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Anoushka , would you excuse me to ask a question? Are these narcissists actually human beings? Because what I experienced is nowhere to be seen on planet earth 🌍. Seriously. These objects are not human beings, impossible
@@Hannibal-o3s thank you for your question. I have my own theory on this however I can’t share it on this public forum. Email me and we can talk about it some more. askanoushkaa@gmail.com
I am so, so lost. I miss my wife ( we are separated) so much. We have “ hooked-up” a couple of times . She is so gorgeous and brilliant that I can not picture her with another man. I had to leave due to her abuse. But now I miss her. Of course Every-time we speak or get together she ends up trying to get $$$ out of me . I know that is all she wants me for …
@@stevenkovler5133 please leave ...the longer u stay the harder it is...love is not enough to narcissistic people they don't know true love I wish u well I left my ex narc 12 years ago he still tries to play games I get on with life like he does not exist!! BE STRONG U CAN DO THIS!!! UR WORTH SO SO MUCH MORE XXX
I don't want him back. He was never the person I thought he was. It's taken me 6 months to get my health a little more in check after what he did to me.
I dealt with my narcissist for damn near 3 plus yrs and finally decided to close out that chapter of my life because I decided to choose me, my peace, my sanity, my happiness....after no contact the past 8 months I get a text from him saying I want to see u, my response was I'm not doing this I can't go backwards I'm not an option I can't keep repeating the same pattern I'm happy and wish you the same....reaching my late 40s has awakened something in me of what I want and don't want in my life....I hope and wish everyone learns how to love themselves and protect their energy 🙂
I've said that hundreds of times to mine and have gone almost a year without speaking with him. Trust me, they'll keep trying until you stop talking to them, full stop.
Mine just contacted me after two years and three months NC. Out of the blue. One simple text…You still have this number? I ignored it and hope he now fully understands….I’m gone for good!! It’s empowering to have my power back! I felt absolutely NOTHING, getting the text. No anxiety. No sadness. No emotions whatsoever! It feels good to make HIM wonder, for the first time ever! 🙌. Healed from the trauma bond!
I got an email two days ago, it showed up in my spam because I had blocked it and I know how you feel I ignored it as well and it was the first time I ever really did the best feeling ever it’s almost addicting😂
“You still have still number? … is what he sent after 2 years of no contact?!?! Sickening. THANK GOODNESS you ignored it. Like you are his possession! UGH disgusting.
@ I had to unfortunately keep him unblocked on my phone because of court ordered settlements (financial obligations he was responsible for). I blocked him everywhere but his actual phone number. Thank God the rest of his divorce obligations were met in October and he’s been officially blocked in every way…and hope to never see or hear from him again! And yes…they think they own you. I went back to my maiden name and about a year after the divorce, I remember he’d contacted me about something financially and out of the blue, told me he still had me listed with his last name, and would keep it that way because that’s how he saw me. He wouldn’t re-list me back to my maiden name. Made me cringe.
Why now? Simple. They found a new fool and dumped you. The new fool only took a few weeks (or months) to realize their mistake and now the narc is thinking it might be nice to see how you are getting along without his (or her) glorious presence.
This is my biggest fear. They’ve been blocked everywhere and I hope they won’t try to track me down to contact me again. There is nothing they can say that will undo their harm and even owning up to what they’ve done, IF I believed it, would make no difference because I’ve moved on and just don’t want those wounds opened anymore. The only thing they can do for me is stay out of my life for good and let me move on and continue healing because they hurt me enough with their manipulation and games. No contact was the best thing I did for myself.
They will reach out again. Keep logic high and emotion low. Mine just texted me after 7 months of no contact from a different number asking how I was and if I knew who he was. I made a mistake thinking it was someone I knew and replied that I was doing great and asked who this was. He didn’t reply. I then realized exactly who it was and only responded with “I know who this is. I have no space for you in my life as I’ve mentioned before. Take care.” And blocked the number. They ONLY want to gain something from you. If I showed anger they’d be happy. If I showed sadness they be happy. They want them in your head again. They don’t care. They don’t miss you. It’s so hard. If you can, do not respond at all and just block and delete.
I was just contacted a few days ago by the narc via email. The subject line read "Happy Holidays" The email: She thanks me for keeping her stuff, which she were supposed to send money to ship it off months ago. When she gets her tax return, she will start sending money to ship it. Then tells me thanks again and to take care. First off it's bs I know she's not sending for anything, because that would eliminate any reason to contact me in the future. Second her belongings have already been donated to the local Goodwill.
HAHAHAHA same after 4 months of no contact she sent an email she mentioned in the email that she want to return some money I gave it to her when she went to work in a foreing country but in fact she contacted me only to get her diplomas back because before she left them at my place, and that loan bs was only a trojan to contact me !! so predictable people !! the funny thing in the email at the end she wrote PS: I still care about you and I wish I never left home ahhahaha
I had a 4 month relationship with someone that destroyed my mental health after just leaving saying that he needed time to think about himself. I went to therapy and i was told he was a narcissist. After 4 months of silence and me moving on and healing. This person suddenly messages me. And I’m so glad for my therapy and thankful for this video as well!! Thank you 🙏🏻
Yeah mine was three months, she made me feel like I was the narcissist, that why I started looking in to all this, but after being left on delivered for 24 hours to 8 days at a time, then her telling me she love me, canceling dates the last second, telling me she loved me on New Year's Eve and giving me a dog is a late Christmas present, just to find her another guy's house with the dog that was supposedly mine, I snapped and said some mean stuff, pretty much everything she ever told me about her self 🤦 I mean I feel bad about some of it but how much are we supposed to take!!!!
Society doesn't understand the difference between a bad break up and narcissistic abuse. Only people who has been through this, or informed therapist or narcissists themselves understand it.
I've been no-contact for almost 4 months, and this demon walked by my house and waved and shouted "hello" like 4 or 5 times.....IM DONE!...........all set with that SCAB ......😂....IM SO OVER IT
Once the narc sees you are finally happy, having broken free from them and are moving on with your life then that's when they make contact as they hate that they have lost power and control over you. That's wen they need to break you down and make you back to being weak again
He actually mailed a pair of new shoes that he purchased to my home…I just wrapped them back up and wrote RETURN TO SENDER… 2 weeks later the box returns…I placed it back in the mail bin…that same weekend he shows up in the laundry mat that I go to…I saw him but didn’t recognize him because he looked so different… i put my ear plugs in … I could hear him yelling… how you doing , how you doin, he was trying to get my attention and I never gave it to him… I believe he thought if he mailed those shoes to my home , I would call him to tell him I received them , so he could then come over to pick them up… he was trying to reel me in…BUT IT DID NOT WORK! When I got home from doing laundry.. I laughed loudly because for once in my life I felt like a winner by not responding! I did it!!’💕🌺💕
I rejected his trying to come back, calls, text.Once a narcissistic lies forever he is a liar.They only love thier selves. Keep moving on...Pray and be free and happy.
