A friend of me who's a father told me that a lot of people tell the child to be quiet, instead of pointing them a safe place where they can scream freely. After all, that may be the reason that we, adult, go to concert, go protesting... We all need to express ourselves in a place that gives us the opportunity to do so!
I just needed this. I have been going through a little bit of a rough patch the last few days/weeks. I felt so miserable and guilty, I went to sleep early everyday because I was thinking and thinking to the point it hurt so much I bursted out crying. I kept the lights on because I always felt like I'm not present, I'm not real. I was so scared. Being INFP definitely helped me. It taught me that there are other people like me and that I'm not broken. I'm starting to gain more control over my feelings. Thank you for your video! I can't describe how much it helped me.
It sounds wonderful that you are going to bed early, that's self care. I know it is difficult but being "selfish" is showing yourself the love you know you need :) Awesome to hear about starting to gain control over feelings... but sometimes we just need to feel them... like by crying. Take care!
Yes, I understand what you are going through, I am trying to sleep early as well. I listen to those guided sleep meditations lately and they help me focus on sleep, although its really hard to keep myself from non stop thinking. Take care, we can do this!
Its different i suppose for some but for me i tend to get angry for some reason, usually when i fuck up something or say the wrong thing or not the right emotional response and then i will turn it on myself and blame myself for not getting it right or saying the right thing and then a marathon of all the times this has happened to me replays and replays in my head and the darkness kicks in and she sill stay with me for a day two days until the emotion of tears and self loathing are gone. I can get so negative and its really hard to put on the brave face everyone when im imploding inside. And i get it there others out there with real issues and real life altering situations and im crying about nothing really but its like crossed wires or something and ive always been a sooky moody depressed person since childhood though i can be happy like giddy happy and then sometimes i just dont care about anything anymore like the point of things has vanished.
Thank you 🙂 😊 very helpful. Especially these days. I just feel like I am in a dreamland away with the fairies, and I'm afraid that if I don't wake up, that I will never amount to anything
Thank you for this. They are not some high-level knowledge that are hard to understand, but instead, you brought them across in such a simple and relatable way. I am an infp and recently i found myself in a deeper emotional toll and it feels like something i have never been able to handle. Feeling excited to learn new things but at the same time, I am very careful about the possibility of depression. You encouraged me!
There's also the three musts that hold you back: i must do well; you must treat me well; my life must be easy. If you can boil down a negative emotion to one of these three musts you know it's holding you back and if it's holding you back you can use something like the ABC model to dispute the irrational belief that's underlying the "must". Basically, this all comes from Albert Ellis's R.E.B.T which uses stoic philosophy as a form of CBT. In essence, running through the three "musts" in your head is a bit like having a little ENTJ in your mind. Try it.
This was reassuring :) I was thinking like half an hour ago I need to communicate how I'm feeling (not good…). But I also had the mental objection: that in itself isn't contributing to much, neither for me, nor for them. I need to ask concrete support. Just no freaking idea how to do that. I don't even know what I really need. Anyways, I'll stop rambling. Thanks for the video. It feels like a strange coincidence I came uppon it just today. Keep up the good work. And take care! :)
It can be awkward and uncomfortable to ask for what one wants... I seem to think it's selfish or aggressive as it seems so blunt!... but then I must flip it in my head, if someone asked for concrete support, would I think them selfish or aggressive? NO! I get ya on the not knowing what you need but I think even saying that is helpful, as then the other person doesn't feel so lost feeling not knowing what they can do. I think it would help me if the situations were reversed. Thanks for sharing and all the best for figuring out and then speaking your needs!
This was so relatable and helpful. People around me don't understand my emotions. I think I started communicating my needs recently so they are not so confused and feel guilty. (My husband is ISFJ... So he'll basically do everything for me to feel good even if he doesn't understand) Feeling isn't easy... I'm trying to get closer to it with the approach of MBSR.
me struggling to communicate what I think and feel with the people around me and also not feeling stable enough to see through all me emotions without capping them and then being told that that is exactly what I need to do is all kinds of confrontational
omg I just wrote in my notebook about emotions if its good emotions let it out if it bad ignore it till you get home then try to feel them again letting them out asking why I feel this way whats the solution
A friend of me who's a father told me that a lot of people tell the child to be quiet, instead of pointing them a safe place where they can scream freely. After all, that may be the reason that we, adult, go to concert, go protesting... We all need to express ourselves in a place that gives us the opportunity to do so!
Currently me at 23yo, went for a walk this morning to not be so worked up.
I just needed this. I have been going through a little bit of a rough patch the last few days/weeks. I felt so miserable and guilty, I went to sleep early everyday because I was thinking and thinking to the point it hurt so much I bursted out crying. I kept the lights on because I always felt like I'm not present, I'm not real. I was so scared.
Being INFP definitely helped me. It taught me that there are other people like me and that I'm not broken. I'm starting to gain more control over my feelings. Thank you for your video! I can't describe how much it helped me.
