When men offer their opinions that are not favorable, I start to offer mine…we as women actually have preferences and standards for men! For example, I don’t like men who neglect their teeth and I don’t like street clothes and skinny tiny legs, I don’t like men who use any type of language in a ladies presence, I don’t like men who have multiple baby mamas, I can go on and on! It’s not acceptable for them to just offer their opinions like they are a factor 🤷🏾♀️
@@jamesnewberry1191Well it doesn’t matter what it is that black men feel they need to assert their opinions on black women. Black men have their preferences and black women have our own, hair or not. We can talk about lifestyle, body type, clothing, hygiene, etc. It’s all preferences right?
I went natural in 2017 , while pregnant with my first born. I used to be upset as to how black men responded to women with natural hair. But I realized that we all are victims of white supremacy. Let’s be honest it takes us all time to figure out how to wear our natural hair and to feel confident in our hair. Now I’m good good. We all need to do our part in accepting ourselves before expecting other people to accept us. It’s a process. Hopefully this will be something that’s well behind us. I have a little girl, I need her to see mom in all her glory. So she can confidently walk in hers.
Hello Alison. I love what you said! Especially about your daughter, young girls need to see themselves represented in the media and at home. The fact that you want your daughter to see you in all of your glory let’s her know mommy is beautiful, she accepts herself as she is and I can too. You are absolutely correct it takes time for anyone to figure out how to care for and wear their natural hair, we all have that awkward phase we’d rather not mention lol. I agree with you on the accepting portion. I always says in my videos be thankful for what you have and you will be blessed with more. It most definitely is a process, I look at commercials and tv shows and we have definitely come along way , but then some person goes viral because they have a comment about black hair and how unattractive it is. Thank you so much for sharing and congratulations on your 4 years of being natural
I feel the same way about my son. He's only seen natural hair on me and he loves it. I want him to be respectful, loving, and kind to young women who wear their natural hair. We don't allow negative talk about natural hair in our house. If he develops this ideology, it won't be because it was taught at home!
@@oneflowerlover hello One Flower Lover. I love it. Like I have said before I have no problem with woman who choose to wear their straight or relaxed hair , my point is our natural hair should be viewed as beautiful as well. And the fact that you are raising you son like that is wonderful.
The way our hair is styled dictates the type of attention we attract and I’m trying to unlearn feeling less conventionally attractive when my hair isn’t “neat”. I regularly affirm myself that my edges don’t have to be “laid” my pony tail doesn’t have to be “slick” and my length doesn’t have to show for me to be attractive. If people disagree then that has nothing to do with me. Thanks for this video 🤎
I agree. Everyday or every time I leave the house my edges do not need to be laid, my point tail will probably never be slick if I wore one one. What is most important is that you feel beautiful exactly how you have chosen to wear your hair that day. I’d you have a significant other in your life I hope they support you and love you for you. Thank you so much for watching !
I just found you on UA-cam and just watched this video. Any man that can not embrace the African American textured hair I have on my head whether curly w/ shrinkage, curly and stretched, braided , or straightened can keep walking by me. That is SO ignorant to expect a woman to not rock her hair in the natural way it grows out of her head if she chooses. The self hate and narrow mindedness some folks carry is astounding. Your hair is absolutely gorgeous and to die for.
I stopped wearing wigs a year ago. I’ve been natural for 13 years(as in no relaxer) but I have worn extensions as I went through HS, college & now my 20s. Around 2020 I really got sick of “getting my hair done” especially living in the south at the time and I LOVE the beach so constantly having to wash my wig, secure the wig while trying to go swim was ridiculous to me & It would routinely get up to 100 degrees and having your wig slide no matter how strong the adhesive was annoying. When I almost lost my wig while jet skiing was the final straw for me. during lockdown I went all in with figuring out wash-n-gos after almost chopping everything off and from there I really started to develop a disdain for wigs. I started to wear more textured hair extensions which was lovely but the maintenance of having to manage my leave out was still annoying. Then 2022 hit and I was 100% wearing my natural curls or braids and I’ve loved it ever since! I have drastically noticed the lack of attention I get from black men(like they literally won’t even make eye contact)-but compared to non-black men I get flirtatious looks and sometimes compliments. I’ve come to the conclusion that BM as a COLLECTIVE do not enjoy black women yet they covet SOME of the features we have, just on non-black women. It’s a losing game and I feel like black women need to learn how to become more comfy in our NATURAL beauty(hair, features, shape, etc) b/c the goalpost will constantly be moving. It’s high time we make society accept a natural black women instead of trying to force us into what THEY see as acceptable.
Unpopular opinion but I stopped wearing certain hairstyles because I was seeing too many black men in the media/social media, wearing those same styles or styles that I used to wear in elementary/middle school. Grown men... Some black women maybe don’t feel entitled to their own brand of beauty/feminity because everybody takes a bite out of it…including black men. I’ve seen ball players with pig tails…It’s very off putting and I think a lot of black women subconsciously think so too. I wouldn’t want to be compared to the men of my group in that way, which is why I prefer my hair long when natural and I think it has something to do with all the wigs/sew ins (Although I never wore those) as well. When my hair was shorter, I was a “straight natural”. Another unpopular opinion; I don’t blame other races of men pushing their women’s beauty to the forefront in media, because that’s what any self preserving/self loving man would do.
Hello Nina. I don’t think you opinion is unpopular at all. Now that I agree with I do not want to see a grown man wearing pigtails, I will say though I do like dreads and man buns lol. Being natural is definitely a journey and every has an awkward phase they’d rather not talk about. I have no problem with men of other races promoting their standards of beauty, I’m just asking why don’t ours or why don’t they accept our beauty how we were born ?
@@KlassicallyKept Hmmm, we’ll, for 1), I think black men have been like this for a long time. Centuries if you want to go back. 2) Because the narrative is that black women are so outwardly (keyword: outwardly. It perfectly fine and normal to be loyal to your people) race loyal when it comes to romantic relationships, they probably don’t think they have to try or push our beauty standards. I’m convinced many think of black women as low hanging fruit. Although locks and manbuns can be attractive, I’m more concerned about the mindset of those men which tends to be a little feminine/absorbed with their looks.
I feel the same way. Now they are wearing bonnets lol 😂 I don’t like seeing men and women on Tik tok in bonnets so casually because it gives a weird look, rather than wearing a bonnet in a pajama or something, but these dudes are really representing weird…
The beauty of natural hair is its versatility - it can be straight, wavy, curly, coily, or kinky - ALL without chemicals. We can wear fro’s, twists, braids, spirals, locs, bone straight with the ends bumped (or not), wraps …. many options & ALL the options should be embraced. The other races don’t have those options without chemically altering their hair. We do not have to touch chemicals and we’re very blessed with many options.
