Thai husband opens up about his difficult childhood. Beautiful and raw emotions.

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  • Опубліковано 13 лип 2023
  • Have you ever felt overwhelmed with memories from your childhood while visiting your parents' home? Mon was dealing with a lot when we were filming a cooking video at his parents' home. All the difficult memories were flooding him in every corner of the house. And finally, we decided to make a video about that, instead of the original cooking video.
    This is a video full of real, raw emotion, no filters! Mon is willing to open up and tell the whole world about his difficult childhood and hopefully inspire more people to open up and share their deepest feelings instead of keeping everything bottled up inside the way most of us have been conditioned.
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  • @margriet5004
    @margriet5004 Рік тому +109

    It takes a real man to be vulnerable in front of others, it takes a strong women to accept these emotions and give support. You are both amazing, wonderful and inspirational people. Thank you for sharing❤

  • @katewainwright
    @katewainwright Рік тому +78

    Mon, you should know that you're breaking a cycle of violence that's probably been going on for many generations, and you are doing it out of pure love for your children. The kids seem so happy and free. Thank you for sharing your story, and keep going!

  • @Tammy-gf1fw
    @Tammy-gf1fw Рік тому +55

    Thank you for sharing the raw real emotions. Childhood trauma shouldn’t be a stigma. This isn’t talked about enough. You’re doing the right thing Mon. Like you said, it’s a lifetime of healing. Sending lots of hugs!

    • @SweetLifeLanta
      @SweetLifeLanta  Рік тому +8

      Thank you Tammy, I'm so impressed with Mon. It takes so much courage, even though you're right, everyone should be able to talk about their struggles. But somehow, we don't. ❤❤❤

  • @marionwallsten7507
    @marionwallsten7507 Рік тому +53

    Mon has the most beautiful smile ever. A very handsome and loving man!😊

  • @ziontours5893
    @ziontours5893 Рік тому +16

    Often verbal abuse can be equally as hurtful as physical abuse. It also leaves scars.
    Very brave of Mon to deal with his childhood scars.

  • @catchyname5403
    @catchyname5403 Рік тому +41

    Such a touching story. I’m sorry for your pain Mon.
    I too was hit as a child. Beat with objects, kicked, drowned, choked punched, dragged by my hair , had my head banged on the floor and told some ugly words repeatedly. I was an unwanted child and my parent made sure I knew how miserable I made their life, how much they hated me and how I would never be anything good in this world.
    You’re so right children are not our monkey’s. Children are to be loved, cared for and treated with purpose.
    You have grown to be such an emotionally intelligent man, good husband and father, this world is a better place because you are in it.
    Thank you for being so vulnerable showing the world the long term pain abuse causes.
    Blessing to your beautiful family always!!! 💚

  • @BarbaraC02
    @BarbaraC02 Рік тому +74

    Hello! So glad you made this video, it really brought back old memories. Mon, yes, I too was hit a lot when I was young. The last time my dad took a belt to me I was 17. I begged him to stop. He started to cry and told me he was upset with mom. That was the last time. I have forever been carrying the pain of my youth and have buried it under lots of overachieving and activities. Thank you for sharing, I've become aware of something about myself tonight. I sincerely appreciate you two and your adorable babies. I am so happy you have made different choices for your children. Thanks.

    • @SweetLifeLanta
      @SweetLifeLanta  Рік тому +16

      Thank you my dear Barbara for sharing your feelings and experiences with us.

    • @barbmoore6587
      @barbmoore6587 Рік тому +9

      Dearest Barb from another wounded Barb...I send you peace and love from a far...I too grew brutally...64 now attachment severely affects me...avoident 😢let's heal with this beautiful couple ...as we feel his pain,still !

    • @BarbaraC02
      @BarbaraC02 Рік тому +3

      @@barbmoore6587 Yes! Mon touched me deeply with his sharing. I appreciate them so much. Thank you, we'll keep working on our healing.

    • @elaandersson5888
      @elaandersson5888 Рік тому +5

      Many hugs from Elisabeth🤗❤

    • @loveoracle8797
      @loveoracle8797 Рік тому +5

      That spoke to me. My dad took out his anger toward my mum on me too.

