My favorite wedding is still a friend’s where all their friends and family gifted their talents as wedding gifts. The grooms friends played in a chamber orchestra and played at the event that was in the backyard of the couples new home. The brides parents and sister owned a nursery (plants) and planted beautiful flowers in the flowerbeds, their mutual friend. A judge, performed the ceremony and disposable cameras were set at each table for fun unscripted photos. The bride’s favorite photo, a closeup of a bumble bee taken by her 8 year old niece! That was over 30 years ago and they are still happily married.
I LOVE this idea!! It makes everything more intimate for everyone and their wedding day will always hold a special place in everyones hearts who participated. love love love this
My brother's wedding they had two friends as witnesses then hired a room above a pub and invited friends and family to join them and it was smart casual dress I wore a dress as I wanted to and our dad in a suit others some suit some smart jeans and top. One friend was a make up artist and another friend made the cake. You ordered your food if you wanted any downstairs. They wore a dress and a suit and looked beautiful. It was one of the best weddings I have ever and probably will ever go to and suited them as a couple perfectly.
That first story is absolutely bonkers!! When my wife and I got married, all I asked my bridesmaids to do was pick out their own dress (I gave them a color and let them find dresses they could afford! Everyone ended up with different shades of teal and we lined them up in an ombre! I thought it was so gorgeous!) and show up for the rehearsal and wedding! I knew they all had their own lives and that none of them had the money to spare. My matron of honor spent the entire day with me, and helped my mom and grandma set up the venue and take it down once the reception was over. I appreciated that so much because it wasn’t asked of her. We’re still best friends to this day ❤
@@standdownrobots_ihaveoldglory You are lucky to not have met the right people. I have and can tell you that it is believable. It may be fake, but not unrealistic. There was a woman in Israel, named Inbal Or, who is now a convicted criminal, and before that, a real-estate developer. The stories about her, from many unrelated sources, show her as just that. If one is making a story... Fine, two, sus, I have at least four, all making pretty much the same claims. You would think that it's a badly written character. But she is real.
That first story is insane is she rich or her friends Rich are they from like wealthy families cuz there is absolutely no way I don't care who it was I would go into tens of thousands of dollars worth of debt over a wedding
I did that, I said colour and suggested style and my sil sent me a selection she'd found. Next thing I know she told me she'd bought them, I said I was going to but she insisted.
My 3.5 yr old and I love watching your videos together. When you come on and say “hey everybody”. My daughter goes “Charlooootte” and stops whatever she’s doing to come watch with me lol
No offense, but do you really think this is child-appropriate content? I love Charlotte, but maybe this stuff isn't the best type of screen time for such a young child? But you do you, of course.
I was a bridesmaid in a dear friend's wedding. We all sewed our dresses. I did the bride's hair and makeup. Nice, simple wedding mass. My then husband played his guitar and sang. There was a reception afterward in the church hall. Prior to the wedding, the MOH (bride's sister) threw a shower at her home. Who needs more? The couple are still together happily, 5 children grown and in their 70s. Never start out a new life with financial debts and regrets from an extravagant wedding you can't afford!!!!
I've been married as of Dec 29, 2024 17 years. My wedding total spent was 4500. The most expensive purchase was my dress for 1200. We kept it small, my maid of honor and myself made a lot of the gifts and the table decor. Food was prepared by family. Used the Christmas theme etc. I am so happy we chose to stay small and a very manageable budget. We are still happily married.
@@gracehowell.Correlation doesn't equal causation. Also, I suggest you read the bulk of that study. It has nothing to do with the money you spend on the wedding and everything to do with the debt you accrue because of the wedding that will cause an early divorce. So meaning if a couple has the means and will not incur any debt and they spend a million dollars on their wedding they're not any more likely to get divorced than than any other couple. But let's say a couple spends $5,000 on their wedding and they charge it all on credit cards. That couple is more likely to get divorced than the couple who spent a million dollars but took on no debt. So it has nothing to do with how much money you spend and everything to do with how much debt you take on. I mean count me surprise Pikachu face that starting your life out in debt because of a party makes you more likely to get divorced. Why we needed to study on that, why we have to misquote it is beyond me.
The last bride-to-be is likely scamming her bridesmaids - on top of being an insufferable narcissist. She disclosed that she has brand-deals to cover a lot of the costs, yet demands their credit card info to pay for beauty boxes - which were likely products given via PR. #Run
This video made me want to insist to my nonexistent future spouse that we just go to the courthouse and then just do pizza and dessert afterwards (local ice cream shop or bakery). The absolute MADNESS of it all! How are these brides not embarrassed??
My son just got Married at the COURTHOUSE in NYC. The whole Ceremony took 4 minutes.. They hired a Professional Photographer and that’s that!! They’re having a small Wedding Reception in the Spring, for about 25 people… They’re saving for their Future….
Pizza is exactly what I want to do for my reception! Very few people don't like it, very few people can't eat it, it's cheap, and hopefully we'll be able to support a local pizza shop. Also kid friendly! What's not to like?
Upside of being an extreme introvert, I've never been invited to a wedding, nor have I ever been a bridesmaid. I use to think I was missing something but after watching all these vids I think I've dodged a bullet😆.
Time One & so far Last, I was a bridesmaid in my cousin's wedding to a lovely woman (from my little hometown) we introduced him to when he was staying there with his parents briefly. It was a wonderful, simple wedding and as I recall not demanding or expensive...just sweet & obviously what she'd dreamed of. It was a pleasure to be part of it. Another time, I played 'cello in the wedding of a lifetime friend. That was another wonderful give. I felt honored to be asked! What a joy to be a part of two such lovely ceremonies, with no stress or bridal entitlement.
Her character photo was in our local newspaper in the engagement announcements and I thought it was a joke, but apparently the actress was getting married in real life. I didn’t watch the show but when I spotted the outrageous makeup and hairstyle I pointed it out to a friend who not only watched the show but read all the Hollywood gossip so filled me in.
My brother got married in the Dominican Republic; I'm SO glad and grateful that my aunt was able to help us get there. It was SUPER fun and I'd never gone swimming in the ocean before! I loved it. Also, please remember, future brides and grooms ... you're supposed to have FUN with this. Ahem. Charlotte, dear, a couple of notes. Don't forget to stamp any mail you're sending out, and, um, if you need to sort out any sort of licenses etc (liquor license), make sure you do that AHEAD of two days before the wedding. Learn from my fail, LOL. Everything got sorted and I had a great time, but yeah. Oopsie!
I'm probably old enough to be your Mother Charlotte & I wish you all the joy in your upcoming wedding. I just celebrated my 37th Anniv. I eloped to Reno,NV & got married in a quaint little ceremony in front of a judge. His wife was our witness. It cost $30. I wore a pink denim 3 tiered lace up skirt, a white lace bustier, white Kmart pleather pumps, white lace anklets & white lace fingerless gloves with big Aqua Net ratted hair & big earrings. What can I say it was the 80s. I wish after all these years that I would of had a huge wedding with all the turmoil & reception insanity. I regret that. So even though it's stressful it will leave you with great memories. Good or bad it's all part of it. Just remember that it's your day. You will be a beautiful bride. BTW? We used the wedding $ to go on a beautiful CA coastal vacation & we vacation to those same places every anniv...
I’m an old person who has been to SO MANY weddings throughout the years and I certainly don’t remember the details of all of them. Bridezillas, no one cares about your wedding as much as you do. Your guests aren’t going to mark the occasion each year while sitting around, reminiscing about the great day, and looking at pictures of you in your dress. Let’s step back and have a little perspective, shall we?
They might actually look back on it in horror, l was bridesmaid to a bridezilla who acted like this, a pauper with a princess mindset and l look back on 2013 as the year we bridemaids all crash dieted and walked on eggshells, l was ordered to make a Ferrero Roche tree for the reception and l did it, God help me l did it !! We aren't friends anymore, obviously. Knawed myself out of that bear trap..phew!
totally agree - I remember when the big deal was having music other than the polka being played. nothihng wrong with dancing to the polka music - that's how old I am LOL
I wish someone in that staff meeting would've told the new girls, "Sorry, but no one here is allowed to have a life whatsoever outside of Me-Me's life because her parents are the boss. You can only celebrate good things in your life when she's not here."
I was so happy when a friend gathered all us girlies for brunch to announce she was getting married - and that she wasn't having *any* bridesmaids, because she knew how much we'd all (including her) hated our previous experiences. 🎉 😂
Thanks for doing the math for that as I was actually wondering about that. I’m thinking that all bridesmaids are maybe rich princesses with nothing much to do. Ahh what a life. If I got asked and this was presented I’d be like Nope!
