Who Should Pay On A Date
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Quick story: My husband is 10 years younger than me and when we met, our first date was to an Irish pub. He was in college and I knew he couldn't afford to take me out. He was ready to pay, but I knew he was really broke, and didn't want him to not eat the next week because of me, so I paid, happily. However, the way he treated me was everything I needed to know. Almost 10 years later, for our anniversary, he surprised me with a dinner at the 21st ranked restaurant in the world in his home country. (Dinner alone was $800) He booked it 6 months in advance and had us picked up and dropped off by private car service and we had a private chalet rental on the top of a mountain alone for three days. Women, a quality man may not be financially ready, but if he is mentally ready, nab him! If you both have the right values, things will work out. When we were broke, we were happy. Things are clearly better now, and we are still happy. And if the shit hits the fan, I'm pretty sure we'll still be happy. I knew from the first date I scored a wonderful man pay or no pay.
That's really wonderful, I hope you guys have a great life ahead of you. The most important things are the mindset, beliefs and values and I'm proud to see genuine and caring relationships. Good luck!
thats a sweet story and inspiring
Idiot advice. Don’t date brokies
@@luminaryeternal7016 dumbass you think every successful person has been rich every single day of their entire life??
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This is an interesting conversation because there are many women who will abuse your generosity but at the same time you may push away a good woman by not being a gentleman and paying for the first date. My take is that if you’re going on a first date pick a cheap place, my pick is chipotle, and that way you can tell if she genuinely cares about your personality or if she’s only there for a meal. If she’s down for a second date it means she cares more for your personality if not she was there for a meal or didn’t like your personality and you only lost like 10$
Applebee's ftw
I would say you should use the first date to determine if she is worth it and use that to determine at the end if you pay or split.
Nah bro just take her bowling, much better way to feel someone out. There’s better dates than eating out, especially on the first date
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Nono, we're splitting the bill, if they truly cared about how you were they wouldn't fixate on who payed the entire meal.
In my eyes, being in touch with your emotions does not mean that one is not masculine. Masculinity comes from emotional mastery. However, if what Hamza meant by "being in touch with your emotions" was that someone let their emotions control them, then I certainly agree that having that dynamic is not masculine.
Yeah that’s a really good take I agree
I think that's what hamza is talking about
@@johnmacrae8997 I'm happy you resonated with it bro!
@@daniel.c.nwadibia6247 Well, if that was the case, I found it a bit hard to tell
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Take every advice of all these self improvement youtubers with a grain of salt. Not everything that worked for them will work for you, but you can take the most significant part of their information and use it in your own way. The purpose of these channels isn't to turn you into who THEY are, but to turn you into your true self, so don't just copy cat what they do. Other than that, yes, Hamza is stating things not a lot of people would dare to these days.
I used to split the bill because I was an insecure teenager who tried to adopt the redpill completely as my personality. Even though I knew in my heart that the man should pay, I didn’t want to be perceived as a “beta bux” who spent money on women so I would split the bill and think that I was alpha for doing so. Not surprising that nothing resulted from those dates. Don’t listen to the redpill douchebags, embrace your masculine role as a provider.
You are a beta bux.... If women have jobs you shouldn't have to pay on dates.... You're paying her for your time. Its pathetic.
everyone pays for themselves, why should I pay for some bitch , like
hello??
I'm confused. Red pill is you becoming a main provider for your wife and family, therefore from the red pill you should of thought to pay on the first date. Perhaps your perception was black pill, not red pill
Idk what redpill you took, but the one I took told me that marriage is a trap that only holds men back and that we should spend the rest of our lives being promiscuous with no relationship. It definitely didn’t include anything about providing for your wife
@@mateo2724 then you consumed black pill content. Red pill is understanding male nature and female nature. Understanding how how providing for your family and wife is needed etc.
Hamza, I disagree with you on this one, I personally feel in the starting stages of dating you should have each other pay for the items you ordered rather than splitting it to verify that there's genuine interest rather than that she's taking advantage so she doesn't have to pay.
I've heard something before where there's this guy with a rich father and he has friends he feels are genuine friends, but his father received complications in his job and the money stalled, at which point his friends left him because they were really only interested in him paying for the meals. While this isn't an example in dating specifically, it goes to show that people in certain circumstsnces can not be genuine even if you feel they truly are.
