Sometimes married people start feeling like they are in a rut.. its the same everyday, eat, work, go home, work, clean house, etc. Maybe hire a sitter and take your wife to the roof top garden. I know i would like that. My husband never took me anywhere and always expected me to not only work full time but cook clean and take care of all the housework and care for the child. Our marriage did not last. It is good you are grateful for your wife, so..show her how grateful you are! I wish you well
Going through same thing as you. My husband did not allow me to work at all. Through the 9 years of marriage, I receive nothing from him, not even a simple gift, not even a word of appreciation. We are going through divorce right now.
Thank you for watching my video! I am very grateful that you shared your case. I respect my wife's opinion as much as possible. I will accept whatever life she wants to live.
Tienes razón, no es lo mismo trabajar a tiempo completo que trabajar medio tiempo, encargarte del hijo y la escuela y las tareas y las clases extra ó actividades extra que a furturo van a surgir, encima ir por todo lo de la comida y cocinar y lavar los trastes y lavar ropa y tenderla y luego meterla y doblarla guardarla y colgarla ó hasta planchar, y asear la casa, trapear, limpiar baño y polvo y no sé si también se encargue de la basura. Ojalá logre este matrimonio equilibrarse.
Same here too. I am the only breadwinner. Work full time, coming into my 60s. Our culture is we think marriage is for life. I want to get out but do not have confidence to do so. I get nothing from my husband but he got everything. A family, money, no financial responsibilities but all assets earned from my hard work is 50:50. My only consolation is that when you die, you don't take anything. Nothing.
I normally don't comment on vlog but something compelled me to do so this time. I know different cultures have different life styles and work ethics. In any culture women like to know that they are loved and appreciated. They need to hear it. Avoiding her and staying out to avoid an argument only makes matters worse because it'll only make her feel like you want nothing to do with her at all. Women need little reminders they are loved and appreciated after all they do for their family. Men do too. You should surprise her sometime with a nice dinner at that beautiful rooftop garden restaurant you showed on your video. Bring her home some flowers or cook her a nice meal. Here in America even if we have different sleep schedules couples sleep together and the kids are in separate rooms. We never slept with my parents. It's the closeness that is comforting sleeping next to your spouse after a long day. The only time they sleep separately is if there are difficulties in the marriage but stay together for the children's sake. Your son is young but kids pick up on the tension in the household and it does effect them. Take time out to talk to each other and really be open to each other's feelings. Love is strong and does conquer difficulties if it is worked on together as a couple.
WISE WORDS. And perhaps, in Japanese culture, there is a specific or unique love language, things that married people say and do to each other to show love and care and respect, that we from other cultures don't know about... In that case, I strongly suggest that Samurai Daddy - san be kind enough and use all those cultural ways to show his wife love!❤ There may also be different expectations on marriage life in different cultures, but I do believe that people basically have the same needs of love, appreciation and attention. I have followed Samurai Daddy - san for quite some time now, and I think that I can fairly safely say this: His relationship with his family is deteriorating the more time he spends on being a UA-camr. There is, after all, only 24 hours in a day and night.
Thank you for watching my video! I appreciate your comment. Your comment has been engraved in my heart. I still lack life experience. I need to study from now on. When I judge that UA-cam is a bad influence for my family, I will of course stop posting on UA-cam. I thank you.
@@samurai-daddy I don't think you should give up on your channel but maybe include your family more since it is about life in Japan. You don't have to show their faces. Maybe even see if your wife is willing to share how she cooks meals or does the shopping. Maybe a video about what her days are like while you work. Do it as a family thing and do your solo filming in areas in the city on your commute to work, lunch or to the store. If there is a day you have to yourself and you go somewhere to relax. 😀
True... But I'm afraid his wife is not happy to share her private life with other people or use her precious time on UA-cam. It was rather obvious from the beginning... And ever since beginning with youtube, their relationship has seemed to decline. Pushing his wife to embrace and partake in his UA-cam endeavour, when she so obviously doesn't like it, nor want it, would most likely make her feel even less understood, her opinion and values beiing even less respected and creating an even farther rift between them!!! I would definitely advise caution to push this idea any further... Instead, I'd ask his wife, if him spending less or no time on UA-cam and doing nice things together instead, would make her happier. Give her a chance to give input to how to spend a happy time together❤❤ Because I feel, from this last video, that this is what Samurai Daddy - san innermost wants... to be happily with his wife... really feeling so sad to be looking on the happy people and couples having a pleasant time around him... and he not... I'd invite the wife for a night and dinner at the roof-top garden... and a peaceful, slow and romantic stroll, admiring the view descending those flight of stairs... ❤❤ as a beginning... @@melissa2957-mc
As long as no names are mentioned, @samurai-daddy can still keep his life and that of his family, private. He doesn't even show his face, so that alone, is alright for him to vent.
I'm sorry to hear that you and your wife are going through a rough time right now. It sounds like you're both feeling a lot of stress and frustration. I know it's not easy, but try to be patient and understanding with each other. It's also important to communicate openly and honestly about your feelings. Again thanks for your amazing Tokyo travel guides! They've been super helpful, I was just in Tokyo in September and Osaka in November, and your videos helped me discover so many hidden gems and local favorites that many tourists miss. I'm planning to visit Tokyo and Mount Fuji with my mom over New Year's, and those restaurants in Shinjuku are definitely on my list. Keep up the great work!
I hope you and your wife talk and work over together what’s the issue. The most important thing is to really listen to each other. Any relationship takes time and effort, the more important the relationship, the more time it takes.
I really appreciate the fact that you take time out shooting and then editing the video for us out of your busy schedule. I know the work standards in Japan are very high and people have to really grind every day there, so I appreciate your efforts to produce such content for us even more!
Thanks for sharing your personal life on video I love to see Japanese life and culture sorry that you are having some problems in your marriage life is short and it’s important to make it a happy one if possible Japanese life is very busy but I’m sure with little change slowly things will change you must have the willingness to make the changes and it can take a lot of effort to begin with but once you make a small effort things will begin to change my son is married to a lovely Japanese lady they have 2 children one boy age 9 years old and a girl age 6 years old they are busy both parents go to work but they always take time to eat dinner together and they sleep in the same room they are a close family they go on outings as a family and usually take a day at Disney land every year my son is involved in all of the children’s activities and contributed to helping out with household chores and caring for the children both my son and his wife have hobbies they enjoy my son is artistic and he also likes to take long bicycle rides my daughter in law megumi socialises with her family and friends this is how they live and it works for them every couple has to find what works for them to have a happy life in your case perhaps you can get some advice and begin to make changes very soon I’m sure you both love your son and you have many good aspects of life to work with for a successful happy family thank you again for your lovely videos
Im from Thai,I love to watch your routine life in Tokyo ; working , shopping , eating til you going to bed.that make me learning and knowing the way of life a man living in the big city. Thank you very much.👍🏻
The way you talk about quarrels with your wife and also praise your wife shows that you respect her. I have seen all your videos and I think you are a very nice person.
Thank you for sharing, I know it’s not easy especially in East Asian cultures where we don’t talk about these things. I admire your courage! I would encourage you to listen deeply and attentively to your wife, often times there is more to what a person is saying than their words. Also, make sure to prioritize your relationship! Something my friends do is actually schedule time, almost like “meetings”, to talk with their spouse about how the marriage is going. If we deem it necessary at the workplace to communicate effectively with colleagues, why would home be any different? This also helps to reframe things as teammates vs the problem instead of you against each other. Best of luck!
W kazdym zwiazku najwazniejsza jest rozmowa, życzę dużo cierpliwości , jeszcze się taki nie urodził by wszystkimi dogodził, wyrzut emocji oczyszcza atmosferę
Im quite sad about the story fight, but keep in mind that you are also doing great by being a good provider & a father as well, I guess😊. Sit down with your wife & have a talk, reconnect. Maybe she feels boredom since she stays at home doing same routine. I know you are a busy man but find time to be with your family at home or outside. Act fast so it will not take this situation longer. Hoping you will be okay with her🙏. Thank you for another travel video.
This is the second time I leave my comment to you. As I said earlier, you and your wife are both tired, stressed and lonely also. Get some flowers or small gifts to Make her feel your love and appreciation to her. Spend some time alone with her. When she understands your feelings, she will happy and you will too.
Greetings from Italy, to begin with! I believe that family relationships, in every part of the world are or are not quite the same... the discussions, the arguments... equally! Perhaps over time, life as a couple is lived with more tiredness, but I don't think that is the end of a relationship! In Italy we have a different work/family rhythm... but it's not that it is better! Less stress? Maybe... I wish you to peacefully resume your family life💐🇮🇹🇯🇵
Hi from El Salvador, Latin America. I went to Japan twice as a tourist and was amazing. At the same time, I observed how Japanese people are and always wondered about their routine life. This kind of content is great because you provide us with different points of view about Japan. Many tourists have romantized many countries, and that is not real. Thanks for your time taking and editing those videos.
SD, good to watch your vlog in Japan. The problem is almost same everywhere. Do not be stressed. Have communication and try your best before you both carry on with this sort of gap. It is not going to be of any help anywhere and solve the situation. Try to give time from both and communicate with a baby step. I am sure that this will come to a good going again. No one is perfect and both are grateful to each other. That is why you settled down with your loved one and there is no intention of not loving each other. I suggest that as time pass by , you forget your main goal of settling down with a partner. As you water your plant, same to your relationship always. Keep it alive and this will update in your life and share what is going on. In this way, it will lighten up many of problems and stress related stuffs in life. Just a pure suggestion and it is normal. Keep rocking and be always positive.Enjoy life and it is once. Once you are not there, then it is end of the chapter. No more tears. Do what you can while you are alive. That is it. Cheers.
I've been married to my highschool sweetheart for 39 years and I've always gone by the old saying Happy Wife Happy Life. Talk to her and see if you can find out what is bothering her and don't let your stress from work cause you to be angry with her. Have a date night with her and go have some fun together. Good luck, I enjoy your vlogs.
As a woman who watches all of your videos, may I offer some suggestions for your family and yourself? Remember what drew you both together. It can be quite lonely on both of you since responsibility gets in the way. Could you both plan to do some things together? Go out and eat as a family to save her from cooking. Do something TOGETHER and just connect. Remind yourself of something you both like and plan a date night if possible. She sounds sad and we say things we shouldn't as cries for help sometimes. Japan culture is not the best at communication despite its other beautiful and wonderful features. Remind her of why you fell in love. Tell her when you think she looks beautiful. Tell her when you appreciate something she is doing or done. Connect with one another again in some shared things you both enjoy. Don't focus on recording any of it as you said she was uncomfortable with youtube, and I can understand. People can be jerks on here and it requires a thick skin to put yourself out there. Finally, you both live the frustrations of your responsibility. Bond over it instead of letting it tear you apart. You said you envy the people who look so happy in this video. We often envy things we want so I say to you make a plan for yourself and include your family in making that happen. Its so hard when kids are young. Women lose who they are sometimes in motherhood. Love her and let her see what she means to you more openly when she is NOT angry. Things can get better. Take action now to fix it.
Thank you for watching my video! I appreciate your comment. Your comment is great. I was very moved. It seems that there are still many things I can do. I will do them one by one. It will take time though. As you say, Japanese people are not good at communication. I am especially not good at communication.