I so needed this vid this morning for a laugh. My kitty passed yesterday and I just took him to the creamatorium. He's been attached at the hip to me, after being dumped 11 yrs ago in a snowbank in a Walmart parking lot on Christmas Eve out of a pickup truck as a tiny kitten. Security saw it on the cameras and rescued him, & made sure there were no others. They talked me into taking him home. I had just lost my cat, & they knew it because my son was a manager at the store. RIP Stitch. You were a good companion & my bestie! 🐈
Every bridezilla episode I’m reminded of how blessed I was as my best friends bridesmaid. She chose the dress and shoes, all on Amazon, and we all spent maybe $60 total. Then, we all did our hair and makeup together helping each other, and the wedding was at the university’s botanical garden. Why people gotta spend money to be extravagant is beyond me
Because some people are obsessed with "status" and making sure everyone knows that they have money because they have literally NO other redeeming qualities about them. People who flash their money know that they have NOTHING else to offer anyone.
I don’t mind brides having extravagant weddings, as long as they aren’t Bridezillas and expect their guests to pay thousands of dollars to accommodate their wedding. As long as they understand and cover their extravagant wedding themselves and/or their parents, then do it. Just don't be entitled and burden your guests.
@@Marcus616this. I think sometimes the term bridezilla is thrown around loosely. Unfortunately because of brides like the ones in the stories. Nothing wrong with having standards and certain expectations/rules as long as you are a decent person and don’t expect your guests to pay for everything
I'm 67 and have been a bridesmaid in about 5 different of my good friends weddings over the years. And we wore the cute dresses the bride picked out, we had a casual bridal shower at a fun restaurant and then played miniature golf with the whole wedding party. Stuff like that. And we all had a blast. 🎉🕺💃
The more I watch Bridezilla videos here (which I thoroughly enjoy), the more I am thankful that we don't have that entitlement culture here in the Philippines. A niece got married a couple of days ago. It's sort of a destination wedding since it's just a couple of hours away from the city. The bride, groom and their families paid for EVERYTHING (except for the Bachelorette that was taken care of by the MsOH and BDs) - outfits for the whole entourage, 2 night overnight stay in the venue for the wedding party and their families, the heavenly food for the cocktail and dinner reception catered by one of the high end fine dining places, the gorgeous fresh flowers everywhere, the most beautiful handwritten invites and all the every little details. The bride didn't even mind that some of the guests didn't follow the color scheme. Nothing and absolutely no one can take the spotlight from the Bride and her Groom. They had a gift registry but any gifts are welcome. We weren't even required to bring a gift! Some didn't RSVP but they set up a couple of extra tables just in case. That was the most romantic, heartwarming and fun wedding ever!
i’m mentally unstable right now waiting for my meds to kick in and this video along with my bag of chips and Coke (NOT the nose candy variety) is my anchor right now. I love Charlotte. I’m not always watching her videos, but it’s a channel that I’ll always come back to.
The Me-Me story made my head hurt just imagining it! Good grief! My husband and I had a beautiful wedding outside at a beautiful park and we had our most important family and friends there. I actually thrifted my dress (a designer dress) for about $400 and my mom’s friends who were a florist and a baker (we paid them) made all my flowers and our cake. We made the centerpieces and table arrangements ourselves and we’ve been happily married for 15 years this coming august! (We got married young and we almost eloped) I look back at our pictures and I’m so glad we decided to go simple. Fun fact: we’re from northern Kentucky and our venue was just over the river in Cincinnati, so we actually officially got married in my parents yard at my childhood home and then had our fancy ceremony at the venue. One of my best friends Dad was a pastor so he married us 😂❤
Honestly my tastes have changed as I got older and I find myself not really watching full videos anymore. But by golly gee….im always here listening to the TEA with all the POTATOES lol I love yall 😂
7:20 there’s no way in hell I’m paying for not only more than one bachelorette party .. let alone a vacation I will not be attending .. right there on that voom I would of publicly removed myself from this friendship cause she’s lost her mind.. much love to the family wish them the best
Been engaged for about 6 months. We've been putting off planning. I realized it was because planning is so overwhelming, so we decided to just elope. Now we have a date set for the fall.
When I was part of a wedding party as a bridesmaid, I didn't have to do anything and just showed up on the day to get my make up done and follow the instructions of the coordinator. I didn't know bridesmaids have a lot of responsibilities 😅. Watching Charlotte's videos about weddings surprised me and made me appreciate how the bride (my cousin) was so gracious, generous, and good at planning.
Depends where you've from I think, your experience is standard in the UK with MOH organising the hen do / bachelorette and brides family organising a wedding shower if there even is one.
I was in 8 weddings in the 80s…the bride picked a dress (all the attendants wore the same thing), we’d go pay for it when it came in. We showed up at the rehearsal the night before (at the church) then had a small rehearsal dinner with just the attendants and immediate families at a local restaurant (I never had to pay for that-the groom’s family usually did back then). The day of I’d drive myself or have someone drop me off at the church. It wasn’t complicated and it wasn’t expensive. And, all the weddings were fun! I never had any “duties” except to sign the license as a witness when I was the matron of honor. These brides today…good grief.
Ya fr, these videos make me SO GRATEFUL that my brother’s wife was amazing and super chill for the wedding. I wasn’t a bridesmaid but I did walk in the wedding with their dogs and my mom and didn’t wear a super fancy dress. She didn’t say anything I only just thought about how I could have picked a better dress after the fact. So glad my brother married her and nobody crazy or high maintenance. She is now an amazing and super chill mom of their 2 boys. But to be fair I don’t think my brother would have ever even got engaged or even dated someone seriously to someone that could be a bridezilla of high maintenance like that. He’s like me and would rather be single than deal with that bs craziness. 😂 thankful I now found my husband as well and we had a chill last minute wedding after being engaged for a little over 3 and a half years. We just got married in my parents backyard with maybe 20-30 of our closest family and family friends; it was perfectly imperfect. 🥰
I was in my bestie's wedding in October and the only thing i had to pay for was my dress that i picked, and my hair because i wanted my hair done. She and her husband paid for everything else since it was their day.we had the best time, great wedding, the most fun. Party rocked. Bestie's was the total opposite of bridzilla
As if it wasn't obvious enough, very telling that the first bride was having a bachelorette, multiple bridal showers, and whatever a bridecation is - but (sigh) "I guess my fiancé can have a WHOLE weekend for his stag, but I WILL select the activity (singular), and you best believe he is on thin ice 😡"
So I’m in treatment for my mental health with a wonderful psychiatrist including not yet recognized (but it’s about damn time 🤬) recovering people pleasing 😂 I’ve always qualified my statements by saying “I’m not a doctor and I’m not diagnosing anyone blah blah” until recently when working through an episode involving a borderline abusive Bridezilla. My doctor finally said: “enough! You can call her narcissist, I’ll allow it!” Sometimes they do be THAT unhinged. 1:13
@ I’m a brunette: Brazilian, Portuguese and Romanian with long hair. She chose me as a bridesmaid because one of the groomsmen wife was a stripper and she couldn’t have her walk down the aisle. So I’d walk with him (he was my friend as well) then she started bullying me because of my hair color, my ethnicity and she just wanted me to look “exactly like the stripper except for the stripping part” I swear I’m not making this up. She made comments about my looks saying “I wasn’t American or blonde enough “. Xenophobic b*tch. Because I’m an immigrant some of these comments still hit close to home…. I’m in treatment for PTSD ADHD et al.
All of the weddings I’ve been a part of was super lowkey. One of the brides forgot the bouquets including her own so we stopped by a field on the way and made her a bouquet, she loved it. Never met a bridezilla in real life 🎉
Love your videos, love your sense of humor, love your snark. And it must be so fun for you, planning your own wedding, to have all these great examples of what NOT to do! :D FWIW: I got married way before Instagram or even Facebook was a thing, so I didn't have a platform to spread any crazy onto. Basically, I just had my childhood bestie as my single attendant, and I told her to buy whatever dress she wanted and said that it should be something she would wear again so it wouldn't be a wasted expense. She chose a gorgeous orangey rusty tea dress and I wore a lilac tea dress of similar length; we did each others' hair and makeup, totally having no idea what we were doing as we're both low-glam women who don't usually do hair or makeup. My bachelorette was just us chatting and laughing in a hot tub in her parents' ski condo (we live in Vermont so that's not the flex it sounds like). A co-worker gifted me our cake, the jazz band I played in gifted us the music, and my parents rented the venue. The one extravagance was a limo that my mom insisted getting ("because it's fun!"). It was all very low-key and not very expensive, just a nice day with family and friends. The party was fun, but ultimately much less important than the journey that followed. Twenty-five years later, my husband is asleep on the couch while I type this. And I wouldn't have it any other way. May you all find your forever person and remember that it's not the wedding, it's the marriage. Parties are nice but life is what counts.
