My story is SO SIMILAR to yours! And I know you made this almost 2 years ago, but I want you, it means SO MUCH to me that you had SUCH a similar experience to me, and that I’m truly NOT ALONE. I am not the only person (despite my googling and youtubing) to not get their license, or use their nursing degree right after graduating. I graduated in 2019, and long story short, a lot happened leading up to getting into nursing school and during those first few months that set me up to have a hard time, and it was definitely a huge challenge. I loved parts of it, but hated a lot of it. I almost quit the summer between my first and last year of nursing school, but a peer tried to convince me, and I tried to convince myself, “nursing school is the hard part, it gets easier after this”, I watched youtube videos of people pushing through, and just convinced myself tonstick it out, get to graduation because I spent so much time and energy just trying to GET IN, its what I had been working towards my whole college career. I was worried I would regret quitting when I had already come so far. So I tried to push through and stuck it out. But like you, I had crappy experiences, and I think it just weighed me down. There were parts I loved, and I worked with TONS of great nurses, and honestly if not for them I probably would’ve dropped out. But I also worked with some not so great ones, some of my clinical professors were so harsh (I could see how it worked for some, but it just didnt for me), I HATED most of my hospital clinicals (My local university only had 1 hospital on that side of the island and it is not large, so some clinicals we had to make do in other ways, like PEDS or mental health. though I was lucky enough to get to experience one of the other Hospitals on the island that was SO MUCH kinder),I absolutely DREADED them. I had SO MUCH anxiety, and I was exhausted and depressed, and I just didn’t love it anymore. But I did it. I finished (miraculously! I literally wasn’t sure I was going to graduate til the DAY BEFORE PINNING). I took my sweet ass time getting around to doing my NCLEX and failed the first time. 2020 rolls around, I just moved back home to the otherside of the island and BOOM covid. Made doing my NCLEX SO MUCH harder. It didnt help that I STILL was not motivated for it anymore, but I promised myself I’d at least try, and see what I could do that wasn’t in the hospital. I liked aspects of my schooling, and wanted to do something either outpatient, maybe school nursing, or something to do with health education. I got a job as an RBT (registered behavior therapist/technician, I work with kids with ASD, its not perfect, and not my permanent place but I like it much more). I tried my NCLEX 2 more times. I failed both. In Hawaii (my home state, and where I had intended to work), you can fail 3 times, but after that, if you want to retest, you HAVE to take a remediation course, including clinical hours. I had a full on panic/anxiety attack in my car the second I read that. And that’s when I knew I had been deceiving myself. I finally was SURE that I ABSOLUTELY did not want to be a nurse anymore. It was both liberating and disheartening. I felt (sometimes still do) feel like a failure, like a loser. I have avoided using/posting on my social media for the past couple years because I didn’t want to deal with the questions I might get, or having to see my classmates post about their flourishing careers (don’t get me wrong, I’m immensely proud of them, and so happy for many of them, but I just couldn’t help but compare). My family tried to be supportive, but they were also kinda pushy in a way, questioning why I didn’t pursue it, “at least put it to good use”. It didnt help that at the time I really couldn’t answer the “why” questions, and I absolutely had no idea what I was gonna do (still don’t btw, currently just making due). It’s gotten better since then, and I’m slowly but surely learning to accept that this journey is mine, and its not supposed to look like anyone else’s. It’s ok that I’m almost 30 with no plan or career prospects, and I’m still single living with my parents (thankful however that I have a family that doesn’t judge that). It’s ok hat plan A didn’t work out. I’m right where I need to be for now. I regret not listening to my gut sooner, but I also don’t regret going through with it all at all, I’m where I am because of it, and one day it’ll all make sense why. This was my ling winded way of saying thank you so much for sharing your story, and allowing me to also share mine and have someone to connect to about it. To anyone who might be going through a similar experience, know that you’re not alone, and there are other people who understand. Just do what’s right for you.
Girl I applaud you for having the guts to go on a new path! Don’t give up your RN license though because nursing is much more than bedside nursing. I am and RN who got into IT and I can tell you there are so much you can do. I’m now in bioinformatics and I love it! My RN background is equally important as my CS skills. RNs rock in bioinformatics, clinical research, pharmaceutical IT, medical IT, the insurance industry and much much more. You are not just any IT professional, you are an IT professional with a specialty. And that’s so powerful in the IT field! I used to think my 4 years of undergraduate nursing education went to waste but no, it’s the foundation of my bioinformatics career!
Hi! I am a new grad RPN and I hate bedside. I've only been on my own for 5 days and I dread it!! I just want a way out of nursing. Could u tell me what you do in bioinformatics and did u need anything else other than your nursing degree? Should I continue my RN and then go into bioinformatics?
my friend is engineer but she’s also RN. when she loose her job, she got nursing job, no experience requirements. she didn’t like nursing but whenever belt is tight it come in handy.
Not sure if this is already out there? But if it is, please point me I the right direction... I would love to see Andy's personal opinion of this exact topic??
Hi Michelle, I am a physician who works in a hospital with many nurses everyday. What you have said is sadly very true, and I sympathize with your struggles during nursing training. I see nurses as indispensable allies in health care with skillsets that complements physicians'. A good nurse is easily worth his/her weight in gold. I always stand up for my nurses when I feel that a patient is being rude or abusive. Kudos to nurses, especially ones working in hospital.
Can’t express how true this is all is. I Just changed my career path to real estate after 20+ years of nursing and my family thinks I’m having a midlife crises. It’s just not for me any more. I did nursing for money, the passion I once had is gone after dealing with what comes with nursing. The stress, the disrespect, the work overload, the hours. Just not worth it to me. Good for you❤❤❤
I am in this transition phase. 30 years of nursing and I’m past burnout. Just working out where I want to go but bedside nursing is absolutely not what I can continue to do.
Hi. I would like to ask how did you do it? I am a nurse as well and I am not happy anymore being a nurse. I keep thinking of changing career but I don't what or where to start. and now, I end up unemployed.
freshman nursing major here. it’s scary to know the horrors i might face in a clinical setting, and i hope that i still have a medical passion after my 4 years. but it’s good to know that there were others that went on a different path than me, even though we started off on the same beginning. Sometimes things do happen for a reason
@@stanleystewart8919 I don't think u will think the same when u are born into an Asian family because not everyone has a high iq and if you don't choose one of those 3 fields you will always be treated like dirt.
Yes, totally agree, the family "academic pressure" starts very very young in Asian household...even if our parents are cool but the aunties are OMG !! They not only ask your grades straight up but rank you amongst cousins....its is so so stressfull...Nowdays the "aunties" are now "grandmas", you would think they would slow down...but nooo, at family gatherings they will start all over again and pull up ranks of our kids now...the stress level of my generation is at max !! My gen is stuck between the older gen vs the milinium gen... sooo much headache to juggle between the two gens...😅😅😅😅
my parents never told me to be anything because they never believed that i would be able to become an engineer. Even after attending my graduation, they still dont believe that I would be able to find a job. LOL. I proof them all wrong.
This is how I felt when I didn’t want to become a nurse. My mom is an ICU nurse since she was 18 and she’s very passionate about it. She was very disappointed to hear and watch me pursue a different path, but I’m glad I did. Always do what feels right and is best for you! ❤ Good luck. 😊
My mom is smarter than average people. Both my parents are. My mom finished her highschool by age 14 and 4 yrs of college, graduated 18 yrs old. Sorry if common sense is expensive now a days.@NhiNguyen-qx3mh
There was an Indian I met who was a nurse since she was 16 from India- I don’t know how she got away with it but that is what she had told me. She must have graduated highschool early and pursued nursing.
It's so refreshing to hear you talk more about yourself as I've always watched those short clips of you and Andy, so I feel that I got to know more about you from this video. My sister is a nurse and I hear all about the stress involved with the profession. I'm not a nurse, but I also work in healthcare and although I love my job, the hospital setting is not fun. I'm lucky to work with good colleagues in my clinic, but admin and mgt is a pain. I left my day job early this year and opened my own practice which was super scary because I grew up in an Asian household where there's a lot of emphasis on having a secured, stable job. No mention of being a business owner. But I'm glad I made that decision because it's so liberating to have my freedom while continuing to do what I love without all the stress from a hospital system. I'm glad you made a choice that makes you happy because if you wake up feeling dreadful to go to work....that's definitely going to affect the quality of your life. Also glad Andy is your great source of support! Thanks for sharing!
I am also a Nurse. This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my UA-cam channel 7 months ago about self development. Now I have 702 subs and > 200 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place. This channel also inspired me to upload my recent videos to share my opinions about the main things that truly impacted the way I live. They're a couple of my most vulnerable videos that I've been hesitant to post for many months because of the fear of being misunderstood but I finally decided to overcome that fear so others can learn from my experience so we can all grow together. They're packed with valuable information about the relationship between a job and happiness.
Girl I'm on the same boat. I'm 25 now, graduated 2 years ago with my B.S. in Psych but realizing that I want a career change and now I'm pursuing ultrasound. I resonate with you that it's soo hard not to compare :( All my younger friends already out there making good money, loving what they do, while I'm here having a crisis that I'm going back to school to do something completely different. It feels like I wasted my time but like you said, I try to remind myself that we all have different paces and we went through all this for a reason. In the end, it's never too late to chase your dreams. I'm so thankful for my boyfriend too for supporting me with this major life decision, I would've been so miserable without him because I most likely would have never committed to this career change. (also, youre so right about the toxic nursing work environment. I've been working at a nursing facility for a year, it's honestly so disheartening.) Good luck to you on your journey! I'd love to see more content like this
Thank you for posting this, I went through a nearly identical experience with becoming an educator and I am currently trying to find my new path. Your words were very validating and comforting. I’d love to hear more about why you chose tech, what that’s like and how you got to where you are now with career!
take your time! a lot of people say they dont wanna start new because "it's too late" but honestly, it doesnt matter what youre doing. 3 years will still pass so why not start now than stay where you are for 3 years 😤
@@andy.and.michelle and i worked in dc at Sibley memorial hospital in the ed. it was rough!!! I was going through nursing school then . The nurses were so mean especially the elderly ones in the icu. And omg that CDiff patient was at risk for electrolyte imbalance. That nurse should be reported if she wasnt watching his heart rhythm or labs!!! 😡😡😡😡😡 im sorry u had to deal with her!!
I'm currently in nursing having multiple jobs prior. Honestly, there is no perfect job out there. You'll always find co-workers and management that make life hell. Hopefully, IT and youtube work out for you.
I remember when I graduated college and passed my NCLEX in 1990 I was so excited to finally be a registered nurse. Then I started walking down the many paths nursing can take you and like you started to dislike my job because of others I worked with daily. Nursing is hard enough without having to deal with the attitudes from your co-workers and peers. Anyway I stopped working in 2002 when I had a baby and I now it’s 2023 and my youngest child just graduated HS, I’ve been a stay at home mom for 21yrs and want to go back to work, but not in nursing, especially since Covid. I’m glad your career change worked out for you.
Michelle you are gorgeous😊 Also my mom tried to pressure me into law. She actually tried to site my “negative traits” as reasons why I should be a lawyer. She wasn’t the best mom tbh. But I fell into IT because I took a job at the Apple Store at 19. I’m now 34 and I am an IT analyst at one of the best universities in the world and I live quite comfortably. The funny thing is I am studying East Asian studies an working to get my PhD. No degree is required for this stuff. Just experience and/or certifications.