Im from the UK and people here think Japan looks like the perfect country to live which it is in some ways but without big money life can be hard and tedious no matter which country you live.
Thank you for watching my video! I want to be better today than I was yesterday. I want to keep moving forward. Ryoma Sakamoto, a historical figure that Japanese people love the most, said that he would die as fast as he could, even if it meant being in a ditch. I also want to keep moving forward and growing until the very moment of my death.
Hi,thank you for sharing yet another amazing video. I personally think private matters with personal affairs should be resolved at home if it can be. I look forward to more of your videos.
when she not in a mood or you're having a fight for any reason, just walk away. take her out regularly. movie, eat out, small stuff can help you balance life.
I feel so old. When I was a little girl, about 4 years old, I had a Tamagotchi. I'm 34 now. I have an unopened Tamagotchi that I will give to one of my children when they are older. 😂
У нее домашняя рутина у вас своя офисная.Постарайтесь в выходные сходить вместе куда нибудь вне дома.Это сближает и дает развеятся.Сделайте небольшой подарок ,напишите записочку о том что любите ее.Все в ваших руках.Дерзайте!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Pan martwi się po sprzecze z żoną a żona martwi się,że już późno a Pan nie wraca z pracy. Dziękuję za piękny film z nocnego Tokio. Nowoczesna architektura i te zaczarowane ogrody na dachu emanujące ciepłem. Jest jednak coś w czym byłoby mi się trudno znaleźć,to ograniczenie kontaktu z ludźmi,np.przy zamawianiu jedzenia przez tablet. Wolałabym zamówić u kelnera,to tak emocjonalnie cieplej. No cóż wyrosłam w odmiennej kulturze. Myślę,że niezależnie od tego wszyscy potrzebujemy ciepła i akceptacji. Czy Jokohama jest położna daleko od Tokio? Ile czasu dziennie zabiera Panu dojazd do pracy? Pozdrawiam.🇵🇱
Awww so sorry about you and your wife. Just curious, I see you go out to eat a lot and go to the store to buy what you like, do you ever take your wife out to eat or on a date of some sort? Do you ever see something at the store and think my wife would like this and surprise her? Doesn’t have to be expensive but some times it is the small gestures that mean the most. 😊I didn’t hear you say you loved your wife. I’m sorry but cooking and cleaning does not make a marriage. thank you for sharing this with us, I know that couldn’t have been easy for you.
Thank you for watching my video! You always leave comments. I can only read a part of your comments. I need to learn more about women. I don't seem to have enough compassion.
Realmente aprecio mucho todo tu trabajo y esfuerzo a cada vídeo porque se que está hecho con mucho cariño y amor pero sobretodo se nota lo mucho que estás trabajando para mejorar cada vez más, realmente estoy muy agradecida por todo lo que trabajas y la dedicación a cada vídeo es algo de lo que estoy muy agradecida, realmente disfruté mucho de tu vídeo hoy también y también me gustaron mucho ambos sitios son demasiado hermosos y es muy hermoso poder ir allí y disfrutar tanto de un delicioso plato como de un delicioso postre mientras observas la hermosa vista que de verdad es realmente muy hermosa y demasiado relajante, me relajan demasiado las vistas desde las azoteas creo que una hermosa vista es algo de lo que siempre estaré agradecida porque me relajan demasiado y es un hermoso lugar para pasar en pareja o con amigos y familiares, espero que lo hayas disfrutado mucho 💖💖🥰 lamento mucho que hayas tenido una pelea con tu esposa en parte se ques es horrible y es muy triste pero estoy segura que todo se va solucionar, las peleas en parejas y parejas casadas son muy comunes pero también es depende la personalidad de ambas personas no sabría cómo decirlo pero a pesar de lo difícil que parezca y aunque haya sido por algo sin importancia y sea algo agotador lo cual es muy entendible que sucede recorda que todo va a estar bien y creo que si aunque no quieran hablar porque estén enojados los dos, lo mejor es que intenten hablar o salgan un dia para pasar tiempo para remediar esa situación, no soy muy buena dando consejos pero creo que seria algo muy linda que le recuerdes a tu esposa lo muy agradecido y feliz que estas por tenerla a tu lado y que ambos se quieren a pesar de las peleas, son personas y creo que seria muy bueno que lo hablen y se recuerden que a pesar de las peleas que tengan por más que no tengan importancia siempre recuerden que pase lo que pase siempre contarán con el apoyo mutuo y recordar que siempre estarán a su lado cuando lo necesiten, no soy muy buena dando consejos porque no conozco su situación romántica pero espero que funcione y que todo salga bien estoy segura que todo se arreglará y espero que ambos se encuentren muy bien al igual que su hijo y hayan tenido un hermoso día, que tengan una hermosa noche y un hermoso comienzo de semana, cuidense mucho y mantenganse siempre saludables,no olviden mantenerse siempre hidratados y cuidense mucho del clima frío,les deseo lo mejor y que siempre sean muy felices, mucho ánimo y gracias por siempre dar lo mejor de vos en cada vídeo, espero que todo salga bien 🥰❤🤗
¡Gracias por ver mi vídeo! Siempre me das comentarios. Estoy muy agradecido. tu consejo es genial. Me quedé impresionado. Tengo mucha curiosidad sobre qué tipo de persona eres. Cosas como su edad, trabajo, pasatiempos, estado civil, etc. No tengo que responder estas preguntas porque se refieren a tu privacidad, pero eres muy interesante para mí.
@@samurai-daddy no tienes que agradecerme de verdad estoy muy orgullosa de ti y de todo lo que haces a pesar de lo difícil que es la vida sigues adelante y con una actitud más positiva, yo sé que todo va a salir muy bien y que las cosas con tu esposa se van a solucionar de verdad a pesar de que las peleas en la parejas casadas son difíciles e incluso duelen nunca dudes de que te ama de verdad lo digo 💕🤗 muchas gracias por tu comentario, yo tengo 20 años,.mis pasatiempos son escuchar música, salir a caminar y hacer ejercicio tanto en mi casa como en el parque cuando me siento muy estresada escribo sobre como me siento o miro una serie para no pensar en mis problemas y no tengo pareja todavía no estoy con nadie estoy soltera y voy a estudiar licenciatura en enfermería y tengo planeado después que acabe la carrera estudiar la especialidad ginecoobstetra (me interesa mucho y es una carrera muy hermosa) pero a para eso primero tengo que tener una base en la enfermería, voy a empezar el año que viene antes del examen tengo unos cursos y después viene el examen estoy nerviosa pero se que me va a ir muy bien. En cuanto a mi soy una persona que le gusta ayudar a los demás y poder escucharlos y ayudarlos cuando lo necesiten saber que siempre pueden contar conmigo y que siempre estare aquí para escucharlos y espero que ellos también sean asi conmigo,no tengo amigos soy una persona que le gusta estar sola pero también es para poder tener mas tiempo para mí y relajarme y si algún día llegó hacer amigos espero ser yo misma tuve muchos problemas con mis compañeras (que las consideraba amigas) pero eso me quiero tomar mi tiempo para encontrar a esas amistades que si sean honestas lo mismo también para cuando tenga pareja quiero encontrar a ese alguien especial pero todavía estoy trabajando en mi cuidado y mi amor propio también algo que me gusta es darle la confianza a las personas de poder contarme sus problemas pero si no quieren o no sienten preparados está todo bien no los voy a presionar para mí lo que me importa es escuchar a esa persona y saber que cuenta conmigo para lo que necesite algo que me olvide decir soy una persona que al principio no dice nada y parece seria pero cuando me empezas a conocer mas suelo hablar mucho creo que eso es todo y vos ? Si no te sentís bien no te preocupes no tienes que sentirte obligado a responderme 💕🤗 espero que todo salga muy bien y te ayude mucho como te digo no soy buena dando consejos sobretodo por un tema de que es algo de ustedes dos pero ese es mi pequeño consejo que como ya te dije espero que te funcione y que todo se solucione y quiero que sepas que siempre estaré aquí para escucharte y apoyarte siempre, mucho ánimo 🥰🤗
Gracias por responder mi pregunta. Estoy muy feliz de conocerte. Tengo más del doble de tu edad. No veía UA-cam cuando tenía 20 años. Creo que serías una gran enfermera. ¿Tu forma de pensar está influenciada por alguien cercano a ti, una figura histórica o alguien a quien respetas? ¿O crees en algún tipo de religión? Parece que tienes grandes ideas. Puede que no haya podido responder a tu pregunta. Es posible que no pueda entender tu comentario correctamente porque traduje tu español usando Google Translate. Lo lamento. Eres una persona muy interesante.
@@samurai-daddy es un placer, no te preocupes no tienes que disculparte, yo también estoy muy feliz de conocerte para responder tu pregunta te seré honesta nunca me hicieron ese tipo de pregunta y no tengo nadie cercano a mi fueron personas que me enseñaron la importancia de apreciar cada cosa aunque sea la más pequeña en la vida, fueron más que personas conocidas fueron personas que me han enseñado a traves de sus experiencias y por sus conocimientos incluso de parte tambien de mis papás, la mayoría de las cosas las aprendí de ellos pero nunca tuve una persona que haya sido mi modelo a seguir o me haya inculcado esto, si te soy sincera y esto es muy personal yo nací con una enfermedad que en ese entonces no era muy conocida y habia probabilidades de que si no recibía un donante de transplante hepático de hígado ( la enfermedad afecta al hígado y también el desarrollo inmunitario, tengo un pequeño retraso debido a mi enfermedad) gracias a dios estoy viva y tomo una medicación de por vida y voy al hospital, creci llendo al hospital desde los 2 años y medio que voy, es una larga historia que admito que me duele pero entendí que es mi historia y es mi vida y aunque me duela e incluso de chica les decía a mis padres que odiaba esto tengo que estar agradecida y estoy muy agradecida de haberme salvado y haber hecho una vida "normal" a pesar de mi historia pero en fin contestando a tu pregunta, aprendí a valorar a las personas por como son y no por lo que tienen desde muy chica crecí con esta forma de expresar este agradecimiento del cuál muchos no son concientes de eso y no te sientas mal créeme que a pesar de todo este dolor yo luche para salir adelante e incluso sigo adelante y trabajaré muy duro para ser mejor el dia de mañana, muchas gracias por ese hermoso comentario 🥰💕🤗 lamento mucho si es largo el mensaje, vos también eres una persona muy interesante y muy valiente y yo se que vos podés 🥰🤗
Gracias por escribir honestamente sobre tus asuntos privados. Tus padres son increíbles. Tus padres deben estar muy contentos de que ahora tengas 20 años sanos. Tu hígado puede ser la razón por la que quieres ser enfermera. Eres maravilloso. Todos en mi familia están sanos. Lo apreciamos. Estás muy interesado en Japón. Hoy en día, puedes obtener mucha información en las redes sociales. Me encantaría que disfrutaras viendo mis vídeos.
Tokyo - what a fascinating city! I wish I could go there for one time. And it is so clean and tidy! Big cities in Germany are full of dirt. Once more your video was very interesting. I have a suggestion: why don´t you invite your wife for dinner at the weekend? I think this would be a surprise and a joy for you both. Greetings from Germany, sayonara.
