One of my bosses is a female who used well still does work in a prisons she talks down to her inmates I'm pretty sure and she dominates them because she feels she has to be one up on men and she's bringing that into the job that I have as she is my boss and she talks to me like a little kid my friend told me to tell her "talk to me with respect I'm not your child or your inmates you clearly have a problem with me but I'm just here to work and your toxic energy isn't really affecting me but it's getting annoying" she's probably going to minimize my hours which is a case for retaliation so I'm wondering what I should do
When it comes to bosses I've done both..been patient..."never talk back" and been a push over...and it's didn't work..still got canned....now I tell them how I feel with an honest calm and confident face...still get canned... That's why you gotta stick to your values
I couldn't agree more. Sometimes no matter how you deal with a difficult boss you just can't win. However if you stick to your own core values you will always be a winner:) Thanks so much for watching, cheers!
I have one rule, don't expose yourself to any toxic person. Just imagine having a boss that no matter what you do it isn't right. I had to put a boss in his place because he didn't know what he wanted as his mind constantly was changing and nothing I could do was right no matter what T I followed. Everyone on the team felt equally frustrated. After a year of dealing with this toxic asshole and on my final day when I gave my resignation as I had a job lined up I asked him, "Do you think support, encouragement and gratitude are important attributes for a successful managers should have?" I then handed him my resignation and walked out. A month later another key person on his team left as well. My current boss now is a great guy to work with and my job is once again enjoyable.
I am so happy that you have found a team, boss and company that allows you to enjoy your work. That is so very important. Thank you for sharing your experience and for watching, cheers!
@@rajibaidya4935 exactly If you aren't happy with your work there are plenty of other places where you will be respected. Trust me, it isn't worth it having an ass as a boss.
@@happygal1974 Some female bosses are the worse because they think they have to be a hard ass man to keep up with whatever competition they think they have with men. In my experience, a female boss with predominantly men in the team is NEVER fun. They like the control and are emotional in most of their business dealings.
No toxic environment is worth your well being. Screw staying there and living with it. Find another job, sooner or later HR will figure him/her out why there is such a turn over rate. Professor in college told me (the whole class) "You can get paid $50 dollars an hour but if your boss is an asshole, you wont stay long." no truer words have been spoken. Peace out
I had a difficult boss in my first job!!! And I hated every time I had to meet with her. But I survived by focusing on my part of the job and doing my best. Great tips. Thanks.
Good for you for staying focused, Katarina! I've had the same experience of dreading meeting with a bad boss. It's no fun for anyone - glad you made it through! Cheers!
Hi Gerrit, whether it be a difficult boss or difficulty in any other relationship there is no room for abuse of any kind. This video was geared towards dealing with a difficult boss but I think some of these tips can be used in difficult relationships outside of the office environment. Thanks for your comment and for watching, cheers!
It is an abusive situation 😕 but instead of a personal relationship its a workplace relationship. Abusive in the way they take advantage of you and make you crazy.
I feel like with my boss there’s no right answer. What she wants changes from week to week, day by day, and like today hour by hour. Putting me behind on what I need to do.
I don't exactly know what you been through. But I had an experience before. Being a newbie, I made lot of mistakes in my reports. That was very frustrating. Working in a bank, you need to assure everything is correct up to the last cents. I'm not to blame because being new to the report means you need help from your boss on how to do everything. But my boss is a type who give less instructions. It was like, "how can I do this.job right with little instruction" and your limiting conversation with them because you feel toxic with them... Your job will literally be easy with proper guidance. You ended up being blame for all the mistakes. This days were challenging. Yeah, it leave me some kind of trauma and a lesson to be equipped with knowledge. These will always remind me, "This is hard but I have to adopt, get all necessary skills to make myself better on my work". I'm here also to remind all young professionals. This is the right time to enjoy life and also to equipped yourself with knowledge. That's why I'm here always for some tips😊
I see a pattern with in myself where I become argumentive and defensive. Even with HR intervention, head HR was on his side and passive aggressive. None of the less leaving me feel hopeless in the trust of my team because I couldn't come to the table with proof even though the environment Is indeed. Coworkers speaking little of the boss and when stuff hits the fan. Everyone is on the bosses side obviously because nobody wants to lose their job but utilize you as the scape goat and me, myself and I making stuff up
I'm dealing with a bully boss who plays mind games and sets you up to get "into trouble" . There is no working with him. i'ts impossible. He doesn't even let you know what he expects because he wants you to be wrong so he can bully. he's a evil narcissist and sometimes you just gotta get away.
I'm sorry to hear that. Sometimes there is no winning so at that point you need to do what's best for you. Hold strong to your personal values and don't let people like that push you into acting out in a way that puts you in a negative light. Thanks for watching, cheers!
Reminds me of a manager I went to for advice on a bad boss saying "have you tried talking them about it" 😂 If you go to death row in jail you will find a lot of innocent men or say they will tell you. A bad boss doesnt just stop being a bad boss because you are nice to them, or talk to them or work hard. A bad boss is at their core an unhappy person. And like a drowning person they will drag you down with them if you try to help. The only thing you can do is save yourself and let them sink.
I hate it when people tell you not to worry about it that's a dismissive comment. You just back tracked what you said about it being them and not you. I don't care how busy a manager or colleague is they should not be talking to you like that. People seem to be condoning toxic behaviour as normal. I know I am good at my job. The manager has no clue how my job works to advise me on how to do it. You get told off for things without being asked what happened. Even striking employees about working conditions are being told they didn't know there was a problem. Just stick your head in the sand. I was doing a great job until this manager came along. Poke it popeye I've got a new job.
I have a really hard time with a mean boss because I'm very insecure and blame myself for every little thing that goes wrong at work.. and I always have this fear that people think I'm bad at my job or lazy because there's always something left on my plate that I'm unable to get to
Adriana Girdler No matter what speaking against your boss to others never is good. And anytime I’ve told on a Boss it always back fired so your better off dealing with it like you said. Doing the best job & submitting to their authority. Not saying to take abuse but a boss whose harsh or unfair sometimes you just have to live with it. I know if I put my trust in God he will work it out. Sometimes confrontation is necessary but only with you can approach your boss in a gentle way.
I turned off the side of me that is a "fixer" because people do that to me and it's very rude and obtrusive. Let a person be a person. How I want to deal with it is the key.
I disagree this part…I been dealing with my difficult boss for years and to be honest she always always give me shit everyday till she press my button and we had a really really big arguments.Shes a lawyer and Im just a Nanny…I always stand on my foot when i know Im right..I will never say sorry to her if i know shes wrong…One day i talk to her and tell everything what i don’t like it…And hell yeah were okay…Been with them 5 years now….
Hello Adriana, I have been dealing with a boss that has been very difficult to deal with. Just being around him has been causing a lot of anxiety. I work for a great company and I love the work i do. I am so thankful that I found this video. I think it will really help me get through this.. Keep up the good work
Hi Tim. I am sorry to hear that you are dealing with a difficult boss and even more so that it is causing you anxiety. On the positive side, you love what you do, and the company as well which is often hard to find both together. I really hope this video will help you moving forward. Wishing you all the best, cheers!
I hope everything worked out for you. I am in that position myself, and I agree it will axhaust and mentally drain you. If you're doing good, give me some advice, please.
I have just quit my job , as it became intolerable. There were simply too many insults , and unkind remarks thrown my way its all still raw but i will feel better for it, as i decided to protect my mental health and well being. Thanks for sharing these tips though, they offer a diff perspective and will help me in next job 🙂.
