NURSING is NOT for me ... | I QUIT my job | Unhappy with CAREER
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- Опубліковано 16 січ 2018
- This is the HARDEST video I have made BUT I finally found the courage to do it and share. I really hope this helps someone as it is helping me just by getting it out.
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Too many people are focusing on survival rather than keeping theirs dreams alive this shit catch up to you in life. Do what make you happy and not what make others happy.
Richard Balthazar I know so many people who “did what made them happy” and now they are stuck at minimum wage jobs with 3 kids ..... I think people should go to school so they can get a part time job making ok money and use the rest of their time doing what they want honestly
@@redd-iveee4400 I couldn't agree more
So true
I agree! I just posted about this on my channel, good luck to those going through this as well!
REDD-IVEEE 🗣🗣🗣 Say THAT! Ppl complain so much. Try being BROKE! I can tell some of these ppl haven’t been BROKE before. Get your MONEY. You can really tell what stage in life ppl are in when they say these crazy things abt “do what makes you happy” nah, make your money first then do what makes you happy. Nurses make great money, regardless of how less they FEEL they make, MOST ppl are not making $30-$70 coming off a 2 year degree. Spend a couple YEARS BROKE and your perspective will change.
12 years as a RN. It was never my passion but I needed a way to care for my children because I was going through a divorce with no financial help. It has been so difficult especially the last few years. I’ve started to struggle with depression/anxiety. I’ve had many different roles from floor nurse to Director of Nursing and I’ve hated each equally... all the time crying out to God to help me... fast forward to 1 month ago.. I QUIT!!! I can’t spend 1 more day in that black hole.. I just got accepted to start Flight Attendant training.. way less money but my PEACE doesn’t have a price. I feel you 100%.. Good luck to you!! 😀
But did nursing income help you out at that moment as a single mother?
bay baddie it clearly did if she stayed for 12 years lol
You did the right thing. Imagine if you ruined ur health from that job
Tracey T - great 👍🏽
Good for you. And please, don't listen to people who try to shame or guilt you into continuing nursing because of the 💰. I have even been harrassed by thirsty neighbors and acquaintances who wish to profit from me by trying to force me to work for their family members who either are ill for free or pennies, or those who run nursing homes, or manage them in order to abuse me. Please avoid these people.
Better to waste money than waste a life. 💗
Beach Cruising 💡
Don't you waste both by quitting something you've spent your life trying to achieve? Either way I get it, I just hope all the nurses in the comment sections who also want to quit find a job that's worth it. Especially after all the hassle they went through.
Coolspygirl no, you waste a life by doing something that you hate for 30 years just because you spent 3-4 years in school for it. There are other options in life and just because you choose a path doesn’t mean it has to be your only path for your entire life.
Your comment is right on time.
That is exactly Right!
I am so glad that you realized it while you are young. I'm 48 years old and it took years and a nervous breakdown for me to realize that nursing is not for me. God bless you.
Testifying, today. Thank you!
@Pulling the Strings so she can have more nervous breakdowns?
I’m 41 and need to change my career! Feel so lost!
Amy Harbie and you still can. Good luck to you
I’m 44 and feel the same way. I’ve been through burnout to breakdown to just bleakness now. All I ever do anymore is play on my phone and wait for my kids to come home when I am off. I’ve pushed through for so long now that I feel like a part of me has died. Retirement is further away for our generation.
I worked with a nurse many years ago who got so over it, I ran into her sweeping the front door at Walmart. I asked if she was still nursing and she said “only if I have to. I’d rather sweep this floor all day for 9 bucks an hour than go back to nursing. Just waiting 5 more years to retire.”
I lost a lot of hope that day. And that was 6 years ago.
You’ll wake up one day and your whole life has passed you by. No one will ever treat you as well as you treated your own patients, and healthcare will cost twice as much.
It really makes the saying “No good deed goes unpunished” all too real. How many good deeds do you do per shift, and for how many years? It’s a lifetime of punishment.
Im an introvert and nursing is so emotionally draining for me. On my days off all I want to do is stay shut up in my room because of how much talking I have to do
Facts
Lili Da i fealt this in my soul 😂
I'm in the nursing field. I would like it better if I could just do my task and be left alone lol. Sick of the micromanagement.
This is so relatable.
Queen Dom OMG me too!!!
I remember my professor in my first year in college said to us, that if you went into nursing for the money, you will never be happy. I've been a nurse for more than a decade and all I can say is...she was right.
Grace that’s deep
Grace what money????
E U nurses get paid very well so many people get into the career because of that . But never choose a career because of the money . It may sound cliche but go what you truly like doing
Wendy Martínez absolutely never ever choose a career based on money but I am a nurse and just as a point I don’t make good money.I know people who work in retail or as clerk and they make about the same money as I do.
E U rn Im between being a vet tech and a nurse but honestly I think ima go to vet tech because nursing just came to me as an option when I was narrowing down my careers to my top 5. Like I never really thought about nursing until this year & I don’t want to be miserable and have to end up , quitting my job . Honestly I’m struggling with that rn :( ughhhhh
I had a professor in college who in her last year of residency to be a doctor, decided she did NOT want to be a doctor anymore. I couldn’t believe how much courage she had to quit so close to the finish line, and she loves teaching and doesn’t regret it.- one of my best professors ever.
@C S lmaoooo fuck on she can bring up doctors if she want they are not special.
Going Up 😂 right? I’m not sure what that was about but I was just saying if someone can decide after 7 years of medical school and residency that they no longer want to do it and have a good outcome, so can this nurse.
C S might want to see a dr for that. A psychologist or psychiatrist preferably.
Thank you for sharing this! I’m one semester away from getting my RN and I’m about to quit. I love patients so much but the politics, shitty instructors, and emotional abuse from my school isn’t worth it. I felt stupid at first for giving it up now, but better than wasting my lifetime unfulfilled! Now I’m off to pursue a degree in social work.
@@Ohheyitsalexofficial Congrats on your new journey!! Just because you start doing one thing doesn’t mean you have to do it forever! I went back to school and changed careers at 35 with 4 kids. Don’t let anyone call you a quitter either- because you haven’t quit, you redirected your path ! You are the only one that has to live your life, you do what you can live with and do it with all of your heart. Best wishes to you!
Girl I quit all the time as soon as I don’t like something I’m done ! Lol maybe it’s bad but I always make sure my happiness comes first
I wish I could be like that. Right now I’m not too happy with my job but I don’t leave cuz I’ve only been there for a little over a month
Danni Solis there’s nothing wrong with trying different things if you already know you won’t stick around what’s the point ? Might as well do something you love
Same!!!! I thought i was the only one!! I really thought something was wrong with me.
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The people who say quitting is bad are just too stubborn for change. Try shit out, if it’s not for you then progress and try another. Happiness is key!
sweet pea, I have been an RN for 39 years. you have gifts the Lord has given you. do not stay in a career your heart is not in. just pray, be still and listen to the voice of the Lord. you will be fine.
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i prayed and the lord told me to just sit at home and play video games instead of getting a job. so that's what I'm gonna do! Can't argue with God!! :)
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Lol
leopardappygirl That was so reassuring to me 💛
@@adamj2683 Hope you have a good support system. You can't survive as a NEET
You are not a fool...having to decide on a career at 18 is insane. Thank you for putting this video out. Your ig pics of your baby and you are so sweet, you are blessed!
I had to decide a career at 17 smh my parents drilled me to be a nurse it wasn't a joke. I just quit my first nursing job after 4 months and told myself to hell with it. I'm not happy at all. My sleep pattern is all kinds of fucked up, I'm breaking out more than ever before, I'm not eating right. I did 12 hr nights at a psych hospital....no. I'm going back to school to become a elementary school teacher best decision of my life. It's what I wanted to do it since I was a kid. I don't care about the pay. It makes me happy and even my professors see me strive in my classes
This right here is why parents need to pay close attention to their children and have very open conversations with them. They want our approval so badly and we have to let them know that as long as they are mentally and spiritually healthy that is there most important goal. The rest will follow.
I am 16 right now and I had to choose A CAREER AT 12. That's the school system in switzerland.
Hindsight is always 20/20. Sometimes you have to make a decision with the little knowledge you have and hope for the best and be willing to adapt.
Lotusflower, you raised a VERY good point. Deciding on a career path at 18 is crazy, and schools should be about giving students experience of various fields, and numerous workplaces.
Honey you don’t have to have all the answers for your life. You may feel like you wasted your time and money etc, but honey, you have no idea what God has in store for you. Your definitely in my thoughts and prayers. Thank you for making this video, you said quite a few things I really needed to hear.
Great reply
I’m a nurse. And my plan is to run away from it as possible the moment that opportunity comes up. I love helping ppl. But the nature of the profession, it just pulls you into this abyss of misery. The goal is you do what makes you happy. Nursing is not a happy place no matter what people say at all.
Very depressing
Are you still doing nursing ? If not what else are you doing ? I’m debating if I should continue nursing school 😢. I work at a hospital as a pct now and it makes me hate healthcare.
Nursing is a very tough job and they don't get the respect they deserve !!!
It's not just tough; it's dangerous.
Truth Serum ik it is but in what way?
Or the pay
likeitis it also not enough pay too much stress
star G exactly
You go girl, I'm submitting my resignation letter tomorrow with no backup plan...but God 🧡
What are you up to now, since its been 6 months?!
