Why I cannot tell my parents that I don't believe the way they do (at 45 years old)
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- Опубліковано 16 тра 2024
- In today's video, we are touching upon a very sensitive topic. Mon is telling about how he grew up, why he decided to abandon his parents' religion and why he feels that now still at 45 years old, he still can't share with his parents how he thinks about life.
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Hi to our dear viewers, this video is about a very sensitive topic. The reason why we made this video is to share a personal story of Mon's life, his upbringing, childhood and growing up.
We deeply respect all religions and different cultures around the world, and anyone's personal choice about the way they choose to live their life.
If we still offended anyone in any way with this personal video, we are really sorry.
Yes we understand..it's personal only to both of you..
We appreciate your video and sharing your husband feelings. How about writing a letter to the dad and explaining his feelings? In that way Mon's dad will take the time to meditate and see what Mon couldn't say infront of him. I hope everything goes well!
In a Muslim religion, it is what it is,the are organic believers,no one can break it,this is how the tradition in the family,once you dis obeyed your parents you are curse in the family !
I am a Muslim. I spent my late teen years till my 50s here in London. It will be hard to adjust when I return to village life. Thank you for sharing this topic. It's almost taboo to talk about it. I love how you both embrace each other’s differences. Your kids are lucky to have parents like you guys. ❤
I know what it’s like to be a “people pleaser”, soul destroying! I live with judgement all the time and I’m 67. I don’t want to hurt anyone but all I’m achieving is hurting myself. I just don’t tell anyone what I’m doing anymore. The less they know about me the better I am.
Loved the honesty from Mon and it made me feel sad for him.
I relate to every word Mon expresses. I was born into an extreme christian home to a strict father who terrified me. I finally admitted I was not a christian when he confronted me on my 50th birthday. The first words out of his mouth were "Wow, you are brave"... the absolute JOY of being honest kept me high all that night. The next morning he called to scream and yell and shout bible verses about what a fool I was. I will not lie to you, it didn't fix anything by telling him. But he was never ever going to be the father I needed him to be, so how could I be surprised? I did it for me. I paid the price and I'd pay it again. It cost me my entire family. But those ties were chains. Love was conditional. I threatened their sense of "family" and "tradition" and "culture". They were deeply insulted that I didn't blindly throw my life away to become the clone they needed to feed their egos. But their response forced me to examine my relationship with western culture, to see beyond my family and those limitations. It's what eventually gave me the freedom to leave it all behind and come to Thailand alone as a 64 year old white woman not looking for a relationship, just looking for adventure and peace and a different way of thinking and seeing the world. Thank you for sharing your reality. Please know you are not alone. It's part of becoming an autonomous adult. Take it in small disclosures. Even just admitting to father that you are not a GOOD Muslim is a start. When he makes the accusation, agree with him. You need to allow the cracks to show so eventually the sun will shine in on the truth. If not for you, do it for your children - they are always watching. It's their respect that will heal your heart. Warm hugs to all of you. Thank you for your openness.
I grew up Christian and became a Buddhist monk for 8+ years. I moved to Asia and even studied in university with no money because my family would not support me if I was not Christian. Now I am 52, and I moved past the difficult times and loving my Japanese family and living my best life. We live half the year in Thailand and the other half in Japan. Your awesome wife and family are there for you, be strong, and you will pull through this. One suggestion, no matter how hard and difficult, you should free your heart and mind. This could mean telling your entire family you are Atheist or Buddhist or even a nonpracticing Muslim but no longer wish to participate in prayers and ceremonies as a Muslim. Be free, my friend on UA-cam :-)
You’re 100% correct. Don’t feel like your a prisoner
I grew up in China as a Korean ethnic and studied Science in Japan. That time I learned, how convenient is in Japan to be a monk, they consider it as a kind of culture and Shrine as an institution, they do their jobs. Now I am living in Germany, got two girls. I sent them to a catholic girls junior high school for 8 years. I am not religious but I accept the religion and recognize it as culture. Imagine if you travel to Asia, and there is no temples, no shrines and no buddhistic tradition, how boring and disappointing it is! Mon grew up as a Muslim, it’s a part of his identity and habit from his parents. Congrats that you are happy in Japan and Thailand.