After 2 years our carts actually bumped into each other. I told her to go ahead of me. She said you are not gonna talk to me today. I looked at her and said "what for" she stormed off and I went about my way. It was so funny. I felt so good watching her walk off and pissed off.
Dude I'm just going to say this it may not be what you want to hear but it's the truth. They been having sex with someone else the whole time they were away from us! Why would you even consider taking them back? Even seeing their face! I can't even look at my ex's face now because I know she's been doing it with another man she's been away for almost a year now probably been with more than one partner don't bring that back to me!
Agree with you 100%!!! Would NEVER for even a second entertain the idea of taking ex narc back based solely on that fact alone! He's her problem now, and she can keep all that garbage for herself or send it packing to the next one! "Hit the road, Jack and don't ya come back no more, no more, no more, NO MORE"!!! 😜
Not only that, but, I'm quite positive, in my case, the entire time I was with her she had rendezvous's and outings... there are instances I recall that clearly point to it....
I don't care that she'd had sex with other men. I'd had sex with other women in the years in between, so sex didn't make me feel insecure. The realisation of all the years of lies and deception and letting me and my anxious brain conjure up so many 'what if's' and misunderstanding her actions and absence in ways that were torture for me. That was the damage, I couldn't care less who she slept with, that just means she lied to them poor suckers too.
Because they've gone thru everyone else and making the rounds again. These narcissistic behaviors are much more prevalent in society than people what to admit. Even the narcissist isn't aware of this. Social media has fueled this behavior. So many people now need to be made to feel important, to the point they actually feel they deserve it, entitled to it. We're just people. No one is that special. Narcissists will never understand this. They're lost in their social media / pop culture worlds. I choose to leave them in those worlds and live outside of that never-ending nonsense.
I agree! We are just some people, doesn't even matter what titles we hold or don't hold... truly sensible people even in higher positions just think they are some flawed humans while narcissistic people just make it sound a lot more complicated and truly egos come to the table way too much, over the top and often.
This video is helping me get back on my feet. As I started rebuilding my life, something happened, and the anxiety and depression have been overwhelming since October. I feel I just might be able to find the strength again. Thank you Anoushka. Also, thank you to the community who have been understanding, you have no idea how much it helps.
I really love the way you break it down. You mentioned having the strength and valuing ourselves to not continue the toxic cycle. I did it off and on for 12 years. This last time he broke up with me, I had to really dig deep and figure out my own issues. For the past year I started discovering the Narcissist topic and became so intrigued with who "He" was, I didn't take time to learn about my own codependency, self-esteem, self-worth, unhealed/unhealthy patterns that I've called love. It's going on 1 month and I've made a promise to myself, and God that I will not go back anymore. I have started doing some inner work and developing a relationship with God like never before and I am feeling pretty darn good!
I genuinely believe my narcissist will be too afraid to contact me anymore. Nothing bad happened at the end. She ghosted. 99% sure it’s because she had someone else lined up. But I didn’t say “hey where did you go?” I just accepted it. So she is smart enough to know something is up with me when it comes to my attitude towards her.
@@asteristantalidis She did actually return in the beginning of the month but I have no idea why. Possibly for some attention. It didn’t seem like she wanted to talk much though so I didn’t try hard to keep the conversation going. I don’t want any negative thoughts toward her tho from myself . If she wants to be in my life great, if not that’s great too. I think I can live with that now. It really helps working towards different goals in life where you don’t have time to pay attention to them and what you are missing
@@tonyg5132 Hope everything works in your favor and have an awsome year. Imo they return for an easy supply of energy. Been in your place ,even though she returned 5 years later. But no matter what your views in the subject those kind of people never change. Hope you live a happy life m8.
@@asteristantalidis Thank you very much I really do appreciate that. If you are still going though something similar I wish the same for you also and find a way to possibly meet someone new.
It's sad, as you said they actually believe that the victim is back in the place where they left us? My ex narc left me for his new supply got married and then got divorced shortly after. It's been two years since he broke up with me, I blocked him and he still hoovers me using fake accounts to this day!! I pity him.
I was ‘pocket dialled’ after 6 yrs of no contact. I listened to 4 mins of idle background noise. At first I thought it genuinely was a pocket dial. I don’t anymore. I deleted the ‘message’ and remained no contact. Best response possible 💙
There’s plenty of people out there that want your Love and attention so go out and make friends. Use your head and be patient learn to understand who it is you give your heart to. Stay healthy and safe inside your body😉🤙🏼 Thank you Anoushka
Thank you for explaining this in the way that you do. It is so hard to understand why they do this to people who loved them. I'm sure there's people out there who don't mind playing their games who are not serious about getting into a relationship. They need to leave the people who truly want a relationship alone. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me, which I did allow. There will be no third time to be fooled with.
You explain this disorder so well , and do so without judgement and with empathy and compassion. They’re prisoners of their own mind, damaged individuals that can’t function emotionally and can’t connect to others sadly. We should show compassion for those that can’t heal. 😢
I was deeply in love with disordered cluster B women, I did not know what it was at that time, We all know how it ended, I did grief lot... Now I feel sad that this disorder exist and that people have to suffer this cluster B Having it experienced up close with a cluster B, it must be terrible feeling having this black-hole inside you Wish all people to be healthy and live happy and lovely lives.
Thank you so much! My ex narc girlfriend showed up at my door this morning after 3 weeks no contact. I was just getting back in to my own headspace again and finding myself. This video helped me SO SO MUCH! Continue with what you are doing and spread awareness! Much love!
All of it!!!! So spot on! Mine literally came to find me at the beach he knows I frequent, after no contact, and after a very ugly, traumatic, hurtful ending, because he was displeased with his new supply, and saw on social media that I was spending time with another man. He came to 'take his ownership' back. It's a very ugly ugly cycle. They 'love bomb' for a short period of time, then they go back to how they treated you before. Please please please, people, value yourself more and do not allow them back in, to suffer like some of us do over and over for years and years. They DO NOT CHANGE. EVER. Thank you Anoushka!!!
Thank you Anoushka! The funny thing is I thought I didn't need to watch this video when it was released. Because the narc disappeared after another horrible smear campaign he put me through, and he even ignored me on Valentine's Day. But, here we are! The hardest part for me is...when he comes back, I have to remind myself constantly, that don't think his actions as normal human being...He didn't love me or care about me! He just wants to take some advantages from me again...etc.
I dumped the narc 13 years ago and he is now married. He has tried intermittently to contact me through the years of my no contact. All of a sudden he starts up again a few weeks ago! I am long over that nonsense and have continued the no contact regiment the entire time. Insane!
It's a tug of war. You want him to value you. He thinks if he does, you'll leave him. And, you might. Why would you value someone who values you? And so it goes, on and on. Until you break the cycle and work on yourself. And that is the hard part.
