How has learning about the 4 distinctive neurochemicals helped you to understand your relationship dynamic better? What will you be doing differently to break unhealthy patterns? I'd love to hear your feedback in the comments below!
More reasons to have and hold boundaries, respect and heed red flags, etc. Yes, it helped me understand, in part, why some of my actions and reactions were out of character for me and validated why the healing / longing / grieving has been so different and intense via any other relationship.
@_anon_ ... Identify what is and isn't working to grieve and let go of that past relationship. Do you find yourselves focusing on you or them? Or, the what happened? Why did it happen? What if I ,(you) had done something differently? These couple questions can be helpful. However, if you get stuck in a nearly endless loop (aka ruminating) its keeps you stickier than helps. As they say, live forward. We can't change the past. The "chemicals" will subside as you focus on yourself, healing, purpose, other hobbies / activities, exercise, healthy diet, sleep, meditation, etc. What if you focused on how you want to feel? What would a healthy relationship look like for you? How would calm / look and feel for you?
This explains in detail why I was so in love with my (DA) ex. Also, having a professional like you explain that we should treat a breakup like a recovery from drug addiction is extremely helpful. Thank you 💐
Thank you. This knowledge is so empowering! As I administered meds to my detoxing patients tonight, (I'm a nurse) I realized I was suffering the same symptoms they were! Anxiety, headache, hypertension and nausea and this was before I found this video!! It all makes so much sense! I'm forever grateful for your empathy, wisdom and teaching.
Thank you for this video! Very informative. I definitely see A lot of similarities in my relationship with my husband who has bipolar disorder, we have been married for almost 13 years and it has not been easy. We have children and have worked hard to stay together. We both have had childhood trauma and we both have our own emotional issues but we both love each other very much.
This was ONE of the MOST valuable and validating videos you have done, for me!!! Understand, you have tons of helpful videos. However, since this is what I experienced there are other videos that left me feeling a STRONG sense of guilt and even blame. I am healing and thus feeling more secure and less triggered on my own. Still, I appreciated this video. I was in the relationship for 7 months, and it took me 9 to really start feeling normal. 6 till certain physical pains and other issues subsided. Yes, VERY much addiction like, and NEVER experienced anything like it. Thanks ☮
Hi Briana!! I love your videos and this one in particular was very interesting! I'm a mental health professional currently working with individuals in recovery from substance abuse. I've been observing the similarities between the process of addiction/recovery and dysfunctional relationships in my clinical practice and OMG the parallels are undeniable! (in my personal opinion) Particularly with gambling addiction!... I got so exited when I heard you talking about this!! This is big!!!... I very much enjoyed the educational piece on neurotransmitters and how they relate to this issue!! God Bless your work! He knows how much needed it is!! Thank you for your hard work! Your compassionate perspective on anxious and avoidant attachment styles is a breath of fresh air!
Ugh this came at a perfect time.. going through withdrawals now my SO (dismissive avoidant) pretty much dumped me when I expressed my need to reconnect, we used to be much more connected but lately he has been distant and in the end he just left me. I’ve been doing no contact for a week and I’m going crazy
So sorry to hear that 💐💐💐 As Brianna said, it's quite literally a recovery from addiction, it's extremely difficult, you can be proud of yourself for being so strong 👏🏻😊
What I did was not through 8 years of marriage..although it was more like a roommate who shut down night one after marriage. I just kept giving..:he cheated and played the victim and I blamed myself...this push pull emotional whiplash has been excruciating to pull out of including my own deep denial. I thought it was my responsibility to save the marriage... It was all a big lie that I bought....due to my own unhealthy trauma from childhood. Thank you for this.
What to do if you realize you are the one who IS the one in the relationship on the receiving side of someone who is has this love addiction issue. I see with clarity watching this video and understand where he is. I feel a sense of responsibility for his sake to do the 'right' thing most honorable thing and do not know how to approach him. He is the open heart and me rolling stone. We both discovered this and know we have to change cause the rollercoaster lead to both of us being very distracted with what we need to accomplish and focus on in our lives. We keep working on it and are very stuck in the same patterns. I have let him go many times and then he can't believe its over. We have this idea that we can make it through this and the road to recovery seems incredibly challenging and daunting.
How has learning about the 4 distinctive neurochemicals helped you to understand your relationship dynamic better? What will you be doing differently to break unhealthy patterns? I'd love to hear your feedback in the comments below!
More reasons to have and hold boundaries, respect and heed red flags, etc. Yes, it helped me understand, in part, why some of my actions and reactions were out of character for me and validated why the healing / longing / grieving has been so different and intense via any other relationship.
@_anon_ ... Identify what is and isn't working to grieve and let go of that past relationship.