  • @Wurd2yaMutha
    @Wurd2yaMutha Рік тому +45

    It takes courage to face our fears and pain. Sending good and comforting vibes to Mon :)

  • @lynettebaker7547
    @lynettebaker7547 Рік тому +12

    Mon, I feel your childhood pain, I can understand how you wouldn't dare repeat that same behavior, it takes a good man to change the cycle, and you are that man, be proud of who you are.❤

  • @betsylindsay8480
    @betsylindsay8480 Рік тому +29

    Looking forward to getting to know Mon better. Y’all are such a loving, REAL, emotionally, and intellectually strong family. Thank you for sharing parts of your lives with us. ❤

    • @SweetLifeLanta
      @SweetLifeLanta  Рік тому +10

      Thank you so much lovely lady. This one is a real special one.

  • @lissettemaldonado2581
    @lissettemaldonado2581 Рік тому +21

    Mon is good to talk about what your feeling even if it’s emotions that you blocked for many years. Your wife is genuine and It’s so beautiful to see how she supports and Loves you so much. Mon it’s great to hear that you don’t want to be like your parents were with you. Be the change you want to see in life. That’s awesome. Thank you for sharing because many people know exactly where your coming from. God Bless ✝️❤️🙏

  • @catherinaballerina7483
    @catherinaballerina7483 Рік тому +39

    It can be, pardon my language, such an emotional mindf*ck to be abused by a parent and then still continue to have a relationship with them as well. It's a very personal thing and I can really empathize with Mon here. He's such a good dad breaking the cycle and you guys are such wonderful parents and partners to each other. You must feel really proud of Mon for the vulnerability here and the strength with which he worked through such a difficult childhood and triggering moments. Thank you for this video! 😍🥰

  • @dottieparker7274
    @dottieparker7274 Рік тому +12

    I know exactly how Mon feels. Both my parents were alcoholic, and they'd become violent all the time when they drank. Holidays were the worst, and to this day I loathe Christmas. That stuff stays with you, deep in your bones. 🙏

  • @gracecollado5232
    @gracecollado5232 Рік тому +3

    that is so deep - "i'm one of his monkeys, not in chains but in his chain" i teared up hearing this!

  • @Nessyk01
    @Nessyk01 Рік тому +13

    I also had a rough childhood but now I can see the stress my parents were under… 4 kids to clothe and feed with lack of money puts a strain on people and they deal with it how they can… all we can do is break the cycle … thanks Mon , that took guts ❤️

    • @equatorialjourney4478
      @equatorialjourney4478 Рік тому +5

      Parents of every preceding generation are as much a victim of their own parenting, cultural traditions and religious blueprints & are caught up in their own ‘mouse wheel ‘ of fulfilling their own gender /religiously defined duties . Esp in cultures where obedience is paramount . The monkeys and caged birds situation is just a small example of continuing a tradition without questioning the whys and wherefores . One thing we know for sure is that each subsequent generation will STILL pass on a not so pleasant legacy of some sort or other to their own kids despite vowing to change things that happened to them . The old song “ every generation blames the one before .... ‘ Very commendable of Mon and Mayan is v emotionally intelligent & supportive but as sure as night follows day the pendulum continues to swing and their own kids will still take issue with something or other despite the very best of intentions to break cycles . And ‘the beat goes on ‘ and on and on and on .

    • @viet862
      @viet862 Рік тому

      @@equatorialjourney4478Absolutely in agreement. In the midst of handling this myself with my parents and my children. I feel wedged in between.

  • @traceinoz3159
    @traceinoz3159 Рік тому +16

    Watching from Australia. Deeply touched by your raw honesty.

  • @fiona4324
    @fiona4324 Рік тому +12

    Sad 😢 that we all have triggers. Thank you Mon for being so raw and real.

  • @CoolInOlympia
    @CoolInOlympia Рік тому +10

    I think it is amazing that Mon has overcome his childhood by being absolutely committed to living a better life for himself, his relationship and his kids!!! To be absolutely committed to raising his kids in a different way and creating a life that is completely different and happy and positive!!! That takes such courage and strength! Congratulations Mon for creating a happy life for you all! I am sure it is a daily struggle and even a minute by minute struggle, some times!

