles
      @lovethemiracles Місяць тому +18

      @@ilove_seungminfollowing god isn’t worth it for everyone, it’s traumatic for so many people

    • @P3rplexify
      @P3rplexify Місяць тому

      navigate carefully, you may come across toxic churches spreading hateful beliefs that may send you on the wrong path, whatever that may be.

    • @liz_violet
      @liz_violet Місяць тому +1

      i really hope you find your own version of the faith!

    • @jakeoftrades
      @jakeoftrades Місяць тому +1

      I would recommend looking at Taoism/Daoism. They're both an interesting philosophy and religion.

  • @FinnTheSeawing
    @FinnTheSeawing Місяць тому +6

    guad damn, those backgrounds are so, so beautiful. Love this. Thank you for blessing me this fine day, illy

  • @katierenee5699
    @katierenee5699 29 днів тому +1

    Thanks for making this video. IT really is important for people to know

  • @bladenskid4996
    @bladenskid4996 Місяць тому +16

    I would go to church when I was younger, but now as someone who doesn’t believe in Christian religion and doesn’t attend, I’m glad for the small community we have. I still go to the Brunswick stew making every year to give to the community, despite me no longer believing.

  • @abikalin
    @abikalin Місяць тому +16

    Illy, thank you so much. This is the kind of video I needed. I’ve always felt displaced in the Christian community, it’s why I left. You’ve given me visibility I’ve been searching for all my life. Thank you ♥️

  • @nuclearmudking7497
    @nuclearmudking7497 18 днів тому +3

    The fear aspect in religion is a real issue man. Great video

    • @josephg755
      @josephg755 17 днів тому

      But it's also a logical side! I mean... if there is a powerful God... what if he gets angry and takes revenge?

    • @lizzie2157
      @lizzie2157 11 днів тому

      @@josephg755this is the dumbest thing I’ve ever seen

    • @josephg755
      @josephg755 10 днів тому

      @@lizzie2157
      in Qur'an ((Know that Allah is severe in penalty and that Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.))

  • @KorokGang323
    @KorokGang323 Місяць тому +35

    You posted! Im so happy❤

  • @billcipher4368
    @billcipher4368 Місяць тому +86

    13:50 I know this might sound random but by pure chance the video's URL's *nXLTlyimGAY* which is a fun coincidence .

    • @_Mayoz_
      @_Mayoz_ Місяць тому +22

      Of course bill cipher would know that

    • @vfhjsrtjsrtj35dzg
      @vfhjsrtjsrtj35dzg Місяць тому +4

      Haha true :D

    • @south452
      @south452 Місяць тому +20

      WHAT THE HELL IT IS ??? Congrats on the URL for coming out, I’m so proud of it :D

    • @Raggy_df
      @Raggy_df Місяць тому +6

      thanks for that, Bill Cipher.

    • @fghsgh
      @fghsgh 26 днів тому +1

      was waiting for someone to notice this!

  • @greenbanana1001
    @greenbanana1001 Місяць тому +59

    I love your videos your my comfort channel they really help me through my bpd outbursts and depression please keep making videos , love from England ❤️

  • @mvrzvq
    @mvrzvq Місяць тому +15

    ive grown up catholic and im going to confirm in 1 year (we confirm at 10th grade) ive questioned my faith for so long and im still confused abt it. im like holding on for my parents but im so glad knowing someone else has felt really confused and stuck about religion

    • @nlogic5153
      @nlogic5153 29 днів тому +1

      Trust me man. The Catholic Church is where it's at. If you have questions I recommend you go to Catholic answers or to ask your priest. Christ is king. God bless you ✝️

  • @elite3DIY
    @elite3DIY 19 днів тому

    Thank you so much for this. I suffered from Religious Trauma and these outlets helped me learn and heal as much as I can.

