so basic and logical & true…yet hard to wrap your mind/heart around if you have low self-worth… because you’re looking for the validation of your worth from others.
@@susanhampton9671no what most women really do, is chadchase and overvalue themselves in all of the wrong ways instead of protecting their real value by building it in the right areas and looking at those in their friendship circles that have built report and invested into them that had valued them the most as they are or helped them improve... But instead most of y'all's chased some random outsider that hasn't been vetted long term and sell out cheap or throw everything away for a one night shot 😒 and when y'all don't like the outcomes just as the manosphere had pointed out so many times including the 33secrets channel, y'all's just blame all men or society for all of your own actions and choices with very little if ever any accountabilities or self reflections... It's usually just you go queen! Don't settle for less! Ask for more without being and giving more yourselves! Or you're all the table just as you all are! And I know my worth! I'm not for sale! Yet most women want to know and gain access and control of a man's money and assets 🤦..... AWALT! ☕😗
@@susanhampton9671 The fact that people have this conflict between our heart wanting the person that did not want us causing a self-worth issue and knowing logically that happiness within ourselves is the only true happiness is very definition of being human. I feel both your response and JoAnn's all the time. What worked for me is not making them fight, but making them dialog. Sitting with myself when I feel it and letting my head and my heart talk it out.
This is so true, I wish I had thought of this many years ago when I was so naive and too emotional.... unfortunately sometimes we don't even find that one person...
It is true that not everyone you like or want does not think you are for them. This is life. The problem becomes when the person doesn't accept that the person does not want them and they can't move on but ends up making a fool or very sad of themselves.
So true, I’d rather be authentic and vulnerable than change myself to attract someone. If the attraction is not there I wouldn’t waste energy on trying to make it happen 😊
True, but only if you’re being your best self. If you’re a slob or not trying to be your personal best (in a way that feels authentic to you, which is a bit different for everyone), then those rejections might be pointing to something real that needs to change.
True, but I'd assume that the person being rejected would be aware of this on some level. Whether they have the emotional maturity to accoknwledge it and make efforts to change (self improve) is a whole 'nother story.
This advice is only partially true, because you don't feel rejected by everyone around you, only by someone you thought is the ONE, and you've been most authentic with, and then get rejected. Hence it is so painful.
If you got rejected by them, they were not the one. Even if they were "perfect" for you, you weren't for them - and that's not personal. Not really. It wouldn't have worked in the long term. They gave you a gift: they saved you time.
I’m always myself. I’m always intentional. I’m smart, fit attractive, have friends and hobbies. It’s not a guarantee that a person will want to stay or find true love.
Dude!! 🥲🤗 You are just simply amazing AND wise that WOW 😮 me!!! Thank You Thank You for sharing your wisdom with those of us who didn't have anyone to teach us these basics!!! 🤗 Blessings to you and yours 💪💪💪🎉🎉🎉🎉
The most simple common sense things work. And more simplicity in every area of life. I stopped wanting relationships with everyone, but the ones that have been there for the long run, through the good/bad. The ones I want to be there for because they are genuine, not because I'm people pleasing. It's so simple but so easy to forget.
I would like to have Matthew as my dating coach. I think, today you need to be smart, savvy, streetwise, and knowledgeable about human relationships to be successful in this world. Good intentions are not enough. 😊😅❤
I get what you’re saying 100% but I think this concept is really difficult for those of us who have been on the apps or single for a long period of time. I think this is one of those hindsight ideas that you can truly only accept when you’re in a happy relationship. Again, you’re not wrong but your audience is full of mostly women who seem to feel like they aren’t for anybody.
I just got rejected after a whirlwind romance. I am in so much agony as I liked him so so so much. My chest hurts, my heart hurts, but is what it is, just going gym, self care, connecting with friends and working through the pain. Rejection kills but it's part of life ❤
I was depressed for 7 years after a cheating ex. Worked on myself. Started to explore again last december. Got rejected last march. But now i realized this. I was stagnant for 7 years. Its bad to regret that. But it made me grow. Goodluck brothers. Be authentic
Listened to this psychologist and realized how much love to ppl he' s got. Man look into his eyes while he's sharing this message... They will tell you that every single thing he's telling is the truth. Wow God blesse him for his work. I wonder if he knows Jesus cause it seems like he does...