  • @sherrieh2062
    @sherrieh2062 Рік тому +7

    Mon…the pain & trauma are real from physical punishment. I was not only hit with my parent’s hands but with a belt across my bare bottom when I was little. It caused me both physical and mental distress. It triggered me for a lifetime. But they believed that that was how to discipline a child.
    Your children will grow up healthier if you set boundaries and make consequences if they don’t abide by your wishes. You don’t need to use physical force to get them to obey your wishes…you just need to sit them down and say, “ if you don’t listen and obey, I will have to take away privileges.” After a while, they’ll know you are serious. Your wife should do the same for consistency.

    • @SweetLifeLanta
      @SweetLifeLanta  Рік тому +1

      I'm so sorry you had to go through this like Mon. So painful. Thanks for sharing ❤❤❤

  • @NuggetThailand
    @NuggetThailand Рік тому +30

    Left me a bit speechless. Such an honest and open discussion about feelings and triggers. Takes a big person to do that and should be more of it. Thanks for the honesty.

  • @janetneo4272
    @janetneo4272 Рік тому +5

    During my childhood days i also watching my parents fight all the times. Now i am older I dont like people argue or fight.Thanks for sharing.

  • @Consecrated2Him7
    @Consecrated2Him7 Рік тому +11

    Wow Mon, I got tears in my eyes as I watched you and listened to your story of your childhood . I hear you and understand the feelings - you are very brave and courageous to speak so openly about your experiences and maybe by speaking about it in the open, you may receive some healing from your past 💕🙏

  • @marycaruso3846
    @marycaruso3846 Рік тому +7

    Yes, that’s how we’re raised.

  • @danadecore6872
    @danadecore6872 2 місяці тому +1

    It sure doesn’t matter what country culture race or religion WE ARE PEOPLE! You are so wise beyond your years about things our parents just never got in touch with! God bless you for being open and sharing ❤

  • @ornakenan5261
    @ornakenan5261 Рік тому +11

    This was powerful and beautiful! Thank you, Mon!

  • @christineviking1578
    @christineviking1578 Рік тому +12

    Mon, I feel your pain and truly admire the man you are today.
    We all have our triggers, and even when we become aware of these, it is difficult to not react as we did as a child. We can learn to be kind to ourselves, recognizing how emotionally alone and unsupported we were as children.
    I somatically picked up on all the difficulties between my parents and acted out as a result. And yes, I was hit by my father.

  • @michellemoolcharan1228
    @michellemoolcharan1228 Рік тому +3

    Mon is the perfect example of a man, husband, father and son.
    Always smiling… no matter what life deals him, always loving to his wife, children and parents, always wise, multi talented, wears his heart on his sleeve, a wonderful sense of humour coupled with immense humility.
    This Lanta family is awesome and an incredible role model for all families in this millennium

  • @pierremiriam
    @pierremiriam Рік тому +5

    Thank you for sharing Mon’s unhappy memories. Getting beaten or hit as children when we grew up was normal if we did something wrong. Our parents would do that with a cane on our thighs and calves. It was not only our parents but our classmates’ parents too. Braised meat with cane we joked amongst classmates. As for our teachers, they would use a thick wooden ruler which every classroom had one. If we didn’t finish our homework, or if we talked in class, we would be asked to go in front of the whole class, stretch out our arm with open palm. Yes, they would hit our palm with that ruler, how many times? It was up to them. Not the writing hand of course, it hurt like hell, sometimes swollen. That being said, never have us experienced slapping on the face which could damage one’s eye or ear.

  • @user-ec4py4ym2q
    @user-ec4py4ym2q Рік тому +9

    Empathise and understand the story told by Mon. Undoubtedly, our childhood has empacts on what kind of persons we are nowadays. Honesty is big and rare value. Love and hug you, guys.💗💗💗

  • @lagringa7518
    @lagringa7518 Рік тому +3

    You've gotta love Mon.... one of the few who has chosen to break the chains of his past and choose a healthier life for everyone in his family... awareness is the first step on the path to freedom! Big Hug Mon 🤗🥰

  • @Vonsat
    @Vonsat Рік тому +3

    Aw, I feel so sad for the monkeys, too. I wish they could have some freedom once in a while but I guess that's the way it is. Growing up, I also had strict parents and things can get pretty rough sometimes so I understand what Mon went through.

