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Think this: whenever a guy ignores you on a consistent basis, or even disappear on you, he is giving space to someone who would care about you by excusing himself. You should thank him!
Love this. I thank him for ignoring me. It made me move on after 2 months of no contact. I tried accepting new man. And now im happy with the new man i have who is ready to commit with the relationship.
Ladies. Just focus on having fun, jeez. N Don't get all bent out of shape when u don't hear from him for days. Let him miss u. 70%-30% he texts first. Pull away at a high point, lean back. When he asks what happened or asks u out, then tell him that although you like him alot, that you rather spend ur energy on someone who wants a relationship, and you don't think that's what he's offering you. Then no contact. Watch his reaction.u either get an exclusive relationship or you kiss him gbye!
Nice topic and best explanation, lots of lessons will learned, mind you that Absence makes a man miss you and relationship grows more fonder, daily texting and calling is not advisable, let the man 1st text you and calls , ao that he will not irritates for keeping communicating always, every meeting is a new lessons to learned all exciting and every moments will not forget, make things better and easier both of you , don’t get angry with him, be silent and don’t talk too much, just share your beautiful days and be happy around him ai that he will miss you always ...
Love this, I've had to pull away from a guy who I really like. He told me 9days ago he just wanted to. E friends. I was hurt an reacted badly at first, lockdown brain!! We were still in touch everyday, with him initiating the text. It really wasnt what I wanted, I had feelings for him. So on sunday I had to text him this - Hey. Staying in touch is hard 4me, covid has shrunk my world at the min an made me feel an think things out of context. I want u 2b happy an I wanted u 2b happy with me. It's obvious u need 2 work out what you need/want too. I 110% want the best 4u, I want u 2b more than happy , it's important 2me. I hope I'm here or still here 4u when all this shit is over, it was a gamble when we met that we'd get thru lockdown an 1 we both took. I dont need 2b in a relationship but when it happens, I need that person 2 want me as much as I want them, in every way, it's what I deserve x He didnt reply, whether he doesnt know how to react or hes moved on but I've stayed strong an I'm still not texting him. I'm important to me an if I'm not to him then that's ok xx
@@evolvepisceangainspentacles dont know if that's for me, but sometimes u watch things on UA-cam just 2 ensure your on the right path. Nobody knows better, we all do what suits us at ths time
Women tend to always come across needy to men after we allow them to catch us. We need to give them space to allow them the opportunity to miss us! If we are always at their beck & call they will take us for granted. Men are made hunters let them chase you! Even when they already have you! I have been married for 28 years (Thank You Jesus) i still let him chase me even though i am his! ❤️
Tada Srirathung There are several ways. Let me try to list some examples. For one-just as Helena mentions in her videos; using my feminine energy. If he is working i wait to hear from him! Unless of course on occasional, “hope you are having a good day” or “cant wait to see you text. I focus on myself. I get ready every day with the best version of myself and when he comes home i wrap my arms around him and show him how much i am happy i am to see him! Another example is if i need something done in my car or at home-even though i can totally take care of it... i ask him to please do it and i thank him afterwards and therefore he feels worthy. Kinda like my hero because i needed his help. Men want to be men and if we act like we can do everything it places a damper on their ego. I look at it this way.. the more i build him up as a man by simply allowing him to do stuff (big or small) he feels appreciated and i give him space to do things without me burning up his phone with where are you texts and dressing all cute & sexy for him allowing him to approach me then i know he is all for me! It will make him want to do more for me because he being my hero per say is making his chest pump for me. Advice i can give you is just love him and focus on yourself all while building him up with positive & encouraging words all while expressing gratitude is key! Hope this all made sense! In my head it did lol ohhh one more thing...before he even leaves to go to work do something sexy to leave him with lingering thoughts about you all day! Trust me-it works! ❤️
If you put your energy on loving yourself, you will never be attracted to a man who moves from such fear as to pull away when the woman shows love and affection. If a man doesn't know what he wants, then it is because he doesn't know himself. And the only way a man can know where to put his attention (on knowing himself), is when woman reflects that for him. She does this by continually putting her attention on her own soul growth and healing the misunderstanding that the love longed for comes from any external source. She does this by vigilantly returning her attention to knowing her true, divine self. When this occurs, then there is no push and pull necessary in any relationship because a conscious woman does not push and pull within herself. She falls in love with loving herself. She falls into deeper and deeper acceptance of her humanity. She is true to herself. She frees herself from the bondage and self betrayal of accepting less from another. She remains with herself when the programmed compulsion is to reach out for the love. Trying to get a man to come back when he's been ghosting/ignoring is how a woman betrays herself. If a woman is filling her life with accomplishment and success with ANY agenda to re-attract a man who has pulled away, then the woman is coming from fear, not true confidence and self love. Confidence has no agenda. Self love has no need to influence what someone else does or how someone else acts. A conscious woman does not make herself look good to the man to get his attention. She does nothing with an agenda. She does nothing to get something from the external because she knows this is not loving, for anyone. She is free from that futile attempt to get external love and validation. THIS is what attracts a conscious man. If you have an agenda to get a man back by looking good and accomplishing something, then you will attract a man who also has an agenda with you. Fear attracting fear. Covert neediness attracting covert neediness. How much trust can a bond like this have? How much depth, how much intimacy? How the man acts is reflective of the woman's relationship with herself and vice versa. If he is ghosting her, she is ghosting herself. If he is ignoring her, or pulling away, she is ignoring and pulling away from herself. If she uses any covert agenda to get him back into her life and he comes back, he also has a covert agenda when he arrives back on the scene. When you are a conscious woman, you never want a man to chase you. It's a game. You never want any games. You want to love. And to do this, you must remain true to your true self, your loving self, the self which never acts from agenda to get something from another. So, you remain with yourself, remain true to yourself, love yourself, honor and celebrate yourself, and enjoy deeply when this is reflected back to you in your life with another. Because the other is only ever going to reflect where you are in relationship with yourself. xoxo Heather
What exactly love yourself means.people have different way of loving themselves.some feels that by loving the person whom she loves means she is loving herself in turn
Even good men do this, I truly believe it’s 100% subconscious and in their DNA. Once they feel they’ve secured the female they were after, they can relax and feel secure themselves. And we’re like WTF WHY DID YOU STOP?!? And he’s like “huh???” Hahahaha poor guys!! We basically have to live in a way that keeps them reaching until we die hehehe. I love that you have men on your channel so you can both share your perspectives, I LOVE hearing it from both!
I’m not saying all men are “innocent”, but 9 times out of 10 when I let a man know he’s doing something that is putting space between us, they don’t even realize they’re doing it! And 9 times out of 10 they’re extremely eager and genuine about making it better. Men and women are soo different, I truly believe it takes WORK on both our parts for things to melt together smoothly 🖤
Exact opposite with me, in fact they say they’re “ busy” or they ignore more. Then I’m out, I told you that your ignoring and game playing bothers me and you do it more? Lol Bye
Thank you so much for this. I like how you said "you don't just want him back". I want him back better. I don't want him to change who he is. But I'm not gonna change who I am either. I am valuable. I've been thru too much and fought hard and I'm not settling for less than I want. That's not selfish. That's value.
I was seeing a guy for 5 months and he was being hot and cold..I finally told him I was looking for a committed relationship and did he see us going that way..he basically said he did not..I than told him that we had great times together and wished him the best..he agreed..I'm glad I did that..I'm sad cause I miss him and the hope of us have a future together..but I feel if he could give that easily I must not have meant that much to him....better to find out than waste more time..as the saying goes ..Next!!!