So so true cos most of us are out to impress the other party for some reason or the other.Being authentic is the key but if the other party is the same be ready for some fireworks too all part of the scene 😊😊
It’s nothing against us but is soo time consuming!!! my problem is I’m putting in too much work now after understanding some things I can put less work in.
Tell them “Thank you for sharing your time with me. After much thought, I believe I cannot meet your emotional/mental/physical/spiritual/financial needs. I’m so sorry. I hope you find someone that does meet your needs and more. I hope you understand. Please, take care.”
Yeah yeah sure But now I’m thirty and my chances of getting pregnant diminish by the day & how do I find that someone before my clock expires? How do women deal with that? Please make a video on that subject.
Sigh…this is true, but God…the struggle is real. I am neurodivergent, and so I struggle with rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD). I grew up in a narc home, back to back with a horrifically bad narc “friendship” for 8 long years. I’m finally free of it, but I feel like I’m just discovering who I am and I feel SO far behind because my “self” was suppressed by both (covert) narcs. In almost 33 and just discovering my neurodivergence.
It is bizarre tho when someone you know is full of red flags and not up to your standards doesn’t like you. And you never gave the impression that you judged. Oh well
Would you like to answer to this one question in return to this comment ? If l can get rid of this person from my entire life what proceedure i should resume with as a beginning in order to protect my authenticity as you may have commonly found out yourself in me being reserved. And i normally get cold on subjects mainly of love marriage, childen. as marriage doesnt neccessitite giving birth to children as it is overlooked by many organization with current validation to on going situations in the world in general are given to over pupulation and setting the environment back to reduction on human race and the topic discussed already by natural affect put fourth by me and talking further of previous topic daclaring mass wars between countries killing innocence screwcifing them on what they deserve to have never leaving them behind without punishment which have no mercy at all with regard to such brutal killing over any faiths so it is over concerned today whether to put up with such risks of uncertainty that our future generation has to face with simillar kind of troubles proving birth is something diverted into channels of other units such as decaying, sickness, death by ourselves with our attachments gratification grudge lust, cravings to the same limit we are hung on to themselves and get in to the last of above being rediculed and rejected.
If you can accept rejection then you have self love which is so important
Yes!! 😊❤
So so so true
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so basic and logical & true…yet hard to wrap your mind/heart around if you have low self-worth… because you’re looking for the validation of your worth from others.
No, we validate ourselves and don't look for it in other people. It is being independent vs dependent.
@@susanhampton9671no what most women really do, is chadchase and overvalue themselves in all of the wrong ways instead of protecting their real value by building it in the right areas and looking at those in their friendship circles that have built report and invested into them that had valued them the most as they are or helped them improve... But instead most of y'all's chased some random outsider that hasn't been vetted long term and sell out cheap or throw everything away for a one night shot 😒 and when y'all don't like the outcomes just as the manosphere had pointed out so many times including the 33secrets channel, y'all's just blame all men or society for all of your own actions and choices with very little if ever any accountabilities or self reflections... It's usually just you go queen! Don't settle for less! Ask for more without being and giving more yourselves! Or you're all the table just as you all are! And I know my worth! I'm not for sale! Yet most women want to know and gain access and control of a man's money and assets 🤦..... AWALT! ☕😗
@@susanhampton9671 The fact that people have this conflict between our heart wanting the person that did not want us causing a self-worth issue and knowing logically that happiness within ourselves is the only true happiness is very definition of being human. I feel both your response and JoAnn's all the time. What worked for me is not making them fight, but making them dialog. Sitting with myself when I feel it and letting my head and my heart talk it out.
There is so much rejection that a person can handle before they give up
Stay encouraged. It's not a reflection of you
This is a great advice. be true to yourself, authenticity is attractive
This is so true, I wish I had thought of this many years ago when I was so naive and too emotional.... unfortunately sometimes we don't even find that one person...
Some people prefer ice-cream for dessert, others prefer cake. Both are amazing and loved by many, but neither are for everyone 😊
😡 ice cream 😢
“Remember, you can’t please everyone. You are not PIZZA. “
@@tedtalksrock pleasing dont mean love / marrg / frndship/ fam
This is such good advice. Whenever I’m rejected by someone I like, I need to remind myself of this.
