omggg bro i literally just wrote this up on another comment! whenever i haven't studied for a test, i always fantasize about pausing time and looking for the answer booklet on the teacher's desk or copying off an A+ students...
I often fantasize about lying down in a field of flowers and decaying away, giving room for more flowers to grow. Quiet, alone, out in the Sun, birds flying and chirping on a warm day with a nice breeze and everything just fades away.
yeah sorry seven sins, but your reaction is particularly funny, since you represent actually what you oppose :) if there existed a God who answered prayers and intervened in human affairs, “we would be living under an unalterable celestial dictatorship that could read our thoughts while we were asleep and convict us of thought crime and pursue us after we after are dead, and in the name of which priesthoods and other oligarchies and hierarchies would be set up to enforce God’s law.” Essentially, we’d be living in a supernatural Orwellian world.
Ding-ding-ding(a-ling - sorry) We HAVE found a Winner to 'the' question asked in the comments 'above' folks !!! Marios Athalakis has hit the nail on the head. Introspect, I'm sure, was key to finding the answer... unfortunately, we are almost as likely to write a letter on stationary and send it Air Mail than we are to simply look in the mirror, at ourselves and it seems to b e a lost art to be able see, understand much less respect any other perspective other than our own... Walking a mile in my Shoes... just ain't happening anymore. The question (if you scrolled past it) was Why don't people share these shameful thoughts, fears or fantasies, wild outrageous passing curiosities or cravings with honestly with or intimate partners in a healthier 'safe place' exploration of the difference in normal human thoughts and desire to act out or experience the crazy notion..... Just because anytime some says something taste like shit, MY mind instantly thinks 'how do they know what shit taste like ?? Which leads to me wonder what shit REALLY taste like and how closely the taste what that person just ate was... I start to imagine what Shit might taste like BUT as many times as my mind has wallowed in those taboo thoughts , I never once considered chewing on a turd... Damn maybe I shouldn't have revealed this odd trigger in my mind, I might get 300 Shit sandwich jokes before lunch... .......Ugh.... Nevermind !!!!!
How people respond to hearing your fantasies will tell you how emotionally mature they are. If someone responds by saying things that make you feel ashamed - they are likely less mature. For example: If you tell a TV newscaster you fantasize about being probed by aliens, they are likely to recoil. If you tell the same thing to an 80 yr old therapist, they are likely to say it's perfectly normal. Sending love, Pat Vulk AwakeLove.org
I want my fantasies to be the furthest from reality. I like to keep them separate. The more realistic the fantasy the more stressful, I don't need that shit in my reality.
I just realized you must do a video about aging .... or the horrors of aging to be precised. My grandma just died on her deathbed alone and soak with her own filth. its tragic and awful way to die.
is it? how do you know? her perception of the event must vary from yours. And as a human yourself, you put too much weight towards your subjective interpretations without ever considering the objective reality of your perspective, which makes you biased towards certain assumptions such as how humans perceive the flow of time.
How do you know you're being objective right now? How can you be so certain she didn't die with a gnawing sense of solitude and melancholy while lying in bed covered in her own faeces? How can you be certain such a- objectively speaking- horrendous experience would have pleased her in her death bed? Before commenting on others' personal experiences, think again; they do not have to align with yours, and they're not wrong if they don't.
My fantasy is to do something great for humanity like cure cancer, but not for money or fame it's just so I can say "I've done enough for this world, now just please leave me alone"
nonikita it sounds like you would enjoy this channel on UA-cam nutritionfacts.org has a lot of scientific peer reviewed literature about what causes and what cures cancer presented in a very entertaining way
same! But because I'm striving to be someone like that, people often like to assume and comment that I'm doing this for money/fame, and it really pissed me off.
So I can finally lay on the grass and close my eyes to enjoy the sunny day in this mosquito-free, healed from all diseases world. I've had this one too :)
Lemonade Warrior but square roots can not have negative numbers and if so, does that make it non-existant and would the "imaginary number" even be put to use?
This video definitely resonates with me. Whenever i'm not partaking in something I'm pretty much living my fantasy, my ideal self living my ideal life not bound by the limitations of life. Some would say it's a form of self-torture as you can fall into the trap of mourning this unreachable goal and get bogged down by the conventionalities of reality. But I never want to lose them as they bring me so much joy, much more than real life, all your emotion is in your mind anyway so why not give yourself a nice fix. It also teaches you alot about yourself and some of my fantasies have partly come true in real life. Sometimes I like to think that if you believe something is true, it may manifest itself in unexpected ways, making life just a little more exciting. Anyone who feels embarrassed about them or thinks they are a waste of time, we literally spend 1/3 of our lives in the dream world, not because we want to, we are actually forced to. If we don't sleep and escape reality we will go crazy and probably die. As humans we have to surrender to the dream world every night. We were given these dreams for a reason. Our lives are also very short in the grand scheme of things so taking them too seriously and not exploring everything at our disposal feels like a missed opportunity. I do like to think that maybe some version of our fantasy is waiting for us when we do depart this earth, we are just preparing for them at the present moment.
