I do not understand why you all are ripping these men up. These are their thoughts, their desires, their likes and dislikes. They are being open and honest. It's not for you to like or dislike. Many women want a man to be honest, but when it's not what we want to hear, we get upset. If you are not COMPLETELY open and accepting of WHATEVER is going to come out of a man's mouth, don't ask for the truth. Then we wonder why men don't want to tell us the truth or are not COMPLETELY honest with us. I appreciate these men stepping up to be open and honest.
nessa14492 true and I did not say I agreed or disagreed, but I did say I appreciate their honesty and we should not rip these men (or anyone) up for being honest and having an opinion. It's one thing to respectfully disagree, it's another to be downright rude, disrespectful, inconsiderate, judgmental, and demeaning. The comments we see are rude, disrespectful, judgmental, demeaning, inconsiderate, etc. My point was if we continue to display these qualities to someone who is willing to step out in front of the dang world and be honest how do you expect them to continue to be honest if all they receive is negative feedback on THEIR opinions? How can we honestly expect the next generation (who will be taking care of us one day) to do better if we don't show them? I don't know about you but I want better for our future. Then we have to wonder why some black men refuse to date within their race. Look at how WE are talking to them and treating them for having a dang opinion!
After watching this video and reading the responses, I understand why some women have expressed the frustrations and annoyances with the dialogue of the men in this video. I believe, what it comes down to is that their statements come across as juvenile and boyish, with quite a childish take on sexuality. As women, (of a certain age) we enter the bedroom with the expectation that a man has, on his mind, an approach to sex that makes us feel safe, secure and valued. There is very little in what these gentlemen said that makes me feel any of the above. I think we've come to a point in our culture, where sex has become trivialized, meaning it often lacks the sensuality and sharing that many women enjoy about sex. Granted, when it comes down to it, we want to share those intense moments as well. However, their lack of sensitivity reveals to me that they are missing the point of it all. I suppose, many women come here to this page to be enlightened about the inner workings of a man's relationship with intimacy, not to hear the boyish banter we encountered here. What would have been nice? well, to hear some grown men having this discussion. When I say "grown," I mean those men who are secure and know how to communicate their desires in a healthier way.
+Francesca Fraser Amen Fracesca! This is exactly what I was thinking. This entire converstaion annoyed me. This is why dating can be such a mess. The mentality. Smh.
+Francesca Fraser Yess!!! I'm all about hearing what a man wants, but if you're wanting a woman to hear you and take you seriously, then maybe the conversation shouldn't be juvenile locker room talk from beginning to end. Include some maturity in the conversation, if there maturity there.
This came off as so immature. I would have appreciated hearing the insight of some of the older, married men from the previous panel. It sounded selfish, its not just about what men want, its also about what makes a woman comfortable.
Kahmille Burroughs You are absolutely right. Some of the guys they put on this show are EXTREMELY immature, to the point where it made me sick to hear and turned me off to black men. There is more to sex than what these BOYS were discussing.
Too many generalizations. "Some" of us don't like to get oral. "Some" of us prefer to give oral. We all don't like "Animal" sex - or rough sex...or being called a "B" or choking etc... it's not a race thing... unless you all have had sex with EVERY Black woman ... then you can't generalize us. You also don't know that in the White culture they always discuss sex -- you don't know that -- so, stop generalizing... And thank you for continuing to view Black women via the "Saartjie "Sarah" Baartman imagery... thanks for that -- "riding us like we're animals"... like, huh -- seriously ???" SMH!!! Best part of this video starts at 10:49... anything before that -- ya'll missed the mark! These episodes -- um, flaccid at best. *pun intended*...
I couldn't even finish watching this episode. The vibe from the men on this panel was extremely obnoxious. There was no thoughtful dialogue at all just repetition of trite stereotypes.
+Anzwar Shakur you are the most grotesque not for what you look like but for what you say, and honey if you think I'm ugly then that's on you, but I don't have to say it. I glow from the inside out. You have no relevance to my life. Simply put boy bye!
when I hear these black men talking about black women it's sounds like they set themselves apart from us. like don't u have a black mom or even sisters. they seem to segregate us as black women from them. You came from a black women if u didn't realize.
Slow down ladies its only a few guys giving a few opinions on a few topics. Not every guy has these opinions. But you need to hear it because you want to hear it. Take some leave some. Its meant to be pretty raw and for the most part uncut. And so it is.
I like the way that the guy in the pink shirt thinks. He's right about it taking the right man to bring the freak out of you and you being good with him dominating you. It's all about the man, the way he treats you and his approach that unlocks the wildness in you.
Edward Daniels, just because you're too immature to understand it doesn't make it BS. A woman will want to be freaky if the man is making her feel "safe" enough to. Some aspects of sex, and even the act of sex is a woman giving away her essence. If yall don't connect on that level, then obviously both of yall are just horny. & all you'll get is a nut. Can't expect anything else. Really don't know why it's so hard to understand.
The 1 st season of Ask a Black man was better because the black men didn't stereotype and /r generalize black women. Now, you have too many clowns in this season who have the audacity to lump all black women into a single category based on their miserable experience. WTF ???!!!
sabadaga1 I agree that the first season was better. The guys had different perspectives and weren't just focused on ducking from every possible relationship
Chris Parnell Ok. I already explained myself in my statement, let me reitarate it. The bottom line was that in the 1st season, the black men were moore respectful towards back wmen while staying honest. Here y'all act like dating a white girl is an honor and on top of that you generalize negatively on black women. You guys are pathetic to say the least.
sabadaga1 you're so one sided. That's pathetic. You probably feel like this is so true and it hurts. I never once glorified other races. Because of my environment and what I was exposed to led me to be introduced to many races. I stepped outside of my race because I was exposed to it. Think out side the box before you call someone "pathetic". You saying that sounds like you're in your own feelings. We all been hurt but don't use negative comments to make yourself feel better.
Chris Parnell Here with go again with the " truth hurts. You are a black man so you should know better than anyone how stereotypes can affect your life in a negative way. But still many of y'all on this panel had no problem stereotyping your own race. Now tell me how pathetic that sounds ???
No offence but honestly I find this Ask Black Man sad, there is no spirituality involved, all surface nonsense....I was trying to do some research on guys of today. Boy I got way too much superficiality.
Let's just say she hasn't. Even if she has, she can bring up being spiritual if she so desires. I'm married and stepping out has never been a thought. I also agree with her.
YazzyBee Its not "requirements" its down to desires, what we like and what we don't like. That simple. Look for us men sex and commitment do not go hand to hand (I don't mean that is an in cheating is okay). So what do you want them to do? Talk about commitment and put sex on the back burner?....foh!
YazzyBee That wasnt the subject A lot of you are looking at the episode trying to get what you want out of it..it wasnt about that.. we werent asked about sex from an emotional or relationship POV.. This was guy talk natural uninhibited whether you get something from it or not is on you..But it doesn't reflect our whole characters at all ...matter of fact theres a lot you didnt see.
***** I see a lot of ladies taking this segment personal instead of for what it is. Heaven forbid you be candid and have an opinion these days. Men are men! They don't enjoy sex or foreplay or intimacy the same as us women. We're just wired differently. I'm sure the same questions asked to a panel of women would be quite different.
