10 Signs of Quiet Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) - full video is on the channel

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  • This video is all about Quiet BPD, which is also known as quiet borderline personality disorder. I'm also talking about 6 ways to help manage your quiet BPD. If you are looking for more information on BPD symptoms or quiet BPD symptoms, then this video may help you understand the different symptoms with borderline personality disorder. And it may help you better understand how to care for your quiet BPD. Have more questions? Leave them in the comments.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 486

  • @speedybeetle
    @speedybeetle Рік тому +1320

    Well shit

  • @yay-cat
    @yay-cat Рік тому +738

    There’s a lot in common with ADHD there. Also the splitting behaviour is kind of like “black and white thinking” that’s also often associated with Autism. I wonder how many diagnoses’ overlap

    • @CreativeOne-ll8et
      @CreativeOne-ll8et Рік тому +120

      This proves right here that the list of disorders is way too long, I’ve heard people saying, I have ADHD, Autism, Bi polar ,PTSD and OCD, they are being told they have all of them! This is crazy, and what’s definitely happening is that people are being labeled with way too many that they do not have and being put on medications they do not need.. I know because I was one of them when it comes to the medications because they entire time all I’ve had is Autism!!!

    • @hannahheartsedward
      @hannahheartsedward Рік тому

      Black and white thinking is also part of being a child. Most grow out of it when their brain continues to develop.

    • @yay-cat
      @yay-cat Рік тому +32

      @@CreativeOne-ll8et well at the end of the day the label is only useful if there’s something there causing you an impairment and like hampers your ability to function as an adult day to day. Also if the meds help you then you take them and if they don’t help then you don’t take them. The science is still in its infancy and finding the right treatment for each individual is difficult and takes some trial and error. The tools aren’t perfect but a little bit of help might be better than none.

    • @pickledweed
      @pickledweed Рік тому +20

      @@CreativeOne-ll8et Yup, 28 here, been diagnosed w/ bipolar 2 (do not accept this), quiet BPD (of course I have traits because I grew up w/ a mom who has it and I self-harmed a lot because of it), and been on and off over 10 meds since the age of 15 and hospitalized many times, I believe partially because of said meds. I've often wondered if I have ADHD or autism but my mom tells me every day I'm fine (I'm still living with my parents and am pretty dependent which would say otherwise!) I have very overbearing parents who haven't truly allowed me to grow into my own.
      I've lost trust in doctors and the psychology field especially after they tried to push more antipsychotics on me after I had said I was doing just fine for once. I'm almost embarrassed to tell people I have a psychology degree.

    • @MT-uf8xh
      @MT-uf8xh Рік тому +1

      Ultimately... we were not raised by healthy people.

  • @rose_gold_hera
    @rose_gold_hera Рік тому +358

    Sometimes i feel like it's quiet bpd, Sometimes bp, sometimes i feel like I'm mentally healthy just being dramatic, and sometimes i wish i don't exist

    • @mhba4866
      @mhba4866 Рік тому +12

      Ask God to help and guide you to what you should do. 🙏

    • @God_Milk4398
      @God_Milk4398 Рік тому +23

      @@mhba4866 god does duck all

    • @hannahobiedallah3641
      @hannahobiedallah3641 Рік тому +1

      That why we need Bible Study and fellowship as we Exist because God Wants us to feel loved like family and to be Happy.
      We want to exist happy and with purpose. We don't want to exist troubled or ashamed.
      God sent Jesus and the Way.

    • @hannahobiedallah3641
      @hannahobiedallah3641 Рік тому

      🎉Have a happy Fourth of July if you Can find a picnic to go to.

    • @yewneek82
      @yewneek82 Рік тому +3

      Same here it’s exhausting

  • @ms.bodhisattva-vx7js
    @ms.bodhisattva-vx7js Рік тому +153

    All of these can also be PTSD and CPTSD. BPD is a very serious diagnosis and not all practitioners can accurately diagnosis it. Some people with (C)PTSD are even diagnosed with BPD I&II before they find someone who looks at the patient with more “depth”. Trust that you know yourself better than anyone else and keep fighting ❤

    • @KatieRussell713
      @KatieRussell713 Рік тому +2

      I was diagnosed with cptsd

    • @EclecticallyEccentric
      @EclecticallyEccentric Рік тому +6

      Yes, it's important to note the misdiagnosis rate. It's just as important to note the comorbidity of BPD with other disorders, including PTSD and CPTSD.

    • @baby.nay.
      @baby.nay. Рік тому +4

      @@KatieRussell713same . It was really hurtful to have my mother try to diagnose me with bpd , she’s not a psychologist and refuses to do therapy herself. I asked to be tested for bpd and my therapist said many times, toxic family members want to get a bpd diagnosis over ptsd , because simply one seems like not their fault. Hope you’re doing well babe , it’s pretty striking how many symptoms and feelings are similar, but it’s so nuanced. ❤

    • @fofs3084
      @fofs3084 9 місяців тому +1

      I ended up in hospital due to depression medication, only then did a psychiatrist realize I had the wrong diagnosis and opposite medication to what I needed.