Not saying you're wrong, just saying how I feel.
Just read this comment, seems more logical than just blindly paying and getting taken advantage of
When you grow you surround yourself with quality people, don't be afraid to pay.
I agree with this. When you’re in the starting stages of dating and maybe have just met the person. You don’t really know if they’re taking advantages of you or not. I feel you should start paying fully when you see some real green flags in the person.
I think that if she doesn't seem intrested or she is more like,hey i dont think this will work out,the bill should be split,but if it goes well you should pay,even though it seems strange ,im more like a men right dude
yes but actually no
Its good, I've tried to understand this and I say I had to feel a sense of meaning. And while we should be with others, we also need alone time. Point is, too much time alone is absolutely terrible. Thats why we need others because it gives time to NOT be alone, but depending on it too much is bad, because then we dont get time alone. We need both. Time with others, and time with ourselves.
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I love his "shut the fuck up" 😂😂😂
True but in my experience I think there needs to be a level of friendship where you enjoy each other’s company, vibe and laugh. Laughter is like medicine.
I understand protecting women because men are physically superior to them most of the time so it should fall on men to be protective of women if there is any kind of danger present. However, the age old practice of men paying for dates is ridiculous. Its like we are all trying to cosplay the 20s and earlier when women were largely not in the workforce and men made far more money than them. Thats the culture source of that particular dynamic. Because women are now equal partners to men in the workforce and have all the same career and educational opportunities, it makes absolutely no sense for men to be expected to pay for dates in this day and age. Debate me on this
you're 100% right.
This is a good channel but he happens to be wrong on this video.
@@xvhkgreen6297 Hamza is really awesome for his content encouraging young men to try and be different, focus on success and self developement, and train to become strong and aesthetic. However, I think he gets a lot of things about women and dating wrong, and hes a total hypocrite.
Hamza you’re a real man ! I can’t express this enough. Honestly it feels great to know that there’s actually true Gentleman’s out there.
Just wanted to say thank you Hamza, i’m a big binge eater and ive been trying to lose weight for a year or so now i’m 225 lbs and 5’7 ive found since ive implemented meditation into my life i can actually turn down the junk food. I’ll give into cravings every now and then but for the most part i have control over my mind and i just wanted to say honestly Thank You
In no means have i completely mastered avoiding binging but i can feel that i’m making progress. I literally thought to myself that this is it i’m destined to binge eat forever but your videos gave me hope and not only have you improved my mental health but stopping me from grabbing the junk food i am so greatful and i can’t wait to see what the future holds.
@@drda8569 hey bro, i’m proud of u keep going, it works. once you see the results you will fall in love with self control, don’t expect to see them soon, but i promise you if you keep trying and trying they will come.
@@mahmutyilmaz6432 Thank you so much for the kind words man i hope you are doing well and i wish you all the best
Good job bro, giving in to your cravings now and again is part of the process, if you’re a beginner you can’t expect to do everything right, keep going bro
You don't need to pay to get success with women. The provider role is for when you have money to spend or is already actually a boyfriend or husband.
Hamza is a rich fella. He can afford all the failed dates. If you're broken you don't need to worry about it.
Fully agreed, only pay if you're looking for a wife or a serious relationship that leads to marriage. Don't pay if you're just tryna fuck for a bit
Agree with this.
I've been a very mild person most of my life (though I was apparently much more confident as a toddler). When I meditate today I'm going to think about how to make myself into someone who polarises. Being a young man, not having the nerve to come to a meaningful conclusion or decision is probably one of my main sources of stress.
I just thought ”how can you think while meditating? that breaks focus” but then I realised that the meditation is only thinking about the thing you want to think about, that’s the focus, and other thoughts distract you and you bring your focus back
I have had this problem for so long and you put it into words perfectly
@@maxgoldstein7202 I wish you the best of luck if you're planning to do what I'm doing
As a 26 yo guy I would say this - It totally depends
Scenario 1 - Guy asks girl to dinner on first date but doesn't tell her where exactly before they meet - Guy pays - why? She had no part in the decision making, the guy invited and it's his duty to pay.