ChocolateBunnyTay I know, but sometimes the conversation can be just like this one and worse. Age, size, shape...doesn’t always matter. If they are mature and have standards, if they don’t they don’t. Some never change for the better, and some are mature.
This conversation left me unstimulated, and dry. It was all over the place. It was a bit immature in regards to perspective. I was expecting more dialogue about sex in a relationship or marriage. I can careless about what white women do. It should have been less surface and more deeper (pun intended)
This show should be called ask an Ugly Black Man. Ladies there two different perspectives among men. An Ugly and Good Looking perspective, and we handsome men need to do our own show to tell what "real men" think.
well Im 38 and a virgin by choice (yes I waiting for marriage) I cant compete will other women in that area. I pray that I am found by someone mature enough to handle that. I have a lot to offer! I'm not repressed or shy I don't fear sex as some men think. I'm a blank page looking forward to the day I can meet someone that will wait and then teach me.. for years my friends would say that I know more about sex than people having it, but i just say that my insight is different
I've heard black men say I dont date black women or I only date latina or white women...& cheer about it... but I've yet to hear a black man say I only date Black Women & Cheer about it...is it an accomplishment to date outside your race?...how insecure & oppressed that black man felt growing up that they would verbally separate themselves from a black woman & add value to another race of women with confidence? Did you hate how you grew up and compared your life to others non-black? Do you think you're not attractive and need validation by dating outside your race? Its like a person who never had something finally get it together and look down on the people they we're in the mud with... dating outside your race doesn't mean you made it to heaven or things will change dramatically...That goes for anybody... Look at the state of the world..we all got issues..some more noticeable than others... I think people make themselves believe it's different or better.. Other than that great meet up..they were interesting to watch ❤
A lot of you are judging a book by its cover, would you have preferred something scripted with a bunch of things you wanted to hear?. This is guys being asked about certain things and engaging in guy talk about it. Obviously it is edited so you are getting the more animated segments. If you wanted something more politically correct we apologize we were told keep it real. It is insightful to see how certain women react to real unadulterated talk ..makes you understand why some brothers always keep up an act or front.?
***** maybe from a mature group (mentally). This is more for teenagers-the group comes of as the unrealistic MAN-wanting and desiring things that are not of the necessary true for every woman, and it takes a man to be at a certain level (mentally) to get it-fronting is not necessary every woman is not for every man-every man is not for every women.
+Charma Cain The topic was male turn-on's and turn-off's. It had nothing to do with what a particular woman may like or dislike, because it was about what men liked. The topic wasn't about women's dislikes, so why bring them up? Would it make sense if you were talking with your girls, mentioned you like to cuddle after sex, and then some dude busts in and goes "But not all men like to cuddle!!!"
No shade.. but they are no Idris Elba so how dare they talk about all of this stuff they want from women. You can't speak for every black parent & what they talk to their kids about. We all have choices & some women choose not to be "wild freaks".
JS Explosion we are here to give insight into the mind of Blackmen, noone is giving set in stone rules or demands. We speak for ourselves but in doing so we have many things in common and some of those things women may find useful.
That wasn't the point of our discussion we were asked about what we thought or liked or whatever. It's all preferential or based on personal experiment. You are eavesdropping so to speak on guys speaking honestly on a variety of things so that you can see and learn from how guys think and what we like and want to hopefully be able to relate and communicate with us more effectively. It wasn't an assessment of what we brought to the table when dealing with women. Different guys giving viewpoints on different subjects whether you can take something from it or not is on you
Latina woman dating a black man for the first time EVER and I’m taking in all the information I can get. Dating a black man has been a different experience in the most amazing way and I want to ensure I understand his needs and wants fully.
I know it's supposed to be candid and crass even. But the sex information seemed antiquated and the men too chauvinistic. The way they talk about sex seems empty or missing.... Its odd listening to men, some who don't date black women and others who have clearly never been in love, speak on either. They aren't equipped to answer some of the questions posed. This series is still the only of its kind so kudos atleast for providing a public space for this dialogue. Considering the stress our community faces I hope to see more honest AND uplifting content.
Caroline Taiwo The questions were our views on the physical aspects on sex not the emotional, not from our partners perspective, not from a relationship standpoint but as a guy who has had sex. It was surface level at best since there were more questions than time. Many of you are looking for depth from 5 individuals with numerous questions in 12min..thats kind of hard to produce and there are edits ..I ask you keep that in mind
While I appreciate Madamnoire’s approach in having uncut and raw conversation, it also does some disservice. It makes these brothers appear to be very juvenile and like animals. It makes the woman reading this feel no more than a just a tool. Men would find that they would probably get more of what they like in bed if they made women feel more safe and secure in the relationship. If you are wanting every encounter to have the uncharted passion you’d find in an one night stand, then you are setting yourself up for disappointment. For a woman (not a girl), sex (and good sex) begins with affection. Affection is the environment. Sex is the event. This also shows why it’s very important to really get to know a person before jumping into bed with them. Discussions on what you like, don’t like, aren’t comfortable with, what will make it better, etc. will save a lot of time and energy in the long run. But hey…these days, folks just want what they want and then get mad because they didn’t get what they expected. Sad and vicious cycle here that will be carried into your marriage if marriage is your end goal.
"I've never been in a marriage but I can imagine" - No. You can not. I can see some of these "debates" turning a bitter woman even more bitter with facts to support her bitterness. lol Communication is key period. Learn your man and do without being asked as long as he is doing the same. These men are not "your" man so its not even worth taking personal or literal. The detail is irrelevant, Its comedy more than anything else. lol
@FullyClothedBeauty i'm glad you didn't take it personal. it isn't intended to make women feel bitter. you all can have the same convo about us and make us feel "bitter" about you all. but as i mentioned, glad you could be entertained.
The issues is, Why does it turn you on to grab a woman by the throat and call her a bitch during (Love Making) You need counseling. Most of you men have not a clue how to please a woman. More than half of you are Bi-sexual but down low. Most of you tried very hard to love a woman but was rejected horribly. What is the purpose of this show?
Wearing a head scarf is part of a typical black woman's nighttime hair moisture protection routine. To make this an issue is ridiculous. I just go to bed wearing sexy Afro and lip gloss, smelling good and naked, then after the horizontal mambo, I gets up and go to the restroom to commence to tying my Afro! There are beautiful scarfs out there, and if your man finds you beautiful without a scarf, trust he'll find you just as beautiful wearing a scarf!
I appreciate the guy who said "don't say control to a black woman" The other gentleman was making a great point but its not control that's present it's sexual chemistry and compatibility and I'm speaking from experience.
The only two I agreed with was the guy wearing pink and Chris. That bald guy sounded like he thought he was putting it down but was probably doing the opposite. Like the man in pink said, if you're not doing your job right, you won't receive all the benefits of a man who does!
This was weird as hell. 1. The young guy seems to hate himself, hate his mom and was so easily excited to 'boast' about how he 'normally' dates White women than he was to talk about his experience w/ Black women, it was strange. 2. A second guy said he "obviously" has predominately dated White women. But what's obvious about that -- or why would it be? 3. Would you get a study group together intended to discuss iPhones only to have half the room discussing the health benefits of bananas? Why was half this room there? 4. Whomever was paid by Madame Noire to scout these guys did a totally sloppy job at selection. 5. I didn't finish the video halfway through. 6. Advertisers: please note that as part of your target audience, I am not watching this nonsense. 7. Madame Noire: please do better. NEXT. . .
