@@kky10xz19it’s called masking. You have no control over it, it’s a trauma response. Clearly you have very little knowledge when it comes to autism, especially autism in women
@@kky10xz19 masking is inauthenticity born out of necessity and usually is for the sake of blending to not make other people uncomfortable. Also, the context was practicing facial expressions to reflect what she feels internally. In other words, trying to communicate better and more clearly cause keeping a monotone and straight face seems to lead people to assuming something’s wrong.
@@kky10xz19the problem is that autistic authenticity is often wildly misinterpreted. The way we naturally emote and react is often taken to mean something very different from what we actually intend or naturally feel. So practicing neurotypical behaviors is an attempt to make one's own authenticity better understood by others.
I love that this interview shows an autistic individual who is highly social and seeks connection. We don't see enough of that in media. Thankyou both for doing this interview!
Look how she doesn't look at the interviewer when answering the questions. She's spending so much energy verbalizing her thoughts she blocks any visual input.
@@illegalsmirf autistic people aren’t all recluses who desire only their special interests and not human connection????????? some may, and that’s cool and fine, but autistic people are as varied as neurotypical people. some NTs enjoy lots of socialization, some don’t. one reason an ND person might not seem likely to socialize is due to being treated as different or wrong due to their natural mannerisms, therefore leading to anxiety surrounding social interactions, leading someone to prefer the ease of not having to try so hard and spending time alone. but that’s just one experience of many.
"I try to be kind. I wake up every day and tell myself that my goal is to love humanity a bit more than I did before. And if I can do that, if I can walk into any space and love people with where they're at. That is important to me" 29:05
I loved that part also! Thank you to Jewel for giving the rest of us a fabulous goal for each day also!! :) Infinite blessings to her and SBSK--and to all people on the spectrum/neurodivergent--we love your unique perspectives and expression! We value you for you!!!
I’m not autistic but have always picked up on people’s energy, even as a child. It can be exhausting so I’m careful to take “time out” away from people so as not to feel overwhelmed.
have you ever absorbed the earths emotions? Its so interconnected with yourself you'll struggle to remember about random people's emotions and other mundane stuff, earth is beautiful and complex try what mike tyson does he eats these things called mushrooms they grow in the earth and create new ways of thinking new pathways of thought to relief mental fatigue also again its very simple to forget issues once you connect to the earth people often have negative emotions but earth holds zero negativity people are the issue and they should respect themselves then everybody would have positive emotion - if you feel bad its just not your fault look at the state of people living on earth its worse everyday
I can relate to the traumatic part because I was wrongly diagnosed for years, and when I got the autism diagnosis, I was dropped by the public psychiatric hospital because it's a non treatable diagnosis. That was their excuse. So I'm trying to figure it out on my own.. But it has also been relieving since I can relate more and more to it than I could with the other diagnosis (bpd).
There was definitely a great relief for me when it happened. It's like everything just suddenly made sense why things were so different and harder for me than other kids.
YES. everything makes sense but then you are left with a different kind of mourning for the childhood you could have had. But again it’s freeing because we can now create a place for our younger and current selves to heal and grow and be happy 😊
That a doctor misdiagnosed you as a child, in an effort to protect you, speaks volumes about the stigma we on the spectrum face and the hard work still to do! Thank you for sharing your story ❤
That doctor failed them and everyone else and that Doctor is the reason that stigma exists in her life. No doubt they were raised in a household that believed they had to hide something about their children. Sickening
I feel like a doctor did this to my son at 4 told us he didn't have it but it was obvious to us that he did at that time. Late speech arm flapping stemming vocalization stemming......when he did start a little more consistently talking at five he'd only repeat things other people would say...fascinated with touching hair and fabric as a baby and toddler OBVIOUSLY autistic. But today at 9 almost 10 once you get past the social wall he puts up to strangers (he opens up eventually) you can't tell he's autistic and he's by far my smartest kid. He's better at math than his 16 yr old sister and gets straight A's.
Wow “I couldn’t accept myself because I didn’t understand myself.” I had to sit with that for a minute. You just put into words a feeling I’ve always felt, even as a person who isn’t diagnosed with autism! Thank you for your honesty, you truly have a way with words
So relatable. Cried at the end when you said you're trying your best. Sometimes being autistic feels like being a flower, just being colorful and peaceful, and not offending anyone. And by our nature, we get trampled on and it feels like we can't defend ourselves. We do deserve to advocate for ourselves, even though it's common in groups of people to be ostracized for doing so.
In my experience being "high functioning" means that no one understands when I can't function, or meet social expectations. Being a gentle man doesn't mean I'm less of a man.
One of the best interviews ever! Not all of us can find the words you chose and it is a gift to be able to have someone we relate to share such intelligent words and descriptions.
Wow!! I am soon to be 80 years old and your story really resonated with me. I've been "out of sync" all of my life and never really understood people a lot. I'd go along thinking someone was my friend and trying to "help" everyone and doing what I thought they wanted only to find in the end I annoyed them. I've been a dedicated hermit for most of my life and spend a lot of time getting to know myself. I don't involve myself in group conversations because everyone is talking and no one is listening. I prefer one on one if I have to, otherwise I stay alone. Thank you
I am almost 59 yrs old but remember being 20-something like it was yesterday. EVERYTHING that this articulate, brave, intelligent and sincere person is saying resonates with me more than I want to admit - from being a people pleaser, to sensing every emotion of folks in the room, to CPTSD and my special connection with small children and animals. I’ve spent my entire life with similar feelings, but the parents of my generation believed that any form of mental-nervous conditions were mostly a matter of one’s personal failure. I would often be told to ‘get my head out of the clouds’. In high school, one of the most awful times of my life, I took up theater and felt quite at home with it - something I identify with Jewel on (and something I was not encouraged to pursue but often wish I had). In college and all professional settings, I never felt like I belonged, feeling valued only when I became knowledgeable or proficient at tasks. My whole life has revolved around ‘faking it to make it’, performing for the other’s’ expectations, endlessly ruminating over every social interaction while needing equally as much time to decompress afterwards. As I’ve aged, and as most of my relationships have dwindled over the years for various reasons - some because of my autistic tendencies - I find myself continuously seeking any and all excuses to be alone and avoid social interactions. My husband was the first to notice that I might be autistic but seeing Jewel has affirmed his observations of me. Thank you Jewel for honestly sharing your story (and thank you Cris for interviewing her). I pray that for the remainder of your life you will continue to grow in self-acceptance, confidence, inner strength and self-love so that you will enjoy the years ahead more fully. ⚓️🙏🫶🏼🕊️
As a late diagnosed AuDHD 30 year old, the end made me tear up 😭🥹 thank you so much Jewel ♡ and thank you Chris for sharing Jewel’s story with us. I really needed it ♡
I am such a theater nerd, and I remember as an adult going to see a play at a middle school I subbed at. A student who I knew to be Autistic was a whole different person on the stage and it was so beaitiful to witness. I love how theater can open up a whole new world for neurodivergent folks, too, and be a form of therapy.