  • @sofiamiliaressis5403
    @sofiamiliaressis5403 Рік тому +12

    Hi guys. Our emotional and environmental upbringings make us who we are today. I look forward to hearing Mons perspective. I can also see that he is a well rounded person in many respects and that his life since meeting Mayaan, home & business have had a positive effect on him.
    I look forward to hearing the knowledge he has gained in this thing we call life!
    Cheers
    Sofia

  • @stellawilliams9303
    @stellawilliams9303 11 місяців тому +1

    Mon, you are amazing, I feel your pain and cry the same tears, me and my brother and sisters were bullied and beaten by our father, it was difficult to love him, when he would hit me, I hated him, I felt, ashamed and embarrassed, he died a couple of years ago, he shared with me that his biological father never acknowledged him as his son, so Dad took it out on his wife, my mum and his children, it took him 70 years to acknowledge it, he never said sorry to us, we are still healing from the heart ache this caused 🙏😔, but we keep getting up and keep going, thankyou for your sharing

  • @riz915
    @riz915 Рік тому +7

    I feel you Mon.. I'm sorry what you went through in ur past. Sometimes i know its really hurt to look back at the past. But its alright Mon probably it meant to be in that way...but now look at you.. ur such a beautiful father and a husband. The most beautiful thing Mon is ur wife is always there for you to feel you. Maintain the great love u have..Deep in my heart i believe ur such a beautiful great soul. I'm always there for you if u need someone to talk too Mon.. Love you guys alot and stay in touch and keep smiling ❤

    • @SweetLifeLanta
      @SweetLifeLanta  Рік тому +3

      Thank you Riz. We are lucky to have such supportive and kind viewers like you.

    • @riz915
      @riz915 Рік тому

      @@SweetLifeLanta Anytime ✌️

  • @celia5893
    @celia5893 Рік тому +6

    Thanks for your courage to talk about your difficult memories and show what real life is like there. I was surprised to see the monkeys! When you said you didn't want your childhood family dynamics to be the same when you grew up and had your own family, I really related to that. This was a great therapy session, haha. Big love to your family.

  • @TimezoneJunkies
    @TimezoneJunkies Рік тому +8

    Thank you guys for a beautiful video! It's amazing to hear a South East Asian man speak about his childhood traumas. This is so unusual in this part of the world. Just want to add that mental abuse is as bad as physical abuse and we need to remember that and the smallest thing can cause traumas that stick with us as adults and we have no idea. Much love and keep speaking truth 😘

    • @viet862
      @viet862 Рік тому

      It is a very common parenting thing in Asia in general , that we grew up in . Surprisingly this way of life still exists . A cycle of life that follows sadly

  • @mariacusackfogarty
    @mariacusackfogarty Рік тому +1

    Mon should be so proud to have spoken the truth of how his childhood has impacted on him as an adult, especially to speak with such emotion. This is the reality of life but not many have the courage to show the unfiltered version of it. Mon does not need to be the happy, dancing man at all times to gain viewers appreciation. In fact, in my opinion, Mon has shown his inner strength to say 'this is me, with all my emotion & this is me with all my pain inside, accept me or not'. Congratulations on a wonderful video M & M xxx

  • @JohnKattt
    @JohnKattt Рік тому +2

    Hello friends....I am 76 years old and still remembered getting hit by my father with his belt. I used to hate him...but later in my life I forgave him. But the memory is still fresh in my head...so sad . I don't HATE , but I just share my LOVE. You guys are a blessed family.

  • @uamiable
    @uamiable Рік тому +3

    This felt raw and real, sad how children, birds and monkey are treated… captured.

    • @uamiable
      @uamiable Рік тому

      Beautiful cooking, good feeling this.

  • @dagmarwei4633
    @dagmarwei4633 Рік тому +7

    Thank you very much for this unfiltered video- i can feel Mons pain- the art is to let go and to forgive. I think the old people are traumatized in their own way by their stories or by their parents and have passed it on- that justifies the behavior not- but it helps to understand their behavior- it would be interesting to find out how Mons parents grew up- maybe there will be a video about it one day. And Mon you can just let go of this part and take only the good parts- the wonderful recipes and life in nature despite captive birds and monkeys. Everything has made you the wonderful person you are- you can reflect on yourself and recognize things- you are full of empathy and freedom, have a big heart full of love and behind the most beautiful, honest laugh that you have, there are exactly these tears of your childhood. This video touched me deeply and today a hug goes out to you- have a wonderful time ❤❤