+na the topic was male turn on and turn offs.... what kind off in depth documentary are you looking for? it was simple ffun guy talk with cameras on ..thats all. I dont understand why yall upset, its not what you want it to be its not intended to be ...its guy talk fun thats all lol at how judgemental some can be
+Crook Bladez In-depth documentary? Uh, no. The expectation was that people would answer the question and topic at hand. However, I would be happy to cast you to come in and talk about your experience as an astronaut on my new video blog, since you apparently think this is a good idea. LOL, hiring people to talk about a topic they know nothing about and have no experience with. Let's do it!
+na again you are so I'll informed your ignorance is almost comical if it wasn't sad... Can you read and see what the topic is? ... Sex Turn ons and Turn offs..... now here you come thinkin you know how our opinions are or should be.... ??? Reading is Fundamental. ..Read it's not what you want it is what it is
+Crook Bladez LOL you know, funny you should say . . it's interesting you'd talk about being "ignorant" or "comical" since, if I am candid, you were the most unappealing person on this entire set. I truly don't even need to hear from you. I viewed this video and was unclear as to why you, specifically, were involved, LOL, or what audience member would value your opinion. Don't you have a du-rag to fix? Please re-read my comments, sir. Or go to school. Or both. :)
They are making sex seem like a job...yawn.their whole discussion veers away from intimacy and emotions....things women require and thrive on.Men will never "get it".
i agree with some of what yall said but some isnt exactly correct. race isn't what is defining how sex will go. cause you got bad and good sex in all races. thanks for yalls honesty tho. good to learn how men feel about things 😇
Everyone has a right to their opinions and although I don't agree with everything that they are saying I respect their opinions. Personally I felt the different levels of maturity and immaturity within this conversation. I would have enjoyed seeing more diversity in the ages of the men and different relationship status. A man in his 60's is/may have a different opinion then a man in his 20's/30's.
I can't say I agree because it is the male opinions on sexual experiences with a black woman but I can understand where they are coming from and the points they are trying to get across.
Trust me I get it it's like we are where it all originates from and we get last place and no praise . It's nothing wrong with dating outside your race as long as u have respect for your own that's all I'm stressing.
I really wanted to know if they talk to their partners BEFORE sex? The guy who was talking about a scenario where black women can't stay in the moment is a good example of where you could literally have a great time in bed if yall go in with the knowledge of what both of you find comfortable, what you want to try, and what's off-limits altogether. Assuming he's slept with more than 200 black women would make his generalization valid by 2%...but I doubt that (for medical reasons-- not trying to put doubt in your manhood).
Chris Parnell I agreed with most of what you were saying. Then you had to ruin it with the white girl comment. lol But it seems like you have been delivered for now!
These types of conversation between men unfortunately paint a perverse picture of women. I would say that if you are sharing information regarding the opposite sex in an open forum that you feel would benefit women, there should be a level of tact. Even if it regards a sexual nature.Unfortunately, the crude humor, back-handed compliments (regarding the woman's body)and wise cracks weren't insightful. It just came across crass. I expected a more mature conversation. Because there is a place for locker room male bonding... in the locker room.
JmarieFirefly I can empathize with you, however this is "Ask a Black Man" and we handled it according to how a red, white, yellow, or purple man would as well. This is as real and fun as it gets for men. This is no different from women talking about us behind closed doors.
JmarieFirefly This is unadulterated male perspective. You women want to know how men think and how we communicate then this is the real. If this truth hurts then don't watch
This was so good I watched it twice, lol. BUT I was a little disappointed watching the two men do a handshake of pride when dating white women. It came off as being something that should be on a different channel. I have always been extremely open to dating other races, but I've never given a friend a high five for also being open to other races.
Thanks for sharing your opinions. Sex is special and should be shared in marriage; That way you can explore each other. I wish I can find men on the internet who cherish the idea of sex. It is physical, it is emotional, and their are risks. To sleep with a woman in order to get to know them is, I'm sorry for being direct, stupid. You said it. Communication is better in any type of relationship. It's the key to a good relationship. Start talking.
+JINSTERPEACE you are correct ..this was just a casual discussion on sex of course it gets deeper and intimate but that wasnt the focus of this ..plus we didnt have the time to cover a lot
It's crazy to me how many women will come on here and comment negatively towards black men being honest but then will expect to continue to receive honesty or anyone willing to work with you at all. furthermore....it's crazy how this channel will talk about deeper issues like the destruction of the black family and I don't see any women commenting in those sections....there's a brother who commented on here about being a 25 year old virgin and some women's unrealistic ideas about men and sex and he was totally ignored, but you will give attention to the brothers that are talking negatively with you. lastly....I am a living example of what's really going on...the destruction of the black family is almost complete...I had a family and never cheated, loved my family and put them first. but because I wanted a black family I overlooked my partners mental issues in the sense I thought me being the leader I can help through expensive counseling, spiritually, healthy living, eating etc...and in the end it was her puppeteer mother and her own deep seeded issues that undid everything. I was faithful, I don't make 6 figures but I work hard, our videography company she'd put down even when we landed people on 106th and park, she would never motivate me....she would call white doctors geniuses in front of me but would never give me credit when I was able to debunk some of their misinformation...I studied feverishly about health and nutrition so our son could benefit and she'd still go take him to McDonald's...I was raised by a single black woman and NEVER dated or of my race...my mom and father are black and even though my father was dark I turned out light....however I love darker women despite the stereotypical idea of what "light skinned niggas like"....I am the guy that would shame their friends for dating outside their race...but just like the 25 yr old virgin that posted earlier a lot of women will ignore this posting as if men like me don't exist and that's one of the reason their are no more men like me...we get no support at all.
+Adonnis Graves I'm sorry about your situation. Going through something like you have went through had to have been that much harder without support. I don't want to seem harsh but maybe the lack of support comes from the type of people you surround yourself with. One of my strategies in life is only associating with people that I feel will be there when it counts, now everybody has not always measured up to that standard but that's out of my control. I really hope everything works out for the best and you don't let this experience make you bitter or change you for the worst. Know that there is someone out there in the universe sending positivity your way.
Samantha Thomas-Pankey Thank you for taking the time out to read my post and respond...grammatical errors and all lol. You're right...although I'm not one to surround myself with the wrong crowd...I was one to be loyal to a fault even if it meant losing myself in the process...because I thought you do that for your family. I learned and I am fighting daily to not let this affect me in a negative way...I'm getting there though, and I do appreciate the people that have reached out.
I wish Black women would expand their horizons and date outside their race more. We out number men so if you are holding out for a black man while they're totally fine with looking elsewhere that's a shame. There are gorgeous men in other races that would treasure everything about you including your black culture. That doesn't mean you abandoning your people. Do you and be happy. There's nothing wrong with seeking happiness. Asians, Latino, White, Arab...etc.
From my view point this is mostly sex from a caucasoid point of thinking/being. Most Black people now use sex as a coping tool or a recreational sport and not as a spiritual connection. This goes for both Black men and Black women, sex is more then pleasure you exchange energy in that act.
