Memories of hurt, trauma, guilt, hate, anger, etc., all take energy to repress. More energy each time the memories arrive, and more to properly deal with and heal. All needless suffering. We are the ones keeping these alive. My Awakening could not happen until these issues were dealt with. Start on the small things. May you be at Peace.
Pretty goods observations. In my opinion, the opposite of anger is, broadly speaking, anxiety. In face of something alledgely negative, you push outside (anger) or take too much inside (anxiety). They are on the same spectrum and at the extreme we can certainly represent persona. We can also say that anger (movement) is the first and direct response to anxiety (paralysis), and that sometimes anger "can" be the fear of anxiety. For survival, being in movement is always better than being stuck. The other thing is that the target of your anger can easily become a distraction, the anger itself is the subject. I've never experienced fear, grief, or self-doubt, or anxiety in the awakening process, but because anger and rage have eaten all other virus. If you have deep trauma in the past, ultimately only forgivness will free you. And it's a good practice to have, at the end of all day, forgive everything, forgive yourself, so life can reset itself on the emotional level.
"Anger...it feels like fire, it feels like rage, it feels like you want to burn the f**ing world down!". Yes! 🤣🤣🤣 Thank you for your truthfulness and directness on this somewhat taboo topic of anger/rage during Awakening. 🙏
I'm definitely experiencing the anger side right now. Its weird asf cause I am not a angry person but I immediately recognized that something else was going on here.
The videos of you pointing whilst speaking to someone can sometimes hit so much harder than the normal style. Both are great but these just have something in them I can’t put my finger on. It flows and transmits
This is a good pointer, ties back to a common idea that ‘one day I won’t need to deal with this bullshit emotion’. Then you realize that you have spent a lifetime trying to repress it instead of facing it. I had a moment where I got very offended and the mind kicked into overdrive and it was initially scary that I still had that in me to be THAT egotistical and vindictive. Then there was the attempt to just ‘let it go’, which seemed impossible until I just sat with it to see what exactly was there in the first place.
Man, this poignant for me today. I am a recovering suppressor of anger. I used to say “I don’t get angry.” A total bullshitter. Then life threw situations at me that forced me to confront that shadow, especially more since committing to this path. So now, when anger comes up, it is connected not only to the present situation but cumulative triggering unresolved events from the past, and it’s messy. So I’m trying to face it full on, with honesty and openness. I’m getting there, albeit slowly. Is this familiar to anyone else? How are you handling it? Much love, Angelo. You are a beacon of light and hope. 🙏🏻
Yes, Jon! It is absolutely familiar! How am I handling it? Honestly, by bringing more acceptance to anger than anyone has ever told me I could. And, slowly learning to not only accept but to embrace it. The fear of course, is not only that we might hurt someone, but if we truly let this beast out of its cage, we we will become that beast. Not my experience at all. Takes courage, and even a willingness to lose people if necessary. But doesn’t everything important ultimately demand that, including awakening? Cheering you on! 🔥🤬😂🧌💎🦋💜
@@macparker3549 I really appreciate your insight and support. It’s interesting how much this can bring up: the fear of other’s reactivity, the fear of loss of control, and everything else that gets woven into the gordion knot of the shadow. But nothing is more worth it. Thanks for the comment, Mac, and for sharing your experience. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Dude! Just listening to your music! Beautiful, love it! “Dying to Be Reborn.” “Shadow Unleashed .” Love your raw and raspy voice and lyrics, really potent and touching. Others here, check him out if you’re moved to. This dude is doing it and singing it… 🙏🔥🤬🧌🔥💜🦋
And here you say, “nothing is more worth it.” So true for me, as well. Clear that you have courage, heart, and creativity to express it all. And that you’re going where only you can go. My only advice: trust it completely. Don’t wait for anyone else’s pointing or permission! You know and you don’t know… So glad to hear you sing this morning!
Good one. Kudos. Anger in the awakening process is very liberating and a lot different than the anger that might arise in the course of a day. Anger in the awakening process happens once you have seen through the biggest chunk of Maya, the lies you chose to believe or were taught to believe about how to operate in the world, the real and unreal. It may be directed toward others or God or the universe, but you know no one is to blame. It is part of the healing process. It is like a big f*ck you to all of what you used to believe. After the period of anger, you will move forward with more confidence and the freedom to be yourself on your journey.
