Of course, they take the house and half his accumulated wealth/ business..the man rents or goes to live with his parents. I’m not getting married in the eyes of the state.
You can't have a sacred relationship with men who fundamentally hate women. Psycopathy exists in both genders. You deal with psychological dispositions not genders, not races etc.
@regalchange the issue is that people are unawakened to the True Divine. They are brainwashed by media, men are shown to be passive and women are shown that they need to be "strong" In our true divine nature its an infinite double spiral of energy. Men dont know how to lead while at the same time be respectful and women dont know how to submit while being loving. Submission to a man does not make you weak. It makes your bond strong and he becomes your strength. But most men dont know how to be a womans strength, it takes consistency if the utmost level. A level that weve lost over lineage. A woman is not safe to submit if her man can not lead, the life falls to pieces. And a man can not lead if the woman is disrespectful and sneaky, the life falls to pieces. Both genders need help to understand what true union really means.
Yeah I know but sometimes someone can change when they get a ring on that finger. It works both ways though, nobody should be abused. We need more respect, if you “apparently love” someone why would you treat them badly?? I’ve seen men and women ungrateful for the help I’ve offered. Not just romantic partners, friends and family.
@@JA-2calling a cope a cope is silly. If you can't cope you can't function, so how is being mentally healthy an insult? You will never in your life find love as pure as a dog's.
@@LoafingMushroomDogs only love you because you feed them. Completely incomparable to the love a mother has for her child or a couple in a committed and loving marriage.
Don’t get married. I was married. Cost me a million dollars. Women start to hate any guy they live with for a long period of time. If you want to be hated and lose a million dollars, marriage is a good way to do it.
@@Ιστοριοδίφης supported her for 20 years of marriage plus 7 1/2 years of spousal support plus 1/2 of pension. She never worked during the marriage. Refused to work.
We need male support groups that look up weddings and then a whole bunch off guys drive by and tell them. The broke guys that have nothing left and the smart guys in the nice cars that they paid off.
I have a friend who is married. He is happy. His wife cooks for him, they have a good romantic life, he makes good money, etc. He told me the have a great relationship and he hopes they stay together forever. Even after all this, he still told me not to get married. He said that even a good marriage wasn’t worth the cost of losing your freedom. I’m used to guys in bad marriages telling me that marriage sucks, but to hear it from my friend who is in a great marriage was wild.
@countryboyred What a interesting point that you write men, can you please reply to me and tell me any other things about that conversation, and how did it felt to you hearing those words? i'm very curious about it, have a nice day man
But you have the choice to be "free" no woman is putting guns up to your head to get married. Men just value their freedom above what a marriage requires and that's why there are so many issues. Your friend said nothing special, 97% of married men think this.
it felt like something is fishy about your comment, then I checked your profile, you are a single mom xD, you parasites never give up searching for a host 😄
Guys I lived With a girl for TWENTY years. Great relationship, great girl, we had 3 children, house, business etc, great life. Then after 20 years she said she wants to be married, eventually I said "OK" - 2 years later she divorced me AND TOOK EVERYTHING! House car, children, EVERYTHING. Guys NEVER get married - NEVER!
Lived together for twenty years? She didnt need marriage to have taken half. Once you live with a woman for 1 year + you are basically common-law. But weird she waited for marriage to only get divorced. Could have saved the wedding funds for the lawyer fees
@@jsocials Depends on the country/state. USA/NC, for example, doesn't recognize common-law. Australia in contrast, has has "de facto" relationships where you are considered "married" even after a day depending on certain factors.
Not in all states. Some states are no fault and some are fault which recognize reasons like adultery. In some states you can sue the person your spouse had an affair with!
My little sister, who is 14 years old, told me that a girl in her class said she's tired of school and just wants to marry a rich man, divorce him, and take his wealth.
Doesn't surprise me. I know girls in high school who said the same thing. . Basically they don't want to work. They just care about their looks and having fun.
If they really love and appreciate a man, then they will stay close and participate in the relationship. The only reason they bully men for marriage is to ensure they get the majority of assets whenever they get good and ready to leave.
I feel sorry for all the households with young men who have narcissistic clinging moms hollowing them out and stripping them of any masculine character.
Experienced divorce lawyer here (Pennsylvania and New Jersey). Marriage is an outdated technology. Better to stay single and joyfully do the things that you love. You can still have amazing relationships without inviting state law into your life and finances. Stay safe. Stay single!
What about marriage with solid comprehensive prenup, postnup etc with infidelity clause? Is that legally fully viable? Do judges have the tendency to throw it out? Also, what about live-in-together relationship without marriage? Is that dangerous due to common-law?
Officed next to a family lawyer, became friends with him some of the stories i've heard (that he was ethically able to tell in general terms) were all i needed to hear. Every man considering marriage should be required to observe a contested divorce proceeding in court and seek legal counsel before being allowed to obtain a marriage license.
@@rayrwyr prenups aren't worth the paper they are written on (no offense jcnlaw) the first thing the spouse is going to do is try to invalidate it with some ridiculous claim and because the legal system in the US favors women she'll probably have a more decent chance than she should.
It honestly just sounds like the only reasonable stance men can take is to just not sign marriage licenses. Obviously society will never change the legal system because it's too profitable and too gynocentric. For men that actually do wanna commune with a woman and make it official can't men just not let the state and all those perverse incentives into their life?
Met my wife at 18. Moved in together at 20. Married at 30. She divorced me at 50 to marry her multimillionaire boss after a 10 year affair with him, who happened to be the married dean of a "christian" college. Now I'm 70 amd my life is ruined. NEVER GET MARRIED!
It's called "White Death"... get divorced after your most productive years just to have it all snatched so you can live rest of your life impoverished, alone and likely kids hate you. No sir, I won't be making that mistake.
I worked at Hugo Boss for 6 years … had a lot of high profile clients who were men and were wealthy … almost every time even they told me not to get married . Women have the propensity for negative emotions , they don’t apologize for anything or show much humility towards men … they want to wear the pants in the relationship while putting forth as little effort as possible all the while claiming that you don’t work or try . Dealing with something like this on a daily basis would drive anyone crazy ….
Rings a bell. Married for 13 years. And before that, I was no incel. Was a rave kid and a lifeguard and had plenty of girlfriends starting in HS. I used to write it off as being incompatible. But they really do start blaming everything on you at a point, and the funny thing is it's usually after they've stopped doing the most basic things while you are still shouldering all or most of the iron costs of living (food, shelter, etc.)
I never married😂~ now retired and live the life of "Riley" . My house paid & car. Minimum bills ~ drive my Cabriolet MERZ topless and go shirtless all day f I r fun ~ go surfing & swimming and eat at nice restaurants ~ have FREEDOM. Yet have my sister and her kid & husband ~ soooo I am NOT when I go home😂🎉!
I’m just here to say that a man who is the father of a West Point graduate and Captain American (Navy Seal and he does look like Captain America) …. He told me that if he had to do it all over again , he wouldn’t get married. And this is from a man in a successful marriage, has three other great grown ok kids and everything. Owns property, has wealth, pensioned, Christian , as in actually are practicing and decent people. He ticks so many other check marks that’s it’s silly. And he looked me straight in the eyes when he told me. So yea, that tells you everything you need to know about marriage, even when it works out, it still sucks for the man.
What is interesting/amusing is how so many married or divorced men can tell young men "don't do it" and yet each time the hubris of youth assures these young men that they're the ones who will walk through the fire unscathed. People also have this hang-up where they focus on divorce rates. Those are annual numbers and they will decrease as the number of men who choose to marry decreases. Focus instead on the how many marriages last X number of years. The odds of marrying and it lasting 25 years or more are vanishingly small. Look at the age brackets for the greatest number of divorces. You'll find it highest among women 40+. This should tell you many of these women wait until they can have access to your retirement fund before they cash out. Don't ask how I know this one.
@@dephitaputrimawardi9503 I can only speak about conditions in the US. I'm not a globe-trotter. However, I don't think female nature changes depending on geography. The mercenary is what nearly every woman is, exchanging affection, real or imagined, for profit. It becomes difficult if not impossible to love them once you know their nature.
Getting married was the worst decision of my life. The primary emotion that I experience in connection with my wife is disgust. I married the enemy of my life.
@@rayrwyras a guy, leaving a marriage leaves you two ways: can’t take care of the women (and being blamed for why the divorce was to happen) and financial-living expenses
@@refraf803050 years ago average women were virgin,loyal,respectful and hardworking. they were cooking,care of the child. my grandma is alzheimer and she never forgot my grandpa she is always crying because my grandpa passed away when my mom 13. but nowadays woman are just slut. my grandmom was average woman,nowadays average woman have 150 body count,dont give a fuck about child,disrespectful and always manipulating you
@@dw4956 it does - i am example of it and i have plenty of believing female friends as well also struggling with similar things... i am patiently waiting for my husband i am a practising muslim female. we are not against each other in the end. we need each other
If married, it quickly becomes “Cheaper to keep her.” And men endure a sexless, horrible room mate who does not help with anything. I’ve been there. Was married for 18 years. NEVER AGAIN.
So your brother is an emotional beta male and killed or seriously hurt his wife , not because of the wife. But becaus he is a BETA and I bet you are too
I have been through a marriage and divorce. After 28 years of marriage I was fucked over by my ex in courts. After I had become a better man. Got rid of many of my character flaws. Worked and became a millionaire. Had children and brought them up well and successfully. Before the seperation lost weight and.got fit. The ex used the divorce laws and weaponsied legal system against me. Took half my wealth created goods and finance. Damaged my relationship with children (which I since repaired). You can do everything right for decades and improve yourself in all areas. And still be fucked over by the government legal laws and courts. Don't get married! Repeat, don't get married!
@@dozoneil1253 I've pondered and prayed on it for years but have never picked up a 'response' of any sort. While I have gone from agnost to theist based on science (probability of spontaneous generation and Darwinian evolution are nil) and am totally down with the teachings of Christ whatever the source, I've found no proof of the essential claims and am hard pressed to believe a book translation and edit commissioned by a king (render unto Caesar).
@@wordup897 Okay, I understand and I won’t judge you for that, I was like you at some point. I’ll pray for you, hoping God will give you the proof you need to believe in Him. I started to believe in Jesus when I was desperate, then God started to show me a lot of proof of his existence, which fortified me in the faith. But Fr, even without proof, knowing that evil people will pay on day if they don’t believe, knowing that this suffering is not vain, that one day everything will be beautiful, is enough for me to believe in Him, even if I doubt sometimes, it makes life way more easier to believe in God and I don’t care if I look dumb in the eyes of people that have no hope for this existence, which makes them suffer way more than me.
@@wordup897 I don’t believe you have to do works to go to Heaven, if you believe you’re a sinner and that Jesus is God and he died for your sins, that’s enough to go to heaven and once you truly believe, nothing will never ever take this salvation away from you, so please even if you doubt, believe once, then even if you give up on the faith, you’ll still have that.
Yeah, if someone wants me at this point they're gonna have to trick me. It's so f*cked, relationships can't survive unless they're built on at least a bit of disingenuous behavior.
@tomasrocha6139 according to new studies, a ton of married men are reporting sexless marriages. Also, most married men might be happy, but their wives aren't happy. Women file at a 70 percent divorce rate. Apparently, you and most married men are the last to know these things.
@@tomasrocha6139 according to new studies a ton of married men are reporting sexless marriages. Also, married men might be happy, but their wives aren't happy. Apparently, most married men are the last to know these things.
I never married nor had children because of the toxic, alcoholic and abusive home I grew up in. It was an absolute nightmare! I told myself at a very young age that if I ever got out of such a hideous dynamic, I would never, ever duplicate it in my adult life! I did the opposite of everything I saw. Now, I have a beautiful, wonderful and peaceful life! No chaos, no drama!
