I totally agree. I’ve always thought that a routine in my life would give me satisfaction. But once I set an actual routine and some time passes, it makes my mind go crazy.
I think the main reason there's so much content about the INFP personality from INFPs is because as he said we deeply care about who we are. For me, finally putting the label of INFP on who I am has tremendous worth. There is a reason I'm like this! Other people are also this type so other people also feel these same types of emotions and experience these inner struggles.
Me too! Too many times I was asking why am I like this, and after learning that I'm an INFP, I feel a lot better. There's a reason of why I feel something so deeply, and it gives me reassurance that it's not bad, that i'm okay
When I finished to watch the video I was ready to comment exactly the same thing, Vincent. I think this eternal self journey looking for meanings and reasons mekes we feel lonely and lost. But knowing other people are here strugling for the same reasons its really helpful. We can go throught these and there's nothing wrong with us.
I’ve been listening to INFP videos and each one has me tearing up at times. I feels so good to hear other people talk about what I experience everyday.
1. Travel 2. Forgiving yourself or others 3. Challenge yourself 4. Trust yourself 5. Learn about yourself 6. Self-talk (affirmation) And thanks for your video :)
"I have nothing to give" "Why am I so dumb" This was so on point that I cried. This is my daily self-talk. I always wake up and feel indebted to everyone in my life to the extent that it makes me depressed that I might never have the chance to give back in full. I always feel incompetent and inadequate, and the weird thing is that I never hear it from family or friends. Sometimes I feel like I deceived them somehow. Well I hope to learn something good about myself, otherwise it's gonna be a very miserable life.
U know what... every of us, INFP or sensitive ones, have lot to give. Problem is, this is something about world doesn't care and despises it... But remember, we always have each other, someone who can see the angel in each other, can appreciate and won't hurt ^^. There is another problem tho, bc world suck so much that... Ok, sry for being emo or something, just want you to know that if I could, if I'll find solusion eventually, I just want protect people like you at all cost and/or just be with them to make them feel loved and that they are someone reaaaaally important
Everything you said is so on point and I would also like to emphasize the feeling of being indebted to everyone to the point of depression. This is the exact reason why I have trouble asking people for help. I have tried to do everything by myself. Being able to ask for help is indeed a skill not everyone has. Anyways, we can all slowly get through this. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and making me feel seen.
@@junsjulywonpilsyonpilchany5241 Yes! That's exactly why I would prefer misery over asking for help, my internal dialogue would be "you're bothering them" or "you're such a burden" so I'd rather not. But at least I'm aware that I should work on this and minimise how hard I am on myself. Thank you too for making me feel less alone ❤️
@ghado0o2021 Love those are not your thoughts, think back to your childhood or past relationships someone projected that poison on to you. People see your potential often times before you do. Insults and criticism are the way some people keep you from seeing the magic of you!
Just yesterday I had another existential crisis and realized that the source of my unhappiness is the fact that I have never been able to appreciate things as they are right now. When I’m not imagining a thousand ways in which everything could be better, I’m reminiscing of a time when I “hadn’t messed up” and was “a better person” (though these only come out when I’m physically unable to move on to the next big thing).This is why I often need to read old texts or ask someone else to tell about X time, so I can objectively see that most things have actually gotten better in their own way. I can’t trust myself to remember without skewing everything or focusing only on the negatives.
i totally get that. i think it's the down side of one of our key strengths, prospecting and mapping about the ''endless possibilities'' that would make out lives and our inner selves better. it's the same with trying to understand the world, how to act and ''what is right'', which is why i also read a lot and delve back into books and philosophy. but i did notice this doubt often arises when i'm being inactive and not putting myself in new contexts as he puts it. i think this is super essential for us. sometimes the anwser arises in he situation itself, whatever is right is already there waiting to come out. i think we could all benefit from reacting spontaneously in situations and accepting what arises. hopefully we'll all be doing better when we can move around in the world a bit more, best of luck and thx for your comment, it obviously got me thinking ;)
I believe so, but after going through the most anxiety inducing stressful year of my life I’ve realized so much about myself that I was previously unaware of, like discovering that I was an infp, why I had anxiety, and what I want out of life. Anxiety and depression are needed for us, as long as we use these feelings the right way, and not let them overwhelm and control us. Find out what causes these emotions and figure out how to deal with them in a logical and healthy manner. We are unique individuals with our own way of dealing with things, never forget that and remember to be yourself.
Speaking from a personal experience, INFPs have an unimaginable truly out of this world emotional strength that will balance any depression and anxiety, once discovered.
This video made me cry so much because someone finally told me that what I'm going trough happens and there is way out. I'm so so grateful.. I feel really lost almost 4 years now and I'm trying to figure out what to do, who I am and why I am where I am and stuff like that. So your words resonated within me. I have good days and I have bad days and during these years I made some progress (sadly not enough ). And recently I feel I got to the point where I can't let this unsolved because it's eating me alive and I'll soon become a teacher. If I will write my thesis on time because I have 18 days left.. I should probably be working on it right now. So just one thing. Your video and comments under it really gave me strenght and faith that I can make it and that's what I needed.. So THANK YOU..
I love your comment!!! I’ve been feeling lost about myself and my place in the world for a while too and never really felt the urge to change the way I think until today. We can do this!! We have the power!
Hope your now in a better place. I've been through 5 pretty difficult years, when I looked at them now I feel there were so much potential wasted because of insecurities and depression. Something I fall into old patterns but I'm in a infinitely better place now, hope you're ok
Sometimes I'm scared of ppl, I wanna make friend but whenever someone reply to my post or trying to start a conversation with me, I get scared. I feel anxious when I have to talk to ppl. And there are times that I wanna escape from the responsibility, i studied abroad. But I can't go back to school due to the pandemic, the classes are already started. I always received a lot of message (about our classes) it stressed me out because I can't be there and there's a lot of things waiting to be done. My heart skip a beat whenever I received the message. I worried too much. & Sadly the only way to escape from reality is to leave the phone and not checking it.