+mscurvy not disagreeing with you but the way things were put to us was in a casual sense thats why we didnt get to deep with emotions and other factors
THIS WAS THE FUNNIEST SHIT I HAVE SEEN IN A LONG TIME. I absolutely loved this. I wish they would have gone a bit deeper on who initiates it and if they are okay with being dominated. Hmmmmmm! LOL!!! :) :) :)
Yeah, I did. I ABSOLUTELY LOVED IT!!! EITHER WAY, these "Ask a Black Man" episodes are great because they reflect a positive view of Black men. The marriage one and street harassment ones were also great.
Good convo. Take it for what is is. Men have fun. Men have sex. Take the tips and keep it moving. Oh yea, Men have sex with different partners and that are not always Black.
+Vanya Azoro Thank you glad you enjoyed it we had fun..it was supposed to be fun .. check the other episodes and the celeb edition of this episode as well
Sisters... please don't be mad at them. Yes some of their comments were dumb, weren't true and not a true reflection of how every black woman is, but it's their experiences and we have to remember that we have a stereotype and a lot of us live up to it. which is why they said some of the things they did. black women aren't noisy in bed? black women say don't go too deep? (maybe because it hurts dumbo).. But I can't be mad, it's enlightening to hear a man's perspective sometimes.
I found men more conservative in bed because of their male chauvinist preconceptions and there are things they would not accept in bed because of them. Before i used to think that sex is the most imp thing in the relationship because it is the definition of being a couple but i am starting to change my mind, it is not the most imp thing.
the guy talking about calling his girl a bitch just wants to have a good time. he's probably into just hooking up w girls. now if you're in a relationship, i don't think the foul language in the bedroom should be used at all.
***** I am getting information on a guys view point of what good and what not. I want to see more like on marriage, dating, education, and politics etc…
Wow I would never let a guy call me the b word. Ofcourse if we love each other, have been married a while and he wants to try dirty talk to spice things up, using the b word etc., I'd probably let him. But I don't get girls who would allow just some guy to disrespect them like that.
I hope the Virgin dude that posted earlier never gives into the pressures meant to make you insecure. a smart woman will understand that sex like exercise gets better with time and practice and that you don't have to rack up bodies in order to gain experience.
No man belongs to any type of woman, and no woman belongs to any type of man. I don't feel black men belong to me. Plus, if he's African American, he's American , so at the most, his women would be American women in general, if we want to be prejudiced.... I like black Latino men, some African men, Asian, European,but rarely AA or white American men. A couple of these guys here are sexy though :p
Lots of comments about what you didn't like and what you wouldn't do... So I'm curious... How do you keep your partner satisfied? How do you fulfill your partners needs and desires? What do you bring to the companionship? (After you've answered the above questions - How has that worked for you so far?) Please be mindful that for a man, everything is about cost / benefits. 1luv
Maybe because I am from Europe. Our race or colour, is part of us. How we are raised/manners/taste of food/temper/carachter.. But sex is from my experience not predictable , you can not say based on colour or race that he/she can sex like this etc. Maybe in America? But interesting to see this..
I can't believe they are selecting black men who don't primarily date black women. Wtf is he doing on the panel. This is probably my 3rd time and last watching this but my goodness they got a lot of mouth. lol alright well enjoy the watching and commentary ladies
I can appreciate the dialogue, however, I somewhat expected a more mature conversation on the topic But i guess this is how most black men think, hence the topic "ask a black man"
I've watched a couple of these "ask a black man" episodes now, I disagree with the asking of single men(meaning men who have never ever been married) a question in regards to marriage... somethings you don't know until you know, for example, in this episode, I don't know for sure, but most of these men don't seem married... your objectives are different in marriage concerning sex (hopefully) selfish vs selfless (vis versa for women)
Calling me Bitch is not appealing to me in anyway at anytime
I'm with you
They looked low-key nervous when he said that LOL. It's just NOT cool...
Preach
it's so demeaning wtf
WIGAHOLIC 14 lol well
I do not understand why you all are ripping these men up. These are their thoughts, their desires, their likes and dislikes. They are being open and honest. It's not for you to like or dislike. Many women want a man to be honest, but when it's not what we want to hear, we get upset. If you are not COMPLETELY open and accepting of WHATEVER is going to come out of a man's mouth, don't ask for the truth. Then we wonder why men don't want to tell us the truth or are not COMPLETELY honest with us. I appreciate these men stepping up to be open and honest.
Thank you! I'm in total agreement with you.
Andrea Powell i love you!
nessa14492 true and I did not say I agreed or disagreed, but I did say I appreciate their honesty and we should not rip these men (or anyone) up for being honest and having an opinion. It's one thing to respectfully disagree, it's another to be downright rude, disrespectful, inconsiderate, judgmental, and demeaning. The comments we see are rude, disrespectful, judgmental, demeaning, inconsiderate, etc. My point was if we continue to display these qualities to someone who is willing to step out in front of the dang world and be honest how do you expect them to continue to be honest if all they receive is negative feedback on THEIR opinions? How can we honestly expect the next generation (who will be taking care of us one day) to do better if we don't show them? I don't know about you but I want better for our future. Then we have to wonder why some black men refuse to date within their race. Look at how WE are talking to them and treating them for having a dang opinion!
Yes i have. I look for new episodes every Monday. I've been waiting for a new one :)
***** Yes i have. I look for new episodes every Monday. I've been waiting for a new one :)
After watching this video and reading the responses, I understand why some women have expressed the frustrations and annoyances with the dialogue of the men in this video. I believe, what it comes down to is that their statements come across as juvenile and boyish, with quite a childish take on sexuality. As women, (of a certain age) we enter the bedroom with the expectation that a man has, on his mind, an approach to sex that makes us feel safe, secure and valued. There is very little in what these gentlemen said that makes me feel any of the above. I think we've come to a point in our culture, where sex has become trivialized, meaning it often lacks the sensuality and sharing that many women enjoy about sex. Granted, when it comes down to it, we want to share those intense moments as well. However, their lack of sensitivity reveals to me that they are missing the point of it all. I suppose, many women come here to this page to be enlightened about the inner workings of a man's relationship with intimacy, not to hear the boyish banter we encountered here. What would have been nice? well, to hear some grown men having this discussion. When I say "grown," I mean those men who are secure and know how to communicate their desires in a healthier way.
+Francesca Fraser Amen Fracesca! This is exactly what I was thinking. This entire converstaion annoyed me. This is why dating can be such a mess. The mentality. Smh.
+Francesca Fraser Yess!!! I'm all about hearing what a man wants, but if you're wanting a woman to hear you and take you seriously, then maybe the conversation shouldn't be juvenile locker room talk from beginning to end. Include some maturity in the conversation, if there maturity there.
Absolutely! Everything you just said!
YES
This comment is so well said and so accurate
This came off as so immature. I would have appreciated hearing the insight of some of the older, married men from the previous panel. It sounded selfish, its not just about what men want, its also about what makes a woman comfortable.
Kahmille Burroughs Single men. This is what we want. Very direct and exciting.
Kahmille Burroughs You are absolutely right. Some of the guys they put on this show are EXTREMELY immature, to the point where it made me sick to hear and turned me off to black men. There is more to sex than what these BOYS were discussing.
Annoying bitch!!! Ask a man it says not how u fucking feel fuck sakes these divas are annoying!
very.
That's why its called ask a man, not men say what women want you to say
Too many generalizations.