@@bizcota7741 Wow you came from a toxic family and don’t even know it or won’t admit it to yourself because no healthy person would ever think that life is boring unless there is chaos and drama. I’m sorry my friend, time to head to the therapist chair. Your time for awakening will come and it will be very, very painful for you. I actually remember saying the same thing at one time when I was living in blissful denial of the environment around me and the alcoholism and the drugs and the drama and the fighting and the chaos that surrounded me because it seemed so normal. Without all of that drama things felt slow and I felt lost and useless when ih wasn’t right in the middle of somebody’s bad marriage or horrible life choices to help and try and solve their problems. I was so codependent and such a people pleaser that I had somehow lost who I was in order to help them. their problems and my ability to try to help them gave me the validation that I somehow could not give to myself. I would never live like that again. Never. I got rid of all of those people because they love drama and they love chaos and they don’t want anyone around who is peaceful and kind. It was only until I learned about narcissism and narcissistic abuse that the awakening hit me like a big brick falling on my head.
I’m the same as far as a toxic drug filled childhood but that inspired me to work hard to make a loving family myself! Although I haven’t done it yet haha
Everything has become so materialist with women and I am one. We started out with nothing but supported each other. His stress level with work was through the roof. So instead of asking him to cut the grass. I learned how to cut our grass. Why? Because I loved him and he was a great provider for our family. And, I don't get my nails done because I'm cutting grass, I'm washing our vehicles, I'm using sand paper on the house doors so I can paint them. True love has gone out the window.
Married 2x divorced 2x Handsome Cardiologist....Never again...what I Learned? My Parents were a loving couple, married 50 yrs.... never cursed or argured really. I thought that was normal.....LOL Women today feel no remorse to making vows for life then waking up and just burning it all down. There is nothing to gain as a man and much to loose. You want loyalty....? get a dog...or in my case horses. then a boat. I found that with those two things I get as many women as I can enjoy.....on my own terms.
@@mariemarie3614”not all women” is literally a meme term at this point. Hilarious that you actually said it though. Proves everything people should know.
@@mariemarie3614right! I ended through many many women on the casual circuit and then met an amazing woman and got married to her at 41. She’s extremely exceptional though. I think men who are talking like this are attracted to toxic-baddies type chicks. They are not meant to be rescued or considered for marriage. Men are just as bad at picking partners as women. It’s all about what their weakness is. And it’s usually extremely sexy looks/body. People possessing those qualities become spoiled when they try to capitalize on it unfortunately.
I’ve been an auto tech for 26 years, started when I was 20. From the minute I stepped foot into the first shop I worked at, every single guy I worked with drilled “do not get married” into my head. I never did, thank God. Last woman I was with was an absolute nightmare and sent me monk for the rest of my life. My parents are one of 2 couples I’ve known my entire life who were actually happily married long term. Every other guy I have met bitches about his wife nonstop. No thanks.
Because that's how it should be. Women should be taking care of the home and children. You cannot have a stay at home wife and mother and then shame her for viewing marriage as a career option. Up until the 70s, it was basically the only career option.
Women need 2 things: Alpha Fux (i.e s3x with Alpha/hot guys) and Beta Bux (i.e. provision/money from beta provider type guys). If her husband provides both, she stays in the marriage. If she is missing at least one of the two, she cheats or divorces.
NEVER EVER EVER get married. I was married 20+ years, found out she was cheating, went to marriage counseling, said she'd never do it again, she did it again, told her she had to leave, she filed for divorce.
I’m sorry to hear that man that does suck. what’s crazy is in 2024 I think most all men in USA have been cheated on at least once for no reason other than lack of integrity & self respect on woman’s part. these women in America have to wake up & grow up.
Sounds like it's your fault. You're the simp, must of put her on a pedestal. Who the F goes to counselling after CHEATING? No, pack your bags B you're out of my life. Hope you learned something.
Dont get married, its a trap. I know no man who is happily married, only married with stress and problems. The divorced men I know which are 10x more in number, got absolutely destroyed in divorce court, losing almost everything.
@@lordlittletoeq8537nothing to give to begin with, they will throw you in prison and you're still get your life destroyed. There is no chance to escape once you sign that damn marriage paper.
I solved all my relationship problems in my mid 40's when I decided to follow celibacy, and amazingly everything just fell into place. My life as a middle aged man blossomed, I didn't realise just how emotionally draining it was trying to please others, but mostly my own desires! Truly, if you conquer lust, attachment and dependency, life is sooooo much more rewarding and you feel a sense of self-sovereignty.
70 year old happy single man checking in. Been divorced for 20 years now. SHE wanted the divorce. I'm in California so the court gave her everything and gave me her debt. The house I didn't mind because I didn't want the kids to have to move from where they were born and raised. Move forward to now and I have prospered and folks think I'm 15 years younger. She lost the house and her teeth rotted out. Denture time! She now depends on Section 8 housing. She looks like a worn-out 75 year old. She was a beautiful woman when we married. Think Salma Hayek without the big cheeks and jaw. The worst part for her is that the kids are now grown and know the ugly truth after she had them poisoned against me. So now they spend as much time as they can with me and as little time as they can with her. Karma truly can be a bitch. Some un-asked for fatherly advice. My young sons from other mothers, maximize yourselves to the best version of yourself. All else will follow. YOU are now the prize, not the women.
@@ΠανωραίαΚόκκινου-ι4σ IMHO, in the USA it is easier to get through to young men to become based, logical and thoughtful people than for young modern American females. This is my observation based on my dealing with young people of a regular basis before I retired.
I was married for 11 years, divorced for 3 and i have to say, marriage is hard. If both parties arent healed from any existing childhood trauma, golden child, and/or scapegoat trauma- then patience needs to be heavily involved but otherwise, marriage will not make you happier.
@@lili_o_losa I asked a question. You started talking about what issues people have to be able to handle to be married....then you said it was about having kids. Which is it? who had all those issues you mentioned ?
Why Can't men figure this out before walking into the marriage slaughterhouse? I figured this out at 16 and never married. Now at 68, all the pathetic lives I see my friends, family, and coworkers leading convinces me I was right all along.
If you are looking in the dumpster for a mate, you are probably a raccoon yourself. The problem with these videos is that they are 1 sided and leave out important details. For instance, I know several people who met their wives on “dating apps” such as tinder. If you are looking for a mate on something like that, you most likely picked up a mate who was attention seeking and wanted to hookup. Good men and women don’t sell themselves on platforms like that.
SSM has a story about a man who married his Childhood sweetheart, small town, both families went to the same church and the parents of both knew each other from their school days. She was fine, they had a daughter, no problems. Then when the daughter was about 3, she switched from working at the IGA to getting an office job in a bigger town. A pink hair started whispering in her ear. Within two months she was working "Overtime" (he quickly figured out it was nonsense because the paycheck was the same) and went from a teetotaller to a methhead. She began stealing from everybody, holding the infant hostage for $20 until the grandparents colluded to stop her (including the woman's parents, shocked and appalled), and in a year and a half was dead from meth overdose.
They didn’t even change, they showed their true colors and who they were hiding the whole time. That’s why it’s imperative you see who they are around other ppl and how they talk about you in front of others.
I pretended to be someone else and dm'd my ex wife after divorce. I was flexing faking to be a rich guy with a cool collection of cars. Within a day talking she said she wanted to marry the fake me. We've only been divorced for a few months. So trust me guys they aint what they seem. Someone who is true and loyal is a rare find nowadays
Hi, i didn't watch the video yet, but i got married at 18 and have been married for 12 years and counting. DO NOT. I REPEAT. DO NOT. DO NOT DO IT. DONT.
I married my other half 46 years ago. We had 39 good years before she died. We were a team. Since she died, I miss her but, I have no stress in my life now. After she turned 50, she became less rational and liked to shop a lot more. I do not have any social dealings with women now. Good Luck, Rick
True love exists but is rare true and it's even rarer for it too last , at least u got 39 years out of it , most men if not all now won't get a minute of peace with a woman , sorry for your loss and I dont blame you for your decision now to avoid woman
Thank you for the real story, the good and the bad. What breaks my heart are the guys on the verge of retirement, or the guys who just saw the kids up and on their own, and he gets the divorce and decades of hard work and assets are knocked out, and he's back to square one at 50-60.
Never seen the point im marrying. Especially when hookup culture and adultery is perfectly acceptable and promoted in this decadent society. Im only 21, but the women my age definitely aren’t something im attracted too. The entire culture is just horrendous and the trajectory of society is going downhill anyways so it’s definitely not appealing
Adultery and fornication may be accepted in this society but it will never be accepted by the Lord God. (Jesus) Those who practice sin will find themselves eternally separated from God in hellfire. There are good women out there.
1) I have been married for 23 years, and men with the lucky to find a wife like mine. Having said that, marriage is a net negative for men a woman that wants you is trying to Hitch her wagon to you, period. She wants you because of what she's getting from you. She wants you because you are better than her in every way. That's why she chose you! The only thing that she can possibly give you, is what you don't already have (think about it). 2) In her mind, she's entitled to you and everything that yours. While at the same time, you are not entitled to anything that is hers. That is not a partnership by definition, and worst of all, *_it makes perfect sense to her._* women say it all the time, the only reason they stayed in marriages in yester decade is because they had to. Now that they don't have to, they don't. So they won't. 3) For all your religious people out there, that is the true meaning of the fall of Man story from Genesis in your old testament. Ancient men wrote down why life is the way it is, and in the Adam and Eve story, ancient men wrote that God can give women paradise, and they will still have a Wanderlust for something else they can't define. Get this through your heads, because you will never hear a truer statement about women. Ready? *Women cannot have both agency and contentment at the same time.*
Marriage turns love into loathing. Don't get married. Women want to change their man, they hate him when he turns into a simp, they also hate him when they can't change him.
i spoke 4 languages been in america,asia & europe 90% of married man no matter which culture are agree on one thing "dont get married" the other 10% live in rural areas.
Yeah, I speak two, grew up in America, lived in Asia for 6 years and now I'm back in the states. Absolutely correct. Almost any chick from the city is a bad idea. She is going to try to constantly move up in life, and if you cannot get her to the absolute top, she will drop you. It doesn't matter if you accumulate $1,000,000+ in assets with zero liabilities, she's going to want more. But, a rural woman will possibly stay by your side (nothing is certain), but that culture is so much more geared towards family.
I confirm this, i live in north Africa in a majority muslim country, it is the same, most of them are awful and can't be trusted, the laws are against men here too, she can cheat, divorce and get the kids and child support anyway. Feminism virus have ruined their minds and it did spread like wildfire worldwide thanks to the internet.
True. That is always the biggest factor. You should look for a woman who is content with living a simple life. Avoid women who are "educated". Avoid women who have high paying careers. These kind of women are proud and will never submit to their husbands.
I was told a long time ago that "if you want to know what marriage is like, then hang out with some married couples". Not your parents or aunt/uncle...but a couple that's in the same age group. Be a third wheel. There's SO MUCH b.s that goes on, it's mind blowing. All of my male married friends and male co-workers have all strongly advised me not to do it. Good video.
then youd think that 'maybe its just this specific couple?' but then if you hang out with enough couples, youd understand that there are of course unique traits, but there are undeniable universal sad truths... whats worst is if you know that bro from earlier before he knew the girl and you know the things he folded to after marriage that he never would before. its one of the biggest "oh no.. i dont want a life like that... heck, he didnt want a life like that...." moment for me
Married and divorced twice. I have come to the realization that a woman will never love you like you love a woman. It will always be conditional, the minute you are not at your best, they will either leave you, cheat on you or at the very little belittle you. Hard Truth! I will never put any value whatsoever in a woman again. I put God above everything.
