How Men Test Women (5 Sneaky Ways He's Testing You And What To Do About It!)
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- Опубліковано 29 вер 2024
- Discover five subtle ways a man might be testing you AND what to do about it to make him see you as someone he wants to commit to in this livestream with Mike Goldstein on how men test women.
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Can we do it on WhatsApp cos i am in Australia
Yes, I've heard of these. Great stuff!
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Helena your friends can be venerable with you because you communicate well with others. You are a highly intuitive person and intelligent as well.
Thank you so much! ❤️
I let men know I am old school. The man drives to the woman. Others can do it how they wish. If a man is not willing to invest time and effort..I would rather not meet him.
Thanks for sharing, Judy! 💕
I LOVE this “dual” help line! I’m moving back to Texas, am 61 yr old single women, out of the date scene for 10 years, have taken great care of myself and feel a bit anxious about the dating scene. This info from the both of you is as valuable as gold. Thank u thank u thank u
You’re welcome Ellie, I’m glad this was helpful! We’d love to hear how everything goes for you! 💜
I told a guy I don’t kiss on first date, and when he walked me to my car, he stole a kiss. I was stunned. I told him I wouldn’t be seeing him again, for testing my boundaries.
Thanks for sharing your experience here, Maria. This video might be helpful for anyone who wants to learn more about boundaries: ua-cam.com/video/ggTZAJZn1NI/v-deo.html …I also just posted a new podcast episode on boundaries - you can listen to it on Spotify here: open.spotify.com/episode/3OW6YzpITkxlEQD3W3SKz4?si=pCLFCZzsSoGRDUXNBRCBKw
…or on Apple Podcasts here (feel free to leave me a review!): podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/master-your-magnetism-with-helena-hart/id1585522214?i=1000539081961
I have learned so much about dating relationships on this site
I’m happy to hear that! 💜
You guys are funny together!
And Mike, when you smile your whole countenance lights up! Keep it up!
Thank you! 💞
Mike, I love that you threw in the "programmer in me....if-then statements" statement 🤣 It's insane how often programming thoughts pop into your mind when it comes to real life and dating. Love all of your all's videos! ❤
I am also currently talking to someone who has completely raised my standards whether I end up with him or someone else in the end. He is amazing in every way and we have so much in common. We started as coworkers then became friends and feelings have blossomed. He constantly showers me with compliments and wants to do anything he can to be able to spend time together. He is 'all about me" as you said. My only concern is the possible large age gap and he is embarrassed to say his age. I am upper 20s. Neither of us have kids so that's no issue. We both love kids and he's amazing with my nephews and family. What are your thoughts on large age gaps?
From what I’ve seen, it usually depends more on what stage of life you’re both in - and whether or not you’re on the same page in terms of what you want and see for yourself in the future. 💞
It's also important to me that a man fits into my world and gets on with my friends, family...he scores massive points. I dont feel like it's a test.
Thanks for sharing, Samantha! 💜
Today is the first time i have discovered you Helena. I like what you have to say! I will continue to follow you!
Thank you Denise, I’d love to hear how this goes for you! 🧡
Great conversation - refreshingly to the point, lots of great examples, and you weren't constantly up selling.
Thank you Sallie, I’m glad you enjoyed this! 💕
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Be emotionally available..as a FRIEND, then find someone who's emotionally available.
Thanks for sharing your insights here!
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Yes men do this ask me to pick them up it's rude so glad U mentioned it cos it's just not gentleman
Mike is drop dead gorgeous
Great job both of you...thank you!
You’re welcome! 💝
Mike cracks me up. He's so goofy!
Yes, Mike is awesome! 😃
If he doesn't drive the distance to pick me up at my door then he's not worth my time unless he doesn't drive. A man should always offer to accommodate her even if she drives and has a car. If he doesn't drive then its his responsibility to accommodate her and pay for her gas.
Helena going no holds barred lol! Love it!
Haha 😂 thanks SF!
Helena is one tough 🍪!
