Why hasn’t this gotten more views??? America should be fired up about this. This message is a beacon on the hill that all parents, and potential parents, should aspire to.
I’m 61 and my son that’s 34 married into a toxic,dysfunctional,and very narcissistic family of dead beats that sponge off society. His wife came to my home and told my wife and I she will tell us whom we will have relationships with and she doesn’t believe in the respect your parents issue. She has no has a child with my son and warned us if she got pregnant she would use that child as a weapon against us. I’ve never experienced anything like this in my 61 years. She and my son have destroyed our family. I no longer see or talk much to him. It’s very sad because I’ve been robbed of my son and any possibility of having a relationship with my grandson.
In many of these situations where a son marries a very disturbed wife, she will eventually leave the son or drive him away, especially when he finally tells her, "No more." It happened to my brother and many others I know.
Very helpful to know more about this and how it affects our society. I've taken the approach to be patient and optimistic that the day will come when they want to communicate again. Hopefully as they mature it will be considered that there may be other points of view other than those expressed when communication broke off. In the meantime I move forward with my life.
It is so confusing for me because my Daughter refuses to give me a reason for the estrangement. We both agree on politics! Her Grandmother died, and she texted me, behaving like a distant coworker instead of my Daughter. Her Grandmother helped me raise her! They were just as close, if not closer, than we were before her spouse darkened our doorstep. I wish I knew if TikTok or her controlling spouse brainwashed her against my Mother and me! I feel like I lost both my Mother and my Daughter on April 2, 2024! I sent her a letter similar to what Joshua Coleman recommended on Mother's Day, and she did not respond to it! It is cruel and unusual punishment to be estranged without a reason!
I'm currently estranged from one of my sisters, and her daughter my niece, as well as my youngest brother. It was a relief when I no longer had to have any contact with them.
NO! Don't keep trying, I did and I got harresment charges put on me! Trauma for sure! I don't know what else I can do, I Miss my grandchildren more then words can express!!
If my kids ever go no contact, I will be asking myself how can I change. What have I done to cause this? But also I am not forcing my children to have a relationship with me either. I will be open to it and respect their boundaries and will listen.
Writing a letter once a year to someone who made it clear they no longer want contact is called harassment. I, like many others, am estranged/ disowned because I no longer put up with the abuse. I was sick of hurting my family by existing, as the constant comments and blame made clear, so I don't darken the doorstep. And after an ACES 10/10 childhood of being the eldest, parentified, betrayed, all manner and forms of abuse including CSA...? I have nothing to fight for with them. If they try getting back in my life and my silence is disregarded the cops are getting involved. As Reddit likes to say, actions have consequences, and don't light yourself on fire to keep others warm. I am no longer the scapegoat, just the black sheep. And as painful as it is to be alone it's far better than what was happening before.
My boy decided that after years of sacrifices that I made to provide for him he no longer wanted me in his life and now runs around complaining to anyone who will listen about how hard his childhood was from a child who had 100% of what he needed and most of what he wanted and never even experienced hunger as a child like i did and has no clue of dirt poor i know exactly what it is and how it feels
Thank you for bringing light to this epidemic in America today. I hope that you produce more episodes on this subject. I am the rare case, meaning I am on both sides. I was abused by my Father and forced to go no contact because I would take steps forward and heal in therapy only for my Father to rip the scabs off and set me back. Now I am estranged from my Daughter and I have no idea why she decided to use the gray rock method on me and then transition into no contact. I tried asking her why and she will not tell me. I tried sending apology letters and it only seemed to make things worse. My Mother died in April and I feel like I lost both my Mother and my Daughter and I wonder if my controlling and abusive Son in Law is using my Daughter to seek revenge for perceived wrongs since my Daughter will not provide a reason for the estrangement. I belong to a group of Mothers and Grandmothers on Facebook and I know I am not alone and that this is an epidemic in America today! I wish Dr. Phil would write a book about this!