Salve. Eu e minha esposa assiste seus vídeos, minha esposa pediu para gravar uma loja de roupa em geral usadas em Tóquio, nas Cidades pequenas interior são mais Furui.
Obrigado por assistir meu vídeo! Shimokitazawa, no Japão, é popular entre os japoneses como uma cidade com lojas de roupas vintage. Eu quero ir algum dia.
Happy wife, happy life? Hope things will work out between you and your wife. Btw, I’ve realized the digital menu order system in Japan has many foreign languages to choose from; from Japanese, English, Chinese, Korean, but the Chinese language selection is often presented in Simplified Chinese and no options for Traditional Chinese. It’s interesting to note that as someone who uses Traditional form, I’d rather select English in this case. 😂
Hello samurai daddy ....don't get mad or stressed by having a fight with your wife....remember arguments and disputes are part and parcel of a married life....and you two are different persons wifh different personality 😊....in marriage , there is a give and take relationship...ask yourself...are you always giving or always taking....settled it immediately😊....talk to her if she 's in a calm manner.
🇮🇹ciao, grazie per il filmato. Mi dispiace per il momento che stai attraversando ma sai tutto il mondo è paese! Quando sei sposato è normale che ci siano momenti di stanchezza, ma tutto passa. Buona notte!🇮🇹
Hello! First of all, thank you for your valuable videos. I learn a lot about daily life in Japan through them. If you'll allow me, family is the most valuable cell in a group and, from my own experience, I know how much it hurts to be absent, so try talking to your wife to see what's bothering her. Take her to a bar, buy her favorite cake and try to get her to open up and tell you. Saving a relationship is saving yourself. Changing the subject, I see foreigners buying abandoned houses in Japan (akiyas). Is that really a good deal?
OK the place suggested may not be ideal. But the intended idea is good! Please, talk with your wife (and perhaps listen to her more than you talk yourself) in peace and quiet. Try not to complain! You can say something nice about her cooking, and how nice it is to eat together with her. Say like that you are the happiest in these moment and you missed her when you were at work. Well... please, anyone with ideas, please, chip in and come with ideas to help!@@AndreyPhiladelphia
Thank you for watching my video! I appreciate your advice. I don't know much about foreigners buying vacant houses in Japan. For foreigners who are interested in Japanese life and DIY, vacant houses in Japan may be a great deal due to the exchange rate.
Hi. I’ve been married 35 years and hope that you and your wife can work out your differences. When you talk, each of you should try to not be accusatory, for example saying things like “you always”, or “you never”. Also, try not to jump to conclusions as the other is speaking. Maybe she needs a break, or an outlet separate from home making. Of course, I don’t know your family details, but stay positive. A successful marriage requires hard work. Work at it just as you would any other endeavor that’s important to you. Every day will not be roses and sunshine. Life happens. Hang in there!😊
I am English, I have been married two times, with no children. I am now single again, 74 years old and happy. Like you, I worked in the center of the capital city, in my case London, and commuted from home to work and back on the subway. I did this for 40 years, leaving home early and coming home late. I sympathise with your sadness and understand it well. Please keep making these videos, they are very interesting and show to me the human side of living and working in Japan.
Hi, sorry to read that you argue with your wife.. try to talk each other honestly for the good of your relationship and your son try to repair it maybe you can do something she whishes or like as a couple do the dinner, give her flowers just because to show her how you care and love her like the other day with the pudding from Kamakura, hope everythig goes fine, thanks for share greatins from Barcelona Spain 😊
If people love each other, they take care of them! In your situation there is no balance in the "taking care" upto me. You work hard and appreciate her a lot. You gave up your bed and sleep on the floor...Making your partner's breakfast/diner/lunch is a minimum. Please take care and don't let people hurt you or take advantage of you(no matter who it is!).
Sometimes women get angry over small things because there is a deeper problem with her and the small things just make her cranky Ask her what is troubling her and let her know you’re there to listen. Perhaps something is upsetting her, maybe she’s tired of doing all the things at home or she wants more time with you. I hope things get better :)
Thank you for watching my video! Your advice is simple and easy to understand. I learned a lot from it. I didn't really understand the feelings of women.
Good evening to you. I do not always comment as tend to often watch you on my tv. I thought your latest video may be a way of you finding out from your followers what suggestions they may have to assist you and your wife. However, as an older married lady of many years I thought you may enjoy another comment which you may or may not choose to act upon. I have only heard your side of things so my reply is purely based on my own experiences based on that. Also I am not sure if you both have family near by who can support you both with child care. I hear what you are saying about your wife and her anger and what appears to be mood swings. I also understand that you are living in Japan which is very culturally different to where I live in the west. However, I think your wife may be feeling somewhat frustrated at being a Mother with a young child. Possibly suffering from depression. It is hard being a woman at home all day with a young child. It may be that she has hopes and inspirations for her future and sees no way to act on them. I understand why you choose to stay out. However, when I saw you on the roof terrace I thought it would have being lovely to have been there with your wife having a lovely romantic evening out. Though this also requires child care and surplus money. Whilst you no doubt also feel frustrated as working hard, commuting and feeling stress and pressure from that. I think you should sit down with her and talk to each other. Hopes for the future. Maybe she would like to train and see a future when she can go out and work and meet people. Possible starting exams on line towards this. As well as doing something fulfilling for her. Maybe she could start a hobby, painting, sewing. Or possibly work on her own utube channel sharing cooking and her daily life. As well as life with a toddler. Incorporating her new hobbies. Also are you both able to go out on a weekend for little treats. Again, I appreciate this can be difficult due to finances with a young family. I hope you can both get together and work on this now. The longer this goes on the more likely you will both be unhappy together and always stay so. Whereas you should create a fun and happy household not only for your individual selves but also for your son. I wish you all the best for your future relationship. Life is so short. I am assuming you each loved it other once and had fun and enjoyed being with each other. Hopefully you will be able to re kindle that spark. Take care :)
Thank you for watching my video! I was touched by your comment. Your advice is very helpful. I hope my wife will create a UA-cam channel called samurai mammy. If she can give her opinion there, you can make an even more fair judgment. Thank you for your comment.
We will be married thirty three years in two months. We are mostly good but little things he does upsets me still. This evening as i was praying i asked God to change me where i need to change and about changing him i leave that in your hands and i meant it. I know when i say hurtful things to my husband it damages me too. I know we want to swing back when we get hurt but it's only momentary satisfaction. The Bible says to forgive and not let the sun go down on your wrath. It's not easy but over the years we've been getting better at it and through prayers. We are two different cultures. Also different personalities, he is calm and i used to be fiery, impulsive. Thanks to God his calming personality has calmed me down and we are happy together now and love each other. Never would have thought that years ago. We have one son. Hope it works out for you 😊.
Thank you for watching my video! I appreciate your words. You must have experienced a lot in your 33 years. I will do my best too. I also have one son. My wife and I will cherish our son.
I am sorry things were upsetting for you and your wife. I’ve been married 40 years and I’m pretty sure I’ve had my share of thoughts about not cooking or cleaning 😂 When the family was young I did all the chores because my husband was a career man and was in call 24/7 and so my job and my kids were 2nd for him at that time. Now that we’re older and retired he does a lot at home. When we argue I say the least and it’s because I am very capable of hurtful words and to me it’s not worth it to get myself upset like that. My husband always makes a point to hug me even when I’m still upset and we so not carry on for more than a few hours at the most. In this crazy world it would be a shame to have your last moment with someone be something of regret. Have a date night …even if at home… buy some take out food you know she likes and surprise her so she doesn’t have to cook dinner …have son go to sleep early 🎉😂… life is too short to be upset. I grew up very much raised in Japanese culture where I wasn’t allowed to show too much emotion but I’m a failure at that 😂…I hope you will fail too and be able to express things In your heart …it will free your spirit ❤
Thank you for watching my video! Your comments are very interesting. I admire the way you control yourself. I think it's wisdom born from years of accumulated experience. I'm blessed that I'm not as busy as your husband. I think there's more I can do for my family. I'll do my best. I'd be happy if you continue to watch my videos and encourage me from time to time.
@ growing up I always respected my dad because he was very straight forward…no hidden messages but my mother was different. She didn’t say what was really on her mind and it was always trying to figure out what was actually in her mind. She still does that today …she will say “don’t get me anything” and then wonder why you don’t get her anything. 😵💫🤣 Maybe we women tend to do that …never lose your spark 🔥 for life …and remember she may want to be your spark in life still but won’t say that. 😊
Marriage is a hard process but talking and keeping communication between you and wife is important Try to talk with out arguing and both explain what is going on to be able to go ahead in your married life Take care and see you in next video ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thanks for the nice video! Married life is difficult and couples need a lot of patience. In my opinion, try spending more time with your wife and let her know that she is still special to you. You should also give her some personal time to relax without all the everyday responsibilities she has to do. I hope things get better in the future!
Вітаю Samurai Daddy! Мені дуже шкода, що Ви посварилися з Вашою дружиною! На превеликий жаль, таке трапляється у житті. В таких випадках варто проаналізувати, що є глибинною причиною сварок, особливо якщо вони трапляються все частіше і частіше. Судячи з Вашої розповіді, маю сміливість припустити, що Ваша дружина втомилася від рутини повсякденного життя, і їй вкрай необхідний ковток свіжого повітря. Мабуть, було б добре, якби Ви влаштували якусь несподівану подорож для себе та Вашої дружини у ті місця, де Ви разом раніше бували і де відчували себе щасливими. А ще жінки дуже люблять приємні сюрпризи. Можливо Ваша дружина вже довгий час мріє про якійсь жіночий аксесуар. Отже, було б добре, якби Ви цей аксесуар купили би, і подарували би своїй дружині у той час, коли Ви відчуєте, що вона знову готова з Вами посваритися. Повірте моєму досвіду, такий сюрприз зруйнує будь-яку сварку😁. Ну і ще хочу додати. Раніше, коли я жив разом зі своєю дружиною та сином, в моїй родині також траплялися сварки. Але зараз, коли моя дружина та син далеко від мене (через війну в Україні я наполіг на тому, щоб вони поїхали до Ірландії), нам згадуються тільки гарні моменти нашого спільного життя Щиро бажаю Вам та Вашій родині усього найкращого!
Дякую за перегляд мого відео! ти чудова людина! Дивні стосунки між чоловіком і жінкою. Хоча є такі люди, як ви та ваша родина, які не можуть зустрітися один з одним через війну, є також люди, які вирішили розійтися. У Японії постійно повідомляють про ситуацію в Україні. Бажаю всього найкращого.