Scenario 2 - Guy asks girl if it's okay to grab dinner at X . Girl agrees. - Split the bill - an effort was made on both ends to decide on the place.
Scenario 3 - Don't spend money on a first date. Walk, swim, drive or skip the date and just fuck.
All in all if the guy is masculine, knows how to talk to her it's does NOT matter to her if you pay or split. If she likes you she will make it easy for you. If she is a gold digger she will use you. As a man do whatever the fuck you wanna do:)
Absolutely based take
Agreed lol, Hamza's take his wrong. Never do something you don't feel life doing, only pay if you feel like paying. You don't owe women anything, and women don't owe you anything either.
Nah pay every time. Don't be a bitch
THIS! Hamza here is TOTALLY wrong.
@@ubermensch_dadaista1797 Hamza is not wrong. As the man you are the provider, so fucking provide and don't be a pussy
I’m a woman and i’m into self improvement and becoming a high quality feminine woman :)
@ii Dxde So cringe...
you are in the worng channel tbh
@@birddead3918 not necessarily, there is also some advice for feminine women here and there + educational content in generell, like for fitness and mental health, meditation, etc.
@@birddead3918 almost everything here except for bodybuilding applies for women mostly
If I was to give you advice based on this video, it would be to OFFER to split for the date and then see what the man does. This shows the dude that you are interested in him, but the second time round don't offer and see what happens. If the first time he says "No, I will pay the whole date" despite your offer, then this is a good sign that he is a provider unless he is a geniune simp (like one who agrees with you on literally everything and lacks confidence etc.)
Holy shit. Aside from learning about general self improvement, this may be the biggest thing you have teached me. I can't believe how feminine and stupid I was in my old relationships, thinking about it makes me cringe. Media really messed with our brains man, I thought it was cute and not toxic ''to be in touch with your feminine side''. I had this conversation about my friend today and we were both shocked about the situation and decided to reclaim our masculinity. Thank you Hamza.
I really like how you explained a whole big thing simply by asking a 1 simple question.
Thanks for a great life lessons, I'll remember it in my future and now.
Thank you hamza for motivating me to start my own self improvement journey and also my UA-cam channel where I am documenting my whole journey from Jeffrey to Adonis. I am also thankful for those who will give me some constructive criticism!!
you hit the nail on the head brother. When you have people around you in your life that will keep you grounded no matter what, you become more comfortable in taking risks
as a girl eveyrhting is so true that he said. Ever time i talk to a guy its always like im the one courting not the other way around. It would be nice if the guy was more assertive in where we were gonna go, what we are doing, etc. They just have no dominance these days i fear its going downhill forever
I dont even know what to say. I wish you the best of luck.
You have me luv, I’ll show you dominance ;)
@@ibrahim_-_-_ I don’t think u would but thanks
Dude, you're on point. You're keeping the reality alive. Ok it's a YT channel, but it's truth glowing in here. Keep it lit bro! *fistbump*
Hamza speaking facts again 🙌🏻
Greetings from Germany
When I started dating i was in that androgynous zone. Then I found Hamza and learned alot about masculine energy and how to be a masculine man. Eventually my gf became less masculine and more feminine and I became less feminine and more masculine. It really is a beautiful thing and it is true that the need for eachother really makes the relationship amazing. Thanks Hamza 😘
It isn't masculine to be taken advantage of, the woman doesn't owe you anything, why do you?
I agree you can pay but if she doesn't even offer to pay, you're being used.
My guy not on a first day 😭
Agreed. Hamza can afford a bunch of potential dates where he got used. Even if I can, there’s no point of doing so. That’s why i typically go out to grab coffee at a cafe for the first time I meet with someone.
@@Frost-em1vb a walk in the park, a condo billiards/games room or another free activity is even better. That's what I've done with all the girls ive dated for the first few dates to get to know them without any money transfer. It worked well and I'm with a woman who is very financially generous.
Yamza hamza is just selling "How to get taken advantage of 101" now
How often do y'all go on dates for this to be a problem, and why would you assume that the woman you are trying to date is taking advantage of you, I mean if your initial impression of her is that she's potentially abusive why would you even try to date her, raise the bar for the women that you date.
