The Problem with the TradWife Trend | TradWife vs Modern Woman & How TradWives are NOT Feminine
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- Опубліковано 8 вер 2024
- We’re analyzing the problem with the TradWife trend, tradwife vs modern woman, tradwives vs feminist, how tradwives are not feminine and are actually in very masculine energy, and how they make false promises about marriage and lifestyle… and how this has become a fetish and of models are making money off this trend.
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as an arab woman, tradwife lifestyle is a common thing, all women around who got married live that life, to me it's depressing and hard and time consuming. and once you do that men tend to treat you like a maid and make it feel like it's your entire purpose in life to just cook and clean. this life or aesthetic or whatever you wanna call it is not for me but more power to who ever wants it
Thank you. As an African woman, this has been my thought throughout this whole trend.
Yes, in many cultures this is definitely the norm. I’m always happy to hear when women make the decision that feels best for them🙌🏻
This, although once prevalent, is slowly dying down in most arab societies. All women work but eventually some choose to stay at home (usually after the 5th child😭). Idk ur experience or what kind of arab you are but overall most of us have help at home so being a trad wife is basically about looking pretty and spending time with the kids. Although not necessarily radically feminist, i don’t think it impacts the marriage dynamic much.
I think a traditional housewife should be a model of feminine strength, a haven of the heart for all members of the household, a muse for the family and not at all submissive.
Feminine power: Creative, playful, imaginative and full of joy and love of life.💛💛💛
These social media tradwifes try to become feminine through masculine energy, unintentionally weird...
Very good, how you saw through it.💛
Thank you so much for watching and sharing your thoughts ❤️
The stereotypical housewives of the 50s are just idealizations based on media depictions of the time. They're not realistic. Not everyone lived like the Nelsons or the Cleavers during the 50s. My grandma was a housewife during the 50s and 60s. She was also the wife of a poor itinerant farm worker and had six kids. They often lived in houses without electricity and running water. She often cooked with wood-burning stoves and did laundry with washboards. She sometimes even had to kill chickens with her bare hands to prepare dinner. The "good old days" weren't good for everyone!
Very true! It can be easy to idealize the past when the reality was very different
Didn't she not work outside of the home as well? Both my grandmas were poor af and they had to. The children would stay alone at home.
@@nevergiveup9937 Well, she also did some farm labor. Sometimes the whole family (including the kids) picked cotton to support the family. It wasn't until after my grandpa died that the family became more settled down. After my grandma was widowed at the age of 41, she trained as a nurse's aide and worked in the local hospital for over 20 years.
Honestly, the most dishonest thing about this type of content-they aren't actually trad wives- they are working women who make content on social media. They are telling their audience of women to stay at home and rely on a man for income, yet the make money and receive PR for home goods, clothing, skin care, etc. My ideal situation would be work part time 2x3 days a week for my own savings/spending money. Even if you marry a good man, people can change (or die or become disabled) and life has a funny way of surprising you when you least expect it. Always have your own stash 💰💰💰
EXACTLY!!! The minute they start making money off their lifestyle it completely changes the lifestyle
Ngl when you said cooking with feminine energy is all over the damn place that made me feel good LOLLLL, because ive beat myself up over not being organized
We all need both energies to get through life, so any task will need some Masculine structure… but Feminine energy needs to move and flow and will feel suffocated if she’s too controlled or restricted
I'm sort of trad, in that I stay home with our child and we homeschool and we grow our own VERY modest vegetable garden and I make all the meals and do all the housework. However, in the group of homeschool moms I hang with, also all of whom stay at home with their kids, we all discuss how no one ever talks about how messy your house ALWAYS is because everyone who can make a mess is always home. And let's not even talk about how we look because we don't have time to ourselves to work on hair and makeup and fashion. I really hope no one is actually buying this heavily romanticized version of being stay-at-home because even though it's a blessing to be able to see my son and hang out with him everyday, and to work from home and not commute (I and other stay-at-home moms still have jobs that pay us that we're able to do from home), there are still downsides like only showering once a week or having shirts that have permanent stains and are almost a decade old. 😆 I wouldn't trade it, though - time with your kids is fleeting and is the most precious time there is.
