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great point, i love how Jack and Helena tell it like it is, you should get a reward for not sugar coating, i prefer the truth of it all, i would like to say that guys or gals who need another person as a friend, one of those has interest for more but the other is resistant and they will ruin the relationship, third party interest not a good thing, Steve Harvey wouldnt get alone with another girl and never do that to his wife, i appreciate that makes a girl want to really love him up totally when a guy is faithful, people tell on people who cheat, life has a way of bringing out secrets, when you least exspect them and it damages, people cant hold their tongues, the tongue is the hardest muscle to tame
They will even marry you and then separate and not have any sense of urgency to fix the relationship at all. I wasted 12 years with this kind of manchild.
I to was lied to blamed made unimportant I know about the gas lighting ghosting silent treatment no support bad mouthing and cheating dating sites ignoring said you never said that etc good thing there are guys worth more than that nightmare behavior, I feel for you Megan I,I understand him
When a guy is extremely interested in a relationship,but he called u a bitch in anger....🤔 during a stressful situation,well..do not pity him if he says sorry.He disqualified himself 😊👋
Been in a long distance relationship with old high school sweetheart. He's recently widowed, I am recently divorced. I had a meltdown, tried to push him away, he wasn't put off, and just said what is going on? He didn't leave me because I had a very bad day.😍
This was a life changer for me. After 3 yrs in and out. He moved forward I met his mom we still talk all the time, trips, we promised to work through things. Then distant.. disappeared since like Feb something changed Im over it. No contact starts day 1. Thank You very much!
Love you Helena Hart and Jack Butler your voice of true masculine men is refreshingly spoken with clarity and makes sense wisdom! Thank you! I'm a Divorce Mediator and Life Transitions Coach and send many people to your channel. Thank you!
@@HelenaHartCoaching... just got off the phone with Chelsea Rose (joined her 12 week program) and she gave EXCELLENT advice on how to take my time in this decision (without a false sense of urgency). Also tips on how to regain the trust in my gut.
So happy to hear that, Chelsea is AWESOME and gives amazing advice! Here’s another video Jack and I did on how to trust yourself more and build your intuition in dating and relationships that should be helpful for you: ua-cam.com/video/Nw1smRqzd6E/v-deo.html
My experience. Listen to his language and body language in initial days of experience Women can often meet someone and think ' I can change him. My love will change be him" Big mistake A man is quicker to recognize something Where the woman needs to really pay attention to his initial responses and body language And Women. Never try to change him if you truly love him. You'll revel in his flaws, his dreams, and the wonderful things that you might do togetjer
I’m glad you enjoyed it, Tracey! Here are a couple more videos on this topic that should be helpful (the first one is another video with Jack and the second one is with my husband!): ua-cam.com/video/jqda97uPRqI/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/rnXoKSMAToA/v-deo.html.
I just broke up with my boyfriend after 10 months. One of the most confusing things for me was that he spent the better part of our relationship telling me, in a variety of different ways, that he was not capable of loving me. He also said things like "we both want the same things"? Devalued me, and didn't share his negative feelings until i asked him. We were in a committed relationship, he called me his girlfriend and i called him my boyfriend. However he said to me that dating and a relationship are the same thing to him. This led to him telling his parents he's dating but didn't see any significance in telling them my name. When i decided to end the relationship, he finally told me that he's in love with and he was scared (in line with my intuition all along) suggested we go to therapy (he shot that down anytime i suggested it before) gave me all the validation that i craved in the relationship. Can someone make any sense out of this shift? I want to say that it was coming from a place of manipulation. But maybe theres another perspective thats not so negative? The themes here were emotional unavailability, fear of commitment, highly unpredictable and inconsistent behavior. I miss him, i love him, but i feel its over.
In my experience that happens when the guy prefers to be the one to instigate breakup; they cling to you when you're the one to leave, until you give in and stay thinking they really, really want you but down the track they end it. Hope I'm wrong in your case if you think he's the one.
Would be great to hear a video on what content to have in your online dating bio and what to leave out that is in the feminine. I can see how wording is important such as describing yourself as a high value woman without saying those words. Saying what you're looking for instead of saying what you dont want, etc. And also clarify if dating is for practicing feminine tools versus actual genuine interest in dating guys to pick the one that resonates best. I get both from the feminine essence community coaches. Rori Raye says date people even you're not attracted to or wouldn't even consider just for practice then there is also talk about dating for real and filtering out guys that arent your fit/ people you actually would consider.. So when or how am I suppose to shift gears for just practice including people I dont like versus only people I am attracted to on various levels and filtering them... I hope this made sense!!
Wow this is amazing,I been in a relationship for a year and i taught we were in commitment but this wasn't the case because he was exactly this type of guy he had exes on his back pocket and social media I also found out he was still following dating sites,with heavy heart i had to walk away and close this space between us ..thank you for this video very informative
You’re welcome, Livia! Thanks for sharing your experience here, sorry to hear you went through this. You definitely made the right decision by walking away! ❤️
Interesting 10 year relationship & now it seems like we are back to square one. It's like he expects me to be the hunter. He dropped off sorta ghosting. It see.s like he wants me, to be rhe hunter. He is disqualifying himself. Your comments are so real.