This post sums it up. It’s about the love and not about the party. It’s about having your friends and family around on this important day and having fun rather than making demands.
This all seems insane. I got married (my second time) to my husband in 1993. We held a 'destination' wedding, 60 miles away from where we lived, and it was in an apple orchard that a friend owned. We turned it into a two-day camping festival for those who wanted to stay the night. Bring your own camping gear if you wanted to camp. We got married on Beltane/Mayday and had two maypoles, drumming circles, and for the dinner, a massive potluck. Everybody brought a dish they liked, so there was a LOT of food with sixty guests. We had three MASSIVE bonfires--our friends who owned the orchard had gathered brush and wood for months for them. I had no bridesmaids, but a matron of honor, and everybody offered to pitch in and decorate the orchard with ribbons, 1000 gold origami cranes we'd made, and flowers we'd gathered. A friend made our wedding cake for a gift, another friend took pictures. We managed the entire wedding on $600. I still have friends who say that's the best wedding they've ever attended.
@@Haley_Alexis99 It was, and yes, it was our handfasting. It's been 32 years and we're still happy, and we still remember our wedding. We actually got the ceremony on video...those big old VHS recorders. LOL
@@desert_holly The only drama was the weather--it was raining a lot, and then, right when the ceremony started, the rain stopped, and then started up again to the beat when the ceremony ended.
My husband and I had a very basic, traditional wedding. Suit and floofy dress, classy venue, save the date cards followed by really pretty invitations, etc. The single most expensive thing was my $1.2K ring set followed by my $1K dress. I also outright bought two of my bridesmaids their dresses, took them out for a spa day, and bought them matching jewelry sets as a thank you for being in my wedding. Including all that, our wedding only cost us about $10K from ring to honeymoon, which we paid entirely ourselves out of pocket. And it was a TON of fun! Our 12 year anniversary was last week, even though we had a bit of agreed on, tasteful face smearing with cake lol. I always felt that, while your wedding is certainly YOUR special day, what makes it special is the people around you.
The only bachelorette type get together that I've been to that required paying upfront was my cousin's and it was an entire day that her sister had organized. We started with an escape room (which we successfully escaped) and then went on a 4 hour long walking food tour. It included a German restaurant, an Italian Pizza place and a French bistro, all of which we were fed at. It also included a very interesting store with fancy balsamic vinegars and olive oils, waaaay more gourmet than my peasant self was used to but the free samples were nice. There was also an ice cream parlor and random historical information about the area. After that, we went to one of those wine and paint places where we all painted mountains with cherry blossoms (not very well in my case) and then off to a rooftop restaurant for some drinks and hors d'oeuvres. After that, we all went to a drag bar for burgers and a show. The girls then went out bar hopping but that was the end of the night for me. I was very very pregnant at the time and didn't have the money for it, so thankfully my aunt offered to pay for my share if I would be the designated driver. I don't remember what the cost was per person, I think at least $300, but it was a really great time, even with how badly all of that walking in the hot summer made my ankles swell up. It was much more than I would've been comfortable asking people to spend for me, but she and her group of friends are much more well off than I am and it fit her perfectly. it really was a great time and I've sometimes thought about looking into booking a bit of that walking tour. For my bachelorette, my friends took me to my favorite pizza place and then a local nerd bar, then they came back to my house and we drank wine and watched movies. Honestly for me it was perfect. My SIL was a little upset that we didn't do a huge hooplah, but my MOH has known me since middle school and knows that I don't want that much attention.
The saying goes that the bigger and more extravagant a wedding is…the more likely they’ll divorce in a short time. One of the main reasons is that there was more focus on the wedding day versus the marriage. And yes, it’s usually the bride that demands the big wedding and controls the groom. So the next time you are invited to such a wedding, politely tell the bride you don’t want to waste money on a gift unless, there’s a money back guarantee if they divorce. Lol
Oh yeah? Well I wrote "CD" (Charlotte Dobre) in PERMANENT magic marker on the top hat in our Monopoly game so that I can be Charlotte when we play and I am just realizing as I type this how weird that is and now I need to ask you if nail polish remover removes magic marker.......
2:01 - Actually, because they were surrounded by that kind of environment throughout their entire life, they turn out to have such personality issues as grown-ups
I am so pleased that I got married back in the early 1990s when the bride/groom (and their parents) paid for everything for a wedding. We bought/hired the clothes, etc for the bridal party. Provided food and drink for our guests. Had a bridal shower/bachelorette/bachelor party in our home city and paid for most of it. All our guests and even bridal party had to do was buy us a gift and turn up. We even gave our bridal party gifts to show our appreciation of them being with us on our special day. The world has gone mad!
You'll probably never see this, but I love to listen to your videos and play my green 1998 Nintendo game boy color. I play Tetris and have achieved my all time high scores listening to your videos. I'm 36 and a mom, this is my happy time escape. thanks girl. ❤🌼
My favorite wedding (besides my own!) was for my girlfriend. We lived in a rural part of Vermont and nobody had much money to spend. It was in their backyard. This was in the mountains; everything was the backyard. The aisle the couple walked down was created with a host of plastic flamingos on either side. The bride made her own beautiful dress and the groom - a chimney sweep - wore jeans and the only jacket he owned. I am a puppeteer, among other things. As my wedding gift, I wrote, scored, performed and created puppets and a puppet stage for a customized puppet show about their relationship. Other people made the cake, decorated the trees, cleaned the house for the party, bought the beer, brought the weed, played and sang, you name it, we did it. Best damn wedding I've ever been to.
Have you ever met someone who just gives off waves of confidence and a level of certainty that no one will ever dare disrespect them? Thats the event coordinator at the historical art museum i work at. And I love seeing’s guest trying to over step their bounds she will pull out the contract so quickly the idiots heads spin and listing everything they signed in order to have the wedding at the location. We have a crazy amount of rules no flame,no tape,no ballons, non of those foam glowing sticks, no drinks on the dance floor or and the only barhroom is in the attached building 100ft away. -*edit* the biggest price tag I’ve seen for a wedding here was $280,000 biggest floral bill was $70k
Hi Charlotte 😊 Thanks for making funny videos. 3 months ago I was diagnosed with cancer, so some days are harder to get through. It always helps to watch your videos. Thank you so much ❤
@danirocket21611 It's breast cancer. Yea I am in treatment, but it takes a lot of energy as I also have CP dystonia which is a congenital physical disabillity..
Hope your chemo is going well! I’m stage IV myself, infusion every 3 wks for the past almost 4 yrs (will be 4 yrs in March). It can be rough, but if you are a lower stage, you can certainly beat it. Wishing you the best.
@@danirocket21611It takes a lot of energy as I also have CP dystonia which is a congenital physical disabillity. So I love watching Charlotte Dobre videos. 😊
14:32 If this trip actually happened (if this person actually got any bridesmaids at all) I’d love to know how much it actually cost, because no way anyone spent a weekend in NY including flights, hotels, and fancy brunches for $700 🙄
I spent $80 on my dress, crocheted my bouquet & his boutonniere with yarn from friends and family, spent $30 for a cape (married outdoors in November in Calgary AB!), everything else was things/clothes we already had. My friends threw a potluck bridal shower and after the ceremony we ordered Chinese. It meant more than having 200 peiple and spending thousands. The only downer was my best friend couldn't make it (pregnancy complications but she and the little one are all good now❤). The list of expectations at the end sent me. It should be about the relationship now how much money you can make others spend on you and 100% I'm sure she expected the bridesmaids to also give a 4 figure gift each!
Don't forget to take it into consideration of the person you ask to be your bridesmaid/maid of honour/attend your destination wedding is a foreigner or not. Being french I can tell you most of us have a very different baseline of what is considered normal things to ask people to do when you are getting married.