For me : I am the one who discarded the narcissist “after prayer” to God and received a dream… I obeyed the dream. Never looked back ! ❤ After about 12 years or so, he came back via online message. It was a long distanced relationship and we did met a few times. Thank God I told him - I don’t live in the past. I blocked him. God told me “I have delivered you from a stronghold or it would have completely destroyed you”. So glad I obeyed and so glad I am Happier . 😊 It’s call a Hoover when they come back . Don’t let them back into yr life. Be happy 😊
Every word of this is true...I allowed "my" covert Narc. back into my life after 9 months no contact the first time, after 18 months the second time. Both times the same manipulation, devaluation, cheating began again after only two weeks. Just yesterday, after TWELVE YEARS going NO contact, I get an email..."just wanted you to know how sorry I am for all the pain I caused you..." This husband of 40 years (!) destroyed my life, absconded with all of our finances (off-shore bank), cheated repeatedly (but oh, so charming, and humorous, and hard-working...such a good ol' boy) before I woke up to narcissism and how I was aiding it. Anoushka, you KNOW what you are talking about!
This has happened to me 4 times this time I won’t break my no contact I’m starting to heal and feel like myself again after 3 years of this cyclical relationship thanks anoushka your channel really helps 😊
Madam ur video was really insightful. My wife abandoned me and my 9 yr old son 4.5 yrs back. Suddenly after all these yrs she called me the other day. She's not remorseful or doesn't have any repentance but she wanted all the things I did for her then. Thnks once again u have given a different perspective on my situation. 🙏🏻
I think the hardest part for me to understand is wrapping my head around the fact that a person can be so devoid of empathy for another person. My narc lied to me about everything and even apologized several, times for how he treated me, then turned around and ghosted me right after. This time I blocked him and everyone connected to him on all social media and phone numbers. He can still get to me easily enough, but why would he even think it would be successful? He went quiet for no reason whatsoever. I don’t long for him to come back this time. If he does come back, I’m just trying to prepare myself. This time I’m so much stronger. I’m not in denial anymore. But I’m so sad for him. He must be so miserable on the inside. Geez…it’s just not my problem anymore. The hardest part is that the lessons I’ve learned through all this don’t even come close to balancing out to the pain I’ve endured. I have wounds that will never heal. There is no “win” scenario for me. I lost. Period.
All true. I have had 2 of them. Both trying to come back in my life. Told both of them "No thank you". One lives out of state and the other one lives far away 2023 is my year
Thankyou yes you ard totally right. I was prepared this time. And im not going back. I want a peaceful stable life no use ups no more lies no more projection. Ive had it being an object and being accused of what he has fabricated. Thanks again. 😊
I haven’t talked to someone with narcissistic tendencies for 3 months that left me a long voice memo…I immediately found this video to help me! Thank you so much!
My ex husband keeps trying to stay relevant. He keeps calling people asking about me, showing up to my church. Hacking into my checking account this year! We got divorced last year in August, he got engaged the next month, married 6 months later and I guess has buyer’s remorse…welp, I have moved on, found a good man and I’m finally happy ( because I’ve been in therapy for guidance )
Yes completely blocked ! But showed up to me house, firstly in the middle of the night to drop off a 3 page letter ( I didn’t read it ) , 2 weeks after she show up on my door step with a bunch of flowers??? Peering through my window waving at me! I just walked out of the room until she had gone! Month after that she’s inviting my in laws to dinner? I mean honestly just give up love ….. I know what you are! You ain’t coming bk in ever ever ever!
Thanks for this video. He has just got in contact again with calls (not answered) and a text (not answered). It’s true that I have experienced the same thing over and over and he doesn’t change. No, « this person won’t give it to me ». Yep, I’ve always wanted the truth and have often said that to him. Like he doesn’t want the truth but I did and I do now. I’m going to get past this. Thanks again Anouska. You hit it on the head.
i loooooove you. How you chuckle while explaining this is just hilarious. You do have a great sense of humor , and that is how you gained a new subscriber
Thanks, I needed this strength to handle the ex narcissist that contacted me after 9 months. I feel like I said the right things to let him know I'm not havin it anymore .
@debrawallace5230 Are these psychopaths ever done with their destruction? I guess not. She is now creating fake accounts on telegram to write me "hi", "hello", "how are you" and then deleting em after I dont respond. Real weird ppl.
Anoushka you are amazing ..you have filled in the blanks about many things a narcissist may try, they try to fill their unwavering need to have attention and supply. The strength you give others by your experiences does not go unnoticed and there is a special place for you in heaven.
Thank you for your help and your videos! I honestly appreciate you. She did just reach out to me after I went no contact for 3 months. And wouldn’t you know right before Christmas she is checking on me and sending me blessings and thanking me for all the help and for changing her life. Then I actually did respond 🥺 and it took her two days to respond back to me after I saw she read the message 15 minutes after I sent it. I was just laughing to myself thinking…. Here we goooooo again. 😂😂😂 Never returning to her though! I’ve already tried 7 times prior.
My ex female covert after 10 months no contact, now, before the holidays, calling from an unknown phone number. I block each one. She does not deserve a response, a reaction, a conversation! Just silence. I know it’s driving her insane. But, she already is…😅
This video popped up at just the right time, kid. I needed that. She hangs cheap sunglasses (it's a thing with her) on my screen door, just to let me know she was there, at least once a week. For a month now. These kind of people are like herpes, aren't they? Super.
Omg. I have blocked my ex narc and he calls from both of his cell phones and I see the auto reject notifications. At least 3 times a week. At this point in think he's just trying to taunt me.
I can’t drive. I ended up accepting the help of a covert narcissist at a church I attend. When she showed her true colors last year I cut off all contact completely . I avoid her at church ( I volunteer etc and I love my church,) but she follows me around most Sundays , saying hi etc. I do not respond or react. I know she’s been trying to smear my name. Any way, I don’t even give her nasty looks. I walk right by her as if she’s not there. Letting her know she’s so insignificant to me that I don’t care. I m not mean just ignore. Last weekend she says hi and stares at me. I turn around and go about my way. Like I didn’t even see her. So whatever new supply she found after blowing up at me last year has obviously figured her out too, so she’s thinking I’ll be dumb enough to be friends again.
Yeah. Look up the definition of Predator. They are always looking for someone to entrap, enslave and devour (abuse) to feel powerful and their get their oxygen/ fix which is control over you/ others. The Word of God references Scorners, Scornful or Scoffers (see Psalm 1 & Proverbs 15:12). That was their name prior to the term Narcissist. Further description in Romans 1. Check it out. God knew.
Thank you for your video I'm coming up on 1 year of total no contact at first lost and confused I didn't understand what had happened but somehow I knew I had to cut my x out completely I started listening to your vids and everyone else's everyday overtime as I healed I started listening less and less and I stopped listening to 99 percent of the the other channels not because they were bad but because I didn't need to. all of them except yours for some reason I connect with your calming informative voice the best thank you for your vids and thank you for bieng there even if it is through your chanel
Thank you so much for this video. I was literally messaged 2 days ago from my narcissist ex that i broke up with recently and she was just gas lighting me in the entire message and didnt apologize for anything. She kept telling me about all the "love" she gave and felt for me, even though she barely expressed it at all during the last months of our relationship, and how she still wanted to stay in contact and hopefully be friends going forward. I'm done with her and she will never get another chance to manipulate and use me like she did before.