Semoga diberi hidayah utk Mon sekeluarga, benar ada keluarga yg toxic, tp sy yakin ibu bapa Mon mahu yg terbaik utk anak2 nya dunia akhirat. Semoga pengakhiran hidup Mon ada lah pengakhiran yang terbaik.
You are both good people and that comes from the soul - not from religion
I love Mon saying “I want to live life in this life” not live life after death.
I am not a religious person but very spiritual and I am all about being in the moment because truly that’s really all we have.
I adore your channel and your family. Thank you for sharing such deep topics and speaking your truth ❤️
ไม่อยากนึกเลย ถ้าอาเยาะกับแมะมาดูวิดีโอนี้ ท่านจะรู้สึกอย่างไร ขนาดเรายังร้องไห้ เสียใจหากลูกสุดที่รัก ที่เราอุ้มชู ดูแลเขา ส่งเสียห้มีการศึกษา ท้ายสุดสิ่งที่เราทำเพื่อเขาทุกอย่าง ด้วยรักและหวังดี ส่งผลให้เขาคิดกับเราแบบนี้ Mashaallah ขอดุอาให้น้องและครอบครัวปลอดภัยทั้งดุนยาและอาคิรัตนะคะ
ทุกคนเป็นเจ้าของชีวิตตัวเองนะคะ พ่อแม่ไม่ได้เป็นเจ้าของชีวิตเรา ทำไมเราถึงจะเลือกสิ่งที่อยากทำ หรือไม่อยากทำ เลือกสิ่งที่เชื่อ หรือไม่เชื่อด้วยตัวเองไม่ได้คะ จากที่เค้าเล่า เราว่าเค้าเก็บความกดดัน ความคับข้องใจมาทั้งชีวิต จนอายุขนาดนี้ ยังต้องทำในสิ่งที่ตัวเองยังตั้งคำถามกับมันอยู่เลย ไม่แปลกที่เค้าจะเปรียบเทียบกับคนอื่นเลยค่ะ
@@Momo-oz1vv คุณไม่เข้าใจหรอก เข้าไปฟังโตตาลดูนะ
I love Mon and how sweet he is at telling you his thoughts and wishes. You can tell how much he loves you and letting you know its really troubling to him. Hopefully with your help he can change some things or just let it go...
The best part for me in this vlog is how Mon expressed his feelings while being in the pool, amazing, it came from his heart and listening to his words I had tears. You are spot on Mon, live the life you chose, don't live it for any religious practices which does not bring the best in you. As long as you live a peaceful life without harm to anyone....that's the best religion practice, and not the rituals. But please be very careful in what you express in social media in your vlog as you know there are radical characters that may try a different approach on you and your family safety. I appreciate and respect your openness because I am a very out spoken person as well. Love this vlog ❤
I'm also so impressed with how Mon can express himself
@@SweetLifeLanta I can imagine. This shows what burden he's carrying in is mind. Encourage him to be him self and to do what he wants on that subject and I'm sure with your support and understanding he will find peace & comfort to overcome this situation. Love you guys, wonderful couple and the kids are blessed to have you both
Mon I want to say Thanks for sharing your story.
I live in the US. Im a 57 old woman and my experience is very similar to yours.
I haven’t been home in 3 1/2 yrs. I love my parents but don’t even feel comfortable going to
Visit them because my dad is so controlling and wants to tell me and my husband how we should live.
He’s very sick now but I just have no
Desire to go there. It’s something I struggle with everyday.