I am sorry to hear you needed to quit your job, but I'm glad you are doing what you need to do for your mental health. Wishing you all the best as you move forward. Cheers!
Excellent tips...over the years I used all your tips (including documenting) and learned to live with it.... on the other hand...happiness is the key. People quit their jobs not because of the company, it is only because of the difficult boss they have to deal with it everyday. In fact, "dealing" with a difficult boss everyday is not good for your mental health...you bring home everyday on the kind of things you had to deal with at work. So, my advise is try to be happy...find another way. You cant control to change the boss, but you can control what you can do. You dont have to deal with the difficult boss everyday. Find another job and quit!! Belive me, just the action of quitting itself will bring happiness to you!!
James, I completely agree with everything you have said here. I feel it’s important to give it a go, try to manage the situation when dealing with a difficult boss. However, there may often come a time that the environment is doing you more harm mentally and then it’s time to think about making a change. Thank you so much for your comment. Hope you are keeping well and safe and that you are no longer dealing with a difficult boss. All the best, cheers!
Yeah, that's true. It's like your all time revolves around him, not your career anymore. You'll be preoccupied always on how to deal with the difficult boss and that's not healthy on your personal growth and mental health. I'm on my way on quitting this job but I have to be on the next company I'll be with.
Oh, Adriana answered you! Ant she amazing, I am dealing with this and both of you are so right. I am going to try and do as Adriana advised and it that does not work, I will quit!
I just watched this video, and after watching it I glanced at how long ago it was posted. This was 2 years ago. And I just want to say that even after 2 years of posting your video, someone still finds Great value in it. Thank you very much.
Hi Juan! Thank you so very much for such a wonderful comment. It brings me great joy to know this video has been of value to you. Thank you for watching and commenting, cheers!
I love your energy. Refreshing but down to earth. Great tips too. Currently dealing with a boss who constantly seems irritated by me and speaks over me. And they wonder why turnover is so bad! Anyway, it’s my last week at this job and I am SO excited
Thanks for the useful tips! I especially loved #4 about staying true to your values. As a matter of fact, I had a similar situation to yours a few years back: I had a difficult boss and almost thought about quitting but I loved my job. I dealt with the situation by putting all my love and creativity into my job, instead of trying to "fix" my boss.
That's amazing, Simona! I'm so glad you took it as a learning opportunity, and an opportunity to grow and improve in your career. Every difficult situation can be seen as a gift, and it sounds like that's just how you saw it. Good for you, for remaining positive and for dealing so well with that difficult boss! Cheers!
1) focus on your job 2) know what's important to your boss 3) don't try to fix your boss 4) stay aligned with your values and vision 5) put yourself in their shoes 6) take another look at how you're approaching things
You can't solely focus on your job is the person is being abusive, unpleasant and at times unprofessional. It's useful to check your reactions and feelings and also ok to be clear about what your willing to accept
Love what you said about knowing your boss and getting more information if you need it. No matter what kind of person your boss is, having clear instructions is always important to do your best and avoid all miscommunication. I also agree that you shouldn't blame yourself but sometimes you do have to adjust your approach.
Exactly. That's why it's key to know what's important to your boss and what expectations they have of you. Thanks for watching and for continuing the conversation. Cheers!
These are very good tips. I suffered a lot and in temporary depression under a micro-managing boss who thinks he is always right. I also thought about quitting.. but I really looked inwards and go back to my WHY to keep me going.
Personal reflection and reconnection to one's self is key to getting through any difficult situation. Stay centered and you will observe what is going on vs being caught in the eye of the storm. Thank you so much for watching. ♥
I had a difficult boss in college. I knew it was a part-time job to get through school so it made it a lot easier to walk away to find something else without the stress of a difficult boss.
Meredith, I think that goes with my tip of focusing on your job! It sounds like even though you had a sucky boss, you were able to focus on why you were there, to get yourself through college. Thanks for sharing, cheers!
1. Focus on your job - you can't control what your boss is doing or how they are behaving. Be very clear with what your roles and responsibilities are. 2. Know what's important to your boss - if not clear, book one on one meetings. 3. Don't try to fix your boss - understand their behaviours and patterns and adjust yours to theirs. 4. Stay aligned with your vision and goals - who are you and what do you want. 5. Put yourself in their shoes - It's not about you it's about them. [My own insert here - change how your boss perceives your personality by focusing on them.] 6. Take another look at how you are approaching thing - is there some validity to why my boss is doing certain things? Is it me? 7. Document everything.
I currently have a new boss/director who has such a strict attendance policy; I’m a student-trainee who lives 1.5 hours away from my work (financial reasons), and I am certain she is trying to get me fired. She recently threatened me with an ultimatum that if I’m late one more time, I get kicked from our medical program. It has been causing me so much stress that I can hardly focus on course work. Well today there was a massive snow-storm that took me 3 hours to get there due to her giving us false weather forecast information (I genuinely risked my life driving), and I think she might try to use it against me. She has 0 mercy or flexibility - truly a headache situation. I just want to graduate and leave :(
"Don't try to fix your boss" . That is a huge tip. In one of videos I focus on leadership values. You mention values.... having that as a part of the work environment, and setting is huge. Yes stay true to your values even if they are not holding the pre-agreed on values.
For sure... As well, everyone has their own personal values and it's important to stay true to those, even at work. Thanks for watching and for sharing your thoughts. I'm glad you're living your values! Cheers!
Hmmm. I agree that we should stick to our values but we should also bend it to our benefit which means to let loose on some to play the game! You won’t go too far with strict boundaries! My cents
Thank you Adriana. I was furious on my super boss who cancelled my leave request for next week. I was going to take some drastic steps when I thought of browsing some videos on anger management when your life's lesson videos came up & it forced me to ponder upon my foolishness. Thanks once again.
Solids tips. I was just telling someone a few days ago that I have been so fortunate in my career. Almost 30 years of working and I can count the bad bosses on one hand.
That's great! Well, it's not great that you've had some bad bosses, but I'm so glad you see it as a gift that you haven't had all bad ones. It's sad how common it is to have a sucky boss. Thanks for sharing and for watching! :)
I have had a difficult boss before and it didn’t make going into work very enjoyable. Thank you for all this great advise on how to deal with a difficult boss. I will continue to remind my self to stay true to me:)
How about a boss who doesn't see any good u do but only concentrates on looking at any mistake u make to criticize your work. This woman has never said thank you but very good at looking at my small mistakes to criticize me.
Hi Mariam. Sorry to hear you are dealing with a boss that nit picks. Have you had a conversation with her to express your concerns? I would start there. Wishing you all the best. Cheers!
It sucks that we have to adjust ourselves because they aren't very nice people.... But i just realized we have to adjust ourselves in most if not all relationships
Yes, work or personal relationships all require us to adjust at some point or another. The important part though is that you stay true to yourself when making decisions on when to bend or adjust. Thanks for watching, cheers!
Hi Jena. I'm sorry to hear that your boss is terrible. I've experienced this myself. Focus on you doing the best job you can do and document everything. If you have to, go to HR; that's why they're there. Good luck!
@@AdrianaGirdler thank you for getting back to me I appreciate your advice. My boss owns his own cleaning company and he's actually been investigated before for cooking the books. In the end he had to cut several checks to his employees this was before I started working for him I learned this information after I was hired 16 months ago. I have been documenting things for several months after I started noticing my paycheck was unusual. On top of him being incredibly passive aggressive and a complete narcissist, I have discovered my paychecks have not been adding up right for quite some time. Long story short I'm going to end up calling the Better Business Bureau or possibly going to the Workforce Development Center and Reporting him.