What if I have been dating someone for 7 months and have not met his family ir friends other than his son when he invited me over. I asked him to go to son's birthday dinner and he said "if I am not busy." I previously invited him to daughter's house for grandaon's birthday and he said it was too soon then he said thought all family would be there. We went to Vegas 3 times and 3 concerts in 5 months time. We have great time together. He has been divorced 2 years
Hi Coach Helena & Coach Jack Good Night's From Singapore! Why Would A Guy Might Be Catching Up With His Ex-GirlFriend If He Wants To Commit To His Current GirlFriend While He Available Or UnAvailable Guy While He Never Shows-Up Or He Is Never Interested? Can A Woman Walked-Away From A Guy If He Never Really Put Enough Work To Be With Her While He Plays Around With AnyOne's He Wants In The Near Future's? Can A Guy Really Commit To A Woman If He Has Certain Issues Regarding Relationship Or Commitment Issues? How To Knows When A Right Guy Will Come When Wrong Is Almost Impossible Available At A Wrong Timing While Emotional HeartBreak Still Triger's When A Woman Is Done Healing Her Own Heart-Space? Will A Guy Might Be Returns To A Woman After One Year Gap Or What Does A Guy Wants From A Woman After Doing No Contact Or Almost Nothing Happens Between A Guy Or A Woman? Will Feeling's Occurs Or Strong-Emotional Bonding Might Wants A Commitment & A Honest Relationship? What Are The Guy's Reasons If No Contact Or No Communications Between A Woman? What If A Guy Really Wants To Communicate & Might Wants To Settles Down With A Woman He Love's & Liking Her Almost Triger His Real-Deep Honest Feeling's With Her?
Perfection doesn't exist on this earth..l guess love is all about compromising en sacrificing.. if he isn't ready for this let him go en keep the door open for better opportunities. Life is too short,happiness is my priority!
I had everything but I lost my cool and ranted about his mum to him. I wish I had not done it as he beat me up. I shoukd never have lost my cool. But I think Jack would say he was not my guy! I thought we were going the whole distance . But he used his mum to triangulate her into our relationship. I did not realise I had to always look after his mum too. And he wanted me to have babies and hand them over to her. Why? So I could keep working and provide an income. I felt like his work horse.
Shouldn’t guys keep up consistent contact and escalation (via phone calls and video chats) during quarantine? Or is it reasonable to expect that they are not consistent during this time because at the moment, there is no tangible end of social distancing in sight? I get that we’re all talking to several people at this time, but do the same rules apply? I think they should, but I question if that is realistic.
Great question! In my opinion if a man is truly interested he’s going to keep up consistent contact with you. The right guy isn’t going to let you slip away! 💕
Helena Hart thank you! I agree, I feel that way too. But I was just trying to put myself into the guy’s head and I wondered if the same rules apply during quarantine or not.
These videos I recorded with Jack might also be helpful for your situation: ua-cam.com/video/EFzjPYsm_Pk/v-deo.htmlsi=oMY5fu_0VSQ5NxR-, ua-cam.com/users/livek8eb_r5tjtE?si=OK0yERMsdKMEvxNQ and ua-cam.com/users/livegQNmkJHeNxo?si=crPsFa39IYznCEvZ.
Hi! English is not my mother tongue, I understood almost everything you guys said but there's this part I couldn't. It's between 24:50- 25:10. Could you explain it, please?
I’m a divorced woman with children every time I get to meet a man they like me a lot but when I tell them I’m a mother they disappear after a very short time !! It happened to me a lot ! Now I just want to stay single I don’t trust men anymore!
I don’t have kids but hear that from single moms all the time and talk to my guy friends who say they don’t want to date someone with “baggage” especially if the men don’t have kids themselves so you can’t take it personally! Chin up, the right guy will come along, maybe with his own kids in tow and you will blend families, don’t give up on happiness!
That sounds very odd to me, personally I wouldn’t want to be with a man who suggested something like that - but I’d recommend getting in touch with what would feel good to YOU in a relationship. 💜
We separated for 3 months without seeing or calling each but he will drive around just to see if I’m outside but he tells me he better not catch me with anyone because if he does he wii embarrass me fun everyone
YES!!! CAUTION, CAUTION, CAUTION "SUDDENLY PARTNERED W SOMEONE ELSE" Hurts SO much! Free yourself!!! Ugh...so true!!! Companion and lover of two years, "amazing connection"...it was so much fun, dancing, laughing, great sex... I was his emotional soft place to land, .. .but the red flags were unexplained distancing, other women still in his life on the perimeter... not exactly there for ME! Had started introducing me to his world friends,family, showing me houses, had a lovely Friday evening, cooked, made love, snuggled, and left my bed on Saturday morning, went on a date w someone else, and sent me the goodbye text on Monday...saying he didnt really know why, but he had to go find what he needed" He married her 2 months later!!! And, postscript: he still isn't happy, and tries to score some attention from me...UGH. FREE YOURSELF!!!
@@Smokillo Just disappearing for a week , coming back with vague explanations, when I asked,like he would say he had been busy .....no details, which I shouldnt have accepted.
@@HelenaHartCoaching Thank you...It was a blessing in disguise, and it's been awhile, but so painful at the time...unfortunately a very real example of what can happen. Thanks for the videos, they are a great service to those searching for help and answers!
I’m stuck with a guy who gets irritated to have the “where are we” talks... he doesn’t like putting anything in solid terms. He’ll say yeah we’re working toward a future but nothing is promised/we don’t know for sure. We fight when you’re on your period so we’re not meshing all the time (which increases my anxiety about the relationship). Any tips on getting him to actually talk about this or giving up?
These two videos I recorded with Jack should be helpful for your situation: ua-cam.com/video/HRvJEJ6ygE8/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/jqda97uPRqI/v-deo.html.
Wow this is what I just went through this has been for forty five years in between twenty year two different husbands this is so amazing @lorraineamicothemakeupartist thank you so much
And the one boyfriend in between all these years every time a break up and the last husband a death keep getting crumbs with all of them but with all your videos your teaching well never knew my whole life now I’m aware it all started at child hood 65 years of all different kinds of crumbs thank you so much hard to fight this last crumb off alone fourteen years no relationships got to learn just got hurt the other day with the same guy I keep going back too not lasting at all crumbs I beat myself up all the time I’ve been writing a book for awhile I never worked on relationships thought that’s the way it is all kinds of dysfunctions I master it all this last one Sunday for only six weeks of text and phone never did this with that same one guy forty five years each breakup nuts @lorraineamicothemakeupartist
What if my man when we fight kicks me out but when I’m about to go He doesn’t want it to really happen. What should I do I feel insecure? He is hard person to communicate with.