Aw Deb me too. After all these years he is so cocky. I need a break from him and his ego. I need to do something for me. Something so big that I even can't believe I did it!!!!
I've definitely been struggling lately with a guy and the kind of men I am attracting. I am grateful to hear that it's not me but other women have the same issue of the man starting off strong and then backing off even within the first few weeks. I choose to release any guy that is not coming towards me. I want to choose my value and my worth first, always.
Yes, this is an incredibly common situation that happens ALL the time (I’ve been there myself!). These videos should be helpful for you: ua-cam.com/video/ZlXm4QynpFM/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/lB_L7zPBjtU/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/eUXIXVqOt-E/v-deo.html.
It says a lot about your character that in every collab video I've seen on your channel you have natural rapport and both parties listen instead of talking over each other.
Yessssss, ladies, what can you do for YOURSELVES, so you can BE more yourself and at ease. That's a win win scenario whether you get the guy or you don't.
I was talking to this guy and I thought we had something going, and he said he only wants to focus on me etc......we talk on the phone and text, he start to act strange and pulling me away like I did something wrong, when he came back he told me he miss me and and I felt right... and this guy has the nerve to tell me, he’s going Mia and think I should talk to other guys 😒 I don’t bug him or I’m not needy.. I got no time for this playing games...I’m a good women and any men will be bless to have me in his life... to every women you are someone else blessing🙏🏾✊🏾
Helena you are always on POINT!!! Omg your questions are what ALL woman want to know!!!! You are really good at representing US Woman!!! Thanks for asking these questions and getting the answers out of Alex!!! 🤣🤣😂You are great at what u do💕💕
Ha I love the honesty, ‘I don’t like this guy for you…’ and he needs to ‘ step up to show he’s worthy of your heart’….totally telling myself these things, trusting and valuing myself. Thank you 😊💖
He would pull away and come back a day later asking why didn’t I chase him/reach out to him. Mind you he doesn’t want labels bf/gf. So I felt he was taking me for granted. He did it twice this way. I became a bit more serious the first time he couldn’t take it and called me very late at night.. then next evening he did it again messaging me saying “you failed the mission lol” at this point I became serious and not as loving as before. This is too much game. He was so sweet and loving then these little here and there games. Caused me alot of anxiety so, no more step up or step aside.
Helena Hart yes, definitely. I didn’t call him out on it though, ever. I have to continue to speak from my heart and not hold back and the fact I don’t like those things. He reached out to me today and he texted about how it went at the doctors . He didn’t however call me by the sweet name he usually calls me. He may be mad still or have his guard up. Since I was cold to him recently. Something came up on his results that is concerning. So I may be a bit more warm and not too stand-offing. This effects both of us. So I would like him to clarify and he is the only one that can do that right now.
True, if u set boundaries yeah it's effective - and he come back but I stand what I says...I never reply nor pick up his calls - besides if he truly love me he will make more effort to show his sincerely feelings - if no improvement...why would accept him again - oh no I better be alone.
Ladies most of you are more attractive and more loving than most of the men...do not let them set an opinion on if you are worthy for the crumbs of attention they toss at you...if Jesus himself let people nail him on a cross because he loves you that much...well...they fall short
Helena and Alex : you are my favorite relationship coaches. I learned a lot from you both so I'm excited to see your collaboration. Plz do more collaboration ❤️🌹. ( I feel I'm getting some of your feminine enchantment as I watched most of your videos. your way of talking and listening helped me to be more wise and confident. I always like your flower vase, you're amazing Helena 🌹)
@@HelenaHartCoaching update : Thank you Helena I can't thank you enough for your advice and support and thoughtful articles. Finally He proposed to me and said that he will do anything to please me. And openly talked about what he thought of me in the past that I was sensitive but now he felt that I've changed in the positive way😍. This can't be happened without your help. 🌹❤️🙏
The horrible thing is when we're going through a difficult time personally. Like, if my job gets super hard, I will not be able to be this amazing girl that goes out with friends and makes herself happy, I just want some comfort to go through this.
@@HelenaHartCoaching No, Thank you. Because to know how to ask questions and to get a man to answer them honestly. Woman! That is Feminine Energy at her Peak. Keep doing what you Doing Helena. You have my support. 🇨🇺💯
It is great to see that this really is a common issue with men around the globe I see. It makes you think you did something when sometimes it's just what was talked about here . This was great. Your questions were on point for us woman and your guest was great in how he explained great ideas on how to handle the situation. No one should have to wait and wonder. Setting your boundaries for what you must have in a relationship and if it's going to work, I agree. Also I practice this myself in being happy, doing me as the the first priority, meeting my life goals, keep busy, being self confident. I agreed with that. Although, when a guy ignores, it does have a hint of either the guy is scared of what he doesn't know about the person he likes or a hint of play boy does cross the mind. But I agree mostly with your guest, they can come back around and need the challenge sometimes or they need to deal with their own personal fears if they commit. I believe it varies with each situation.
Thanks for sharing your insights here! Alex and I recently did a livestream on this topic that might also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/JFn2iiTjEx0/v-deo.html
Great video, you two. I love Alex, he's wise and sweet. That's a killer combo. The biggest thing to remember is to love and take care of yourself first and not even fret about what he's thinking and doing. That's a rabbit hole you don't wanna go down, ladies.
Thanks for sharing your insights here Lisa, I agree! Here are a couple more videos I recorded with Alex if you’d like to check them out: ua-cam.com/video/JFn2iiTjEx0/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/zzUgvsLAvMM/v-deo.html.
Thank you, I’m glad this was helpful! Alex and I did a livestream today on a similar topic that you also might enjoy: ua-cam.com/video/JFn2iiTjEx0/v-deo.html
The issue is you have coaches like Corey Wayne telling men to let women chase them... giving the EXACT same advice but reverse it so you have two sexes at odds, with both waiting and neither wanting to chase 🤷🏼♀️
Listen, I was watching a lot MGTOW and Corey Videos, am I female and I followed all the advices their and after 9 years my boyfriend broke up with me! So do not listen to all these almost MGTOW relationships coaches, because they are all in their feminine energy and I literally pushed my ex into his feminine energy because I thought that's he's feeling masculine by following all this mgtowish advices 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
@LBC Ulrica I’m dealing with a guy who I’m almost certain is watching Corey Wayne. His advice is SO contradictory. Tells men to “lead, be strong” etc. then says women should be the ones reaching out, asking where the relationship is going, asking for exclusivity, saying I love you first. Fuck that! If a man is truly masculine he will ALSO lead those things. Corey Wayne is single, balding, and tells people to read his book 10-15 times because that’s how disorganized and poorly written it is. A scam artist.
F M since I started treating my ex like shit, he is calling me his princess and is complimenting me all the time, so being feminine is not the only way 😂 you have to show men that you are not afraid to lose them. period!
@@kristenmoonrise Yes! A true masculine self respecting man isn’t going to need those games to attract women. Corey Wayne tells his minions that if she doesn’t kiss on the first date she’s not interested enough so dump her and move on. If I kissed every guy I went on a first date with I would be grossed out. I don’t kiss on the first date doesn’t matter how interested I am. Why would I be kissing a stranger I don’t know where his mouth has been! He calls them “structured women” and says they’re too complicated so don’t deal with them. His tactics are for getting low value women with low self esteem to chase the man. So gross. Pass!