  • @michelleotani8901
    @michelleotani8901 Рік тому +2

    It’s great that Mon has you to help break the cycle of emotional abuse he got from his father….each new generation should learn from the bad and make a difference, make a change for the positive. Respect for our elders is earned, if they did not treat their children well, then respect should not be given automatically…..give Mon a big hug for us! ❤️

  • @stephenfisher3721
    @stephenfisher3721 Рік тому +1

    When I watched the earlier video, I was thinking how lucky Mon was to have grown up in paradise. Now we know it was far from paradise.

    • @SweetLifeLanta
      @SweetLifeLanta  Рік тому

      No paradise on this earth 😅😅😅❤❤❤

  • @magee1278
    @magee1278 Рік тому +3

    After seeing what Mon had to go through with strict parents, it is now good to see it is easier to realize and heal in your mind and heart. Mon has the best smile, the biggest heart and so many strengths, gifts and talents.
    The biggest "pay-off" was getting to choose the best wife for him. When he knew Maayan was "the ONE", it became a blessing that the Universe knew would happen....made for each other!! Mon knew it was you Maayan!!
    Maayan has lots of empathy and knows how to comfort your when triggers happen. The way you share your feelings, thoughts and chats make it all worthwhile. You have a family now that will have it easier because you are more open to thinking what needs to help or fix the problem.
    I love your family and I know you will live happily ever after.....💖🥰

  • @cynthialewis7460
    @cynthialewis7460 5 місяців тому

    Freedom from trauma has no shame. Thank you Mon for being true and sharing your experience that will help others share and heal also. You are breaking chains by not letting those chains affect your family and by not repeating them.

    • @SweetLifeLanta
      @SweetLifeLanta  5 місяців тому +1

      Thank you so much for your support.

  • @stephenfisher3721
    @stephenfisher3721 Рік тому +2

    I had wondered how it was so easy for Mon to give up his religion and eat pork without disgust. Now it makes complete sense. Many people who leave their religions were abused.

  • @yolandarobertson9154
    @yolandarobertson9154 Рік тому +3

    So looking forward to this, was very surprised to see him get so upset with the kids in the last live broadcast, was just not like I know him

  • @traceygilligan1201
    @traceygilligan1201 Рік тому +4

    Wow, Mon thank you for sharing this powerful video. So sorry that you endured pain as a child, and are triggered by this. You are breaking this cycle, and by working through these difficult memories, they will not repeat for your children. Mon this powerful video seemed like therapy. Bless you Mon, Mayan, and children, you are all Amazing to bring this video, and you cooked a whole meal too. Thank you 🙏🏽

  • @jlogsdon1540
    @jlogsdon1540 Місяць тому

    Mon is so real. Sometimes you have to get things off your chest. Much love. ❤️

  • @flatflyeroz
    @flatflyeroz Рік тому +6

    I cried with Mon..... at least he now has a family and can do a better job at raising his beautiful kids without them having trauma.

  • @clipsofdogs7273
    @clipsofdogs7273 Рік тому

    Mon, you changed the parenting skills and broke the circle of abuse with your own children. Well done.

  • @riannekrielaart6878
    @riannekrielaart6878 Рік тому +4

    Zo mooi gedaan, zo'n sterk en emotioneel verhaal en dan met die beelden bij Mons ouders. Ik voelde de spanning door het scherm heen daar. En het is iets waar we allemaal veel van kunnen leren, dit verdient een groot publiek!

  • @ItsJojiJoj
    @ItsJojiJoj Рік тому

    I’m sorry, mon, that you had to feel that hurt growing up and that it still holds pain in your heart now. To realize that you do not want to duplicate those behaviors towards your children and to recognize your triggers shows how much you’ve learned. It is people like you that break cycles. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your story.