Thanks a lot for this very wise lesson and for the wonderful animation! 1. I remembered a terribly interesting " Invisibilia" podcast about our darkest thoughts and fantasies. The episode is called " The Secret History of Thoughts".Especially the one story about the poor guy who so deeply loved his wife but at the same time desperately wanted to cut her throat was so touching:-( One day he watched a very brutal movie, City of God, with his wife and from then on, he had all those terrible, bloody fantasies. He went from one psychologist to another. And all of them had a different approach. But the most clever one came up with this explanation: Let's think of someone who has OCD. He is so afraid of microbes and bacteria etc. that he imagines them everywhere and therefore washes his hands all the time. So the guy with all the violent fantasies had a similar condition. He was so horrified by violence that, he thought it could appear anytime, anywhere,and even in his hands. So he had all those dark thoughts not because he himself was violent, but the opposite: he was a very tender person who was horrified by any possibility of violence. The good news is, through this explanation he found peace and relief and he got everything under control. 2. So we must not feel guilty or abnormal because of our strange fantasies and thoughts. But we must certainly pay enough attention to them. Marc Aurel says that over the course of our lives our soul gets the colour of our thoughts. It is so important to have those colours more less in check, so that we don't end up all dark and bitter. 3. When you have thoughts or fantasies that do no good to you and you want to have a distance from them, meditation helps a lot: Alain de Botton's " Philosophical Meditation" is extremely helpful. They have a video about it on this channel. Don't miss it! You could then print the questions below the video and go through them at least once a week. When I wished a colleague of mine to get a heart attack, Alain's questions helped me a lot. In addition to that you can also use the Mindfulness Meditation. You could search for this on Itunes and start today: UCLA Hammer Meditation. I have watched a lesson on Mindfulness from Yale University on youtube. The teacher there recommended these guided meditation podcasts. They are extremely helpful! There are episodes like: Working with repetitive thoughts Working with obstacles etc. 4. But as this beautiful lesson mentions, fantasies can be very helpful too. There is a very cute song called " Just my Imagination". You must definitely listen to it from Brushy One String! He is a Jamaican guitarist, also called " The King of One String". He made an entire album on that string!! He is such a great musician that when you hear him playing you'll feel like hearing an "imaginary" band playing behind him somehow. I am sure he does that too! I mean he probably has an entire band in mind while playing alone. Good metaphor for life indeed... Thank God we have the capacity to find refuge in our imagination and hang out there with whoever we want, without getting into trouble. Life would be a hell otherwise. 5. I also wanted to share a wonderful poem, from one of our most beloved poets, Orhan Veli ( 1914-1950, Istanbul ). What a pity he died so young... WOOL GATHERER This is the work I do: I paint the sky each morning While all you people are asleep, You wake up to find it blue. Sometimes the sea gets ripped; Do you know who mends it? I do. At times I just daydream, That's my job too; I dream of a head in my head, Of a belly in my belly, Of a foot in my foot, I just don't know what the hell to do.
Lua Veli I have something similar. I love my cats with all my heart, but I hate being around them with a knife in my hand or something really heavy because I am afraid that one day I will snap and hurt them. Of course I never would, but I still have this irrational fear. I always try to kill those thoughts as quickly as possible...
@@meganxotchilt Hello there Megan! You are most welcome! Thanks a lot for your time! I will take the opportunity to give you one more recommendation that could really interest you.It is a podcast called " Dear therapists" with Guy Winch and Lori Gottlieb. Those are real therapy sessions where you have one person talking about a problem that could happen to any of us and two therapists listening and asking the most wise and helpful questions. It is a terribly interesting and helpful podcast. Two episodes that touched me the most are: 1. Molly's father's suicide 2. Jason's alcoholic father Much love to you and yours and best wishes!
This needs to be shown to anyone struggling with intrusive thoughts from pure-o OCD, but don't know it yet. Knowing this at 16 could've saved me so many months of thinking I was an evil person just because of the thoughts I was thinking.
I sometimes imagine how i'd troll people after I die. Especially if I was rich. Like set up this big treasure hunt with all these clues and have it be a real big thing. When they go through all the riddles they'll eventually find this big treasure chest they dig up, and instead of having money inside, i'll write a little note saying " congratulations, this is the end of your quest. You've now learned that the greatest treasure of all was inside you all along, the treasure of team work and friendship." Or, if not, i'll be dying, and i'll pull my realitive real close and say, "Listen up Janie... I want you to know that... all my life savings... I've hid them at-" and then die, while I'm laughing in heaven.
Not really, it just means that you're a very creative person and there's fantasies are you plotting out different events and seeing how you would handle them, it's a form of strategy even if those events don't come about how you see them you still know what to do
i like to fantisize about being alone in a peaceful place of nature, with water sounds and sun rays an sunsets. but i also think about just being in a relationship and cuddling and baking togetther
I avoid it because I just feel ashamed of fantasizing about doing things with people i like. I feel like somehow they can sense it and it’s totally bs but it still shames me.
Those thoughts are pretty terrible, I don't necessarily have weird fantasies but I do have an overactive imagination & sometimes image people I fear losing getting hurt. Fleeting thoughts but a thought is just a thought I guess
Thank you for making these videos! They offer me so much insight on why I act the way I do and why I think thoughts. They are truly life saving and I'm so grateful
I rather liked this episode. Its link from childhood imaginings to "taboo" thoughts in adults really opened up my mind to an area of how the mind operates. Often, I myself have thoughts I think are terrible and this video has helped me to realize that coming to accept these thoughts as mere childhood imaginings is a good stepping stone to coming to terms with my relative insanity. Thanks to all involved in the making of this video and keep up the good work.
I consistently have been dreaming about manslaughter through reckless driving. It always leaves a sour taste. > I have hit a runner on the side of the highway and she dies from her injuries..... > I go to court and can't explain. > I wake up and cry feeling guilty and powerless
What of, "For as he thinks in his heart, so is he?" It's tempting (and quite desirable, actually) to believe our thoughts hold no real bearing on our lives in reality. I just don't know how to believe *that* and the aforementioned quote.
Reuben U I’d argue that this only works for the toughts you don’t like, it’s normal for the brain to think of bad things that we don’t like. But that fantasies (ex: rape) do have an impact on you
psychosis is a spectrum of human behavior, not applicable to this discussion. that said i think the difference is how we react to these fantasies. do we view them as ideals and work to bring them to fruition? if so, that is thoughts becoming action. it is impossible for a human being to completely regulate their thoughts, the majority of which arise from unconscious processes.
