Yup. Now they are attempting to make themselves seem like they are empathizing with women but they are not. Just trying to maintain their access to women.
I'm a man and I have always said if I were a woman I wouldn't be interested in beings a mans sex slave, domestic servant, nanny and then have to pay half the bills too. Count me out of that b.s. If I needed a child I could get a sperm donor and agree to be responsible for the child myself, unless mister right came along. But what I see far too often is women being used and abused and played for suckers. That ain't right but it's part of male culture. They want to sex 2 women but won't let another man in the bedroom if she wants to get freaky?
The man saying women should want further the evolution of species. Why ? Men have relinquished their role as providers and protectors. Women should relinquish their role for birthing more people. Women are not obligated to have children.
Preach, sister!!! Even if men do "protect and provide", who protects us from the "protectors"? The most dangerous place for women and children, statistically speaking, is in the home with the husband and father. They don't not protect us, they exploit us.
They sit back and laugh all day about how they're not protecting. I see videos of women being attacked and the comment section is filled with men laughing and leaving snarky comments about women being independent. They resent having to lead and provide yet they still want us to risk our lives to give them babies.
There is no incentive for women to continue the species in this current timeline. The men are complete trash and our reproductive rights are being rolled back by the very same men claiming that it's our duty. I say it's time women close up shop at grand scale, shut down the baby making factory and let the species d*e out before we continue down this dark rabbit hole.
They are so desperate to exploit us for labor and profits they are trying to have minors working in meat packing facilities. They don't see us or children as human being but cogs to fit in and run their machine.
So I've been doing more research on adoption, and apparently, the system makes it very difficult to adopt. We need to change that. I think people should have mental evaluation to adopt but we should not have to pay in order to nurture & help an adoptee child grow!
Mama of 4 kiddos here, all you child free women are my HEROES!!! I adore you precious souls!! Don’t let anyone convince you that you are being selfish. On the contrary, you’re actually able to find your destiny! The more people that discover and live in their destiny, the less this world sucks. Don’t ever get sucked into the TRAP of relationships & procreation!!! Keep your sovereignty!!
Women literally risk their lives to be pregnant. He's right. It would be different if the world valued women and children and families and just humans in general- but it doesnt- so why bring a child into that.
It’s funny how men call women selfish, but not wanting to keep humanity going, but they don’t have a problem being selfish when it comes to what they want on this earth in one women to just accept it
And they’re not the ones having to go through pregnancy and childbirth. Bet we’d already gone extinct a long time ago if men were the ones having to endure all of that to have a child
@@lov5334 I still wont. In not a dan of children. Makes no sense in having them. Also alot of people have kids and end up in nursing homes and by themselves so what's your point.??
@@lov5334 The misconception is that having children will fulfill a person and their lives. A person MUST fulfill themselves, a child could make a infilled life HELL on earth.
‘ becoming a parent is a selfless act’? Completely untrue. Kids don’t ask to be born. Men and women force kids into this world…a world that doesn’t gaf about them, their survival, ability to thrive, or mental/physical health. I have kids and I was selfish for having them because they have to grow up in this trash world with trash people who are evil. Choosing not to have kids is a merciful and selfless act.
@@thunderlion6909 i mean…it may sound harsh, but is it wrong? why else are any of us here? because our parents WANTED children. regardless of their finances, emotional well being, or preparedness, they just ‘wanted’ it. so yes it is inherently selfish.
Why ppl out here acting like there aren’t thousands of children in the foster care system… Even if a woman changes her mind, she can still parent a child..
To the guy that said it’s our duty as humans to procreate….I must laugh. My duty is to live my life for MYSELF, to do what I want to do, to put myself FIRST. All of that goes out of the window if I have kids, I will no longer be first place in my own life & that sounds torturous. My duty in life is to reach self-actualization & to put my well being first before anyone else’s.
He doesn’t think about that this planet is deteriorating. So why keep procreating for a planet that is going to swallow up in flames anyways. Plus, we all gonna die anyways. So why continue to populate the earth just for us to die. And with all the schools getting shot up alone in america and no one is doing anything about it or cares about it, that is more reason for it to be pointless to continue to populate the world. And his mentality leads to more kids end up in foster care, trafficked or sold off for slavery. Because alot of people feed into his mentality and find out they didn’t want kids and wasn’t interested in being a parent. This world doesn’t give af about children, so why do we need to continue to bring children into it to end up suffering anyway.
it's funny how it's always men like him who want to shame or coerce women into having kids but never want to incentivise or make it easier for women to have and raise children. They don't want to do a single thing to help you but you should sacrifice everything to benefit them smh. And then actually have children and see the names they call you.
@@Simping_is_Dead I wish my mom had chosen herself vs a life full of self sacrifice for other people which in the long run wasn’t in her best interest.
Oh please 🙄 If the "species" is not making it condusive for women to have children why would they sacrifice EVERYTHING for a "species" that doesn't give a damn? And yes it's "ME ME ME ME ME" because it is ME who has to carry them. It is ME who's stuck with it should the father not want to be part of raising said child. When society wakes up and decides to support people who bring children into the world, especially women, we owe society nothing.
“ _When society wakes up and decides to support people who bring children into the world, especially women, we owe society nothing_ “. Please explain to me who else outside of females has children??? You do realize that males can’t have kids or are you lost?
@@bellaapple2166 Right? Men treat women and children like dog shit. That's why we are having nothing to do with them, and we're not making babies with them.
@@Lysistrata2025 exactly. His take reeks of privilege as well. I’d probably care more about the survival of our species if I didn’t belong to so many different marginalized groups. Humans are the worse and I don’t care if we go extinct.
Lol we as individuals "aren't that special" but for some reason the human race is? And it requires unequally compensated amounts of sacrifice from women? Dude just wanted to hear himself talk
Right? Wasn't Akon saying that men don't need us and that they can create aluminum foil and turkey baster babies? Oh, our job is actually more important than what these men are saying? Well isn't that just interesting?
I agree; the lifestyle I’d want for my child is not available to me yet. I will get there, and when I do, I will likely foster a child who needs someone in their corner. There are so many children that are already here and suffering; I plan to help with that.
And him saying that it’s not about us, it’s about he human race? Lmaoooo, nobody who has kid has ever said “I want kids to keep the human race alive”. What an idiot.
When that lady said your baby is like having a piece of your souls walking outside of you, I was shook. 😮 she’s right.. I cant be a parent, I’d lose my mind if anything happened to my kid
This man makes so much sense. I would still have kids but under very specific conditions. Most men pretend to be logical but are just as emotional as women. The majority of the population is not logical.
Agreed. I would insist on nanny care and private school (or movw to the best school district) and a post nuptial coparenting plans if we get divorced. I am divorced and learned from that experience. Marriage and kids is a business that can contractually meted out during negotiations.
He is absolutely right. Also, not everyone is capable of being a good parent be it financial reasons, mental health issues, emotionally traumatized themselves...Or they simply do not want kids, and that's okay too. It's best you make that decision BEFORE they get here and you create another broken person.
Preach! I’m child free and there is no way i could be a parent. Because first off, i’m non-affectionate, hate being touched and can’t stand people wasting my time and being in my personal space. All those things alone it would be bad for a child being around me. Because with my luck, i would end up with a kid that is the total opposite: completely affectionate, would want to hug/ kiss/sit in my lap/etc…, and be clingy as a mf. Not interested in that. Kids are great, but not for me personally.
Amen! Youngest of 6 children having kids seemed like a decision they really didn’t want my mother should not of had one more less 6 and I was left alone when she died at 16 sperm donor wasn’t around. I’m 50 plus and I can tell you I thank whatever good there is for that I NEVER had kids! Hell these are my last dogs I can’t imagine being saddled with a child then their children and that’s my life. My neighbors one is a man has a bunch a kids with several babies mommas he has over now and then another her parents are raising her kid the kid is out there cursing at 3 she just gonna be just like them which is nothing living a hard life and miserable. Guess she thought she’d trap her bf didn’t happen think I’ve seen him all of twice in 3 years.