It’s real simple buddy, a woman’s love is reserved for her children not the man. The best you can hope for from a woman is respect, nothing more. If you want unconditional love, get a dog. Unfortunately, once you learn what female nature is all about they lose any value you previously believed they had. It’s bad, real bad.
@@fluffycuteishyou as a woman are incapable of loving a man the way a man would love you. It’s not in your nature and never has been. Once men realize that fact and understand female nature they adjust their expectations accordingly. The best we can hope for from a woman is respect, nothing more.
We're talking about the majority of married women. Once they have children, their attention and love is for their children. And the husband becomes an after thought. I have worked around women most of my life. And very rarely do I meet a woman who says she loves her husband
Was recently on a date with a girl. Started off well. Then somehow we got talking about ex’s, dating dynamics in 2024, etc. I don’t back down for anything. She started to talk about how toxic guys are, how women leave because they’re in toxic relationships, etc etc. Let’s just say, I got the check and got out of there 😂. Btw, she was 33 and attractive… whenever they’re 30+ and attractive, there’s a HUGE likelihood she’s got a bunch of red flags.
Brutal reality is this: For the working class, all the good ones are snapped up by the end of High School For the middle class, all the good ones are snapped up by the end of college
Told my brother not to get married. He didn’t listen. A month after the wedding he was texting me constantly talking about how much of a mistake he made. Fast forward 7 years later, he’s miserable. She stopped working and moved her mother and siblings in, sabotages his work, had him surviving off ramen and sleeping in his truck during the winter, she constantly disrespects him; I mean, the list goes on. Sadly, he has Stockholm syndrome, so he’s not leaving her despite all she’s done.
@@0rbital_nugget188 -- I have no sympathy for weak men like your brother. For a man, weakness is a sin with a guaranteed heavy punishment during his lifetime.
Hey brother man one of the best pieces of advice I read lately for single men like yourself is “Run towards God and when you find a woman that keeps up with you that’s your wife!”
Already did that. She went after a bad boy who cheated on her lol. This is the same girl who thought about being a nun and constantly argues about God's existence online with atheists. (She probably still does).
Heard lots of people tell me don’t get married more than I heard get married.Even had a woman ask if I was married or had a gf?Told her no she said I was smart
My undoing was the whole frame game. It's easy to keep frame when you just need to be stoic with her for 15 minutes when she acts ridiculous or petty, and then say "Well, I'm going back to my place". It's a whole other thing when you live together, or more so have kids. You can't just escape and go noncomm for a day or two and let her stew in her own drama making.
@@ResisterCIOspot on brotha, with a girl 10 years, lived together 2 years. I found myself always wanting to leave for 2-3 days / weeks at a time because she truly was just insufferable and I no longer had the ability to escape.
"You'll have to become a narcissistic super hero just to keep a woman around" Exactly, which is why bad boys get with women. Its easier for bad boys to be that way than it is for good men, of course.
Right after I got divorced (not my choice), I met this woman we hooked up for a couple of months until I found out she was married with 3 kids. Never at any point she told me her real situation. I thought she was single. Needless to say I stopped seeing her immediately. She was a lawyer too. Which is just the cherry on top.
I used to clean carpets and many married men would tell me not to. They'd ask me, "you got any kids/a wife?" Then they'd tell me never to do it. A couple of men have even told me in front of their wife. I've seen wives act very dismissive to their husband. And he was obviously paying every bill they incurred.
Same here. Nearly all the men I talk to tell me not to get married and these men are from different ages, different ethnicities and different religions. I am a Taiwanese guy living in Canada.
It depends on the divorce/family laws of that country. If the family laws are marriage friendly instead of divorce friendly, women won't file divorce like they do 90% of the time.
@@MinimalistBachelor rare to hear this from a Taiwanese guy! I wonder your age range. What do your parents think about this? Have you tried geomaxxing?
@@marse7092 I am 45 now. I have lived in Canada since I was 15. I learned a lot about women from dealing with my own female family members (mom, sisters). I was never married but have dated women from different ethnics and the longest relationship I was in was with a Romanian woman several years back (80% bad memory). Where I work now I work with nearly 1000 co-workers and half of them are females and from different countries and different age groups. I have learned that all women are the same. It doesn't matter which culture they are from. My mom passed away two years ago. I am all alone now. Canada is not a good place to be anymore. I am looking into moving to Mexico in the near future. Never thought about geomaxxing. Not looking to be with anyone anymore. I just want to live the rest of my life in peace.
@@MinimalistBachelor Thanks so much for sharing your experience. Sorry to hear about your Mum’s passing. I’m a little surprised that you think that Taiwanese women at your generation were no better. I’d have thought at least in the past, most who are able to immigrate to the West grew up in responsible two parent households, with a focus on family. While I no longer idealise Eastern European women like I used to, I still think that geomaxxing is one partial solution, since in certain countries, there is sizable % who prefer the Asian/Kpop look so at least we are not discriminated against like we are in Anglo countries. While female nature is the same, the male competition elsewhere is much weaker economically. I’m doing alright in my 30s. I do partner dancing so still have positive experiences and friendships with women. However, what troubles me is that I’d like to have children but as you know the marital vow is a joke these days and there seems to be no defense against bait and switch in long term relationships after boredom. Parental alienation would be hell.
when I was in ‘ friends with benefits ‘ with my ex gf she was really shy, and innocent and cute, then she wanted to have real relationship I said okay, and she turned 180 degree. She became mean, controll maniac, opposite who she was… thank god I didnt wife her
A lot of people need to read more about the history and origins of marriage. It's literally designed to create stable economies and keep people under control. It's great for the economy. Not so great for the people involved.
@Schopenhauer69 it's a way to make sure the betas get a woman..... otherwise all the women would share the top men. Society would indeed crumble. As it is now
This! I always wondered why on earth people wont question " why people must be married tho..." * googled the origin in my teens * "....ouh... maybe its not good idea after all NOPE "
My ex wife had affairs multiple times in my marriage. I caught it years after the fact despite my suspicions. Sucks, I had 15 years of wasted time, career moves I wasted and I left military service so I could have more time at home. All that sacrifice and rationalizing to be a better husband, it's hell.
When i was working in drywall finishing, my bosses son was getting married, he seemed to be very happy about it ,like all guys should be right, but when he came back fom his honeymoon, he wasn't happy , he looked at me and said don't get married, i wish I would have stayed single, don't get married man. I think that was 15 years ago, and it still bothers me of what he said, but soon as that day arrived for him , it was like he died inside, and it showed up on his face that day. That's why i chose the path less traveled.
I’m 21, young and know every way I went wrong now but I was in a relationship for 3 years and as soon as I pulled the ring out she cheated on me and was gone within 4 months, I learned everything the hard way. If they redownload social media that’s a red flag ! And there were many red flags I ignored from the start. Now I’m the best man I’ve ever been, started my own business and have beautiful women with boyfriends constantly messing with me and I see through their MESS. Thankful for your content I found last year.
hang in there brother....older married 2x a Physician.....my second wife met another Physician planned it all out then told me one morning ...left 3 hours later. thats after 15yrs married.
Stay strong. I was in a relationship for 6 years. As soon as I considered marriage is when she cheated on me. Strange how this is a common theme. Anyway, glad we dodged them bullets.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
I'm 28 years old today, just finished my first shift at Jack in the box. I have a highschool education and a healthcare trade that is still current that I have minimal experience in. No wife or children and my logic tells me to keep it that way. I have the moral feeling to have a wife and children someday. But let's face it guys society is perverted and everything is expensive. I am content with working full time and reading and writing. I wish those men and women the best in this crazy world. The beautiful relationship between men and women should not be like this? But until then God bless you all. I hope you have a great day.
For a man to succeed he must have money. For a women to succeed in marriage she must know how to submit to her husbands rule, cook, and clean. It won't work otherwise
@@CA1567-v8p Sure but submission only works if she hasn't been a garden tool, otherwise it rearranges her expectations in the bed. That's another huge problem.
Yup biggest mistake of my life was getting married. Women will pretend to be exactly what you want, and will try to destroy you for their personal gain.
It doesn’t matter if she’s a good woman when you marry her. She can change her mind any time she wants to and take the kids, the house, and half of everything else.
Exactly why I think 'you have to vet her properly' isn't complete advice yes you need to screen potential partners, but you can vet a woman for 20 whole years, you marry her and after 6 months out of nowhere she wants a divorce. People's minds don't stay the same forever
I miss my first husband. I wish I’d been a better wife to him. I never took anything material from him but I didn’t appreciate what he did for me. He wasn’t perfect but neither was I. He deserved better and I have to live with my failure. He chose another woman over me. My kids suffered in her care. If I’d been a better wife, she would never have had the opportunity. I had primary custody but I wanted my kids to have their dad so I agreed to extra visitation time. He died when they were on the brink of adulthood. My kids have thanked me for trying to ensure their relationship with their father, but I know it was too little too late and I am to blame for the majority of their losses.
@@FXT-ej8gc you’re right, but I drove my husband away with my feminist stupidity and so I ultimately blame myself for this. She once called me, angry, and asked if I had a solid gold p***y. She said my ex was constantly talking about me and angry with me for not fighting for the money and house. He took it as an insult and a display of indifference on my part. I was totally shocked by her telling me this. She was actually trying to find out if he was cheating on her with me. He wasn’t, but she was always paranoid that he was. This revelation made me realize that I had my share of responsibility for what me kids and I went through. The man loved me and I didn’t value him. He bought me cars, he let me stay home and be a shitty housewife, he never stopped seeing to my needs but I totally did that to him. I deserved what I got and my kids suffered regardless. He suffered from oí because she was a real piece of work. He only survived another 15 years before he died at the age of 43. Im a paramedic. If I had been there, he may not have died. I’ll never get over it.
@@FXT-ej8gc thank you for your comment, btw. I really appreciate the interest. I do hope it sheds light in what women are doing to men these days. Society ruined us. Now we are a bunch of lonely cat ladies.
@@FXT-ej8gc Let me also clarify that my ex worked long hours. He was all about earning a good living for himself and his family. She was able to get away with things by being conniving and basically denying anything my kids told me that I related to him. You can see how he may have been manipulated to see what she wanted him to see. She was evil. My daughter told me how sneaky she was and how she did things like destroying toys and telling him his kids did it. She simply didn’t want them around because I was their mother and he didn’t trust me at all so when I told him about it, he didn’t believe me. Years later he apologized and told both kids he wished he’d listened.
@@carolynm2943 I'm sorry you are hurting over the past. It can be hard sometimes. You didn't know what you didn't know, and in that hopefully you can find forgiveness for yourself. The past is unchangeable, the future is unknowable. All you have is today. Learn from the past and love yourself today, and your future will be a better one. Take care.
Until someone stops the free reign of Family Court, good men will avoid marriage and women in general. Nowadays, only 6.5 men in a thousand get married due to the following scenario: (1) man gets married, (2) wife refuses to have sex, (3) wife racks up huge credit card debt, (4) wife stops contributing financially, (5) wife stops cooking & cleaning, (6) wife cheats on husband, (7) wife files for divorce and takes the house, cars, savings, and kids, (8) wife falsely accuses husband of abuse and he no longer can see his kids, (9) wife poisons kids against the father. What man in his right mind will sign up for this?
Thats all fine and good but even if they fixed all that it still doesn't fix the woman! Who want to be with an insufferable person who you can never make happy no matter what you do! Woman are incapable of love only men can!!
