I’ve been a nurse for a year and a half and the thing is, I’m a good nurse. I have the compassion, skill and the honesty. The problem is… it takes too much out of you. Mentally and Physically. So I completely understand your take. A lot of people who leave are great nurses it just wears and tears you like crazy. Even after just a short time working as one.
I've been a nurse for five years and I know I'm a DAMN good nurse. The biggest task that I've been struggling with is the reminder that being over it, doesn't mean you aren't good at it. Being tired and wanting to exit, doesn't mean you're a terrible nurse or that you just aren't good at it. And we need to divorce ourselves from that notion despite every other person and their mother (usually people who aren't even nurses) trying to beat it into you that a nurse is only as good as the abuse their willing to withstand on the job. If you know you're a good nurse, then you're a fantastic nurse...that's true whether you remain at bedside or not; and leaving it doesn't cancel or reverse that.
I’m a paramedic who was accepted into a bridge program for RN. I withdrew from the program. Even though I enjoy medicine and taking care of patients. I could not bring myself to accept losing my mental and physical health in school studying 5-8 hours a day losing sleep for a healthcare system that truly does not care about patients like I do. Do I regret withdrawing? Honestly, I’m not sure. I think about it daily at times but I’m not sure. I’m 28 years old. I’m getting up in age and need to figure out my career plan. I work for a fire department right now but I know I want out. I just want a career that I’m not losing myself in the process for a system that is broken.
This speaks to my soul! How do you turn away from a career that’s supposed to “help” people only to find out that it has become something different? Sounds like you followed your gut!
@@sarahtoler5878 Absolutely. I can’t pretend like it didn’t hurt. It was one of my hardest decisions to date but I’m hoping my new path will open more doors. I’m currently looking into IT. Maybe cybersecurity but at the end of the day, medicine is my true passion but I don’t have the heart to keep ripping off bandaids and reusing the same one. The system is broken and it’s better off without me.
@@MattCosta. I am not, but not for lack of trying. I was an audiologist and burnt out faster than a match. It was not “medical” enough and really didn’t allow for much hands on patient care. I kept beginning new programs but felt like you. Something was pulling me back and that was pre-pandemic.
I needed this. I just transitioned into a wound care role because I hated being a nurse, thinking that it would be the next best thing for me. Nope. I still hate nursing. Well not hate, I severely dislike the field. It gives me more anxiety and depression. I'm going to school to get a Culinary Arts degree and be a private Chef for a while. You literally were my prayer last night. I needed direction and guidance and I'm ready to just dive deep into my next best thing. I would rather be home with my kids, cook with them and enjoy life rather than do nursing. I want to eventually open my own restaurant which has always been my dream! You're absolutely right. I have to do this fearlessly!
Excellent video 👏🏼 I'm a nurse working in a hospital. I've been doing this for 10 years and I'm so over it. I feel what you said so deeply. The UA-cam algorithm brought me here lol. I've been comparing nursing to a toxic relationship. It constantly abuses you (verbally, physically, mentally), but gives you just enough so you feel like you can't find better anywhere else. I'm so tired of feeling trapped 🤦🏽♀️
Oh girl, don't feel trapped. There is sooo much out there. I'm leaving my full time nursing job and going seasonal instead. I decided to get my CDL. I have my permit so far and am starting school next week. The goal is to team drive with my husband and experience the open road with him. Maybe in the future own our own semi truck. The company goes to 48 states. I can't wait. ❤
If nurses were allowed to not tolerate abuse from patients and other nurses all of this would stop. But this is a business, they treat it as a business and people can act like assholes and get away with it because they are paying
This is so very true. I worked as an Rn for 32 years until I became disabled. I loved being a nurse but it in retrospect I paid a high price spiritually, mentally, and physically. Compassion fatigue is so real. I kept trying different areas in nursing in order to find some type of work life balance. It just wasn't there. The industry and your peers would guilt you because you wouldn't work extra when called. Nursing is like nothing else. So much responsibility falls to the nurse with little support from the industry. No we are dealing with med errors being criminalized! There's really no incentive the be a nurse anymore.
I’m so glad you made this video. There is a toxic culture in nursing of “once a nurse, always a nurse” in quite a literal meaning. You are allowed to move on from that chapter in your life. I believe a lot of the negativity is truly from jealousy and mutual unhappiness, and you are allowed to have different careers in your lifetime. You are allowed to pívot your career, change your specialty, and even jump into a whole new path. Know there are people out here that support your movement and growth ❤️
This is absolutely me! I just quit graduate school, halfway through, with a 4.0 gpa to move into tech. I’ve been a nurse for 9 years now and I’m just done! Major kudos to anyone who is unhappy and decides to take the leap to step away.
I’ve been a nurse for over 45 years and an AGACNP for 25 years. I quit three years ago due to a cancer diagnosis. Once through treatment I decided to work in a free clinic. Since, I’ve felt so free. There is so much need in my community and I can choose how I deliver care and education. Lots of doors are able to be opened. Good luck.
Major shout out to my sister Erin who sent me this video and who was also brave enough to walk away from this soul sucking profession. I have witnessed the joy she exudes as a result. She is now able to pour into herself and focus on the things that resonate with her spirit. Watching her and being revived in this video is giving me the courage I need to step away as well especially after my Dr informed me that my own health is suffering as a result. Ten years in ICU/Trauma and I have gained nothing but PTSD/depression, back pain and time that I can never get back with my baby & husband. I want to be free from this…
I left nursing after four years. I still work in healthcare, but on the IT side now and it is so much more sane. There are days when I miss interacting with patients, but it's not worth it for all the grief and poor quality of life I was dealing with.
Rewatching this after now working in my 3rd nursing job in my wee little 2 years of being a nurse. I hate nursing for all of the reasons you mentioned and much more. I’m tired. And at this point I just want to be unemployed until I find something else to do (maybe my “unicorn” job, which I don’t think exists in healthcare). Thanks for posting this video, reminds me that I’m not alone in all of this ❤
I think this video is awesome for anyone who needs to hear it. I am a bedside nurse and getting up and going to work to becoming more and more difficult. MY body aches and my mind is unfocused. We work so hard in a broken system, with management that doesn't care about us, patients that think we are their servants and a hospital system built solely on prophet. I support anyone who wants to follow their happiness. This world is filled with too many people that just work for the check.
This video spoke to me. I’ve been an RN for 10 years. I had a very hard time in nursing school (pregnant, abusive relationship, then single mom), it was a struggle to graduate. Being a nurse was a huge part of my identity. It was who I was, but truth be told, I hated it. I had anxiety going into work every time. I was mentally and physically exhausted. The pandemic made me reevaluate everything. I quit and I now work from home as a nurse care manager. Best decision I’ve ever made, but I know people look at me like I’m not “a real nurse”, or I wasn’t strong enough to handle it. Whatever. I am happier now and that’s all that matters. It takes courage to take this step . I’m glad you’re talking about it. I hope more nurses will be encouraged to let go of titles and expectations and just focus on what makes them happy.
omg i am in a situation right now. i am in the first year of nursing studies. I don't like it, i feel frustrated, me mother conviced me because is a profession that can help me to find a job easier. I have anciety, the only thinking inmy mind are that i cant work in long hours or to take care to clean strangers. i dont know i am feeling bad
I've been a nurse for 18 years. This year, I've decided to change career to a completely different field. To be honest, my parents convinced me to be a nurse. It was not my decision. I felt guilty at first, however I realize that there are many ways to help people!!!
Thank you for this video. You are not alone. Who cares what others say, you have one life to live. Failure is staying in a career that’s not satisfying for the sake other’s options.
I can totally relate. I have an AA in Public Policy, a BA in Psychology and obtained my MS in Assistive Technology Studies & Human Services back in December 2020. All that schooling and I'm currently holding a government position that only requires a high school diploma. I get crap from family and friends, but my mental health, the amazing pay and benefits outweigh any negativity thrown my way. All in all, always DO YOU! It's okay to change your mind!
Thank you for reminding us that it's okay to change your mind!!! A lot of us have guilt after all the education and time we've put into something to make a change. Nothing is worth your mental health and peace.
I've been a nurse for 21 years and finally left when I was furloughed in April 2020. I'm never looking back and love my life as a business owner helping other nurses start their own businesses. Looking back, I've always wanted to leave. In my first year of nursing, I left and went to work at Target. I should have followed my first instinct and left earlier!
@@naana-scelyne6370 my nursing business is my UA-cam handle (ReNursing Edu) and helps nurses make moves in their professional careers through NP education and nurse business education (courses, membership, ect). I also have an agency that provides UA-cam channel management and ghostwriting services.
Hey Liz, I just wanted to say THANK YOU for this video. Watching this really touched my heart. I'm an NYC bedside nurse who was diagnosed with PTSD from the pandemic hitting us healthcare workers horribly. I ended up getting covid, ended up in ICU, luckily I survived. Have been on leave for a year, going back to work next week, and I'm completely done with nursing. I'm saddened because I worked really hard in school and really enjoyed learning nursing but realized that this healthcare SYSTEM as a whole is corrupted and runned by MBA. To be honest when I start seeing (specifically the hospital setting) the decisions administrators make that hurt patients and nurses, I begin to understand that this is a business and the goal of any business is to profit and to profit more every year passing. I already told my manager that I will be giving her my letter of resignation on my first day back. I already applied to an agency that does per diem positions for NYC schools. A friend does this job and she says she "loves" it and how low the stress is. I'm having a hard time quitting my hospital job, not sure why the internal struggle. I feel "bad" for quitting nursing. I feel like I'm giving up on my patients, on the amazing people that are suffering from illness, giving up on my amazing fellow nurses. I'm realizing that the truth is that this healthcare system won't allow me to be there for my patients and for myself. And I am learning to choose ME first. My cup must be full before I can pour it onto others. I am PIVOTING into real estate now. I'm currently working with real estate investors and agents and working to leave nursing altogether. THANK YOU LIZ. I needed to see this video. I need to be OKAY with leaving nursing. I should be HAPPY to leave nursing because it taught me so much and it will allow me to take that same work ethic and put it into another career. What is also tough is hearing my parents saying I'm making a wrong decision but I ask myself this life-changing question, "IF I LOVE MYSELF TRULY AND DEEPLY, WOULD I DO THIS". The truth is if I love myself I would leave nursing. I need to choose ME, I need to listen to MY heart, I need to PRIORITIZE MYSELF. Just thinking about going back to work there is this knot in the chest and full of anxiety. That would not be choosing me. I'm learning that you are on the right path if what you are doing brings you joy. THANK YOU LIZ for this video. THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!
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@@30bananaguy you are such an inspiration!!!! You beautifully articulated what I tell my clients as a therapist to prioritize your needs because you cannot help anyone pouring from an empty cup. No job is worth your HEALTH AND MENTAL WELL being to take care of others while destroying yourself mentally.
This resonated so much with me. I had gone through all of the hard work for 3.5 years of doing my prereqs for nursing school but in late July my mom was diagnosed with Hodgkins lymphoma, and ever since then I want nothing to do with medicine. Being part of the patient side, honestly broke me. I don't have the empathy to give to patients that they deserve in nursing. I received a lot of backlash from friends and family after completing all my prereqs, but in truth I'm relieved. I felt like I was always fighting the medicine track, so much so that I was grinding my teeth at night. I feel so much better after realizing that nursing isn't for me, and just like you said, that's okay.
Honestly, I believe the way we’ve been treated by large corporations due to their greed, has had a lot of influence on nurses wanting to leave. But it’s not just nursing that’s all to blame but rather the greed that employers have.