Sometimes when you have been working tough through 7days you were stressed out and here comes a strict boss to demeaning you control everything. And you choose not to hold back but to yell out... No money anxiety disorder insomnia
I just don’t understand how you can combine 4 and 2. How can you stay true to your values and at the same time adjust yourself to your boss patterns. These two do not match.
When you adjust to your bosses patterns it is NOT at the expense of your values. If that is the case you need to evaluate the situation and decide which is more critical to you and move forward from their.
Adriana, this is such a hot topic lately. I recently did a video about how to deal with a toxic workplace. There are so many people out with difficult bosses. Love to get your feedback. Great tips!
This has been really helpful. You're right. I just have to focus on my job/work and stick to my values. And it helps a lot because we are currently working from home so I don't have to see him at all. My boss has been unsympathetic to many employees. For him, reasons are no different from excuses although they were urgent. He couldn't care less at all. So, I'm learning how not to care about what he says and just focus on my job. He's the kind of boss that is generous with criticisms but stingy when it comes to appreciation.
Thanks for stopping by to share your story, KGrace C! Sounds like you are handling it like a champ - which I love to hear. Keep it up and as you say, focus on your job! Cheers!
One thing is for sure if you want to quit your job because someone that works there is shitty towards you, you’re going to quit every job you get. I have four bosses and only one of them is shitty. I like those numbers.
My boss is weirdly competitive with me. I know him a long time, so I know how he thinks, so for example if I'm late with an assignment, I usually know when to write him to confirm I'm indeed working on it and will send it in few hours. So he knows I didn't forget. Most other people I worked for ususlly responded with "OK" when I did this - my current boss responds with things like "telepathy, I was just about to write to you" to sort of establish he is ahead of me and in control of the situation. It's really weird.
My god this really helped me I’ve been struggling 6 months in and I know I wanna leave and I’m going to leave because of the management I’ll be true to myself and my work something told me to look this up loving it thank you all this micromanage stuff is horrible however we are gods children I believe it’s because of what other people have done it’s definitely not me AMEN THANK YOU LORD
I am so happy to hear that watching this video has helped you. Continue to be true to yourself and you will find great things in life, including a place of employment that you enjoy going to every day. Wishing you all the best. Cheers!
I agree with you 90% bosses can be abusive and belittling. They can be passive aggressive and stay in lines of respect. That’s when you are really screwed. “ messing with you just enough to drive you crazy and still be in the right. That’s a no no
How do you know if your boss is overly critical or just trying to get rid of you? And how do people really deal with this every day? I’m the one constantly reminding him, he has ADD, yet he is constantly on top of me when I think I’m bringing my A game. I’m exhausted.
Sounds like frustrating situation. Have you ever had a sit down to discuss how you are feeling? This may be a good place to start. All the best and thanks for watching, cheers!
My supervisor has a "fix it yourself" attitude--if I ask her any questions, she's very curt and won't give much information. I've caught her lying to me about things in the past because she didn't want to directly come out and tell me she had an issue with the way I did something. Then, when the workflow does mess up, she always takes her angst out on me. I see her laughing and carrying on with other employees, but the moment I step in her direction, she's bone silent.
A good boss is truly supportive and protective of you. Any action shown outside of those qualities is toxic. Many, unfortunately are out to get you and keep a “file” (negative, only) on you. Going through this now. He wants me to ask questions. He’s vague in his instructions, so when I ask a question, he takes it as insubordination and notes it in his file. Yet he says he wants you to ask questions!! Brings up those points at evaluation time and indeed keeps a folder anytime he feels dissed. I’ve never had a boss like that. If they kept a file, I never knew about it and they never brought it up.
My name is Jamie, I am working in a carwash in Toronto Canada with a toxic boss who is always making feel anxious and being a bully towards me at work. Many times My boss is making me feel like an outsider form my co workers. Many time MY boss is always intiamadating me in the work place.
Yes! Sometimes you just have to make some minor adjustments to your own work. It's unfortunate that sucky bosses exist, but knowing what's important to them definitely helps! Cheers!
I have to sit right next to my terrible supervisor for 12 hrs a week every week. I enjoy working with pretty much everyone else , but she'll be the one to make me quit a good job.
I am sorry to hear this. I hope my video has given you a few tips that will help you deal with your supervisor. It would be a shame for you to leave a job that you enjoy. Wishing you all the best. Cheers.
I admire you for keeping true to yourself and staying with your values amid a difficult boss. I want to learn that. It will be a discipline though learning your boss is difficult and peer pressure you for those values who are not you... I'm learning so much from you maam😊
Thank you so much and thrilled that you are learning so much from my channel. Thank you for watching and taking the time to comment. Wishing you all the best, cheers!
Great video and love the captions and whole layout. Really great tips to think about and apply within the work environment and also great if you are a CEO, as well. This helps us to always remember that we should treat those we work with and direct with due respect and integrity. Keep up the great work:)
That's so true! Work is especially hard when you have a difficult boss, but you can definitely apply some of these tips to other people you work with as well. I agree, it's important to show respect and compassion :) Cheers!
If you're doing the best you can and show your boss respect, do not tolerate disrespect from your boss. I once had a female boss that did that and I basically turned into a landmine just waiting to be stepped on. One day she stepped on the landmine and I told her to go eff herself because it's obvious her husband isn't and I walked off. She was speechless. As I was walking away I shouted "You're doing great at shutting up for once, keep it up!"
You are welcome! Looooove reading comments like this. I am thrilled this video has given you some great insight! Wishing you all the best and thanks for watching, cheers!
I work in a classroom as a teacher’s aid and my boss (the teacher) is totally inconsistent with her expectations of the classroom rules and gets mad at me when I let the kids do something that she was allowing them to do the day before. In addition, the always gives me “suggestions” but never actually spends one on one time with the special needs kids herself. Suggestions from a distance that don’t help.
I can see how this can be very frustrating for you but for the kids as well. As we all know children need structure to learn and grow. Maybe you can schedule a time to chat with her about your concerns. If that is to no avail then document if you feel it need to be shared with the VP. Outside of that you may want to see if you can transfer to a new class the next school year. Wishing you the best as I can only imagine how frustrating this is for you. Cheers!
I have gotten through the craziness of a boss with unrealistic expectations by reminding myself that I’m just selling my time there till time to go home. An when he try’s to degrade me for going home when it’s that time? I just smile as I continue to head to the clock.
My current full-time job that I've been here for almost 7 years, my new supervisor of about 6months move shift so bad I stay away as much as possible. I do not like workplace drama nor do I desire it The best thing I've started doing is not being around them. Stick me somewhere and I can handle on my own
I don't think anyone likes workplace drama but it seems like you are doing what works best for you to avoid it. Thanks for watching and wishing you all the best, cheers!
My boss is currently new to her job title, she never had a job in management before and you can tell and I have been in management before and I am a true leader .. my new boss is no leader at all and she lacks active listening and comprehension skills she’s also an envious person because I did a lot for my department that she hasn’t done and is jealous she hasn’t thought of it first, so she is trying to be my friend and try to negative impact me thinking I will have a reaction, but I ignore it and document everything because she’s trying to twist words of procedures because she doesn’t understand it and saying snarky comments as if I am a liar when I am not and everyone knows it and I’m actually upset up this because now I hate going to work and before I didn’t
I have an incompanant boss and he has you do incompanant things with the customer and there is no telling him that what he telling you to do is wrong. It looks bad for me and it makes us look bad for the company. He has been transferred from division to division. People in my division doesn't know why he hasn't been fired yet. When he gets in charge of a division he loses employees and customers.