I'm a widow, was married 37 years and have no idea how to start dating or how to get a man interested. Any advice
Hi Elizabeth, it’s all about putting yourself out there and practicing! I would check out Mike’s free webinar here to help you get started: www.ezdatingcoach.com/how-to-get-and-keep-guy-forever/
just be careful. I wasn't met a narcissistic man. all over you lying to start off with. Good luck hope you find someone nice. Britain is horrible for men. probably where you are much nicer
Uh careful going to someone's house until you trust them. Period.
Agreed!
New boyfriend went to seeing me everyday to 3-4 times a week...I'm ok with this except he has a lot of excuses about having to launder clothes...should I walk away????
Jenelle from Arizona
Hi Jenelle, thanks for watching! 💜
Here from Far East Texas
Hi Susan, thanks for watching! 💙
How
Do you find out what a guy is looking for?
Ask him. Most men will tell you the truth. But, if he keeps taking you on dates, calling, texting, and progressing the relationship it should be quite clear. If you are seeing each other at least once per week and you aren't exclusive by 60 days I would exit the relationship.
He is my first love but I havent seen him in 50 yrs but we always thought of each other. I found him 3 yrs ago and we r going to see each other next yr but he doesnt talk alot but we need to see if the chemistry is still there but I think there will b but sometimes I feel he is seeing how much I care for him so he can trust me to open up more. How can I get him to open up how he feels now about me.
We have gone thru all the important firsts when we were 17 but really since 14.
I really need help. We live 800 miles from each other.
Hi Jane, this video might be helpful for your situation: ua-cam.com/video/5uioaICJXQ4/v-deo.html
Hi Donna, thanks for watching! 💜
Hi Jane, did you and him ever get together?
I would like to know cause I have a issue a little like yours. I hope you can let me know. Thanks
I can't find the 36 questions you were talking about. Where can i find them?
It’s in the description of this video, and I’ll post it here too: www.ezdatingcoach.com/36-questions-opt-in-helena
What if the woman don't have a car , how should we start out dating?
Hi Valarie, I’d meet in a public place that’s close to where you are. 💜
What's a good online dating services?
I met my partner on Bumble, but I’d try a few different ones and see which one works best for you! 💜
@@HelenaHartCoaching Helena, you met your partner on Bumble but wouldn’t you say Bumble is a woman pursuing a man when she has to message him first? Please provide some insight on this.
F M - In my experience, I sent the first message since that’s the way the app is set up - but he took over from there when it came to pursuing and setting up plans, etc.
Not seeing the 36 questions. Can you please help me find them?I am watching the replay
The link is in the description of this video, and it’s also in the first comment that’s pinned to the top. 💜
Hellooo from nyc
Hi, thanks for watching! 💕
Where can you get that 36 questions ?
Hi Emilyn, it’s in the description of this video and also in the first comment that’s pinned to the top. 💝
Get the question s
Sounds more like an ego trip for the guy!
Hahaha!
Mike, if you are still single, I'd like to meet you. :) I don't care about occupations, as long as the person proves to be the right one.
Question at 28:00. If a guy told me he needs space, I would NOT contact him. He needs to feel what his life will be like without me in it.
Thanks for sharing your insights here, Donna! 💕
Agree with you 100%
As soon as I get any feeling that someone is "testing" me I just lost interest. I hate mind games. That person isn't ready for a mature relationship. If you can't just be yourself with someone there's no there there.
Exactly, that shows that he is full of uncertainty some dumb shit
@@elainewilliams6334 Yeah he's full of uncertainty because he's been hurt in the past and wants to try to avoid getting hurt. Men get hurt too; not just women. He wants to clear up the uncertainty by seeing how you are ...
Testing is normal, healthy, and mature--for both sexes. You can and should just be yourself, and if you don't pass each other's tests, then you clearly aren't a good fit. It's not about playing mind games, it's about seeing if you meet each other's standards and values, which is extremely important when selecting who to invest in a relationship with.