@Nef Faraj Fuck you
Why tho?
I Think that you should have been given a better advice : do not quit unless you have a back up plan. However if you really can t do something you should leave it. I say this because I suffer from depression and I left university because I was depressed( actually I already was before beginnig it and I had lots of up and down that at the end I was so sad that every part of my body hurt and I couldn t get up from the bed and everything was such a big deal!) . After leaving university however Ì didn t get better, actually I got worse because I didn t have a purpose, I was already ill and I couldn t find a job because I felt so angry, so sad, and suicidal. Every person I met in that period made me angry and I cried every day, and every person who talked to me made me cry...and I nobody was able to help me ( although I took some medicine!). One day my mother decided that I needed a professional help ( actually after the psychiatrist gave me a prescription and suggested I needed help), so I went to a psychologyst and that helped....I know my story in awful, also because I m Sad anyway and I m not going anymore to the psychologyst, so I like "alone", I would like that nobody feels in this way, and I Think that leaving university Played a good role to my health.
"But God"....the arrogance. Why would "He" allow it to happen in the first place if "He" were so powerful? What kind of silly God is this? Black people will stay cursed with this mindset. Most Christian black people's lives are in complete shambles. No accountability.
I tried to pursue a career in nursing, but I became so depressed and burned out. I loved the patients, but there was so much bullying among nurses and the environment is not for everyone. I never realized it would be so hard. I ended up changing careers.
candice44441 What kind of bullying?
@@JustSaying0023 yup that's why I left. The nurse to nurse bullying is ridiculous
Marina Syndulla what career did you choose
Candice...same, im a student in my final year and the bullying has shaken me, i have been bullied, humilated and harrassed by other nurses.
I went to do IT as an administrative assistant. Love......it
The problem is even if your passion is caring for people, nursing isn't the same as it was 20 years ago. Now we need to know more about charting, bureaucracy, red tape. It's all BS!!
A. Suarez this is 100% true. I feel like I’m triple charting. It’s getting ridiculous!
Truth!!!
AMEN
Super FACTS!
What is charting, bureaucracy and red tape?
Just left nursing after 4 years of being a nurse. Was unhappy everyday as a nurse. Everything you said in this video really spoke to me.
Olivia Nicole what are you doing now, if you don’t mind me asking?
I would like to know as well. I want to leave bedside, but I would be even happier to leave nursing completely.
I have been a nurse for 5 years and I am quitting my job in 2 weeks to start classes to get certified in IT and get a better career. I hated most days as a nurse and it has been the least fulfilling idea of mine ever.
I dream of another career
Nikki Tikki have u done home health
I quit nursing after 12 years. It’s truly a thankless job. You do not make enough money for all the responsibilities you have. Constantly worrying about losing your license over countless things. It was not worth it to me. It took me years to actually quit even though I knew I wanted to. Once I quit, it was so freeing. I always get asked if you were a nurse, why do you work here? People don’t get how hard becoming a nurse is & how miserable of a job it can be. I still pay student loan debt to this day. Listen to your intuition and follow your dreams. No regrets!
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I was in an accelerated nursing program and yes it was busy, but I knew in my heart it wasn't for me. I quit after 5 months and decided to pursue my Masters instead and happy about my decision.
SPOT ON!
Donna Martin what are you doing for work now? I'm 10 years in & stuck on Tele & I don't care for it.
Same boat here. Just curious as to what you're doing now.
I am so proud of you, I am 24. I have my RN,BSN and I hate being a nurse. You are exactly right about you can change specialities and it does not make a difference. I was a cardiac nurse, endoscopy nurse, and now a public health nurse and I dread it. You have inspired me, individuals glorify nursing when they should not.
What did you hate exactly? I hear both ... love nursing so much it I hate it. What are the things that really bothers you. Ty
What is your role as a cardiac nurse and what do you hate about public health nursing?
I regret this career so much. I really dont know what to do right now. 😭 God please lead me the way.
Consider esthetics. Nurse estheticians are in demand. And you can even have your own non-invasive spa if you want. I am a certified Myotonologist (BSN). If I wasn't 61, it's what I would do.
Radiation Therapist
There are an endless amount of options in nursing. There are so many that I am 100 percent sure you can find one that works for you. Explore all of your options, there are so many.
My mother wants me to be a nurse more than I do I know I can do it but it's not my passion animals are.
You and me both. But to be honest I won't quit nursing all together. I left a hospital job for a clinic and it's much better. Different type of busy. But it beats 12 hr nights by a long shot
I'm quitting nursing in a few days to pursue my dream of being an airline pilot. I never wanted to be a nurse, i told my parents about my dream of being a pilot and they laughed and said "where would you get the time to be a wife". I have been a nurse for 2 months and i am very unhappy. Your video made a difference in this stage of my life!
joy ekakitie ✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾🙌🏾Go Joy Go!!! Shine in the sky 🌌!! I hope one day I’ll get to be one of your passengers! Please let me know how everything goes and you have my support!
joy ekakitie pursue your dreams girl happiness is essential with a career that you'll do for the rest of your life
No disrespect to your parents but parents don’t realize how much weight their words have on us .. they can say the most hurtful things without realizing it . You go girl and become that pilot! just as long your successful and HAPPY that’s all that should matter
joy ekakitie totally do it! A pilot...how amazing and exciting! I don't know you but I'm totally behind you!🤗
Omg, I have my degree in health administration and my true passion and when I tell people at my job that I want to become an airline pilot they say that I’m better off as a flight attendant, or what am I gonna do with my degree, and all types of negative remarks, trying to get me down and change my mind. But by the grace of God I WILL PURSUE MY PASSION. by the end of the yr or the beginning of 2019. I’ve learnt to never listen to other people or tell them your plan.
Just received my rejection letter to a nursing program and as I finished reading it, tears began rolling down my face..
I was so relieved.
Now I have no idea what to do, but I am so happy again :)
Bucketlicious why do you think you got rejected? You applied to more programs? Persist ..
I wish the absolute best for you! You will find out what you want to do in due time :)
NURSING IS HELL! Be glad you did not get in. I have lost track of the times I am have been sick from it and I lost track at 138 people I was with that died in front of me. Lots of death and sickness in this field daily!
LindaLou From Wyoming that’s your experience. There’s so much more to nursing than death.
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And lots of sleepless nights re- thinking a decision. Did I do my best? Did I make a MISTAKE? Nursing is internal and external hell and it IS a beast. At times.
I have been an RN for 15 years but I am now a Management Consultant. I haven’t touched a patient in years and my quality of life is amazing. Please consider and ACTIVELY make it work for you. Take care.
I want to go into healthcare management what do you think of it
how do i get into this?
Tell me more about what you do please
Really motivating
I'm a nursing school drop out too. I felt really guilty quitting, but I just found it so unbearably dull, like being a glorified maid. I felt like my intellect was literally rotting
Crystal Blue I felt the same way and I carried all A’s
I know exactly what you mean. Why I’m going for med
The sad thing is that 15 years ago, nurses had to use their brains. And the ones who made A’s in school were the worst nurses bc they were simply good test takers and there is a certain level of intuitive thinking that can’t be taught. Human anatomy may be an exact science, but human behavior is not. And 9 times out of 10 the “I got all A’s, and I never studied!” Types were either flushed out, or wound up failing the NCLEX or went into management.
That’s the problem with nursing today. The ones coming out of school with all A’s and no common sense are taking over as hospitals are requiring bachelors degrees. The ones of us who worked our way up from CNA to bachelors are trying to adjust to the dumbing down of nurses, and trying to keep 22 year olds who have never had a job, but think they know everything, from killing people. Tests prepare you for tests. Experience prepares you for experience.
Beatnik RN interesting point. I recently finished nursing at uni, and my course was different in the sense that we didn’t get many tests at all, just more assignments. Overall I found these to have little benefit. However some assignments, like ones where we critically appraised nursing practice or examined errors/adverse events that we witnessed on placement, I found very useful and insightful. At the end of the day though, nobody really cares about our scores. In fact, in Australia, there’s no NCLEX. Getting into a graduate program is dependent on your clinical performance on placement and your nurse referees - GPA doesn’t make much of an impact. If you don’t do well in one of your final placements, your employment opportunities are shot. Nobody cares about your grades. That’s how I think it should be. All my memorable learning experiences were on the floor as a student.
I quit too! I absolutely hated it. It did not align with my soul or spirit.
I am in tears because I have been in school nearly 4 years and racked up student loans and now I’m thinking nursing isn’t for me. I’ve been trying to lie to myself and make myself like it but I just don’t think I can do it...
I've been a nurse for 10 years. Worse choice I ever made. I wish I would have followed my dreams instead. Don't do it if you know you don't love it. Take it from me.
Welcome to life. Sometimes you have to do things you don't love, just for the money. You have loans to pay. Get the RN, you will always have a back up.