First of all your hair is beautiful and I appreciate you for taking the time to make this video. I am 25 yrs old and I have been growing my natural hair for 5 years. I must say I don’t get a lot of compliments from bm when it comes to my natural hair. When my hair is straighten I get not only compliments but approached by them and it’s really uncomfortable. I don’t care about up their up bringing or what they’re accustomed to, it’s just plain ignorance and self hate which is their choice. Black people are perfectly aware our natural texture is textured whether they grew up to relaxed hair or not. Black men like that are comfortable in their anti blackness especially when they see black women embracing their hair. It’s not sad at this point it’s just disgusting. I have never been the type to beg bm to love and appreciate our natural beauty but I’m surrounded by BW who do. Natural hair criticism/discrimination is not the only issue with bm the list goes on. For the past few years I just focus on the betterment of black women and our issues because no one is going to care more about our issues than us. ♥️ ps. Sorry about the rambling and thank you again for this vid. Have a blessed night .
Hello Lala Desy! Don’t apologize, it was not a ramble it was your thoughts thank you for sharing. First congratulations on your 5 years being natural. The straight hair thing I know exactly what you mean, that same man more than likely would not look my way up if I were curly when he saw me. This is the exact reason I ended the date I spoke about. Had we actually gotten into a relationship I would’ve spend the entire relationship trying to please him. I know black women like that as well, but I am happy to say I have convinced 3 women to go natural 😊 Thank you so much for sharing!
My mom is now going to get sister locks after relaxing for many years and having hair breakage. I’m happy for her. Recently though she admitted that since she was a young woman, she always liked her hair shorter (not too short but think a bob or something). She went to boarding school in Kenya so they just cut the girl’s hair off most of the time. Which I personally disagree with although I can understand. She told me that she only relaxed her hair because my dad wanted it longer. But the thing is with the stresses of life, working in the hospital and becoming a night shift RN, she doesn’t have time to care much for her hair, and relaxing makes it worse. I feel like a lot of blk women felt pressured by the men in their lives more than even just whyte society, because the men CHOSE to uphold those “preferences” and most of the time now they will bash blk women for wearing weave or hair extensions for braiding but will never compliment you or uplift you for natural hair lol. I also feel like In Africa, taking care of you natural hair is not as emphasized and only became more popular in recent times. I live and was born in the US, and notice the dynamics in the black community here when it comes to women and natural hair. The men have a LOT to do with it as well as colorism. Women will complete for these men, and put down other women. My mother is lighter skinned, but still, no matter if they are interested in you or not, the nature of these kinds of men don’t change. Some mentalities stay the same.
I’ve been natural for a little over 20 years and it never dawned on me that men maybe shunning me because of my natural hair. I’m also a no nonsense kind of chic so that maybe off-putting coupled with my “rebel fro” 🤣🤣🤣. I am glad to see a resurgence in our people wearing their natural hair. I make it my mission to make a beeline to anyone I see wearing their hair out in it’s natural glory and if I do happen to compliment a wig then the texture must look like something that would grow out of that person’s head. I also pass along hair tips to any random stranger, give them video links and tell them about hair tools like the Kazmaleje “paddle comb” and the PuffCuff family of puff makers that don’t rip out your hair nor gives you a headache. Each one teach one….or ten! Right? 🤪 Thanks for this video!
Lol hello Super Life! Omg if someone approaches me about natural hair care I can’t shut up. Lol I’m glad you have not noticed or have been directly shunned based on you comment I don’t think that would go over well, you know with you being a rebel and all with you militant fro “
@Super Life yes I agree! The Kazmaleje paddle comb is great, that's all I use to detangle. I'm going to check out the PuffCuff, thanks for the suggestion! 😀
Your beautiful 😍 luckily I’m not a black male worshipper I love my natural hair and don’t restrict myself to just what black men think , I date all men and have had a great time enjoying my natural hair in many different styles ❤️
They are struggling with self-hate, hence why they project their anti-black sentiments onto the women who look like their mothers. It is wild. Black women are simply waking up more collectively than men. We’re accepting ourselves as we are, abandoning societal standards, even the cultural ones. We’re finding autonomy and value in loving ourselves and they’re talking about what they prefer or what looks good? I can’t, lol. Loved this one Mya.
Hello SJ! Thank you, I knew this subject would be touchy , as it usually is. I actually hesitated about this video before posting it. The natural hair movement I am loving right now, it is popping up in so many facets of life, I just wish our counterparts would catch up !
I like this subject well my husband is from st Kitts Nevis and I been to his Island and it is All black our culture when I went there I was amazed at our beauty there their hair was natural and long & that when I noticed our hair can grow very so I told God about it that I wanted my hair to grow then one day you tube pop on my screen about growing long hair but at that time I was relax then when my daughter's got on me on growing natural and I did now my husband said to me he Loves it due to where he's from that's All the women's hair is natural and he was wondering why I relaxing my hair when we as whole culture has very unique hair my husband ❤️ it he says that our black American men don't embrace our black women which it is true I ❤️ your content ❤️❤️❤️👍👍👍
Hello Cheryl. I love this. The support from your husband I am sure made the decision even easier. I love you that embraced your natural beaut and I love how you involved the man upstairs. If David and I are blessed with a daughter she know she is beautiful just as she is. Thank you so much for watching !
Nice video…. Touchy subject…. I was once told by a man in his 50s that he liked me in braids than my natural hair. I believe a lot of black ppl do not like their natural hair because they do not know how to maintain it. Tfs
Hello C C! I completely agree. A lot of black women do what they see or taught and don’t take the time to actually learn their hair. Like I’ve said said before I have no problem with relaxed hair, but If it’s being done to conform or feel beautiful it needs to be a conversation Thank you so much for watching !
Also, some of the issues I had with those guy’s statements was the use of the word “nappy.” That was definitely cringy and they were definitely using it in a derogatory way. They act like the hair that grows out of their scalp is not the same 🙄
Good topic. I’m glad you explained that you are not contradicting yourself. Beautiful styles. I liked when you said that if we showed Black women in their natural hair in social media, it could be more acceptable. How we show up often reveals how we accept ourselves.
Good morning 1922mistyblue. Representation is so important especially for our young children growing up ! Social media can be a gift and curse sometimes. Unfortunately media in general is used to put people in boxes and most of the time when it comes to natural hair it isn’t a good one. Thank you so much for watching !