"Some" of us don't like to get oral. "Some" of us prefer to give oral. We all don't like "Animal" sex - or rough sex...or being called a "B" or choking etc... it's not a race thing... unless you all have had sex with EVERY Black woman ... then you can't generalize us.
You also don't know that in the White culture they always discuss sex -- you don't know that -- so, stop generalizing...
And thank you for continuing to view Black women via the "Saartjie "Sarah" Baartman imagery... thanks for that -- "riding us like we're animals"... like, huh -- seriously ???" SMH!!!
Best part of this video starts at 10:49... anything before that -- ya'll missed the mark!
These episodes -- um, flaccid at best. *pun intended*...
Agreed. Ridiculous. Makes me want to stop dating white men.
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+Boyhead1973 how do you specify with General questions?
I couldn't even finish watching this episode. The vibe from the men on this panel was extremely obnoxious. There was no thoughtful dialogue at all just repetition of trite stereotypes.
+hemademeperfect totally agree i am disgusted by what they had to say
I bet both of yall ugly asf.... you above me, your profile pic is proof.lol... j/k... lighten up
+Anzwar Shakur you are the most grotesque not for what you look like but for what you say, and honey if you think I'm ugly then that's on you, but I don't have to say it. I glow from the inside out. You have no relevance to my life. Simply put boy bye!
Tyler Thomas I'm just playing dang... ease up lol
+Anzwar Shakur my mistake, I just don't take too kindly to people saying unnecessary mean things.
when I hear these black men talking about black women it's sounds like they set themselves apart from us. like don't u have a black mom or even sisters. they seem to segregate us as black women from them. You came from a black women if u didn't realize.
Slow down ladies its only a few guys giving a few opinions on a few topics. Not every guy has these opinions. But you need to hear it because you want to hear it. Take some leave some. Its meant to be pretty raw and for the most part uncut. And so it is.
I concur.
I like it. I like it when shit is raw and unfiltered
I like the way that the guy in the pink shirt thinks. He's right about it taking the right man to bring the freak out of you and you being good with him dominating you. It's all about the man, the way he treats you and his approach that unlocks the wildness in you.
+Treasure Carelli So true!
I think it's up to the female if she wants to be freaky or not. all the other stuff is just BS.
Edward Daniels, just because you're too immature to understand it doesn't make it BS. A woman will want to be freaky if the man is making her feel "safe" enough to. Some aspects of sex, and even the act of sex is a woman giving away her essence. If yall don't connect on that level, then obviously both of yall are just horny. & all you'll get is a nut. Can't expect anything else. Really don't know why it's so hard to understand.
The 1 st season of Ask a Black man was better because the black men didn't stereotype and /r generalize black women. Now, you have too many clowns in this season who have the audacity to lump all black women into a single category based on their miserable experience.
WTF ???!!!
sabadaga1 I agree that the first season was better. The guys had different perspectives and weren't just focused on ducking from every possible relationship
sabadaga1 explain yourself. that was then this is now. we're sharing opinions and experiences.
Chris Parnell Ok. I already explained myself in my statement, let me reitarate it. The bottom line was that in the 1st season, the black men were moore respectful towards back wmen while staying honest. Here y'all act like dating a white girl is an honor and on top of that you generalize negatively on black women.
You guys are pathetic to say the least.
sabadaga1 you're so one sided. That's pathetic. You probably feel like this is so true and it hurts. I never once glorified other races. Because of my environment and what I was exposed to led me to be introduced to many races. I stepped outside of my race because I was exposed to it. Think out side the box before you call someone "pathetic". You saying that sounds like you're in your own feelings. We all been hurt but don't use negative comments to make yourself feel better.
Chris Parnell Here with go again with the " truth hurts. You are a black man so you should know better than anyone how stereotypes can affect your life in a negative way. But still many of y'all on this panel had no problem stereotyping your own race. Now tell me how pathetic that sounds ???
No offence but honestly I find this Ask Black Man sad, there is no spirituality involved, all surface nonsense....I was trying to do some research on guys of today. Boy I got way too much superficiality.
Let's just say she hasn't. Even if she has, she can bring up being spiritual if she so desires. I'm married and stepping out has never been a thought. I also agree with her.
I lost count at how many times they referred to women as "Pussy" or "cookies" or "the box". Absolutely no personhood... just a sex organ. Gross.
True Hunt Thats how certain questions were posed to us ie . What makes new pussy so good? we answered based on the questions
I just think it's funny they have all these requirements but put a commitment on the back burner..foh.
YazzyBee Its not "requirements" its down to desires, what we like and what we don't like. That simple. Look for us men sex and commitment do not go hand to hand (I don't mean that is an in cheating is okay). So what do you want them to do? Talk about commitment and put sex on the back burner?....foh!
YazzyBee Are you surprised?
YazzyBee That wasnt the subject A lot of you are looking at the episode trying to get what you want out of it..it wasnt about that.. we werent asked about sex from an emotional or relationship POV.. This was guy talk natural uninhibited whether you get something from it or not is on you..But it doesn't reflect our whole characters at all ...matter of fact theres a lot you didnt see.
...is your ex in the video? #soundspersonal
***** I see a lot of ladies taking this segment personal instead of for what it is. Heaven forbid you be candid and have an opinion these days. Men are men! They don't enjoy sex or foreplay or intimacy the same as us women. We're just wired differently. I'm sure the same questions asked to a panel of women would be quite different.
It's missing a man in the 40- 50 age range...
ChocolateBunnyTay I know, but sometimes the conversation can be just like this one and worse. Age, size, shape...doesn’t always matter. If they are mature and have standards, if they don’t they don’t. Some never change for the better, and some are mature.
I laughed hard as hell at "Suzie are you masturbating" 😂😂😂
This conversation left me unstimulated, and dry. It was all over the place. It was a bit immature in regards to perspective. I was expecting more dialogue about sex in a relationship or marriage. I can careless about what white women do. It should have been less surface and more deeper (pun intended)
i would like to know if infertility is a deal breaker.
This show should be called ask an Ugly Black Man. Ladies there two different perspectives among men. An Ugly and Good Looking perspective, and we handsome men need to do our own show to tell what "real men" think.
"ask an ugly black man" cryinG
Yes! Lol
+ProductP typical hater response..its always appreciated ..it aint right unless theres a lil hate
+ProductP DUDE! Go white knight somewhere else.
Its not hating or white knighting when I speak, #TruthHurts
well Im 38 and a virgin by choice (yes I waiting for marriage) I cant compete will other women in that area. I pray that I am found by someone mature enough to handle that. I have a lot to offer! I'm not repressed or shy I don't fear sex as some men think. I'm a blank page looking forward to the day I can meet someone that will wait and then teach me.. for years my friends would say that I know more about sex than people having it, but i just say that my insight is different
I've heard black men say I dont date black women or I only date latina or white women...& cheer about it... but I've yet to hear a black man say I only date Black Women & Cheer about it...is it an accomplishment to date outside your race?...how insecure & oppressed that black man felt growing up that they would verbally separate themselves from a black woman & add value to another race of women with confidence?
Did you hate how you grew up and compared your life to others non-black?
Do you think you're not attractive and need validation by dating outside your race?