My wedding was 45 years ago when everything wasn’t so over the top. The 4 women I worked with came over for an impromptu shower one night with gifts and snacks like chips and cheese and crackers. Then my 3 female cousins gave me a surprise shower with their moms and my mom. Small and intimate and a wonderful surprise. My bachelorette party was walking around the corner to a local bar I had never been to. Twenty women walked in and there were only neighborhood guys there. They gave us all the seats at the bar and bought me 2 drinks (I literally fall asleep if I have more than 2 drinks). After that, we walked back to my parents’ house and sat in the courtyard and sat around talking until we went to bed. The morning of my wedding, I went to the hairdressers and picked up the flowers while my fiancé and his groomsmen and friends played golf. My MOH and 2 bridesmaids did their own hair and makeup and my friend did my makeup. We lived in Florida so most of the guests had to fly down, and my 3 attendants paid for their own dresses, but my parents paid for accommodations for everyone and fed everyone the entire time they were there (from between 1-3 weeks). It was so laid back and easy, and I really can’t comprehend all the craziness of the bridezillas of today.
The bride in first story desperately needs the Hilton of healthcare. And her bridesmaids need to collectively politely bow out of this madness for their own self care. The bride has lost her mind. Run girlfriends, run.
The first one reminds me of that bridezilla from Say Yes to the Dress who went to a candy shop for the “aesthetics” of the wedding, and started a fight with her fiancé there.
And this seems to happen so often! I can't imagine expecting people to happily spend the equivalent of 2+ months' rent on my wedding. The entitlement is really insane!
Meanwhile my sister bought us all dresses, told us to wear whatever brown/tan shoes we wanted, and still spent under 6k on the WHOLE wedding. The only money I spent was on a gift, and some ingredients for tea cakes I made for her bridal shower...
Having JD and Jax beside you will be so beneficial. My cousin was in prison for almost 30 years.when he got out, we rallied around him. We got him everything he needed to succeed. After 3 years, he’s making more money than I ever did. He’s was hired as a supervisor in his field of study, that he studied for while in prison. It is possible to succeed after prison. Just be strong, and lean on your support. STAY AWAY FROM NEGATIVE PEOPLE AND SITUATIONS
"It's my day" - more like half a year! (the last one) AND she expects them to fly to NY on December 24th, like, yeah, let me just give everything and everyone up for you real quick.
Oh my goodness, that last contract was wild. My flabbers have officially been gasted. How is it that people this entitled have significant others while I'm over here confused about my dates going nowhere??
My husband and I got married in uniforms and went on duty an hour after we were married. We had a small cake and a few family and friends who attended the ceremony in the office where we both worked. Cost us $150 in 1994 for the minister. We had our 30th anniversary last summer.
That staff meeting would have me stage-declaring, “Pitch. Perfect. Projection.” It would be worth the write-up! I’m used to having narcs talk at me while I ring up their items, so I would just pointedly keep working and keep glancing down at my keyboard “when needed” while that monster yammered on and on.
So many brides want things to be like a fairytale, but I’m remembering how violent and scary fairytales are in their original printings.😅. my wedding cost around $5000 and was exactly what I wanted. We have been together since 1996 and married in 2010. No regrets just the simple beautiful things I love. It doesn’t hurt that we live in a gorgeous area with amazing venues and views of the natural splendor. Spending more is not going to improve your relationship.😂
For anyone in need of a happy wedding story, my parents just celebrated their 45th wedding anniversary, and my grandparents just celebrated their 70th! Believe it or not, some marriages do actually last! 💕💕💕💕
My favorite wedding is still a friend’s where all their friends and family gifted their talents as wedding gifts. The grooms friends played in a chamber orchestra and played at the event that was in the backyard of the couples new home. The brides parents and sister owned a nursery (plants) and planted beautiful flowers in the flowerbeds, their mutual friend. A judge, performed the ceremony and disposable cameras were set at each table for fun unscripted photos. The bride’s favorite photo, a closeup of a bumble bee taken by her 8 year old niece! That was over 30 years ago and they are still happily married.
That’s so lovely! I think if I ever had a wedding, I would do it exactly like this
That sounds so lovely and wonderful! What a cool idea and so meaningful! 💜💜💜
I LOVE this idea!! It makes everything more intimate for everyone and their wedding day will always hold a special place in everyones hearts who participated. love love love this
My brother's wedding they had two friends as witnesses then hired a room above a pub and invited friends and family to join them and it was smart casual dress I wore a dress as I wanted to and our dad in a suit others some suit some smart jeans and top. One friend was a make up artist and another friend made the cake. You ordered your food if you wanted any downstairs. They wore a dress and a suit and looked beautiful. It was one of the best weddings I have ever and probably will ever go to and suited them as a couple perfectly.
@ as that sounds like fun! Glad you dressed up!
That first story is absolutely bonkers!! When my wife and I got married, all I asked my bridesmaids to do was pick out their own dress (I gave them a color and let them find dresses they could afford! Everyone ended up with different shades of teal and we lined them up in an ombre! I thought it was so gorgeous!) and show up for the rehearsal and wedding! I knew they all had their own lives and that none of them had the money to spare. My matron of honor spent the entire day with me, and helped my mom and grandma set up the venue and take it down once the reception was over. I appreciated that so much because it wasn’t asked of her. We’re still best friends to this day ❤
I am only at 3:45 but I am not believing it. Just too much all-around. Perfect villain. Celebs. Just too-too…
@@standdownrobots_ihaveoldglory
You are lucky to not have met the right people. I have and can tell you that it is believable. It may be fake, but not unrealistic. There was a woman in Israel, named Inbal Or, who is now a convicted criminal, and before that, a real-estate developer. The stories about her, from many unrelated sources, show her as just that. If one is making a story... Fine, two, sus, I have at least four, all making pretty much the same claims. You would think that it's a badly written character. But she is real.
That first story is insane is she rich or her friends Rich are they from like wealthy families cuz there is absolutely no way I don't care who it was I would go into tens of thousands of dollars worth of debt over a wedding
As it should be. All taking care of each other and creating something beautiful.
I did that, I said colour and suggested style and my sil sent me a selection she'd found. Next thing I know she told me she'd bought them, I said I was going to but she insisted.
That first story was written by an absolutely amazing storyteller, and I definitely hope we get an update to that story again in the future
Aussie?
You mean about the divorce? 😂
@@janemacintyre9801 I am! Was it that obvious somehow? 😅
12:45 Cinderella’s beauty was keeping her kindness despite hardship and keeping humility despite success.
This "quote" annoyed me so much
Patience, fortitude, and grace are sadly devalued these days.
Shes prob quoting the camilla cabello cinderella movie. I havent watched it, so i cant say for sure.
@@lightningangel45 Gods, I can't stand those "live" reboots. They're all dreadful.
@@Serai3 Exactly.
My 3.5 yr old and I love watching your videos together. When you come on and say “hey everybody”. My daughter goes “Charlooootte” and stops whatever she’s doing to come watch with me lol
I can imagine her running whilst yelling her name in glee😂 that’s so cute!❤
That’s adorable 😭
Yay tiny taters!
No offense, but do you really think this is child-appropriate content? I love Charlotte, but maybe this stuff isn't the best type of screen time for such a young child? But you do you, of course.
@ajgjngfthyfbk7564 some of her episodes, like about exes, sure. But not all of them
I was a bridesmaid in a dear friend's wedding. We all sewed our dresses. I did the bride's hair and makeup. Nice, simple wedding mass. My then husband played his guitar and sang. There was a reception afterward in the church hall. Prior to the wedding, the MOH (bride's sister) threw a shower at her home. Who needs more? The couple are still together happily, 5 children grown and in their 70s. Never start out a new life with financial debts and regrets from an extravagant wedding you can't afford!!!!
That sounds like the perfect wedding to me
I've been married as of Dec 29, 2024 17 years. My wedding total spent was 4500. The most expensive purchase was my dress for 1200. We kept it small, my maid of honor and myself made a lot of the gifts and the table decor. Food was prepared by family. Used the Christmas theme etc. I am so happy we chose to stay small and a very manageable budget. We are still happily married.
My favourite thing about weddings that I've read is that the more expensive a wedding is, the less likely it is to last.
@@gracehowell.Correlation doesn't equal causation. Also, I suggest you read the bulk of that study. It has nothing to do with the money you spend on the wedding and everything to do with the debt you accrue because of the wedding that will cause an early divorce. So meaning if a couple has the means and will not incur any debt and they spend a million dollars on their wedding they're not any more likely to get divorced than than any other couple. But let's say a couple spends $5,000 on their wedding and they charge it all on credit cards. That couple is more likely to get divorced than the couple who spent a million dollars but took on no debt. So it has nothing to do with how much money you spend and everything to do with how much debt you take on. I mean count me surprise Pikachu face that starting your life out in debt because of a party makes you more likely to get divorced. Why we needed to study on that, why we have to misquote it is beyond me.