I agree, in that a lot of women would not go through that entire process of buying expensive wigs, installments and all the other things if they knew that our men would love us in our natural state. In my “experience” men stop in their tracks when they see my natural hair, I usually keep it under a silk head piece. Young, old, black , white…they love my hair. So did the guy in the restaurant think that YOU would date him anyways lol 😆
Hey Connie! Who knows, that was literally our last date and conversation. We certainly were not going to be in a relationship so you could try to lower self esteem because you want your woman to look a certain way. My experience with men of others races who were interested in me has been completely opposite, they had no issue at , lol they questions but no issues.
Wow! This makes me appreciate my husband even more! I’m black and my husband is white. He loves my natural curly hair! I’ve even straightened it a few times just to trim my ends and to enjoy the length (I’m just shy of waist length) while he doesn’t mind it being straight he prefers my natural curly hair and he’s always telling me how beautiful it is. 😍
It’s strange how that’s absolutely not been my experience. I feel men are way more attracted to me since I’ve been natural 4 yrs ago. I think it’s a black American men issue. Black men in other part of the world don’t think like that.
Hello Diamanta. I am so glad that you have not had any negative experiences with your hair and black men, unfortunately for some of us women in the US that has not been the same Interesting, you are the second woman to actually make this comment on this video, that woman was overseas as well
There are a lot of ignorant black men out there. Transitioning to natural was difficult for me because everyone was used to the silky straight and long hair that I had for years. So, transitioning from a corporate work perspective was difficult, because it was a drastic change. However, I received a lot of compliments mainly due to the fact that my hair was curly like ringlets, and people were constantly asking how I styled my hair and I would have to tell them that it grows this way. LOL NOW......I had the most issues from my fellow black male co-workers who would tell me that they didn't like my hair short and didn't like the natural look, which was very surprising and immediately dismissed. I was irritated by them most of all and just found the ignorance disappointing and surprising, and put them in check. Guess what? One of the guys had the nerve to ask me about hair products because...his wife decided to go natural!! LOLLL Hilarious.
Hello Ginger Snaps....LOOOOVE the name. WOW my my...... the tables turned in this story lol. I am curious did you help him out or tell him to do his own research ? I can only imagine how your hair transition went over at work, lucky for me I was natural before I starting working in corporate, but that did not stop the stares and questions hen I would straighten my hair. thank you so much for sharing your experience
@@gingersnaps997 lol wonderful! Either way I would’ve understand your position if you chose not help , but in the long run it was about his wife and not him.
Hi Mya! You always choose good subjects for your Hair Talk! The quote " Never trust a man who finds beauty in every race but his own" is thought provoking. Your experiences regrading comments from Black men since you have been natural are somewhat sad. Especially the silly guy that approached you at the pizza place. How bold and insulting! Also the guys who said 'You look better with your hair straight' and 'When are you going to get your hair done again?'. He would have paid for that date! You are a good one! Keep your opinions to yourself! The long hair/short hair issue is sad too. Why would you break up with someone because of their hair? Suppose there are health issues involved. Thanks for sharing the quotes from Essence. I hate the word Nappy!!!! BTW...I love your relationship you have with your Mom! Have a lovely week, Sis!!!
Hey MJ! Yes ma’am that’s my rock! I thought we stopped using nappy years ago lol. The comments are just that, but if I were not confident in who I am and kept hearing comments I am sure they would affect me, for instance a young woman growing up who is trying to find her way and wants to be accepted Lol the date, I let him have that, we can go Dutch, dont EVER call me again. Thank so maxi for your support MJ!
I love this topic and I’d like to give an example of some thing that was said to me by a black male about my natural hair journey. A friend invited me on a trip with her and her male friend and I decided to go. I was on a natural hair journey so I had my hair in twist, but it was under a wig to keep my hair protected. At the time it was really hot outside and I didn’t want my hair to dry out so I moisturize my hair and I put a wig on. At night of course, I had to take the wig off . when I came out with my natural hair, the black male he said to me “you should wear your natural hair.” I kinda took offense to him telling me how to wear my hair…when I never asked him for his opinion. It also offended me because I felt like I was put on display about decisions that I made for my hair.
Hey Robin In The Cut. For me it's the unsolicited comments. Black women and hair will always be a topic of discussion, but it fuels the fire when our men make comments about decisions we choose for our hair. Whether you chose to wear the wig or your natural hair is up to you, also the fact he felt so comfortable to comment when this was yall's first encounter.
@@RobinInTheCut I can understand that. I think he was trying to give a compliment , it may just have come off wrong and I dont think you read too much into it
Welp. I am so glad that the men I have come in contact with have never said anything unbecoming about my hair. I also tend to go/date where I am appreciated. I do know that the bias exist with men and women in our community and its so sad. I will keep my natural hair until the very end.
I think black women with straight hair that is not straight when it get wet is super weird I don't see it how they see it and I know how they see it, they see it as it makes me feel better, I see it as You Black Woman are the Only Human that grows Hair like Sheep You listen to People without Sheep Hair is Insane, Love Yourself, I thought this was going to be a Video about Men like myself learning how to retain length and maintain healthy hair and how we as Men watching You and Indigenous strandz and curly chemistry and Green Beauty that content is giving us black Men information or mothers never thought we needed so thank God for You and the natural hair Movement or Club whatever you call yourselves thank you 💪🏾😎💗
I really appreciate it when people make ignorant remarks. It saves so much time regarding me wasting my time talking or listening to that person further. I am not my hair, so I don't need to know if anyone else likes how I look, what I'm wearing or how my hair looks. It's unfortunate how comfortable some people are when they make the mistake of thinking their opinion needs to be stated, especially to people they don't really know. Why is it that people with "closed" minds always have the most to say? It's so refreshing to hear how you've handled such foolish comments from such ignorant men. I also feel that you can't trust a women who hates her natural hair as well. Thanks for sharing your hair story.
Loved the content & delivery! I have an acquaintance who ignorantly refers 2 my hair as "Good". I correct him, but he loves dwelling in arrogant ignorance. Once, when I hadn't defined my locks, but instead, had a more frizzy, top puff, this same man said, "Oh, your hair is nappy today!" I just ignored the fool. Most men I come in contact with either have a complement or no comment at all. I mostly wear my natural hair in a protective updo. I have 4a/b hair and I call it curly/kinky. I do realize that we, as a people have a long way 2 go in appreciating beautiful 4c hair. Some may prefer my hair ONLY because of its looser curl pattern, which is sad! Keep up the good commentary, u will grow & thrive here on UA-cam! 🔴🟩⚪🟨🟤🟪🟧🔵
Hello STEPHANIE BOWSER ! The "good" hair comments and conversations will never go away or get old, they will continue to happen until we as a community embrace all of out textures, not just the "looser" curl patterns. The nerve of your co-worker, why not just say nothing I was once told I would've been adopted because of my hair, I would've been snatched up at the orphanage real quick, it was an older woman so I just nodded and said yes ma am. We are supposed to respect our elders but they pass down their views and experiences onto the younger generation and it keeps the cycle going.