Wow thank you for sharing. I wanted to go to nursing but as I did the classes I realize it’s not for me. And I pursue becoming an educator substitute teacher. It work out till I got injured by a student and I became physically disable and things weren’t the same. My husband saw the love I had for teaching slowly die and become fear. Till now I’m still trying to find my path and my husband had shown support something I wouldn’t be able to do without him. I’m thinking of pursuing IT but I’m not sure yet. Good luck in your future path and may you continue to pursue something you love with your husband. Also I love your videos they always make me smile even when I’m feeling down.
Always follow your dreams! I came from a household that wanted me to be in business management, Lawyers, Doctor, Nurse. Due to being the oldest. But I followed my heart and went into the criminal Justices field. I never regretted my decisions, but my family think otherwise. It is all about the image.
Yes, I totally agree with what you said about nursing because I'm going through those bad experiences myself, and it is very discouraging. I have bad charged nurses, lazy cnas, and administrators who don't care about anything but money. No matter how hard you work, they do not see your values or appreciate your hard work and that's what I see and feel everyday going into work and I hate it. I hate being there, I hate their fake attitudes and I hate how they treat their patients there too. So then i decided to quit and applied to work with children instead while still in school. Thanks Michelle for sharing your experience :) I'm glad I'm not the only one that felt this way about nursing.
That might be me lol I do not care about anything but money too. However, I do care that the pts receive the care they need and that I am an asset to the team. The rest honestly I could not be bothered about. I have a goal for my finances and perhaps that is the thing that makes it easy for me to endure all the work bs that everyone else is suffering from. I just do not let it bother me, do not care what others think or say about me or at me. It does not affect my life.
Michelle, I respect you so much for being so honest about why you don't want to go into nursing because I'm a Filipina-Am mom of 2. There's just way too much pressure for Asian-Am young people, especially, women to pursue nursing. I had wanted to be one but realized it wasn't a good fit for me. My dad just thought I should go into nursing because of the money. I'm a divorced mom of 2 (My oldest is 17 and my youngest is 12). I plan on focusing on raising them, heal from my divorce, help them do well in school (They're homeschooled), and go back to school hopefully in 3 years (2026). My ultimate dream is to be a UX Designer and possibly a UX Researcher even though I'm in my early 50s. You give folks like me hope that you should pursue what you want and not what your family wants.
I pursued nursing and had got to junior year before i realized it wasn't something I wanted to do. I realized it when I started clinicals. The staff were awful. Some were borderline abusive. I did however remained a nurse's assistant (as I never graduated) at a hospital that was okay. I did that for awhile but realized that the pay was so bad. I could never save up as my entire paycheck basically went to groceries--that's it. I somehow ended up as a supervisor in a bakery.
I really felt this hard. I spent my entire life thinking and prepping to become a doctor. I got to college, finished my degree in medical lab technology with the next step to go to med school, but by the time I graduated I realized I didn't want to keep going. I tried to push through and went to work in a medical office for a year as a lab tech, observing nurses and doctors and was treated horribly like you were. My friends that I graduated with had the same experience. I ended up switching out entirely and going into marketing at a chemical company. I didn't waste 4.5 years in university because I don't think I would have made these decisions if I had went about it any other way. So life has a way, its different for everyone and who we are today is a sum of all the different decisions and paths we took to get here. proud of you girl and get it! I do apologize though, I thought you were going to say I went viral on tiktok so I quit my nursing job, which is still fine, but this definitely turned out differently than I imagined. proud of you. also nothing wrongwith quitting your job after going viral, all the tiktokers and UA-camrs do it. hopefully one day you do get to do tiktok or youtube for your job, as it could be quite lucrative.
I graduated in December. 3 months into nursing work life I totally understand. You need a stronger mindset and alotttttt of patience for coworkers or CNA or patients and family members. A daughter of my patient reported me when I was doing a bladder scan and I was pressing down and I got reported for that… it’s just crazy out there.
Some family members are just crazy. They feel "out of control" because they know nothing about medicine/healthcare, so they try to gain control by trying to micromanage you for things they know nothing about.
The way you reasoned why you quit nursing, is the same reason I quit being a MA. I have similar experiences like you too and it gives me trauma. I went into MA just to make my parents happy, even though I liked it, I just know that I wasn’t happy and it’s not for me anymore. Til this day, I’m still trying to figure out what I want to do and is taking my time. I’m so glad that I’m not the only one with similar problems?/things? like you. You made me feel better by watching this video! ❤
Nursing is not really for everyone. I know a lot of people who graduated with a degree in BSNursing but wouldn't want to work as a nurse because of the level of stress of working as a nurse. I've been working as an ICU nurse for how many years now, and I've had the best and worst experiences but I always go to work with passion and smile in my face because I love what I'm doing. You are still young. Pursue what you love and what makes you happy. Good luck on your career. 😀 Always watching you guys from 🇬🇧🇵🇭
Thank you so much for this. I also come from an Asian household and share similar reasons why I wanted to become a nurse. Starting nursing school in a week, and I know in my gut I’m dreading it. There are so many doubts that I have and I feel like I am one of the weak ones. Not sure what to do because I literally have no passions for what else I want to do. Tried other things but I feel like I’m not good enough or would get bored of it later on.
how are you doing now? i heard psych nurses are paid well so i have been thinking of pursuing that in uni but dont have much of a passion for it and am afraid to dread even starting it like you.
Girl, same. By the time i got my degree (graduated with honors) i was already in programming bootcamp. I worked in hospital while studying During covid for 2 years. I can identify with all the things you said. And i also always loved computers and gaming so i started learning how to code on my own. Got accepted to a great bootcamp program and quit my job. I am so happy i did that. Good on you for facing this hard choice and staying true to yourself! Its awesome to fing someone with similar experience to mine :)
Proud of you, Michelle!! Hope you find something you enjoy within IT! You're also right about nursing not being for the weak. My boyfriend is a nurse and he tells me all the stuff he goes through, and it's honestly really sad that they're not appreciated and compensated enough for what they do.
I have had very similar experience, where I was so passionate when i began nursing school but after i graduate I just felt like it wasn’t for me. And just like you I was worried about my mental health. the stress that came with my decision to not pursue my nursing career. I am currently just exploring other option and seeing you make similar decision gives me hope.
That's just so precious that you have this maturity and being able to be yourself at such a young age while most of the adults out there can only act like adults but no emotional intelligence/maturity at all😮 love you guys and your authenticity ❤❤❤
Healthcare IT is a seriously needed career choice. Being a nurse is a challenging environment especially with the heirachy in side a hospital. The patient side is challenging but dealing with the people in healthcare is really a pain. I'm a National Telemedicine Director so I have to train the doctors and nurses and I absolutely understand your outlook.
I actually feel the same too. I graduated from ME and thought that I have to follow my peers path to jump in the maanufacturing things. After 3 years, it turned out that I got depressed as I moved to more technical job. I really loath it. I even fainted on my way to my workspace because of uncontained emotions. Then, I decided to leave the job and try to start what I've been wondering : secret. I hope you'll be happy for what you are doing❤
Thank you for sharing your life with us! Unfortunately, i have had bad experiences on my job too. Very hard to deal with. But you are strong! Keep going!😊
I appreciate you speaking on this topic Michelle. I work in the health care field doing IT. Some of the health staff shouldn't be in the health care field.
Omg yess same thing girly! My mom wanted me to become a doctor so it can look good for the family but when I did clinicals it was terrible. I'm glad you were able to pursue what you loved to do. I personally like studying nutrition so i'm thinking about becoming a nutritionist.
I did the opposite. I finished my Technical Management and went straight into nursing. Now working as a nurse, i intend on going back to IT and actually pursue that
Thank you for making this video. I'm surrounded by people and family who are in healthcare & they love it and are successful in it, and I left like I was alone in my resentment and negative feelings towards nursing. I didn't want to disappoint my family; I felt like I had to make it work because of all the time and money I've spent in school. I've been a nurse for 4 years now, and every year I hope and pray that it will get better and it never did. I took a short break to try out a coding bootcamp and realized it wasn't for me either, so I have to return to nursing for financial reasons :( I would love to hear more about your journey into IT! Maybe it would be a good fit for me too. Feeling very lost, but this video made me feel less alone.
Hello Michelle! I have seen your videos of you and Andy on Instagram mostly, discovered this one here. Thank you so much for sharing your story. It’s so relatable. I studied nursing back in 2017, first did Medical Assistant, then LPN to RN. I had a bad professor that discouraged me and kicked me out of nursing, instead of teaching/helping it was like X factor where they kick you out of the show and you’re done. In 2021 graduated from GMU with a degree in Health Administration concentration in management. It’s ironic because I also work in IT. For two years now, I work as an office manager for an IT company. When I was a kid I wanted to be a nurse, my reason at the time was to take care of people. After experiencing what it’s like, studying to become a nurse it’s daunting, intense and stressful. IT was not my initial career path but I am loving what I do now. Life has a funny way of throwing curve balls but however the moments occurred it has let to the moment where I am today. Best of luck to you~ Btw, you are so pretty! 💖☺️
Michelle, great work. I definitely will say it takes a lot of will and courage to accept that things need to change. So really well done. I too am going through a career change with me doing almost 8 years in banking and now I too am studying IT all over again as an undergraduate. One thing I will say is when I look back from when I first got a degree I had no passion for now a degree I have an immense passion for, is that the work is so much more easier. The time you want to provide to study and learning more when you are passionate is not seen as something being given away begrudgingly but rather I now take it as a lot of fun. Kudos to you mate. Also g'day from down under! Hope you and Andy come down to Australia one day!
I just found your video and I really needed this. I'm south asian / Indian and I also grew up with that same lesson of "doctor/engineer/lawyer" and even nursing was not up there but they would accept it if it came down to it. So.. I went to med school because I genuinely felt like I had no other options or choices. Sure I like painting and gardening and reading books, but what sort of "respectable career" will you get with those? In my 3rd year now.. going into my 4th and really regretting it. Just... I feel like I gave up so much of my life to do this, only for a chance that MAYBE I'll get residency and the specialty I want... MAYBE. The amount of money, time, stress.. my health, my time with family... all that I've sacrificed really made me think I was in a gambling den and just giving more and more, all to make back everything I've given with a little icing. I have ended up in ERs while studying because the stress made me physically sick. I've had to move around for rotations and going back and forth between Canada and the States for the past 2 years (cause I'm Canadian, trying to get licensed in the US). Last month, my husband caved. He said he couldn't deal with the instability of our relationship and it was making him lonely and unhappy. He and I are taking a break and we might actually divorce because he did some questionable things to block out those feelings (another long story). It's really hitting me in the "Why am I really doing this? Do I even want this? Is it worth this much sacrifice?". I want to thank you for your perspective on this. I am really glad you had Andy at the time and you guys stuck together through such a time in your life. Lots of love and wish you the best with your youtube channel.
I feel the same way about nursing. I can't do it my whole life. I have never met so many mean people until I entered the nursing field. I never imagined it to be like this. I don't even feel like I am helping people in this field to be honest. I want to do a career change but I am so confused about what direction to take.
Me too. Mean people but also just the job itself. It’s not what I expected. I thought it would be cool diagnosing and giving injections etc but all it really is is cleaning up patient shit and dealing with difficult patients and workers
I’ve spent hoursss of my life on UA-cam, but my girlfriend and I love your tiktoks! Looking forward to seeing what you post here. But yea my girlfriend is finishing up her clinicals as PA. She has definitely shared stories of bad co-workers, but also some really good ones. Anyways I’m a product manager at a tech startup and have a few friends who switched from other roles to UX design or software engineer. Happy to answer any questions you may have in breaking into tech!