Majority of younger men are invisible to younger women in the dating realm so they are blessed to avoid the festering open would that older men are suffering through.
I’m married 27 years. My advice from my experience, don’t get married. All the “it’s so rewarding” and “you’ll be happier” is all BS. There may be a few really happy marriages out there but they are the minority. And don’t expect much help from the church.
Best decision of my life was not getting married. Last week I did a weeklong grand canyon river rafting trip. Tomorrow I head for San Diego to beachside camp for a week. Timmy C Arizona 59.
Lived with a woman who I was going to marry, but luckily 100k in cash yearly wasn’t enough for her liking so she started having another relationship while we were together. The hardest part is she was whip smart, and we could have the greatest nuanced in depth conversations about meaning, love, strategy, literature. When she’d come crawling back she demonstrated a complete knowledge of what she did, how it affected me and the other guy, how this isn’t who she is and she would hate someone who did it to her. She called me the most loving man she’d ever met. Then when she smelled the temptation of status and ego gratification and money she’d get this weird grin on her face while breaking up with me. I’d calmly explain that she was smiling and breaking my heart at the same time and she’d be like “yeah! I just realized I can do better!” As though I wasn’t even a factor and she was gossiping with one of her friends about it. Closest I’ve come to a Jekyll/Hyde situation. It will haunt me for the rest of my life. I used to joke that the movie Inside Out about the emotions made perfect sense besides disgust, I never felt disgust. Now it’s literally all I can feel in the deepest recesses of my belly when I think of her, see anything associated with her or our time together, or worst of all see her. I have to literally sit down and collect myself and it’s been almost 3 years. Luckily, this hard lesson has saved me and protected me in so many ways and now I feel like a person who travels to other countries knowing what to look out for in pick pockets and corrupt cops and strangers, compared to tourists who walk around with their wallets around their necks. I’ll take that pain over getting screwed for life, and I’m glad it came early and so obviously. You can’t trust anyone with an unfair contract. Why would you? Would you give your parents or kids the right to terminate your life or take all your assets at any time? No. So don’t do it with a woman.
I'm 31M, and I had my fiancée leaving me for dead two months before the wedding. I was RP-aware since I was 21, but still had relationships in hopes of getting married. After a decade of relationships lasting anywhere between 1 to 4 years-long and less serious encounters in-between, I can confidently say it's just not worth it to even try. I still want a family, but I'm not willing to pay any cost for it. It just can't cost me my health, sanity and finances, ladies.
He never met Jesus and was the only witness to a resurrection. He created Christianity with the help of the Roman government pushing it. Think about that, a so called Christian nation eventually destroyed itself.
@@RedLegPiper If a man hits his late 20s/early 30s chaste, why bother? Keep going, brother! The worst is behind you. Another problem with modern marriage is women wait until just before the wall and baby rabies. They don't help a man in his 20s deal with burning and support him at the poorest yet burningest he'll be in his life.
"A woman is like a man, minus all accountability and reasoning"-Jack Nicholson's character, Melvin from the movie As Good as it Gets. Truer words have never been spoken.
@@tomasrocha6139 These numbers are now being challenged. Insurance companies are being shocked as the actuarial tables are resulting in earlier married male death, Grey divorce (55+) is exploding all over the Western world and in Japan with women dumping men just prior to retirement, and the sex claim is just based on self-reporting by "Dishwashers for Intimacy" copers.
@@tomasrocha6139more sex than who? Single people without stable partners? You can have a gf without marriage and get plenty of sex if you live together. 15 percent of marriages are sex less.
I am extremely thankful for my wife of 10 years. She is a gift. I was also married for 29.5 years to my first wife, who tragically died a few months before our 30th anniversary. I am thankful for God's design in marriage.
This is true, everything you said. I went through exactly that, she cheated on me and took half of my stuff and I had to pay alimony. Just so you know, I did everything I was suppose to do to support our family and was nice to her.
i already knew this ahead, im 37 years old, i've knew the society would collaspe when i was 24 years old, i quit facebook and social media 19 years ago! and now u can see its happening, women wants money, green card, etc.., there is no true marriage anymore, being single is the best
If she tells you her Zodiac sign and uses the word, “Manifest,” like it can make shit appear out of nowhere….RUN like your hair’s on fire! I was a musician, a writer, never got married. It just seemed like it’s forever jumping through hoops to keep one side happy or lose everything, “Happy Wife; Happy Life,”and the first hoop goes on the finger. And you don’t really know who you’re married to until the ring goes on, because then the power dynamic absolutely shifts, because only one side has the government to back them up. Like they say: Women marry men hoping they’ll change, Men marry women hoping they don’t. But I’ll say this: back then, women appreciated what we did for them more. They didn’t expect it.
Clarification: out of the 50%+ divorces that occur 80% are initiated by women, therefore 40%+ of all marriages end on behalf of women
Of course, they take the house and half his accumulated wealth/ business..the man rents or goes to live with his parents. I’m not getting married in the eyes of the state.
You can't have a sacred relationship with men who fundamentally hate women. Psycopathy exists in both genders. You deal with psychological dispositions not genders, not races etc.
@regalchange the issue is that people are unawakened to the True Divine. They are brainwashed by media, men are shown to be passive and women are shown that they need to be "strong" In our true divine nature its an infinite double spiral of energy. Men dont know how to lead while at the same time be respectful and women dont know how to submit while being loving. Submission to a man does not make you weak. It makes your bond strong and he becomes your strength. But most men dont know how to be a womans strength, it takes consistency if the utmost level. A level that weve lost over lineage. A woman is not safe to submit if her man can not lead, the life falls to pieces. And a man can not lead if the woman is disrespectful and sneaky, the life falls to pieces. Both genders need help to understand what true union really means.
69%*
Yeah I know but sometimes someone can change when they get a ring on that finger. It works both ways though, nobody should be abused. We need more respect, if you “apparently love” someone why would you treat them badly?? I’ve seen men and women ungrateful for the help I’ve offered. Not just romantic partners, friends and family.
"Happy wife happy life" biggest bullshit saying in history !!
FUCKIN' AYE !
I look at any man who says this is the biggest cornball
Simps
No wife, happy life.
Agree 1,000%
I know a man who prayed for love. God sent him a dog.
Yesssirrr😂
Nah, the whole dog is man’s best friend idea is a cope.
@@JA-2someone’s never had a dog 😂
@@JA-2calling a cope a cope is silly. If you can't cope you can't function, so how is being mentally healthy an insult? You will never in your life find love as pure as a dog's.
@@LoafingMushroomDogs only love you because you feed them. Completely incomparable to the love a mother has for her child or a couple in a committed and loving marriage.
I never met a woman more beautiful than freedom.😂
Waow ! ! Like it
That statement was amazing.
boom! b-b-b-b-based!
Yessir 👍
I am RICH in proportion to the number of things that I can avoid and do without. starting with women.
Don’t get married. I was married. Cost me a million dollars. Women start to hate any guy they live with for a long period of time. If you want to be hated and lose a million dollars, marriage is a good way to do it.
How did it cost you a million dollars can you tell us more?
@@Ιστοριοδίφης supported her for 20 years of marriage plus 7 1/2 years of spousal support plus 1/2 of pension. She never worked during the marriage. Refused to work.
Jesus Christ can I have some money? How do you even get cleaned out that badly?? Wow that’s nuts
@@Ιστοριοδίφηςhe had 2 million
@@inandoutofreal1tyit’s mainly paying off lawyers in court cases, and those cases can be dragged on until you’re left w -$0
I recently attended an outdoor wedding. Two cars passed with the top down and the male driver’s yelled out, don’t do it. 😅
😆😆😆😆😂😂😂😂
I'm dead.
Legendary 😂
We need male support groups that look up weddings and then a whole bunch off guys drive by and tell them. The broke guys that have nothing left and the smart guys in the nice cars that they paid off.
Lmao love it
I have a friend who is married. He is happy. His wife cooks for him, they have a good romantic life, he makes good money, etc. He told me the have a great relationship and he hopes they stay together forever. Even after all this, he still told me not to get married. He said that even a good marriage wasn’t worth the cost of losing your freedom. I’m used to guys in bad marriages telling me that marriage sucks, but to hear it from my friend who is in a great marriage was wild.
People nowadays don't know what they want.. both men and women....Sadddd
@countryboyred What a interesting point that you write men, can you please reply to me and tell me any other things about that conversation, and how did it felt to you hearing those words? i'm very curious about it, have a nice day man
But you have the choice to be "free" no woman is putting guns up to your head to get married. Men just value their freedom above what a marriage requires and that's why there are so many issues. Your friend said nothing special, 97% of married men think this.
it felt like something is fishy about your comment, then I checked your profile, you are a single mom xD, you parasites never give up searching for a host 😄
He needs to experience long term singlehood into his 40s, 50s, etc. Then compare
Guys I lived With a girl for TWENTY years. Great relationship, great girl, we had 3 children, house, business etc, great life. Then after 20 years she said she wants to be married, eventually I said "OK" - 2 years later she divorced me AND TOOK EVERYTHING! House car, children, EVERYTHING. Guys NEVER get married - NEVER!
Goddam she played the long game
Holy fk, wmn are so cold and brutal.
Lived together for twenty years? She didnt need marriage to have taken half. Once you live with a woman for 1 year + you are basically common-law. But weird she waited for marriage to only get divorced. Could have saved the wedding funds for the lawyer fees
Not all states have common law
@@jsocials Depends on the country/state. USA/NC, for example, doesn't recognize common-law. Australia in contrast, has has "de facto" relationships where you are considered "married" even after a day depending on certain factors.
Just remember this: Tom Brady's wife wasn't happy!! The other problem is - the State will side with your wife Even if she cheated on you.
"wasn't"
Kaká's wife said he was perfect, she divorced him anyway. Search for it
Not in all states. Some states are no fault and some are fault which recognize reasons like adultery. In some states you can sue the person your spouse had an affair with!
Even with a BBC?
No
My little sister, who is 14 years old, told me that a girl in her class said she's tired of school and just wants to marry a rich man, divorce him, and take his wealth.
😮
@@42az59 not supprised at all
Doesn't surprise me. I know girls in high school who said the same thing. . Basically they don't want to work. They just care about their looks and having fun.
Wow incredible
That should be a felony. Fraud
I've told every young man I work with not to get married and to never let a woman tell you what to do
True. Wokism and feminism rule now. Let them eat cake and avoid it at all costs. In the long run, men are the KINGS.
Yeah, once you're in a relationship and you let a women tell you what to do, she doesn't respect you anymore. And you need to leave instantly.
If they really love and appreciate a man, then they will stay close and participate in the relationship. The only reason they bully men for marriage is to ensure they get the majority of assets whenever they get good and ready to leave.
@@marcushennings9513thats why theres a prenup😂 if she wont sign that, she doesnt love you.
I feel sorry for all the households with young men who have narcissistic clinging moms hollowing them out and stripping them of any masculine character.
Experienced divorce lawyer here (Pennsylvania and New Jersey). Marriage is an outdated technology. Better to stay single and joyfully do the things that you love. You can still have amazing relationships without inviting state law into your life and finances. Stay safe. Stay single!
What about marriage with solid comprehensive prenup, postnup etc with infidelity clause? Is that legally fully viable? Do judges have the tendency to throw it out? Also, what about live-in-together relationship without marriage? Is that dangerous due to common-law?
@@rayrwyr The moment you start needing a solid, very solid prenup, then you should not even be marrying that person.
Officed next to a family lawyer, became friends with him some of the stories i've heard (that he was ethically able to tell in general terms) were all i needed to hear. Every man considering marriage should be required to observe a contested divorce proceeding in court and seek legal counsel before being allowed to obtain a marriage license.