El tacoLazer I'm lot lying. Sure I have fantasies but its something relatively normal (things like having a family, good payong job, emotional stability) rather than killing someone, bdsm or things like that
Jazzistandersful you don't know if other people have weird fantasies because it's not a very common topic to talk about with your family or colleagues so doea that make them boring? (or maybe you do which makes this comment irrelevant)
I'll summarize the regular School of Life comment section so you guys don't have to scroll down... -"Ahhh my daily dose of depression" -"These animations are always so beautiful" -"I actually strongly disagree..."
I always fantasize about cutting people open and caressing their hearts or lungs, and feeling the lungs and hearts movements in drawing in air or circulating blood. Then I would record their breathing and heartbeats for me to fall asleep to. Sometimes it will be me experimenting on these random people to hear the different sounds of the body when stressed differently. It makes me feel really cozy thinking about all these playlists of these peoples bodily sounds I don't know why.
I don't know if it's secret fantasy of mine but sometimes there just appear scenes in my head where I injure myself or die by accident but in different situations (I'm not suicidal)
our fantasies are messages from our brain. So they are trying to say something... This is really something new and comforting to learn, thank you! one rarely finds these bits of like "anti inflammatory truth"
This is logically sound. A good video adressed to people who are somewhat concerned about weird fantasies. The video doesn't say the important solution though, like telling the viewers that they need to figure out the deeper meaning behind those thoughts.
Love the clip. One thing this "lesson" lacks is the emerging field of roleplay, make-believe and AR/VR reality, computer games and the internet. In these outlets our fantasies partly escape our minds and manifest as "virtual" action.
"Thinking that our fantasies are pretty weird isn't evidence that they actually are, it's a sign we don't yet know other people well enough." The importance of that ending sentence can't be overstated.
These images crack me up. They convey so much with so little. This one had the best illustrations, yet. As for the topic, though, right before coming across this video I thought of a past coworker who was one of many that abused their power and I have a recurring fantasy of running into him and how I'd like to settle the score with his ass. I think it'd be appropriate to challenge him to a boxing match inside of a ring in a gym. That way, it's legal, no one gets in trouble. Who knows!
I love how SOL is always keen on conveying the message that no one is really abnormal, it's just that we don't say our thoughts, fears, wishes and fantasies outloud for everyone to hear, nevertheless if we ever do, many would nod in agreement ^_^
Hi, Well done as always. Even my fantasies are boring:/ I got a job at the local shoe factory and I'm in charge of the "Tag-let division", I decide what colors and patterns get used for which shoe but only after those prima donnas in the "Lace division" finally make up their minds! And what sense does it make to put Orange tag-lets on a Camouflaged Shoe! That's the kind of "Geniuses" I'm dealing with! Perhaps I need therapy!:) Thanks.
My fantasy in life occurred at very young ages. The outrageous stuff left, and now I have reality to face. I always used to fantasize about people being genuine and less judge mental. I used to hope the world would better it self. I also used be into bondage , so I did act out my fantasy. Now I am just left with the reality of how people actually are. Cruel and selfish human behaviors . 😔
I laughed my pants off looking at these fantasy animations. A small part of me remembered thinking about those things at least once in the past. Not ashamed, though.I've had some weirder stuff running through my head.
I ALWAYS have fantasies of being in another world and being a completely different person with my favorite characters, I was just wondering about the emotions behind this when this was posted.
This was exactly what I learned from applying Freudian psychoanalysis to literature. Inside voice...outside voice, or not always a good idea to try to make your dreams come true. Thanks, Alain. Also, love the "breach of maritime law". Lol!
Hey, school of life. Love your videos :) But can you make more philosophy, sociology, etc. videos? Those where the ones that got me hooked on your channel in the first place. Im thinking specifically about Jürgen Habermaß! I´d really love a video about him and his concept of consentual ethics.
What I find myself wondering about is this - how can I reconcile being polyamorous with a husband, who is strictly monoamorous? Is it even possible? Is me marrying him a cruel thing to have done? Will he be better off without me? Should I sacrifice my personal happiness for his?
Is it strange that I try do discover how bad my fantasies can get? What is the worst I can think of and if I am there, how can I surpass that thought? Am I able to surpass it? Where does my own darkness end, or does it have no ending?
Ok. SchoolOfLifers, serious question: if a recovering drug addict has fantasies about using drugs again, is that considered, 'making reservations for relapse,' or could it just be a way of imagining active using without the real life consequences of physical & psychological dependence . . ? The video says we fantasize instead of preparing, and how fantasies are a way our mind talks to us about anxiety... could it be the addiction illness trying to takeover or could it be a way of just entertaining the cravings in a way where no actual real-life relapse is at stake? peace and love to you all, thank you in advance for any replies.
Thats also why we need video games with substance, they let us realize and live within the confines of our fantasies. Now even more so than before with the AR and VR developments.
This is why revenge and superhero movies are so successful. The little man/woman sticking it to the evil boss, suppressor, corp or state or the little man/woman turning the power structure on its head from system to a individual with special powers. It's a short societally moment of shared relive for bottled up anger and felt helplessness.
What’s the point of harbouring fantasies in my mind if it can’t come true? Sometimes it feels helpless knowing that I keep fantasizing about what can’t be real. Would creating an art piece of the fantasy a good way to let it out instead of acting it out? (Not that i’m capable of making art or acting it out…)
+Sitting on Ceilings That doesn't sound like a good relationship then. If you can't say a sexual fantasy to a partner then it might be time to reconsider the relationship. They don't have to go along with it but they should at least hear you out on it
Ondraya It can be, but in some cases it's just better not to. I trust my partner through and through, I tell him nearly everything, but I strongly believe that people can keep a few (harmless) secrets, even from their partners.