Yes i am not in mind games and head wrecking stuff who they do think they are?
Everyone tests people. It's the same as putting your toe in the water before you jump in. Do you test men before you trust them with your darkest secrets? It would be foolish to trust anyone without some type of evidence that they are trustworthy. Its not the same as jumping through hoops or being manipulated.
Online dating horrifies me. These men that want sex on 3rd date..
They can't have sex if you say "No!". If you say no and they keep asking you out, you may have someone.
My boyfriend never asked me on vacation or made any plans with me. He always said he was going to do something and always backed out.
I backed out of the relationship.
Thanks for sharing your experience here, I’m glad you were able to move on! 💙
You should have!
Hek yea
Oh girl, I've totally been there too. Promised to plan a holiday for my birthday, never did anything about it. Byeeee
Grown ups should not behave this way.
I feel so empowered and peaceful after listening to you two. You two are so connected and compliment eachother so well. Really beautiful friendship you seem to have. Thank you ❤❤🧜♀️
You’re welcome Patricia, I’m happy to hear that! 💖
I thought this as well!
I've been listening , your right, a man will find the time to talk
Yes, he absolutely will! 💜
It’s so hard to deal with these relationships, but yes if that man likes you he will make it happen.
The right man definitely will! 💙
silence is loudest word move on
There is nothing wrong with doing something you truly love. I was making more money at my last job , but miserable. Making less now but very happy with what I am doing.
Agreed!!!!
Me too
My man came all the way to my house, picked me up and took my to a nice place, great conversation
I’m happy to hear that Judy, thanks for sharing your experience here! 💕
Per usual, So fun to be with all of you. Also, amazing questions, you folks are soooo smart and ask the most intelligent and insightful things.
Yes! So much fun, thanks again for sharing all your amazing advice Mike!
@@HelenaHartCoaching - Thanks for having me. Just happy to be around your brilliance.
EZ Dating Coach Mike I enjoy your advice and collaboration with Helena when I can tune in! You so remind me (in voice, mannerisms etc) of Jason Tartick from Bachelor Nation! You guys could be related.😊. Thanks for the insight @Helena Hart and Mike! 👍
@@CC12203 - Thanks Carolyn, I will definitely take that compliment, much appreciated!!!
You’re welcome Carolyn, thanks for watching! 💕
Loved this interview! Thank you so much. I particularly enjoyed advice about ghosting! It's such a great advice and makes me appreciate my own worth. If he ghosted.. just move on! Right guy will not ghost you. Basta:)
Boom! That is right.
You’re welcome Justina, I’m glad this resonated with you! 💗
Justina Gen Congrats: "by their FRUITS (what they produce!!) ye SHALL KNOW THEM": Bible!! You defo made the right descision!!! Take care. 😇🤗
A hot 62 lady, looking 45, independent, fun and listens well, Smiles but has boundaries! Know yourself, ladies. Peace
Thanks for sharing, Shari! 💖
Ya. I a queen and independent and no man hooker
I like that you said, the man has to be on the women’s level. 🦋
Yes, absolutely! 💕
When someone asks me to drive to his area, I always say "I'm not very good at driving long distance, can we meet somewhere near X (my area)? "
Thanks for sharing, Kathy! 💕
Then he also says "really? what a coincidence. I have the exact same situation".
@@maxk5831TBH.. If a guy is so bad at driving, then he should go take a driving lesson rather than getting a girlfriend
So after I got past Mike being so cute, the actual content was GREAT! Mike have you got an older brother?
I’m so glad you enjoyed this! 💙
Ha, I do but he is married
Yes, totally a guy will say, "do you get to my town that often"?
and I'll say, Sometimes, I go with family or I go to do this and that but I don't travel to meet men, especially on a first date".
Some will lose interest and some will say, "oh, well, I can drive to you then".
or someone suggest meeting in the middle
Thanks for sharing your experience here! 💕
They just throw the towel in st any speed bump like U are there merely to make their every need met🤭🤦
And U are beautiful and they won't gett off their arses 🤦
If he was worth anything, he would NOT be asking this of you. He would definitely come to see you without any insinuation that this is a buttpain for him.
