Common Signs of Avoidant Personality Disorder
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- Опубліковано 17 гру 2023
- Avoidant Personality Disorder (AVPD) is a mental health condition characterized by a pervasive pattern of social inhibition, feelings of inadequacy, extreme sensitivity to negative evaluation or rejection, and avoidance of social interactions and intimate relationships due to fear of criticism or disapproval. It is paert of the Cluster C group of personalities.
This video outlines some common signs of this disorder and how it can affect different relationships and interactions.
Please remember this video is for information purposes only.
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In a culture with vipers who lead with their own certain opinions. Introverts will avoid situations as a means of self care
Exactly. I’ve eliminated all the toxic people in my life, yet the biggest one, my covert narc father is still in my life with only a short time left. He’s determined to make me his punching bag and family scapegoat because he hates his family, and only values his co-toxic validators who have equally abusive personalities. Abusers stick together.
And we abused folks are sticking together too out in the light with our shared and growing insight. 👍🏻
Their bleak darkness will never win in the end.
Introversion is NOT Avoidant
Look at this viper talking about opinions that they don't agree with
@AgendaInMind Now their cover is blown, and the trick is over, we, their adult children are sticking together too. The power of honest communication and shared insight lies with us!
Sounds like the problems of children who come from narcissistic homes 😢 but we can heal from it. 😊Thank you Darren. 😊
That can be true based on those I've talked to who have this disorder besides myself, but in my case, my parents both show almost all the symptoms while I have shown every single one. I think rather than being all that narcissistic, they are simply deeply insecure people who projected and imparted their issues onto me.
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Hahsha I just asked that question
Can having a covert, narcissist, mother, lead to having avoidant personality traits?
I think so.
Very common to mistake this with covert narcissism
Yep. But covert narcissists tend to hurt you and you will notice that quickly. APDs are probably more self-critical.
"The dreams in which I'm dying Are the best I've ever had" ...
My brother in law is (according to me) APD. Very awkward in all situations, no friends, lives in a terrible basement apartment for the last 35 years, same service job for decades. Probably a virgin, has no hobbies or interests, overweight, terrible diet. But it was stuttering when speaking that led me to this diagnosis , he's so nervous when speaking and is not a stutterer by nature, it came on thru adulthood, and I found it as a symptom in studies. So many think some kind of autism or low IQ but that's not true. My partner and I are probably his main social contacts and that is a few times a year. It's such a waste of a life, I wish people would get help!
Thank you Darren. I was told I have traits of anxious/ avoidant personality disorder and pretty much fit the description you give here. For me, I think it at least partly stems from being autistic and having trouble in social situations. A fear develops when, despite doing your absolute best, you manage to upset or offend someone. I've also been accused of making faces at people including teachers/ lectuers, which I would *never* do on purpose. It's far easier to stay quiet and/ or secluded as a result.
Best wishes and Happy Christmas.
Just to clarify: there's a fairly large difference between anxious/avoidant attachment disorder, and Avoidant Personality Disorder. AvPD is about a person who's essentially afraid of the whole world, including a tendency towards agoraphobia, whereas someone with avoidant attachment prefers independence and self-reliance rather than being comfortable with romantic intimacy. So, romantic trust issues without any easy cure would be avoidant attachment style, while AvPD would mean that if another person can find a way to convince you they TRULY love and appreciates you no matter how weird you are or how awkward you might be, they'll feel like a very safe place in a scary world.
Awaiting diagnosis, autism (have ADHD)completely relate. Thank you
History of abuse from narcissistic parents
Wow i’m 37 and just realized this is me to a tee. I needed to watch this but i don’t want any medication, thx for the info Darren
I have Complex ptsd and am Avoidant PD also....and now live as a recluse
Recluse...me too.
Me too! Being around people is exhausting.
I think I may have this. I avoid work, parties or any interactions other than with close family. I can't deal with friendships and find relationships difficult.
Another common sign is that I can identify every model in the the background.