The tips really helped with my work today. Thank you so much. I " patched back " with the boss whom I considered shit 😆. Your tips work miracles 💯👍👍👍👏👏👏..... 🤗🤗🤗 :)
6:59 What is document document document mean. How you do it efficiency and effectively in an unfamiliar ever-changing environment. When you're a production worker and don't have access to a computer throughout the day.
It's important to keep documentation of interactions, dates and times when in a difficult situation with your boss. If you don't have access to a computer during your shift keeping notes in a little notebook is also a good way to document. Wishing you all the best.
Tips for Dealing with a Difficult boss: 1. Focus on your Job, make sure to are doing what you are supposed to be doing Accurately. 2. Know what is Important to your boss. Physco 101, if a micro manager, make sure your boss understands that you know your job. 3. Don't try to correct your boss. Never try to change a BOSS or micromanager, that is their way of managing. a. Understand their behavior and patterns so you do no feed into it. Adjust your behavior too not feed into more negativity. 4. Stay Aligned with your Values and Vision and Goals. Stay true to who you are, you cannot control other people. 5. Put yourself in their shoes. See the pressure they are under. They may be very busy themselves, and some just have quirks. 6. Take another Look at how you're approaching things. You may be misjudging your boss, do not point the fingers. Is there some validity to their accusations, am I performing? Bonus Tip: Document the H_ll out of everything and meetings. Show the proof that you boss is after you...and doing wrong things on your behalf.
I just accept that being fired/quitting is a foregone conclusion. If I am going to just be terrible all of the time, then they will do fine - if not better - without me.
Me too! I strive to be the best boss I can be - it helps that I've had a couple of sucky bosses so I know what behaviours to avoid, lol! I'm sure you're a great boss, Cindy-lou! Cheers!
I think one clear sign of toxic boss is when you used to love/like your job but because of behaviour of your boss you don't like it anymore.
Yes a clear sign indeed. Hopefully some of these tips will help. Thanks for watching, cheers!
That's is exactly what I am experiencing right now.
Dealing with the same thing..im on the verge of getting fired bc i told my bf how work would be and he came up there..i wanted to be in her position
One of my bosses is a female who used well still does work in a prisons she talks down to her inmates I'm pretty sure and she dominates them because she feels she has to be one up on men and she's bringing that into the job that I have as she is my boss and she talks to me like a little kid my friend told me to tell her "talk to me with respect I'm not your child or your inmates you clearly have a problem with me but I'm just here to work and your toxic energy isn't really affecting me but it's getting annoying" she's probably going to minimize my hours which is a case for retaliation so I'm wondering what I should do
Oww you said it well
So on me now,
When it comes to bosses I've done both..been patient..."never talk back" and been a push over...and it's didn't work..still got canned....now I tell them how I feel with an honest calm and confident face...still get canned... That's why you gotta stick to your values
I couldn't agree more. Sometimes no matter how you deal with a difficult boss you just can't win. However if you stick to your own core values you will always be a winner:) Thanks so much for watching, cheers!
Document everything - every conversation
@@natbett206 How do you do that with calls? She can deny her words said. And she did for me.
I also tell him how I feel from time to time, but he goes back to his old habits and I have to remind him from time to time how horrible he is.
Whatever my boss said I will do it no questions but when he scolds me what I'm not guilty of I will fight.
I have one rule, don't expose yourself to any toxic person. Just imagine having a boss that no matter what you do it isn't right. I had to put a boss in his place because he didn't know what he wanted as his mind constantly was changing and nothing I could do was right no matter what T I followed. Everyone on the team felt equally frustrated. After a year of dealing with this toxic asshole and on my final day when I gave my resignation as I had a job lined up I asked him, "Do you think support, encouragement and gratitude are important attributes for a successful managers should have?" I then handed him my resignation and walked out. A month later another key person on his team left as well. My current boss now is a great guy to work with and my job is once again enjoyable.
I am so happy that you have found a team, boss and company that allows you to enjoy your work. That is so very important. Thank you for sharing your experience and for watching, cheers!
@@rajibaidya4935 exactly If you aren't happy with your work there are plenty of other places where you will be respected. Trust me, it isn't worth it having an ass as a boss.
My boss can literally announced herself among people, i have high expectation and difficult people to work with. I will scold when thing is not done
@@happygal1974 Some female bosses are the worse because they think they have to be a hard ass man to keep up with whatever competition they think they have with men. In my experience, a female boss with predominantly men in the team is NEVER fun. They like the control and are emotional in most of their business dealings.
My boss criticises everything I do and it has gotten to the point where I'm afraid to do go beyond.
No toxic environment is worth your well being. Screw staying there and living with it. Find another job, sooner or later HR will figure him/her out why there is such a turn over rate. Professor in college told me (the whole class) "You can get paid $50 dollars an hour but if your boss is an asshole, you wont stay long." no truer words have been spoken. Peace out
I had a difficult boss in my first job!!! And I hated every time I had to meet with her. But I survived by focusing on my part of the job and doing my best. Great tips. Thanks.
Good for you for staying focused, Katarina! I've had the same experience of dreading meeting with a bad boss. It's no fun for anyone - glad you made it through! Cheers!
This sounds more like "How to Survive an Abusive Relationship".
Hi Gerrit, whether it be a difficult boss or difficulty in any other relationship there is no room for abuse of any kind. This video was geared towards dealing with a difficult boss but I think some of these tips can be used in difficult relationships outside of the office environment. Thanks for your comment and for watching, cheers!
It is an abusive situation 😕 but instead of a personal relationship its a workplace relationship. Abusive in the way they take advantage of you and make you crazy.
I know! So bad!
Yup. Some of those leaders are bullies.
yes in other words just be ready to do some kissing
I feel like with my boss there’s no right answer. What she wants changes from week to week, day by day, and like today hour by hour. Putting me behind on what I need to do.
That will definitely make for challenging work days. I hope this video was of some help. Thanks for watching, cheers!
I don't exactly know what you been through. But I had an experience before. Being a newbie, I made lot of mistakes in my reports. That was very frustrating. Working in a bank, you need to assure everything is correct up to the last cents. I'm not to blame because being new to the report means you need help from your boss on how to do everything. But my boss is a type who give less instructions. It was like, "how can I do this.job right with little instruction" and your limiting conversation with them because you feel toxic with them... Your job will literally be easy with proper guidance. You ended up being blame for all the mistakes.
This days were challenging. Yeah, it leave me some kind of trauma and a lesson to be equipped with knowledge. These will always remind me, "This is hard but I have to adopt, get all necessary skills to make myself better on my work".
I'm here also to remind all young professionals. This is the right time to enjoy life and also to equipped yourself with knowledge.
That's why I'm here always for some tips😊
I had a boss like this. A complete power trip, so sorry to hear that. Document everything if they keep trying to flip the script so you have proof.
@@makoy2984The "not wanting to ask info because interactions are toxic but task being hard to complete because of lack of communication" I felt that.
I see a pattern with in myself where I become argumentive and defensive. Even with HR intervention, head HR was on his side and passive aggressive. None of the less leaving me feel hopeless in the trust of my team because I couldn't come to the table with proof even though the environment Is indeed. Coworkers speaking little of the boss and when stuff hits the fan. Everyone is on the bosses side obviously because nobody wants to lose their job but utilize you as the scape goat and me, myself and I making stuff up
Omg I contemplate quitting atleast 3times a day!! I hate feeling this way...I will try these tips!