...yeah, I can go along with that, too. With me having a mental health condition since three years old, I took my late grandmother's advice and had myself fixed. I'm not ashamed to say that I am touched upstairs, but least I can say about me: I'm NOT going to be another Susan Smith, Andrea Yates or Lindsey Clancy...and by the way... if you ever saw me on the street, you couldn't tell if something was wrong with me. That's all because I can hold my own and be brave. I hope you ladies take what the sixth person in this video said. Be healthy enough to raise your kid without making it a hardship if you are NOT mentally and/or emotionally fit. Be smart like me...I GIVE MYSELF CREDIT, BECAUSE IT'S LONG OVERDUE!!💯💛
My mother wasn’t in a financial or mental health state to have 3 kids. I could tell she hated me without saying a word. She had a crazy Karen mindset that would make you say, “she belongs in a mental institution.” I had to deal with her abusing me just about daily. I can’t recall a day where she wasnt violently screaming in my face over something small. Or things that weren’t even my fault. She would get into a fight with someone, and I’d always ended up being a punching bag. She had no business having kids. All 3 of us ended up with mental issues because of her. My brother turned to drugs and my sister turned to alcohol. Me? anxiety and depression.
💯👏🏽 This is my main reason why I’m child free , never been pregnant, I use to look at friends, married friends, my co workers, I’m like , they are stressed to the max, I love my cat , and peaceful life , y’all can have it, cause the switch up is real from men , they will abandon anything that won’t benefit them
Girl yes, my kids father begged me to keep our children. I was a teenager the first two times I got pregnant and considered abortion, but I kept my kids thinking he wanted to be my partner. Turned out, him begging me to keep our kids, was because he believed it was his best chance to keep me. In the delivery room, right after I gave birth to our third child, he told me you can't go nowhere now. Enjoy your life love.
I’m 43, no kids and at this point, I’m pretty sure that God will bless me with a bountiful life without them.😊 It’s definitely not selfishness. It’s being considerate of what you’re capable of at this stage in your life. Be honest with yourself 😊
Both having kids or not having kids are selfish decisions, but so what? Do we shame people for stopping at the drive thru simply cause that’s what they want to do?
I learned a long time ago that it wasn't for me. I'm flying out to Greece next month for a month because I can. My accommodation is adults only and it's perfect timing because all the kids are off from school for the summer holidays. Completely self centred, completely selfish and Idgaf 🤸🏾♀️🍾🥂
@@suzettewilliams1758 Portugal is so beautiful. I'm hoping to get back out there for their Christmas festivals in December, but I hope you have an amazing time. xx
When people keep trying to convince my childfree self to have children, i always ask them: “Are you gonna take care of my kids if i have them?” And they get confused when i ask them. And then i respond with, “well, if I don’t want kids and not interested in being a parent, why are you trying to convince me to have something and do something i’m not interested in? Because the only logical decision is to give my children to those who constantly try to tell me having kids is the best decision of my life since they are more adamant about me having kids than i am.” That’s when they stop talking about it and move on to another subject. 🤷🏾♀️
Ladies do what’s best for you. We already see the outcome of having children and in the end you’re rearing them on your own. Also, our children are not safe in this wicked world. I applaud the men and women who are child free. 👏👏👏
Most men who want children have no idea what to do with them. That is why the majority of the time, the women go through emotional rollercoaster to raise them, and the men can either do not help as much or stay and still not help. So when a man says that women will regret not having children ..well it would also be regrettable raising them one while a man is still in the home. Akon said men didn't need women. All men need an incubator.
I understand where he's coming from, I just emailed my child free daughter this video. If a woman choses to have children good for her, but with all the drama and relationship problems not to mention domestic violence I see the child free lifestyle catching on. I'm a 59 year old African american Black man. I have a son and daughter, neither have children, I always told them not to have children until they had good educations, careers and about 200K saved up that was in 1999. Today I'd increase the savings to 500k. Florida is a very expensive state and they live in the palm beach area. I also told them there's nothing wrong with having sex if they chose to just don't have children.
@@teoleno4019 I think most women are choosing not to have kids .. I only want to have 1 child and most of my friends have 1 or zero kids… I can afford one and to raise a child is exhausting if your working .. her dad became emotionally abuse I’ve it was heading to physical and I got out so hell no I won’t have more the environment is not conducive to survival … I am a fast learner team one and done and I am not meant to be a mom so I had no more .. nothing wrong with not wanting kids
He also made me not want to have a kid 😂 he was like “you’re not special” and I was like “agree to disagree”. I’m pretty darn special in my own life - heck if I die this whole show is over 😂
What he said about the system was gold. Also the people I know with kids are always talking about how hard they have to work to provide for the kids. Many speak on it as if it’s a burden. In addition to that, the guilt placed on kids because they’re being taken care of is ridiculous.
Yes. He is the kind of guy I would really fear get trapped in a relationship with by having children. He did not address any of the reasons women are hesitating to have children. He just insists it is not about the woman who is having the baby. It is her DUTY to have babies. Um…no. Not when men leave the risk, sacrifice and heavy lifting overwhelmingly to the women. Nope.
If it’s not about me, he must be saying it’s about him. If he wants me to do something for him that I don’t want to do, he needs to pay me for my labor. I don’t work for free.
Right - That part took me out because then WHO is it for?? I walked away & was like well then i’m definitely not lmfao like wtf? it’s not free to have a kid
What he said about being a byproduct is so true. I do not understand how you can watch your parents, your grandparents, or even your great grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc, not like how they live, and do the exact same thing. Or worse, hate your life and force your kids to follow down in yours and your ancestor's footsteps if you love them.
This right here!! It clicked with me at age 16…I’m the oldest of five and introverted so the majority of my life was babysitting and observing. And I watched my mother, aunt, ,cousin, and friends complain and shift their responsibilities. And I was like this is not for me. I’m 51 and I am living my best happy life!!
I am 39 divorced childless by choice now single and celibate too... it's cruelty to bring a child into this world we live in today number 1...number 2 I haven't met a man I want to help reproduce...number 3 I'm a little selfish..I love that I and my cat are my.only responsibility....number4... that ish is the closest a human can come to death without actually dying. 😂
*I've also observed and noted just how many men **_cheat_** on their partner during pregnancy.* *It is so bizarre, and **_incredibly_** disheartening. Moreover, many seem to leave the union within the first 2 years of the child's life.* *Such a gamble, **_and sacrifice_** for women...for multiple reasons.* 😔
it is because a pregnant women either loses her figure whilst having birth, she is not in the mood for se- or putting up with a man because it is difficult a man only thinks what is best for him, women are far more selfless then men in general. A man is always looking for the "best" he can get. Some are faithful for a few decades even and then get caught cheating some even have secret families and this stuff is fairly common..yikes.
To the statement that women should have children to prolong the human race. That makes sense on paper, but due to men’s degenerate behavior and patriarchal belief, this proposal isn’t worth it. If men weren’t such jerks in relationships it would be. But since they refuse to change and treat women like humans, then let the chips fall where they may. 🤸🏽♂️
I agree and how about if the man had to have the child? I bet he would change his mind real fast? I bet he's not an advocate for women's rights or fair pay for women either..
Dont forget how much of pa*edos men are. They literally destroy children. The other day I saw about a 71 yo male, going to the house of a 13 yo girl child with such intentions.
Yeah, some men love telling women to have children to propagate the human species even they are silent when there are men out there killing women for saying no to them or receiving little consequences.
Why should women have more babies? These guys said they arent marrying so whats the benefit and why should we continue their lineages? That guy is talking about evolution but why should we make that big of a sacrifice for people that clearly are ungrateful for what we do as women 😂😴
I remember my ex fiancé and I talking about a timeline for us to have children. I told him towards the end of the pregnancy and first couple years I was to be home with the baby. He literally lost it and began yelling, that there's no need for me to stay home. We can put the baby in daycare. This lunatic made a lot of money yet he hated the thought of me staying home if we had a baby. Then when I told him I prefer private school I thought was really good, all hell broke loose. They don't even want better for their children. They just want you to bring the baby into the world so they can brag about their legacy. The closer we got to planning the wedding the more issues came up. I couldn't do it I had to leave.
Especially for black women the stakes and risks are astronomically HIGH and unreliable irregardless of her wonderful intentions and aspirations for those children. Can’t make people, family or society to love and have empathy for your children well being.
I gave these reasons to a BM that was complaining about the fact that I didn’t want kids. He ask me why I had to be so negative. I almost called him out his name when I told him that’s the reality I have to live with as a black woman and he completely pass off these real problems as me complaining for no reason and being selfish.
@@msliberated3899 exactly, and in that same vein, black women have a right to be negative. Look at the statistics! I’m sorry but black women have to be the most careful out of everyone!