Its like a person who never had something finally get it together and look down on the people they we're in the mud with... dating outside your race doesn't mean you made it to heaven or things will change dramatically...That goes for anybody... Look at the state of the world..we all got issues..some more noticeable than others...
I think people make themselves believe it's different or better..
Other than that great meet up..they were interesting to watch ❤
Where df did these dudes get soooooooo much wrong information about women from??????? SO MANY GENERALISATIONS.
schoolmates and the media. LOL Who knows.
Sex is disgusting and pointless.
Then why are you here?
Lel, i guess u never had it xD
***** oh yea
A lot of you are judging a book by its cover, would you have preferred something scripted with a bunch of things you wanted to hear?. This is guys being asked about certain things and engaging in guy talk about it. Obviously it is edited so you are getting the more animated segments. If you wanted something more politically correct we apologize we were told keep it real. It is insightful to see how certain women react to real unadulterated talk ..makes you understand why some brothers always keep up an act or front.?
***** maybe from a mature group (mentally). This is more for teenagers-the group comes of as the unrealistic MAN-wanting and desiring things that are not of the necessary true for every woman, and it takes a man to be at a certain level (mentally) to get it-fronting is not necessary every woman is not for every man-every man is not for every women.
+Charma Cain The topic was male turn-on's and turn-off's. It had nothing to do with what a particular woman may like or dislike, because it was about what men liked. The topic wasn't about women's dislikes, so why bring them up?
Would it make sense if you were talking with your girls, mentioned you like to cuddle after sex, and then some dude busts in and goes "But not all men like to cuddle!!!"
No shade.. but they are no Idris Elba so how dare they talk about all of this stuff they want from women. You can't speak for every black parent & what they talk to their kids about. We all have choices & some women choose not to be "wild freaks".
JS Explosion we are here to give insight into the mind of Blackmen, noone is giving set in stone rules or demands. We speak for ourselves but in doing so we have many things in common and some of those things women may find useful.
JS Explosion and only Idris Elba can talk about what he wants from a woman? No shade but that sounds rather shallow
***** My question is what do you bring to the table to feel entitled to all these requirements?
YazzyBee yesss girl say it.
That wasn't the point of our discussion we were asked about what we thought or liked or whatever. It's all preferential or based on personal experiment. You are eavesdropping so to speak on guys speaking honestly on a variety of things so that you can see and learn from how guys think and what we like and want to hopefully be able to relate and communicate with us more effectively. It wasn't an assessment of what we brought to the table when dealing with women. Different guys giving viewpoints on different subjects whether you can take something from it or not is on you
Latina woman dating a black man for the first time EVER and I’m taking in all the information I can get. Dating a black man has been a different experience in the most amazing way and I want to ensure I understand his needs and wants fully.
This is a joke right ?
I know it's supposed to be candid and crass even. But the sex information seemed antiquated and the men too chauvinistic. The way they talk about sex seems empty or missing.... Its odd listening to men, some who don't date black women and others who have clearly never been in love, speak on either. They aren't equipped to answer some of the questions posed. This series is still the only of its kind so kudos atleast for providing a public space for this dialogue. Considering the stress our community faces I hope to see more honest AND uplifting content.
Caroline Taiwo The questions were our views on the physical aspects on sex not the emotional, not from our partners perspective, not from a relationship standpoint but as a guy who has had sex. It was surface level at best since there were more questions than time. Many of you are looking for depth from 5 individuals with numerous questions in 12min..thats kind of hard to produce and there are edits ..I ask you keep that in mind
While I appreciate Madamnoire’s approach in having uncut and raw conversation, it also does some disservice. It makes these brothers appear to be very juvenile and like animals. It makes the woman reading this feel no more than a just a tool. Men would find that they would probably get more of what they like in bed if they made women feel more safe and secure in the relationship. If you are wanting every encounter to have the uncharted passion you’d find in an one night stand, then you are setting yourself up for disappointment. For a woman (not a girl), sex (and good sex) begins with affection. Affection is the environment. Sex is the event. This also shows why it’s very important to really get to know a person before jumping into bed with them. Discussions on what you like, don’t like, aren’t comfortable with, what will make it better, etc. will save a lot of time and energy in the long run. But hey…these days, folks just want what they want and then get mad because they didn’t get what they expected. Sad and vicious cycle here that will be carried into your marriage if marriage is your end goal.
Thank you for this enlightening comment
It's shame how when Black Men are honest they are criticized. We feel how we feel and black woman feel how they feel that's our right.
"I've never been in a marriage but I can imagine" - No. You can not.
I can see some of these "debates" turning a bitter woman even more bitter with facts to support her bitterness. lol
Communication is key period. Learn your man and do without being asked as long as he is doing the same.
These men are not "your" man so its not even worth taking personal or literal. The detail is irrelevant, Its comedy more than anything else. lol
@FullyClothedBeauty hey now. i was just being honest
Chris Parnell I see, good stuff.
@FullyClothedBeauty i'm glad you didn't take it personal. it isn't intended to make women feel bitter. you all can have the same convo about us and make us feel "bitter" about you all. but as i mentioned, glad you could be entertained.
The issues is, Why does it turn you on to grab a woman by the throat and call her a bitch during (Love Making) You need counseling. Most of you men have not a clue how to please a woman. More than half of you are Bi-sexual but down low. Most of you tried very hard to love a woman but was rejected horribly. What is the purpose of this show?
Wearing a head scarf is part of a typical black woman's nighttime hair moisture protection routine. To make this an issue is ridiculous. I just go to bed wearing sexy Afro and lip gloss, smelling good and naked, then after the horizontal mambo, I gets up and go to the restroom to commence to tying my Afro! There are beautiful scarfs out there, and if your man finds you beautiful without a scarf, trust he'll find you just as beautiful wearing a scarf!
I appreciate the guy who said "don't say control to a black woman" The other gentleman was making a great point but its not control that's present it's sexual chemistry and compatibility and I'm speaking from experience.
The only two I agreed with was the guy wearing pink and Chris. That bald guy sounded like he thought he was putting it down but was probably doing the opposite. Like the man in pink said, if you're not doing your job right, you won't receive all the benefits of a man who does!
This was weird as hell.
1. The young guy seems to hate himself, hate his mom and was so easily excited to 'boast' about how he 'normally' dates White women than he was to talk about his experience w/ Black women, it was strange.
2. A second guy said he "obviously" has predominately dated White women. But what's obvious about that -- or why would it be?
3. Would you get a study group together intended to discuss iPhones only to have half the room discussing the health benefits of bananas? Why was half this room there?
4. Whomever was paid by Madame Noire to scout these guys did a totally sloppy job at selection.
5. I didn't finish the video halfway through.
6. Advertisers: please note that as part of your target audience, I am not watching this nonsense.
7. Madame Noire: please do better. NEXT. . .
+na the topic was male turn on and turn offs.... what kind off in depth documentary are you looking for? it was simple ffun guy talk with cameras on ..thats all. I dont understand why yall upset, its not what you want it to be its not intended to be ...its guy talk fun thats all lol at how judgemental some can be
+Crook Bladez In-depth documentary?
Uh, no. The expectation was that people would answer the question and topic at hand.
However, I would be happy to cast you to come in and talk about your experience as an astronaut on my new video blog, since you apparently think this is a good idea. LOL, hiring people to talk about a topic they know nothing about and have no experience with. Let's do it!