if only Sia recognized that autistic people can also be theatrically talented 🙄 recently watched a video abt her movie Music and she kept purporting that an autistic person wouldn’t be able to handle acting. like woman!!!! and then later we find out she has been diagnosed???? and look at all you’ve accomplished Sia???!???? sorry rant over but like… society has gotta stop assuming things abt those with autism (and so many other conditions/disabilities/illnesses/situations smh)
i strongly feel like i might be autistic because of alot of experiences i relate to + people ask me if i am but i don't know how to get diagnosed for it. im 20 as well and a female and ive heard it's more difficult to diagnose in females. if i tell my parents to have me diagnosed and they agree to it and it comes back negative i feel like I'll never be able to get rediagnosed for it but at the same time it's really difficult trying to live wondering if im being dramatic or something is up with me. i need advice lol
Such a beautiful and articulate young woman! And her name perfectly describes her… Jewel ❤️. I really appreciated this interview. While I am not autistic I could relate to many of the thoughts and feelings she has had/has. I really admire her loving acceptance of others. What a pure soul. Jewel, you inspire me to be a better person. Thank you for sharing your experience!!
I got professional confirmation in 2018. As a kid, I got along well with all the other autistic kids, and the physically disabled kids, because I was also disabled and being denied broadly of knowing that too, by not only family but institutions too, like school and hospitals. Getting confirmation of my autism opened a massive door for me. I figured out my conditions are because of my genetics, not caused by autism but linked to it directly! POTS, MALS, and EDS, are both comorbid and linked genetically. Knowing this has allowed me to figure out how to best help myself, because I now know how to best care for my body, in its full scope. I love autistic people, I love disabled people, you are all shining gems in the dark. It is a shame we have high death statistics but this could end were we to be afforded a wide network of loving people. I believe in this strongly. The future is bright.
I have autism and when I was researching autism before I got diagnosed I found out about POTS and EDS. I am now diagnosed with autism and POTS. Two doctors said that I probably have EDS but they refuse to diagnose me. These conditions are definitely linked. A mother with EDS is as likely to have an autistic child as a mother with autism is.
So thankful you decided to do these videos. I'm sure it has changed so many lives, the ones that need their stories told, and the ones that need to realize people are people even when they're different. Thank you for helping people to be less scared and less judgemental. I think you both have done so much good and spread so much love. ❤
This trick to look at the mouth just saved my life. I have ADHD and pretty intense anxiety, and I always feel so weird having conversations with strangers because I don't like making eye contact, so I'll try this out! Thank you
I've never related to an SBSK interviewee more than this, and that's saying something considering how relatable many of these people are. What a breath of fresh air, I really enjoyed this one!
Like many autistic people she's very smart and explains the situation very clearly . I'm glad she had the answers and with that she understood "why" to many things
What a sweet young woman. I think this video is going to help a lot of people with autism, of all ages, feel okay about themselves. I love her suggestion of getting involved in theater. Great episode!
What a lovely woman, it was great hearing her story and perspective. For someone mentioning trying to find her words…. She is incredibly well spoken and is an excellent story teller. Great interview!
I'm in a happy relationship with my autistic gf, she's diagnosed with quite a few other delicate things as well. It hasn't been easy, we've almost broken up, she doesn't think she is "normal," but she is amazing. To me she comes across as very smart, self aware and easy to trust given she is so genuine and literally means what she says. That sets her so high above what I think is normal/average for people to be like. I have no mental health issues, some would think I have a high IQ, but I am also highly self aware and a self educated nerd on relationships and human behavior and it all helps. But the way she is just makes her trustworthy and admirable given all the hardships she works on overcoming. Not sure what the takeaway here is, but at least I can confirm there is someone out there for everyone. I was happy single and even strongly doubted if I even wanted a gf lol but definitely rather have her in my life despite the difficulties of being in a relationship, she became my best friend as well, given all we have in common and that she's accepted me despite all my flaws.
@@sinnamonroll2780 don't be too hard on yourself about your break up. There are things that go wrong for every single couple, given enough time together. People just need to do the hard work of studying themselves, and be educated on what a healthy relationship looks like and how to manage it. Also need to be clear on what you want and need in the relationship, sometimes we are not compatible and the best thing for everyone is to break up. Don't give up in finding that right person for you, every effort you make will better prepare you for that relationship with the right person that's coming your way.
@@chiarapiola does feel wrong to use the word "normal" in this context, neurotypical people are not any better when it comes to relationship skills. often worse, I'd argue.
My brother was diagnosed in high school with Asperger’s. He’s on the spectrum and his social skills are off . His eye contact skills are not quite there but he’s very successful in his job and gets a lot of compliments from his boss and customers. Damn proud big sister ❤
Same. My brother has Asperger's too. Independent and successful and as he's aged he's developed into a bright, kind, intelligent young man. I'm not sure why we need all these labels? Jewel is more grounded and authentic than 99% of the people I know. What a breath of fresh air.
This is hands down my favorite interview I’ve ever seen. I relate to you so much (I’m a late diagnosis ADHD adult myself), and everything you said was validating. I adore my animals and find them so much easier to communicate with! And the bit at the end about spreading positivity I believe in so much! You are a fantastic speaker, and just know you made my little ND heart soar today! Also, thank you Chris for taking the time to showcase a late-diagnosis ND adult. I’ve been waiting for an interview like this one! ❤
It’s wild watching someone give an interview and feeling like it’s almost a mirror image of yourself. I was diagnosed at 28, I’m 31 now, and theater was my lifeline for many many years. The difference is that I loathe acting 😅 but scriptwriting is something that brings me so much joy and gives me a space to just be myself. And animals are just the best, I can’t imagine my life without a dog. Now that I know who I am I’m not angry at myself for being so awful at being a person, I have an answer for why I am who I am, and it’s ok ❤
It's so freeing and calming, when you hear somebody that talks about things that you relate heavily... You have no idea how better I am feeling right now when somebody understands... Even when I am watching this video I am looking automatically on nose/mouth until I want to notice it then I look at eyes for second haha
The number of 70-80+ year old autistic people who comment on the video - you give me hope that I can be youthful and cool forever. I admire you and thank you
It'll always amaze me how people from such different contexts than mine, can resonate so much with me. Everything she said was, some how, my own story. From the "selective mutism" to sign up in theatre classes, to the late diagnosis. It's refreshing seeing stories like this. Thank you❤
Your insights are why, as a parent and teacher, I think 'labels' can be more good than bad. They allow understanding of why one is different, that, while the exact group of traits might be unique, there are others who are having similar experiences and you are not alone. Those labels, such as autistic, can also help others understand and even help when help is needed.