This info is so true, it's fascinating and refreshing to listen to. Thank you. This is exactly what happened to me...I stood fast ! I kept no contact and respect myself for it.
When my narcissist ex comes back it never amounts to anything. It’s just talk and no effort. It leaves me baffled and feeling worthless all over again. Why do they bother at all ?? I just don’t see the point in saying the right things for a day then nothing.
@@kaoshi_kutie the answer to all of that my friend was that he had a girlfriend all along n he popped up whenever they argued. Blocked. Deleted. Phone number changed. Xxx
They do it just to see if you will respond and that's all they need. They know after you respond you will sit there and go what why how and then they've got you thinking about them that's their goal. Don't let them accomplish it
Thank you very much. God blessed you. Your video is very very helpful. I was in dark place for long time because I thought it was my fault because he told me I’m not normal over and over again. Thanks to you guys I’m learning he is the one crazy::
My narc told me why we were done, but it was mostly an essay about everything wrong with me, as well as twisting my intentions and motives. She told me to reply back to her but I was so broken after reading it that I could not mentally bring myself to say the things I needed to say. It ended up just being me in denial, begging for her to let me make it right.
I would have done anything for my narc ex and she tore me down every single day. Once I figured out who she was, it got easier to be detached from the rosy simulacrum of her that I built up during the love bombing and future faking phase. It’s not a short term process of course. I’m writing that for the other people reading.
Mine comes back every 2 weeks like clockwork. I need to keep my boundaries and recognize he will never be what I need him to be despite how Good it was for so long.
5 months since he dumped me. saw him posted on socials with his new supply earlier this month in his home country, she’s 20 with a 4 year old son. he removed his tag from the picture. he texted me today "Hey, how are you? I left my ray bans at your house, right?" must be back home now and bored? This is so upsetting he thinks this is ok. the last time we messaged a few months ago he was so cold, callous and cruel. Why would he want them now? I don’t have them. Why would he want them after he came back from his trip in south america, not before? it’s like every few months reaches out to me
I'm so glad I stumbled onto this channel. I have a high school sweet heart that is now married and is completely "self convinced" she's in love with me. I've been objectified as the person that she wants adoration and validation for her vanity. I grew up with an NPD parent and younger brother. At 50, only within the last couple years, did I realize that I grew up in a Narcissist environment and that there was a high probability that I had other relationships and friendships where I had overlooked their narcissistic behavior. Now I see Narcissist more often than I had before. I just want to say it's clear that you have a tremendous heart and strength. You're passionate about wanting to help people and it really comes through. Thank you for sharing all your insights and knowledge!!!
They are such charming liars …. and mine did contact after months , but because if you , I expected it … and smiled when it occurred. 😁because they are also SO PREDICTABLE. Thank you 🙏 ❤
Thank you so much. Hearing it helped me work through the breakup better. I was engaged and 2 months later he broke it off. So crazy. No real explanation.
I discarded my Ex Narc over 2yrs ago & l was over the bullshit Drama's & he cheated on me & he did with his New Supply & he cheated on her & now is back with her.. It's been over 2yrs he's still bringing up my name to her & saying he wanted to see me in the New Yr WTF??? "via thro sis" I have never felt so stupid in falling for a man but l got rid of him & l can't believe how stupid she is by taking him back after knowing what he's like & saying to her what he wants to do.. Talk about Dumb & Dumber.... Thnku for your videos & I'm still healing from all the Abuse & l know it's going to take time but at least l have kicked all toxic pple out of my life... Keep them blocked, be aware of your surroundings pple, stay safe, Go no contact..... ❤
Mine did this week after 7 years. A simple friend request. And the panic attacks start. Self hate is back. Ive worked so hard and one friend request feels like all my work has been shattered. Im trying so hard to be rational because i know i have moved on, im not that person he knew now.. but the truama is just eating my brain and i feel pathetic. Im so upset. I know ignoring it is exactly what i need to do but i just wish sending an angry msg would accomplish somthing.
Cold hard truth but it is truth. If there is an explanation it will be based on a perceived weakness that they have exploited in the past, something you revealed in trust. Forgive but never forget. Learn, use wisdom. They will never change. Be well and God bless.
Im guessing his other supply is gone or he is just trying to breadcrumb me to keep the thread in place. LOL he wants to be in my will. And youre right 11 years of marraige and I got NO explanation at all for the divorce. He couldnt even offer anything - nothing.
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Anoushka , would you excuse me to ask a question? Are these narcissists actually human beings?
Because what I experienced is nowhere to be seen on planet earth 🌍. Seriously. These objects are not human beings, impossible
@@Hannibal-o3s thank you for your question. I have my own theory on this however I can’t share it on this public forum. Email me and we can talk about it some more.
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I am so, so lost. I miss my wife ( we are separated) so much. We have “ hooked-up” a couple of times . She is so gorgeous and brilliant that I can not picture her with another man. I had to leave due to her abuse. But now I miss her. Of course Every-time we speak or get together she ends up trying to get $$$ out of me . I know that is all she wants me for …
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@@stevenkovler5133 please leave ...the longer u stay the harder it is...love is not enough to narcissistic people they don't know true love I wish u well I left my ex narc 12 years ago he still tries to play games I get on with life like he does not exist!! BE STRONG U CAN DO THIS!!! UR WORTH SO SO MUCH MORE XXX
I sometimes wonder if we send telepathic vibes to the narcs that they know we're moving on
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Once you don’t give them your energy, they feel it and it kills them
Sending them vibes feeds them. They are possessed by demons.
And they send them to us as well! I will start thinking about him before every hoover...
I have felt that too...
I don't want him back. He was never the person I thought he was. It's taken me 6 months to get my health a little more in check after what he did to me.
I dealt with my narcissist for damn near 3 plus yrs and finally decided to close out that chapter of my life because I decided to choose me, my peace, my sanity, my happiness....after no contact the past 8 months I get a text from him saying I want to see u, my response was I'm not doing this I can't go backwards I'm not an option I can't keep repeating the same pattern I'm happy and wish you the same....reaching my late 40s has awakened something in me of what I want and don't want in my life....I hope and wish everyone learns how to love themselves and protect their energy 🙂
I've said that hundreds of times to mine and have gone almost a year without speaking with him. Trust me, they'll keep trying until you stop talking to them, full stop.
congratulations im on one month and feeling better!
The next time he contacts you (because there will be a next time) don't even respond. Let him start a solo thread, and leave him on read.
