Dr. Phil: Mother & Daughter Confront Each Other After 23 YEARS | Merit Street Media
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- Опубліковано 7 вер 2024
- Join us for a special episode of Dr. Phil Primetime as we delve into the emotional journey of a mother and daughter estranged for 23 years. Can they mend their relationship? Watch to find out.
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Policial differences is a part of my son's disappearance , I'm glad Dr.Phil brought that up.
Wow! Very unfortunate.
Are you Republican?
Ikr ! Same here ! I was a lefty my whole life my whole family was until 2019 when I went to prove I’m right and oh boy I was shocked to find how wrong I was how brainwashed I became without realizing it so now half my family awake thank god but not everyone god bless us all
People put their feelings on a throne. They are most important, most valuable, leading every decision in their lives. 🙄
I'm 45 and my 28 year old daughter did this to me a year and a half ago when she got married. It's devastating. It killed me. It still kills me. She cut almost everyone out of her life. We were best friends before he came along. I admit I yelled at her for lying to me about her elopement, it hurt. But she just cut ties instead of allowing me to apologize. She did finally add me back on FB recently. I will never understand. My Mom allowed my stepdad to abuse me, but I forgave her and moved on. My daughter didn't have that kind of a trauma. Just a kid raising a kid. I wasn't perfect and I never had good parenting examples, but I tried the best I could. I miss her and love her so much.
I feel you.
Oh I feel your pain Momma.
I have 1 of 5 out of the fold.
It is heartbreaking 💔
Lots of red flags here. Especially in the statement “we were best friends before he came along”.
“We were best friends…” - sorry- you supposed to be the parent , not a friend . Maybe that is a part of the problem
@@s.f.2158 exactly!
I miss my son and granddaughter. 😢 Been almost 2 years. He didn't even call when my mom died. He changed his address and phone number. I'm 67. My ❤ is broken.
I’m sorry 😢May I ask why?
@lab4389 Why? What happened?. Sorry to hear of your situation.
She has three kids and is estranged from all three - - very telling.
This is not just a gen z thing. I am 62 and I had to go no contact years ago.
No one is saying that it didn't happen in older generations. It's much more prevalent in the younger generations though.
@@libbybarrett1268 not necesarily. Now we know more about it because of the internet.
@@strangesister Word of mouth was still huge. Communities, families, friends, schools. It wasn't near as much of a thing or you would have definitely have heard about it because it would have been considered a huge thing. It would have been really hard to hide, even without the internet.
@@libbybarrett1268 word of mouth was as big sure, but you wouldn't know of adult children stranged from parents in a different town, city, state or country.
Besides, things change with time and we have words and bigger communities, more social studies, etc.
@@strangesister Well back in the day people were far less nomadic. They stayed pretty close to home and it wasn't unusual for them to stay in the same town as adults so yes, it still would have been really hard to hide. It would have shown up. If Jr. quits coming to the neighborhood Christmas party every year people absolutely would have known what was going on because again, this sort of thing would have been considered a much bigger deal than it is now. I never said it didn't happen, I said it was much less prevalent back in the day and I'm not wrong. It was far less prevalent.
Got in an argument with someone once about a serving bowl, then I yelled "we both know its not about the bowl!" Lordy
The fact that all 3 of her children don't allow her into their lives speaks VOLUMES.
HUGE red flag!! Mom needs to look in the mirror.
You have NO,idea what you are talking bout! None! You take a look,in,the,mirror and what you,listen to on ALL your social media sites feeding you BS! Grow up…stop just adulting! Be a real Adult! When you really someone there for,you,it so ill be your parents NOT your friends.
@@mbr5270learn to speak English and try again
@@willmichael4033🙄
That is certainly possible. There is strength in numbers and on the surface it doesn't look good for mom. However, there is another possibility. When a narc can't control you, they want to control how others see you so let the smear campaign begin. The daughter may have gone behind mom's back to her siblings and ran a smear campaign. Image is everything to a narc. A successful smear campaign gives a narc control (the siblings have been manipulated over to the narc's side), which gives them validation and supply. Sometimes this works and other times it doesn't. It depends on the dynamic between the siblings. It is possible to manipulate siblings and yes, more than one too.Of course, we'll never know. If the daughter is the narc and not the mother than there will likely be no "golden child" so there's that to consider. Narcs are master manipulators so just because there is more than one child estranged does not necessarily mean that it's the parent.
I am from Africa, this almost never happen except the child is wayward or there is an abusive relationship.
Dang if my mom was balling, telling the world that she wants to understand & willing to do anything I’d ❤ a mom like that! Wow!
No abuse? No emotional abuse? No violence toward her dad? No physical abuse from your mom?
I think she may be cutting out the wrong person.
My mom’s DEAD SILENCE speaks volumes.