Love that you found what works for you and what you truly feel called to do!🙌🏻
Service is masculine energy 🤯
But man-children what women to think the opposite
@@Everydaystarlet PHEW. My mind is going a million miles a minute. This is profound. The comment section feels limiting on how I want to express my thoughts, but know something major clicked.
Great video. I am surprised when people get so angry at Nara Smith. I thought it was pretty obvious she’s purposely exaggerating. Of course no toddler is waiting 3+ hours for a grilled cheese 😂
She’s an influencer so of course she has to make it provocative and entertaining
I love that people can define what they want their marriage to look like. They are just taking concepts from the traditional days while giving it a modern twist which is great. That’s what feminism gave us, the ability to create what we want. To find ways of working and bringing in money while still having time for our family.
The women angry at this need to work on their self esteem in my opinion. Wanting other people to not post a video just because it’s unattainable for you sounds crazy
I guess the bigger question is what responsibility do “influencers” have to their audience as far as authenticity, and reality. The more extreme content gets more engagement (which often makes more money), but at what cost to society because it could be presenting a very dangerous message or influencing people to chase an unattainable goal or lifestyle. This isn’t specifically about TradWives, but creators in general
I find it interesting how the religious women and tradwives are expected to do the little girl voices. When you watch TV shows and movies from the 50s and 60s, the housewife characters never talked like that. That all talked like grown women!
The obsession with little girls started in the 60s when women’s liberation started. Before that female sex symbols, while young, looked like grown women. But then a shift happened. They go into that in the Brooke Shields documentary
For each his or her own. For me in this day and age being a 100% stay at home mom with 100% financial dependency on anyone is a scary position to be in . Even if I maintain part time employment. I must have something that I earn on my own.
Nothing is forever, especially marriages these days. What if my husband leaves me? It's important to keep in mind we don't divorce the same person we marry. A whole different person will show up during the divorce. No one goes into to marriage thinking they will get divorced; However, divorces are happening every day.
What if my husband dies prematurely and I have no job skills and no work experience? What if he turns out to be an abusive and now I have this force dependency with no where to go and way to financially care for me or my children?
For me, I am just not comfortable taking that kind of chance with the lives or me or children.
It’s a scary situation in this day and age for sure!
I'm with the tradwives. My wife and I have lived this way for 16 years now (13 with a son) and we're both very glad we did. I think people just assume it's impossible/unrealistic because it takes a great deal of effort for a man or woman to live in accordance with traditional gender roles and norms. Effort that a lot of people really struggle with putting in.
There is a big difference between being a traditional SAHM and these TradWives and their content. In fact, the minute these TradWives started making money as influencers then are no longer “traditional”.
@@Everydaystarlet If you're traditional and you're a wife, you're a traditional wife (what "tradwife" stands for). And there's nothing about being a traditional wife that says you can't earn income, so long as you are not neglecting your presumed role of homemaker.
Also to clarify, a stay-at-home mom is just a mom that stays home. She may or may not cook or clean much, and she may not believe it's her role as the wife to be there. Tradwives cook, clean, and believe it's their role to be primarily at home.
Cooking and cleaning aren’t “traditional” they are normal life skills.
@@Nithinithinith While that's technically correct, the expectation for wives to do most of the cooking and cleaning is a traditional gender role. That's what the whole conversation is about: should we have expectations like that based on gender.
I watched a video of a woman making her husband brownies from scratch, it took like 2 or 3 weeks to make from the day he asked for it. It was a lot of work for something so simple. Some TradWife creators give off the ‘I am better than you’ vibe but I don’t get that same energy from SAHM or TradWives I know irl.
TradWife content appeals to more men than women imo. It tries to appeal to young women almost in a ‘look what you life could be if you had a husband’ energy but that’s not realistic. These women creating this content have jobs but the way they portray it makes it seem they live the easiest life ever.
EXACTLY!!!🙌🏻
What do you think of the TradWife trend?