It sounds wonderful that you are going to bed early, that's self care. I know it is difficult but being "selfish" is showing yourself the love you know you need :) Awesome to hear about starting to gain control over feelings... but sometimes we just need to feel them... like by crying. Take care!
Yes, I understand what you are going through, I am trying to sleep early as well. I listen to those guided sleep meditations lately and they help me focus on sleep, although its really hard to keep myself from non stop thinking. Take care, we can do this!
Weirdly accurate timing, this was exactly what I needed lately ❤️ thanks a lot !
Its different i suppose for some but for me i tend to get angry for some reason, usually when i fuck up something or say the wrong thing or not the right emotional response and then i will turn it on myself and blame myself for not getting it right or saying the right thing and then a marathon of all the times this has happened to me replays and replays in my head and the darkness kicks in and she sill stay with me for a day two days until the emotion of tears and self loathing are gone. I can get so negative and its really hard to put on the brave face everyone when im imploding inside. And i get it there others out there with real issues and real life altering situations and im crying about nothing really but its like crossed wires or something and ive always been a sooky moody depressed person since childhood though i can be happy like giddy happy and then sometimes i just dont care about anything anymore like the point of things has vanished.
Thank you 🙂 😊 very helpful. Especially these days. I just feel like I am in a dreamland away with the fairies, and I'm afraid that if I don't wake up, that I will never amount to anything
As a fellow INFP, this was really helpful to hear 👍 Thanks!
... This video made me cry and smile at the same time..And I love it
Thank you for this. They are not some high-level knowledge that are hard to understand, but instead, you brought them across in such a simple and relatable way. I am an infp and recently i found myself in a deeper emotional toll and it feels like something i have never been able to handle. Feeling excited to learn new things but at the same time, I am very careful about the possibility of depression. You encouraged me!
There's also the three musts that hold you back: i must do well; you must treat me well; my life must be easy. If you can boil down a negative emotion to one of these three musts you know it's holding you back and if it's holding you back you can use something like the ABC model to dispute the irrational belief that's underlying the "must". Basically, this all comes from Albert Ellis's R.E.B.T which uses stoic philosophy as a form of CBT. In essence, running through the three "musts" in your head is a bit like having a little ENTJ in your mind. Try it.
This was reassuring :) I was thinking like half an hour ago I need to communicate how I'm feeling (not good…). But I also had the mental objection: that in itself isn't contributing to much, neither for me, nor for them. I need to ask concrete support. Just no freaking idea how to do that. I don't even know what I really need. Anyways, I'll stop rambling. Thanks for the video. It feels like a strange coincidence I came uppon it just today. Keep up the good work. And take care! :)
It can be awkward and uncomfortable to ask for what one wants... I seem to think it's selfish or aggressive as it seems so blunt!... but then I must flip it in my head, if someone asked for concrete support, would I think them selfish or aggressive? NO! I get ya on the not knowing what you need but I think even saying that is helpful, as then the other person doesn't feel so lost feeling not knowing what they can do. I think it would help me if the situations were reversed. Thanks for sharing and all the best for figuring out and then speaking your needs!
This guy doesn’t fail to connect to my struggles. Thank you so much. 💕
This was so relatable and helpful.
People around me don't understand my emotions. I think I started communicating my needs recently so they are not so confused and feel guilty. (My husband is ISFJ... So he'll basically do everything for me to feel good even if he doesn't understand)
Feeling isn't easy... I'm trying to get closer to it with the approach of MBSR.
Yes, emotional clarity is definitely needed 😊
Thank you!! 💚
me struggling to communicate what I think and feel with the people around me and also not feeling stable enough to see through all me emotions without capping them and then being told that that is exactly what I need to do is all kinds of confrontational
I love you and I love your videos!!!! You really help me a lot!!1 blesses ! :)
Thy, this helps to come out of the minde. I like your soft voice, you are a very nice man.
This really helped, great video!
Thankyou so much 💚
Yeah, I needed this.
this is exactly me.
omg I just wrote in my notebook about emotions if its good emotions let it out if it bad ignore it till you get home then try to feel them again letting them out asking why I feel this way whats the solution
I want to focus on listening but I'm currently frustrated with the noise pollution caused by my family.
oooooooh, thanks
Hi Sherman,
I am an INFP with an ESFP boyfriend
Any relationship advice?
Wow, I also thought about this one! Whats ypur views about that?
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I´m happy because i´m isolated.
Wait how do i see it being uploaded only 30 minutes ago when the comments show 6 days ago?
It was released earlier for subscribers of the I Now Feel Positive program (as he exceptionally finished the video before its planned released date)
@@margotchaput3070 oooh i see... thanks for letting me know! :)
You're welcome 😊
Ahh I relate too hard to your younger self
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bruh
Are you Aquarius also😂😂