Happy Anniversary!! ❤
(Timezones, its Dec 29 where I am 😂)
@@Art3mis2009 heh, are you Australian? It's the 29th here, too!
@ I’m a kiwi! From New Zealand!
The last bride-to-be is likely scamming her bridesmaids - on top of being an insufferable narcissist. She disclosed that she has brand-deals to cover a lot of the costs, yet demands their credit card info to pay for beauty boxes - which were likely products given via PR. #Run
Right!? She's evil!
This video made me want to insist to my nonexistent future spouse that we just go to the courthouse and then just do pizza and dessert afterwards (local ice cream shop or bakery). The absolute MADNESS of it all! How are these brides not embarrassed??
My son just got Married at the COURTHOUSE in NYC.
The whole Ceremony took 4 minutes..
They hired a Professional Photographer and that’s that!!
They’re having a small Wedding Reception in the Spring, for about 25 people…
They’re saving for their Future….
@Rhond5 Smart. Hope they live happily together ❤
Pizza is exactly what I want to do for my reception! Very few people don't like it, very few people can't eat it, it's cheap, and hopefully we'll be able to support a local pizza shop. Also kid friendly! What's not to like?
We did! (In our living room) No headaches & debt free!!
I’ve been thinking eloping sounds nice 😂
i would really love to see some tiktok drama fallout from the bridesmaids perspectives of the 2nd wedding. that is simply insane
No doubt, and I see why this unbelievable Bridezilla drew up the *contract!*
@@karaamundson3964
It's not real, it's satire!
That was even mentioned at the start
@@AmyLeaCooper2024nope, read the post, it's real. They said that they "thought" it was satire.
WAKE UP EVERYBODY THE QUEEN HAS POSTED
I'M AWAKE FELLOW PRINCESS!
Sleeping doesn’t stop me watching Charlotte’s videos in my dreams.
#IKTRHaley❤
Are you to thank for me waking up? 😆
Present;!! 😅❤
Upside of being an extreme introvert, I've never been invited to a wedding, nor have I ever been a bridesmaid. I use to think I was missing something but after watching all these vids I think I've dodged a bullet😆.
Time One & so far Last, I was a bridesmaid in my cousin's wedding to a lovely woman (from my little hometown) we introduced him to when he was staying there with his parents briefly.
It was a wonderful, simple wedding and as I recall not demanding or expensive...just sweet & obviously what she'd dreamed of. It was a pleasure to be part of it.
Another time, I played 'cello in the wedding of a lifetime friend. That was another wonderful give. I felt honored to be asked!
What a joy to be a part of two such lovely ceremonies, with no stress or bridal entitlement.
Same here lol 😂
Same, dodged a bullet. Not all weddings are like these but not sure I would chance it 😂
14:03 "Eughh, k*ll me"
Guys, I think we broke Charlotte 🤣
...😢
I can’t help but picture Mimi from the Drew Carry show as the bridezilla. It’s quite a sight.
Her character photo was in our local newspaper in the engagement announcements and I thought it was a joke, but apparently the actress was getting married in real life. I didn’t watch the show but when I spotted the outrageous makeup and hairstyle I pointed it out to a friend who not only watched the show but read all the Hollywood gossip so filled me in.
me too
Those makeup artists who worked on her for that show must have had such a great time putting her “together “ for each show…Still makes me laugh
@@tastx3142that’s hilarious!
My brother got married in the Dominican Republic; I'm SO glad and grateful that my aunt was able to help us get there. It was SUPER fun and I'd never gone swimming in the ocean before! I loved it. Also, please remember, future brides and grooms ... you're supposed to have FUN with this. Ahem. Charlotte, dear, a couple of notes. Don't forget to stamp any mail you're sending out, and, um, if you need to sort out any sort of licenses etc (liquor license), make sure you do that AHEAD of two days before the wedding. Learn from my fail, LOL. Everything got sorted and I had a great time, but yeah. Oopsie!
I'm probably old enough to be your Mother Charlotte & I wish you all the joy in your upcoming wedding. I just celebrated my 37th Anniv. I eloped to Reno,NV & got married in a quaint little ceremony in front of a judge. His wife was our witness. It cost $30. I wore a pink denim 3 tiered lace up skirt, a white lace bustier, white Kmart pleather pumps, white lace anklets & white lace fingerless gloves with big Aqua Net ratted hair & big earrings. What can I say it was the 80s. I wish after all these years that I would of had a huge wedding with all the turmoil & reception insanity. I regret that. So even though it's stressful it will leave you with great memories. Good or bad it's all part of it. Just remember that it's your day. You will be a beautiful bride. BTW? We used the wedding $ to go on a beautiful CA coastal vacation & we vacation to those same places every anniv...
That outfit is serious fire!!!
You would have made Dolly Parton jealous. Your wedding sound so fun we need photos.
Seconded, Potatoes need to see this!
I’m an old person who has been to SO MANY weddings throughout the years and I certainly don’t remember the details of all of them. Bridezillas, no one cares about your wedding as much as you do. Your guests aren’t going to mark the occasion each year while sitting around, reminiscing about the great day, and looking at pictures of you in your dress. Let’s step back and have a little perspective, shall we?
They might actually look back on it in horror, l was bridesmaid to a bridezilla who acted like this, a pauper with a princess mindset and l look back on 2013 as the year we bridemaids all crash dieted and walked on eggshells, l was ordered to make a Ferrero Roche tree for the reception and l did it, God help me l did it !! We aren't friends anymore, obviously.
Knawed myself out of that bear trap..phew!
@irishcountrygirl78 hopefully you still have all of your limbs after knawing your way outta that!!!😂
Well said Jaybee !👍
Im old too and I don't remember anything like this crap
totally agree - I remember when the big deal was having music other than the polka being played. nothihng wrong with dancing to the polka music - that's how old I am LOL
I really need an "I beg your finest pardon" T-shirt! My original pink "Potato" one is still going strong and still super comfy 🤗
Love that t-shirt idea!! ❤
I wish someone in that staff meeting would've told the new girls, "Sorry, but no one here is allowed to have a life whatsoever outside of Me-Me's life because her parents are the boss. You can only celebrate good things in your life when she's not here."
I was so happy when a friend gathered all us girlies for brunch to announce she was getting married - and that she wasn't having *any* bridesmaids, because she knew how much we'd all (including her) hated our previous experiences. 🎉 😂
Thats super cool tbh😂
That one bridezilla's long list of expensive activities would make me drop out immediately!
So, from last "contract":
Dress Fitting: USD 700
Beauty Boxes: USD 76 (DE)
Spa Weekend: USD 500
Bachelorette Weekend: USD 2000 (estimating ticket and lodge expenses)
Make-up: USD 400
Hair extensions: USD 1200
Bridal Shower: USD 500
Dress Fitting (again): USD 700
Wedding Week in Miami: USD 1000
Grand Total: USD 7076 (this doesn't cover outfits and other expenses for all the events)
That's a HELL NO for me! 😂
Thanks for doing the math for that as I was actually wondering about that. I’m thinking that all bridesmaids are maybe rich princesses with nothing much to do. Ahh what a life. If I got asked and this was presented I’d be like Nope!
Lord Log
I would laugh. I've never had that much money.
The beauty boxes are actually $1200. Add in food, drinks, and flights to NYC, as well. Plus a wedding gift, and we're easily talking $10k each.
Hearing these bridezilla stories makes me sooooooooo glad hubby and I went to the courthouse and got married. Best decision we ever made 19 years ago.
I so needed this vid this morning for a laugh. My kitty passed yesterday and I just took him to the creamatorium. He's been attached at the hip to me, after being dumped 11 yrs ago in a snowbank in a Walmart parking lot on Christmas Eve out of a pickup truck as a tiny kitten. Security saw it on the cameras and rescued him, & made sure there were no others. They talked me into taking him home. I had just lost my cat, & they knew it because my son was a manager at the store. RIP Stitch. You were a good companion & my bestie! 🐈
Sorry for your loss
So sorry darling 😢
I’m sorry for your loss
Aw, sorry for your loss, ❤❤🥀
🤗🌈🐈
Every bridezilla episode I’m reminded of how blessed I was as my best friends bridesmaid. She chose the dress and shoes, all on Amazon, and we all spent maybe $60 total. Then, we all did our hair and makeup together helping each other, and the wedding was at the university’s botanical garden. Why people gotta spend money to be extravagant is beyond me
What a great choice for a venue!
Because some people are obsessed with "status" and making sure everyone knows that they have money because they have literally NO other redeeming qualities about them. People who flash their money know that they have NOTHING else to offer anyone.