I’m 31 and only recently diagnosed ASD, it took so long because I also have severe OCD and that’s what was most prominent and urgently needed treatment, my psychiatrist told me he suspected it when he first started with me but didn’t think then it would be helpful to know. Now I’ve got a hold on the OCD he really wanted me to know about autism and how I relate to it. This video has been very informative. I basically exhibit her exact speech pattern, facial expression difficulties, wandering eyes when searching for words etc. the internal debate about whether to say anything, the assessing in real time the things she’s just said etc. she seems like such a cool person. So happy she has become more confident and expressive through acting, I wish I had the courage to do the same.
I have had a very similar experience. I was almost ten years into therapy for anxiety, depression, and OCD before i was diagnosed with ADHD and then autism.
It’s so crazy watching this video because she is me in so many ways (being diagnosed at 20 but also in how some of her autistic traits present). It genuinely makes me really happy to watch ❤
I appreciate this so so much!! My 10 y/o son is high functioning autistic and just had his first summer theatre camp and wants to do it again!! He also does a lot of the “looking in the mirror and making different faces” or checks himself in the mirror when he is trying to communicate an emotion! Thank you for this!
All this feels so relatable. I don't have a diagnosis, but the thought of getting one and the sense of relief followed by it feels very liberating. I'm really so happy that you got diagnosed and I hope you are able to be your authentic self without having to mask in many situations ❤
I was also an autistic college student but I was diagnosed when I was 27 (I was attending college at that time too). Being diagnosed late is VERY common for autistic people, especially women. I've met several women that were diagnosed in their 40's, only after their own kids were diagnosed with autism. And I've even met women that were diagnosed at elderly ages.
I was late diagnosed at 40 years of age and gosh i wish I'd been diagnosed sooner, and provided accommodation to ease the daily things of life that I struggled with over the years all while feeling different from others and questioning why it was all so much harder for me to cope and adapt to certain situations. I did adapt eventually and developed but it could have been so much easier with more help.
I was late diagnosed with autism as well. I was 29. I was always the weird kid in school which caused a lot of problems for me, and I've struggled with depression, anxiety and stress for as longs as I can remember. The diagnosis actually made me think "well, it makes sense now that everyone saw me as weird" and I'm still learning a lot about myself, but it has given me an understanding of who I am and why I am the way I am. Masking is still a huge part of my life, but I'm working on it. Thank you for putting it into words I can actually understand and relate to.
So much of this young lady's story is so relatable! I (52) have not been officially diagnosed, but my firstborn (26) was the one who pointed out that I'm on the spectrum. I was in my 40s. (All 3 of my grown kids are, as well, only one was diagnosed in childhood.) So many things started making sense after that!
Myself has PTSD depression and anxiety and some issues but you know your shows helped me a lot they show me God Don't Make junk does not make a mistake
This was a great interview! She is extremely well spoken and articulate and I appreciate how she chooses her words carefully, taking lengths to make her meaning clear.
I wish autism wasn't seen so much as a deficient tag. It always annoys me when it's often communicated as something pathological. I am autistic and I don't feel ''sick''. I am right. My perception is right for me. I don't want to be different. Nobody has an identical perception of their surroundings/other people. I don't expect neurotypical people to completely adapt to me. But I also don't want to bend myself for neurotypical people so that I fit into their perception of 'normal'.
@@Gengarisspooky exactly, I'm not wrong for having a disability and moderate support needs. But I also DO require accommodations in healthcare and at work due to my autism. I need legal protections, and moving away from a medical model or pathology would harm me
"Nobody has an identical perception of their surroundings as other people" Good. So you should understand then there are people out there, with an equally valid opinion as yours that genuinely sees autism as something (overall) pathological. Like me. It annoys me when my view and opinion about how autism is by and large a deficiency tag, without being labeled as ableist or w/e is trendy by the fascists in Woke culture these days. You have your right to express and speak for your opinion, but so do the rest of us. Just remember, there is probably a very real reason for why some people out there hates their autism, and wishes to their core an optional cure happens one day.
@@ShayQrchestrals I agree completely. My sensory sensitivities have profoundly limited my life. Not just my capacity, but my ability to do extremely basic human things like eat food and talk to people in a group setting. I would give anything for a medicine that could bring me sensory relief, and it sucks that other autistic people don't understand or speak over us who are more profoundly impacted :(
This was an amazing interview. She made some very important points that others can take and learn from. I enjoyed all your interviews but I really enjoyed this one very much. See you next week. Stay safe out there.
What a wonderful video! Thank you Jewel for your amazing life story and willingness to be brave and vulnerable. You have no idea how much value and influence you have to offer the world. Wishing you all the best!
I was diagnosed at 20! I relate with you, especially the acting out songs in the mirror! Getting diagnosed late is rough, but finally KNOWING why you’ve been different? That’s a great feeling and it opens you up to a whole community of people like you❤❤❤
Just got diagnosed at 17 and starting college this year, super helpful and inspiring to see someone similar, wishing all the best to Jewel and all my neurospicy friends out there
This interview made me feel understood and it feels so good...like some of the things she mentioned are exactly the same with me but I never heard someone put them into words like that. When I tried to explain them to my mum, she always just told me to stop overthinking everything. At some point I gave up to try and explain myself and became very quiet, except around people who I know won't judge me.. Only recently I'm starting to open up again So I feel seen right now by a person who doesn't even know I exist. I haven't been diagnosed with autism yet but I've known for a while that I probably could be.
I've been diagnosed two years ago when I was 32. I can clearly see myself in every autistic person I see on screen and I find each of them truly authentic and beautiful. Unfortunately there are no autistic people in my life, I am the only one I know.
I was diagnosed with Selective mutism when I was little as well. I can relate alot to what Jewel's experiences and feelings. That's inspiring that she's able to act in theater and that she has been able to learn to live with her autism without it stopping her from doing what she wants to do. I'm still trying to get to that point.
I'm going through the process of getting my son diagnosed and am finding out along this journey that it's likely that I'm also autistic. It's wild to realize that in your late 30's. These type of interviews really help, so thank you Chris and Jewel for doing this.
Ah, you beat me by a year. I was 28. Yeah, most of what she's saying are things many autistic people say, especially those of us who were diagnosed as adults.
I was diagnosed at 30. I relate so, so, so much to what she said. Getting diagnosed helped me start accepting myself and being able to figure out my needs and advocate too.
For small talk as an autistic person I learnt the acronym “W.O.R.M” for things to talk about; W = Weather O = Occupation R = Recreation/Hobbies M = Media Films/TV etc
My ADHD (and autism) radar is off the charts I bet hehe, it really IS the people you immediately connect to or think are so cool… Also, you seem like a great person!
I’ve been a special needs photographer and documenter for 30 years. Those I’ve met with autism are hands down the smartest I’ve ever met. They are some of the most confident and successful people. They have these qualities because they have nothing to prove- They are not in competition with anyone- No ego-pride. Just very comfortable with who they are.