Same here
Also currently going through this hell.
Hoping Brandi’s situation is better now?
I am hoping that these tips work for all of you. Thanks for watching, cheers!
Same like every breaktime, that's my thought 😅😭
Same. I cant take it :(
I'm dealing with a bully boss who plays mind games and sets you up to get "into trouble" . There is no working with him. i'ts impossible. He doesn't even let you know what he expects because he wants you to be wrong so he can bully. he's a evil narcissist and sometimes you just gotta get away.
I'm sorry to hear that. Sometimes there is no winning so at that point you need to do what's best for you. Hold strong to your personal values and don't let people like that push you into acting out in a way that puts you in a negative light. Thanks for watching, cheers!
Kim D Just find yourself happiness by NOT working for him any more! Sooner the better for you!!
Don’t forget that you’re an INTERNAL customer. If he gets on your nerves, then find another job!
I'm dealing with the same type of boss. It's awful 😖
Sounds like my boss condescending bully boss.
Reminds me of a manager I went to for advice on a bad boss saying "have you tried talking them about it" 😂 If you go to death row in jail you will find a lot of innocent men or say they will tell you. A bad boss doesnt just stop being a bad boss because you are nice to them, or talk to them or work hard. A bad boss is at their core an unhappy person. And like a drowning person they will drag you down with them if you try to help. The only thing you can do is save yourself and let them sink.
Amen! So true, especially when they have just gotten promoted, and they’ve always been nothing and nobody gee 😮 that’s one of the worst experiences
I hate it when people tell you not to worry about it that's a dismissive comment. You just back tracked what you said about it being them and not you. I don't care how busy a manager or colleague is they should not be talking to you like that. People seem to be condoning toxic behaviour as normal. I know I am good at my job. The manager has no clue how my job works to advise me on how to do it. You get told off for things without being asked what happened. Even striking employees about working conditions are being told they didn't know there was a problem. Just stick your head in the sand. I was doing a great job until this manager came along. Poke it popeye I've got a new job.
I have a really hard time with a mean boss because I'm very insecure and blame myself for every little thing that goes wrong at work.. and I always have this fear that people think I'm bad at my job or lazy because there's always something left on my plate that I'm unable to get to
I am sorry to hear this. I hope this video has helped and wish you all the best.
Who else is watching this 2024 and feels like quitting like me?
I am sure there are many. I hope that the rest of 2024 unfolds in the most perfect way for you!
Yes.
Yes I’m in the guard and I used to love my unit but because of a micromanaging boss singalong me out I’m considering leaving.
Me too😢
I love what you said "Don't try to fix your boss!" It's hard for those of us are fixers:)
Oh, definitely!! And I'm sure that as a "fixer" you make a great boss, always ensuring that everything is at its best. :) Cheers!
Adriana Girdler No matter what speaking against your boss to others never is good. And anytime I’ve told on a Boss it always back fired so your better off dealing with it like you said. Doing the best job & submitting to their authority. Not saying to take abuse but a boss whose harsh or unfair sometimes you just have to live with it. I know if I put my trust in God he will work it out. Sometimes confrontation is necessary but only with you can approach your boss in a gentle way.
I turned off the side of me that is a "fixer" because people do that to me and it's very rude and obtrusive. Let a person be a person. How I want to deal with it is the key.
Right, it's best to focus on yourself, that is the only person you can control, your mind & body.
I disagree this part…I been dealing with my difficult boss for years and to be honest she always always give me shit everyday till she press my button and we had a really really big arguments.Shes a lawyer and Im just a Nanny…I always stand on my foot when i know Im right..I will never say sorry to her if i know shes wrong…One day i talk to her and tell everything what i don’t like it…And hell yeah were okay…Been with them 5 years now….
I think the micromanaging boss is the WORST!
Yeah! Micromanagers are frustrating for sure. Especially when you work well independently. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, cheers!
Me right now 🤯
They are real devils
mine is behaving this way due to insecurity of herself. How can a company works without any problem? Her expectation is zero problem 🤣🤣🤣
Hello Adriana, I have been dealing with a boss that has been very difficult to deal with. Just being around him has been causing a lot of anxiety. I work for a great company and I love the work i do. I am so thankful that I found this video. I think it will really help me get through this.. Keep up the good work
Hi Tim. I am sorry to hear that you are dealing with a difficult boss and even more so that it is causing you anxiety. On the positive side, you love what you do, and the company as well which is often hard to find both together. I really hope this video will help you moving forward. Wishing you all the best, cheers!
I hope everything worked out for you. I am in that position myself, and I agree it will axhaust and mentally drain you. If you're doing good, give me some advice, please.
I have just quit my job , as it became intolerable. There were simply too many insults , and unkind remarks thrown my way its all still raw but i will feel better for it, as i decided to protect my mental health and well being. Thanks for sharing these tips though, they offer a diff perspective and will help me in next job 🙂.
I am sorry to hear you needed to quit your job, but I'm glad you are doing what you need to do for your mental health. Wishing you all the best as you move forward. Cheers!
I pray that I can quit too! 😭😭
I quit my job yesterday best feeling ever
Wishing you all the best as you move forward. Thanks for watching, cheers!
Excellent tips...over the years I used all your tips (including documenting) and learned to live with it.... on the other hand...happiness is the key. People quit their jobs not because of the company, it is only because of the difficult boss they have to deal with it everyday. In fact, "dealing" with a difficult boss everyday is not good for your mental health...you bring home everyday on the kind of things you had to deal with at work. So, my advise is try to be happy...find another way. You cant control to change the boss, but you can control what you can do. You dont have to deal with the difficult boss everyday. Find another job and quit!! Belive me, just the action of quitting itself will bring happiness to you!!
James, I completely agree with everything you have said here. I feel it’s important to give it a go, try to manage the situation when dealing with a difficult boss. However, there may often come a time that the environment is doing you more harm mentally and then it’s time to think about making a change. Thank you so much for your comment. Hope you are keeping well and safe and that you are no longer dealing with a difficult boss. All the best, cheers!
Yeah, that's true. It's like your all time revolves around him, not your career anymore. You'll be preoccupied always on how to deal with the difficult boss and that's not healthy on your personal growth and mental health. I'm on my way on quitting this job but I have to be on the next company I'll be with.
Oh, Adriana answered you! Ant she amazing, I am dealing with this and both of you are so right. I am going to try and do as Adriana advised and it that does not work, I will quit!
I’ve thought if quitting almost once or twice a month. I’ve cried to myself at work at least three times.
I am so sorry to hear this. I hope this video will help you. Stay strong. Wishing you all the best, cheers!
I feel ya. Me too, I wait till i get in the car, and cry.
OMG I cried to today and I am a man! but my boss threatened to fire me and I have a family of 4 kids!
@@hunter2442 :((((
@@hunter2442 Sorry to hear Prayed for you my friend and for strength and wisdom
I just watched this video, and after watching it I glanced at how long ago it was posted. This was 2 years ago. And I just want to say that even after 2 years of posting your video, someone still finds Great value in it. Thank you very much.
Hi Juan! Thank you so very much for such a wonderful comment. It brings me great joy to know this video has been of value to you. Thank you for watching and commenting, cheers!