Thank you for this
Hi Darren, thanks as ever for a helpful video. I'm interested as to where this personality challenge comes from. I ask because an older long retired friend was very destructively fathered by a truly nasty, highly critical, narcissistic man and my friend shows many of the traits you've described here. He is withdrawn and very unhappy and sometimes depressed for years. I've been trying to encourage him towards counselling/ psychotherapy but he quietly but definitely declines to consider that. Thanks 👍🏻.
Thank you for the clarity.
This is very insightful. Thanks for sharing
Very interesting, Darren-and I have a question for you. If someone stays in close contact all of the time and then chooses to not be there only when you need them most (crisis), would that also fall under this?
You should talk about fearful avoidant attachment styles
this is me
@ helenarubio3371,
Hi. I googled avoidant PD and the article said that they can have many sex partners. How could this even be possible after hearing all of these symptoms? Would you happen to know?
Also, there are tons of UA-cam videos calling some lovers in relationships, avoidant, meaning that they can have sexual encounters but don’t want intimacy and ghost because of that. These videos try to give advice on how to help out the avoidant. People in the comment section write: Don’t! Run!
Thanks!
Bonnielee, I am a hermit, a recluse.
@ helenarubio3371,
Thanks. I watched a video on it by Jim Brillon. In his definition it is all pervasive. To me that means in the sex life as well. He did mention that some have relationships but even still there will be difficulty. Someone in the comment section objected and figured that the disorder should make it very hard for them to be able to even get into a relationship. I conclude that that article, that I read, must be wrong. Then I looked up the DSM-5 definition and started reading but then didn’t finish because I fell asleep. That’s where a better answer should be found. Thank you.
Why are you asking the same question to everyone? Do your own research.@@bonnielee316
@@narcabusefreezone6798 Why are you so belligerent?
Hi Darren. Could you also discuss the etiology or causes of avoidant Personality disorder?
For me, my covert narcissistic father picked on me and criticized me growing up. He was also neglectful and repeatedly cheated on my mother over and over, and she stayed due to her own family traumas. Toxic families destroy their kids.
@AgendaInMind But we survive and we can in time learn to become strong.
@@simonandrews4355 Thank you. I have since joined a 12 Step group for dysfunctional families. It’s helping already!
I thought this was common but hey a nice handy label.
Darren McGee, hi I have a question. When I googled avoidant PD one article said that they can have many sex partners. How could this be if they have all of that fear and social anxiety? It makes no sense especially since being naked is being vulnerable as well as other aspects like what if the partner wants intimacy? Shouldn’t that freak them out?
Also, it sounds like you are saying, social inhibition. Oh ok so not inhibited means not afraid to do social interactions; yeah, how do they get past that in order to have sex? Why in the world did that article say that seeing that it goes against the whole idea of the disorder? Thanks!
Well you probably should listen better. He also said that AVPD causes people to act in ways that avoid conflict AND REJECTION. If a person with AVPD believes that the only way to keep their partner around is to sleep with them, they likely will. They're likely to go along with WHATEVER a partner wants to avoid conflict. WTF are you talking about? Again, the article probably stated it because IT'S TRUE, people with AVPD AGAIN, go along with things to AVOID CONFLICT AND REJECTION.
@ narcabusefreezone6798,
Thank you for your response.
They want to avoid conflict at any cost makes me think of ghosting, hiding out, stuff like that.
What am I talking about? Ok, specifically, narcopaths ( narcissim and psychopathy co-morbid with or without avoidant ).That means two or more personality disorders simultaneously occurring called: co-morbid. People who play games with people and use many people for sex and hook-ups who ghost you, give you the silent treatment when you confront them on something; who claim that they can’t help themselves. That they do it to everyone, I.e. friend and family who beg them to go into therapy but who refuse to. They will come up with excuses like it’s anxiety disorder. The UA-cam have creators that claim that this type of person is avoidant attachment style. I think some claim avoidant personality disorder but when you jump down into the comment section people say, b.s. they’re narcopaths. That they are doing it deliberately.