Can you also do a video about awakening and dealing with the pain and suffering of others around us? What do we do when it seems like very negative, tragic things are happening all around us and maybe even to us
So grateful to have found you. You cover important aspects of awakening that I had never heard anyone talk about, like intense emotions coming up out of nowhere. Lately anger and irritability have been surfacing a lot with no apparent cause (which leads me to believe it's repressed content), but just surrendering to it leads to an energetic release and a clear sense of "purification". Amazing what simple acceptance can do. I still haven't got to the "emotions" chapter in your book, so I will refrain from asking any questions on it for now :-) Thank you!
Oh, so much here! Thank you for raising this. My experience is raw, but I will do my best to be clear. It doesn’t seem to me we can deal with rage and anger without simultaneously dealing with fear. We are TERRIFIED of what we have bottled up inside us. So we understandably try to contain and keep it from “hurting” others. But look at what that repression does! We avoid dealing with potent emotions we know are there. We distance from ourself and others. We become sneaky, dishonest, and passive aggressive. We construct massive justifications because we are terrified of simple truths. We deny ourselves tremendous reservoirs of energy because we think it’s dangerous, even evil. Lovely description of welcoming this energy within ourselves, Angelo. I actually love taking this a step further. I love welcoming the anger in others! I know if you let it rip, I’m going to hear more truth in 2 minutes than you might speak to me in a lifetime of avoidance, repression, and caution! When I had known my current partner only a few days, she said, “I’m not an angry person.” I said, “Oh, you’ll get angry at me!” She has, and the expression of that anger has changed both our lives, opening love in places neither of us has ever experienced. Crazy? Perhaps. But I actually sense that a courageous exploration of what you are raising here can open doors that have been shut and sealed for eons. Bring it on… 🔥💎💜🦋
thanks I love that perspective, of respecting the anger, so it sounds like we just have to allow the anger and see it's view rather than needing to deal with.
I was so mad at a field of corn the other day. I was not aloud to express anger as a kid. It was an act of disrespect in my family. I’ve been so angry at everything lately. It used to be fear. If you look at the emotional scale, anger is above fear. Maybe I’m moving up the scale…
Recently, a flash point erupted (I was alone), and as it boiled, inspired by your encouragement, the source of this became important intentionally. What you point to is to deepen the inquiry, and having lived with it some days find my shins scraped and a bruise on my cheek, chuckling.💐🪷
Awesome timing for this video! I was just thinking about this today. Can you do a video on understanding that the "I" is everything and everyone? I am having trouble getting there but I feel like I'm so close. I know it's something that we only understand experientially but I think for some reason I feel like I'm going to get there and not even know it because I'm expecting it to be profound. Is there any reference to know that we've really gotten there? There are times where I feel like I have and then I start doubting it because it wasn't profound at all and it felt more like a thought.
Be very mindful of how you treat others. If in doubt you can ask for feedback. Always be willing to apologize and reflect on how you are effecting people.
Can I also add that, it’s also helpful to tap into the power of intention. Deciding in your heart that you will simply not hurt others and let them be collateral damage. No buts. And slowly at least with me I became so that I do not harm others no matter how difficult it is. It’s different when I need to express myself to someone or even get angry when I feel they are doing something that is hurting me.
Sooooo fucking timing. So much red. enneagram nine ego framework; decades of repressed fire touching the surface now. erased boundaries for so long -- spiritual bypassing. now the sensation is so intense, it's hard to hold. feels like i am being cracked open from the inside.
Thanks Angelo, another very useful video. 🙏 I've been expressing anger most of my life and upsetting a lot of people along the way. Yet I still can't find the root of it. I know it's from childhood frustration, but that's all I can sense without going into my imagination. So since following non-dualism teachings and advice, when irrational anger comes up, I feel it and let the story behind. It has helped a lot but I 'm still with this dormant grimling ready to roar up any time (and it is easily triggered when I've been meditating for long periods, such as after a retreat). Should I carry on just being with it, being aware of it, feeling it expressing itself?