I love your energy. Refreshing but down to earth. Great tips too. Currently dealing with a boss who constantly seems irritated by me and speaks over me. And they wonder why turnover is so bad! Anyway, it’s my last week at this job and I am SO excited
Thank you so much and I wish you all the best in your last week. Good luck with your new endeavour. Cheers!
Nearly every large workplace has at least some toxic supervisors
They have mental health issues.
I tune them out, try to have as little interaction as possible and focus on my own role.
Thanks for the useful tips!
I especially loved #4 about staying true to your values. As a matter of fact, I had a similar situation to yours a few years back: I had a difficult boss and almost thought about quitting but I loved my job. I dealt with the situation by putting all my love and creativity into my job, instead of trying to "fix" my boss.
That's amazing, Simona! I'm so glad you took it as a learning opportunity, and an opportunity to grow and improve in your career. Every difficult situation can be seen as a gift, and it sounds like that's just how you saw it. Good for you, for remaining positive and for dealing so well with that difficult boss! Cheers!
1) focus on your job
2) know what's important to your boss
3) don't try to fix your boss
4) stay aligned with your values and vision
5) put yourself in their shoes
6) take another look at how you're approaching things
Thanks so much for watching. I hope this video has helped you as you move forward. Cheers!
tried that. It did not work out. They are something els. I found a better place, co-workers, and have good boss ever.
@@thuynguyen-hu4on Good for you don't take abuse from anyone
1) change job
You can't solely focus on your job is the person is being abusive, unpleasant and at times unprofessional. It's useful to check your reactions and feelings and also ok to be clear about what your willing to accept
Love what you said about knowing your boss and getting more information if you need it. No matter what kind of person your boss is, having clear instructions is always important to do your best and avoid all miscommunication. I also agree that you shouldn't blame yourself but sometimes you do have to adjust your approach.
Exactly. That's why it's key to know what's important to your boss and what expectations they have of you. Thanks for watching and for continuing the conversation. Cheers!
These are very good tips. I suffered a lot and in temporary depression under a micro-managing boss who thinks he is always right. I also thought about quitting.. but I really looked inwards and go back to my WHY to keep me going.
Personal reflection and reconnection to one's self is key to getting through any difficult situation. Stay centered and you will observe what is going on vs being caught in the eye of the storm. Thank you so much for watching. ♥
The mental load of having to psychoanalyze a supervisor and jump through hoops for them is sooo outside of my pay grade. 2:56
unfortunately mine is sociopath. Can't fix crazy.
Unfortunately sometimes you can't. Wishing you the best. Thanks for watching, cheers!
I had a difficult boss in college. I knew it was a part-time job to get through school so it made it a lot easier to walk away to find something else without the stress of a difficult boss.
Meredith, I think that goes with my tip of focusing on your job! It sounds like even though you had a sucky boss, you were able to focus on why you were there, to get yourself through college. Thanks for sharing, cheers!
1. Focus on your job - you can't control what your boss is doing or how they are behaving. Be very clear with what your roles and responsibilities are.
2. Know what's important to your boss - if not clear, book one on one meetings.
3. Don't try to fix your boss - understand their behaviours and patterns and adjust yours to theirs.
4. Stay aligned with your vision and goals - who are you and what do you want.
5. Put yourself in their shoes - It's not about you it's about them. [My own insert here - change how your boss perceives your personality by focusing on them.]
6. Take another look at how you are approaching thing - is there some validity to why my boss is doing certain things? Is it me?
7. Document everything.
Thank you for watching and taking the time to comment. Cheers!
Thank you so much
I currently have a new boss/director who has such a strict attendance policy; I’m a student-trainee who lives 1.5 hours away from my work (financial reasons), and I am certain she is trying to get me fired. She recently threatened me with an ultimatum that if I’m late one more time, I get kicked from our medical program. It has been causing me so much stress that I can hardly focus on course work. Well today there was a massive snow-storm that took me 3 hours to get there due to her giving us false weather forecast information (I genuinely risked my life driving), and I think she might try to use it against me. She has 0 mercy or flexibility - truly a headache situation. I just want to graduate and leave :(
I am sorry to hear this. Wishing all the best for you and thanks for watching. Cheers.
This was so helpful for me. I’ve been so depressed about these issues. Thank you!
I am so happy to hear that this video was helpful. Wishing you all the best, cheers!
"Don't try to fix your boss" . That is a huge tip. In one of videos I focus on leadership values. You mention values.... having that as a part of the work environment, and setting is huge. Yes stay true to your values even if they are not holding the pre-agreed on values.
For sure... As well, everyone has their own personal values and it's important to stay true to those, even at work. Thanks for watching and for sharing your thoughts. I'm glad you're living your values! Cheers!
Hmmm. I agree that we should stick to our values but we should also bend it to our benefit which means to let loose on some to play the game! You won’t go too far with strict boundaries! My cents
Thank you Adriana. I was furious on my super boss who cancelled my leave request for next week. I was going to take some drastic steps when I thought of browsing some videos on anger management when your life's lesson videos came up & it forced me to ponder upon my foolishness. Thanks once again.
You are most welcome! Wishing you all the best in the days ahead. Cheers!
Solids tips. I was just telling someone a few days ago that I have been so fortunate in my career. Almost 30 years of working and I can count the bad bosses on one hand.
That's great! Well, it's not great that you've had some bad bosses, but I'm so glad you see it as a gift that you haven't had all bad ones. It's sad how common it is to have a sucky boss. Thanks for sharing and for watching! :)
Wow, you are lucky!
I have had a difficult boss before and it didn’t make going into work very enjoyable. Thank you for all this great advise on how to deal with a difficult boss. I will continue to remind my self to stay true to me:)
Always be true to yourself and practice self care. Glad this advise was helpful. Thanks for watching, cheers!
This helped me the most out of all the videos I've watched about this topic. This is so genuine and applicable! Appreciate the video.
I am so happy to hear this! Thanks for watching, cheers!
How about a boss who doesn't see any good u do but only concentrates on looking at any mistake u make to criticize your work. This woman has never said thank you but very good at looking at my small mistakes to criticize me.
Hi Mariam. Sorry to hear you are dealing with a boss that nit picks. Have you had a conversation with her to express your concerns? I would start there. Wishing you all the best. Cheers!
It sucks that we have to adjust ourselves because they aren't very nice people.... But i just realized we have to adjust ourselves in most if not all relationships
Yes, work or personal relationships all require us to adjust at some point or another. The important part though is that you stay true to yourself when making decisions on when to bend or adjust. Thanks for watching, cheers!
My boss is just a prick. It doesn't matter how good of a job I do,
Some people are drunk with power and they turn into pricks.
Hi Jena. I'm sorry to hear that your boss is terrible. I've experienced this myself. Focus on you doing the best job you can do and document everything. If you have to, go to HR; that's why they're there. Good luck!
@@AdrianaGirdler thank you for getting back to me I appreciate your advice. My boss owns his own cleaning company and he's actually been investigated before for cooking the books. In the end he had to cut several checks to his employees this was before I started working for him
I learned this information after I was hired 16 months ago.
I have been documenting things for several months after I started noticing my paycheck was unusual. On top of him being incredibly passive aggressive and a complete narcissist, I have discovered my paychecks have not been adding up right for quite some time. Long story short I'm going to end up calling the Better Business Bureau or possibly going to the Workforce Development Center and Reporting him.
Spot on!!! This is a tremendous advice!!as im dealing with a difficult boss! Thank u so much!!! I'll sure follow this!! Much love from the Philippines
So glad this could help! Wishing you all the best with your boss.
