Dealing with friendship break-ups💔 | How to end a friendship and heal from it - Ep 98
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- Опубліковано 30 тра 2023
- Friendships come and go, and sometimes it hurts to say goodbye to someone you thought would be your friend for life💔 Whether you are the one breaking up with a friend, or the one getting left behind, it'll still hurt either way, so let's talk about it.
Are about to go through a friendship breakup or been through one? comment below, we want to hear you out!
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One thing I have learnt with friendship breakups is sometimes we innocently put people on a higher pedestals than they deserve , we elevate their positions in our lives only to realize they are not . They served a season in your life that you have outgrown and now bending backwards to accommodate their capacity turns out to be a source of conflict. All in all, we appreciate the different friends and the part they play wether past or present. Communicate but if its too irreconcillable then let them go .
This is all in all
True 💯
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This episode reminds me of the Netflix series I'm watching "Firefly Lane" of two best friends who are sticking together through thiiiick and thiiiiiin. In this life, you don't need to have soo many friends to feel loved and appreciated. Because you can be surrounded but still feel all alone. Having that one friend you trust and care about is more than enough ❤.
Thanks for the show reccomendation❤️
Murugi is such an eloquent speaker❤❤❤
Can we talk about those of us with no Friends at all
There’s always someone out there for everyone ❤️
That's so sad. You should make an active effort to form friendships even if it's through family. ❤
For sure - can no longer use that term. I'm only spending time with folk who match my energy - bas!
This touched my heart. Definitely putting more effort to make genuine friends
Me and you both. No friends
Don't do things over text. Don't involve other people , don't gaslight, don't overthink, put your pride asside, be considerate and pracruce compassion. It's so harddddd omg! But in the end sometimes it just had to happen .
Exactly. Let’s take notes people!
Friendship breakups are tough. The Transitions of outgrowing friends verses having adult conversations with other adults. Breakup between lovers who were friends... it's sad and true. We are really not taught how to deal with this part. Being the middle man/woman of friends who used to be friends. 😢Pris. Let's all go back to 6 or 7 yr old us, who was friendly or friends with everyone ❤. Thank you for another fantastic episode. As an adult - Trust yourself enough to vocalize honest feelings/emotions early enough.
Thank you so much ladies,I have learnt so much today.I can now forgive myself.I blew up my friendship almost a month ago and since then I have had so much guilt in my heart because I was the reason the friendship ended I was so bad in communication.The other party felt like I didn't care about our friendship coz I didn't call as much as they did or even have the time to hang with them and honestly I could agree with her but now I know better and am willing to be a better friend.
We’re sorry you went through this.❤️
A friendship may not serve you but you might still miss them even if you are the one who breaks up with them.
So true ❤️
that means it WAS a TOXIC friendship connection to you, withdrawal happens also in friendship breakups , just dont go back :-) you will be better off without them in the long run
A friendship break up is just as life-changing as a romantic break-up …. However friends forever seems like an American movie concept. Sometimes we just grow apart
We hear you.
I have learn a lot from you guys😊 you guys have change everything in my life like how I act towards people, how I let people in my life, how I balance my expectations towards people around me. And you guys inspire me… Your friendship is the first thing someone will see when they watch you, even when you’re apart. I love you and keep doing it. You change people’s life for real.
Wishing you successful work and many more awards😊
You deserve every reward you guys get and More
I discovered this channel a few days ago and I am soo happy I have over 100 episodes to get through. You ladies are amazing. Love from South Africa
This hit close to home.. I lost a very good friend.. One of my best friend actually.. And it was one of the most difficult breakup I have ever had... I wronged her.. And I knew there is no coming back from that.. , she stopped talking to me I wish she did so I could at least explain my self.. So I learned to live without her.. We had a mutual friend that obviously picked her side without knowing the whole story... I wasn't surprised.. I guess I deserved it, .at some point I had to go ask her if we could talk but everything was just cold. From both of them.. When we finally moved back home from abroad.. I reached out I apologize and finally let it go. We are talking now but everything is very weird.. I moved on she did too.. But every now and then she crosses my mind. I wonder where we could have been if I didn't fuck up.. Any ways life goes on.