Loved this talk & I’m thrilled that I’m seeing more & more women of color rocking their natural hair on television. As long as Beyoncé, Naomi Campbell, Mary J Bligh, Halle Berry, etc continue to wear straight hair (wigs, weaves), it will continue to be the standard of beauty for most black men. I personally went back to natural 2 years ago and love it so much and get so many compliments from people including men. My husband who never saw my natural hair loves it as well and can hardly stop touching it. You look beautiful with curly and straight hair. How did you feel when your friend asked you to wear straight hair for her wedding? Thanks for always putting out relevant content 👍🏽
Hello Natural Woman. Congratulations on your 2 years natural. I love that your husband loves your natural hair. I agree celebrities play a role as well. I will give them a SLIGHT pass because they have to keep up with trends and change their often but I LOVE Viola Davis in that makeup commercial For my friend, I had no issue with it, as her bridesmaids I wanted to do my part to make her wedding beautiful, within reason lol.
I occasionally visit Cynthia g's channel & one descriptive term she uses , which is apropos , for Whites & some other ethnicities , is persons of "NO COLOR" 😅😄🤣😂😆 I'm not a racist , however I am a realist & as soon as I heard it I knew instantly it was a classic !
Wow that was very informative I enjoyed the talk so many things were going through my mind because I’ve been hearing a lot about black man by the thousands that no longer date black women and I recently heard of black men dating white women and getting killed in the process so this is even more of an emotional topic for me and as black women also also feel we have to take a certain amount of accountability because some women this is just my opinion but some women took this natural hair journey to a very weird mental place where there was no way they consider their hair to be done it looked awful and they said because it was natural everyone had to except that as a beauty aesthetic and it simply wasn’t true that was ramp it stop now but it was ramp it but also is painful for your men in general not to love the way you look it’s really bad when you don’t love the white nose and full lips that’s crazy and I wouldn’t want someone like that in my life at all I mostly worry about the young girls I want them to love and appreciate themselves because they’re so beautiful and many times they don’t know it and it’s sad I’m going to read all the comments because this topic is a ongoing discussion my hair is natural but it’s usually very long. And I also wear Wig Daily. Women we are the ones that raise these boys and a lot of those thoughts we put in their heads because we were raised to hate ourselves so going forward in the future let’s raise our sons to appreciate themselves and they own on women and our daughters to love their hair however they decide to do it and to love themselves and their culture. The most important thing is that we have good people that love and respect one another women that support their men and vice versa let’s have that first a good heart will put everything into its proper perspective
Something I’ve found interesting is that pretty much the only people I’ve ever had negative comments from about my hair have been other Dominican people and just people from the black diaspora. Like other race people might say something that’s ignorant because they actually don’t know but mean things to actually damage my self esteem have mainly come from people who look like me which is sad. I dated black men who did not have any issues with my natural hair and dated both men and women of other races and they mainly just had curiosity about it because as u said there is not good media representation of our natural hair. My boyfriend currently is white and he loves my hair no matter how I style it and has always accepted it as a normal thing that makes sense just how I don’t expect him to suddenly not be a ginger any more. I will say his favorite hairstyle is the fro hawk haha I think it’s important to find someone who just accepts you as you are.
Hello Tahirih. It is unfortunate, I have heard many dark skin woman say that. A lot of people will say it’s a form of self hate. But I know there is a man out there being prepared just for you! Thank you so much for watching !
Listening to your encounters with those dorks I mean dudes, I love the way you checked dem foos, I think to myself black women believe that these hair products is for them, chemicals that change hormones are things black women don't believe, how could Sampson in the Bible get his hair without any products how did he make alcohol based shampoo, in the Bible it says touching certain animals makes you dirty, I loathe hair weave, I think makeup is for trans, if women never wore makeup men would have no way to compete and would be left on an Island, Because women look amazing without makeup
In general, people need to stop being so concerned with what other people are doing with what is on their heads. Period. Second point, yes I do think there needs to be more representation of the natural state of Black women’s hair. Yes I do think it’s important for Black women to take the time to learn about their hair. Yes it’s important for Black women to become comfortable wearing their natural hair, BUT I do also think it’s ok if they want to wear wigs,weaves, clip ins, extensions etc. as long as it doesn’t come from a place of self hate. 1. It’s perfectly possible to have and maintain healthy hair while wearing those styles. 2. I equate to fashion. Sometimes you just want to try on a different look or wear a different look. Let’s not look down on how Black women choose to wear their hair whether that’s wigs, natural, relaxed, weaves, whatever it may be.
I know this is a old video but blk men from Africa don’t concern themselves too much on how blk women are wearing their hair it is only blk men from America I am married to a blk man from west Africa (Gambia) he loves my microlocs not to say Gambian women don’t wear wigs because they do but African men don’t make it their business when I met my husband 9 years ago I was wearing box braids all the time he asked me to stop wearing them I was already natural I just didn’t wear my hair without extensions at the time African men love blk women with natural hair
When men offer their opinions that are not favorable, I start to offer mine…we as women actually have preferences and standards for men! For example, I don’t like men who neglect their teeth and I don’t like street clothes and skinny tiny legs, I don’t like men who use any type of language in a ladies presence, I don’t like men who have multiple baby mamas, I can go on and on! It’s not acceptable for them to just offer their opinions like they are a factor 🤷🏾♀️
Nail on the head. Lol, I just cut people off.
Well said!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
They were speaking specifically about hair but you made great points !
When you make assertions about what our preferences are, and what we are attracted to, yes it’s acceptable to correct you.
@@jamesnewberry1191Well it doesn’t matter what it is that black men feel they need to assert their opinions on black women. Black men have their preferences and black women have our own, hair or not. We can talk about lifestyle, body type, clothing, hygiene, etc. It’s all preferences right?
I went natural in 2017 , while pregnant with my first born. I used to be upset as to how black men responded to women with natural hair. But I realized that we all are victims of white supremacy. Let’s be honest it takes us all time to figure out how to wear our natural hair and to feel confident in our hair. Now I’m good good. We all need to do our part in accepting ourselves before expecting other people to accept us. It’s a process. Hopefully this will be something that’s well behind us. I have a little girl, I need her to see mom in all her glory. So she can confidently walk in hers.
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Hello Alison. I love what you said! Especially about your daughter, young girls need to see themselves represented in the media and at home. The fact that you want your daughter to see you in all of your glory let’s her know mommy is beautiful, she accepts herself as she is and I can too.