Dr 4
Loved hearing this information! A great guide to find “the one”, and not lose yourself in the process and waste valuable time and energy.
I may have found my One💖 and hearing this will definitely help see if he enters my tunnel of love....since he is already in the funnel LoL!
He is measuring up to these steps you have outlined for us women who are trying to keep that queen status. Every step is a real journey in getting to know oneself, staying true to yourself and ultimately dance with that guy who is potentially our Prince Charming for a long term relationship! May the music never end...he loves music, as do I, and we share songs to communicate our thoughts and feelings, when we are open to be vulnerable to real love.
I’m happy to hear that Cindy, thanks for sharing your experience here! We’d love to hear how things continue to go for you. 💜
If your parents are out of the 60s/70s they were countering the "secrecy" and held back nature of the 1950s that they saw growing up. Yeah, as Jewish kids we saw a lot of that, and now my grown son says his father and I were a little too "out there" ! I never thought we were. lol
Very interesting!
I told my first date that I don't kiss pin the first date. His expression was priceless. He relaxed and smiled. It set the tone and he's now my boyfriend.
Thanks for sharing your experience here, Judy! 💜
I could so relate to your Meet the Fockers comment Mike! My parents are the sameee and it's uber important for me that my partner get along with them, and like them too. I was really happy when he said he couldn't believe how awesome my parents are.
Happy they liked each other!!
Yes easy breezy does not work you have to be able to say no to someone and they accept it
She could say no if he wants her to drive it all out actually the man pursues the woman
Thank you Helena,I am enjoying your bolder you.Your being true to yourself & not minding to open yourself up to help..You are a class act.Thank you
You’re welcome Teresa, I’m happy to hear that! ❤️
Mike is CUTE! Great pick for to keep us watching!
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My punjabi prince loves me unconditionally I believe it in my ❤
Thanks for sharing your experience here! Here’s a link to my latest video on six things a man will say when he deeply loves you: ua-cam.com/video/k_5l6KjMxSo/v-deo.html
I . really think he is very very fascinating in all honesty I always kind of turned the other cheek when I came down to people that really needed help in their relationships and bringing up a dating coach I honestly didn't know what that was then when I found out what it was about I kind of really didn't believe in it. Only because we should be able to figure certain things out . Especially when it comes down to relationships but after a while hearing people's perspective on this topic . well u definitely have my attention. I think he's 👍 GREAT .♑😘
Thank you Carla, I’m glad you enjoyed this! 💕
Thank you!!
thnx for clarifying all this....been out of the dating game, but i got snagged & forgot some of these
You’re welcome, I’m glad this was helpful! 💜
I get that as well, I gave up law to pursue art and get same comments and gauge my money worth and it makes me feel so uncomfortable
If a man feels demasculated it's because he's insecure. It's not the woman
If your dating someone you should want to take that person out fr Valentine's Day not a so called friend. I bet that girl didn't stay. That's disrespectful
Evaluate the relationship not the man.
Helena and Mike... Good job to you both. I'm watching from Nigeria.
Thank you! 💕
How do you set boundaries when you’re in a long distance relationship?
This video should be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/ggTZAJZn1NI/v-deo.html
I’ve been dating a guy I met online for several months. He was sharing all of this personal stuff with me and opening up in a very emotionally deep way. Now it seems like his ex is trying to go after his business and his house and he now says “he just wants to be friends with me; sorry he led me on”.. This is the greatest guy I’ve ever met and he has great potential. Obviously he’s going through some stuff and I’m trying to give him space right now, but I’m just not so sure.
Sorry to hear you just went through this, Carol! While it might not be your exact situation, what we share in this video should be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/VEkz-OSVDbo/v-deo.html
@@HelenaHartCoaching I am a guy I dated her a whole year last year kept ghosting me every couple months. Then in March of this year without any reason, he told me to F off Carol
I give you both a lot of credit. Being a coach in the current dating environment is not an easy undertaking.