It takes courage to reclaim your authenticity! No matter what your father says to you ,you are being true to yourself and that is the best example that you can show your own children.❤
I really admired you mom,for standing with your own feet,you fight your beliefs,I got you,and to you mayan,you are so lucky to have him in your life,your kids too are luckiest having a dad,like him,I salute his principles in life,remember none of religion in this earth can save us,it depends on how you communicate god spirituality, of how we live our lives in godly way,but even though man's parent's doesn't understand him his way of believing in God,pursuing to stay as a Muslim,they cannot force him,he was a good son and a good brother in his family, life is too short, come to think .....bcoz of you mayan,you make him happy and blessed with kiddos,the fact is wethier, you are.muslim or Christian as long as we have god in our heart,we are all God's children, live our life to the fullest,happy always watching each episode's of your blog,you inspire a lot of people all over the world... to remind that races is not a hidrance if love someone truly from our heart ♥️ may god Almighty always in the center in your family 🙏 ❤
I understand where you are coming from, Mon. Thank you for sharing. I have always been compared to my brother as well. Controlling parents. I grew up feeling repressed and just needed to spread my wings. I moved really far away!!! I do what I want, it is my life and my choices. And now you get to parent your children the way you wish you had been parented. Much love to you all. 🥰
อยากให้แบรู้ว่าฉันเป็นอีกคนหนึ่ง ที่ยื่นอยู่จุดคล้ายๆแบ ฉันเกิดมาในสามจังหวัด พ่อแม่เคร่งศาสนามากๆ ตอนนั้นฉันก็เป็นเด็กคนหนึงทีทำตามพ่อแม่บอกทุกอย่างแต่ตอนนี้ฉันมีคำถามมากหมายกับตัวเองจนฉันลองเปิดใจดูโลกภายนอกทีคนต่างศาสนา เขาใช้ชีวิตอย่างเรียบง่ายและมีความสุข ไม่ได้แต่มองหาสิ่งทีผิดผลาดของคนอื่น และแล้วจนวันทีฉันพบรักกับชาวต่างชาติต่างศาสนา แล้วฉันไม่ได้ทำตามหลักศาสนาของพ่อแม่ฉัน สุดท้ายฉันเลือกเดินตามหัวใจของตัวเอง พวกเขาคงมีคำถามมากหมายเกี่ยวกับฉันแต่ฉันเลือกทำในสิ่งทีฉันมีความสุข
You are beautiful, accept and keep forward my brother and adorable family ♾️✝️💜
คุณม่อนคะ เห็นใจมากๆ พ่อทุกคนอยากให้ลูกดีกว่าพ่อ คงเพราะเขาฝากความหวังไว้กับลูก คุณม่อนแค่เห็นใจแต่ไม่ต้องตามใจพ่อ ขอให้คุณม่อนมีความมั่นใจ มีความสุขกับชีวิตที่เลือกแล้วค่ะ
Mon, I understand your emotional torment between freedom and approval from your parents. My Muslim girlfriend had to stand up to her fellow Muslims to be a teacher even teaching at school in the Buddhist temple. Now she is retired and happily enjoying her retirement benefit from the Thai government. She supported all her young siblings to become a dentist and an accountant. She was lucky that her mother supported her as much as her father, an Imam.
Powerful. Mon you ARE your own person! I've always respected that about you! Thank you for letting us see this very personal part of you. I know there are countless people with similar situations.... Religion has intruded on so many lives. I often wonder if the lives religion has ruined far outnumber the lives helped... Stick to you! Your family and Lanta! Sweet Lanta Life, brother!!!
Do what you think is the right thing including who you want to believe at.
This is what I know....At this time, we all are being called to heal that wounded little inner child that we have been carrying with us all our lives. We know what those emotional wounds are because they have been surfacing from time to time in spite of us trying to bury them in the various ways that we do. If we pay attention, we are shown very clearly what they are.... they are what we find the most difficult to do.
Thank-you Mon for talking honestly about that wounded place inside you, you showed us all how to start our healing. Mayaan, you always listen with grace and compassion when Mon expresses where he is at emotionally.... you are a strong and beautiful team. Much love to you both and to all.❤️🇨🇦
Oh how I understand Mon's relationship with his parents. I always remember the saying "Distance makes the heart grow fonder" even in my own situation. Another thought is that spirituality should be a relationship, not a hardship. I hope peace will be with you.
I couldn’t stop crying as I listened to your pain. I can relate in so many ways … having been married to a man from Thailand for 48yrs. I see his pain like yours. I’ve been praying for you since I first started watching. 🙏❤️
Get it off your chest and tell them the way you feel. You’re a human being that is free to believe the way yo want. Good luck you’ll feel so much better.
Salam to this beautiful family. I am feeling the same as Mon is feeling always asking why I can’t live life and be just myself. I am 50 and had experienced all the ups and downs life throws at me. I am still very grateful for life and good health ❤. Life is beautiful Mon and I hope you truly enjoy it with your beautiful family.