+na again you are so I'll informed your ignorance is almost comical if it wasn't sad... Can you read and see what the topic is? ... Sex Turn ons and Turn offs..... now here you come thinkin you know how our opinions are or should be.... ??? Reading is Fundamental. ..Read it's not what you want it is what it is
+na it's opinion based there is no wrong answer it's to give insight
+Crook Bladez LOL you know, funny you should say . . it's interesting you'd talk about being "ignorant" or "comical" since, if I am candid, you were the most unappealing person on this entire set. I truly don't even need to hear from you.
I viewed this video and was unclear as to why you, specifically, were involved, LOL, or what audience member would value your opinion.
Don't you have a du-rag to fix? Please re-read my comments, sir. Or go to school. Or both. :)
Why on earth would they celebrate dating predominantly white women ??? I’m out
love this segment ***** love hearing what the KINGS have to say!!!
Breezyfashion24 Kings is a joke. Even to call them princes is a stretch.....
And our jaws get tired when given head & it takes a life time for the dude to get Off hell yes my face needs a break so what 😂
This is refreshing to hear! Black men loving the black women in a more natural way!! Wish I lived in the USA.
Wow :(
Kay X Kay why the sad face? What aspect of the debate didn't you like?
ezekielthemack There was no debate
Kay X Can you please elaborate.
They are making sex seem like a job...yawn.their whole discussion veers away from intimacy and emotions....things women require and thrive on.Men will never "get it".
i agree with some of what yall said but some isnt exactly correct. race isn't what is defining how sex will go. cause you got bad and good sex in all races. thanks for yalls honesty tho. good to learn how men feel about things 😇
Didnt give any real insight. Heard all of this before.
KayMarieLovely Right, basically they want women with no inhibitions that will do everything on their terms? Did I leave anything out?
They are all just a bunch of clowns.
Either you do as a i say or you getting cheated on bitch
***** Boy plz..if you don't take your ignorant ass somewhere.
Bitch apparently you don't either, your ignorant as fuck.
Everyone has a right to their opinions and although I don't agree with everything that they are saying I respect their opinions. Personally I felt the different levels of maturity and immaturity within this conversation. I would have enjoyed seeing more diversity in the ages of the men and different relationship status. A man in his 60's is/may have a different opinion then a man in his 20's/30's.
Have nothing but respect for you all in this video it was extremely entertaining and informative. Keep the videos coming! 😃
I can't say I agree because it is the male opinions on sexual experiences with a black woman but I can understand where they are coming from and the points they are trying to get across.
*****
***** I totally agree with u .
Trust me I get it it's like we are where it all originates from and we get last place and no praise . It's nothing wrong with dating outside your race as long as u have respect for your own that's all I'm stressing.
***** thank u and I wish the same to you. It was nice talking to u .
I really wanted to know if they talk to their partners BEFORE sex? The guy who was talking about a scenario where black women can't stay in the moment is a good example of where you could literally have a great time in bed if yall go in with the knowledge of what both of you find comfortable, what you want to try, and what's off-limits altogether. Assuming he's slept with more than 200 black women would make his generalization valid by 2%...but I doubt that (for medical reasons-- not trying to put doubt in your manhood).
I'm sorry but I'm not giving no man oral sex and if I did we'd have to be married. Keep it moving!
got alot from this, it was a little hard to watch (not gonna lie) but I got the message
Whitney Nixon why was it hard to watch?
Chris Parnell I agreed with most of what you were saying. Then you had to ruin it with the white girl comment. lol
But it seems like you have been delivered for now!
Vulgarity to say the least, this isn't a conversation for women to listen in on. Some things are better left unsaid...
JmarieFirefly please I would like to know
These types of conversation between men unfortunately paint a perverse picture of women. I would say that if you are sharing information regarding the opposite sex in an open forum that you feel would benefit women, there should be a level of tact. Even if it regards a sexual nature.Unfortunately, the crude humor, back-handed compliments (regarding the woman's body)and wise cracks weren't insightful. It just came across crass. I expected a more mature conversation. Because there is a place for locker room male bonding... in the locker room.
JmarieFirefly I can empathize with you, however this is "Ask a Black Man" and we handled it according to how a red, white, yellow, or purple man would as well. This is as real and fun as it gets for men. This is no different from women talking about us behind closed doors.
JmarieFirefly This is unadulterated male perspective. You women want to know how men think and how we communicate then this is the real. If this truth hurts then don't watch
The young guy was proud that he dated white women, he earned a his badge of honor.
This was so good I watched it twice, lol. BUT I was a little disappointed watching the two men do a handshake of pride when dating white women. It came off as being something that should be on a different channel. I have always been extremely open to dating other races, but I've never given a friend a high five for also being open to other races.
exactly. Like they are in the same boys club for not dating black women. I am open to others too, but now it's a symbol of pride??? smh.
Coming from a woman, I'm liking what the guy in the pink shirt + tie had to say for the most part!
Thanks for sharing your opinions. Sex is special and should be shared in marriage; That way you can explore each other. I wish I can find men on the internet who cherish the idea of sex. It is physical, it is emotional, and their are risks. To sleep with a woman in order to get to know them is, I'm sorry for being direct, stupid. You said it. Communication is better in any type of relationship. It's the key to a good relationship. Start talking.
+JINSTERPEACE you are correct ..this was just a casual discussion on sex of course it gets deeper and intimate but that wasnt the focus of this ..plus we didnt have the time to cover a lot
It's crazy to me how many women will come on here and comment negatively towards black men being honest but then will expect to continue to receive honesty or anyone willing to work with you at all. furthermore....it's crazy how this channel will talk about deeper issues like the destruction of the black family and I don't see any women commenting in those sections....there's a brother who commented on here about being a 25 year old virgin and some women's unrealistic ideas about men and sex and he was totally ignored, but you will give attention to the brothers that are talking negatively with you. lastly....I am a living example of what's really going on...the destruction of the black family is almost complete...I had a family and never cheated, loved my family and put them first. but because I wanted a black family I overlooked my partners mental issues in the sense I thought me being the leader I can help through expensive counseling, spiritually, healthy living, eating etc...and in the end it was her puppeteer mother and her own deep seeded issues that undid everything. I was faithful, I don't make 6 figures but I work hard, our videography company she'd put down even when we landed people on 106th and park, she would never motivate me....she would call white doctors geniuses in front of me but would never give me credit when I was able to debunk some of their misinformation...I studied feverishly about health and nutrition so our son could benefit and she'd still go take him to McDonald's...I was raised by a single black woman and NEVER dated or of my race...my mom and father are black and even though my father was dark I turned out light....however I love darker women despite the stereotypical idea of what "light skinned niggas like"....I am the guy that would shame their friends for dating outside their race...but just like the 25 yr old virgin that posted earlier a lot of women will ignore this posting as if men like me don't exist and that's one of the reason their are no more men like me...we get no support at all.
+Adonnis Graves I'm sorry about your situation. Going through something like you have went through had to have been that much harder without support. I don't want to seem harsh but maybe the lack of support comes from the type of people you surround yourself with. One of my strategies in life is only associating with people that I feel will be there when it counts, now everybody has not always measured up to that standard but that's out of my control. I really hope everything works out for the best and you don't let this experience make you bitter or change you for the worst. Know that there is someone out there in the universe sending positivity your way.