So I’ve been thinking about it and I wonder if the DSM-5 says that they lack empathy because if they don’t then that would mean that the players are not just avoidant personality disordered but are co-morbid with a personality disorder that is known to lack empathy. I’m just trying to cut through the bull. And I’m thinking that that article that I read is bull.
So what I did was is Google the DSM-5 definition on avoidant PD to see for myself but I fell asleep. I will have to finish that. Thank you.
And don’t come at me saying that I’m dumb and naive for falling for a player's game; like I said, there’s a lot of bad information out there and it will mislead people. The UA-cam channels are about how to keep or get back with the avoidant, but their examples sound like psychopaths, players playing games. That’s going to mean that people are being misled, in my opinion to stay with the avoidant to work it out when they may not be just avoidant. You clear it up by knowing exactly what an avoidant is.
No need to be belligerent
Great informative video on AVPD Darren!
The information is very accurate as well. AVPD does also appear to stem from early mental trauma when the individual is very young. Combine that trauma with very poor parenting and you end up with an individual who becomes profoundly socially inept at dealing with people. Those who do have AVPD will also show co-morbidity with other mental disorder such as narcissism, learned helplessness, addiction, poor social skills, and general overall poor hygiene due to their poor self-esteem.
Narcissism is NOT a mental disorder, it is a personality problem, poor social skills, and bad hygiene also aren't mental disorders.
This! The narcissism included here is what I've witnessed in my fiancee's 20 y/o son, but couldn't quite grasp how it "fit in" with all of the other traits of his AVPD. I've often wondered, how does he manage to exhibit the audacity to be so arrogant, and yet so childish, entitled and ignorant at the same time.
@@SteeleMagnolia Usually one of the very common mental disorders associated with AVPD is narcissism as narcissism becomes a highly dominant coping mechanism especially in adults. I have found both NPD and AVPD in one of family member as well and they show strong signs of both NPD and AVPD (the common term for this in psychology is "co-morbidity"). Typically when one finds one mental disorder they are accompanied by other mental disorders as well. Mental disorders are not typically found in isolation. Hope this helps!
@@happycat0411 Thank you so much for this info, as it does make so much sense.
@@SteeleMagnolia BTW, the reason why mental disorders and usually not found in isolation is the brain (ego) generates alternative coping mechanisms to deal with the problem(s) it is confronted with. Often you will see +3 mental illness altogether. it's the ego way of trying to cope with the stress it has to deal with.
If a person with a mental problem does not get treatment before their late 20s or early 30s what happens is after the body stops growing at this point and the mental disorders become ingrained permanently into the individual's personality for the remainder of their life. This is why mental health treatment is especially important while they they are still in their late 20s. Once the body stops developing the mental disorder become a permanent of the individual's personality.
Could do with some more videos from you.
he already made a ton of them, Jack!
Could having a covert narcissist, mother lead someone to posses traits of avoidant personality disorder?
Some of this sounds like ocd stuff... how can i know the difference between ocd vs avoidant pd?
You forgot to mention the harm they do to other people. I worked for someone like that. It was a nightmare. He was very selfish and lied all the time. Whatever made HIM feel better. No one else mattered.
He let people run roughshod over us and ignored emails.
And then he was surprised when I left! I still hate him.
His wife had some kind of mental issues and supposedly couldn't work . Great for him, because that we she was dependent and probably made him feel more competent.
Have you considered he could have been a vulnerable narcissist?
This doesn't sound like AVPD at all.
Can people of this type of personality disorder tend to use Alcohol and/or drugs to face other people social situations and relationships??
how about a link to adhd?
And why is that? Other people are mob like and why bother with them. People annoy me anyway. People are dangerous and it’s best to stay away. I express how I feel and piss them off. People use your information as a weapon against you. You aren’t presenting the other side of the coin, or why people stay away from others.