@samurai-daddy Дякую за Вашу високу оцінку мене та побажання усього найкращого! У свою чергу щиро бажаю Вам прийняти вірне та мудре рішення стосовно Вашого подружнього життя! Буду молитися за Вас
Wow, how sad for you, I think you should talk to your wife and try to improve the relationship. Help with housework more, eat with the family and talk happily to each other. I know it's difficult because of a busy work life. Stress in general requires cooperation from both sides. Good luck, my friend
I’m sorry, when you said something about when your wife is angry you can’t control her, for me it’s a sad thing. It’s a sad thing because you think you have to control her. When your wife is angry or upset to you, all you have to do is say sorry for what she feels and hug her. Woman need to feel that she is being heard. Sometimes when woman complained about something or tell you about something, they don’t expect for any solution. Just by listening carefully and show that you are interested to what she say, will be very helpful to her and she will feel loved. When she is calm down, try to say about what you feel. Don’t wait your wife to make a move. When woman feel that they are loved, heard and appreciated, they will give you respect. Good luck
السلام عليكم أنا مسلم من العراق اليابان بلد جميل واصبر على زوجتك فإن النساء قوارير من كلمه تنكسر ومن كلمه ترضى أسأل الله يجعل بينكم الموده ولرحمه انصحك خذ لها هديه
Before marriage is wonderful! Then, with the arrival of children, things change drastically... We have to work, take care of household chores, school, extra activities. Swimming, for example... The husband and the wife who work must have a support structure... Society and behavior are the same!!! Here in the country where I live! It is very difficult to reconcile! Therefore, try to also improve your attitude of communicating and helping! I hope things improve!
Dear Samurai dad, arguing is useless but dialogue is... my husband and I talk a lot and we discuss things that aren't right... communicating, speaking with an open heart lightens the soul, unfortunately if your wife is dissatisfied, anything will bother her you do ☺️ woo your wife make her feel important... even with a flower 💐💐💐 I wish you a good evening Milan 9.42pm👱♀️🇮🇹💐💐
Thank you for watching my video! I appreciate your comments from Italy. I hear that Italians are very expressive in their love. I have a lot to learn from Italians.
Hi Samurai dad, let's say that we are sunny, cheerful and we like to interact with others, it is difficult to find people in Italy who don't smile or sometimes don't communicate too much😄😄😄 With your sweetheart ♥️, think about building a pyramid every day, placing a brick or a puzzle, looking for the piece that fits... you'll see that everything will fall into place, I'm sure of it... look at the wedding ring you're wearing on the finger, it's a union, a love and a difficulty every day but overcoming it together will be more easy😄😄💪💪👱♀️🇮🇹✌️🇯🇵@@samurai-daddy
You’re a good guy samuraidaddy さん, it’s difficult to control your emotions when someone says hurtful things like that. I hope she realises that she’s also very lucky too that she’s married to you🥹
It's nice that you appreciate what your wife does, but maybe tell it directly to her and not to us 🙂. I know that the Japanese avoid speaking directly, but maybe you have other options to show it to her? Maybe flowers? Or a day together? I don't know, maybe I'm advising wrong, because European culture is different from Asian culture:) But I think that women all over the world are unanimous in certain views
Thank you for watching my video! I appreciate your comment. You're right. Many people have commented on this, but I think your comment is the most simple and correct.
A couple of tips. There is a caveat to this though. I'm a gaijin, but used to live in Japan and had a Japanese live-in girlfriend. First, never discuss work when you get home....unless it's catastrophic...like you lost your job. If you talk about work, you're taking it home with you. Second, pick one of the daily chores and it's yours. With my girlfriend I told her, "pick cooking, or pick cleaning, but not both." She picked cooking. I did all the cleaning including clothes. Why? Because I didn't want her to feel like a maid. Pick an activity that requires both of you to leave the house and kid at least one night a week. Two if possible. (My ex had two kids). Get a baby sitter and just eat the cost. Third, tell her daily that she's hot. She's sexy. Random acts of flirtation. Be "un-Japanese". My ex told me in the end she loved the attention even though she told me to stop every time, but said she secretly wanted more. If she has friends, make sure she can get out with them two or three times a month. It can be fore lunch, dinner, shopping, whatever. She has to have her own life outside of the apartment, outside of your relationship. I insisted my girlfriend do this. I would have married her, but I had a very confrontational argument with her ex. He stopped me outside of work one day. He was waiting for me. In short, he said he'd have me 86'd. Given that he owned three nightclubs and hung out with a seedy crowd of people, I had to take his threat with a level of seriousness. Living in Japan is great, but it can be a pressure cooker at times. I've never felt as a live as I did when living there. That said, I saw a lot of people get on the gerbil wheel and spin their lives away. Oh, I also never had a TV in the house. When we had down time, we were talking and doing something together as a family. None of us could just zone out watching TV. I hope you can find a nugget or two of help in my comments.
Hello just subscribe to your channel eating delicious food journey around different places enjoy life that is a blessing so take care of yourself and your family stay healthy and safe 🥰🙏
Dude I get it I've been married for 34 years. My wife likes to argue over stupid stuff. I would love to come to live in Japan the cost of living here in the states is ridiculous. Our electric bill was $460 for one month.
Caro Samurai daddy, da italiana vorrei darti un consiglio, guardando i video, vedo che vivi una vita come se fossi single, prova a coinvolgere di più’ tua moglie e tuo figlio. Probabilmente si sente sola, vive una vita monotona e questo potrebbe crearle una sorta di frustrazione. Uscite insieme, quando sei libero dal lavoro, regalale dei fiori, sii più’ presente. Vedo che siete molto tecnologici ma noto anche molta solitudine e freddezza tra di voi, ognuno vive nel suo microcosmo, probabilmente frutto dell’educazione che avete ricevuto da piccoli. Visto che mi hai detto che sei stato in Italia, prova a comportarti un po’ come noi, calorosi, accoglienti, ti auguro di cuore di risolvere il problema con tua moglie, non ti isolare sennò’ peggiori la situazione. Ciao👋🏻🫶
Grazie per aver guardato il mio video! Grazie per il tuo meraviglioso consiglio Utilizzerò il tuo consiglio per cambiare il mio comportamento da ora in poi. Grazie per il tuo consiglio
Its unfortunate but part of marriage. It can get stressful, especially with day to day life and stress. How about going out for nice dinner together and discuss things openly and honestly, before more resentment builds up. I wish you all the best.👍
Sometimes you just need to take a break from each other instead of going out together to talk, talk, talk... Just no. Stay for your damn self for a while and learn to be okay with your own thoughts.
Internet, rapproche les gens éloignés mais éloigne les gens proche de nous. Fuire la réalité ne résout pas les problèmes. Tu as 13k vues mais malgré cela tu es encore plus seul , ton enfant est seul et ta femme aussi. Il serait peut être temps d'être proche de ta famille et d' avoir une discussion pour résoudre tes problèmes. Tu te sentiras alors moins seul ! ^^
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Sometimes married people start feeling like they are in a rut.. its the same everyday, eat, work, go home, work, clean house, etc. Maybe hire a sitter and take your wife to the roof top garden. I know i would like that. My husband never took me anywhere and always expected me to not only work full time but cook clean and take care of all the housework and care for the child. Our marriage did not last. It is good you are grateful for your wife, so..show her how grateful you are! I wish you well
Going through same thing as you. My husband did not allow me to work at all. Through the 9 years of marriage, I receive nothing from him, not even a simple gift, not even a word of appreciation. We are going through divorce right now.
Thank you for watching my video! I am very grateful that you shared your case. I respect my wife's opinion as much as possible. I will accept whatever life she wants to live.
Tienes razón, no es lo mismo trabajar a tiempo completo que trabajar medio tiempo, encargarte del hijo y la escuela y las tareas y las clases extra ó actividades extra que a furturo van a surgir, encima ir por todo lo de la comida y cocinar y lavar los trastes y lavar ropa y tenderla y luego meterla y doblarla guardarla y colgarla ó hasta planchar, y asear la casa, trapear, limpiar baño y polvo y no sé si también se encargue de la basura. Ojalá logre este matrimonio equilibrarse.
Same here too. I am the only breadwinner. Work full time, coming into my 60s. Our culture is we think marriage is for life. I want to get out but do not have confidence to do so.
I get nothing from my husband but he got everything. A family, money, no financial responsibilities but all assets earned from my hard work is 50:50.
My only consolation is that when you die, you don't take anything. Nothing.
Thank you for showing your life
Thank you for watching my video! I appreciate it. I will continue to do my best to make interesting videos.
I normally don't comment on vlog but something compelled me to do so this time.
I know different cultures have different life styles and work ethics. In any culture women like to know that they are loved and appreciated. They need to hear it. Avoiding her and staying out to avoid an argument only makes matters worse because it'll only make her feel like you want nothing to do with her at all. Women need little reminders they are loved and appreciated after all they do for their family. Men do too. You should surprise her sometime with a nice dinner at that beautiful rooftop garden restaurant you showed on your video. Bring her home some flowers or cook her a nice meal. Here in America even if we have different sleep schedules couples sleep together and the kids are in separate rooms. We never slept with my parents. It's the closeness that is comforting sleeping next to your spouse after a long day. The only time they sleep separately is if there are difficulties in the marriage but stay together for the children's sake. Your son is young but kids pick up on the tension in the household and it does effect them. Take time out to talk to each other and really be open to each other's feelings. Love is strong and does conquer difficulties if it is worked on together as a couple.
WISE WORDS.
And perhaps, in Japanese culture, there is a specific or unique love language, things that married people say and do to each other to show love and care and respect, that we from other cultures don't know about...
In that case, I strongly suggest that Samurai Daddy - san be kind enough and use all those cultural ways to show his wife love!❤
There may also be different expectations on marriage life in different cultures, but I do believe that people basically have the same needs of love, appreciation and attention.
I have followed Samurai Daddy - san for quite some time now, and I think that I can fairly safely say this:
His relationship with his family is deteriorating the more time he spends on being a UA-camr.
There is, after all, only 24 hours in a day and night.
Thank you for watching my video! I appreciate your comment. Your comment has been engraved in my heart. I still lack life experience. I need to study from now on. When I judge that UA-cam is a bad influence for my family, I will of course stop posting on UA-cam. I thank you.
@@samurai-daddy I don't think you should give up on your channel but maybe include your family more since it is about life in Japan. You don't have to show their faces. Maybe even see if your wife is willing to share how she cooks meals or does the shopping. Maybe a video about what her days are like while you work. Do it as a family thing and do your solo filming in areas in the city on your commute to work, lunch or to the store. If there is a day you have to yourself and you go somewhere to relax. 😀
True...
But I'm afraid his wife is not happy to share her private life with other people or use her precious time on UA-cam. It was rather obvious from the beginning...
And ever since beginning with youtube, their relationship has seemed to decline.
Pushing his wife to embrace and partake in his UA-cam endeavour, when she so obviously doesn't like it, nor want it, would most likely make her feel even less understood, her opinion and values beiing even less respected and creating an even farther rift between them!!!
I would definitely advise caution to push this idea any further...
Instead, I'd ask his wife, if him spending less or no time on UA-cam and doing nice things together instead, would make her happier.
Give her a chance to give input to how to spend a happy time together❤❤
Because I feel, from this last video, that this is what Samurai Daddy - san innermost wants... to be happily with his wife... really feeling so sad to be looking on the happy people and couples having a pleasant time around him... and he not...
I'd invite the wife for a night and dinner at the roof-top garden... and a peaceful, slow and romantic stroll, admiring the view descending those flight of stairs...
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as a beginning... @@melissa2957-mc
As long as no names are mentioned, @samurai-daddy can still keep his life and that of his family, private. He doesn't even show his face, so that alone, is alright for him to vent.