@@rayrwyr prenups aren't worth the paper they are written on (no offense jcnlaw) the first thing the spouse is going to do is try to invalidate it with some ridiculous claim and because the legal system in the US favors women she'll probably have a more decent chance than she should.
It honestly just sounds like the only reasonable stance men can take is to just not sign marriage licenses. Obviously society will never change the legal system because it's too profitable and too gynocentric. For men that actually do wanna commune with a woman and make it official can't men just not let the state and all those perverse incentives into their life?
Met my wife at 18.
Moved in together at 20.
Married at 30.
She divorced me at 50 to marry her multimillionaire boss after a 10 year affair with him, who happened to be the married dean of a "christian" college.
Now I'm 70 amd my life is ruined.
NEVER GET MARRIED!
Wow
Smh
It's called "White Death"... get divorced after your most productive years just to have it all snatched so you can live rest of your life impoverished, alone and likely kids hate you. No sir, I won't be making that mistake.
Damm. The shame is on her. Keep your head up.
Wow lucky woman, to find a multimillionaire in her 50s! Incredible
I worked at Hugo Boss for 6 years … had a lot of high profile clients who were men and were wealthy … almost every time even they told me not to get married . Women have the propensity for negative emotions , they don’t apologize for anything or show much humility towards men … they want to wear the pants in the relationship while putting forth as little effort as possible all the while claiming that you don’t work or try . Dealing with something like this on a daily basis would drive anyone crazy ….
And what do you do?
@@JasmineRose-ww5gl
As if that's got anything to do with the topic at hand. lol
Rings a bell. Married for 13 years. And before that, I was no incel. Was a rave kid and a lifeguard and had plenty of girlfriends starting in HS. I used to write it off as being incompatible. But they really do start blaming everything on you at a point, and the funny thing is it's usually after they've stopped doing the most basic things while you are still shouldering all or most of the iron costs of living (food, shelter, etc.)
don't marry. Let everything go to none.
I never married😂~ now retired and live the life of "Riley" . My house paid & car. Minimum bills ~ drive my Cabriolet MERZ topless and go shirtless all day f I r fun ~ go surfing & swimming and eat at nice restaurants ~ have FREEDOM. Yet have my sister and her kid & husband ~ soooo I am NOT when I go home😂🎉!
43 single and have absolutely no desire to get married or be in a relationship.
The gym is a much better option.
then why are you here in these spaces? Why come here if you are not interested in having a family?
Why are YOU here?@@BrunoBerryhoneybuns1370
Oh nah man rather get married bro, don't u want to carry on your bloodline?
@@zs8796 no one said we don't wanna get married in general.
I’m just here to say that a man who is the father of a West Point graduate and Captain American (Navy Seal and he does look like Captain America) …. He told me that if he had to do it all over again , he wouldn’t get married. And this is from a man in a successful marriage, has three other great grown ok kids and everything. Owns property, has wealth, pensioned, Christian , as in actually are practicing and decent people. He ticks so many other check marks that’s it’s silly. And he looked me straight in the eyes when he told me. So yea, that tells you everything you need to know about marriage, even when it works out, it still sucks for the man.
I've made alot of mistakes in my life but getting married won't be one of them
@@Gavi-144 amen brother
LOL😮😅
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Be happy, healthy, and free. Many of us can not say the same
💯💯💯💯
Been saying this for years… the #1 phrase of all married men I’ve ever known has been ‘don’t ever get married.’
Practically every married man I've met have told me not to get married
@@AustraliaUnmasked1984If they don't say it. You can see it in their soul
@@appletherapy faccctttsss
Women in 2024 don’t act like wives everything is me me me on social media so toxic
If you find a traditional woman, then I’d say get married. Trouble is, that’s almost impossible these days.
What is interesting/amusing is how so many married or divorced men can tell young men "don't do it" and yet each time the hubris of youth assures these young men that they're the ones who will walk through the fire unscathed.
People also have this hang-up where they focus on divorce rates. Those are annual numbers and they will decrease as the number of men who choose to marry decreases. Focus instead on the how many marriages last X number of years. The odds of marrying and it lasting 25 years or more are vanishingly small.
Look at the age brackets for the greatest number of divorces. You'll find it highest among women 40+. This should tell you many of these women wait until they can have access to your retirement fund before they cash out. Don't ask how I know this one.
whew... is it on the america/western countries only?
@@dephitaputrimawardi9503 I can only speak about conditions in the US. I'm not a globe-trotter.
However, I don't think female nature changes depending on geography. The mercenary is what nearly every woman is, exchanging affection, real or imagined, for profit. It becomes difficult if not impossible to love them once you know their nature.
Getting married was the worst decision of my life. The primary emotion that I experience in connection with my wife is disgust. I married the enemy of my life.
How many years did it take for her to bait and switch you in the marriage?
Why don't you leave the marriage?
Sorry brother
Yikes
@@rayrwyras a guy, leaving a marriage leaves you two ways: can’t take care of the women (and being blamed for why the divorce was to happen) and financial-living expenses
As a divorced man i can tell you its never worth it. Woman today are not even close to girlfriend material, let alone wife material.
They never have been we just didn’t expect much from them.
@@refraf803050 years ago average women were virgin,loyal,respectful and hardworking. they were cooking,care of the child. my grandma is alzheimer and she never forgot my grandpa she is always crying because my grandpa passed away when my mom 13. but nowadays woman are just slut. my grandmom was average woman,nowadays average woman have 150 body count,dont give a fuck about child,disrespectful and always manipulating you
what about the women that are wife material that often get overlooked by males?
@@noorabbas706 Doesn't exist, doesn't happen.
@@dw4956 it does - i am example of it and i have plenty of believing female friends as well also struggling with similar things... i am patiently waiting for my husband i am a practising muslim female. we are not against each other in the end. we need each other
If married, it quickly becomes “Cheaper to keep her.” And men endure a sexless, horrible room mate who does not help with anything. I’ve been there. Was married for 18 years. NEVER AGAIN.
Be careful who you marry. My brother made the wrong choice and now he's going to prison for the rest of his life
For what?
Tell us the story bro you could really help someone
I understand that one! Once I was arrested and spent the night at the station.
Bitches be cray cray..
.....for real...
....for reals... bruh...
So your brother is an emotional beta male and killed or seriously hurt his wife , not because of the wife. But becaus he is a BETA and I bet you are too
I have been through a marriage and divorce.
After 28 years of marriage I was fucked over by my ex in courts.
After I had become a better man.
Got rid of many of my character flaws.
Worked and became a millionaire.
Had children and brought them up well and successfully.
Before the seperation lost weight and.got fit.
The ex used the divorce laws and weaponsied legal system against me.
Took half my wealth created goods and finance.
Damaged my relationship with children (which I since repaired).
You can do everything right for decades and improve yourself in all areas.
And still be fucked over by the government legal laws and courts.
Don't get married!
Repeat, don't get married!
Thanks for sharing brother
How could you become a millionaire again?
@@typingcatjust hard work and cold showers
Women are a long long long list of liabilities.
Wouldn’t have those children if you hadn’t took the chance. Blessings come with curses sometimes.
This world is so dark and life's so full of suffering, I don't know if it's ethical to bring children into it.
It’s not.
If you believe you can be saved through Jesus, it’s worth it, for what’s to come after this miserable life.
@@dozoneil1253 I've pondered and prayed on it for years but have never picked up a 'response' of any sort.
While I have gone from agnost to theist based on science (probability of spontaneous generation and Darwinian evolution are nil) and am totally down with the teachings of Christ whatever the source, I've found no proof of the essential claims and am hard pressed to believe a book translation and edit commissioned by a king (render unto Caesar).
@@wordup897 Okay, I understand and I won’t judge you for that, I was like you at some point. I’ll pray for you, hoping God will give you the proof you need to believe in Him.
I started to believe in Jesus when I was desperate, then God started to show me a lot of proof of his existence, which fortified me in the faith.
But Fr, even without proof, knowing that evil people will pay on day if they don’t believe, knowing that this suffering is not vain, that one day everything will be beautiful, is enough for me to believe in Him, even if I doubt sometimes, it makes life way more easier to believe in God and I don’t care if I look dumb in the eyes of people that have no hope for this existence, which makes them suffer way more than me.
@@wordup897 I don’t believe you have to do works to go to Heaven, if you believe you’re a sinner and that Jesus is God and he died for your sins, that’s enough to go to heaven and once you truly believe, nothing will never ever take this salvation away from you, so please even if you doubt, believe once, then even if you give up on the faith, you’ll still have that.
Western married men are the nice guys that most women settled for. A ton of married men have to beg their wives for intimacy.
Interesting......Ain't no Bad Boy going to wife them up! Females should probably stop being deluded by social media and reality tv shows.
Yeah, if someone wants me at this point they're gonna have to trick me. It's so f*cked, relationships can't survive unless they're built on at least a bit of disingenuous behavior.
No, married men are happier. live longer, have more sex and over 60% remarry after divorce
@tomasrocha6139 according to new studies, a ton of married men are reporting sexless marriages. Also, most married men might be happy, but their wives aren't happy. Women file at a 70 percent divorce rate. Apparently, you and most married men are the last to know these things.
@@tomasrocha6139 according to new studies a ton of married men are reporting sexless marriages. Also, married men might be happy, but their wives aren't happy. Apparently, most married men are the last to know these things.
I never married nor had children because of the toxic, alcoholic and abusive home I grew up in. It was an absolute nightmare! I told myself at a very young age that if I ever got out of such a hideous dynamic, I would never, ever duplicate it in my adult life! I did the opposite of everything I saw. Now, I have a beautiful, wonderful and peaceful life! No chaos, no drama!
Drama and chaos are good in proportionality. Or else life would have been boring..
@@bizcota7741 Wow you came from a toxic family and don’t even know it or won’t admit it to yourself because no healthy person would ever think that life is boring unless there is chaos and drama. I’m sorry my friend, time to head to the therapist chair. Your time for awakening will come and it will be very, very painful for you. I actually remember saying the same thing at one time when I was living in blissful denial of the environment around me and the alcoholism and the drugs and the drama and the fighting and the chaos that surrounded me because it seemed so normal. Without all of that drama things felt slow and I felt lost and useless when ih wasn’t right in the middle of somebody’s bad marriage or horrible life choices to help and try and solve their problems. I was so codependent and such a people pleaser that I had somehow lost who I was in order to help them. their problems and my ability to try to help them gave me the validation that I somehow could not give to myself. I would never live like that again. Never. I got rid of all of those people because they love drama and they love chaos and they don’t want anyone around who is peaceful and kind. It was only until I learned about narcissism and narcissistic abuse that the awakening hit me like a big brick falling on my head.
@@bizcota7741you're a kid
@@bizcota7741so make it yourself in a manageable productive way.
I’m the same as far as a toxic drug filled childhood but that inspired me to work hard to make a loving family myself! Although I haven’t done it yet haha
Everything has become so materialist with women and I am one. We started out with nothing but supported each other. His stress level with work was through the roof. So instead of asking him to cut the grass. I learned how to cut our grass. Why? Because I loved him and he was a great provider for our family. And, I don't get my nails done because I'm cutting grass, I'm washing our vehicles, I'm using sand paper on the house doors so I can paint them. True love has gone out the window.
You are a real one - glad you support one another
My two oldest friends have wives like you........lucky fellas!
@@stoptheworldiwannagetoff4780 yes sir we are out here doing our part. Thank you for the acknowledgement.
"There is no wisdom in signing a contract with someone who benefits from breaking it."
Women's household income declines quite a bit after divorce, they're hardly rewarded
@@tomasrocha6139 BS! Only if the couple is poor. Any other middle class woman makes out very well in divorce.
