Mormon Dating Culture (Male Perspective)
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- Опубліковано 30 лип 2024
- Kwaku and Justin team up with Colby Ferrin to talk about an ever-important topic: Mormon dating. Guest host Colby Ferrin is a well-known rapper and musical guru (and dating guru, as you can tell). While each of the 3 hosts have different perspectives, they can all agree on one thing: Dating can be pretty complicated.
What do you think about Mormon dating? Did we get it right? What about dating in general? Does it differ much from Mormon dating? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below!
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"if girls get to friend zone us then we get to acquaintance zone them" 100% agree.
The guy/girl asking if it's okay to kiss or hold hands - I actually find that really endearing 😊 Sometimes, people don't really get those nonverbal cues, which could lead to misunderstandings. Honestly, if the relationship is going well, it wouldn't hurt to make things clear and just ask.
My boyfriend asked the day we started dating if it was okay for boyfriend and girlfriend to hug. I'm beaming. 😃
As a woman, as an older woman and as an older woman not raised in the LDS church I have no understanding of YSA dating info but as a Christian I will say the Christian church is a hard place to find a date even when you're a bit older and especially when you're physically disabled, as I am. I was pretty much labeled "undatable" because of my disabled and divorced. Yup, divorced and disabled? I was practically a leper! Eventually, I found my husband online and on a non-Christian dating website although I was pretty clear in my profile that I was a Christian and waiting for marriage for sex. Thankfully my husband was okay with that... :D We had our happily ever after three years ago... All this to say, kids, even if you don't find the love of your life when you're young, you will find that person in God's timing and when you follow His direction for your life. Don't let anyone pressure you into dating or marriage too early. Follow His will for your life, always.
I agree. God is WAY bigger than we think and He can find us a soul mate anywhere on Earth, even in a field!
That's so good! I'm a new member and is so hard to understand Mormon guys 😂😂😂
I look forward to seeing a video discussion on the girl perspective.
ArtLover Animation I totally agree!
Thanks for the opportunity to be on the podcast! I had a great time :) Ladies, feel free to point out the stuff we got horribly wrong...I'll be taking notes. Ether 12:27 applies to dating, too.
Hey great video! i know you know how friendzone feel jajaja love u dad. congrats
Colby Ferrin hi
What does DTR mean?
@@teawhinacampbell1792 Define The Relationship
Oh my heavens I love this!😂 it's great to hear it from a guys perspective!! And I totally agree with the whole DTR thing!!!
Oh my gosh this is great thanks!
Thanks for the tips!
for anyone watching this and worrying about dating. i know the LDS culture around dating is weird but dont give up. i got married 6 months ago to a wonderful woman. she is 31, i am 21. there is someone out there for you!!
p.s i am from the U.K and she is from USA. (she was in the U.K for University)
I'm happy for you! Gives me hope as I'm 31 myself and still looking forward to the day I can find my companion. :)
I personally think that the LDS dating culture sucks and dating in general sucks butt too
Thank you for this hope. Im a convert and I really like someone with the same age difference and I didnt know how to handle these feelings. I feel like younger guys would want girls their age in this lds life. Here's hoping!!
@@krsantiago23 not sure where you are from but don't give up hope. Keep your efforts going. Look outside of the immediate area you live. My wife is from the U.S. and I am from the U.K. so the dating culture was different.
Both the person I like and I are from the US but we both live in different states. He reached out to me and we've been chatting since. I wasn't looking to date really since my year isn't up yet and won't be til early next year but he truly makes my heart flutter and brings joy into my life and he says he feels the same. We've talked about our age difference and it does worry us both. Was there anything negative about your age people talked about?.
Guysss this is so great! Dating as a Mormon can be so confusing, it's awesome to hear a guy's perspective. :P
Asking if a girl wants to be kissed only kills the moment if that moment shouldn't be happening. The current generation of youth ironically have a big communication problem.
Thank you guys, your channel is amazing ❤I watch every video❤ I'm single and you gave me hope that I'll find someone.. I guess everyone reaches a point in their lives when they think they'll die alone 😂
Yup...basically hahah!!
Let’s go out for brunch and admire the 🌊 ocean.
"All right"?!! Colby, you know this was the best video in the history of Mormon hymn/rap. 😂
Also, guys, I think *I* should be giving Mormon dating advice. I mean, talk to the hand. (The LEFT hand.) 😘
Hey 3 Mormons, you guys got a video on humility I can share with Monica? (haha I loved how it turned out btw, just trying not to toot my own horn too much ;) )
And yes, actually, I'd love to have you be in an episode specifically about using dating apps while being Mormon...thoughts 3 Mormons? Monica round two?