❤ when I was 15 I was a depresed person.. ,child abuse, self harm, hated everyone ,hated males, to the point to get hospitalised and also lose a liver... sometimes when my thoughs and axiety crisis wants to invide me with bad feelings.. just listen relaxing music about the love of God ..and even thoughr I can't understand why I just start to tell God how I feel... that helps me a lot... Now I am 22 and I'm not the same person...I dont fell like the perfect girl ,person but All I know Is that God helps me to feel the life better,... to see the life better..I am A happy person now :) 💖 Guys I hope you fell better and I know So does God
@@1beanstalker Jesus loves Us also even if we are not perfect because HE KNOWS we can't be perfect .. But when we acept and walk to his arms he changes you.. He really does.. not to judge others otherwise to love others and with love guide them to the real life way ... we always feel down in this world and feel empty somethimes alone because He is our creator and if we are out of his arms .. we are empty.. We need him in so so deep.. and we need others also they are our brothers and sisters. 🕊❤God Bless U 1Bean 😊
Ughhh yep . Too accurate . Why is decision making so hard !! And then we feel so guilty for making the wrong one . And yes I want to travel !! But can't because of the pandemic . What a time to be alive .
When I was six or seven, I looked deep into my eyes in the mirror and had an existential crisis. It was crazy, looking back on it. I learned about myself, but always felt lost. In just the last couple of weeks, I discovered is was an Infp. It reaffirmed everything I have ever felt or the way I’ve gone about my life. It made me feel less unique, but also more comfortable knowing that there are people just like me.
I feel I have reached to a point where I need to deal with my depressions and negatives. I grow up with this feeling that I might not be loved by someone and I will probably be alone the rest of my life. These insecurities fuelled up my negative feelings when I meet someone that I'm really into. I always think that no one will love me, even though people keep saying "you're attractive". I always think people like me not because of who I am but because of who they think I am. I started to realize that I always fall for my fantasies (potential relationships). Making sense of things like why I always overthink seems to be one of the biggest ongoing business in my head.
The part about people liking you for who they think you are instead of who you really are is so relatable! Its like when they get to know the real you, you will be different then they thaught and because of that they might leave you and you dont attract the people that would really fit for you because they cant see the real you through the mask.
Im INFP, depressed for several years. Now im trying to open up to my friends and family, but I didn’t get any help from them. It just me and me. It is a lonely journey. To infp out there please dont push yourself. You are great the way you are. And only few peoples deserve us💕❤️ keep that in mind. Just move forward and don’t look back 👍
I feel like a big part of my depression is when I talk to people in the moment sometimes I feel attacked by others and don’t know how to respond in a way that demands respect. I feel like I definitely know my purpose but other people DO NOT respect it and or refuse to and then I feel pure ANGER!
exactly one year ago I experienced dealing with anxiety for the first time. it was probably the worst period of my life, it lasted three/four months, it was painful, I felt helpless, my anxiety was totally irrational, but hey, I made it. the only things that helped me were time and the support (mostly online) of beautiful souls. if there's no rational cause to your anxiety my advice is distract yourself. do whatever makes you feel good, don't be afraid to exaggerate with what you love doing, push your limits to prove yourself you're worthy and awesome (in case you forgot), spoil yourself. I can tell you that you absolutely CAN make it, we're strong. a fellow INFP
I wouldn't say I'm depressed but I know at this point that in a months time, I'll be depressed for 2-4 days. And that's not bad, it's just a small part in a cycle of states we go through in self realization. Which is necessary. It offers a lens where you get to examine yourself in different perspectives.
I have just now realised how self-conscious I am and such low sef-steem I have, because... I have recently made some music videos to the internet (UA-cam), and I just got so many good responses and feedback, it is unbelivable.I am funny? ANd guys find me attractive?I thought I am not confident at all, guys like confident women.. And awkward, I am so awkward. I after this, my confidence leveled up. It's like, just becauss of some videos. And as you said my confort zone expanded. And it feels so good. So good
As an INFP, I'd say your advice hit the spot! This is exactly what had helped me to beat my depression and to have truly amazing experiences in the past! Recently life circumstances have changed a lot for me though, so unfortunately I'm dealing with depression and anxiety again, but it's good to know that it's possible and I definitely will overcome it! 💗
For me, I tend to bottle a lot of my emotions up and my anxiety gets really bad. I have a hard time sleeping because all my mistakes from the past come back to haunt me and then I worry about the dreams and goals I have, thinking I'll never accomplish anything. I'm glad to know I am not alone and this is completely normal for an INFP ❤
When I was very young maybe 5, I used to stay up late at night and cry and worry about my mom-that she might not come back to me for whatever reasons when she was out. I just remember being so stressed about her safety.
Very good video. I find both anxiety and depression to be something that I've always dealt with. And when you mentioned the most horrible possibilities that your mind can come up with, I find myself doing that a lot. Then feeling horrible for thinking that way. Thanks for touching on that.
I was stuck in depression, due to trauma. Didn't even realize. So serious, needed to solve things. Intense, ooooof heavy. Had to shake it out, do some light stuff, make time to play, be silly, release and shift.
Got depressed because no one understands me. Missing my Grandpa who always understood me, listened to me, really cared... Got me in such a depression it was hard not to cry all the time. What got me out of it was L-Tryptophan supplement. And that got me back the skills you mentioned. I could actually do that. Start enjoying life.
This is so true! Our minds go instinctively to the negative side of things. The good part is we have tools to fight our demons. I'm still on that journey but the things you mentioned helped me a lot. Traveling for sure and knowing myself better and challenging myself specially to meet new people and be more open. Anyway it's hard, like you say it's a process but it's worth it!
My first MBTI test, I turned out to be a ENFP, few years of depression later, I retake it and it says I'm an INFP, that's why I have always identified INFP type with depression (besides all those fictionnal characters and celebrities whose depression are quite known)
I think the depression and anxiety inherent in being an INFP can be managed if each of us comes to terms with the larger existential anxiety mentioned by existentialist philosophers like Kierkegaard and Nietzsche. I mean, if you can take the time to truly imagine the worst thing that can happen to you in your life in vivid detail and then in equal detail imagine how you'd cope with that scenario then that might reduce the more general anxiety and depression we get in social situations etc. If you also then take time to understand your values and principles and how you can manifest them in the world to create your own sense of meaning and purpose then that can carry you even further as you'll be able to manage the larger existential anxiety by knowing you are doing what you find meaningful and authentic to you. There's also the perspective that the reason we enter the seventh circle of hell is that it's the flip side of our empathic and listening abilities. In order to be so empathic and be such great listeners, we must come to love and understand the worst parts of ourselves. The depth of our depression and anxiety, while very unpleasant to us, is like a sword being forged in the furnace. It means that we can use the struggle with our own darkness to strengthen our minds so we are better able to sit alongside others who are dealing with the same kind of issues. Basically, we step into the darkness and light the torches so others can be less afraid when they must overcome their own trauma and the darkness in their hearts because they know we can walk with them and encourage them to recognise that what doesn't kill us only makes us stronger.