Worst comment people go mental for that
@@clevelandsimon5652 update: 11 months until my BSN. I love this profession more than life itself and it is my purpose
@@jacobfletcher1291 Im so happy for you! what's a BSN lol just wondering
I think these comments let you know you are not alone. I spent 26 being miserable and abused in nursing. Spending my day off feeling awful and sick over the thought of having to go to work the next day. Many times I looked for jobs outside of nursing, but the pay wasn't as good, so I stuck with it. Seven months ago God put me in a spot we're I didn't have a choice. I have been in customer service ever since and excelling. People asked why I left nursing for customer service and they never believe the answer "to get away from the abuse." I recently went out with a couple of former coworkers, when I told them how well I was treated by my current employer, the looks on their faces reminded me why I had left. They were in shock and disbelief that your employer and coworkers would treat people like mine do. Yes, I make less money, but I am happy and content. For the first time in my adult life I am not hating going to work.
DeeDee Porter Yes, Most definitely DeeDee! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾Money takes you but so far. It’s all good seeing those first few checks then reality hits you like a ton of bricks. Having peace of mind just means so much more! It’s just so crazy how we have been taught to believe being disrespected should be expected and tolerated. I think not! Thank You for sharing your experience♥️
"Yes, I make less money, but I am happy and content."
Amen!!! I love that.
Yes it's abuse on all sides from the patients the doctors and the administration. I only do patient care as agency now.
Many blessings to you so good that your happier now.
Yes now I don’t feel alone I am a CNA . Was going for my lvn but it’s true we never enough we work our butts off but never satisfied. We get yelled at anyways we work short and still . We could work to fast but the safety if we work to slow ppl are waiting on you. NEVER ENOUGH
A nurse once told me that there is no nursing shortage. She said that if all the nurses that quit came back there would be no shortage. Nurses burn out in about 5 years. I’ve met nurses that shouldn’t be nurses....you made the right choice! God Bless!
3 months before graduation and I quit. It was not for me. This career was supposed to take me out of poverty but I couldn't let my mental health suffer anymore. Now I'm studying for a new career. Something that I am happy with!
May I ask what you are doing ?
I have a shit ton of friends in this boat and they do not want to admit it, they are only in school for nursing and/or only working as nurses for the money they have ZERO passion or common sense. At least you are honest enough to say you were wrong and that is all that matters!
Oh snap! I hope there's at least a little common sense lol. && to clarify I def had compassion for each person I cared for and was a dang great nurse but that was not enough (to me). Best of luck to your friends!
Thee Mademoiselle The money is good but you are right, if a person doesn’t have the passion to be a nurse, you will never be happy!
Perhaps you need to be in a different type of nursing. There is so much more than Hospice, working in a hospital on a floor or wing, more than a nursing home, respite care center, or retirement center for that matter. There are positions with private doctors, nurses who do home care, others work with pediatricians, & there are school nurses too. MOF, I lived in this state many, many years ago after I was born then again while I was in school. After I moved back many years in the future after saying I'd never live in this state again, I did but I moved here because the man I had been dating & who had made the drive to see me more times than I can count or even remember on top of the times we 'met in the middle' and just got a hotel room b/c it was cheaper & we could each be back home sooner with less of a drive... we had grown close & our relationship deepened over time. He owned his business & with the type it was, he couldn't just pick up and move to a new state in a metropolitan city. Even if wanted to move his business, he couldn't get work where I lived b/c it was in a large city & the type of work he did wasn't done there, so I moved to be nearer to him to find out if we had any chance of making it last. We did & we have. My career was really fluid allowing me to work anywhere. After I went to work in this area and later decided to go back into an office, the corporation's in-house nurse turned out to be the school nurse of a school I attended more than 2 decades earlier! I had sent for my school records & wanted to make sure I had them all so I had my records sent from every school in every state I had attended. One night while going through them all, I found my friend & company nurse... I made a copy of the document with her signature & brought it with me the day after. We both had a great laugh about it. Now she was a corporate nurse but good at her job & she enjoyed it b/c it wasn't around sick people all the time, though she did give flu vaccines every year. I'd even go into the office to get mine.
I guess what I'm saying is this: It sounds like you love people. I've been around enough nurses in my life to know when a nurse absolutely hates the work & you don't sound like you hate the work; it's like you don't care for where you are working per se. Maybe you need to find a different way of doing what you do best.
After my oldest daughter wasn't happen with the way things were going, she began taking classes at the hair college (It is a Paul Mitchell school), she eventually took all the classes needed & went thru the lab time too then graduated, went for her state licensed, got it, & began working as a hairdresser but still worked in medicine & kept going to college. Today, she does hair at a respite center, does nursing at the respite center so many days a week, then takes care of an elderly woman who still lives in her home a few days a week, & she has created time to be more of a presence in her step-daughter's life, esp after she came to live with my daughter & her husband. Now my daughter doesn't have & doesn't want children; they can't have children b/c her husband had surgery to take care of that so they're on the same page & happy; hwr, there are no diapers, no chasing a toddler or being up all night putting an antsy stubborn terrible two back in his or her bed, but she does enjoy being a stepmother & being able to help this young girl get her life straight & work hard in school while, as a family, working on any & all remaining issues.
My daughter has a full life but it's one she has made to fit the things she likes to do. Part of that is working as a hairdresser in the respite center, which makes it so she enjoys what she does even more & the break between in-house hairdresser for the center, working at the center, working in private care, and working at a salon where she oversees other hairdressers while also working herself just fulfills her life too.
Life really is what you make it. I hope you find what you are seeking.
Your daughter & mine could be sisters. :) My (oldest) daughter loves medicine too. I think her ability to cross so many avenues of directly & indirectly serving as a caregiver thru the medicine at a respite care facility, as a hairdresser within the same respite care center, & thru her volunteer work where she comes in 1-2 or so times a month (across 2 of the center's facilities & sometimes she is able to come back to the 3rd that is near my home/her childhood home) where she comes out to sing to the residents. Bless her heart she even goes to the extent of doing her hair, nails, makeup, and dresses in period pieces & evening gowns to make it more special. Over the past few years, she opted to take on private duty, tho the elderly woman who hired her wasn't a stranger when she was offered the job. She knew her thru other residents (the company directs employees to call them clients rather than residents or patients) she has known for years. About the only sub-specialty she doesn't work is with Alzheimer's patients. In the beginning, it was more b/c she was fearful of Alzheimer's patients b/c the first patients she cared for with Alzheimer's were in the combative stage. Later, she came to understand & know in her head that the only reason people in this stage get like this is b/c they are more afraid of others than others are afraid of them. She's seen it first hand with a family member & a few aging friends who had/have the disease so she was able to witness the changes from the mildest of symptoms to the most severe where even the glimmer of recognition was gone. It's just one aspect of nursing care she doesn't want to work in with good reason.
It seems like we moms have the same great ideas. LOL! I did the same with my girls. The youngest doesn't want to work in medicine; hwr, there is a flicker of caregiver in the peripheral. She has always wanted to with women who have to fight for right to learn & live despite culture & religion. It has a lot to do w/why she chose cultural anthropology w/focus in middle eastern studies. Both girls have grown up supporting & fighting for those who have few to fight for them or with them. My husband & I chose to send the girls to public school (we have an excellent school district) while also home-schooling. It's given them the best foundation. I've fought with multiple (4 types) autoimmune diseases and damages they have caused to my body so I can definitely understand your extensive knowledge of the medical language. (I have a retinal disease w/optic nerve damage too; lost my license to blindness more than 2 decades ago, but I still retain light perception w/some clarity if one can call looking thru drinking straws w/saran wrap over the ends clarity... lol!) And you are so right on the point that automation will never take away our daughters' career. My MIL, other family members, & I have said the same many times too. It's about the best job security of any other field out there. I know I keep numerous specialty fields in business, as I'm sure you do as well. So sorry to hear about your accident. My oldest was t-boned too but thankfully the hit wasn't anywhere close to what you sustained. You are lucky to be alive! About a month before I was to meet my father-in-law for the first time, he was in a multi-vehicle pile up on the interstate. He wasn't able to stop before rear-ending a dump truck as the truck driver was trying to avoid the vehicle in front of him & in front of that one, etc... He died on impact and thru sheer divine providence, his wife (2nd wife; he moved out west & remarried after he & my MIL divorced, which is why it was about 10yrs before the chance came up to finally put into motion possibly meeting him) somehow survived though how is unbelievable. Sadly, she had to be put into a medically-induced coma to give her any chance of survival & even that sliver was tiny. It was almost a year before she had any knowledge that her husband died. While I was sad for my husband & his brothers, their kids & ours, I was happy for his stepsons. At least one of them survived. Best wishes & gentle hugs.
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Guess what everybody I know doing it for the money. It's crazy
You realized your current career was not something that made you happy and made the change when you were young. You actually saved yourself several years of misery.
I’ve been an LPN for three years now and I’m no longer interesting in furthering my career to be an RN. I’ve realized that this isn’t my passion and this career is affecting my mental health so much. I’m aware every career has stress. But what I experienced as a nurse was too much. It is not worth it at all. I love videos like these because it shows me that I’m not alone. Just a tip for any young person going into a field because their parents pushed or groomed them to be a nurse, doctor etc. Don’t do it. Follow your passion. At the end of the day, those pressuring you to go into the field aren’t living your life. They don’t know the stress, depression or anxiety you may go through. Live for you.
I am so glad you made this video... Nursing is emotionally draining! It looks good the pay and you will always have a job. But the few patients you have in school, it doesn't prepare you for taking care of 40 patients. The stress...and how can you not take it home with you.Too much responsibility human life, you can t make mistakes...