Thank you!
@@HelenaHartCoaching I appreciate all that you are doing here.
I like men to hole the door for me. 20 points
Yes!!
Hi Helena
This Topic is Valuable Vulnerable Best to Hear and Learn. Is Important to Be Yourself Be Human.
Thanks for watching, Nelida! 💜
I feel that clashing & conflict is necessary to transform, evolve & further cement a relationship. You can only meet others as deep as you meet yourself. Different from fighting! Give thanks to you both
Is he a Pisces or a libra lol
You’re welcome, Nicole! Here’s a video on how to transform conflict into intimacy if anyone wants to check it out: ua-cam.com/video/LqF0Qz_nTSU/v-deo.html
Great Advice! Just started dating at 65 after 9 yrs. Things have changed!
I can't get my 36 Questions to Fall in Love. Coukd you pls send it to me ...tks
Thanks Mary Ann! Here it is: www.ezdatingcoach.com/36-questions-opt-in-helena
Email is just videos, no questions. :(
Hi Dianne, the first email you receive should have a subject line that says “36 Questions To Fall In Love - FREE GIFT” and at the bottom of that email there’s a button that says “Claim your free gift here.” Hope that helps!
pt 3. each other have to have tolerance for each other's independence, on the same level
Thanks for sharing, I agree! 💞
I was annoyed and stopped texting my guy for 3 days, he came to me and apologised profusely.
Thanks for sharing your experience here, Stacey! 💕
Hello. I just went through a break up 8 days ago. I know this will help me somehow. He actually texted me yesterday and I didn’t reply.
Thanks for sharing your experience here, hope this helps! 💛
I made a mistake of sleeping with my new man on date 5, at dinner invitation to his home. That was 6 months ago. I've noticed after getting emotionally inv8lv3d, that after spending time together, he doesn't initiate communication/texts, etc.. what do I do now? Back off...? And wait & see? I value myself, like him, want to make relationship work. Is it too late?
Hi Janie, what would happen if you stopped initiating all of the communication - would you hear from him eventually?
@@HelenaHartCoaching Hi Helen, thank you for your reply. Yes, I have stopped texting him.He texted me about general stuff he is doing. I replied, later( not right away), with a brief, neutral, upbeat reply. Will see what happens next, but I have backed off from initiating texts/communications.
Yes, probably too late.
It takes men over 90 days to want to commit and fall in love. Sex does not make them like you more. They produce bonding hormones when they commit, not when they have sex. We, as women, bond because of sex.
After men have sex, they lose their desire to pursue unless they have commited.
Hi, after 6 months of changing our title's.. Yes, I said title like friend, dear, or just first name greetings. We have so much in commo he agrees . To make summoned up. He says we are platonic I think it's a romantic platonic. Just in case he's on this site. I don't want ask much give it away or him. He has discussed with his mom. I tried to let it go he said no, no, no. He's content with friends . I told him how I felt , he said oh no. His words lead me right onto his arms. He decided no it's just friendship.
Is it?
If he says it is a friendship than that is what he wants.
Absolutely, he just wants friendship. If he were attracted to u sexually, he'd let u know more than likely. But heres the key, if u arent cool with just being friends, your certain this is not the route u want this relationship to take, you want more, then leave the relationship. At least make yourself available to someone who does want more. Maybe he will see that he does have more than friendly feelings for you. At the very least, you will be out there working towards finding someone who is right for you. He might see that he misses u, see you out there, you know, kinda thriving,receiving attention from quality men, and realize you are an object of romantic desire or sexual desire. Obviously, this goes almost without saying, if he's saying just friends, then that does not mean friends with benefits, or anything sexual. He doesn't get that side of you. That's reserved for someone who does see how amazing you are and who treasures your friendship AND sees you as worth of being introduced as their partner, girlfriend, fiancee, boo, wife...