Ask me how I know.
I'm loving the wisdom! Keep it up gentlemen!
Married 2x divorced 2x Handsome Cardiologist....Never again...what I Learned? My Parents were a loving couple, married 50 yrs.... never cursed or argured really. I thought that was normal.....LOL Women today feel no remorse to making vows for life then waking up and just burning it all down. There is nothing to gain as a man and much to loose. You want loyalty....? get a dog...or in my case horses. then a boat. I found that with those two things I get as many women as I can enjoy.....on my own terms.
...the women you've met and chosen are that way, not all women 💯
@@mariemarie3614”not all women” is literally a meme term at this point. Hilarious that you actually said it though. Proves everything people should know.
@@mariemarie3614right! I ended through many many women on the casual circuit and then met an amazing woman and got married to her at 41. She’s extremely exceptional though.
I think men who are talking like this are attracted to toxic-baddies type chicks. They are not meant to be rescued or considered for marriage. Men are just as bad at picking partners as women. It’s all about what their weakness is. And it’s usually extremely sexy looks/body. People possessing those qualities become spoiled when they try to capitalize on it unfortunately.
"Not all sharks bite"
That "not all women are like that" is a huge red flag 🚩 a huge trap 😂
I’ve been an auto tech for 26 years, started when I was 20. From the minute I stepped foot into the first shop I worked at, every single guy I worked with drilled “do not get married” into my head. I never did, thank God. Last woman I was with was an absolute nightmare and sent me monk for the rest of my life. My parents are one of 2 couples I’ve known my entire life who were actually happily married long term. Every other guy I have met bitches about his wife nonstop. No thanks.
I did it once, lasted 15 years, and it almost killed me. AVOID
nearly all married men got married while in a scarcity mindset and picked a dog of a wife.. take your time, be picky, and choose wisely.
The scarcity mindset is a tough one.
💯 % correct
And thought „wow, then I can that 🐱 all the time!“
Little did they know it’s not that special in the end.
@@GuitarcopeI wouldn’t think wanting to have kids is scarcity mindset though?
Facts
"Behind every commitment was an ultimatum"- @Psychacks
I'm 55 never been married. I'm very happy. There was always an inner voice telling me 'don't do it' from a very early age.
I'm the marriage monster. I'm coming to marry u rooooaaaar
@@marilynyoh7951 Lol. 😅
😂😂😂😂@@marilynyoh7951
@@marilynyoh7951stfu this is not funny
@@marilynyoh7951😂😂😂
You said “women view marriage as a career option”. That’s the best line I’ve seen on UA-cam in years. Well said.
Because that's how it should be. Women should be taking care of the home and children. You cannot have a stay at home wife and mother and then shame her for viewing marriage as a career option. Up until the 70s, it was basically the only career option.
@@bettedavis45 good point
Women need 2 things: Alpha Fux (i.e s3x with Alpha/hot guys) and Beta Bux (i.e. provision/money from beta provider type guys). If her husband provides both, she stays in the marriage. If she is missing at least one of the two, she cheats or divorces.
Yes but when you leave your career you don't get to take their stuff with you. That's the issue@@bettedavis45
@@FantasticMedia6786 🤯
Not even woman of god are what you think brother, trust me.
what do you mean?
@@ruleaus7664 Church women are just as hypergamous as non-church ones. Been there, done that.
@ruleaus7664 its just the nature of eve. its the way women operate
Bingo
Just a fictional narrative they picked to feel better about themselves. In reality, they're all the same. I'm old enough to say this.
NEVER EVER EVER get married. I was married 20+ years, found out she was cheating, went to marriage counseling, said she'd never do it again, she did it again, told her she had to leave, she filed for divorce.
I’m sorry to hear that man that does suck. what’s crazy is in 2024 I think most all men in USA have been cheated on at least once for no reason other than lack of integrity & self respect on woman’s part. these women in America have to wake up & grow up.
A leopard can’t and will never change its spots. Once a cheater will always be a cheater
Sounds like it's your fault. You're the simp, must of put her on a pedestal. Who the F goes to counselling after CHEATING? No, pack your bags B you're out of my life. Hope you learned something.
Dont get married, its a trap. I know no man who is happily married, only married with stress and problems. The divorced men I know which are 10x more in number, got absolutely destroyed in divorce court, losing almost everything.
the secret there is to have nothing to give to begin with lol.
@@lordlittletoeq8537😂
How many men do you know ? I know plenty who are happily married
Fr
@@lordlittletoeq8537nothing to give to begin with, they will throw you in prison and you're still get your life destroyed. There is no chance to escape once you sign that damn marriage paper.
"he's seen his own darkness and he knows what women are capable of", that's the definition of a man who's been hurt and now healed :)
I solved all my relationship problems in my mid 40's when I decided to follow celibacy, and amazingly everything just fell into place. My life as a middle aged man blossomed, I didn't realise just how emotionally draining it was trying to please others, but mostly my own desires! Truly, if you conquer lust, attachment and dependency, life is sooooo much more rewarding and you feel a sense of self-sovereignty.
Yes totally agree. And I’m a middle aged woman from 🇬🇧 😂
Happy for you brother
70 year old happy single man checking in. Been divorced for 20 years now. SHE wanted the divorce. I'm in California so the court gave her everything and gave me her debt. The house I didn't mind because I didn't want the kids to have to move from where they were born and raised. Move forward to now and I have prospered and folks think I'm 15 years younger. She lost the house and her teeth rotted out. Denture time! She now depends on Section 8 housing. She looks like a worn-out 75 year old. She was a beautiful woman when we married. Think Salma Hayek without the big cheeks and jaw. The worst part for her is that the kids are now grown and know the ugly truth after she had them poisoned against me. So now they spend as much time as they can with me and as little time as they can with her. Karma truly can be a bitch.
Some un-asked for fatherly advice. My young sons from other mothers, maximize yourselves to the best version of yourself. All else will follow. YOU are now the prize, not the women.
Yes, a man in his Zen mode, doing what God intended for him to do and maintaining reasonable health will attract good things.
@@ResisterCIO 🖖
🫡
A good man or a good woman is always a prize...
There are 2 sides of the coin... fortunately
@@ΠανωραίαΚόκκινου-ι4σ IMHO, in the USA it is easier to get through to young men to become based, logical and thoughtful people than for young modern American females. This is my observation based on my dealing with young people of a regular basis before I retired.
I was married for 11 years, divorced for 3 and i have to say, marriage is hard. If both parties arent healed from any existing childhood trauma, golden child, and/or scapegoat trauma- then patience needs to be heavily involved but otherwise, marriage will not make you happier.
100%
So you divorced him...
@@lili_o_losa so the vows meant nothing then.....? And the issues were all him? Those things you mentioned.....just him?
@@KC-lg8qf interesting that this is how you interpreted me. Sounds like you have something youre dealing with.
@@lili_o_losa I asked a question. You started talking about what issues people have to be able to handle to be married....then you said it was about having kids. Which is it? who had all those issues you mentioned ?
Why Can't men figure this out before walking into the marriage slaughterhouse? I figured this out at 16 and never married. Now at 68, all the pathetic lives I see my friends, family, and coworkers leading convinces me I was right all along.
dam lol
👍👍👍
wow sad
“She’s different.” 😂😂
lmao
No its the hope and the act of selflessness to create a family which is our biological purpose.
50% chance of failure and huge consequences? You're crazy to get married. Literally.
more than 50% mate;)
@@whatever_shaker closer to 80 or more.
If you are looking in the dumpster for a mate, you are probably a raccoon yourself.
The problem with these videos is that they are 1 sided and leave out important details. For instance, I know several people who met their wives on “dating apps” such as tinder. If you are looking for a mate on something like that, you most likely picked up a mate who was attention seeking and wanted to hookup. Good men and women don’t sell themselves on platforms like that.
@@drgeek100 if she was whoring around
I would definitely not buy a stock which is that risky
Even if you find a good one, you gotta understand that people change. It will not be the same person a few years in.
SSM has a story about a man who married his Childhood sweetheart, small town, both families went to the same church and the parents of both knew each other from their school days. She was fine, they had a daughter, no problems. Then when the daughter was about 3, she switched from working at the IGA to getting an office job in a bigger town. A pink hair started whispering in her ear. Within two months she was working "Overtime" (he quickly figured out it was nonsense because the paycheck was the same) and went from a teetotaller to a methhead.
She began stealing from everybody, holding the infant hostage for $20 until the grandparents colluded to stop her (including the woman's parents, shocked and appalled), and in a year and a half was dead from meth overdose.
"Just choose better, bro" does not prevent problems. Sometimes people are just good because they never faced any temptation.
People are not even the same for 5 minutes straight, technically
They didn’t even change, they showed their true colors and who they were hiding the whole time. That’s why it’s imperative you see who they are around other ppl and how they talk about you in front of others.
BOOM!
I pretended to be someone else and dm'd my ex wife after divorce. I was flexing faking to be a rich guy with a cool collection of cars. Within a day talking she said she wanted to marry the fake me. We've only been divorced for a few months. So trust me guys they aint what they seem. Someone who is true and loyal is a rare find nowadays
Wow
Sounds about right
Hi, i didn't watch the video yet, but i got married at 18 and have been married for 12 years and counting. DO NOT. I REPEAT. DO NOT. DO NOT DO IT. DONT.
Lol
Loser
Damn bro😂
Why? Are there no exceptions?
😂😂😂😂
I married my other half 46 years ago. We had 39 good years before she died. We were a team. Since she died, I miss her but, I have no stress in my life now. After she turned 50, she became less rational and liked to shop a lot more. I do not have any social dealings with women now. Good Luck, Rick
Thanks for sharing and sorry for your loss.
True love exists but is rare true and it's even rarer for it too last , at least u got 39 years out of it , most men if not all now won't get a minute of peace with a woman , sorry for your loss and I dont blame you for your decision now to avoid woman
Thank you for the real story, the good and the bad.
What breaks my heart are the guys on the verge of retirement, or the guys who just saw the kids up and on their own, and he gets the divorce and decades of hard work and assets are knocked out, and he's back to square one at 50-60.
@@kulentarian55 True love is even worse
@@herethere5637True love is even worse
Never seen the point im marrying. Especially when hookup culture and adultery is perfectly acceptable and promoted in this decadent society. Im only 21, but the women my age definitely aren’t something im attracted too. The entire culture is just horrendous and the trajectory of society is going downhill anyways so it’s definitely not appealing
Adultery and fornication may be accepted in this society but it will never be accepted by the Lord God. (Jesus)
Those who practice sin will find themselves eternally separated from God in hellfire. There are good women out there.
@@vanessawilliamsw Ok, whatever you want people to believe SATAN.
We men aren't falling for that. Keep crying cat lady.
1) I have been married for 23 years, and men with the lucky to find a wife like mine. Having said that, marriage is a net negative for men a woman that wants you is trying to Hitch her wagon to you, period. She wants you because of what she's getting from you. She wants you because you are better than her in every way. That's why she chose you! The only thing that she can possibly give you, is what you don't already have (think about it).
2) In her mind, she's entitled to you and everything that yours. While at the same time, you are not entitled to anything that is hers. That is not a partnership by definition, and worst of all, *_it makes perfect sense to her._* women say it all the time, the only reason they stayed in marriages in yester decade is because they had to. Now that they don't have to, they don't. So they won't.