EXACTLY ... “you can’t push me away”! Triggers are natural! ... I found my answer: you can’t say the wrong thing to the right man. Those tough conversations week in week out is a part of a good relationship .. WOW..WOW..WOW .. Thank you!
Love it! Respect & value yourself! If you're not getting your needs met, move on! It will eventually dissolve in the end. Am there myself! lol Let ii go, let.God! Make your decision today! I did! You're a queen!👑
It just makes me angry and disappointed, why would I even be with a guy? They never care anyway. I'm fed up. It's best to stay single and spare the heartbreak and pain and suffering. I've had many bad relationships and it's all my fault that I let them in to my life and let them hurt me. But I'm never gonna let that happen again. No more. I have my God and my mom and my friends. I'm perfectly fine. Just got to enjoy the good things in life like my job, traveling, workout, healthy foods and spending time with the people who actually care about me. These days I just outright cut off any guy who wants to date me. No. I won't let a guy hurt me anymore. Just no. Bye bye.
Yes, sounds like you need time to heal. I'd like to suggest reading the books John Gray has. Men are from Mars Women are from Venus. I'm reading beyond one now. He has a live on fb every day at 10:00 am I think central time. He goes over a topic. But after he answers everyone's question. It has been so helpful to me. I wish you the very best. Your absolutely right. Your perfect just by yourself ♡
I worked with a guy (married) who came in one morning, happy, upbeat,smiling jabbering about what a wonderful wife he has and how lucky he is for having her in his life!!! (Sweet). A few months later, he comes in the office. Quiet, poker face, he looks at me and says. “ You know how lucky you are that you’re single...”. 🤣🤣😂🤣😂😂
I really process a guy with manners. A guy who opens your car door regardless of a keyfobe that will do it. A guy who holds your chair until you are seated. A guy who's a good conversationalist. This what impressed me beyond looks.
@@HelenaHartCoaching Second chances are a license to do it again...I tell my friends that if he cheats again they must take responsibility for giving him a license for a repeat performance.
Had a guy like this. He showed up 110% ALL the time, for about 7 months, right up until the moment he told me he was dumping me because he'd been 'seeing' another woman off a different dating site for a few weeks.
@@susanparkes5096 Did you inquire if he was seeing others? Of course if you did and he lied he deserves payback...and he'll get it when he least expects it. You, in the other hand, now have a question to ask of any guy who shows up 110%...seems that extra 10% might have been overdone on his part.
Great video and very helpful. I love how straight forward and clear you both are. And I respect the sober objective perspective. We deeply need this whilst navigating! Takes the ambiguity or open to interpretation out of it when he's blunt. Love it. So glad these videos are coming out. You're literally shaping the relationship and dating world. You two are successful rock stars! Woot
Women always chasing with you keep the faith and together plan my life pls fitting my husband and I got the perfect I asked God in the marriage truely blessing.I am so glad.
I met the man of dreams who did all of this for me, for us. I called him my dream boyfriend. He was 38 years older than me. He passed away 1/30/21 after a short and beautiful romance lasting about 5 months. My heart is broken and I question if true love like this is once in a life time, however hearing this dialogue is refreshing and brings me hope when I feel so hopeless.
For me it's either that or they are already a final product.... But it's for another woman. They got their lives figured out career money home wise ( i found out that they are married and have kids). These are just crushes.
What if a guy contacts you nightly and you spend time together several times a week, but doesn't progress the relationship forward in terms of amalgamating your lives with kids etc on his own, but rather requires suggestions from myself to move forward. Would this be an example of not progressing forward?
Be careful. Is he doing it just to string it along or is he shy at putting himself forward. He is not investing. Hes just doing what you want. Let him lead/ see if he will. Don't rush but don't wait too long.
My guy had experienced my crazy, and he still accepts me. Not sure where we are or have been, but, he’s been around for a few years- dealing with my stuff/me. I love him so hard for that, no matter what. THAT is LOVE
@@thejackbutler By far..... I am SO appreciative of not hearing you refer to such things as us gals supposed to be or treated as goddesses and queens etc. Such makes me scream! Just found your work and channel and already a fan and new subscriber.
Jack Butler is amazing! Thank you so much for introducing me to him. Very much appreciate that you share your friendships with other coaches with us. 🥰 Thank you🌸
Just finished watching this video. This is one of the best episode, various questions that totally represented me. Thank you, Helena. Your channel can make a better world and a peaceful connection
Dear beautiful and kind Helena, Just wanna share my gratitude here, so after watching so many channels about dating skills, so confusing, the more I watch, the more I get confused. I decided to focus on only specific guru that can give me positive energy and guidances, and I found you as my perfect inspirations for you can relate to me in many aspects and the most important thing is the way you encouraged us, in a gentle and loving way, not with a harsh judgement to shape our new behavior. Thank you so much for you videos, every day I prioritize my time to learn from your videos, it is like a great online class for me. I am so excited to rebuild my new life by changing my strong negative old beliefs (destructive thoughts: I am not enough, Being single is a result of my resentment and hatred to some significant others that hurt me in the past, and I am just the practice girlfriend for some men who then married other women). I am choosing to change my story, firstly, by changing my belief system into new belief systems: "I am beautiful, loving, kind woman who is deserving a healthy committed relationship with a greatman with beautiful mind and soul. He showers me with healthy love and relationship that meet my needs, and he feels so grateful to have me in his life. I am worth it and I am the prize, I thank for all my lessons in the past, they are the best guru to take me here on this stage of my life, and I love being myself, growing together with millions women around the world, this is so Huge, I hope that we can always spread the love within ourselves, and spread the kindness together in this community" 1. I am the prize, I know my worth, so that I never settle for less. I deserve the best scene in my own life movie. 2. Stop chasing man, practice my feminine energy everyday, lean back, relaxed, feel the feeling, and absorb my energy to something that's good for my personal well being. 3. Becoming a high value woman with amazing life that's meaningful for me and others. I am responsible for my own happiness and my best life. Universe has our back, and we're never alone in this beautiful love life journey. Love from here, somewhere in the pale blue dot, Indonesia. Thank you, Helena, so grateful to find you here in this planet ❤️
This is beautiful, Maeya! I love everything you said here, thanks so much for sharing! Keep me posted on how things continue to go for you, I’d love to hear about your progress as you go along. ❤️
I'm listening again. I luv both of you. Thanks very much for loving the public and telling it like it is. Soooo helpful and easy to know what too do in a relationship. Wow helps for no heartache. Seriously. A big THANK YOU! Smile.