I’m happy to hear that, Laila! 💗 This livestream I did with Alex might also be helpful for anyone who’s in a situation like this: ua-cam.com/video/JFn2iiTjEx0/v-deo.html
You’re welcome! 💗 These videos I recorded with Alex might also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/zzUgvsLAvMM/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/JFn2iiTjEx0/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/uReS5YeiShE/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/hzhoT8YzOSk/v-deo.html.
hey helena! i would love to see a video on long distance relationships and how to communicate properly to make it work 💗 i’m in one right now and i’d love some advice!
Also what to do when they pull away and say after a year of dating and being together and your coming back soon they then ruin it by saying they can only offer friendship... it hurts...
You’re welcome! Here are a couple more videos I’ve recorded with Alex that should also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/zzUgvsLAvMM/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/JFn2iiTjEx0/v-deo.html.
I’m glad you enjoyed this! Here’s a video we recorded for his channel recently on how to ignite a man’s heart so he falls in love: ua-cam.com/video/FaGPyw0k-Bo/v-deo.html
I also gave this hot and cold. Messages,don't call or drop by late at night I told him that he can't be on my car insurance ,and so on.I haven't heard from him since April.I also didn't give him sex .I was not going to be used.I think I completely,scared him away.
I wish I’d see this earlier, you guys are so amazing and everything was on point. He literally was doing everything to get my attention we were texting every single day but when he realized that I am in fact interested in him, he started to pull himself back and stopped texting me(we live far away from each other). It’s so hard to deal with this situation, my friends had different thoughts saying I should just block him or ask what is going on. I started to not text him again and not show any interests towards him. Idk if he will come back or not but it was really nice to know him for a short time, it felt like the whole world was mine haha(I’m 18 and it was the first time that I fell for someone in my life)
Thank you! This video might help shed some more light on your situation (although I’d recommend moving on to someone who IS interested and pursuing you - remember, the right guy won’t disappear!): ua-cam.com/video/JFn2iiTjEx0/v-deo.html
@@HelenaHartCoaching I just checked that video, thank you so much for your advice and everything you guys said, I feel way better now.❤ (I'll do my best to move on)
My best friend said (btw he was my ex), its simple and straight : 1. You chase, they run. You run, they chase (duality, yin and yang) 2. Man tend to love woman because of their absences. Woman tend to love man because of their presence.
Every other video is about working on me and letting him go setting boundaries. what you dont tell us is how to wrap my head around it when my attachment is still intact on him. so de-ttachment video is needed. i am unable to change my mindset due to my own lack of self worth. help
WHEN A WOMAN IS HERSELF THE WAY GOD WANT HER TO BE NOT SOMEONE BEHIND A MASK AND ALWAYS SPEAKS HER TRUTH ABOUT HOW SHE FEELS AND WHAT SHE WANTS (EXPECT IN A RELATIONSHIP) THE RIGHT MAN WIL COME IN AND EVEN IF HE LEAVES HE WIL BE BACK CAUSE THERE IS NO OTHER WOMAN THAN HER ,A WRONG PERSON /THE WRONG PERSON WIL BE IN AND OUT AND WASTE YOUR PRECIOUS TIME AND YEARS ,AND NOBODY WANTS TO WASTE TIME IN A LOVE RELATIONSHIP MAN ARE NOT ALWAYS AT FAULT CAUSE WOMEN GOES IN RELATIONSHIPS WITH MAN JUST FOR FANANCIAL SECURITY NOT LOVE AND MEN ARE DOING THE SAME ,I CAN ONLY SAY BE WISE AND DO IT GODS WAY CAUSE IF NOTHING WORKS GODS PLAN WILL WORK
Thanks Eileen! Alex and I will be doing a livestream on my channel on Monday, April 30th at 6:30pm eastern time. In the meantime, here’s a video we recorded for his channel on how to ignite a man’s heart so he falls in love: ua-cam.com/video/FaGPyw0k-Bo/v-deo.html
Thanks Helena for recommending Alex..yes I watch him too but this gets to the heart of my problem and will do as he says..cant hurt to try reverse psychology!! Lol. Thanks sweetheart!! Let you know through the weeks ahead!
Thank you, Roxy! Here are a couple more videos I recorded with Alex that should also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/zzUgvsLAvMM/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/JFn2iiTjEx0/v-deo.html.
VALUE. When a guy ignores you it's because he is losing some of the attraction he once had for you. If you know why he's losing the attraction, then you have a good chance of keeping him, when he comes around again. There's a bunch of different reasons why he would pull away. If or when he comes back, talk to him and be direct. Tell him what you want from him to his face, not by phone or text but If you play hard to get when he first Comes back, then theirs a very good chance he will ghost you forever. He's already not too happy with the way things were going and a roadblock will probably make him leave again. Start dating him again and have fun and build up your value in his eyes, after a few fun dates his attraction and sexual tension builds up and he will feel like he did about you before.
@@HelenaHartCoaching well I did apply it and he HAS reached out twice today already. I reply lovingly... Then hold back again... Btw, we are long distance. I'm in South Florida and he is in New Jersey. I will let you know another update soon. Again thank you❤❤
Ok got it, missed that last part. So I actually was direct to him tonight. He said I understand but I've just been stressed and I have a lot going on. (Hes a police officer in new jersey).but he patrols a tiny town in New Jersey. And they are so slow he works 2 days off 6...so stress???..He seemed to get it and he understands I feel I deserve better. And understands I want 'more'. So we shall see❤Otherwise he is that hot and cold man that I need to just dump!
Zero tolerance policy for this BS. IF they want to go away let them, and lock the door on their way out. If you can lose value in their minds, that is not a recipe for success. If you take them back after they treated you like you were nothing, they will never respect you. BOY BYE
Yes, Alex gives great advice! Here are a couple more videos I’ve recorded with him: ua-cam.com/video/zzUgvsLAvMM/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/JFn2iiTjEx0/v-deo.html.
Is there a difference between “taking a break” and “breaking up”? In either situation would you still move on even though they’re the one that initiated it? I’m curious to know what everyone’s thoughts about this are.
Hi Steph, here are a few more videos I’ve recorded with Alex if you’d like to check them out: ua-cam.com/video/zzUgvsLAvMM/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/JFn2iiTjEx0/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/DvjgwlcjO3E/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/iilZFvq0pV4/v-deo.html.
Reach out & let him know how you are feeling like “Hi! I’m feeling so unsettled by all this right now. How are you feeling?” It’s that simple. Let him respond. Don’t double text. If he doesn’t answer after 2-3 days, leave it. He knows you tried and you know you tried. That’s all you can do. Channel your energy elsewhere.
Alex and I actually talked about this situation in the livestream we did together today, here’s the link if you want to check it out: ua-cam.com/video/JFn2iiTjEx0/v-deo.html
Helena Hart I watched it! Thank you! So helpful! I ended up contacting him. He responded within seconds and said He is really sick and was sorry for not being able to catch up with me and has been to the doctor 3 times within the last 2 weeks. I’m not upset but I wished him well and said keep in touch. That’s all 😇
You’re welcome! These videos should also be really helpful for your situation: ua-cam.com/video/Rdzfpp3A8FE/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/qA6BgG246bU/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/_VRQpgSdmbo/v-deo.html.