This was one of the best talks on the subject. Really learnt a lot and love the sound bites coming out of this left right and centre!! You two seem so at ease with yourselves and with each other that all these teachings are just coming out naturally - really thank you so much!! Loved this 👍🏻🌹💗
You’re welcome Crystal, I’m so glad you enjoyed this! 💞
Thank you!!!! 💜💜
When you first meet. Just weekends seeing each other. How long should this go on ?? So we could arrange something during the week. My last so called partner only wanted weekends ever. Only because he was alone weekends. I just felt used. This one did say if we really got on. See each other maybe one day during the week. To make his dinner coming home from work
"I love spending time with you. It would make me so happy if we could see each other during the week."
👆🏼Love this script, Mike!
This vid is a breath of fresh air. So much on point and assume you are dating a decent person. I have a question....i have a high sex drive so I have a hard time both finding the right guy who can equal me and how soon is too soon especially if i think it could be something.
I’m glad you enjoyed it, Patti! This video might be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/JCVndlVSbak/v-deo.html
Yes the right guy is going to turn up
Yes, absolutely! 💕
Hi, Rewatching because I missed the first part. First scenario fits the question I thought right after to ask. (edit out...) Seems like he did not want to invest much into the date. I have to be safe too.
I would move on. Not sure of the reason, but sounds like he is not 100% interested.
@@EZDatingCoachAw Thank you. Funny enough, but after this happened I stumbled upon a video where a coach was coaching men how to get women to their homes during this time! I enjoyed the live and you and Helena. I am also subscribed to your channel and like that you [insert right word] to Dr. Gray because I enjoy his take on relationships too. Thanks for your response:)
@@angelicsparkles Ha, that's funny you found that!
Yes, I love John. I interviewed him and have 14 videos with him on my channel.
Topic one- I have a novel idea… rediscover chivalry… when I was dating, before I met my husband, I am a lady, if I’m looking for a mate I am looking for… if not a knight in shining armor, the very least lol a gentleman!!!
Let me explain how this obviously archaic practice worked:
A. Man drives to woman’s house/apt
B. Man puts vehicle in park turns off engine
C. Man gets out of his vehicle and walks to the door rings bell or knocks
D. Door is answered and man enters the premises
E. Man helps lady with coat or sweater or shoulder wrap (weather specific)
F. Man takes lady’s arm or hand and walks her to her side of vehicle opens her door closes her door and now returns to drivers seat.
G. Date begins -
***why can’t we see the elephant in the room… women and men ARE NOT THE SAME. our ‘equality’ (I hate that word) is that we were all created humans by the same creator!!!
The end-
we were created very different and for very different purposes…
When we care about something/someone we are careful, gentle, cherishing it (them).
Just in case those reading this comment are wondering- I’ve been watching videos like these to help me understand what my single adult daughter is up against in the ‘dating scene’ today… I know there are some modern day gentlemen out there I just can’t believe what a difference 3 decades can make…
What if a guy that you've been talking to online and on the phone that happens to be the relative of somebody you really like that is only a friend and then about the second phone call he goes why don't you send me some sexy pictures of yourself really before he goes any further isn't that a red flag that all he wants is to get you in the sack?? What would you do how would you put that to him what would you say to put him in his place or what or not?
Yes. Tell him I don’t even know what the name of your first pets called and you want a pic?
Just tell him no.
Not just no, hell no!
Ghosting is not a test, no contact might be a test. How can you tell the difference? You can’t initially, but are you willing to wait around to find out? Who cares, both are immature.
Thanks for sharing your insights here, Charlene!
“I’d love if you came over and I’ll make you a lovely dinner ...”. (Man for first date.)
No thank you. I prefer we meet in a public place . I’m not ready to be in a strange mans house .
What a subtle way to gage i’m if stupid . 😂 And easy. Men who ask me to their home want to have sex. Period!! No TY 😀😀
Thanks for sharing, Gabriela!