Mine just contacted me after two years and three months NC. Out of the blue. One simple text…You still have this number? I ignored it and hope he now fully understands….I’m gone for good!! It’s empowering to have my power back! I felt absolutely NOTHING, getting the text. No anxiety. No sadness. No emotions whatsoever! It feels good to make HIM wonder, for the first time ever! 🙌. Healed from the trauma bond!
I pray to God that I get to this stage one day, sooner rather than later. Ameen.
I got an email two days ago, it showed up in my spam because I had blocked it and I know how you feel I ignored it as well and it was the first time I ever really did the best feeling ever it’s almost addicting😂
My narcissistic sibling told me she was pregnant as if I’m going to allow her to use this innocent child as a pawn to hurt me😂I felt nothing
“You still have still number? … is what he sent after 2 years of no contact?!?! Sickening. THANK GOODNESS you ignored it. Like you are his possession! UGH disgusting.
@ I had to unfortunately keep him unblocked on my phone because of court ordered settlements (financial obligations he was responsible for). I blocked him everywhere but his actual phone number. Thank God the rest of his divorce obligations were met in October and he’s been officially blocked in every way…and hope to never see or hear from him again!
And yes…they think they own you. I went back to my maiden name and about a year after the divorce, I remember he’d contacted me about something financially and out of the blue, told me he still had me listed with his last name, and would keep it that way because that’s how he saw me. He wouldn’t re-list me back to my maiden name. Made me cringe.
Why now? Simple. They found a new fool and dumped you. The new fool only took a few weeks (or months) to realize their mistake and now the narc is thinking it might be nice to see how you are getting along without his (or her) glorious presence.
This is my biggest fear. They’ve been blocked everywhere and I hope they won’t try to track me down to contact me again. There is nothing they can say that will undo their harm and even owning up to what they’ve done, IF I believed it, would make no difference because I’ve moved on and just don’t want those wounds opened anymore. The only thing they can do for me is stay out of my life for good and let me move on and continue healing because they hurt me enough with their manipulation and games. No contact was the best thing I did for myself.
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Complete no contact is the only way
This is my fear as well 😪...hopefully he won't contact me 🙏🏼
They will reach out again. Keep logic high and emotion low. Mine just texted me after 7 months of no contact from a different number asking how I was and if I knew who he was. I made a mistake thinking it was someone I knew and replied that I was doing great and asked who this was. He didn’t reply. I then realized exactly who it was and only responded with “I know who this is. I have no space for you in my life as I’ve mentioned before. Take care.” And blocked the number. They ONLY want to gain something from you. If I showed anger they’d be happy. If I showed sadness they be happy. They want them in your head again. They don’t care. They don’t miss you. It’s so hard. If you can, do not respond at all and just block and delete.
Get a carry permit , buy a gun, Protect yourself.
I was just contacted a few days ago by the narc via email.
The subject line read "Happy Holidays"
The email: She thanks me for keeping her stuff, which she were supposed to send money to ship it off months ago.
When she gets her tax return, she will start sending money to ship it.
Then tells me thanks again and to take care.
First off it's bs I know she's not sending for anything, because that would eliminate any reason to contact me in the future.
Second her belongings have already been donated to the local Goodwill.
HAHAHAHA same after 4 months of no contact she sent an email she mentioned in the email that she want to return some money I gave it to her when she went to work in a foreing country but in fact she contacted me only to get her diplomas back because before she left them at my place, and that loan bs was only a trojan to contact me !! so predictable people !! the funny thing in the email at the end she wrote PS: I still care about you and I wish I never left home ahhahaha
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Ignore, indifference and absolutely No Contact.
I had a 4 month relationship with someone that destroyed my mental health after just leaving saying that he needed time to think about himself. I went to therapy and i was told he was a narcissist. After 4 months of silence and me moving on and healing. This person suddenly messages me. And I’m so glad for my therapy and thankful for this video as well!! Thank you 🙏🏻
Yeah mine was three months, she made me feel like I was the narcissist, that why I started looking in to all this, but after being left on delivered for 24 hours to 8 days at a time, then her telling me she love me, canceling dates the last second, telling me she loved me on New Year's Eve and giving me a dog is a late Christmas present, just to find her another guy's house with the dog that was supposedly mine, I snapped and said some mean stuff, pretty much everything she ever told me about her self 🤦 I mean I feel bad about some of it but how much are we supposed to take!!!!
...time to think about himself...
But he never stopped;
and about you in a human bond - never started😐
Videos like this, and others have been a God send. Couldn't have done it without them. Thank you, Anoushka.
how old she was ?
Society calls it "holding a grudge" and blaming the innocent instead. No, those are boundaries!
Society doesn't understand the difference between a bad break up and narcissistic abuse. Only people who has been through this, or informed therapist or narcissists themselves understand it.
@SenSakura-dj6bq We can only slowly spread this awareness until its everywhere in everyones face on every social media platform 😁
I've been no-contact for almost 4 months, and this demon walked by my house and waved and shouted "hello" like 4 or 5 times.....IM DONE!...........all set with that SCAB ......😂....IM SO OVER IT
Once the narc sees you are finally happy, having broken free from them and are moving on with your life then that's when they make contact as they hate that they have lost power and control over you. That's wen they need to break you down and make you back to being weak again
He actually mailed a pair of new shoes that he purchased to my home…I just wrapped them back up and wrote RETURN TO SENDER… 2 weeks later the box returns…I placed it back in the mail bin…that same weekend he shows up in the laundry mat that I go to…I saw him but didn’t recognize him because he looked so different… i put my ear plugs in … I could hear him yelling… how you doing , how you doin, he was trying to get my attention and I never gave it to him… I believe he thought if he mailed those shoes to my home , I would call him to tell him I received them , so he could then come over to pick them up… he was trying to reel me in…BUT IT DID NOT WORK! When I got home from doing laundry.. I laughed loudly because for once in my life I felt like a winner by not responding!
I did it!!’💕🌺💕
How are you now?
I rejected his trying to come back, calls, text.Once a narcissistic lies forever he is a liar.They only love thier selves. Keep moving on...Pray and be free and happy.
After 2 years our carts actually bumped into each other. I told her to go ahead of me. She said you are not gonna talk to me today. I looked at her and said "what for" she stormed off and I went about my way. It was so funny. I felt so good watching her walk off and pissed off.
Good man 💪💪💪🙌🙌🙌👏👏👏👏👏I love ya style mate 🙌🙌👍
@@thestrengthwithin4249 right on bro. Stay strong. We are the prize
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Dude I'm just going to say this it may not be what you want to hear but it's the truth. They been having sex with someone else the whole time they were away from us! Why would you even consider taking them back? Even seeing their face! I can't even look at my ex's face now because I know she's been doing it with another man she's been away for almost a year now probably been with more than one partner don't bring that back to me!
Agree with you 100%!!! Would NEVER for even a second entertain the idea of taking ex narc back based solely on that fact alone! He's her problem now, and she can keep all that garbage for herself or send it packing to the next one! "Hit the road, Jack and don't ya come back no more, no more, no more, NO MORE"!!! 😜
Not only that, but, I'm quite positive, in my case, the entire time I was with her she had rendezvous's and outings... there are instances I recall that clearly point to it....