I left nursing almost two years ago after 23 years in the field. I had intentions of returning in the future. I struggled with guilt and a loss of identity when I left and it was very difficult for a while. It’s such a psychological game that is played with our mind. The more time has passed I realize how much of a toll nursing takes on us mentally, physically, emotionally, and even spiritually. It’s like Stockholm syndrome. I feel like I have broken the pattern of abuse and finally feel free. Things need to change before I would ever consider going back. There were definitely moments of reward and I feel that I did make a difference in many peoples lives. I just can’t do it at the cost of my own health anymore. Best wishes in your new journey! Don’t let anyone make you feel bad about your decision!
In a similar place, but not an NP, I am an RN. I honestly have not liked any nursing jobs I have had, but I don't know what else to do... Maybe you should interview some people from other career fields like engineering, IT etc and run them on your Channel. I tell my mom how bad nursing is and why I keep quitting nursing jobs and going back to EMS, and she keeps saying "you just need to suck it up!". Non nurses don't get it!! Thanks for the video!
Same here. I’ve never had a nursing job I loved and at this point want nothing to do with the field. I get told the same thing by my mother, which just makes the whole thing that more frustrating.
I changed my mind last year. Enough is enough. And I am so glad I did it. And I love working in an entirely field where I am not using my degree, took a huge pay cut and could not be happier! Happiest I have ever been.
🎯 This video is spot on! I'm a nurse care manager and this job is draining the life out of me. I have more migraines with this job than I have ever had in the past. My blood pressure typically runs in the 110s/80s and I check it often at work and find it in the 150s and 160s/90s. I have developed anxiety issues. My case load is too high, the needs are too great, and the resources are too scarce. I wish you luck in your future endeavors.
After 12 years as a nurse, i support you 100 percent. I just want to be happy and be in a safe and peaceful environment. Im working on leaving the bed side and will work on getting msn in education. Thank you for your transparency and honesty ❤️🙏
I am SOOOOO glad to hear this post! I am an RN who has left direct patient care and am starting a new telehealth job. I am so very excited that I have pivoted, because I have been miserable for so long! I completely relate to the guilty feelings and the negative self talk about hands-on nursing just not being what you want anymore. Let’s face it, healthcare is broken. It isn’t what we signed up for, so regrouping to make ourselves happy, while still using our education is a GOOD thing. Thank you so much for speaking the truth, because you make me feel like I’m not alone. 🤓
Liz I am going through the same thing, I just graduated, and I just started my first job, I am ready to quit, I don't want to be an NP either, my health is more important than money or being miserable every day, healthcare sucks. As I was watching your video I was crying, I can relate to you, I regretted going to NP school, I got so stressed out during NP, it caused my health to declined, and now that I started I feel like crying every day, and do not want to work, I am trying to look for something else too. Wish you the best, and I hope I can leave my job, I am a single parent, and I am so unhappy now, hopefully, I will smile again like you
Hi Liz! I'll admit I did start following your channel because of your RN/NP background. That being said, it's your personality and vulnerability that keeps me here. I relate to everything you said in this video & just want you to know that whatever direction you decide to take with your channel i'll be sticking around to watch ❤
Hey Liz, I’m gonna share with you something someone told me. YOU are the only one who’s living YOUR life, you have to make decisions based on that and not the haters 😆. Happy to see you’re taking charge.
I’m a FNP, been in this profession for 14 years not counting RN time. I’m subscribed to your channel. I think you are an amazing person. You are brutally and refreshingly honest. You are vulnerable and that is an endearing quality that is so rare. Your mother is right you are pivoting, and this is okay. You are finding you and your calling, achieving your NP was just a step not the destination. You are my therapist right now as no one out there has collectively taken time to analyze the impact life and the current state of our health care system has on nurses. For this i thank you. So you are doing good work. I appreciate what you do and please continue. People always criticize others that reflects more on them than you.
New grad (ABSN) here on day 4 of orientation at my shiny hospital. I have no illusions: the next year is going to be awful. I can always go back to writing software or something. But for today, I still want to do this. So, you have my full and complete attention, even if I'm going to ignore your excellent advice.
@@ACL7211 I took a leave of absence after watching my wife die from a metric buttload of comorbidities. She teased me about becoming a nurse, and I didn't want to do it. But after a 6 month vacation, and dealing poorly with grief and ... the usual excuses ... I started looking for a way to heal. I hated hospitals. I didn't think I would make a good nurse. So, I decided to face those fears head-on and "do hard things". It was only supposed to last a semester or two, then I'd wake up and go back to my normal life. At some point, I realized I actually wanted to keep going. "It was a calling" is probably shorthand for "I have a severe mental illness and this seems to help."
@@RickEvansOrlando same same same! hated healthcare bc of what I saw my mom go through and this def feels like a calling although I haven't graduated yet and I am already burnt out. Good luck to you at your shiny hospital. I am sure your wife would be laughing and proud
That's so cool, I am quitting my job as a Software Developer next week, and start nursing school in January :) Any advice for going from programming to nursing?
Hi Liz. I rarely ever comment but I've only been practicing as a nurse for a year and a half, still working on my BSN after getting an ADN.. and I just got hired as a dog bather, trying to get back into my passion. I know nursing isn't for me, and I appreciate the honesty in this video and it makes me feel so much better knowing that its okay to change my mind, and that im not alone. So thank you for this video and know that there are many of us nurses out there that support you.
Hi Cara, I am currently going for my ADN & I have so much self doubt but I really want to get a degree… Are you able to start working as a nurse after you receive your ADN?
I got my BSN after working as a dental assistant for 4 years. I just wanted to challenge myself, but didn't have the guts to go for what I really wanted. I already had the credits and nursing is always 'in demand' so I just went for it. I knew it wasn't for me before I even graduated. Almost a year into nursing, I'm allowing myself to try new things on my days off and I'm super blessed that my mom is supportive of me no matter what I do ( as long as I can provide for myself lol). Your message definitely resonates with me and I'm looking forward to seeing how things go for you! Nursing is what I do, not who I am.
OMG I feel the same way. I just graduated nursing this year and I knew one year into it that it wasn’t for me but I still finished it anyways. Now my challenge is if I should look for a patient care setting for the skills but that’s not what I like but I feel I gotta do it to be more marketable and the skills and to be a true nurse or at least that’s how other nurses are making me feel cause I am fresh outta nursing school. I am curious to know what you decided to do with your career?
There are many nurses that SHOULD do this. Too many nurses in bedside care that don’t want to be there which projects onto their patients and fellow nurses. I’m so sick of people doing what they don’t want to do and then take it out on everyone else. Kudos to you for reflecting and doing what’s best for you.
That's so true, I work in Nursing in the UK and morale is low. I work with Nurses even senior nurses who don't want to be there. They're rude to patients and colleagues and I feel like saying to them why are they in this job?
Take care of yourself, you are not a failure. Haters will do what they do HATE. There are more of us than you know and we do the same thing. You are real. You are good enough to do whatever you want to do. The public does not know what we know. 365/24 hours a day you are a NP. The system is nuts. I feel you.
THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO. The feelings of guilt and not being good enough is the same feelings I have right now as a nurse working in a hospital. I came to a conclusion about doing hospital nursing. It is not for me and Im okay with that. I want to still be a nurse but I want to enjoy what I do even when the stress arise. I also want to get back writing again. I enjoyed writing abstract stories but I haven't done it since high school. So I truly understand where you coming from and I pray that you achieve whatever you have in mind. My mentor always told me that I have options and that the more I get to know and love myself, the more I will discover about myself! Congrats to you for being honest with yourself!
You have to do what feels right to you. Don't worry about what all the people think. Different seasons of life, call for different things. Find something you feel passionate about and go with it, even if it isn't nursing anymore. I'm excited to see what you do next.
Currently an AGACNP student and a full time RN in an ICU. We will continue to follow in anything you do because you have such an enormous, pure heart and you're a wonderful character. sending you tons of love & support
Don't worry about the haters. I have found in my own life that if they don't hate you for one thing they'll find something else to hate you for so what I'v 😭e learned is eliminate haters . Also I learned you can forgive people who hate you but doesn't really mean you have to have them around in your life anymore.
Congratulations to you....I quit nursing in September 2021 after 21 yrs as a bedside nurse in ICU..I always told people "nursing is my job, NOT who I am"..I would always get funny looks😕...I loved the science of helping people recover from an illness, the drugs involved, the calculations, the life saving machines that the nurses would monitor & control...it was just amazing to me to see them turn the corner...that's what I LOVED...now trying to figure out what I want to do now🙂
As I watched this, I connected with it on a deep level. I left teaching about a year and a half ago because I "couldn't cut it" anymore. I was tired of the bureaucracy, the uninformed administration, the taxing parents, the ridiculousness that is our American education system. I pivoted to the nursing field and will graduate in a few months from an ABSN program. I am so glad that you put this out there - the guilt that comes from pivoting careers is intense and it's hard listening to other people's comments about your personal desire for change. And the internal guilt was even harder for me - my identity was so wrapped up in being a teacher and it was incredibly hard to leave that. Thank you for normalizing pivoting. Thank you for speaking freedom into my life. Thank you for being ok with change. Keep being you and rocking it out, girl! I'll keep watching you, no matter what. :-)
I also left teaching last year! I'm pivoting to healthcare as well. I've been working as a Patient Care Technician to see how I like it. It's been 4 months and I've really been enjoying it. ☺️
I've been watching you since you passed boards...and I was still in school (we went to the same grad school)! When I started my first NP job I purchased your NP resources the night before.... after my first year as an NP ...my mental health was horrible. I found myself depressed, crying all the time (in secret) and irritable and upset...mad at the kids for bothering me when I was charting or bothering me when I was on call and had something urgent on the phone. I decided my health wasn't worth it. I quit my NP job...and found one I liked better...I'm still an NP but more doing research and charts. I love my job and nope...don't want to be in that setting again...mainly Cuz I don't want to be unhappy again. There are more things more important than money/recognition. Dr. Ken was a doctor and is now an actor, dr. Carson was a neurologist, now politician. Just start a different UA-cam channel and then you'll have 2 channels where you can add content. Good luck!
Hi Liz, I really resonate with your feelings! After being burnout as an inpatient nurse and finishing my FNP in Feb 2022, although I like nursing, I feel like I want to nurture my family life and practice more self-care. I realized unless I pulled back from the hustle and bustle I won't be able to do it. I feel so guilty admitting this to myself and my family, but it's the truth. I find more happiness in being a good mom and wife. Personally, I think doing something like telehealth or scaling down to part-time would be beneficial (for me). You have to do whatever is best for you and your family! Thanks for your honesty!
If you love kids and want a work life balance I would suggest being a school nurse!! In the previous district I was in most did not want to do it because of the pay (completely understandable) but a lot of schools did not have nurse, they would float the nurses to different schools, they would even want part time nurses. So just an option to think about and wish you all the best!
As a nurse, myself, of 26 years, I can sooo relate to your mindset. There is NEVER enough time to care for the patient the way they deserve, not to mention, too many corporate demands and insurance roadblocks for the job to be done and done right. You didn’t fail. You simply found out the success of this type job is impossible and are choosing to no longer participate in the overall nonsense. Proud of you! You are going in a positive direction and will help more people than you could ever imagine!
THIS! There are so many constraints in reality in healthcare--and it is very sad. When you go into this profession, you need to just be able to care for other humans...then you realize you have to do WAYYY too many things to leave any time for educating. The whole reality of bedside nursing is needing to talk to patients and families way more than you have time for. I am thrilled about this talk series because a lot of us US medical system viewers can RELATE to it!!!!