I relate to this much and have also come to realise our innate sadness and the darkness as i call it, it likes to rear its head sometimes, is apart of our burden and our strength. What poems come from such self depravity. I see it as that anyway. And ive come a long way from the painfully shy, always saying sorry, always aiming to please and looking down girl to looking people in the eye and engaging socially and trying stay in the present when overwhelmed where i was basically a shut in, and still prefer to be but at least now i know i can walk out the door, and i pray with all that im learning the next time some serious life events happen i dont have a panic attack, shock and freeze, or just full camatose or at least find coping mechansims for when the signs occur.
Thank you so much for your INFP videos. Please keep making them, i would love to see more stuff about specific strategies to self improvement tailored towards being the best version of ourselves! It would be good to see a comparison on unhealthy vs healthy INFP and how to fix it.
I'm a registered nurse and in my ten years I have studied international development, international relations and public health. I think it is clear I am into the big picture of things but I had trouble to push myself into a different career venture and I am still nursing despite wanting to grow. The difference is I teach nursing on the side now but still not satisfied really. Policy would be a keen interest of mine only that I am super creative and draw a lot and enjoy that the most :D too many interests
I am infp and is depressed but not.because it was inevitable I just made wrong decisions in my life so believe or not most depression is caused because of self damage of either drug addiction drinking or having a criminal record that prevents you from unlocking ur.full potential
So I just started really delving into your channel. I'm an INFP, and while I'm familiar with what that means, until I started watching your videos I had no idea that what I thought I knew was just surface level. This video really resonated with me, especially the part about the sidekick. The way you explained it makes so much sense, especially after watching your hero's journey video. The whole time I was watching this one, I was just like "Oh. Wow. okay. So I do this thing because of my personality type and not because I'm a weirdo." I've honestly never thought too much about MBTI personalities before, other than taking the quiz once or twice for funsies. I think now is probably a good time to change that. :)
Gosh, this hits home because this is exactly what happens, and these feelings keep me up at night! We carry the weight of the world on our shoulders because we want to better the world constantly and we can't fix it and it's overwhelming! I until now why I felt like I was alone in the world and wondered why I was like this? And more so because as an INFP surrounded by narcissists is such a curse! My mother, brother and my ex partner are all narcissists and so I began to think it was me... So these videos are helping me understand myself a little more now! Thank you so much! And about the travel...God yesss exactly what you said!
I'm 29 ..still struggling with depression ..unfortunately I belong to the unhealthy infps ..I hate system , school , this world ..fear interaction with the outsider world ..I'm very unhappy ..I try and try to change ..but 😞..
Thank you so much for this. I somehow don't feel as original because you've read my mind, but I appreciate knowing I'm not alone. It's hard to explain that the weight of the world can be inside your head.
thank you so much.. i haven't been in a good place, and can really resonate with everything you said. also, this was uploaded on my birthday, so i can't help but feel this was really meant for me to hear :) lots of love to all my fellow infps
I resonate strongly with the Travel part.. i’m depressed rn and after rummaging upside down inside out of my mind~ i kinda wanna just throw everything away and travel without a plan and yolo 😅 ..I don’t think i have the courage though... anyway..Is it common for INFPs to hate a 9-5 type of jobs? Any advice how to overcome this?
if you are in school and are struggling with loneliness, TRUST ME it gets better. we are INTUITIVES. we tend to connect with other intuitives. unfortunately we are rare, and in school we get surrounded by a lot of sensors (nothing wrong with them, but we just dont connect with them). my only advice as a slightly actualized (not actualized yet, but making progress) infp would be to listen to your feelings. Do not suppress them. Let them bring out your true passions. Let your passion take you to places where you will find other intuitives who you will connect with. for me, going to art college was the best decision I have ever made. I know everyone will have different passions, but my advice to every INFP would be to pursue something that lets you be CREATIVE. being around people you casn connect with changes everything.
will you live it again when you have already overcome it and started working on yourself? like, is it possible to 'unlearn' the positive things that you have learned ang go back to unhappiness?
In relation to mental illness, which was the topic which was the topic of this video; relapses are common and they are part of recovery. It is likely that you will have shifts in your mood again and feel like the work you did is being undone which is why it is important to have a plan and know what works for you as soon as it starts to reoccur. In time the relapse mood will be a fraction of what you used to feel. I hope this helped. Stay strong.
Unfortunately it is. I often do that. I just forget what I had learned and have to learn it all over again 🤷♀️ but at least you can unlearn and relearn many times if you have to, so relearning is also possible.
@@gingergamer3270 I do feel that when I unlearn, I also tend to not believe anymore in what worked before, so I start looking for new things to learn, to help me out this specific time, if that makes sense to anyone else but me 😅 It's pretty tiring though, but obviously possible and necessary 🤷♀️💪
oh my goodness thank you for this new perspective! I always thought there was something wrong with me and I could never get past the depressive thoughts but this video really helped me!! I’m grateful!! 😊
Nobody : Me after one sentence in video : thinks about what he said and dive deep in thoughts And then realize i wasn't paying attention to video and rewind I did it 5 times oof
I am just excepting that it's ok to be a nice person. Even when I have negative thoughts about people and myself. I feel bad about it. Like really bad. That's one of the hardest things for me.
He is talking facts I LOVE IT...! And this did help a lot thank you. I still am struggling with depression as an infp buuuut I'm better thank goodness....
Im infp and ive been depress for months and still havent got help from my family and my infj sister. My sister infj doesnt care what other peoples feelings they just dont have empathy sometimes
I am taking a little dose of anti-depressant (only 25 mg Sertralin SSRI/ day) since 2015 and it helped me a lot with my anxiety and feeling of depression and self doubt. I feel much more equipped now dealing with this world/society and other people. I have been depressed since I was 13 years old, often had suicidal ideas, did not feel right in this life at all and had a constant nervousness, anxiety and voice in my head, that I was not good enough. Also it helped me a lot to gain different experiences in my work life, sometimes especially the hard ones, wich gave me more and more confidence and validates my strenghs and self-love. I am much better now, actuallay my best self so far. I am constantly working on myself still. 🙂
I can so relate. Since high school I've been dealing with episodes of depression and anxiety. I did not understand why my head and thoughts seemed so different. I'm on Wellbutrin right now. Hopefully with spring coming I'll be able to get out and walk and exercise. Dr said it's good for mental health and of course I love being out in nature. Best to you
Hello, I am new to your channel, in the infant stages of studying cognitive functions and I am an INFP according to 16 Personalities. I Have struggled with insomnia since I was a small child. I was wondering if this was something many INFP's struggle with?