Sometimes when you have been working tough through 7days you were stressed out and here comes a strict boss to demeaning you control everything. And you choose not to hold back but to yell out... No money anxiety disorder insomnia
Thanks for watching, cheers!
I'm going thru this now. Thank you!
Thanks for watching, I hope this video will be helpful. Wishing you all the best, cheers!
“Stay aligned with your values and vision” this is the most powerful one for me
Powerful and so very important 😊
I just don’t understand how you can combine 4 and 2. How can you stay true to your values and at the same time adjust yourself to your boss patterns. These two do not match.
When you adjust to your bosses patterns it is NOT at the expense of your values. If that is the case you need to evaluate the situation and decide which is more critical to you and move forward from their.
Adriana, this is such a hot topic lately. I recently did a video about how to deal with a toxic workplace. There are so many people out with difficult bosses. Love to get your feedback. Great tips!
I saw that video and loved what you had to say! Thanks for watching and I'm so thankful for your feedback. Cheers!
I love when they cut hours and give you tasks impossible to get done without the right amount of people just so they can get their bonuses
This has been really helpful. You're right. I just have to focus on my job/work and stick to my values. And it helps a lot because we are currently working from home so I don't have to see him at all. My boss has been unsympathetic to many employees. For him, reasons are no different from excuses although they were urgent. He couldn't care less at all. So, I'm learning how not to care about what he says and just focus on my job. He's the kind of boss that is generous with criticisms but stingy when it comes to appreciation.
Thanks for stopping by to share your story, KGrace C! Sounds like you are handling it like a champ - which I love to hear. Keep it up and as you say, focus on your job! Cheers!
One thing is for sure if you want to quit your job because someone that works there is shitty towards you, you’re going to quit every job you get.
I have four bosses and only one of them is shitty. I like those numbers.
Thanks for watching and sharing. Those numbers are good odds:) Cheers!
Better to quit and work with a less shitty person
I am so thankful that I work for myself. All of your great tips will help others with bad bosses, so much!
It is great to be your own boss, isn't it?! So glad to hear that you love what you do. Thanks for watching, cheers!
My boss is weirdly competitive with me. I know him a long time, so I know how he thinks, so for example if I'm late with an assignment, I usually know when to write him to confirm I'm indeed working on it and will send it in few hours. So he knows I didn't forget. Most other people I worked for ususlly responded with "OK" when I did this - my current boss responds with things like "telepathy, I was just about to write to you" to sort of establish he is ahead of me and in control of the situation.
It's really weird.
Thanks for sharing and just keep up the communication on your end. Wishing you all the best.
Warm thanks Adriana❤
I felt comfa after watching this. I know every idea in this video, but it's good sometimes to hear them
You're so welcome! Thanks for watching, cheers!
I stopped. Work is work. Fun is fun. That's why we call them different things.
My god this really helped me I’ve been struggling 6 months in and I know I wanna leave and I’m going to leave because of the management I’ll be true to myself and my work something told me to look this up loving it thank you all this micromanage stuff is horrible however we are gods children I believe it’s because of what other people have done it’s definitely not me AMEN THANK YOU LORD
I am so happy to hear that watching this video has helped you. Continue to be true to yourself and you will find great things in life, including a place of employment that you enjoy going to every day. Wishing you all the best. Cheers!
Great video Adriana, loved the tips. Not changing your boss isn't limited to the workplace, but can definitely be applied in all relationships
That is so true! I'm glad you liked the tips, regardless of who you use them for. Cheers!
I agree with you 90% bosses can be abusive and belittling. They can be passive aggressive and stay in lines of respect. That’s when you are really screwed. “ messing with you just enough to drive you crazy and still be in the right. That’s a no no
Thanks for watching Joey. I hope these tips helped if you are dealing with a difficult boss. Cheers!
How do you know if your boss is overly critical or just trying to get rid of you? And how do people really deal with this every day? I’m the one constantly reminding him, he has ADD, yet he is constantly on top of me when I think I’m bringing my A game. I’m exhausted.
Sounds like frustrating situation. Have you ever had a sit down to discuss how you are feeling? This may be a good place to start. All the best and thanks for watching, cheers!
I once went to my boss’s boss to tell my side of the story! Things got a lot better since!
Great to hear! Thanks for watching, cheers!
Well,if you have such a boss you lose motivation ...
I like what I do but lately it's like I have to talk myself into doing my job really good ..
It’s so awful that we have to put up with difficult bosses
It most certainly is but hope this video has been helpful. Thanks for watching, cheers!
You’re so real! Love it. Love what you did “stay true to who you are”. 💛
Thank you! I appreciate your kind words. Authenticity is key! Cheers!
My supervisor has a "fix it yourself" attitude--if I ask her any questions, she's very curt and won't give much information. I've caught her lying to me about things in the past because she didn't want to directly come out and tell me she had an issue with the way I did something. Then, when the workflow does mess up, she always takes her angst out on me.
I see her laughing and carrying on with other employees, but the moment I step in her direction, she's bone silent.
I am sorry to hear this. I hope my video gave you some insight on how to move forward. Thanks for watching, cheers.
Your words are very comforting and exactly what I am going through. Micromanagement 😢
I hope this video has helped. Stay strong and wishing you all the best. Cheers.
I've definitely had a difficult boss before. Yes, the perspective shift into the boss's shoes sure is powerful way to look at things!
I agree, Marta - mindset is everything! Thanks so much for watching and for continuing the conversation. Cheers!
OH man!! I could tell stories for days! Great video Adriana.
Haha oh boy! I hear you on that one! Thanks for watching. Cheers!
A good boss is truly supportive and protective of you. Any action shown outside of those qualities is toxic. Many, unfortunately are out to get you and keep a “file” (negative, only) on you. Going through this now. He wants me to ask questions. He’s vague in his instructions, so when I ask a question, he takes it as insubordination and notes it in his file. Yet he says he wants you to ask questions!! Brings up those points at evaluation time and indeed keeps a folder anytime he feels dissed. I’ve never had a boss like that. If they kept a file, I never knew about it and they never brought it up.
Thanks for watching and sharing, cheers.
My name is Jamie, I am working in a carwash in Toronto Canada with a toxic boss who is always making feel anxious and being a bully towards me at work. Many times My boss is making me feel like an outsider form my co workers. Many time MY boss is always intiamadating me in the work place.
Hi Jamie, I am sorry to hear this. I hope things get better. Wishing you all the best.
Love it! Know what is important to your boss - this is the key to being loved by any boss and it isn't always doing your job, right?!
Yes! Sometimes you just have to make some minor adjustments to your own work. It's unfortunate that sucky bosses exist, but knowing what's important to them definitely helps! Cheers!
A bad boss makes it really hard to "get to know your boss". Wish you touched on how HR can play a role in addressing a bad boss.
I will put this on our YT list for possible topics. Thanks for watching, cheers!
I have to sit right next to my terrible supervisor for 12 hrs a week every week. I enjoy working with pretty much everyone else , but she'll be the one to make me quit a good job.
I am sorry to hear this. I hope my video has given you a few tips that will help you deal with your supervisor. It would be a shame for you to leave a job that you enjoy. Wishing you all the best. Cheers.
I admire you for keeping true to yourself and staying with your values amid a difficult boss. I want to learn that. It will be a discipline though learning your boss is difficult and peer pressure you for those values who are not you... I'm learning so much from you maam😊
Thank you so much and thrilled that you are learning so much from my channel. Thank you for watching and taking the time to comment. Wishing you all the best, cheers!