I agree but I also think that things like this depend on the couple.
I had a girlfriend like 5 years ago (we broke up because distance) that i always used to pay for food, but one day she invited me to eat ice cream and she wanted to pay, i still think that was a cute memory.
You are a legend every video i watch of urs levels me up in my current chapter in life
Maybe I'm lucky I'm wired this way, but I find when I really take care of myself, meditating, exercising, eating good food, getting good sleep, sunlight, socializing, working well and putting forth the effort, I'm automatically masculine. I don't have to think about it. I just have the right body posture. I pay for my date without a second thought. My emotions become informative but without any control over my immediate behavior; it's all filtered through my logical framework first. I don't even necessarily feel the emotion so much as observe it and let it guide my decision making. The metaphor I use to describe it, especially when talking with women, is that my emotions are normally in the backseat of the car, making observations on the road with very little agency. Sometimes I'll have them sit in the passenger seat as navigator, typically with relationships, both romantic and platonic, and what kind of activities I pursue for my enjoyment. But my emotions never sit in the driver seat unless something is wrong, like a broken down car where the rational brain needs to get out and push or is too tired/drunk to drive. This is just how things are when "I am myself" and not succumbing to all the pitfalls of modern life.
Love this analogy!
Exercise, good food, good sleep, sunlight etc. all contributes to higher testosterone levels. High testosterone levels change the way your brain works. This might be why.
How is paying for a women date masculine? You are paying her to go on a date with you. Just get yourself an escort at that point.
@@drschwandi3687 THIS! you're just subjugated to women
I find nothing masculine about paying for her, after hearing about the amount of women that want men to pay just for free meals I don't know how you guys still push for men to pay for dates. It's like asking men to be used
Hamza, i am grateful that you spread this message, i am one of the people that got our lives changed, and it is all thanks to you, you kick-started my self improvement journey. For me it is hard to let go off your videos, Hamza, but it is time for me. I will spread the message so we can finally live better in a new world of successful men. Thank you hamza, it is life changing.
Outwitting the devil by Napoleon Hill is a summary of Hamza's channel. It is a self improvement bible I believe everyone should read.
Can you tell me some more about it? nearly finished The Way of The Superior Man so looking for another good self improvement book
@@bessant07 there is a full audiobook on youtube. Just listen to the first 5 minutes and you'll get the gist of it. Amazing read
I think is a cultural thing, here in Argentina we split the bills always or just one plays for what they ordered. It's rare that a man pays everything
In salta the man has to pay, they are really conservative.
My personal rule is this: If you’ve known the date for some time, then you pay the bill. If you met her online then you split the bill.
IMO it should be the person who came with the initiative to pay, that person is usually the male🙄
Don't use dating apps
@@wojciech9538 this is why u pick dates that don't involve money (a walk in the park, condo billiards room etc. ). Think about how silly it is that we normalized paying for strangers... Get to know a girl from a few meet ups that don't involve money first, once you know the person and actually feel comfortable with her since she isn't a stranger anymore, then you can decide to pay.
Keep giving us this amazing content, without you it would be as though a great library had burned down.
Thank you for everything.
Always love the honesty Hamza. Thanks actually been in my head recently. There was this friend of mine who taught me how to ask for help. A lot of people think that I'm being macho when I never used to ask for help, but the truth was that I never thought I deserved help. And I mean just basic stuff like information. And just flipping the script and started for help, I started winning.
This video actually shattered my whole perception of dating. I realized don't go out only to fancy and explensive places, go out somewhere cheaper but pay for the meals. I used to be completely against dinner dates because of so many low quality women being abusers and I frankly can't distinguish between them. This makes me wonder if things such as park or bowling dates are still ok as long as you provide.
Just go to places and do stuff on a date where no money is involved. I've gotten many girls in that way, I'm now with an amazing woman who actually prefers to provide for me financially than vice versa.
@Johnny Dougboy there ain't nothing masculine about being used for a cash cow repeatedly either.
Bud
@@adelb7897 she’s the man in the relationship
I respect hamza like my big brother...
I split every bill with my significant other and this video didn’t offend me. A true man is always open to hearing different perspectives.
