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I like how the author note wasn't even "don't sit with the men, sit with the women", or even "sit alone", it's "aggressively take the entire seat when you don't need to, like an asshole."
You can't yearn for something that you don't know exists. There's thousands of things I could be feeling isolated from right now, but I'm not since I don't know that they're happening.
I feel that way around my sister. She won't go anywhere without her little dog. All she does is talk about her dog. I sit there thinking, I haven't seen you in years, and all you care about is a dog you see every day...
@@m21sup it can be both, actually. A friend zone phrase, and a boyfriend phrase. Never make the mistake of trying to make sense of or apply logic to the beliefs and statements of women. There are exceptions, but such women are a few and far between. And that is what they are: exceptions. they do not disprove the rule, they don’t even question it.
@@m21sup Just let them know up front that you are never going to be their friend, no point in wasting anyone's time in the friend zone if they don't want more than that then you don't want the same thing. Just go next
Last date I went on with a girl had a really awkward moment while we were being seated at a restaurant. I took my fedora off and started to panic when I realized I didn't have any place to set it. When I looked up, she was sat there smiling and holding out the most beautiful hat box I had ever seen. It was an absolutely perfect date... and then I woke up.
If a woman says she feels safe and protected with me I will go from “I’m having a nice time” to “For those we cherish we die in glory” it brings out something primal in us. The need to protect.
Men do get locked in when a girl compliments them. I work in a grocery store and I was getting alcohol for a female customer. She actually looked me up and down, smiled at me, and said I was cute. That was back in November, and I still can't stop thinking about it
Bill Maher had the best take on that: "yes- in the same way that *indoor* cats live longer than *outdoor* cats. Sure, they're shells of what they could be and can only look out the window with wonder at the life they could have, but do they *do* technically live longer!"
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand they just removed the "Women must make the first move" part of Bumble because and I quote: "Women do not want the burden and responsibility of making the first move."
of the few matches I got, most never made the first move even when I extended. and those few who did, would just say hi or hey. yknow, the thing they make fun of men for on tinder or instagram? and of that tiny percentage that said hey, only one actually amounted to anything. and she wasn't even interested in a relationship, just fwb. it was really amusing all things considered. it's not like I expected them to have "game" or "rizz me up". they just.. didn't even try to start a conversation about hobbies or prompts or even a simple compliment lmao.
If I ever manage to get money to finish my engineering degree, I'd approach guys The problem is I'm not really demure or gentle 😅 Not other girls and nothing I can do about it 😫
@@tiberius8390 For real, I currently work for a "woman lead engineering firm" and the only women I interact with are the quarterly convo with the recruiter and the rare talk with HR about insurance and how I leave the company.
I like how she's not even commenting on whether the advice is good or not, it's all just "Don't do it, be empowered by being insufferable instead!" Like bitch it's an article on how to get a husband, your commentary is irrelevant!
The pie advice seems like it could be legit good advice. Everyone likes pie, and asking people what what they thought is a great way to start a conversation too.
The authors notes were essentially "you lonely? Good! You want to be lonely because I am and I'm happy! Can't you tell I'm happy?! Don't go near people. Ever. Die alone so you know you achieved your true girl boss life!" How bitter can one person be?!
I figured some of that energy is due to some demographic that likes reading it or gets clicks. There does seem to be an awful lot of cope in that lady's articles but there are people like that.
- clear box with unknown insect inside. - unusual rock - a joint - no hand, just a nub where your hand used to be - a tray of obviously free snacks - wads of unsecured cash while you're stumbling around incoherently
If a woman told me she felt protected around me, just out of the blue, I would be very worried. I am an unfit scrawny mess still traumatized from physical bullying in high school. I have no fighting experience, my preferred strategy is FLEE. The first thing that would cross my mind is the fear that she is going to start a fight and is expecting me to finish it.
when people say they feel protected around you they usually mean they trust that you arent going to hurt them. It's a good thing. Sure they'll be some women that want you to fight all their battles for them, but judging all women like that isnt productive. Hopefully you know enough about that person at that point to know what she means when she says 'i feel protected around you'
god created man but samuel colt made them equals. get your ccl and your physical strength doesnt matter anymore. anyone can be a protector, its a mindset not a physical thing
One time I was grabbing a 6 pack from the liquor store in a shopping plaza, and in the parking lot next to my car, there was a girl in her car crying. I felt so bad for her... Every fiber of my being screamed at me to ask her if she was ok, needed something, or maybe wanted to share some beers and talk things out. I stopped in my tracks for literally a split second, and my counter thought to my instincts was "I have no business with this woman, I'm a stranger to her, and I'll definitely be considered a fucking creep" so I instead completely ignored her and drove off. This was years ago, I don't even drink anymore, and yet I still think about that. Ladies, want advice to get in a relationship with me? Ask me to. It's not guaranteed that I'll agree, but your chances are much higher than you think... I haven't approached a woman in years, and at this rate, I don't know if I ever will... I feel like I'm living in a bizarre world where it's elementary school rules. Girls are scary, boys are yucky, and no one wants cooties.
Ouch, been there. Your best bet is to go to large group activities doung something you like where people are expected to socialize so you won't feel like a creep if you appeoach a woman. Around here there is an organization called Events and Adventures where singke people do stiff like white water rafting or go to museums so the preasure is lower and you meet people interested in simular things at an event for singke mingling.
I've never heard a women say something nice about a man who approached her, but I've heard complaints more than 400 times. So, yeah. You are absolutely correct to ignore women everywhere. They are not mentally capable of saying something nice. The actual communication done by actual people consists of women putting men down, hundreds of times. So respect the reality and go build a nice life for yourself without the social violence. Women blame the creative active healthy people for being creative active and healthy. There are much friendlier relationships and genuine connections available at the animal shelter, just by taking a dog for a walk. Bring a frisbee and have a truly delightful afternoon getting great exercise exploring the world with a dog. A helluva lot more rewarding than hostile shallow insecure incapable women.
Yeah, I just gave up altogether. Sad thing is I actually would ask if she's okay, which is what I'd want to do... the bad part is there's no way I'd ever do that unless buzzed. Otherwise, I do go out of my way to check if people are alright at work, but.. yup. Workplace stuff is considered a no-go. Also, so many workplaces are shitty like high school, anyway.
The chicks ain’t here. They’re out there, stuck in some digital orb or cube like you have been trapped in. Go find a lady who smells good and looks appealing to you. Odds are, you are both attracted to one another. Be not discouraged, but empowered, brother!
I was at a beach with my family over the summer and not to toot my own horn or anything but my body looks good I'm past the 6 pack and have 8, anyway there were these 2 cute girls who kept looking back at me as we were behind them, all it would have took was a hi from one of them to break the ice or if I didn't have extremely low self confidence at the time I could also have done that but it is what it is. Don't take yourself out of the game man you can't win if you don't play as corny as that is its true I just recently started seeing someone it'll happen if your around for it too happen
My girlfriend was the one who approached/chased me after some light mutual flirting, which (as an extremely unremarkable guy) was by far the single most perception-shattering thing that anyone has ever done for me. I've had a lot of anxiety since childhood that often manifested as negative self-esteem, and would deter me from approaching someone I was interested in even if I felt like there was something mutual. But the instant she made that move, those feelings were completely gone and I'm so so grateful for that. Her confidence and directness is something I deeply admire :)
I still remember that day. June 8th, 2012 at 9:34 AM, a girl asked if I would like to sit next to her. And also that one time, October 14, 2017 at 12:47 PM, a girl told me that my hair looked nice.
I had a married friend tell me I dressed nice once and this one lady at a drive thru told me she liked my sweater. Its true men remember all of these things because they happen so rarely.
Because the widower was married. That means he'd been vetted by another woman who deemed him acceptable and remained woth him until she died. Therefore, widower = catch.
@@SnabbKassa Widowers know what it's like to lose something precious and will never take you for granted... unless they murdered their first wife and then you'd better run like hell.
Ok, you were absolutely right with this video. Especially one piece of advice. You said, "tell him that, I feel very protected when I'm with you." When my wife tells me that, I would wrestle a bear with no weapons for her. I love it!
In all honesty, the thing that worked for me, was this girl handing to me a note in the bus stating : "hey, next week, I maybe can't ride the same bus, and I want to know you, so here is my number." Next step, I sat next to her right after reading, and we just chatted. After ups and downs, we're now in a strong , two years and growing relationship. I hope this little story will help, sometimes, it's just a leap of faith.
Yes this. i dont cry in public often exactly lol but the few times it has happened and people asking me if im ok is kind and all but i’d rather just be by myself until i can get home lol and not dump it on someone i dont know
I have woman friends that get so in their heads about guys they like and create all these elaborate scenarios of ways they could get him to talk to them and the whole time I'm just thinking "if you just approached him first it would work 95% of the time"
@@brianmeen2158They seem to have stronger fears of everything, especially negative social outcomes. I remain convinced though that society isn't helping anyone by enhancing and normalizing women's insecurities.
My soon to be fiancé was the first woman to ever approach me instead of vice versa. Its extremely attractive/shows confidence and strength. Many women are afraid to do this but it has a much higher success rate then most women would think from what i have seen.
As a man, rule 18 worked for me. I straight out asked people if they knew someone good, and I was interested in marriage. It resulted in me getting set up with a girl who also had interests in marriage. There was no confusion on why we were dating and what our relationship goals were. I am currently married to her, have children, and the relationship is going strong.
Personally, I think ya absolutely hit the nail on the head when you were talking about compliments. Like, if my girlfriend said, "I feel safe with you," I couldn't imagine a better compliment.