Is talking about them always good? What if knowing about your fantasy will hurt them? There's a guy in the comments here who fantasises about banging his sister while he bangs his girlfriend, should he tell his girlfriend that? Would she be unreasonable to be upset by it?
Dying a horrible and unfortunate death is an odd fantasy of mine. I'm not suicidal, I thought about it one time, but I got over it quickly. It's all about death for me. Not my death, but also my death... a death but in someone else's point of view.
Have you ever considered doing a video on science's relationship with philosophy. Like the "if tree falls and nobodies around to hear it does it really happen." Explaining the science behind our senses and stuff and how its all human concepts and that tree is the only form we can percieve of it
My fantasies are never about me. It's more like my mind involuntarily bleeds into somebodyelse's mind and I experience snippets of their life in real time. Everything feels very real and just like life. Nothing like hollywood movies... It could actually be somebodyelse's life, but its just my imagination... Does anybody else do this?
I have never had a violent fantasy directed at another person so I honestly can't understand it... And the idea that people around me might be fantasizing about killing or torturing others is really upsetting. That can't be normal right? I do have depression so fantasize about being terribly violent towards myself, but those kinds of thoughts are clinically recognized by my doctor as abnormal. In terms of other fantasies I always assumed everyone was similar to me insofar as having purely hedonistic fantasies (endless wealth, kittens, chocolate, the power to stop time, going back in time and saving everyone who died in a disaster.. etc.)
I fantasize about stopping time in the exam hall. Then go to home and find all the answers.
badboy 19 i fantasize this all the time....except that in my way home i'd also fantasize going to the store and take everything i ever wanted
badboy 19 ZA WORLDUUUUU!!!
omggg bro i literally just wrote this up on another comment! whenever i haven't studied for a test, i always fantasize about pausing time and looking for the answer booklet on the teacher's desk or copying off an A+ students...
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JoJo fan, huh? I thought I was the only one who thought of that
badboy 19 and then fucking the teacher and everyone in the class
You are not your thoughts, they are passing clouds. You are your action.
Old Soul Your image is your actions. You are your thoughts.
You know BTS?, I agree, I think that you could also say that you are your choices.
Your actions are also determined by other people opinions and rules. You don’t know who you are until the rules and shame go away
No, you are definitely your thoughts, otherwise what is consciousness?
It all starts with thought,we are what we think about
having a relationship is a fantasy for me
same here
Same
yyyep.
Be careful what you wish for, your fantasy may just come true and then you long for your former reality....
But having married is not your fantasy.
I often fantasize about lying down in a field of flowers and decaying away, giving room for more flowers to grow.
Quiet, alone, out in the Sun, birds flying and chirping on a warm day with a nice breeze and everything just fades away.
Jeuscifer B That's a nice fantasy... :)
Aw that sounds nice
That’s beautiful
It's peaceful, quiet, and you painlessly Fade Out of existence, that's beautiful and Majestic
Might i join you?
@@RoosterChan I wouldn't mind the company.
"civilized societies don't have thought crimes" finally common sense.
Gabriel Umoh but religions do have them, for instance the ten commandments ;)
Henryk5161 Those relate to actions, idiot winky face fuck.
Wouldn't the 7 sins be more fitting?
yeah sorry seven sins, but your reaction is particularly funny, since you represent actually what you oppose :)
if there existed a God who answered prayers and intervened in human affairs, “we would be living under an unalterable celestial dictatorship that could read our thoughts while we were asleep and convict us of thought crime and pursue us after we after are dead, and in the name of which priesthoods and other oligarchies and hierarchies would be set up to enforce God’s law.” Essentially, we’d be living in a supernatural Orwellian world.
idiot winky face fuck has got to be one of the best things to call someone ever
I love this channel so much. Really makes me feel like I'm not the only one who faces struggles.
I don't worry that other people don't share my fantasies. I worry they'll be dishonest about them out of shame and shame me for having them.
Marios Athalakis ^^^^^^^^
Marios Athalakis Society in a nutshell. People love to judge but hate to get judged.
Ding-ding-ding(a-ling - sorry) We HAVE found a Winner to 'the' question asked in the comments 'above' folks !!! Marios Athalakis has hit the nail on the head. Introspect, I'm sure, was key to finding the answer... unfortunately, we are almost as likely to write a letter on stationary and send it Air Mail than we are to simply look in the mirror, at ourselves and it seems to b e a lost art to be able see, understand much less respect any other perspective other than our own... Walking a mile in my Shoes... just ain't happening anymore. The question (if you scrolled past it) was Why don't people share these shameful thoughts, fears or fantasies, wild outrageous passing curiosities or cravings with honestly with or intimate partners in a healthier 'safe place' exploration of the difference in normal human thoughts and desire to act out or experience the crazy notion..... Just because anytime some says something taste like shit, MY mind instantly thinks 'how do they know what shit taste like ?? Which leads to me wonder what shit REALLY taste like and how closely the taste what that person just ate was... I start to imagine what Shit might taste like BUT as many times as my mind has wallowed in those taboo thoughts , I never once considered chewing on a turd... Damn maybe I shouldn't have revealed this odd trigger in my mind, I might get 300 Shit sandwich jokes before lunch... .......Ugh....
Nevermind !!!!!
How people respond to hearing your fantasies will tell you how emotionally mature they are.
If someone responds by saying things that make you feel ashamed - they are likely less mature.
For example:
If you tell a TV newscaster you fantasize about being probed by aliens, they are likely to recoil.
If you tell the same thing to an 80 yr old therapist, they are likely to say it's perfectly normal.
Sending love,
Pat Vulk
AwakeLove.org
I want my fantasies to be the furthest from reality. I like to keep them separate. The more realistic the fantasy the more stressful, I don't need that shit in my reality.