Ok been in a relationship for six years and this. Ghosting still going. Been living with him for more than two years but this ghosting shit is still happening I’m not needy but I’m respective of his needs So after showing him I give him his meals makes his lunch for wrk comes home late at night I have supper for him I challenge him all the time He makes no effort like before Before was flowers restaurant dinners date nights presents Now nothing and ghosting
how does one set boundaries. "You cannot come and go ?" "You cannot be on the phone when we are together?" I broke up and after 1.5 months he is with another woman (but I'm pretty sure he's not that serious with her).
If he’s with another woman, I would move on. You can’t force a man to do those things - he has to WANT to be that kind of man for you coming from his own internal desire. That being said, this video on boundaries might be helpful for future reference: ua-cam.com/video/ggTZAJZn1NI/v-deo.html
10-20% of men who love a challenge=10-20% of men who experienced an attachment breach due to some kind of adverse childhood experience(s). These attachment experiences are triggered by vulnerability and connection. You’re welcome. 🙏🏽🌺😆
Self-love is the key to attracting the RIGHT person for you (whether it’s this man or someone who’s an even better match). This video on boundaries might be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/ggTZAJZn1NI/v-deo.html
I purchased the feminine enchantment course and never received it. I need to cancel because I didn’t know there’s a monthly subscription fee. Can someone please help? I haven’t had any response via email. Thanks!
My ex wants to see me and talks about us visiting each other in the future. If he already knows I want to get back together, why is he doing this? He hasn't said he wants to get back together. I realise people may not come outright and say it. But what should I look out for if I want this to happen (in a feminine way - leaning back)? Should I ask him if he wants to get back together or wait for him to initiate? He keeps saying he wants to be present and live in the moment. I asked if there was anyone else and he said no.
I’m dealing with same situation, we used to talk over video call, but since two weeks he isn’t texting me and calling me either but had once, the last time when he talked to me he told me he is coming to meet me soon, but then he never contacted me.
Alex has generously offered to give away his eBook (an Amazon Best-Seller) PLUS his "7 Powerful Messages To Make A Man Change His Behavior" report for FREE to my community here: click.frenchrelationshipexpert.com/7-powerful-messages-special-offer?affiliate_id=2242878
thank you very much for your teachings its making life easier for us
You’re welcome, I’m happy to hear that! 💗
Think this: whenever a guy ignores you on a consistent basis, or even disappear on you, he is giving space to someone who would care about you by excusing himself. You should thank him!
A Ye,very well said good way of looking at it👌👊😉
Yeah I'm going through this now - if he's not texting/calling me he's obviously got another girl he's calling/texting.... saddies =(
Love this. I thank him for ignoring me. It made me move on after 2 months of no contact. I tried accepting new man. And now im happy with the new man i have who is ready to commit with the relationship.
I love this mindset shift, thanks for sharing! 💞
@@team_rudy1129 everything will get better!
Omg instead of feminine energy he calls it “feminine enchantment”, I love that!!!!
I liked that too, it reminded me of my Feminine Enchantment program! 💖
Thank you so much for having me on your UA-cam channel :-)
Anytime! Looking forward to our livestream on Monday!
Aww You're such a gentleman!
Ladies I've been following Alex for months now, he's great u should check him out.
Thank you @alex
I like what u said Alex..he is luke that on and off
Ladies. Just focus on having fun, jeez. N Don't get all bent out of shape when u don't hear from him for days. Let him miss u. 70%-30% he texts first. Pull away at a high point, lean back. When he asks what happened or asks u out, then tell him that although you like him alot, that you rather spend ur energy on someone who wants a relationship, and you don't think that's what he's offering you. Then no contact. Watch his reaction.u either get an exclusive relationship or you kiss him gbye!
Nice topic and best explanation, lots of lessons will learned, mind you that Absence makes a man miss you and relationship grows more fonder, daily texting and calling is not advisable, let the man 1st text you and calls , ao that he will not irritates for keeping communicating always, every meeting is a new lessons to learned all exciting and every moments will not forget, make things better and easier both of you , don’t get angry with him, be silent and don’t talk too much, just share your beautiful days and be happy around him ai that he will miss you always ...
Love this, I've had to pull away from a guy who I really like. He told me 9days ago he just wanted to. E friends. I was hurt an reacted badly at first, lockdown brain!! We were still in touch everyday, with him initiating the text. It really wasnt what I wanted, I had feelings for him. So on sunday I had to text him this -
Hey. Staying in touch is hard 4me, covid has shrunk my world at the min an made me feel an think things out of context. I want u 2b happy an I wanted u 2b happy with me. It's obvious u need 2 work out what you need/want too. I 110% want the best 4u, I want u 2b more than happy , it's important 2me. I hope I'm here or still here 4u when all this shit is over, it was a gamble when we met that we'd get thru lockdown an 1 we both took. I dont need 2b in a relationship but when it happens, I need that person 2 want me as much as I want them, in every way, it's what I deserve x
He didnt reply, whether he doesnt know how to react or hes moved on but I've stayed strong an I'm still not texting him. I'm important to me an if I'm not to him then that's ok xx
Lemme ask if u knew better why u watching this?
@@evolvepisceangainspentacles dont know if that's for me, but sometimes u watch things on UA-cam just 2 ensure your on the right path. Nobody knows better, we all do what suits us at ths time
YOU FREAKIN SAID IT . this is it 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Women tend to always come across needy to men after we allow them to catch us. We need to give them space to allow them the opportunity to miss us! If we are always at their beck & call they will take us for granted. Men are made hunters let them chase you! Even when they already have you! I have been married for 28 years (Thank You Jesus) i still let him chase me even though i am his! ❤️
Thanks for sharing your experience and insights here, Lisa! 💙
How do you let him chase you when you are belong to him? Examples please. Thanks
Tada Srirathung - This video should be helpful and give you some examples: ua-cam.com/video/J06JOGuM6eU/v-deo.html
Tada Srirathung There are several ways. Let me try to list some examples. For one-just as Helena mentions in her videos; using my feminine energy. If he is working i wait to hear from him! Unless of course on occasional, “hope you are having a good day” or “cant wait to see you text. I focus on myself. I get ready every day with the best version of myself and when he comes home i wrap my arms around him and show him how much i am happy i am to see him! Another example is if i need something done in my car or at home-even though i can totally take care of it... i ask him to please do it and i thank him afterwards and therefore he feels worthy. Kinda like my hero because i needed his help. Men want to be men and if we act like we can do everything it places a damper on their ego. I look at it this way.. the more i build him up as a man by simply allowing him to do stuff (big or small) he feels appreciated and i give him space to do things without me burning up his phone with where are you texts and dressing all cute & sexy for him allowing him to approach me then i know he is all for me! It will make him want to do more for me because he being my hero per say is making his chest pump for me. Advice i can give you is just love him and focus on yourself all while building him up with positive & encouraging words all while expressing gratitude is key! Hope this all made sense! In my head it did lol ohhh one more thing...before he even leaves to go to work do something sexy to leave him with lingering thoughts about you all day! Trust me-it works! ❤️
If you put your energy on loving yourself, you will never be attracted to a man who moves from such fear as to pull away when the woman shows love and affection. If a man doesn't know what he wants, then it is because he doesn't know himself. And the only way a man can know where to put his attention (on knowing himself), is when woman reflects that for him. She does this by continually putting her attention on her own soul growth and healing the misunderstanding that the love longed for comes from any external source. She does this by vigilantly returning her attention to knowing her true, divine self. When this occurs, then there is no push and pull necessary in any relationship because a conscious woman does not push and pull within herself. She falls in love with loving herself. She falls into deeper and deeper acceptance of her humanity. She is true to herself. She frees herself from the bondage and self betrayal of accepting less from another. She remains with herself when the programmed compulsion is to reach out for the love. Trying to get a man to come back when he's been ghosting/ignoring is how a woman betrays herself. If a woman is filling her life with accomplishment and success with ANY agenda to re-attract a man who has pulled away, then the woman is coming from fear, not true confidence and self love. Confidence has no agenda. Self love has no need to influence what someone else does or how someone else acts. A conscious woman does not make herself look good to the man to get his attention. She does nothing with an agenda. She does nothing to get something from the external because she knows this is not loving, for anyone. She is free from that futile attempt to get external love and validation. THIS is what attracts a conscious man. If you have an agenda to get a man back by looking good and accomplishing something, then you will attract a man who also has an agenda with you. Fear attracting fear. Covert neediness attracting covert neediness. How much trust can a bond like this have? How much depth, how much intimacy? How the man acts is reflective of the woman's relationship with herself and vice versa. If he is ghosting her, she is ghosting herself. If he is ignoring her, or pulling away, she is ignoring and pulling away from herself. If she uses any covert agenda to get him back into her life and he comes back, he also has a covert agenda when he arrives back on the scene. When you are a conscious woman, you never want a man to chase you. It's a game. You never want any games. You want to love. And to do this, you must remain true to your true self, your loving self, the self which never acts from agenda to get something from another. So, you remain with yourself, remain true to yourself, love yourself, honor and celebrate yourself, and enjoy deeply when this is reflected back to you in your life with another. Because the other is only ever going to reflect where you are in relationship with yourself. xoxo Heather
I love what you said here and totally agree, thanks for sharing your insights! 💕
What would be helpful is to know how to do that. What does ‘love yourself’ look and act and sound like? What?