I wanted to cry listening to Mon. You all are a beautiful family and to think this is the only thing that niggles his heart is truly sad.
When will the world know that being at peace within and without is true religion. Families curbing each other’s happiness in the name of religion is the evil that we all profess to steer away from.
Am glad families like yours exist so more people will know that our beliefs and cultures should never ever divide us in love. Every religion teaches acceptance and respect. One love 🫰🏻
So beautiful. Thank you, Mon, for sharing your story and being so vulnerable and real. Maayan, do you have a story about your religion, or were your parents pretty accepting of where you are at? I think deep down many of us still feel like 10-year-olds around our parents. My husband is also a pleaser, and he can definitely relate to your struggle. Much love to you both. ❤
From what I saw she grew up with her father and he is not a religious man. So I don't think she had the same challenges as him.
@@MAZ440 Thanks for your response. That's good. I need to catch up on some of the older videos. I think Maayan would be a great therapist. She asks thought provoking questions and is a good listener.
It is finding yourself from within, looking for what you believe in based on your own innate values that accumulates from life’s experiences. Follow the path that will give you inner peace. We are all unique and different from each other and finding who we are is the first thing to understanding and experiencing this so called life.
There are not many people who are brave enough to think out of the box like you do! You are smart though: your life, your choices!
I am watching this for the second time. I quit smoking but this video made me start again, haha. I am an ex-muslim too and how similar story I have with your husband. It hit me bad the struggles he shared. I think me and him and people like us, we will never fully love our fathers. We love for taking care of us until we are an adult but deep inside we will never forgive not being accepted as a different individual. Ruining our childhood with annoying religious schools when we supposed to have fun those years. We somewhat have to love our fathers still because we only have one. It is what it is. Though I am glad your husband created the family in his way at least.
I'm sorry our video made you smoke again 😂😂😂 but I'm glad you feel like you can relate and thank you for sharing ❤❤❤
I just love your channel! I love you all I’m Jewish my dad was Jewish and my mom was 100 percent Irish catholic ! They all said it would never lest !! Oh ya my parents were married 67 years before they both passed away ! ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
พี่ชาย ฉันชอบวีดีโอของคุณในการใช้ชีวิตในการทำตามฝัน
มุมมองของฉันเพราะเจ้าไม่ได้บังคับให้ใครมาเคารพพระองค์ นอกเสียจากคุณศรัทธาด้วยหัวใจ แต่พระองค์ทรงนำแนวทางมาให้แก่มนุษย์ ซึ่งแนวทางคำสอนเหล่านั้นมีข้อไหนที่ไม่ดีบ้าง ให้เราใช้สติปัญญาในการใคร่ครวญ แต่บางทีแค่เราไม่ถูกใจเรา แต่พระองค์ส่งแนวทางมาเพื่อไม่ให้เราหลงทางหรือมาเผื่อปกป้องเรา
อาจจะยังไม่เห็นภาพมากนัก เช่นเรื่องกินหมูที่พระองค์ห้ามเพราะหมูเป็นสัตว์สกปรกกินอุจาระตัวเอง และพิสูจน์โดนวิทยาศาสตร์ว่ามีพยาญาติอยู่ในเนื้อหมู หากกินเข้าไปอาจจะทำให้เป็นโรคได้ นี้ก็คือปกป้องก่อนการแก้ไขของแนวทางศาสนา แต่หากว่าหาอาหารไม่ได้เลยนอกจากหมู นั้นก็อนุญาตให้ทานได้เพื่อประทังชีพ
แต่ที่พระองค์ทรงห้ามเพราะพระเจ้ารู้ว่ามันดีรึไม่ดีมากกว่ามนุษย์
เพราะฉันก็เคยตั้งคำถามเกี่ยวกับศาสนาเหมือนกัน เคยเห็นต่าง แต่พอมานั่งพิจารณาเหตุและผลต่างๆฉันก็เข้าใจได้ เพราะศาสนาไม่ได้เอาใจใคร แต่มนุษย์ชอบเอาใจตัวเองก่อนมองความจริง สิ่งที่ผิดจะให้เป็นถูกนั้นคงเป็นไปไม่ได้
นี้เป็นความคิดเห็นของฉัน ไม่ได้มีเจตนาจะตำหนิหรือติเตียนอะไร แค่บางทีเราลองมองอีกมุมนึง ก็อาจจะเห็นมุมมองที่เราไม่เคยคิด
สุดท้ายฉันเคารพการตัดสินใจของพี่ชาย เพราะทุกคนทีสิทธิ์ในการเลือกใช้ชีวิตแบบไหน ❤
❤🙏🏼Mon & Maayan. I relate to alot you say. Today I have no contact with my Mother. I can’t change her & it’s her loss. What is important you tell your children. So they understand & don’t think it’s their fault. The fishing & lotus fields were so beautiful. Wishing you all a beautiful evening.
