10 powerful techniques to STOP thinking about them (for good) 🤤
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00:00 - Intro
00:19 - Technique 1 - Figure out the cause root
01:35 - Technique 2 - Focus on reality
03:35 - Technique 3 - Accept instead of reject
05:20 - Technique 4 - Write it down
06:53 - Technique 5 - Good distractions
07:45 - Technique 6 - Meet your own needs
09:16 - Technique 7 - Focus on yourself/goal
11:00 - Technique 8 - Keep a healthy distance
11:53 - Technique 9 - Stay in the here and now
14:01 - Technique 10 - Give it time
15:33 - Outro
My take :
1_ Remember why are you still thinking / breaking up with this person
2_ Do you really want to spend your life with someone who treats you like that ? Do you want to have a family with this person ?
3_ If they really wanted you they would have contacted you ,
4_ Do you realise your worth ? Do you want to " chase" someone who doesnt want you ? Is that the life you really want ?
5_ Realise you deserve peace and happiness if you didnt find them with that person , there are billions of people on the planet
6_ Accept that you and that person werent a good match accept the fact that life drove them to you to learn the lessons you need to learn at the time
7_ accept have peace with it heal and take time to grieve the relationship death
8_ start doing new things learn new skills meet friends and challenge yourself to grow into a better person because the fact is if you work on yourself to become a better person you will attract a better person it starts with you
Obsessing only happens when the person was not emotional available and not confirming your feelings. You projected your trauma and perfect picture on them. You seeked validation outside yourself instead from within. Work on yourself, find your self-worth and let them go. It was not the right person. Stop focussing on closed doors and new ones will open, and they will bring so much better experiences. But yeah, it can take a long time and be very hurtfull. Every big loss comes with the same process; Denial, Anger, Sadness, Acceptance.
How to stop thinking of someone that you have been thinking for a week?!!! Try years!!!
I'm going on 4 years 😢 I'm so tired of this mental jail state uughhh 😞
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Trust me its all our mindset no one is spl in this world ah its really hard and tough to accept but keep trying put yourself need first , im not saying like simple i have been in it for 5 yrs he never gives me time always ignores me roams with other girls , never remembers my burthday but puts story about on his gfs birthday with a love song ,mine was a romantic relationship I was so obsessed with him then I got shit when I propos him multiple times he never said or no just fights with me and lefts I fed up with him so I went that depression stage not even a single person was there for me to help my career sucked ,job finance I felt depressed I lost goal and everything im still processing with it but trying to forget someone is far better than crying for them waiting for them to return is superb good try it give it a chance @@evasive107
Just stuck on him,initial phase, I Love him but have trust issues bcz he cut me off so easily. ❤
I just decided to confess it with this, "I love you so much, But I don't like you anymore".
I need a video of how to end the limerence of someone I can't forget, it's been so painful for me 😓
I realy value your videos and advice. This one put things into perspective and especially about mindfulness and the here and now. Cheers Francesca 🤗
11:00 got me dying 😂
Hahaha yeah! And to think she actually kept it in, its so cute xD
This is already easy. Talk about this when you have a child with them and they’re weaponizing the child against you because they know that’s your only weakness and they are a narcissist.
very helpful and recongnizable advice 🙏
Very helpful, thank you!
This lady is AMAZING 🎉
The real tragedy is that everyone knows what very bad people in every country as a majority are doing against good humans, ecosystem & life & the basic instinct of almost everyone is that let's not talk about the bad people of the society & by doing this, think that only good values will automatically destroy all the conspiracies created by bad people. One cannot escape all the conspiracies created by bad people simply by ignoring bad people, their bad actions & their bad intentions. It is like closing the eyes after recognizing the enemy & then opening the eyes hoping that like magic all the enemies of the society will automatically disappear.
Thanks 🫶🏽
wish it was that easy when you're an overthinking love addict lol. but i practice each as the waves come at me and I seek peace and calm again (dopamine! lol). off to the gym #7!
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I know this girl that tried the teasing on me. Problem is, we didn't know each other and she was more hot & cold, and I mean cold. I started ignoring her in which she started being a bit of a kiss ass. Started talking again, then she did the push/pull on me. I called her out then she started being super friendly, in this time she jokingly said she's afraid of rejection (with a really awkward laugh) Asked her a question one day and she blew me off. Shortly after releasing she messed up she went into kiss ass mode again. Then she tried to make me jealous. I know girls that are insecure will play games like this and unfortunately it's a big red flag. It can mean indubitably in a relationship and if she's trying the jealousy game to see how you respond. This means she could cheat. She's openly said she wants my company but with these red flags I feel like she's just a attention seeking narcissist. thoughts???
Accepting how I feel really resonates !! I also LOVE the mention of hormones! (Dopamine = the rush anticipating (romantic/fantasy obsession)! Seratonin, Endorphins, Oxytocin are the hormones that get released from REAL experiences - runner's high/connection in the present moment (hugging a baby/old friend!) Thank you Francesca! Nice distinction!!!!
I know a girl for 1.5 years. I never felt attracted to her before. But last week when I found out that she is a very good student, She became 5th in her college exam. Then I started obsessing over her. I don't even like her socially and physically. Like her friends are degenerated and she is too short. But I still don't understand why she is in my mind right now.
Thank You for this Francesca 🙏
How to stop thinking about a person who called off a wedding with me ? No breakup no drama nothing. He called it off and vanished from the face of earth!
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11:06 I think you forgot to edit this part😂😂
Fantastic video very helpful, thank you x
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Maam it looks like you forgot to cut the part about the guy you dated from your student accommodation 😭🫶