"A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers"
Thank you for watching my video! Very nice words!
I'm sorry to hear that you and your wife are going through a rough time right now. It sounds like you're both feeling a lot of stress and frustration. I know it's not easy, but try to be patient and understanding with each other. It's also important to communicate openly and honestly about your feelings.
Again thanks for your amazing Tokyo travel guides! They've been super helpful, I was just in Tokyo in September and Osaka in November, and your videos helped me discover so many hidden gems and local favorites that many tourists miss. I'm planning to visit Tokyo and Mount Fuji with my mom over New Year's, and those restaurants in Shinjuku are definitely on my list. Keep up the great work!
Thank you for watching my video! I will try to cherish my family. I hope your trip to Tokyo is enjoyable. Thank you for your comment!
I hope you and your wife talk and work over together what’s the issue. The most important thing is to really listen to each other. Any relationship takes time and effort, the more important the relationship, the more time it takes.
Thank you for watching my video! Thank you for your comments! I will take my time to cherish my family.
I really appreciate the fact that you take time out shooting and then editing the video for us out of your busy schedule. I know the work standards in Japan are very high and people have to really grind every day there, so I appreciate your efforts to produce such content for us even more!
Thank you for watching my video! We're all going to be okay because you're watching my video. Thank you so much!
Thanks for sharing your personal life on video I love to see Japanese life and culture sorry that you are having some problems in your marriage life is short and it’s important to make it a happy one if possible Japanese life is very busy but I’m sure with little change slowly things will change you must have the willingness to make the changes and it can take a lot of effort to begin with but once you make a small effort things will begin to change my son is married to a lovely Japanese lady they have 2 children one boy age 9 years old and a girl age 6 years old they are busy both parents go to work but they always take time to eat dinner together and they sleep in the same room they are a close family they go on outings as a family and usually take a day at Disney land every year my son is involved in all of the children’s activities and contributed to helping out with household chores and caring for the children both my son and his wife have hobbies they enjoy my son is artistic and he also likes to take long bicycle rides my daughter in law megumi socialises with her family and friends this is how they live and it works for them every couple has to find what works for them to have a happy life in your case perhaps you can get some advice and begin to make changes very soon I’m sure you both love your son and you have many good aspects of life to work with for a successful happy family thank you again for your lovely videos
Im from Thai,I love to watch your routine life in Tokyo ; working , shopping , eating til you going to bed.that make me learning and knowing the way of life a man living in the big city.
Thank you very much.👍🏻
The way you talk about quarrels with your wife and also praise your wife shows that you respect her.
I have seen all your videos and I think you are a very nice person.
Thank you for watching my video! I appreciate your words. I will keep thinking positively.
Thank you for sharing, I know it’s not easy especially in East Asian cultures where we don’t talk about these things. I admire your courage!
I would encourage you to listen deeply and attentively to your wife, often times there is more to what a person is saying than their words. Also, make sure to prioritize your relationship! Something my friends do is actually schedule time, almost like “meetings”, to talk with their spouse about how the marriage is going. If we deem it necessary at the workplace to communicate effectively with colleagues, why would home be any different? This also helps to reframe things as teammates vs the problem instead of you against each other. Best of luck!
W kazdym zwiazku najwazniejsza jest rozmowa, życzę dużo cierpliwości , jeszcze się taki nie urodził by wszystkimi dogodził, wyrzut emocji oczyszcza atmosferę
Dziękuję za obejrzenie mojego filmu! Dziękuję za twoją radę. Wierzę, że małżeństwo wymaga cierpliwości.
Byle to nie były burze z piorunami i gradobiciem.😊
Im quite sad about the story fight, but keep in mind that you are also doing great by being a good provider & a father as well, I guess😊. Sit down with your wife & have a talk, reconnect. Maybe she feels boredom since she stays at home doing same routine. I know you are a busy man but find time to be with your family at home or outside. Act fast so it will not take this situation longer. Hoping you will be okay with her🙏. Thank you for another travel video.
Thank you for watching my video! You are right. I appreciate your comment. Your words have encouraged me.
This is the second time I leave my comment to you. As I said earlier, you and your wife are both tired, stressed and lonely also. Get some flowers or small gifts to Make her feel your love and appreciation to her. Spend some time alone with her. When she understands your feelings, she will happy and you will too.
Greetings from Italy, to begin with! I believe that family relationships, in every part of the world are or are not quite the same... the discussions, the arguments... equally! Perhaps over time, life as a couple is lived with more tiredness, but I don't think that is the end of a relationship! In Italy we have a different work/family rhythm... but it's not that it is better! Less stress? Maybe... I wish you to peacefully resume your family life💐🇮🇹🇯🇵
Thanks for clearing the difference between Zaru and Mori Soba. I've always thought they're the same.
Hi from El Salvador, Latin America. I went to Japan twice as a tourist and was amazing. At the same time, I observed how Japanese people are and always wondered about their routine life. This kind of content is great because you provide us with different points of view about Japan. Many tourists have romantized many countries, and that is not real. Thanks for your time taking and editing those videos.
Thank you for watching my video! I would like to go to El Salvador someday too.
투어시켜주셔서 감사합니다~
New subscriber here from Canada 😊 thanks for sharing your video of Tokyo.. what a wonderful city so clean and vibrant nightlife
Thank you for watching my video! I want to show you more beautiful places in Tokyo.
Getting aromantic vacation for just only you two. You and your wife both are tired and stressed. It will help you both a lot.
Very good video Sir, Thank you!
We greatly benefit from your introspection. I hope things get better for you. However, the tour was awesome!
Thank you for watching my video! I appreciate your comments. Please look forward to more.
So nice to watch your videos. 😊
Thank you for watching my video! I appreciate your comments.
SD, good to watch your vlog in Japan. The problem is almost same everywhere. Do not be stressed. Have communication and try your best before you both carry on with this sort of gap. It is not going to be of any help anywhere and solve the situation. Try to give time from both and communicate with a baby step. I am sure that this will come to a good going again. No one is perfect and both are grateful to each other. That is why you settled down with your loved one and there is no intention of not loving each other. I suggest that as time pass by , you forget your main goal of settling down with a partner. As you water your plant, same to your relationship always. Keep it alive and this will update in your life and share what is going on. In this way, it will lighten up many of problems and stress related stuffs in life. Just a pure suggestion and it is normal. Keep rocking and be always positive.Enjoy life and it is once. Once you are not there, then it is end of the chapter. No more tears. Do what you can while you are alive. That is it. Cheers.
Family life it's complicated. Working isn't easy too. That's our existence. Don't worry, things will be ok with your wife, be patient! 🙏
Thank you for watching my video! You made me feel better.
We must live in this world wisely. I live in Thailand and went to Japan in 3 years ago.Japan are clean and good climate country.
I've been married to my highschool sweetheart for 39 years and I've always gone by the old saying Happy Wife Happy Life. Talk to her and see if you can find out what is bothering her and don't let your stress from work cause you to be angry with her. Have a date night with her and go have some fun together. Good luck, I enjoy your vlogs.
Thanks for 😊veido and thanks more for incredible view 💕 I really like this view ❤
Thank you for watching my video! I like this view too.
@samurai-daddy my pleasure ❤
New subscriber, from the USA.
Life in Japan is pachingko, Sapporo beer and ramen. Delicious!
Thank you for watching my video! Yes, that's right! Ramen restaurant hopping is my hobby.
Preciosas vistas me gusta sus videos
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@ น่ารักมาก ตอบกลับฉันเป็นภาษาไทย🙏🏼
As a woman who watches all of your videos, may I offer some suggestions for your family and yourself?
Remember what drew you both together. It can be quite lonely on both of you since responsibility gets in the way.
Could you both plan to do some things together? Go out and eat as a family to save her from cooking.
Do something TOGETHER and just connect. Remind yourself of something you both like and plan a date night if possible.
She sounds sad and we say things we shouldn't as cries for help sometimes.
Japan culture is not the best at communication despite its other beautiful and wonderful features.
Remind her of why you fell in love. Tell her when you think she looks beautiful. Tell her when you appreciate something she is doing or done. Connect with one another again in some shared things you both enjoy.
Don't focus on recording any of it as you said she was uncomfortable with youtube, and I can understand. People can be jerks on here and it requires a thick skin to put yourself out there.
Finally, you both live the frustrations of your responsibility. Bond over it instead of letting it tear you apart.
You said you envy the people who look so happy in this video. We often envy things we want so I say to you make a plan for yourself and include your family in making that happen.
Its so hard when kids are young. Women lose who they are sometimes in motherhood.
Love her and let her see what she means to you more openly when she is NOT angry.
Things can get better. Take action now to fix it.
Thank you for watching my video! I appreciate your comment. Your comment is great. I was very moved. It seems that there are still many things I can do. I will do them one by one. It will take time though. As you say, Japanese people are not good at communication. I am especially not good at communication.
@@samurai-daddy I wish you much success. May you and your family connect and discover the love that you both need in one another.
Food seems to be your emotional comfort in life. I guess you are not alone in that.
Thank you for watching my video! Yes, that's right.
Disaat marah, menenangkan pikiran adalah cara terbaik, supaya kemarahan tidak berlarut begitu lama, semoga anda dan istri selalu hidup bahagia
Thank you for watching my video! I appreciate your advice. I believe the future is bright.
結婚生活が続くと、自分の価値が認められていないと感じ、問題に対処する勇気が湧かないことがよくあります。ドイツでは現在、結婚カウンセリングやセラピーに行くことが推奨されています。❤
いつもコメントありがとう！ドイツでも結婚生活で悩んでいる人は多くいるのですね。
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Im from the UK and people here think Japan looks like the perfect country to live which it is in some ways but without big money life can be hard and tedious no matter which country you live.
thank you for great video. I want to know what motivates you or keeps you going every day in a competitive society?
Thank you for watching my video! I want to be better today than I was yesterday. I want to keep moving forward. Ryoma Sakamoto, a historical figure that Japanese people love the most, said that he would die as fast as he could, even if it meant being in a ditch. I also want to keep moving forward and growing until the very moment of my death.
صحه وعافيه لك لكن لاتهتم كثيراً وتتعب نفسيتك فكر كيف تصلح الأمور بينكم اتمنى لك راحة البال دائماً
شكرا لك على مشاهدة الفيديو الخاص بي! أعتقد أن عائلتي ستكون سعيدة.
Hi,thank you for sharing yet another amazing video. I personally think private matters with personal affairs should be resolved at home if it can be.
I look forward to more of your videos.
Thank you for watching my video! Yes, that's right! Look forward to the next one!
What is your camera model/type, with witch you make these videos?
Thank you for watching my video! I have an Osmo Action 3 and an Osmo Pocket 2.
when she not in a mood or you're having a fight for any reason, just walk away. take her out regularly. movie, eat out, small stuff can help you balance life.
Thank you for watching my video! Your comments are very enlightening. I need to know more about women and my wife.
I feel so old. When I was a little girl, about 4 years old, I had a Tamagotchi. I'm 34 now. I have an unopened Tamagotchi that I will give to one of my children when they are older. 😂
🍲 🍮 🍖 🍺 😊
And
💐💍🎁🎆🥩🍚🍲🦐🍰🍨🍽🌲🪴🎉🎆🥇❤ to his wife...