I am adopted,&& dk my bio fam at all! but,every single time that I attempt to get closer to my adoptive family,I continuously get rejected! it has been this way for my whole,entire life! so,now,I've just resorted to staying in my own bubble,&& fully withdrawing simply to try to "cope!"💯
Andrea, I am so sorry that you have experienced such rejection. The lady in this video does not seem to realize how much hurt you would open yourself up to if you continually reach out once a year……in my opinion. If I had gone thru it, I personally would handle it a little differently, IF I were a Christian. From the GetGo, most likely I would have asked their forgiveness for whatever they held against me. If there were silence, then from that point forward, everything from me would be in prayer to God. I would not beg God to have them get in touch or to miraculously love you. I would only do one thing, which will be hard…..at first. I would ask God to “ bless them “. Bless their finances, bless their spiritual growth, bless their health, bless them with friends, bless them with God’s wisdom, discernment, knowledge,and compassion. ANYTHING that crosses your mind……bless them with that. Yes, it will be difficult. You probably will never know if there have been changes. However, just by your doing this day after day, year after year, you will find that you truly DO want them to be blessed. And this will, in turn, bless YOU. Your ingrained feelings of rejection will slowly slide away and give you total peace. But, this must be done and continued with the attitude of not expecting anything in return. Hard ? Yes, but you will receive a blessing from God that you cannot contain, dear.
Dr. Phil says, "You never drop your end of the rope" - ?? What if grown child hired an attorney to threaten lawsuit and/or restraining order if I should attempt contact again? Then I heard through an in-law that my son is telling his girls that his step mother is his mother and their grand mother. Sounds like the end to me.
The only one who NEVER changes is Jesus Christ. He’s the same yesterday, today and forever. Society is focused on self. After years of estrangement from my adult children I now have a relationship with them. It was through prayer and faith in Christ that brought us back together.
The grandchildren are used in this process. I am there if they need a babysitter or to clean their homes. I am there for my kids because I want to be able to see my grandchildren.
Public schooling groomed my vulnerable daughter into gender confusion and entitlement to life unearned and living with 2 boyfriends rent free on my disability pay. That's over but my sorrow is that my daughter will also make the wrong eternal choice and there will be no heavenly reunion.
You can’t change others so I just don’t get how this solves anything. You can only be responsible for yourself and your own behavior. I find a lot of this to center around self absorption 🤷🏻♀️
That man psychiatrist is absolutely wrong!!! The demise of families is directly related to no Jesus in the family!!! God is the most important element in the family ~
I have no contact with any of my family. Except one full sister and she's kind of a mess. I have no contact with aunts And uncles, as they die off, and I Have two half brothers and two have sisters, no contact. My dad cheated on my 2 brothers mom with my mom and that's where me and my sister came in and I guess they blame me and my sister for existing. to me It's very immature, and there are things I want to know about my dad that I will never get to know Because he died when I was 6 and because of their insecurities. You would think that there would have been some curiosity from them over the decades, as they're in their sixties and seventies now, but still, I grew up with no dad and no brothers like I should have. I grew up with note real, have sisters As they were in their own lives and almost never made contact. I have always wondered. I have always wanted to know. I Don't even know where they're at, but had thought of finding them and showing up on their doorstep, but I fear fifty three years of pain coming up when they shut the door in my face. Human beings are garbage.
I'm gonna chime in here and say it's not one or another - I think not teaching your children to respect and honor your as a parent is essential. this assumes they are honorable of course.
Why hasn’t this gotten more views??? America should be fired up about this.
This message is a beacon on the hill that all parents, and potential parents, should aspire to.
I’m 61 and my son that’s 34 married into a toxic,dysfunctional,and very narcissistic family of dead beats that sponge off society. His wife came to my home and told my wife and I she will tell us whom we will have relationships with and she doesn’t believe in the respect your parents issue. She has no has a child with my son and warned us if she got pregnant she would use that child as a weapon against us. I’ve never experienced anything like this in my 61 years. She and my son have destroyed our family. I no longer see or talk much to him. It’s very sad because I’ve been robbed of my son and any possibility of having a relationship with my grandson.