It works for some couples if the man does make enough to support the wife and kids however that’s rare! But I hate the term anyways because traditionally lots of women did work whether they were single or married because they had to just to survive. Hell, even kids worked for some period of time in the past but almost nobody wants to go back to that tradition. I’ve almost always worked throughout my adult life, including now (just a remote job so I can be on my phone), and as stressful as some of my jobs have been, I’d still rather make my own money and not be bored doing nothing but raise kids and do chores.
I find it off-putting and disingenuous. Even though I fully support stay at home mothers and traditional interests. But I do find some of them enjoyable to watch.
@@caseyjc5 it is definitely rare nowadays that this dynamic can work
It does a disservice to women. There are already stories about tradwives divorcing their husbands and being left poor and sometimes even homeless! It's never good to be completely financially dependent on another person, because it can always be taken away from you!
Those _trad wife_ influences are just sex workers who keep their clothes on. They're catering to domestic discipline fetishists.
I like Nara Smith because whether she’s authentic or not, she never claimed to be better than anyone and holds a trad-wife aesthetic rather than being a trad-wife irl. People projected their insecurities onto her so much just because she has time or claims to have time to make cereal from scratch. I never saw harm in it and whether she purposely does it, it’s not controversial to me because I see it as someone with an aesthetic showing some of their life and recipes. I think audiences need to realize that authenticity can’t be created 100% on the internet. I understand that most people don’t have the time to make things from scratch, but she has never claimed other people should have time and people still claim that she’s subliminally trying to make them jealous. I don’t know about other “trad-wives” though. I only watch her haha. I understand the backlash too though because it is an unrealistic expectation, but that’s why we all need to be more grounded in ourselves and reality
It is definitely important, especially in today’s day of social media, where we all get more grounded in ourselves
🎉🎉 the real femme bows to no-one 🎉🎉 .... Woww she spoke truth..
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I think Mormon is more a lifestyle than religion. Traditional wife is OK but personally I advocate for all women to have some sort of employment, whether it's self employment or stay at home. I have seen women go from millionaire lifestyle to sleeping in their cars with their kids. When your kids start going to school you have more time in the day get a skill or some education as insurance for yourself.
@@communitysolutionspro1520 it’s always best to be proactive and protect yourself
I was just about to say Stepford wives..right as she said it
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Tradwife is what we Mexicans have done for many generations. In my opinion this trend is a cry aloud to respect our tradicional values without feeling shame for our decisions to be stay at home mom. It’s is a stop to hyper feminist that see our lifestyle as slavery. It is empowering those who take pride of valuing our family and what we do for them.
Agreed.
The video is not a criticism of the lifestyle… I actually support traditional gender roles. But the TradWife content is selling a false reality of this lifestyle. The reality is, some SAHM are salves to their families, and women need to be careful of those situations. Also, being a SAHM is WORK, it’s not all glamorous. Plus, these TradWives are influencers making a lot of money on their content, so that are actually feminist/girlboss/career women disguised as “traditional women” and selling an unattainable lifestyle… not much different than the Kardashians
@@Everydaystarlet No one said that some stay-at-home moms aren't being abused or neglected. But one of the benefits of traditional marriage (as opposed to just being a stay-at-home spouse) is that both the husband and wife think traditionally (e.g., the husband is to provide for and protect the wife as well as love and honor her).
As for glamorizing things, every content creator does this despite the topic. But it's the *lifestyle* they're promoting; they're not saying it will look the same for everyone aesthetically.
And finally, there's nothing about being a tradwife that says you can't earn income. So long as you are prioritizing your role as homemaker, as is your presumed role as the wife, that's what matters.
@@Vic2point0 💯
@@Everydaystarlet and many women are slaved to their employers, barely seeing their families, and mostly paying their full salary to pay for child care. Yet society glamorizes careers over family. Everytime. Feeding young women the idea that career takes priority over family and has horribly back fired.
Content is content and everyone over does it too. I get it we need to get everything with a grain of salt, so let them do their content and take it as a form of entertainment. But at least I’m glad there could be content also promoting family over career and pride of being a SAHM