Very well said ❤
What exactly love yourself means.people have different way of loving themselves.some feels that by loving the person whom she loves means she is loving herself in turn
Even good men do this, I truly believe it’s 100% subconscious and in their DNA. Once they feel they’ve secured the female they were after, they can relax and feel secure themselves. And we’re like WTF WHY DID YOU STOP?!? And he’s like “huh???” Hahahaha poor guys!! We basically have to live in a way that keeps them reaching until we die hehehe. I love that you have men on your channel so you can both share your perspectives, I LOVE hearing it from both!
I’m glad you enjoy hearing a variety of perspectives, I do too! 💞
I Agree with you 100%. Even after marriage or moving in together, men will pull away from time to time.
Indeed me too love hearing both perspectives
Thing changed after I told him I was engaged. I would rather been with him than my current engagement
This is exactly what I am going through. The universe is on my side.
Yes, it is! 💖
I’m not saying all men are “innocent”, but 9 times out of 10 when I let a man know he’s doing something that is putting space between us, they don’t even realize they’re doing it! And 9 times out of 10 they’re extremely eager and genuine about making it better. Men and women are soo different, I truly believe it takes WORK on both our parts for things to melt together smoothly 🖤
Thanks for sharing your insights here, Courtney! 💜
Yeah, instead they call you crazy
Absolutely
Exact opposite with me, in fact they say they’re “ busy” or they ignore more.
Then I’m out, I told you that your ignoring and game playing bothers me and you do it more? Lol
Bye
Oh yes, the good ole we’re “ crazy” for wanting basic human respect
When the guy comes back...be super nice but it can never be the same again...I'm done with the cycle games...coming and going bs
I’m happy to hear you’re done with the games! 💕
Dawn Gregorie right 👏🏾👏🏾😒
😅😅🤣🥂
I hate game playing its hard work 💪I don't think men who play games really change.😪
Thank you so much for this. I like how you said "you don't just want him back". I want him back better. I don't want him to change who he is. But I'm not gonna change who I am either. I am valuable. I've been thru too much and fought hard and I'm not settling for less than I want. That's not selfish. That's value.
You’re welcome, Therese! 💕
But you both have to change for the relationship to work.
Love that.
Tell a man that you love him and he starts backing up tell him that you don’t and he’s a love sick pup !!!
Soooo sick of games !!!😩
This sounds like an emotionally unavailable or immature man - I’d say it’s a big sign that he’s not the right guy for you.
I believe you. I just told mine that In April. Then boom on 4.16 he broke up with me.
I was seeing a guy for 5 months and he was being hot and cold..I finally told him I was looking for a committed relationship and did he see us going that way..he basically said he did not..I than told him that we had great times together and wished him the best..he agreed..I'm glad I did that..I'm sad cause I miss him and the hope of us have a future together..but I feel if he could give that easily I must not have meant that much to him....better to find out than waste more time..as the saying goes ..Next!!!
I did the same, feeling better everyday and its shows value 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Good for you!!...I know we both will find our guy..Best wishes to you..
I’m so happy you were able to do that, you’re both amazing and inspiring! ❤️
Aw Deb me too. After all these years he is so cocky. I need a break from him and his ego. I need to do something for me. Something so big that I even can't believe I did it!!!!
🙌 I know how hard that was....but.....yay go girl!! This gives you self empowerment! You are worth more!
I've definitely been struggling lately with a guy and the kind of men I am attracting. I am grateful to hear that it's not me but other women have the same issue of the man starting off strong and then backing off even within the first few weeks. I choose to release any guy that is not coming towards me. I want to choose my value and my worth first, always.
Yes, this is an incredibly common situation that happens ALL the time (I’ve been there myself!). These videos should be helpful for you: ua-cam.com/video/ZlXm4QynpFM/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/lB_L7zPBjtU/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/eUXIXVqOt-E/v-deo.html.
Yes they come back after a couple months when I’m dating somebody else 🤣
Yes, that’s something I hear about happening ALL the time! 💞
HELL YES ALL THE TIMEEEEEEE
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Some of them tried to come back after 10 years 🤣
Cari L.
The consistent guy who’s into you wins. Flaky dude ends up alone. That’s just natural selection 😉
It says a lot about your character that in every collab video I've seen on your channel you have natural rapport and both parties listen instead of talking over each other.
Thank you, Sheila! 💞
Absolutely spot on...you're amazing
Thank you so much! ❤️
Yessssss, ladies, what can you do for YOURSELVES, so you can BE more yourself and at ease. That's a win win scenario whether you get the guy or you don't.
I love what you said here, thanks for sharing your insights! 💖
I was talking to this guy and I thought we had something going, and he said he only wants to focus on me etc......we talk on the phone and text, he start to act strange and pulling me away like I did something wrong, when he came back he told me he miss me and and I felt right... and this guy has the nerve to tell me, he’s going Mia and think I should talk to other guys 😒 I don’t bug him or I’m not needy.. I got no time for this playing games...I’m a good women and any men will be bless to have me in his life... to every women you are someone else blessing🙏🏾✊🏾
I’m glad you’re taking a stand for what you truly want and deserve in a relationship! 💜
Helena you are always on POINT!!! Omg your questions are what ALL woman want to know!!!! You are really good at representing US Woman!!! Thanks for asking these questions and getting the answers out of Alex!!! 🤣🤣😂You are great at what u do💕💕
Aww thank you so much, I’m happy to hear that! ❤️
Yes they come back . But by the time they do you have already moved on. Dont let them back into your life!! You deserve better.