  • @MasonTheYoung
    @MasonTheYoung Місяць тому +49

    As someone who is Christian, it’s sad to hear about the religious trauma so many people have

  • @thattoastfreak887
    @thattoastfreak887 Місяць тому +14

    Both me and my friend used to go to church when we were 6. We are both 22 now and we both have religious trauma. Hers was caused by really bad rumors about her family and mine is more life/ other Christians beliefs that are more harsh. We both stepped away and we are happier because of it

  • @rainbowville826
    @rainbowville826 26 днів тому +2

    I quite liked this video once again you managed to speak my feelings. I’m dealing with a lot of religious trauma right now and it’s hard, but this has made me feel better about it.❤

  • @crystaltheweirdpotato
    @crystaltheweirdpotato Місяць тому +36

    I literally have been binging your videos recently and also watched ur Jewish video yesterday

    • @josephg755
      @josephg755 17 днів тому

      I was about to mention this! Is she Christian or Jewish!?

  • @alicebthegachaweirdo8378
    @alicebthegachaweirdo8378 Місяць тому +116

    I’m so glad my family aren’t religious.
    Edit: By the way, I don’t have anything against religious.

    • @Trix_starz
      @Trix_starz Місяць тому +30

      Same somewhat, Ive seen my friends get scolded at for getting bad grades cause they didn’t “pray hard enough” like.. what the shit.

    • @KarenTravis-u8s
      @KarenTravis-u8s Місяць тому +4

      ​@@Trix_starz oh gosh that... yeah

    • @KarenTravis-u8s
      @KarenTravis-u8s Місяць тому +5

      I'm christian and I don't have anything against atheism.

    • @SDguyGnB
      @SDguyGnB Місяць тому +3

      Same I am thankful that my family where so accepting even though they were not religious Btw I love the morals of religions

    • @animeartist888
      @animeartist888 Місяць тому +5

      My mother tried to make me religious, but it really didn't work. I'm glad she wasn't so deep into it that she would force me to attend church every week or I might've legitimately gone to some pretty desperate measures to escape.

  • @rarz1014
    @rarz1014 2 дні тому

    Thank you for this video! I grew up Mormon (Latter-Day Saint) and I had a very similar experience. I’m glad this video is out there.

  • @sandy_shark
    @sandy_shark Місяць тому +11

    I’ve had fear of hell since childhood too, you are not alone.

  • @totallyadvancedgaming
    @totallyadvancedgaming Місяць тому +67

    Smooth transition XD 1:29

  • @Smile-qd9jl
    @Smile-qd9jl 19 годин тому

    Illy,you have told so many stories that most people can say.including me! Thank you for telling your story and saying my story when I’m not able too! :)

  • @Aarons_adhd
    @Aarons_adhd Місяць тому +34

    I was littoraly just watching illymation as this came out!!!!

    • @rommix0
      @rommix0 Місяць тому +3

      *literally

  • @sonicfreak04
    @sonicfreak04 Місяць тому +12

    I was always afraid that no matter what i did, when I died, I would go to hell. But as I got older I found comfort in realizing that to me god and religion wasn't real.

    • @Bunny_Bill
      @Bunny_Bill Місяць тому +4

      Same. With or without the church, I was going to hell. May as well live this life happily if my soul is to be destroyed later.

  • @Avian_1
    @Avian_1 27 днів тому

    Hi Illy, I've been watching your videos for almost two years now, and as I am currently 12 years old, I have related to a lot of your videos about middle school bullies and growing up as a girl.
    But this one genuinely made me cry. I did not know how much I needed to see this. I know that sounds kind of stupid from a random stranger on the internet, but thank you for sharing your stories so I (And many others) don't feel so alone.

  • @metalsonic3845
    @metalsonic3845 Місяць тому +73

    Skip sponsorship 3:06

  • @AylaCourtney
    @AylaCourtney Місяць тому +4

    Even though I don't have any of these beliefs I still loved this video! I love all your videos you can make anything interesting

  • @micaloveslimes1141
    @micaloveslimes1141 29 днів тому +3

    I’m so glad you made this video. I would’ve loved to see this when I struggling over 5 years ago. I’m 17 now and an atheist, but this video rlly hits hard 😭

    • @josephg755
      @josephg755 17 днів тому

      please tell me about it