I had been a nurse for 20 years and one thing I realized nursing is not for my pleasure, it's the gift that God gives you to help others. Nurses must understand the reward is in the healing of the patient, the healing of the family. Every patient is not going to be nice, every hospital will not agree with your advice, every employee you have will not be supportive, but God has given you a skill to save a life, and no one can take that away. At any moment anyone can become a patient, and because you continue in nursing you learn little jewels that can help you save a life. I absolutely love nursing. I love all the people I helped to live, All the people I helped to talk them out of suicide, all the patients that had strokes and heart attacks that I helped to recognize, and get them the resources they needed. Nursing will never be a job for me, it's who God has called me to be. In any profession the things you discuss in this video can happen, but I hear you talk about that excitement you had, Don't allow that to burn out, because that could be the same excitement used to save your parents life. I just really hate this happened to you because nursing is truly beautiful, but like anything beautiful, Beauty only comes from within. I pray you have a change of heart, and fall in love with a career that has changed my whole life. Love you nursing sister.
It's hard to "fall in love" with nursing when all you do is rush, rush, and rush because corporations want to squeeze the life out of you. Are you a bot?
@@CM7777... No I am a person. A true nurse who really works knows this is the farthest thing from the truth, it's never about the company it's always about the patient. There is no feeling better in life then knowing someone came into the hospital in bad shape and your skills help to save there life. This skill and experience is not rare in nursing and this is why you keep going. Nursing is about the nurse never about the corporation
@TherealAlisaApplewhite I have been a true nurse for 35 years, m/s, Tele, ICU, CCU, Nursing home supervisor, Behavioral Health Hospital, and I speak the truth. You can sugarcoat it for yourself, if that helps you
It’s not sugarcoat it’s perspective, if when you take care of a patient all you see is bad patients and a lot of work then that is what you get. But if you look at it as God what’s you to learn a lesson from it then its positive. Nursing and life is all perspective and how you approach it, and we must all approach it just like we came out of nursing school with the mindset that just one interaction with a person can change the world. I pray for your burn out and truly hope you change your view on nursing because people really need you and no matter what they are worst off then you are because they are patients in the bed, and we just clock in and clock out. You have a choice to go there and patients don’t.
I'm glad you followed your dreams. My mom did choose my career, and just like you, I despised clinicals because of the toxic relationship among seniors and new nurses. I only liked nursing when I moved in New Zealand because people are genuinely nice and they care for the staff's health. Before that, it was hell on earth. It's like, they were miserable and wanted to share the misery. Moving to NZ saved my career.
I think you just have to find a non toxic environment. I quit on my previous employer where co worker are just complete trash and toxic. Then just found the right one, nice and understanding workmates, a nurse job is always gonna be stressful, but if you're sorrounded with people who empower and help you, you'll going to survive in your nursing carrer.
I went thru the same then Michelle and I quit too, cause sometimes you just don't find these workmates made in heaven, so sad :/ But also, good for you, that you found a way to endure it
I can completely relate to this having worked with seniors for many years, and as a caregiver for almost 13 years. I lo e the 1:1 so much more, but I have worked in care homes, and saw what you are talking about regarding trying to fill beds in t least one place. They were accepting people that were obviously not right for the type of facility. It was heartbreaking, and I had to advocate for myself regarding staffing as well. Political s is real, and being short staffed is real. Seeing even csregi ers that do not care or even family members who do. It care is real. Granted I have been fortunate since doing 1:1 to see that most families do care. Also, when nurses come In or other healthcare staff, and the ones that look down on us because we are on a lower rung. We are Ll here to provide for thebcliant or patient, and justajebitbthrough thebday or nightbon those longer shifts. It shouldn't be this way.
wow Michelle, as a graduated nurse I felt the same hardships you did and also repositioned myself as an IT student. Thankfullly my family was so supportive and everyone told me it was not too late to go and try to make my life the way I dreamed. Now I got my first job in IT and am so looking forward to things again. Many times I told myself that I should have done this 5 years ago, exatcly like you said, but you know, part of it is forgiving your "mistakes", cause they made the person you are today. Have a great one, I hope you find happiness in this job, but if you don't, it's also fine i guess, we are not our jobs, lol PS: just remind myself of this: sometimes before I went into my shift I would cry a little, then I would take deep breaths, just to get in the ward, cause the nurse that was responsable for me made me her bitch, yelled at me in front of all the staff, I felt like I was going into prison every time I steped into the ER (my chosen place and I loved it before all that). That was when things we're over for me. Bad nurses are the worse experience that a student can have when being introduced to the job... that's how stressfull and depressive she made the enviroment, and then I got into big depression...
I am in IT for many years and now wanting to switch to Nursing. Even if you have doubts about your choice you have tried and you can still try something else. Going into the “right”field does not mean you won’t want to change it after.
Im a freshman this year in college and i got into the nursing program. For years all I wanted to do was nursing. I loved the idea of a crazy environment where my help is always needed. My last year of high school and getting my certificate to be a medical assistant, i began getting cold feet. I began realizing that I didnt like the environment. I dont want to see people suffering from sickness, i dont want to deal with coworkers that may not appreciate teamwork, i dont want to wear scrubs all day, and I dont want to become desensitized to life and death. Im upset because my family always pushed me to be in nursing and here i am going to college and got into the pre nursing program. It may be too late to change majors, but I just know Ill be depressed being a nurse. But im happy that i took that CTE medical class at my school. It gave me a look into what ill be doing. And i wasnt happy. I was unhappy with the mindset and reasons my classmates had for being a nurse, i just lost love. Im really scared. Im terrified. I wish i can see myself 10 years from now and see what makes me happy. Its wild to me that i have to pick a career that will effect my entire life. Its a life decision and leaving the major means alot. Im terrified but im grateful for watching your video. I resonated with it. Take care.
Woah. I'm a junior in high school and you just perfectly put into words exactly why I'm scared to be a nurse. It's always been on the back of my mind as a possible career given that my mom is a nurse. Besides nursing, I see myself being a Spanish teacher because I have a passion for the language and I want to create an impact on kids. However, I know the pay is bad and besides those two careers I can't see myself sticking to one thing for the rest of my life!!!!
I knew it!! For someone to be this funny, there has to be balance. You are so smart and so genuine and you give yourself permission and I can see that is why you only accept a person that loves you for the real you.
Nursing is a great profession. You will meet doctors, engineers and various other professional left their profession for Nursing. It is flexible. 3 days work and 4 days off. Some works extra shift if they wish to. RNs can select tele nursing, management, education and various other roles. It is not always easy and not always difficult. It is decent paying job better than lot of other professions.
I commend those who go through struggles like that especially nurses that’s why there’s a high demand. Be careful of IT at the moment due to layoffs happening as we speak. If getting into software engineering or coding is your goal, then go for it, but just keep at it and consider the state of economy. IT is my bread and butter, let me know if you need anything Michelle 😊
I needed this. Had a whole career change after 4 years of grad school and hated the field after I was done with my internships. My field was not in nursing but in counseling. Parents were not happy about this. Thank you for talking about your experience.
I switched from Banking financial industry to study nursing, i love the studying bit but not as a bedside nurse. It is a very demanding job and i cannot see myself doing this for the long run. I hated Clinical postings too! especially with the shift works.. it is super tiring. i feel sad too because you speak exactly what I felt after being 3 years in nursing... :)
As a mom of 4 that grew up in a strict home I have always encouraged my kids to do what makes them happy. I never really had a choice in my life growing up and decided I didn’t want my kids to go through what I did. I have always told them that if they change their mind in what they want to do we will always support them. I always told them that if you do something you love them it doesn’t feel like work. My oldest just finished her first year of college my middles are in high school and my youngest is still in elementary. The middles still don’t know what they want to do but they do know they want to continue to college/university at least my daughter does my son is thinking of going into the trades. Whatever happens I’ll continue to support them and their decisions. I hope my daughters end up with someone like Andy because he is a sweetheart and he cracks me up 😂the chemistry with you both is so amazing and I love all your videos. I don’t have TikTok so I watch on UA-cam but you crack me up every time 😂keep doing what you’re doing but most importantly be happy ❤💜
Seriously it healed me...I totally agree with Michelle❤😊...because I went through so much with my career as a teacher in teaching profession....she said its a real struggle when u know ur not valued at working place and I felt that💯 anybody can force u, but u have to believe in your gut health....its true girl❤😊
Props to you. I hated nursing school but bought the lie everyone said that working as a nurse would be better. 4 years later I hate nursing even more than I did at school. It’s led to GERD and GAD. So I’m quitting to and changing career paths. Healthcare in 2024 is shit.
I feel her on what she's saying. I've spent my entire career doing IT even though I don't necessarily love it especially with the almost cutthroat office politics of lower-to-mid level IT work/jobs and relatively not-great pay. But being from south Asia, I too "had to" pick a career in a STEM field even though I've never been great at math and was better with arts and languages. But growing up dirt poor I didn't have a fallback so that I could choose a career that was difficult to immediately be hired out of school and/or didn't pay enough to support myself and my family. It took a long time for me to get enough confidence and motivation (and getting fired/laid off twice along the way) to work my way up to a more lucrative senior IT position with good pay and better flexibility. But I still don't think I'd ever be brave enough to buck cultural inertia and break away from a safe, "respectable" career.
There are some amazing things nurses do outside of hospitals that you can still do if you wanted to. Like case management and home care needs or hospice. You don't need to work in a clinic setting to achieve success. In my county we have a program looking for nurses that go into homes and do a mommy baby visit 6 weeks after birth and that would be so much fun. You would be great at anything but consider a lateral movement rather than a complete change.
Just starting college to make my way into nursing. After hearing what you said I’m a little scared for what might come as I continue nursing. Still wanna continue but it was nice to know what to expect when working in that profession.
I was having a big question on my head when I was watching the shorts. I knew that you're a nurse but your personality doesnt sounds like a nurse, in my 'database.' I wondered if you might be one of those special ones who can still be so real and happy. I have a bunch of relatives who are a nurse, and I never get along with them. The reality is they showed me that some nurses are somehow quite different from what the public imagined. So I am glad that you're out of that field. So good luck for you and Andy's career in youtube!
Aweeee so inspiring, brought me to tears! I’m happy you realized what’s good for your mental health ❤❤❤ good luck in all your future endeavors Michelle!
I'm thinking to swift my carreer as well. Your video inspired me. I've been really wanted to be a psychologist but my dad didn't want me to do so. I'm 27 now, hopefully i could be brave enough to chase my dream 😊
I was the same way. Science was never my strong suit so I pushed myself extra hard when studying just to get a B or a passing grade on an exam. Even though I had a high teas score, completed all my prerequisites and had all my immunization requirements, I was just so burnt out that it affected my grades in the final months of my prereqs. That pretty much impacted my gpa and prevented me from getting into nursing school. Now my college career is completely different now although I’m still focused on healthcare and because I burnt myself out so many times im still trying to bring back my passion for learning. I guess the good thing is now im studying something that isn’t as time consuming and straining on my physical and mental health so im able to relax and focus on other hobbies to keep myself sane.