Thanks for sharing, Ann-Marie! 💜
Ha I love the honesty, ‘I don’t like this guy for you…’ and he needs to ‘ step up to show he’s worthy of your heart’….totally telling myself these things, trusting and valuing myself. Thank you 😊💖
You’re welcome! I’m happy to hear that. 💗
He would pull away and come back a day later asking why didn’t I chase him/reach out to him. Mind you he doesn’t want labels bf/gf. So I felt he was taking me for granted. He did it twice this way. I became a bit more serious the first time he couldn’t take it and called me very late at night.. then next evening he did it again messaging me saying “you failed the mission lol” at this point I became serious and not as loving as before. This is too much game. He was so sweet and loving then these little here and there games. Caused me alot of anxiety so, no more step up or step aside.
Yes, it sounds like he was playing mind games - it doesn’t sound very mature to me. I’m glad you’ll be moving on if he doesn’t step up. ❤️
Helena Hart yes, definitely. I didn’t call him out on it though, ever. I have to continue to speak from my heart and not hold back and the fact I don’t like those things. He reached out to me today and he texted about how it went at the doctors . He didn’t however call me by the sweet name he usually calls me. He may be mad still or have his guard up. Since I was cold to him recently. Something came up on his results that is concerning. So I may be a bit more warm and not too stand-offing. This effects both of us. So I would like him to clarify and he is the only one that can do that right now.
True, if u set boundaries yeah it's effective - and he come back but I stand what I says...I never reply nor pick up his calls - besides if he truly love me he will make more effort to show his sincerely feelings - if no improvement...why would accept him again - oh no I better be alone.
I’m in love with Alex. Thank you Helena for sharing. Love
You’re welcome! 💕
Thanks so much :-)
Yuk!!!
Ladies most of you are more attractive and more loving than most of the men...do not let them set an opinion on if you are worthy for the crumbs of attention they toss at you...if Jesus himself let people nail him on a cross because he loves you that much...well...they fall short
Thanks for sharing, Anne! 💜
Helena and Alex : you are my favorite relationship coaches. I learned a lot from you both so I'm excited to see your collaboration. Plz do more collaboration ❤️🌹.
( I feel I'm getting some of your feminine enchantment as I watched most of your videos. your way of talking and listening helped me to be more wise and confident. I always like your flower vase, you're amazing Helena 🌹)
Thank you, I’m happy to hear that! Alex and I just did a livestream together today that I think you’ll love: ua-cam.com/video/JFn2iiTjEx0/v-deo.html
@@HelenaHartCoaching update : Thank you Helena I can't thank you enough for your advice and support and thoughtful articles. Finally He proposed to me and said that he will do anything to please me. And openly talked about what he thought of me in the past that I was sensitive but now he felt that I've changed in the positive way😍. This can't be happened without your help. 🌹❤️🙏
Soso Sun - Congratulations!! I’m SO happy to hear that! ❤️
The horrible thing is when we're going through a difficult time personally. Like, if my job gets super hard, I will not be able to be this amazing girl that goes out with friends and makes herself happy, I just want some comfort to go through this.
Yes, I’d say if a man doesn’t want to be there for you during the difficult times he’s not the right one for you. 💜
Helena You know how to ask questions!!! You rock Girl!!! And Alex I appreciate your time on answering these questions honestly.
Thank you, QueenVictorious! 👑❤️
@@HelenaHartCoaching No, Thank you. Because to know how to ask questions and to get a man to answer them honestly. Woman! That is Feminine Energy at her Peak. Keep doing what you Doing Helena. You have my support. 🇨🇺💯
It is great to see that this really is a common issue with men around the globe I see. It makes you think you did something when sometimes it's just what was talked about here . This was great. Your questions were on point for us woman and your guest was great in how he explained great ideas on how to handle the situation. No one should have to wait and wonder. Setting your boundaries for what you must have in a relationship and if it's going to work, I agree. Also I practice this myself in being happy, doing me as the the first priority, meeting my life goals, keep busy, being self confident. I agreed with that. Although, when a guy ignores, it does have a hint of either the guy is scared of what he doesn't know about the person he likes or a hint of play boy does cross the mind. But I agree mostly with your guest, they can come back around and need the challenge sometimes or they need to deal with their own personal fears if they commit. I believe it varies with each situation.
Thanks for sharing your insights here! Alex and I recently did a livestream on this topic that might also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/JFn2iiTjEx0/v-deo.html
Great video, you two. I love Alex, he's wise and sweet. That's a killer combo. The biggest thing to remember is to love and take care of yourself first and not even fret about what he's thinking and doing. That's a rabbit hole you don't wanna go down, ladies.
Thanks for sharing your insights here Lisa, I agree! Here are a couple more videos I recorded with Alex if you’d like to check them out: ua-cam.com/video/JFn2iiTjEx0/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/zzUgvsLAvMM/v-deo.html.
@@HelenaHartCoaching Thank you for the links. I'll go watch them. Have a blessed day! Are you married yet?
Just excellent..excellent ..excellent advice Helena and brilliant guess..so appreciated to the max.
Thank you, I’m glad this was helpful! Alex and I did a livestream today on a similar topic that you also might enjoy: ua-cam.com/video/JFn2iiTjEx0/v-deo.html
They actual make a good couple I bet.
The issue is you have coaches like Corey Wayne telling men to let women chase them... giving the EXACT same advice but reverse it so you have two sexes at odds, with both waiting and neither wanting to chase 🤷🏼♀️
Listen, I was watching a lot MGTOW and Corey Videos, am I female and I followed all the advices their and after 9 years my boyfriend broke up with me! So do not listen to all these almost MGTOW relationships coaches, because they are all in their feminine energy and I literally pushed my ex into his feminine energy because I thought that's he's feeling masculine by following all this mgtowish advices 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
@LBC Ulrica I’m dealing with a guy who I’m almost certain is watching Corey Wayne. His advice is SO contradictory. Tells men to “lead, be strong” etc. then says women should be the ones reaching out, asking where the relationship is going, asking for exclusivity, saying I love you first. Fuck that! If a man is truly masculine he will ALSO lead those things. Corey Wayne is single, balding, and tells people to read his book 10-15 times because that’s how disorganized and poorly written it is. A scam artist.
F M since I started treating my ex like shit, he is calling me his princess and is complimenting me all the time, so being feminine is not the only way 😂 you have to show men that you are not afraid to lose them. period!
Corey Wayne is for low grade men who see the goal only as sleeping with the woman after the third date 🙄
@@kristenmoonrise Yes! A true masculine self respecting man isn’t going to need those games to attract women. Corey Wayne tells his minions that if she doesn’t kiss on the first date she’s not interested enough so dump her and move on. If I kissed every guy I went on a first date with I would be grossed out. I don’t kiss on the first date doesn’t matter how interested I am. Why would I be kissing a stranger I don’t know where his mouth has been! He calls them “structured women” and says they’re too complicated so don’t deal with them. His tactics are for getting low value women with low self esteem to chase the man. So gross. Pass!
Alex you’re amazing! Helen you too!
Thanks Patricia! 💕
Absolutely fantastique, merci, you both just gave me the courage to crawl out of the " misery"... I am worth it x x
I’m happy to hear that, Laila! 💗 This livestream I did with Alex might also be helpful for anyone who’s in a situation like this: ua-cam.com/video/JFn2iiTjEx0/v-deo.html
I Really appreciate this video,I am really learning a lot and help me so much and so with other videos.MORE POWER!Thank you so much!🥰❤️
You’re welcome! 💗 These videos I recorded with Alex might also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/zzUgvsLAvMM/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/JFn2iiTjEx0/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/uReS5YeiShE/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/hzhoT8YzOSk/v-deo.html.
hey helena! i would love to see a video on long distance relationships and how to communicate properly to make it work 💗 i’m in one right now and i’d love some advice!