Trigger Happy Smart. Me too.
Reality is never as good as the fantasy
I just realized you must do a video about aging .... or the horrors of aging to be precised. My grandma just died on her deathbed alone and soak with her own filth. its tragic and awful way to die.
is it? how do you know? her perception of the event must vary from yours. And as a human yourself, you put too much weight towards your subjective interpretations without ever considering the objective reality of your perspective, which makes you biased towards certain assumptions such as how humans perceive the flow of time.
How do you know you're being objective right now? How can you be so certain she didn't die with a gnawing sense of solitude and melancholy while lying in bed covered in her own faeces? How can you be certain such a- objectively speaking- horrendous experience would have pleased her in her death bed? Before commenting on others' personal experiences, think again; they do not have to align with yours, and they're not wrong if they don't.
I'm sorry for your loss, cry whenever you need, people will understand ❤️
yeah, aging and death
Yes we need a video about mortality
My fantasy is to do something great for humanity like cure cancer, but not for money or fame it's just so I can say "I've done enough for this world, now just please leave me alone"
nonikita that's good
nonikita it sounds like you would enjoy this channel on UA-cam nutritionfacts.org has a lot of scientific peer reviewed literature about what causes and what cures cancer presented in a very entertaining way
same! But because I'm striving to be someone like that, people often like to assume and comment that I'm doing this for money/fame, and it really pissed me off.
So I can finally lay on the grass and close my eyes to enjoy the sunny day in this mosquito-free, healed from all diseases world.
I've had this one too :)
^^^^Armchair psychologist.
If a mathematician writes a fantasy novel, would the pages have imaginary numbers?
i just equals the square root of -1
3deep5me
Lemonade Warrior but square roots can not have negative numbers and if so, does that make it non-existant and would the "imaginary number" even be put to use?
That is why it is imaginary and it is put to use in physics I think
Usually mathematicians aren't too proficient with language and its complexities, so I doubt a mathematician would write a novel. Besides that, no.
I'm glad that somebody finally acknowledges treesexual people.
Do they enjoy treesomes?
@@jajdude you won.
This channel makes me feel so normal.
This video definitely resonates with me. Whenever i'm not partaking in something I'm pretty much living my fantasy, my ideal self living my ideal life not bound by the limitations of life. Some would say it's a form of self-torture as you can fall into the trap of mourning this unreachable goal and get bogged down by the conventionalities of reality. But I never want to lose them as they bring me so much joy, much more than real life, all your emotion is in your mind anyway so why not give yourself a nice fix. It also teaches you alot about yourself and some of my fantasies have partly come true in real life. Sometimes I like to think that if you believe something is true, it may manifest itself in unexpected ways, making life just a little more exciting.
Anyone who feels embarrassed about them or thinks they are a waste of time, we literally spend 1/3 of our lives in the dream world, not because we want to, we are actually forced to. If we don't sleep and escape reality we will go crazy and probably die. As humans we have to surrender to the dream world every night. We were given these dreams for a reason. Our lives are also very short in the grand scheme of things so taking them too seriously and not exploring everything at our disposal feels like a missed opportunity. I do like to think that maybe some version of our fantasy is waiting for us when we do depart this earth, we are just preparing for them at the present moment.
What if we fantasize that we are fantasizing !? flies away
lol
When I was younger I fantasized about stopping time and having sex with my classmates 😬
OA holly shit! samme
OA There's hentai with that plot
that would suck. Stop time just to have sex? And it won't even be good sex because your partner's body isn't responsive at all
pramitbanerjee Dont you love your woman limp yet still warm? 💕
@Ruen : Heat does not flow instantaneous between objects. Thus my hypothesis is that you won't be able to feel the warmth from her body.
haha omg the animators must have had so much fun with this I'm balling xD
Thanks a lot for this very wise lesson and for the wonderful animation!
1. I remembered a terribly interesting " Invisibilia" podcast about our darkest thoughts and fantasies. The episode is called " The Secret History of Thoughts".Especially the one story about the poor guy who so deeply loved his wife but at the same time desperately wanted to cut her throat was so touching:-( One day he watched a very brutal movie, City of God, with his wife and from then on, he had all those terrible, bloody fantasies. He went from one psychologist to another. And all of them had a different approach. But the most clever one came up with this explanation:
Let's think of someone who has OCD. He is so afraid of microbes and bacteria etc. that he imagines them everywhere and therefore washes his hands all the time.
So the guy with all the violent fantasies had a similar condition. He was so horrified by violence that, he thought it could appear anytime, anywhere,and even in his hands. So he had all those dark thoughts not because he himself was violent, but the opposite: he was a very tender person who was horrified by any possibility of violence.
The good news is, through this explanation he found peace and relief and he got everything under control.
2. So we must not feel guilty or abnormal because of our strange fantasies and thoughts. But we must certainly pay enough attention to them. Marc Aurel says that over the course of our lives our soul gets the colour of our thoughts. It is so important to have those colours more less in check, so that we don't end up all dark and bitter.
3. When you have thoughts or fantasies that do no good to you and you want to have a distance from them, meditation helps a lot:
Alain de Botton's " Philosophical Meditation" is extremely helpful. They have a video about it on this channel. Don't miss it! You could then print the questions below the video and go through them at least once a week. When I wished a colleague of mine to get a heart attack, Alain's questions helped me a lot.
In addition to that you can also use the Mindfulness Meditation. You could search for this on Itunes and start today:
UCLA Hammer Meditation.
I have watched a lesson on Mindfulness from Yale University on youtube. The teacher there recommended these guided meditation podcasts. They are extremely helpful! There are episodes like:
Working with repetitive thoughts
Working with obstacles etc.