The component where he is emotionally connected but not available hits home to me. I been through that with guys where they want to talk all the time and no real relationship came out of it.
Oh, what a great Churchill quote. I love how you tied that into this. That really solidified that idea of freedom and mature masculine for me. Thanks for sharing that.
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Thanks, very good for information.
You’re welcome, Trudy! 💕
Did this start already? I signed up for it.
If you signed up you should be able to access it. I would check your spam folder as the automated emails sometimes get caught there.
I really needed to hear this. Thank you.
Ladies beware the man with a fear of commitment. He will drag you through years and never commit 💙🌹
"certain kinds of intimacy w/o commitment" 🚩
great point, i love how Jack and Helena tell it like it is, you should get a reward for not sugar coating, i prefer the truth of it all, i would like to say that guys or gals who need another person as a friend, one of those has interest for more but the other is resistant and they will ruin the relationship, third party interest not a good thing, Steve Harvey wouldnt get alone with another girl and never do that to his wife, i appreciate that makes a girl want to really love him up totally when a guy is faithful, people tell on people who cheat, life has a way of bringing out secrets, when you least exspect them and it damages, people cant hold their tongues, the tongue is the hardest muscle to tame
@@angelaevans6580 exactly
They will even marry you and then separate and not have any sense of urgency to fix the relationship at all. I wasted 12 years with this kind of manchild.
I to was lied to blamed made unimportant I know about the gas lighting ghosting silent treatment no support bad mouthing and cheating dating sites ignoring said you never said that etc good thing there are guys worth more than that nightmare behavior, I feel for you Megan I,I understand him
If a man cant figure-out wat he wants in a relationship, LADIES “figure it out for him” HOW？--close the chapter en move-on, time is money my Lady！
Thanks for sharing your insights here.
Time IS our most valuable asset!!! We cannot get time back.
When a guy is extremely interested in a relationship,but he called u a bitch in anger....🤔 during a stressful situation,well..do not pity him if he says sorry.He disqualified himself 😊👋
That boundary can NOT be crossed, PERIOD!
Been in a long distance relationship with old high school sweetheart. He's recently widowed, I am recently divorced. I had a meltdown, tried to push him away, he wasn't put off, and just said what is going on? He didn't leave me because I had a very bad day.😍
Thanks for sharing your experience here, Luann! 💙
This was a life changer for me. After 3 yrs in and out. He moved forward I met his mom we still talk all the time, trips, we promised to work through things. Then distant.. disappeared since like Feb something changed Im over it. No contact starts day 1. Thank You very much!
You’re welcome, Ramona! 💜
Love you Helena Hart and Jack Butler your voice of true masculine men is refreshingly spoken with clarity and makes sense wisdom! Thank you! I'm a Divorce Mediator and Life Transitions Coach and send many people to your channel. Thank you!
You’re very welcome, Christy! ❤️
I like the phrase 'he's disqualifying himself'.
Yes, I like that too! 💙
@@HelenaHartCoaching lol. Yessss.
Me too
Thanks Helena for your feedback!
You’re welcome, Julie! 💞
Having a hard time choosing between 2 wonderful men. One is "rocks on the ground", the other is "castles in the sky". Thank you!
Go rocks ha!
You’re welcome Nicole, I hope you’ll keep us posted on how things go! 💕
@@HelenaHartCoaching... just got off the phone with Chelsea Rose (joined her 12 week program) and she gave EXCELLENT advice on how to take my time in this decision (without a false sense of urgency). Also tips on how to regain the trust in my gut.
So happy to hear that, Chelsea is AWESOME and gives amazing advice! Here’s another video Jack and I did on how to trust yourself more and build your intuition in dating and relationships that should be helpful for you: ua-cam.com/video/Nw1smRqzd6E/v-deo.html
This has been GOLD...thank you for laying it down. I'm all in...
You’re welcome! 🧡
My experience. Listen to his language and body language in initial days of experience
Women can often meet someone and think ' I can change him. My love will change be him"
Big mistake
A man is quicker to recognize something
Where the woman needs to really pay attention to his initial responses and body language
And Women. Never try to change him
if you truly love him. You'll revel in his flaws, his dreams, and the wonderful things that you might do togetjer
Thanks for sharing your insights here, Cheryl!
Yay! What an amazing coaching combo- Helena Hart and Jack Butler, my two favourites. 💛
Thank you so much, Tasleem! ❤️
Great advice. It helps me more discerning & now I understand more
Thank you, I’m glad this helped! 💜
You are so great Helena
Thanks Carol! ❤️
Am happy I listened to this session so informative. Looking forward for more infor and I making a change in my life.
I’m glad you enjoyed it, Tracey! Here are a couple more videos on this topic that should be helpful (the first one is another video with Jack and the second one is with my husband!): ua-cam.com/video/jqda97uPRqI/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/rnXoKSMAToA/v-deo.html.