@@autumn399 I guess it really depends on which nursing school you get into. Some are more lenient than others. At the end of the day, the nursing field is still challenging regardless bc of all the memorization you have to do with anatomy, pharmacology and other science heavy courses. But if you have the passion for it then I’d say go for it unless you’re like me and wasn’t eligible bc of grades😅. I ended up switching over to public health mainly on a whim bc at my university the prereqs for nursing and public health were similar so I wouldn’t have had to waste another semester taking more classes. It’s still time consuming but definitely not as mentally tiresome as nursing. I’m graduating this spring with my bachelors and I’m considering getting a PhD with a concentration in epidemiology to focus on lab research.
@@autumn399 If you do decide that nursing isn’t what you want to do and medical school is out of the picture but you still want to focus on healthcare I highly recommend public health bc it exposes you to so many other health professions you might not even have considered. The only downside is that most public health jobs require at least a masters or higher if you want a specialized job like epidemiology or health administration so you’ll be spending more time and money in school. That is unless you find an undergraduate program that’s specifically epidemiology or any other public health field.
Definitely the most gorgeous nurse. Everyone in the hospital in love for you, especially the patients, trying to get sicker so you can take more care of them. Silly but true. That would had happen.
This is a fantastic video and I really enjoy the conversations in the comments. It’s disheartening to see very few people praising the nursing or healthcare fields, or celebrating their own careers. I hope there are some who love their job. A lot of it boils down to the respect and determination you and your coworkers have for yourselves, your coworkers, and your patients if you work with patients. Work is stressful enough so it’s best to try to be as positive as possible and be a guiding light in a difficult field of work.
Never watched any of your videos. But coming from watching your shorts, this the most calm I've ever seen you. That being said, I'm going through a career break myself and decided to take up retail since I can afford to not get paid more after trying to pursue animation. It feels nice to have this video recommended to me and made me feel less alone since my family is a "work in office or nothing" kind of people. Animation was nice but it never worked out for me but maybe it works more as a hobby.
one of my best friends who is an RN made a mistake recently. He think he might either lose his license or have it suspended. he says usually the doctors don't get blamed but rather the RN does.
I am an Asian too and my aunts wanted me to take up nursing. Primarily because they are US citizens and being a Nurse is the easiest path to migrate to the USA since it was on demand back then. Fun fact, they are nurses too. But I defied them. My mom and I did. I wouldn't say my career journey was perfect. But I am on a job right now that helps people too. Maybe not medically since it is government work but when you see the Infrastructures you inspected slowly being built and you know that will help people, I know that I made the right decision. In the recent pandemic too, it was not only Doctors and Nurses who fought the pandemic. I was also going to work back then and I am glad to say that I was part of the fight against the COVID19 pandemic. While the Doctors and Nurses fight the disease at the hospitals, We fought to ensure those people don't run out of gas. We were tasked to stop the spread by identifying and mapping the communities with the highest cases of infections to do targeted testing and controlling Police and Military checkpoints during lockdowns to focus at those areas of interest. That and boosting the effort to construct new health centers while calibrating existing ones to fight the pandemic. You need not be a medical professional to save lives. There's a reason why my work was also considered a frontline work during the pandemic. And I don't want to compare and contrast, but I also felt fulfullment giving my services to fight the pandemic.
That’s too bad! I never respond to your channel but I always like it! I am sad that you are quitting now after all the work the tears and the time put in…! If you don’t like the crappy nursing stuff you might can be the one who can help the patient and the one can advocate the patient! You are right…! Being a nurse is not fantasy but helping others who in need!
Sorry that you had this experience. My degree is in Mechanical Engineering and I switched to programming years ago. While the pay is obviously good, it's not a bed of roses, especially if you decide to work for a FAANG company or an ultra competitive place like I did and things have only gotten more stressful as years have gone by. Your employees often plot against you, you're often given assignments with vague specs and then your boss complains that, even though they're changing specs, you should have some how been clairvoyant and known what they really wanted. I'll tell any young person to work as hard as they can early and SAVE EVERYTHING. If you're 35 and have $800K saved up, you have options. You can decide to simply quit and go live in Costa Rica or something like that. There's no worse stress than HAVING TO work, especially as you get older. Good luck with your channel.
I wonder how you are doing now if you are working for the faang. They are letting go thousands of people right now. ChatGPT is coming out and it may be able to do better coding than humans. ME seems like a more stable career.
That's the reality, you get weaved out and if your passion is just not into it, its better to just take a different path. Sometimes its hard to do that since youve sacrificed a lot of time and placed plenty of effort into doing something that you want. Best of luck to your next journey, theres always going to be people that are lazy in every industry, just dont ever let that get to you, just be you.
michelle whatever you do, it is you! who cares! if you happy!. as long as you are with andy. i am with you guys! i love to see both of you.! i am korean too. i saw video, how andy married you and how much you guys love each other that was super emotional for me. andy is very lucky guy to have you as wife. i wanna see you guys until 80 years old. all doing same as now. i will be here until that. ^^ 엔디님 좋은영상 좋은 바이브 너무 좋아요. 항상 응원합니다. 두분다 건강하세요. 엔디님 닮은 아들이나 미쉘님 닮은 딸 보고 싶네요. ㅎㅎ
I just graduated in the last December in 2022 in bsc nursing. Let me tell you, i really felt good while doing my job but always i had known that this is not what I wanted to be. So in 3 year of clg I told my mom that i don't wanna choose this as a profession, i wanna do something different like 9-5 job it ok for me but not this. So i am currently preparing for banking exams and yes I am gonna do that in near future. But nursing literally shaped me and my life. ❤
As someone who’s worked in a hospital setting, if someone speaks to you like that you need to immediately call it out. People will walk all over you unless you call them out.
I really do love you and your husband Andy and think you both are such a wonderful couple. I also was pushed into the medical field... I decided it wasn't for me. Long story.. but. All the best. Thanks Michelle.
Hope you are not letting bad nurses discourage you because I think you would be a great nurse who really cares about people. I think you should at least take the nclex anyways because you never know what the future will bring. You might one day need a job and there will always be a need for nurses. By the way, the OR is all teamwork if that’s what you are looking for.
IT is a really good field to be in because it’s such a diverse field and if you have some interest in computers, gaming, networking, security, coding, customer service, and just etc and etc and etc, you can get into IT. Technology is great and widespread. It’s a growing field and if you have a specialty, all the better. I like to get into coding eventually, but I’m more focused on system administration, server deployment, networking administration. It can be fun figuring things out and it’s very rewarding. Especially when you put a smile on the end users face knowing that you help fix a huge problem. I have so many examples but it is a rewarding field. I was on a similar path as Michelle. Except mine was worse. I lasted too long without any guidance on what I wanted to do. I worked 25 years in a dead end job and unrelated to what I’m doing it now. The pay was good and great benefits, but the job suck!!!! I disliked the work environment and some of the guys I work around are a little too much. I worked with some great people at the same time but majority of the guys are not my cup of tea to hang out with. I took a stand and flat out quit. I didn’t think. Just do it!!!!!! I didn’t know what I was doing lol. I was jobless for awhile and finally, opportunity knocked. I was hired into the IT field as an systems analyst and support. Finally a job or career path I was more into. I have so much fun playing with the latest products before it gets pushed out to the staff lol. Some days are tougher than others but what job doesn’t do that? You know? The reward is much greater and if you enjoy what you’re doing, it’s all good! I’m loving it and no regrets. I often asked some of my former coworkers they need to branch out and do something they like. Their mindset is stuck and don’t want to leave. So when I saw this video, she reminded me of, well, me. To Michelle, I know what you went through and from one IT professional to another, I’m very proud of you for doing what you did! And Andy would approve as well.
I find your story so inspiring. I’m also Asian and they also wanted me in the medical field (aka Dr.) Also took human anatomy in HS and wanted to go into the medical field. I did an internship for nursing and I saw those things too. Yea there are many who love their job, but you can also deal with so many crappy ones too. Wondering why they are even nurses if they don’t even seem to care about their patients. At the beginning of 2020, I was considering going towards nursing and everyone who knew also knew that I wanted to go there. Once COVID hit, it also made me reevaluate career choices and if I wanted to go back to school right after I just got a different health related degree. People kept asking about why I stopped wanting to be a nurse since I was so for it. Fast forward to today, not a nurse nor have any intentions of being one either. But I was able to find a job in the medical field and don’t need super fancy degrees to work in the field. Turns out experience that I had previously was enough to be qualified. I find it super exciting and still get to be in a field I fell in love with. I am still trying to find something forever, but enjoying life with what I am doing.
I can relate. I come from a non western background. My dad pressured me to do nursing because he was worried I would not get a job. At 15 I wanted to be a military medic and I thought a civilian nurse would be the same. I saw a speech pathologist because I was shy. She suggested allied health. My mum was really happy she knew that nursing was not a great fit. Did nursing hated how task oriented it was. My mum was disappointed. I am now stating speech pathology in 2024. My mum is happy because she sacrificed heaps to give me a good education. Tiger Mum’s can be a protective breed.
I like and agree with your comment. Sometimes I wish I back on deployment to Iraq or Afghanistan because it was simple life, complete the mission and take care of your soldiers. But as combat veterans we have to be resilience in America daily work place.
I get it with giving up for nursing. I used to strive and think it was what I wanted to do but now I realized after 3 years, it's not the same passion I onced had for it. I do understand that it's not for anyone and there will always be nurses or health care professionals that do it more for the money. Good luck with IT and trust it's never too late to give up on the right career. I'm turning 24 and I realized comparing myself with other people isn't the way to do things. I have to focus on my career path first
so you gave up on nursing ? I'm turning 24 in 2 months and I started a computer science degree this year . But now I kinda wanna get into nursing : ( my Asian parents always wanted me to work in the medical sector . But I insisted on going for an IT career because tech payments are tempting and not to mention about their flexible schedules. Now I'm thinking a BscN gonna always come in handy and it's a noble carrier . Idk I'm lost and I'm really sad 😢
Kudos for you🎉 do you what you enjoy and not what others want you to do. I too come from an Asian household. Glad you have a very supportive partner. Nurses are great and make a lot of money but it’s not for everyone. Especially if you see the dark side like with any other job. But thank for this video. Very moving. ❤
My story is SO SIMILAR to yours! And I know you made this almost 2 years ago, but I want you, it means SO MUCH to me that you had SUCH a similar experience to me, and that I’m truly NOT ALONE. I am not the only person (despite my googling and youtubing) to not get their license, or use their nursing degree right after graduating. I graduated in 2019, and long story short, a lot happened leading up to getting into nursing school and during those first few months that set me up to have a hard time, and it was definitely a huge challenge. I loved parts of it, but hated a lot of it. I almost quit the summer between my first and last year of nursing school, but a peer tried to convince me, and I tried to convince myself, “nursing school is the hard part, it gets easier after this”, I watched youtube videos of people pushing through, and just convinced myself tonstick it out, get to graduation because I spent so much time and energy just trying to GET IN, its what I had been working towards my whole college career. I was worried I would regret quitting when I had already come so far. So I tried to push through and stuck it out. But like you, I had crappy experiences, and I think it just weighed me down. There were parts I loved, and I worked with TONS of great nurses, and honestly if not for them I probably would’ve dropped out. But I also worked with some not so great ones, some of my clinical professors were so harsh (I could see how it worked for some, but it just didnt for me), I HATED most of my hospital clinicals (My local university only had 1 hospital on that side of the island and it is not large, so some clinicals we had to make do in other ways, like PEDS or mental health. though I was lucky enough to get to experience one of the other Hospitals on the island that was SO MUCH kinder),I absolutely DREADED them. I had SO MUCH anxiety, and I was exhausted and depressed, and I just didn’t love it anymore. But I did it. I finished (miraculously! I literally wasn’t sure I was going to graduate til the DAY BEFORE PINNING). I took my sweet ass time getting around to doing my NCLEX and failed the first time. 2020 rolls around, I just moved back home to the otherside of the island and BOOM covid. Made doing my NCLEX SO MUCH harder. It didnt help that I STILL was not motivated for it anymore, but I promised myself I’d at least try, and see what I could do that wasn’t in the hospital. I liked aspects of my schooling, and wanted to do something either outpatient, maybe school nursing, or something to do with health education. I got a job as an RBT (registered behavior therapist/technician, I work with kids with ASD, its not perfect, and not my permanent place but I like it much more). I tried my NCLEX 2 more times. I failed both. In Hawaii (my home state, and where I had intended to work), you can fail 3 times, but after that, if you want to retest, you HAVE to take a remediation course, including clinical hours. I had a full on panic/anxiety attack in my car the second I read that. And that’s when I knew I had been deceiving myself. I finally was SURE that I ABSOLUTELY did not want to be a nurse anymore. It was both liberating and disheartening. I felt (sometimes still do) feel like a failure, like a loser. I have avoided using/posting on my social media for the past couple years because I didn’t want to deal with the questions I might get, or having to see my classmates post about their flourishing careers (don’t get me wrong, I’m immensely proud of them, and so happy for many of them, but I just couldn’t help but compare). My family tried to be supportive, but they were also kinda pushy in a way, questioning why I didn’t pursue it, “at least put it to good use”. It didnt help that at the time I really couldn’t answer the “why” questions, and I absolutely had no idea what I was gonna do (still don’t btw, currently just making due). It’s gotten better since then, and I’m slowly but surely learning to accept that this journey is mine, and its not supposed to look like anyone else’s. It’s ok that I’m almost 30 with no plan or career prospects, and I’m still single living with my parents (thankful however that I have a family that doesn’t judge that). It’s ok hat plan A didn’t work out. I’m right where I need to be for now. I regret not listening to my gut sooner, but I also don’t regret going through with it all at all, I’m where I am because of it, and one day it’ll all make sense why.