You are absolutely correct it takes time for anyone to figure out how to care for and wear their natural hair, we all have that awkward phase we’d rather not mention lol.
I agree with you on the accepting portion. I always says in my videos be thankful for what you have and you will be blessed with more.
It most definitely is a process, I look at commercials and tv shows and we have definitely come along way , but then some person goes viral because they have a comment about black hair and how unattractive it is.
Thank you so much for sharing and congratulations on your 4 years of being natural
Amazingly said !
I feel the same way about my son. He's only seen natural hair on me and he loves it. I want him to be respectful, loving, and kind to young women who wear their natural hair. We don't allow negative talk about natural hair in our house. If he develops this ideology, it won't be because it was taught at home!
@@oneflowerlover hello One Flower Lover. I love it. Like I have said before I have no problem with woman who choose to wear their straight or relaxed hair , my point is our natural hair should be viewed as beautiful as well.
And the fact that you are raising you son like that is wonderful.
The way our hair is styled dictates the type of attention we attract and I’m trying to unlearn feeling less conventionally attractive when my hair isn’t “neat”. I regularly affirm myself that my edges don’t have to be “laid” my pony tail doesn’t have to be “slick” and my length doesn’t have to show for me to be attractive. If people disagree then that has nothing to do with me. Thanks for this video 🤎
I agree. Everyday or every time I leave the house my edges do not need to be laid, my point tail will probably never be slick if I wore one one. What is most important is that you feel beautiful exactly how you have chosen to wear your hair that day. I’d you have a significant other in your life I hope they support you and love you for you.
Thank you so much for watching !
@@KlassicallyKept I do and they are very great about lifting me up when my self esteem is low
@@mayerzzzdude that’s wonderful!
I just found you on UA-cam and just watched this video. Any man that can not embrace the African American textured hair I have on my head whether curly w/ shrinkage, curly and stretched, braided , or straightened can keep walking by me. That is SO ignorant to expect a woman to not rock her hair in the natural way it grows out of her head if she chooses. The self hate and narrow mindedness some folks carry is astounding. Your hair is absolutely gorgeous and to die for.
The thing I hate is when some men say “that’s wifey material” just because the woman has long straight hair or long “good hair”.
Yes. I’ve been told I would’ve been adopted in Orangeburg,SC because of my hair.
I stopped wearing wigs a year ago. I’ve been natural for 13 years(as in no relaxer) but I have worn extensions as I went through HS, college & now my 20s. Around 2020 I really got sick of “getting my hair done” especially living in the south at the time and I LOVE the beach so constantly having to wash my wig, secure the wig while trying to go swim was ridiculous to me & It would routinely get up to 100 degrees and having your wig slide no matter how strong the adhesive was annoying. When I almost lost my wig while jet skiing was the final straw for me. during lockdown I went all in with figuring out wash-n-gos after almost chopping everything off and from there I really started to develop a disdain for wigs. I started to wear more textured hair extensions which was lovely but the maintenance of having to manage my leave out was still annoying. Then 2022 hit and I was 100% wearing my natural curls or braids and I’ve loved it ever since! I have drastically noticed the lack of attention I get from black men(like they literally won’t even make eye contact)-but compared to non-black men I get flirtatious looks and sometimes compliments. I’ve come to the conclusion that BM as a COLLECTIVE do not enjoy black women yet they covet SOME of the features we have, just on non-black women. It’s a losing game and I feel like black women need to learn how to become more comfy in our NATURAL beauty(hair, features, shape, etc) b/c the goalpost will constantly be moving. It’s high time we make society accept a natural black women instead of trying to force us into what THEY see as acceptable.
Unpopular opinion but I stopped wearing certain hairstyles because I was seeing too many black men in the media/social media, wearing those same styles or styles that I used to wear in elementary/middle school. Grown men... Some black women maybe don’t feel entitled to their own brand of beauty/feminity because everybody takes a bite out of it…including black men. I’ve seen ball players with pig tails…It’s very off putting and I think a lot of black women subconsciously think so too. I wouldn’t want to be compared to the men of my group in that way, which is why I prefer my hair long when natural and I think it has something to do with all the wigs/sew ins (Although I never wore those) as well. When my hair was shorter, I was a “straight natural”.
Another unpopular opinion; I don’t blame other races of men pushing their women’s beauty to the forefront in media, because that’s what any self preserving/self loving man would do.
Hello Nina. I don’t think you opinion is unpopular at all.
Now that I agree with I do not want to see a grown man wearing pigtails, I will say though I do like dreads and man buns lol.
Being natural is definitely a journey and every has an awkward phase they’d rather not talk about.
I have no problem with men of other races promoting their standards of beauty, I’m just asking why don’t ours or why don’t they accept our beauty how we were born ?
@@KlassicallyKept Hmmm, we’ll, for 1), I think black men have been like this for a long time. Centuries if you want to go back.
2) Because the narrative is that black women are so outwardly (keyword: outwardly. It perfectly fine and normal to be loyal to your people) race loyal when it comes to romantic relationships, they probably don’t think they have to try or push our beauty standards. I’m convinced many think of black women as low hanging fruit.
Although locks and manbuns can be attractive, I’m more concerned about the mindset of those men which tends to be a little feminine/absorbed with their looks.
I feel the same way. Now they are wearing bonnets lol 😂 I don’t like seeing men and women on Tik tok in bonnets so casually because it gives a weird look, rather than wearing a bonnet in a pajama or something, but these dudes are really representing weird…
The beauty of natural hair is its versatility - it can be straight, wavy, curly, coily, or kinky - ALL without chemicals. We can wear fro’s, twists, braids, spirals, locs, bone straight with the ends bumped (or not), wraps …. many options & ALL the options should be embraced. The other races don’t have those options without chemically altering their hair. We do not have to touch chemicals and we’re very blessed with many options.
Well says Bumblebee! That is one of the reasons of the reasons I love natural so many different ways you can wear it!
I'm white and I like my hair the way it is and I wouldn't ever want kinky or coily Afro hair.
First of all your hair is beautiful and I appreciate you for taking the time to make this video. I am 25 yrs old and I have been growing my natural hair for 5 years. I must say I don’t get a lot of compliments from bm when it comes to my natural hair. When my hair is straighten I get not only compliments but approached by them and it’s really uncomfortable. I don’t care about up their up bringing or what they’re accustomed to, it’s just plain ignorance and self hate which is their choice. Black people are perfectly aware our natural texture is textured whether they grew up to relaxed hair or not. Black men like that are comfortable in their anti blackness especially when they see black women embracing their hair. It’s not sad at this point it’s just disgusting. I have never been the type to beg bm to love and appreciate our natural beauty but I’m surrounded by BW who do. Natural hair criticism/discrimination is not the only issue with bm the list goes on. For the past few years I just focus on the betterment of black women and our issues because no one is going to care more about our issues than us. ♥️ ps. Sorry about the rambling and thank you again for this vid. Have a blessed night .