Totally, yes on round two. 👏🏻
Let's be honest, I think our song is the only entry in the Best Mormon Hymn/Rap category right now. So it don't take too much horn tooting to say we win. 🤓
I made a doody
You know what is even harder than Mormon Culture Dating is Mixed Culture Mormon Dating. I am a half brazilian-american gal trying to figure out mormon dating between the two different cultural differences! IT IS Rough!
Tell me about it
@ I think she is saying maybe her ethnic culture's views on dating may differ from that of the church.
Which would be totally relatable for me as a Jamaican Lds.
Church guidelines is date many people but in Jamaican if you date a bunch of people at once you get looked at funny.
@@jae-jdiscovers4322 I'm surprised the rastafarians put up with LDS missionaries banging on their doors trying to convert them
12:01 when he started singing let it go made me so happy😂❤
Where was this video when I needed it.
I would rather have a guy Ask cause I have been touched and kissed by guys which made me really uncomfertable I Also Suck at picking up clues
HAHAH Colby was my EFY councilor last year in Palmyra.
I have a Mormon boyfriend, and I really appreciate this video
DTR as an event is a good thing. It's not about trying to rush things but just understand where the other person is at. Are they wanting to date other people still? Kiss other people? After like 5-6 dates you should probably explain your intentions to each other just so you know what the other person wants out of it. It's a mature thing to do
Ok, YSA here. I wasn't getting any dates, and I was bored, so I asked the boys out. So, apparently......that challenges their manhood or ....... something. I honestly love getting to know people and I think dates are so fun, but some boys are just wimps. I promise. Women. Are. Not. Scary. ( most of them, some are bad s**t crazy)
Eliza Briggs Haha girl, just wait for the women’s perspective episode coming up soon 😘
That's fine in the end whoever started the relationship doesn't matter. It's 2020 and we are equal.
The struggle is real
A woman is not supposed to ask the guy out and why are you people always asking me stupid personal questions about wether or not I am dating anyone, inviting me to go to church to meet girls and trying to set me up with them without my consent? I am an Aromantic asexual and I do not feel romantic or sexual attraction to anyone, why do you people even care if I wanna stay single , not get married or have children? You should stay in your own lane and mind your own business, stop worrying about my lifestyle and start worrying about your own
Yeah most of the time men prefer to be the pursuer and women prefer to be pursued. It's kind of a biology thing
I need help. I completely fell head over heels for this girl, we started dating but not really dating because she is not old enough to date. We kissed, hugged and held hands everywhere we went, but her parents said that we were getting too serious and said that we should take a break. I'm so scared that we will fall out of love and move on from each other. I completely understand and very much agree that Heavenly Father has a plan for us and has a plan for who we should be with throughout life and I really really hope that we are meant for each other.
How are things going now Sander?
What an intro❤️🔥
The question I dread most, every Sunday, is why haven't I found a girl a yet. I'm to the point where I don't wanna date at all, and honestly some times I dread going because I know I'm gonna get bombarded with questions about dating. I have alot of things going right for me currently and really don't have time to date and when I do it never ends well, so I'd rather just not date.
Probably a good idea , dating is overrated, I am an aromantic asexual and I don't have to bear the burden of wanting to date and feeling like a jerk because I'm single , you can be perfectly happy being single, you don't need a girlfriend in order to be happy , dating brings more pain then joy and it's just not worth it
If you don't enjoy hearing that then don't go to church, you shouldn't have to put up with people harassing you about that, they should shut their traps and mind their own business
I know this video is old, but I have yet to find a discussion exploring all the facets of problems with dating and possible solutions. Usually the discussion centers around "what should we do while we're dating", but people talk less about the issues of finding people in the first place. There's a pandemic going on, I'm already graduated from college and I'm in the east coast. And frankly I don't want to settle for someone I'm not attracted to. I extremely rarely had success with anyone I was attracted to. I was engaged right after my mission but that didn't work out. So I don't know. I get a little tired of people saying "oh you'll find someone"...when I'm getting very close to 30. And why isn't there more of this on youtube? I can only find like 3 relatively serious discussions on youtube. The rest are jokes and parody type stuff.
Awwww these boys are so respectful! Wish there were more guys out there like you guys :))
Check your friendzone
Okay I was low-key upset with this video bc it seemed like women were being put on a pedestal of sorts BUT I really liked what Kwaku said in the end about the advancement of the gospel helping us view males and females as equals
Majority of what you folks say I agree with but I have an issue with the no bikini policy and no coffee,it's too much.
I know it may seem like a lot to ask but those rules help everything else fall into place, even as silly and insignificant as it seems! If you have literally any question let me know and we can talk! :)
Back in the 1990s at BYU there were more young married couples than today. RMs were told to marry within one year on returning home. It was common to see the Provo student ghetto filled with women in their 20s pushing a baby stroller.
