I'm not very good at handling situations. The other day he opened a very large heavy package with a knife. He stabbed down into the box and cut open a bag of dirt approximately 13 cm lengthwise and then left it there. The bag was encased in another more heavy duty bag, so he must have stabbed pretty hard to get to that bag. I went over to this box sitting in the entry and saw what had happened. It was incredulous that he did nothing to tape the package and say something to me. He just left it there. I wanted to pick up the bag and dump it into his office, instead, i taped it up and brought it to the garage, stewing about how his reaction (not a big deal) had angered me. I just started being confrontational towards him and asking him why he had to open it that way. Did he seriously have to stab the bag like that? Pointing out how much strength it must have taken to stab through all that. Then I brought up the fact that he should be at work instead of hiding from another co-worker, which made him even angrier. I immediately apologized, but the damage was done. He's spent the last two days sleeping in the guest room. Like I said, I apologized, not him. He did nothing wrong in his eyes. We've spent the last two days ignoring each other. I'm working on not getting angry when he does something common sense should have fixed. Then I start thinking about the stairs and it's been 2 years, and all the rest of the crap he leaves me hanging on, then I start thinking I'm going to be watching his mother for a third of the summer while he goes to work. Then, then, then, I hope you understand where I'm going with this. Our problems never get solved because he gets angry when i speak with him so that's even more frustrating. He just told me he's going to the rental to fix things up for the new guys and of course I'm thinking paint that chip of paint that fell off, it's been two years since you've lifted a finger to fix those stairs. I'm pretty down right now, I'll probably delete this after you read it, wouldn't want to die and everyone discover how unhappy shit is right now.
A few weeks ago I saw a message he sent to a female coworker that said...I need to work on those stairs this weekend, my wife's going to kill me if I don't get that done. Go ahead, guess, did he work on those stairs? 😂😂😂
@@MonaSimply Such a frustrating situation, things being left undone/half done. I totally feel your pain, upset and frustration! The only way I've learned to cope is by not sweating the small things and letting them remain undone or by doing them myself. While getting him/us to concentrate on one big thing at a time. "Can we please work on X today or this coming weekend?" and then making sure that particular task gets ticked off, before giving him some reprieve and moving onto the next important thing. It's difficult when he doesn't have a great deal of spare time and needs rest in between taxing events. I hope you can work out some way to get those stairs done 🤞
@myntndmarriage we shall see, he knew I was frustrated and kind of figured it out, he's starting to pick things back up. Any way to ask him to pick up after himself?
I'm not very good at handling situations. The other day he opened a very large heavy package with a knife. He stabbed down into the box and cut open a bag of dirt approximately 13 cm lengthwise and then left it there. The bag was encased in another more heavy duty bag, so he must have stabbed pretty hard to get to that bag. I went over to this box sitting in the entry and saw what had happened. It was incredulous that he did nothing to tape the package and say something to me. He just left it there. I wanted to pick up the bag and dump it into his office, instead, i taped it up and brought it to the garage, stewing about how his reaction (not a big deal) had angered me. I just started being confrontational towards him and asking him why he had to open it that way. Did he seriously have to stab the bag like that? Pointing out how much strength it must have taken to stab through all that. Then I brought up the fact that he should be at work instead of hiding from another co-worker, which made him even angrier. I immediately apologized, but the damage was done. He's spent the last two days sleeping in the guest room. Like I said, I apologized, not him. He did nothing wrong in his eyes. We've spent the last two days ignoring each other. I'm working on not getting angry when he does something common sense should have fixed. Then I start thinking about the stairs and it's been 2 years, and all the rest of the crap he leaves me hanging on, then I start thinking I'm going to be watching his mother for a third of the summer while he goes to work. Then, then, then, I hope you understand where I'm going with this. Our problems never get solved because he gets angry when i speak with him so that's even more frustrating. He just told me he's going to the rental to fix things up for the new guys and of course I'm thinking paint that chip of paint that fell off, it's been two years since you've lifted a finger to fix those stairs. I'm pretty down right now, I'll probably delete this after you read it, wouldn't want to die and everyone discover how unhappy shit is right now.
A few weeks ago I saw a message he sent to a female coworker that said...I need to work on those stairs this weekend, my wife's going to kill me if I don't get that done. Go ahead, guess, did he work on those stairs? 😂😂😂
@@MonaSimply Such a frustrating situation, things being left undone/half done. I totally feel your pain, upset and frustration! The only way I've learned to cope is by not sweating the small things and letting them remain undone or by doing them myself. While getting him/us to concentrate on one big thing at a time. "Can we please work on X today or this coming weekend?" and then making sure that particular task gets ticked off, before giving him some reprieve and moving onto the next important thing. It's difficult when he doesn't have a great deal of spare time and needs rest in between taxing events. I hope you can work out some way to get those stairs done 🤞
@myntndmarriage we shall see, he knew I was frustrated and kind of figured it out, he's starting to pick things back up. Any way to ask him to pick up after himself?