Not me listening to this episode the 8th time as I internalize what I did wrong while ticking of what I did right. Thank you TMI for this awesome one. Grateful for having learnt not just the do(s) and don't (s)but also how to nature the one I have now, better.
I've had to let go of a friendship that I treasured so much but I felt they were only present because of what I could provide. But my needs were simply too much for them to entertain. Speaking to them about it and they denied everything, and was just deflecting everything I was saying I felt. I have had such a hard time. I had to say I loved them and wish them the best and that that they're so great in many ways but I had to step away for my own mental peace. ❤ I hated that experience. I'm still hesitant to call someone my friend until I see how we handle each other's seasons in life. Sheeeesh! This life is truly the messy in between 😅
Life is indeed messy
I also support the point of having conversations plus extending grace to the other friends when breaking up or after
Get the amazing ladies to 100k before their 100th episode
Always happy to be hear at all times
Inbetweeners deserve a story time of how this sisterhood blossomed 😃
This episode was very necessary❤
Great conversation ladies. I needed this two years ago when I was going through a friendship break up. I was left, via text, as you've said, it was shocking, I had never imagined us as not friends. Looking back, it gave me permission and courage to let go of people/things that I was holding to then, that I didn't need to. Sometimes, it's okay to let go. Especially when your lives are not aligned anymore.
We hope things got better❤️
Murugi &Lydia ur EQ is really high..love it..uve spoken to my heart..i feel like am in therapy..loved this episode❤
This is amazing.
Loved it for sure.
I really enjoyed this episode. A lot of emotional intelligence to develop and learn sisterhood and friendships.
Most of my friendships have been beautiful, some blossomed over time, and some just loosely fizzled out. Good or not so good, there were lessons learned. I strive to be a genuine good friend and be a blessing in friendships. It's nice to close friends, great friends or a great friend and a bestie & confidante. It's an enriching experience, especially in adulthood .# MoreBlessings to great friends🙏🏿🇰🇪♥️💕💕💕
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I have not had a real friendship break-up conversation but i hsve had several friendships end. Gosh it's so painful & i think bse we don't givr them as much importance as love relationships, u go through the mourning stage alone, quietly & wait for it to end then move on.
This is so true, we don’t give them as much consideration as we do romantic ones❤️
Finally❤
Now I can let go of last week's episode😄 I love it here
We love having you here
This was a really interesting topic and chat, as usual. You 2 make me want to be and do so much better as a friend. Bless you ladies
We love to hear it!
Ooh am commenting as i watch..excuse me..#what is your part..love it!!..own it.
Facts. You start having less expectations in friendships
So true
2020 I had that worst moment, I however thank God it happened coz so much more was unveiled. Too much betrayal was involved yet I was blinded. It was a blow though but I learnt my lessons.
I let go a friendship that I had for almost a decade. At some point I felt we were so very disconnected and I felt taken for granted. I did it over a text as we were in different cities. I thought about it for quite a longtime before making the decision. They were just so many things that had accumulated over time that I had let slide . I could not bring them all up in the present. so I felt letting go was the best for both of us. I also did not feel I had been a great friend at times .
Sometimes we genuinely outgrow each other and hanging on makes it worse
It's definitely TMI for me ❤
It definitely is!
I'm the first one here today!!🤩. That feeling when you remember its Wednesday so its TMI day!❤💃
Index one energy and we love it❤️
It's definitely Tmiiiiiiiiiiiii
You ladies look stunning as usual, They say blood is thicker than water but i say sometimes some friends are way better than our own blood, some friends are just heavenly like the one i have. I cherish her so much!
Awww, thank you for this❤️
This channel? It's top 2 and not 2😊❤love it here
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Shout out to Lydia, your so humane ❤! Ionce broke up with my pal, whom we've bn pals for 11years, bt her pal triggered the break up bt still ifelt the friendship didn't have balance iactually gave more..It wasn't that bad she tried to reach me out so as we make out bt iwasn't interested.. I still love that pal so much honestly~Right now idon't like bn in IG cz whenever icome across her pic or anything her, Ifeel sick or get triggered negatively!