I don’t mind brides having extravagant weddings, as long as they aren’t Bridezillas and expect their guests to pay thousands of dollars to accommodate their wedding. As long as they understand and cover their extravagant wedding themselves and/or their parents, then do it. Just don't be entitled and burden your guests.
@@Marcus616this. I think sometimes the term bridezilla is thrown around loosely. Unfortunately because of brides like the ones in the stories. Nothing wrong with having standards and certain expectations/rules as long as you are a decent person and don’t expect your guests to pay for everything
I'm 67 and have been a bridesmaid in about 5 different of my good friends weddings over the years. And we wore the cute dresses the bride picked out, we had a casual bridal shower at a fun restaurant and then played miniature golf with the whole wedding party. Stuff like that. And we all had a blast.
🎉🕺💃
The more I watch Bridezilla videos here (which I thoroughly enjoy), the more I am thankful that we don't have that entitlement culture here in the Philippines.
A niece got married a couple of days ago. It's sort of a destination wedding since it's just a couple of hours away from the city. The bride, groom and their families paid for EVERYTHING (except for the Bachelorette that was taken care of by the MsOH and BDs) - outfits for the whole entourage, 2 night overnight stay in the venue for the wedding party and their families, the heavenly food for the cocktail and dinner reception catered by one of the high end fine dining places, the gorgeous fresh flowers everywhere, the most beautiful handwritten invites and all the every little details.
The bride didn't even mind that some of the guests didn't follow the color scheme. Nothing and absolutely no one can take the spotlight from the Bride and her Groom. They had a gift registry but any gifts are welcome. We weren't even required to bring a gift!
Some didn't RSVP but they set up a couple of extra tables just in case.
That was the most romantic, heartwarming and fun wedding ever!
This is how it should be ..I love it was an affair to remember but it was also about the guests and family gathering together....
i’m mentally unstable right now waiting for my meds to kick in and this video along with my bag of chips and Coke (NOT the nose candy variety) is my anchor right now.
I love Charlotte. I’m not always watching her videos, but it’s a channel that I’ll always come back to.
Don't worry about it. Coke-a-Cola originally had coke (the drug) in it. Hope your meds kick in soon 😊
14:51 “Oh God there’s more”
the scream that followed that sentence made my day!! 😅😂🤣
The Me-Me story made my head hurt just imagining it! Good grief! My husband and I had a beautiful wedding outside at a beautiful park and we had our most important family and friends there. I actually thrifted my dress (a designer dress) for about $400 and my mom’s friends who were a florist and a baker (we paid them) made all my flowers and our cake. We made the centerpieces and table arrangements ourselves and we’ve been happily married for 15 years this coming august! (We got married young and we almost eloped) I look back at our pictures and I’m so glad we decided to go simple. Fun fact: we’re from northern Kentucky and our venue was just over the river in Cincinnati, so we actually officially got married in my parents yard at my childhood home and then had our fancy ceremony at the venue. One of my best friends Dad was a pastor so he married us 😂❤
Honestly my tastes have changed as I got older and I find myself not really watching full videos anymore. But by golly gee….im always here listening to the TEA with all the POTATOES lol I love yall 😂
same, but i think mines adhd problems lol- 😂
love watching Charlotte!
12:56 Yeah, well, every fairytale has a villain.
😂😂😂
We love mama Charlotte who gives us good boundary talks and gives us awesome advice without surgar coating it
I relish the day when Bridezillas are publicly shamed with names, wedding days and picketers.😂😂😂
7:20 there’s no way in hell I’m paying for not only more than one bachelorette party .. let alone a vacation I will not be attending .. right there on that voom I would of publicly removed myself from this friendship cause she’s lost her mind.. much love to the family wish them the best
Prayers for the husband to be. HUSBAND TO BE, RUN… RUN FAR AWAY IN THE OPPOSITE DIRECTION.
Been engaged for about 6 months. We've been putting off planning. I realized it was because planning is so overwhelming, so we decided to just elope. Now we have a date set for the fall.
Happy eloping to you then! May your day be filled with love and brought about without all the stress of planning for an overpriced party.
@pamspray5254 Thank you!
When I was part of a wedding party as a bridesmaid, I didn't have to do anything and just showed up on the day to get my make up done and follow the instructions of the coordinator. I didn't know bridesmaids have a lot of responsibilities 😅. Watching Charlotte's videos about weddings surprised me and made me appreciate how the bride (my cousin) was so gracious, generous, and good at planning.
Depends where you've from I think, your experience is standard in the UK with MOH organising the hen do / bachelorette and brides family organising a wedding shower if there even is one.
I have been a bridesmaid twice. Don’t recall any of this nonsense - but then I’m old. 😹
I was in 8 weddings in the 80s…the bride picked a dress (all the attendants wore the same thing), we’d go pay for it when it came in. We showed up at the rehearsal the night before (at the church) then had a small rehearsal dinner with just the attendants and immediate families at a local restaurant (I never had to pay for that-the groom’s family usually did back then). The day of I’d drive myself or have someone drop me off at the church. It wasn’t complicated and it wasn’t expensive. And, all the weddings were fun! I never had any “duties” except to sign the license as a witness when I was the matron of honor. These brides today…good grief.
Ya fr, these videos make me SO GRATEFUL that my brother’s wife was amazing and super chill for the wedding. I wasn’t a bridesmaid but I did walk in the wedding with their dogs and my mom and didn’t wear a super fancy dress. She didn’t say anything I only just thought about how I could have picked a better dress after the fact. So glad my brother married her and nobody crazy or high maintenance. She is now an amazing and super chill mom of their 2 boys. But to be fair I don’t think my brother would have ever even got engaged or even dated someone seriously to someone that could be a bridezilla of high maintenance like that. He’s like me and would rather be single than deal with that bs craziness. 😂 thankful I now found my husband as well and we had a chill last minute wedding after being engaged for a little over 3 and a half years. We just got married in my parents backyard with maybe 20-30 of our closest family and family friends; it was perfectly imperfect. 🥰
I was in my bestie's wedding in October and the only thing i had to pay for was my dress that i picked, and my hair because i wanted my hair done. She and her husband paid for everything else since it was their day.we had the best time, great wedding, the most fun. Party rocked. Bestie's was the total opposite of bridzilla
As if it wasn't obvious enough, very telling that the first bride was having a bachelorette, multiple bridal showers, and whatever a bridecation is - but (sigh) "I guess my fiancé can have a WHOLE weekend for his stag, but I WILL select the activity (singular), and you best believe he is on thin ice 😡"
So I’m in treatment for my mental health with a wonderful psychiatrist including not yet recognized (but it’s about damn time 🤬) recovering people pleasing 😂
I’ve always qualified my statements by saying “I’m not a doctor and I’m not diagnosing anyone blah blah” until recently when working through an episode involving a borderline abusive Bridezilla. My doctor finally said: “enough! You can call her narcissist, I’ll allow it!” Sometimes they do be THAT unhinged. 1:13
Can you tell us more about the Bridezilla?
@ I’m a brunette: Brazilian, Portuguese and Romanian with long hair. She chose me as a bridesmaid because one of the groomsmen wife was a stripper and she couldn’t have her walk down the aisle. So I’d walk with him (he was my friend as well) then she started bullying me because of my hair color, my ethnicity and she just wanted me to look “exactly like the stripper except for the stripping part” I swear I’m not making this up. She made comments about my looks saying “I wasn’t American or blonde enough “. Xenophobic b*tch. Because I’m an immigrant some of these comments still hit close to home…. I’m in treatment for PTSD ADHD et al.
@@isabelaandzicough that sucks. The audacity of people like that.
All of the weddings I’ve been a part of was super lowkey. One of the brides forgot the bouquets including her own so we stopped by a field on the way and made her a bouquet, she loved it. Never met a bridezilla in real life 🎉
Love your videos, love your sense of humor, love your snark. And it must be so fun for you, planning your own wedding, to have all these great examples of what NOT to do! :D
FWIW: I got married way before Instagram or even Facebook was a thing, so I didn't have a platform to spread any crazy onto. Basically, I just had my childhood bestie as my single attendant, and I told her to buy whatever dress she wanted and said that it should be something she would wear again so it wouldn't be a wasted expense. She chose a gorgeous orangey rusty tea dress and I wore a lilac tea dress of similar length; we did each others' hair and makeup, totally having no idea what we were doing as we're both low-glam women who don't usually do hair or makeup. My bachelorette was just us chatting and laughing in a hot tub in her parents' ski condo (we live in Vermont so that's not the flex it sounds like). A co-worker gifted me our cake, the jazz band I played in gifted us the music, and my parents rented the venue. The one extravagance was a limo that my mom insisted getting ("because it's fun!"). It was all very low-key and not very expensive, just a nice day with family and friends. The party was fun, but ultimately much less important than the journey that followed.