I relate to a lot of what she's saying but I had a head injury at age six and now being in my mid-50s. Life was always different for me than it seemed to be for others. I'm thankful for the awareness this channel has so everyone can feel like someone special because they are❤
Before you mentioned liking acting and theatre, I kinda already pictured you as someone who'd be in movies or something. Not sure why, but it just clicked. Thanks for sharing your story, Jewel. It really resonated with me. I feel super seen, especially when you talked about being non-speaking in certain situations, especially as a kid. I relate to that a lot. And then learning to talk more, kind of like teaching yourself through acting or even just understanding yourself better, like in psychology. That part really stuck with me. Acting feels kinda predictable to me because there’s a script, a clear guide to follow. Some people don’t get why I seem socially skilled in certain situations, but they don’t realize how much effort and structure is behind it that helps me pull it off. Besides me thinking it's a very fun activity!
Hi Jewel, Thank you so much for sharing a bit of your story. Many details made a lot of sense to me and I could relate to your perspective easily. Congratulations to your growth and advances in your skills. I am so happy hearing that you found the theatre to be a place for you to be yourself more easily and that it gave you a ground to grow on. I thought the way you talk to yourself to be gentle and confident and inspiring. Everyone has their moments of struggle and we all can learn to cope with them and to grow. ❤ Thank you, all the best for you, Maja
Dużo kobiet nie jest diagnozowanych, bo się dobrze maskują. Ale zawsze czują to wewnętrzne niedopasowanie i trudności w codziennych prostych rzeczach, które wymagają kontaktu z ludźmi. I niestety, jak mówi ta dziewczyna często skutkuje to uzależniami, depresją. Wiem po sobie. Świadomość spektrum zmienia bardzo dużo. Człowiek zaczyna świadomie rozumieć swoje trudności i może nad nimi pracować. Dziękuję za ten film i pozdrawiam serdecznie ❤
Wow, I can relate to pretty much everything she said. Thank you Jewel for sharing this part of your life. I am about to be tested for autism, and I have felt out of place my entire life as well.
I’d say almost everyone who’s autistic is traumatized in some way. It’s often difficult to differentiate trauma responses from autistic traits. I’m an autistic person who’s close to her age and is currently in grad school to enter the mental health field. Testimonies like hers are so impactful to hear as a neurodivergent person, and you are such a good interviewer and listener. I deeply appreciate the service you provide in giving a platform to marginalized voices.
I was recently diagnosed as a 30 year old man. My case is definitely more mild, and I have built coping mechanisms over the years but it really helped to explain some of the strange ticks and issues I've had throughout my years. There has been some trauma and denial, especially when I was first diagnosed but I've started to learn to live with it. I hope Jewel keeps on keeping on, and I'm glad to see the representation on the channel.
I am not autistic but my son is and I just gotta say, I don't like eye contact either! It's violating to me, idk. Like he said, you just have to hear the words. She clearly explained things like my son would. It took years to get him diagnosed because he's also high functioning and doctors dismissed my concerns. His diagnosis last year felt so validating due to the struggles we've had behind closed doors. I feel autistic people are inspiring and insightful. Thanks for sharing your story, as it's very relatable. Edit: I had to edit because really, this young lady gave me the words to help explain my son to new people like teachers.
I'm not 100% in agreeance with that. What is natural about starting your life off labelled and confirmed as different? I have another diagnosis and not knowing pushed me to bridge the gaps when socializing and approach the same tasks as others, I had no excuses. Often these diagnoses can also be disabling and give easy excuses to people before they go about trying and putting effort. They also tend to direct someone into someone else's preconceived notions. She found out at 20, she's young and I think to argue, its a good moment in a long life to re-assess with personal experiences under her belt. Not all autism being the same, this will mean her reflections are authentic and not type cast. "Gnothi sauton." Not trying to be argumentative but we see this differently.
“inauthenticity really puzzles me”
same
All while talking about how she's practicing facial expressions because she has no authentic expressions to show. Really authentic 😂
@@kky10xz19 oof what an L take, and demonstrates you don't understand what you are talking about.
@@kky10xz19it’s called masking. You have no control over it, it’s a trauma response. Clearly you have very little knowledge when it comes to autism, especially autism in women
@@kky10xz19 masking is inauthenticity born out of necessity and usually is for the sake of blending to not make other people uncomfortable. Also, the context was practicing facial expressions to reflect what she feels internally. In other words, trying to communicate better and more clearly cause keeping a monotone and straight face seems to lead people to assuming something’s wrong.
@@kky10xz19the problem is that autistic authenticity is often wildly misinterpreted. The way we naturally emote and react is often taken to mean something very different from what we actually intend or naturally feel. So practicing neurotypical behaviors is an attempt to make one's own authenticity better understood by others.
I love that this interview shows an autistic individual who is highly social and seeks connection. We don't see enough of that in media. Thankyou both for doing this interview!
an autistic person who is highly social and seeks connection probably isn't actually autistic... this is a fashionable fad right now
Look how she doesn't look at the interviewer when answering the questions. She's spending so much energy verbalizing her thoughts she blocks any visual input.
@@illegalsmirf autistic people aren’t all recluses who desire only their special interests and not human connection????????? some may, and that’s cool and fine, but autistic people are as varied as neurotypical people. some NTs enjoy lots of socialization, some don’t. one reason an ND person might not seem likely to socialize is due to being treated as different or wrong due to their natural mannerisms, therefore leading to anxiety surrounding social interactions, leading someone to prefer the ease of not having to try so hard and spending time alone. but that’s just one experience of many.
@@pedrob3953 she speaks about it and she doesent say what you are ,i bet u didnt watch it all or not carefully at least
@@illegalsmirf why are you even here?
"I try to be kind. I wake up every day and tell myself that my goal is to love humanity a bit more than I did before. And if I can do that, if I can walk into any space and love people with where they're at. That is important to me" 29:05
I loved that part also! Thank you to Jewel for giving the rest of us a fabulous goal for each day also!! :) Infinite blessings to her and SBSK--and to all people on the spectrum/neurodivergent--we love your unique perspectives and expression! We value you for you!!!
reached the exact same conclusion myself ❤❤❤
she's looking at his mouth because she wants to kiss 'em!! 🤣
that was an amazing statement
My god, what an amazing human being
what she said about absorbing the emotions of people in the room really resonated with me !
I’m not autistic but have always picked up on people’s energy, even as a child. It can be exhausting so I’m careful to take “time out” away from people so as not to feel overwhelmed.
@@carolmorris2705 ~ Same for me. Not autistic but definitely absorb the moods and "energy" of the people in the room.