I don't care that she'd had sex with other men. I'd had sex with other women in the years in between, so sex didn't make me feel insecure. The realisation of all the years of lies and deception and letting me and my anxious brain conjure up so many 'what if's' and misunderstanding her actions and absence in ways that were torture for me. That was the damage, I couldn't care less who she slept with, that just means she lied to them poor suckers too.
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Exactly, she’s been getting ran through. That’s what I told her “ You been getting ya back blown out since I’ve last seen you “
Because they've gone thru everyone else and making the rounds again. These narcissistic behaviors are much more prevalent in society than people what to admit. Even the narcissist isn't aware of this. Social media has fueled this behavior. So many people now need to be made to feel important, to the point they actually feel they deserve it, entitled to it. We're just people. No one is that special. Narcissists will never understand this. They're lost in their social media / pop culture worlds. I choose to leave them in those worlds and live outside of that never-ending nonsense.
I agree! We are just some people, doesn't even matter what titles we hold or don't hold... truly sensible people even in higher positions just think they are some flawed humans while narcissistic people just make it sound a lot more complicated and truly egos come to the table way too much, over the top and often.
THEY WILL NEVER CHANGE.
This video is helping me get back on my feet. As I started rebuilding my life, something happened, and the anxiety and depression have been overwhelming since October. I feel I just might be able to find the strength again. Thank you Anoushka. Also, thank you to the community who have been understanding, you have no idea how much it helps.
Sending love and support and blessings Josie...you are not alone and are doing amazing. This is so painful! Be super kind to yourself! 🌷💖🎄❄️
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Hang in there. Things will get better. I promise.
@@sdshawn798 we pray so
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I really love the way you break it down. You mentioned having the strength and valuing ourselves to not continue the toxic cycle. I did it off and on for 12 years. This last time he broke up with me, I had to really dig deep and figure out my own issues. For the past year I started discovering the Narcissist topic and became so intrigued with who "He" was, I didn't take time to learn about my own codependency, self-esteem, self-worth, unhealed/unhealthy patterns that I've called love. It's going on 1 month and I've made a promise to myself, and God that I will not go back anymore. I have started doing some inner work and developing a relationship with God like never before and I am feeling pretty darn good!
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I genuinely believe my narcissist will be too afraid to contact me anymore. Nothing bad happened at the end. She ghosted. 99% sure it’s because she had someone else lined up. But I didn’t say “hey where did you go?” I just accepted it. So she is smart enough to know something is up with me when it comes to my attitude towards her.
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She ll return when her demands from the new supply are not delivered. They always return back even after years have passed.
@@asteristantalidis She did actually return in the beginning of the month but I have no idea why. Possibly for some attention. It didn’t seem like she wanted to talk much though so I didn’t try hard to keep the conversation going. I don’t want any negative thoughts toward her tho from myself . If she wants to be in my life great, if not that’s great too. I think I can live with that now. It really helps working towards different goals in life where you don’t have time to pay attention to them and what you are missing
@@tonyg5132 Hope everything works in your favor and have an awsome year. Imo they return for an easy supply of energy. Been in your place ,even though she returned 5 years later. But no matter what your views in the subject those kind of people never change. Hope you live a happy life m8.
@@asteristantalidis Thank you very much I really do appreciate that. If you are still going though something similar I wish the same for you also and find a way to possibly meet someone new.
It's sad, as you said they actually believe that the victim is back in the place where they left us? My ex narc left me for his new supply got married and then got divorced shortly after. It's been two years since he broke up with me, I blocked him and he still hoovers me using fake accounts to this day!! I pity him.
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I was ‘pocket dialled’ after 6 yrs of no contact.
I listened to 4 mins of idle background noise.
At first I thought it genuinely was a pocket dial.
I don’t anymore.
I deleted the ‘message’ and remained no contact.
Best response possible 💙
There’s plenty of people out there that want your Love and attention so go out and make friends. Use your head and be patient learn to understand who it is you give your heart to. Stay healthy and safe inside your body😉🤙🏼
Thank you Anoushka
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Heartbreaking and validating. I was just an object. That’s exactly how I felt.
Thank you for explaining this in the way that you do. It is so hard to understand why they do this to people who loved them. I'm sure there's people out there who don't mind playing their games who are not serious about getting into a relationship. They need to leave the people who truly want a relationship alone. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me, which I did allow. There will be no third time to be fooled with.
You explain this disorder so well , and do so without judgement and with empathy and compassion. They’re prisoners of their own mind, damaged individuals that can’t function emotionally and can’t connect to others sadly. We should show compassion for those that can’t heal. 😢
I was deeply in love with disordered cluster B women, I did not know what it was at that time, We all know how it ended, I did grief lot...
Now I feel sad that this disorder exist and that people have to suffer this cluster B
Having it experienced up close with a cluster B, it must be terrible feeling having this black-hole inside you
Wish all people to be healthy and live happy and lovely lives.
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You might feel sorry for them, but stay No Contact.
Thank you so much! My ex narc girlfriend showed up at my door this morning after 3 weeks no contact. I was just getting back in to my own headspace again and finding myself. This video helped me SO SO MUCH! Continue with what you are doing and spread awareness! Much love!
All of it!!!! So spot on! Mine literally came to find me at the beach he knows I frequent, after no contact, and after a very ugly, traumatic, hurtful ending, because he was displeased with his new supply, and saw on social media that I was spending time with another man. He came to 'take his ownership' back. It's a very ugly ugly cycle. They 'love bomb' for a short period of time, then they go back to how they treated you before. Please please please, people, value yourself more and do not allow them back in, to suffer like some of us do over and over for years and years. They DO NOT CHANGE. EVER. Thank you Anoushka!!!
Because his new supply failed him..
Thank you Anoushka! The funny thing is I thought I didn't need to watch this video when it was released. Because the narc disappeared after another horrible smear campaign he put me through, and he even ignored me on Valentine's Day. But, here we are!
The hardest part for me is...when he comes back, I have to remind myself constantly, that don't think his actions as normal human being...He didn't love me or care about me! He just wants to take some advantages from me again...etc.
I dumped the narc 13 years ago and he is now married. He has tried intermittently to contact me through the years of my no contact. All of a sudden he starts up again a few weeks ago! I am long over that nonsense and have continued the no contact regiment the entire time. Insane!
It's a tug of war. You want him to value you. He thinks if he does, you'll leave him. And, you might. Why would you value someone who values you? And so it goes, on and on. Until you break the cycle and work on yourself. And that is the hard part.
For me : I am the one who discarded the narcissist “after prayer” to God and received a dream… I obeyed the dream. Never looked back ! ❤
After about 12 years or so, he came back via online message. It was a long distanced relationship and we did met a few times.
Thank God I told him - I don’t live in the past.
I blocked him.
God told me “I have delivered you from a stronghold or it would have completely destroyed you”.