I tend to connect to those in events activities I like, if men are married it’s such a relief, I’ve joked and told men not to fall in love with me
I just broke up with my boyfriend after 10 months. One of the most confusing things for me was that he spent the better part of our relationship telling me, in a variety of different ways, that he was not capable of loving me. He also said things like "we both want the same things"? Devalued me, and didn't share his negative feelings until i asked him. We were in a committed relationship, he called me his girlfriend and i called him my boyfriend. However he said to me that dating and a relationship are the same thing to him. This led to him telling his parents he's dating but didn't see any significance in telling them my name. When i decided to end the relationship, he finally told me that he's in love with and he was scared (in line with my intuition all along) suggested we go to therapy (he shot that down anytime i suggested it before) gave me all the validation that i craved in the relationship. Can someone make any sense out of this shift? I want to say that it was coming from a place of manipulation. But maybe theres another perspective thats not so negative? The themes here were emotional unavailability, fear of commitment, highly unpredictable and inconsistent behavior. I miss him, i love him, but i feel its over.
In my experience that happens when the guy prefers to be the one to instigate breakup; they cling to you when you're the one to leave, until you give in and stay thinking they really, really want you but down the track they end it. Hope I'm wrong in your case if you think he's the one.
Would be great to hear a video on what content to have in your online dating bio and what to leave out that is in the feminine. I can see how wording is important such as describing yourself as a high value woman without saying those words. Saying what you're looking for instead of saying what you dont want, etc.
And also clarify if dating is for practicing feminine tools versus actual genuine interest in dating guys to pick the one that resonates best. I get both from the feminine essence community coaches. Rori Raye says date people even you're not attracted to or wouldn't even consider just for practice then there is also talk about dating for real and filtering out guys that arent your fit/ people you actually would consider.. So when or how am I suppose to shift gears for just practice including people I dont like versus only people I am attracted to on various levels and filtering them... I hope this made sense!!
Thanks for the great suggestions, I’ll keep this in mind for future videos! 💕
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GREAT video❣️ Thank you 🙏
You’re welcome! 💝
I'm watching from Zambia
Thanks for watching, hope you enjoy the video! 💜
Yes, I enjoyed, thank you so much
You’re welcome! 💝
And we are up front
Thank you, I like everything you are saying.
You’re welcome! 💕
Wow this is amazing,I been in a relationship for a year and i taught we were in commitment but this wasn't the case because he was exactly this type of guy he had exes on his back pocket and social media I also found out he was still following dating sites,with heavy heart i had to walk away and close this space between us ..thank you for this video very informative
You’re welcome, Livia! Thanks for sharing your experience here, sorry to hear you went through this. You definitely made the right decision by walking away! ❤️
The only container to relax in is marriage.
Talk about BUSY 😂
On my favorite list
I’m glad you enjoyed this one! 💕
Thank you Both..awesome!
You’re welcome! 💜
This is amazing!!
Thank you, I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💕
Healthy information thanks for sharing all of this information God bless always
You’re welcome, Jelina! 💜
Hello from Canada 🇨🇦
Hi Lana, thanks for watching! 💜
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Interesting 10 year relationship & now it seems like we are back to square one. It's like he expects me to be the hunter. He dropped off sorta ghosting. It see.s like he wants me, to be rhe hunter. He is disqualifying himself. Your comments are so real.
Thanks for sharing your experience here! My latest video might be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/_jARxknc160/v-deo.html
What if I have been dating someone for 7 months and have not met his family ir friends other than his son when he invited me over. I asked him to go to son's birthday dinner and he said "if I am not busy." I previously invited him to daughter's house for grandaon's birthday and he said it was too soon then he said thought all family would be there. We went to Vegas 3 times and 3 concerts in 5 months time. We have great time together. He has been divorced 2 years
Hi Coach Helena & Coach Jack Good Night's From Singapore! Why Would A Guy Might Be Catching Up With His Ex-GirlFriend If He Wants To Commit To His Current GirlFriend While He Available Or UnAvailable Guy While He Never Shows-Up Or He Is Never Interested? Can A Woman Walked-Away From A Guy If He Never Really Put Enough Work To Be With Her While He Plays Around With AnyOne's He Wants In The Near Future's? Can A Guy Really Commit To A Woman If He Has Certain Issues Regarding Relationship Or Commitment Issues? How To Knows When A Right Guy Will Come When Wrong Is Almost Impossible Available At A Wrong Timing While Emotional HeartBreak Still Triger's When A Woman Is Done Healing Her Own Heart-Space? Will A Guy Might Be Returns To A Woman After One Year Gap Or What Does A Guy Wants From A Woman After Doing No Contact Or Almost Nothing Happens Between A Guy Or A Woman? Will Feeling's Occurs Or Strong-Emotional Bonding Might Wants A Commitment & A Honest Relationship? What Are The Guy's Reasons If No Contact Or No Communications Between A Woman? What If A Guy Really Wants To Communicate & Might Wants To Settles Down With A Woman He Love's & Liking Her Almost Triger His Real-Deep Honest Feeling's With Her?
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Hi Roberta, thanks for watching! 💜
Perfection doesn't exist on this earth..l guess love is all about compromising en sacrificing.. if he isn't ready for this let him go en keep the door open for better opportunities. Life is too short,happiness is my priority!
Thanks for sharing! 💕
But after how long one should expect partnership to start shaping? What is a guy has kids? Wouldn’t that take longer??
Great question! Every situation is different, but this video should help give you some clarity: ua-cam.com/video/HRvJEJ6ygE8/v-deo.html
I like the bluntness
I tried to sign up for your masterclass but I am waitlisted.
Hi Kim, this livestream was from almost a year ago. If you’re on the waitlist you’ll be notified when Jack hosts his next masterclass. 💜
Playa del Carmen, MX
Thanks for watching! 💕
I had everything but I lost my cool and ranted about his mum to him. I wish I had not done it as he beat me up. I shoukd never have lost my cool. But I think Jack would say he was not my guy! I thought we were going the whole distance . But he used his mum to triangulate her into our relationship. I did not realise I had to always look after his mum too. And he wanted me to have babies and hand them over to her. Why? So I could keep working and provide an income. I felt like his work horse.