As did her barting my anxiety med for her muscle relaxer while having a pulmonary embolism after a complete mastectomy.
That’s so not normal
What Lynn is telling the world is full of lies.
I am married to Lynn's youngest son/Amy's brother.
Lynn put on a show for the camera. Amy has made numerous attempts to fix things prior to filming and since filming and gets pushed away by Lynn each time. Lynn refuses to go to therapy with Amy to work on their relationship.
Lynn is cutting Amy out & has cut her other children along with her 6 siblings out.
Lynn is the problem.
@@xoCinnabunnoxwow!!
See how easy I fell for it?
Now Lynne is probably acting exactly like my mom to strangers.
Wow I’m so sorry..
I too was a child of a narcissistic mom & toxic childhood.
I cut them out to save myself & my family now
@@xoCinnabunnox So something is not connecting the dots in her emotional mind. We bless them and remind them how much they are loved. It does not mean we have to have a relationship with them but we just continuously remind them how wonderful, strong and powerful they are.
I know this cause I did it with my own mother who was just a complete brat and was very much like Lynn. My mother also lost many friendships and people close to her walked away.
After many years of being a very difficult person she had an awakening of some sort and her whole way of being just changed for the better which helped reawaken our relationship.
What helped was I never once condemned her for her actions. I never took it personally. It was her demons not mine so I never took them on. Yes, I had stepped away for 10 years but I didn't cut her out completely.
I always remained in communication. I always called at least once or twice a month. I'd send her cards and flowers on important dates and wrote great things to her. I'd always remind her that my doors were always open.
Again, I didn't take anything personally. I didn't take her behavior or complaints or negativity toward us personally. I knew it was never about me or anyone else.
My mother is now 90 and we are close. She is experiencing dementia and is reverting to some of her old ways. It's okay. I'm there a couple of times a week to help her out. One of my siblings still can't get over the hurt she felt. That's her loss.
I see this as a lack of emotional maturity and poor communication skills.
Yeah right the mother is reversing the situation I can tell already the mom is a gas lighter she's acting like the victim and right now that's a great supply for her she has all the attention the audience and Dr Phil
This mom IS narcistic. I, I, I...thats all i hear out of her mouth. She's good at playing martyr, too. I dont fall for this. Mamma drama is a great reason to walk away. It will literally exhaust you and cause friction in your own family. It's toxic. All of these moms..."why did she do this to ME?" Well maybe they had a good reason.
People don't cut ties unless it becomes unbearable. To minimize it as a hissy fit, or "hurt feelings" is utter drivel and you shame yourself with the comparison.
there is ZERO obligation to allow ANY TOXIC individual in your life,whatsoever.....family,or not.....is completely irrelevant! ALWAYS PROTECT YOUR PEACE!💯
Heres my question: did the parents really abuse, gaslight, and neglect them? Or did their parents correct and discipline them and hurt their feelings and they are, in essence, throwing a grown up temper tantrum?
With that said, I have been estranged from my parents more than once in times past because of the issues (mental emotional, and spiritual) that they refuse to deal with! Amy doesnt specify why she was estranged from her Mother in the first place. But with that said, if you were to bring my Mom onto the show, she would be crying and probably not know why she was there! So, there has to be more to this story! Something had to have happened, more than just a baby shower issue! I cant figure it out here!
At the end of the episode, I realized that given the fact that none of her 3 children talk to her, Im willing to bet there was some type of abuse or neglect in their upbringing! The daughter seems deeply hurt over something but she won't bring it up!
The mother withdraws when her feelings are hurt and defensively refuses to communicate. It's a manipulative power play through which she ultimately causes herself more pain. I had a grandmother who stubbornly played this game. She was a "right fighter" and expected everyone to beg for her forgiveness. How can you resolve issues with someone who refuses to consider the other person's viewpoint and refuses to communicate?
Look at how Baby Boomers was raised. I'm 69 still love my mom And dad because God told me to love all people 💕 ❤️. Middle kid of 5 girls. Didn't feel loved growing up but that's kids feeling. I now mom and dad love me.
IF the daughter wants her mom in her life,then just do it! There is nothing that says mom and spouse must like each other or be FB friends 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️. Good grief time to grow up! Stop letting your wife’s feeling determine how,you,treat your mother! The wife IS the problem here…
Im close to the family….-and Amy has begged Lynn to just let agree to diagree and truly wants her in her life. She was flat out told by Lynn after the show that ahe had zero interest in having a relationship with her. She was given a 5 page hand written rant of a letter from Lynn basically turning every disagreement they have ever had into a bashing session for Amy. Who does that to their daughter that is actually TRYING to have a relationship with you? A narcissist. Plain and simple.
The wife is supportive of them having a relationship….but the mom refuses.
@@jennm1021Wow! Is this true??