I have times during the day where I feel very quiet, at peace and with a deep sense of love and well-being. But I also have times when I feel like old emotions are bottled up in me, and I don't quite know how to access them, and make friends with them.
Yes true, you just have to be there with them. Give them a neutral space. And when you’re still just let yourself intuitively answer questions like where is this particular feeling coming from? Usually some feeling/visual/sensation/deed or behaviour of a person from the past automatically come forth. Trust that. If you can do something about it then its okay. If its gone and done then be with it and process it however you want to. But at the end your neutral non-dual attention is the best medicine for your body and mind. Sorry hope that helps, just speaking from my experience.
Current biggest issue. Anger / rage seemingly out of nowhere. Now I now it’s childhood conditioning and go straight into the sensation and allowing it to be. I’m assuming by letting the sensation, the energetic movement be that eventually it will come around less often and be less intense, or am I wrong?
Question: Something happend when i was going through shadow work. Anger came as usual but came differently this time... It came like an entity-personality. When I asked to show me how "it" sees my wife, the world etc it started to talk like different persona but in a way that scared me after the session..presence was there, and anger was there. Can I go through the anger and fear like that?? I guess that I am afraid of unintentionally creating multiple personality disorder🙏 Thanks for the answer
I saw it’s been 9 months since your comment but in case you haven’t found an answer I just wanted to say that gestalt therapy works just like you described. IFS (internal family systems therapy) also. Adyashanti sometimes helps people experience emotions in just this way, and you can find descriptions of that in his book Falling into Grace. So it sounds healthy and wise and I hope it’s worked out well for you!
@@nat998 Placid and people pleasing, yes. A smile that was real but so wide it ruined pictures. Overwhelmingly positive. I won't lie, I snapped completely. I really felt the hulk when he said the trick is he's angry all the time. Rage monster, that fits, for nearly a decade. so very lost. It was my heart that led me here for my anger would have killed me. I'm not perfect but I'm aware my issues are of control. My balance lies in knowing people are human and so it's not some huge deal or big personal crime when my feelings are hurt ( They get hurt less these days) or when harm has been perceived. emotions are a gift you give to yourself. you can have them, they are all used in certain situations. Just.. be a good gift giver. I'm the source of the anger, of the love, of the fear, of the joy. I can choose how much I feel, in context and not in reaction. Most anyone can
Beautiful, HB! Love hearing the honesty of your story, and reflections on living with this and living through it. Not something people talk about this honestly very often. Grateful to hear your experience and your wisdom. Love your description: “ a smile that was real but so wide it ruined pictures…” Now this is a man who sees himself! 🙏💎🤬🔥💜🦋
Memories of hurt, trauma, guilt, hate, anger, etc., all take energy to repress. More energy each time the memories arrive, and more to properly deal with and heal. All needless suffering. We are the ones keeping these alive. My Awakening could not happen until these issues were dealt with. Start on the small things. May you be at Peace.
Pretty goods observations. In my opinion, the opposite of anger is, broadly speaking, anxiety. In face of something alledgely negative, you push outside (anger) or take too much inside (anxiety). They are on the same spectrum and at the extreme we can certainly represent persona. We can also say that anger (movement) is the first and direct response to anxiety (paralysis), and that sometimes anger "can" be the fear of anxiety. For survival, being in movement is always better than being stuck. The other thing is that the target of your anger can easily become a distraction, the anger itself is the subject. I've never experienced fear, grief, or self-doubt, or anxiety in the awakening process, but because anger and rage have eaten all other virus. If you have deep trauma in the past, ultimately only forgivness will free you. And it's a good practice to have, at the end of all day, forgive everything, forgive yourself, so life can reset itself on the emotional level.
Well said
@@zoe233 No problemo 😎
"Anger...it feels like fire, it feels like rage, it feels like you want to burn the f**ing world down!". Yes! 🤣🤣🤣 Thank you for your truthfulness and directness on this somewhat taboo topic of anger/rage during Awakening. 🙏
Go, Jill!