As a woman with 1 I completely agree.. I love my child don’t get me wrong but 85% of my stress comes from raising my child I do feel like there are many other things I want to spend my time doing than cooking and cleaning drs appointment school etc Chile it can be very overwhelming
I'm an only child, my father is too. I knew since the age of seven that motherhood was not for me. I tell my mother all the time, she should have married again after my father passed away and had more children. It would have increased her chances of being a grandmother. She was in her twenties when my father died. I dont why she wants me to be a mother, it's something that has never appealed to me.
So, I never had children and a few years ago I moved to a country where I’ve learned that people just make babies for the sake of it and always look stunned, dazed and confused when I state that it was my choice not to marry or have children. People INSIST “but you must have at least one...” it’s ridiculous. For starters, I made this decision in my 30s, I’m now 50 which most are stunned to learn but STILL insist “it’s not too late, you can still have one...” 👀 When I explain that I would not under any circumstances have a child at this age when I chose not to have any 20 years ago, they all look like they didn’t think that was an option. Meanwhile, I see miserable women here every single day, struggling to raise a gang of kids that they clearly don’t want and often treat like sh!t. But this society insists on people having a bijillion babies that the women typically care for with little to no help from the men, they often still have to go out and work, and they’re doing nothing but creating generational poverty. I try to avoid having these conversations but as people don’t realize my age and insist on trying to link me up for marriage, I inevitably have to end up telling people these things. I’ve even had to tell a few obnoxiously pushy men “you lot are not the prize. I’m good” ... and they generally look confused and irritated that a woman could be fulfilled without a man and some babies. Meanwhile, I’m living my best life. Ladies, don’t be conned into it if you don’t want to be strapped down forever. You can live a comfortable and happy life without children.
You're absolutely right. All of the reasons people in this comment section listed for not voluntarily having children is the reason "they" want you to continue having them. About a little over a week ago there was a report of roughly 30 kids missing in Cleveland Ohio. Nobody knows where they are. The foster care system has countless kids that go missing on a regular. I remember a story on an actual case worker trying to coerce a young teenage girl into sex work not that long ago. It was caught on video . This problem can be fixed, they just don't want to. In order for society to continue as it has been there will always have to be individuals that are at the bottom for the wealthy to loom over and for the bottom feeders to seige on. There are plenty more Epstein's in the world doing what that vile creature did. It's like the movie Hunger Games...it's a race to survive.
@@deckhead33 yes, I’m in an under developed country and yes, there is a herd mentality. Oddly, it exists with the poor and the rich. There have been a few relatively wealthy men who have tried to get at me, one had 2 wives & 13 kids and insisted he need me as his 3rd American wife! 😂
I watched a video yesterday of a baby resting next to his mom just staring at her with this loving adoration, it was the sweetest and purest thing I've ever seen. I cried because that's an experience I would have loved to have. I think I would have been a very good mom. But at almost 40, I haven't been with the right man to share that experience with. My last ex, who was a friend of 26 yesrs, told me he couldn't get anyone pregnant, said by his doctor. He had no problem knocking up a woman he was juggling me with. She moved to a different state and he wasn't helping financially. That's the last I heard. And that's exactly what I never wanted to see my child go through. My own dad once told me he didn't want kids (pretty easy to tell by his treatment). And with the condition of this world.. my heart hurts for the children and what they've been through psychologically especially the past few years. This world is not what we think it to be. And there are so many broken children walking around in adult bodies. I feel at this point my greatest contribution to my potential child is to protect them from a life of suffering in this dumpster fire.
I raised my children alone and they’re awesome beings- daughters AND sons. If you want a child, you can have one ALONE and that child is going to THRIVE from the attention and care they’ll receive- nobody needs a BAD PARENT, which is what many fathers actually are. My own mother was a horror show of a being but that didn’t stop me from doing the very best I could do with my own offspring *despite* my horrendously abused childhood- facts are EVERY parent has their own challenges. I had my last pregnancy at 47, naturally conceived, but I chose to not go through with that one because my body and mind were exhausted and I would not have been a good mother at ALL for that child- I had had a baby at 43 and I was done. My pregnancy at 43 was perfectly fine without ANY involvement of the medical industry, no scans, no tests, I gave birth by myself in a birth pool in my bedroom, no issues, healthy all round. You can absolutely have a child if you want to and you can afford to. ❤
These women are smart! Being a parent is not for everyone. I have two grown sons, and all I do is worry about them its crazy. I was a single mother, and it was rough, I struggled the whole time. More people need to definitely think of these things before having kids. I say dont have them unless you have six fiqures and a stable loving marriage mate..😉
5:09 Beautiful sister and speaking wonderful truth. My sperm donor fathered 8 children with my mother and abandoned us as I see it, I'm the youngest. He never kept a steady job was a drunk and acted childish. He didn't mind whipping ass either. On a scale of 1 to 10 I'd give him a 3. In my 13 years knowing him before he died. I'd estimate having talked to him personally for around 15 minutes tops.
@@ShaynieB Keep in mind were talking 1964. Times were a lot different and women weren't as educated. And many were religious and ignorant to S.T.E.M. My 2 children have no children, they were raised to be financially competent before bringing life into this world. Nothing against sex but financially ready before creating life.
With all this madness going on today I'm so relieved I don't have kids. And I only see things getting worse and more confusing for children. Good luck to all the good & active parents out there🤞🏾🙏🏾
The white guy was emotional and extreme. Not everyone is going to think this way 🙄🤐 they need to be more humble. They made this a losing proposition. Make it a winning one 🤷🏾♀️
At 4:58. I was speechless. Sis couldn’t have said it better. I want my non existent children to have so much that I would never place them in this world. This world is horrible.
Facts! GOD knew what he was doing not allowing me to be able to have children. And i’m getting me a hysterectomy. I cannot wait! Being blck, I would NEVER bring a child in this demonic world.
I don't care about what males think about childfree women. For him it's 5 seconds of pleasure and being praised for the rest of his life, for me it's 9 months of suffering, 18 years of work, lifelong consequences and constant shame and blame. He has zero right to open his mouth about my "duty" because he's lazy and selfish by definition.
He nailed it. Everybody is different and doesn't find joy in the same things. And the way some of these males walk off and don't want to financially support their children is mind blowing. It's not worth the trouble.
Ladies do you. I am a mother choice. Two daughters college educationed. One wants children and one does not want children. My girls are critical thinkers, "you hang with a critical thinker, you catch critical thinking". DO YOU!!!
Critical thinking is why college is so expensive. They wanted to edge people out from college because once many are in university they wake up to society’s bull, so they made it too costly. Good for your girls realizing what is and is not for them based on real logic and not what society wants them to do.
I feel like it would be contrived to tell you it will be ok. But it will be. I'm passively suicidal too. I've engaged in self harm in the past. But it will be ok. Hang in there. I have. Idk if you will see this reply, but I hope you do.
I have one.....and we've talked. She understands why I said...If I had known this world would be THIS bad.... I probably would've left her in heaven. I went through a lot to even conceive and I worry about her future in this hell hole. She has told me that she's NOT having ANY children....... her dad and I FULLY SUPPORT her decision. I hope she sticks by it.
Another thing…. This entire planet is decaying from the inside out at a daily rate of 3%. The environment is no longer conducive to families and creation of families. Far to many men that do not want those kids either and it’s a horrible cycle.
Valid points! I'll be 39 on June 16th. No kids yet but I always desired that for me. However, I must have a suitable partner and have various systems in place before I feel comfortable. You have ppl having kids because its a checklist just like marriage. I'm 30, I must be married and have kids when they are not suitable for neither roles. I work in the children system of care and its disgusting to see some of these parents and they wonder why their kids have issues. Its because you haven't healed and work through your bs before kids and now these same parents are frustrated and/or mad. Another point too, kids are trophies to some parents, the idea of how can they benefit from or off that child too. Work on you first before bringing another human into the world!! If not you are lowkey selfish. To be a parent you have to be selfless. ✌🏾
Most woman want a child but there are many of us that don't and I'm thankful to be in the first generation where it's possible and becoming socially acceptable.
Facts!!!! I love my 2 unconditionally but whew!!! If I could do it again I'd be child free and free free being a mother is not for the week and ppl bash and toot their nose at women with no kids are unmarried and single mothers it's all b.s
THE DUDE @ 11:36 is the problem.... he is giving ProLife and women belong in the kitchen vibes... those who get it get it those who dont call women selfish...