@@cathyx6723 Thank you so much for replying. Wow, honestly the more I learn about our personality type the less, dare I say 'crazy' I feel. I've been up and down with my mental health throughout my life and had many major stress factors from an early age but learning about the cognitive functions is really opening my eyes and mind. I'm finding answers to questions I didn't know I had.
As for me (INFP as well), yes, definitely. I have always had a lot of trouble with sleep, especially when I was a child. I used to feel very anxious at night and waking up very early, incapable of going back to sleep. With time, I learned to understand the events that trigger that, and how to avoid them. Those triggers would be: - being too much in touch with too many people during the day (yep, my introverted ass needs a LOT of me-time to get proper rest at night - otherwise my brain is overloaded), - finding myself in a state of cognitive dissonance (my acts being in contradiction with my strong values - even when I don't notice it at first) - being deeply in doubt with who I am and what I need in life (which required a lot of studying psychology and myself to figure out). Now I solved most of these problems, and I've slept like a baby for a few months... But it took me years to get there.
Put your phone down and t.v. off in the evenings. Meditate, deep breathe, journal your thoughts brie bed. You'll sleep once you have a proper evening routine.
Hello, I am so relieved to have this comforting advises I am an INFP too but I am stilling having some issues that complicates me I want to know if other INFP people have experienced this, I am 21 now but I hve never missed anyone even my parents or siblings is this normal do all INFP don't miss people? Another thing is that I am so very sensitive just like on everything but mostly on what people say when it hurts me I found my self so aggressive Please I need your help I want to learn how to control this, Kindly waiting for your answers thank you.
there are very few that I truly miss. If I dont have a deep and meaningful connection with someone it's hard to miss them, but that's also determined by what I'm focusing on,the positive memories with this person or the negatives
As an INFP I can relate to everything in this video. Awsome job. What we say to our selfes every day or the most often is allready or becomes our new reality. Mentally at least. Is it an INFP-thing to hear litterally what people say first and only then what they mean secondly? Or is just me? Unless I have previous experience with the situation I know what to do or say of course.
Okay so it is not totally similar to the topic but I’m confused so I’m gonna express it. I show different personalities with different people. With some people I show my extroverted side but honestly I’m an introvert. I’ve taken test and it always shows I’m an INFP. Do infps really show different personalities with different people? If anyone knows please let me know.
Thank you so much for everything. We can all learn a lot from you! Your approach is both genius and incredibly interesting for a daydreaming gamer like me 😊 The content you make is so helpful and relevant even to me who has no idea what type I am (always test as definite xxTP, but I think I'm actually a hardened INFP 😊).
Is it really my fault when people harassed me just because they got hurt from what I said, as small as just telling my brother not to drink too much of the almond milk because that's what he tends to do all the time, I just told him because its the truth, and it still is, yet because of that, he threw all of the milk to me and my family, so of course, I reacted and even got hurt more, punches, screams, and constant accusations. I could've cared less for the milk, but what they did will ALWAYS be unnecessary, and that's why I keep defending my self from them. I was shocked when my mom got mad at me and slapped my mouth instead of telling my brother not to do what he did, they all talk and act like I deserved those kinds of reactions from them, from such petty things, but I don't believe them as it is against my values. How was I supposed to react if I was so wrong then?
Uhm... I wasn’t there and I think there’s some missing information. And it sounds like you reacted appropriately and they didn’t. So you did the right thing. Don’t derive meaning about yourself from their lack of emotional control and poor behavior. ?
In sync again! I just had to nap away my depressed mode. I started my fb with listening to a symphony channel then it continued playing something about the virus. It was a Chinese man in a majority black audience talking about hysteria. Then I read the comments, most was “welcome to our world”, “no outrage here, I live this life”, “what goes around comes around”...like Asians deserve this “racist” treatment. I married a Mexican, have three kids. MLK’s dream apparently was not meant for us. Just the black and white people?! Now I have to realize they didn’t make much of a progress and my kids will just have to “suck it up, this is America?!!” How depressing!! No more Fb comments.
That’s why being stuck in routine makes me depressed. Because I stop doing new things and stop growing.
Sofia Cunha That’s how i feel in this quarantine right now.. just awful 😔
Yep same here
I totally agree.
I’ve always thought that a routine in my life would give me satisfaction. But once I set an actual routine and some time passes, it makes my mind go crazy.
@@reiruivah555 Same here
@@reiruivah555...
That's why I hated school despite being the best . I hate routines .
Studying and learning are two different things for me !.🙄
I think the main reason there's so much content about the INFP personality from INFPs is because as he said we deeply care about who we are. For me, finally putting the label of INFP on who I am has tremendous worth. There is a reason I'm like this! Other people are also this type so other people also feel these same types of emotions and experience these inner struggles.
Skarra Baines you described it perfectly, i feel the exact same
Me too! Too many times I was asking why am I like this, and after learning that I'm an INFP, I feel a lot better. There's a reason of why I feel something so deeply, and it gives me reassurance that it's not bad, that i'm okay
Same! It's also why I got into astrology lmao
When I finished to watch the video I was ready to comment exactly the same thing, Vincent. I think this eternal self journey looking for meanings and reasons mekes we feel lonely and lost. But knowing other people are here strugling for the same reasons its really helpful. We can go throught these and there's nothing wrong with us.
I am an Enfp but i recognize myself on lot's of points about Infp and this need to discover who i truly is particularly
I’ve been listening to INFP videos and each one has me tearing up at times. I feels so good to hear other people talk about what I experience everyday.
Isn’t that an awesome feeling? I remember it well!
1. Travel
2. Forgiving yourself or others
3. Challenge yourself
4. Trust yourself
5. Learn about yourself
6. Self-talk (affirmation)
And thanks for your video :)
"I have nothing to give"
"Why am I so dumb"
This was so on point that I cried. This is my daily self-talk. I always wake up and feel indebted to everyone in my life to the extent that it makes me depressed that I might never have the chance to give back in full.
I always feel incompetent and inadequate, and the weird thing is that I never hear it from family or friends. Sometimes I feel like I deceived them somehow.
Well I hope to learn something good about myself, otherwise it's gonna be a very miserable life.