I love an independent man so he isn't needy
Also, he doesn't initiate the attack on my body
I love you son
I've said this to the man am talking to. About not having sex until am ready. We aren't just around the corner from each other. So if I go for dinner. We will have a couple of drinks. So won't be able to travel home. Even although I said no sex. Because we have been talking. Texting. Video calling each other. He just said we both know sex is going to happen. Have you any advice please. He's acting like he likes me. But not really listening ?? Great videos. I did say it will happen. But not just now ??
The formula is Compliment, boundary, hope. And repeat if necessary. Seems like it is necessary here.
Also, since you like each other but you don't want to have sex yet. Perhaps the two of you could discuss a strategy to do activities that are geared towards interaction and bonding but not towards sex.
If you spend the night with him, he will try to get you to have sex with him. If you have a couple of drinks, meaning 2, the. Drink water and get sober. If you can’t drive home don’t go. I promise you when he says “it will happen” he means the night you meet.
Why he pulls me close when we’re together. But doesn’t chase. Or even make plans to meet. So confused.
I feel i have no chance in a relationship. I do not meet the right criteria.
I see all the negative character in people. And i see the friends of my ex and figure they where bad company. So i can not be positive about them. A red flag.
Because i reject my family, i realize a man will see that as a red flag. I reject my mother because she destroyed me mentally and did sexual inapropiate things to me. I did not want her close, when my son was born to protect him emotionally and secually.
So my upbringing is also a red flag to a man.
I am on disability. Another red flag.
Never was married, because i never met a safe good man.
And i protect myself from men or woman, when i feel they are toxic and have a character problem. Another red flag.
I do not have savings, house due to disablement and because of that no job. Another red flag.
Lost my property due to horribly stalking and had to sell my appartment and had to flee out of the country. Lost the rest of the money due to very problematic life circumstances.
Being used, abused, bullied as long i can remember. Have learning disabilities due to ADD, have aspergers and physical chronic conditions. A narcosis destroyed a lot in my brain too.
So many reasons for a man to pull back and see red flags all over the place.
It makes me so sad within and i do understand why i should not be hoping of a sensitive, warm, long life partner to meet.
Kind regards from belgium.
P.S.
Thank you for your video's.
I am working on myself from age 19 years old. And it never stops.
How do I get the 36 questions? I'm loving all your discussions.
Hi Carol, the link is in the description of this video and it’s also in the first comment that’s pinned to the top. 💜
Loved this video❗️ ❓With online dating if the guy confuses you with another (ie says he told you he lives xyz floor or that you told him you live in xyz but neither were previously addressed) and you say with good sweet tone oh I think you are confusing time with another you are talking to and he just continues the conv but doesn’t address your comment - do you just let it slide if it’s in the first week or 2❓(he’s currently consistent) - I don’t see anyone having addressed this anywhere 😆
Hey Suz. I would probably bring this up on a zoom date or an in person date and just get clarification. It may have been a mistype or perhaps he lied, but it will be easier to figure out what is going on through a conversation. "What did you mean, when you said." OR "I heard you say ....Is that what you meant?" I hope that helps?
EZ Dating Coach No question that is what he said/meant because I had to repeat “no you didn’t tell me you live on that floor” or no I didn’t say I lived there.. he said yeah I sent you the picture and said I’m on x floor. (He did send a sunset pic but never talked about the type of home or floor he lived at - neither did I about where I live) this was all over a phone call. He just continued the conversation even after I mentioned on the 2 instances (same call) that he was confusing me with another he’s talking to. Do I say I felt my comment was ignored❓
@@suzp8627 - Sure? I am so confused. This guy lied about what floor he lived on?
EZ Dating Coach sorry for the confusion wish there was a 15sec voice record 😄. No. He said he told me what floor he lived on and that he lived in an apt BUT he had never told me previously. He also said I told him before that I lived in an apartment, which I never did (I don’t live in an apt). I said to him you are confusing me with someone else you are talking to. He just continued the conversation pretty much ignoring my comment. (He has continued to be consistent since then) -
Thank you so much for your insight! Looking forward to your response if this clarifies matters.