These videos should be helpful for you: ua-cam.com/video/_Rm3bi1DNT8/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/P0SqofbyFK8/v-deo.html.
Also what to do when they pull away and say after a year of dating and being together and your coming back soon they then ruin it by saying they can only offer friendship... it hurts...
Woman need to not care
And men need to grow up
wow this was exactly what I needed to hear! thank you for the reminder :)
You’re welcome! Here are a couple more videos I’ve recorded with Alex that should also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/zzUgvsLAvMM/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/JFn2iiTjEx0/v-deo.html.
Helena I've watched your videos for awhile and love them! I've noticed your increased confidence and clarity, it is inspiring. Thank you!
You’re welcome Jerri, I’m happy to hear that! ❤️
Alex is so good! I love his candor. And those red roses 🌹 wowww very nice! 👏💕
I’m glad you enjoyed this! Here’s a video we recorded for his channel recently on how to ignite a man’s heart so he falls in love: ua-cam.com/video/FaGPyw0k-Bo/v-deo.html
@Helena Hart Thanks Helena! Watching now!
You’re welcome! Alex and I will also be doing a livestream on my channel on Monday, April 30th at 6:30pm eastern time. 💕
I also gave this hot and cold. Messages,don't call or drop by late at night I told him that he can't be on my car insurance ,and so on.I haven't heard from him since April.I also didn't give him sex .I was not going to be used.I think I completely,scared him away.
I wish I’d see this earlier, you guys are so amazing and everything was on point. He literally was doing everything to get my attention we were texting every single day but when he realized that I am in fact interested in him, he started to pull himself back and stopped texting me(we live far away from each other).
It’s so hard to deal with this situation, my friends had different thoughts saying I should just block him or ask what is going on. I started to not text him again and not show any interests towards him. Idk if he will come back or not but it was really nice to know him for a short time, it felt like the whole world was mine haha(I’m 18 and it was the first time that I fell for someone in my life)
Thank you! This video might help shed some more light on your situation (although I’d recommend moving on to someone who IS interested and pursuing you - remember, the right guy won’t disappear!): ua-cam.com/video/JFn2iiTjEx0/v-deo.html
@@HelenaHartCoaching I just checked that video, thank you so much for your advice and everything you guys said, I feel way better now.❤ (I'll do my best to move on)
Thank you both for the genuine interaction and chat about this. You guys are wonderful 🙏🏼🌻💗
You’re welcome, Maile! 💜
My best friend said (btw he was my ex), its simple and straight :
1. You chase, they run. You run, they chase (duality, yin and yang)
2. Man tend to love woman because of their absences. Woman tend to love man because of their presence.
Thanks for sharing! My husband gave his take on that in this video: ua-cam.com/video/N510Pvz0sx8/v-deo.html
This was great! I hope all the info shared will help me and my relationship.
Thank you, we’d love to hear how this goes for you! 💙
So happy to see you together Alex and Helana! Always apply two of your advice in my love life.. God bless you both as relationship coach 💕💯💯
Thank you so much! 💗
This is such great content and advice to take !!!
Thank you! 💜
Every other video is about working on me and letting him go setting boundaries. what you dont tell us is how to wrap my head around it when my attachment is still intact on him. so de-ttachment video is needed. i am unable to change my mindset due to my own lack of self worth. help
This video should be helpful for you: ua-cam.com/video/4SBxUGRBFfI/v-deo.html
Look up craig Kenneth on UA-cam, you won't be disappointed xo
I love this video i learn alot coach alex was so rigth. And thank you both you coaches more power guys.❤
You’re welcome, Dona! 💜
WHEN A WOMAN IS HERSELF THE WAY GOD WANT HER TO BE NOT SOMEONE BEHIND A MASK AND ALWAYS SPEAKS HER TRUTH ABOUT HOW SHE FEELS AND WHAT SHE WANTS (EXPECT IN A RELATIONSHIP) THE RIGHT MAN WIL COME IN AND EVEN IF HE LEAVES HE WIL BE BACK CAUSE THERE IS NO OTHER WOMAN THAN HER ,A WRONG PERSON /THE WRONG PERSON WIL BE IN AND OUT AND WASTE YOUR PRECIOUS TIME AND YEARS ,AND NOBODY WANTS TO WASTE TIME IN A LOVE RELATIONSHIP MAN ARE NOT ALWAYS AT FAULT CAUSE WOMEN GOES IN RELATIONSHIPS WITH MAN JUST FOR FANANCIAL SECURITY NOT LOVE AND MEN ARE DOING THE SAME ,I CAN ONLY SAY BE WISE AND DO IT GODS WAY CAUSE IF NOTHING WORKS GODS PLAN WILL WORK
Thanks for sharing your insights here!
Great video Helena, i would love to see other videos with Alex. Be well and safe
Thanks Eileen! Alex and I will be doing a livestream on my channel on Monday, April 30th at 6:30pm eastern time. In the meantime, here’s a video we recorded for his channel on how to ignite a man’s heart so he falls in love: ua-cam.com/video/FaGPyw0k-Bo/v-deo.html
@@HelenaHartCoaching thank you so much for getting back to me. I saved the date , i will watch his video ....xoxo
This video was great ♥️
Thanks Lynda! 💕
Omg it's amazing I love your advice .... more plssss😍
Thank you! Alex and I did a livestream on a similar topic a couple days ago that I think you’ll love too: ua-cam.com/video/JFn2iiTjEx0/v-deo.html
I personally feel there is more to life than an ex
Thanks for sharing your insights here, I agree! 💚
I must keep this video in my back pocket 😄
I’m glad this was helpful! 💜
Your new subscriber here. I'm going through this right now. Thanks for sharing this ❤️
You’re welcome Arlene, I’m glad this was helpful for you! 💕
Haha my two favorite dating coaches in one video
So happy to hear that, thanks for watching! 💚
Thanks Helena for recommending Alex..yes I watch him too but this gets to the heart of my problem and will do as he says..cant hurt to try reverse psychology!! Lol. Thanks sweetheart!! Let you know through the weeks ahead!
You’re welcome! 💕
I like his advice, thank you.
You’re welcome! Alex and I also did a livestream yesterday on a similar topic that you might enjoy: ua-cam.com/video/JFn2iiTjEx0/v-deo.html
What if you work with him? What do you do?
I love this. You’re both so amazing at your advice. This has really helped me. 💖
Thank you, Roxy! Here are a couple more videos I recorded with Alex that should also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/zzUgvsLAvMM/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/JFn2iiTjEx0/v-deo.html.
@@HelenaHartCoaching Thank you for that. Do you have any videos on dealing with hot and cold behaviour and moving forward? 💖
@@mazroxy1217 The two videos I included above should help you with that. 💕
@@HelenaHartCoaching Awww thank you so much. 💖Xxx
the best video so far! thank you so much! x
You’re welcome, Eva! 💕
Great advice & thanks to both of u:)
You’re welcome, Amy! 💗
VALUE. When a guy ignores you it's because he is losing some of the attraction he once had for you. If you know why he's losing the attraction, then you have a good chance of keeping him, when he comes around again. There's a bunch of different reasons why he would pull away. If or when he comes back, talk to him and be direct. Tell him what you want from him to his face, not by phone or text but If you play hard to get when he first Comes back, then theirs a very good chance he will ghost you forever. He's already not too happy with the way things were going and a roadblock will probably make him leave again. Start dating him again and have fun and build up your value in his eyes, after a few fun dates his attraction and sexual tension builds up and he will feel like he did about you before.