Fire content as always!!❤
Thank you!
I love the tips of #listen to understand #speak your own peace
Hitting the like button before I even watch. Lyd had me in 'I will beg😂...'
Anyways I went through a friendship breakup early this year, its sth I didn't anticipate so it was really tough. But all in all, in as much as I missed them I had to respect their decision. Additionally this was like a wake up call that sometimes friendships end due to negligence of one party and that I had to try be mindful and more intentional with my other friendships. Always looking forward to this episodes. I get so enlightened. I'm glad I get to grow with you guys.
Thank you for sharing this with us❤️
Eeeeeeh Lydia you truly love your friends for real
I do!
Friendship break up 😢.. this was so insightful
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I'm in love with this episodes.❣️❣️
Awww❤️
I have recently lost a close friend as in we are no longer friends and this topic as so far has resonate with me in so many ways so thank you Lyd and Murugi, you guys are a true blessing in my life ...THANK YOU..mubarikiwe
We are sorry dear❤️
thanks ladies.
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Beautiful ladies ❤
Thank you 🙏🏾
Me reciting the intro with you guys..❤and singing is now in sync.bring the album
Passing the mic to you😎
Thank you so much Ladies for the consistency. I gotta add that sometimes, there’s so much you can do before breaking up a friendship. I was roommates with my bestfriend, and that strained our friendship. Moving into our own spaces has really helped. Am glad we didn’t break up and we were able to reach a better arrangement. It would have been a terrible loss
True, there are things you should try before calling it quits❤️
Congrats for 97k .,.🥰 Relationships are tricky,sm1 i saw as a friend suddenly went silent on me.,.when I tried to r reach ,my phone calls were ignored.,.it was so so hurtful to me,..my messages went unanswered....the thing that made me so sad was that I never got to know what the issue was.,. Is still hurts...I also felt/feel disrespected or taken for granted,...then there will always be that "nagging feeling" of uncertainty even in other relationships.She was like a sister to me🥲anyway it is well.
Great and much needed conversation.
@ consolata ogola were you in Catholic university by any chance. This is feli😊
@@cikanyoro Hello.,..lol.,.hi I hv missed you weuh
@@consolataogola976 good to hear from you
@@cikanyoro sure.Get in touch
@@consolataogola976 I lost you number😂
TMI geng geng 🎉🎉
What it is! What’s up!🙌🏽
This episode is different, I do not know how to break up clearly, seems like a lot of work. I invest in my friendships so much that I did not ever think about breaking up and it is a whole life altogether! We would sit and straighten things out or we could amicably go separate ways, time would fade away all the things (subtle ghosting I guess). Until you guys mentioned that we need to be clear, some people do not understand that is over, I realised this is what I have been challenged with. There is a person that has been disrespecting the friendship and I was over and done but they show up like nothing happened, like burry the hatchet, she does not acknowledge whatever is happening, she is forceful, texts, calls, etc. Thinks if she persists then all will be well and back to normal. I decided to ignore and block them.
This is so insightful❤️
It's been two years since me and my best friend broke up but trust me ...sijaiheal
We hope things get better❤️
Im going through this right now as the person who ended the friendship. I even feared to watch this episode or all the others about frienship. It has been hard hard because i still love her and miss her but the hurt was too much. I felt stonewalled, shut out even dispised.
Oh dear. We know it wasn’t easy
I am going through the same.... worse thing is I have to see this person everyday 😢
I went through a really bad friendship break up a while ago. She just decided to no longer communicate with me. But she'd look at my stories. So i just blocked her because for me it's out of sight out of mind. It made me value the meaning of communication and deep friendship where love is reciprocated.