4. But as this beautiful lesson mentions, fantasies can be very helpful too.
There is a very cute song called " Just my Imagination".
You must definitely listen to it from Brushy One String! He is a Jamaican guitarist, also called
" The King of One String". He made an entire album on that string!! He is such a great musician that when you hear him playing you'll feel like hearing an "imaginary" band playing behind him somehow. I am sure he does that too! I mean he probably has an entire band in mind while playing alone. Good metaphor for life indeed...
Thank God we have the capacity to find refuge in our imagination and hang out there with whoever we want, without getting into trouble. Life would be a hell otherwise.
5. I also wanted to share a wonderful poem, from one of our most beloved poets,
Orhan Veli ( 1914-1950, Istanbul ). What a pity he died so young...
WOOL GATHERER
This is the work I do:
I paint the sky each morning
While all you people are asleep,
You wake up to find it blue.
Sometimes the sea gets ripped;
Do you know who mends it?
I do.
At times I just daydream,
That's my job too;
I dream of a head in my head,
Of a belly in my belly,
Of a foot in my foot,
I just don't know what the hell to do.
Thank you!
Lua Veli I have something similar. I love my cats with all my heart, but I hate being around them with a knife in my hand or something really heavy because I am afraid that one day I will snap and hurt them. Of course I never would, but I still have this irrational fear. I always try to kill those thoughts as quickly as possible...
this was so beautiful and helpful to read. thank you ✨🤲🏽
@@meganxotchilt Hello there Megan! You are most welcome! Thanks a lot for your time! I will take the opportunity to give you one more recommendation that could really interest you.It is a podcast called " Dear therapists" with Guy Winch and Lori Gottlieb. Those are real therapy sessions where you have one person talking about a problem that could happen to any of us and two therapists listening and asking the most wise and helpful questions. It is a terribly interesting and helpful podcast. Two episodes that touched me the most are:
1. Molly's father's suicide
2. Jason's alcoholic father
Much love to you and yours and best wishes!
This needs to be shown to anyone struggling with intrusive thoughts from pure-o OCD, but don't know it yet. Knowing this at 16 could've saved me so many months of thinking I was an evil person just because of the thoughts I was thinking.
I sometimes imagine how i'd troll people after I die. Especially if I was rich. Like set up this big treasure hunt with all these clues and have it be a real big thing. When they go through all the riddles they'll eventually find this big treasure chest they dig up, and instead of having money inside, i'll write a little note saying " congratulations, this is the end of your quest. You've now learned that the greatest treasure of all was inside you all along, the treasure of team work and friendship."
Or, if not, i'll be dying, and i'll pull my realitive real close and say, "Listen up Janie... I want you to know that... all my life savings... I've hid them at-" and then die, while I'm laughing in heaven.
time to go lick a foot
Can I come?
Oh, hi Quentin
Can I offer a foot? 😂
Ohhhhh you mean a pig's foot. Eww don't do that 😝😝
This channel is like my own personal psychologist.
try DMT, LSD or magic shrooms, they are the best therapy , believe me
My mind is occupied by fantasies 80% of my day :/ I guess that's pretty unhealthy.
I wouldn't say it is - that's probably what this video was trying to convey, too
Not really, it just means that you're a very creative person and there's fantasies are you plotting out different events and seeing how you would handle them, it's a form of strategy even if those events don't come about how you see them you still know what to do
I like the last 20 seconds of silence, no sponsor message, just nothing.
A really good time to think and revise.
i like to fantisize about being alone in a peaceful place of nature, with water sounds and sun rays an sunsets. but i also think about just being in a relationship and cuddling and baking togetther
I avoid it because I just feel ashamed of fantasizing about doing things with people i like. I feel like somehow they can sense it and it’s totally bs but it still shames me.
I haven't had sex or a relationship so sometimes I like to fantasize that I could do that. Also that I'm not 32.
Whaler Cumming
I only have one question
Why the hell did you put “cumming” in your name
Those thoughts are pretty terrible, I don't necessarily have weird fantasies but I do have an overactive imagination & sometimes image people I fear losing getting hurt. Fleeting thoughts but a thought is just a thought I guess
Me too man. It's absolutely terrifying, I can't deal with the thought. I have to shut it off.
Im no expert but thats probaby the anxiety disorder
there is soooo much wisdom on this channel, a true blessing for everyone.
thank you for creating such amazing content :D
Thank you for making these videos! They offer me so much insight on why I act the way I do and why I think thoughts. They are truly life saving and I'm so grateful
'Thought crime'. I was thinking about 1984.
Abhilash S im thinking about religion and the ten commandments.
If thought crimes existed I would be a lifer lol
Tell me about.
+The School Of Life You guys are a truly valuable substitute for the absence of collective honesty...
I rather liked this episode. Its link from childhood imaginings to "taboo" thoughts in adults really opened up my mind to an area of how the mind operates. Often, I myself have thoughts I think are terrible and this video has helped me to realize that coming to accept these thoughts as mere childhood imaginings is a good stepping stone to coming to terms with my relative insanity. Thanks to all involved in the making of this video and keep up the good work.
I consistently have been dreaming about manslaughter through reckless driving. It always leaves a sour taste.
> I have hit a runner on the side of the highway and she dies from her injuries.....
> I go to court and can't explain.
> I wake up and cry feeling guilty and powerless
What of, "For as he thinks in his heart, so is he?"
It's tempting (and quite desirable, actually) to believe our thoughts hold no real bearing on our lives in reality. I just don't know how to believe *that* and the aforementioned quote.
Our thoughts that aren't enacted don't hold a real bearing on our lives. If it would then all of us will be psychotic.