Im an LPN and I 100% agree. I used to get pressured from everyone around me to get my RN but something in the back of my mind was telling me it’s just not the right move at the moment. After this pandemic I’m sooo happy I never went through with it. I love the helping people aspect of nursing but everything else with the politics and feeling like I’m in a corporation is really starting to get to me ..
Are you still doing nursing ? If not what else are you doing ? I’m debating if I should continue nursing school 😢. I work at a hospital as a pct now and it makes me hate healthcare.
I hate being a nurse. Cant wait to leave this career. Love the vulnerability and thank you for posting this. So many nurses I work with hate being a nurse.
i graduated a few years ago in accounting and finance from one the nations top Us business schools and was working for Goldman sachs. i am making over 100k but it has literally sucked the life out of me. I could not see myself doing this for another year and will be putting in my resignation after tax season and pursuing what i always wanted to do which is computer programming. 😁
✊✊✊✊I respect that!! That takes a lot to step away from that amount of money. Big ups to you and I hope others see your comment!
WOW good luck and so much respect for you 🙌 You'll do amazing!
I think theres a IT nurse. I believe they are called like informatic nurse? Is that what you are trying to pursue?
Amen.
Honey your nursing degree gives you knowledge. It also gives you critical thinking skills. They can be translated into other things. Use your knowledge to help people in your own way. The main thing is YOU HAVE CREDENTIALS!!!!!!!!!!! You achieved that goal, be proud!!!!! Continue to use your conviction to figure out what you want to do. 💯👍🏽💯👍🏽💯👍🏽
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This comment gave me life!!!!
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I believed that lie, too.
Girl this spoke to me! I’m changing my major to education because I’ve waisted 3 years of my life going through school for nursing . My dad told me to be a CNA the whole time I was going to school and I’m so glad I listened to my dad 😩. I’ve seen so much! The nurses really don’t care , they’re very disorganized, rude and talk down on CNAs like we were below them. I hated the medical field but I’m glad I went through it to open my eyes. I think everybody who wants to be a nurse/doctor should be a CNA for at least 6 months first
Nursing isn’t a lavish profession it’s tough. I’m in my first year as a nurse and it’s a dog eat dog world. I realized this is why the majority of nurses quit this career and move on from bedside. I’m miserable and depressed..My coworkers are a bunch of bullies and backstabbers. Working in a hospital sucks don’t pursue it unless your going into l&d; OR etc
Isabella I understand 100%. Let’s all help each other out
Isabella those bitches. Bite back. Stand up for yourself. Then they will leave you alone
I would consider looking into other hospitals. Good coworkers mean the world and can drastically change your opinion of the profession for better or worse. Nurses do eat their young sadly which is why you need to show them that you're better than them. Walk in those doors with your chin up and show them how you are not intimidated by their behavior. They will soon leave you alone 😃
I too left my nursing career behind. It took me almost 8 years to realize that the only reason I went into the medical field was because I was told most of my life that that was the most stable job you could ever have in this day and age, and that I wouldn't make enough money and would never be happy doing what I originally wanted to go to school for, which was becoming either a veterinarian or a vet tech. SOMETHING TO HELP ANIMALS. I cared too much about what my elders and peers thought, and I gave up my dreams in order to become a nurse for fear of ending up a "failure." I let other people brainwash me and I don't know why!!! While I was in nursing, I was actually REALLY good at it, but I woke up every morning dreading my work day before it even started and for some reason it took years and years for me to realize that it didn't make me happy. It was like I was on autopilot. It was very hard to quit and leave nursing/medical field behind because like I said, I had been brainwashed into thinking my dream job was a losers job that wouldn't get me anywhere. I am now trying my hardest to go after my dream of helping animals and everything finally feels right in my life. If a job doesn't make you happy, it's not worth the money or the benefits.
Nursing is hard and draining... it has to be a calling.
NolaBaby83 just like being a physician. That is why they are One. Haha
Amen! and Amen!
@@CariBaez They are one??? Your not making much sense hun.
It's a job, like many others. Not that bad
Truth.
Nursing is a hard job. I regret becoming an RN. Hospitals and management have exploited us for so long and ever since covid I just can't anymore. I feel sick every day I have to work. The amount of bullying that goes on is awful. The patients are demanding and the stress isnt worth the little paycheck.
I'm starting my nursing program next week. This video's making me nervous! But i am passionate about being a nurse, hopefully it works out well.
NurseJen healthcare is hard and nurses are often abused but lots of nurses love what they do. They just need a little reminder sometimes.
NurseJen Keep with it! I love my nursing job and it’s the best decision I’ve ever made with my life. That being said, if you find it’s not for you, don’t feel bad about leaving the profession. Everyone has different passions, so if you truest feel passionate about nursing, you will do just fine. It’s such an amazing field and it’s such a cool job! Some days I feel like I’m fighting the grim reaper to save a life, other days I’m celebrating someone beating cancer or crying with them as they tell me about their struggles with addiction. Be kind, be understanding, always try and put yourself in your patients’ shoes. If people are mean or angry ask yourself how you might feel- empathize with them, let them know you’re on their side- you make a lot of strong connections with patients and family that way. Best of luck future nurse!
NurseJen if nursing is your heart continue pushing. I’ve been a nurse for 26 years. I was so happy in this profession for most of my career. It’s what I wanted to do. I did very well. I worked my way up. I did med surge, cardtele, ER. I was a preceptor, charge nurse, manager and now nurse Administrator. I have taught and encouraged so many others. I am no longer happy in this profession. My passion has changed. I’ve gave my all and I have nothing else to give to this profession. I’m going to follow my new joy so that others like you who are passionate about the profession care take the torch. This young lady clearly never wanted this. Yes it is a very hard profession. It will suck you dry if you don’t create balance within yourself. Good luck and best wishes to you!
ariunsanaa dolgorsuren I’m done with nursing. Traveling is my passion. I’m a solo traveler now. Writing books and teaching women and some men how to travel solo safely. https:://pacnplay.com is my website. I didn’t think I would ever lose my passion for nursing but I did.
Me too
I’ve been a nurse for 7 years! Started off as a Medical Assistant then a phlebotomist and then BSN. What upsets me about nursing is the black nurse can never be the nurse I am always assumed to be the “aide, or housekeeping”. I’m questioned more often about what I know then others. I’m always expected to do more or accept a higher workload or more complex patients that others don’t want to accept. I am expected to work through lunch and stay late more. I see black patients being treated as if pain doesn’t exist, we don’t get depressed, we don’t have anxiety or fears about surgery, recovery, discharge, new diagnosis etc. I wonder why many doctors, nurses and the world feel this way?
Ebony LaVette The history of Racism has shaped this behavior towards black nurses. There are articles that are talk about this.
Ebony LaVette Disgusting.
I was always assumed to be the CNA and made to feel different than my RN peers. Was called names, yelled at, & pressured to take on more.
be a catalyst for change, sister..shine bright!!
Yes! Yes! Yes! You are right. What hurts me the most is when the “ black “ patient looks are you to validate what the doctor is saying and you have to agree even though you don’t agree with the care. They are always looking at the black folk to fix situations with other black patients when they can easily just treat them like everyone one in the dang building.
Life is short and I would advise anyone who is unhappy in whatever you are doing to get out..Life is to short to be miserable...
Amen Amen Amen!
Wow, I’ll be more kinder and understanding to nurses.
Thank you! It’s a miserable job, especially when patients beat you up (literally or figuratively).
Oh my god girl this spoke to
me. I have been trying to become a nurse for 7 years I finally got into a BSN program and now I realize nursing was never for me. God has a bigger plan.
Elisa Bee Same here. Dropped out of Nursing school cause of psychological problems. Noticed that Nursing isn’t really for me and I shouldn’t limit myself.
Yes that’s exactly how I feel now !!!
What's the plan??
Same here! There was always something there keeping me from obtaining it. Now that I can, everything in my gut is screaming not to, it's a daily challenge to fight what society has told us about working in the system. I've decided to work for myself.
@@kiaharper7172 went into project management
For anybody having doubts about going to community college: There is nothing wrong with going to community college. The only difference between my friend and I is the debt. Signing the loan papers is easy. Once you get your first bill from the lender, reality kicks in REAL QUICK.
so true!!!!!
Hahaha
I’m a nurse and I wanted my daughter to become a nurse. She became a nursing assistant first and found out that nursing was not for her. And now she is studying Human Resources. I’m glad she had the encouragement to tell me. I tell everyone nursing is not for everyone u do have to have a passion for it.
Thank God she was brave and Thank God you were such a great Mom to love her in spite of your own desires!! 💖
just made the hard decision of nursing not being for me and feeling like a disappointment. and then i open youtube and the first thing that popped up was this video. definitely a sign from God. thank you
What you doing now?
I quit nursing dec 2021. I realized that my passion for caring was truly centered in Gods and caring for my husband, children and serving others. I am a great nurse because my passion is literally to care, but the environment just pushes you away. So much witchcraft in the profession (intimidation, manipulation and domination). Being a homemaker is my peace and I’m learning my true role as a woman. Also, started a logistics business shortly after leaving and my husband and I plan to to do this to prepare for times ahead and be a blessing to others that need it. God bless you!