  • @BeeGirlz
    @BeeGirlz Рік тому +3

    Thank you Mon for sharing your vulnerability, pain and hurt with us. I felt it and can relate. I grew up terrified of my alcoholic father. I have done a lot of therapy and a lot of healing. Despite my upbringing I have created a happy life for myself. Because I am worthy of that. Love seeing how compassionate and supportive you are Mayaan. Mon deserves that tenderness, to know that kind of love. To feel safe with you. Hugs and love to you both 💕

  • @yotzrimtheater9564
    @yotzrimtheater9564 Рік тому +4

    יש לך איש רגיש ומיוחד במינו שזכה באישה מיוחדת. מכאן זאת נראה זכייה אמיתית

  • @silviemarksilverstein3031
    @silviemarksilverstein3031 Рік тому +2

    You were amazing Mon in this video. So deep and raw. It takes a very special person of courage and strength to open up like you did Mon. I am a child of Holocaust survivors and have my own personal triggers from my childhood. I can really relate to your pain. May your personal journey bring you more peace within yourself. You inspire us all Mon. Thank you for this very moving video.❤❤❤❤👍👍😊😊

  • @juliadh2088
    @juliadh2088 Рік тому +2

    Such a raw and honest video. Many of us can probably recognize trauma related to our parents. To few people are open about it. Thank you

  • @positiveworld-view8677
    @positiveworld-view8677 Рік тому +2

    Start -10:26... Monkey's body language & facial expressions ...
    Oh dear heart....

  • @safourasalami
    @safourasalami Рік тому

    Thank you hero .. 🙏 Sometimes in our lives we need to cry and shout out loud 😢❤

  • @lisahamaz759
    @lisahamaz759 Рік тому +4

    I’m so touched that you opened up and shared your experience Mon. It’s not easy to be vulnerable and express what is inside. Often, I feel I don’t have words for my trauma and am just so impressed you are able to put it into words. You are so strong to make a beautiful life filled with love and realness despite these traumas. I feel often stuck with my childhood traumas and that I can’t move forward but you keep moving forward and putting one foot in front of the other each day. Mayaan and you so good for each other. You interact with each other so beautifully and the love and acceptance for each other is so clear to see. Thank you for sharing your life with us. Totally inspired by how you live your life. My favourite UA-cam channel. Sending love. Keep doing what you’re doing. Moving and shaking and dancing with your traumas Mon xxx

  • @Adianilb
    @Adianilb Рік тому

    As a kid I was hit by my parents a lot. My brother too! Today my mom is 73 and asked forgiveness from me because the way they behaved towards me and my brother. I told her that I forgave her long time ago! It is not her fault or my dad’s fault is the way they were raised and also sometimes stress situations make them behave like that. I am a mother today and I remember when I was younger I told them that I would never hit my kids because I don’t want them to feel the way I felt, but again it wasn’t their fault! I am thrilled and happy to see that even do your parents. We’re not perfect you still respect and honor them! ❤

  • @jaylenehawaii
    @jaylenehawaii 11 місяців тому

    Aloha Mom… you are remarkable… remember you are breaking the cycle that maybe your parents lived through themselves from their parent. Your children are blessed because of you..
    You both are an inspiration to many of us
    ALOHA with LOVE

  • @thanaang1455
    @thanaang1455 Рік тому +2

    Three most southern provinces of Thailand are very conservative Muslim community. Mon is just only few who liberated and wanted to have his own destiny, very impressed for his success! Very normal in Asian culture, my Dad hit my with stick when I was out of the rules, I felt sad but never got angry.

  • @lishek2878
    @lishek2878 Рік тому +2

    Mon, so sad to hear your story. It is amazing how you fight to be a good husband and dad for your children. I hope you feel proud of yourself. If not i hope you can feel in the future. It is real though to deal with patterns and trauma of the youth. Goodluck with everything!! Love from the Netherlands(my parents are from China)

  • @nadiarasamoely1970
    @nadiarasamoely1970 11 місяців тому

    I randomly end up on your channel from time to time, but each time I'm touched by your authenticity and kindness ! You both are pure joy to watch and listen ! Thanks for being so Human!

    • @SweetLifeLanta
      @SweetLifeLanta  11 місяців тому

      Wow what a lovely comment. Thanks for deciding to tell us how you feel. It means a lot! ❤️❤️❤️

  • @trishaprett7721
    @trishaprett7721 Місяць тому

    This is a very powerful video.I think many people understand what this man is experiencing.❤️

  • @vanhkeoprasert8111
    @vanhkeoprasert8111 9 місяців тому

    Thank you, Mon. Look at the positive side, your childhood made you who you are today: strong, a better father, independent, courageous, self-made man, and a great chef for the family. Yes. I have been whipped with a thin bamboo stick or anything that they can get their hands on to use as a weapon. It's called child abuse. However, it is called "discipline" in Thai/Laotian culture. Glad you survived and it made you a much better person. Plus, you found your soul made. Congrats!