@@suzp8627 - I would probably let it go for now. I would focus on seeing if you two are a match. Eligible men and women are typically going to be managing a few options as they look for their partner.
However, if this is truly bothering you/making you curious there is nothing wrong with asking him about it over zoom or in person.
Hope that helps.
I am so easy if my man cannot do something I would like him to do. Not a big deal. He will do it next time.
Thanks for sharing, Lara! 💕
A little late to the party however on this topic however I am curious about a scenario where I 'need' to go the the man's home on wknds due to the fact that he is uncomfortable coming to my home since my Ex husband lived at my home for 25 years. This is wearing me down traveling every wknd so I would love to know how how to address this. We live 35-45 minutes apart.
If you watched the video they address the traveling question. If he expects you to do all the traveling and giving...what does this tell you? Obviously on a subconscious level you ARE picking up on it. You KNOW the answer...
Mike, As the guest of this show, you made this show great!
Yes, Mike is awesome! 💙
Yes I Am A Queen. What do you when he pays more attention to his phone.
"I love spending time with you, it makes me so happy when you your phone away and you are present with me." 😀
WALK AWAY right away. Not worth the time or trouble.
Storytime😆 I have been in a relationship with my man for a little over 20 months now! He said something to me, spoke his truth as he saw it and expressed to me in a respectful manner! After about an hour of brewing over it, I realized he was right, as much I hated knowing that, it was definitely true! I didn't pick a fight or argue, I simply said you're right, I apologize and I'll work on that! As women our natural go-to knee jerk reaction when someone calls us out on our BS is to get mad and start a fight or argument! Learning to recognize that feeling when it first starts to boil up in us and knowledging it but not allowing it to take over how we show up in life or respond to those we say we love is very empowering by nature! He recognized my wisdom and maturity in that situation and said I had set the tone for how he will operate from now on! He was proud of me for taking ownership in it and putting in the work to communicate like an adult and overcome my ego! It said it was refreshing to see a woman these days do that! It created a stronger bond between us!
Thanks for sharing your experience here, Mandie! I’m happy to hear that, that’s so inspiring! 💞
Call you over your bs? Why should you be bs'ing in the first place for you to be called out for it? Don't generalize other women to yourself. Stop assuming women have bs to be called out on and then get argumentative over being called out on their bs. Just say it's YOU!
@@sarkie3927 no one is perfect. we all experience defensiveness, sometimes completely unaware of it. it’s human nature to protect our ego. take some time to reflect on your knee jerk comment & ways you may have responded like this to real life relationships. it’s ok to acknowledge our faults & take accountability. it doesn’t make us unloveable to admit a mistake. it only makes us better.
He's also very independent , how long should I wait, and should I just chill it's to early to tell
In my opinion you shouldn’t “wait” for a man, especially if you’ve only had one date. I would keep moving forward and if he wants to be in your life, he’ll make sure he doesn’t miss out on his chance to be with you. This video should be helpful: ua-cam.com/video/qw7LcmSjK4w/v-deo.html
Why is it guys say things that say promising but later deny they said it or say u took it out of context
Hi guys I'm from South Africa..love ur videos
Thank you! 💜
Hi from Halifax UK
Hi Gloria, thanks for watching! 💕
Guy friend on date site we've been talking for a year now He's told me yesterday that he loves me But he's not ready to settle down.
You've never met in person ? That makes him your emotional sponge, basically he's your male girlfriend. As for talking over the net, unless you know him personally or are in a relationship, you should not be spending more than a few minutes on there. The phone,text, email are for setting dates not talking about your day/week as that would mean you''ll have nothing talk about on the actual date, there's no mystery. Assuming you've never met him it's time to move on & stop wasting time. He can'e you as it would take months to get to know one another properly
Hes trying to get you to have sex with him without expecting a commitment. Lol dont do it. He doesnt love you.