Reuben U I’d argue that this only works for the toughts you don’t like, it’s normal for the brain to think of bad things that we don’t like. But that fantasies (ex: rape) do have an impact on you
psychosis is a spectrum of human behavior, not applicable to this discussion. that said i think the difference is how we react to these fantasies. do we view them as ideals and work to bring them to fruition? if so, that is thoughts becoming action. it is impossible for a human being to completely regulate their thoughts, the majority of which arise from unconscious processes.
I hate myself because of the fantasies I sometimes have. I want to stop having them, but I can't no matter how hard I try.
i imagine to fight every people around me...
keep up that shitty english and we just might make it happen, stranger ;)
Sam Leal All he/she did wrong was fail to capitalize the sentence, which is something you did too.
I don't have any taboo fantasies. Does that make me weird?
liar
El tacoLazer I'm lot lying. Sure I have fantasies but its something relatively normal (things like having a family, good payong job, emotional stability) rather than killing someone, bdsm or things like that
Jazzistandersful you don't know if other people have weird fantasies because it's not a very common topic to talk about with your family or colleagues so doea that make them boring? (or maybe you do which makes this comment irrelevant)
Mihal Scerba who knows we never talk about it so...
No- I don't think it's uncommon to lack any taboo fantasies... then again, what you consider normal another may consider quite strange. :)
I'll summarize the regular School of Life comment section so you guys don't have to scroll down...
-"Ahhh my daily dose of depression"
-"These animations are always so beautiful"
-"I actually strongly disagree..."
Too accurate lol
I always fantasize about cutting people open and caressing their hearts or lungs, and feeling the lungs and hearts movements in drawing in air or circulating blood. Then I would record their breathing and heartbeats for me to fall asleep to. Sometimes it will be me experimenting on these random people to hear the different sounds of the body when stressed differently. It makes me feel really cozy thinking about all these playlists of these peoples bodily sounds I don't know why.
Lmao wtf
Were you a secret Nazi scientist? Haha
this is so tender..reminds me of kahlo’s painting of the other frida
I don't know if it's secret fantasy of mine but sometimes there just appear scenes in my head where I injure myself or die by accident but in different situations (I'm not suicidal)
The idea of doing people I see on the tram from behind haunts me everyday lmao
our fantasies are messages from our brain. So they are trying to say something... This is really something new and comforting to learn, thank you! one rarely finds these bits of like "anti inflammatory truth"
What are u doing all the way down hear in the comment section?
Janeson Quitano had my spelling error senses tingle. found it.
Janeson Quitano Get Wreckt.
I'm relating to all of the wierd fantasies...
Here
Awwww na no u dnt...the real question is..wht are U doing way down here in the comment section?..hmm...
This is logically sound. A good video adressed to people who are somewhat concerned about weird fantasies.
The video doesn't say the important solution though, like telling the viewers that they need to figure out the deeper meaning behind those thoughts.
I appreciate that you used *terrifying* instead of *terrible*
That was a beautiful moment that the entire world could learn from
Love the clip. One thing this "lesson" lacks is the emerging field of roleplay, make-believe and AR/VR reality, computer games and the internet. In these outlets our fantasies partly escape our minds and manifest as "virtual" action.
... but the main point this clip makes comes across quit well. Keep 'em coming. Thank you.
"Thinking that our fantasies are pretty weird isn't evidence that they actually are, it's a sign we don't yet know other people well enough."
The importance of that ending sentence can't be overstated.
'in breach of maritime law'
Had a good chuckle there 😂
When someone says "hey what are you doing in the dumpster behind the abortion clinic"
gruffydd gozali NICE! XP
Such a needed reminder, thank you
These images crack me up. They convey so much with so little. This one had the best illustrations, yet.
As for the topic, though, right before coming across this video I thought of a past coworker who was one of many that abused their power and I have a recurring fantasy of running into him and how I'd like to settle the score with his ass. I think it'd be appropriate to challenge him to a boxing match inside of a ring in a gym. That way, it's legal, no one gets in trouble. Who knows!
This is one of the best (and funniest for sure!) School of Life animations!
@@madmaxmedia 🤣
I love how SOL is always keen on conveying the message that no one is really abnormal, it's just that we don't say our thoughts, fears, wishes and fantasies outloud for everyone to hear, nevertheless if we ever do, many would nod in agreement ^_^
Reem Hosam. Indeed.
I fantasize about a short rope and a tall chair.
But then I remember that GoT season 7 is coming soon.
I feel for all three of you emo/repressed emos 😩🖤
I knew the quote about "Watch your thoughts, they become actions" is not only stupid, it's actually dangerous for mental health
When I see a new video from you guys, I know beforehand I'm gonna give it a big solid Like👍☺
Hi, Well done as always. Even my fantasies are boring:/
I got a job at the local shoe factory and I'm in charge of the "Tag-let division", I decide what colors and patterns get used for which shoe but only after those prima donnas in the "Lace division" finally make up their minds! And what sense does it make to put Orange tag-lets on a Camouflaged Shoe! That's the kind of "Geniuses" I'm dealing with!
Perhaps I need therapy!:) Thanks.
Please do video of literature about Pierre Corneille, i have to "present" it to the teacher and the class for a bigger grade, please!!
That last line really got to me.
I think Lewis Carrol said it best:
“Imagination is the only weapon in the war against reality.”
I think there is something wrong with me. I have no fantasy at all. I have never realized this until now.
Getting enough sleep is a fantasy for me
ikr, when your life is so stressful, you even fantasize about having just a little of free time.
My fantasy in life occurred at very young ages. The outrageous stuff left, and now I have reality to face. I always used to fantasize about people being genuine and less judge mental. I used to hope the world would better it self.
I also used be into bondage , so I did act out my fantasy.
Now I am just left with the reality of how people actually are. Cruel and selfish human behaviors . 😔
"...and a violation of maritime law." Oh School of Life you crack me up! I'm going to a School of Life workshop tonight yay!
one of the best and most important videos on this channel imo
my fantasies include gruesomely cutting and ripping apart my enemies
I laughed my pants off looking at these fantasy animations.