Twenty-five years later, my husband is asleep on the couch while I type this. And I wouldn't have it any other way. May you all find your forever person and remember that it's not the wedding, it's the marriage. Parties are nice but life is what counts.
You’re not wrong! 😉
Cute!
Well said, bestie, and congrats on 25 years!! ❤
Congratulations @@lisamelroy2855
This post sums it up. It’s about the love and not about the party. It’s about having your friends and family around on this important day and having fun rather than making demands.
This all seems insane. I got married (my second time) to my husband in 1993. We held a 'destination' wedding, 60 miles away from where we lived, and it was in an apple orchard that a friend owned. We turned it into a two-day camping festival for those who wanted to stay the night. Bring your own camping gear if you wanted to camp. We got married on Beltane/Mayday and had two maypoles, drumming circles, and for the dinner, a massive potluck. Everybody brought a dish they liked, so there was a LOT of food with sixty guests. We had three MASSIVE bonfires--our friends who owned the orchard had gathered brush and wood for months for them. I had no bridesmaids, but a matron of honor, and everybody offered to pitch in and decorate the orchard with ribbons, 1000 gold origami cranes we'd made, and flowers we'd gathered. A friend made our wedding cake for a gift, another friend took pictures. We managed the entire wedding on $600. I still have friends who say that's the best wedding they've ever attended.
Ah! It sounds so fun! It, truly, sounds like a beautiful experience! I bet the handfasting was just as beautiful! Merry meet!
What a BEAUTIFUL day it must have been! Thank you for sharing your wholesome wedding story with us all 💓💓💓 many blessings to you and yours!
@@Haley_Alexis99 It was, and yes, it was our handfasting. It's been 32 years and we're still happy, and we still remember our wedding. We actually got the ceremony on video...those big old VHS recorders. LOL
@@desert_holly The only drama was the weather--it was raining a lot, and then, right when the ceremony started, the rain stopped, and then started up again to the beat when the ceremony ended.
That sounds amazing
Story about the SIL having to work with the bridezilla: Run groom. RUN!!!
Wise advice 😊
My husband and I had a very basic, traditional wedding. Suit and floofy dress, classy venue, save the date cards followed by really pretty invitations, etc. The single most expensive thing was my $1.2K ring set followed by my $1K dress. I also outright bought two of my bridesmaids their dresses, took them out for a spa day, and bought them matching jewelry sets as a thank you for being in my wedding. Including all that, our wedding only cost us about $10K from ring to honeymoon, which we paid entirely ourselves out of pocket.
And it was a TON of fun! Our 12 year anniversary was last week, even though we had a bit of agreed on, tasteful face smearing with cake lol. I always felt that, while your wedding is certainly YOUR special day, what makes it special is the people around you.
Cripes, the last one is an introvert’s NIGHTMARE *IN EVERY WAY* I don’t think there’s enough weed on the plant to make me agree to it
The only bachelorette type get together that I've been to that required paying upfront was my cousin's and it was an entire day that her sister had organized. We started with an escape room (which we successfully escaped) and then went on a 4 hour long walking food tour. It included a German restaurant, an Italian Pizza place and a French bistro, all of which we were fed at. It also included a very interesting store with fancy balsamic vinegars and olive oils, waaaay more gourmet than my peasant self was used to but the free samples were nice. There was also an ice cream parlor and random historical information about the area. After that, we went to one of those wine and paint places where we all painted mountains with cherry blossoms (not very well in my case) and then off to a rooftop restaurant for some drinks and hors d'oeuvres. After that, we all went to a drag bar for burgers and a show. The girls then went out bar hopping but that was the end of the night for me.
I was very very pregnant at the time and didn't have the money for it, so thankfully my aunt offered to pay for my share if I would be the designated driver. I don't remember what the cost was per person, I think at least $300, but it was a really great time, even with how badly all of that walking in the hot summer made my ankles swell up. It was much more than I would've been comfortable asking people to spend for me, but she and her group of friends are much more well off than I am and it fit her perfectly. it really was a great time and I've sometimes thought about looking into booking a bit of that walking tour. For my bachelorette, my friends took me to my favorite pizza place and then a local nerd bar, then they came back to my house and we drank wine and watched movies. Honestly for me it was perfect. My SIL was a little upset that we didn't do a huge hooplah, but my MOH has known me since middle school and knows that I don't want that much attention.
Oooh! This is perfect to mix with my coffee
Cheers 🥔🥔 ☕☕
Enjoy your coffee and the drama! 😂
*sips coffee watches drama* 👀 ☕️ 😁
Same just made a cup…ironically the coffee is called Christmas in a cup even though the holiday is over now but it’s sooo good.
I think us potatoes should be security for anyone daring to show up in white. With plenty of red wine at our fingertips
The saying goes that the bigger and more extravagant a wedding is…the more likely they’ll divorce in a short time. One of the main reasons is that there was more focus on the wedding day versus the marriage. And yes, it’s usually the bride that demands the big wedding and controls the groom. So the next time you are invited to such a wedding, politely tell the bride you don’t want to waste money on a gift unless, there’s a money back guarantee if they divorce. Lol
Hey Charlotte, unrelated to the video but I made your likeness into a video game character.
Oh yeah? Well I wrote "CD" (Charlotte Dobre) in PERMANENT magic marker on the top hat in our Monopoly game so that I can be Charlotte when we play and I am just realizing as I type this how weird that is and now I need to ask you if nail polish remover removes magic marker.......
@@BeautifulKittenOfLove Honestly, I think that’s awesome and a lovely tribute.
Magic sponge/Mr Clean eraser @@BeautifulKittenOfLove
@@applekrumbles LOL....Charlotte's potatoes are the best!
@@Lilac-and-Gooseberries "You've just won 1st prize in a beauty contest...collect $10"
2:01 - Actually, because they were surrounded by that kind of environment throughout their entire life, they turn out to have such personality issues as grown-ups
So Mimi's bridesmaids signed contracts, which also obligated them to fund not only their dresses and makeup but parts of her wedding?????😂😂😂😂
I am so pleased that I got married back in the early 1990s when the bride/groom (and their parents) paid for everything for a wedding. We bought/hired the clothes, etc for the bridal party. Provided food and drink for our guests. Had a bridal shower/bachelorette/bachelor party in our home city and paid for most of it. All our guests and even bridal party had to do was buy us a gift and turn up. We even gave our bridal party gifts to show our appreciation of them being with us on our special day. The world has gone mad!
Just got out of work and came straight to UA-cam for this!!!!!
“Weekly zoom weeting” x2 was fckn hilarious I keep rewinding it. Sorry, Charlotte!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
It was so nice to see Sharklotte the other day Queen P 🇨🇦❤️🇲🇽
Yas I love sharklotte
You'll probably never see this, but I love to listen to your videos and play my green 1998 Nintendo game boy color. I play Tetris and have achieved my all time high scores listening to your videos. I'm 36 and a mom, this is my happy time escape. thanks girl. ❤🌼
I'm 15 minutes late because I was watching puppers getting groomed on Girl with the Dogs.
HUZZAH, A PERSON OF QUALITY
Saaaaame~
Oh, me too!
My favorite wedding (besides my own!) was for my girlfriend. We lived in a rural part of Vermont and nobody had much money to spend. It was in their backyard. This was in the mountains; everything was the backyard. The aisle the couple walked down was created with a host of plastic flamingos on either side. The bride made her own beautiful dress and the groom - a chimney sweep - wore jeans and the only jacket he owned. I am a puppeteer, among other things. As my wedding gift, I wrote, scored, performed and created puppets and a puppet stage for a customized puppet show about their relationship. Other people made the cake, decorated the trees, cleaned the house for the party, bought the beer, brought the weed, played and sang, you name it, we did it. Best damn wedding I've ever been to.
5:29 Comic Sans vs Papyrus is a big decision.
A person of culture, I see~
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Have you ever met someone who just gives off waves of confidence and a level of certainty that no one will ever dare disrespect them? Thats the event coordinator at the historical art museum i work at. And I love seeing’s guest trying to over step their bounds she will pull out the contract so quickly the idiots heads spin and listing everything they signed in order to have the wedding at the location. We have a crazy amount of rules no flame,no tape,no ballons, non of those foam glowing sticks, no drinks on the dance floor or and the only barhroom is in the attached building 100ft away. -*edit* the biggest price tag I’ve seen for a wedding here was $280,000 biggest floral bill was $70k
Hi Charlotte 😊 Thanks for making funny videos. 3 months ago I was diagnosed with cancer, so some days are harder to get through. It always helps to watch your videos. Thank you so much ❤
Oh no, what kind? How bad is it? Are you doing treatment? I'm so sorry. I hope you recover!