I think the weird widower focus from back then comes from the fact that no "good man" would have not been married by their 30s back then. There was basically no chance of finding an unmarried man who was considered good husband material in certain age brackets. Then there were higher mortality rates and barely existing divorce rates as well. So widowers were basically the most common "good husband material who are just single due to bad luck" of the 50s.
@@aaoooaaa2 Too many. I'm in my mid 40s now so besides elderly, auto accidents, and pharmaceutical whoopsies, breast cancer is a scourge upon my in-laws
Your comment on telling a man you feel protected was absolutely spot on We generally don't care if people think we are handsome, we want to feel needed
@@LordJackassyeah women will very rarely tell men that they think they are handsome - even if they think a man is very handsome they won’t tell them That but they will show it to them by their behavior - getting closer to him and wanting to talk to him and touch him
Marrying someone that trolled you on Twitter is insane and yet somehow exactly what I expected of Shoe. Hope we get more solid proof that June is a furry soon 🙏.
Ya. I think the best way to fix loneliness is to find people with common interests and hobbies to you. As soon as youre in a better mental state, then consider looking for a more intimate relationship. Getting into a relationship before fixing your loneliness is skipping a couple crucial steps. Gotta start with yourself..
@@DylanJo123I can honestly say I'm done with dating people with similar interests than me. I'm an asshole and if my partner is similar to me it's a red flag
As positive as I am that you’re right, no part of me will heed your advice. The likelihood of me being single, having never been in a relationship, at 35 is extremely high. If I get the option, I’m taking it, if not only to know that it’s possible.
@@sebaschan-uwu It's called the "I can fix him"-attitude or the criminal "He is strong and has power but also abuses me"-kink (badboy level9000) that attracts women
Shoe, hearing there may actually be another generation brilliant, funny, and Smart Shoe-kins is the best news I have found in some time. Please keep up the excellent work. God bless you all
Shoe's own suggestion, "I feel protected around you." was better than anything on the list. In fact, that's the best dating suggestion I've ever heard for women.
It appeals to a man’s genetic core, our primal purpose on a fundamental level; we want to protect, provide and we fantasize about it. I understand this on every intellectual level and even if this was said to me by the most eyelash-batting snake in the garden… I would instantly fall for it.
When I was first dating my now wife of 22 years, we were cuddling on the sofa when she looked up at me and with all the sincerity in the world said, "I feel so safe and protected in your arms." I still think about that to this very day! We've been together for 24 years, married for 22, we have two children and one of them is engaged. I STILL think back to that moment. She STILL says that to me when we cuddle. Damn near brings a tear to my eye, just knowing that the first person I ever felt like I would die for still appreciates my protection and security.
I love how the author's advice rapidly descends from 'This might be a good idea, maybe, if I like it' to 'DO THE EXACT OPPOSITE IN A WAY THAT WILL GUARANTEE NO ONE WANTS TO BE NEAR YOU!!' She WANTS to be alone, so that she can feel 'empowered'.
Back then, they used to defend child marriages and polygamy, in the name protection and provider. They called it female empowerment. Alone is about female empowerment or at least staying with their girlfriends.
My guess is she doesn't want to be alone, but can't be arsed with reflection and self-improvement. So she tells others and herself it's on purpose and the best thing ever, only occasionally crying herself to sleep over a tub of coffee flavored ice cream.
Women keep women single. Misery loves company. Crabs in a bucket. etc etc etc All of their advice is garbage too. You're perfect the way you are, you're a 10/10 honey. A womans worst enemy are other women. Meanwhile on the other end with men. You're worthless, make something of yourself.
The best advice for anybody looking for someone is to just start a conversation. Literally anything, ive had connections from tutoring a girl through geometry, talking about my abusive dad and her perverse uncle, and literally nothing more than the cowboy boots i was wearing. Any conversation immediately gives you a better chance than none or even a pick up line, pick up lines are for "i saw this person in passing and will probably never see them again. Might as well try something."
Yeah, there arent really any "tricks" to men. Pretty much any positive attention will work. Whether or not he wants to date is almost entirely up to other factors, like if she is his type or if he likes her personality. If a woman takes the initiative and actually give him that positive attention, most men would be willing to try to get to know her even if he may not like her at first glance.
I hate to say it but don't believe it 100%, I was told this by a woman I was dating for months, and she ended up saying she felt unsafe about me cause she learned someone had tried to murder me in my past (fuckin' wild logic)
I hate to say it but I wouldn't believe this 100%, a woman I dated for several months said this to me, yet ended up saying she felt unsafe with me and dumped me cause of the actions of someone else towards me (I don't understand the logic)
As a guy, if I was told that my presence makes someone feel safe, I will indeed be locked in on the spot. Also, if a girl made food and specifically encouraged me to try it, I'd find that super cute. If a girl is crying in the corner, I'm staying tf away unless if I know them at least somewhat personally. I don't need to have the cat claws come out because it was "none of my business." So ladies, try that one on your cute friends but not strangers.
a girlfriend I had years ago said that she felt safe around me, I was young and stupid and thought that was a lame compliment at the time and told her so. I had no idea
Yep. The dream I had was looking for my classroom, but I hadn't been all semester and I've forgotten wear it was. Regularly for ten+ years ofbeing a professional worker and Engineering School was completely irrelevant.
Her owner takes her on walks. I've seen her running around in my area's dog park trying to sniff the other dog's asses constantly. I know it's a greeting for dogs, but she's excessive with it.
You nailed it on the head when you said: The people giving advice are to blame. Its literally the blind leading the blind. Do you and trust your instincts usually its the right choice.
Man the "you make me feel protected" comment was on spot. Amateur kickboxer, dad of one ASD 5 year old, another kid on the way, with wifey for 15 years, still waiting to hear that one.
"Anita Sarkisian had a wedding themed birthday party." I didn't think it was possible for me to feel sorry for Anita, but you succeeded for a brief moment. Well done. That is pathetic in the extreme.
My wife and I were friends way before we started dating and when I figured out I was interested in dating her was when we were in Charleston, SC walking at night and she just randomly said, "This would be so tough to do by myself, but I feel safe with you." That pro tip is some voodoo shit, Shoe.
I would rather have a woman boss, My home is a perfect example of this, she has a very busy schedule, always looking to help others, has a college degree that is actually useful has 8 kids raised and lots of grandkids and the list goes on.
I feel like I have small, dainty hands for a guy, so when I have to wear large latex gloves and it's still a tight fit trying to get them on I get a little bit of an ego boost.
Two pieces of advice, as a man: Don't be afraid to give men honest complements - that shit burns into permanent memory that not even brain damage can expunge. Do not, under any circumstances, assume he'll "get the hint" - if he did, he would've done something about it. Either he doesn't know, isn't interested, or unsure you're interested. To paraphrase - Keep it simple with the stupid. Jokes aside - being straightforward is likely the best thing you can do; it might be a bit awkward, but straight up telling a guy you like his looks and want his number will give him an ego boost which he will associate with you. YMMV, but that's my take on it, for better or worse.
I had a woman one time make zero romantic gestures to me and then tell me a few months later she liked me and was surprised I didn't know. all she did was be nice to me and strike up basic conversation. no playful teasing, no touching, no flirting, nothing. just a smile and a wave. like the same I get from a woman whose shopping cart I accidentally bumped into. it's stuff like that, that makes men second guess every nice interaction they have with women. had she just been direct with me, I would have at least never had to ask myself if every pretty lady that said nice things to me was shooting her shot or just being nice. im not saying women are dumb or are to blame or whatever. just that when it comes to men, it's much more helpful to be direct. we got a decade or more of built up interactions and assumptions that are preventing us from "picking up on your hint"
I will attach to OPs comment, women, please dont be upset or misunderstand when, after you confessed your feeling to us, we ask you if you're fucking with us, it is not a rejection, just genuine confusion.
I complimented a man's figure because he was built like he could kill a bear. He had to take off his shades and wipe tears. My heart broke! I asked him if he needed a hug and he said no 😢 just nodded and thanked me before fucking off (he was working by pushing carts) I hope he's okay...
All in the psychological plot for depopulation. No bangin=less people. Or more migrants bringing in their new generations who then turn into devout democrat voters.
Best advice for women: Don't play the woman game with men. They're not women. Best advice for men: Don't tell them your secrets or your vulnerabilities. Society has trained EVERYONE to view weakness as blood in the water.
I worked at Amazon. On thanksgiving one of my female coworkers, without prompting of any kind, brought me a plate of food from the buffet they had set up. When she would tap you on your back to get your attention, instead of tapping she drew little circles on your back. She was a doll. Edit: This comment blew up. This happened 6 years ago. I'm not oblivious to flirtation or I wouldn't have posted this. HR exists though.
@@sgnMarki don't care what day it is! Ladies don't normally do that, she 100% liked you! Shoot your shot dummy, are you waiting for her to hold up a sign for you to make your move! 😩
i don't care what day it is! Ladies don't normally do that, she 100% liked you! Shoot your shot dummy, are you waiting for her to hold up a sign for you to make your move?!😩 geez
But also stop to look around, try to look a little approachable. If a chick was painting the view, I’d be hesitant to talk to her if she looked super focused.
@@kevinb314 The way I’d see this working out is: you see a woman painting, you walk over to see _what_ she’s painting if she’s interested (in companionship, a relationship, conversation, etc.), she’ll acknowledge you and then you ask about the painting.
Ditto. I didn't even realize I was acting threateningly toward the creepy guy, but apparently it really made an impression...the creep did leave when I suggested he leave...
@@BlackQueenNetwork you are crusader, the greatest christian soldier. They are all virgins and sworn to protect the Fatherland, the Christ's word and his Holiness the Pope. Deus Vult! Or I don't know...