    • @TimelessMoon
      @TimelessMoon 7 місяців тому

      ​@@katydid6920Wait so i cant have quiet bpd if i myself got the signs that i might have it without anyone else telling me? Im confused. As always lol

  • @7696851
    @7696851 7 місяців тому +10

    Googled it straight away and shared with my husband. I never had a chance, did I.
    I am so tired.❤
    Thank you for sharing.

  • @dmariebella6309
    @dmariebella6309 Рік тому +72

    I have all these symptoms, I was diagnosed about a year ago. But I recently found out I also have bipolar 2, ADHD and Autism. Damn I'm screwed!!

    • @mhba4866
      @mhba4866 Рік тому +4

      😢❤ 🙏

    • @gymonstarfunkle136
      @gymonstarfunkle136 Рік тому +3

      NOT LOOKIN GOOD BUT GOBBLESS 👍

    • @Venomonomonom
      @Venomonomonom Рік тому +8

      I'm so sick of everyone getting easily diagnosed whereas in my country, you only get diagnosed if you go to a clinic or have massive symptoms. Health services are a joke. Even in the "best"/"richest" parts of Europe. You only get help if you pay a lot for it.

    • @clarelowe3718
      @clarelowe3718 8 місяців тому +2

      Your not screwed your extra special❤

    • @tnk4me4
      @tnk4me4 7 місяців тому +3

      Sign number 1 is a symptom of depression. Sign number 2 is an ADHD symptom in late diagnosed adults. Sign 4 is common in children who grew up in homes where both parents were often absent. Sign 5 and 6 ADHD again. Sign 7 is called being a human being. Or maybe I'm just misinterpreting what she's saying and she means like when people struggle with social anxiety? 8 Could be a sign of autism. And 9 might just be Pathological demand Avoidance which is common with people who have autism and even more common with people who have ADHD. Of course I belief there's nothing wrong with having BPD as long as you make an effort to not harm yourself or others and better your loved ones instead of beating them up and pooping in their bed.

  • @queenchiomaofficial
    @queenchiomaofficial Рік тому +120

    I think a lot of us have these traits. I see these traits in a lot of people that I know esp since the pandemic& lockdown. I think the trauma of the pandemic has negatively changed people so much. But I think those of us who are working on ourselves will become so much better with time.

    • @hannahheartsedward
      @hannahheartsedward Рік тому +17

      C-PTSD can mimic BPD. If you're able to reflect on your own behavior and take action, highly unlikely you have BPD. Example: let's pretend I yelled at my husband while hangry. I can realize I just did something hurtful. I know I shouldn't have lost my temper and apologize directly to him for yelling. I can understand he may need some time to regulate his emotions and being mad at each other does not mean we are going to get divorced. I don't have BPD, but my mom likely does. For those of us in the support group I'm in, our mothers refuse therapy because they believe everyone else is the problem.

    • @LoveYou3539
      @LoveYou3539 Рік тому +9

      I think some people can understand that relating to the symptoms is not a sign of diagnosis. If it's interfering with your ability to live life and/or relationships, then that's a sign to go get treatment. Some people have recieved treatment and the therapist or psychiatrist can come with a diagnosis.

    • @RM-cw1ix
      @RM-cw1ix Рік тому +12

      What she forgot to mention (and what many psychiatrists about many disorders forget to mention) is that everyone goes through these things. But in order for it to be a disorder, these symptoms have to be excessive and disruptive to your life. So when these symptoms cause it to be hard for you to carry out your normal day to day life, when they cause disturbances in your job, your relationships, your ability to care for yourself etc that's when it could potentially be a *dis*order.
      So many psychiatrists do a great job of getting the information out there, but they failed to mention that there are qualifying criteria. If you feel like something is seriously wrong, to where it's a major disturbance in your life, then this can be a guide for you and you can go speak to a professional. But definitely don't see this and think oh I have all of these therefore I have this illness, because as you mentioned, almost everyone goes through varying degrees of all of this. Hope this helps!!

    • @RM-cw1ix
      @RM-cw1ix Рік тому

      @@LoveYou3539 I didn't see your answer before I posted mine, but yeah, you said it perfectly

    • @lisanissen232
      @lisanissen232 Рік тому +7

      A lot of people have many of these traits. But the difference is with BPD, these are felt more intensely. And our lives are consumed by these feelings, sometimes to the point where we can't function

  • @hannahheartsedward
    @hannahheartsedward Рік тому +32

    I gave up when I was first trying to figure out what on earth is wrong with my mother. I ruled out BPD because she doesn't scream, hit, break things, and do other loud and destructive things. She's passive aggressive, not aggressive. I got lucky and my therapist happens to treat BPD, so she suggested BPD early on. My mom is the waif type. Poor me, everyone hates me, I'm so sick, give me attention because I'm pathetic, I'll guilt you into doing what I want. "You can't drive me wherever I want to go?-you don't love me and I don't know where I went wrong with you. I gave up everything for you!"

