The first cycle my narcisist put me through before I knew anything about the disorder. She did something that made me mad. So I wanted nothing to do with her. She started asking people if I was ok and texted me to see if I wasn't sick or injured. I gave in because of that. This started the 2nd cycle. She is now hoovering me trying to start the 3rd cycle, but now I know what I am dealing with.
They are quite clever. They have a patten, they map you, target your needs then start the game. They are emotional criminals, vampires. Don't kid yourself
Step gently into that plan. While it can alleviate stress on your side, it can madden them. They think they own you so good luck convincing them otherwise. It's always in your best interest for them to think it was their idea to leave, not yours. Remember that they are predators, you are prey. You may think you have regained control but it's just a pause in the game. Unless you put many miles between you, they can easily slip into obsessive stalking, and it becomes dangerous real fast.
Yes. I went silent on mine first then she deleted me on the chat app we use months later. I then blocked her when she tried to re-engage. I get the impression that she will go through third parties to pressure me to accept her friend requests. I wish she stayed away thinking she was in control.
I did the no contact while I was still in the same room with her, why did I do that. That mask came off fully and it was like running from a demon in that house. Been gone 3 months now never to return again🤞🏾
it's hard no contact, especially we live downstairs and there's only one entrance? in the narcissist leaves his door open, so you have to walk by his door, very hard sometimes I feel like going out the window of my room? who he is and looking at at his face makes me sick
They never stop trying. After 6 years of NC she contacted me wanting "her stuff back" which was actually mine. I didn't respond and blocked her. 6 years after that she tried again through another party saying I blocked her so she has no way to communicate with me and she wants "her stuff" back. 12 Years of trying to make me break NC!!! No...They never stop.
If you go no contact, block them on social media, and don't post your whole life on social media, then they have no way to Target you for scheme you again. End of story. They see what you want them to see. Some of you are fantasizing about them wanting your attention because you want attention. Sometimes they just leave you alone and forget about you. Hard pill to swallow
I feel sorry for targets that have children with narcissists. Children and/or a business together makes getting away from the narcissist exponentially more difficult. I was able to break away from my narc now-ex-wife after the divorce and have zero regrets doing so.
I went back and forth with my Narc trying to please her for 10 years until I realize I was in a never ending uphil battle . I’ve went no contact and she is losing it
So I went 30 days no contact, and then she showed up at my parents condo 3 hours away last night. And we had a MEETUP. God damnit. I missed her and I wanted to see her. She appealed to the love side of things. I know I fucked up. But I really do like her as a person and I feel bad for her I think she really does need help -she is not as good at this narcissistic character as she thinks she is. She is getting in legal trouble. I would like to help her but I also don’t want her to smear or frame or entrap me and arrest me or punish me in some sort of way. It’s such a crazy line one must ride. Anyways she needs me to buy an apartment for her…. Or a car…. So she doesn’t sleep outside. I remember the night she sold the car I bought her and paid all payments on didn’t give me a penny had a fight with me and I slept outside by a dumpster. Wild life.
Hell no you must want to be use again and again tell you find yourself in jail.for.a crime you did not commit. Are you crazy ain't hat much love in this world for you to give into someone like her. She playing you big time I mean big time.
the moment i understand what was going on, what the truth and the reality was,,, that's what made me think and realized that i should leave and walk away with her the narc. going 2 years now come february 2023 doing no contact. i've already blocked her where she could reach me, but it's true they will try anything to reach out just to hoover using different numbers. they do stalking either. i just ignored it no matter what. if changing my cellphone number was that easy., definitely i would then. again, accepting the truth and the reality will set you free from the narc.'s grip. doing no contact will be easy then. do it not to teach them a lesson or just a form of revenge. do it for your own good and to save your sanity and well being. thank you anoushka! your insights are always on point and what helped me to strive moving on.
I've been ignoring this idiot for 2 months, and he still tries to text me .....last one was ... could you help me with something ? .... yeah, sure, I would 😂 sick manipulator!!!!! I'm so happy that I'm so strong !
This is also used in a wrong way when people try and convince a spouse to do this to gain their own control and alienate you from your family. The Bible totally speaks against this strategy.
The first cycle my narcisist put me through before I knew anything about the disorder. She did something that made me mad. So I wanted nothing to do with her. She started asking people if I was ok and texted me to see if I wasn't sick or injured. I gave in because of that. This started the 2nd cycle. She is now hoovering me trying to start the 3rd cycle, but now I know what I am dealing with.