3) For all your religious people out there, that is the true meaning of the fall of Man story from Genesis in your old testament. Ancient men wrote down why life is the way it is, and in the Adam and Eve story, ancient men wrote that God can give women paradise, and they will still have a Wanderlust for something else they can't define. Get this through your heads, because you will never hear a truer statement about women. Ready? *Women cannot have both agency and contentment at the same time.*
The meaning behind the Adam and Eve story is for men NOT to be a doormat and never let a woman take the lead 🎉 have some balls!!!
Marriage only works well when she is happy. She is only happy when she has found a man she has willingly submitted to.
@@Noname-bg8shWomen are the original leaders and everything.
“Marriage is a scam” - Rick and Morty
Let’s get ridgyyyyyyyyy reckkkk son!
Stupidest comment... So common and empty ...
@@nunu4evaaa it really is mentally and financially
Marriage is a trap.
That's a fictional cartoon. And a shit 1 at that
Marriage turns love into loathing. Don't get married. Women want to change their man, they hate him when he turns into a simp, they also hate him when they can't change him.
i spoke 4 languages been in america,asia & europe 90% of married man no matter which culture are agree on one thing "dont get married" the other 10% live in rural areas.
This. People greatly exaggerate the number of decent women.
Yeah, I speak two, grew up in America, lived in Asia for 6 years and now I'm back in the states. Absolutely correct. Almost any chick from the city is a bad idea. She is going to try to constantly move up in life, and if you cannot get her to the absolute top, she will drop you. It doesn't matter if you accumulate $1,000,000+ in assets with zero liabilities, she's going to want more. But, a rural woman will possibly stay by your side (nothing is certain), but that culture is so much more geared towards family.
I confirm this, i live in north Africa in a majority muslim country, it is the same, most of them are awful and can't be trusted, the laws are against men here too, she can cheat, divorce and get the kids and child support anyway.
Feminism virus have ruined their minds and it did spread like wildfire worldwide thanks to the internet.
True. That is always the biggest factor. You should look for a woman who is content with living a simple life. Avoid women who are "educated". Avoid women who have high paying careers. These kind of women are proud and will never submit to their husbands.
What are different about the marriages in rural areas?
I was told a long time ago that "if you want to know what marriage is like, then hang out with some married couples". Not your parents or aunt/uncle...but a couple that's in the same age group. Be a third wheel. There's SO MUCH b.s that goes on, it's mind blowing. All of my male married friends and male co-workers have all strongly advised me not to do it. Good video.
then youd think that 'maybe its just this specific couple?' but then if you hang out with enough couples, youd understand that there are of course unique traits, but there are undeniable universal sad truths...
whats worst is if you know that bro from earlier before he knew the girl and you know the things he folded to after marriage that he never would before.
its one of the biggest "oh no.. i dont want a life like that... heck, he didnt want a life like that...." moment for me
Married and divorced twice. I have come to the realization that a woman will never love you like you love a woman. It will always be conditional, the minute you are not at your best, they will either leave you, cheat on you or at the very little belittle you. Hard Truth! I will never put any value whatsoever in a woman again. I put God above everything.
Your God created this game and allows this to continue.
Amen
@@panos7256nope thats corporations doing.
@@raczyk Your God allowed that
It must feel so empowering for them to treat men like we really ain't sh*t. The sh*t is sick; modern feminism
It’s real simple buddy, a woman’s love is reserved for her children not the man. The best you can hope for from a woman is respect, nothing more. If you want unconditional love, get a dog. Unfortunately, once you learn what female nature is all about they lose any value you previously believed they had. It’s bad, real bad.
Not all of us women want children, you know. So your argument isn’t entirely valid.
@@fluffycuteish as a woman you are incapable of loving a man the way he loves you. That’s a fact!
@@fluffycuteishyou as a woman are incapable of loving a man the way a man would love you. It’s not in your nature and never has been. Once men realize that fact and understand female nature they adjust their expectations accordingly. The best we can hope for from a woman is respect, nothing more.
We're talking about the majority of married women. Once they have children, their attention and love is for their children. And the husband becomes an after thought. I have worked around women most of my life. And very rarely do I meet a woman who says she loves her husband
@@fluffycuteish wow your dumb 😂
I was married for 20 years.
Happily divorced for almost 2 years now.
Was recently on a date with a girl. Started off well. Then somehow we got talking about ex’s, dating dynamics in 2024, etc. I don’t back down for anything.
She started to talk about how toxic guys are, how women leave because they’re in toxic relationships, etc etc. Let’s just say, I got the check and got out of there 😂.
Btw, she was 33 and attractive… whenever they’re 30+ and attractive, there’s a HUGE likelihood she’s got a bunch of red flags.
That's to say since she's so attractive but single she must be crazy? :) single, sexy, or sane but can only pick two right!
Brutal reality is this:
For the working class, all the good ones are snapped up by the end of High School
For the middle class, all the good ones are snapped up by the end of college
Told my brother not to get married. He didn’t listen. A month after the wedding he was texting me constantly talking about how much of a mistake he made. Fast forward 7 years later, he’s miserable. She stopped working and moved her mother and siblings in, sabotages his work, had him surviving off ramen and sleeping in his truck during the winter, she constantly disrespects him; I mean, the list goes on. Sadly, he has Stockholm syndrome, so he’s not leaving her despite all she’s done.
How did he wind up in truck?
@@anonymissed3611 She put him out of the house for the night. Like a far worse version of sleeping on the couch
@@0rbital_nugget188 With all her family taking her side, no doubt.
@@0rbital_nugget188 -- I have no sympathy for weak men like your brother. For a man, weakness is a sin with a guaranteed heavy punishment during his lifetime.
Seriously where do you find these women?
Hey brother man one of the best pieces of advice I read lately for single men like yourself is “Run towards God and when you find a woman that keeps up with you that’s your wife!”
If you found a Woman running towards Jesus would you really want her to run towards you instead?
She has already found the best husband possible.
Already did that.
She went after a bad boy who cheated on her lol.
This is the same girl who thought about being a nun and constantly argues about God's existence online with atheists. (She probably still does).
I’ve never married. Life is good. No debt whatsoever. House paid off, fat 401k and stock portfolio. 🤑
Heard lots of people tell me don’t get married more than I heard get married.Even had a woman ask if I was married or had a gf?Told her no she said I was smart
Holy shit you nailed it down perfectly. “You’ll have to become a narcissistic super hero just to keep a woman around”. This is exactly it.
And this is sad, because this isn't who I inherently am. However, I do know how this game works and he's spot on.
My undoing was the whole frame game. It's easy to keep frame when you just need to be stoic with her for 15 minutes when she acts ridiculous or petty, and then say "Well, I'm going back to my place".
It's a whole other thing when you live together, or more so have kids. You can't just escape and go noncomm for a day or two and let her stew in her own drama making.
@@ResisterCIO Yeah, solution is to never live with woman
@@ResisterCIOspot on brotha, with a girl 10 years, lived together 2 years. I found myself always wanting to leave for 2-3 days / weeks at a time because she truly was just insufferable and I no longer had the ability to escape.
"You'll have to become a narcissistic super hero just to keep a woman around"
Exactly, which is why bad boys get with women. Its easier for bad boys to be that way than it is for good men, of course.
Right after I got divorced (not my choice), I met this woman we hooked up for a couple of months until I found out she was married with 3 kids. Never at any point she told me her real situation. I thought she was single. Needless to say I stopped seeing her immediately. She was a lawyer too. Which is just the cherry on top.
So she studies the law but doesn't follow it. Nice
You dodged a nuke. Lord knows what trouble you could’ve landed yourself in. Smart man
@@davidmattax6087 Oh I know.
I used to clean carpets and many married men would tell me not to. They'd ask me, "you got any kids/a wife?" Then they'd tell me never to do it. A couple of men have even told me in front of their wife.
I've seen wives act very dismissive to their husband. And he was obviously paying every bill they incurred.
Same here. Nearly all the men I talk to tell me not to get married and these men are from different ages, different ethnicities and different religions. I am a Taiwanese guy living in Canada.
It depends on the divorce/family laws of that country. If the family laws are marriage friendly instead of divorce friendly, women won't file divorce like they do 90% of the time.
@@MinimalistBachelor rare to hear this from a Taiwanese guy! I wonder your age range. What do your parents think about this? Have you tried geomaxxing?
@@marse7092 I am 45 now. I have lived in Canada since I was 15. I learned a lot about women from dealing with my own female family members (mom, sisters). I was never married but have dated women from different ethnics and the longest relationship I was in was with a Romanian woman several years back (80% bad memory).
Where I work now I work with nearly 1000 co-workers and half of them are females and from different countries and different age groups. I have learned that all women are the same. It doesn't matter which culture they are from.
My mom passed away two years ago. I am all alone now. Canada is not a good place to be anymore. I am looking into moving to Mexico in the near future. Never thought about geomaxxing. Not looking to be with anyone anymore. I just want to live the rest of my life in peace.
@@MinimalistBachelor Thanks so much for sharing your experience. Sorry to hear about your Mum’s passing.
I’m a little surprised that you think that Taiwanese women at your generation were no better. I’d have thought at least in the past, most who are able to immigrate to the West grew up in responsible two parent households, with a focus on family.
While I no longer idealise Eastern European women like I used to, I still think that geomaxxing is one partial solution, since in certain countries, there is sizable % who prefer the Asian/Kpop look so at least we are not discriminated against like we are in Anglo countries. While female nature is the same, the male competition elsewhere is much weaker economically.
I’m doing alright in my 30s. I do partner dancing so still have positive experiences and friendships with women. However, what troubles me is that I’d like to have children but as you know the marital vow is a joke these days and there seems to be no defense against bait and switch in long term relationships after boredom. Parental alienation would be hell.
If you’re still believing in religion after seeing how humans truly work then you’re still asleep
when I was in ‘ friends with benefits ‘ with my ex gf she was really shy, and innocent and cute, then she wanted to have real relationship I said okay, and she turned 180 degree. She became mean, controll maniac, opposite who she was… thank god I didnt wife her
A lot of people need to read more about the history and origins of marriage. It's literally designed to create stable economies and keep people under control. It's great for the economy. Not so great for the people involved.
More so the history of women. It ain’t good fellas.
@Schopenhauer69 it's a way to make sure the betas get a woman..... otherwise all the women would share the top men. Society would indeed crumble. As it is now
This!
God made marriage. Adam and Eve were the first married couple.
This! I always wondered why on earth people wont question " why people must be married tho..." * googled the origin in my teens *
"....ouh... maybe its not good idea after all NOPE "
My ex wife had affairs multiple times in my marriage. I caught it years after the fact despite my suspicions. Sucks, I had 15 years of wasted time, career moves I wasted and I left military service so I could have more time at home. All that sacrifice and rationalizing to be a better husband, it's hell.
I had cheating girlfriends. Thanks for sharing.
First mistake was getting married while in the military. I've heard horror stories about army wives
When i was working in drywall finishing, my bosses son was getting married, he seemed to be very happy about it ,like all guys should be right, but when he came back fom his honeymoon, he wasn't happy , he looked at me and said don't get married, i wish I would have stayed single, don't get married man.
I think that was 15 years ago, and it still bothers me of what he said, but soon as that day arrived for him , it was like he died inside, and it showed up on his face that day.
That's why i chose the path less traveled.
haha like you have encountered the messia.. thats funny bro.. but kudos... you have won
I’m 21, young and know every way I went wrong now but I was in a relationship for 3 years and as soon as I pulled the ring out she cheated on me and was gone within 4 months, I learned everything the hard way. If they redownload social media that’s a red flag ! And there were many red flags I ignored from the start.
Now I’m the best man I’ve ever been, started my own business and have beautiful women with boyfriends constantly messing with me and I see through their MESS. Thankful for your content I found last year.
hang in there brother....older married 2x a Physician.....my second wife met another Physician planned it all out then told me one morning ...left 3 hours later. thats after 15yrs married.