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Hopefully Mon realised that our life doesnt end after we past away..There will be another dimension that we have never seen b4...
Just like when we were in our mothers womb we will never imagine that we will be in this form and in this world..
And we will be judge according to what we have done when we were in this physical world.
Beautiful video thanks for sharing such a raw yet honest video. I know exactly how Mon feels. He is a great father, husband and friend you're lucky to be together. Both of you are good people. ❤
สวยมากค่ะ ขอบคุณนะคะ😊😊😊
Really sensitive topic. 😅
If this story were to be published in three provinces, it could be life-threatening.
But i love the way you live your life นะ เป็นกำลังใจให้ครับ
This is so authentic and vulnerable. Thanks for sharing! Just wanted to let Mon know that he’s not alone. Many children of Asian parents who grew up in a completely different era and culture feel the same way. Myself included. We have to make peace and practise acceptance.
I truly respect Mon's expression of his feeling and belief.
My God, that view! (6:48) It's absolutely stunning. How special you can experience that.
A big hug to Mon he is a sweet human being🤗🤗🤗❤ I'm glad you two met and have a loving family
Just watching the 2 of you and your beautiful children, only inspires both my husband and I. We can totally relate to you and your family. My husband is from South East Asia( Filippino) and I am a foreign woman( Half South African and half British). We love one another deeply,.......but on both sides of our families, they cannot accept our union and respect our life we live. We don't have any moral support on both sides of the family. In spite of it all,.......WE LOVE EACH OTHER AND THAT IS ALL THAT MATTERS TO US❤. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO. Love and much light and blessings to your family.
Im caucasian from SA too and I cannot connect with the SA culture. Also fell in love with a Filippino and his culture (the Filippino women)make our lives hell. My culture will think Im nuts. So far weve put everything on hold. Although I have never let my culture dictate to me. My advice:Make each other happy. Jealousy is trying to destroy your happiness on both sides. I was married to half Indian for 27 years. My father never accepted him.After my husband died, my father said my husband was the biggest gentleman ever.Bizar!! I still think that I was born into a family of complete nutcases.
Thank you Belinda for sharing your story😊. Many times I feel exactley the way you feel. It's mainly my mother that is so narcissistic( crazy case). Both my husband and I use to live in New Zealand for 4 years,and thinking 🤔 that living there and working would be good,.......which was good for the both of us,......but unfortunately my mother had issues about accepting my husband! Mainly because she could not get her way with us!!!! Constantly dictating to us how we should live our life and always made us feel like we needed to always help them,in any way we should!! Believe you me," I got extremely tired and traumatized by my mother and sisters behaviour" As of now,we are in Philippines and now in transition of planning where we should go next. One thing for sure it's not going to be anywhere near of families. I wish you all the best,both you and your husband❤️
Be strong guys...looking forward to see your next journey
ขอซับไทยตลอดนะคะ ติดตามทุกตอนค่ะ รักนะคะ
You're a good man Mon. You love and provide for your family, you are honest, open and trust worthy and although there is some difficulty with your parents you still love them. If there is a God then I don't know what else they would want from a person they have blessed with life and existence on earth?
Hi I'am Indonesian , I too become an atheist after my mind , my heart and my logic choose for what I am now.