How is being a slave to a child and a man fulfilling?🤨🤨🤨🤨As a woman as an individual IT IS all about me so I will put ME FIRST. I DGAF about the human race. As a matter of fact, needs to end because we are so cruel and evil towards each other. The human race DOES need to end.
Thank you! 5:52 I suffered from depression and high anxiety because of mental and emotional abuse from my dad. I used to wonder why my mum had me then would tell me to just cope with what she had chosen for herself when I didn't have a say in it. When I would ask her we leave my dad from when I was young she'd say she needed him for support but ended up doing it on her own regardless. When I would express my disdain for him she'd tell me he's my dad and to just accept him as he is and still love him. This conditioned me to be in toxic relationships and before I got the self love I have now, I was in emotionally, mentally and PHYSICALLy abusive relationships cause that's what was normal to me as I saw it from my mum and dad's relationship. Once I realized I was programmed wrong and acted right and got the right man, I fell into serious depression and anxiety cause literally HEALTHY was so foreign to me it was like a disease. 😳 I didn't want children even after being with my man for 6 years but now I am due next week. In the first trimester what scared me is how I'll be able to show the kid this "new" healthy life when I am also getting accustomed to it. I am now ready for my baby and thank God for the healing otherwise I would have brought another broken person into this world who would be abused. I never judge anyone who doesn't want a child because I also didn't but life had a different plan for me. Thank God it was when I am healed and mentally and emotionally stable. People should truly live their lives and not judge others. We are all walking a different path to fulfill our own unique destiny. What's best for you might not be for me.
Society needs to change to make it easier to raise children. The less people have children then it will pressure the policy makers to incentivize having children
As a 25 yr old, I’m currently undecided but one thing I know is this - I won’t have a child until I can emotionally, financially and spiritually afford to do so. I won’t be a single parent and I won’t have more than one. If you need kids to feel fulfilled and have purpose, you’re doing something wrong...
14:01 Spot on and also how about rove vs wade being overturned and child abuse and sexual abuse, and can you imagine being a child going to school being afraid every day especially with the racial component. And the cop shootings of black men women and children is horrifying.
I love my unborn child so much that I refuse to bring them into this existence.
This is me!
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Haha I'm using this because it's true
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mine aren't complaing
Men are getting scared women have had enough
They should be sacred.
Yup. Now they are attempting to make themselves seem like they are empathizing with women but they are not. Just trying to maintain their access to women.
Why should they be? they thought motherhood was not an important function so let them do it.
I'm a man and I have always said if I were a woman I wouldn't be interested in beings a mans sex slave, domestic servant, nanny and then have to pay half the bills too. Count me out of that b.s. If I needed a child I could get a sperm donor and agree to be responsible for the child myself, unless mister right came along. But what I see far too often is women being used and abused and played for suckers. That ain't right but it's part of male culture. They want to sex 2 women but won't let another man in the bedroom if she wants to get freaky?
Maybe if the species becomes close to extinction people would realize they need to treat women and mothers better.
If humanity is counting on me for its continued existence…🤷🏾♀️ Sorrows, sorrows, prayers.
PREACH.....I will not be putting another black child on this planet to suffer and be another slave in the system.
Good for you!!!
😂😂😂😂not the Bridgeton quote 😂😂😂
No worries my dear. Millions of wildly incapable people looking to add meaning to their existence will choose to procreate and the race will continue.
No you didn't quote brigeton
The human race going extinct has nothing to do with me
I highly doubt we'll go extinct theres 8 billion of us if anything we need less people
It’s what we deserve 😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@phonecharger6789y'all are funny 😂😂
Yeah, was I supposed to think that's a bad thing? I mean, it's kinda what I was going for.
There’s plenty of people reproducing - we will most likely go extinct because of climate change, honestly
The man saying women should want further the evolution of species. Why ? Men have relinquished their role as providers and protectors. Women should relinquish their role for birthing more people. Women are not obligated to have children.
Preach, sister!!! Even if men do "protect and provide", who protects us from the "protectors"? The most dangerous place for women and children, statistically speaking, is in the home with the husband and father. They don't not protect us, they exploit us.
They sit back and laugh all day about how they're not protecting. I see videos of women being attacked and the comment section is filled with men laughing and leaving snarky comments about women being independent. They resent having to lead and provide yet they still want us to risk our lives to give them babies.
This
There is no incentive for women to continue the species in this current timeline. The men are complete trash and our reproductive rights are being rolled back by the very same men claiming that it's our duty. I say it's time women close up shop at grand scale, shut down the baby making factory and let the species d*e out before we continue down this dark rabbit hole.
@@bellaapple2166 Yes the equal rights and lefts.... They think we should face violence for having the right to dictate our own lives!
He said " Why create another SLAVE for the SYSTEM 🔥 🔥 🔥
Faxxxxx
That part! He called this society a zoo. It’s also a farm!
@@churchsbiscuits 🤣🤣sure is
They are so desperate to exploit us for labor and profits they are trying to have minors working in meat packing facilities. They don't see us or children as human being but cogs to fit in and run their machine.
Exactly!!
All of these kids in the foster system that are forgotten and all some people care about is creating more humans.
Right! Exactly it makes no sense
That's a valid point
I say this every time. Worry about the kids already here who didn’t eat today not some hypothetical child that doesn’t even exist
I guess the parents took that losers advice and got the fuck out of the equation
So I've been doing more research on adoption, and apparently, the system makes it very difficult to adopt. We need to change that. I think people should have mental evaluation to adopt but we should not have to pay in order to nurture & help an adoptee child grow!
I have never regretted not having kids. As a black woman I probably would've been raising the kid by myself.
This is quite sad!😔
Amen A child is a life time commitment. It is scary that a man can just walk away with almost no judgment.
Stats say this
Gotta date other race men
The generational trauma ends with me. My ancestors will thank me.
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I pray the creator will bless you for your kindness to this earth. #Savethechildrenfromus
Mama of 4 kiddos here, all you child free women are my HEROES!!! I adore you precious souls!! Don’t let anyone convince you that you are being selfish. On the contrary, you’re actually able to find your destiny! The more people that discover and live in their destiny, the less this world sucks. Don’t ever get sucked into the TRAP of relationships & procreation!!! Keep your sovereignty!!
You all sound demonic and demented
wow youre so sweet
Thank you. You’re doing the Lords work honey because motherhood is a THANKLESS job
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Full admiration and respect here.
Women literally risk their lives to be pregnant. He's right. It would be different if the world valued women and children and families and just humans in general- but it doesnt- so why bring a child into that.
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It’s funny how men call women selfish, but not wanting to keep humanity going, but they don’t have a problem being selfish when it comes to what they want on this earth in one women to just accept it
Yup. They are the first ones to become deadbeats and complain about having to take care of crotch fruit they help create.
If it’s so important they can make it a job and pay women
Someone said "People.having kids further society" I said "They didn't have kids to further society, they wanted to fk
And they’re not the ones having to go through pregnancy and childbirth. Bet we’d already gone extinct a long time ago if men were the ones having to endure all of that to have a child
Keep humanity going? 😂😂😂 Well they want to be women as well so tahuh! 🤣🤣🤣
As a 29yr old woman. I dont want them and I don't need them. They are cute when they are some body else's problem 😂
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Pathethic
@@Native._.but it’s the truth 😂
@@Native._.In this world, you are no better.
@@stephaniedennis5125 cowards. Some of us aren’t afraid to be a real woman.
He said nothing but facts in my opinion. It's high time people spoke the truth. I knew from very young I didn't want kids and why I didn't want them.
Same I'm 30 still have not changed my mind never will...
Same here. In 2 years I’m donating my eggs, they gon provide some sort of benefit to me 😂.
@@vikingrolloishot1789 I would like to if you feel the in your 50s, I'm just curious
@@lov5334 I still wont. In not a dan of children. Makes no sense in having them. Also alot of people have kids and end up in nursing homes and by themselves so what's your point.??
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The misconception is that having children will fulfill a person and their lives.
A person MUST fulfill themselves, a child could make a infilled life HELL on earth.
‘ becoming a parent is a selfless act’? Completely untrue. Kids don’t ask to be born. Men and women force kids into this world…a world that doesn’t gaf about them, their survival, ability to thrive, or mental/physical health. I have kids and I was selfish for having them because they have to grow up in this trash world with trash people who are evil. Choosing not to have kids is a merciful and selfless act.