U know what... every of us, INFP or sensitive ones, have lot to give. Problem is, this is something about world doesn't care and despises it... But remember, we always have each other, someone who can see the angel in each other, can appreciate and won't hurt ^^. There is another problem tho, bc world suck so much that... Ok, sry for being emo or something, just want you to know that if I could, if I'll find solusion eventually, I just want protect people like you at all cost and/or just be with them to make them feel loved and that they are someone reaaaaally important
Everything you said is so on point and I would also like to emphasize the feeling of being indebted to everyone to the point of depression. This is the exact reason why I have trouble asking people for help. I have tried to do everything by myself. Being able to ask for help is indeed a skill not everyone has. Anyways, we can all slowly get through this. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and making me feel seen.
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Thank you
I needed those words ❤️
@@junsjulywonpilsyonpilchany5241
Yes! That's exactly why I would prefer misery over asking for help, my internal dialogue would be "you're bothering them" or "you're such a burden" so I'd rather not.
But at least I'm aware that I should work on this and minimise how hard I am on myself.
Thank you too for making me feel less alone ❤️
@ghado0o2021 Love those are not your thoughts, think back to your childhood or past relationships someone projected that poison on to you.
People see your potential often times before you do. Insults and criticism are the way some people keep you from seeing the magic of you!
Just yesterday I had another existential crisis and realized that the source of my unhappiness is the fact that I have never been able to appreciate things as they are right now. When I’m not imagining a thousand ways in which everything could be better, I’m reminiscing of a time when I “hadn’t messed up” and was “a better person” (though these only come out when I’m physically unable to move on to the next big thing).This is why I often need to read old texts or ask someone else to tell about X time, so I can objectively see that most things have actually gotten better in their own way. I can’t trust myself to remember without skewing everything or focusing only on the negatives.
i totally get that. i think it's the down side of one of our key strengths, prospecting and mapping about the ''endless possibilities'' that would make out lives and our inner selves better. it's the same with trying to understand the world, how to act and ''what is right'', which is why i also read a lot and delve back into books and philosophy. but i did notice this doubt often arises when i'm being inactive and not putting myself in new contexts as he puts it. i think this is super essential for us. sometimes the anwser arises in he situation itself, whatever is right is already there waiting to come out. i think we could all benefit from reacting spontaneously in situations and accepting what arises. hopefully we'll all be doing better when we can move around in the world a bit more, best of luck and thx for your comment, it obviously got me thinking ;)
You must be turbulent. I am as well. We lean more towards pessimism, while assertives tend to be more optimistic.
I believe so, but after going through the most anxiety inducing stressful year of my life I’ve realized so much about myself that I was previously unaware of, like discovering that I was an infp, why I had anxiety, and what I want out of life. Anxiety and depression are needed for us, as long as we use these feelings the right way, and not let them overwhelm and control us. Find out what causes these emotions and figure out how to deal with them in a logical and healthy manner. We are unique individuals with our own way of dealing with things, never forget that and remember to be yourself.
your comment was really inspirational to me, I relate with you a lot!
What can I say except
"Same lol" 😁
Beautifully written!
I hear the pain and it resonates.
Speaking from a personal experience, INFPs have an unimaginable truly out of this world emotional strength that will balance any depression and anxiety, once discovered.
So, you drank enough alcohol..?
This video made me cry so much because someone finally told me that what I'm going trough happens and there is way out. I'm so so grateful.. I feel really lost almost 4 years now and I'm trying to figure out what to do, who I am and why I am where I am and stuff like that. So your words resonated within me. I have good days and I have bad days and during these years I made some progress (sadly not enough ). And recently I feel I got to the point where I can't let this unsolved because it's eating me alive and I'll soon become a teacher. If I will write my thesis on time because I have 18 days left.. I should probably be working on it right now. So just one thing. Your video and comments under it really gave me strenght and faith that I can make it and that's what I needed.. So THANK YOU..
I love your comment!!! I’ve been feeling lost about myself and my place in the world for a while too and never really felt the urge to change the way I think until today. We can do this!! We have the power!
I cant stop crying , reading all these comments finally knowing I'm not alone
Hope your now in a better place. I've been through 5 pretty difficult years, when I looked at them now I feel there were so much potential wasted because of insecurities and depression. Something I fall into old patterns but I'm in a infinitely better place now, hope you're ok
Sometimes I'm scared of ppl, I wanna make friend but whenever someone reply to my post or trying to start a conversation with me, I get scared. I feel anxious when I have to talk to ppl. And there are times that I wanna escape from the responsibility, i studied abroad. But I can't go back to school due to the pandemic, the classes are already started. I always received a lot of message (about our classes) it stressed me out because I can't be there and there's a lot of things waiting to be done. My heart skip a beat whenever I received the message. I worried too much. & Sadly the only way to escape from reality is to leave the phone and not checking it.
"The best preparation for tomorrow is doing your best today." - Joseph Campbell
❤ when I was 15 I was a depresed person.. ,child abuse, self harm, hated everyone ,hated males, to the point to get hospitalised and also lose a liver... sometimes when my thoughs and axiety crisis wants to invide me with bad feelings.. just listen relaxing music about the love of God ..and even thoughr I can't understand why I just start to tell God how I feel... that helps me a lot... Now I am 22 and I'm not the same person...I dont fell like the perfect girl ,person but All I know Is that God helps me to feel the life better,... to see the life better..I am A happy person now :) 💖 Guys I hope you fell better and I know So does God
nobody is a perfect person. love to u
@@1beanstalker Jesus loves Us also even if we are not perfect because HE KNOWS we can't be perfect .. But when we acept and walk to his arms he changes you.. He really does..
not to judge others otherwise to love others and with love guide them to the real life way ...
we always feel down in this world and feel empty somethimes alone because He is our creator and if we are out of his arms .. we are empty.. We need him in so so deep.. and we need others also they are our brothers and sisters.
🕊❤God Bless U 1Bean 😊
Ughhh yep . Too accurate . Why is decision making so hard !! And then we feel so guilty for making the wrong one . And yes I want to travel !! But can't because of the pandemic . What a time to be alive .
Your videos are now in my list of “things to do to release stress”
Mine as well!
When I was six or seven, I looked deep into my eyes in the mirror and had an existential crisis. It was crazy, looking back on it. I learned about myself, but always felt lost. In just the last couple of weeks, I discovered is was an Infp. It reaffirmed everything I have ever felt or the way I’ve gone about my life. It made me feel less unique, but also more comfortable knowing that there are people just like me.
I had a deep look in the mirror moment too when i was a lil kid too, several actually
I feel I have reached to a point where I need to deal with my depressions and negatives. I grow up with this feeling that I might not be loved by someone and I will probably be alone the rest of my life. These insecurities fuelled up my negative feelings when I meet someone that I'm really into. I always think that no one will love me, even though people keep saying "you're attractive". I always think people like me not because of who I am but because of who they think I am. I started to realize that I always fall for my fantasies (potential relationships). Making sense of things like why I always overthink seems to be one of the biggest ongoing business in my head.