I feel more comfortable now
Wow! You are brave and it must he very hard to go against the masses .I am an american who is not religious "was raised christian and catholic",but I know of the Indonesian people and their strong Muslim beliefs. Best of luck to you .💪🏾👈🏻✌🏻
อินโดไม่ใช่มีคนนับถืออิสลามเท่านั้น คริส พุทธ ลัทธิบูชาผียังมีสำหรับผมไม่แปลกใจ@@carolyn6689
Beautiful couple. Love knows no bounds. I don't believe in religion but I do believe in God & His Spirit of Love. ❤
Maayan, it is so good to see you again. Even though this is a sad subject ! I have loved you as a couple. Your kids have grown and are beautiful ! You are still beaming with the joy of being alive. I am now 88 and I am so grateful I grew up in Holland . Free from prejudice and extreme demands on my person belief. Love humanity with compassion. How blessed II feel toward or in the last stage of my life. Your wisdom will heal Mon. Much love to you both 🙏💕🌷🇳🇱
I feel you. You are a good man and doing very well. I’m proud of you ❤
Courage. It takes great courage to fully express who you are, especially when the person you have always been is not who your parents and family want or expect you to be. As I get ready to retire as a teacher in America and live in Thailand, I understand for the first time that suppressing and hiding who you really are might keep the peace with family, but it results in the slow death of your soul. So you die without ever living your true life. That would be a damn shame. Respect to Mon as he navigates this issue.
Mon you are way more than your up bringing. You are evolving and becoming your own person. That is what we are suppose to do in life - grow. Setting boundaries is hard work and painful it takes time. You are doing it each day as you speak it out loud ❤️
Be strong Mon and maybe one day you will open up to your parents .I know it must be so hard to hold your tongue and not say what you wish to say 😞It is very hard for older people to accept things unfortunately ..So I'm sure that is what holds you back from telling them.Remember whatever you do in your life ,your kids are watching and learning so try to be the best example for them.❤️👍🏻
Thanks so much/Love you and your family all
I believe Mom grew up in a devout muslim family and received a strong foundation on the religion.
Only muslims who received such a good basic Islamic teaching would be spiritually “tormented” if they ever thought of leaving Islam.
Those muslims who received very little knowledge on Islam but was born in a non practice muslim family would never had a turmoil the way Mom felt. They just go on with their lives as muslims and yet no guilt of being disorbedient.
Despite what we saw and heard what Mom was saying about himself leaving Islam, however little the iman or faith that still clings in his heart, Mom is fighting his guilt or his fitrah on God.
We stray, we lost and insyaAllah to Him we shall return.
All the best Mom. Let your heart guides you. And you alone knew what you want.
To me God is Love and I believe in Love
Is so, so sad to see how parents neglect kid's needs and force them to do things! Anyway is sad, but specially when you see a person like Mon, generally joyful and full of life being so affected by the way that parents treated and still treat him like he doesn't matter, like he is wrong is more sad.
Same time is a sort of "small" therapy talking about this stuff for him and, same time, for some of people who watch you.
Thank you for let us to come so closer to your intimacy!
Mon, you are so brave and I really admire you. Maayan, you are a truly wonderful woman and as a couple, you are strong and loving. You have a beautiful family. I need to visit that hotel you stayed at as well.
Thank you for sharing this with us Mon, you are a wonderful man, father and husband. I am a Christian and can feel your hurt and your pain so deeply. You dont have to fit in anyone's box except your own.You are your lovely children and wife's hero and the centre of their world. From where I stand, that makes a perfect human being in the eyes of God. Unconditionally. Lots and Lots of love to you.
Marian you're such a great story teller. They way you captured different scenes to bring to life your husband's story is just awesome. Keep it up. I really love you guy's videos. Nuff love from Jamaica !!
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Thank you so much for the video and for opening up to us. You are both good and caring people whose children love them so much. I'm so happy to follow your lives in beautiful Thailand. Thank you for sharing! ❤❤❤❤
You are breaking the chain in your love and devotion to your partner and children. My parents were very religious and we went to church when we were small, but after high school we went our own way. My parents did not force their Christian beliefs on us after that. My dad lived until he was 90 and we had so many talks about religion. He and I often discussed heaven. We came to an understanding before his death. Put your time in and visit for 2 days off and on. I would not tell them your beliefs as I do not think they would accept them. Please your parents when you have to and live your life the best way for your family and you.