So glad I obeyed and so glad I am
Happier . 😊
It’s call a Hoover when they come back . Don’t let them back into yr life.
Be happy 😊
Thank You! So, very true! I let this happen to me 3 times. Now it's been 3 years. I will never go back to that person.
Especially this time of the year, Holliday hoover.
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Every word of this is true...I allowed "my" covert Narc. back into my life after 9 months no contact the first time, after 18 months the second time. Both times the same manipulation, devaluation, cheating began again after only two weeks. Just yesterday, after TWELVE YEARS going NO contact, I get an email..."just wanted you to know how sorry I am for all the pain I caused you..."
This husband of 40 years (!) destroyed my life, absconded with all of our finances (off-shore bank), cheated repeatedly (but oh, so charming, and humorous, and hard-working...such a good ol' boy) before I woke up to narcissism and how I was aiding it. Anoushka, you KNOW what you are talking about!
This has happened to me 4 times this time I won’t break my no contact I’m starting to heal and feel like myself again after 3 years of this cyclical relationship thanks anoushka your channel really helps 😊
Madam ur video was really insightful. My wife abandoned me and my 9 yr old son 4.5 yrs back. Suddenly after all these yrs she called me the other day. She's not remorseful or doesn't have any repentance but she wanted all the things I did for her then. Thnks once again u have given a different perspective on my situation. 🙏🏻
I think the hardest part for me to understand is wrapping my head around the fact that a person can be so devoid of empathy for another person. My narc lied to me about everything and even apologized several, times for how he treated me, then turned around and ghosted me right after. This time I blocked him and everyone connected to him on all social media and phone numbers. He can still get to me easily enough, but why would he even think it would be successful? He went quiet for no reason whatsoever. I don’t long for him to come back this time. If he does come back, I’m just trying to prepare myself. This time I’m so much stronger. I’m not in denial anymore. But I’m so sad for him. He must be so miserable on the inside. Geez…it’s just not my problem anymore. The hardest part is that the lessons I’ve learned through all this don’t even come close to balancing out to the pain I’ve endured. I have wounds that will never heal. There is no “win” scenario for me. I lost. Period.
The win is in leaving and not looking back.
I am such an idiot for caring about them. She doesn't give a toss about me.
All true. I have had 2 of them. Both trying to come back in my life. Told both of them "No thank you". One lives out of state and the other one lives far away 2023 is my year
Thankyou yes you ard totally right. I was prepared this time. And im not going back. I want a peaceful stable life no use ups no more lies no more projection. Ive had it being an object and being accused of what he has fabricated. Thanks again. 😊
You are absolutely right
I haven’t talked to someone with narcissistic tendencies for 3 months that left me a long voice memo…I immediately found this video to help me! Thank you so much!
My ex husband keeps trying to stay relevant. He keeps calling people asking about me, showing up to my church. Hacking into my checking account this year! We got divorced last year in August, he got engaged the next month, married 6 months later and I guess has buyer’s remorse…welp, I have moved on, found a good man and I’m finally happy ( because I’ve been in therapy for guidance )
They’ll call you from a different number if you have their phone number blocked
Exactly what I’m going through right now 🤦🏻♂️ Thank you for the heads up
Yes completely blocked ! But showed up to me house, firstly in the middle of the night to drop off a 3 page letter ( I didn’t read it ) , 2 weeks after she show up on my door step with a bunch of flowers??? Peering through my window waving at me! I just walked out of the room until she had gone! Month after that she’s inviting my in laws to dinner? I mean honestly just give up love ….. I know what you are! You ain’t coming bk in ever ever ever!
Thanks for this video. He has just got in contact again with calls (not answered) and a text (not answered). It’s true that I have experienced the same thing over and over and he doesn’t change. No, « this person won’t give it to me ». Yep, I’ve always wanted the truth and have often said that to him. Like he doesn’t want the truth but I did and I do now. I’m going to get past this. Thanks again Anouska. You hit it on the head.
I'm getting closure, by watching these videos, thank you. 🙂
i loooooove you. How you chuckle while explaining this is just hilarious. You do have a great sense of humor , and that is how you gained a new subscriber
Thank you. After 40 years this happened to me. This vid. Saved me from being received again. Bless you
Thanks, I needed this strength to handle the ex narcissist that contacted me after 9 months. I feel like I said the right things to let him know I'm not havin it anymore .
Yep, they come back...even after 29 years.😖
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What!!??
Yep, 16 for me!
@debrawallace5230 Are these psychopaths ever done with their destruction? I guess not. She is now creating fake accounts on telegram to write me "hi", "hello", "how are you" and then deleting em after I dont respond. Real weird ppl.
O please, say it ain't so!
Anoushka you are amazing ..you have filled in the blanks about many things a narcissist may try, they try to fill their unwavering need to have attention and supply. The strength you give others by your experiences does not go unnoticed and there is a special place for you in heaven.
Thank you for your help and your videos! I honestly appreciate you. She did just reach out to me after I went no contact for 3 months. And wouldn’t you know right before Christmas she is checking on me and sending me blessings and thanking me for all the help and for changing her life. Then I actually did respond 🥺 and it took her two days to respond back to me after I saw she read the message 15 minutes after I sent it. I was just laughing to myself thinking…. Here we goooooo again. 😂😂😂 Never returning to her though! I’ve already tried 7 times prior.
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wait..you tried to return to her multiple times?( Scratches head)
My ex female covert after 10 months no contact, now, before the holidays, calling from an unknown phone number. I block each one. She does not deserve a response, a reaction, a conversation! Just silence. I know it’s driving her insane. But, she already is…😅
The "she already is" got me... 🤣
This video popped up at just the right time, kid. I needed that. She hangs cheap sunglasses (it's a thing with her) on my screen door, just to let me know she was there, at least once a week. For a month now. These kind of people are like herpes, aren't they? Super.
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Omg. I have blocked my ex narc and he calls from both of his cell phones and I see the auto reject notifications. At least 3 times a week. At this point in think he's just trying to taunt me.
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I can’t drive. I ended up accepting the help of a covert narcissist at a church I attend. When she showed her true colors last year I cut off all contact completely . I avoid her at church ( I volunteer etc and I love my church,) but she follows me around most Sundays , saying hi etc. I do not respond or react. I know she’s been trying to smear my name. Any way, I don’t even give her nasty looks. I walk right by her as if she’s not there. Letting her know she’s so insignificant to me that I don’t care. I m not mean just ignore. Last weekend she says hi and stares at me. I turn around and go about my way. Like I didn’t even see her. So whatever new supply she found after blowing up at me last year has obviously figured her out too, so she’s thinking I’ll be dumb enough to be friends again.
Yeah. Look up the definition of Predator. They are always looking for someone to entrap, enslave and devour (abuse) to feel powerful and their get their oxygen/ fix which is control over you/ others. The Word of God references Scorners, Scornful or Scoffers (see Psalm 1 & Proverbs 15:12). That was their name prior to the term Narcissist. Further description in Romans 1. Check it out. God knew.