Just watching you speak this was so attractive. Bang on with all the points you brought up.
Hamza, can you make more videos about how to be masculine? Thank you for showing us how to improve ourselves
One of my biggest inspirations is J.R.R Tokien and C.S Lewis these men demonstrate that masculinity is not the stereotypical macho man that modern society has scrutinized they show that creativity and sensitivity can coexist right along side hardship and pain, these men both fought in WW1 and as you said in a previous video discomfort feeds creativity, after the war they came home and both wrote there world famous books and you can probably guess, The Lord of the Rings and the Chronicles of Narnia. Thank you Hamza for all you do for young men like myself.
Very true, we want to avoid an overly stereotypical view of what constitutes "masculine" - there are so many great men from the past who don't fit a narrow modern conception. Perhaps the thing I'm getting at is that we need to transcend specific behaviors and look at underlying virtues and character traits. How masculinity is expressed varies in cultures and time periods (note how it was often the strong men in ancient literature who could cry, like Odysseus, while it's a common theme now that all emotion is weak), but the "foundations" of masculinity stay the same.
I'm also somewhat skeptical of the whole "masculine and feminine energy" stuff, mainly because I haven't encountered anything of the sort in the psychology that I've read. Maybe it's a useful tool for looking at themes and trends in human behavior, but maybe it's just bro science.
@@Crime_Mime Thanks for the insight man, well said👍
@@Crime_Mime I think it’s sad that you don’t think there are masculine and feminine traits. Look at some evolutionary pyschology and your mind might change. Having said that Hamza has some fairly binary ideas about masculinity and femininity.
@@thomasowen2585 I do agree that there are fundamental biological differences between the sexes, but I guess I'm cautious about it degenerating into arbitrariness (X activity is masculine, or Y activity is feminine. Is it feminine to express emotion? Write poetry? Arrange flowers? And what basis does one have for making such a claim that's not based on mere personal opinion?)
A lot of you are saying what if this what if that. "What if she's just using me for a free dinner?" Keep in mind that a high quality, feminine woman like Anastasia wouldn't do that. So take those instances as lessons and moments for self reflection. Either your character judgment of her was wrong or you're not a high value man just yet. Do not let this bring you down, use this as inspiration to be better. Say to yourself: "I can be better, I will be better!" Always keep moving and above all do the hard work, especially when you don't feel like it.
We're all gonna make it brahs
You're talking about it as if meeting low quality woman is something unexpected. I'll tell you straight up - I'm 29 with enough life experience as it is. Your route is fastest way to becoming broke.
Also taking her to a dinner on a first date is literally the worst thing you can do. You gotta asume the worst coz at this point women are spoiled AF. And acting like a simp won't make you masculine in any way.
Want to be gentleman? Go ahead. There are plenty of things you can do to achieve that without paying a dime.
This video is super great and on fire.hamza ty for helping me i am realy happy
Life changing advice thank you Hamza. I commit to becoming more masculine.
Hey Hamza, thank you for your videos. You really have helped me more than you know❤️❤️
For me, it depends. Most of the time I pay but if it's a special occasion and she took me out to celebrate something I did or whatever, I'll let her pay. If I'm just hanging out with friends, if I invite them out and we eat later, I'm usually paying or we split.
Simply one of the most important videos you've put out there
Yes Hamza! what a breath of fresh air
I always found it weird when people complain about splitting the bill. It's not even that expensive realistically
Just don't simp and take a girl on a dinner date for the the first date.
I'm fine with paying for everything, but she has to prove herself to me for a dinner date.
-Don't simp
-Pay for her stuff
Pick one
Very good Video 👍😊 I realy liked your rant😂👌
As a female, i do appreciate when a guy pays the bill, but im always ready to offer to split the bill, it seems more fair. Thats just because IMO parenting and providing roles should be split evenly.
I actually believe that the person that should pay is the one that decided to go on a date, not always the man. If you think about it, some girls can abuse that, asking for super expensive food and then obligating you to pay the bill and that is not how it should go. If the woman says "lets go on a date, its on me" then she pays, if the guy says "lets go on a date, its on me" then he pays, the bill should not be split because it shows that there is no thoughts about living together and having a bank account together. Just to leave the info that men are not slaves of the modern world ;)
That's true but most cases it's the man who sets up the dates
@@sullya6967 When a girl really likes you she'll cancel the biggest things just to hangout or a date so this is why we get on self improvement so we can hopefully experience that or just experience the fruits of grinding hard.