Thank you as always! I will give something to my wife! I appreciate you.
У нее домашняя рутина у вас своя офисная.Постарайтесь в выходные сходить вместе куда нибудь вне дома.Это сближает и дает развеятся.Сделайте небольшой подарок ,напишите записочку о том что любите ее.Все в ваших руках.Дерзайте!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Pan martwi się po sprzecze z żoną a żona martwi się,że już późno a Pan nie wraca z pracy. Dziękuję za piękny film z nocnego Tokio. Nowoczesna architektura i te zaczarowane ogrody na dachu emanujące ciepłem. Jest jednak coś w czym byłoby mi się trudno znaleźć,to ograniczenie kontaktu z ludźmi,np.przy zamawianiu jedzenia przez tablet. Wolałabym zamówić u kelnera,to tak emocjonalnie cieplej. No cóż wyrosłam w odmiennej kulturze. Myślę,że niezależnie od tego wszyscy potrzebujemy ciepła i akceptacji. Czy Jokohama jest położna daleko od Tokio? Ile czasu dziennie zabiera Panu dojazd do pracy? Pozdrawiam.🇵🇱
Dziękuję za obejrzenie mojego filmu! Dziękuję za komentarz. Dojazd zajmuje mi półtorej godziny. To dość trudne.
@samurai-daddy To rzeczywiście sporo czasu i dodatkowe zmęczenie. Dziękuję za odpowiedź. Pozdrawiam.⚘️
I hope you and your wife were able to reconcile your differences ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Awww so sorry about you and your wife. Just curious, I see you go out to eat a lot and go to the store to buy what you like, do you ever take your wife out to eat or on a date of some sort? Do you ever see something at the store and think my wife would like this and surprise her? Doesn’t have to be expensive but some times it is the small gestures that mean the most. 😊I didn’t hear you say you loved your wife. I’m sorry but cooking and cleaning does not make a marriage. thank you for sharing this with us, I know that couldn’t have been easy for you.
Thank you for watching my video! You always leave comments. I can only read a part of your comments. I need to learn more about women. I don't seem to have enough compassion.
You don't need to learn more about women.
You only need to learn more about your wife!😂
@@samurai-daddy
Realmente aprecio mucho todo tu trabajo y esfuerzo a cada vídeo porque se que está hecho con mucho cariño y amor pero sobretodo se nota lo mucho que estás trabajando para mejorar cada vez más, realmente estoy muy agradecida por todo lo que trabajas y la dedicación a cada vídeo es algo de lo que estoy muy agradecida, realmente disfruté mucho de tu vídeo hoy también y también me gustaron mucho ambos sitios son demasiado hermosos y es muy hermoso poder ir allí y disfrutar tanto de un delicioso plato como de un delicioso postre mientras observas la hermosa vista que de verdad es realmente muy hermosa y demasiado relajante, me relajan demasiado las vistas desde las azoteas creo que una hermosa vista es algo de lo que siempre estaré agradecida porque me relajan demasiado y es un hermoso lugar para pasar en pareja o con amigos y familiares, espero que lo hayas disfrutado mucho 💖💖🥰 lamento mucho que hayas tenido una pelea con tu esposa en parte se ques es horrible y es muy triste pero estoy segura que todo se va solucionar, las peleas en parejas y parejas casadas son muy comunes pero también es depende la personalidad de ambas personas no sabría cómo decirlo pero a pesar de lo difícil que parezca y aunque haya sido por algo sin importancia y sea algo agotador lo cual es muy entendible que sucede recorda que todo va a estar bien y creo que si aunque no quieran hablar porque estén enojados los dos, lo mejor es que intenten hablar o salgan un dia para pasar tiempo para remediar esa situación, no soy muy buena dando consejos pero creo que seria algo muy linda que le recuerdes a tu esposa lo muy agradecido y feliz que estas por tenerla a tu lado y que ambos se quieren a pesar de las peleas, son personas y creo que seria muy bueno que lo hablen y se recuerden que a pesar de las peleas que tengan por más que no tengan importancia siempre recuerden que pase lo que pase siempre contarán con el apoyo mutuo y recordar que siempre estarán a su lado cuando lo necesiten, no soy muy buena dando consejos porque no conozco su situación romántica pero espero que funcione y que todo salga bien estoy segura que todo se arreglará y espero que ambos se encuentren muy bien al igual que su hijo y hayan tenido un hermoso día, que tengan una hermosa noche y un hermoso comienzo de semana, cuidense mucho y mantenganse siempre saludables,no olviden mantenerse siempre hidratados y cuidense mucho del clima frío,les deseo lo mejor y que siempre sean muy felices, mucho ánimo y gracias por siempre dar lo mejor de vos en cada vídeo, espero que todo salga bien 🥰❤🤗
¡Gracias por ver mi vídeo! Siempre me das comentarios. Estoy muy agradecido. tu consejo es genial. Me quedé impresionado. Tengo mucha curiosidad sobre qué tipo de persona eres. Cosas como su edad, trabajo, pasatiempos, estado civil, etc. No tengo que responder estas preguntas porque se refieren a tu privacidad, pero eres muy interesante para mí.
@@samurai-daddy no tienes que agradecerme de verdad estoy muy orgullosa de ti y de todo lo que haces a pesar de lo difícil que es la vida sigues adelante y con una actitud más positiva, yo sé que todo va a salir muy bien y que las cosas con tu esposa se van a solucionar de verdad a pesar de que las peleas en la parejas casadas son difíciles e incluso duelen nunca dudes de que te ama de verdad lo digo 💕🤗 muchas gracias por tu comentario, yo tengo 20 años,.mis pasatiempos son escuchar música, salir a caminar y hacer ejercicio tanto en mi casa como en el parque cuando me siento muy estresada escribo sobre como me siento o miro una serie para no pensar en mis problemas y no tengo pareja todavía no estoy con nadie estoy soltera y voy a estudiar licenciatura en enfermería y tengo planeado después que acabe la carrera estudiar la especialidad ginecoobstetra (me interesa mucho y es una carrera muy hermosa) pero a para eso primero tengo que tener una base en la enfermería, voy a empezar el año que viene antes del examen tengo unos cursos y después viene el examen estoy nerviosa pero se que me va a ir muy bien. En cuanto a mi soy una persona que le gusta ayudar a los demás y poder escucharlos y ayudarlos cuando lo necesiten saber que siempre pueden contar conmigo y que siempre estare aquí para escucharlos y espero que ellos también sean asi conmigo,no tengo amigos soy una persona que le gusta estar sola pero también es para poder tener mas tiempo para mí y relajarme y si algún día llegó hacer amigos espero ser yo misma tuve muchos problemas con mis compañeras (que las consideraba amigas) pero eso me quiero tomar mi tiempo para encontrar a esas amistades que si sean honestas lo mismo también para cuando tenga pareja quiero encontrar a ese alguien especial pero todavía estoy trabajando en mi cuidado y mi amor propio también algo que me gusta es darle la confianza a las personas de poder contarme sus problemas pero si no quieren o no sienten preparados está todo bien no los voy a presionar para mí lo que me importa es escuchar a esa persona y saber que cuenta conmigo para lo que necesite algo que me olvide decir soy una persona que al principio no dice nada y parece seria pero cuando me empezas a conocer mas suelo hablar mucho creo que eso es todo y vos ? Si no te sentís bien no te preocupes no tienes que sentirte obligado a responderme 💕🤗 espero que todo salga muy bien y te ayude mucho como te digo no soy buena dando consejos sobretodo por un tema de que es algo de ustedes dos pero ese es mi pequeño consejo que como ya te dije espero que te funcione y que todo se solucione y quiero que sepas que siempre estaré aquí para escucharte y apoyarte siempre, mucho ánimo 🥰🤗
Gracias por responder mi pregunta. Estoy muy feliz de conocerte. Tengo más del doble de tu edad. No veía UA-cam cuando tenía 20 años. Creo que serías una gran enfermera. ¿Tu forma de pensar está influenciada por alguien cercano a ti, una figura histórica o alguien a quien respetas? ¿O crees en algún tipo de religión? Parece que tienes grandes ideas. Puede que no haya podido responder a tu pregunta. Es posible que no pueda entender tu comentario correctamente porque traduje tu español usando Google Translate. Lo lamento. Eres una persona muy interesante.
@@samurai-daddy es un placer, no te preocupes no tienes que disculparte, yo también estoy muy feliz de conocerte para responder tu pregunta te seré honesta nunca me hicieron ese tipo de pregunta y no tengo nadie cercano a mi fueron personas que me enseñaron la importancia de apreciar cada cosa aunque sea la más pequeña en la vida, fueron más que personas conocidas fueron personas que me han enseñado a traves de sus experiencias y por sus conocimientos incluso de parte tambien de mis papás, la mayoría de las cosas las aprendí de ellos pero nunca tuve una persona que haya sido mi modelo a seguir o me haya inculcado esto, si te soy sincera y esto es muy personal yo nací con una enfermedad que en ese entonces no era muy conocida y habia probabilidades de que si no recibía un donante de transplante hepático de hígado ( la enfermedad afecta al hígado y también el desarrollo inmunitario, tengo un pequeño retraso debido a mi enfermedad) gracias a dios estoy viva y tomo una medicación de por vida y voy al hospital, creci llendo al hospital desde los 2 años y medio que voy, es una larga historia que admito que me duele pero entendí que es mi historia y es mi vida y aunque me duela e incluso de chica les decía a mis padres que odiaba esto tengo que estar agradecida y estoy muy agradecida de haberme salvado y haber hecho una vida "normal" a pesar de mi historia pero en fin contestando a tu pregunta, aprendí a valorar a las personas por como son y no por lo que tienen desde muy chica crecí con esta forma de expresar este agradecimiento del cuál muchos no son concientes de eso y no te sientas mal créeme que a pesar de todo este dolor yo luche para salir adelante e incluso sigo adelante y trabajaré muy duro para ser mejor el dia de mañana, muchas gracias por ese hermoso comentario 🥰💕🤗 lamento mucho si es largo el mensaje, vos también eres una persona muy interesante y muy valiente y yo se que vos podés 🥰🤗
Gracias por escribir honestamente sobre tus asuntos privados. Tus padres son increíbles. Tus padres deben estar muy contentos de que ahora tengas 20 años sanos. Tu hígado puede ser la razón por la que quieres ser enfermera. Eres maravilloso. Todos en mi familia están sanos. Lo apreciamos. Estás muy interesado en Japón. Hoy en día, puedes obtener mucha información en las redes sociales. Me encantaría que disfrutaras viendo mis vídeos.
Hope you can make up with your wife as soon as possible.❤
Thank you for watching my video! I will never forget to be grateful to my wife and cherish my family.
Tokyo - what a fascinating city! I wish I could go there for one time. And it is so clean and tidy! Big cities in Germany are full of dirt. Once more your video was very interesting. I have a suggestion: why don´t you invite your wife for dinner at the weekend? I think this would be a surprise and a joy for you both. Greetings from Germany, sayonara.
Salve. Eu e minha esposa assiste seus vídeos, minha esposa pediu para gravar uma loja de roupa em geral usadas em Tóquio, nas Cidades pequenas interior são mais Furui.