I called my changes in work experience an “existential crisis”. Omg the part of feeling like a failure or guilty about changing your mind about your career is sooooo true!!
At a different time in your life, this NP path was for you. It did everything you needed it to do, provided financial income, help patients, and time with your family. Now, it doesn't check your boxes and meet Liz's requirements for living a happy life, and that is okay. You saw it through. You worked at it and that is an amazing feat within itself. I appreciate your example in allowing yourself to pivot, to grow, to steer your life from what it was to what it could be.
It's ok to change your focus. You invested in your knowledge and work. Work at home and guide your family with their growth. Your smart and truthful. Look at campaign for nursing and choose to work on an issue or cause you are interested in. Remember how privledged you are that your family can survive without your income. Many women don't have that choice. ❤
Absolutely great response and I’ve read almost all of them to gain some perspective 😂 as I am on the journey to completing my pre-req for Nursing School. World needs more encouraging and high vibe peeps like you. 👌🏾
Life is too short to continue doing something you don't like or isn't giving you the rewards you anticipated. It's great that you know what you do want to do- some people never get to that point and are stuck in a job that isn't for them. It takes a great deal of courage to know when to switch gears and then follow through! What you learned as a nurse will serve you well in your future endeavors.
Lab tech here who can relate to everything you’ve said. I just recently left my job after putting it off too late. It’s affected all areas of my life. Mental and physical health issues. I am now looking into getting out of healthcare altogether, as much as I like what I do. Health authority is toxic so it won’t matter where I go.
I so appreciate this. I cried watching this video because i went through this exact thing and i felt so alone in this. The guilt was so real. Thank you for this video it was so helpful
Yes! I have been so burned out on nursing. For me though, it started back in nursing school. I’ve been working as a registered nurse for the past 8 years, hoping it would get better, trying different areas, until I finally broke down at the beginning of the year. I’m still working in home health because I’m supporting my household and need income. I’ve been trying to figure out where to go/what to do. I just can’t work for the current healthcare system we have. I’m proud of you for doing what feels right for you, I know it’s not easy to walk away from this career. But if it feels right then it’s absolutely the right decision. Thank you for sharing this!
@@prettygirl_1626 Well, I left my job in May and am currently unemployed. I’m not sure what my next move will be at this point. I don’t want to go back to nursing, but it’s all I know. I’m looking at remote nursing jobs right now to cut down on some of the other stressors that affected me with work (commuting, bad weather, having to go into dirty/dangerous homes, wondering how I’m going to make it to work when I can barely get out of bed). I’m trying to work on my mindset to see that while I might work for a corrupt money-hungry system, my job is to help people and I am going to do that to the best of my ability with the tools that I have. It’s a shift of focus, and it’s tough to ignore that nasty side of it and just focus on the good we do. Companies make it difficult when they criticize and pile on more work and act like it’s to benefit the patients/clients and not their bottom line. Sure, Jan. The TLDR answer: I resigned and am currently not working.
I admire your candidness so much. A profession isn't necessarily who you are it's just a part of what you do. I'm an NP myself and it's so sad how little time we are allotted for patients. Best of luck with all of your future endeavors. 💕We are constantly changing and evolving. We are not the same person that we were 10 years ago. So yes, we can change our minds and we have to take care of ourselves first and foremost if we are able to give and help others.
Thank you for being brave enough to claim back your LIFE! Your time, your mental, physical and emotional health, your relationships and your family. Thank you for taking the step to be happy and free. Immediate admiration for your self-honesty and courage to take the step. Congrats and all the best!
I'm actually not disappointed to see you do this, I'm really interested (for myself, because I am hoping to graduate school and someday have a non-traditional nursing job) and excited (for you to pivot and have a better life). You may lose some viewers, but I'll sure hang around for a bit! Good for you to do the soul searching and really lean into your next steps for your career. Best of luck on your journey!
💜💜 normalize CHANGING YOUR MIND. This is supposed to a great thing about nursing, that there are so many different roles you can take. That’s a huge reason why I chose nursing.
Thank you for this. Im in the process of applying for NP but every cell in my body is telling me No! I'm thankful for your honesty. It gives me courage to tell my family I've changed my mind.
Hi Liz! I'm a nursing student and the amount of respect myself and my friends have for you is INSANE. Your honesty and openness is so appreciated, and--as a student who learns SO much from Lecturio--what you are doing right now is helping SO many people. Thank you for being you :)
I love how candid you’re with this subject. It’s very difficult to talk about for some. Just like you I’m over working in patient care. I’m an RN and working in another area of healthcare (non clinical/patient care) and I love it. It doesn’t make me less of a person/nurse or whatever. I’m just over it and needed a change of scenery. Healthcare is really going down the drain in the current direction.
Yeesss! I love it Liz! Please PLEAASSEE don’t feel bad or guilty. Think of it like this. We go through life in chapters. This is your new chapter. You didn’t waste your time or fail anything. You are simply starting your new chapter. Your previous chapter happened, it taught you a lot and you grew from it but it’s just time for a new chapter. When you think of it like that, it will help with the guilt. I’m in the same boat, I decided I’m leaving my paramedic job and I just dropped my prerequisites for nursing school and the guilt ate me alive until I changed my mindset on it all. I’m calling it “Chapter 2”. Chapter 1 was great and taught me a lot but now it’s time for my new chapter :)
Thank you so much Liz! I feel the same. I did my undergrad in psychology and after I graduated decided that it's not for me. People would judge me for taking different classes and trying out new things to figure out what I really want to do. I completely support you!
Hi Liz, I have been away from bedside for 11 years and recently took a PRN bedside. I am also a nurse educator and doing nurse coaching. I am so glad I took an 11 year break and I am also glad I am back with a different perspective. What I am trying to say is yes! It’s ok to change your mind and to change your mind back too. Saying goodbye for now may not be goodbye forever or maybe it will. And that is ok too.
Thank you for posting this video. I’ve been an NP in primary care and I’m over it. 15 minutes is not enough to truly help patients and you just get filled with anxiety and can’t provide the proper care at the end of the day
I'm currently in school for my FNP and have already decided that I want to do something different. I am only continuing in case I change my mind and also as a personal accomplishment as this was at one point my dream career.
This is so relatable! Thank you! I have gone through this identity crisis panic repeatedly in the process of getting married and having a baby and that affecting my nursing career. Ultimately I am so thankful that God defines my value and not what I do.
You’d make an excellent counselor! I’m not a nurse, but am thinking of leaving the field of education. It’s hard to let go of guilt/sense of duty, that part of my identity, and also the feeling of loss of my investment. Everything you said in this video made me feel comforted and hopeful. Thank you for taking the time to share and please know that you are making a difference for people across all professions and from all walks of life. We appreciate you!!
Love you Liz. I also had a career change. It is VERY painful to think about the schooling I did to get there. I turned my education into an industry job, paid my student debt, met my husband and we have a beautiful daughter. I am so grateful for the blessings in my life, I need to focus on that. I still have the negative self talk, but its getting easier over time. You're amazing, your Destiny is written in the stars. There is a plan for all of us!!!!!💖💞💖
Thanks for this video. What you describe is exactly what I have been feeling. I have been a nurse for 33 years and I am SO over it! I have been teaching for the last 20+ which is much better but still I feel that I am ready for a complete change. Follow your own path, don't let anyone tell you what is best for you.
I have been in healthcare for almost a decade and I’m now doing my nursing prerequs. This is my BIGGEST fear. My husband is making so many sacrifices so I can go back to school and I’m friggin terrified of hating it when I actually finish.
If you're doing RN there are many doors to go down. Generally you need 3 years of acute care experience before you can move to roles in offices/more low-key like education or something similar. It's not that bad if you find a decent workplace and the right doorway. The first few years may be a lot of stress due to learning but you will be fine.
I left bedside nursing a year ago after 23 years in the ED and 2 covid surges. I started having recurrent nightmares and severe insomnia. Too many new grads and not enough resources. I had tremendous guilt for about 6 months and also have depression because I had to leave a career that I absolutely loved and that my identity was wrapped up in. Thank you for this video. I am happy and content and found a job, that while it's not near as fulfilling or rewarding, it's sustainable for years to come and I can find other things to do. I have thought many times about working from time to time, but like you, I JUST DON'T WANT TO!! So.....I'm not!! Thank you for this!
Thank you so much for this!!! I appreciate you. I feel like this now, I don’t want to be a NP anymore but I keep going because all of my education might go to “waste”. I just keep waiting for that unicorn job to come. I would like to have a better work life balance and am not okay with settling. You give me inspiration to keep looking for something right for me be it in education, management or the clinical setting. I can’t out right quit but you give me inspiration to keep looking for something better. I feel I’m meant for something more!
Thank YOU for sharing! I know I was incredibly lucky to just be able to literally fall into my role with Lecturio, but having the courage and willpower to keep looking for what's right for you is hard and I applaud you for it!
Love this! Prioritizing self doesn’t make you “selfish”. It’s also a beautiful transition in life to be able to separate what you do from who you are. You are on the realest, most amazing journey… the journey to your most authentic self. Absolutely, no failure detected here. Congratulations! I hope it’s been an amazing year 😊
I had to PIVOT recently too!! 17yr LVN with Bedside exp. graduated with my BSN last yr, got what I thought would be my DREAM job in L&D...9 Mos. In decided for the most part I JUST DIDN'T want to do Bedside nursing anymore. I felt just like you! But God literally brought a wonderful opportunity to me that has given me the best wk life balance and fulfillment!! Do it!!!
Thank you so much for this video!! I'm 28 and I've changed my mind! I invested 4 years of education, a lot of money and 4 years of working as a graphic designer. And I want to become a nurse now... Which is how I found your videos. I have been feeling all the guilt, sense of failure, and doubt that I want to make such a radical shift at this stage in my life. In a way I'm doing great but I've been wanting to get into health care for years but the shift felt too dramatic. Thank you for sharing!
I needed to hear this!!! I am in the middle of applying to nursing schools, and I feel like I am changing my mind! And omg it is so scary because I have no idea what I will do instead. But you are right, there is a whole world of opportunities out there!! I'm so happy for you that you are doing what feels right! Thank you for sharing, for inspiring, and I can't wait to see what is next for you! You have such a beautiful spirit
I graduated 6 months ago, always wanted to be a nurse and now I don’t even feel energy to take the boards. I’m changing my mind without even starting. Just heard so many horror stories from other nurses. I’m so lost right now. I may go back to veterinary assistant, i love animals and feels much better.
I think most people in nursing school know it can really be a sucky job in reality, but the thing is there is so much flexibility in nursing that usually most people can find something they like. outpatient, aesthetic, OR, public health. and people who really hate it no matter what still can make money doing travel nursing lol
Hi Liz. I am an NP since 2012 and RN since 2009. You have literally been the only person that I can relate to since realizing that I no longer want to be an NP. I was not happy when working in the hospital as an RN and thought that going back to become an NP would be the best thing for me but now I am not so sure. I loved working with and helping people but after experiencing burnout from all of the issues with the healthcare system I quit recently. Watching your video really helped me to calm down and put things into perspective. You are my inspiration keep going!!!