I'm a single adult 60 plus and I'm LDS and it's hard looking for an eternal companion because most men my age do not want to get married anymore
Hi! Sorry for write this here but I really need someone's help! So, im a member of the church since I born and i'm going on a mission in a few months. Turns out that I realoy feel in love with a missionary that is about to end his mission in the exact day that i will be living. I think that he feels something for me actually... he emailed me and i email he, but of course i dont wanna to say him that i am in love for dont distract he from his mission. The problem is that i think that ge should know what i fell, but i cant tell because when ge arrives home i will be a missionary and i shoulnt say does things.... Please help me! What shoul i do????
I think you should pray hard, and talk to your bishop and parents about it. If you are praying with real intent, you'll know what Heavenly Father wants you to do. If Heavenly Father wants you to serve a mission, He will let you know. If He wants you to date someone instead, He will also let you know. Have faith that you will get your answer! "Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you" (Matthew 7:7) Even if you have your call, you might be prompted to pursue a different direction in your life. And that's ok! My mom knows a girl who had her call, but then someone asked her to marry him- and she accepted because she felt like she was supposed to. Pray, and let the spirit guide you.
What if they looked at the lips for verbal Q and if they back away its no, if they come forward or closer its yes.
Consent is important. It just is. Being straight forward is a sign of maturity. Don't play stupid games. Games make it more complicated. Communication makes it simple. Just talk. Figure out what you want to say and say it. And then actually listen to the other person without judgment or jumping to conclusions, and honestly that's the hardest part. And the definition of the relationship can change. Leave space for that change.
The way we asked each other non verbally for my first kiss was she some how got my arm around her. I kissed her on the forehead, and by that point we both knew where it was going.
There's something about dating multiple people at once, but separately, that rubs me the wrong way; it shows that the other person isn't capable of being 100% loyal and would dump you after kissing another person that they're "dating" and saying that they're "in love" with the other person after ONE kiss
asking verbally is 👌
“Take it easy, Dallin!” HAHAHAHA
Nova Franklin Love that part hahhaa
@@SaintsUnscripted I made a doody
Lol that is retarded
What's DTR?
Kwaku’s jokes get me every time. 😂
Young single adult wards are quite the rollercoaster.💜❤💛💙💚🧡
Dude I am absolutely terrible with cues I am like socially incapable of like picking up on cues. Questions get weird tho so I just wing it.
A boy should be able to tell.....because everything is always obvious 😂
What is "dating"? It sounds like such a vague concept to me.
9:20 was a curve ball for me. darn it. I thought I had figured out the secret to dating successfully until 9:20 .
Okay I admit that song was effing cool
I am a Christian and I watch the Channel because of the humor. lol 😂
What's DTR?! Haha
I finally understand men's perception about dating. friendzone is real! haha
Idk what to say. Other than dating is hard enough, putting a whole bunch of restrictions on it just makes it worse. Taking it slow makes sense, waiting until your a certain age so your not "too young" makes sense. So there is good and bad, just like most things.
I really wish you people would stop asking me personal intrusive questions about weather or not I have a girlfriend cause it's none of your business and you need to stop trying to set me up on dates or with girlfriends , especially since you don't know me and don't know which kinds of women would be best for me
"I'm gonna die alone."
- MSA
Your happiness and sense of worth shouldn't be dependent on weather or not you are dating anyone , you can be happy even if you're single , don't let the church put an unnecessary amount of pressure on you to date and get married and breed like a rabbit , just because you have those things does not mean that it will make you happy , there are people who are married and have children that are completely miserable
What the heck why did you guys take down the first vid
SMOSBY Stintsfire the quality was baf
Bad*
3 Mormons dang okay
Kwaku is the most charismatic of them all! Has he left? that'd be sad
Hey I enjoyed the video , but you'll need a new microphone.
Keep on keeping on!
JOEY MOFFETT Thank you for your concern. The microphone on the desk isn't actually the microphone we use. We've got some better mics set up above the hosts :)
@@SaintsUnscripted I don't like your video or your pointy beak nose
Justin, are you dating anyone?
Karen Olson I wish haha
Hey Colby
So when is the girl perspective coming?
AzureAnie Soon!!!
When I was in the fourth grade I went and visited the wall where Maximilian the French general of Mexico was executed.
I could see the holes in the walls.
The friend zone is very real
Girls get frustrated with me I'm ace I hate romantic touch so I ain't giveing signals so I'm asking biased on required levels of showing affection not because I want to.
I'm an ace too, I hate sex , I am also aromantic which means that I hate dating too
I think Colby's rapping is awesome
unk!!
But President Monson though...