Obrigado por assistir meu vídeo! Shimokitazawa, no Japão, é popular entre os japoneses como uma cidade com lojas de roupas vintage. Eu quero ir algum dia.
Eso es estrés amigo daddy deben salir y tomarse un tiempo para ustedes los 3 juntos disfrutar algo una acampada, un paseo etc.
¡Gracias por ver mi vídeo! Gracias por tu consejo. Quiero ir a una barbacoa con mi familia.
Zaru and Mori...the soba brothers
Happy wife, happy life? Hope things will work out between you and your wife.
Btw, I’ve realized the digital menu order system in Japan has many foreign languages to choose from; from Japanese, English, Chinese, Korean, but the Chinese language selection is often presented in Simplified Chinese and no options for Traditional Chinese. It’s interesting to note that as someone who uses Traditional form, I’d rather select English in this case. 😂
Thank you for watching my video! You are also fluent in English. Sometimes you have Chinese traditional characters.
Hello samurai daddy ....don't get mad or stressed by having a fight with your wife....remember arguments and disputes are part and parcel of a married life....and you two are different persons wifh different personality 😊....in marriage , there is a give and take relationship...ask yourself...are you always giving or always taking....settled it immediately😊....talk to her if she 's in a calm manner.
Thank you for watching my video! I appreciate your advice. I will continue to cherish my family.
🇮🇹ciao, grazie per il filmato. Mi dispiace per il momento che stai attraversando ma sai tutto il mondo è paese! Quando sei sposato è normale che ci siano momenti di stanchezza, ma tutto passa. Buona notte!🇮🇹
Grazie per aver guardato il mio video! Grazie per la tua preoccupazione.
Hello! First of all, thank you for your valuable videos. I learn a lot about daily life in Japan through them. If you'll allow me, family is the most valuable cell in a group and, from my own experience, I know how much it hurts to be absent, so try talking to your wife to see what's bothering her. Take her to a bar, buy her favorite cake and try to get her to open up and tell you. Saving a relationship is saving yourself. Changing the subject, I see foreigners buying abandoned houses in Japan (akiyas). Is that really a good deal?
To a bar? My God, how simple and low. Women of easy virtue are invited to a bar.
OK the place suggested may not be ideal.
But the intended idea is good!
Please, talk with your wife (and perhaps listen to her more than you talk yourself) in peace and quiet.
Try not to complain!
You can say something nice about her cooking, and how nice it is to eat together with her. Say like that you are the happiest in these moment and you missed her when you were at work.
Well... please, anyone with ideas, please, chip in and come with ideas to help!@@AndreyPhiladelphia
Thank you for watching my video! I appreciate your advice. I don't know much about foreigners buying vacant houses in Japan. For foreigners who are interested in Japanese life and DIY, vacant houses in Japan may be a great deal due to the exchange rate.
@@samurai-daddy Thank you!
Hi. I’ve been married 35 years and hope that you and your wife can work out your differences. When you talk, each of you should try to not be accusatory, for example saying things like “you always”, or “you never”. Also, try not to jump to conclusions as the other is speaking. Maybe she needs a break, or an outlet separate from home making. Of course, I don’t know your family details, but stay positive. A successful marriage requires hard work. Work at it just as you would any other endeavor that’s important to you. Every day will not be roses and sunshine. Life happens. Hang in there!😊
So true!
Good luck!
Thank you for watching my video! I appreciate your advice. You are a senior in life. I think your advice will help me pave the way for my future.
@ You’re welcome. I wish you well.☺️
I am English, I have been married two times, with no children. I am now single again, 74 years old and happy. Like you, I worked in the center of the capital city, in my case London, and commuted from home to work and back on the subway. I did this for 40 years, leaving home early and coming home late. I sympathise with your sadness and understand it well. Please keep making these videos, they are very interesting and show to me the human side of living and working in Japan.
How do you take videos of yourself walking. You have a cameraman?
Thanks for watching my videos! I film them all myself.
Hi, sorry to read that you argue with your wife.. try to talk each other honestly for the good of your relationship and your son try to repair it maybe you can do something she whishes or like as a couple do the dinner, give her flowers just because to show her how you care and love her like the other day with the pudding from Kamakura, hope everythig goes fine, thanks for share greatins from Barcelona Spain 😊
Thank you for watching my video! I was touched by your comment. I'm glad you remembered Kamakura Pudding. The future of my family is bright.
If people love each other, they take care of them! In your situation there is no balance in the "taking care" upto me. You work hard and appreciate her a lot. You gave up your bed and sleep on the floor...Making your partner's breakfast/diner/lunch is a minimum. Please take care and don't let people hurt you or take advantage of you(no matter who it is!).
Sometimes women get angry over small things because there is a deeper problem with her and the small things just make her cranky
Ask her what is troubling her and let her know you’re there to listen. Perhaps something is upsetting her, maybe she’s tired of doing all the things at home or she wants more time with you. I hope things get better :)
Thank you for watching my video! Your advice is simple and easy to understand. I learned a lot from it. I didn't really understand the feelings of women.
To breyleighhope and Samurai Daddy - san:
I think these issues cover the essence and origin of most problems in marriages.
Good evening to you. I do not always comment as tend to often watch you on my tv. I thought your latest video may be a way of you finding out from your followers what suggestions they may have to assist you and your wife.
However, as an older married lady of many years I thought you may enjoy another comment which you may or may not choose to act upon. I have only heard your side of things so my reply is purely based on my own experiences based on that. Also I am not sure if you both have family near by who can support you both with child care.
I hear what you are saying about your wife and her anger and what appears to be mood swings. I also understand that you are living in Japan which is very culturally different to where I live in the west. However, I think your wife may be feeling somewhat frustrated at being a Mother with a young child. Possibly suffering from depression. It is hard being a woman at home all day with a young child. It may be that she has hopes and inspirations for her future and sees no way to act on them. I understand why you choose to stay out. However, when I saw you on the roof terrace I thought it would have being lovely to have been there with your wife having a lovely romantic evening out. Though this also requires child care and surplus money.
Whilst you no doubt also feel frustrated as working hard, commuting and feeling stress and pressure from that.
I think you should sit down with her and talk to each other. Hopes for the future. Maybe she would like to train and see a future when she can go out and work and meet people. Possible starting exams on line towards this. As well as doing something fulfilling for her. Maybe she could start a hobby, painting, sewing. Or possibly work on her own utube channel sharing cooking and her daily life. As well as life with a toddler. Incorporating her new hobbies.
Also are you both able to go out on a weekend for little treats. Again, I appreciate this can be difficult due to finances with a young family.
I hope you can both get together and work on this now. The longer this goes on the more likely you will both be unhappy together and always stay so. Whereas you should create a fun and happy household not only for your individual selves but also for your son. I wish you all the best for your future relationship. Life is so short. I am assuming you each loved it other once and had fun and enjoyed being with each other. Hopefully you will be able to re kindle that spark.
Take care :)
Thank you for watching my video! I was touched by your comment. Your advice is very helpful. I hope my wife will create a UA-cam channel called samurai mammy. If she can give her opinion there, you can make an even more fair judgment. Thank you for your comment.
Ça peut arriver les disputes de couple ...😢 Ça va s'arranger 😊
Merci d'avoir regardé ma vidéo ! Merci pour votre commentaire !
We will be married thirty three years in two months. We are mostly good but little things he does upsets me still. This evening as i was praying i asked God to change me where i need to change and about changing him i leave that in your hands and i meant it. I know when i say hurtful things to my husband it damages me too. I know we want to swing back when we get hurt but it's only momentary satisfaction. The Bible says to forgive and not let the sun go down on your wrath. It's not easy but over the years we've been getting better at it and through prayers. We are two different cultures. Also different personalities, he is calm and i used to be fiery, impulsive. Thanks to God his calming personality has calmed me down and we are happy together now and love each other. Never would have thought that years ago. We have one son. Hope it works out for you 😊.
Thank you for watching my video! I appreciate your words. You must have experienced a lot in your 33 years. I will do my best too. I also have one son. My wife and I will cherish our son.
I am sorry things were upsetting for you and your wife. I’ve been married 40 years and I’m pretty sure I’ve had my share of thoughts about not cooking or cleaning 😂 When the family was young I did all the chores because my husband was a career man and was in call 24/7 and so my job and my kids were 2nd for him at that time. Now that we’re older and retired he does a lot at home. When we argue I say the least and it’s because I am very capable of hurtful words and to me it’s not worth it to get myself upset like that. My husband always makes a point to hug me even when I’m still upset and we so not carry on for more than a few hours at the most. In this crazy world it would be a shame to have your last moment with someone be something of regret. Have a date night …even if at home… buy some take out food you know she likes and surprise her so she doesn’t have to cook dinner …have son go to sleep early 🎉😂… life is too short to be upset. I grew up very much raised in Japanese culture where I wasn’t allowed to show too much emotion but I’m a failure at that 😂…I hope you will fail too and be able to express things In your heart …it will free your spirit ❤
Thank you for watching my video! Your comments are very interesting. I admire the way you control yourself. I think it's wisdom born from years of accumulated experience. I'm blessed that I'm not as busy as your husband. I think there's more I can do for my family. I'll do my best. I'd be happy if you continue to watch my videos and encourage me from time to time.
@ growing up I always respected my dad because he was very straight forward…no hidden messages but my mother was different. She didn’t say what was really on her mind and it was always trying to figure out what was actually in her mind. She still does that today …she will say “don’t get me anything” and then wonder why you don’t get her anything. 😵💫🤣 Maybe we women tend to do that …never lose your spark 🔥 for life …and remember she may want to be your spark in life still but won’t say that. 😊
Marriage is a hard process but talking and keeping communication between you and wife is important
Try to talk with out arguing and both explain what is going on to be able to go ahead in your married life
Take care and see you in next video ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you for watching my video! I appreciate your thoughtfulness. I feel like I'll meet you again in the next video.
@@samurai-daddy your welcome
Thank you for the heart ❤️
Thanks for the nice video! Married life is difficult and couples need a lot of patience. In my opinion, try spending more time with your wife and let her know that she is still special to you. You should also give her some personal time to relax without all the everyday responsibilities she has to do. I hope things get better in the future!
Thank you for your comments! I believe what you say and will continue to think positively.
Всё будеть ок, бро😊
Приезжайте в гости с семьёй в Казахстан, в Астану.,🇰🇿
Мы ,казахи с вами родственные души ...😅
Вітаю Samurai Daddy!
Мені дуже шкода, що Ви посварилися з Вашою дружиною! На превеликий жаль, таке трапляється у житті. В таких випадках варто проаналізувати, що є глибинною причиною сварок, особливо якщо вони трапляються все частіше і частіше. Судячи з Вашої розповіді, маю сміливість припустити, що Ваша дружина втомилася від рутини повсякденного життя, і їй вкрай необхідний ковток свіжого повітря. Мабуть, було б добре, якби Ви влаштували якусь несподівану подорож для себе та Вашої дружини у ті місця, де Ви разом раніше бували і де відчували себе щасливими. А ще жінки дуже люблять приємні сюрпризи. Можливо Ваша дружина вже довгий час мріє про якійсь жіночий аксесуар. Отже, було б добре, якби Ви цей аксесуар купили би, і подарували би своїй дружині у той час, коли Ви відчуєте, що вона знову готова з Вами посваритися. Повірте моєму досвіду, такий сюрприз зруйнує будь-яку сварку😁. Ну і ще хочу додати. Раніше, коли я жив разом зі своєю дружиною та сином, в моїй родині також траплялися сварки. Але зараз, коли моя дружина та син далеко від мене (через війну в Україні я наполіг на тому, щоб вони поїхали до Ірландії), нам згадуються тільки гарні моменти нашого спільного життя
Щиро бажаю Вам та Вашій родині усього найкращого!