I’ve been a trauma ICU nurse for a little over two years now. I’m feeling everything you talked about. Our identity is tied to our profession and we don’t want to be viewed as a quitter. However, I’m sick of the nights, weekends and holidays. I work nights so I don’t have to deal with the day bull crap, but this leaves me drained on my days off. I was looking into NP school as a solution to my problems, but I feel like I would be exchanging one problem for another. I know there isn’t a perfect job and sometimes we have to suck it up and work hard. I have no idea what I would pivot to. I don’t want to lose my skill set by transitioning to a lower acuity setting but it seems the only way I will have work life balance is to drop the ICU life. I want my cake and eat it too ha ha!
Kudos to you!! I got accepted to NP school and just started this week. My heart isn’t in it ❤ I’m ready for career change. After being a nurse almost 20yrs, I’m ready to do me and follow my body.
This is gospel Liz. I’ve been a nurse for 5 years. I’ve watched your channel since I was taking pre-reqs. I’ve consistently waffled between APRN & Nursing Edu. I’ve settled on nursing edu because it really lights my fire. I love bringing knowledge to people and vice versa. When I spoke aloud that I wanted to go into education I few of the nurses I used to trust voiced displeasure because they all felt I’d be a stronger fit as an APRN, but after shadowing a few NPs I cannot bring myself to take that path. It’s not me. I love that we have many ppl who want to become APRNs, but I’ve made my mind up on education. Quite honestly, seeing the state of the current barely functional health care system we have, I saw the writing on the walls. You are incredibly brave & honorable for speaking your truth and being open about YOUR feelings. I respect the hell out of you for this one. Please continue to make choice that light your fire as well. Be well.
Thank you. I needed to hear this. I drifted into depression as a nursing student. I now know for sure that this job is not for me. I will find a different way to help people.
Liz you have helped me so much through nursing; the scary bits, the fun bits, and the unsure bits. I think you're most valuable attributions on this platform is you are so transparent. So many social media nurses sugarcoat this field, and I appreciate that you are always honest with us.
Thank you so much for posting this … I really needed to hear this right now. I’ve been a bedside nurse for the last two years and although there are aspects of my job I love there are parts that have really been affecting my mental and physical health and so I took a job at a non bedside position.. I felt like a failure and still do feel this way. And although I’m feeling way better mentally and physically it’s really hard to let go of the feeling that I failed. So thank you for giving me the pep talk I needed to hear 👏
THANK YOU FOR YOUR HONESTY AND ENCOURAGEMENT! I am also an FNP in primary care and am already burnt out after 2 years. Everything you said resonated with me as I recently put my notice in without a real Plan other than taking a break. Liz , my prayer for you in this season away from practicing as an NP (however long it may be) is that this break refreshes you and restores you in a way you only imagined. Thank you for being a brave voice. May God bless your next!!!
Clicked as soon I saw the notification. I am finishing up my prerequisites and applying to Nursing for September 2022. You really inspire me. I have worked as a CNA and experienced burnout. I feel like there needs to be more support for health care workers of ALL levels.
Liz, you have helped me through NP school. You have a gift, no matter if you stay in nursing or not. Protect your energy and space! You are successful because know you would rather be happy than obliging to the pressure of our poor healthcare system. I feel as you do. Some people don’t care about people anymore. It’s about how many patients can been seen = more money. Thank you for this video!
This really helped me. Right now I can’t, but this encouraged me that in the future if I choose to go a different route, it is OK and I am not a failure. I have struggled with the same feelings as you, both in my career as an NP, and in thoughts of going a different route. Thank you so much for sharing this encouraging video!
I’m in nurse practitioner sch and Its been the most scariest thing I’ve done in my life… and i appreciate your honesty! You just gained a subscriber! I can’t wait to see the amazing things you’re going to do! 💗
I also changed my mind. I’m a medical assistant- was pushed into “go be a nurse so you can then be a NP” but when I fell sick with Covid I realized how broken our system is. How money hungry it is, and I want nothing to do with it. So now I’m pivoting as well.
I have wanted to be a labor and delivery nurse since I was eight years old. I practiced in pediatrics for 3.5 years and learned I hated being a nurse. I finally switched to L&D about 8 months ago and enjoy it A LOT more, but it is still healthcare. I do not like working in healthcare. It sucks. I could list all the reasons why, but as a nurse yourself I can imagine you are very aware of constantly feeling inadequate because you do not actually have the time to care for the patients like you always wanted due to our current healthcare system. I can barely even admit out loud that I am not IN LOVE with L&D nursing after wanting to do it for so long. It makes me feel sick. My husband and I are planning to buy our first real estate investment this year and hope to eventually have time freedom and never have to step foot to work in a hospital again.
I, too, joined nursing swearing I wanted to do L&D. I was so excited and just knew that it was what I was going to do for the rest of my days. I took me three years to get onto an L&D unit and I lasted eight months. I was SO wrong and I'm still wondering how I was THAT mistaken on the type of nurse I wanted to be. I've been through the hospital, facility, private care, doctor's office, and currently home health and it's exactly the same. It's time to go; when it's time to go...it's TIME to go. I wish you the absolute best!
What I did, was get an inexpensive condo. I had to replace a lot of things, this year. But, I can live on my disability and lived on practically nothing last year. So, if you hate your job, you can go that route. Maybe then, you won’t have to work or could take on less hours. Or, find a job in a clinic. I wouldn’t suggest, pediatric or obstetric home health care. Because, though you can find Monday through Friday, there’s long hours and some jobs will require weekends and holidays, where you are on call. I was a nurse and have a mental illness. Even as a coder in a home health system, working at home, the job was soul sucking and I have gotten so much worse, that I am an emotional cripple. I am on a lot more medications, retired and still am suffering. It’s like cancer of the mind. It has only gotten worse, and I am trying not to let it get, any worse.
@@JumpTossCatchi'm interested in being a L&D nurse, may i know more about your experience please like why you ended up leaving? It would be very helpful for me, thank you.
This video grabbed me this morning! I have been a nurse for 32 years and I was in FNP school because I thought that was what I always wanted to do and maybe 20 years ago I would have finished. However, I recently pushed paused and during that break I realized none of this makes me happy. I don’t know what I want to do but it isn’t FNP and possibly not even nursing. My family is so disappointed and my identity is so confused right now. I am 54 though and I don’t feel as though I have life left to waste. I hope I find something that fulfills me as it seems you have. Thank you for putting your feelings out there and changing the world of nursing education.
Thank you for sharing this! I am in similar situation, 20 yes ago I would have pushed through. At 52, I love nursing but not sure if NP is worth my time. Think I feel it is just the logical next step, or maybe even a safety net to keep working as long as I can.
@@toniajostes2205 yes my thoughts exactly. I think I need to pause and think longer lol n it before making a decision. Best wishes for peace and happiness on your journey wherever it takes you!
I feel exactly the same way about my career in corporate America so I've been considering nursing. I struggle a lot with feeling like a failure and letting other people down, especially since I've been extremely fortunate with career development support. Not sure 100% if and what I'll actually make the change to (nursing or otherwise), but it's weighing heavily on my mind. Sending you support during your pivot!
MG made me quit nursing after 39 yrs. I chose to do bedside to be able to do pt education,family education and because didn't want to carry 2 thousand primary pt load around here. I was really clear about wanting to be strong health advocate and fight bad administration. When you talk about 15 min visits, that is why it took so long to be diagnosed as didn't get decent exam,and history was abbreviated to fatigue and weakness not lack of proprioception, trouble focusing eyes, weakness comes and goes, SOB but not responsive to Albuterol. You are so right about our identity is totally entangled with nursing, it has been horrible to know I am physically unable to work,can't diagnose myself and have to submit to harried, people not listening to me and wondering who I am now that I can't be nurse, can't cross country ski and be active, productive... Hardest thing was apply for disability and fight when they said I still should do something while living on $400/mo from savings during a pandemic for which I had the Advanced disaster life support training while everything was a jumble and I was reduced to oxygen bleed in on bipap to keep sats up when sleep. I have had too many dark nights of the soul in nursing, from nursing, from healthcare in this country. A person who doesn't know nursing would glibly say I am depressed instead of she has moral injury with CPTSD. Still fighting my way toward the light. Wish you luck on your fight.
It’s been a tough couple of years for the nursing profession. Covid has really kicked all of our butts. God bless. You got this!!!! Regardless of what it is you got this!
This was exactly the message I needed to hear today. I’m a RN and am pivoting out of critical care specifically to get an MPH in order to work in health policy *idealist alert* and advocate for a universal health system. Having almost 8 years of feet on the ground experience as a SICU nurse has fostered resentment towards the “system”. Hearing your experience helps me feel less alone in that angst. It’s great that we have empathic providers who work incredibly hard like yourself, and who clearly want to help their patients, but it’s a shame that we operate in a system which is a barrier in and of itself for providers and patients alike. Kudos and cheers to you for rethinking the way patient education can be delivered and for experimenting with a less tradition format for increasing access to health knowledge.
I’ve been a nurse for a year and a half and the thing is, I’m a good nurse. I have the compassion, skill and the honesty. The problem is… it takes too much out of you. Mentally and Physically. So I completely understand your take. A lot of people who leave are great nurses it just wears and tears you like crazy. Even after just a short time working as one.
Yes!
I've been a nurse for five years and I know I'm a DAMN good nurse. The biggest task that I've been struggling with is the reminder that being over it, doesn't mean you aren't good at it. Being tired and wanting to exit, doesn't mean you're a terrible nurse or that you just aren't good at it. And we need to divorce ourselves from that notion despite every other person and their mother (usually people who aren't even nurses) trying to beat it into you that a nurse is only as good as the abuse their willing to withstand on the job. If you know you're a good nurse, then you're a fantastic nurse...that's true whether you remain at bedside or not; and leaving it doesn't cancel or reverse that.
Should I bother applying to nursing school ?
I’m a paramedic who was accepted into a bridge program for RN. I withdrew from the program. Even though I enjoy medicine and taking care of patients. I could not bring myself to accept losing my mental and physical health in school studying 5-8 hours a day losing sleep for a healthcare system that truly does not care about patients like I do. Do I regret withdrawing? Honestly, I’m not sure. I think about it daily at times but I’m not sure. I’m 28 years old. I’m getting up in age and need to figure out my career plan. I work for a fire department right now but I know I want out. I just want a career that I’m not losing myself in the process for a system that is broken.
This speaks to my soul! How do you turn away from a career that’s supposed to “help” people only to find out that it has become something different? Sounds like you followed your gut!
@@sarahtoler5878
Absolutely. I can’t pretend like it didn’t hurt. It was one of my hardest decisions to date but I’m hoping my new path will open more doors. I’m currently looking into IT. Maybe cybersecurity but at the end of the day, medicine is my true passion but I don’t have the heart to keep ripping off bandaids and reusing the same one. The system is broken and it’s better off without me.
@@MattCosta. heartbreaking but true. Feels like being cheated out of a dream, but the dream actually ends up being a nightmare!
@@sarahtoler5878 are you a nurse?
@@MattCosta. I am not, but not for lack of trying. I was an audiologist and burnt out faster than a match. It was not “medical” enough and really didn’t allow for much hands on patient care. I kept beginning new programs but felt like you. Something was pulling me back and that was pre-pandemic.
I needed this. I just transitioned into a wound care role because I hated being a nurse, thinking that it would be the next best thing for me. Nope. I still hate nursing. Well not hate, I severely dislike the field. It gives me more anxiety and depression. I'm going to school to get a Culinary Arts degree and be a private Chef for a while. You literally were my prayer last night. I needed direction and guidance and I'm ready to just dive deep into my next best thing. I would rather be home with my kids, cook with them and enjoy life rather than do nursing. I want to eventually open my own restaurant which has always been my dream! You're absolutely right. I have to do this fearlessly!