Omg... thank you for everything...makes me move on
You’re welcome! 💕
I needed to here that..ty..Jack ☺
I’m glad this resonated with you! 💗
Missouri here
Hi Lisa, thanks for watching! 💕
@@HelenaHartCoaching totally my pleasure, I'll be sure to look for more
so real
Thanks Rubina! 💕
Hi im from reno n.v.
Hi Sonia, thanks for watching! 💜
Season is important. Yessssss and go live your life
Yes, definitely! 💕
This is interesting!
Thank you! 💜
Yes no premature attachment lol
Shouldn’t guys keep up consistent contact and escalation (via phone calls and video chats) during quarantine? Or is it reasonable to expect that they are not consistent during this time because at the moment, there is no tangible end of social distancing in sight? I get that we’re all talking to several people at this time, but do the same rules apply? I think they should, but I question if that is realistic.
Great question! In my opinion if a man is truly interested he’s going to keep up consistent contact with you. The right guy isn’t going to let you slip away! 💕
Helena Hart thank you! I agree, I feel that way too. But I was just trying to put myself into the guy’s head and I wondered if the same rules apply during quarantine or not.
You’re welcome! 💗
Its hard when this man lives in the back half of your home.😅 friends always...
These videos I recorded with Jack might also be helpful for your situation: ua-cam.com/video/EFzjPYsm_Pk/v-deo.htmlsi=oMY5fu_0VSQ5NxR-, ua-cam.com/users/livek8eb_r5tjtE?si=OK0yERMsdKMEvxNQ and ua-cam.com/users/livegQNmkJHeNxo?si=crPsFa39IYznCEvZ.
Going through it
But I'm determined to make him mine someday one way or another lol
Dang Jack’s gleaming white teeth ...almost blinds me ! Lol 😂
LOL :)
Is the other program available via UA-cam?
Jack’s free Masterclass? I don’t believe that it is, but the link to get access to it is in the description of this video. 💜
Hi! English is not my mother tongue, I understood almost everything you guys said but there's this part I couldn't. It's between 24:50- 25:10. Could you explain it, please?
I’m a divorced woman with children every time I get to meet a man they like me a lot but when I tell them I’m a mother they disappear after a very short time !! It happened to me a lot ! Now I just want to stay single I don’t trust men anymore!
I don’t have kids but hear that from single moms all the time and talk to my guy friends who say they don’t want to date someone with “baggage” especially if the men don’t have kids themselves so you can’t take it personally! Chin up, the right guy will come along, maybe with his own kids in tow and you will blend families, don’t give up on happiness!
How about a guy who divorced 12 yrs ago and hasn't had a serious relationship after that?
I would watch his ACTIONS, as that will usually tell you everything you need to know about his intentions and interest level. 🧡
@@HelenaHartCoaching Thank you Helena! His actions definitely showed his intentions,we are no longer talking.
yeah my favorites
Thanks Angela! ❤️
Is it good or bad if he wants me to meet a few women he used to date?
That sounds very odd to me, personally I wouldn’t want to be with a man who suggested something like that - but I’d recommend getting in touch with what would feel good to YOU in a relationship. 💜
This is nutritious!
Thanks Gabrielle! 💕
We separated for 3 months without seeing or calling each but he will drive around just to see if I’m outside but he tells me he better not catch me with anyone because if he does he wii embarrass me fun everyone
YES!!!
CAUTION, CAUTION, CAUTION
"SUDDENLY PARTNERED W SOMEONE ELSE"
Hurts SO much! Free yourself!!!
Ugh...so true!!! Companion and lover of two years, "amazing connection"...it was so much fun, dancing, laughing, great sex...
I was his emotional soft place to land, .. .but the red flags were unexplained distancing, other women still in his life on the perimeter...
not exactly there for ME!
Had started introducing me to his world friends,family, showing me houses, had a lovely Friday evening, cooked, made love, snuggled, and left my bed on Saturday morning, went on a date w someone else, and sent me the goodbye text on Monday...saying he didnt really know why, but he had to go find what he needed"
He married her 2 months later!!!
And, postscript: he still isn't happy, and tries to score some attention from me...UGH.
FREE YOURSELF!!!
Thanks for sharing your experience here, so sorry to hear you went through this. ❤️
What do you mean by “unexplained distancing” ?
@@Smokillo Just disappearing for a week , coming back with vague explanations, when I asked,like he would say he had been busy .....no details, which I shouldnt have accepted.
@@HelenaHartCoaching Thank you...It was a blessing in disguise, and it's been awhile, but so painful at the time...unfortunately a very real example of what can happen. Thanks for the videos, they are a great service to those searching for help and answers!
You’re welcome Elusiva, I’m so glad they’ve been helpful! 💝
What if he brings her around his family and kids but doesn’t want a relationship
If a man says he doesn’t want a relationship, it’s important to BELIEVE him (rather than try to change his mind). 💜
How to get rid of a guy who is not loyal.
I’m stuck with a guy who gets irritated to have the “where are we” talks... he doesn’t like putting anything in solid terms. He’ll say yeah we’re working toward a future but nothing is promised/we don’t know for sure. We fight when you’re on your period so we’re not meshing all the time (which increases my anxiety about the relationship). Any tips on getting him to actually talk about this or giving up?
These two videos I recorded with Jack should be helpful for your situation: ua-cam.com/video/HRvJEJ6ygE8/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/jqda97uPRqI/v-deo.html.
Life is a rollbacks game
What about a 3year relationship? Hes not showing up with clarity for what we are. I left but we haven't really talked.