Lantian Lu 😩Relate so much
@@xhen12 How are you coping with it?
The part about people liking you for who they think you are instead of who you really are is so relatable! Its like when they get to know the real you, you will be different then they thaught and because of that they might leave you and you dont attract the people that would really fit for you because they cant see the real you through the mask.
@@svenvanderzwaag1012 Glad I'm not the only one who feels this way
I couldnt be more agreed
Im INFP, depressed for several years. Now im trying to open up to my friends and family, but I didn’t get any help from them. It just me and me. It is a lonely journey. To infp out there please dont push yourself. You are great the way you are. And only few peoples deserve us💕❤️ keep that in mind. Just move forward and don’t look back 👍
I feel like a big part of my depression is when I talk to people in the moment sometimes I feel attacked by others and don’t know how to respond in a way that demands respect. I feel like I definitely know my purpose but other people DO NOT respect it and or refuse to and then I feel pure ANGER!
For me, it just never fully goes away. It's always there, like a dark cloud hovering on the horizon.
exactly one year ago I experienced dealing with anxiety for the first time. it was probably the worst period of my life, it lasted three/four months, it was painful, I felt helpless, my anxiety was totally irrational, but hey, I made it. the only things that helped me were time and the support (mostly online) of beautiful souls. if there's no rational cause to your anxiety my advice is distract yourself. do whatever makes you feel good, don't be afraid to exaggerate with what you love doing, push your limits to prove yourself you're worthy and awesome (in case you forgot), spoil yourself. I can tell you that you absolutely CAN make it, we're strong. a fellow INFP
I wouldn't say I'm depressed but I know at this point that in a months time, I'll be depressed for 2-4 days. And that's not bad, it's just a small part in a cycle of states we go through in self realization. Which is necessary. It offers a lens where you get to examine yourself in different perspectives.
I have just now realised how self-conscious I am and such low sef-steem I have, because... I have recently made some music videos to the internet (UA-cam), and I just got so many good responses and feedback, it is unbelivable.I am funny? ANd guys find me attractive?I thought I am not confident at all, guys like confident women.. And awkward, I am so awkward.
I after this, my confidence leveled up. It's like, just becauss of some videos. And as you said my confort zone expanded. And it feels so good. So good
Go you!!
Yay! Good for you! Hope you put more out.
I saw the title and immediately thought "Yes it is" and I'm glad it is. I'm not sure why, but I accept it and will continue to embrace it. Thank you
I really really enjoyed this...I’ve been trying to find more INFP to relate to...it can feel lonely at times...you were very calming thank you
As an INFP, I'd say your advice hit the spot! This is exactly what had helped me to beat my depression and to have truly amazing experiences in the past! Recently life circumstances have changed a lot for me though, so unfortunately I'm dealing with depression and anxiety again, but it's good to know that it's possible and I definitely will overcome it! 💗
For me, I tend to bottle a lot of my emotions up and my anxiety gets really bad. I have a hard time sleeping because all my mistakes from the past come back to haunt me and then I worry about the dreams and goals I have, thinking I'll never accomplish anything. I'm glad to know I am not alone and this is completely normal for an INFP ❤
When I was very young maybe 5, I used to stay up late at night and cry and worry about my mom-that she might not come back to me for whatever reasons when she was out. I just remember being so stressed about her safety.
This is one of the only times in my life I've had true hope for a better life,thankyou brother this literally means the world to me...just wow
Very good video. I find both anxiety and depression to be something that I've always dealt with. And when you mentioned the most horrible possibilities that your mind can come up with, I find myself doing that a lot. Then feeling horrible for thinking that way. Thanks for touching on that.
Sadness isn't necessary a bad thing. It's a feeling. We love/long to feel. We can't always be happy 😊😌
I was stuck in depression, due to trauma. Didn't even realize. So serious, needed to solve things. Intense, ooooof heavy. Had to shake it out, do some light stuff, make time to play, be silly, release and shift.
I just wanna thank you for this video. I watched the whole video saying "finally someone who understands me. I'm not alone" Thank you so much
Got depressed because no one understands me. Missing my Grandpa who always understood me, listened to me, really cared... Got me in such a depression it was hard not to cry all the time. What got me out of it was L-Tryptophan supplement. And that got me back the skills you mentioned. I could actually do that. Start enjoying life.
This is so true! Our minds go instinctively to the negative side of things. The good part is we have tools to fight our demons. I'm still on that journey but the things you mentioned helped me a lot. Traveling for sure and knowing myself better and challenging myself specially to meet new people and be more open. Anyway it's hard, like you say it's a process but it's worth it!
My first MBTI test, I turned out to be a ENFP, few years of depression later, I retake it and it says I'm an INFP, that's why I have always identified INFP type with depression (besides all those fictionnal characters and celebrities whose depression are quite known)
I feel so trapped.
I think the depression and anxiety inherent in being an INFP can be managed if each of us comes to terms with the larger existential anxiety mentioned by existentialist philosophers like Kierkegaard and Nietzsche. I mean, if you can take the time to truly imagine the worst thing that can happen to you in your life in vivid detail and then in equal detail imagine how you'd cope with that scenario then that might reduce the more general anxiety and depression we get in social situations etc. If you also then take time to understand your values and principles and how you can manifest them in the world to create your own sense of meaning and purpose then that can carry you even further as you'll be able to manage the larger existential anxiety by knowing you are doing what you find meaningful and authentic to you. There's also the perspective that the reason we enter the seventh circle of hell is that it's the flip side of our empathic and listening abilities. In order to be so empathic and be such great listeners, we must come to love and understand the worst parts of ourselves. The depth of our depression and anxiety, while very unpleasant to us, is like a sword being forged in the furnace. It means that we can use the struggle with our own darkness to strengthen our minds so we are better able to sit alongside others who are dealing with the same kind of issues. Basically, we step into the darkness and light the torches so others can be less afraid when they must overcome their own trauma and the darkness in their hearts because they know we can walk with them and encourage them to recognise that what doesn't kill us only makes us stronger.
I relate to this much and have also come to realise our innate sadness and the darkness as i call it, it likes to rear its head sometimes, is apart of our burden and our strength. What poems come from such self depravity. I see it as that anyway. And ive come a long way from the painfully shy, always saying sorry, always aiming to please and looking down girl to looking people in the eye and engaging socially and trying stay in the present when overwhelmed where i was basically a shut in, and still prefer to be but at least now i know i can walk out the door, and i pray with all that im learning the next time some serious life events happen i dont have a panic attack, shock and freeze, or just full camatose or at least find coping mechansims for when the signs occur.