Samantha Thomas-Pankey Thank you for taking the time out to read my post and respond...grammatical errors and all lol. You're right...although I'm not one to surround myself with the wrong crowd...I was one to be loyal to a fault even if it meant losing myself in the process...because I thought you do that for your family. I learned and I am fighting daily to not let this affect me in a negative way...I'm getting there though, and I do appreciate the people that have reached out.
I wish Black women would expand their horizons and date outside their race more. We out number men so if you are holding out for a black man while they're totally fine with looking elsewhere that's a shame. There are gorgeous men in other races that would treasure everything about you including your black culture. That doesn't mean you abandoning your people. Do you and be happy. There's nothing wrong with seeking happiness. Asians, Latino, White, Arab...etc.
my immature ass couldnt stop laughing throughout this entire video lmao
From my view point this is mostly sex from a caucasoid point of thinking/being. Most Black people now use sex as a coping tool or a recreational sport and not as a spiritual connection. This goes for both Black men and Black women, sex is more then pleasure you exchange energy in that act.
+mscurvy not disagreeing with you but the way things were put to us was in a casual sense thats why we didnt get to deep with emotions and other factors
Crook thanks for saying the context that the discussion was in. Without any context you get some of the comments that was received.
mscurvy lol I understand that
I totally agree with the brother with the suit on when he states a women is only as freaky with a man base on how comfortable he makes her feel
THIS WAS THE FUNNIEST SHIT I HAVE SEEN IN A LONG TIME. I absolutely loved this. I wish they would have gone a bit deeper on who initiates it and if they are okay with being dominated. Hmmmmmm! LOL!!! :) :) :)
Yeah, I did. I ABSOLUTELY LOVED IT!!! EITHER WAY, these "Ask a Black Man" episodes are great because they reflect a positive view of Black men. The marriage one and street harassment ones were also great.
morena1022 Thank you maybe theyll released the unedited version
Good convo. Take it for what is is. Men have fun. Men have sex. Take the tips and keep it moving. Oh yea, Men have sex with different partners and that are not always Black.
+LM thank you .. its just that simple
This was insightful and interesting I enjoyed it, its a shame in London we dont have shows like this x
+Vanya Azoro Thank you glad you enjoyed it we had fun..it was supposed to be fun .. check the other episodes and the celeb edition of this episode as well
These men don't even have experience dating Black women....
Just a couple of them
But when you ask the man to let you do things to him...he'll stop it saying that's gay, etc. They should be open just as they expect the woman.
I love this you guys need to make more .. I was cracking up the whole time
Sisters... please don't be mad at them. Yes some of their comments were dumb, weren't true and not a true reflection of how every black woman is, but it's their experiences and we have to remember that we have a stereotype and a lot of us live up to it. which is why they said some of the things they did. black women aren't noisy in bed? black women say don't go too deep? (maybe because it hurts dumbo).. But I can't be mad, it's enlightening to hear a man's perspective sometimes.
I found men more conservative in bed because of their male chauvinist preconceptions and there are things they would not accept in bed because of them. Before i used to think that sex is the most imp thing in the relationship because it is the definition of being a couple but i am starting to change my mind, it is not the most imp thing.
These men will never have the time or day with me, not my type of men. I'm glad they are being honest so women can stay away from them
I love how they are having these conversations.
the guy talking about calling his girl a bitch just wants to have a good time. he's probably into just hooking up w girls. now if you're in a relationship, i don't think the foul language in the bedroom should be used at all.
YOU move the hair out the way! LOL
+Charmayne Booker NOW you're thinking. ;)
I enjoyed this and would gladly throw it back for a couple of them! LMAO
So this is how they talk when we're not around.
I enjoy listening to a mans perspective but I Hate I watched this one. These are not the type of black men I know or communicate with.
I love Pink Shirt 😂😂😂 yes it takes a certain man to bring that freak out of a woman! #facts
This was really good!!!
😂😂😂 I'm just finding this on you tube….. WOW 😅😅😅
+MadameNoire its awesome.
U definitifly watched it till the end :D
***** I am getting information on a guys view point of what good and what not. I want to see more like on marriage, dating, education, and politics etc…
I appreciate their openness and honesty.
the bald guy desperately kept trying to bring up black women.
I love these types of convos. my fave from the beginning was the one in the white shirt on the right. but the nigga don't usually date black women.
Wow I would never let a guy call me the b word. Ofcourse if we love each other, have been married a while and he wants to try dirty talk to spice things up, using the b word etc., I'd probably let him. But I don't get girls who would allow just some guy to disrespect them like that.
Good point "not ever man can bring the freak out a woman"
I hope the Virgin dude that posted earlier never gives into the pressures meant to make you insecure. a smart woman will understand that sex like exercise gets better with time and practice and that you don't have to rack up bodies in order to gain experience.
Did he just say "happy black man" when the other guy said he dated mostly white women?!
That boy is 25 and he thinks like that its a shame
why do i feel like African American men don't like their own women? this should say "ask a African American man" not ask a "black man"
No man belongs to any type of woman, and no woman belongs to any type of man. I don't feel black men belong to me. Plus, if he's African American, he's American , so at the most, his women would be American women in general, if we want to be prejudiced.... I like black Latino men, some African men, Asian, European,but rarely AA or white American men. A couple of these guys here are sexy though :p
Im too mad youtube put a commercial at 6 mins
do not call my genitalia a box. wtf
Lots of comments about what you didn't like and what you wouldn't do... So I'm curious...
How do you keep your partner satisfied? How do you fulfill your partners needs and desires? What do you bring to the companionship?
(After you've answered the above questions - How has that worked for you so far?)
Please be mindful that for a man, everything is about cost / benefits.
1luv
Maybe because I am from Europe. Our race or colour, is part of us. How we are raised/manners/taste of food/temper/carachter.. But sex is from my experience not predictable , you can not say based on colour or race that he/she can sex like this etc.
Maybe in America? But interesting to see this..
Does anyone else notice the spray painted silver antlers on the ottomon. Da' fukk is that a bout? ..... ok I can't with listening to some of them.
Great show
***** not yet but I will watch it when I get off work Thanks in advance for the heads up I love this show.
I learned something watching this, good info!
I can't believe they are selecting black men who don't primarily date black women. Wtf is he doing on the panel. This is probably my 3rd time and last watching this but my goodness they got a lot of mouth. lol alright well enjoy the watching and commentary ladies
booooooooooooooooooooooooooo. i love men but i hate men...dummies
The one on the right keeps telling us that women don't like the things that he does.
I can appreciate the dialogue, however, I somewhat expected a more mature conversation on the topic But i guess this is how most black men think, hence the topic "ask a black man"
Yeah, I expected more too. But now I guess I shouldn't be surprised.
I agree, it depends if the man I am with can bring out that freaky side of me. lol.
I've watched a couple of these "ask a black man" episodes now, I disagree with the asking of single men(meaning men who have never ever been married) a question in regards to marriage... somethings you don't know until you know, for example, in this episode, I don't know for sure, but most of these men don't seem married... your objectives are different in marriage concerning sex (hopefully) selfish vs selfless (vis versa for women)
Give women the platform to express their turn off and on as well
Umm I don't care if we been dating for like 3 months or 3 years I'm finna wear my head wrap to bed.