It is true that not everyone you like or want does not think you are for them. This is life. The problem becomes when the person doesn't accept that the person does not want them and they can't move on but ends up making a fool or very sad of themselves.
Self love is important
thats true!
So true, I’d rather be authentic and vulnerable than change myself to attract someone. If the attraction is not there I wouldn’t waste energy on trying to make it happen 😊
This is so true and yes when it comes to dating being logical helps than being emotional
I agreed
Thank You You are the Best
Matthew🙏😔
I wish I had learned the lesson that Mathew was talking about in my early 20s. It would have saved me so much pain, broken heart & headache ❤😢😮😅
Wow! I really needed that! Thank you!❤
True, but only if you’re being your best self. If you’re a slob or not trying to be your personal best (in a way that feels authentic to you, which is a bit different for everyone), then those rejections might be pointing to something real that needs to change.
True, but I'd assume that the person being rejected would be aware of this on some level.
Whether they have the emotional maturity to accoknwledge it and make efforts to change (self improve) is a whole 'nother story.
You could be the sweetest orange in the orchard, but there's always someone who doesn't like oranges 🍊
@1984 Love that!😂🤣😁😂🤣
Sense 💯 in this comment. You are absolutely right
This advice is only partially true, because you don't feel rejected by everyone around you, only by someone you thought is the ONE, and you've been most authentic with, and then get rejected. Hence it is so painful.
But it wasn’t the ONE. You only thought it was the one. It still hurts but you definitely have to reframe it. Then get up and try again. ❤
If you got rejected by them, they were not the one. Even if they were "perfect" for you, you weren't for them - and that's not personal. Not really. It wouldn't have worked in the long term. They gave you a gift: they saved you time.
I’m always myself. I’m always intentional. I’m smart, fit attractive, have friends and hobbies. It’s not a guarantee that a person will want to stay or find true love.
Can’t wait to receive your book. Looking forward to it.
Me too! I am super excited.
Exactly so right, many thanks
I like this man’s advice thank you
I love that - thanks Matthew ❤
Big hug to you ❤❤❤
Matthew, you’re absolutely right! Soon or later the right one will come along. Meanwhile keep loving yourself and stay true to yourself!❤
You give the best advice😊
Dude!! 🥲🤗 You are just simply amazing AND wise that WOW 😮 me!!! Thank You Thank You for sharing your wisdom with those of us who didn't have anyone to teach us these basics!!! 🤗 Blessings to you and yours 💪💪💪🎉🎉🎉🎉
Needed this - about to go speed dating ❤
Great! 🎉 thanks! That's the authentic Mathews! 😊
Great advice!
Thats a Real Man,willing to admit the mistake and change
The most simple common sense things work. And more simplicity in every area of life. I stopped wanting relationships with everyone, but the ones that have been there for the long run, through the good/bad. The ones I want to be there for because they are genuine, not because I'm people pleasing. It's so simple but so easy to forget.
You are the best Matthew ❤
I would like to have Matthew as my dating coach. I think, today you need to be smart, savvy, streetwise, and knowledgeable about human relationships to be successful in this world. Good intentions are not enough. 😊😅❤
I believe in only this. ..agree....coz our confidence n love for ourself is the most important thibg❤ I love me ❤
Wellll, but also we all do some dumb shit in dating. It's taking ownership of the dumb shit we do and chuck it out the door. Keep the good stuff 🤔
Yes, learning from our mistakes and striving to do better.
Useful reminder
I am over authentic and yes for sure I am not for many people. Mostly ones that are not comfortable with the pure truth, all the time, every time.
Thank you 🙏 you made my day 😁
Thank you!
I get what you’re saying 100% but I think this concept is really difficult for those of us who have been on the apps or single for a long period of time. I think this is one of those hindsight ideas that you can truly only accept when you’re in a happy relationship. Again, you’re not wrong but your audience is full of mostly women who seem to feel like they aren’t for anybody.