@@HopefulInterventions unfortunately, 100% true
@@jennm1021 Mom is the problem the common denominator.
What you doing You only have one mother My mother died When I was 39 years old She been gone for 34 years zi miss her so much You better take up all the time you can with her anything happens to her You will be sorry 🙏
If you don't want your children to turn your backs on you , then you should do better parenting and realize where you went wrong and own up to it then fix it. Most people don't want to change themselves.They want you to accept them for what they are.This is why most people can't handle their parents.
Ephesians 6:1-3 AMP
[1] Children, obey your parents in the Lord [that is, accept their guidance and discipline as His representatives], for this is right [for obedience teaches wisdom and self-discipline]. [2] Honor [esteem, value as precious] your father and your mother [and be respectful to them]-this is the first commandment with a promise- [3] so that it may be well with you, and that you may have a long life on the earth.
Please be advised that this is not a mere request, but rather a firm commandment. It is imperative that you refrain from engaging with individuals who encourage you to exhibit disrespectful or disobedient behavior towards your parents.
I acknowledge that there may be instances where you find it challenging to agree with your parents' decisions. However, as long as they are fulfilling their responsibilities by providing for your well-being and refraining from causing physical or emotional harm, it is essential that you cultivate a respectful attitude towards them.
Bla bla bla.
Mother mother against daughter daughter against mother the same thing with father and son and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
So many families are torn apart, because one of them have married a narcissistic, manipulative person. This is their MO.
Sorry…not the case here. There is SO much that this episode did not cover. I am close to the family and can tell everyone first hand…this has nothing to do with the spouse. This is about communication and Lynn refusing to do so. Amy has practically BEGGED her mom to talk to her since they got back and Lynn shut her down every time.
@@jennm1021Yes, Lynn appears to be hyper sensitive and controls situations by withdrawing rather than discussing and resolving them.
So, the reason of their estrangement is caused by the daughter's toxic spouse
Triangulation is a problem here. Amy should not have been involved in the situation. Her wife should have found a way to straighten things out with Lynn, her mother-in-law. Lynn's feelings are easily hurt and she protects herself and regains control through use of the silent treatment and blocking on social media. Lynn needs help with emotional self-regulation and communication in order to avoid future problems.
I think the mom wants a relationship with her children and grandchildren but not their spouses. She expects to be #1 in their lives because she gave birth to them and plays the victim when confronted.
Why would she be close with their spouses? Relationships can take time to develop
The mother is allowed boundaries too. Boundaries aren't just for sons and daughters.
@@kathybrem880 Of course they can.
But, I am married to one of Lynn's son's. Her son and I have been in a relationship for 10 years now. We haven't spoken to Lynn in almost 4yrs (shortly after our son was born)
In the past 10yrs she's only tried to push me away. She's never tried to get to know me & when I've started those "get to know you" conversations she's told me I'm wrong - wrong about experiences I've had in my own life. 🤔
At the dinner table, she's brought up topics my husband and her disagree about just to start a fight.
She wants everyones beliefs to match hers and when they don't she removes them from her life.
I've reached out to her in the past 4yrs- asking to move forward so my child can know his grandma and she's refused to do so.
@xoCinnabunnox i had a sneaking suspicion she had these tendencies. I see classic gaslighting, martyr and narcism. Dr. Phil is trying to pull the wool over our eyes in the hope of healing families. But the stories go much deeper. I so related to the daughter here. My mom is good at playing the same game. We tried several times to make somewhat of a relationship over the past 28 years. She doesn't change and she doesn't meet me in the middle. She doesn't TRY. She pulls silent treatments and petty moves. And bad mouths me to my brothers and extended family. I'm sorry for your family. I know your pain.
@@staceyw.6608 thank you. I'm sorry that your Mom is the same way.
It's been quite the adventure being a part of this family. But, at the end of the day my husband & Amy get along great. Amy's wife is a wonderful person and all of our kids are great together. We may not have the Lynn around which can be hard emotionally but we've all realized or are working on realizing that it's better not to have that relationship & are working on building a healthy relationship with our kids.
It's happemig to me...over 2 years now. I wonder if Adderol has an effect? Would like to see a study on this. I believe it made my daughter mean.
Boo hoo my mom doesn't like my spouse. What will she think when her daughter does the same exact thing to her...
That woman is a giant baby and needs to grow up! That poor mom wants to be in her daughters life and the daughter is so selfish!
Please read Lynn's other daughter-in-law's comments in the answers above. Lynn is clearly the problem here, prioritizing her own feelings and need to control through withdrawal.
This is what happens when JESUS is left outside your home.
Except when it happens in devout Chrustian households. You are unaware of how pervasive this problem is.
Maybe at your house
Mom may be passive aggressive
The "wife" is messy, manipulative and also passive aggressive