Unironically, when I was single my “move” was walking up to men, smiling and saying “Hi, my name is” and it works very well. If they’re interested, they’ll take over the rest. No one is like “oh she’s so desperate, she introduced herself”
Well, slight correction: No man thinks that, but I do know women who think going up and starting a conversation with a man is a sign of desperation in a woman.
Yea sadly some of us me included are gonna play it off as being nice so wouldnt be able to take it from there i mean hell you could ask for their number and theyd doubt it. So being abit blunt can be beneficial if you don think they are getting it. And honestly most of the bros or the ones i know arnt very picky. But i dont speak for all
@@victorchen5663 Yeah, but narcissists are sad, it is usually childhood trauma that causes narcissism, the most common is the feeling of abandonment from a parent as a child, second is bullying, third is loneliness. Narcissism is in 95% of the cases a coping mechanism of having no true self esteem. It is an unconscious form of self bosting.
This article: "Men aren't asking women out, so just do literally everything _except_ ask a man out" At this point in my life I'm starting to feel like that's the only way I'd ever notice if someone was into me. Like if she asked me out, that's the only way I'd be able to tell because according to the weird journos I'm never supposed to assume anyone is into me.
I feel like the issue is that if a man thinks a woman is into him, he suddenly will go into full flirtatious casanova mode and views her only as a love interest, and that this approach is often encouraged by men on the internet. Meanwhile, it's much better to wait and allow things to progress naturally, because unless a woman is looking for a hook up, a lot of women prefer to take things slow and not rush into romance. And a second thing is that men often don't take rejection well, and not many men on the internet encourage healthy behavior in reaction to rejection. But this is all to say, I think the real root of issues is that men are too reliant on the advice of dating gurus and dating journals. If you obsess over what the internet tells you are the signs a woman is into you, or signs that a woman is uninterested, then you will close more doors than you open. What dating journals won't tell you is that women are as diverse and complex as men, and that no dating advice will ever be able to generalize all women. Instead, build connections and focus on improving yourself. If you want a woman to ask you out, then focus on building a beautiful garden and the butterflies will come to you. But if you want to be the one to make the first move, then stop overthinking it and worrying about what the dating gurus are telling you, do what you feel is natural and will make you happy! Dating isn't an algebra, it's about building a romantic connection that will affect your entire life!
Legit, number 37 "Walk up to him and tell him you need some adivce" is one of the best on the list, I think. I want to feel needed and useful, especially by and for my girlfriend. If a woman approached me asking about help with something serious, this would tell me she both trusts me and values my opinion. It maybe wouldn't instantly tell me she's interested in me romantically, but it would definitely put her on my radar right away. Assuming, of course, she doesn't ask me for relationship advice. In which case, fuck.
@@iiCounted-op5jx Yes. Whenever someone asks me to help them with something, I try to do my absolute best for them. Seeing someone better of and happy because of my efforts makes me feel like I'm here for a reason and can be useful. It means a lot to me when someone trusts and thanks me for that, and I think it's similar for a lot of other men.
I'm a happily married millennial man, and I met my wife while working a Taco Bell drive-thru. One day, she came through specifically to casually give me her number on the sly and completely forgot to stop at the intercom to order something first. Approaching men works.
true. men love a woman who will let them be masculine. we want to do it, it's in our DNA. We can feel our ancestors smiling on us while we do it. women today think it's good to say they "don't need men". Tf, okay, I guess I'll see myself out then. Bro, we WANT to be needed. It's a d*mn good feeling.
I like the self deprecation. However - Ugly is relative. And also restricted to the one observing not the one being observed. So, TLDR. You don't get to make that judgment.
"I feel very protected when I'm with you." Bro. One of my female friends rizzed me up with that line. Now we've been dating for 5 years with no hiccups.
One time, a mildly attractive girl and I talked for about 10 min (about gym, school and other day-to-day stuff), then when she had to leave she hugged me out of nowhere and that will be enough to make me remember her for the next years
i’m 20 years old. i’m not attractive but i have always made myself go talk to girls if i was nervous or not, 90% of attempts don’t work and the few that did i was used. now i’m i’m very lonely and have finally decided it isn’t worth it to attempt.
Going into a male dominated field like engineering may be some of the best advice. In school I remember the few girls that were in engineering were fawned over and would constantly have guys hovering around them. A half decent looking girl in engineering could pass and get a degree without having to do a single homework problem herself.
My high-school girlfriend went to Carnegie-Mellon university for computer science. She was one of three women in a lecture hall of 350. She liked to say that her odds were pretty good, but the goods were odd.
My sister told me she liked this dude in her class but she was scared to approach. I told her to just ask him out randomly cause guys never get approached and if a dude does get approached and she's even remotely attractive to him and he's single it's like a 99% chance it'll work. It worked.
@@cloverhollister when a woman approaches a man at least he doesn't need to question how interested she really is... if a man approaches a woman, she knows that he is interested in her... but is she just settling for him for lack of a better option?... or saying yes because she cant think of a good reason to say no... if she approaches him, it lets him know she chose him... and that she isn't just settling.
The "I feel safe around you", has always been interpreted by me to mean, "i like hanging out, because i know that you aren't going to try anything with me". I literally thought they were saying that im a nice guy, and they appreciated me not getting handsy or trying to kiss them when we drink or whatever.
Last two times I approached women 1. Get told by the girls friend that shes taken and I shouldn't try hitting on women in bars because they have a right to go for a drink without getting approached by men. 2. Approached a sad girl and attempted to cheer her up, her big sister or friend came to agressively drag her out and look at me angry. Please tell me it's worth it to keep trying...
In those cases, it was their problem. Not everyone is in the same mind space of being open to a relationship. If it keeps not working out, I think maybe fishing in other waters is the approach, go somewhere where your odds are better to find a quality person. I'm a Christian guy, and knew I wanted a Christian gal (not only for religious reasons, but quality of person reasons) so I started attending my church's young adult ministry. The situations you described there would be far less likely to happen.
I tried talking to a woman at a wedding, because I heard she was a big reader like me. Her friend nearly tackled her trying to rescue her from my presence. That still makes me feel like shit when I think about it.
Honestly the best advice to approaching a man is to just show genuine interest, sometimes guys like me in particular are dense and need your intentions up front so we can open up a little. I find that I'm very straightforward so I'm afraid of scaring women so it's hard to approach them.
Right? Just be nice, care about what he says and does (hopefully he reciprocates this back), and you should be on the right track. And honestly, slip in a compliment every now and then. Do something nice for him. The amount of men who have anyone say or do something nice for them is way too low.
Dude same. I am normally a very blunt man, and I do not speak the language of "Hints". In fact, the one time I did date a girl, I never initially made a move because I had no idea. Yeah she seemed to join my friend group, and she seemingly did stand near me in conversations, but it never crossed my mind that she was approaching me. She had to get the help of other friends to get my attention. A male friend of mine said "You know she has a massive liking to you." "Well, that makes sense, I normally am wei-" "In a relationship-like way chief." "Oh." Then cut to next month and I eventually sent a 6 haiku poem. We are not dating anymore, but we're still close friends. She is the homie
the look after your health one is sound advice, it's true that most people don't like people who are ill. I think the don't make it obvious that your career comes first is quite good advice too, I personally felt really let down in my last relationship when she would tell me that i was priority #3 after the dog and her career. I'd rather be lied to if that were the case in the future.
Fourthing this? Software engineer, was married to a chick that sings, plays guitar, and does all manners of artsy stuff. She even taught me how to play a ukulele.
*simple* As a man I can confirm. Saying the words "I feel safe around you" works. It's easy, even if it's brought up unnaturally in conversation it still works. *depth* The reason why a guy may not be that affectionate even if he has a massive crush on you will most likely be a fear of being a creep. So when you say that you feel comfortable around him it allows him to feel more comfortable around you.
I always took that to mean that they felt safe that I wasn't going to make a move on them. To be fair, all but one of the girls that I have dated asked me out. I don't really signals, and always worried about being a creep, just like you said.
I remember one time a girl (not a to antic interest, just a friend) said "I trust you. I can tell you're a good guy" and was enough. From that point on, I was able to open up and be a much better and more supportive friend. Once a girl let's us know that she realises we aren't creeps, we can really open up. Until then, I think most guys hold back massively because they don't want to make her feel uncomfortable or unsafe
Monica on Friends said it best, "I feel so safe around you = You will NEVER see me naked.." Women who say that are just looking for a gay best friend. They only fuck abusive, muscle bound fuckboys and cry about them to the "safe guy".
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Mommy.
Hello! I am one of the 7.3! Happy women’s day!
@@DeathCrunch Brother?
@@DeathCrunch you ok? 😐
I'm okay
If men approach women they think men are creepy
If women approach men they think it is a prank or a set up
Unironically thought I was getting scammed when a girl was chatting with me today. Still unsure
bet social media has nothing to do with the latter
@@thefart hahhahaa
If a woman approaches a man it's a fed
When men approach men...its cute and i hope the best for both of them
if women approach me usually i just wake up
amen to that brother
100%
same
I want to laugh and cry myself to sleep after reading this😂😭
Damn, bro. You didn't have to hit me like that.
"So how did you meet your husband?" "I illegally trespassed on the USS Ronald reagan"
And I brought my easel, and "accidently" spilt the contents of my purse which was baked goods.
“So how did you meet your husband”
“I crashed his first wife’s funeral”
Shoe approves of you trespassing on the Ronald Reagan though.
Isn’t that the plot of the Steven Seagal classic, Under Siege?
Is that what the kids are calling it these days.
A Guy will Literally Talk to a Tree if it Approached him First
Bruh it's a magical tree. Ofc I'm talking to it. 😭😭
I’m sure everyone would if a tree walked up to them.