I just got rejected after a whirlwind romance. I am in so much agony as I liked him so so so much. My chest hurts, my heart hurts, but is what it is, just going gym, self care, connecting with friends and working through the pain. Rejection kills but it's part of life ❤
I was depressed for 7 years after a cheating ex. Worked on myself. Started to explore again last december. Got rejected last march. But now i realized this. I was stagnant for 7 years. Its bad to regret that. But it made me grow. Goodluck brothers. Be authentic
Listened to this psychologist and realized how much love to ppl he' s got. Man look into his eyes while he's sharing this message... They will tell you that every single thing he's telling is the truth.
Wow
God blesse him for his work.
I wonder if he knows Jesus cause it seems like he does...
Soo true thank you ❤😊
Gosh! I needed this 🥹
Thank you ❤
So so true cos most of us are out to impress the other party for some reason or the other.Being authentic is the key but if the other party is the same be ready for some fireworks too all part of the scene 😊😊
Thanks a million❤
It’s nothing against us but is soo time consuming!!! my problem is I’m putting in too much work now after understanding some things I can put less work in.
It’s so basic yet so true.
The world is full of people...don't settle. U will regret ur choices
100% true
❤you are a great teacher❤love from me😊
How do you reject someone when you're not interested, in an appropriate way on a first date?
Tell them “Thank you for sharing your time with me. After much thought, I believe I cannot meet your emotional/mental/physical/spiritual/financial needs. I’m so sorry. I hope you find someone that does meet your needs and more. I hope you understand. Please, take care.”
That is okay, but not after dating that person for over a year.
Right
Facts 🫶
Also, not everyone is for me 😊
😅😅😅 absolutely. Awoman inlove, needs only one man❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Younger years.😊😮
These words should be written in the Bible ❤
Great speech ☺️😉🇮🇹
😂😂😂 they are there, Jesus was perfect but He was rejected.
@@thandimokoena1157 Wow. Excellent comment...and sooo true. blessings to you my friend.
Yeah yeah sure
But now I’m thirty and my chances of getting pregnant diminish by the day & how do I find that someone before my clock expires?
How do women deal with that? Please make a video on that subject.
Sigh…this is true, but God…the struggle is real. I am neurodivergent, and so I struggle with rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD). I grew up in a narc home, back to back with a horrifically bad narc “friendship” for 8 long years. I’m finally free of it, but I feel like I’m just discovering who I am and I feel SO far behind because my “self” was suppressed by both (covert) narcs. In almost 33 and just discovering my neurodivergence.
It is bizarre tho when someone you know is full of red flags and not up to your standards doesn’t like you. And you never gave the impression that you judged. Oh well
❤Sweetly Sweetie Sweetly ❤
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One ♥
I guess I’m not for anybody. 🤦♂️
And everyone is not for you
:c I'm sorry
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Only one
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Would you like to answer to this one question in return to this comment ? If l can get rid of this person from my entire life what proceedure i should resume with as a beginning in order to protect my authenticity as you may have commonly found out yourself in me being reserved. And i normally get cold on subjects mainly of love marriage, childen. as marriage doesnt neccessitite giving birth to children as it is overlooked by many organization with current validation to on going situations in the world in general are given to over pupulation and setting the environment back to reduction on human race and the topic discussed already by natural affect put fourth by me and talking further of previous topic daclaring mass wars between countries killing innocence screwcifing them on what they deserve to have never leaving them behind without punishment which have no mercy at all with regard to such brutal killing over any faiths so it is over concerned today whether to put up with such risks of uncertainty that our future generation has to face with simillar kind of troubles proving birth is something diverted into channels of other units such as decaying, sickness, death by ourselves with our attachments gratification grudge lust, cravings to the same limit we are hung on to themselves and get in to the last of above being rediculed and rejected.
It's not you. ❤
Lol. And if you don't have ONE?...
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This just confused me 😂
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So, maybe I'm for nobody
Maybe it is possible "to be for nobody". But also possible to grow certain character traits which you would like to meet in other ppl
Just 1 🍎✨
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Copium
Should an asian man that is +9/10 in looks have any problem in dating
Everyone is going to have problems. Appearance is a great blessing, but it's not everything. Good luck in any case!
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Thank you @thematthewhussey
Why do I keep forgetting this knowledge 🥲
Thankyou ❤