Perhaps look up HSP and Intuitive Empaths
for me its a mixture of being highly sensitive to people’s emotions AND the “stories” in my head that relate to them.
have you ever absorbed the earths emotions? Its so interconnected with yourself you'll struggle to remember about random people's emotions and other mundane stuff, earth is beautiful and complex try what mike tyson does he eats these things called mushrooms they grow in the earth and create new ways of thinking new pathways of thought to relief mental fatigue also again its very simple to forget issues once you connect to the earth people often have negative emotions but earth holds zero negativity people are the issue and they should respect themselves then everybody would have positive emotion - if you feel bad its just not your fault look at the state of people living on earth its worse everyday
Being late diagnosed is very traumatic but very freeing at once. What a great video and so relatable to the autism community.
traumatic? i get what you mean but i don't think that word fits here :p
Traumatic? No. Relieving? Yes
I can relate to the traumatic part because I was wrongly diagnosed for years, and when I got the autism diagnosis, I was dropped by the public psychiatric hospital because it's a non treatable diagnosis. That was their excuse. So I'm trying to figure it out on my own.. But it has also been relieving since I can relate more and more to it than I could with the other diagnosis (bpd).
There was definitely a great relief for me when it happened. It's like everything just suddenly made sense why things were so different and harder for me than other kids.
YES. everything makes sense but then you are left with a different kind of mourning for the childhood you could have had. But again it’s freeing because we can now create a place for our younger and current selves to heal and grow and be happy 😊
That a doctor misdiagnosed you as a child, in an effort to protect you, speaks volumes about the stigma we on the spectrum face and the hard work still to do! Thank you for sharing your story ❤
That doctor failed them and everyone else and that Doctor is the reason that stigma exists in her life. No doubt they were raised in a household that believed they had to hide something about their children. Sickening
Very sad.😢😢😢
I feel like a doctor did this to my son at 4 told us he didn't have it but it was obvious to us that he did at that time. Late speech arm flapping stemming vocalization stemming......when he did start a little more consistently talking at five he'd only repeat things other people would say...fascinated with touching hair and fabric as a baby and toddler OBVIOUSLY autistic. But today at 9 almost 10 once you get past the social wall he puts up to strangers (he opens up eventually) you can't tell he's autistic and he's by far my smartest kid. He's better at math than his 16 yr old sister and gets straight A's.
@3PSQWERTY I love your profile picture
It’s pink floyd
@@3PSQWERTY Very sad.😭😭😭😭
Wow “I couldn’t accept myself because I didn’t understand myself.” I had to sit with that for a minute. You just put into words a feeling I’ve always felt, even as a person who isn’t diagnosed with autism! Thank you for your honesty, you truly have a way with words
Oh, this is refreshing. Thanks for the representation. ♥ I already relate with her so much as someone who was diagnosed at an older age.
I was diagnosed with autism at age 40. Definitely related to everything she spoke on.
Thanks for sharing this story.
I was diagnosed at 47. Definitely helped me accept myself more!
I got diagnosed When I was 3 Years Old.
everyone on the internet is diagnosed with autism these days.
@@fieserfactsack9635 Only if you are watching autism content.
@@shadowfox4027 Everyone is not diagnosed. But if you watch autism content you will see more autistic people, obviously.
"You deserve to exist exactly as you are, without the need to mask." Thank you so much! ❤
I think having a friendship with Jewel would be so authentic and genuine. I admire how well she understands herself and all she has overcome.
So relatable. Cried at the end when you said you're trying your best. Sometimes being autistic feels like being a flower, just being colorful and peaceful, and not offending anyone. And by our nature, we get trampled on and it feels like we can't defend ourselves. We do deserve to advocate for ourselves, even though it's common in groups of people to be ostracized for doing so.
In my experience being "high functioning" means that no one understands when I can't function, or meet social expectations. Being a gentle man doesn't mean I'm less of a man.
One of the best interviews ever! Not all of us can find the words you chose and it is a gift to be able to have someone we relate to share such intelligent words and descriptions.
Wow!! I am soon to be 80 years old and your story really resonated with me. I've been "out of sync" all of my life and never really understood people a lot. I'd go along thinking someone was my friend and trying to "help" everyone and doing what I thought they wanted only to find in the end I annoyed them. I've been a dedicated hermit for most of my life and spend a lot of time getting to know myself. I don't involve myself in group conversations because everyone is talking and no one is listening. I prefer one on one if I have to, otherwise I stay alone. Thank you
I get this completely. Diagnosed aged 60.
You’re awesome. Maybe finding some autistic people would be interesting for you. Best to you.
I'm 59 and appreciate your comment so much. You articulated my own feelings in a way I can't thank you.
I loved reading this. Thanks for sharing! ❤
Thank you for having the courage to share. Your comment is appreciated and I wish you the best from my heart.
I feel so much of this. I didn't realize that I was autistic until about 31. All of it started making sense.
I am almost 59 yrs old but remember being 20-something like it was yesterday. EVERYTHING that this articulate, brave, intelligent and sincere person is saying resonates with me more than I want to admit - from being a people pleaser, to sensing every emotion of folks in the room, to CPTSD and my special connection with small children and animals. I’ve spent my entire life with similar feelings, but the parents of my generation believed that any form of mental-nervous conditions were mostly a matter of one’s personal failure. I would often be told to ‘get my head out of the clouds’. In high school, one of the most awful times of my life, I took up theater and felt quite at home with it - something I identify with Jewel on (and something I was not encouraged to pursue but often wish I had). In college and all professional settings, I never felt like I belonged, feeling valued only when I became knowledgeable or proficient at tasks. My whole life has revolved around ‘faking it to make it’, performing for the other’s’ expectations, endlessly ruminating over every social interaction while needing equally as much time to decompress afterwards. As I’ve aged, and as most of my relationships have dwindled over the years for various reasons - some because of my autistic tendencies - I find myself continuously seeking any and all excuses to be alone and avoid social interactions. My husband was the first to notice that I might be autistic but seeing Jewel has affirmed his observations of me. Thank you Jewel for honestly sharing your story (and thank you Cris for interviewing her). I pray that for the remainder of your life you will continue to grow in self-acceptance, confidence, inner strength and self-love so that you will enjoy the years ahead more fully. ⚓️🙏🫶🏼🕊️
She's so nice really wish her the best.
What an intelligent, self-aware person! Really relatable and educational. Thank you!
As a late diagnosed AuDHD 30 year old, the end made me tear up 😭🥹 thank you so much Jewel ♡ and thank you Chris for sharing Jewel’s story with us. I really needed it ♡
I am such a theater nerd, and I remember as an adult going to see a play at a middle school I subbed at. A student who I knew to be Autistic was a whole different person on the stage and it was so beaitiful to witness. I love how theater can open up a whole new world for neurodivergent folks, too, and be a form of therapy.
if only Sia recognized that autistic people can also be theatrically talented 🙄 recently watched a video abt her movie Music and she kept purporting that an autistic person wouldn’t be able to handle acting. like woman!!!! and then later we find out she has been diagnosed???? and look at all you’ve accomplished Sia???!????
sorry rant over but like… society has gotta stop assuming things abt those with autism (and so many other conditions/disabilities/illnesses/situations smh)
I’m a college student and just got diagnosed at 20 too what perfect timing
Same here ❤
Me too!!