    • @mac-ju5ot
      @mac-ju5ot Рік тому +1

      My sister who is a nurse when sue got mad at meonce she threw some dishes.does thatcount? Lol

    • @JustJ-Me
      @JustJ-Me Рік тому +3

      My mom was diagnosed as Bipolar2 (which I didn't find very fitting). I'm diagnosed with Borderline traits and a plethora of other things. I gently tried to suggest that perhaps she's Borderline (we weren't arguing or anything) and she came back in a very defensive way "I'M NOT BORDERLINE- YOU ARE!" sheesh. That was a very "Borderline" reaction. I stand my case. 😌

    • @jdglen24
      @jdglen24 Рік тому +5

      Did you look up covert narcissism

    • @JustJ-Me
      @JustJ-Me Рік тому +2

      @LunaSunStar35 Right? All of that reminds me of my ex, who my therapist used to refer to as "King Baby". I came to the conclusion after doing a bunch of research that he's likely a Covert Narc. That description sounds just like him!

    • @peaceofmindofpeace1650
      @peaceofmindofpeace1650 8 місяців тому +1

      ​@@jdglen24Yes bc of "I gave up everything for you".

  • @Bunnisattva
    @Bunnisattva Рік тому +28

    These are all also trauma responses/ coping mechanisms/ and conditioning.. that's the thing to remember about BPD.. it's not a personality disorder. It's a behavioural disorder . With the right treatment and therapy it can be managed. Your emotions don't have to rule your life.

    • @danielleo6855
      @danielleo6855 7 місяців тому +1

      I think saying emotions are ruling your life and I "let" them misunderstands the nature of the damage extended severe trauma has on our nervous system and brain structure. Looking closely at how these mental health disorders overlap with health issues you can often see a pattern of central nervous system malfunction with the emotions side effects... That's what we feel, and we do have control over some of it, sometimes. And the journey to get better is rough but that's ok. I prefer looking at it that way because if I take responsibility over things I can't control it makes the problem worse.

    • @danielleo6855
      @danielleo6855 7 місяців тому

      I really like how you put this, using the term C-ptsd for me has been way less stigmatizing. I've been denied appropriate health care and pain management due to my mental health history, which by the way did not ever include abusing drugs.

  • @streetfighterr2991
    @streetfighterr2991 Рік тому +14

    Everytime I learn something new from your videos about Human Behaviour.

  • @MerryDiffers
    @MerryDiffers Рік тому +11

    I was finally correctly diagnosed with BPD this year. At first, the was panic, but understanding what BPD really is has been life changing. All 10 symptoms definitely are spot on for myself.

    • @palmtree_04
      @palmtree_04 Рік тому

      I need to get diagnosed.. just go to the doctors or somewhere special?

  • @footballcentergh5466
    @footballcentergh5466 Рік тому +26

    When you have all the signs 🥲

  • @gobeaugo
    @gobeaugo Рік тому +14

    I am definitely hyper-vigilant. It must have developed as a coping skill when I was young. Monitoring myself internally was the only way to catch my mistakes before they happened. Didn't always work of course, but I did slowly learn key things to watch for in social situations so that I feel like whenever I talk to someone, I'm living 3-5 seconds in the future - anticipating what they person will say, projecting my possible responses, and filtering out the impulsive ones no matter how good they sound. Essentially the same thing normal people learned subconsciously and don't even realize they're doing it anymore, except that I have to consciously intellectualize the process so I can emulate it.

    • @SoLongSpaceCat
      @SoLongSpaceCat 9 місяців тому +1

      THIS THO

    • @bettinaschafer320
      @bettinaschafer320 13 днів тому

      Can you describe a specific situation to understand better what you are talking about? What you wrote sounds very useful!

  • @analozada9475
    @analozada9475 4 місяці тому +2

    A lot of these can be C-PTSD or PTSD. Not necessarily BPD. Yet, there are few distinctions that are typical characteristics of BPD, which C-PTSD folks don’t have.

  • @Forflipsake
    @Forflipsake 5 днів тому

    I was diagnosed with this 6 years ago at the age of 36.
    Everything this lady said is 100 me, it’s been a life long struggle.

  • @MsFeline81
    @MsFeline81 Рік тому +72

    Wow! I had no idea that quiet BPD has so many symptoms in common with ADHD. Especially the isolation and hyoervigilance make me wonder if the cause of that can be trauma? 🤔

    • @dianaw4072
      @dianaw4072 Рік тому +11

      That’s what I thought! I also have adhd. These are kinda general signs with a lot of mental disorders though.