Honestly just don't get money involved before u know the person
@@kamdynb.5940 Agreed
Then say no to the date if she's abusing it? Get a girl who asks to pay, deny her and treat her well
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Don't agree with this one chief.
Being masculine is right and all but if the woman assumes the man is to pay and expects, eg doesnt bring wallet and doesnt even offer to split, then that is her insinuating that I, for I am a man, am to pay her for her time.
I will and have in the past already paid on dates but the woman has to atleast offer to split and not be disrespectful to me.
Till next time chief, keep grinding bros and respect yourself, avoid getting into these kinds of situations by having higher standards for women that don't have a superiority complex, bratty, princes type shite.
I need people too, my friends keep me happy
This is a real eye opener for me. This is some solid ass advice and ik ull get some hate for some of the stuff u mention in this video but everyone else wont say it. Thats respectful of u.
Idk but, as a man, i just find it embarrassing to fight over food.
Which takes me to the next point; why go to a super fancy expensive restaurant just to impress your date, when you can't afford it. It's short term and she'll know you're trying to force it.
You can impress at a simple restaurant. You can impress by being authentic, being interesting, and being a good conversationalist.
Just pay the bill lol...if you care about this woman and want to set good impressions just pay it. Why would you logically not want to? Maybe once you're in a relationship for longer she can pay from time to time, especially if she has her own money. The point being it shouldn't be a big deal and it should be natural once you guys have been dating for time. It shouldn't be a topic to get so insecure or defensive about. Like do you think parents argue about whos paying the bill? It's all natural and nobody cares. I feel like theres so much pettiness on both sides and it makes no sense.
It's simple, for example I'm not sure whether a girl is using me as a free dinner ticket or not, she's a stranger anyway. It's like I don't pay for some homeless guy's dinner, what way is some girl different from him? Anyway, as a guy I realized it's better to pay and simply forget about all this bullshit connected with who should pay. I've never understood why women make such a fuss about such small insignificant things, even after dating my ex I don't understand, but I accepted the rules of this game
I do understand the message, and I think it's great but I have some thoughts. One of those is that it is a great idea to be more masculine but also think that when you first go out and get to know a girl then you shouldn't have to buy a meal (and especially an expensive one), you should just go for a walk, talk or get some cheap food or coffee etc. Then once you've established how you feel about her (is she someone you connect to) then you can decide whether or not to continue going out, being in a relationship with her etc. Only after that point should you take her out for a meal and pay for the bill, because you never know who you're investing your time with and you could waste your time and resources as a result. I think this is the best way to go about it because any girl who likes you and is genuinely interested in you and attracted to you should not need to go out for a meal to start getting to know you. If she thinks that way then she's might be (not always) using you. What do you guys think?
After reading the way of the superior man I understand everything that you say and it makes total sense
Ill have to disagree and thats from multiple experiences . Everytime that i went on a date and actually paid for the bill nothing happened next . When she enjoys your presence she does not need your money . But please as mens we should try to offer the provide , but that simping thing does exist just make sure that date is not a waste from the beginning
Dude should pay, especially if he invited her. However, It’s nice to have the girl offer to pay. That shows that she is not using you. When she offers , I let her. Simple as that.
Adonis always come in clutch with these informative videos
Watching this made me go on a long Google search learning about feminine and masculine and how I could be more masculine. In all honesty I want to challenge the world conqueror hard challenges and keep going. To anybody reading this to follow self improvement is to not start later because the second you say that it WILL be later and then then you will say you will do it tomorrow. The best way to not do this is by directly tackling your problems in the "now" because if you don't... You'll never make progress. Hamza special thanks for helping me start self improvement and to everyone else who hasn't stopped reading this, thank you for having the patience and discipline to read all of this and remember, do the hard work ESPECIALLY when you don't feel like it.