This was my ling winded way of saying thank you so much for sharing your story, and allowing me to also share mine and have someone to connect to about it. To anyone who might be going through a similar experience, know that you’re not alone, and there are other people who understand. Just do what’s right for you.
Girl I applaud you for having the guts to go on a new path! Don’t give up your RN license though because nursing is much more than bedside nursing. I am and RN who got into IT and I can tell you there are so much you can do. I’m now in bioinformatics and I love it! My RN background is equally important as my CS skills. RNs rock in bioinformatics, clinical research, pharmaceutical IT, medical IT, the insurance industry and much much more. You are not just any IT professional, you are an IT professional with a specialty. And that’s so powerful in the IT field! I used to think my 4 years of undergraduate nursing education went to waste but no, it’s the foundation of my bioinformatics career!
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Hi! I am a new grad RPN and I hate bedside. I've only been on my own for 5 days and I dread it!! I just want a way out of nursing. Could u tell me what you do in bioinformatics and did u need anything else other than your nursing degree? Should I continue my RN and then go into bioinformatics?
my friend is engineer but she’s also RN. when she loose her job, she got nursing job, no experience requirements. she didn’t like nursing but whenever belt is tight it come in handy.
Not sure if this is already out there? But if it is, please point me I the right direction...
I would love to see Andy's personal opinion of this exact topic??
They have millions of subscribers lol she doesn't need another job
Hi Michelle, I am a physician who works in a hospital with many nurses everyday. What you have said is sadly very true, and I sympathize with your struggles during nursing training. I see nurses as indispensable allies in health care with skillsets that complements physicians'. A good nurse is easily worth his/her weight in gold. I always stand up for my nurses when I feel that a patient is being rude or abusive. Kudos to nurses, especially ones working in hospital.
Can’t express how true this is all is. I Just changed my career path to real estate after 20+ years of nursing and my family thinks I’m having a midlife crises. It’s just not for me any more. I did nursing for money, the passion I once had is gone after dealing with what comes with nursing. The stress, the disrespect, the work overload, the hours. Just not worth it to me. Good for you❤❤❤
I am in this transition phase. 30 years of nursing and I’m past burnout. Just working out where I want to go but bedside nursing is absolutely not what I can continue to do.
Hi. I would like to ask how did you do it? I am a nurse as well and I am not happy anymore being a nurse. I keep thinking of changing career but I don't what or where to start. and now, I end up unemployed.
freshman nursing major here. it’s scary to know the horrors i might face in a clinical setting, and i hope that i still have a medical passion after my 4 years. but it’s good to know that there were others that went on a different path than me, even though we started off on the same beginning. Sometimes things do happen for a reason
Being an Asian, I totally agree with what you mentioned. People including our parents always tell us to be a doctor, engineer, scientist and so on.
I understand where you coming from, but I wish black families was like Asians we were always told you can do anything to put your mind to.
@@stanleystewart8919 I don't think u will think the same when u are born into an Asian family because not everyone has a high iq and if you don't choose one of those 3 fields you will always be treated like dirt.
Yes, totally agree, the family "academic pressure" starts very very young in Asian household...even if our parents are cool but the aunties are OMG !! They not only ask your grades straight up but rank you amongst cousins....its is so so stressfull...Nowdays the "aunties" are now "grandmas", you would think they would slow down...but nooo, at family gatherings they will start all over again and pull up ranks of our kids now...the stress level of my generation is at max !! My gen is stuck between the older gen vs the milinium gen... sooo much headache to juggle between the two gens...😅😅😅😅
my parents never told me to be anything because they never believed that i would be able to become an engineer. Even after attending my graduation, they still dont believe that I would be able to find a job. LOL. I proof them all wrong.
True same in sri lanka they only care medicine medicine engineering 😢😢😢
This is so legit. I've been working as a registered nurse for almost 7 years now and her experience is really true. It's sad but that's the reality.
This is how I felt when I didn’t want to become a nurse. My mom is an ICU nurse since she was 18 and she’s very passionate about it. She was very disappointed to hear and watch me pursue a different path, but I’m glad I did. Always do what feels right and is best for you! ❤ Good luck. 😊
I'm happy for you. Wish you the best❤
What did you choose next??
@NhiNguyen-qx3mhmaybe she's trying to say her mom has been passionate about this job since the age of 18
My mom is smarter than average people. Both my parents are. My mom finished her highschool by age 14 and 4 yrs of college, graduated 18 yrs old. Sorry if common sense is expensive now a days.@NhiNguyen-qx3mh
There was an Indian I met who was a nurse since she was 16 from India- I don’t know how she got away with it but that is what she had told me. She must have graduated highschool early and pursued nursing.
It's so refreshing to hear you talk more about yourself as I've always watched those short clips of you and Andy, so I feel that I got to know more about you from this video. My sister is a nurse and I hear all about the stress involved with the profession. I'm not a nurse, but I also work in healthcare and although I love my job, the hospital setting is not fun. I'm lucky to work with good colleagues in my clinic, but admin and mgt is a pain. I left my day job early this year and opened my own practice which was super scary because I grew up in an Asian household where there's a lot of emphasis on having a secured, stable job. No mention of being a business owner. But I'm glad I made that decision because it's so liberating to have my freedom while continuing to do what I love without all the stress from a hospital system. I'm glad you made a choice that makes you happy because if you wake up feeling dreadful to go to work....that's definitely going to affect the quality of your life. Also glad Andy is your great source of support! Thanks for sharing!
I am also a Nurse. This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my UA-cam channel 7 months ago about self development. Now I have 702 subs and > 200 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.
This channel also inspired me to upload my recent videos to share my opinions about the main things that truly impacted the way I live. They're a couple of my most vulnerable videos that I've been hesitant to post for many months because of the fear of being misunderstood but I finally decided to overcome that fear so others can learn from my experience so we can all grow together. They're packed with valuable information about the relationship between a job and happiness.
Girl I'm on the same boat. I'm 25 now, graduated 2 years ago with my B.S. in Psych but realizing that I want a career change and now I'm pursuing ultrasound. I resonate with you that it's soo hard not to compare :( All my younger friends already out there making good money, loving what they do, while I'm here having a crisis that I'm going back to school to do something completely different. It feels like I wasted my time but like you said, I try to remind myself that we all have different paces and we went through all this for a reason. In the end, it's never too late to chase your dreams. I'm so thankful for my boyfriend too for supporting me with this major life decision, I would've been so miserable without him because I most likely would have never committed to this career change.
(also, youre so right about the toxic nursing work environment. I've been working at a nursing facility for a year, it's honestly so disheartening.)
Good luck to you on your journey! I'd love to see more content like this
Thank you for posting this, I went through a nearly identical experience with becoming an educator and I am currently trying to find my new path. Your words were very validating and comforting. I’d love to hear more about why you chose tech, what that’s like and how you got to where you are now with career!
take your time! a lot of people say they dont wanna start new because "it's too late" but honestly, it doesnt matter what youre doing. 3 years will still pass so why not start now than stay where you are for 3 years 😤
@@andy.and.michelle Hi! I really love ya'lls videos so much!
@@andy.and.michelle and i worked in dc at Sibley memorial hospital in the ed. it was rough!!! I was going through nursing school then . The nurses were so mean especially the elderly ones in the icu.
And omg that CDiff patient was at risk for electrolyte imbalance. That nurse should be reported if she wasnt watching his heart rhythm or labs!!! 😡😡😡😡😡 im sorry u had to deal with her!!
I'm currently in nursing having multiple jobs prior. Honestly, there is no perfect job out there. You'll always find co-workers and management that make life hell. Hopefully, IT and youtube work out for you.
I remember when I graduated college and passed my NCLEX in 1990 I was so excited to finally be a registered nurse. Then I started walking down the many paths nursing can take you and like you started to dislike my job because of others I worked with daily. Nursing is hard enough without having to deal with the attitudes from your co-workers and peers. Anyway I stopped working in 2002 when I had a baby and I now it’s 2023 and my youngest child just graduated HS, I’ve been a stay at home mom for 21yrs and want to go back to work, but not in nursing, especially since Covid. I’m glad your career change worked out for you.
Michelle you are gorgeous😊 Also my mom tried to pressure me into law. She actually tried to site my “negative traits” as reasons why I should be a lawyer. She wasn’t the best mom tbh. But I fell into IT because I took a job at the Apple Store at 19. I’m now 34 and I am an IT analyst at one of the best universities in the world and I live quite comfortably. The funny thing is I am studying East Asian studies an working to get my PhD. No degree is required for this stuff. Just experience and/or certifications.
That is such a cool story. What it certifications did you have to take
Can anyone get into IT? Is it hard?
Wow thank you for sharing. I wanted to go to nursing but as I did the classes I realize it’s not for me. And I pursue becoming an educator substitute teacher. It work out till I got injured by a student and I became physically disable and things weren’t the same. My husband saw the love I had for teaching slowly die and become fear. Till now I’m still trying to find my path and my husband had shown support something I wouldn’t be able to do without him. I’m thinking of pursuing IT but I’m not sure yet. Good luck in your future path and may you continue to pursue something you love with your husband. Also I love your videos they always make me smile even when I’m feeling down.
Always follow your dreams! I came from a household that wanted me to be in business management, Lawyers, Doctor, Nurse. Due to being the oldest. But I followed my heart and went into the criminal Justices field. I never regretted my decisions, but my family think otherwise. It is all about the image.