I would listen to that tree, even if it hated humans
I like Ents
Did anyone watch "the last unicorn"?
Would be a shame If someone googled the tree scene
I like how the author note wasn't even "don't sit with the men, sit with the women", or even "sit alone", it's "aggressively take the entire seat when you don't need to, like an asshole."
Thats why all her other article were about being single... Don't take advice from a fish on how to catch a fish.
"Man spreading" on the other hand
Literal anti social behavior. She has a mental disorder
That's the thing, she IS an asshole
@@StackSnackies when the bathroom sink gets too crowded, expand into the bus seats.
“Nevada has 125 females for every 100 females.”
- Shoe
I can do math too!
Bi vibes
That’s a lot of women per women, highest rate in the world possibly
Nevada "now with 25% more girl!"
I think I saw a video with that premise once...
"I always thought being alone was the worst thing there is. It's not. It's being around people that make you feel alone."
*- Robin Williams*
Considering he removed himself, this speaks volumes.
It's like one of my all-time favorite movie quotes (from Thin Red Line):
"Don't you ever get lonely?"
"Only around people"
You can't yearn for something that you don't know exists. There's thousands of things I could be feeling isolated from right now, but I'm not since I don't know that they're happening.
Trueeeee
I feel that way around my sister. She won't go anywhere without her little dog. All she does is talk about her dog. I sit there thinking, I haven't seen you in years, and all you care about is a dog you see every day...
you're right, if a woman tells me she feels protected with me while walking together I am so locked in.
That's how my wife got me.
That sounds like a friendzone phrase to me tbh
@@m21sup it can be both, actually. A friend zone phrase, and a boyfriend phrase.
Never make the mistake of trying to make sense of or apply logic to the beliefs and statements of women.
There are exceptions, but such women are a few and far between. And that is what they are: exceptions. they do not disprove the rule, they don’t even question it.
I just assume it's because I usually carry a gun😂
@@m21sup Just let them know up front that you are never going to be their friend, no point in wasting anyone's time in the friend zone if they don't want more than that then you don't want the same thing. Just go next
Virgin "Stay single and be a girlboss" vs Chad "STOWAWAY ON A BATTLESHIP AND GIVE MEN DEATH STATISTICS"
The stow away on a battleship line immediately made me think about don't ask don't tell policies among sailors in the navy.
Yeah that stow away on a boat one was definitely a psyop to try and get the sailors to stop butt fuckin each other.
Female version of Chad = Stacey
As a lad, this would absolutely work on me.
@@jamesdillonmccrackenhot seamen within 5 km from your location
"Your whole family is gonna die unless you go to the gym"
That's what got me into the gym
Based gym goer
I never went to the gym.
That's why my whole family just straight up died one day.
The Gym Cult. Oldest trick in the book. Make people believe they have to change themselves in order to be accepted.
Dualingo now includes gym programs?
That's too much pressure.
Last date I went on with a girl had a really awkward moment while we were being seated at a restaurant. I took my fedora off and started to panic when I realized I didn't have any place to set it. When I looked up, she was sat there smiling and holding out the most beautiful hat box I had ever seen. It was an absolutely perfect date... and then I woke up.
You got me in the first half, not gonna lie!
Dammit i wanted to believe it so hard!
I knew something was off the moment I read “took my fedora off”
Hamlet if it was good
lol I hope that was reality
If a woman says she feels safe and protected with me I will go from “I’m having a nice time” to “For those we cherish we die in glory” it brings out something primal in us. The need to protect.
Preach, Battle-brother
"You'll die young if you remain single."
I'm sorry, is that a threat?
Don't threaten me with a good time!
No kidding…. Sign me up ✍🏼
it's the promise of good tomorrow
i don't see any downsides tbh
Modern women thought that too and look what happened 😂
Men do get locked in when a girl compliments them. I work in a grocery store and I was getting alcohol for a female customer. She actually looked me up and down, smiled at me, and said I was cute. That was back in November, and I still can't stop thinking about it
Yeah, I have that same issue. Its rare to be complimented, so I can still remember most of them, even from 20yrs ago.
@@bjordan429me too
I got a hug from a random girl last April and I still think about it.
"What did it feel like?!"
@@SendU2Jesus I felt befuddled and then it felt good. No one has ever complimented me like that
Her: "The death rate of single men is twice that of married men."
Him: "Are you challenging me?"
Didn't expect to see you posting on here; dig the KOTH and Daria. Keep it up Shady
Damn didn't expect to see you here! Luv your vids, more justice league plz
Love the content, my guy.
Good to see you here, mate. Keep on keeping on.
Bill Maher had the best take on that: "yes- in the same way that *indoor* cats live longer than *outdoor* cats. Sure, they're shells of what they could be and can only look out the window with wonder at the life they could have, but do they *do* technically live longer!"
24:20 the part where you said "i feel so safe and protected when we're together". Definitely not pulling out if she said that.
Correct. If I wasn't married and a date said that to me I'd not stop smiling for the next 72 hours.
Honestly a cheat code
I was given a compliment out of the blue by a drunk gal at work. Flew on cloud 9 the rest of shift
uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh what.
@@b-rice5008 the dude is speaking facts. Things like that are kryptonite to men
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand they just removed the "Women must make the first move" part of Bumble because and I quote: "Women do not want the burden and responsibility of making the first move."
Saw that. I'd say that pretty much ends the last hope for the younger generations. I really thought that Bumble was the start of a new paradigm.
of the few matches I got, most never made the first move even when I extended. and those few who did, would just say hi or hey. yknow, the thing they make fun of men for on tinder or instagram? and of that tiny percentage that said hey, only one actually amounted to anything. and she wasn't even interested in a relationship, just fwb.
it was really amusing all things considered. it's not like I expected them to have "game" or "rizz me up". they just.. didn't even try to start a conversation about hobbies or prompts or even a simple compliment lmao.
LOL. Welcome to our world.
@@neilt6480 You must be sarcastic? You thought a dating app was a start of a new paradigm?
@@AvesZephyros Not the dating app. The acknowledgement that women will have to make the first move in this post me-too era.
As an engineer, the only thing that approaches me are project deadlines and management complaints.
When you put it like that, I'm approached by women all the time! They just happen to be managers.
@@zeriel9148 which circle of hell is that? 😁
What an apropos joke John, quite.
If I ever manage to get money to finish my engineering degree, I'd approach guys
The problem is I'm not really demure or gentle 😅
Not other girls and nothing I can do about it 😫
@@tiberius8390 For real, I currently work for a "woman lead engineering firm" and the only women I interact with are the quarterly convo with the recruiter and the rare talk with HR about insurance and how I leave the company.
That journo is the epitome of "single women keep women single".
"Today, advice from a vegan on how to prepare steak."
Yes, exactly that.
She doesn't just want them single, but to be an all-around unpleasant and miserable person.
I like how she's not even commenting on whether the advice is good or not, it's all just "Don't do it, be empowered by being insufferable instead!" Like bitch it's an article on how to get a husband, your commentary is irrelevant!
@@stefanmuc2ksame shit
The pie advice seems like it could be legit good advice. Everyone likes pie, and asking people what what they thought is a great way to start a conversation too.
The authors notes were essentially "you lonely? Good! You want to be lonely because I am and I'm happy! Can't you tell I'm happy?! Don't go near people. Ever. Die alone so you know you achieved your true girl boss life!"
How bitter can one person be?!
I figured some of that energy is due to some demographic that likes reading it or gets clicks. There does seem to be an awful lot of cope in that lady's articles but there are people like that.
Because misery loves company.
Based on all of her other articles, I can sense her jewishness from here.
She sounded about ready to explode lol
Copium Triiodide
I'm sure her final article will be about the joys of dying alone and unloved
Hatbox would work for sure.
I also recommend:
- cool stick
- oversized punching glove
- handful of gold doubloons
- Sword
- Big leaf
Cosplay?
So in other words, be like Link from legend of Zelda
I want carrying around fake swords to be normal so that we can have spontaneous public duels like a twisted version of a disney musical
- clear box with unknown insect inside.
- unusual rock
- a joint
- no hand, just a nub where your hand used to be
- a tray of obviously free snacks
- wads of unsecured cash while you're stumbling around incoherently
Nope not a sword I promise I will be more interested in the sword than in you
"no man is worth becoming a fed"
real as fuck
Remember, any woman insterested in you is an agent of the state
Subbed for that
I'm worth it.
@@LibrarianSankore
Is Anyone really?
Goes the other way around too. Those tight slacks on the cute atf agent lady ain't worth sawing off a shotgun barrel
If a woman told me she felt protected around me, just out of the blue, I would be very worried. I am an unfit scrawny mess still traumatized from physical bullying in high school. I have no fighting experience, my preferred strategy is FLEE. The first thing that would cross my mind is the fear that she is going to start a fight and is expecting me to finish it.
I'm sorry about the bullying you experienced :(
I hope you're better now ❤
when people say they feel protected around you they usually mean they trust that you arent going to hurt them. It's a good thing. Sure they'll be some women that want you to fight all their battles for them, but judging all women like that isnt productive. Hopefully you know enough about that person at that point to know what she means when she says 'i feel protected around you'
Take martial arts classes. It sure did me a lot of good.
god created man but samuel colt made them equals. get your ccl and your physical strength doesnt matter anymore. anyone can be a protector, its a mindset not a physical thing
Do mma. Trust me, it helped me fight self doubt.
It made me feel like🦍
One time I was grabbing a 6 pack from the liquor store in a shopping plaza, and in the parking lot next to my car, there was a girl in her car crying. I felt so bad for her... Every fiber of my being screamed at me to ask her if she was ok, needed something, or maybe wanted to share some beers and talk things out. I stopped in my tracks for literally a split second, and my counter thought to my instincts was "I have no business with this woman, I'm a stranger to her, and I'll definitely be considered a fucking creep" so I instead completely ignored her and drove off. This was years ago, I don't even drink anymore, and yet I still think about that.