Wonder if your son’s wife is related to my son’s wife? Same story.
This is so sad 😢
In many of these situations where a son marries a very disturbed wife, she will eventually leave the son or drive him away, especially when he finally tells her, "No more." It happened to my brother and many others I know.
Change your wills. Set up Medical Power of Attorney, because the estranged child may show up at the end of your life and cause trouble.
Alienation is different than estrangement. That’s a topic for discussion. It’s a silent epidemic of grief.
Very helpful to know more about this and how it affects our society. I've taken the approach to be patient and optimistic that the day will come when they want to communicate again. Hopefully as they mature it will be considered that there may be other points of view other than those expressed when communication broke off. In the meantime I move forward with my life.
Why are we only talking about kids who disown their parents and acting like it never happens the other way around?
It is so confusing for me because my Daughter refuses to give me a reason for the estrangement. We both agree on politics! Her Grandmother died, and she texted me, behaving like a distant coworker instead of my Daughter. Her Grandmother helped me raise her! They were just as close, if not closer, than we were before her spouse darkened our doorstep. I wish I knew if TikTok or her controlling spouse brainwashed her against my Mother and me! I feel like I lost both my Mother and my Daughter on April 2, 2024! I sent her a letter similar to what Joshua Coleman recommended on Mother's Day, and she did not respond to it! It is cruel and unusual punishment to be estranged without a reason!
I'm currently estranged from one of my sisters, and her daughter my niece, as well as my youngest brother. It was a relief when I no longer had to have any contact with them.
NO! Don't keep trying, I did and I got harresment charges put on me! Trauma for sure! I don't know what else I can do, I Miss my grandchildren more then words can express!!
Same here.
Omg! 😢
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If my kids ever go no contact, I will be asking myself how can I change. What have I done to cause this? But also I am not forcing my children to have a relationship with me either. I will be open to it and respect their boundaries and will listen.
Writing a letter once a year to someone who made it clear they no longer want contact is called harassment. I, like many others, am estranged/ disowned because I no longer put up with the abuse. I was sick of hurting my family by existing, as the constant comments and blame made clear, so I don't darken the doorstep. And after an ACES 10/10 childhood of being the eldest, parentified, betrayed, all manner and forms of abuse including CSA...? I have nothing to fight for with them. If they try getting back in my life and my silence is disregarded the cops are getting involved.
As Reddit likes to say, actions have consequences, and don't light yourself on fire to keep others warm. I am no longer the scapegoat, just the black sheep. And as painful as it is to be alone it's far better than what was happening before.
Praying for you. You’re not alone in this, I relate so much ❤
My boy decided that after years of sacrifices that I made to provide for him he no longer wanted me in his life and now runs around complaining to anyone who will listen about how hard his childhood was from a child who had 100% of what he needed and most of what he wanted and never even experienced hunger as a child like i did and has no clue of dirt poor i know exactly what it is and how it feels
Thank you for bringing light to this epidemic in America today. I hope that you produce more episodes on this subject. I am the rare case, meaning I am on both sides. I was abused by my Father and forced to go no contact because I would take steps forward and heal in therapy only for my Father to rip the scabs off and set me back. Now I am estranged from my Daughter and I have no idea why she decided to use the gray rock method on me and then transition into no contact. I tried asking her why and she will not tell me. I tried sending apology letters and it only seemed to make things worse. My Mother died in April and I feel like I lost both my Mother and my Daughter and I wonder if my controlling and abusive Son in Law is using my Daughter to seek revenge for perceived wrongs since my Daughter will not provide a reason for the estrangement. I belong to a group of Mothers and Grandmothers on Facebook and I know I am not alone and that this is an epidemic in America today! I wish Dr. Phil would write a book about this!