Excellent video 👏🏼 I'm a nurse working in a hospital. I've been doing this for 10 years and I'm so over it. I feel what you said so deeply. The UA-cam algorithm brought me here lol.
I've been comparing nursing to a toxic relationship. It constantly abuses you (verbally, physically, mentally), but gives you just enough so you feel like you can't find better anywhere else. I'm so tired of feeling trapped 🤦🏽♀️
Oh girl, don't feel trapped. There is sooo much out there. I'm leaving my full time nursing job and going seasonal instead. I decided to get my CDL. I have my permit so far and am starting school next week. The goal is to team drive with my husband and experience the open road with him. Maybe in the future own our own semi truck. The company goes to 48 states. I can't wait. ❤
Your not cut out for the job... Just quit and shut up... Ok? Do us real nurses a favor.
Right.
I thought I was the only that felt that way. I’m going back to school for engineering, I feel burnt out as a nurse.
If nurses were allowed to not tolerate abuse from patients and other nurses all of this would stop.
But this is a business, they treat it as a business and people can act like assholes and get away with it because they are paying
This is so very true. I worked as an Rn for 32 years until I became disabled. I loved being a nurse but it in retrospect I paid a high price spiritually, mentally, and physically. Compassion fatigue is so real. I kept trying different areas in nursing in order to find some type of work life balance. It just wasn't there. The industry and your peers would guilt you because you wouldn't work extra when called. Nursing is like nothing else. So much responsibility falls to the nurse with little support from the industry. No we are dealing with med errors being criminalized! There's really no incentive the be a nurse anymore.
I m here foe u
Seriiusely I like u
Or u marriad ??
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I love u 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
I’m so glad you made this video. There is a toxic culture in nursing of “once a nurse, always a nurse” in quite a literal meaning. You are allowed to move on from that chapter in your life. I believe a lot of the negativity is truly from jealousy and mutual unhappiness, and you are allowed to have different careers in your lifetime. You are allowed to pívot your career, change your specialty, and even jump into a whole new path. Know there are people out here that support your movement and growth ❤️
You are well come 🌷🌷🌷🌷
I love u u so so much really
I like u
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This is absolutely me! I just quit graduate school, halfway through, with a 4.0 gpa to move into tech. I’ve been a nurse for 9 years now and I’m just done! Major kudos to anyone who is unhappy and decides to take the leap to step away.
Wow! I want to make that same transition into tech. How are you doing it? How did you Start?
Kudos!! I got accepted to NP school, but I’m dropping out after 1week. I’ve been a nurse for 18yrs and I’m ready for a change 🎉
@@ashley9776 I left NP school after one completed semester with a 4.0 GPA. I decided to put my baby first. ❤
@@audreygarcia1187 that’s wonderful ❤️
Only nurses could say that “major Kudos”, most non nurses look at you like you just decided to leave the priesthood to become a bartender.
I’ve been a nurse for over 45 years and an AGACNP for 25 years. I quit three years ago due to a cancer diagnosis. Once through treatment I decided to work in a free clinic. Since, I’ve felt so free. There is so much need in my community and I can choose how I deliver care and education. Lots of doors are able to be opened. Good luck.
Major shout out to my sister Erin who sent me this video and who was also brave enough to walk away from this soul sucking profession. I have witnessed the joy she exudes as a result. She is now able to pour into herself and focus on the things that resonate with her spirit. Watching her and being revived in this video is giving me the courage I need to step away as well especially after my Dr informed me that my own health is suffering as a result. Ten years in ICU/Trauma and I have gained nothing but PTSD/depression, back pain and time that I can never get back with my baby & husband. I want to be free from this…
Same here. I just ended up with PTSD anxiety depression after 25 yrs of my nursing career. I stopped working 1 yr ago
And the ptsd of watching people get murdered......
@@teamorn7539 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
@@Jennifer-gr7hn THIS! I’m still very much traumatized 😭 sending hugs to you too🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
God bless you ❤
I left nursing after four years. I still work in healthcare, but on the IT side now and it is so much more sane. There are days when I miss interacting with patients, but it's not worth it for all the grief and poor quality of life I was dealing with.
How ? Thank you.
Rewatching this after now working in my 3rd nursing job in my wee little 2 years of being a nurse. I hate nursing for all of the reasons you mentioned and much more. I’m tired. And at this point I just want to be unemployed until I find something else to do (maybe my “unicorn” job, which I don’t think exists in healthcare). Thanks for posting this video, reminds me that I’m not alone in all of this ❤
I recently quit my job and felt that immediate relief afterwards. Definitely a good sign.
I think this video is awesome for anyone who needs to hear it. I am a bedside nurse and getting up and going to work to becoming more and more difficult. MY body aches and my mind is unfocused. We work so hard in a broken system, with management that doesn't care about us, patients that think we are their servants and a hospital system built solely on prophet. I support anyone who wants to follow their happiness. This world is filled with too many people that just work for the check.
This video spoke to me. I’ve been an RN for 10 years. I had a very hard time in nursing school (pregnant, abusive relationship, then single mom), it was a struggle to graduate.
Being a nurse was a huge part of my identity. It was who I was, but truth be told, I hated it. I had anxiety going into work every time. I was mentally and physically exhausted.
The pandemic made me reevaluate everything. I quit and I now work from home as a nurse care manager. Best decision I’ve ever made, but I know people look at me like I’m not “a real nurse”, or I wasn’t strong enough to handle it.
Whatever. I am happier now and that’s all that matters.
It takes courage to take this step . I’m glad you’re talking about it. I hope more nurses will be encouraged to let go of titles and expectations and just focus on what makes them happy.
omg i am in a situation right now. i am in the first year of nursing studies. I don't like it, i feel frustrated, me mother conviced me because is a profession that can help me to find a job easier. I have anciety, the only thinking inmy mind are that i cant work in long hours or to take care to clean strangers. i dont know i am feeling bad
@@eaglesland9270what did you end up doing? I'm currently in nursing school, almost halfway done but I'm thinking of leaving.
Same here
I've been a nurse for 18 years. This year, I've decided to change career to a completely different field. To be honest, my parents convinced me to be a nurse. It was not my decision. I felt guilty at first, however I realize that there are many ways to help people!!!
What is your career change?
Change
@@prettygirl_1626 Already did that
Can you tell me what you do now?
@@martinesalomon5334 what doing now? I want out
Thank you for this video. You are not alone. Who cares what others say, you have one life to live. Failure is staying in a career that’s not satisfying for the sake other’s options.
I can totally relate. I have an AA in Public Policy, a BA in Psychology and obtained my MS in Assistive Technology Studies & Human Services back in December 2020. All that schooling and I'm currently holding a government position that only requires a high school diploma. I get crap from family and friends, but my mental health, the amazing pay and benefits outweigh any negativity thrown my way. All in all, always DO YOU! It's okay to change your mind!
Thank you for reminding us that it's okay to change your mind!!! A lot of us have guilt after all the education and time we've put into something to make a change. Nothing is worth your mental health and peace.
Do you mind me asking what your job is?
What job did you get ?
I've been a nurse for 21 years and finally left when I was furloughed in April 2020. I'm never looking back and love my life as a business owner helping other nurses start their own businesses. Looking back, I've always wanted to leave. In my first year of nursing, I left and went to work at Target. I should have followed my first instinct and left earlier!
What type of business are doing if i may ask. Im doing Airbnb on the side as a nurse
@@naana-scelyne6370 my nursing business is my UA-cam handle (ReNursing Edu) and helps nurses make moves in their professional careers through NP education and nurse business education (courses, membership, ect). I also have an agency that provides UA-cam channel management and ghostwriting services.
Can you help me too?
I’m interested in learning more about your business
Hey Liz, I just wanted to say THANK YOU for this video. Watching this really touched my heart. I'm an NYC bedside nurse who was diagnosed with PTSD from the pandemic hitting us healthcare workers horribly. I ended up getting covid, ended up in ICU, luckily I survived. Have been on leave for a year, going back to work next week, and I'm completely done with nursing. I'm saddened because I worked really hard in school and really enjoyed learning nursing but realized that this healthcare SYSTEM as a whole is corrupted and runned by MBA. To be honest when I start seeing (specifically the hospital setting) the decisions administrators make that hurt patients and nurses, I begin to understand that this is a business and the goal of any business is to profit and to profit more every year passing. I already told my manager that I will be giving her my letter of resignation on my first day back. I already applied to an agency that does per diem positions for NYC schools. A friend does this job and she says she "loves" it and how low the stress is. I'm having a hard time quitting my hospital job, not sure why the internal struggle. I feel "bad" for quitting nursing. I feel like I'm giving up on my patients, on the amazing people that are suffering from illness, giving up on my amazing fellow nurses. I'm realizing that the truth is that this healthcare system won't allow me to be there for my patients and for myself. And I am learning to choose ME first. My cup must be full before I can pour it onto others. I am PIVOTING into real estate now. I'm currently working with real estate investors and agents and working to leave nursing altogether. THANK YOU LIZ. I needed to see this video. I need to be OKAY with leaving nursing. I should be HAPPY to leave nursing because it taught me so much and it will allow me to take that same work ethic and put it into another career. What is also tough is hearing my parents saying I'm making a wrong decision but I ask myself this life-changing question, "IF I LOVE MYSELF TRULY AND DEEPLY, WOULD I DO THIS". The truth is if I love myself I would leave nursing. I need to choose ME, I need to listen to MY heart, I need to PRIORITIZE MYSELF. Just thinking about going back to work there is this knot in the chest and full of anxiety. That would not be choosing me. I'm learning that you are on the right path if what you are doing brings you joy. THANK YOU LIZ for this video. THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!
hi i am also ICU nurse from NY trying to get into real estate
@@mujjuman dont blame you. Wish you the best! You got this!
@@30bananaguy thank you! I hope ur doing well too and all the best to you
If, waiting to punch IN makes you Nauseated --> that was a clue to me, by the latter 70s.
Find Backup Jobs!
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@@30bananaguy you are such an inspiration!!!! You beautifully articulated what I tell my clients as a therapist to prioritize your needs because you cannot help anyone pouring from an empty cup. No job is worth your HEALTH AND MENTAL WELL being to take care of others while destroying yourself mentally.
This resonated so much with me. I had gone through all of the hard work for 3.5 years of doing my prereqs for nursing school but in late July my mom was diagnosed with Hodgkins lymphoma, and ever since then I want nothing to do with medicine. Being part of the patient side, honestly broke me. I don't have the empathy to give to patients that they deserve in nursing. I received a lot of backlash from friends and family after completing all my prereqs, but in truth I'm relieved. I felt like I was always fighting the medicine track, so much so that I was grinding my teeth at night. I feel so much better after realizing that nursing isn't for me, and just like you said, that's okay.
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Very well said ❤
Honestly, I believe the way we’ve been treated by large corporations due to their greed, has had a lot of influence on nurses wanting to leave. But it’s not just nursing that’s all to blame but rather the greed that employers have.
Absolutely
Such a good point!
But I'll bet my next paycheck you're an aid.
Exactly, healthcare and other fields are feeling the pressure of corporate wanting more and willing to give less.
Nursing today, imo, is to risk being involved with crimes against humanity.