Three years is more than enough time for a man to know what he wants with you, in my opinion. 💜
This is very straight talking tough love... it’s super helpful❤️. #castleinthesky 😬😬🙈🙈🙈
I’m so glad this was helpful! 💕
Wow this is what I just went through this has been for forty five years in between twenty year two different husbands this is so amazing @lorraineamicothemakeupartist thank you so much
You’re welcome, Lorraine! 💚
And the one boyfriend in between all these years every time a break up and the last husband a death keep getting crumbs with all of them but with all your videos your teaching well never knew my whole life now I’m aware it all started at child hood 65 years of all different kinds of crumbs thank you so much hard to fight this last crumb off alone fourteen years no relationships got to learn just got hurt the other day with the same guy I keep going back too not lasting at all crumbs I beat myself up all the time I’ve been writing a book for awhile I never worked on relationships thought that’s the way it is all kinds of dysfunctions I master it all this last one Sunday for only six weeks of text and phone never did this with that same one guy forty five years each breakup nuts @lorraineamicothemakeupartist
Thanks for sharing your experience here, I’m glad my videos have helped! 💕
What if my man when we fight kicks me out but when I’m about to go
He doesn’t want it to really happen. What should I do I feel insecure? He is hard person to communicate with.
Hi Rosita, this video might be helpful for your situation: ua-cam.com/video/LqF0Qz_nTSU/v-deo.html
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EXACTLY ... “you can’t push me away”! Triggers are natural! ... I found my answer: you can’t say the wrong thing to the right man. Those tough conversations week in week out is a part of a good relationship .. WOW..WOW..WOW .. Thank you!
You’re welcome Lina, I’m glad that resonated with you! 💞
Love it! Respect & value yourself! If you're not getting your needs met, move on! It will eventually dissolve in the end. Am there myself! lol Let ii go, let.God! Make your decision today! I did! You're a queen!👑
Lorraine Couture I did too
Thanks for sharing your insights and experiences here! 💜
Well said,I'm grateful that I read this comment today going to follow the same. 😊
Love is like a butterfly,if you chase it,it will elude you but if you let it fly,it will come when u least expect...
Thanks for sharing your insights here! 🦋
Truth!
Buckle up Ladies, but always remember it is OUR Choice , only can get hurt if we have rose colored lenses....
If he likes me , he would call me
You don't want this kind of man,they are evil!
Hi how are you doing me ok what's your number so I can call you
Would you call me
"Drop-off guy is not your guy," Jack says. INDEED! Thanks for the advice, Jack and Helena. I love you both. Stay safe from the virus.
Yes!! You’re welcome, Lisa! 💕
It just makes me angry and disappointed, why would I even be with a guy? They never care anyway. I'm fed up. It's best to stay single and spare the heartbreak and pain and suffering. I've had many bad relationships and it's all my fault that I let them in to my life and let them hurt me. But I'm never gonna let that happen again. No more. I have my God and my mom and my friends. I'm perfectly fine. Just got to enjoy the good things in life like my job, traveling, workout, healthy foods and spending time with the people who actually care about me. These days I just outright cut off any guy who wants to date me. No. I won't let a guy hurt me anymore. Just no. Bye bye.
Yes, sounds like you need time to heal. I'd like to suggest reading the books John Gray has. Men are from Mars Women are from Venus. I'm reading beyond one now. He has a live on fb every day at 10:00 am I think central time. He goes over a topic. But after he answers everyone's question. It has been so helpful to me. I wish you the very best. Your absolutely right. Your perfect just by yourself ♡
I feel happy by myself , and breaking up is dna near traumatic. I get it
@@kimberlysmith4997 Thank you for the kind words 🙏🏼💕 I'll check out the book you suggested, sounds like a helpful read.
@@katherinegordon8088 Thank you for understanding 🙏🏼💕 I'm a lot happier these days being single 😊🙌🏼❤🌸
I worked with a guy (married) who came in one morning, happy, upbeat,smiling jabbering about what a wonderful wife he has and how lucky he is for having her in his life!!! (Sweet). A few months later, he comes in the office. Quiet, poker face, he looks at me and says. “ You know how lucky you are that you’re single...”. 🤣🤣😂🤣😂😂
actually bluntness is nicer. the euphemistic language might seem like a shield against accountability ?
agreed 100
Diagnosis: #TRAGEDY4YOU
#Transformation = 'days u'r not going to like me' / availability 101
What is blunt to one person is rude and obnoxious to another. What is polite to one person is cloudy and euphemistic to another.
I really process a guy with manners. A guy who opens your car door regardless of a keyfobe that will do it. A guy who holds your chair until you are seated. A guy who's a good conversationalist. This what impressed me beyond looks.
Love it, thanks for sharing! 💙
@@HelenaHartCoaching Second chances are a license to do it again...I tell my friends that if he cheats again they must take responsibility for giving him a license for a repeat performance.
Had a guy like this. He showed up 110% ALL the time, for about 7 months, right up until the moment he told me he was dumping me because he'd been 'seeing' another woman off a different dating site for a few weeks.
@@susanparkes5096 Did you inquire if he was seeing others? Of course if you did and he lied he deserves payback...and he'll get it when he least expects it. You, in the other hand, now have a question to ask of any guy who shows up 110%...seems that extra 10% might have been overdone on his part.
Jack has beautiful eyes!
Great video and very helpful. I love how straight forward and clear you both are. And I respect the sober objective perspective. We deeply need this whilst navigating! Takes the ambiguity or open to interpretation out of it when he's blunt. Love it. So glad these videos are coming out. You're literally shaping the relationship and dating world. You two are successful rock stars! Woot
Thank you so much, I’m glad this was helpful! ❤️
Women always chasing with you keep the faith and together plan my life pls fitting my husband and I got the perfect I asked God in the marriage truely blessing.I am so glad.
I met the man of dreams who did all of this for me, for us. I called him my dream boyfriend. He was 38 years older than me. He passed away 1/30/21 after a short and beautiful romance lasting about 5 months. My heart is broken and I question if true love like this is once in a life time, however hearing this dialogue is refreshing and brings me hope when I feel so hopeless.