Maybe it should say "being a great parent is a series of selfless acts"
@@Heyu7her3 parenting is entirely selfish there is no selfless acts.
@@nowhre True
@@nowhre WHAT?
@@thunderlion6909 i mean…it may sound harsh, but is it wrong? why else are any of us here? because our parents WANTED children. regardless of their finances, emotional well being, or preparedness, they just ‘wanted’ it. so yes it is inherently selfish.
I applaud any man or women who refuse to be pressured into having a children.
Why ppl out here acting like there aren’t thousands of children in the foster care system… Even if a woman changes her mind, she can still parent a child..
They desire to trap women to be their servants. Getting a woman pregnant is a trap and ploy for them.
Exactly. If we're just going to have children for selfish reasons, might as well care for the ones that are already here.
It's the mini me complex they want juniors.
the thing is men flip because " not their kid "
There are more than 8 billion people, in the world today. Why do we need one more person?
To the guy that said it’s our duty as humans to procreate….I must laugh. My duty is to live my life for MYSELF, to do what I want to do, to put myself FIRST. All of that goes out of the window if I have kids, I will no longer be first place in my own life & that sounds torturous. My duty in life is to reach self-actualization & to put my well being first before anyone else’s.
He doesn’t think about that this planet is deteriorating. So why keep procreating for a planet that is going to swallow up in flames anyways. Plus, we all gonna die anyways. So why continue to populate the earth just for us to die. And with all the schools getting shot up alone in america and no one is doing anything about it or cares about it, that is more reason for it to be pointless to continue to populate the world. And his mentality leads to more kids end up in foster care, trafficked or sold off for slavery. Because alot of people feed into his mentality and find out they didn’t want kids and wasn’t interested in being a parent. This world doesn’t give af about children, so why do we need to continue to bring children into it to end up suffering anyway.
Well Said 💯👌🏽
it's funny how it's always men like him who want to shame or coerce women into having kids but never want to incentivise or make it easier for women to have and raise children. They don't want to do a single thing to help you but you should sacrifice everything to benefit them smh. And then actually have children and see the names they call you.
Good thing your parents didn’t feel the same huh?
@@Simping_is_Dead I wish my mom had chosen herself vs a life full of self sacrifice for other people which in the long run wasn’t in her best interest.
Oh please 🙄 If the "species" is not making it condusive for women to have children why would they sacrifice EVERYTHING for a "species" that doesn't give a damn? And yes it's "ME ME ME ME ME" because it is ME who has to carry them. It is ME who's stuck with it should the father not want to be part of raising said child. When society wakes up and decides to support people who bring children into the world, especially women, we owe society nothing.
I completely agree.
“ _When society wakes up and decides to support people who bring children into the world, especially women, we owe society nothing_ “. Please explain to me who else outside of females has children??? You do realize that males can’t have kids or are you lost?
@@divalizzous You are the one who seem to be lost. Women do not owe anyone children. If the species must die out then they must.
Men of all races are begging us to stop birthing them😂
Actions speak louder than words.
After generations of being treated like shit and fatherless homes because the men abandon them so we stop birthing them
@@sarahrobertson634 Have you seen the way most of them treat their children? That's action! What more do you all need.
@@bellaapple2166 Right? Men treat women and children like dog shit. That's why we are having nothing to do with them, and we're not making babies with them.
Yet women won’t listen
12:10 Bold of him to assume I GAF about propagating the human species 😂🤣😂🤣
Ok!!!! I agree
@@Lysistrata2025 exactly. His take reeks of privilege as well. I’d probably care more about the survival of our species if I didn’t belong to so many different marginalized groups. Humans are the worse and I don’t care if we go extinct.
Lol we as individuals "aren't that special" but for some reason the human race is? And it requires unequally compensated amounts of sacrifice from women? Dude just wanted to hear himself talk
Riiiight. Its literally nature, we gotta go extinct someday 🤷🏾♀️
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I thought Akon told the shmenz to find incubators since women aren't needed to have a baby. why is everybody tripping? Akon figured it out 😊😊😊
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Right? Wasn't Akon saying that men don't need us and that they can create aluminum foil and turkey baster babies? Oh, our job is actually more important than what these men are saying? Well isn't that just interesting?
Right!
You said “I love them so much to not have them!”
I totally understood what you meant!
That hit me hard too…a lot of truth packed in that statement
I agree; the lifestyle I’d want for my child is not available to me yet. I will get there, and when I do, I will likely foster a child who needs someone in their corner. There are so many children that are already here and suffering; I plan to help with that.
The guys who said that if no one had babies the human race would go extinct. YEAH! And it would be the best thing for the planet!😂
I agree. No one admits that humans are the most destructive creatures on this planet. They destroy everything.
And him saying that it’s not about us, it’s about he human race? Lmaoooo, nobody who has kid has ever said “I want kids to keep the human race alive”. What an idiot.
That sista nailed it. It's okay when men say it but not when women say it. And I personally feel that women should stop listening to men anyway.
Esp when many of them have deep-rooted hatred for women.
Becoming a parent is NOT a “Selfless” act!!! Sirrr…. 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Listening to a man talk is like listening to a drunk talk. They mean nothing they say. It will change when ever the wind blows. It gets you no where.
When that lady said your baby is like having a piece of your souls walking outside of you, I was shook. 😮 she’s right.. I cant be a parent, I’d lose my mind if anything happened to my kid
This man makes so much sense. I would still have kids but under very specific conditions. Most men pretend to be logical but are just as emotional as women. The majority of the population is not logical.
Facts
Based on all of the acts of violence men commit daily they are far more emotional than women.
On god 🤣🤣🤣
Men are the ones killing people over small offended. Very logical!!
Agreed. I would insist on nanny care and private school (or movw to the best school district) and a post nuptial coparenting plans if we get divorced.
I am divorced and learned from that experience. Marriage and kids is a business that can contractually meted out during negotiations.
He is absolutely right. Also, not everyone is capable of being a good parent be it financial reasons, mental health issues, emotionally traumatized themselves...Or they simply do not want kids, and that's okay too. It's best you make that decision BEFORE they get here and you create another broken person.
Preach! I’m child free and there is no way i could be a parent. Because first off, i’m non-affectionate, hate being touched and can’t stand people wasting my time and being in my personal space. All those things alone it would be bad for a child being around me. Because with my luck, i would end up with a kid that is the total opposite: completely affectionate, would want to hug/ kiss/sit in my lap/etc…, and be clingy as a mf. Not interested in that. Kids are great, but not for me personally.
Amen! Youngest of 6 children having kids seemed like a decision they really didn’t want my mother should not of had one more less 6 and I was left alone when she died at 16 sperm donor wasn’t around. I’m 50 plus and I can tell you I thank whatever good there is for that I NEVER had kids! Hell these are my last dogs I can’t imagine being saddled with a child then their children and that’s my life. My neighbors one is a man has a bunch a kids with several babies mommas he has over now and then another her parents are raising her kid the kid is out there cursing at 3 she just gonna be just like them which is nothing living a hard life and miserable. Guess she thought she’d trap her bf didn’t happen think I’ve seen him all of twice in 3 years.
...yeah, I can go along with that, too. With me having a mental health condition since three years old, I took my late grandmother's advice and had myself fixed. I'm not ashamed to say that I am touched upstairs, but least I can say about me: I'm NOT going to be another Susan Smith, Andrea Yates or Lindsey Clancy...and by the way... if you ever saw me on the street, you couldn't tell if something was wrong with me. That's all because I can hold my own and be brave. I hope you ladies take what the sixth person in this video said. Be healthy enough to raise your kid without making it a hardship if you are NOT mentally and/or emotionally fit. Be smart like me...I GIVE MYSELF CREDIT, BECAUSE IT'S LONG OVERDUE!!💯💛
My mother wasn’t in a financial or mental health state to have 3 kids. I could tell she hated me without saying a word. She had a crazy Karen mindset that would make you say, “she belongs in a mental institution.” I had to deal with her abusing me just about daily. I can’t recall a day where she wasnt violently screaming in my face over something small. Or things that weren’t even my fault. She would get into a fight with someone, and I’d always ended up being a punching bag. She had no business having kids. All 3 of us ended up with mental issues because of her. My brother turned to drugs and my sister turned to alcohol. Me? anxiety and depression.