  • @ninasaunders7565
    @ninasaunders7565 9 місяців тому

    I’m so moved by your story Mon. You are an amazing person, a very good son, a amazing husband and dad!

  • @nomadkiara
    @nomadkiara Рік тому

    To see a man with 2 kids already crying about being hit by his parents so many years ago…it hits me, it makes me sad, because I know the feeling, I know how he feels. But if you ever talk with parents generation about that, they will say, move on, it’s so many years ago, why are you still crying? Why can’t you forgive …at least that’s what happened to me. Thank you, for opening up and sharing! ❤

    • @SweetLifeLanta
      @SweetLifeLanta  Рік тому +1

      That's what Mon says too. That's why he chooses to open up on UA-cam but not to his parents.

  • @teenacallison8006
    @teenacallison8006 11 місяців тому

    Mon is trying so hard to keep his anger, I think he 😊 really cares x bless him

  • @edwardtumbaking2189
    @edwardtumbaking2189 Рік тому

    Love this release..being honest will heal in the end..very understanding wife indeed..great help in the process

  • @Teena-yi9xw
    @Teena-yi9xw Рік тому +1

    This video was so real.

  • @Meris_life
    @Meris_life 11 місяців тому

    Mon, what a touching video and thank you for sharing. I too was very abused and hit, but I grew up and broke the generational curse and did not do it with my family. It made you stronger and that’s why GOD blessed you with a good wife and children. Now your happy

  • @bunnycho102
    @bunnycho102 Рік тому

    Nice video.That is how we Asean most had this grown up like that.For Mon that is good to out burst your feelings to have an understanding wife counceling you.

  • @kirstireinholdtsen5844
    @kirstireinholdtsen5844 Рік тому

    Love him ! What a beautiful soul.

  • @sentimental48
    @sentimental48 Місяць тому

    Very powerful and very sad… it takes a real man to admit, what bothered him since his childhood … the cruelty of his father… I am aching for this “little, BIG man” what Mon was… His vulnerability made him real man, great partner, father to his children… Wow 😢

  • @eden_aumakua
    @eden_aumakua Рік тому +1

    Mon is raw and OPEN about his feelings.I almost thought Mon was going to release those birds! 💙Thank you so much for sharing your experience! Best to learn to release all of the triggers. Forgive oneself, all of our family and ancestors and be FREE.

    • @eden_aumakua
      @eden_aumakua Рік тому +1

      Also Mon is doing a fabulous job of changing patterns with his own children. Well-done!

  • @zaninovi
    @zaninovi Рік тому

    ❤ poor animals. Your husband is beautiful

  • @gigigarcia612
    @gigigarcia612 Рік тому

    Hi I am so proud of you. What we grew up with you can control and change to a better positive you. I too grew up with being be littled by my parents and scared to tell how I really feel. As children we have no choice as adults we have choices. I chose to cut out the negative people out of my life. I feel so much happier with my husband and children. God bless.

  • @wanpensootthane1649
    @wanpensootthane1649 Рік тому

    Mon’s face was so stress out until noticeable, really!!!คุณม่อน ผ่านมันมาได้ แล้ว และสิ่งนี้เลยเป็นแรงผลักดันให้คุณได้เจอทางที่ดีกว่า
    It pushed him to strive for the best, and now he is the best dad and caring husband naka

  • @erinjames4024
    @erinjames4024 11 місяців тому

    CHANGING THE WORLD HERE!!!

  • @cristinamarques8891
    @cristinamarques8891 Рік тому +2

    Sending love and understanding vibrations to Mon.. and to Mayan and your beautiful family! ❤😊

  • @winonawang4521
    @winonawang4521 10 місяців тому

    Watching this episode is an emotional journey. I respect you both, and it is amazing for you both to have each other and support each other. Life is tough, but those beautiful souls should survive in the end.