Lovely words Mon, live your life how you want and please yourself x
Mon is feeling this way is because he is a good son that doesn’t want to go against, disobey or disrespect his parents but at the same time doesn’t believe what he is expected to do or practice is acceptable by himself. Mon let me say your headache and heartache will not last forever. It will come a time where you’ll lose your parents and your in laws and that’s the time you’ll be free. You decide what you really want and how you want it. From where I come from not only parents are the obstacle, it’s against the law of the country and it’s illegal if you have any smart ideas. Just be kind, thankful, grateful and fill your heart, mind and soul with LOVE and you can’t go wrong. Which religion you decide later because at 45 you’re too young to decide on such important matter. 😂 😝 😜 Lots of love to everybody in your family including Diva too LOL. ✌️
Thank you so much for your wisdom sweet uncle. Btw, Diva is doing great. I saw your previous comment. I don't know how her scene got cut out of the previous video. But she's alive and kicking and being her crazy, funny, cutie self. Regarding the farm, more content coming soon! Because we have so much to tell you about it...
WOW... that's a hard one to swallow..but I wishes you all the happiness with Mayaan n the kids..Mon.. stay happy n stay free...as we are all Born Free... listen to that songs to sooth you down 😊😊😊😊❤❤❤❤
Mad respect for Mon's authenticity. 👍👏💪 Pork rib soup, indeed. 🤨
The family you create is more important than the family you come from.
Well expressed Mon....you have the courage to stay true to yourself despite the tension
Another peice of beautiful short movie from you Mayan, always thrilled to watch ❤
Thank you!
Mon you are a beautiful man. You have done so much with your life and worked so hard. If your parents cannot see this then it is their loss.
You have a lovely family. Just enjoy your life with them and keep doing what makes you happy ❤️
Beautiful thought provoking personal video, thanks for sharing. Also what 💣 azz 🌅 🤩🙌🏽 🇹🇭
Wow, Mon Thank you, thank you for opening your heart on this video, it is such a difficult dilemma to be in. When i was 14 i decided that i didnt want to be a Catholic, my Mum was disappointed, and took me to tell the priest, i am a spiritualist, that's where my heart is. I think that many many people will relate to your video. The filming, and creativity, scenary, resort, colours blew me away, you both always produce the best videos, truly professionals. Mostly i thank you for its content, it is not easy to put your thoughts out there. Best wishes from me in London UK xxx
I’m so sorry Mon you do what you want Mon it’s your life we can respect parents but not respect them controlling us stuff that brother
This video is documentary style and better than most videos that are actually documentaries. Love your channel ❤❤❤
Wow! Really appreciate your comment. Did you start watching recently? I see it's your first comment.
Love ❤️ your family, thank you 🙏 very much for sharing your video.👍🌺👫
Touching story. Thank you for sharing so open!
This was a beautiful video! Thank you!
You guys are amazing. I love to watch your videos. It´s so authentic and heartwarming seeing people being truthful and openminded. Thank U for sharing.
Thanks so much!
Saya doakan supaya Bang Mon di beri hidayah Ameen
Sama Ameen
Just beautiful. I really enjoyed this video.
When we have been raised in a controlling family, we get to the point where we analyze our upbringing. We realize that their ways were not correct. You cannot force your children to adhere to a religion or anything else. We all have freedom of choice once adults & can choose our own life path. Unfortunately, these kinds of parents instill guilt in us which is hard to shake off. There is a fine line between strictness & abuse.
Really beautiful scenery thank you so much 🌹
Thank you for sharing your story P Mon. I’m a people pleaser like yourself, I know how hard it can be at times. We want to please others, but sometimes it clashes with our own happiness. As a Thai woman who grew up in a Buddhist household, then moved to America when I was very young I lost touch with religion. I’m now married to a Muslim born in France (he’s very religious and prays 5 times per day). We have clashes with how we see things and our believes, but by overcoming the challenges it has made us grown stronger. 20 years into the relationship, 3 kids later, there are still ups and downs, but that’s just life. I hope you find your inner peace, because that’ll lead to true happiness. Best of luck to you and your family. 🙏
Wow beautiful and thanks for sharing ❤
I love watching your videa,s keep them coming
I respect your though, Mon. But if I have right to say, I would say that life is a struggle and test. Everyone wants to have a perfect life, but it can't chosen. As a Muslim, we believe that every single problem we face, that is the examination tested by God. In addition, we believe life after death. If we don't believe that, how can we become Muslims. Life is short, hereafter life is forever. Respect (I am still your big fan).