As a man who grew up in Russian environment I thought this is a no brainer and I feel like men from Eastern Europe would agree with me. Seems to be a problem only in the West.
I will always be paying is I truly love her and if she appreciates it and isnt a feminist
It feels so much better to be masculine started my journey about 2 years ago since I went through a rough patch in my life I'm 19 now.
Man does not care ly bro u genuinely helping us all
Not going to lie, this advise is going to be more detrimental than helpful for young guys. This will encourage more simping and men being taken advantage of.
Bro, there is a difference between being a gentleman and being a simp. Did you even watch the video.
@@jamesmccloud7535 did you watch it? You start of a gentleman then you turn simp if you pay first every date your a simp
A man should know if hes being taken advantage of, its his fault if he can't realise it.
What 💀
I dont agree with you on this one. I will pay for her needs in marriage. But when we are dating, she needs to put in her fair share too. Everyone in my family has done it.
Go Hamza Go!!
I agree, people need each other yet so many people I know, both guys and girls, hold the belief that they don't need anyone. As a result, they're lonely and wonder why. You speak to your audience of (mainly) men; I wish the message was broadcasted to more men and also women.
When I was in my early teens
A Karen (feminist) my age slapped me in my face for no reason in the middle of a football game for no reason....i was always the alpha guy in our team....i was always thought not to hit a woman back even if she hits you....so at that time I got angry and took out my anger my yelling at her
But i was so insulted that that slap still hurts me till date(I'm 18) deep inside
And keep thinking what should I do if this situation arises again
Hamza please respond
My look on that is to passively resist. What do I mean by that? I mean not to hit her, but don't let yourself be hit. So basically grab her hand while she strikes, block her attacks and maybe dodge attacks.
ADONISSSS
Hamza i got on self improvement in about 2 months ago,i live in Brazil and i have never felt so lonely,but i know its better for me.
This some straight unspoken facts and good advice on independency, the power of love pushes you farther to chase your goals. Masculine energy is a trait you should upgrade properly without being a "delusional" Sigma that is lonely and justs accepts his fate.
Honestly, i think the best balance might be a 50/50 masculine energy/feminine energy balance in a person.
It results a state of peace on the individual level and on the grand scale, community level, the same good results are achieved for the better of the world its just that the tasks and energy that does things is more spread out across individuals instead of one individual needing to pull the tribe up and be the leader, the masculine authority.
Yes, polarity creates attraction, the stronger the polarity the stronger the attraction in between, but perhaps the craving of chasing our polar opposite is the desire to meet in the middle of that balancing point and create balance, a sort of spiritual instinct, but if youre already in 50/50 balance inside you wont be attracted to anyone because you have already attained inside yourself what the point of opposite polarities chasing each other was, you have achieved the point.
But thats just my own observations and ideas.
I disagree on this one. Mix dating apps and views like this, I know women who eat for free, weeks on end 😂
I love how real you are
Hamza preaching the true gospel to the young lost souls out there. Respect
As a student, I totally disagree for the students.
Aynen aq
If your broke them pay for cheap meal dates. Even if it's McDonald's or something at least your providing.
If she has job, she want to pay 50%.
Am not her ATM❌️
If you're not masculine
@@venkidesh119 I'm secure about my masculinity
@@commonbeing9359 Ya bro
We don't want to measure how much if we pay.
She brings more things for us than money
That's why I think if men pay it will be better ( only if she's a high valued women)
@@venkidesh119 define high value women bro?
@@commonbeing9359 Female version of adonis bro
Loving, caring, ambitious, those who supports you on the bad time etc:
Excellent advice!
So what about a women who lifts? I'm not talking about the women who are super shredded, not to disrespect them because I respect their grind, but who just lift for healthiness. Some muscle on them. Would it be more masculine, and less feminine? I just wanna hear some opinions of you guys
For me personally
Until I attract an Anastasia, on the FIRST date and only the first I’ll split the bill.
But if there is a second date or more I will end up paying because it’s polite.
The reason I’ll split the bill on the first date is because in case someone’s just going on a date with me (which i’d hope this never happens) is in case I get scammed by “modern woman”
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Youre such a geek.