Ladies, want advice to get in a relationship with me? Ask me to. It's not guaranteed that I'll agree, but your chances are much higher than you think... I haven't approached a woman in years, and at this rate, I don't know if I ever will... I feel like I'm living in a bizarre world where it's elementary school rules. Girls are scary, boys are yucky, and no one wants cooties.
Ouch, been there. Your best bet is to go to large group activities doung something you like where people are expected to socialize so you won't feel like a creep if you appeoach a woman.
Around here there is an organization called Events and Adventures where singke people do stiff like white water rafting or go to museums so the preasure is lower and you meet people interested in simular things at an event for singke mingling.
I've never heard a women say something nice about a man who approached her, but I've heard complaints more than 400 times. So, yeah. You are absolutely correct to ignore women everywhere. They are not mentally capable of saying something nice.
The actual communication done by actual people consists of women putting men down, hundreds of times. So respect the reality and go build a nice life for yourself without the social violence. Women blame the creative active healthy people for being creative active and healthy. There are much friendlier relationships and genuine connections available at the animal shelter, just by taking a dog for a walk. Bring a frisbee and have a truly delightful afternoon getting great exercise exploring the world with a dog. A helluva lot more rewarding than hostile shallow insecure incapable women.
Yeah, I just gave up altogether.
Sad thing is I actually would ask if she's okay, which is what I'd want to do... the bad part is there's no way I'd ever do that unless buzzed.
Otherwise, I do go out of my way to check if people are alright at work, but.. yup. Workplace stuff is considered a no-go. Also, so many workplaces are shitty like high school, anyway.
The chicks ain’t here. They’re out there, stuck in some digital orb or cube like you have been trapped in. Go find a lady who smells good and looks appealing to you. Odds are, you are both attracted to one another.
Be not discouraged, but empowered, brother!
I was at a beach with my family over the summer and not to toot my own horn or anything but my body looks good I'm past the 6 pack and have 8, anyway there were these 2 cute girls who kept looking back at me as we were behind them, all it would have took was a hi from one of them to break the ice or if I didn't have extremely low self confidence at the time I could also have done that but it is what it is. Don't take yourself out of the game man you can't win if you don't play as corny as that is its true I just recently started seeing someone it'll happen if your around for it too happen
I've played too much Left 4 Dead to approach a crying woman.
You clever bastard 👌😂
I see what you did there.
LOL! I see you xD
Fr
😂 perfect!
Based
"I feel very protected when I'm with you" sounds better than the "could you walk me home, you're the scariest looking person I know" I got
I dont know, still sounds like a win
@@TheSergio1021would you like being called scary looking
@@Presidentofthepresident Yes
@@TheProdigalCat I don’t know if I would like being called scary looking
@@TheSergio1021word.
Your sense of humor with this stuff is so refreshing 😂
My girlfriend was the one who approached/chased me after some light mutual flirting, which (as an extremely unremarkable guy) was by far the single most perception-shattering thing that anyone has ever done for me. I've had a lot of anxiety since childhood that often manifested as negative self-esteem, and would deter me from approaching someone I was interested in even if I felt like there was something mutual. But the instant she made that move, those feelings were completely gone and I'm so so grateful for that. Her confidence and directness is something I deeply admire :)
w story
Turns out you're not as extremely unremarkable as you thought.
happy for you pal
lucky for that guy
I suck at flirting.
I still remember that day. June 8th, 2012 at 9:34 AM, a girl asked if I would like to sit next to her. And also that one time, October 14, 2017 at 12:47 PM, a girl told me that my hair looked nice.
I understand remembering the date.. but even the time, dayum
I still remember the time a homeless man told me I looked like Harrison Ford, I don't get many compliments (also I look nothing like Harrison Ford)
Twice, as in two times, look at you go
I had a married friend tell me I dressed nice once and this one lady at a drive thru told me she liked my sweater. Its true men remember all of these things because they happen so rarely.
holy shit, you stud! scoring twice! what is your secret???
My favorite thing about this list is that preying on widowers is way higher up the list than being nice to ugly guys
It makes sense in a morbid way, any widower has a proven track record
Because the widower was married. That means he'd been vetted by another woman who deemed him acceptable and remained woth him until she died. Therefore, widower = catch.
Social proof. Unlike men, women trust each other's judgment. They think: "If another woman married him, he must be alright."
Widowers will have become used to intimacy and they often do want a new woman pretty soon afterwards.
@@SnabbKassa Widowers know what it's like to lose something precious and will never take you for granted... unless they murdered their first wife and then you'd better run like hell.
Ok, you were absolutely right with this video. Especially one piece of advice. You said, "tell him that, I feel very protected when I'm with you." When my wife tells me that, I would wrestle a bear with no weapons for her. I love it!
In all honesty, the thing that worked for me, was this girl handing to me a note in the bus stating : "hey, next week, I maybe can't ride the same bus, and I want to know you, so here is my number."
Next step, I sat next to her right after reading, and we just chatted. After ups and downs, we're now in a strong , two years and growing relationship.
I hope this little story will help, sometimes, it's just a leap of faith.
Aww
God, if only :[
cute. hope the best for both of you
Wholesome. I hope you continue to have a good relationship.
Uhhh get away with your ghay feelings 🧐, na well done bro hope it lasts 🙏
If someone is crying, I'll just assume they're having a bad time and don't want to be bothered
I just say: " Don't cry, you are not a monster, just a prototype".
Yes this. i dont cry in public often exactly lol but the few times it has happened and people asking me if im ok is kind and all but i’d rather just be by myself until i can get home lol and not dump it on someone i dont know
Never have I seen a girl crying and thought “game time”. It just seems like predator behavior, at least the way I’m imagining it
"don't cry you little baby, lots of people have problems they aren't out here crying are they? little crybaby. disgusting"
Facts
I have woman friends that get so in their heads about guys they like and create all these elaborate scenarios of ways they could get him to talk to them and the whole time I'm just thinking "if you just approached him first it would work 95% of the time"
Be a bro and tell any guys they're interested to GTFO before they get toyed with
But why do the simple thing that would actually get results when you can spend your life dropping vague little hints that no man will ever pick up on?
Women have a stronger fear of rejection than men do
@@brianmeen2158I am a man, and I am pretty sure I have a stronger fear of rejection than anyone alive.
@@brianmeen2158They seem to have stronger fears of everything, especially negative social outcomes. I remain convinced though that society isn't helping anyone by enhancing and normalizing women's insecurities.
My soon to be fiancé was the first woman to ever approach me instead of vice versa. Its extremely attractive/shows confidence and strength. Many women are afraid to do this but it has a much higher success rate then most women would think from what i have seen.
Most probably true
a lot of men won't do it now, so it's the only way it's going to work.
"Say: "I feel very protected when I'm with you" is top tier advice
"What the fuck do you need protection from, HUH? Are you in the MOB?" idk is the mob still a thing:/
Unless it's clearly not true. Dont do fake compliments.
Good advice if you find a decent bodyguard.
Pushes the "protect female" button, most men have. Would work for me, that's for sure.
I’d simply fold
As a man, rule 18 worked for me. I straight out asked people if they knew someone good, and I was interested in marriage. It resulted in me getting set up with a girl who also had interests in marriage. There was no confusion on why we were dating and what our relationship goals were. I am currently married to her, have children, and the relationship is going strong.
Holy crap man that's a nice story. Wishing all the best to you
Only the Bold can claim victory together. Congratulations to you both.
I did this and nobody got back to me.
That seems like a horrible idea. Like... if your only common trait is that you want to get married, how is that a good basis for a relationship?
@@gazelle_diamond9768it's not like you're getting blind married, that's just the premise for meeting in the first place
I honestly didn't know i was a minority in this community. 7%, that's wild.
There Are No Girls on the Internet
I knew we were but I expected maybe 60/40 or 70/30, not 93/7 wtf
yeah, I thought there's more of us
UA-cam followers seem to skew toward the men for some reason. Or so I've been told. I'm really curious why that is.
Girls wouldnt wanna See this, shoe 2 based
Personally, I think ya absolutely hit the nail on the head when you were talking about compliments. Like, if my girlfriend said, "I feel safe with you," I couldn't imagine a better compliment.
I think the weird widower focus from back then comes from the fact that no "good man" would have not been married by their 30s back then.
There was basically no chance of finding an unmarried man who was considered good husband material in certain age brackets.
Then there were higher mortality rates and barely existing divorce rates as well.
So widowers were basically the most common "good husband material who are just single due to bad luck" of the 50s.
That advice certainly got around. Every funeral for a wife I've ever been to had women circling the man like vultures
Women merely want what other women have.
Honestly, holds true a little bit today.
@@Akuma60 How many funerals for a wife have you been to?
@@aaoooaaa2 Too many. I'm in my mid 40s now so besides elderly, auto accidents, and pharmaceutical whoopsies, breast cancer is a scourge upon my in-laws
Your comment on telling a man you feel protected was absolutely spot on
We generally don't care if people think we are handsome, we want to feel needed
Especially with men nowadys, with so many strong women around us don't know what role we have.
And for me that I'm needed is hitting so many boxes.
Speak for yourself. I’d like both. I’ve gone through my entire life not knowing whether people consider me ugly or not.
I mean, I don't hear women telling men in person that they're hadsome. On the other hand, yeah, that's a much stronger motivator for men.
Give a man a purpose and he'll give you everything else.