Yes, I totally agree with what you said about nursing because I'm going through those bad experiences myself, and it is very discouraging. I have bad charged nurses, lazy cnas, and administrators who don't care about anything but money. No matter how hard you work, they do not see your values or appreciate your hard work and that's what I see and feel everyday going into work and I hate it. I hate being there, I hate their fake attitudes and I hate how they treat their patients there too. So then i decided to quit and applied to work with children instead while still in school. Thanks Michelle for sharing your experience :) I'm glad I'm not the only one that felt this way about nursing.
That might be me lol I do not care about anything but money too. However, I do care that the pts receive the care they need and that I am an asset to the team. The rest honestly I could not be bothered about. I have a goal for my finances and perhaps that is the thing that makes it easy for me to endure all the work bs that everyone else is suffering from. I just do not let it bother me, do not care what others think or say about me or at me. It does not affect my life.
Michelle, I respect you so much for being so honest about why you don't want to go into nursing because I'm a Filipina-Am mom of 2. There's just way too much pressure for Asian-Am young people, especially, women to pursue nursing. I had wanted to be one but realized it wasn't a good fit for me. My dad just thought I should go into nursing because of the money. I'm a divorced mom of 2 (My oldest is 17 and my youngest is 12). I plan on focusing on raising them, heal from my divorce, help them do well in school (They're homeschooled), and go back to school hopefully in 3 years (2026). My ultimate dream is to be a UX Designer and possibly a UX Researcher even though I'm in my early 50s. You give folks like me hope that you should pursue what you want and not what your family wants.
Good luck❤
I pursued nursing and had got to junior year before i realized it wasn't something I wanted to do. I realized it when I started clinicals. The staff were awful. Some were borderline abusive. I did however remained a nurse's assistant (as I never graduated) at a hospital that was okay. I did that for awhile but realized that the pay was so bad. I could never save up as my entire paycheck basically went to groceries--that's it. I somehow ended up as a supervisor in a bakery.
I really felt this hard. I spent my entire life thinking and prepping to become a doctor. I got to college, finished my degree in medical lab technology with the next step to go to med school, but by the time I graduated I realized I didn't want to keep going. I tried to push through and went to work in a medical office for a year as a lab tech, observing nurses and doctors and was treated horribly like you were. My friends that I graduated with had the same experience. I ended up switching out entirely and going into marketing at a chemical company. I didn't waste 4.5 years in university because I don't think I would have made these decisions if I had went about it any other way. So life has a way, its different for everyone and who we are today is a sum of all the different decisions and paths we took to get here. proud of you girl and get it!
I do apologize though, I thought you were going to say I went viral on tiktok so I quit my nursing job, which is still fine, but this definitely turned out differently than I imagined. proud of you. also nothing wrongwith quitting your job after going viral, all the tiktokers and UA-camrs do it. hopefully one day you do get to do tiktok or youtube for your job, as it could be quite lucrative.
I graduated in December. 3 months into nursing work life I totally understand. You need a stronger mindset and alotttttt of patience for coworkers or CNA or patients and family members.
A daughter of my patient reported me when I was doing a bladder scan and I was pressing down and I got reported for that… it’s just crazy out there.
Some family members are just crazy. They feel "out of control" because they know nothing about medicine/healthcare, so they try to gain control by trying to micromanage you for things they know nothing about.
The way you reasoned why you quit nursing, is the same reason I quit being a MA. I have similar experiences like you too and it gives me trauma. I went into MA just to make my parents happy, even though I liked it, I just know that I wasn’t happy and it’s not for me anymore. Til this day, I’m still trying to figure out what I want to do and is taking my time. I’m so glad that I’m not the only one with similar problems?/things? like you. You made me feel better by watching this video! ❤
ma as in a medical assistant?
Nursing is not really for everyone. I know a lot of people who graduated with a degree in BSNursing but wouldn't want to work as a nurse because of the level of stress of working as a nurse. I've been working as an ICU nurse for how many years now, and I've had the best and worst experiences but I always go to work with passion and smile in my face because I love what I'm doing.
You are still young. Pursue what you love and what makes you happy. Good luck on your career. 😀
Always watching you guys from 🇬🇧🇵🇭
Thank you so much for this. I also come from an Asian household and share similar reasons why I wanted to become a nurse. Starting nursing school in a week, and I know in my gut I’m dreading it. There are so many doubts that I have and I feel like I am one of the weak ones. Not sure what to do because I literally have no passions for what else I want to do. Tried other things but I feel like I’m not good enough or would get bored of it later on.
how are you doing now? i heard psych nurses are paid well so i have been thinking of pursuing that in uni but dont have much of a passion for it and am afraid to dread even starting it like you.
Girl, same.
By the time i got my degree (graduated with honors) i was already in programming bootcamp.
I worked in hospital while studying During covid for 2 years.
I can identify with all the things you said. And i also always loved computers and gaming so i started learning how to code on my own. Got accepted to a great bootcamp program and quit my job. I am so happy i did that.
Good on you for facing this hard choice and staying true to yourself!
Its awesome to fing someone with similar experience to mine :)
Proud of you, Michelle!! Hope you find something you enjoy within IT! You're also right about nursing not being for the weak. My boyfriend is a nurse and he tells me all the stuff he goes through, and it's honestly really sad that they're not appreciated and compensated enough for what they do.
I love your authenticity , your honesty . Thank you . Thank you for confirming what I already knew
I have had very similar experience, where I was so passionate when i began nursing school but after i graduate I just felt like it wasn’t for me. And just like you I was worried about my mental health. the stress that came with my decision to not pursue my nursing career. I am currently just exploring other option and seeing you make similar decision gives me hope.
That's just so precious that you have this maturity and being able to be yourself at such a young age while most of the adults out there can only act like adults but no emotional intelligence/maturity at all😮 love you guys and your authenticity ❤❤❤
I'm crying watching this! I feel like I've developed anxiety and depressiom from working as a nurse. 😢
Healthcare IT is a seriously needed career choice. Being a nurse is a challenging environment especially with the heirachy in side a hospital. The patient side is challenging but dealing with the people in healthcare is really a pain. I'm a National Telemedicine Director so I have to train the doctors and nurses and I absolutely understand your outlook.
I actually feel the same too. I graduated from ME and thought that I have to follow my peers path to jump in the maanufacturing things. After 3 years, it turned out that I got depressed as I moved to more technical job. I really loath it. I even fainted on my way to my workspace because of uncontained emotions. Then, I decided to leave the job and try to start what I've been wondering : secret. I hope you'll be happy for what you are doing❤
Thank you for sharing your life with us! Unfortunately, i have had bad experiences on my job too. Very hard to deal with. But you are strong! Keep going!😊
I appreciate you speaking on this topic Michelle. I work in the health care field doing IT. Some of the health staff shouldn't be in the health care field.
Omg yess same thing girly! My mom wanted me to become a doctor so it can look good for the family but when I did clinicals it was terrible. I'm glad you were able to pursue what you loved to do. I personally like studying nutrition so i'm thinking about becoming a nutritionist.
I did the opposite. I finished my Technical Management and went straight into nursing. Now working as a nurse, i intend on going back to IT and actually pursue that
Thank you for making this video. I'm surrounded by people and family who are in healthcare & they love it and are successful in it, and I left like I was alone in my resentment and negative feelings towards nursing. I didn't want to disappoint my family; I felt like I had to make it work because of all the time and money I've spent in school. I've been a nurse for 4 years now, and every year I hope and pray that it will get better and it never did. I took a short break to try out a coding bootcamp and realized it wasn't for me either, so I have to return to nursing for financial reasons :( I would love to hear more about your journey into IT! Maybe it would be a good fit for me too. Feeling very lost, but this video made me feel less alone.
I would say Change the hospital rather than completely quitting. Sometimes that can help too
We're all are a team player on my unit. When we oriented a new nurse, we welcome and teach them to be helpful to everyone.
Hello Michelle!
I have seen your videos of you and Andy on Instagram mostly, discovered this one here.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. It’s so relatable.
I studied nursing back in 2017, first did Medical Assistant, then LPN to RN.
I had a bad professor that discouraged me and kicked me out of nursing, instead of teaching/helping it was like X factor where they kick you out of the show and you’re done.
In 2021 graduated from GMU with a degree in Health Administration concentration in management.
It’s ironic because I also work in IT. For two years now, I work as an office manager for an IT company.
When I was a kid I wanted to be a nurse, my reason at the time was to take care of people. After experiencing what it’s like, studying to become a nurse it’s daunting, intense and stressful.
IT was not my initial career path but I am loving what I do now. Life has a funny way of throwing curve balls but however the moments occurred it has let to the moment where I am today.
Best of luck to you~
Btw, you are so pretty! 💖☺️
Michelle, great work. I definitely will say it takes a lot of will and courage to accept that things need to change. So really well done. I too am going through a career change with me doing almost 8 years in banking and now I too am studying IT all over again as an undergraduate. One thing I will say is when I look back from when I first got a degree I had no passion for now a degree I have an immense passion for, is that the work is so much more easier. The time you want to provide to study and learning more when you are passionate is not seen as something being given away begrudgingly but rather I now take it as a lot of fun. Kudos to you mate.
Also g'day from down under! Hope you and Andy come down to Australia one day!
I just found your video and I really needed this. I'm south asian / Indian and I also grew up with that same lesson of "doctor/engineer/lawyer" and even nursing was not up there but they would accept it if it came down to it. So.. I went to med school because I genuinely felt like I had no other options or choices. Sure I like painting and gardening and reading books, but what sort of "respectable career" will you get with those? In my 3rd year now.. going into my 4th and really regretting it. Just... I feel like I gave up so much of my life to do this, only for a chance that MAYBE I'll get residency and the specialty I want... MAYBE. The amount of money, time, stress.. my health, my time with family... all that I've sacrificed really made me think I was in a gambling den and just giving more and more, all to make back everything I've given with a little icing. I have ended up in ERs while studying because the stress made me physically sick. I've had to move around for rotations and going back and forth between Canada and the States for the past 2 years (cause I'm Canadian, trying to get licensed in the US). Last month, my husband caved. He said he couldn't deal with the instability of our relationship and it was making him lonely and unhappy. He and I are taking a break and we might actually divorce because he did some questionable things to block out those feelings (another long story). It's really hitting me in the "Why am I really doing this? Do I even want this? Is it worth this much sacrifice?". I want to thank you for your perspective on this. I am really glad you had Andy at the time and you guys stuck together through such a time in your life. Lots of love and wish you the best with your youtube channel.
Now have Andy talk about his career, it’s good nice to know more about you guys on a personal level like this besides the skits.
Do you know what Andy does?
I feel the same way about nursing. I can't do it my whole life. I have never met so many mean people until I entered the nursing field. I never imagined it to be like this. I don't even feel like I am helping people in this field to be honest. I want to do a career change but I am so confused about what direction to take.
were same.
Me too. Mean people but also just the job itself. It’s not what I expected. I thought it would be cool diagnosing and giving injections etc but all it really is is cleaning up patient shit and dealing with difficult patients and workers
I’ve spent hoursss of my life on UA-cam, but my girlfriend and I love your tiktoks! Looking forward to seeing what you post here. But yea my girlfriend is finishing up her clinicals as PA. She has definitely shared stories of bad co-workers, but also some really good ones.
Anyways I’m a product manager at a tech startup and have a few friends who switched from other roles to UX design or software engineer. Happy to answer any questions you may have in breaking into tech!