I left nursing almost two years ago after 23 years in the field. I had intentions of returning in the future. I struggled with guilt and a loss of identity when I left and it was very difficult for a while. It’s such a psychological game that is played with our mind. The more time has passed I realize how much of a toll nursing takes on us mentally, physically, emotionally, and even spiritually. It’s like Stockholm syndrome. I feel like I have broken the pattern of abuse and finally feel free. Things need to change before I would ever consider going back. There were definitely moments of reward and I feel that I did make a difference in many peoples lives. I just can’t do it at the cost of my own health anymore.
Best wishes in your new journey! Don’t let anyone make you feel bad about your decision!
That’s exactly how I described it when I walked away two weeks ago. I kept saying I want to be free
In a similar place, but not an NP, I am an RN. I honestly have not liked any nursing jobs I have had, but I don't know what else to do... Maybe you should interview some people from other career fields like engineering, IT etc and run them on your Channel. I tell my mom how bad nursing is and why I keep quitting nursing jobs and going back to EMS, and she keeps saying "you just need to suck it up!". Non nurses don't get it!! Thanks for the video!
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It's impossible to suck it up. The job is completely exhausting, they run you ragged.
Same here. I’ve never had a nursing job I loved and at this point want nothing to do with the field. I get told the same thing by my mother, which just makes the whole thing that more frustrating.
Exactly! Non nurses have no idea how difficult it is.
This is how I feel, I dont know if I'm capable to do other jobs. Non nurses dont get it
I changed my mind last year. Enough is enough. And I am so glad I did it. And I love working in an entirely field where I am not using my degree, took a huge pay cut and could not be happier! Happiest I have ever been.
May I ask what field you're in now. I'm in the process of getting out myself.
Doing what!
That’s my plan! I’ve been a nurse for almost 20yrs!
I changed my mind while in RT school in 2017. It was a tough time for me. I’m so happy I followed my gut. I’m a salon owner hairstylist now.
Thanks for sharing!!
I knew a girl who was getting great grades in chemical engineering, but she quit and now is also a salon owner! She does balayage.
🎯 This video is spot on! I'm a nurse care manager and this job is draining the life out of me. I have more migraines with this job than I have ever had in the past. My blood pressure typically runs in the 110s/80s and I check it often at work and find it in the 150s and 160s/90s. I have developed anxiety issues. My case load is too high, the needs are too great, and the resources are too scarce. I wish you luck in your future endeavors.
After 12 years as a nurse, i support you 100 percent. I just want to be happy and be in a safe and peaceful environment. Im working on leaving the bed side and will work on getting msn in education. Thank you for your transparency and honesty ❤️🙏
I am SOOOOO glad to hear this post! I am an RN who has left direct patient care and am starting a new telehealth job. I am so very excited that I have pivoted, because I have been miserable for so long! I completely relate to the guilty feelings and the negative self talk about hands-on nursing just not being what you want anymore. Let’s face it, healthcare is broken. It isn’t what we signed up for, so regrouping to make ourselves happy, while still using our education is a GOOD thing. Thank you so much for speaking the truth, because you make me feel like I’m not alone. 🤓
Liz I am going through the same thing, I just graduated, and I just started my first job, I am ready to quit, I don't want to be an NP either, my health is more important than money or being miserable every day, healthcare sucks. As I was watching your video I was crying, I can relate to you, I regretted going to NP school, I got so stressed out during NP, it caused my health to declined, and now that I started I feel like crying every day, and do not want to work, I am trying to look for something else too. Wish you the best, and I hope I can leave my job, I am a single parent, and I am so unhappy now, hopefully, I will smile again like you
ugh I'm so sorry you're going through this! I am sending you all the vibes with your pivot!!
Hi Liz! I'll admit I did start following your channel because of your RN/NP background. That being said, it's your personality and vulnerability that keeps me here. I relate to everything you said in this video & just want you to know that whatever direction you decide to take with your channel i'll be sticking around to watch ❤
Hey Liz, I’m gonna share with you something someone told me. YOU are the only one who’s living YOUR life, you have to make decisions based on that and not the haters 😆. Happy to see you’re taking charge.
Great advice!
I’m a FNP, been in this profession for 14 years not counting RN time. I’m subscribed to your channel. I think you are an amazing person. You are brutally and refreshingly honest. You are vulnerable and that is an endearing quality that is so rare. Your mother is right you are pivoting, and this is okay. You are finding you and your calling, achieving your NP was just a step not the destination. You are my therapist right now as no one out there has collectively taken time to analyze the impact life and the current state of our health care system has on nurses. For this i thank you. So you are doing good work. I appreciate what you do and please continue. People always criticize others that reflects more on them than you.
New grad (ABSN) here on day 4 of orientation at my shiny hospital. I have no illusions: the next year is going to be awful. I can always go back to writing software or something. But for today, I still want to do this. So, you have my full and complete attention, even if I'm going to ignore your excellent advice.
Congrats! The first year is definitely rough, but going itno that knowing the truth can be so helpful! You can do the hard things!
The first year as a nurse is brutal. Hang in there! Just curious though, why did you leave software for nursing?
@@ACL7211 I took a leave of absence after watching my wife die from a metric buttload of comorbidities. She teased me about becoming a nurse, and I didn't want to do it. But after a 6 month vacation, and dealing poorly with grief and ... the usual excuses ... I started looking for a way to heal. I hated hospitals. I didn't think I would make a good nurse. So, I decided to face those fears head-on and "do hard things". It was only supposed to last a semester or two, then I'd wake up and go back to my normal life.
At some point, I realized I actually wanted to keep going. "It was a calling" is probably shorthand for "I have a severe mental illness and this seems to help."
@@RickEvansOrlando same same same! hated healthcare bc of what I saw my mom go through and this def feels like a calling although I haven't graduated yet and I am already burnt out. Good luck to you at your shiny hospital. I am sure your wife would be laughing and proud
That's so cool, I am quitting my job as a Software Developer next week, and start nursing school in January :) Any advice for going from programming to nursing?
Hi Liz. I rarely ever comment but I've only been practicing as a nurse for a year and a half, still working on my BSN after getting an ADN.. and I just got hired as a dog bather, trying to get back into my passion. I know nursing isn't for me, and I appreciate the honesty in this video and it makes me feel so much better knowing that its okay to change my mind, and that im not alone. So thank you for this video and know that there are many of us nurses out there that support you.
I love this!!!!
Good to hear that Cara
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Hi Cara, I am currently going for my ADN & I have so much self doubt but I really want to get a degree… Are you able to start working as a nurse after you receive your ADN?
This had come to me at exactly the right time. I’ve pivoted in a big way recently with my nursing and I wanted this pep talk! Thank you so much
Same here, This video is the answer to my prayers, I needed to take an important decision , now I have Peace…. Thanks!!!
I got my BSN after working as a dental assistant for 4 years. I just wanted to challenge myself, but didn't have the guts to go for what I really wanted. I already had the credits and nursing is always 'in demand' so I just went for it. I knew it wasn't for me before I even graduated. Almost a year into nursing, I'm allowing myself to try new things on my days off and I'm super blessed that my mom is supportive of me no matter what I do ( as long as I can provide for myself lol).
Your message definitely resonates with me and I'm looking forward to seeing how things go for you! Nursing is what I do, not who I am.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience! We shall pivot together!
OMG I feel the same way. I just graduated nursing this year and I knew one year into it that it wasn’t for me but I still finished it anyways. Now my challenge is if I should look for a patient care setting for the skills but that’s not what I like but I feel I gotta do it to be more marketable and the skills and to be a true nurse or at least that’s how other nurses are making me feel cause I am fresh outta nursing school. I am curious to know what you decided to do with your career?
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What did you really want to go for but as you said, "didn't have the guts to"?
There are many nurses that SHOULD do this. Too many nurses in bedside care that don’t want to be there which projects onto their patients and fellow nurses. I’m so sick of people doing what they don’t want to do and then take it out on everyone else. Kudos to you for reflecting and doing what’s best for you.
That's so true, I work in Nursing in the UK and morale is low. I work with Nurses even senior nurses who don't want to be there. They're rude to patients and colleagues and I feel like saying to them why are they in this job?
yes!!! there are so many nurses who don’t even wanna do bedside/primary care nursing and having that mindset inevitably causes errors and so much more
This is exactly what made me run away 🏃♀️
Idk about that, they probably won't be that much better with students.
@@Spoton16 huh? What does students have to do with rude nurses that shouldn’t be in healthcare?
Take care of yourself, you are not a failure. Haters will do what they do HATE. There are more of us than you know and we do the same thing. You are real. You are good enough to do whatever you want to do. The public does not know what we know. 365/24 hours a day you are a NP. The system is nuts. I feel you.
You are NOT a failure!! Your happiness is more important than being an NP!! Find yourself, be yourself, be happy!
12 year nurse with a bachelor's degree.. I changed my mind this year too! good luck with everything :)
THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO. The feelings of guilt and not being good enough is the same feelings I have right now as a nurse working in a hospital. I came to a conclusion about doing hospital nursing. It is not for me and Im okay with that. I want to still be a nurse but I want to enjoy what I do even when the stress arise. I also want to get back writing again. I enjoyed writing abstract stories but I haven't done it since high school. So I truly understand where you coming from and I pray that you achieve whatever you have in mind. My mentor always told me that I have options and that the more I get to know and love myself, the more I will discover about myself! Congrats to you for being honest with yourself!
U can be a nurse-writer. I have heard about it as one of the emerging alternative to bedside nursing jobs.
You have to do what feels right to you. Don't worry about what all the people think. Different seasons of life, call for different things. Find something you feel passionate about and go with it, even if it isn't nursing anymore. I'm excited to see what you do next.
Hello
Currently an AGACNP student and a full time RN in an ICU. We will continue to follow in anything you do because you have such an enormous, pure heart and you're a wonderful character. sending you tons of love & support
Go with your heart!
Don't worry about the haters. I have found in my own life that if they don't hate you for one thing they'll find something else to hate you for so what I'v 😭e learned is eliminate haters . Also I learned you can forgive people who hate you but doesn't really mean you have to have them around in your life anymore.
Congratulations to you....I quit nursing in September 2021 after 21 yrs as a bedside nurse in ICU..I always told people "nursing is my job, NOT who I am"..I would always get funny looks😕...I loved the science of helping people recover from an illness, the drugs involved, the calculations, the life saving machines that the nurses would monitor & control...it was just amazing to me to see them turn the corner...that's what I LOVED...now trying to figure out what I want to do now🙂
As I watched this, I connected with it on a deep level. I left teaching about a year and a half ago because I "couldn't cut it" anymore. I was tired of the bureaucracy, the uninformed administration, the taxing parents, the ridiculousness that is our American education system. I pivoted to the nursing field and will graduate in a few months from an ABSN program. I am so glad that you put this out there - the guilt that comes from pivoting careers is intense and it's hard listening to other people's comments about your personal desire for change. And the internal guilt was even harder for me - my identity was so wrapped up in being a teacher and it was incredibly hard to leave that. Thank you for normalizing pivoting. Thank you for speaking freedom into my life. Thank you for being ok with change. Keep being you and rocking it out, girl! I'll keep watching you, no matter what. :-)
I also left teaching last year! I'm pivoting to healthcare as well. I've been working as a Patient Care Technician to see how I like it. It's been 4 months and I've really been enjoying it. ☺️
I've been watching you since you passed boards...and I was still in school (we went to the same grad school)! When I started my first NP job I purchased your NP resources the night before.... after my first year as an NP ...my mental health was horrible. I found myself depressed, crying all the time (in secret) and irritable and upset...mad at the kids for bothering me when I was charting or bothering me when I was on call and had something urgent on the phone. I decided my health wasn't worth it. I quit my NP job...and found one I liked better...I'm still an NP but more doing research and charts. I love my job and nope...don't want to be in that setting again...mainly Cuz I don't want to be unhappy again. There are more things more important than money/recognition. Dr. Ken was a doctor and is now an actor, dr. Carson was a neurologist, now politician. Just start a different UA-cam channel and then you'll have 2 channels where you can add content. Good luck!