Same here (but I’m 25)
So sorry to hear that.
i strongly feel like i might be autistic because of alot of experiences i relate to + people ask me if i am but i don't know how to get diagnosed for it. im 20 as well and a female and ive heard it's more difficult to diagnose in females. if i tell my parents to have me diagnosed and they agree to it and it comes back negative i feel like I'll never be able to get rediagnosed for it but at the same time it's really difficult trying to live wondering if im being dramatic or something is up with me. i need advice lol
Such a beautiful and articulate young woman! And her name perfectly describes her… Jewel ❤️. I really appreciated this interview. While I am not autistic I could relate to many of the thoughts and feelings she has had/has. I really admire her loving acceptance of others. What a pure soul. Jewel, you inspire me to be a better person. Thank you for sharing your experience!!
I got professional confirmation in 2018. As a kid, I got along well with all the other autistic kids, and the physically disabled kids, because I was also disabled and being denied broadly of knowing that too, by not only family but institutions too, like school and hospitals.
Getting confirmation of my autism opened a massive door for me. I figured out my conditions are because of my genetics, not caused by autism but linked to it directly! POTS, MALS, and EDS, are both comorbid and linked genetically. Knowing this has allowed me to figure out how to best help myself, because I now know how to best care for my body, in its full scope.
I love autistic people, I love disabled people, you are all shining gems in the dark. It is a shame we have high death statistics but this could end were we to be afforded a wide network of loving people. I believe in this strongly. The future is bright.
I have Heds I don't know it was linked!
I have autism and when I was researching autism before I got diagnosed I found out about POTS and EDS. I am now diagnosed with autism and POTS. Two doctors said that I probably have EDS but they refuse to diagnose me. These conditions are definitely linked. A mother with EDS is as likely to have an autistic child as a mother with autism is.
What is MALS?
I have had a physical disability since I was a child, and I love autistic people and their differences
4:23 "Yeah, I have no idea who I would be if I weren't autistic" hits deep
I saw this comment right when she said it😯
@@jaclyjones2692 UA-cam shows timestamped comments at the right time
@dnel83 oh cool, I didn't know that
Omg this hits so hard for me. I was saying it the other day
So thankful you decided to do these videos. I'm sure it has changed so many lives, the ones that need their stories told, and the ones that need to realize people are people even when they're different. Thank you for helping people to be less scared and less judgemental. I think you both have done so much good and spread so much love. ❤
So glad this video exists! Crazy how much of this video hit me in my soul
This trick to look at the mouth just saved my life. I have ADHD and pretty intense anxiety, and I always feel so weird having conversations with strangers because I don't like making eye contact, so I'll try this out! Thank you
I've never related to an SBSK interviewee more than this, and that's saying something considering how relatable many of these people are. What a breath of fresh air, I really enjoyed this one!
Like many autistic people she's very smart and explains the situation very clearly . I'm glad she had the answers and with that she understood "why" to many things
What a sweet young woman. I think this video is going to help a lot of people with autism, of all ages, feel okay about themselves. I love her suggestion of getting involved in theater. Great episode!
What a lovely woman, it was great hearing her story and perspective. For someone mentioning trying to find her words…. She is incredibly well spoken and is an excellent story teller. Great interview!
Wow. Jewel is such an engaging person. LOVED hearing her perspectives and learning from them, as I always do on this channel.
I'm in a happy relationship with my autistic gf, she's diagnosed with quite a few other delicate things as well. It hasn't been easy, we've almost broken up, she doesn't think she is "normal," but she is amazing. To me she comes across as very smart, self aware and easy to trust given she is so genuine and literally means what she says. That sets her so high above what I think is normal/average for people to be like. I have no mental health issues, some would think I have a high IQ, but I am also highly self aware and a self educated nerd on relationships and human behavior and it all helps. But the way she is just makes her trustworthy and admirable given all the hardships she works on overcoming. Not sure what the takeaway here is, but at least I can confirm there is someone out there for everyone. I was happy single and even strongly doubted if I even wanted a gf lol but definitely rather have her in my life despite the difficulties of being in a relationship, she became my best friend as well, given all we have in common and that she's accepted me despite all my flaws.
This was sweet to read, hope yall continue to make each other happy
She is normal
because is a person with frigilities but always person❤
Autistic woman recovering from a recent breakup. This helped a lot, and I didn't expect it to.
@@sinnamonroll2780 don't be too hard on yourself about your break up. There are things that go wrong for every single couple, given enough time together. People just need to do the hard work of studying themselves, and be educated on what a healthy relationship looks like and how to manage it. Also need to be clear on what you want and need in the relationship, sometimes we are not compatible and the best thing for everyone is to break up. Don't give up in finding that right person for you, every effort you make will better prepare you for that relationship with the right person that's coming your way.
@@chiarapiola does feel wrong to use the word "normal" in this context, neurotypical people are not any better when it comes to relationship skills. often worse, I'd argue.
My brother was diagnosed in high school with Asperger’s. He’s on the spectrum and his social skills are off . His eye contact skills are not quite there but he’s very successful in his job and gets a lot of compliments from his boss and customers. Damn proud big sister ❤
Same. My brother has Asperger's too. Independent and successful and as he's aged he's developed into a bright, kind, intelligent young man. I'm not sure why we need all these labels? Jewel is more grounded and authentic than 99% of the people I know. What a breath of fresh air.
This is hands down my favorite interview I’ve ever seen. I relate to you so much (I’m a late diagnosis ADHD adult myself), and everything you said was validating. I adore my animals and find them so much easier to communicate with! And the bit at the end about spreading positivity I believe in so much! You are a fantastic speaker, and just know you made my little ND heart soar today!
Also, thank you Chris for taking the time to showcase a late-diagnosis ND adult. I’ve been waiting for an interview like this one! ❤
It’s wild watching someone give an interview and feeling like it’s almost a mirror image of yourself. I was diagnosed at 28, I’m 31 now, and theater was my lifeline for many many years. The difference is that I loathe acting 😅 but scriptwriting is something that brings me so much joy and gives me a space to just be myself. And animals are just the best, I can’t imagine my life without a dog. Now that I know who I am I’m not angry at myself for being so awful at being a person, I have an answer for why I am who I am, and it’s ok ❤
It's so freeing and calming, when you hear somebody that talks about things that you relate heavily... You have no idea how better I am feeling right now when somebody understands... Even when I am watching this video I am looking automatically on nose/mouth until I want to notice it then I look at eyes for second haha
The number of 70-80+ year old autistic people who comment on the video - you give me hope that I can be youthful and cool forever. I admire you and thank you
idek you but i am def feeling eternal youthful n cool vibes from you
You've spoken the words that I haven't been able to for a long time.. Thank you ❤
It'll always amaze me how people from such different contexts than mine, can resonate so much with me. Everything she said was, some how, my own story. From the "selective mutism" to sign up in theatre classes, to the late diagnosis.