Hello Lala Desy! Don’t apologize, it was not a ramble it was your thoughts thank you for sharing.
First congratulations on your 5 years being natural. The straight hair thing I know exactly what you mean, that same man more than likely would not look my way up if I were curly when he saw me. This is the exact reason I ended the date I spoke about. Had we actually gotten into a relationship I would’ve spend the entire relationship trying to please him.
I know black women like that as well, but I am happy to say I have convinced 3 women to go natural 😊
Thank you so much for sharing!
My mom is now going to get sister locks after relaxing for many years and having hair breakage. I’m happy for her. Recently though she admitted that since she was a young woman, she always liked her hair shorter (not too short but think a bob or something). She went to boarding school in Kenya so they just cut the girl’s hair off most of the time. Which I personally disagree with although I can understand. She told me that she only relaxed her hair because my dad wanted it longer. But the thing is with the stresses of life, working in the hospital and becoming a night shift RN, she doesn’t have time to care much for her hair, and relaxing makes it worse. I feel like a lot of blk women felt pressured by the men in their lives more than even just whyte society, because the men CHOSE to uphold those “preferences” and most of the time now they will bash blk women for wearing weave or hair extensions for braiding but will never compliment you or uplift you for natural hair lol. I also feel like In Africa, taking care of you natural hair is not as emphasized and only became more popular in recent times. I live and was born in the US, and notice the dynamics in the black community here when it comes to women and natural hair. The men have a LOT to do with it as well as colorism. Women will complete for these men, and put down other women. My mother is lighter skinned, but still, no matter if they are interested in you or not, the nature of these kinds of men don’t change. Some mentalities stay the same.
I’ve been natural for a little over 20 years and it never dawned on me that men maybe shunning me because of my natural hair. I’m also a no nonsense kind of chic so that maybe off-putting coupled with my “rebel fro” 🤣🤣🤣. I am glad to see a resurgence in our people wearing their natural hair. I make it my mission to make a beeline to anyone I see wearing their hair out in it’s natural glory and if I do happen to compliment a wig then the texture must look like something that would grow out of that person’s head. I also pass along hair tips to any random stranger, give them video links and tell them about hair tools like the Kazmaleje “paddle comb” and the PuffCuff family of puff makers that don’t rip out your hair nor gives you a headache. Each one teach one….or ten! Right? 🤪 Thanks for this video!
Lol hello Super Life! Omg if someone approaches me about natural hair care I can’t shut up. Lol I’m glad you have not noticed or have been directly shunned based on you comment I don’t think that would go over well, you know with you being a rebel and all with you militant fro “
@Super Life yes I agree! The Kazmaleje paddle comb is great, that's all I use to detangle. I'm going to check out the PuffCuff, thanks for the suggestion! 😀
Your beautiful 😍 luckily I’m not a black male worshipper I love my natural hair and don’t restrict myself to just what black men think , I date all men and have had a great time enjoying my natural hair in many different styles ❤️
Hello
Infullbloom Time thank you and I love that you have taken that approach! Wear your hair however you see fit! Thank you so much for watching
They are struggling with self-hate, hence why they project their anti-black sentiments onto the women who look like their mothers. It is wild. Black women are simply waking up more collectively than men. We’re accepting ourselves as we are, abandoning societal standards, even the cultural ones. We’re finding autonomy and value in loving ourselves and they’re talking about what they prefer or what looks good? I can’t, lol. Loved this one Mya.
Hello SJ! Thank you, I knew this subject would be touchy , as it usually is. I actually hesitated about this video before posting it.
The natural hair movement I am loving right now, it is popping up in so many facets of life, I just wish our counterparts would catch up !
I like this subject well my husband is from st Kitts Nevis and I been to his Island and it is All black our culture when I went there I was amazed at our beauty there their hair was natural and long & that when I noticed our hair can grow very so I told God about it that I wanted my hair to grow then one day you tube pop on my screen about growing long hair but at that time I was relax then when my daughter's got on me on growing natural and I did now my husband said to me he Loves it due to where he's from that's All the women's hair is natural and he was wondering why I relaxing my hair when we as whole culture has very unique hair my husband ❤️ it he says that our black American men don't embrace our black women which it is true I ❤️ your content ❤️❤️❤️👍👍👍
Hello Cheryl. I love this. The support from your husband I am sure made the decision even easier.
I love you that embraced your natural beaut and I love how you involved the man upstairs. If David and I are blessed with a daughter she know she is beautiful just as she is.
Thank you so much for watching !
Nice video…. Touchy subject…. I was once told by a man in his 50s that he liked me in braids than my natural hair. I believe a lot of black ppl do not like their natural hair because they do not know how to maintain it. Tfs
Hello C C! I completely agree. A lot of black women do what they see or taught and don’t take the time to actually learn their hair.
Like I’ve said said before I have no problem with relaxed hair, but If it’s being done to conform or feel beautiful it needs to be a conversation
Thank you so much for watching !
Also, some of the issues I had with those guy’s statements was the use of the word “nappy.” That was definitely cringy and they were definitely using it in a derogatory way. They act like the hair that grows out of their scalp is not the same 🙄
Good topic. I’m glad you explained that you are not contradicting yourself. Beautiful styles. I liked when you said that if we showed Black women in their natural hair in social media, it could be more acceptable. How we show up often reveals how we accept ourselves.
Good morning 1922mistyblue. Representation is so important especially for our young children growing up !
Social media can be a gift and curse sometimes. Unfortunately media in general is used to put people in boxes and most of the time when it comes to natural hair it isn’t a good one.
Thank you so much for watching !
I agree, in that a lot of women would not go through that entire process of buying expensive wigs, installments and all the other things if they knew that our men would love us in our natural state. In my “experience” men stop in their tracks when they see my natural hair, I usually keep it under a silk head piece. Young, old, black , white…they love my hair. So did the guy in the restaurant think that YOU would date him anyways lol 😆
Hey Connie! Who knows, that was literally our last date and conversation. We certainly were not going to be in a relationship so you could try to lower self esteem because you want your woman to look a certain way.
My experience with men of others races who were interested in me has been completely opposite, they had no issue at , lol they questions but no issues.
@@KlassicallyKept Sorry lol I meant the guy inside of Blaze pizza, how he approached you out of nowhere and just assumed that he could snag you.