@@dojocho1894 Wow!
@@dojocho1894 -- how is she (second wife) doing now? Has she tried to return? What about your first wife?
What kind of business
Stay strong. I was in a relationship for 6 years. As soon as I considered marriage is when she cheated on me. Strange how this is a common theme.
Anyway, glad we dodged them bullets.
Don’t get married in 2024 and going forward. Women only take taking money serious.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is dr.porassss.
I'm 28 years old today, just finished my first shift at Jack in the box. I have a highschool education and a healthcare trade that is still current that I have minimal experience in. No wife or children and my logic tells me to keep it that way. I have the moral feeling to have a wife and children someday. But let's face it guys society is perverted and everything is expensive. I am content with working full time and reading and writing. I wish those men and women the best in this crazy world. The beautiful relationship between men and women should not be like this? But until then God bless you all. I hope you have a great day.
For a man to succeed he must have money. For a women to succeed in marriage she must know how to submit to her husbands rule, cook, and clean. It won't work otherwise
You have a moral need for a family? WTH does that even mean? Are you Muslim?
@@CA1567-v8p Sure but submission only works if she hasn't been a garden tool, otherwise it rearranges her expectations in the bed. That's another huge problem.
Yup biggest mistake of my life was getting married. Women will pretend to be exactly what you want, and will try to destroy you for their personal gain.
Yup. I've seen it happen before right infront of my eyes.
It doesn’t matter if she’s a good woman when you marry her. She can change her mind any time she wants to and take the kids, the house, and half of everything else.
Exactly why I think 'you have to vet her properly' isn't complete advice yes you need to screen potential partners, but you can vet a woman for 20 whole years, you marry her and after 6 months out of nowhere she wants a divorce. People's minds don't stay the same forever
I'll marry my business, I don't want stress and nonsense from a woman.
Businesses are the best relationship partners
I hat stress would a woman potentially give you that you want to avoid?
Darwin award
How are you going to deal with all that testosterones in a male body? I found myself a fwb to take care of that.
Maybe she doesn’t want stress and nonsense from you either, ever thought of that
My own father told me not to get married, although he married my mother.
he is trying tell you that you are the problem.... otherwise leaving the woman is easy peasy lemon squeezy
I miss my first husband. I wish I’d been a better wife to him. I never took anything material from him but I didn’t appreciate what he did for me. He wasn’t perfect but neither was I. He deserved better and I have to live with my failure. He chose another woman over me. My kids suffered in her care. If I’d been a better wife, she would never have had the opportunity. I had primary custody but I wanted my kids to have their dad so I agreed to extra visitation time. He died when they were on the brink of adulthood. My kids have thanked me for trying to ensure their relationship with their father, but I know it was too little too late and I am to blame for the majority of their losses.
What do you mean by your kids suffered in her care? Logically, at that time, weren't they supposed to be under the care of their father?!
@@FXT-ej8gc you’re right, but I drove my husband away with my feminist stupidity and so I ultimately blame myself for this. She once called me, angry, and asked if I had a solid gold p***y. She said my ex was constantly talking about me and angry with me for not fighting for the money and house. He took it as an insult and a display of indifference on my part. I was totally shocked by her telling me this. She was actually trying to find out if he was cheating on her with me. He wasn’t, but she was always paranoid that he was. This revelation made me realize that I had my share of responsibility for what me kids and I went through. The man loved me and I didn’t value him. He bought me cars, he let me stay home and be a shitty housewife, he never stopped seeing to my needs but I totally did that to him. I deserved what I got and my kids suffered regardless. He suffered from oí because she was a real piece of work. He only survived another 15 years before he died at the age of 43. Im a paramedic. If I had been there, he may not have died. I’ll never get over it.
@@FXT-ej8gc thank you for your comment, btw. I really appreciate the interest. I do hope it sheds light in what women are doing to men these days. Society ruined us. Now we are a bunch of lonely cat ladies.
@@FXT-ej8gc Let me also clarify that my ex worked long hours. He was all about earning a good living for himself and his family. She was able to get away with things by being conniving and basically denying anything my kids told me that I related to him. You can see how he may have been manipulated to see what she wanted him to see. She was evil. My daughter told me how sneaky she was and how she did things like destroying toys and telling him his kids did it. She simply didn’t want them around because I was their mother and he didn’t trust me at all so when I told him about it, he didn’t believe me. Years later he apologized and told both kids he wished he’d listened.
@@carolynm2943 I'm sorry you are hurting over the past. It can be hard sometimes. You didn't know what you didn't know, and in that hopefully you can find forgiveness for yourself. The past is unchangeable, the future is unknowable. All you have is today. Learn from the past and love yourself today, and your future will be a better one. Take care.
My ex had a dramatic personality change after 15 years. Then she took my two kids and two houses.
damn
Mine after 3 years .she took the kids another country . A least kept my asset s
After 10 years here. Took my son
@Alan-lv9rw of course she called the police on me first
menopause/female midlife crisis
Until someone stops the free reign of Family Court, good men will avoid marriage and women in general. Nowadays, only 6.5 men in a thousand get married due to the following scenario: (1) man gets married, (2) wife refuses to have sex, (3) wife racks up huge credit card debt, (4) wife stops contributing financially, (5) wife stops cooking & cleaning, (6) wife cheats on husband, (7) wife files for divorce and takes the house, cars, savings, and kids, (8) wife falsely accuses husband of abuse and he no longer can see his kids, (9) wife poisons kids against the father. What man in his right mind will sign up for this?
Thats all fine and good but even if they fixed all that it still doesn't fix the woman! Who want to be with an insufferable person who you can never make happy no matter what you do! Woman are incapable of love only men can!!
Majority of younger men are invisible to younger women in the dating realm so they are blessed to avoid the festering open would that older men are suffering through.
I’m married 27 years. My advice from my experience, don’t get married. All the “it’s so rewarding” and “you’ll be happier” is all BS. There may be a few really happy marriages out there but they are the minority. And don’t expect much help from the church.
When you look like Jesus and Jim Morrison at the same time, you know the universe is telling you something.
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Break on through, to the other side!
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Cesar borgiere actually lol
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Best decision of my life was not getting married. Last week I did a weeklong grand canyon river rafting trip. Tomorrow I head for San Diego to beachside camp for a week. Timmy C Arizona 59.
Lived with a woman who I was going to marry, but luckily 100k in cash yearly wasn’t enough for her liking so she started having another relationship while we were together. The hardest part is she was whip smart, and we could have the greatest nuanced in depth conversations about meaning, love, strategy, literature. When she’d come crawling back she demonstrated a complete knowledge of what she did, how it affected me and the other guy, how this isn’t who she is and she would hate someone who did it to her. She called me the most loving man she’d ever met. Then when she smelled the temptation of status and ego gratification and money she’d get this weird grin on her face while breaking up with me. I’d calmly explain that she was smiling and breaking my heart at the same time and she’d be like “yeah! I just realized I can do better!” As though I wasn’t even a factor and she was gossiping with one of her friends about it. Closest I’ve come to a Jekyll/Hyde situation. It will haunt me for the rest of my life. I used to joke that the movie Inside Out about the emotions made perfect sense besides disgust, I never felt disgust. Now it’s literally all I can feel in the deepest recesses of my belly when I think of her, see anything associated with her or our time together, or worst of all see her. I have to literally sit down and collect myself and it’s been almost 3 years. Luckily, this hard lesson has saved me and protected me in so many ways and now I feel like a person who travels to other countries knowing what to look out for in pick pockets and corrupt cops and strangers, compared to tourists who walk around with their wallets around their necks. I’ll take that pain over getting screwed for life, and I’m glad it came early and so obviously.
You can’t trust anyone with an unfair contract. Why would you? Would you give your parents or kids the right to terminate your life or take all your assets at any time? No. So don’t do it with a woman.
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Good point.
She's definitely a narcissist. Sorry this happened to you
DON'T GET MARRIED!!!!
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OHHHH GOOOODDDD NOOOOO!
Is everything ok, bro ?
I'm 31M, and I had my fiancée leaving me for dead two months before the wedding. I was RP-aware since I was 21, but still had relationships in hopes of getting married. After a decade of relationships lasting anywhere between 1 to 4 years-long and less serious encounters in-between, I can confidently say it's just not worth it to even try. I still want a family, but I'm not willing to pay any cost for it. It just can't cost me my health, sanity and finances, ladies.
1 Corinthians 7 : stay single.
Shoutout to apostle Paul.
It says do not fornicate. Which many have
Sure if you never want to have sex
He never met Jesus and was the only witness to a resurrection. He created Christianity with the help of the Roman government pushing it. Think about that, a so called Christian nation eventually destroyed itself.
@@RedLegPiper If a man hits his late 20s/early 30s chaste, why bother? Keep going, brother! The worst is behind you. Another problem with modern marriage is women wait until just before the wall and baby rabies. They don't help a man in his 20s deal with burning and support him at the poorest yet burningest he'll be in his life.
@@RedLegPiper sex is overrated.
"A woman is like a man, minus all accountability and reasoning"-Jack Nicholson's character, Melvin from the movie As Good as it Gets. Truer words have never been spoken.
My best friend told me not to get married and I was the best man at his wedding….I now see why.
Why did he get married then
If I could turn back time I would definitely NOT get married
I had a few married men telling me the same thing about not to get married
Believe them my friend. Shyte ain’t no joke! Don’t F around and find out.
@@vincentharris7909 I made my mind up after 21 to not get married there's no benefit for us my guy
Married men are happier, live longer, have more sex and most remarry after divorce
@@tomasrocha6139 These numbers are now being challenged. Insurance companies are being shocked as the actuarial tables are resulting in earlier married male death, Grey divorce (55+) is exploding all over the Western world and in Japan with women dumping men just prior to retirement, and the sex claim is just based on self-reporting by "Dishwashers for Intimacy" copers.
@@tomasrocha6139more sex than who? Single people without stable partners? You can have a gf without marriage and get plenty of sex if you live together. 15 percent of marriages are sex less.
I am extremely thankful for my wife of 10 years. She is a gift. I was also married for 29.5 years to my first wife, who tragically died a few months before our 30th anniversary. I am thankful for God's design in marriage.
In many cases the divorce is planned before the wedding, stay single Gents.
I’m not paying 10k for a wedding just for one day when I can spend that money on a awesome holiday
100% bro. I have the exact same opinion. But mostly it's not only 10k, many of my friends spend like 20-30k euros
This is true, everything you said. I went through exactly that, she cheated on me and took half of my stuff and I had to pay alimony. Just so you know, I did everything I was suppose to do to support our family and was nice to her.
I'm not a married man but I would absolutely advise you not to get married.
I am in fact..a divorced man...
That is the funniest sad thing I read.
i already knew this ahead, im 37 years old, i've knew the society would collaspe when i was 24 years old, i quit facebook and social media 19 years ago! and now u can see its happening, women wants money, green card, etc.., there is no true marriage anymore, being single is the best
You are on social media right now
Marriage is the best thing I never did.
If she tells you her Zodiac sign and uses the word, “Manifest,” like it can make shit appear out of nowhere….RUN like your hair’s on fire!
I was a musician, a writer, never got married.
It just seemed like it’s forever jumping through hoops to keep one side happy or lose everything, “Happy Wife; Happy Life,”and the first hoop goes on the finger.
And you don’t really know who you’re married to until the ring goes on, because then the power dynamic absolutely shifts, because only one side has the government to back them up.
Like they say: Women marry men hoping they’ll change, Men marry women hoping they don’t.
But I’ll say this: back then, women appreciated what we did for them more.
They didn’t expect it.