Great video and love the captions and whole layout. Really great tips to think about and apply within the work environment and also great if you are a CEO, as well. This helps us to always remember that we should treat those we work with and direct with due respect and integrity. Keep up the great work:)
That's so true! Work is especially hard when you have a difficult boss, but you can definitely apply some of these tips to other people you work with as well. I agree, it's important to show respect and compassion :) Cheers!
Thank you so much for this video #4 made me tear up because it's so true. You helped remind ,e to realign myself.
So happy to hear you enjoyed this video. Thanks for watching, cheers!
If you're doing the best you can and show your boss respect, do not tolerate disrespect from your boss. I once had a female boss that did that and I basically turned into a landmine just waiting to be stepped on. One day she stepped on the landmine and I told her to go eff herself because it's obvious her husband isn't and I walked off.
She was speechless. As I was walking away I shouted "You're doing great at shutting up for once, keep it up!"
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most of them used their power to look down most employees or no title than them. Rare boss tell employees; Great job JOE, and thank you.
So it's not my boss being a jerk, I just need to focus more on my job and keep my head down?
Honestly you are incredible in the insights and understanding of work and bosses.
This video has given me great insight. Thank you so much ❤
You are welcome! Looooove reading comments like this. I am thrilled this video has given you some great insight! Wishing you all the best and thanks for watching, cheers!
The point is that they nit-pick and micromanage. They find problems where there are none! You'll always be climbing uphill.
Thanks for your thoughts and for watching, cheers.
I work in a classroom as a teacher’s aid and my boss (the teacher) is totally inconsistent with her expectations of the classroom rules and gets mad at me when I let the kids do something that she was allowing them to do the day before. In addition, the always gives me “suggestions” but never actually spends one on one time with the special needs kids herself. Suggestions from a distance that don’t help.
I can see how this can be very frustrating for you but for the kids as well. As we all know children need structure to learn and grow. Maybe you can schedule a time to chat with her about your concerns. If that is to no avail then document if you feel it need to be shared with the VP. Outside of that you may want to see if you can transfer to a new class the next school year. Wishing you the best as I can only imagine how frustrating this is for you. Cheers!
I have gotten through the craziness of a boss with unrealistic expectations by reminding myself that I’m just selling my time there till time to go home. An when he try’s to degrade me for going home when it’s that time? I just smile as I continue to head to the clock.
Thank you for sharing. A positive attitude and a smile will go a long way:) Wishing you all the best, cheers.
My current full-time job that I've been here for almost 7 years, my new supervisor of about 6months move shift so bad I stay away as much as possible. I do not like workplace drama nor do I desire it
The best thing I've started doing is not being around them. Stick me somewhere and I can handle on my own
I don't think anyone likes workplace drama but it seems like you are doing what works best for you to avoid it. Thanks for watching and wishing you all the best, cheers!
My boss is currently new to her job title, she never had a job in management before and you can tell and I have been in management before and I am a true leader .. my new boss is no leader at all and she lacks active listening and comprehension skills she’s also an envious person because I did a lot for my department that she hasn’t done and is jealous she hasn’t thought of it first, so she is trying to be my friend and try to negative impact me thinking I will have a reaction, but I ignore it and document everything because she’s trying to twist words of procedures because she doesn’t understand it and saying snarky comments as if I am a liar when I am not and everyone knows it and I’m actually upset up this because now I hate going to work and before I didn’t
I am sorry to hear this but happy to know you are keeping documentation. Hope things get better for you. Cheers.
Great video. You have solid points and really good production value here.
Thanks so much! I appreciate the feedback. Cheers!
Love that you are a productivity expert! Such a great and important topic here. Thanks xo
Thank you for watching! I love being a productivity expert. Cheers!
Being "true to yourself and your values" means not putting yourself in a bad situation and remove yourself from it.
I have an incompanant boss and he has you do incompanant things with the customer and there is no telling him that what he telling you to do is wrong. It looks bad for me and it makes us look bad for the company. He has been transferred from division to division. People in my division doesn't know why he hasn't been fired yet. When he gets in charge of a division he loses employees and customers.
I am sorry to hear this but hopefully something will change in the near future. Wishing you well, cheers.
Excellent Tips 💯💯💯🏆👍👍👍 ! I have safe keep it for future references . Thank you so much ❤❤❤ 🤗🤗🤗
You are so welcome! Thank you for watching and taking the time to comment. cheers!
The tips really helped with my work today. Thank you so much. I " patched back " with the boss whom I considered shit 😆. Your tips work miracles 💯👍👍👍👏👏👏..... 🤗🤗🤗 :)
Thank you for this video
I really needed it
Such a REAL video
I needed perspective
You are so welcome. That is why I create my videos so people can learn from my experiences. ❤️
What do you do when a boss is specifically singling you out and giving you unfair behavior in comparison to everyone else in the work place?
I would bring your concerns to your HR department and keep a record of events. Wishing you all the best.
I like how her favorite negative adjective is "shitty"
Hope you are having a great day, thanks for stopping by. Cheers!
OMG..no 3..I gonna do it from now on coz he’s driving me crazy day by day😂
Thank you, Adriana for helping me understand my boss! I will do as you say!
You got this! Thanks for watching, cheers!
6:59 What is document document document mean. How you do it efficiency and effectively in an unfamiliar ever-changing environment. When you're a production worker and don't have access to a computer throughout the day.
It's important to keep documentation of interactions, dates and times when in a difficult situation with your boss. If you don't have access to a computer during your shift keeping notes in a little notebook is also a good way to document. Wishing you all the best.
Tips for Dealing with a Difficult boss:
1. Focus on your Job, make sure to are doing what you are supposed to be doing Accurately.
2. Know what is Important to your boss. Physco 101, if a micro manager, make sure your boss understands that you know your job.
3. Don't try to correct your boss. Never try to change a BOSS or micromanager, that is their way of managing.
a. Understand their behavior and patterns so you do no feed into it. Adjust your behavior too not feed into more negativity.
4. Stay Aligned with your Values and Vision and Goals. Stay true to who you are, you cannot control other people.
5. Put yourself in their shoes. See the pressure they are under. They may be very busy themselves, and some just have quirks.
6. Take another Look at how you're approaching things. You may be misjudging your boss, do not point the fingers. Is there some validity to their accusations, am I performing?
Bonus Tip: Document the H_ll out of everything and meetings. Show the proof that you boss is after you...and doing wrong things on your behalf.
Thanks for watching and great summary of the video. Cheers!
@@AdrianaGirdler Good words of wisdom, I'm sharing ur site with my work colleague who is struggling with several issues you spoke on.
This video has really helped me alot, especially with tips like their behaviour and putting myself in their shoes
I’m so happy to hear this video has been helpful. Thanks so much for watching! Cheers!
Thank you so much, was just listening to you now because I'm on my way to work and have to face my boss with her attitude
Hoping that your day unfolds in the most perfect way. Cheers!
I just accept that being fired/quitting is a foregone conclusion. If I am going to just be terrible all of the time, then they will do fine - if not better - without me.
This is so useful for me on the management side! Certainly don't want to be a difficult boss 🌝
Me too! I strive to be the best boss I can be - it helps that I've had a couple of sucky bosses so I know what behaviours to avoid, lol! I'm sure you're a great boss, Cindy-lou! Cheers!
Good tips especially the one that we can't control our bosses.
Thanks so much for watching, I'm glad you liked it! Cheers!