    • @kareninman2865
      @kareninman2865 Рік тому +1

      Yes, my husband has bpd and is extremely hyper vigilante over everything. Controlling argumentative,and angry everything sets him in a spiral daily I wake up and never know what I'm gonna face. For example he came into my room with his phone blaring a video song. Insisted I get up because he had slept his usually sporadic 10hours a night sleep patterns. Where as I go to bed at a normal hour every night and have to fight to get 4_5 hours sleep because of his insistent hyperactivity and extreme mood swings all day.

    • @peebbeep4830
      @peebbeep4830 Рік тому +8

      BPD is caused by trauma and the different symptoms and ways they manifest differ from person to person depending on the specific things you went through in childhood. This is just about quiet bpd which is the lesser common type. Others with bpd can be very confrontational instead of being passive aggressive or taking things out on yourself. The hyper vigilance comes from the extreme fear of abandonment and always being on the look out for signs and warnings, analyzing everyone around you to avoid making a mistake. Isolation can happen in bpd because of splitting, or because you’re trying to protect yourself from rejection/uncomfortable emotions, or because you are convinced your friends hate you, or because you have such bad trust issues/anxiety/insecurity it’s too overwhelming you’d rather just stay home and you don’t have the energy to text anyone back because you feel empty and dead inside most of the time

    • @011silbermond
      @011silbermond Рік тому +1

      @@peebbeep4830 Very good explanation, thank you!
      I thought about covert BPD a while, but for me there was so much of withdrawal that I did by myself and not knowing how to interact/participate in a children roleplay only with two other girls when they played Barbie or when one who was a single child tried to play tacher and student at home by the time we were in elementary school, I just sat there and was overwhelmed although I wanted to take part.
      I got a mostly inattentive type ADHD diagnosis 3 years ago and I´m hoping for a testing for ASD. Despite watching a lot of videos by professionals about CPTSD and ADHD/ASD in my case I think it´s both. I taught to read myself in kindergarten and could write very early. It was my way to communicate with myself to cope with heavy trauma at home due to my psychotic/sadistic brother and two extremely avoiding, quiet unprotecting parents.

    • @landonkids4935
      @landonkids4935 Рік тому

      @@peebbeep4830This is me so much. I wish I could get release from it. It doesn’t help that my husband is a narcissistic person. I don’t know how or where to find comfort because I’m not comforted around abusers.

  • @CherrylJohnston
    @CherrylJohnston Рік тому +5

    That used to be me. Now I use my voice& express myself in no uncertain terms

  • @DugEphresh
    @DugEphresh Рік тому +2

    I'm captivated by her eyes and intoxicated by her intelligence. The best part is I am getting help and having fun doing it.

  • @Bbtwink
    @Bbtwink 6 місяців тому +1

    I was diagnosed awhile ago with a lot of things but she added “with borderline tendencies” but feel as though that is the root to everything I struggle with daily. Quite BPD

  • @whisperingthylacine
    @whisperingthylacine Рік тому +11

    That's me. Was diagnosed last year. Took 35 years, but yeah.

    • @Cass_772
      @Cass_772 10 місяців тому

      if it took 35 years to find out, you're maybe more autistic than BPD cause BPD cannot be missed, it's intense behaviours, intense rage, etc..

    • @majorfaghot4158..
      @majorfaghot4158.. 3 місяці тому

      ​@@Cass_772bpd is missed a lot. my mom wasn't diagnosed until after she shot herself in the head at 36 years old. not everyone has access to a diagnosis.

  • @sweet2sourr
    @sweet2sourr Рік тому +8

    I wish medical professionals would stop using “quiet” I don’t consider myself “quiet” but I have the same symptoms. BPD is on a spectrum. No one uses “quiet narcissist”.

    • @mhba4866
      @mhba4866 Рік тому +6

      They use "covert" narcissism.

  • @unholytears7813
    @unholytears7813 Рік тому +9

    Pretty much fit the bill for every single one.. But too worried to go to the Dr to check off the common symptoms for fear of being told I'm fine when I clearly know I'm not.

  • @dvckduckgoose
    @dvckduckgoose Рік тому +22

    Me being already diagnosed with BPD and knowing i have the quiet subtype: *Shocked pikachu face when i have all these signs*

    • @sweet2sourr
      @sweet2sourr Рік тому

      She literally just listened the symptom criteria for BPD. You would need these symptoms for a diagnosis

  • @ronnie-lynn
    @ronnie-lynn 11 місяців тому +1

    1. Feeling empty alone or numb a lot of the time
    2. Feeling like you don’t exist, or you don’t really know who you are
    3. Passive aggressive behaviour
    4. Turning your anger inward, trying to tell someone your upset.
    Without actually telling them.
    5. Impulsive behaviours; shopping/overspending, risky sexual behaviour, use illicit drugs, self injure,
    6. Intense fear of rejection
    7. Struggling with isolation
    8. Splitting behaviours; being all good or all bad
    9. Self sabotaging behaviour
    10. Hyper vigilance