@@LordJackassyeah women will very rarely tell men that they think they are handsome - even if they think a man is very handsome they won’t tell them
That but they will show it to them by their behavior - getting closer to him and wanting to talk to him and touch him
Marrying someone that trolled you on Twitter is insane and yet somehow exactly what I expected of Shoe. Hope we get more solid proof that June is a furry soon 🙏.
My guesses are rabbit, deer, or a fish.
I mean it is Twitter. Shoe is Twitter reincarnated (ingame)
@@feralwarden4873 100% bun
Her cat eyelashes or whatever they're called isn't proof enough?
SHE LIKED THE COMMENT IT IS PROOF
As an old Navy man; stowing away on a battleship is solid advice.
as someone who got into a relationship just because I was lonely, for god's sake please don't
Ya. I think the best way to fix loneliness is to find people with common interests and hobbies to you. As soon as youre in a better mental state, then consider looking for a more intimate relationship. Getting into a relationship before fixing your loneliness is skipping a couple crucial steps. Gotta start with yourself..
Dating advice on both sides says, don't text too much, act like you don't care, pretend to be busy...Why are we lying to ourselves?
@@DylanJo123I can honestly say I'm done with dating people with similar interests than me. I'm an asshole and if my partner is similar to me it's a red flag
As positive as I am that you’re right, no part of me will heed your advice. The likelihood of me being single, having never been in a relationship, at 35 is extremely high. If I get the option, I’m taking it, if not only to know that it’s possible.
@@mrblue7420then maybe you should change first lol
As a man, literally all the 50s dating tips would work on me.
Grandma raised a gentleman.
let me guess you are one of those that constantly get used for his money and get nothing.
@@corriveau21crazy assumption from that 😂😂
@@corriveau21wild logic
Danm who hurt you 🥺
@@corriveau21Who hurt u like plz bro do tell
The "I feel very protected when I'm with you" line is the best advice ever.
I agree, I don't think any man wants a woman that's with him to feel like she's in the danger zone.
@Karmasu_L why would a woman be with a man she felt unsafe around? Why would she spend more than 5 whole seconds in the same room as him?
@@sebaschan-uwu Why do womens keep getting killed by random serial killers and violent mens you mean ? Who knows really
@@sebaschan-uwu It's called the "I can fix him"-attitude or the criminal "He is strong and has power but also abuses me"-kink (badboy level9000) that attracts women
“Locked in” indeed
Shoe, hearing there may actually be another generation brilliant, funny, and Smart Shoe-kins is the best news I have found in some time. Please keep up the excellent work. God bless you all
Shoe's own suggestion, "I feel protected around you." was better than anything on the list. In fact, that's the best dating suggestion I've ever heard for women.
It appeals to a man’s genetic core, our primal purpose on a fundamental level; we want to protect, provide and we fantasize about it.
I understand this on every intellectual level and even if this was said to me by the most eyelash-batting snake in the garden…
I would instantly fall for it.
if someone said that to me I'd be like "oh hey I saw that video too"
@@tanaka1477which would give you something to talk about so still a win.
Definitely would not work on me lol. I'd just say, "...Okay? That's good, I guess." lol.
@@KonglomeratYT Same 😂😂.
But maybe more context could make it sound endearing.
When I was first dating my now wife of 22 years, we were cuddling on the sofa when she looked up at me and with all the sincerity in the world said, "I feel so safe and protected in your arms." I still think about that to this very day! We've been together for 24 years, married for 22, we have two children and one of them is engaged. I STILL think back to that moment. She STILL says that to me when we cuddle. Damn near brings a tear to my eye, just knowing that the first person I ever felt like I would die for still appreciates my protection and security.
Well you managed to bring a tear to my eye! You and your wife are so lucky!
living the good life and the dream denied to too many nowadays. happy for you bro
So perfect the two of you! Wish you health and happiness!
That is beautiful!
Effin' wholesome.
I love how the author's advice rapidly descends from 'This might be a good idea, maybe, if I like it' to 'DO THE EXACT OPPOSITE IN A WAY THAT WILL GUARANTEE NO ONE WANTS TO BE NEAR YOU!!'
She WANTS to be alone, so that she can feel 'empowered'.
Back then, they used to defend child marriages and polygamy, in the name protection and provider. They called it female empowerment. Alone is about female empowerment or at least staying with their girlfriends.
My guess is she doesn't want to be alone, but can't be arsed with reflection and self-improvement. So she tells others and herself it's on purpose and the best thing ever, only occasionally crying herself to sleep over a tub of coffee flavored ice cream.
Women keep women single. Misery loves company. Crabs in a bucket. etc etc etc
All of their advice is garbage too. You're perfect the way you are, you're a 10/10 honey. A womans worst enemy are other women. Meanwhile on the other end with men. You're worthless, make something of yourself.
That, or she wants to give bad advice to other women so she has less competition. This is one of the most basic forms of female mating strategies.
@@tastysnacks8094yeah while watching the video it occurred to me that that journalist is just coping really really hard
The best advice for anybody looking for someone is to just start a conversation. Literally anything, ive had connections from tutoring a girl through geometry, talking about my abusive dad and her perverse uncle, and literally nothing more than the cowboy boots i was wearing. Any conversation immediately gives you a better chance than none or even a pick up line, pick up lines are for "i saw this person in passing and will probably never see them again. Might as well try something."
19:34 Calling men handsome definitely works too! They will remember that compliment for literal years.
complimenting people make them more likely to like you big news
Yeah, there arent really any "tricks" to men. Pretty much any positive attention will work. Whether or not he wants to date is almost entirely up to other factors, like if she is his type or if he likes her personality. If a woman takes the initiative and actually give him that positive attention, most men would be willing to try to get to know her even if he may not like her at first glance.
@@bradensmith8682 literally
That's not gonna get then married tho
@@bradensmith8682😂😂😂exactly
when my gf said she felt safe i really was locked tf in
Good job
That is so sweet 😊
Yeah.
I mean, what more do you need to hear?
I hate to say it but don't believe it 100%, I was told this by a woman I was dating for months, and she ended up saying she felt unsafe about me cause she learned someone had tried to murder me in my past (fuckin' wild logic)
I hate to say it but I wouldn't believe this 100%, a woman I dated for several months said this to me, yet ended up saying she felt unsafe with me and dumped me cause of the actions of someone else towards me (I don't understand the logic)
As a guy, if I was told that my presence makes someone feel safe, I will indeed be locked in on the spot. Also, if a girl made food and specifically encouraged me to try it, I'd find that super cute.
If a girl is crying in the corner, I'm staying tf away unless if I know them at least somewhat personally. I don't need to have the cat claws come out because it was "none of my business." So ladies, try that one on your cute friends but not strangers.
Yessssss, you’re no threat at alllll…
I've played Left 4 Dead enough to know that approaching a crying woman is a bad idea.
a girlfriend I had years ago said that she felt safe around me, I was young and stupid and thought that was a lame compliment at the time and told her so. I had no idea
Blah blah blah u still not beating Goku tho
@@MrBiggles53 A girl I used to know told me I was "nonthreatening." I was a bit confused. "You've not given me a reason to *be* threatening."
Have this running on my second monitor while I work, you are making me laugh. Good content.
Hat Box....
FYI. The math/school dreams don't go away. Woke up panicked my paper was due...haven't been in school for a couple decades(ish).
LIE DETECTED
I have had only 2 dreams since 2016 and neither were about school
I fucking hate those dreams. Get the one in awhile as well. been almost 20 years
Mine went away, but then again, never had them in the first place. I was very apathetic about school.
Haven't dreamed about school for decades. Why would I? I've never been obsessed about it.
Yep. The dream I had was looking for my classroom, but I hadn't been all semester and I've forgotten wear it was. Regularly for ten+ years ofbeing a professional worker and Engineering School was completely irrelevant.
"I'm constantly getting compliments on them" WHO LET SHOE OUTSIDE!?
She's not. She just has windows.
Her owner takes her on walks. I've seen her running around in my area's dog park trying to sniff the other dog's asses constantly. I know it's a greeting for dogs, but she's excessive with it.
@xVibra it's not petplay, sh0e just has that DAWG in her
😂
I’ve submitted the forms to increase Shoe Security. Can’t be having her running around in the wild with all those hopes and dreams!
You nailed it on the head when you said: The people giving advice are to blame. Its literally the blind leading the blind. Do you and trust your instincts usually its the right choice.
You don't ask a fish how to go fishing, you ask the master fisherman and this author doesn't even qualify at shooting fish in a barrel.
Those instincts are coming from a cloud of medicated brain fog.
Me thinks their instincts aren't going to help them either
The author is literally advocating for people to be just as alone and miserable as her
the Author was literally single in her bio, that should be a dead give away to do the opposite of what she's saying unless you wanna end up like her.
Man the "you make me feel protected" comment was on spot. Amateur kickboxer, dad of one ASD 5 year old, another kid on the way, with wifey for 15 years, still waiting to hear that one.
"Anita Sarkisian had a wedding themed birthday party."
I didn't think it was possible for me to feel sorry for Anita, but you succeeded for a brief moment. Well done. That is pathetic in the extreme.
Karma lmao, they called everyone who opposed them an incel during gamergate
I always felt bad for her. So homely.
@@harsh3948 Wait, she's about to make a comeback in the Gamergate sequel that seems to be brewing with the Sweet Baby inc stuff lol.
I don't feel bad at all for it's clearly self inflicted!
Probably was meant to be a stunning and brave social statement.
My wife and I were friends way before we started dating and when I figured out I was interested in dating her was when we were in Charleston, SC walking at night and she just randomly said, "This would be so tough to do by myself, but I feel safe with you."
That pro tip is some voodoo shit, Shoe.
