I literally just broke up with my ex last night because of this. The constant doubts, “is she good enough?“ “Am I satisfied?” “Does she make me truly happy?” “How do I feel when I kiss her?” And it just happened EVERYDAY and now that I don’t have her, I’m genuinely regretting it.
Same here. The constant doubting got so bad that I felt bad for who I was in a relationship with, it's not fair for them to be with someone that's doubting them so much, I felt (feel) like a jerk. And now I just doubt that I made the right decision
brother just to know rocd is awful maybe you break up and feel veryy goood and maybe you find a new girlfriend it will happen again after honeymoon phase.
I don't get it. What should love in a relationship even feel like? At times I enjoy being with them and doing what we do. At times I look into her eyes and her face and appreciate the beauty. At times I see that she is a wonderful person. But I doubt myself, "why am I not thinking about her right now? do I not love her enough? Is she the right person for me? Is she too much for me? Am I going crazy thinking about all this?" And that leaves me here. I don't know what to do about all this. I can't see past myself. "Am I enjoying this? Am I doubting myself? Why am I doubting myself?" and all the little times when I do feel in love with her, I don't, and I want to push her far away from me.
Man, thank you. I know I overthink and idk if I have OCD but this perspective lets me accept things instead of worrying about it. I came here because I've been overthinking my overthinking. 🤦♀️
Thank you so much for making this video! I have not tried to sit with the uncertainty before. When a doubt crops up, I feel I NEED to be reassured and my questions MUST be answered, or else I'm not doing myself justice. But maybe it's not a catastrophe if I don't get those answers. Maybe I can just sit with them and they'll pass on by? I am planning on trying this out!
There's some good ideas here, but there's something strange about the advice here. At 1:03 he says "I am unable to diagnose you" (that you have relationship OCD), "that is not going to happen here". And then at 07:29, he discourages people from a seeking general therapist for dealing with OCD, you need to find a therapist who is experienced with ERP for treating OCD. Isn't that jumping to the conclusion - i.e. that the person watching the video who is "constantly doubting their relationship" actually HAS relationship OCD, and needs to insist on a particular kind of treatment for it? What if that diagnosis isn't the reason for the reoccurring doubts, might there not be other appropriate appropriate treatment approaches?
If you have OCD that manifests in other areas of your life, then it makes sense that it's likely to affect your romantic relationships. If you DON'T have OCD that manifests in other areas of your life, then "relationship OCD" seems to me like jumping to very particular conclusions.
I literally just broke up with my ex last night because of this. The constant doubts, “is she good enough?“ “Am I satisfied?” “Does she make me truly happy?” “How do I feel when I kiss her?” And it just happened EVERYDAY and now that I don’t have her, I’m genuinely regretting it.
Same here. The constant doubting got so bad that I felt bad for who I was in a relationship with, it's not fair for them to be with someone that's doubting them so much, I felt (feel) like a jerk. And now I just doubt that I made the right decision
Same thing here, about to end it probably and I hope I don’t regret it
And how do you feel now one year later?
Did you found someone who you dont doubt so much?
brother just to know rocd is awful maybe you break up and feel veryy goood and maybe you find a new girlfriend it will happen again after honeymoon phase.
These same feelings of doubt and deciding the right path has now rxpanded for me past relationships to job change or not, and what city to live in
I don't get it. What should love in a relationship even feel like? At times I enjoy being with them and doing what we do. At times I look into her eyes and her face and appreciate the beauty. At times I see that she is a wonderful person. But I doubt myself, "why am I not thinking about her right now? do I not love her enough? Is she the right person for me? Is she too much for me? Am I going crazy thinking about all this?" And that leaves me here. I don't know what to do about all this. I can't see past myself. "Am I enjoying this? Am I doubting myself? Why am I doubting myself?" and all the little times when I do feel in love with her, I don't, and I want to push her far away from me.
Man, thank you. I know I overthink and idk if I have OCD but this perspective lets me accept things instead of worrying about it. I came here because I've been overthinking my overthinking. 🤦♀️
It's like my mind can't let me be happy ya know, like I'm making problems when there probably is none
Thank you so much for making this video! I have not tried to sit with the uncertainty before. When a doubt crops up, I feel I NEED to be reassured and my questions MUST be answered, or else I'm not doing myself justice. But maybe it's not a catastrophe if I don't get those answers. Maybe I can just sit with them and they'll pass on by? I am planning on trying this out!
FUCKKKK so good!!! hahah wow this is like comical how on point it is. Thank you for this! Damn
🤷🏽My ocd led me here 🤦♂️
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This is really insightful for me!
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thanks so much!!!
There's some good ideas here, but there's something strange about the advice here. At 1:03 he says "I am unable to diagnose you" (that you have relationship OCD), "that is not going to happen here". And then at 07:29, he discourages people from a seeking general therapist for dealing with OCD, you need to find a therapist who is experienced with ERP for treating OCD. Isn't that jumping to the conclusion - i.e. that the person watching the video who is "constantly doubting their relationship" actually HAS relationship OCD, and needs to insist on a particular kind of treatment for it? What if that diagnosis isn't the reason for the reoccurring doubts, might there not be other appropriate appropriate treatment approaches?
If you have OCD that manifests in other areas of your life, then it makes sense that it's likely to affect your romantic relationships. If you DON'T have OCD that manifests in other areas of your life, then "relationship OCD" seems to me like jumping to very particular conclusions.
Excellent video. These kinds of videos always bring hope to those of us with ROCD. Thank you!!
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I have OCD.