Why do people do this though?😂
I'm even replaying the singing part to get why some don't like it and l just can't understand why 😂❤
We bless the Lord for this amazing episode .However id like to add that before the conversation is had about the break up, one should assess the level of maturity the other person has to b able to take in and properly understand the message being delivered otherwise it can be a whole other scene or even escalate the whole situation.
This is true. There’s definitely a lot to think about
Friendships are just seasons in life. If they end its because they were meant to so go on and make new ones.
True❤️
Vitu kwa ground are very difficult😂😂😂..the push back is a must!! Because the other party might feel judged..hence the push back..but if you sit through it ,agree to disagree..i believe there will be closure😂😂
Great content ladies,keep it up.
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Thank you☺️
@@tmipodcastke welcome Lovely ladies,
The best I needed.currently dealing with this .I have to cut off a frnd and am broken
Oh dear, we hope it gets better❤️
Wueh! Let me tell you maina, i'm going through a Friendship 💔😢, this series couldn't come at a better time🙏🏾💐. TMI Album🎶 ikuje sasa😂😂. #WCW❤️❤️
Hang in there sis❤️
@@tmipodcastke Thanks❤️ really hanging in there😊.
This is Soo deep 😢I still haven't gotten over loosing my friend who I thought I wud live with forever 😢😢this was so helpful ... congrats for 97k subs❤️❤️
Same here💔still hurts but the other side's better💪
Thank you. Things are going to be better❤️
One thing l have learnt sometimes friendshipd ends Unfortunately, not all friendships are meant to last a lifetime. It’s sad when a friendship runs its course, but it’s a normal part of life.
It’s true. It’s all part of life
Lil Keni sounds so cool 😂❤
Love you girls🎉🎉
We love you too!
It feels Soo good when you sing the TMIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII!!!😅😂.....❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you! Now tell the others to leave us alone🤣
@@tmipodcastke they don't have a choice 😅😁
Among the top ten🎉🎉
Aaayeee!
I love you girls😍
We lyt❤️
How long should we wait for net episode please don't take long make it fast😊😩
Every Wednesday sis!
Always here....hoping to win the giveaway 😍
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Going through a friendship breakup currently and its taking such a huge toll on me😔😔
Oh dear❤️❤️❤️
It hurts more 😢 on a friendship break up
It does indeed
A moment of silence for how beautiful Lydia looks with that strapless😍😍
Girrl☺️☺️☺️
I have never done a friendship breakup... I cut off friendship silently 😶
Is this healthy?
We later reconnect or not....and thats okay with me.
I believe friendship can be seasonal.
One more thing I feel is that before breaking up with a friend, one should keep in mind what the friend is going through. Can she endure the breakup? I had a friend break up with me when I was going through a health crisis, family crisis, career crisis. She has the right to break up but she could have waited a few months
This is so sweet❤️
These are things we have to take into consideration when going through this
@@tmipodcastke thank you
I am the only one who was confused at first, I thought that was Lydia's sister. Girls you look alike.
My friend insists they look alike and I get mad koz I don’t see it 😂😂 so you ain’t alone
We get that a lot❤️
WHOOOOOAAA ,The convo was lit🔥
So lit!
Is it just me or do friendship breakup linger longer than romantic breakups? Maybe its because of mutual friends or that you can't move and start over like you would when you break up with a romantic partner
Today is my birthday. And I've realised alot. Some of those people that I called friends didn't even text me. Now it's time to delete their numbers 😂and forget if we were friends.
Happy birthday sis! Thank you for sharing this❤️
@@tmipodcastke aww thank you love you guys ❤️❤️❤️
Beautiful sisters,how about when you don’t get a chance to express how bad things have been on your side to the other party,since they have been acting soo distant and making you feel like you are doing all it takes to keep them around? How do you heal from such?