Thank you, I have visited this video probably every 1-3 weeks since this coronavirus outbreak.
It has saved my life.
Thank you so much for your INFP videos. Please keep making them, i would love to see more stuff about specific strategies to self improvement tailored towards being the best version of ourselves! It would be good to see a comparison on unhealthy vs healthy INFP and how to fix it.
I'm a registered nurse and in my ten years I have studied international development, international relations and public health. I think it is clear I am into the big picture of things but I had trouble to push myself into a different career venture and I am still nursing despite wanting to grow. The difference is I teach nursing on the side now but still not satisfied really. Policy would be a keen interest of mine only that I am super creative and draw a lot and enjoy that the most :D too many interests
I am infp and is depressed but not.because it was inevitable I just made wrong decisions in my life so believe or not most depression is caused because of self damage of either drug addiction drinking or having a criminal record that prevents you from unlocking ur.full potential
So I just started really delving into your channel. I'm an INFP, and while I'm familiar with what that means, until I started watching your videos I had no idea that what I thought I knew was just surface level. This video really resonated with me, especially the part about the sidekick. The way you explained it makes so much sense, especially after watching your hero's journey video. The whole time I was watching this one, I was just like "Oh. Wow. okay. So I do this thing because of my personality type and not because I'm a weirdo."
I've honestly never thought too much about MBTI personalities before, other than taking the quiz once or twice for funsies. I think now is probably a good time to change that. :)
It's both a blessing and a curse, to feel everything so very deaply
Gosh, this hits home because this is exactly what happens, and these feelings keep me up at night! We carry the weight of the world on our shoulders because we want to better the world constantly and we can't fix it and it's overwhelming! I until now why I felt like I was alone in the world and wondered why I was like this? And more so because as an INFP surrounded by narcissists is such a curse! My mother, brother and my ex partner are all narcissists and so I began to think it was me... So these videos are helping me understand myself a little more now! Thank you so much! And about the travel...God yesss exactly what you said!
to my fellows INFPs (and not only, just hurted, sensitive and weak ones), want u all to know I want to be with u and protect from this world
You're one of the few INFP videographers who's worth giving a listen.
I'm 29 ..still struggling with depression ..unfortunately I belong to the unhealthy infps ..I hate system , school , this world ..fear interaction with the outsider world ..I'm very unhappy ..I try and try to change ..but 😞..
Keep at it
@@GeekPsychology ..thanks ❣️
Thank you so much for this. I somehow don't feel as original because you've read my mind, but I appreciate knowing I'm not alone. It's hard to explain that the weight of the world can be inside your head.
thank you so much.. i haven't been in a good place, and can really resonate with everything you said. also, this was uploaded on my birthday, so i can't help but feel this was really meant for me to hear :) lots of love to all my fellow infps
happy belated birthday! hope you're feeling better now :)
Ive got no website to show you. No pictures to offer as proof. But whatever this guys motivations, his words are true.
The way he said ''we" i actually wasnt expecting him to be infp it felt so warm omg im being too emotional again
This calmed my nerves. Thank you for making it real. 😊
I resonate strongly with the Travel part.. i’m depressed rn and after rummaging upside down inside out of my mind~ i kinda wanna just throw everything away and travel without a plan and yolo 😅 ..I don’t think i have the courage though... anyway..Is it common for INFPs to hate a 9-5 type of jobs? Any advice how to overcome this?
Check out Ms. Dory Linda. She has a great channel for INFP types! She helps with career and work life.
if you are in school and are struggling with loneliness, TRUST ME it gets better. we are INTUITIVES. we tend to connect with other intuitives. unfortunately we are rare, and in school we get surrounded by a lot of sensors (nothing wrong with them, but we just dont connect with them). my only advice as a slightly actualized (not actualized yet, but making progress) infp would be to listen to your feelings. Do not suppress them. Let them bring out your true passions. Let your passion take you to places where you will find other intuitives who you will connect with. for me, going to art college was the best decision I have ever made. I know everyone will have different passions, but my advice to every INFP would be to pursue something that lets you be CREATIVE. being around people you casn connect with changes everything.
yes.
Thank you for this, after having a hard day with anxiety and depression this helped so much. Just to be understood and know there is hope :)
I find that I get depressed when I have stopped looking outward to grow. Thank you for this one.
Thank You so much!!
Embracing my Dork side!!
You're golden, thank you
will you live it again when you have already overcome it and started working on yourself? like, is it possible to 'unlearn' the positive things that you have learned ang go back to unhappiness?
In relation to mental illness, which was the topic which was the topic of this video; relapses are common and they are part of recovery. It is likely that you will have shifts in your mood again and feel like the work you did is being undone which is why it is important to have a plan and know what works for you as soon as it starts to reoccur. In time the relapse mood will be a fraction of what you used to feel. I hope this helped. Stay strong.
Unfortunately it is. I often do that. I just forget what I had learned and have to learn it all over again 🤷♀️ but at least you can unlearn and relearn many times if you have to, so relearning is also possible.
@@ThisIsAnneleen exactly, but it is completely normal to do that
@@gingergamer3270 I do feel that when I unlearn, I also tend to not believe anymore in what worked before, so I start looking for new things to learn, to help me out this specific time, if that makes sense to anyone else but me 😅 It's pretty tiring though, but obviously possible and necessary 🤷♀️💪
You're a gem! It's SO good to find some quality INFP insights.
oh my goodness thank you for this new perspective! I always thought there was something wrong with me and I could never get past the depressive thoughts but this video really helped me!! I’m grateful!! 😊
Thank you
I don't think I'm going to get through it. I will try to carry on, but I'm on a sinking ship. The damage is done, how long before sink the question.
Nobody :
Me after one sentence in video : thinks about what he said and dive deep in thoughts
And then realize i wasn't paying attention to video and rewind
I did it 5 times oof
Really appreciate the quality of your content. Really eye opening and inspiring
Thank you♥️ I needed this.
Thank you!!
I hate how accurate this is. I didn't want to admit but like damn it all fits
I am just excepting that it's ok to be a nice person. Even when I have negative thoughts about people and myself. I feel bad about it. Like really bad. That's one of the hardest things for me.
You feel bad about being a nice person?
I LOVE YOU!!!! YOU ARE SO SMART!!
This is really good, thank you 🙂
He is talking facts I LOVE IT...!