What’s your new job title/name?
I needed this! I’m so tired of being just a nurse I’m so much more than that. I’ve been in nursing for 15 years.
Hi Liz, I really resonate with your feelings! After being burnout as an inpatient nurse and finishing my FNP in Feb 2022, although I like nursing, I feel like I want to nurture my family life and practice more self-care. I realized unless I pulled back from the hustle and bustle I won't be able to do it. I feel so guilty admitting this to myself and my family, but it's the truth. I find more happiness in being a good mom and wife. Personally, I think doing something like telehealth or scaling down to part-time would be beneficial (for me). You have to do whatever is best for you and your family! Thanks for your honesty!
YES! Thank you for sharing your experience!
If you love kids and want a work life balance I would suggest being a school nurse!! In the previous district I was in most did not want to do it because of the pay (completely understandable) but a lot of schools did not have nurse, they would float the nurses to different schools, they would even want part time nurses. So just an option to think about and wish you all the best!
@@missyjayjay1 My step mother-in-law is a school nurse and she loves it so much. She left beside nursing years ago and never looked back.
@@missyjayjay1 Liz's mom was a school nurse actually. She talked about it in another video.
As a nurse, myself, of 26 years, I can sooo relate to your mindset. There is NEVER enough time to care for the patient the way they deserve, not to mention, too many corporate demands and insurance roadblocks for the job to be done and done right. You didn’t fail. You simply found out the success of this type job is impossible and are choosing to no longer participate in the overall nonsense.
Proud of you! You are going in a positive direction and will help more people than you could ever imagine!
THIS! There are so many constraints in reality in healthcare--and it is very sad. When you go into this profession, you need to just be able to care for other humans...then you realize you have to do WAYYY too many things to leave any time for educating. The whole reality of bedside nursing is needing to talk to patients and families way more than you have time for. I am thrilled about this talk series because a lot of us US medical system viewers can RELATE to it!!!!
Absolutely! The "If you can't beat 'em, Join 'em" attitude isn't for me. I chose not to play the game anymore ;-)
correct. i love the "success of this type job is impossible" and "overall nonsense" XD
I called my changes in work experience an “existential crisis”. Omg the part of feeling like a failure or guilty about changing your mind about your career is sooooo true!!
At a different time in your life, this NP path was for you. It did everything you needed it to do, provided financial income, help patients, and time with your family. Now, it doesn't check your boxes and meet Liz's requirements for living a happy life, and that is okay. You saw it through. You worked at it and that is an amazing feat within itself. I appreciate your example in allowing yourself to pivot, to grow, to steer your life from what it was to what it could be.
It's ok to change your focus. You invested in your knowledge and work. Work at home and guide your family with their growth. Your smart and truthful. Look at campaign for nursing and choose to work on an issue or cause you are interested in. Remember how privledged you are that your family can survive without your income. Many women don't have that choice.
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Absolutely great response and I’ve read almost all of them to gain some perspective 😂 as I am on the journey to completing my pre-req for Nursing School.
World needs more encouraging and high vibe peeps like you. 👌🏾
Life is too short to continue doing something you don't like or isn't giving you the rewards you anticipated. It's great that you know what you do want to do- some people never get to that point and are stuck in a job that isn't for them. It takes a great deal of courage to know when to switch gears and then follow through! What you learned as a nurse will serve you well in your future endeavors.
Lab tech here who can relate to everything you’ve said. I just recently left my job after putting it off too late. It’s affected all areas of my life. Mental and physical health issues. I am now looking into getting out of healthcare altogether, as much as I like what I do. Health authority is toxic so it won’t matter where I go.
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I so appreciate this. I cried watching this video because i went through this exact thing and i felt so alone in this. The guilt was so real. Thank you for this video it was so helpful
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Yes! I have been so burned out on nursing. For me though, it started back in nursing school. I’ve been working as a registered nurse for the past 8 years, hoping it would get better, trying different areas, until I finally broke down at the beginning of the year. I’m still working in home health because I’m supporting my household and need income. I’ve been trying to figure out where to go/what to do. I just can’t work for the current healthcare system we have. I’m proud of you for doing what feels right for you, I know it’s not easy to walk away from this career. But if it feels right then it’s absolutely the right decision. Thank you for sharing this!
Same here!!!
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@@prettygirl_1626 Well, I left my job in May and am currently unemployed. I’m not sure what my next move will be at this point. I don’t want to go back to nursing, but it’s all I know. I’m looking at remote nursing jobs right now to cut down on some of the other stressors that affected me with work (commuting, bad weather, having to go into dirty/dangerous homes, wondering how I’m going to make it to work when I can barely get out of bed). I’m trying to work on my mindset to see that while I might work for a corrupt money-hungry system, my job is to help people and I am going to do that to the best of my ability with the tools that I have. It’s a shift of focus, and it’s tough to ignore that nasty side of it and just focus on the good we do. Companies make it difficult when they criticize and pile on more work and act like it’s to benefit the patients/clients and not their bottom line. Sure, Jan.
The TLDR answer: I resigned and am currently not working.
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I admire your candidness so much. A profession isn't necessarily who you are it's just a part of what you do. I'm an NP myself and it's so sad how little time we are allotted for patients. Best of luck with all of your future endeavors. 💕We are constantly changing and evolving. We are not the same person that we were 10 years ago. So yes, we can change our minds and we have to take care of ourselves first and foremost if we are able to give and help others.
Thank you for being brave enough to claim back your LIFE! Your time, your mental, physical and emotional health, your relationships and your family. Thank you for taking the step to be happy and free.
Immediate admiration for your self-honesty and courage to take the step.
Congrats and all the best!
I'm actually not disappointed to see you do this, I'm really interested (for myself, because I am hoping to graduate school and someday have a non-traditional nursing job) and excited (for you to pivot and have a better life). You may lose some viewers, but I'll sure hang around for a bit! Good for you to do the soul searching and really lean into your next steps for your career. Best of luck on your journey!
Exactly! We do not only like Liz because she's a nurse, am excited to see where she goes next.
💜💜 normalize CHANGING YOUR MIND. This is supposed to a great thing about nursing, that there are so many different roles you can take. That’s a huge reason why I chose nursing.
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Me too
I really identify with you!! I think every step is a journey to the bigger you along the way!!
Thank you for this. Im in the process of applying for NP but every cell in my body is telling me No! I'm thankful for your honesty. It gives me courage to tell my family I've changed my mind.
You got this!
I’m dropping out before NP school starts. Thanks for sharing ❤
Hi Liz! I'm a nursing student and the amount of respect myself and my friends have for you is INSANE. Your honesty and openness is so appreciated, and--as a student who learns SO much from Lecturio--what you are doing right now is helping SO many people. Thank you for being you :)
I love how candid you’re with this subject. It’s very difficult to talk about for some. Just like you I’m over working in patient care. I’m an RN and working in another area of healthcare (non clinical/patient care) and I love it. It doesn’t make me less of a person/nurse or whatever. I’m just over it and needed a change of scenery. Healthcare is really going down the drain in the current direction.
May I ask what area of nursing you are doing now?
Yeesss! I love it Liz! Please PLEAASSEE don’t feel bad or guilty. Think of it like this. We go through life in chapters. This is your new chapter. You didn’t waste your time or fail anything. You are simply starting your new chapter. Your previous chapter happened, it taught you a lot and you grew from it but it’s just time for a new chapter. When you think of it like that, it will help with the guilt. I’m in the same boat, I decided I’m leaving my paramedic job and I just dropped my prerequisites for nursing school and the guilt ate me alive until I changed my mindset on it all. I’m calling it “Chapter 2”. Chapter 1 was great and taught me a lot but now it’s time for my new chapter :)
Thank you so much Liz! I feel the same. I did my undergrad in psychology and after I graduated decided that it's not for me. People would judge me for taking different classes and trying out new things to figure out what I really want to do. I completely support you!
Hi Liz, I have been away from bedside for 11 years and recently took a PRN bedside. I am also a nurse educator and doing nurse coaching. I am so glad I took an 11 year break and I am also glad I am back with a different perspective. What I am trying to say is yes! It’s ok to change your mind and to change your mind back too. Saying goodbye for now may not be goodbye forever or maybe it will. And that is ok too.
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Thank you for posting this video. I’ve been an NP in primary care and I’m over it. 15 minutes is not enough to truly help patients and you just get filled with anxiety and can’t provide the proper care at the end of the day
I'm currently in school for my FNP and have already decided that I want to do something different. I am only continuing in case I change my mind and also as a personal accomplishment as this was at one point my dream career.
This is so relatable! Thank you! I have gone through this identity crisis panic repeatedly in the process of getting married and having a baby and that affecting my nursing career. Ultimately I am so thankful that God defines my value and not what I do.
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You’d make an excellent counselor! I’m not a nurse, but am thinking of leaving the field of education. It’s hard to let go of guilt/sense of duty, that part of my identity, and also the feeling of loss of my investment. Everything you said in this video made me feel comforted and hopeful. Thank you for taking the time to share and please know that you are making a difference for people across all professions and from all walks of life. We appreciate you!!
Love you Liz. I also had a career change. It is VERY painful to think about the schooling I did to get there. I turned my education into an industry job, paid my student debt, met my husband and we have a beautiful daughter. I am so grateful for the blessings in my life, I need to focus on that. I still have the negative self talk, but its getting easier over time. You're amazing, your Destiny is written in the stars. There is a plan for all of us!!!!!💖💞💖
You’re my hero. I appreciated you as a nurse, as a person, and I appreciate you even more as you release this video. Thank you!! ♥️
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Thanks for this video. What you describe is exactly what I have been feeling. I have been a nurse for 33 years and I am SO over it! I have been teaching for the last 20+ which is much better but still I feel that I am ready for a complete change. Follow your own path, don't let anyone tell you what is best for you.
I have been in healthcare for almost a decade and I’m now doing my nursing prerequs. This is my BIGGEST fear. My husband is making so many sacrifices so I can go back to school and I’m friggin terrified of hating it when I actually finish.
If you're doing RN there are many doors to go down. Generally you need 3 years of acute care experience before you can move to roles in offices/more low-key like education or something similar. It's not that bad if you find a decent workplace and the right doorway. The first few years may be a lot of stress due to learning but you will be fine.
I left bedside nursing a year ago after 23 years in the ED and 2 covid surges. I started having recurrent nightmares and severe insomnia. Too many new grads and not enough resources. I had tremendous guilt for about 6 months and also have depression because I had to leave a career that I absolutely loved and that my identity was wrapped up in. Thank you for this video. I am happy and content and found a job, that while it's not near as fulfilling or rewarding, it's sustainable for years to come and I can find other things to do. I have thought many times about working from time to time, but like you, I JUST DON'T WANT TO!! So.....I'm not!! Thank you for this!
Thank you so much for this!!! I appreciate you. I feel like this now, I don’t want to be a NP anymore but I keep going because all of my education might go to “waste”. I just keep waiting for that unicorn job to come. I would like to have a better work life balance and am not okay with settling. You give me inspiration to keep looking for something right for me be it in education, management or the clinical setting. I can’t out right quit but you give me inspiration to keep looking for something better. I feel I’m meant for something more!