It's refreshing seeing stories like this. Thank you❤
Your insights are why, as a parent and teacher, I think 'labels' can be more good than bad. They allow understanding of why one is different, that, while the exact group of traits might be unique, there are others who are having similar experiences and you are not alone. Those labels, such as autistic, can also help others understand and even help when help is needed.
Jewel is incredible! I'd love a friend like her
I’m 31 and only recently diagnosed ASD, it took so long because I also have severe OCD and that’s what was most prominent and urgently needed treatment, my psychiatrist told me he suspected it when he first started with me but didn’t think then it would be helpful to know. Now I’ve got a hold on the OCD he really wanted me to know about autism and how I relate to it. This video has been very informative. I basically exhibit her exact speech pattern, facial expression difficulties, wandering eyes when searching for words etc. the internal debate about whether to say anything, the assessing in real time the things she’s just said etc. she seems like such a cool person. So happy she has become more confident and expressive through acting, I wish I had the courage to do the same.
I have had a very similar experience. I was almost ten years into therapy for anxiety, depression, and OCD before i was diagnosed with ADHD and then autism.
I love that acting was something that helped Jewel! Education in the arts is so important in ways that we do not even understand.
It’s so crazy watching this video because she is me in so many ways (being diagnosed at 20 but also in how some of her autistic traits present). It genuinely makes me really happy to watch ❤
I appreciate this so so much!! My 10 y/o son is high functioning autistic and just had his first summer theatre camp and wants to do it again!! He also does a lot of the “looking in the mirror and making different faces” or checks himself in the mirror when he is trying to communicate an emotion! Thank you for this!
I make faces in mirrors every single time I am near one lol
What a beautiful, caring, intelligent young lady! I love her and would be her friend any day ❤❤❤
All this feels so relatable. I don't have a diagnosis, but the thought of getting one and the sense of relief followed by it feels very liberating. I'm really so happy that you got diagnosed and I hope you are able to be your authentic self without having to mask in many situations ❤
So awesome to have this level of awareness of one’s nervous system responses.
such a beautiful soul she is 💓
I was also an autistic college student but I was diagnosed when I was 27 (I was attending college at that time too). Being diagnosed late is VERY common for autistic people, especially women. I've met several women that were diagnosed in their 40's, only after their own kids were diagnosed with autism. And I've even met women that were diagnosed at elderly ages.
I was late diagnosed at 40 years of age and gosh i wish I'd been diagnosed sooner, and provided accommodation to ease the daily things of life that I struggled with over the years all while feeling different from others and questioning why it was all so much harder for me to cope and adapt to certain situations. I did adapt eventually and developed but it could have been so much easier with more help.
What a beautiful soul, thank you for sharing!
I was late diagnosed with autism as well. I was 29. I was always the weird kid in school which caused a lot of problems for me, and I've struggled with depression, anxiety and stress for as longs as I can remember. The diagnosis actually made me think "well, it makes sense now that everyone saw me as weird" and I'm still learning a lot about myself, but it has given me an understanding of who I am and why I am the way I am. Masking is still a huge part of my life, but I'm working on it. Thank you for putting it into words I can actually understand and relate to.
So much of this young lady's story is so relatable! I (52) have not been officially diagnosed, but my firstborn (26) was the one who pointed out that I'm on the spectrum. I was in my 40s. (All 3 of my grown kids are, as well, only one was diagnosed in childhood.) So many things started making sense after that!
Myself has PTSD depression and anxiety and some issues but you know your shows helped me a lot they show me God Don't Make junk does not make a mistake
Take care! ❤
What a smart brave and verbal young lady!! And so much good advice to share with people that might be struggeling.❤
i was diagnosed at 19. i relate to her a lot, and it’s comforting to know that i’m not alone♥️
Beautiful interview, beautiful girl. Thank you so much for sharing! Wishing you all the best 😊
This was a great interview! She is extremely well spoken and articulate and I appreciate how she chooses her words carefully, taking lengths to make her meaning clear.
I wish autism wasn't seen so much as a deficient tag. It always annoys me when it's often communicated as something pathological. I am autistic and I don't feel ''sick''. I am right. My perception is right for me. I don't want to be different. Nobody has an identical perception of their surroundings/other people. I don't expect neurotypical people to completely adapt to me. But I also don't want to bend myself for neurotypical people so that I fit into their perception of 'normal'.
Autism is a disability. It impacts me and everyone on the daily basis especially those with higher support needs
Who is neurotypical?
@@Gengarisspooky exactly, I'm not wrong for having a disability and moderate support needs. But I also DO require accommodations in healthcare and at work due to my autism. I need legal protections, and moving away from a medical model or pathology would harm me
"Nobody has an identical perception of their surroundings as other people" Good. So you should understand then there are people out there, with an equally valid opinion as yours that genuinely sees autism as something (overall) pathological.
Like me.
It annoys me when my view and opinion about how autism is by and large a deficiency tag, without being labeled as ableist or w/e is trendy by the fascists in Woke culture these days.
You have your right to express and speak for your opinion, but so do the rest of us.
Just remember, there is probably a very real reason for why some people out there hates their autism, and wishes to their core an optional cure happens one day.
@@ShayQrchestrals I agree completely. My sensory sensitivities have profoundly limited my life. Not just my capacity, but my ability to do extremely basic human things like eat food and talk to people in a group setting. I would give anything for a medicine that could bring me sensory relief, and it sucks that other autistic people don't understand or speak over us who are more profoundly impacted :(
She's a lovely, insightful person.
I have the same speaking pattern and it's really nice that Chris gave her the time and space to find and get out the words she wanted to use
Is this speaking pattern not normal?
Thank you for such a wonderful interview. Felt like crying many times. As the kids would say “Real”.
This was an amazing interview. She made some very important points that others can take and learn from. I enjoyed all your interviews but I really enjoyed this one very much. See you next week. Stay safe out there.
What a wonderful video! Thank you Jewel for your amazing life story and willingness to be brave and vulnerable. You have no idea how much value and influence you have to offer the world. Wishing you all the best!
Very relatable video. I was diagnosed with autism and ADD as an adult as well.
Same
Same at age 34. Changed my life for the better. Such a relatable video.
I was diagnosed at 20! I relate with you, especially the acting out songs in the mirror! Getting diagnosed late is rough, but finally KNOWING why you’ve been different? That’s a great feeling and it opens you up to a whole community of people like you❤❤❤
Just got diagnosed at 17 and starting college this year, super helpful and inspiring to see someone similar, wishing all the best to Jewel and all my neurospicy friends out there
This interview made me feel understood and it feels so good...like some of the things she mentioned are exactly the same with me but I never heard someone put them into words like that. When I tried to explain them to my mum, she always just told me to stop overthinking everything. At some point I gave up to try and explain myself and became very quiet, except around people who I know won't judge me.. Only recently I'm starting to open up again So I feel seen right now by a person who doesn't even know I exist. I haven't been diagnosed with autism yet but I've known for a while that I probably could be.