"Girlbossed a little too close to the sun" is a very good expression😂
It'saGundam uses it too
I would rather have a woman boss, My home is a perfect example of this, she has a very busy schedule, always looking to help others, has a college degree that is actually useful has 8 kids raised and lots of grandkids and the list goes on.
I like this channel because it’s not far left or far right, keep it up!
A woman complimented my hands on October 13, 2022 and I have never forgotten the serotonin I received from it.
Your hands?
I feel like I have small, dainty hands for a guy, so when I have to wear large latex gloves and it's still a tight fit trying to get them on I get a little bit of an ego boost.
she wanted you to use them to pin her down
1,5 years, whoop-dee-doo.
Aah, the magic of fisting!
Two pieces of advice, as a man:
Don't be afraid to give men honest complements - that shit burns into permanent memory that not even brain damage can expunge.
Do not, under any circumstances, assume he'll "get the hint" - if he did, he would've done something about it. Either he doesn't know, isn't interested, or unsure you're interested. To paraphrase - Keep it simple with the stupid.
Jokes aside - being straightforward is likely the best thing you can do; it might be a bit awkward, but straight up telling a guy you like his looks and want his number will give him an ego boost which he will associate with you.
YMMV, but that's my take on it, for better or worse.
I had a woman one time make zero romantic gestures to me and then tell me a few months later she liked me and was surprised I didn't know. all she did was be nice to me and strike up basic conversation. no playful teasing, no touching, no flirting, nothing. just a smile and a wave. like the same I get from a woman whose shopping cart I accidentally bumped into. it's stuff like that, that makes men second guess every nice interaction they have with women. had she just been direct with me, I would have at least never had to ask myself if every pretty lady that said nice things to me was shooting her shot or just being nice.
im not saying women are dumb or are to blame or whatever. just that when it comes to men, it's much more helpful to be direct. we got a decade or more of built up interactions and assumptions that are preventing us from "picking up on your hint"
I will attach to OPs comment, women, please dont be upset or misunderstand when, after you confessed your feeling to us, we ask you if you're fucking with us, it is not a rejection, just genuine confusion.
I complimented a man's figure because he was built like he could kill a bear. He had to take off his shades and wipe tears. My heart broke!
I asked him if he needed a hug and he said no 😢 just nodded and thanked me before fucking off (he was working by pushing carts)
I hope he's okay...
@@comradeurod9805 I'll take this to heart, thanks
fr. It might seem shallow or whatever but realistically what first meeting isn’t kinda shallow? you save the crazy shit for month 3 😂
Women advice: Don’t let them know. Men advice: No means no. Everyone: Confused and lonely.
This is perfect. No one wins based on what is fed to people.
All in the psychological plot for depopulation. No bangin=less people.
Or more migrants bringing in their new generations who then turn into devout democrat voters.
@@SignSpinningSessions By design. Notice how it's all set up to make us work more, earn less, spend more, hang out less and have less kids.
Best advice for women: Don't play the woman game with men. They're not women.
Best advice for men: Don't tell them your secrets or your vulnerabilities. Society has trained EVERYONE to view weakness as blood in the water.
Psycho advice: “Don’t let them no.”
my wife, first thing she told me, " I feel safe with you" yup it works!
"The amount of times I see a stroller and a dog is in it..."
It's not nice to call ugly babies names
Sir, the dogs in strollers are probably cuter than the troglodytes some people spawn.
@@BaiginLong you said this unironically
But it's hairy and gross
Fur baby
I worked at Amazon. On thanksgiving one of my female coworkers, without prompting of any kind, brought me a plate of food from the buffet they had set up. When she would tap you on your back to get your attention, instead of tapping she drew little circles on your back. She was a doll.
Edit: This comment blew up. This happened 6 years ago. I'm not oblivious to flirtation or I wouldn't have posted this. HR exists though.
Draw circles with her nipples?
Aw, that's so cute!
Normally I would say if a chick brings you food for no reason, she's into you. But it was thanksgiving. Be thankful goddamit.
@@sgnMarki don't care what day it is! Ladies don't normally do that, she 100% liked you! Shoot your shot dummy,
are you waiting for her to hold up a sign for you to make your move! 😩
i don't care what day it is! Ladies don't normally do that, she 100% liked you! Shoot your shot dummy,
are you waiting for her to hold up a sign for you to make your move?!😩 geez
Can agree, my wife saying she "Felt very safe with me/ Felt very protected with me" was a winner line.
This was so wholesome. Excellent video. Very down to earth on the reality of the dating world today.
10:47 Alaska currently has a similar problem, but there’s a saying that goes along with it.
“The odds are good, but the goods are odd.”
In Russia we say: "If you don't have a wife, it means someone has two."
As a male engineering nerd, I can assure you that the outdoor easel thing would DEFINITELY WORK. Ladies, please try this.
As a male engineering student, a lot of us are weird that's why we're in engineering, go for the guys in other departments of study ;_;
But also stop to look around, try to look a little approachable. If a chick was painting the view, I’d be hesitant to talk to her if she looked super focused.
@@alexandervazquez7501 Bro just said "nah we ain't worth it" and locked the whole group in the sinking Titanic LMAO
@@kevinb314
The way I’d see this working out is: you see a woman painting, you walk over to see _what_ she’s painting if she’s interested (in companionship, a relationship, conversation, etc.), she’ll acknowledge you and then you ask about the painting.
@@alexandervazquez7501Dude we engineering students deserve to be loved.
"I feel safe around you" was said by one woman. I married her, so solid advice Shoe
Ditto. I didn't even realize I was acting threateningly toward the creepy guy, but apparently it really made an impression...the creep did leave when I suggested he leave...
Me too and I don't even understand why she feels that way cause I'm a wimp, like I will fight for her but I will get folded in 2 seconds.
ive heard that from several women, none of whom were interested in me. what am i
@@BlackQueenNetwork you are crusader, the greatest christian soldier. They are all virgins and sworn to protect the Fatherland, the Christ's word and his Holiness the Pope. Deus Vult!
Or I don't know...
Unironically, when I was single my “move” was walking up to men, smiling and saying “Hi, my name is” and it works very well. If they’re interested, they’ll take over the rest. No one is like “oh she’s so desperate, she introduced herself”
Well, slight correction: No man thinks that, but I do know women who think going up and starting a conversation with a man is a sign of desperation in a woman.
Yea sadly some of us me included are gonna play it off as being nice so wouldnt be able to take it from there i mean hell you could ask for their number and theyd doubt it. So being abit blunt can be beneficial if you don think they are getting it.
And honestly most of the bros or the ones i know arnt very picky.
But i dont speak for all
Yep, can't be more desperate than men
That woman having a wedding themed birthday where she married herself is probably the most narcissistic thing I have ever seen or heard.
That's definitely Anita to a T.
I would say it's the saddest thing I've ever seen or heard. I feel bad for her. She's crying on the inside.
It’s her birthday?
@@victorchen5663 Yeah, but narcissists are sad, it is usually childhood trauma that causes narcissism, the most common is the feeling of abandonment from a parent as a child, second is bullying, third is loneliness. Narcissism is in 95% of the cases a coping mechanism of having no true self esteem. It is an unconscious form of self bosting.
6 yrs from now. She'll divorce herself from herself.
This article: "Men aren't asking women out, so just do literally everything _except_ ask a man out"
At this point in my life I'm starting to feel like that's the only way I'd ever notice if someone was into me. Like if she asked me out, that's the only way I'd be able to tell because according to the weird journos I'm never supposed to assume anyone is into me.
I feel like the issue is that if a man thinks a woman is into him, he suddenly will go into full flirtatious casanova mode and views her only as a love interest, and that this approach is often encouraged by men on the internet. Meanwhile, it's much better to wait and allow things to progress naturally, because unless a woman is looking for a hook up, a lot of women prefer to take things slow and not rush into romance. And a second thing is that men often don't take rejection well, and not many men on the internet encourage healthy behavior in reaction to rejection. But this is all to say, I think the real root of issues is that men are too reliant on the advice of dating gurus and dating journals. If you obsess over what the internet tells you are the signs a woman is into you, or signs that a woman is uninterested, then you will close more doors than you open. What dating journals won't tell you is that women are as diverse and complex as men, and that no dating advice will ever be able to generalize all women. Instead, build connections and focus on improving yourself. If you want a woman to ask you out, then focus on building a beautiful garden and the butterflies will come to you. But if you want to be the one to make the first move, then stop overthinking it and worrying about what the dating gurus are telling you, do what you feel is natural and will make you happy! Dating isn't an algebra, it's about building a romantic connection that will affect your entire life!
@@Naoto-kun1085 Men don't take rejection well, because for men rejection often means death sentence. It is not easy to get rejected constantly.
@@Naoto-kun1085 Nobody takes rejection well. Women can easily spread slander, have a few of your things go "missing", etc etc.
What???
im a guy, id be cool if a girl asked me out, id also be cool if a cute guy asked me out, id also be cool if a futa asked me out
Legit, number 37 "Walk up to him and tell him you need some adivce" is one of the best on the list, I think. I want to feel needed and useful, especially by and for my girlfriend. If a woman approached me asking about help with something serious, this would tell me she both trusts me and values my opinion. It maybe wouldn't instantly tell me she's interested in me romantically, but it would definitely put her on my radar right away.
Assuming, of course, she doesn't ask me for relationship advice. In which case, fuck.
it really means that much?
@@iiCounted-op5jx yes
@@iiCounted-op5jx Yes. Whenever someone asks me to help them with something, I try to do my absolute best for them. Seeing someone better of and happy because of my efforts makes me feel like I'm here for a reason and can be useful. It means a lot to me when someone trusts and thanks me for that, and I think it's similar for a lot of other men.