I had been a nurse for 20 years and one thing I realized nursing is not for my pleasure, it's the gift that God gives you to help others. Nurses must understand the reward is in the healing of the patient, the healing of the family. Every patient is not going to be nice, every hospital will not agree with your advice, every employee you have will not be supportive, but God has given you a skill to save a life, and no one can take that away. At any moment anyone can become a patient, and because you continue in nursing you learn little jewels that can help you save a life. I absolutely love nursing. I love all the people I helped to live, All the people I helped to talk them out of suicide, all the patients that had strokes and heart attacks that I helped to recognize, and get them the resources they needed. Nursing will never be a job for me, it's who God has called me to be. In any profession the things you discuss in this video can happen, but I hear you talk about that excitement you had, Don't allow that to burn out, because that could be the same excitement used to save your parents life. I just really hate this happened to you because nursing is truly beautiful, but like anything beautiful, Beauty only comes from within. I pray you have a change of heart, and fall in love with a career that has changed my whole life. Love you nursing sister.
It's hard to "fall in love" with nursing when all you do is rush, rush, and rush because corporations want to squeeze the life out of you. Are you a bot?
@@CM7777... No I am a person. A true nurse who really works knows this is the farthest thing from the truth, it's never about the company it's always about the patient. There is no feeling better in life then knowing someone came into the hospital in bad shape and your skills help to save there life. This skill and experience is not rare in nursing and this is why you keep going. Nursing is about the nurse never about the corporation
@TherealAlisaApplewhite I have been a true nurse for 35 years, m/s, Tele, ICU, CCU, Nursing home supervisor, Behavioral Health Hospital, and I speak the truth. You can sugarcoat it for yourself, if that helps you
@@TherealAlisaApplewhite You must be a cult corporate brainwashed nurse or out of touch with truth
It’s not sugarcoat it’s perspective, if when you take care of a patient all you see is bad patients and a lot of work then that is what you get. But if you look at it as God what’s you to learn a lesson from it then its positive. Nursing and life is all perspective and how you approach it, and we must all approach it just like we came out of nursing school with the mindset that just one interaction with a person can change the world. I pray for your burn out and truly hope you change your view on nursing because people really need you and no matter what they are worst off then you are because they are patients in the bed, and we just clock in and clock out. You have a choice to go there and patients don’t.
I'm glad you followed your dreams. My mom did choose my career, and just like you, I despised clinicals because of the toxic relationship among seniors and new nurses. I only liked nursing when I moved in New Zealand because people are genuinely nice and they care for the staff's health. Before that, it was hell on earth. It's like, they were miserable and wanted to share the misery. Moving to NZ saved my career.
I think you just have to find a non toxic environment.
I quit on my previous employer where co worker are just complete trash and toxic.
Then just found the right one, nice and understanding workmates, a nurse job is always gonna be stressful, but if you're sorrounded with people who empower and help you, you'll going to survive in your nursing carrer.
I went thru the same then Michelle and I quit too, cause sometimes you just don't find these workmates made in heaven, so sad :/ But also, good for you, that you found a way to endure it
I can completely relate to this having worked with seniors for many years, and as a caregiver for almost 13 years. I lo e the 1:1 so much more, but I have worked in care homes, and saw what you are talking about regarding trying to fill beds in t least one place. They were accepting people that were obviously not right for the type of facility. It was heartbreaking, and I had to advocate for myself regarding staffing as well. Political s is real, and being short staffed is real. Seeing even csregi ers that do not care or even family members who do. It care is real. Granted I have been fortunate since doing 1:1 to see that most families do care. Also, when nurses come In or other healthcare staff, and the ones that look down on us because we are on a lower rung. We are Ll here to provide for thebcliant or patient, and justajebitbthrough thebday or nightbon those longer shifts. It shouldn't be this way.
wow Michelle, as a graduated nurse I felt the same hardships you did and also repositioned myself as an IT student. Thankfullly my family was so supportive and everyone told me it was not too late to go and try to make my life the way I dreamed. Now I got my first job in IT and am so looking forward to things again. Many times I told myself that I should have done this 5 years ago, exatcly like you said, but you know, part of it is forgiving your "mistakes", cause they made the person you are today.
Have a great one, I hope you find happiness in this job, but if you don't, it's also fine i guess, we are not our jobs, lol
PS: just remind myself of this: sometimes before I went into my shift I would cry a little, then I would take deep breaths, just to get in the ward, cause the nurse that was responsable for me made me her bitch, yelled at me in front of all the staff, I felt like I was going into prison every time I steped into the ER (my chosen place and I loved it before all that). That was when things we're over for me. Bad nurses are the worse experience that a student can have when being introduced to the job... that's how stressfull and depressive she made the enviroment, and then I got into big depression...
How are you able to break into it after leaving nursing ?
Same situation here! I can't imagine being a nurse forever.
I was in nursing too, but I wasn't coping and became depressed and was fully exhausted, but I'm still in healthcare
I am in IT for many years and now wanting to switch to Nursing. Even if you have doubts about your choice you have tried and you can still try something else. Going into the “right”field does not mean you won’t want to change it after.
Happy for you Michelle!!! Definitely felt the same way coming from an Asian household. But you gotta just do you
Im a freshman this year in college and i got into the nursing program. For years all I wanted to do was nursing. I loved the idea of a crazy environment where my help is always needed. My last year of high school and getting my certificate to be a medical assistant, i began getting cold feet. I began realizing that I didnt like the environment. I dont want to see people suffering from sickness, i dont want to deal with coworkers that may not appreciate teamwork, i dont want to wear scrubs all day, and I dont want to become desensitized to life and death. Im upset because my family always pushed me to be in nursing and here i am going to college and got into the pre nursing program. It may be too late to change majors, but I just know Ill be depressed being a nurse. But im happy that i took that CTE medical class at my school. It gave me a look into what ill be doing. And i wasnt happy. I was unhappy with the mindset and reasons my classmates had for being a nurse, i just lost love. Im really scared. Im terrified. I wish i can see myself 10 years from now and see what makes me happy. Its wild to me that i have to pick a career that will effect my entire life. Its a life decision and leaving the major means alot. Im terrified but im grateful for watching your video. I resonated with it. Take care.
VERY MUCH RELATE. Except, I got as far as getting into nursing school. 🤦🏾♀️
Woah. I'm a junior in high school and you just perfectly put into words exactly why I'm scared to be a nurse. It's always been on the back of my mind as a possible career given that my mom is a nurse. Besides nursing, I see myself being a Spanish teacher because I have a passion for the language and I want to create an impact on kids. However, I know the pay is bad and besides those two careers I can't see myself sticking to one thing for the rest of my life!!!!
I knew it!! For someone to be this funny, there has to be balance. You are so smart and so genuine and you give yourself permission and I can see that is why you only accept a person that loves you for the real you.
Nursing is a great profession. You will meet doctors, engineers and various other professional left their profession for Nursing. It is flexible. 3 days work and 4 days off. Some works extra shift if they wish to. RNs can select tele nursing, management, education and various other roles. It is not always easy and not always difficult. It is decent paying job better than lot of other professions.
I commend those who go through struggles like that especially nurses that’s why there’s a high demand. Be careful of IT at the moment due to layoffs happening as we speak. If getting into software engineering or coding is your goal, then go for it, but just keep at it and consider the state of economy. IT is my bread and butter, let me know if you need anything Michelle 😊
Damn. I feel like I dodged a bullet. I was close to choosing nursing as a career. This vid def helped me make a decision for myself
She's so chill compared to vids with hubby
me tearing up at this video a whole year late… i needed this. thank you michelle, i’ll always be rooting for you always 🥺
I needed this. Had a whole career change after 4 years of grad school and hated the field after I was done with my internships. My field was not in nursing but in counseling. Parents were not happy about this. Thank you for talking about your experience.
I switched from Banking financial industry to study nursing, i love the studying bit but not as a bedside nurse. It is a very demanding job and i cannot see myself doing this for the long run. I hated Clinical postings too! especially with the shift works.. it is super tiring. i feel sad too because you speak exactly what I felt after being 3 years in nursing... :)
As a mom of 4 that grew up in a strict home I have always encouraged my kids to do what makes them happy. I never really had a choice in my life growing up and decided I didn’t want my kids to go through what I did. I have always told them that if they change their mind in what they want to do we will always support them. I always told them that if you do something you love them it doesn’t feel like work. My oldest just finished her first year of college my middles are in high school and my youngest is still in elementary. The middles still don’t know what they want to do but they do know they want to continue to college/university at least my daughter does my son is thinking of going into the trades. Whatever happens I’ll continue to support them and their decisions.
I hope my daughters end up with someone like Andy because he is a sweetheart and he cracks me up 😂the chemistry with you both is so amazing and I love all your videos. I don’t have TikTok so I watch on UA-cam but you crack me up every time 😂keep doing what you’re doing but most importantly be happy ❤💜
Seriously it healed me...I totally agree with Michelle❤😊...because I went through so much with my career as a teacher in teaching profession....she said its a real struggle when u know ur not valued at working place and I felt that💯 anybody can force u, but u have to believe in your gut health....its true girl❤😊
Props to you. I hated nursing school but bought the lie everyone said that working as a nurse would be better. 4 years later I hate nursing even more than I did at school. It’s led to GERD and GAD. So I’m quitting to and changing career paths. Healthcare in 2024 is shit.
I feel her on what she's saying. I've spent my entire career doing IT even though I don't necessarily love it especially with the almost cutthroat office politics of lower-to-mid level IT work/jobs and relatively not-great pay. But being from south Asia, I too "had to" pick a career in a STEM field even though I've never been great at math and was better with arts and languages. But growing up dirt poor I didn't have a fallback so that I could choose a career that was difficult to immediately be hired out of school and/or didn't pay enough to support myself and my family. It took a long time for me to get enough confidence and motivation (and getting fired/laid off twice along the way) to work my way up to a more lucrative senior IT position with good pay and better flexibility. But I still don't think I'd ever be brave enough to buck cultural inertia and break away from a safe, "respectable" career.
There are some amazing things nurses do outside of hospitals that you can still do if you wanted to. Like case management and home care needs or hospice. You don't need to work in a clinic setting to achieve success. In my county we have a program looking for nurses that go into homes and do a mommy baby visit 6 weeks after birth and that would be so much fun. You would be great at anything but consider a lateral movement rather than a complete change.
Just starting college to make my way into nursing. After hearing what you said I’m a little scared for what might come as I continue nursing. Still wanna continue but it was nice to know what to expect when working in that profession.
I am an OR nurse from China.I also have the same feel in my career.there are a lot of stress from the work.
I was having a big question on my head when I was watching the shorts. I knew that you're a nurse but your personality doesnt sounds like a nurse, in my 'database.' I wondered if you might be one of those special ones who can still be so real and happy.
I have a bunch of relatives who are a nurse, and I never get along with them. The reality is they showed me that some nurses are somehow quite different from what the public imagined. So I am glad that you're out of that field.
So good luck for you and Andy's career in youtube!
Aweeee so inspiring, brought me to tears! I’m happy you realized what’s good for your mental health ❤❤❤ good luck in all your future endeavors Michelle!
I'm thinking to swift my carreer as well. Your video inspired me. I've been really wanted to be a psychologist but my dad didn't want me to do so. I'm 27 now, hopefully i could be brave enough to chase my dream 😊
Hey same with me, how is it going? Do we need to study again or go to school again?
Hey same with me, how is it going for now? do we need go to school again?