Hi Carol, I’m glad this helped bring you hope! ❤️
This has been so what I needed to hear as I’m struggling now with a long term relationship of six years
I’m glad this was helpful, Karen! 💕
Exactly my question long-term relationship he’s head over heels but he has over 2000 followers yikes
Wow. It looks like i always meet guys at their "im changing, im not ready" phase. Unfortunately, i couldnt meet any final product so far
This video might help give you some more clarity: ua-cam.com/video/HRvJEJ6ygE8/v-deo.html
For me it's either that or they are already a final product.... But it's for another woman.
They got their lives figured out career money home wise ( i found out that they are married and have kids).
These are just crushes.
What if a guy contacts you nightly and you spend time together several times a week, but doesn't progress the relationship forward in terms of amalgamating your lives with kids etc on his own, but rather requires suggestions from myself to move forward. Would this be an example of not progressing forward?
Be careful. Is he doing it just to string it along or is he shy at putting himself forward. He is not investing. Hes just doing what you want. Let him lead/ see if he will. Don't rush but don't wait too long.
My guy had experienced my crazy, and he still accepts me. Not sure where we are or have been, but, he’s been around for a few years- dealing with my stuff/me. I love him so hard for that, no matter what. THAT is LOVE
Thanks for sharing your experience here, Tara! 💞
Men put up with what they want from who they want, just like women do.
So happy to all hear the difference between lover,companion and partner! Clarity has finally sink in. Thank you both!👏
You’re welcome, Shirley! This livestream I did with Jack should also be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/HRvJEJ6ygE8/v-deo.html
Some women really know this instinctively...follow instincts sisters! Wait!
Thanks for sharing, T C! 💕
Yes I want to be able to call a 0 a 0 and trust that I can recognize a 1 and not be in a perpetual state of wondering 💕
Yes!! Love it! 💗
Omg Jack is really amazing ! Helena please keep bringing him in 🙌🏽 he is the best guest speaker you have done sessions with. Fab !
Jack is awesome! I’ll be publishing another video with him on my channel in a couple days, I think you’ll love it! 💙
Appreciate reading that! :)
I concur!
@@thejackbutler By far..... I am SO appreciative of not hearing you refer to such things as us gals supposed to be or treated as goddesses and queens etc. Such makes me scream! Just found your work and channel and already a fan and new subscriber.
👏👏👏💝
Jack Butler is amazing! Thank you so much for introducing me to him. Very much appreciate that you share your friendships with other coaches with us. 🥰 Thank you🌸
You’re welcome, Angela! I love doing collaborations, they’re my favorite! 💞
Just finished watching this video. This is one of the best episode, various questions that totally represented me. Thank you, Helena. Your channel can make a better world and a peaceful connection
You’re welcome, I’m happy to hear that! 💗
Dear beautiful and kind Helena,
Just wanna share my gratitude here, so after watching so many channels about dating skills, so confusing, the more I watch, the more I get confused. I decided to focus on only specific guru that can give me positive energy and guidances, and I found you as my perfect inspirations for you can relate to me in many aspects and the most important thing is the way you encouraged us, in a gentle and loving way, not with a harsh judgement to shape our new behavior. Thank you so much for you videos, every day I prioritize my time to learn from your videos, it is like a great online class for me.
I am so excited to rebuild my new life by changing my strong negative old beliefs (destructive thoughts: I am not enough, Being single is a result of my resentment and hatred to some significant others that hurt me in the past, and I am just the practice girlfriend for some men who then married other women). I am choosing to change my story, firstly, by changing my belief system into new belief systems:
"I am beautiful, loving, kind woman who is deserving a healthy committed relationship with a greatman with beautiful mind and soul. He showers me with healthy love and relationship that meet my needs, and he feels so grateful to have me in his life. I am worth it and I am the prize, I thank for all my lessons in the past, they are the best guru to take me here on this stage of my life, and I love being myself, growing together with millions women around the world, this is so Huge, I hope that we can always spread the love within ourselves, and spread the kindness together in this community"
1. I am the prize, I know my worth, so that I never settle for less. I deserve the best scene in my own life movie.
2. Stop chasing man, practice my feminine energy everyday, lean back, relaxed, feel the feeling, and absorb my energy to something that's good for my personal well being.
3. Becoming a high value woman with amazing life that's meaningful for me and others. I am responsible for my own happiness and my best life.
Universe has our back, and we're never alone in this beautiful love life journey. Love from here, somewhere in the pale blue dot, Indonesia. Thank you, Helena, so grateful to find you here in this planet ❤️
This is beautiful, Maeya! I love everything you said here, thanks so much for sharing! Keep me posted on how things continue to go for you, I’d love to hear about your progress as you go along. ❤️
Yes!! ThankYou both
Emotionally available unavailable man. It is the worse!!!! It absolutely f.... your heart & brain
I'm listening again. I luv both of you. Thanks very much for loving the public and telling it like it is. Soooo helpful and easy to know what too do in a relationship. Wow helps for no heartache. Seriously. A big THANK YOU! Smile.
You’re very welcome Elizabeth, I’m so glad this was helpful! ❤️
The component where he is emotionally connected but not available hits home to me. I been through that with guys where they want to talk all the time and no real relationship came out of it.
JSM - This is something SO many women can relate to, I hear about this all the time and of course have experienced it myself.
Usery is Narc Optionetic's 🌐
During the time of Quarantine the Narc will fall hard into familiar h2o
They become drop off to the "new" supply by default. "Optionetic's"
Hold your loveliness HIGH
No contact from a place of love
So much wisdom here! Love following both of your content over the years.
Thanks for watching, I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💕
Thanks for your continued tuning in!
Helena could you do a groom lesson fir first date as i haven't been on a date since divorce 15months ago
Two of my favourite youtubers in collab, and the content is 1 + 1 = 3, or 5! Brilliant!
Thank you so much, I’m glad you enjoyed this! ❤️
Love that you experienced this that way!
Oh, what a great Churchill quote. I love how you tied that into this. That really solidified that idea of freedom and mature masculine for me. Thanks for sharing that.
I’m glad that resonated with you! 💞