You did the right thing. I just walked away after 22 years. Got tired of the politics, negative co-workers, unappreciative families and doctors. You walking away early is going to lead to a happy life. I couldn’t because I had a family and responsibilities. As a result I feel like I have wasted a lot of my life, but I was determined to not end my life being miserable and working in a very negative environment. Let me give everyone something to think about. Average age expectancy is 84 years old. Say you are presently 30 years old. That means you have about 54 years left to live on average. If you sleep 8 hours a day that is 18 of the 54 years that you will be sleeping, so you have about 36 years to work and enjoy yourself and everything else. If you work only 40 hours a week then out of the 36 years, approximately 12 years will be spent working. Now you are left with 24 years. Say you are showering, grooming and commuting 2 hours a day. That is approximately 5 years out of your life. Now you are down to 19 years to really live your life out of 54 years. This is why it is absolutely necessary that you love what you are doing. Your daily activities is what you are trading your life for, so we all need to constantly be vigilant of our time and happiness and say “no” to everything else.
And how pray sir, are you gonna pay for 54 years of doing exactly what you want, any time you want?
Don’t understand your comment or your point. My point is to do something you enjoy doing and do not waste your time on anything else because you actually only have a few years in the grand scheme of things to really enjoy yourself so it is very important that you enjoy your work. If you don’t like what you are doing you need to make a change now because you are wasting your life. If you put up with a job that you do not like you will wake up one day and realize that your life has past you by
Everyone thinks they have a lot of time...Until they don't.
This is how I feel as a CNA!!!!
Mark Sanders Wooow thank you
I'm in tears right now, my whole entire family is counting on me to go to nursing school and i'm going along with it but deep down inside I know that I don't want to do that. I actually got into a great nursing school last year but something happened and i had to completely stop. I believe that was a sign from God but then got brainwashed again by my family to the point where I started believing that even God wanted me to be a nurse but that's not the case. He's actually calling me to business. I pray that God gives me strength i really love this video because it opened my eyes to reality. God will totally bless you for this.
Thank you so much! Praying for you also!
All Things Nola Do what you really want to do. Do not waste your time and money. The money will come. Be happy!
Ms ch Oh my goodness I can't thank you enough for the support. God bless!
U can still finish nursing and go into business. The nursing field is soooo broad
I'm in my late 30s and I've learned it's not all about how much money you make and what others think. It's what you want. I am a teacher and I LOVE it. Maybe teaching nursing would help?
Girl you just ripped my heart out and stomped on it. This was literally me in 2015--almost word for word. I went into nursing because I came from a medical family and it seemed like the right thing to do. I only did well in school subjects I found personally interesting, which is why I didn't go the med school route. The pre-reqs were going to be so boring, I'd never have gotten the grades required to get into med school. So I went with nursing because I knew at least the classes would be interesting. I really enjoyed nursing school, but around my senior year it hit me that I liked nursing SCHOOL, but was going to hate being a nurse--but by that point, I was already three years in and it was too late. To make matters worse, I'd taken a second part time job my senior year with an airline and was like oh shit--I love this... I don't know that I'll ever love nursing as much as I love this... So I finished out nursing school, and like you, graduation day was one of the saddest of my life. I felt SO crap.
I didn't apply straight away to nursing jobs because I was also a competitive dancer and wanted to see if I could get into a touring show for a bit, just to get it out of my system before committing to real life. Well that screwed the pooch, because a year later, no one would hire me as a new grad nurse, who'd been out of school for a year. I ended up having to move states to get a job, and it turned out the job was a profit-driven (even though it was a non-profit, research hospital) hell hole. I lasted a year of having to supply my car with tissues to accommodate my crying on the way home every night before finally admitting I was just straight up in the wrong field. I had to go through all the phases you talked about... Grief, embarrassment, having to defend my decision to everyone I knew, being told I just hadn't found the "right" nursing job, etc. It sucked so hard.
In the end, it was worth it. I got re-hired by my airline, and now, five years later, I'm knee deep in a Masters of Aerospace Management program and I couldn't be happier.
Moral of the story is, if it feels wrong, it is wrong. Stop and think before you waste literal years of your life.
Good for you for following your heart, and for sharing your story.
I feel better now.
" If it feels wrong, then it is wrong " - Woww . Truest words spoken
If only school was free...
Here where i live it is. You only pay for books and things you need. Every school so elementary school ,middle school ,high school ,collage it is all free.
Well you spend 15k for school, you can get that back in a few months.
Ajla Kamberovic where do you live ?
Why should taxpayers pay for someone to go to school for nursing and then have them quit because they don’t like it. That’s on her.
@@krystal3733 shutup. People don't know what it entails until your Experiencing it. So shove your judgments up your @ss, k..
I love how you talk about God ❤️
💖He's my rock!
Right!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
i quit my job 3 months ago ill find a another job soon, not worried about it ! life is to short to be unhappy at job when we all know no company cares about you
I'm quitting today after 4 months of doing psych as a new grad. I had 10 patients to take care of and most were aggressive males. Plus they told me I had to do charge nurse duties. Plus, it's not giving me any experience other than stare at a computer and almost get hit by patients. It was the only job presented to me at the time and it's night shift too 12 hr. Ever since I started night I've not been the same my body is so confused and I haven't slept well in 2 weeks. I had to give it up I couldn't do one more night anymore. I tried days it was even worse I wasn't improving at all on top of that. Quitting was hard at first but it was well worth it. I know I'll find another hospital job but for me I couldn't take going to a unit almost every day where most of the nurses looked down on me as some incompetent weak link. It was humiliating and embarrassing. I had to be honest with myself that I was simply no good at the job. It's not worth it. As a new grad, if you know you won't make it 6 months get the hell out early especially when you're still on orientation.
@@mariekano9730 what did you end up doing?
I’ve been nursing for nearly a year now and the last few weeks I’ve been feeling exactly this. Nursing is HARD emotionally, physically and it affects your life around you. I definitely take things home and am constantly anxious being responsible for people’s lives. I’m currently looking into other degrees, I love knowledge and love to study but I’m lost as what to do. I know I have something to fall back on if I’m ever struggling financially but I feel I need to follow my heart. Thank you so much for this!
I’m currently doing home health which should be low stress but I still have anxiety. I am emotionally not happy being a nurse, and I’ve realized my mental health comes first. I’m also afraid to career jump especially right now with covid-19. I need to follow my heart. What have you decided to do?
Rebecca Mota I enrolled to do a bachelor of justice and criminology I’m in my first semester making options for myself! Super interesting
@@lozzamozza340 what kind of job can you get with that?
@@lozzamozza340 how it going? Week 2 and already depressed literally. Cna was wayy better
@@prettygirl_1626 wow thanks for bringing this thread back 😂 I completely changed degrees to follow my passion, I’ve nearly finished my first year of architecture studying online whilst working in coronary care, I feel like the anxiety gets a little better but my hearts not been in it for a while. I will say it’s never too late to change career just gotta give it time to find passions that align with your lifestyle
My Lord!!!!! When you said 'just because you can do something, does not mean that is meant for you', you are preaching it. A law professor said that in a seminar one day & it hit me like an AK 47. He actually said 'just because you can do something, does not mean that you should'. I knew from that day; I was done pursuing law. Now a bachelor and master degree later, I am going to pursue nursing. I have always wanted to be one, and after much prayer, I will do it. God gave me so many signs. Also, I do not think any of my degrees are a waste. Preparation is never a waste of time & God is always on time. Thanks for your story. You will be fine. You are blessed.
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Hi, To go thru nursing school & not have a passion for it, complete it & pass the boards means you have great self-motivation & drive. You can succeed in whatever profession God has purposes for you. If you don’t mind me asking, what do you enjoy doing or are passionate about doing?
Hey Julia! You know I never even thought about it that way. You just blessed me girl! I don't mind at all. I'm glad you asked actually. I am so passionate about so many things honestly BUT everything is centered around helping others actualize their potential and turn it into reality while cultivating healthy relationships (with self, parents, peers, husband/wife, food etc.) My channel is pretty much everything I am passionate about all in one place 💖
Julia Taylor Lol right! Girly said she did the bare minimum. Oh lord Plesse bless me with these "bare minimum" grades and bare minimum strength. Lol. Nice video.
Most people just go into nursing for the title , the bragging rights & money but they walk around angry at the patients , have no bedside manners, and seem to hate their jobs. But to be honest, it seems to be an issue in a lot of fields.. Teachers are leaving their professions, nurses, social workers.. it’s really strange, what’s really going on? Life is so stressful y’all. ☹️☹️
I wonder this too this comment needs to be highlighted because something is in the air.
@@Ms.A422 go into healthcare and you will find out. Then maybe to will see for yourself why this is no longer a top profession to go into. You’ll understand why people are leaving because of burnout and their own health and sanity. Don’t judge unless you have firsthand experience
It’s because we are at a point in time where we aren’t able to find our passion anymore or learn things just out of pure curiosity. We have to just do what will pay these ever growing bills.
Most people get ANY degree for money and bragging rights lol I mean 🤭
But WHO CARES. As a nurse I can attest to the disrespectful coworkers and PATIENTS. We walk around all mad bc we're disrespected. But don't worry...we're leaving. And maybe when there are really no nurses willing to work things will change. We are shouting for help.....
@@Erinspeedy It’s not a judgement it’s an observation. Many professions nowadays seem to be saturated with angry people. I want to chalk it down to financial struggle and general degradation of life for the middle class but I also want to be 110% certain that this is the reason or at least the main reason for their anger. There could be other factors adding to this but yeah unfortunately people these days seem the most angry they’ve ever been.