🔥🔥🔥💎💜🦋
I'm definitely experiencing the anger side right now. Its weird asf cause I am not a angry person but I immediately recognized that something else was going on here.
Yeah I'm there
The videos of you pointing whilst speaking to someone can sometimes hit so much harder than the normal style. Both are great but these just have something in them I can’t put my finger on. It flows and transmits
Thanks for your comments Matt :)
This is a good pointer, ties back to a common idea that ‘one day I won’t need to deal with this bullshit emotion’. Then you realize that you have spent a lifetime trying to repress it instead of facing it. I had a moment where I got very offended and the mind kicked into overdrive and it was initially scary that I still had that in me to be THAT egotistical and vindictive. Then there was the attempt to just ‘let it go’, which seemed impossible until I just sat with it to see what exactly was there in the first place.
The Enneagram is a great map to all this, for anyone who’s interested. Eli Jaxon-Bear teaches it specifically in the context of awakening.
Man, this poignant for me today. I am a recovering suppressor of anger. I used to say “I don’t get angry.” A total bullshitter. Then life threw situations at me that forced me to confront that shadow, especially more since committing to this path. So now, when anger comes up, it is connected not only to the present situation but cumulative triggering unresolved events from the past, and it’s messy. So I’m trying to face it full on, with honesty and openness. I’m getting there, albeit slowly. Is this familiar to anyone else? How are you handling it?
Much love, Angelo. You are a beacon of light and hope. 🙏🏻
Yes, Jon!
It is absolutely familiar!
How am I handling it?
Honestly, by bringing more acceptance to anger than anyone has ever told me I could.
And, slowly learning to not only accept but to embrace it.
The fear of course, is not only that we might hurt someone, but if we truly let this beast out of its cage, we we will become that beast.
Not my experience at all.
Takes courage, and even a willingness to lose people if necessary.
But doesn’t everything important ultimately demand that, including awakening?
Cheering you on!
🔥🤬😂🧌💎🦋💜
Thx for sharing :)
@@macparker3549 I really appreciate your insight and support. It’s interesting how much this can bring up: the fear of other’s reactivity, the fear of loss of control, and everything else that gets woven into the gordion knot of the shadow. But nothing is more worth it. Thanks for the comment, Mac, and for sharing your experience. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Dude!
Just listening to your music!
Beautiful, love it!
“Dying to Be Reborn.”
“Shadow Unleashed .”
Love your raw and raspy voice and lyrics, really potent and touching.
Others here, check him out if you’re moved to.
This dude is doing it and singing it…
🙏🔥🤬🧌🔥💜🦋
And here you say, “nothing is more worth it.” So true for me, as well.
Clear that you have courage, heart, and creativity to express it all.
And that you’re going where only you can go.
My only advice: trust it completely. Don’t wait for anyone else’s pointing or permission!
You know and you don’t know…
So glad to hear you sing this morning!
Good one. Kudos. Anger in the awakening process is very liberating and a lot different than the anger that might arise in the course of a day. Anger in the awakening process happens once you have seen through the biggest chunk of Maya, the lies you chose to believe or were taught to believe about how to operate in the world, the real and unreal. It may be directed toward others or God or the universe, but you know no one is to blame. It is part of the healing process. It is like a big f*ck you to all of what you used to believe. After the period of anger, you will move forward with more confidence and the freedom to be yourself on your journey.
Thanks for listening
Can you also do a video about awakening and dealing with the pain and suffering of others around us? What do we do when it seems like very negative, tragic things are happening all around us and maybe even to us
yes
So grateful to have found you. You cover important aspects of awakening that I had never heard anyone talk about, like intense emotions coming up out of nowhere.
Lately anger and irritability have been surfacing a lot with no apparent cause (which leads me to believe it's repressed content), but just surrendering to it leads to an energetic release and a clear sense of "purification". Amazing what simple acceptance can do.
I still haven't got to the "emotions" chapter in your book, so I will refrain from asking any questions on it for now :-) Thank you!
Oh, so much here!
Thank you for raising this.
My experience is raw, but I will do my best to be clear.
It doesn’t seem to me we can deal with rage and anger without simultaneously dealing with fear.