@@gothica3605 dang I'm soo sorry
Women have been preaching this, he’s using women’s own words for profit and clout! Take your power back!
I see them (men) doing this all the time on social media, I don't know why some women fall for this.
Take your power back ladies
💯👏🏽 This is my main reason why I’m child free , never been pregnant, I use to look at friends, married friends, my co workers, I’m like , they are stressed to the max, I love my cat , and peaceful life , y’all can have it, cause the switch up is real from men , they will abandon anything that won’t benefit them
Live your life sis 💃💃
Exactly right 💯especially the men switch up part.
Girl yes, my kids father begged me to keep our children. I was a teenager the first two times I got pregnant and considered abortion, but I kept my kids thinking he wanted to be my partner. Turned out, him begging me to keep our kids, was because he believed it was his best chance to keep me. In the delivery room, right after I gave birth to our third child, he told me you can't go nowhere now. Enjoy your life love.
@makingchanges2011 wow. Baby trapping is a thing for men
I can relate. I love my cat, sleep and peace
Women are choosing to be single and child free; it is the absolute BEST thing for women!
I’m 43, no kids and at this point, I’m pretty sure that God will bless me with a bountiful life without them.😊 It’s definitely not selfishness. It’s being considerate of what you’re capable of at this stage in your life. Be honest with yourself 😊
Goals❤️
Both having kids or not having kids are selfish decisions, but so what? Do we shame people for stopping at the drive thru simply cause that’s what they want to do?
I learned a long time ago that it wasn't for me. I'm flying out to Greece next month for a month because I can. My accommodation is adults only and it's perfect timing because all the kids are off from school for the summer holidays. Completely self centred, completely selfish and Idgaf 🤸🏾♀️🍾🥂
Sounds like bliss to me. I'm off to Portugal in October to make sure I do not have to deal with children
@@suzettewilliams1758 Portugal is so beautiful. I'm hoping to get back out there for their Christmas festivals in December, but I hope you have an amazing time. xx
Hoping to move to Kenya or Ghana close to the beach for a few years. Peace queen!
Love this for y’all(us!)
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When people keep trying to convince my childfree self to have children, i always ask them:
“Are you gonna take care of my kids if i have them?”
And they get confused when i ask them. And then i respond with, “well, if I don’t want kids and not interested in being a parent, why are you trying to convince me to have something and do something i’m not interested in? Because the only logical decision is to give my children to those who constantly try to tell me having kids is the best decision of my life since they are more adamant about me having kids than i am.”
That’s when they stop talking about it and move on to another subject. 🤷🏾♀️
😂😂! When I ask that question they usually get quiet... 🦗🦗
harsh reality most of the parent didnt put much thoughts .. in fact.. people think more what kind of car they wanna buy than having kids...
Ladies do what’s best for you. We already see the outcome of having children and in the end you’re rearing them on your own. Also, our children are not safe in this wicked world. I applaud the men and women who are child free. 👏👏👏
Most men who want children have no idea what to do with them. That is why the majority of the time, the women go through emotional rollercoaster to raise them, and the men can either do not help as much or stay and still not help. So when a man says that women will regret not having children ..well it would also be regrettable raising them one while a man is still in the home.
Akon said men didn't need women. All men need an incubator.
But who will take care of these grown men (boys) ,who will feed them n clothe them ,as a gay men clearly not themselves...
People say I'm selfish for not having kids but then feel entitled that I owe them a future generation because they want one 😂😂
I understand where he's coming from, I just emailed my child free daughter this video. If a woman choses to have children good for her, but with all the drama and relationship problems not to mention domestic violence I see the child free lifestyle catching on. I'm a 59 year old African american Black man. I have a son and daughter, neither have children, I always told them not to have children until they had good educations, careers and about 200K saved up that was in 1999. Today I'd increase the savings to 500k. Florida is a very expensive state and they live in the palm beach area. I also told them there's nothing wrong with having sex if they chose to just don't have children.
I wish most parents will have these type of honest conversation with their kids. You are an amazing Dad
But you're a men. Society loves single bachelors with no kids. It's different living as a childfree woman.
Florida? Can a person even get homeowners insurance in Florida? 🤔🤔🤔
@@mizzmolly7649 😂😂 Chile
@@teoleno4019 I think most women are choosing not to have kids .. I only want to have 1 child and most of my friends have 1 or zero kids… I can afford one and to raise a child is exhausting if your working .. her dad became emotionally abuse I’ve it was heading to physical and I got out so hell no I won’t have more the environment is not conducive to survival … I am a fast learner team one and done and I am not meant to be a mom so I had no more .. nothing wrong with not wanting kids
I rather mop the ocean with a shirt than birth a kid. Ain't no way.
Use Bounty. It's the quicker picker upper lol!
That white man screaming at 13 minutes was just projecting lol
He also made me not want to have a kid 😂 he was like “you’re not special” and I was like “agree to disagree”. I’m pretty darn special in my own life - heck if I die this whole show is over 😂
What he said about the system was gold. Also the people I know with kids are always talking about how hard they have to work to provide for the kids. Many speak on it as if it’s a burden. In addition to that, the guilt placed on kids because they’re being taken care of is ridiculous.
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That white guy.. says its not about you? Then who is it about? When you have a child - your life is constantly revolve around the child.
Right?!! It made me chuckle. What a clueless robot
Yes. He is the kind of guy I would really fear get trapped in a relationship with by having children. He did not address any of the reasons women are hesitating to have children. He just insists it is not about the woman who is having the baby. It is her DUTY to have babies. Um…no. Not when men leave the risk, sacrifice and heavy lifting overwhelmingly to the women. Nope.
If it's not about me, guess I don't have to do anything then. I'll just go back to what I was doing, thanks guy 😂
If it’s not about me, he must be saying it’s about him. If he wants me to do something for him that I don’t want to do, he needs to pay me for my labor. I don’t work for free.
Right - That part took me out because then WHO is it for?? I walked away & was like well then i’m definitely not lmfao like wtf? it’s not free to have a kid
What he said about being a byproduct is so true. I do not understand how you can watch your parents, your grandparents, or even your great grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc, not like how they live, and do the exact same thing. Or worse, hate your life and force your kids to follow down in yours and your ancestor's footsteps if you love them.
This right here!! It clicked with me at age 16…I’m the oldest of five and introverted so the majority of my life was babysitting and observing. And I watched my mother, aunt, ,cousin, and friends complain and shift their responsibilities. And I was like this is not for me. I’m 51 and I am living my best happy life!!
I am 39 divorced childless by choice now single and celibate too... it's cruelty to bring a child into this world we live in today number 1...number 2 I haven't met a man I want to help reproduce...number 3 I'm a little selfish..I love that I and my cat are my.only responsibility....number4... that ish is the closest a human can come to death without actually dying. 😂
Hey Trini…
@@zedmak hey hey
*I've also observed and noted just how many men **_cheat_** on their partner during pregnancy.*
*It is so bizarre, and **_incredibly_** disheartening. Moreover, many seem to leave the union within the first 2 years of the child's life.*
*Such a gamble, **_and sacrifice_** for women...for multiple reasons.* 😔
it is because a pregnant women either loses her figure whilst having birth, she is not in the mood for se- or putting up with a man because it is difficult a man only thinks what is best for him, women are far more selfless then men in general. A man is always looking for the "best" he can get. Some are faithful for a few decades even and then get caught cheating some even have secret families and this stuff is fairly common..yikes.
To the statement that women should have children to prolong the human race.
That makes sense on paper, but due to men’s degenerate behavior and patriarchal belief, this proposal isn’t worth it.
If men weren’t such jerks in relationships it would be.
But since they refuse to change and treat women like humans, then let the chips fall where they may. 🤸🏽♂️
I agree and how about if the man had to have the child? I bet he would change his mind real fast? I bet he's not an advocate for women's rights or fair pay for women either..
Dont forget how much of pa*edos men are. They literally destroy children. The other day I saw about a 71 yo male, going to the house of a 13 yo girl child with such intentions.
@Emily Rogue Agreed! Patriarchy screwed the natural way of doing things up.
Glad to see women waking up and opting out!
There are plenty of children who are available for adoption. Take care of the children who are here first, before demanding BW birth more
Yeah, some men love telling women to have children to propagate the human species even they are silent when there are men out there killing women for saying no to them or receiving little consequences.