You should prove her in the first date to know if she's a modern woman. Paying the bill it's a form of modesty and courtesy to the other person and a way to say that I enjoyed spending time with you. If you don't want another date, nor having spend a good time split the bill, and even if you enjoyed, you shouldn't be forced to pay every single time when you date her if you can't afford it. Imo, i would never let her pay entirely because that will make me be in debt with her, but yeah that's pretty much everything.
@@mohakus4 I respect your opinion brother but I humbly disagree
@@NatheerTheExample I respect that too bro. I mean, i have never been in a date (I'm 15) so I don't complain.
I don’t know if I agree with this take. I always pay the first date, and I honestly think that should be the case 100% of the time on your first time meeting. However, I think it’s better to split or take turns in the first year of dating until you know the relationship has potential to last long term. So many women will just take advantage of men and then leave them
yea forsure. Typically the first date I’ll meet a cafe for a coffee to see if they’re actually interested and based on their actions I’ll take them out to nice spot to see where things go.
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this has no sense. why we should subjugate to sexist/misandrist traditional duties on us men, while women will not do the same? this is a stupid blackmail, she will not get a better man then me, whe will get a boomer or a simp who in 2022 pays for her, in a gyno-centric, feminist and misandrist society who everyday push an anti-male propaganda, lobbying, and where women have it way better in education and work then men since years. totally nonsense, but do what you want to do.
The superior man will pay if he wants the woman to see him as the leader
Genious thumbnails for getting new people on self improvement
Hamza you might not know this struggle but some guys are being used for a free dinner, splitting the bill saves this.
Agreed
++ It seems hamza has never encountered such women, hence he does not want a woman to pay. Besides this, Hamza is financially quite good, which lots of guys are not.
Stop taking low quality women on dates. Gentlemen, it's time to take some accountability. If us as men took quality women for dates, we wouldn't have to worry about this problem.
@@MoonGoddess123 No one is dodging accountability, all they did was give the reason as to why some guys split. What the hell are you on about?
@@mtithewoodentank4817 if youre taking low quality women on dates, then yes, there's a higher chance you will be used for free dinner. How about take accountability, take quality women on dates therefore you won't get used for dinner. It's simple mate.
The way I see it is I always pay on the first date, however if its multiple dates afterwards I'd go with 50/50 cause a lot of people abuse dates in order to get free meals, instead of the enjoyment of the date itself.
Ouch... awkward
I agree. Recently was in a relationship for about six months and I paid for about 80-90% of the dates. I always think a man should pay the first date, but if you continue seeing someone I think it’s best to split or take turns until you get serious with your relationship. Once things get serious I’m more than happy to pay almost every time
Hamza is a Goat 👍
i love when this nigga post
I thought paying for women is considered simping?
It's not 🚫
A woman will lose respect you if you do not fulfil your masculine role by taking leadership, being independent and a provider for her including on dates. You need to become masculine as a man so when you come across a feminine woman on your life journey, she WILL respect you for playing your role. Thank you Hamza.
Naive thinking.
You want to be provider for the ONE. Not random girls you've just met. In such case you're not provider - you're simply simp.
@@darkmoon7422 I never mentioned or stated ‘random girls’ at all so clearly it’s naive thinking for you to assume without asking what I was referring to. I was talking about in the relationship sense with your one and only woman. Therefore you’re simply simp and not me.
@@nate4524 You've clearly stated "including on dates". This assumes random girls that you just met too. Otherwise you wouldn't include that.
All in all, good for you if that's the case. Keep it up.
@@darkmoon7422 Yes I have clearly stated that, however I was referring in the relationship sense when her man could be taking her on date nights which the traditional value is where a man pays 90% of the time and not random females lol. Next time you shouldn’t assume when you could have asked me and then I would have explained it to you.
I agree with everything he said about who should pay the bill but women should also work to at least provide for some things themselves in the relationship when it has gone beyond just dating.
Here to drop a like and a comment for my boy Hamza
Idk if thinking THIS MUCH about shit is a good thing to do. Splitting the bill makes you soy is a LITTLE extreme lmao all this dude does it preach ideas and say "stfu stfu stfu". He says a lot of shit of value, but God damn he seems EXTREMELY absolute about his ideas with 0 wiggle room