Very good video, I can relate!
Live your life the way you want Mon.lovely video.
Love your video & family life, keep it up.
Thank you for this thoughtful video. I feel for you, Mon and also you Mayaan, deeply; it's such a difficult, sad, and frustrating situation.
You are both good people, so I imagine that all you can do is live your life well, by your values, and give your children the sense of agency and choice that you weren't really allowed...
I wish you both well
Happy Birthday Maayan 🎉💜
Thank you Maayan & Mon for another beautiful, thought provoking video.
I Always love the topics you present to the world and the gorgeous backdrop that is beautiful Thailand. I particularly love how you share your story as a Mixed race couple - navigating the world with your cultural differences. I myself am in a mixed race marriage (Italian-Australian / Indonesian husband)
Your content is relaxing and so calming to watch - xx
Alhamdulillah...TQ Mon..for this video...now i really understand why Allah sent the prophets and the Holy Quran...and its true Allah said in the Quran that the Devil will lead us to a wrong way which we see it very nice....and Allah said that many people will regret after they died..but there is no way to "U turn "..alhamdulillah..by watching your video..i dont want to regret after died...let me regret now,..for not obeying Allah commands...Allah knows everything..because HE is our CREATOR...
As a citizen of a country..we are living with many laws also..and if we didn't obey the goverment law..of couse..we will be punish...same if we work in a company..we cannot do what we want.....same goes to this wonderful world...Allah made this world for us..and HE wants us to follow the guidance which HE said in the Quran.....now i really understand....alhamdulillah..TQ Allah for everything...i dont want to follow the devil(syetan)....
I want a better life in the hereafter....life in this world is too short..and it is not forever...
TQ again for making me have strong believe of the Allah words in the Quran...
totally, i am muslim & nothing is wrong being a good Muslim, haram is haram...full stop. marrying a non Muslim its not a big deal, but how u teach ur spouse and kids becoming a good Muslim is everything...
Well said bro, I hope we will always be guided by Allah
@@AlhusniAlhusni-gf6jm Amiin..Allahumma aamiin..
Thank you for sharing your personal story. I hope one day your parents will accept you just as you are. Give it some time. Time will tell. Wish you all the best and keep faith. Warm wishes from Amsterdam
Mon thank you for opening up + Mayaan i love your style of videos, you do great work about being human, keep going if you are enjoying 💜
What an interesting episode. Thank you for your sharing these deep and personal issues from your life. I understand you Mon. I was when I was young in a similar situation. Not with religion but I didn´t get the support I needed to grow up to a stable person. And some quite severe abuse aswell. It was not the meaning of my parents, but their rigid and old fashioned way of looking at things resulted in abuse both physical and psycologically. It´s a long time since I forgave them since they were young and stupid and non reflected victims in their own lifes. But I had to find stability my own way. It was a long and crooked road I had to walk and I believe I paid a high price for my stability. I never talk about it like you do. It´s so good to talk about. Mayan, what a wonderful person you are to support your husband in this. If I look back there have been relations where I would have needed just half of your insights, for to make some better choices than I did. You, Mayan, are dealing with this in such a good manner. It seems like you have the inner security that it takes. I hope I don´t get too personal. It´s not my meaning stepping on your integrity. I am voting for you 🥰!
Your comment is really touching and encouraging. Thanks for sharing your experiences. ❤❤❤
วาสอสือเบาะดืองาฮาอูฆามอ รู้สึกอึดอัด ตาปีสูมอกีตอแปแหแบ เป็นกำลังใจให้ครับ
😊วิว สวยมากกกกกก พระอาทิตย์กำลังขึ้น สงบ
Totally understand Mon’s situations…thank him for being honest.To me , religion can be man made, a way to control us. God is so accessible to any of us. It is just him and us!
ฉันก็เป็นหนึ่งคนที่เปลี่ยนเป็นคนที่ไม่มีศาสนาหลังจากเป็นมุสลิมมาก่อน รู้ใจตัวเองมาตลอดว่าเราไม่ใช่ และไม่ต้องการจะฝืนใจตัวเอง
This best video I ever seen in my lifetime ❤❤❤❤Good job.