32 no children and single. Wasn’t my ideal lifestyle but it’s working for me. I’ve came to terms that this can be my life and I’ll be okay with that
Same 💯
Why should women have more babies? These guys said they arent marrying so whats the benefit and why should we continue their lineages? That guy is talking about evolution but why should we make that big of a sacrifice for people that clearly are ungrateful for what we do as women 😂😴
Men don't appreciate us, and won't help with the kids, so we just won't have them.
I remember my ex fiancé and I talking about a timeline for us to have children. I told him towards the end of the pregnancy and first couple years I was to be home with the baby. He literally lost it and began yelling, that there's no need for me to stay home. We can put the baby in daycare. This lunatic made a lot of money yet he hated the thought of me staying home if we had a baby. Then when I told him I prefer private school I thought was really good, all hell broke loose. They don't even want better for their children. They just want you to bring the baby into the world so they can brag about their legacy.
The closer we got to planning the wedding the more issues came up. I couldn't do it I had to leave.
THIS!!!!!!!
They view marriage as more of a commitment than having kids. Crazy isn’t it?
@@bellaapple2166you should have asked him that before having kids
Especially for black women the stakes and risks are astronomically HIGH and unreliable irregardless of her wonderful intentions and aspirations for those children. Can’t make people, family or society to love and have empathy for your children well being.
@Nashae not to mention the homicide rate of BW who get pregnant
I gave these reasons to a BM that was complaining about the fact that I didn’t want kids. He ask me why I had to be so negative. I almost called him out his name when I told him that’s the reality I have to live with as a black woman and he completely pass off these real problems as me complaining for no reason and being selfish.
@@solaris5922 Typical response, if we have an opposing opinion we’re Negative! 🙄
@@msliberated3899 exactly, and in that same vein, black women have a right to be negative. Look at the statistics! I’m sorry but black women have to be the most careful out of everyone!
Highest mortality rate ...d i e during child birth also smfh
As a woman with 1 I completely agree.. I love my child don’t get me wrong but 85% of my stress comes from raising my child I do feel like there are many other things I want to spend my time doing than cooking and cleaning drs appointment school etc Chile it can be very overwhelming
I’m childfree by choice and I approve this message.
He says we're not that important because we're going to die, but then having a baby isn't important because that baby's just going to die too. 😂
I'm an only child, my father is too. I knew since the age of seven that motherhood was not for me. I tell my mother all the time, she should have married again after my father passed away and had more children. It would have increased her chances of being a grandmother. She was in her twenties when my father died. I dont why she wants me to be a mother, it's something that has never appealed to me.
Your life is your own. Make sure your choices are governed by YOU and not by societal views.
So, I never had children and a few years ago I moved to a country where I’ve learned that people just make babies for the sake of it and always look stunned, dazed and confused when I state that it was my choice not to marry or have children. People INSIST “but you must have at least one...” it’s ridiculous.
For starters, I made this decision in my 30s, I’m now 50 which most are stunned to learn but STILL insist “it’s not too late, you can still have one...” 👀
When I explain that I would not under any circumstances have a child at this age when I chose not to have any 20 years ago, they all look like they didn’t think that was an option.
Meanwhile, I see miserable women here every single day, struggling to raise a gang of kids that they clearly don’t want and often treat like sh!t. But this society insists on people having a bijillion babies that the women typically care for with little to no help from the men, they often still have to go out and work, and they’re doing nothing but creating generational poverty.
I try to avoid having these conversations but as people don’t realize my age and insist on trying to link me up for marriage, I inevitably have to end up telling people these things. I’ve even had to tell a few obnoxiously pushy men “you lot are not the prize. I’m good” ... and they generally look confused and irritated that a woman could be fulfilled without a man and some babies. Meanwhile, I’m living my best life.
Ladies, don’t be conned into it if you don’t want to be strapped down forever. You can live a comfortable and happy life without children.
You're absolutely right. All of the reasons people in this comment section listed for not voluntarily having children is the reason "they" want you to continue having them. About a little over a week ago there was a report of roughly 30 kids missing in Cleveland Ohio. Nobody knows where they are. The foster care system has countless kids that go missing on a regular. I remember a story on an actual case worker trying to coerce a young teenage girl into sex work not that long ago. It was caught on video .
This problem can be fixed, they just don't want to. In order for society to continue as it has been there will always have to be individuals that are at the bottom for the wealthy to loom over and for the bottom feeders to seige on. There are plenty more Epstein's in the world doing what that vile creature did. It's like the movie Hunger Games...it's a race to survive.
Lmaoooooo!!!! Ppl are wild. You’re 50 and ppl still say it’s not too late to procreate 😂😂😂. Wow! The state of delusional and disbelief is unreal.
@@a.c.n.9421sounds like she’s in a poor undeveloped country where they don’t have much access to education and follow the herd.
I made my decision at 6 years old.
@@deckhead33 yes, I’m in an under developed country and yes, there is a herd mentality. Oddly, it exists with the poor and the rich. There have been a few relatively wealthy men who have tried to get at me, one had 2 wives & 13 kids and insisted he need me as his 3rd American wife! 😂
As a child free man I applaud the child free women
I watched a video yesterday of a baby resting next to his mom just staring at her with this loving adoration, it was the sweetest and purest thing I've ever seen. I cried because that's an experience I would have loved to have. I think I would have been a very good mom. But at almost 40, I haven't been with the right man to share that experience with. My last ex, who was a friend of 26 yesrs, told me he couldn't get anyone pregnant, said by his doctor. He had no problem knocking up a woman he was juggling me with. She moved to a different state and he wasn't helping financially. That's the last I heard. And that's exactly what I never wanted to see my child go through. My own dad once told me he didn't want kids (pretty easy to tell by his treatment). And with the condition of this world.. my heart hurts for the children and what they've been through psychologically especially the past few years. This world is not what we think it to be. And there are so many broken children walking around in adult bodies. I feel at this point my greatest contribution to my potential child is to protect them from a life of suffering in this dumpster fire.
I feel you!
I raised my children alone and they’re awesome beings- daughters AND sons. If you want a child, you can have one ALONE and that child is going to THRIVE from the attention and care they’ll receive- nobody needs a BAD PARENT, which is what many fathers actually are. My own mother was a horror show of a being but that didn’t stop me from doing the very best I could do with my own offspring *despite* my horrendously abused childhood- facts are EVERY parent has their own challenges. I had my last pregnancy at 47, naturally conceived, but I chose to not go through with that one because my body and mind were exhausted and I would not have been a good mother at ALL for that child- I had had a baby at 43 and I was done. My pregnancy at 43 was perfectly fine without ANY involvement of the medical industry, no scans, no tests, I gave birth by myself in a birth pool in my bedroom, no issues, healthy all round. You can absolutely have a child if you want to and you can afford to. ❤
I absolutely agree
Adopt. That way you aren't making a new life. You are taking one that no one wanted and giving it a home.
@@ineedhoez I'd actually love to adopt. It's a shame it's such an expensive process to accomplish in and of itself.
These women are smart! Being a parent is not for everyone. I have two grown sons, and all I do is worry about them its crazy. I was a single mother, and it was rough, I struggled the whole time. More people need to definitely think of these things before having kids. I say dont have them unless you have six fiqures and a stable loving marriage mate..😉
5:09 Beautiful sister and speaking wonderful truth. My sperm donor fathered 8 children with my mother and abandoned us as I see it, I'm the youngest. He never kept a steady job was a drunk and acted childish. He didn't mind whipping ass either. On a scale of 1 to 10 I'd give him a 3. In my 13 years knowing him before he died. I'd estimate having talked to him personally for around 15 minutes tops.
You achieved ,congratulations..
Omg😢
Your mom should have stopped after 1.
@@ShaynieB Keep in mind were talking 1964. Times were a lot different and women weren't as educated. And many were religious and ignorant to S.T.E.M. My 2 children have no children, they were raised to be financially competent before bringing life into this world. Nothing against sex but financially ready before creating life.
"If you really loved your children, you'd do them the favor of never having them" Give her a mic so she can drop it!
A child is like having your soul walk outside of you, WOW! That's so deep
Bingo man at 11:38 just repeats the usual tired fear-based "reasons" to have kids. He should put down his phone and do more thinking.
Did you notice he also said people shouldn't create children as accessories old age caretakers, BUT those are the exact reasons people have kids. 😂
That’s what I am saying! They are just trying to deceive women into thinking they understand us but they really don’t empathize with us!