Thank you for your video I'm coming up on 1 year of total no contact at first lost and confused I didn't understand what had happened but somehow I knew I had to cut my x out completely I started listening to your vids and everyone else's everyday overtime as I healed I started listening less and less and I stopped listening to 99 percent of the the other channels not because they were bad but because I didn't need to. all of them except yours for some reason I connect with your calming informative voice the best thank you for your vids and thank you for bieng there even if it is through your chanel
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Thank you so much for this video. I was literally messaged 2 days ago from my narcissist ex that i broke up with recently and she was just gas lighting me in the entire message and didnt apologize for anything. She kept telling me about all the "love" she gave and felt for me, even though she barely expressed it at all during the last months of our relationship, and how she still wanted to stay in contact and hopefully be friends going forward. I'm done with her and she will never get another chance to manipulate and use me like she did before.
You done a great job thank you for reminding me of what I still need to do for me.. HUGS. Anoushka
This info is so true, it's fascinating and refreshing to listen to. Thank you. This is exactly what happened to me...I stood fast ! I kept no contact and respect myself for it.
Almost 24 months post narc. This hasn't happened to me, yet.... I had to move, disappear!!! I thought I needed to watch this video, just in case!!!!!!
When my narcissist ex comes back it never amounts to anything. It’s just talk and no effort. It leaves me baffled and feeling worthless all over again. Why do they bother at all ?? I just don’t see the point in saying the right things for a day then nothing.
You need to block them ❤
@@kaoshi_kutie the answer to all of that my friend was that he had a girlfriend all along n he popped up whenever they argued. Blocked. Deleted. Phone number changed. Xxx
They do it just to see if you will respond and that's all they need. They know after you respond you will sit there and go what why how and then they've got you thinking about them that's their goal. Don't let them accomplish it
Your videos helps a lot.. Thank you I think I can get through my journey of healing..
Thank you very much. God blessed you. Your video is very very helpful. I was in dark place for long time because I thought it was my fault because he told me I’m not normal over and over again. Thanks to you guys I’m learning he is the one crazy::
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My narc told me why we were done, but it was mostly an essay about everything wrong with me, as well as twisting my intentions and motives. She told me to reply back to her but I was so broken after reading it that I could not mentally bring myself to say the things I needed to say. It ended up just being me in denial, begging for her to let me make it right.
I would have done anything for my narc ex and she tore me down every single day. Once I figured out who she was, it got easier to be detached from the rosy simulacrum of her that I built up during the love bombing and future faking phase. It’s not a short term process of course. I’m writing that for the other people reading.
Thank you so much …. That was soooo helpful. Blessings to you for posting your wisdom. ❤
Mine comes back every 2 weeks like clockwork. I need to keep my boundaries and recognize he will never be what I need him to be despite how Good it was for so long.
Thank you 😊 yes your videos are really helping, especially this time of year. They provide much needed clarity 👍
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I just got tons of excuses that didnt make sense compared to things they said before. Back and fourth back and fourth
Thank you Anoushka you are one clued up person❤
Thank you 🙏🏼
Anuoushka you are doing fantastic job. Your videos helped me to understand what happened to me a few years ago.
5 months since he dumped me. saw him posted on socials with his new supply earlier this month in his home country, she’s 20 with a 4 year old son. he removed his tag from the picture.
he texted me today "Hey, how are you? I left my ray bans at your house, right?" must be back home now and bored? This is so upsetting he thinks this is ok. the last time we messaged a few months ago he was so cold, callous and cruel.
Why would he want them now? I don’t have them. Why would he want them after he came back from his trip in south america, not before? it’s like every few months reaches out to me
the make up stupid reasons to reach out just to see if we reply
Thank you! I have not talked to any body!
I'm so glad I stumbled onto this channel. I have a high school sweet heart that is now married and is completely "self convinced" she's in love with me. I've been objectified as the person that she wants adoration and validation for her vanity. I grew up with an NPD parent and younger brother. At 50, only within the last couple years, did I realize that I grew up in a Narcissist environment and that there was a high probability that I had other relationships and friendships where I had overlooked their narcissistic behavior. Now I see Narcissist more often than I had before.
I just want to say it's clear that you have a tremendous heart and strength. You're passionate about wanting to help people and it really comes through. Thank you for sharing all your insights and knowledge!!!
They are such charming liars …. and mine did contact after months , but because if you , I expected it … and smiled when it occurred. 😁because they are also SO PREDICTABLE. Thank you 🙏 ❤
Thank you so much. Hearing it helped me work through the breakup better. I was engaged and 2 months later he broke it off. So crazy. No real explanation.
I feel like you made this video specifically for me. I needed to hear this. Thank you.
Real talk💯
So true! Done it 3 times and still with the new supply 😂
Thank you 🙏 merry Christmas 🎁🎄
So helpful and healing. Just what I needed to hear. Thank you so much! 🙏🏽
That will never happen because I won't allow it again. Finally left and went No Contact and it's staying that way all the way
Thank you so much!! So very true, everything you said!
The more you give them the worst they will get😮😮😮❤❤
I discarded my Ex Narc over 2yrs ago & l was over the bullshit Drama's & he cheated on me & he did with his New Supply & he cheated on her & now is back with her..
It's been over 2yrs he's still bringing up my name to her & saying he wanted to see me in the New Yr WTF??? "via thro sis"
I have never felt so stupid in falling for a man but l got rid of him & l can't believe how stupid she is by taking him back after knowing what he's like & saying to her what he wants to do..
Talk about Dumb & Dumber....
Thnku for your videos & I'm still healing from all the Abuse & l know it's going to take time but at least l have kicked all toxic pple out of my life...
Keep them blocked, be aware of your surroundings pple, stay safe, Go no contact..... ❤
Wow, soooo true. "I've done the work so let's go back to the way it was" - so transactional
Thanks for this educational message.❤
Needed to hear this today Thank you
So hard, they keep calling 😢
Mine did this week after 7 years.
A simple friend request.
And the panic attacks start. Self hate is back. Ive worked so hard and one friend request feels like all my work has been shattered. Im trying so hard to be rational because i know i have moved on, im not that person he knew now..
but the truama is just eating my brain and i feel pathetic. Im so upset. I know ignoring it is exactly what i need to do but i just wish sending an angry msg would accomplish somthing.
Cold hard truth but it is truth. If there is an explanation it will be based on a perceived weakness that they have exploited in the past, something you revealed in trust. Forgive but never forget. Learn, use wisdom. They will never change. Be well and God bless.
You are so sweet ❤
Love ain't always so straight forward all the time
Im guessing his other supply is gone or he is just trying to breadcrumb me to keep the thread in place. LOL he wants to be in my will. And youre right 11 years of marraige and I got NO explanation at all for the divorce. He couldnt even offer anything - nothing.
This has helped me so much. Thank you for putting things back into perspective for me again .