Wow! This makes me appreciate my husband even more! I’m black and my husband is white. He loves my natural curly hair! I’ve even straightened it a few times just to trim my ends and to enjoy the length (I’m just shy of waist length) while he doesn’t mind it being straight he prefers my natural curly hair and he’s always telling me how beautiful it is. 😍
It’s strange how that’s absolutely not been my experience. I feel men are way more attracted to me since I’ve been natural 4 yrs ago. I think it’s a black American men issue. Black men in other part of the world don’t think like that.
Hello Diamanta. I am so glad that you have not had any negative experiences with your hair and black men, unfortunately for some of us women in the US that has not been the same
Interesting, you are the second woman to actually make this comment on this video, that woman was overseas as well
You are extremely beautiful! You resemble Kim Porter ❤️
Hello Daughter OfAKing! Thank you!
I always look forward to your insight ..love from Uganda 🇺🇬
Hello Phiona! Omg Uganda ? Love it! Thank you so much for watching !
Am from Uganda too
@@Stephanie123-v3w hello !
@@Stephanie123-v3w Habari?
There are a lot of ignorant black men out there. Transitioning to natural was difficult for me because everyone was used to the silky straight and long hair that I had for years. So, transitioning from a corporate work perspective was difficult, because it was a drastic change. However, I received a lot of compliments mainly due to the fact that my hair was curly like ringlets, and people were constantly asking how I styled my hair and I would have to tell them that it grows this way. LOL NOW......I had the most issues from my fellow black male co-workers who would tell me that they didn't like my hair short and didn't like the natural look, which was very surprising and immediately dismissed. I was irritated by them most of all and just found the ignorance disappointing and surprising, and put them in check. Guess what? One of the guys had the nerve to ask me about hair products because...his wife decided to go natural!! LOLLL Hilarious.
Hello Ginger Snaps....LOOOOVE the name. WOW my my...... the tables turned in this story lol. I am curious did you help him out or tell him to do his own research ?
I can only imagine how your hair transition went over at work, lucky for me I was natural before I starting working in corporate, but that did not stop the stares and questions hen I would straighten my hair.
thank you so much for sharing your experience
I did provide help and gave his wife some hair products. She is still natural. 😁
@@gingersnaps997 lol wonderful! Either way I would’ve understand your position if you chose not help , but in the long run it was about his wife and not him.
Hi Mya! You always choose good subjects for your Hair Talk! The quote " Never trust a man who finds beauty in every race but his own" is thought provoking. Your experiences regrading comments from Black men since you have been natural are somewhat sad. Especially the silly guy that approached you at the pizza place. How bold and insulting! Also the guys who said 'You look better with your hair straight' and 'When are you going to get your hair done again?'. He would have paid for that date! You are a good one! Keep your opinions to yourself! The long hair/short hair issue is sad too. Why would you break up with someone because of their hair? Suppose there are health issues involved. Thanks for sharing the quotes from Essence. I hate the word Nappy!!!! BTW...I love your relationship you have with your Mom! Have a lovely week, Sis!!!
Hey MJ! Yes ma’am that’s my rock! I thought we stopped using nappy years ago lol. The comments are just that, but if I were not confident in who I am and kept hearing comments I am sure they would affect me, for instance a young woman growing up who is trying to find her way and wants to be accepted
Lol the date, I let him have that, we can go Dutch, dont EVER call me again.
Thank so maxi for your support MJ!
@@KlassicallyKept You are welcome!
@@mjgarner123 😊
Exactly and why would he even start dating her in the first place if he didn’t find her hair attractive?
It’s a blessing to see a natural black woman….you are beautiful and smart I love your hair…..Hello from NC
Hello Kicshia and thank you !
I love this❤️
Thank you Loving Yah1st
I love this topic and I’d like to give an example of some thing that was said to me by a black male about my natural hair journey.
A friend invited me on a trip with her and her male friend and I decided to go. I was on a natural hair journey so I had my hair in twist, but it was under a wig to keep my hair protected. At the time it was really hot outside and I didn’t want my hair to dry out so I moisturize my hair and I put a wig on. At night of course, I had to take the wig off . when I came out with my natural hair, the black male he said to me “you should wear your natural hair.” I kinda took offense to him telling me how to wear my hair…when I never asked him for his opinion. It also offended me because I felt like I was put on display about decisions that I made for my hair.
Hey Robin In The Cut.
For me it's the unsolicited comments. Black women and hair will always be a topic of discussion, but it fuels the fire when our men make comments about decisions we choose for our hair. Whether you chose to wear the wig or your natural hair is up to you, also the fact he felt so comfortable to comment when this was yall's first encounter.
I would have taken the man’s comment as a COMPLIMENT, not an offense. He’s basically saying my natural hair looks better than some silly wig.
@@bumblebee4024 I agree with you. I just think for a first meet it may be a little much.
@@KlassicallyKept I totally, It wasn't our first meet, maybe I read too much into it.... It just made me very uncomfortable..
@@RobinInTheCut I can understand that. I think he was trying to give a compliment , it may just have come off wrong and I dont think you read too much into it
Welp. I am so glad that the men I have come in contact with have never said anything unbecoming about my hair. I also tend to go/date where I am appreciated. I do know that the bias exist with men and women in our community and its so sad. I will keep my natural hair until the very end.
I think black women with straight hair that is not straight when it get wet is super weird I don't see it how they see it and I know how they see it, they see it as it makes me feel better, I see it as You Black Woman are the Only Human that grows Hair like Sheep You listen to People without Sheep Hair is Insane, Love Yourself, I thought this was going to be a Video about Men like myself learning how to retain length and maintain healthy hair and how we as Men watching You and Indigenous strandz and curly chemistry and Green Beauty that content is giving us black Men information or mothers never thought we needed so thank God for You and the natural hair Movement or Club whatever you call yourselves thank you 💪🏾😎💗
Hello darnell futch ! I love all of those ladies myself. Sorry if the title was misleading , I didnt even think of that!
I really appreciate it when people make ignorant remarks. It saves so much time regarding me wasting my time talking or listening to that person further. I am not my hair, so I don't need to know if anyone else likes how I look, what I'm wearing or how my hair looks. It's unfortunate how comfortable some people are when they make the mistake of thinking their opinion needs to be stated, especially to people they don't really know. Why is it that people with "closed" minds always have the most to say? It's so refreshing to hear how you've handled such foolish comments from such ignorant men. I also feel that you can't trust a women who hates her natural hair as well. Thanks for sharing your hair story.
New subscriber. Love your insight!
Hello LaTonya ! Thank you so much joining the community and thank you !
True talk yeah yeah yessss!!!!!!!!!!!!.thank you thank you❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
lol thank you!