Jim Caponzi I feel for you, brother. I am afraid you've never actually heard Monson preach and testify of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. He certainly never said Christ died a sinner. Instead he preached that Christ was perfect - Our Redeemer.
Jim Caponzi Jesus Christ is our Lord and Savior. Not a prophet. Not a pope. ❤️
Jim Caponzi amen my brother and May God bless you and yours
Sadly, Jim Caponzi, you are gravely mistaken; however, let's assume you are right for a minute - the Catholic Church is Christ's true Church on Earth and the Pope is the Lord's official mouthpiece for the entire human race. Meaning, the Pope receives revelation from God. Sounds legit, right? Based on your answers, I'm assuming you'll agree with those statements. Well, the Scriptures (and we'll use the New American Bible, which is solely used by the Catholic Church and recognized as official canon for that Church) will prove without a doubt that the Catholic Church (and the concept of Papal revelation) a farce. Catholic history/catechism states that Peter was the first pope (first Bishop of Rome). When he was crucified, the papacy (church authority) was handed over to Linus in 67 AD (Linus is recognized by the Catholic Church as the first Roman Pope). Well, if Linus was the head of the Church (and therefore the Lord's mouthpiece), why was John receiving revelations directly from Jesus Christ on what to do with the Church while he was exiled on the Isle of Patmos (hundreds of miles away from Rome and the Catholic Church)? I mean, it's no secret, these revelations are recorded in the Book of Revelation. If Linus was the head of Christ's true Church and the Lord's mouthpiece, shouldn't he have received those revelations? Well he didn't and we can read those revelations (even in the NAB) that were given to John thereby proving that Christ didn't recognize Linus as the rightful successor to Peter. If Linus wasn't chosen by Christ to receive those revelations, then the Church Linus led wasn't Christ's true Church. Amos 3:7 states that only the prophets receive revelation, something that Linus (and every successor all the way to the current pope) is not. The Bible (and Christ) don't lie. John received those revelations, Linus did not. Christ told John what to do with the churches, not Linus. Catholic Church is false. Cheers.
Justin: Can I kiss you?
Me: Permish to kish?
I am so glad I'm past the dating scene. Millenniums are weird
do mormons only have to date other mormons
No, but we're encouraged to date those with similar standards to ours. Many church members have a goal of marrying in the temple, which is only possible with another church member, but marrying outside the church isn't banned :)
as an aromantic asexual , I hate the LDS dating culture , when I lived in Utah , they were extremely pushy and aggressive about trying to drill It into my head about how important they thought that dating was, I don't like women (Or men for that matter either) and the idea of marriage and having children is disgusting to me, to each their own , but don't force that crap on me
Omg that fish tank is so small!! Help this fish!
It lives in a bigger tank and is only in that one for the filming of the show.
Single teen
Love isn’t real I don’t believe in love
Exactly
That's very true, it's not real
I made first...
Worst Hip Hop song ever!!!!!!
Agreed
MSA Dating Sucks!!
You Caucasian guys dont even realize how good you have it in our mormon religion.
Lds girls are very picky and discriminating if your not white. As a Asian American mormon it has been very very unpleasant dating nothing but white women in the lds religion. All my dates in lds religion have been rude and just show uninterest in me. I left the lds religion cuz the lds girls didn't value me or reply to me...every guy in our lds religion has been kind,nice welcoming to me as a man. Thank you all lds men for being kind and welcoming to me while I was lds. I'm no longer lds cuz of the lds women...
I'm really sorry to hear that, dude. I too have had frustrations with LDS girls, too. And I'm a white guy, so you're not alone. We need more Asians in the church! I'm currently studying Chinese and Japanese! Hope my message finds you well!
Cringe
step one: stop believing in the fairy tales told to you by your 'bishop'
I'm 29 and I know its too late for me. I'm not attractive and I don't make as much money as the average lds guy. I've accepted that I'll probably die alone.
My friend got married at 50. Your fine, don't give up.
Hey I'm an aro ace and I'm actually quite happy to be single and childless and I'm 41 years old, be happy that you have your freedom , dating, marriage and child rearing are overrated and it doesn't necessarily equal happiness , just because the church puts pressure on you to do those things that doesn't mean that you have to conform , I personally don't see the value in those kinds of lifestyles and I think that they bring more pain then joy but that's just me though
@@eatmyassmoore764 thanks for your comment. Funnily enough I'm ace as well but I'm heteroromantic. Being ace in the church is really tough, how do you find it?
@@Shaunography it is tough but I am not a member of the church and I live in Provo Utah and all I hear LDS people talking about is dating , and what's worse is that they try to pry into my business about whether or not I am dating anyone and giving unsolicited offers to set me up with someone and it sucks