A small part of me remembered thinking about those things at least once in the past. Not ashamed, though.I've had some weirder stuff running through my head.
I ALWAYS have fantasies of being in another world and being a completely different person with my favorite characters, I was just wondering about the emotions behind this when this was posted.
This was exactly what I learned from applying Freudian psychoanalysis to literature. Inside voice...outside voice, or not always a good idea to try to make your dreams come true. Thanks, Alain.
Also, love the "breach of maritime law". Lol!
Hey, school of life. Love your videos :) But can you make more philosophy, sociology, etc. videos? Those where the ones that got me hooked on your channel in the first place. Im thinking specifically about Jürgen Habermaß! I´d really love a video about him and his concept of consentual ethics.
that dude humping the tree though :p
Love the closing statement.
What I find myself wondering about is this - how can I reconcile being polyamorous with a husband, who is strictly monoamorous? Is it even possible? Is me marrying him a cruel thing to have done? Will he be better off without me? Should I sacrifice my personal happiness for his?
my fantasys can be so simple. so simple that some may call it strange that I don't do them
Is it strange that I try do discover how bad my fantasies can get? What is the worst I can think of and if I am there, how can I surpass that thought? Am I able to surpass it? Where does my own darkness end, or does it have no ending?
Ok. SchoolOfLifers, serious question: if a recovering drug addict has fantasies about using drugs again, is that considered, 'making reservations for relapse,' or could it just be a way of imagining active using without the real life consequences of physical & psychological dependence . . ? The video says we fantasize instead of preparing, and how fantasies are a way our mind talks to us about anxiety... could it be the addiction illness trying to takeover or could it be a way of just entertaining the cravings in a way where no actual real-life relapse is at stake?
peace and love to you all, thank you in advance for any replies.
4:13 that guy in a pear costume
what a relief!
Thanks school of life, Much love.
I have some taboo fantasies. And I'm not secretive about it at all.
Only reason I don't tell anyone
is because they wouldn't want to know.
Glad to know I'm not the only one who likes to think of others dressed as avacados...
I think this is why it can be damaging growing up in a highly religious family because of the negativity there tends to be around sexual fantasy.
Yeah as a maladaptive daydreamer ( who grew up muslim) let's just say there more harm than halal in my head. 😏
what if the fantasies are centered around a single individual? so, what if fantasy becomes obsession, is that still normal? how to stop?
My only fantasy:
*buying clothes that I want without seeing the price tag*
Thats also why we need video games with substance, they let us realize and live within the confines of our fantasies. Now even more so than before with the AR and VR developments.
I feel so more confortable with my own thoughts now.
This is why revenge and superhero movies are so successful. The little man/woman sticking it to the evil boss, suppressor, corp or state or the little man/woman turning the power structure on its head from system to a individual with special powers. It's a short societally moment of shared relive for bottled up anger and felt helplessness.
Illusion is dangerous - Dr Victor Frankl
wish I watched this clip earlier it would have spared me a lot of psychotherapist treatment
What’s the point of harbouring fantasies in my mind if it can’t come true? Sometimes it feels helpless knowing that I keep fantasizing about what can’t be real. Would creating an art piece of the fantasy a good way to let it out instead of acting it out? (Not that i’m capable of making art or acting it out…)
my fantasy is to have a good job and a house to live in.
lol What? Why are couples not voicing their sexual fantasies to each other? It's some of the first things I do with Partners I'm serious about
+Sitting on Ceilings That doesn't sound like a good relationship then. If you can't say a sexual fantasy to a partner then it might be time to reconsider the relationship. They don't have to go along with it but they should at least hear you out on it
Some things are just better left to fantasy.
+TheGalacticGrizzly They can stay a fantasy but talking about them is good for you
Ondraya It can be, but in some cases it's just better not to. I trust my partner through and through, I tell him nearly everything, but I strongly believe that people can keep a few (harmless) secrets, even from their partners.
Is talking about them always good? What if knowing about your fantasy will hurt them? There's a guy in the comments here who fantasises about banging his sister while he bangs his girlfriend, should he tell his girlfriend that? Would she be unreasonable to be upset by it?
Sometimes in the public place I think about "what if I get naked right now, right here". Yeah, at the end, no one is normal.
Excellent thought
Dying a horrible and unfortunate death is an odd fantasy of mine. I'm not suicidal, I thought about it one time, but I got over it quickly. It's all about death for me. Not my death, but also my death... a death but in someone else's point of view.
And also a weird fantasy of killing people, but loving people, but idk? It's confusing.
I think people who have never fantasized about murder are significantly more insane compared to those who have.
"...we don't yet know other people well enough."
Have you ever considered doing a video on science's relationship with philosophy. Like the "if tree falls and nobodies around to hear it does it really happen." Explaining the science behind our senses and stuff and how its all human concepts and that tree is the only form we can percieve of it
My fantasies are never about me. It's more like my mind involuntarily bleeds into somebodyelse's mind and I experience snippets of their life in real time. Everything feels very real and just like life. Nothing like hollywood movies... It could actually be somebodyelse's life, but its just my imagination... Does anybody else do this?
I have never had a violent fantasy directed at another person so I honestly can't understand it... And the idea that people around me might be fantasizing about killing or torturing others is really upsetting. That can't be normal right? I do have depression so fantasize about being terribly violent towards myself, but those kinds of thoughts are clinically recognized by my doctor as abnormal. In terms of other fantasies I always assumed everyone was similar to me insofar as having purely hedonistic fantasies (endless wealth, kittens, chocolate, the power to stop time, going back in time and saving everyone who died in a disaster.. etc.)