Loved the content & delivery! I have an acquaintance who ignorantly refers 2 my hair as "Good". I correct him, but he loves dwelling in arrogant ignorance. Once, when I hadn't defined my locks, but instead, had a more frizzy, top puff, this same man said, "Oh, your hair is nappy today!" I just ignored the fool.
Most men I come in contact with either have a complement or no comment at all. I mostly wear my natural hair in a protective updo. I have 4a/b hair and I call it curly/kinky. I do realize that we, as a people have a long way 2 go in appreciating beautiful 4c hair. Some may prefer my hair ONLY because of its looser curl pattern, which is sad!
Keep up the good commentary, u will grow & thrive here on UA-cam!
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Hello STEPHANIE BOWSER ! The "good" hair comments and conversations will never go away or get old, they will continue to happen until we as a community embrace all of out textures, not just the "looser" curl patterns.
The nerve of your co-worker, why not just say nothing
I was once told I would've been adopted because of my hair, I would've been snatched up at the orphanage real quick, it was an older woman so I just nodded and said yes ma am. We are supposed to respect our elders but they pass down their views and experiences onto the younger generation and it keeps the cycle going.
@@KlassicallyKept Wow! - Adoption because of hair texture? Yes, we have a long way 2 go as a people!
@@stephaniebowser2630 yes adoption! I think we can get there !
Loved this talk & I’m thrilled that I’m seeing more & more women of color rocking their natural hair on television. As long as Beyoncé, Naomi Campbell, Mary J Bligh, Halle Berry, etc continue to wear straight hair (wigs, weaves), it will continue to be the standard of beauty for most black men. I personally went back to natural 2 years ago and love it so much and get so many compliments from people including men. My husband who never saw my natural hair loves it as well and can hardly stop touching it. You look beautiful with curly and straight hair. How did you feel when your friend asked you to wear straight hair for her wedding? Thanks for always putting out relevant content 👍🏽
Hello Natural Woman.
Congratulations on your 2 years natural. I love that your husband loves your natural hair.
I agree celebrities play a role as well. I will give them a SLIGHT pass because they have to keep up with trends and change their often but I LOVE Viola Davis in that makeup commercial
For my friend, I had no issue with it, as her bridesmaids I wanted to do my part to make her wedding beautiful, within reason lol.
Hair hats !!
I occasionally visit Cynthia g's channel & one descriptive term she uses , which is apropos , for Whites & some other ethnicities , is persons of "NO COLOR" 😅😄🤣😂😆 I'm not a racist , however I am a realist & as soon as I heard it I knew instantly it was a classic !
lol hello A.S.S.. I will have to check her out. That's a new term for me lol, it does have a ring to it.
Wow that was very informative I enjoyed the talk so many things were going through my mind because I’ve been hearing a lot about black man by the thousands that no longer date black women and I recently heard of black men dating white women and getting killed in the process so this is even more of an emotional topic for me and as black women also also feel we have to take a certain amount of accountability because some women this is just my opinion but some women took this natural hair journey to a very weird mental place where there was no way they consider their hair to be done it looked awful and they said because it was natural everyone had to except that as a beauty aesthetic and it simply wasn’t true that was ramp it stop now but it was ramp it but also is painful for your men in general not to love the way you look it’s really bad when you don’t love the white nose and full lips that’s crazy and I wouldn’t want someone like that in my life at all I mostly worry about the young girls I want them to love and appreciate themselves because they’re so beautiful and many times they don’t know it and it’s sad I’m going to read all the comments because this topic is a ongoing discussion my hair is natural but it’s usually very long. And I also wear Wig Daily. Women we are the ones that raise these boys and a lot of those thoughts we put in their heads because we were raised to hate ourselves so going forward in the future let’s raise our sons to appreciate themselves and they own on women and our daughters to love their hair however they decide to do it and to love themselves and their culture. The most important thing is that we have good people that love and respect one another women that support their men and vice versa let’s have that first a good heart will put everything into its proper perspective
Something I’ve found interesting is that pretty much the only people I’ve ever had negative comments from about my hair have been other Dominican people and just people from the black diaspora. Like other race people might say something that’s ignorant because they actually don’t know but mean things to actually damage my self esteem have mainly come from people who look like me which is sad. I dated black men who did not have any issues with my natural hair and dated both men and women of other races and they mainly just had curiosity about it because as u said there is not good media representation of our natural hair. My boyfriend currently is white and he loves my hair no matter how I style it and has always accepted it as a normal thing that makes sense just how I don’t expect him to suddenly not be a ginger any more. I will say his favorite hairstyle is the fro hawk haha I think it’s important to find someone who just accepts you as you are.
it looks like guys are sensitive to looks, it kinda make it challenging for dark skin girls to date while rocking their natural hair
Hello Tahirih. It is unfortunate, I have heard many dark skin woman say that. A lot of people will say it’s a form of self hate.
But I know there is a man out there being prepared just for you!
Thank you so much for watching !
Listening to your encounters with those dorks I mean dudes, I love the way you checked dem foos, I think to myself black women believe that these hair products is for them, chemicals that change hormones are things black women don't believe, how could Sampson in the Bible get his hair without any products how did he make alcohol based shampoo, in the Bible it says touching certain animals makes you dirty, I loathe hair weave, I think makeup is for trans, if women never wore makeup men would have no way to compete and would be left on an Island, Because women look amazing without makeup
Hello darnell futch ! To each is own, but I understand where you are coming from. I don't really wear make up. I try to keep it as natural as possible
In general, people need to stop being so concerned with what other people are doing with what is on their heads. Period.
Second point, yes I do think there needs to be more representation of the natural state of Black women’s hair. Yes I do think it’s important for Black women to take the time to learn about their hair. Yes it’s important for Black women to become comfortable wearing their natural hair, BUT I do also think it’s ok if they want to wear wigs,weaves, clip ins, extensions etc. as long as it doesn’t come from a place of self hate.
1. It’s perfectly possible to have and maintain healthy hair while wearing those styles. 2. I equate to fashion. Sometimes you just want to try on a different look or wear a different look.
Let’s not look down on how Black women choose to wear their hair whether that’s wigs, natural, relaxed, weaves, whatever it may be.
When ard you gonna do your hair? I've heard this soooo many times.....black men and both my parents. It's annoying. But white people LOVE it.
LMBO I have found that as well. My hair is DONE every single day !
I know this is a old video but blk men from Africa don’t concern themselves too much on how blk women are wearing their hair it is only blk men from America I am married to a blk man from west Africa (Gambia) he loves my microlocs not to say Gambian women don’t wear wigs because they do but African men don’t make it their business when I met my husband 9 years ago I was wearing box braids all the time he asked me to stop wearing them I was already natural I just didn’t wear my hair without extensions at the time African men love blk women with natural hair