And this did help a lot thank you. I still am struggling with depression as an infp buuuut I'm better thank goodness....
Thank you. This made a lot of sense! Gonna come back to watch this again 🌻
INFP with more than just situational depression here. I wish bipolar and trauma was something I could just work through once and be done with. 😭
Im infp and ive been depress for months and still havent got help from my family and my infj sister. My sister infj doesnt care what other peoples feelings they just dont have empathy sometimes
I am taking a little dose of anti-depressant (only 25 mg Sertralin SSRI/ day) since 2015 and it helped me a lot with my anxiety and feeling of depression and self doubt. I feel much more equipped now dealing with this world/society and other people.
I have been depressed since I was 13 years old, often had suicidal ideas, did not feel right in this life at all and had a constant nervousness, anxiety and voice in my head, that I was not good enough. Also it helped me a lot to gain different experiences in my work life, sometimes especially the hard ones, wich gave me more and more confidence and validates my strenghs and self-love. I am much better now, actuallay my best self so far. I am constantly working on myself still. 🙂
I can so relate. Since high school I've been dealing with episodes of depression and anxiety. I did not understand why my head and thoughts seemed so different. I'm on Wellbutrin right now. Hopefully with spring coming I'll be able to get out and walk and exercise. Dr said it's good for mental health and of course I love being out in nature.
Best to you
With emotion problems, feeling based decisions is not easy and mostly problematic.
I feel so empty help i just started crying out of nowhere before going to bed i lost my motivation in life 😪😭
Hello, I am new to your channel, in the infant stages of studying cognitive functions and I am an INFP according to 16 Personalities. I Have struggled with insomnia since I was a small child. I was wondering if this was something many INFP's struggle with?
@@cathyx6723 Thank you so much for replying. Wow, honestly the more I learn about our personality type the less, dare I say 'crazy' I feel. I've been up and down with my mental health throughout my life and had many major stress factors from an early age but learning about the cognitive functions is really opening my eyes and mind. I'm finding answers to questions I didn't know I had.
As for me (INFP as well), yes, definitely. I have always had a lot of trouble with sleep, especially when I was a child. I used to feel very anxious at night and waking up very early, incapable of going back to sleep. With time, I learned to understand the events that trigger that, and how to avoid them. Those triggers would be:
- being too much in touch with too many people during the day (yep, my introverted ass needs a LOT of me-time to get proper rest at night - otherwise my brain is overloaded),
- finding myself in a state of cognitive dissonance (my acts being in contradiction with my strong values - even when I don't notice it at first)
- being deeply in doubt with who I am and what I need in life (which required a lot of studying psychology and myself to figure out).
Now I solved most of these problems, and I've slept like a baby for a few months... But it took me years to get there.
I'm INFP, in my country it's 07:00 and I still haven't sleep, I just can't, damn.
Best thing ya'll can do is write down whatever thoughts you have very descriptively in a notebook, once you're done you'll get sleep.
Put your phone down and t.v. off in the evenings. Meditate, deep breathe, journal your thoughts brie bed. You'll sleep once you have a proper evening routine.
I love my life and I love you!, thank you for this!
Sounds so much like me
You're wonderful, thank you💛
Geek Psychology are you an INFP yourself?
How do you guys feel (INFP), because of quarantine?
100% truth thank you ❤
Wow thanks
great advices
Thank you, Matt. You just gave me the clue I was looking for. Gotta get rid of that negative voice!
Hello, I am so relieved to have this comforting advises I am an INFP too but I am stilling having some issues that complicates me I want to know if other INFP people have experienced this, I am 21 now but I hve never missed anyone even my parents or siblings is this normal do all INFP don't miss people? Another thing is that I am so very sensitive just like on everything but mostly on what people say when it hurts me I found my self so aggressive Please I need your
help I want to learn how to control this, Kindly waiting for your answers thank you.
100% agree with you
there are very few that I truly miss. If I dont have a deep and meaningful connection with someone it's hard to miss them, but that's also determined by what I'm focusing on,the positive memories with this person or the negatives
I rarely miss people. I do still miss my dog 😢
I only miss people when I had an emotional connection with them eg I never really missed my mum when I am at uni but I miss a friend from high school
I always miss people.
As an INFP I can relate to everything in this video. Awsome job. What we say to our selfes every day or the most often is allready or becomes our new reality. Mentally at least.
Is it an INFP-thing to hear litterally what people say first and only then what they mean secondly? Or is just me? Unless I have previous experience with the situation I know what to do or say of course.
true, very true for me!!!
Okay so it is not totally similar to the topic but I’m confused so I’m gonna express it. I show different personalities with different people. With some people I show my extroverted side but honestly I’m an introvert. I’ve taken test and it always shows I’m an INFP. Do infps really show different personalities with different people? If anyone knows please let me know.
LIVE AND LET BE 😊
Thank you so much for everything. We can all learn a lot from you! Your approach is both genius and incredibly interesting for a daydreaming gamer like me 😊 The content you make is so helpful and relevant even to me who has no idea what type I am (always test as definite xxTP, but I think I'm actually a hardened INFP 😊).
Is it really my fault when people harassed me just because they got hurt from what I said, as small as just telling my brother not to drink too much of the almond milk because that's what he tends to do all the time, I just told him because its the truth, and it still is, yet because of that, he threw all of the milk to me and my family, so of course, I reacted and even got hurt more, punches, screams, and constant accusations. I could've cared less for the milk, but what they did will ALWAYS be unnecessary, and that's why I keep defending my self from them. I was shocked when my mom got mad at me and slapped my mouth instead of telling my brother not to do what he did, they all talk and act like I deserved those kinds of reactions from them, from such petty things, but I don't believe them as it is against my values. How was I supposed to react if I was so wrong then?
Uhm... I wasn’t there and I think there’s some missing information. And it sounds like you reacted appropriately and they didn’t. So you did the right thing. Don’t derive meaning about yourself from their lack of emotional control and poor behavior. ?
I'm INFP
In sync again! I just had to nap away my depressed mode. I started my fb with listening to a symphony channel then it continued playing something about the virus. It was a Chinese man in a majority black audience talking about hysteria. Then I read the comments, most was “welcome to our world”, “no outrage here, I live this life”, “what goes around comes around”...like Asians deserve this “racist” treatment.
I married a Mexican, have three kids. MLK’s dream apparently was not meant for us. Just the black and white people?! Now I have to realize they didn’t make much of a progress and my kids will just have to “suck it up, this is America?!!” How depressing!! No more Fb comments.
One of the reasons why so many people turned republican
Very true