I find this woman engaging and articulate. Be you, Girl!
What a pleasure to meet this thoughtful and compassionate young woman. I wish her all the best.
Jewel is a gem.
I've been diagnosed two years ago when I was 32. I can clearly see myself in every autistic person I see on screen and I find each of them truly authentic and beautiful. Unfortunately there are no autistic people in my life, I am the only one I know.
I was diagnosed with Selective mutism when I was little as well. I can relate alot to what Jewel's experiences and feelings. That's inspiring that she's able to act in theater and that she has been able to learn to live with her autism without it stopping her from doing what she wants to do. I'm still trying to get to that point.
I'm going through the process of getting my son diagnosed and am finding out along this journey that it's likely that I'm also autistic. It's wild to realize that in your late 30's. These type of interviews really help, so thank you Chris and Jewel for doing this.
Diagnosed with Autism at age 27 here 🙋♀
I can relate so much to Jewel, so much self healing came with the diagnosis it was world changing
Ah, you beat me by a year. I was 28.
Yeah, most of what she's saying are things many autistic people say, especially those of us who were diagnosed as adults.
I was diagnosed at 30. I relate so, so, so much to what she said. Getting diagnosed helped me start accepting myself and being able to figure out my needs and advocate too.
For small talk as an autistic person I learnt the acronym “W.O.R.M” for things to talk about;
W = Weather
O = Occupation
R = Recreation/Hobbies
M = Media Films/TV etc
My ADHD (and autism) radar is off the charts I bet hehe, it really IS the people you immediately connect to or think are so cool…
Also, you seem like a great person!
Jewel is so impressive, and she helped me get to know my condition better, excellent video, would love to see more of this!
I’ve been a special needs photographer and documenter for 30 years. Those I’ve met with autism are hands down the smartest I’ve ever met. They are some of the most confident and successful people. They have these qualities because they have nothing to prove-
They are not in competition with anyone-
No ego-pride. Just very comfortable with who they are.
I relate to a lot of what she's saying but I had a head injury at age six and now being in my mid-50s. Life was always different for me than it seemed to be for others. I'm thankful for the awareness this channel has so everyone can feel like someone special because they are❤
Before you mentioned liking acting and theatre, I kinda already pictured you as someone who'd be in movies or something. Not sure why, but it just clicked. Thanks for sharing your story, Jewel. It really resonated with me. I feel super seen, especially when you talked about being non-speaking in certain situations, especially as a kid. I relate to that a lot. And then learning to talk more, kind of like teaching yourself through acting or even just understanding yourself better, like in psychology. That part really stuck with me.
Acting feels kinda predictable to me because there’s a script, a clear guide to follow. Some people don’t get why I seem socially skilled in certain situations, but they don’t realize how much effort and structure is behind it that helps me pull it off. Besides me thinking it's a very fun activity!
Hi Jewel,
Thank you so much for sharing a bit of your story. Many details made a lot of sense to me and I could relate to your perspective easily. Congratulations to your growth and advances in your skills.
I am so happy hearing that you found the theatre to be a place for you to be yourself more easily and that it gave you a ground to grow on.
I thought the way you talk to yourself to be gentle and confident and inspiring. Everyone has their moments of struggle and we all can learn to cope with them and to grow.
❤ Thank you, all the best for you,
Maja
Dużo kobiet nie jest diagnozowanych, bo się dobrze maskują. Ale zawsze czują to wewnętrzne niedopasowanie i trudności w codziennych prostych rzeczach, które wymagają kontaktu z ludźmi. I niestety, jak mówi ta dziewczyna często skutkuje to uzależniami, depresją. Wiem po sobie. Świadomość spektrum zmienia bardzo dużo. Człowiek zaczyna świadomie rozumieć swoje trudności i może nad nimi pracować. Dziękuję za ten film i pozdrawiam serdecznie ❤
tak, to prawda.
i was diagnosed at 18 with level 1 autism and an anxiety disorder, this video makes me feel so seen and it made me so happy to know im not alone
I regulary visit this channel to restore my faith in humanity.
Wow, I can relate to pretty much everything she said. Thank you Jewel for sharing this part of your life. I am about to be tested for autism, and I have felt out of place my entire life as well.
I thought she was looking at his eyes too! She seems very intelligent and speaks well!
i really felt that part about hearing all the conversations at once. its so overwhelming
I’d say almost everyone who’s autistic is traumatized in some way. It’s often difficult to differentiate trauma responses from autistic traits. I’m an autistic person who’s close to her age and is currently in grad school to enter the mental health field. Testimonies like hers are so impactful to hear as a neurodivergent person, and you are such a good interviewer and listener. I deeply appreciate the service you provide in giving a platform to marginalized voices.
I opened this video to better understand about autism and closed it with better understanding about myself. What a wise girl.
As someone who was diagnosed at 23, I can totally relate to this
I was recently diagnosed as a 30 year old man. My case is definitely more mild, and I have built coping mechanisms over the years but it really helped to explain some of the strange ticks and issues I've had throughout my years. There has been some trauma and denial, especially when I was first diagnosed but I've started to learn to live with it. I hope Jewel keeps on keeping on, and I'm glad to see the representation on the channel.
I am not autistic but my son is and I just gotta say, I don't like eye contact either! It's violating to me, idk. Like he said, you just have to hear the words. She clearly explained things like my son would. It took years to get him diagnosed because he's also high functioning and doctors dismissed my concerns. His diagnosis last year felt so validating due to the struggles we've had behind closed doors. I feel autistic people are inspiring and insightful. Thanks for sharing your story, as it's very relatable.
Edit: I had to edit because really, this young lady gave me the words to help explain my son to new people like teachers.
Thank you very much for putting yourself out there. i really enjoyed the interview.
And thank you SBSK for giving voices to so many wonderful humans
Her parents did a disservice by not telling her she's autistic.
It's called shame.
I'm not 100% in agreeance with that. What is natural about starting your life off labelled and confirmed as different? I have another diagnosis and not knowing pushed me to bridge the gaps when socializing and approach the same tasks as others, I had no excuses. Often these diagnoses can also be disabling and give easy excuses to people before they go about trying and putting effort. They also tend to direct someone into someone else's preconceived notions. She found out at 20, she's young and I think to argue, its a good moment in a long life to re-assess with personal experiences under her belt. Not all autism being the same, this will mean her reflections are authentic and not type cast. "Gnothi sauton." Not trying to be argumentative but we see this differently.
I'm an Autistic+ADHD medical student. This video made me feel represented.
So eloquent, articulate and enlightening. Thank you for sharing your important story.