@danirocket21611 It's breast cancer. Yea I am in treatment, but it takes a lot of energy as I also have CP dystonia which is a congenital physical disabillity..
Hope your chemo is going well! I’m stage IV myself, infusion every 3 wks for the past almost 4 yrs (will be 4 yrs in March). It can be rough, but if you are a lower stage, you can certainly beat it. Wishing you the best.
@@danirocket21611It takes a lot of energy as I also have CP dystonia which is a congenital physical disabillity. So I love watching Charlotte Dobre videos. 😊
Sending healing vibes and all the love your way! ❤
Who remembers that TV show bridezillas? My mother used to watch it all the time when I was younger I can’t imagine why it got canceled 😂
14:32 If this trip actually happened (if this person actually got any bridesmaids at all) I’d love to know how much it actually cost, because no way anyone spent a weekend in NY including flights, hotels, and fancy brunches for $700 🙄
Someone did the math..10 G! At Least!
To that second bride after reading that whole page, SEE YOU NEVER, F OFF FORVER. B. Y. E. YOU'RE NOT GOING TO SEE ME.
Good Morning Petty Potatoes! ❤
I was debating who was this video's editor and I'm guessing Mike 😂
I spent $80 on my dress, crocheted my bouquet & his boutonniere with yarn from friends and family, spent $30 for a cape (married outdoors in November in Calgary AB!), everything else was things/clothes we already had. My friends threw a potluck bridal shower and after the ceremony we ordered Chinese. It meant more than having 200 peiple and spending thousands. The only downer was my best friend couldn't make it (pregnancy complications but she and the little one are all good now❤). The list of expectations at the end sent me. It should be about the relationship now how much money you can make others spend on you and 100% I'm sure she expected the bridesmaids to also give a 4 figure gift each!
Yeah!!! Never been this early!!!
Petty potato's unite!!!❤❤❤❤
Don't forget to take it into consideration of the person you ask to be your bridesmaid/maid of honour/attend your destination wedding is a foreigner or not.
Being french I can tell you most of us have a very different baseline of what is considered normal things to ask people to do when you are getting married.
Everyone here is bonkers but funny people who love this channel
My wedding was 45 years ago when everything wasn’t so over the top.
The 4 women I worked with came over for an impromptu shower one night with gifts and snacks like chips and cheese and crackers. Then my 3 female cousins gave me a surprise shower with their moms and my mom. Small and intimate and a wonderful surprise. My bachelorette party was walking around the corner to a local bar I had never been to. Twenty women walked in and there were only neighborhood guys there. They gave us all the seats at the bar and bought me 2 drinks (I literally fall asleep if I have more than 2 drinks). After that, we walked back to my parents’ house and sat in the courtyard and sat around talking until we went to bed.
The morning of my wedding, I went to the hairdressers and picked up the flowers while my fiancé and his groomsmen and friends played golf. My MOH and 2 bridesmaids did their own hair and makeup and my friend did my makeup.
We lived in Florida so most of the guests had to fly down, and my 3 attendants paid for their own dresses, but my parents paid for accommodations for everyone and fed everyone the entire time they were there (from between 1-3 weeks).
It was so laid back and easy, and I really can’t comprehend all the craziness of the bridezillas of today.
Hello Charlotte! Wanted to tell you that I’m obsessed with your videos!
Love from Egypt 🇪🇬
Same... can't get through the day without consuming some fabulous Charlotte content!
@@lynphillips9146 I live far from my girlfriends and honestly she’s the closest thing to my “girls time out”. Charlotte literally keeps me sane lol
The look on Charlotte’s face is priceless! Thanks for the laughs this morning!
Your videos come out right as I finish lunch for the kids. Perfect timing as usual.
Using Jughead at 4:29 just made me smile so hard! I thank you and I love you for it.
Hey hey potatoes! Happy Saturday everybody let’s go! Love the bones of you, Charlotte!!! ❤
Happy Saturday to you too!
@@CharlotteDobre Happy Saturday to you ❤
Happy Saturday my fellow potato 🥔
@@CharlotteDobre 🤗
The bride in first story desperately needs the Hilton of healthcare. And her bridesmaids need to collectively politely bow out of this madness for their own self care. The bride has lost her mind. Run girlfriends, run.
Oh. And the groom? Run. Her behaviour over this wedding is a foreboding to the rest of you life.
Petty potatoes assemble😂
The first one reminds me of that bridezilla from Say Yes to the Dress who went to a candy shop for the “aesthetics” of the wedding, and started a fight with her fiancé there.
10:31 they’ll be getting a divorce within a year
Most definitely, if they even make it to the alter.
This second bride expect her bridesmaids to spend close to 8000 bucks for her. That's completely crazy!
And this seems to happen so often! I can't imagine expecting people to happily spend the equivalent of 2+ months' rent on my wedding. The entitlement is really insane!
Can someone add this all up?!! Good lord! 17:45
She’s expecting them to spend a minimum of $5000. That’s not including the soho house memberships, the second weekend in NYC, or the week in Miami!!
@ holy crap! Also, you’re the best! Thank you ☺️
I’m disabled have a lot of down days , you are the absolute best time passer❤ thank you beautiful for all your awesome works👍🏼
Meanwhile my sister bought us all dresses, told us to wear whatever brown/tan shoes we wanted, and still spent under 6k on the WHOLE wedding. The only money I spent was on a gift, and some ingredients for tea cakes I made for her bridal shower...
WOOOOOT!! PETTY POTATS FOR AN UPCOMING NEW YEAR!
ETA: I kinda cackled at weekly zoom weetings 😅 totally something I would do.
I've never wanted to break into a venue the day before a wedding and bust the pipes more in my life 😂😂
It's a good morning when Charlotte uploads ❤
Having JD and Jax beside you will be so beneficial. My cousin was in prison for almost 30 years.when he got out, we rallied around him. We got him everything he needed to succeed. After 3 years, he’s making more money than I ever did. He’s was hired as a supervisor in his field of study, that he studied for while in prison.
It is possible to succeed after prison. Just be strong, and lean on your support.
STAY AWAY FROM NEGATIVE PEOPLE AND SITUATIONS
"It's my day" - more like half a year! (the last one) AND she expects them to fly to NY on December 24th, like, yeah, let me just give everything and everyone up for you real quick.
18:54 I actually died laughing!!! I can't believe how funny you are, girlie!
Oh my goodness, that last contract was wild. My flabbers have officially been gasted. How is it that people this entitled have significant others while I'm over here confused about my dates going nowhere??
My husband and I got married in uniforms and went on duty an hour after we were married. We had a small cake and a few family and friends who attended the ceremony in the office where we both worked. Cost us $150 in 1994 for the minister. We had our 30th anniversary last summer.
That staff meeting would have me stage-declaring, “Pitch. Perfect. Projection.” It would be worth the write-up! I’m used to having narcs talk at me while I ring up their items, so I would just pointedly keep working and keep glancing down at my keyboard “when needed” while that monster yammered on and on.
What? Why would you say that specifically? Are you trying to make some point besides 'shut up already'?
@ Because the behavior Me-Me is describing is precisely what she is doing, to the letter, in that moment, if you ask me! Dang!
God bless you Charlotte for bringing so much joy and laughter to us. I hope you're wedding planning is going well ❤
Petty Potatoes ready for some bridezilla tea? 🥔 ☕️
You’re the real Rapunzel. Looking gorgeous Charlotte!!!
Charlotttteee
So many brides want things to be like a fairytale, but I’m remembering how violent and scary fairytales are in their original printings.😅. my wedding cost around $5000 and was exactly what I wanted. We have been together since 1996 and married in 2010. No regrets just the simple beautiful things I love. It doesn’t hurt that we live in a gorgeous area with amazing venues and views of the natural splendor. Spending more is not going to improve your relationship.😂
As a Disney fan i have to step up for my girl Cinderella here, she's humble, grateful and classy and never ever said those words!
For anyone in need of a happy wedding story, my parents just celebrated their 45th wedding anniversary, and my grandparents just celebrated their 70th! Believe it or not, some marriages do actually last! 💕💕💕💕
Finally! Im so happy! Merry Christmas and happy holidays potatoes ❤