Дякую за перегляд мого відео! ти чудова людина! Дивні стосунки між чоловіком і жінкою. Хоча є такі люди, як ви та ваша родина, які не можуть зустрітися один з одним через війну, є також люди, які вирішили розійтися. У Японії постійно повідомляють про ситуацію в Україні. Бажаю всього найкращого.
@samurai-daddy Дякую за Вашу високу оцінку мене та побажання усього найкращого! У свою чергу щиро бажаю Вам прийняти вірне та мудре рішення стосовно Вашого подружнього життя! Буду молитися за Вас
21:18 Don't be sad.
手が綺麗ですね 若者ぽい
Wow, how sad for you, I think you should talk to your wife and try to improve the relationship. Help with housework more, eat with the family and talk happily to each other. I know it's difficult because of a busy work life. Stress in general requires cooperation from both sides. Good luck, my friend
Thank you for watching my video! I appreciate your comments. Thank you so much!
Hello, how do you subtitle your video in so many laguage?do you pay for transcription?
加油!在台灣女人說的話永遠是對的..
感謝您觀看我的影片！我去過台灣。我還想再去台灣。
I really like your videos, they are very calming and well filmed. Hope you can fix the problem with your wife, it's never too late.
Thank you for watching my video! You encouraged me. It gave me courage.
I’m sorry, when you said something about when your wife is angry you can’t control her, for me it’s a sad thing. It’s a sad thing because you think you have to control her. When your wife is angry or upset to you, all you have to do is say sorry for what she feels and hug her. Woman need to feel that she is being heard. Sometimes when woman complained about something or tell you about something, they don’t expect for any solution. Just by listening carefully and show that you are interested to what she say, will be very helpful to her and she will feel loved. When she is calm down, try to say about what you feel. Don’t wait your wife to make a move. When woman feel that they are loved, heard and appreciated, they will give you respect. Good luck
Thank you for your advice. Your advice is very clear and very helpful. I need to change my mind.
こんにちは、パパサムライル、夜にクロワッサンを買って、妻が目覚めたときにあなたが彼女のことを考えていたことがわかるようにすることができます。お子様を忘れないでください、日本のパン屋のフランスのクロワッサンはとてもおいしいです
Thank you for watching my video! That's a great idea. I'll give it a try.
السلام عليكم أنا مسلم من العراق اليابان بلد جميل واصبر على زوجتك فإن النساء قوارير من كلمه تنكسر ومن كلمه ترضى أسأل الله يجعل بينكم الموده ولرحمه انصحك خذ لها هديه
شكرا لك على مشاهدة الفيديو الخاص بي! سأعطيها شيئا.
Before marriage is wonderful! Then, with the arrival of children, things change drastically... We have to work, take care of household chores, school, extra activities. Swimming, for example... The husband and the wife who work must have a support structure... Society and behavior are the same!!! Here in the country where I live! It is very difficult to reconcile! Therefore, try to also improve your attitude of communicating and helping! I hope things improve!
Dear Samurai dad, arguing is useless but dialogue is... my husband and I talk a lot and we discuss things that aren't right... communicating, speaking with an open heart lightens the soul, unfortunately if your wife is dissatisfied, anything will bother her you do ☺️ woo your wife make her feel important... even with a flower 💐💐💐
I wish you a good evening Milan 9.42pm👱♀️🇮🇹💐💐
Thank you for watching my video! I appreciate your comments from Italy. I hear that Italians are very expressive in their love. I have a lot to learn from Italians.
Hi Samurai dad, let's say that we are sunny, cheerful and we like to interact with others, it is difficult to find people in Italy who don't smile or sometimes don't communicate too much😄😄😄
With your sweetheart ♥️, think about building a pyramid every day, placing a brick or a puzzle, looking for the piece that fits... you'll see that everything will fall into place, I'm sure of it... look at the wedding ring you're wearing on the finger, it's a union, a love and a difficulty every day but overcoming it together will be more easy😄😄💪💪👱♀️🇮🇹✌️🇯🇵@@samurai-daddy
You’re a good guy samuraidaddy さん, it’s difficult to control your emotions when someone says hurtful things like that. I hope she realises that she’s also very lucky too that she’s married to you🥹
Thank you for watching my video! You are always so kind. I hope Everton recovers 😊
@ thank you! I hope so too 😂. I look forward to your next video 🫡
It's nice that you appreciate what your wife does, but maybe tell it directly to her and not to us 🙂. I know that the Japanese avoid speaking directly, but maybe you have other options to show it to her? Maybe flowers? Or a day together? I don't know, maybe I'm advising wrong, because European culture is different from Asian culture:) But I think that women all over the world are unanimous in certain views
Thank you for watching my video! I appreciate your comment. You're right. Many people have commented on this, but I think your comment is the most simple and correct.
A couple of tips. There is a caveat to this though. I'm a gaijin, but used to live in Japan and had a Japanese live-in girlfriend. First, never discuss work when you get home....unless it's catastrophic...like you lost your job. If you talk about work, you're taking it home with you. Second, pick one of the daily chores and it's yours. With my girlfriend I told her, "pick cooking, or pick cleaning, but not both." She picked cooking. I did all the cleaning including clothes. Why? Because I didn't want her to feel like a maid. Pick an activity that requires both of you to leave the house and kid at least one night a week. Two if possible. (My ex had two kids). Get a baby sitter and just eat the cost. Third, tell her daily that she's hot. She's sexy. Random acts of flirtation. Be "un-Japanese". My ex told me in the end she loved the attention even though she told me to stop every time, but said she secretly wanted more. If she has friends, make sure she can get out with them two or three times a month. It can be fore lunch, dinner, shopping, whatever. She has to have her own life outside of the apartment, outside of your relationship. I insisted my girlfriend do this. I would have married her, but I had a very confrontational argument with her ex. He stopped me outside of work one day. He was waiting for me. In short, he said he'd have me 86'd. Given that he owned three nightclubs and hung out with a seedy crowd of people, I had to take his threat with a level of seriousness. Living in Japan is great, but it can be a pressure cooker at times. I've never felt as a live as I did when living there. That said, I saw a lot of people get on the gerbil wheel and spin their lives away. Oh, I also never had a TV in the house. When we had down time, we were talking and doing something together as a family. None of us could just zone out watching TV. I hope you can find a nugget or two of help in my comments.
야경이 활기차고멋지네요~
Hello just subscribe to your channel eating delicious food journey around different places enjoy life that is a blessing so take care of yourself and your family stay healthy and safe 🥰🙏
Thank you for watching my videos! I will continue to do my best to post fun videos.
Иногда достаточно просто поговорить. Найдите время и поговорите
Спасибо за просмотр моего видео! Спасибо за ваш совет.
Dude I get it I've been married for 34 years. My wife likes to argue over stupid stuff. I would love to come to live in Japan the cost of living here in the states is ridiculous. Our electric bill was $460 for one month.
Thank you for watching my video! Yes, you're right! You're great! Prices are so high in America 😅.
在我們眼中，日本的女性已經是最溫柔😂 香港的女性先恐怖，特別是在有小孩之後😂
感谢您观看我的视频！我想我的妻子自从生了我们的儿子后也发生了变化😅。
I think you should spend more time with your wife, maybe take her to dinner or buy her a gift, give her some surprise.
Thank you for watching my video! I am very grateful to you. I will treasure my family! Thank you so much!
You need to treat your wife with dinner, rooftop garden etc. she’s stuck at home while you get to do interesting things. Give her a break.
Thank you for watching my video! You're right. UA-cam is very difficult.
Caro Samurai daddy, da italiana vorrei darti un consiglio, guardando i video, vedo che vivi una vita come se fossi single, prova a coinvolgere di più’ tua moglie e tuo figlio. Probabilmente si sente sola, vive una vita monotona e questo potrebbe crearle una sorta di frustrazione. Uscite insieme, quando sei libero dal lavoro, regalale dei fiori, sii più’ presente. Vedo che siete molto tecnologici ma noto anche molta solitudine e freddezza tra di voi, ognuno vive nel suo microcosmo, probabilmente frutto dell’educazione che avete ricevuto da piccoli. Visto che mi hai detto che sei stato in Italia, prova a comportarti un po’ come noi, calorosi, accoglienti, ti auguro di cuore di risolvere il problema con tua moglie, non ti isolare sennò’ peggiori la situazione. Ciao👋🏻🫶
Grazie per aver guardato il mio video! Grazie per il tuo meraviglioso consiglio Utilizzerò il tuo consiglio per cambiare il mio comportamento da ora in poi. Grazie per il tuo consiglio
@@samurai-daddy 👍❤️
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Its unfortunate but part of marriage. It can get stressful, especially with day to day life and stress. How about going out for nice dinner together and discuss things openly and honestly, before more resentment builds up. I wish you all the best.👍
Sometimes you just need to take a break from each other instead of going out together to talk, talk, talk... Just no. Stay for your damn self for a while and learn to be okay with your own thoughts.
Thank you for watching my video! I appreciate your advice. I will try to improve the situation little by little.
Internet, rapproche les gens éloignés mais éloigne les gens proche de nous.
Fuire la réalité ne résout pas les problèmes.
Tu as 13k vues mais malgré cela tu es encore plus seul , ton enfant est seul et ta femme aussi.
Il serait peut être temps d'être proche de ta famille et d' avoir une discussion pour résoudre tes problèmes.
Tu te sentiras alors moins seul ! ^^
O avese no son normales en ese aspecto ❤❤❤ amo a mi novio alex
Je vois que partout dans le monde homme et femme se disputent, ils faut dialoguer ,savoir ce l’un et l’autre veux … bon courage
Merci d'avoir regardé ma vidéo ! Merci pour votre commentaire ! C'est une question internationale 😊.
@samurai-daddy oui les couples modernes
As someone who doesn't want to be tied down, this is one out of many reasons I do not want to have children nor get married
Thank you for watching my video! Thank you for commenting your values! It's very interesting.
或許太太無法理解你的感受，我記得武士爸爸說過，日本是不求個人表現主義，而是以團體為主，你的壓力來自於公司的人際關係與經濟，要不要讓太太去打工？除了增加收入，有點事情讓她忙碌，她比較不會胡思亂想
然後好好溝通，像離婚的字眼，盡量不要常常提起，說久了會在心裡根深蒂固
武士爸爸請加油，等待退休年齡到，期待你回大阪，拍更多的影片～
感謝您觀看我的影片！我同意！退休後回到大阪，我會製作很多關於大阪的影片！
@@samurai-daddy 在那之前，請多忍耐、溝通、協調，我非常喜歡日本，尤其是大阪，加油喔～