We are TERRIFIED of what we have bottled up inside us. So we understandably try to contain and keep it from “hurting” others.
But look at what that repression does!
We avoid dealing with potent emotions we know are there.
We distance from ourself and others.
We become sneaky, dishonest, and passive aggressive. We construct massive justifications because we are terrified of simple truths.
We deny ourselves tremendous reservoirs of energy because we think it’s dangerous, even evil.
Lovely description of welcoming this energy within ourselves, Angelo.
I actually love taking this a step further. I love welcoming the anger in others!
I know if you let it rip, I’m going to hear more truth in 2 minutes than you might speak to me in a lifetime of avoidance, repression, and caution! When I had known my current partner only a few days, she said, “I’m not an angry person.” I said, “Oh, you’ll get angry at me!” She has, and the expression of that anger has changed both our lives, opening love in places neither of us has ever experienced.
Crazy? Perhaps.
But I actually sense that a courageous exploration of what you are raising here can open doors that have been shut and sealed for eons.
Bring it on…
🔥💎💜🦋
💥🙏💜🐱
KK, have you experienced this, too?
thanks I love that perspective, of respecting the anger, so it sounds like we just have to allow the anger and see it's view rather than needing to deal with.
Thank you and Thanks for sharing truth, 🎯♥😶 🙏 love, grace,peace and understanding of it to all asap.
Gratitude.
I was so mad at a field of corn the other day.
I was not aloud to express anger as a kid. It was an act of disrespect in my family. I’ve been so angry at everything lately. It used to be fear. If you look at the emotional scale, anger is above fear. Maybe I’m moving up the scale…
Thank you Angelo
Welcome
Thank you Angelo!
I will listen to this clip again tomorrow.
Deeply impressed that we can learn from our emotions and that they are ancient.
Thank you Angelo 🙏❤️
Thanks!
Thank you so much!
Thank you 🙏
Fear shows us where to look.
Absolutely!
Recently, a flash point erupted (I was alone), and as it boiled, inspired by your encouragement, the source of this became important intentionally. What you point to is to deepen the inquiry, and having lived with it some days find my shins scraped and a bruise on my cheek, chuckling.💐🪷
I appreciate your sincerity and dedication to truth
For processing/releasing/ old stuff, I've found The Work by Byron Katie really effective. And of course your book!
i agree
Great!💗
Thank you 🌻
Welcome!
Awesome timing for this video! I was just thinking about this today. Can you do a video on understanding that the "I" is everything and everyone? I am having trouble getting there but I feel like I'm so close. I know it's something that we only understand experientially but I think for some reason I feel like I'm going to get there and not even know it because I'm expecting it to be profound. Is there any reference to know that we've really gotten there? There are times where I feel like I have and then I start doubting it because it wasn't profound at all and it felt more like a thought.
Excellent thanks 😊
You're welcome 😊
Given the difficult emotions that one can expect going through this, how can one protect those around them ie collateral damage?
Be very mindful of how you treat others. If in doubt you can ask for feedback. Always be willing to apologize and reflect on how you are effecting people.
Can I also add that, it’s also helpful to tap into the power of intention. Deciding in your heart that you will simply not hurt others and let them be collateral damage. No buts. And slowly at least with me I became so that I do not harm others no matter how difficult it is.
It’s different when I need to express myself to someone or even get angry when I feel they are doing something that is hurting me.
Thanks! This is my favourite video format -- short, conversational, to the point. I can't get into the longer ones recently posted.
Glad it was helpful!
Sooooo fucking timing. So much red. enneagram nine ego framework; decades of repressed fire touching the surface now. erased boundaries for so long -- spiritual bypassing. now the sensation is so intense, it's hard to hold. feels like i am being cracked open from the inside.
firestorm is extremely accurate
god, it does feel ancient. it feels bigger than me, bigger than this whole world; it feels like anger will irradiate this whole planet.
It's a powerful force. It's also wise :)
Burn, baby, burn!
Sacred fire…
🔥🤬🔥🤬💎💜🦋
Hi Angelo,
Thank you for this wonderful video and guidance. How is repressed anger and a sense of control connected?