They are quite clever. They have a patten, they map you, target your needs then start the game. They are emotional criminals, vampires. Don't kid yourself
They are cunning rather than clever.
Amen
@@lamentate07 Nicely put not intelligence it's oppurtunistic
They' re pure evil, not clever by any means.
Narc injury... All the people they hurt, they can take some pain...
Step gently into that plan. While it can alleviate stress on your side, it can madden them. They think they own you so good luck convincing them otherwise. It's always in your best interest for them to think it was their idea to leave, not yours. Remember that they are predators, you are prey. You may think you have regained control but it's just a pause in the game. Unless you put many miles between you, they can easily slip into obsessive stalking, and it becomes dangerous real fast.
Yes. I went silent on mine first then she deleted me on the chat app we use months later. I then blocked her when she tried to re-engage. I get the impression that she will go through third parties to pressure me to accept her friend requests. I wish she stayed away thinking she was in control.
I did the no contact while I was still in the same room with her, why did I do that. That mask came off fully and it was like running from a demon in that house. Been gone 3 months now never to return again🤞🏾
Because it was a Demon
@@schwiftycats gone 6 months now and counting
it's hard no contact, especially we live downstairs and there's only one entrance? in the narcissist leaves his door open, so you have to walk by his door, very hard sometimes I feel like going out the window of my room? who he is and looking at at his face makes me sick
They never stop trying. After 6 years of NC she contacted me wanting "her stuff back" which was actually mine. I didn't respond and blocked her. 6 years after that she tried again through another party saying I blocked her so she has no way to communicate with me and she wants "her stuff" back. 12 Years of trying to make me break NC!!! No...They never stop.
If you go no contact, block them on social media, and don't post your whole life on social media, then they have no way to Target you for scheme you again. End of story. They see what you want them to see. Some of you are fantasizing about them wanting your attention because you want attention. Sometimes they just leave you alone and forget about you. Hard pill to swallow
I feel sorry for targets that have children with narcissists. Children and/or a business together makes getting away from the narcissist exponentially more difficult. I was able to break away from my narc now-ex-wife after the divorce and have zero regrets doing so.
I went back and forth with my Narc trying to please her for 10 years until I realize I was in a never ending uphil battle . I’ve went no contact and she is losing it
The narcissist has used her enablers and sycophants to feed to her information about me that she is incapable of finding by herself! 🌚
Flying monkeys 🐒
So I went 30 days no contact, and then she showed up at my parents condo 3 hours away last night. And we had a MEETUP. God damnit. I missed her and I wanted to see her. She appealed to the love side of things. I know I fucked up. But I really do like her as a person and I feel bad for her I think she really does need help -she is not as good at this narcissistic character as she thinks she is. She is getting in legal trouble. I would like to help her but I also don’t want her to smear or frame or entrap me and arrest me or punish me in some sort of way. It’s such a crazy line one must ride.
Anyways she needs me to buy an apartment for her…. Or a car…. So she doesn’t sleep outside. I remember the night she sold the car I bought her and paid all payments on didn’t give me a penny had a fight with me and I slept outside by a dumpster.
Wild life.
Hell no you must want to be use again and again tell you find yourself in jail.for.a crime you did not commit. Are you crazy ain't hat much love in this world for you to give into someone like her. She playing you big time I mean big time.
This can litterly be every Person. Remember Not everyone is an narcisst. its easier to blame than selfreflect..
the moment i understand what was going on, what the truth and the reality was,,, that's what made me think and realized that i should leave and walk away with her the narc.
going 2 years now come february 2023 doing no contact. i've already blocked her where she could reach me, but it's true they will try anything to reach out just to hoover using different numbers. they do stalking either. i just ignored it no matter what. if changing my cellphone number was that easy., definitely i would then.
again, accepting the truth and the reality will set you free from the narc.'s grip. doing no contact will be easy then. do it not to teach them a lesson or just a form of revenge.
do it for your own good and to save your sanity and well being.
thank you anoushka! your insights are always on point and what helped me to strive moving on.
Sorry, the music is no backgroundmusic and therefor it is bad to listen!!
I've been ignoring this idiot for 2 months, and he still tries to text me .....last one was ... could you help me with something ? .... yeah, sure, I would 😂 sick manipulator!!!!! I'm so happy that I'm so strong !
This is also used in a wrong way when people try and convince a spouse to do this to gain their own control and alienate you from your family. The Bible totally speaks against this strategy.
Cut out the silly music. It's distracting.