Beautiful video. Great work
Thanks for watching, I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💜
This is very helpful ❤️
I’m glad this was helpful! 💕
I loved this! How refreshing Helena, Thank You!
You’re welcome Shayleen, I’m glad you enjoyed this! 💗
LOVE! However, waiting 2-4 weeks is gonna be TOUGH!
I’m glad you enjoyed this! 💙
I hope this video doesn't go away
It’s staying up! 💜
SPOT ON! Going to try this❤thank you
You’re welcome, I’d love to hear how this goes for you! 💕
@@HelenaHartCoaching well I did apply it and he HAS reached out twice today already. I reply lovingly... Then hold back again... Btw, we are long distance. I'm in South Florida and he is in New Jersey. I will let you know another update soon. Again thank you❤❤
Ok got it, missed that last part. So I actually was direct to him tonight. He said I understand but I've just been stressed and I have a lot going on. (Hes a police officer in new jersey).but he patrols a tiny town in New Jersey. And they are so slow he works 2 days off 6...so stress???..He seemed to get it and he understands I feel I deserve better. And understands I want 'more'. So we shall see❤Otherwise he is that hot and cold man that I need to just dump!
They always come back
Yes, they do! 💕
Zero tolerance policy for this BS. IF they want to go away let them, and lock the door on their way out. If you can lose value in their minds, that is not a recipe for success. If you take them back after they treated you like you were nothing, they will never respect you. BOY BYE
Thanks for sharing your insights here, Denise!
Brilliant 😃 great job u guys thank you 😘
You’re welcome, Sasha! 💗
Thank you, Helena.
You’re welcome! 💕
Thank you 😊 Darlene Dean in Richmond, Virginia!
You’re welcome, Darlene! 💕
Amazing advice!
Thank you! 💙
This man is damn right
Yes, Alex gives great advice! Here are a couple more videos I’ve recorded with him: ua-cam.com/video/zzUgvsLAvMM/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/JFn2iiTjEx0/v-deo.html.
Is there a difference between “taking a break” and “breaking up”? In either situation would you still move on even though they’re the one that initiated it? I’m curious to know what everyone’s thoughts about this are.
Hi Monique, this video might be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/VEkz-OSVDbo/v-deo.html
Alex is the best
Hi Steph, here are a few more videos I’ve recorded with Alex if you’d like to check them out: ua-cam.com/video/zzUgvsLAvMM/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/JFn2iiTjEx0/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/DvjgwlcjO3E/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/iilZFvq0pV4/v-deo.html.
What if he’s ignoring you during quarantine? 😂 what do you do then? It’s not like he can actually set up a date when everything is shut down.
That's exactly what I am dealing with too! 😭
Reach out & let him know how you are feeling like “Hi! I’m feeling so unsettled by all this right now. How are you feeling?” It’s that simple. Let him respond. Don’t double text. If he doesn’t answer after 2-3 days, leave it. He knows you tried and you know you tried. That’s all you can do. Channel your energy elsewhere.
Alex and I actually talked about this situation in the livestream we did together today, here’s the link if you want to check it out: ua-cam.com/video/JFn2iiTjEx0/v-deo.html
Helena Hart I watched it! Thank you! So helpful! I ended up contacting him. He responded within seconds and said He is really sick and was sorry for not being able to catch up with me and has been to the doctor 3 times within the last 2 weeks. I’m not upset but I wished him well and said keep in touch. That’s all 😇
You’re welcome Vitani, I’m glad that helped! 💞
This helped thanks! I’m newly dating and I have itchy fingers to text all day 🤣😫 but nope I’m not doing it
You’re welcome! These videos should also be really helpful for your situation: ua-cam.com/video/Rdzfpp3A8FE/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/qA6BgG246bU/v-deo.html, ua-cam.com/video/7r_ba4kReaQ/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/_VRQpgSdmbo/v-deo.html.
He's sweet guy
you both are adorable
Aww thanks! 😊
Yes fear leads to avoidance
Thanks for sharing, Janine! 💙
Ok been in a relationship for six years and this. Ghosting still going. Been living with him for more than two years but this ghosting shit is still happening
I’m not needy but I’m respective of his needs
So after showing him I give him his meals makes his lunch for wrk comes home late at night I have supper for him
I challenge him all the time
He makes no effort like before
Before was flowers restaurant dinners date nights presents
Now nothing and ghosting
They always do this lol
It’s so frustrating!
That’s why I stay single honestly, feels like you can’t win with these fools
how does one set boundaries. "You cannot come and go ?" "You cannot be on the phone when we are together?" I broke up and after 1.5 months he is with another woman (but I'm pretty sure he's not that serious with her).
If he’s with another woman, I would move on. You can’t force a man to do those things - he has to WANT to be that kind of man for you coming from his own internal desire. That being said, this video on boundaries might be helpful for future reference: ua-cam.com/video/ggTZAJZn1NI/v-deo.html
Thank you guy sharing love and beautiful Massage see you
You’re welcome! 💜
Beautiful outfit 🌸🌸🌸
Thank you, Hope! 💖
Alex is so good 😊
Yes, Alex‘s advice is spot on! 💙
10-20% of men who love a challenge=10-20% of men who experienced an attachment breach due to some kind of adverse childhood experience(s). These attachment experiences are triggered by vulnerability and connection.
You’re welcome. 🙏🏽🌺😆
Thanks for sharing your insights here! Here’s a video on that topic if anyone’s interested in learning more: ua-cam.com/video/xu9mQ6mtfcU/v-deo.html
Good advice
Thank you! 💕
What kind of boundaries? I guess I didn't have any and too available because I wanted to see him. So self love is the key to getting him back?
Self-love is the key to attracting the RIGHT person for you (whether it’s this man or someone who’s an even better match). This video on boundaries might be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/ggTZAJZn1NI/v-deo.html
I purchased the feminine enchantment course and never received it. I need to cancel because I didn’t know there’s a monthly subscription fee. Can someone please help? I haven’t had any response via email. Thanks!
You can send an email to support@matthewcoast.com if you need help with one of the programs.
Thank you
You’re welcome, Gertrude! 💝
Helena for some reason I thought you said Alex was great because he has "hundreds of thousands of strawberries" not "subscribers"! 😆
So funny! 🍓😂
My ex wants to see me and talks about us visiting each other in the future. If he already knows I want to get back together, why is he doing this? He hasn't said he wants to get back together. I realise people may not come outright and say it. But what should I look out for if I want this to happen (in a feminine way - leaning back)? Should I ask him if he wants to get back together or wait for him to initiate? He keeps saying he wants to be present and live in the moment. I asked if there was anyone else and he said no.
I’m dealing with same situation, we used to talk over video call, but since two weeks he isn’t texting me and calling me either but had once, the last time when he talked to me he told me he is coming to meet me soon, but then he never contacted me.
These videos should be helpful for your situation: ua-cam.com/video/4CbO9qRmvDM/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/JFn2iiTjEx0/v-deo.html.
💚 Alex