I was the same way. Science was never my strong suit so I pushed myself extra hard when studying just to get a B or a passing grade on an exam. Even though I had a high teas score, completed all my prerequisites and had all my immunization requirements, I was just so burnt out that it affected my grades in the final months of my prereqs. That pretty much impacted my gpa and prevented me from getting into nursing school. Now my college career is completely different now although I’m still focused on healthcare and because I burnt myself out so many times im still trying to bring back my passion for learning. I guess the good thing is now im studying something that isn’t as time consuming and straining on my physical and mental health so im able to relax and focus on other hobbies to keep myself sane.
May i know what you're studying now? I'm interested in nursing and the healthcarr field but i'm scared to go into it when i hear these stories.
@@autumn399 I guess it really depends on which nursing school you get into. Some are more lenient than others. At the end of the day, the nursing field is still challenging regardless bc of all the memorization you have to do with anatomy, pharmacology and other science heavy courses. But if you have the passion for it then I’d say go for it unless you’re like me and wasn’t eligible bc of grades😅. I ended up switching over to public health mainly on a whim bc at my university the prereqs for nursing and public health were similar so I wouldn’t have had to waste another semester taking more classes. It’s still time consuming but definitely not as mentally tiresome as nursing. I’m graduating this spring with my bachelors and I’m considering getting a PhD with a concentration in epidemiology to focus on lab research.
@@autumn399 If you do decide that nursing isn’t what you want to do and medical school is out of the picture but you still want to focus on healthcare I highly recommend public health bc it exposes you to so many other health professions you might not even have considered. The only downside is that most public health jobs require at least a masters or higher if you want a specialized job like epidemiology or health administration so you’ll be spending more time and money in school. That is unless you find an undergraduate program that’s specifically epidemiology or any other public health field.
God bless you. I have a friend that went though trauma being a Nurse. You're not alone. Do what makes you happy. Your smart.
Definitely the most gorgeous nurse. Everyone in the hospital in love for you, especially the patients, trying to get sicker so you can take more care of them. Silly but true. That would had happen.
This is a fantastic video and I really enjoy the conversations in the comments. It’s disheartening to see very few people praising the nursing or healthcare fields, or celebrating their own careers. I hope there are some who love their job. A lot of it boils down to the respect and determination you and your coworkers have for yourselves, your coworkers, and your patients if you work with patients. Work is stressful enough so it’s best to try to be as positive as possible and be a guiding light in a difficult field of work.
Never watched any of your videos. But coming from watching your shorts, this the most calm I've ever seen you. That being said, I'm going through a career break myself and decided to take up retail since I can afford to not get paid more after trying to pursue animation. It feels nice to have this video recommended to me and made me feel less alone since my family is a "work in office or nothing" kind of people. Animation was nice but it never worked out for me but maybe it works more as a hobby.
You learn something new everyday and this was really educational. Thanks for sharing your story.
one of my best friends who is an RN made a mistake recently. He think he might either lose his license or have it suspended. he says usually the doctors don't get blamed but rather the RN does.
I am an Asian too and my aunts wanted me to take up nursing. Primarily because they are US citizens and being a Nurse is the easiest path to migrate to the USA since it was on demand back then. Fun fact, they are nurses too.
But I defied them. My mom and I did. I wouldn't say my career journey was perfect. But I am on a job right now that helps people too. Maybe not medically since it is government work but when you see the Infrastructures you inspected slowly being built and you know that will help people, I know that I made the right decision. In the recent pandemic too, it was not only Doctors and Nurses who fought the pandemic. I was also going to work back then and I am glad to say that I was part of the fight against the COVID19 pandemic.
While the Doctors and Nurses fight the disease at the hospitals, We fought to ensure those people don't run out of gas. We were tasked to stop the spread by identifying and mapping the communities with the highest cases of infections to do targeted testing and controlling Police and Military checkpoints during lockdowns to focus at those areas of interest. That and boosting the effort to construct new health centers while calibrating existing ones to fight the pandemic.
You need not be a medical professional to save lives. There's a reason why my work was also considered a frontline work during the pandemic. And I don't want to compare and contrast, but I also felt fulfullment giving my services to fight the pandemic.
That’s too bad! I never respond to your channel but I always like it! I am sad that you are quitting now after all the work the tears and the time put in…! If you don’t like the crappy nursing stuff you might can be the one who can help the patient and the one can advocate the patient! You are right…! Being a nurse is not fantasy but helping others who in need!
Sorry that you had this experience. My degree is in Mechanical Engineering and I switched to programming years ago. While the pay is obviously good, it's not a bed of roses, especially if you decide to work for a FAANG company or an ultra competitive place like I did and things have only gotten more stressful as years have gone by. Your employees often plot against you, you're often given assignments with vague specs and then your boss complains that, even though they're changing specs, you should have some how been clairvoyant and known what they really wanted. I'll tell any young person to work as hard as they can early and SAVE EVERYTHING. If you're 35 and have $800K saved up, you have options. You can decide to simply quit and go live in Costa Rica or something like that. There's no worse stress than HAVING TO work, especially as you get older. Good luck with your channel.
I wonder how you are doing now if you are working for the faang. They are letting go thousands of people right now. ChatGPT is coming out and it may be able to do better coding than humans. ME seems like a more stable career.
That's the reality, you get weaved out and if your passion is just not into it, its better to just take a different path. Sometimes its hard to do that since youve sacrificed a lot of time and placed plenty of effort into doing something that you want. Best of luck to your next journey, theres always going to be people that are lazy in every industry, just dont ever let that get to you, just be you.
michelle whatever you do, it is you! who cares! if you happy!. as long as you are with andy.
i am with you guys!
i love to see both of you.! i am korean too.
i saw video, how andy married you and how much you guys love each other that was super emotional for me. andy is very lucky guy to have you as wife.
i wanna see you guys until 80 years old. all doing same as now. i will be here until that. ^^
엔디님 좋은영상 좋은 바이브 너무 좋아요. 항상 응원합니다. 두분다 건강하세요.
엔디님 닮은 아들이나 미쉘님 닮은 딸 보고 싶네요. ㅎㅎ
I just graduated in the last December in 2022 in bsc nursing. Let me tell you, i really felt good while doing my job but always i had known that this is not what I wanted to be. So in 3 year of clg I told my mom that i don't wanna choose this as a profession, i wanna do something different like 9-5 job it ok for me but not this. So i am currently preparing for banking exams and yes I am gonna do that in near future. But nursing literally shaped me and my life. ❤
As someone who’s worked in a hospital setting, if someone speaks to you like that you need to immediately call it out. People will walk all over you unless you call them out.
Soooo many people WISH they could be this brave ❤
I really do love you and your husband Andy and think you both are such a wonderful couple. I also was pushed into the medical field... I decided it wasn't for me. Long story.. but. All the best. Thanks Michelle.
Hope you are not letting bad nurses discourage you because I think you would be a great nurse who really cares about people. I think you should at least take the nclex anyways because you never know what the future will bring. You might one day need a job and there will always be a need for nurses. By the way, the OR is all teamwork if that’s what you are looking for.
IT is a really good field to be in because it’s such a diverse field and if you have some interest in computers, gaming, networking, security, coding, customer service, and just etc and etc and etc, you can get into IT. Technology is great and widespread. It’s a growing field and if you have a specialty, all the better. I like to get into coding eventually, but I’m more focused on system administration, server deployment, networking administration. It can be fun figuring things out and it’s very rewarding. Especially when you put a smile on the end users face knowing that you help fix a huge problem. I have so many examples but it is a rewarding field.
I was on a similar path as Michelle. Except mine was worse. I lasted too long without any guidance on what I wanted to do. I worked 25 years in a dead end job and unrelated to what I’m doing it now. The pay was good and great benefits, but the job suck!!!! I disliked the work environment and some of the guys I work around are a little too much. I worked with some great people at the same time but majority of the guys are not my cup of tea to hang out with.
I took a stand and flat out quit. I didn’t think. Just do it!!!!!! I didn’t know what I was doing lol. I was jobless for awhile and finally, opportunity knocked. I was hired into the IT field as an systems analyst and support. Finally a job or career path I was more into. I have so much fun playing with the latest products before it gets pushed out to the staff lol. Some days are tougher than others but what job doesn’t do that? You know? The reward is much greater and if you enjoy what you’re doing, it’s all good! I’m loving it and no regrets.
I often asked some of my former coworkers they need to branch out and do something they like. Their mindset is stuck and don’t want to leave.
So when I saw this video, she reminded me of, well, me. To Michelle, I know what you went through and from one IT professional to another, I’m very proud of you for doing what you did! And Andy would approve as well.
I find your story so inspiring. I’m also Asian and they also wanted me in the medical field (aka Dr.) Also took human anatomy in HS and wanted to go into the medical field. I did an internship for nursing and I saw those things too. Yea there are many who love their job, but you can also deal with so many crappy ones too. Wondering why they are even nurses if they don’t even seem to care about their patients. At the beginning of 2020, I was considering going towards nursing and everyone who knew also knew that I wanted to go there. Once COVID hit, it also made me reevaluate career choices and if I wanted to go back to school right after I just got a different health related degree. People kept asking about why I stopped wanting to be a nurse since I was so for it. Fast forward to today, not a nurse nor have any intentions of being one either. But I was able to find a job in the medical field and don’t need super fancy degrees to work in the field. Turns out experience that I had previously was enough to be qualified. I find it super exciting and still get to be in a field I fell in love with. I am still trying to find something forever, but enjoying life with what I am doing.
this got me hopeful could i ask what role u pursued? is it hybrid or on-site
May i know what other degree you purused? I'm interested in nursing but i'm also scared to go into it when i hear these stories
I can relate. I come from a non western background. My dad pressured me to do nursing because he was worried I would not get a job. At 15 I wanted to be a military medic and I thought a civilian nurse would be the same. I saw a speech pathologist because I was shy. She suggested allied health. My mum was really happy she knew that nursing was not a great fit. Did nursing hated how task oriented it was. My mum was disappointed. I am now stating speech pathology in 2024. My mum is happy because she sacrificed heaps to give me a good education. Tiger Mum’s can be a protective breed.
You and Andy are funny together. The perfect blend
Thank you Michelle for your sharing.
No matter what career you choose, you’re going to deal with people like that, because they’re all over 😼
I like and agree with your comment. Sometimes I wish I back on deployment to Iraq or Afghanistan because it was simple life, complete the mission and take care of your soldiers. But as combat veterans we have to be resilience in America daily work place.
I use the same eye brow pencil! I love that pencil by benefit!
Bravo to you for following your heart! May the next career choice be wonderful and everything you want it to be. 🧡🧡🧡🧡
I get it with giving up for nursing. I used to strive and think it was what I wanted to do but now I realized after 3 years, it's not the same passion I onced had for it. I do understand that it's not for anyone and there will always be nurses or health care professionals that do it more for the money. Good luck with IT and trust it's never too late to give up on the right career. I'm turning 24 and I realized comparing myself with other people isn't the way to do things. I have to focus on my career path first
so you gave up on nursing ? I'm turning 24 in 2 months and I started a computer science degree this year . But now I kinda wanna get into nursing : ( my Asian parents always wanted me to work in the medical sector . But I insisted on going for an IT career because tech payments are tempting and not to mention about their flexible schedules. Now I'm thinking a BscN gonna always come in handy and it's a noble carrier . Idk I'm lost and I'm really sad 😢
Kudos for you🎉 do you what you enjoy and not what others want you to do. I too come from an Asian household. Glad you have a very supportive partner. Nurses are great and make a lot of money but it’s not for everyone. Especially if you see the dark side like with any other job. But thank for this video. Very moving. ❤