You just have to sit and talk. Let down the walls and accept that you are not perfect and no one is❤️
@@tmipodcastke A case in point,my bf then was caught cheating by her man and as a form of self defense she told him that I was the one who had connected her to all those other men.So the man told her to choose between him and I and I guess her actions for the next couple of months clearly displayed it.Guy dismantled her Sim cards and she never ever took an effort to give me her new line, she only used to chat me up on her mums line once in a blue moon. I kept pushing hard to see how far she would fight for our friendship but it was all in vain.I used to pay her visits but she had never ever come to mine after that incident. Close to a year, I gave myself enough grace and thought it was wise enough to distance myself from the family since no efforts had been taken to bring us back(from her side definitely) She didn't clear my name so the man would never want to see us as friends ever again.So despite us being human and bound to making mistakes, was I supposed to call for dialogue yet no efforts had been made from her side?
What do I do if I have to see this person everyday.?...the friendship ended. 😢😢
Am goingbthru a frdship heartbreak from a group of frds
Same here Hun💔😊
This must be tough💔
This episode got me thinking of a movie I watched, The banshees of Inisherin. One guy was willing to cut his fingers, if his "best friend' talks to him. LOL.
What was going on there 😂
I've never really lost a close friend..however ive lost friends via association and genuinely it didn't hurt a bit..our mutual friend keeps wanting for us to reunite but i couldn't give two dips*....am i evil
1st viewer💃
Umewasili wa kwanza!❤️
This is too triggering for me, i just cant watch it ...will come back when i can watch
Oh honey❤️
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Y'all got time to break up. I just ghost, am I horrible 😅😅
Let’s be friends 😂😂my type pls🤣🤣
I disagree with breakup at someone's house.
I bring ice cream, booze whatever I know they will need after I drop the boom . 💥 then I can leave after the anger of 'leave now '. 😅
At their house? Yes. But not at your house😂
That’s exactly what I’m going through rn , I love your podcasts u’re like my older sisters 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼
Thank you sis❤️
It's the illustrative acting for me😂
We give 100% perfomance😂
New TMI game, we can take a shot every time Murugi repeats her statement😂😂😂😂... For those not drinking, buy yourself a new set of lashes everytime she repeats her statements😂😂
This game is dangerous😂😂🤣
@@tmipodcastke this game is dangerous😂😂😂 I'm repeating to stay on brand
Going through this shit right now...thank you for this podcast it has really helped me since am the one who made the breakup...I feel like am loosing it😢😢😢
Hang in there dear❤️
I wish we could get to 100k subscribers by the 100th episode....
Girl yes🙌🏽
I am here to mark the register as a TMI class monitor.... We're almost 100k in our hundredth episode... 🎉
We are so close! Please tell your peeps to subscribe!
😂😂😂 Not Lyd out here calling our sister-less hood Gherrooooo...Yoh😅
Is it a lie?😂
We are back to the singing part😢
Yes 🎉🎉🎉 I am glad you love it too
Let us be please😂
97k.....
So close😫 we need that 100k guys!
What about friendships that just fade away coz you guys have grown apart or we can’t relate anymore or even its too awkward to talk about it anymore so we just kinda grow apart
It still hurts as much
What about ghosting?
Asking this also,.. I also do this a million times 😢😢, am an introvert
Ghosting is such a traumatizing experience. Unless necessary, try going for closure
Do some friendships need a closure??🤔🤔 hmmmm
It depends, but we encourage the act of being intentional
Aki si you just stop with the singing
Umm how about you skip the part they are singing...please let them do what they want to do on THEIR platform
Aki si you just accept us as we are?
I have loved and accepted you as you are but it’s too pitchy, aki it’s not nice at all at aaaaaaall!! You see how your shoes can affect your whole outfit? Your singing does that to the intro 😂😂😂 but it has never affected the lessons and insights but please tu wacheni aki 🥹
Frienship break ups really hurt and we seldom talk about it..I had a friendship that ended in 2015 i think i have never healed till date. i miss them i miss who we were together but maybe they were just not meant to be my friend and vise versa. But i wish i could just meet her one more time🥲
I introduced my best friend to another girl ....guess what my best friend cut me off and chose the girl I introduced to her as her bff..it hurts to date ..three years down the line
ya'll's make-up is forever flawless 🤌
Sis😎