You really just finalized my decision that nursing isn't for me thank you.
Damn girl!! You a lion!!! To finish nursing school without a true deep passion for it is amazing shit!!! Great job girl!! All around! Thank you for posting!!! You are on the right track!
Hey hey now! A lion! I'll def take that lol but I definitely just chalk it up to my persistence and drive to complete something no matter what! Gift and a curse, I guess. Thank You, Tasha 💜
Wake Up this is true. I could never! Such hard and thankless work
Wake Up ii
Wake Up EXACTLYYYY.... like after one semester i knew i was done with it because it wasnt for me. You are so strong girl!!!
It's been 3 years when you wrote this comment but it's still relevant. I want to quit nursing school but I was pressured by my family and I graduated on a field who doesn't bring me any joy and I felt miserable and guilty because I didn't like it. When you graduate from high school you have little time to think what is the right path to chose.
I have noticed that a lot of black women are pushed into nursing.... does anyone else feel this way?
Leigh J yes...it's accessible at the community college levels and not as expensive
OMG this is a topic of discussion. hv u noticed most black women in nursing work mainly night shifts
Maame Yaa Been working nights for over 20 years. Never day shift because I don't do well with management, excessive family members, etc.... and their attitudes! Can't do it!! Lol
Black women are only made to take care of others and not ourselves. We been “mamified” in society. I’ve been a nurse for 7 years
I’m a night shift nurse too. Can’t deal with all the daytime bull shit
Started nursing school and passed all my classes the first semester, but never felt as passionate as my other classmates. I hated waking up everyday because of how intense my anxiety fits were. I felt unhappy and I just couldn’t picture myself doing that. I thought I did but I really was there to make my family proud of me and to make sure I was gonna live without starving or being worried about money like I have been all my life. Just finished the semester last month and decided I wasn’t gonna go back. It sucks and I felt shame for a while but I’m proud of myself for keeping that integrity with myself. It’s better to do something that will make you proud of yourself and generally happy before anything. I’m still learning this lesson, but at least I’m learning it now.
@@jasmine408 I’m currently in my third semester to be a physical therapist assistant! I think something that really helped for me was calling to ask if I can shadow some therapists at some outpatient clinics, researching into more of what they do, and getting information from my school’s program. My advice would be that if you really don’t feel a passion for healthcare at all even after shadowing some potential careers you might be interested in, please don’t be afraid to back out. Honestly, it’s better to not waste your time and money finding that out. I would’ve told my younger self to take my time and not worry about not being in school until I figured out what I REALLY wanted to do. Also, I think I’ve had to do some internal work with overcoming imposter syndrome and finding ways to decompress. This will be so important!
And I really got in my head about the expectations my family had on me. Really, they just want to see me happy and flourish in whatever way I do. Any parent would want to see that in their child even though they may pressure you at times to go in a certain direction. At the end of the day, it’s your own life that no one else can dictate for you or shame you for. Please don’t let others pressure you. Find what resonates in your heart and don’t be afraid to take some time to figure it out like…seriously. Some of my classmates are in their 30s and 40s and they’re glad they’re doing this now :)
“Just because you completed it, doesn’t mean that’s for you.” Speaking the truth right there. A person can ace all of nursing school but if your hearts not in it (or in my case a loss of passion) then its on to the next career. Besides it’s stressful as all hell too! Nope
You helped me to make a very hard decision with this comment.
What you do now?
I'm glad you shared this video because I've been struggling the fence about nursing but I love doing hair and makeup but I'm going to follow my passion and follow the gift that God gave me because whatever you are good at and your passion that is what your supposed to do because he gave that to you
Hey my girl! This is exactly why God gave me the courage to post this. You heard my story---don't make it yours. I am not saying do not do nursing. Nursing is def rewarding. I just say do not do it if you feel guilted into it or you feel its the safe choice. You love hair and makeup and you're great at it---go after it! God gave you the gift so use it. You're not helping people by being on the fence. Get off the fence and do your thing! (Telling you this and myself this). We're in this together😉💕
Randomly Oni C definitely hun your encouragement is helping people thank you for sharing 💋💋
IT'SJAZZYJAE Do what you love! Blessings!
Amen.
You are so right. I prayed and the Lord told me to pursue my passion. And I am volunteering at a hospital, I love the medical field of helping people I feel so good about myself. And I know that I will soon be getting paid for it. I tell my kids do something that you love that if did not get paid for it you still would do it.So many people have careers or jobs and hate getting up everyday, Why put yourself threw that
Thank you for sharing your story! I am an RN and currently possess licenses in LPN & RN. I have been practicing nursing as an RN for the past 16 years. I LOVED nursing, but lately, with all the changes in healthcare, the short-staffing, disrespect (from patients/families & administration) and unappreciated for the work we do, it has become harder and harder for me to go into work. I pray everyday for a "good day," but FOR ME, it just seems like there is always a challenges. At this point, I just feel "burnt out." I WOULD like to continue nursing, because I DO love nursing, just not what I am doing RIGHT NOW. I work on a fast-paced, high stress and high turn-over medical/surgical unit. The demands are so many and increasing, but they want you out on time, irregardless of what type of day you had, the short-staffing or how high the nurse:pt ratio was....AND they give you grief for any "incidental" overtime you end up doing, blaming it on poor time management. I'm praying for guidance right now and an open door of opportunity for a position and area of nursing that God wants me in. By the way, my grandmother, who is a devout, born-again Christian told me that, "The Lord" told her to tell me to not take this current position, but I was unhappy at the previous job and wanted to leave and was disobedient. I'm suffering for it now! Let's pray for one another my sister!
Granny's always know!!! My grandmother def shared a few things with me and I didn't listen and I def had to pay for it! Thank You for sharing that with me and the prayers! I am sending some prayers up for you for that position to come with your name on it!! 😘💓Def come back and let me know when it does 🙏
I really appreciate you being so honest about this i became a CNA then i was going to go get my License LPN license but i felt just like u my grandma was RN for years i had to help myself emotionally girl make your self happy do other job above all make u Happy i stay in it for 6years when i could have done something else to make myself happy not my husband or parents but myself happy u have gotten a lot figured out I'm happy u did before u got bad depressed like i did one of my happy times was quiting my job as a nurse life is really to short now I'm sick it's bad i wish i had those 6years back to spend with my kids and my husband has passed away .I'm really glad u know what to do to make it better I'm proud of u young lady I'm sure your parents and husband will tell u i wish u much love and happiness thank u for your story u go girl LoL
Thank you! So sorry to hear of your husband's passing. And yes, life IS too short! God bless!!
God bless. Seems like it's time to make a move. There are so many options within nursing and a jump to another kind of nursing could make the biggest difference
Amen!! I agree!!
My feeling is that one must be born a nurse. I spent years doing all kinds of factory work, office work, etc, before finally going to nursing school and graduating at the age of 51 years old. Looking back at my life it dawned on me that I had always been a nurse in my relationships with family and friends/ Nursing is not for everyone, you have got to feel it.
You can get into the aesthetics field as a nurse! Med spas, Botox etc... seems like a more relaxed environment, rather than a hospital 🤷♀️
coconutwater yes and happy patients for the most part 😄
@@Ariel1KL “Beyond providing cosmetic services such as laser hair removal and skin treatments, dermabrasion, Botox injection and fillers to provide a more youthful appearance, they also work by the side of physicians such as dermatologists and plastic surgeons as they perform clinical and surgical procedures for patients.” Got this off the internet since I personally am not a cosmetic nurse.
Those jobs are hard to come by. Lots of nurses applying for positions few and far between.
There’s so many specialities in the nursing field.
I don’t wish to poison people for a living in the name of vanity.
Nursing is a calling!,do not go for the job stability or money you will be unhappy and a risk!!
Even if you do feel called to do nursing. Outside forces (management, government, hospital policies) can wear on you and make you feel like nursing was a mistake. Not everyone who quits nursing primarily went into it for the money
It's weird that I came across your video... as I'm sitting at home tryna figure out what is my purpose in life... what am I passionate about... why am I sitting here letting life pass me by without knowing what/where I want to be? I've always wanted to be a nurse but never pursued it. Instead, I got a Medical Assistant certificate and don't even work in that field. I'm praying and hoping that God will guide me in the right direction. As for you, don't feel bad about it. You deserve to be happy with any career you choose. It's your life :) Thanks for this vid!
Dyneisha!! Go for nursing girl if that is what you truly want! Just as you told me I deserve to be happy with any career I choose---so do you!! I am rooting for you and I appreciate your love and support also. God got you girl and your purpose is within you already💕
Thank you babe!
Dyneisha Brown I’m a CMA currently and thinking of my next steps
Good luck on whatever it is that you have in mind next 🤗
Dyneisha Ericka hey im getting enrolled in school to become a medical assistant...is there any tips you could give me in moving forward in this position
I can’t relate to this. I was the first college graduate in my family. I realized nursing wasn’t for me in my first semester. But I was so pressured. So many people were depending on me. And had invested in me. I was soooo miserable. My first job was at a place where nurses ate their young. I had no life. I was emotionally and physically drained all the time. I was depressed. I left the bedside for clinic. It’s a lot better. I actually love what I do. I love helping the patients. But working with the nurses is a lot. Petty messy all the time.