I am adopted,&& dk my bio fam at all! but,every single time that I attempt to get closer to my adoptive family,I continuously get rejected! it has been this way for my whole,entire life! so,now,I've just resorted to staying in my own bubble,&& fully withdrawing simply to try to "cope!"💯
It sounds like they don't deserve you and you are better off without them. Stay strong!!
Andrea, I am so sorry that you have experienced such rejection. The lady in this video does not seem to realize how much hurt you would open yourself up to if you continually reach out once a year……in my opinion. If I had gone thru it, I personally would handle it a little differently, IF I were a Christian. From the GetGo, most likely I would have asked their forgiveness for whatever they held against me. If there were silence, then from that point forward, everything from me would be in prayer to God. I would not beg God to have them get in touch or to miraculously love you. I would only do one thing, which will be hard…..at first. I would ask God to “ bless them “. Bless their finances, bless their spiritual growth, bless their health, bless them with friends, bless them with God’s wisdom, discernment, knowledge,and compassion. ANYTHING that crosses your mind……bless them with that. Yes, it will be difficult. You probably will never know if there have been changes. However, just by your doing this day after day, year after year, you will find that you truly DO want them to be blessed. And this will, in turn, bless YOU. Your ingrained feelings of rejection will slowly slide away and give you total peace. But, this must be done and continued with the attitude of not expecting anything in return. Hard ? Yes, but you will receive a blessing from God that you cannot contain, dear.
Dr. Phil says, "You never drop your end of the rope" - ?? What if grown child hired an attorney to threaten lawsuit and/or restraining order if I should attempt contact again? Then I heard through an in-law that my son is telling his girls that his step mother is his mother and their grand mother. Sounds like the end to me.
The only one who NEVER changes is Jesus Christ. He’s the same yesterday, today and forever. Society is focused on self. After years of estrangement from my adult children I now have a relationship with them. It was through prayer and faith in Christ that brought us back together.
Some of this is because of narcissistic parents.
The grandchildren are used in this process. I am there if they need a babysitter or to clean their homes. I am there for my kids because I want to be able to see my grandchildren.
Public schooling groomed my vulnerable daughter into gender confusion and entitlement to life unearned and living with 2 boyfriends rent free on my disability pay. That's over but my sorrow is that my daughter will also make the wrong eternal choice and there will be no heavenly reunion.
Speaking of estrangement, what happened to Morning on Merit Street? I miss those great women and can’t find their show.
It would appear Govt has intentionally divided families
Absolutely! For decades!
You can’t change others so I just don’t get how this solves anything. You can only be responsible for yourself and your own behavior. I find a lot of this to center around self absorption 🤷🏻♀️
That man psychiatrist is absolutely wrong!!! The demise of families is directly related to no Jesus in the family!!! God is the most important element in the family ~
27 hours? how SAD!
I love my kids! I will not conform to certain lifestyles to be accepted.
So you do without your child in your life.
Keep your heart open.
Then you are an idiot… what you feel about certain lifestyles doesn’t matter to anyone but you…
I have no contact with any of my family. Except one full sister and she's kind of a mess. I have no contact with aunts And uncles, as they die off, and I Have two half brothers and two have sisters, no contact. My dad cheated on my 2 brothers mom with my mom and that's where me and my sister came in and I guess they blame me and my sister for existing. to me It's very immature, and there are things I want to know about my dad that I will never get to know Because he died when I was 6 and because of their insecurities. You would think that there would have been some curiosity from them over the decades, as they're in their sixties and seventies now, but still, I grew up with no dad and no brothers like I should have. I grew up with note real, have sisters As they were in their own lives and almost never made contact. I have always wondered. I have always wanted to know. I Don't even know where they're at, but had thought of finding them and showing up on their doorstep, but I fear fifty three years of pain coming up when they shut the door in my face. Human beings are garbage.
Yet, financially speaking is it fair an estranged child receives equal $ from a will.
I'm gonna chime in here and say it's not one or another - I think not teaching your children to respect and honor your as a parent is essential. this assumes they are honorable of course.