  • @TE-el5mw
    @TE-el5mw Рік тому +1

    We are very proud of you too! Sending you all Love from Israel

  • @duneshawalli678
    @duneshawalli678 Рік тому +1

    What an amazing family you guys are. I am also dealing with my childhood trauma. I am 50 years old and it’s a very difficult journey for me. So I know what you are going through. May Allah help you through this difficult situation. Salam and stay blessed ❤

  • @ady38
    @ady38 8 місяців тому

    The smile can sometimes be a mask..thanks Mon for taking the mask off..it gives us all courage to acknowledge our histories, our triggers and our unresolved pain. I loved the editing of this video which captured many different angles of the web of challenges we call family relationships. It was presented with compassion, understanding and wisdom. 🙏ขอบคุณมากครับเลย

    • @SweetLifeLanta
      @SweetLifeLanta  8 місяців тому

      Thank you so much for your kind words

  • @tracymarie5
    @tracymarie5 Рік тому

    ❤great courage to open up and deal with the past and be a good father to your own kids

  • @aimornhirikul4349
    @aimornhirikul4349 8 місяців тому

    สวัสดีค่ะ คุณม่อนกับภรรยา เป็นกำลังใจให้กันและกันดีเยี่ยม นี่แหละคือความสุขของชีวิตครอบครัวค่ะ อดีตคือบทเรียน ปล่อยไปเลย คิดถึงอนาคตที่มีลูกน่ารัก เป็นกำลังใจให้ครอบครัวนะจ๊ะ ❤️👍❤️

  • @ONEKITCHENONELIFE
    @ONEKITCHENONELIFE Рік тому +1

    Mon your the man .
    You broke the chain ⛓️ in your family many of us had to do this .sometimes in different ways ...more me it was smoking 🚭 cigarettes cigarettes and drinking

  • @heavylover7944
    @heavylover7944 Рік тому

    Mon, that will never happen to you again. ❤My husband said that to me once when I was heavily triggered. ⭐️love and light

  • @mikkiepuch6608
    @mikkiepuch6608 Рік тому

    Thank you uncle for sharing 🙏 I'm khmer living in Dallas TX

  • @jackyjackson3472
    @jackyjackson3472 11 місяців тому

    So proud of you Mon, you opened a chapter for many other people to talk about their triggers. Stay strong my friend. It only made you a better person. 🤗

  • @carolhenry1170
    @carolhenry1170 Рік тому +1

    Sending you lots of love Mon - your courage to share will set you free. You are helping so many others who feel they don’t have a voice. Thank you ❤

  • @betsylindsay8480
    @betsylindsay8480 Рік тому +1

    Mon saying, “So? Make it deep!”. And, you did. No BS. ❤

  • @stevevano2840
    @stevevano2840 9 місяців тому +1

    So so beautiful you could discuss this here , Thankyou for sharing this with us all 😘😘🥰 love from London

    • @SweetLifeLanta
      @SweetLifeLanta  9 місяців тому +1

      This is one of my favorite videos, so happy you like it. Btw, this is Maayan.

  • @arlettevanhoesel1181
    @arlettevanhoesel1181 Рік тому +4

    OMG!! Zo herkenbaar! Wat een mooie mensen zijn jullie, tranen in mijn ogen echt waar!💌Dikke knuffel voor Mon , ik begrijp m helemaal! ❤

  • @aisaali7318
    @aisaali7318 9 місяців тому

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
    Sad n emotions
    Live to the fullest with your loving wife and kids

  • @erikapompa471
    @erikapompa471 Рік тому

    The most painful yet beautiful video. Thank you for sharing such raw moments and the making of such a delicious meal. ❤

  • @nikkimclay5474
    @nikkimclay5474 Рік тому +1

    Mayann your children were a beautiful addition to this vlog, im so impressed with their cutting skills !

  • @jackieanderson4108
    @jackieanderson4108 Рік тому

    You're a lovely sweet man mon.....some people just don't feel the hurt that is around.....I feel that their hearts are sad.....something is sick in their hearts but at least know you know a better way.....

  • @jaclineheto8615
    @jaclineheto8615 Місяць тому

    With this beautiful smile it's hard to believe he didn't have a beautiful childhood. No sadness but the sweet face of a peaceful person like a Buddhist monk. 😇
    😱As for birds in cage! Luck of freedom! Torture! 😱