Me too. I'm currently going to send my resignation soon. I can't do bedside anymore and I'm a new nurse 6 months in and the night shift is KILLING me. I'm not the same. My acne is very very bad, I don't sleep, I started drinking just to sleep, my blood pressure went up I got very depressed my hygiene is down the drain so I said fuck it. 26 years old it's not worth it. I left and went to do clinic nursing with better hours. Maybe one day I'll go back to a hospital but starting at a hospital was a big mistake for me
How is it like working at a clinic?
Yess.And most of the times they are so jealous of all newcomers like they want them out
I have so much respect for you for being strong enough to obtain your degree, and even stronger to walk away. I think it’s so wonderful of you to put your story out there, and to be so up front about it.
If your video reaches even just a few people thinking about going into nursing who have doubts then I hope it helps them to make the right decision.
When you realize while watching a video about ignoring signs that you yourself are ignoring the same signs.
Look at what you're doing now..Your decision found a way to help others like me. My parents told me that passion will only fade, later on in life it's all about the pay/money because we pay bills and all. But to me, that's not living. The only thing we own in this life are our own moments. We don't own anything when we leave this earth, even our soul, it belongs to God. The only thing we own is our moments while living..
You just blessed me with this comment Nina!!! That spirit and mindset you have---keep it and share with others! Thank You😘❤️💕
Nina,
That was so beautiful and poignant. I wish everyone thought that way. This world would be so much better to live in....
Nina this is absolutely true! All we have is these moments we're living. If those aren't bringing us joy, wtf is the point?? Paying bills to be miserable? No way.
Nina Jeanne Abrea so true. When we leave this earth we won't be thinking about the bills, what we did for a living, etc, but about our loved ones and memories.
I wish I could like your message a hundred times. You are spot on. Continue to share your message with everyone. Love is the only reason for living... and thanks Randomly Oni C! This video was needed by many.
We’re going into 2020 soon, yet this is so relevant to me right now! Thank you for your transparency 🙏🏾
This shows nothing has changed in nursing at all
Well, well, well...
@@daniellewardd lmfaoooo
You just made me tear up 😭.
My mom kept telling me to be a nurse from childhood, it’s never my dream.
When I was little, I grew up thinking I could do it but deep down, I still don’t want to do it.
But recently, I thought maybe I could do it and make my mom happy and proud, because I mean, everyone says there’s money in it but I have to search for videos on UA-cam to know how happy some nurses might be with their career.
I’ve started application but I’m still scared cos firstly, I hate everything about hospital, I hate blood and I’m so emotional so I can cry easily especially when someone dies.
Everyone says I look caring and nursing will looking good on me🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️.
I think I should do what makes me happy and not what my mom wants because I might be depressed on the long run but on the other hand, I don’t want my mom to feel sad 😞 I honestly don’t know what to really do but I think this video is helpful.
I choose happiness over nursing.
Girl. I am CRYING. I have and am still going through the same exact thing that you've been through. I did nursing to make my family and friends happy. I did nursing because it was expected of me, particularly in my culture. I had no passion about it and I remember just like you, i'd sit in my nursing classes and watch my classmates' eyes light up about nursing and I just remember being so empty, so lost, so upset. I would go home many days after class and just close my door and sleep. Just like you, I kept saying to myself, God if i fail this semester, it must mean you don't want me to be a nurse. But semester after semester, I'd pass (but barely) and now, I'm currently a working nurse. I've transferred from one unit to another in hopes of it "getting better" but it hasn't. And again, just like you, I'm putting on this facade in front of everyone around me saying that I love my job when I really don't. I dread every day that I wake up for work. Thing is, if I quit my job, I don't know what I'd want to do. I have a lot of interests but I don't know which interest to make a job out of. I pray that God has led me to your video for a reason. I pray that you're doing much better and I pray that I trust Him like you've trusted Him. Thanks again for this video. God bless
Are there any other options besides nursing that can still get you a job with a nursing degree?
I feel the exact same way. I want to do something else with my life but I just don’t know what 🙄
This is exactly me also, and I just graduated a month ago. I'm not looking forward to starting this journey honestly, I dreaded going to classes and clinicals. I only did it for my family and for them to get off my damn back. Not sure what to feel going in, but I don't want to make a degree useless, you know?
Dear whatsmyname; Please do what makes YOU happy!!! You do not owe anyone anything. Please reply to me, and tell me how you go on. All the best.
Are you me?! I’m exactly in your situation. I’ve been working for a year and it sucks for real. I comeback home always stressed and anxious to hear my phone ring and see my job calling me.
off-topic but you remind me of Kelly Rowland
talltalllady lol I’ve gotten that a couple of times! I’ll def take that as a compliment! 😎✊🏾 Thank You!!
YES...
She does look like Kelly Rowland
"I didn't want to look like a fool" girl, that speaks to me on so many levels 😪
Sweetheart, I’m an RN and I know how hard it is! I have a huge passion for nursing and sincerely am so happy with my career choice. That being said, everyone has a different plan and is passionate about different things. If being a nurse didn’t make you happy, that is okay. A lot of respect that you went through with it and tried it out, but found it wasn’t for you. Be proud! So many people keep with a career where they are miserable. Life is too short to be stuck in a job you hate. You have the wisdom to recognize that early on in your life. You have such bravery and you’re helping so many other people right now with your message. Life is a journey-this was part of your story, and now you are starting a new chapter. I hope you find a career where you feel fulfilled and happy- I want you to feel the happiness that I feel with nursing. You will find your fit; you’re a beautiful strong and intelligent woman; keep faith, love.
I know you regret it...your degree does not have to be a waste. You can make use of the degree in ways you may not have expected. Maybe non-clinical nursing like working for research companies as a nurse researcher...or writing...cosmetic dermatology...you don't even have to touch another patient again if you don't want to. It just seems like a waste to leave the profession and the years invested. But if you absolutely don't want any part of nursing...I support your decision with love. Nothing wrong with your decision. All the best in your career. When you find your passion or your path run like the wind girl.
Indigo Girl Great advice!
Such an amazing and positive reply!
It's ok to go through what you're going through. All those emotions, every bit of your journey up to this point, is well factored into God's Will for your life. Many adults like myself can relate, maybe in other ways, but the moment u decide to share it, means u r riding over the waves. U r being prepared for greatness. My dental hygienist did nursing n just went into dental care immediately. Not trying to minimize your situation, I'm just trying to embrace ur story. So powerful. U r already touching lives. I anticipate your books, speeches n just to see u in your full glory as another powerful black woman (had to drop that in). U r so natural n beautiful. Keep being strong as u r...I love the submission to God! U remind me of this song, "My soul says yes" by Sonnie Badu.
That's some really good advice. Ty
you can go into management
I am a nurse and loved nursing and always wanted to be a nurse. I loved being a nursing student although it was the hardest thing I had ever done up to that point. But when I graduated, passed the NCLEX and got into the real world it was completely different than what I had expected. I have worked in different specialties of nursing and all of them that required direct patient care was terrible. The way nurses are treated in the hospital, nursing homes and home care is the worse. It was rare that I got the support that I needed to care for my patients when thing were in disarray. I encourage anyone that want to get into nursing to think long and hard and shadow nurses in various settings before making the final decision.
They definitely lied to us! I was like "THIS IS NOT WHAT NCLEX WAS TALKIN BOUT"
KcollinsRN that’s what I akways said about Radiology . Don’t do it or shadow a tech for 6 months bc it sure is difference then what you think it is
What you doing now? Feeling sane sane depressed
You told my story. My sister and I graduated around the same time. We both feel the same way now. Many nurses are miserable and their escape routes now is NP or some masters in nursing. A huge percent of nurses hate bedside and I don't blame them. They work as a pharmacist, phlebotomist, nurse, tech all at the same time. They also have to document, critically think, and worry about their license all at the same time. Floor nurses are like carrying 95% of patient's medical weight on their shoulders. They have to make sure every other specialties involved are doing their parts. If not, it's all coming back on the nurse's license. Why didn't you report it? Have you called pharmacy that the med is missing? Have you called ct that ur pt is on his way? Have u ordered dinner for her? Have you done preop checklist? Have you given preop bath? Have you set up the room for the new patient on his way. Did you notify the provider of the abnormal test result? Did you change your dressings and empty your drains. New issues arise, you have to solve and carry out new orders. The physician did not answer all of the pt questions, you have to make sure you get the physician back to that room. You don't want to pass your meds late. Some pts have made it their duties to stay on the call light throughout the night needing food or water or need you to rub their backs, you have keep going in and out of that room. You told your patient to use their call light and not get out of bed by themselves, they do not listen and they fall, more work for you now. You have to fill a whole lot of documents and notify your shifty and provider. If that is close to the end of your shift, you have extra hours to stay back now. Your confused patient keep pulling their NG tubes or chest tubes out, you have to stay with them and call the doctor and help with another procedure if the doctor chooses to do it bedside. Your pt codes, you are the first respondent, you better be prepared for emergency CPR and to give report now and be prepared to transfer the pt. You will most likely get another admission before the end of your shift. You also have the other patients to look after. You need something for your patient in the middle of the night, you have to wake the doctor up and you may get yelled at. You clean diarrhea and vomits frequently. You see wounds that are scary and smells and you have to prepare you are enjoying dressing it and smile through it all. Some patient are rude and will multiply your tasks deliberately. Your IV pumps are alarming, bed alarms going off, patient in pain cursing you out for pain med. Another nurse needs help or wants you to witness a med waste.These are little things of all the many things that nurses do in a almost 13hr shift. And that's if you finish early. You may not remember to eat or use the bathroom. New policies. Attend meetings. Your patient can fire you anytime. You have to discuss it with your supervisor. You also have to always appear happy even when you are not. A nurse deserves a tech each. Nurses can never be well compensated. It is mentally and physically draining. In 1 year, I have tried 4 specialties and I still feel the same way. I can't quit, my family depends on me and student loan is huge. My only hope now is to get my masters and hopefully it helps. Thank you for being so brave to share this. You are a beautiful soul
sis, it’s like u described it exactly. I quit that nonsense at the hospital after about 8 months. went to a busy cardiology office (6 providers, only 2 nurses that work in the office and one from home) slightly better than the hospital but still very stressful. Hoping to last a year here then applying for stay at home positions.