Yes. To many, if not most, men
How can I find someone *like* you?
New to your channel June. Thank you for fresh and fun content. Be well sister :-)
I'm a happily married millennial man, and I met my wife while working a Taco Bell drive-thru.
One day, she came through specifically to casually give me her number on the sly and completely forgot to stop at the intercom to order something first.
Approaching men works.
This never happened and this person is gay, average 4Chan lad
I once got free Taco Bell from the gay drive through worker cuz I went 3 nights in a row due to my terrible sleep schedule
wholesome af
Lol yeah mate. Approaching men WORKED. Not now. You nuts? Modern woman approaches you nowadays? Fed.
I've never heard anything like this before, wow
"Don't you ever get lonely?"
"Only around people" - Thin Red Line
Thanks for a reminder about a cool movie!
@@patrickrobinson545 Hands down the best and most memorable war movie I have seen.
Give it 20 years. Men's loneliness is front loaded, female is back loaded.
Theres also Thin Blue Line with rowan atkinson.
"I don't hate people, but I feel a lot better when they're not around." - Charles Bukowski
Yeah, the "feel so protected" thing works. You say that to me you basically have a bodyguard for the rest of the day.
Protected from what tho? Is it a American thing, cause over there everyone can shoot you down or why protection? I don't get it
true. men love a woman who will let them be masculine.
we want to do it, it's in our DNA. We can feel our ancestors smiling on us while we do it.
women today think it's good to say they "don't need men".
Tf, okay, I guess I'll see myself out then.
Bro, we WANT to be needed. It's a d*mn good feeling.
My paranoid ass would think she’s planning to start a fight with someone and needs backup.
I just watched your video on "the man issue," then switched to this... out of curiosity.
This is actually enlightening. Thankyou.
"Don't date someone you think is ugly" - Well, thanks for ruining the last of my chances I had with the ladies....
xD
I like the self deprecation. However - Ugly is relative. And also restricted to the one observing not the one being observed.
So, TLDR. You don't get to make that judgment.
Me who has an eating disorder and is ugly
yap@@XEN-ZOMBIE
There's no such thing as a lonely female. Even 400 lb women are getting preggers the natural way 😂
"I feel very protected when I'm with you." Bro. One of my female friends rizzed me up with that line. Now we've been dating for 5 years with no hiccups.
dating for 5 years
The power of that line is scary and should not have been given freely to other women.
@@melvin3509☠️
>>dating for 5 years with no hiccups
@@melvin3509 Marriage laws are too misandrist. I was told that by a girlfriend.
One time, a mildly attractive girl and I talked for about 10 min (about gym, school and other day-to-day stuff), then when she had to leave she hugged me out of nowhere and that will be enough to make me remember her for the next years
Well you done goofed if you didn't get her contact information bud.
dude this is absolute ropefuel knowing I never had this, thanks for flexing on me 💀
@@iiCounted-op5jx well, I probably will never see her again, so don't bother too much
@@cheetoh3149 Yeah... I'm not known for being a player
@@okami06get your act together, be a Top G
i’m 20 years old. i’m not attractive but i have always made myself go talk to girls if i was nervous or not, 90% of attempts don’t work and the few that did i was used. now i’m i’m very lonely and have finally decided it isn’t worth it to attempt.
You still have time. Use it to get money and make yourself more attractive by any means necessary. That'd be the best investment of your life.
"Set up outside an engineering school"
"Set up where nobody will bother you"
As an engineer, those are the same thing.
Going into a male dominated field like engineering may be some of the best advice. In school I remember the few girls that were in engineering were fawned over and would constantly have guys hovering around them. A half decent looking girl in engineering could pass and get a degree without having to do a single homework problem herself.
It's not terrible advice. Guys who go to Caltech will be lonely nerds, and will probably be earning a fortune when they are in their 30s.
My high-school girlfriend went to Carnegie-Mellon university for computer science. She was one of three women in a lecture hall of 350. She liked to say that her odds were pretty good, but the goods were odd.
@@Sentinel_ICBM So you were in the 2001 EE class at UK too?
My sister told me she liked this dude in her class but she was scared to approach. I told her to just ask him out randomly cause guys never get approached and if a dude does get approached and she's even remotely attractive to him and he's single it's like a 99% chance it'll work. It worked.
might want to look up what happens when a woman approaches a man first …. all bc it worked , doesn’t mean its good advice
@@cloverhollister ...What is supposed to happen?
Do women believe they'll explode or something if they actually show a little initiative?
@@cloverhollister when a woman approaches a man at least he doesn't need to question how interested she really is...
if a man approaches a woman, she knows that he is interested in her... but is she just settling for him for lack of a better option?... or saying yes because she cant think of a good reason to say no...
if she approaches him, it lets him know she chose him... and that she isn't just settling.
@@PsychoticInsomniacif a man approaches a woman she calls him a creep and his life is over
@@katanaman444 Would also like to know the answer to this question
The "I feel safe around you", has always been interpreted by me to mean, "i like hanging out, because i know that you aren't going to try anything with me".
I literally thought they were saying that im a nice guy, and they appreciated me not getting handsy or trying to kiss them when we drink or whatever.
Well that can be it but ironically I feel like those are how the best relationships start idk
She phrased it as “I feel protected around you” which doesn’t have that connotation
@@sungod9797bingo
@@shea5542 yeah, the best relationships are the ones where you won't make a move because you don't want to ruin the friendship. Lmao
@@sungod9797 what's the difference?
This channel is the most entertaining thing I’ve seen on UA-cam
"Stow away on a battleship" came out of nowhere I can't believe how casually you threw that one in.
Last two times I approached women
1. Get told by the girls friend that shes taken and I shouldn't try hitting on women in bars because they have a right to go for a drink without getting approached by men.
2. Approached a sad girl and attempted to cheer her up, her big sister or friend came to agressively drag her out and look at me angry.
Please tell me it's worth it to keep trying...
nope let them be lonely
In those cases, it was their problem. Not everyone is in the same mind space of being open to a relationship. If it keeps not working out, I think maybe fishing in other waters is the approach, go somewhere where your odds are better to find a quality person. I'm a Christian guy, and knew I wanted a Christian gal (not only for religious reasons, but quality of person reasons) so I started attending my church's young adult ministry. The situations you described there would be far less likely to happen.
I tried talking to a woman at a wedding, because I heard she was a big reader like me. Her friend nearly tackled her trying to rescue her from my presence. That still makes me feel like shit when I think about it.
It's not. Give up while you're ahead.
Don't listen to the negativity. Rejection sucks, but remember, it only has to work out once.
Honestly the best advice to approaching a man is to just show genuine interest, sometimes guys like me in particular are dense and need your intentions up front so we can open up a little. I find that I'm very straightforward so I'm afraid of scaring women so it's hard to approach them.
Same.
Right? Just be nice, care about what he says and does (hopefully he reciprocates this back), and you should be on the right track. And honestly, slip in a compliment every now and then. Do something nice for him. The amount of men who have anyone say or do something nice for them is way too low.
Dude same. I am normally a very blunt man, and I do not speak the language of "Hints". In fact, the one time I did date a girl, I never initially made a move because I had no idea. Yeah she seemed to join my friend group, and she seemingly did stand near me in conversations, but it never crossed my mind that she was approaching me. She had to get the help of other friends to get my attention. A male friend of mine said "You know she has a massive liking to you." "Well, that makes sense, I normally am wei-" "In a relationship-like way chief." "Oh."
Then cut to next month and I eventually sent a 6 haiku poem.
We are not dating anymore, but we're still close friends. She is the homie
I don't even know if that will work, we never get approached so we think its a setup
Exactly. Show genuine interest and be persistent if he appears confused around you at first. He likely has never had this form of attention before.
the look after your health one is sound advice, it's true that most people don't like people who are ill. I think the don't make it obvious that your career comes first is quite good advice too, I personally felt really let down in my last relationship when she would tell me that i was priority #3 after the dog and her career. I'd rather be lied to if that were the case in the future.
That painting next to an engineering school bit is next-level psychological warfare. Logical/mathematical people are fascinated by creatives.
Can confirm. Am engineer, married to an art teacher
Thirded here as a biochem major, I don't TRY to find artsy types, I just ALWAYS end up with them
psyops alert 😂😂😂
Fourthing this? Software engineer, was married to a chick that sings, plays guitar, and does all manners of artsy stuff. She even taught me how to play a ukulele.
As an engineer married to an artist, also can confirm.
*simple* As a man I can confirm. Saying the words "I feel safe around you" works. It's easy, even if it's brought up unnaturally in conversation it still works.
*depth* The reason why a guy may not be that affectionate even if he has a massive crush on you will most likely be a fear of being a creep. So when you say that you feel comfortable around him it allows him to feel more comfortable around you.
I always took that to mean that they felt safe that I wasn't going to make a move on them.
To be fair, all but one of the girls that I have dated asked me out.
I don't really signals, and always worried about being a creep, just like you said.
I remember one time a girl (not a to antic interest, just a friend) said "I trust you. I can tell you're a good guy" and was enough. From that point on, I was able to open up and be a much better and more supportive friend.
Once a girl let's us know that she realises we aren't creeps, we can really open up. Until then, I think most guys hold back massively because they don't want to make her feel uncomfortable or unsafe
Monica on Friends said it best, "I feel so safe around you = You will NEVER see me naked.."
Women who say that are just looking for a gay best friend. They only fuck abusive, muscle bound fuckboys and cry about them to the "safe guy".
11:10 "and people who, in many instances, have absolutely no clue what they are doing"
yup, literally me
I'm pretty sure that's just all of us
I thought it was a direct attack too. 😅
LMFAO😂
present
he literally discribed himself with that