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Thank YOU for sharing! I know I was incredibly lucky to just be able to literally fall into my role with Lecturio, but having the courage and willpower to keep looking for what's right for you is hard and I applaud you for it!
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Love this! Prioritizing self doesn’t make you “selfish”. It’s also a beautiful transition in life to be able to separate what you do from who you are. You are on the realest, most amazing journey… the journey to your most authentic self. Absolutely, no failure detected here. Congratulations! I hope it’s been an amazing year 😊
I had to PIVOT recently too!! 17yr LVN with Bedside exp. graduated with my BSN last yr, got what I thought would be my DREAM job in L&D...9 Mos. In decided for the most part I JUST DIDN'T want to do Bedside nursing anymore. I felt just like you! But God literally brought a wonderful opportunity to me that has given me the best wk life balance and fulfillment!! Do it!!!
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I'm 28 and I've changed my mind! I invested 4 years of education, a lot of money and 4 years of working as a graphic designer. And I want to become a nurse now... Which is how I found your videos. I have been feeling all the guilt, sense of failure, and doubt that I want to make such a radical shift at this stage in my life. In a way I'm doing great but I've been wanting to get into health care for years but the shift felt too dramatic. Thank you for sharing!
I needed to hear this!!! I am in the middle of applying to nursing schools, and I feel like I am changing my mind! And omg it is so scary because I have no idea what I will do instead. But you are right, there is a whole world of opportunities out there!! I'm so happy for you that you are doing what feels right! Thank you for sharing, for inspiring, and I can't wait to see what is next for you! You have such a beautiful spirit
I graduated 6 months ago, always wanted to be a nurse and now I don’t even feel energy to take the boards. I’m changing my mind without even starting. Just heard so many horror stories from other nurses. I’m so lost right now. I may go back to veterinary assistant, i love animals and feels much better.
I think most people in nursing school know it can really be a sucky job in reality, but the thing is there is so much flexibility in nursing that usually most people can find something they like. outpatient, aesthetic, OR, public health. and people who really hate it no matter what still can make money doing travel nursing lol
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Hi Liz. I am an NP since 2012 and RN since 2009. You have literally been the only person that I can relate to since realizing that I no longer want to be an NP. I was not happy when working in the hospital as an RN and thought that going back to become an NP would be the best thing for me but now I am not so sure. I loved working with and helping people but after experiencing burnout from all of the issues with the healthcare system I quit recently. Watching your video really helped me to calm down and put things into perspective. You are my inspiration keep going!!!
I’ve been a trauma ICU nurse for a little over two years now. I’m feeling everything you talked about. Our identity is tied to our profession and we don’t want to be viewed as a quitter. However, I’m sick of the nights, weekends and holidays. I work nights so I don’t have to deal with the day bull crap, but this leaves me drained on my days off. I was looking into NP school as a solution to my problems, but I feel like I would be exchanging one problem for another. I know there isn’t a perfect job and sometimes we have to suck it up and work hard. I have no idea what I would pivot to. I don’t want to lose my skill set by transitioning to a lower acuity setting but it seems the only way I will have work life balance is to drop the ICU life. I want my cake and eat it too ha ha!
Kudos to you!! I got accepted to NP school and just started this week. My heart isn’t in it ❤ I’m ready for career change. After being a nurse almost 20yrs, I’m ready to do me and follow my body.
People will always talk. Glad you’re doing what’s best for you. If you have the option, why not?
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This is gospel Liz. I’ve been a nurse for 5 years. I’ve watched your channel since I was taking pre-reqs. I’ve consistently waffled between APRN & Nursing Edu. I’ve settled on nursing edu because it really lights my fire. I love bringing knowledge to people and vice versa. When I spoke aloud that I wanted to go into education I few of the nurses I used to trust voiced displeasure because they all felt I’d be a stronger fit as an APRN, but after shadowing a few NPs I cannot bring myself to take that path. It’s not me. I love that we have many ppl who want to become APRNs, but I’ve made my mind up on education. Quite honestly, seeing the state of the current barely functional health care system we have, I saw the writing on the walls. You are incredibly brave & honorable for speaking your truth and being open about YOUR feelings. I respect the hell out of you for this one. Please continue to make choice that light your fire as well. Be well.
Thank you. I needed to hear this. I drifted into depression as a nursing student. I now know for sure that this job is not for me. I will find a different way to help people.
Liz you have helped me so much through nursing; the scary bits, the fun bits, and the unsure bits. I think you're most valuable attributions on this platform is you are so transparent. So many social media nurses sugarcoat this field, and I appreciate that you are always honest with us.
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Thank you so much for posting this … I really needed to hear this right now. I’ve been a bedside nurse for the last two years and although there are aspects of my job I love there are parts that have really been affecting my mental and physical health and so I took a job at a non bedside position.. I felt like a failure and still do feel this way. And although I’m feeling way better mentally and physically it’s really hard to let go of the feeling that I failed. So thank you for giving me the pep talk I needed to hear 👏
THANK YOU FOR YOUR HONESTY AND ENCOURAGEMENT! I am also an FNP in primary care and am already burnt out after 2 years. Everything you said resonated with me as I recently put my notice in without a real Plan other than taking a break. Liz , my prayer for you in this season away from practicing as an NP (however long it may be) is that this break refreshes you and restores you in a way you only imagined. Thank you for being a brave voice. May God bless your next!!!
Clicked as soon I saw the notification. I am finishing up my prerequisites and applying to Nursing for September 2022. You really inspire me. I have worked as a CNA and experienced burnout. I feel like there needs to be more support for health care workers of ALL levels.
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Liz, you have helped me through NP school. You have a gift, no matter if you stay in nursing or not. Protect your energy and space! You are successful because know you would rather be happy than obliging to the pressure of our poor healthcare system. I feel as you do. Some people don’t care about people anymore. It’s about how many patients can been seen = more money. Thank you for this video!
This really helped me. Right now I can’t, but this encouraged me that in the future if I choose to go a different route, it is OK and I am not a failure. I have struggled with the same feelings as you, both in my career as an NP, and in thoughts of going a different route. Thank you so much for sharing this encouraging video!
I’m in nurse practitioner sch and Its been the most scariest thing I’ve done in my life… and i appreciate your honesty! You just gained a subscriber! I can’t wait to see the amazing things you’re going to do! 💗
I also changed my mind. I’m a medical assistant- was pushed into “go be a nurse so you can then be a NP” but when I fell sick with Covid I realized how broken our system is. How money hungry it is, and I want nothing to do with it. So now I’m pivoting as well.
I have wanted to be a labor and delivery nurse since I was eight years old. I practiced in pediatrics for 3.5 years and learned I hated being a nurse. I finally switched to L&D about 8 months ago and enjoy it A LOT more, but it is still healthcare. I do not like working in healthcare. It sucks. I could list all the reasons why, but as a nurse yourself I can imagine you are very aware of constantly feeling inadequate because you do not actually have the time to care for the patients like you always wanted due to our current healthcare system. I can barely even admit out loud that I am not IN LOVE with L&D nursing after wanting to do it for so long. It makes me feel sick. My husband and I are planning to buy our first real estate investment this year and hope to eventually have time freedom and never have to step foot to work in a hospital again.
I, too, joined nursing swearing I wanted to do L&D. I was so excited and just knew that it was what I was going to do for the rest of my days. I took me three years to get onto an L&D unit and I lasted eight months. I was SO wrong and I'm still wondering how I was THAT mistaken on the type of nurse I wanted to be. I've been through the hospital, facility, private care, doctor's office, and currently home health and it's exactly the same. It's time to go; when it's time to go...it's TIME to go. I wish you the absolute best!
What I did, was get an inexpensive condo. I had to replace a lot of things, this year. But, I can live on my disability and lived on practically nothing last year. So, if you hate your job, you can go that route. Maybe then, you won’t have to work or could take on less hours. Or, find a job in a clinic. I wouldn’t suggest, pediatric or obstetric home health care. Because, though you can find Monday through Friday, there’s long hours and some jobs will require weekends and holidays, where you are on call. I was a nurse and have a mental illness. Even as a coder in a home health system, working at home, the job was soul sucking and I have gotten so much worse, that I am an emotional cripple. I am on a lot more medications, retired and still am suffering. It’s like cancer of the mind. It has only gotten worse, and I am trying not to let it get, any worse.
@@JumpTossCatchi'm interested in being a L&D nurse, may i know more about your experience please like why you ended up leaving? It would be very helpful for me, thank you.
This video grabbed me this morning! I have been a nurse for 32 years and I was in FNP school because I thought that was what I always wanted to do and maybe 20 years ago I would have finished. However, I recently pushed paused and during that break I realized none of this makes me happy. I don’t know what I want to do but it isn’t FNP and possibly not even nursing. My family is so disappointed and my identity is so confused right now. I am 54 though and I don’t feel as though I have life left to waste. I hope I find something that fulfills me as it seems you have. Thank you for putting your feelings out there and changing the world of nursing education.
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I am in similar situation, 20 yes ago I would have pushed through. At 52, I love nursing but not sure if NP is worth my time. Think I feel it is just the logical next step, or maybe even a safety net to keep working as long as I can.
@@toniajostes2205 yes my thoughts exactly. I think I need to pause and think longer lol n it before making a decision. Best wishes for peace and happiness on your journey wherever it takes you!
I cannot even put into words how much I appreciate this video. Thank you for being real about nursing!
I feel exactly the same way about my career in corporate America so I've been considering nursing. I struggle a lot with feeling like a failure and letting other people down, especially since I've been extremely fortunate with career development support. Not sure 100% if and what I'll actually make the change to (nursing or otherwise), but it's weighing heavily on my mind.
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MG made me quit nursing after 39 yrs. I chose to do bedside to be able to do pt education,family education and because didn't want to carry 2 thousand primary pt load around here. I was really clear about wanting to be strong health advocate and fight bad administration. When you talk about 15 min visits, that is why it took so long to be diagnosed as didn't get decent exam,and history was abbreviated to fatigue and weakness not lack of proprioception, trouble focusing eyes, weakness comes and goes, SOB but not responsive to Albuterol. You are so right about our identity is totally entangled with nursing, it has been horrible to know I am physically unable to work,can't diagnose myself and have to submit to harried, people not listening to me and wondering who I am now that I can't be nurse, can't cross country ski and be active, productive... Hardest thing was apply for disability and fight when they said I still should do something while living on $400/mo from savings during a pandemic for which I had the Advanced disaster life support training while everything was a jumble and I was reduced to oxygen bleed in on bipap to keep sats up when sleep. I have had too many dark nights of the soul in nursing, from nursing, from healthcare in this country. A person who doesn't know nursing would glibly say I am depressed instead of she has moral injury with CPTSD. Still fighting my way toward the light. Wish you luck on your fight.
It’s been a tough couple of years for the nursing profession. Covid has really kicked all of our butts. God bless. You got this!!!! Regardless of what it is you got this!
This was exactly the message I needed to hear today. I’m a RN and am pivoting out of critical care specifically to get an MPH in order to work in health policy *idealist alert* and advocate for a universal health system. Having almost 8 years of feet on the ground experience as a SICU nurse has fostered resentment towards the “system”. Hearing your experience helps me feel less alone in that angst. It’s great that we have empathic providers who work incredibly hard like yourself, and who clearly want to help their patients, but it’s a shame that we operate in a system which is a barrier in and of itself for providers and patients alike. Kudos and cheers to you for rethinking the way patient education can be delivered and for experimenting with a less tradition format for increasing access to health knowledge.