  • @CassidyOfficially
    @CassidyOfficially Рік тому +3

    I got diagnosed at 15 and I'm 19 now. All of my friends have left me and now im almost obsessive over the ONE that's left. I isolate myself everyday and I beg my mom not to make me go out but then I complain that I have no one. I've also been called "the passive aggressive princess" by several people in my life. I used to SH and stuff and BPD is just a tough, tiring thing to live with

  • @jeffisawesomer
    @jeffisawesomer Рік тому +3

    wait wtf this sounds like me i need a moment to take some online quizzes

  • @Mellow502
    @Mellow502 Рік тому +29

    Bpd is one of the worst thing to have while living or impresssing your crush, cuz you'll always end up an idiot at the end of the day

  • @picachugirl2036
    @picachugirl2036 Рік тому +5

    Aha I knew that resident was on some BS. I went to get diagnosed for dyscalculia. She said I had bpd after a bunch of questions, and tried to give me like 4 prescriptions for sleep, and I kept telling her. No I already have 3 sleeping prescriptions for my insomnia, enough is enough. And SHE GOT MAD AT ME! I also told her I didnt agree with her bpd diagnosis. Cause like I have ptsd, and depression as a result of the ptsd. So those symptoms matched... But this right here. I cant stand passive aggressiveness, and if im mad at someone theyll fu©king know without a doubt, itll be clear as day. But I got a long fuse, and unless im being verbally abused by my mother, most people don't see that wrath.
    The not feeling like I existed, happened from a medication that was an anticholinergic, i was on it for years, later found out im overly sensitive to those.... So yea it took my brain awhile to recover from that. But ugh that resident acted like she was "all that and then some" but she was really FU©KING arrogant. Like she was so petty about everything ._. Getting mad at me cause I smoke weed, probably using that as a reason i had "bpd" even though im in a legal state and I made it clear I smoke it cause of chronic pain, many times. Like she was very antiweed lmao

  • @georgieeve2026
    @georgieeve2026 Рік тому +18

    That list is common accross many diagnoses :)

    • @saurabhjarodia335
      @saurabhjarodia335 Рік тому +2

      not really

    • @katiemorgan5900
      @katiemorgan5900 Рік тому +8

      They’re common throughout humanity as a whole. I think BPD is largely harmful diagnosis and should be removed from the dsm, and I’m not alone.

    • @anctrl
      @anctrl Рік тому

      @@katiemorgan5900why do you think that

    • @peaceofmindofpeace1650
      @peaceofmindofpeace1650 11 місяців тому +1

      ​@@katiemorgan5900I agree. Attachment styles make more sense and clarity for me.

  • @stephanwright5340
    @stephanwright5340 Рік тому +8

    you just absolutely nailed me like it is insane how every single BPD trait I have and for years I'm 26 now and all the way till 24 hours for PTSD and never ever ever could break the cycle or anything been for been to prison been to so many trouble Ritchie sex lost bration ships lost so much money just in such a state my financial statement credit no girlfriend single being alone been I've only just been out to hold a house down for the first time the two years now

  • @MannyDaza
    @MannyDaza Рік тому +2

    You’re the best Kati ♥️

  • @amyf6726
    @amyf6726 Рік тому +31

    Oh man I have all but one symptom. I am surprised to learn this possibly what i am dealing with myself and with others. Thanks now what?

    • @melissalee2286
      @melissalee2286 Рік тому +5

      Same, I'd like to know more, too.

    • @Katimorton
      @Katimorton  Рік тому +12

      The full video is on my channel with what to do with this information!

    • @stefaniamirri1112
      @stefaniamirri1112 Рік тому +14

      Lets find a therapist that understand these conditions..be aware, not everyone do!

    • @sixthsenseamelia4695
      @sixthsenseamelia4695 Рік тому +1

      I have half of the 10. I have ASD & Cptsd. These signs/symptoms can relate to quite a few things. I commend you for acknowledging that you're feeling this way. I send you thoughts & blessings from afar, I wish you well on your self discovery journey. KiaOra from New Zealand.

  • @Alexandra-fr1rz
    @Alexandra-fr1rz Рік тому +5

    These descriptions are much too vague and attempt to mislead people into having a disease when these described are human emotions most people experience.

  • @TropicalAvery
    @TropicalAvery Рік тому +1

    You just explained my entire life

  • @Upwangupta782
    @Upwangupta782 Рік тому +1

    It’s actually a signs of Introverted people’s life!!😂 you got it❤

  • @streetfighterr2991
    @streetfighterr2991 Рік тому +3

    I'm impressed

  • @DonaldUwUTrump
    @DonaldUwUTrump Рік тому +2

    Guys dont try this as a put a finger down, you'll end up scared cause you have like 0 fingers left up

  • @Silas_420
    @Silas_420 6 місяців тому

    I started to disassociate when I was a toddler, I turn 18 this month and I was diagnosed with bpd a year ago, im so glad I found out why I act and feel like this.