Wow..well said @allpurpose9098!
You said this SO WELL! A NURSE CAN DO EVERYONES JOB, BUT NO ONE CAN DO A NURSES JOB
I'm so happy that I watched your video. I'm currently attending a university and was majoring in nursing and changed my major to psychology this semester of my sophomore year of college. Ever since I changed my major a lot of my family members and even some friends are telling me to go back to nursing and how they make good money. But I truly don't care about that as much anymore of course you need money to survive and want to make a descent amount but my happiness is whats most important and this is my life. Thank you I really was considering going back to nursing til I just watched this video.
Those family members and friends have no idea what we go through as nurses.
This was me! I’m an LPN I have my associates in nursing. I failed the nclex RN 3 times. I only went to school so that I can make “good money”. I use to love helping my patients and they loved me, but I hated going to work! Ever since I was 15 I hated having a job, thought it would be different making more money!! I would get different nursing jobs hoping to feel better, I still hated it. I quit fall of last year! I am SO HAPPY AND FREE! I created a UA-cam channel which I love! I sell on EBay an Poshmark. It’s not as much money just yet, but I’ve never felt so relieved! I can’t imagine working in a career that I absolutely hate! I know God has a plan for my life!!!
Lipstick Lady i quit for 7 years went back n November hoping i can last a year and come back home
Wow thank you for saying that! I love love pediatric nursing but going back to school to get my bachelor is a struggle! I have an associate degree but the requirement in the job world are higher. I have a UA-cam channel. I love love making videos. Check my page. Started a blog too. AshleeLoveit.blogspot.ca
Lipstick Lady i have my lpn i quit too i hate hospitals and being around sick people
Lipstick Lady wow...
Hey Lipstick Lady girl!! I legit think you are the first person to really admit the money part! It's almost as if that's never to be said aloud. Just like you I loooved my patients and they loved me too and I think people feel like by not enjoying work that means you did not care about the patients or something. Not the case at all. Kudos to you for getting free! Seriously! Let me swing on over to your channel! && yep I sell on Poshmark too! I just believe when you do what you love the money will come! Wishing you the best and God definitely has you and I both! Same to all you ladies commenting under the comment!
Nursing is so hard. Very admirable. You have one life. A good pal quit her medicine career. Being a doctor was not for her. She went into real estate. For reals. Much happier.
I want to thank you for making this video. I watched this 3 years ago and I was in a similar position as you. You really spoke to me and your video gave me the last push I needed to follow my dreams. I was a nursing major in college struggling to continue because with each class i took i dreaded the field more and more. It took a toll on me mentally because I felt too far in to change anything and stuck. I decided to finally change my major even if it means graduating later, even though everyone around me questioned me, even though i wasnt sure if it was the right path for me, but i took the leap of faith on myself. And it payed off. I switched to graphic design 3 years ago and I am still so passionate about it and start my first internship next week, and i am HAPPY.
To anyone struggling in college unsure of changing their major because they are scared, I say follow what you are curious and passionate about, take that leap of faith, and work hard! It is NEVER too late! You can do this!
I've been a nurse almost 30 years and if I could go back, I would've been something else, like ultrasound tech or xray. I wouldn't recommend nursing to anyone nowadays.
sunshinegirl1967 😔
Would you rather be a teacher?
OneCool Gamer not really but I have considered it.
Why wouldn’t you recommend nursing to anyone ? Just curious.
@@cruzpartida3758 nursing is more of a calling than just a profession and not everyone is fit for it.
Nursing is multifaceted, not only bedside nursing. You can take your career to so many levels. Research, insurance, sales, tech.
Tricia Waite am so Glad someone here stated that Nursing is not just working in a hospital dealing with pt. It is so much you can do as a Nurse.
Can you elaborate more on the insurance part and tech? Sounds interesting, I’m also a nurse!
Exactly. More than bedside. It goes way beyond that. You can be an RN and not be at the bedside. Spread your wings😘
Exactly ! I’m surprised that ppl who go into nursing , don’t know this . Even entrepreneurial opportunities in nursing . Whatever you do will feel under appreciated , even UA-camrs .
I’m so proud of you. I know exactly how you feel from my own personal experience. I’ve been a nurse for almost 20years, LPN, RN-ADN, BSN and MSN. I’m only 40 years old. I’ve been a nurse my entire adult life and I have many areas of experience. Being a floor nurse was very gratifying, rewarding but also stressful and MISERABLE. If I could do it over, I definitely would choose business, hands down. However, I felt too deep in to just turn back. So I continued. I Thank God for allowing me to have a profession to take care of myself and children effortlessly. Nevertheless, Nursing sucks on so many levels. Today, I work as Case Manager for a large insurance company. I love what I do. I get bonus checks, extra compensation for travel and I get to work with people from the comforts of my home. On top of that, no overtime, heavy physical case loads and politics. Oh yes, working shifts every other weekend and holidays. I off every weekend and every holiday. I’m so thankful for nursing in that regards. I still get to be a nurse and a social worker as well. Good luck sweet heart. I can’t wait to see your unravel and become your true self. We are all still on a journey. Much Love.
Tanisha Stewart that’s why I love nursing. It’s so flexible. You can take that degree and do so many things. I want to be a travel nurse. I love caring for people and I love traveling. I also love wound care.
How did you find/get this nursing job? I really want a job with this flexibility so that I can be more available for my kiddos
Did you get A social work degree as well
Hazel ! No, but most of the work consist of a social work background. So, it’s more like on the job training.
Cassie Baker Search Case Management, Utilization Management, and/or Remote RN Jobs. I hope this helps. Almost all the major Insurance companies hire Nurses. I know nurses who have been working in insurance well over 25 years.
This is exactly what I am going through right now . I was praying for God to show me something and I can across your video !! I’m glad to see I’m not the only person who is going through this struggle . Thank you so much for sharing your story .
I’m in the nursing field and I hate it so much
Why
Nursing is simply not the same as it was back in the day. Nursing is nothing but a cess pool of BS. People see it like what you see in grey's anatomy but we don't get paid as much the hours suck, the management sucks, the bullying is beyond comprehensive, it's just trash now
My mother used to always tell me go to school to make more money. It took me a long time to realize what my school counselor once said, "Do what you like best instead of looking at dollar signs." That is so right. I have quit higher paying jobs that I hated for lower paying ones just to have peace of mind, and this is coming from someone who loves the freedom of having money.
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Thank You!
SAME 🙌💛 Been there done that. I've never been happier in my life than I am now and doing what I love here on UA-cam. Started 3 months ago & never looked back. If I had to spend the rest of my life sitting in an empty box doing what I love for free...I probably would. I did the $ things, and I remember that trap. Ideally, it would be good to be able to monetize your passion to make a living at least. But I agree with you, you need to do what serves your heart.
Pllm30 Same here. Sometimes the money is just not worth it.
Thank you for saying this..needed to read this!
Damn......sis I thought I was alone. Thank you for being amazing and brave to posting this.
You are def not alone!!
I have been an lpn for 12 years ,soon becoming an RN and I m about to quit Patient care ... too much going on . I m getting my mba and focus on the business side of Healthcare... just d what best for you . If they don't change the way they treat the nurses , we will loose the majority of nurses . Go girl ! be yourself and you will find your way out .
Thank you for being so candid and open. Praying 🙏🏽 for you! Stay encouraged xo
THATS HOW I FEEL. I did it for my family and I hate being a nurse. I love to help people but I can’t be a nurse.
Me to girl
Me too .nursing is not good carrier option. nursing becoming your life is hell
What u doing now?
@@prettygirl_1626 I’m an emt trying to be paramedic
@@Iwasted20dollars cool. How long was you a nurse?
I regret it so much. Nursing is so stressful
ApolloRED are you a nurse??
Straight
ApolloRED hey i’m late but what was stressful for you.
Keep studying get your NP degree. Nursing may be hard but you can keep moving on and eventually end up with an amazing career.
How are things now?
I love your honesty if you don’t love Nursing and caring for people you will never be happy.You will become bitter and mean,you are Strong and sweet.God will place you where you need to be.I am a RN for many years.God Bless you!
This really really helped me, I just found you on UA-cam, thank you so much for opening up and especially as you said, during the struggle, not only when it is all over. God continue to work through you 🙏