@@Childfree334 exactly 😂 I knew he was dumb when he compared children to tote bags
He was fear mongering
That yt man is worried about the human race alright🙄
With all this madness going on today I'm so relieved I don't have kids. And I only see things getting worse and more confusing for children. Good luck to all the good & active parents out there🤞🏾🙏🏾
Dude at 12:22 acts like there’s parents that aren’t selfish. Dude said duty?!? And I fell out 😂
Ikr. So outta touch with reality
Hun whole argument was a stupid ass straw man fallacy. The dude never said All women shouldn’t have kids. His statement was “If I was a woman”.
There’s never going to be a time where all ppl decide to not have children.
Even if everyone decided to stop having kids, the human race isn’t going extinct for a while. So he added nothing to the conversation
Because they're losing control. They can no longer dangle marriage and kids to our faces anymore. We good here 😂
The most loyal thing we can all do is walk hand in hand into extinction.
i don’t know why but this is sending me so bad 😂
Girl me toooo😂😂😂
With China and Africa that ain't happening
@@ieshjust16 China is slowing down on reproduction too.
Never agreed more with a statement.
The white guy was emotional and extreme. Not everyone is going to think this way 🙄🤐 they need to be more humble. They made this a losing proposition. Make it a winning one 🤷🏾♀️
My momma kept having kids knowing she was an UNFIT mother for that reason I never want to bring a child into this world .
I fell into the trap of having kids. They are adults now however If I knew what I known now, I would have never had any kids.
Facts!
One of my friends almost died on the delivery table giving birth to her son. I thank God she made it. 6-12-2023(Mon)
At 4:58. I was speechless. Sis couldn’t have said it better. I want my non existent children to have so much that I would never place them in this world. This world is horrible.
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She called it the ghetto, and that's fax, and I'm saying that from now on.
Facts! GOD knew what he was doing not allowing me to be able to have children. And i’m getting me a hysterectomy. I cannot wait! Being blck, I would NEVER bring a child in this demonic world.
I don't care about what males think about childfree women. For him it's 5 seconds of pleasure and being praised for the rest of his life, for me it's 9 months of suffering, 18 years of work, lifelong consequences and constant shame and blame. He has zero right to open his mouth about my "duty" because he's lazy and selfish by definition.
He nailed it. Everybody is different and doesn't find joy in the same things. And the way some of these males walk off and don't want to financially support their children is mind blowing. It's not worth the trouble.
I was so busy helping my mother take care of my siblings that I lost the desire to have children. 6-12-2023(Mon)
Ladies do you.
I am a mother choice. Two daughters college educationed.
One wants children and one does not want children.
My girls are critical thinkers, "you hang with a critical thinker, you catch critical thinking".
DO YOU!!!
Critical thinking is why college is so expensive. They wanted to edge people out from college because once many are in university they wake up to society’s bull, so they made it too costly. Good for your girls realizing what is and is not for them based on real logic and not what society wants them to do.
I agree and society all over the world is struggling and yet, people should bring more life into this miserable world.
He's not logical. He's being honest. Its the constant dishonesty for me
I hate my life and I think of suicide daily. I would never be so cruel to a child as to bring it into this earth.
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I feel like it would be contrived to tell you it will be ok. But it will be. I'm passively suicidal too. I've engaged in self harm in the past. But it will be ok. Hang in there. I have. Idk if you will see this reply, but I hope you do.
@@elizabethaluoch8100 I feel you. Thanks for the kind words. 💛
Same
I hope you find peace ❤❤❤
Omg where can I find female friends like these women here? They are so thoughtful.
As a mother of 5 I completely agree that being child free is a wise call.
I have one.....and we've talked. She understands why I said...If I had known this world would be THIS bad.... I probably would've left her in heaven. I went through a lot to even conceive and I worry about her future in this hell hole. She has told me that she's NOT having ANY children....... her dad and I FULLY SUPPORT her decision. I hope she sticks by it.
most parents just put their head in the sand your understanding is acknowledgeable
I won't do it either, I keep my money & keep a stable body figure.
Another thing…. This entire planet is decaying from the inside out at a daily rate of 3%. The environment is no longer conducive to families and creation of families. Far to many men that do not want those kids either and it’s a horrible cycle.
That man was aware enough to look at his mom and acknowledge the sacrifices she made.
AMEN!!!
I’ll be forty in December, I thank God everyday I don’t have children. 🙌🏽🙏🏽
From what he's saying, to his whole energy, the Guy at 12:00 is the VERY REASON WHY some people SHOULDN'T have Children. 😒💯
Valid points! I'll be 39 on June 16th. No kids yet but I always desired that for me. However, I must have a suitable partner and have various systems in place before I feel comfortable.
You have ppl having kids because its a checklist just like marriage. I'm 30, I must be married and have kids when they are not suitable for neither roles.
I work in the children system of care and its disgusting to see some of these parents and they wonder why their kids have issues. Its because you haven't healed and work through your bs before kids and now these same parents are frustrated and/or mad. Another point too, kids are trophies to some parents, the idea of how can they benefit from or off that child too.
Work on you first before bringing another human into the world!!
If not you are lowkey selfish. To be a parent you have to be selfless. ✌🏾
You are smart sis. I had my first child at 41... and I've been happily married for over 18 years. Take your time boo.
@@AthenaRenee1 Thank you for your words of encouragement ❤️
Most woman want a child but there are many of us that don't and I'm thankful to be in the first generation where it's possible and becoming socially acceptable.
Facts!!!! I love my 2 unconditionally but whew!!! If I could do it again I'd be child free and free free being a mother is not for the week and ppl bash and toot their nose at women with no kids are unmarried and single mothers it's all b.s
THE DUDE @ 11:36 is the problem.... he is giving ProLife and women belong in the kitchen vibes... those who get it get it those who dont call women selfish...
How is being a slave to a child and a man fulfilling?🤨🤨🤨🤨As a woman as an individual IT IS all about me so I will put ME FIRST. I DGAF about the human race. As a matter of fact, needs to end because we are so cruel and evil towards each other. The human race DOES need to end.
I agree!! I Could care less about the human race ending!!
I totally agree💯💯
10:21 my daughter will have less rights than what I had...
That's wild! ,so sad😔
Children are not safe stop having them...CHILD FREE
Thank you! 5:52
I suffered from depression and high anxiety because of mental and emotional abuse from my dad. I used to wonder why my mum had me then would tell me to just cope with what she had chosen for herself when I didn't have a say in it. When I would ask her we leave my dad from when I was young she'd say she needed him for support but ended up doing it on her own regardless. When I would express my disdain for him she'd tell me he's my dad and to just accept him as he is and still love him. This conditioned me to be in toxic relationships and before I got the self love I have now, I was in emotionally, mentally and PHYSICALLy abusive relationships cause that's what was normal to me as I saw it from my mum and dad's relationship. Once I realized I was programmed wrong and acted right and got the right man, I fell into serious depression and anxiety cause literally HEALTHY was so foreign to me it was like a disease. 😳 I didn't want children even after being with my man for 6 years but now I am due next week. In the first trimester what scared me is how I'll be able to show the kid this "new" healthy life when I am also getting accustomed to it. I am now ready for my baby and thank God for the healing otherwise I would have brought another broken person into this world who would be abused. I never judge anyone who doesn't want a child because I also didn't but life had a different plan for me. Thank God it was when I am healed and mentally and emotionally stable. People should truly live their lives and not judge others. We are all walking a different path to fulfill our own unique destiny. What's best for you might not be for me.
Congratulations, and much happiness. 👏🏾
I hope you get the healing and support you and your child deserve.
Society needs to change to make it easier to raise children. The less people have children then it will pressure the policy makers to incentivize having children
As a 25 yr old, I’m currently undecided but one thing I know is this - I won’t have a child until I can emotionally, financially and spiritually afford to do so. I won’t be a single parent and I won’t have more than one.
If you need kids to feel fulfilled and have purpose, you’re doing something wrong...
I was 25 when I became decided to not have children. I'm 31 now and still feel the same ❤️
14:01 Spot on and also how about rove vs wade being overturned and child abuse and sexual abuse, and can you imagine being a child going to school being afraid every day especially with the racial component. And the cop shootings of black men women and children is horrifying.
I'm so glad that someone understands that having kids is NOT FOR EVERYONE. HE SPEAKING FACTS.