  • @harryflavell3083
    @harryflavell3083 Рік тому

    All of these literally sum up me and how I feel all the time. It’s so hard to keep track of who I am from one day to the next because internally I feel very volatile and my goals/ambitions/values all change suddenly. It’s very draining both physically and mentally

  • @nicktaber2969
    @nicktaber2969 Рік тому +1

    There’s no “destigmatizing mental illness” without getting rid of these invalid labels that are the source of the stigma.

  • @SladeBling
    @SladeBling 4 місяці тому

    THANKD GOD! I've only got 9 out of 10 of these symptoms. At the worst I'm the 2nd worst BPD'er in the entire world!

  • @Hollywoodbearluv
    @Hollywoodbearluv Рік тому +2

    I had NONE of this before the bad relationship I had with my ex. Dating a real life sociopath will destroy who you where. I thought those people where homicidal maniacs. They’re not. I’ll be strong and rebuild me. I will be okay. Someday triggers like seeing a SO tool truck won’t make me get physically sick.

  • @clarezajac3276
    @clarezajac3276 3 дні тому

    When I was a teenager this was it.. believe it or not you can grow up and grow past these things. The thing that made me truly snap out of it was putting myself in those awkward situations and pushing myself. Just being a hormonal teenager also is a lot of these things. Medication, therapy, these things can complicated and make you believe that this is who you are! When a lot of times you just don't have a good role model and you're just immature. Because that was me, I don't think I grew up till I was like 30😂 and for men it can be much longer it can be into their 50s

  • @Kazuma42
    @Kazuma42 Рік тому +1

    Wow please make a full video on Q-BPD

  • @MT-uf8xh
    @MT-uf8xh Рік тому +4

    What if people treat you like you don't exist?

    • @me67226
      @me67226 7 місяців тому

      That's me.

  • @Mindsetolympics
    @Mindsetolympics 8 місяців тому

    Sometimes I dont know if I’m deciding to let something go or just channeling anger into being passive aggressive

  • @shashigulhar5229
    @shashigulhar5229 8 місяців тому

    Great Video thanks

  • @streetfighterr2991
    @streetfighterr2991 Рік тому +14

    "Silence is the best reply to a fool"
    You can't judge someone only because of Silence that a person is BPD by

  • @FoxBan7
    @FoxBan7 2 місяці тому

    In line with this video, BPD, ADHD and Trauma all have overlapping symptoms. Frankly alot of mental issues do.

  • @forensicbadassprofiling
    @forensicbadassprofiling Рік тому +3

    That sounds like it could be a dangerous person like covert narcissist.
    It also sounds like it could be a living prison sentence w this disorder.

  • @ivispark3780
    @ivispark3780 Рік тому

    Yup. That’s me. Diagnosed and all. 🏆

  • @nobodykido420
    @nobodykido420 11 місяців тому

    She nails them all it’s not her fault to be like this this is just killing me everytime I breath

  • @ER-xl6cs
    @ER-xl6cs Рік тому +1

    My husband’s daughter to a tee!! Every symptom! She is empty and aggressive, impulsive and takes unhealthy risks impacting herself and everyone around her, has no empathy and strikes out at people when they are down, blindsiding them but then in a cowardly way retreats. No sad and dangerous.

  • @barbaracollins1198
    @barbaracollins1198 6 місяців тому

    I felt that way most of my life.

  • @Safestreet
    @Safestreet Рік тому +1

    What's it like going through life - trying to elicit a reaction from others??

  • @keithnoyb7487
    @keithnoyb7487 Рік тому +7

    My fiance has a pattern of breaking up with me whenever she's not with me... How do we stop this pattern and what's causing it?

    • @Meg.1122
      @Meg.1122 Рік тому +5

      Reassurance maybe? Talk to her and let her know that you will not leave her. Also, b consistent. Your words should match your actions. I think she should be self-aware of her own mental condition/attachment in order to communicate how she feel whenever she break up with you. Finally, be patient and I guess talk to her, let her know how you feel. With BPD is quit4 difficult because most of their actions are unconscious.