I’m so in this anger mode especially with my father … who now has dementia … I don’t know how to let this go
Feel feel feel
Thanks Angelo, another very useful video. 🙏
I've been expressing anger most of my life and upsetting a lot of people along the way. Yet I still can't find the root of it. I know it's from childhood frustration, but that's all I can sense without going into my imagination.
So since following non-dualism teachings and advice, when irrational anger comes up, I feel it and let the story behind. It has helped a lot but I 'm still with this dormant grimling ready to roar up any time (and it is easily triggered when I've been meditating for long periods, such as after a retreat).
Should I carry on just being with it, being aware of it, feeling it expressing itself?
Yes :)
I have times during the day where I feel very quiet, at peace and with a deep sense of love and well-being. But I also have times when I feel like old emotions are bottled up in me, and I don't quite know how to access them, and make friends with them.
Allow them to be, observe them, acknowledge, allow. They come and go.
Yes true, you just have to be there with them. Give them a neutral space. And when you’re still just let yourself intuitively answer questions like where is this particular feeling coming from? Usually some feeling/visual/sensation/deed or behaviour of a person from the past automatically come forth. Trust that. If you can do something about it then its okay. If its gone and done then be with it and process it however you want to. But at the end your neutral non-dual attention is the best medicine for your body and mind. Sorry hope that helps, just speaking from my experience.
@@nocapnobs7845 thank you💞
@@myrealnameisawareness thank you💞
Current biggest issue. Anger / rage seemingly out of nowhere. Now I now it’s childhood conditioning and go straight into the sensation and allowing it to be. I’m assuming by letting the sensation, the energetic movement be that eventually it will come around less often and be less intense, or am I wrong?
yes, that is very helpful. Some inquiry around the narrative can be helpful as well especially with something that feels recurring/ sticky
Question:
Something happend when i was going through shadow work. Anger came as usual but came differently this time...
It came like an entity-personality. When I asked to show me how "it" sees my wife, the world etc it started to talk like different persona but in a way that scared me after the session..presence was there, and anger was there.
Can I go through the anger and fear like that?? I guess that I am afraid of unintentionally creating multiple personality disorder🙏
Thanks for the answer
I saw it’s been 9 months since your comment but in case you haven’t found an answer I just wanted to say that gestalt therapy works just like you described. IFS (internal family systems therapy) also. Adyashanti sometimes helps people experience emotions in just this way, and you can find descriptions of that in his book Falling into Grace. So it sounds healthy and wise and I hope it’s worked out well for you!
🙏🙏🙏
Anger is felt when a boundary has been crossed, it's a protective energy. Back off!
thangs angelo :)
Tell me about it 😲😤😖🤬 💛💛💛
I used to be way more mild mannered. All this is pretty factual from my perspective.
Go, Nat, go!
🔥🤬🔥🤬
Dangerous? Perhaps?
But I often ask myself if it’s less dangerous to let it out than to repress it, or continue to be good?
@@nat998 Placid and people pleasing, yes. A smile that was real but so wide it ruined pictures. Overwhelmingly positive. I won't lie, I snapped completely. I really felt the hulk when he said the trick is he's angry all the time. Rage monster, that fits, for nearly a decade. so very lost. It was my heart that led me here for my anger would have killed me. I'm not perfect but I'm aware my issues are of control. My balance lies in knowing people are human and so it's not some huge deal or big personal crime when my feelings are hurt ( They get hurt less these days) or when harm has been perceived. emotions are a gift you give to yourself. you can have them, they are all used in certain situations. Just.. be a good gift giver. I'm the source of the anger, of the love, of the fear, of the joy. I can choose how much I feel, in context and not in reaction. Most anyone can
How do you know it's anger?
Is a thunderstorm, anger?
What is it, if there is no name for it?
Is it anything at all?
Beautiful, HB!
Love hearing the honesty of your story, and reflections on living with this and living through it.
Not something people talk about this honestly very often.
Grateful to hear your experience and your wisdom.
Love your description: “ a smile that was real but so wide it ruined pictures…”
Now this is a man who sees himself!
🙏💎🤬🔥💜🦋
💗💖💗