Do you find yourselves focusing on you or them? Or, the what happened? Why did it happen? What if I ,(you) had done something differently?
These couple questions can be helpful. However, if you get stuck in a nearly endless loop (aka ruminating) its keeps you stickier than helps.
As they say, live forward. We can't change the past.
The "chemicals" will subside as you focus on yourself, healing, purpose, other hobbies / activities, exercise, healthy diet, sleep, meditation, etc. What if you focused on how you want to feel? What would a healthy relationship look like for you?
How would calm / look and feel for you?
This explains in detail why I was so in love with my (DA) ex.
Also, having a professional like you explain that we should treat a breakup like a recovery from drug addiction is extremely helpful.
Thank you 💐
Thank you. This knowledge is so empowering! As I administered meds to my detoxing patients tonight, (I'm a nurse) I realized I was suffering the same symptoms they were! Anxiety, headache, hypertension and nausea and this was before I found this video!! It all makes so much sense! I'm forever grateful for your empathy, wisdom and teaching.
Thank you for this video! Very informative. I definitely see A lot of similarities in my relationship with my husband who has bipolar disorder, we have been married for almost 13 years and it has not been easy. We have children and have worked hard to stay together. We both have had childhood trauma and we both have our own emotional issues but we both love each other very much.
This was ONE of the MOST valuable and validating videos you have done, for me!!!
Understand, you have tons of helpful videos. However, since this is what I experienced there are other videos that left me feeling a STRONG sense of guilt and even blame. I am healing and thus feeling more secure and less triggered on my own. Still, I appreciated this video. I was in the relationship for 7 months, and it took me 9 to really start feeling normal. 6 till certain physical pains and other issues subsided. Yes, VERY much addiction like, and NEVER experienced anything like it. Thanks ☮
Hi Briana!! I love your videos and this one in particular was very interesting! I'm a mental health professional currently working with individuals in recovery from substance abuse. I've been observing the similarities between the process of addiction/recovery and dysfunctional relationships in my clinical practice and OMG the parallels are undeniable! (in my personal opinion) Particularly with gambling addiction!... I got so exited when I heard you talking about this!! This is big!!!... I very much enjoyed the educational piece on neurotransmitters and how they relate to this issue!! God Bless your work! He knows how much needed it is!! Thank you for your hard work! Your compassionate perspective on anxious and avoidant attachment styles is a breath of fresh air!
Must play on repeat till fully integrated. Thank you
Ugh this came at a perfect time.. going through withdrawals now my SO (dismissive avoidant) pretty much dumped me when I expressed my need to reconnect, we used to be much more connected but lately he has been distant and in the end he just left me. I’ve been doing no contact for a week and I’m going crazy
So sorry to hear that 💐💐💐 As Brianna said, it's quite literally a recovery from addiction, it's extremely difficult, you can be proud of yourself for being so strong 👏🏻😊
How are you doing now?
@@SK-no2pp much better! I’m so over him. He can go fuck himself
@@sofiapaladino5172 aww
I’m happy to hear that. You deserve reciprocity, to be loved, validated. And seen for the wonderful per person you truly are!
Fantastic video! Thank you!
What I did was not through 8 years of marriage..although it was more like a roommate who shut down night one after marriage. I just kept giving..:he cheated and played the victim and I blamed myself...this push pull emotional whiplash has been excruciating to pull out of including my own deep denial. I thought it was my responsibility to save the marriage... It was all a big lie that I bought....due to my own unhealthy trauma from childhood. Thank you for this.
Hi Briana, do you have some information on the nervous system + attachment style? 💐
What to do if you realize you are the one who IS the one in the relationship on the receiving side of someone who is has this love addiction issue. I see with clarity watching this video and understand where he is. I feel a sense of responsibility for his sake to do the 'right' thing most honorable thing and do not know how to approach him. He is the open heart and me rolling stone. We both discovered this and know we have to change cause the rollercoaster lead to both of us being very distracted with what we need to accomplish and focus on in our lives. We keep working on it and are very stuck in the same patterns. I have let him go many times and then he can't believe its over. We have this idea that we can make it through this and the road to recovery seems incredibly challenging and daunting.
Brianna is fantastic! On point'
Hi Brianna, extremely informative, curious would you subscribe to brain spotting and there apparent quick results?
Trauma bonding.
Wait so is Brianna saying if your SO is avoidant it would never work out ans that you have to 100% leave them
Wow! Wow! Wow!!!!!
It's not aspirin, it's acetaminophen.
Great stuff!
It is hard to watch the video with that background. It makes me nauseous.
Right??? I thought I was alone 😂 jeez 😅