    • @jennylynnculbertson9086
      @jennylynnculbertson9086 Рік тому

      don't give up on her understanding is what heals me it's what helps everything just being understood
      she feels like a metal kite in a lightning storm and no one holding the string
      if you'll just hold the string And stay in one place (patience) she float right back down quickly. its embarrassing for her wich may make her be a little bitchy but inside she's so greatfull for being held

    • @SAMCRO21
      @SAMCRO21 11 місяців тому

      Tbh sometimes you can’t stop it unless she becomes self aware and learns to self soothe in a better manner and this is due to the lack of object constancy as well…my would broke up with me 20 times in a span of 7 years…i even married her thinking it would fix things by showing her I wouldn’t abandon her and tried being understanding and reassuring her but it doesn’t always help if they are unaware and not willing to see what they are doing as wrong

  • @victoriaoslizlo3761
    @victoriaoslizlo3761 Рік тому +3

    I feel like I used to fit a lot of these, but I feel like I've gotten a lot better with most of them, except I'm very tired a lot and I don't feel like I exist or have an identity

  • @Mr.HotDogShirtGuy
    @Mr.HotDogShirtGuy Рік тому +4

    Everything in my life makes sense now. I check every box when it comes to bpd 😢

  • @CreativeOne-ll8et
    @CreativeOne-ll8et Рік тому +7

    Way to many disorders or terms now a days it’s crazy, there is just way too many and people are labeled with way too many too!

  • @devineinterventionneeeded
    @devineinterventionneeeded Рік тому +2

    So how do you fix it 🤔

  • @racheldahliamusic
    @racheldahliamusic Рік тому +1

    In Australia splitting is co spidering cutting ppl out of their lives, over and over...also how many of these do ppl need to be considered quiet bpd?

  • @stefaniasmanio5857
    @stefaniasmanio5857 Рік тому +1

    Omg... I've got all of them...😮 IAM either it or hypochondriac...

  • @wordswordswords8203
    @wordswordswords8203 Рік тому +12

    Yep, that's me. Now what do I do about it? Can't afford therapy.

    • @Thomas_Winters
      @Thomas_Winters Рік тому +3

      Yup same. I would like to get diagnosed my my jobs insurance wants nothing to do with it.

    • @KelanJ29534
      @KelanJ29534 Рік тому +3

      Try meditation and mindfulness. Trust me it helps a lot.

    • @wordswordswords8203
      @wordswordswords8203 Рік тому +1

      @@KelanJ29534 Thank you. I'll try that.

    • @ThatWyrdGirl
      @ThatWyrdGirl Рік тому

      EFT

    • @1212x_O
      @1212x_O Рік тому

      Get a job with benefits

  • @lumpyspaceprncess09
    @lumpyspaceprncess09 10 місяців тому

    This scares me but at the same time i dont even care which scares me even more

  • @silvershadowjsh
    @silvershadowjsh Рік тому +4

    How many of these have to be present in order for a diagnosis? Tough question but is something like impulsivity key? As my ex ticks a lot of these but not impulsivity…
    Having said that, I think this term is often misdescribed; ending a relationship suddenly, for example, could be a sign of impulsivity? So can suddenly wanting sex out of the blue?
    It’s very hard to understand what is meant exactly by impulsivity.
    Also, do quiet BPD sufferers also like routine? Do they often contradict themselves and not know what they truly want?
    What are some key differences with other neurodiverse disorders like autism?
    Can ASD cause black and white thinking?

  • @Tealaful
    @Tealaful 9 місяців тому +2

    Sounds like cptsd. Except like two.

  • @tamarajessup1398
    @tamarajessup1398 3 місяці тому

    I have them all and have been diagnosed with BPD but I thought it was a misdiagnosis because I wanted the diagnosis to get proper treatment. Now that I have it, no one will treat me because I have bipolar disorder, too.

  • @Wriggs74
    @Wriggs74 Рік тому

    Yes, yes, yes, and yes.....

  • @sylviebk987
    @sylviebk987 Рік тому

    Thanks! I would like to hear more about each of them :)

  • @MorganWootenIsTaken
    @MorganWootenIsTaken Рік тому +4

    Sometimes I start eating out of frustration or anger because I can't fucking say anything it's just so hard dude I just got to have a distraction and I'm not sure if that's what you meant-

  • @virtualmorality
    @virtualmorality 3 дні тому

    I'm definitely not acronomically challenged.

  • @sweet2sourr
    @sweet2sourr Рік тому

    I love your videos accept this one Kati. You literally listed BPD symptom criteria. The problem is these signs are of BPD not exclusive to quiet borderlines.
    “Quiet BPD” is not a diagnosis.

  • @shaniceaprilia8877
    @shaniceaprilia8877 9 місяців тому

    I can totally relate

  • @chrisczub4930
    @chrisczub4930 Рік тому +1

    The hyper focus on specific diagnoses seems suboptimal, what is your opinion of a more process-based treatment as opposed to the nomothetic paradigm?

  • @Justjewels8436
    @Justjewels8436 Рік тому

    This is way easy to self diagnose, these are common symptoms of many things

  • @pennywise3381
    @pennywise3381 Рік тому +6

    Sounds like a trip to my psychiatrist, I’ve been diagnosed.

  • @michelinelalonde2217
    @michelinelalonde2217 Рік тому

    I was so relieved when I learned it had a name.

  • @whitneylivingston4171
    @whitneylivingston4171 6 місяців тому

    I think we should definitely see a professional if we are feeling any of these feelings and definitely not try and self diagnose. A diagnosis is a box you put yourself in. Be very authentic when asking yourself how you feel. Boxes are very limiting.

  • @nataliramirez6497
    @nataliramirez6497 4 місяці тому

    Can you cover petulant borderline disorder as well please.

  • @AngDevigne
    @AngDevigne Рік тому +1

    Thank you 🙏

  • @joshy_bish
    @joshy_bish Рік тому +1

    Can this be mistaken for CPTSD and vice versa

    • @YukonFox1972
      @YukonFox1972 7 місяців тому

      I think #8 (splitting) is the main BPD trait.

  • @Kehkasha_123
    @Kehkasha_123 10 місяців тому

    All signs matched.

  • @taylormatthews3767
    @taylormatthews3767 Рік тому

    relatable... but i *try to love everyone.

  • @pamelahuffman7461
    @pamelahuffman7461 Рік тому

    My therapist told me that she thought that I have borderline personality disorder and after watching this video I have to say that I agree

  • @chrissyjoy08
    @chrissyjoy08 Рік тому +1

    There's quite a bit of overlap with BPD and other things...
    A little over a year ago I discovered I'm almost definitely on the autism spectrum. It fits me like 90-95%. I have an evaluation next month, but even if they say I'm too "high-functioning" to be autistic (hello, masking and camouflaging anyone?), this is the most anything explains me.
    A few years before that I thought that I might have found an answer for what made me so different and that it was BPD... it fit about 60-70% but it was a heck of a lot better explanation than anything I'd found to that point but it still didn't really seem to be totally right...

    • @user-mx3kh8rj1t
      @user-mx3kh8rj1t Рік тому

      BPD is OFTEN a misdiagnosis when the correct diagnosis is Autism Spectrum. Only an expert who works primarily with the diagnosing of ASD in adults should be sought in order to get a correct diagnosis. Sorting out the intricacies between ASD and BPD is very challenging. Not only that, but ASD also looks similar to ADHD. It also looks similar to Complex PTSD. No one should EVER diagnose themself by way of a UA-cam video.

  • @gideonwilliams6307
    @gideonwilliams6307 Рік тому

    Ha! Haven't been passive aggressive for years and I am far too terrified of running out of money to not keep good track of my spending.

  • @lisasisneros8200
    @lisasisneros8200 6 місяців тому

    At this point, i feel like so many things overlap that it’s hard to know what the root causes are other than neurodivergence and PTSD/trauma. The problem with these sorts of ‘lists’ is they don’t tell you how to NOT do these things. Not to mention therapists are very forthcoming when they insist they won’t treat BPD because patients can be difficult and resistant. So how are we supposed to help ourselves? Thats the video i want to see.

  • @LoveYou3539
    @LoveYou3539 Рік тому +1

    Oh man. I may have this

  • @Anonymous-mp5mt
    @Anonymous-mp5mt 6 місяців тому

    When she said gambling bombastic side eye 👀 is that me

  • @hellucination9905
    @hellucination9905 4 місяці тому

    I got it.

  • @apow3rs
    @apow3rs Рік тому

    Thanks

  • @katiemaguire9073
    @katiemaguire9073 6 днів тому

    Complex ptsd also.

  • @AmethystSpeaks
    @AmethystSpeaks Рік тому +1

    How many of these is reason to be suspicious?

  • @quantumlyricist
    @quantumlyricist 18 днів тому

    Darn, I fit every point 😅😢

  • @Briellelovesacting
    @Briellelovesacting Рік тому +1

    I have all this signs I just don’t know how to tell my parents I think there is something wrong with me I need help

  • @dixiedobbins
    @dixiedobbins 3 місяці тому

    I suspect a family member had it. She has all of the the things. . Especially the fear of abandonment. I have actually been abandoned twice in my life and now it’s stung a little bit, but I figured it out and I knew I would be fine. I cannot relate at all about a real or imagined fear of abandonment I know that I can rely on myself and that I can do hard things and also have faith and a higher power, my creator so I just don’t understand that one also risky behavior don’t most people lose that once they’re around 25? Because you know, consequences.?!?!

  • @daleneparker3229
    @daleneparker3229 Рік тому +1

    Yikes, that's why I engage in retail therapy, thank you Amazon.

  • @nah3193
    @nah3193 Рік тому +1

    Sign #11, constantly getting gaslit and invalidated by internet comments...

  • @Dennis-qf7qy
    @Dennis-qf7qy 9 місяців тому +1

    Wow , you hit every sign right on the mark for my evil ex wife. But courts could care less in Florida, she's still considered the better parent. I even had her suicide diary

  • @gbluesky4264
    @gbluesky4264 Рік тому +1

    These things can denote cptsd in many ways..People are too quick to diagnose others with personality disorders