Where joy hides and how to find it | Ingrid Fetell Lee

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  • @NelsonGuedes
    @NelsonGuedes 6 років тому +286

    "Adults who exhibit genuine joy are often dismissed as childish, or too feminine, or unserious, or self-indulgent."
    THANK you! It's even worse when you are a guy! I've spent my whole life having to restrain myself, I don't even know if I can ever be myself again at this point. The reason why joy is repressed is because joyful people can't be easily controlled and used.

    • @michellem6219
      @michellem6219 6 років тому +18

      Please don't hide your light, the world needs more people like you. 🤗

    • @annslezewick6217
      @annslezewick6217 6 років тому +8

      Please share your joy! the world needs it.

    • @elaineso810
      @elaineso810 6 років тому +7

      Seriously that statement really stood out to me too. I feel stupid expressing my joy sometimes in little things living in a place like NYC where people are so stern

    • @jasongonzales6736
      @jasongonzales6736 4 роки тому +4

      Preach brother!

    • @starambe
      @starambe 4 роки тому +5

      Please be the fullest expression of yourself! We need more joyful people in the world. Your people will find you & love all of you!

  • @Losshe
    @Losshe 6 років тому +147

    I've always been sure that my bicycle is one of my sources of joy: big round wheel, bright colors (sky blue and orange). And let alone the feeling when you hop on it and start pedaling, when you feel the smoothness (with the occasional bumps of course) of the road underneath you and your beautiful machine; the lightness of the wind caressing you. That's when I feel joy, the joy of being alive

    • @BeautifulPeaceAngel
      @BeautifulPeaceAngel 6 років тому +2

      I love how u described the feeling

    • @joshstabler3438
      @joshstabler3438 5 років тому +2

      Losshe Imagine being into flatland freestyle in the 1980’s, when the bikes had vivid, bright colors... search “1980’s purple Skyway”. Loved those times!

    • @sallydames8040
      @sallydames8040 4 роки тому +2

      Ah...yes..thank you for sharing your beautiful blue and orange bike....love the image and the lightness of being

    • @Becky-ol4tm
      @Becky-ol4tm Рік тому +1

      Thank you for that image!

  • @maxonite
    @maxonite 6 років тому +42

    This is very motivational when you suffer or suffered from depression. We dont appreciate joy enough until it's gone

    • @iv0dog
      @iv0dog Рік тому +2

      I am happy to read that you find motivation here. Your comment about depression and missing joy resonated deeply with me. Several years ago, I was led to the decision to nurture the seed of joy in me. This became my priority. I struggled to do even this, but knowing that I needed to nurture joy in me for the health of my children gave me the shove to take action.
      Meditation on the 16 breaths of the Full Awareness of Breathing, has been a transformative tool for me. I am so grateful for this gift. (I am also grateful for having depression, because it has deepened my understanding and grown my compassion.) This evening I hold you in prayer for finding/feeling the Divine joy within you!❤

  • @mariehughey5390
    @mariehughey5390 3 місяці тому +2

    This search for joy actually brought a tear or two. Tears of joy. Thank you.

  • @TheBirdOnTheTree
    @TheBirdOnTheTree 8 місяців тому +6

    This might be the most joyful tedtalk ever

  • @Child_of_the_HolyTrinity1732
    @Child_of_the_HolyTrinity1732 2 роки тому +27

    This is hands down one of my favorite TED talks! The subject/understanding of JOY is so incredibly imperative for us all to ponder. I love how she connected the dots to the areas lacking astetics of joy and those created with the 8ntent of being joyous!! 💜💜💜

  • @GreenMM_11
    @GreenMM_11 6 років тому +39

    Joy is, or rather can be, a perpetual feeling. Happiness, depends on the circumstances. Joy is a very spiritual phenomenon. A God-breathed sense of faith and peace. God desires that we celebrate life and cultivate joy, whether or not our circumstances make us happy.....

    • @LenkaSaratoga
      @LenkaSaratoga 5 років тому

      GreenM&M_11 so well put! THANK YOU!

  • @AlchemizetheEnergy
    @AlchemizetheEnergy 3 роки тому +9

    I watched this video years ago and came back to listen again. Thank you beautiful women for this incredible message!!! This is truly gold!! ✨💓

  • @justlostinthemoment
    @justlostinthemoment 6 років тому +31

    those big companies like Google have worked out what she explained :) when you look inside those companies, many rooms are painted in a few bright colours and they offer rooms of joy like gaming rooms, reading rooms, relaxation rooms etc. No wonder people like to work there.

  • @SamTheMan
    @SamTheMan 6 років тому +31

    Ingrid Fetell Lee... Your presentation put a smile on my face, on numerous occasion!!! Felt to me like JOY ;-)
    I also really loved the fact all your fingernails are different colours!!! :-)

  • @SynchrotizedPsychotherapist
    @SynchrotizedPsychotherapist 6 років тому +15

    I LOVE this. Thankyou SO much. You have given something tangible to what I've felt all along. I hope the world can see this and work towards these principles in everything that is built and designed. Thank you

  • @SusansEasyRecipes
    @SusansEasyRecipes 6 років тому +67

    Ingrid your presentation is so powerful. Great topic too. Definitely thumbs up 👍

  • @BeerAdventureDiaries
    @BeerAdventureDiaries 6 років тому +58

    Her nails gave me joy

  • @xdia19xdiamondgirl19
    @xdia19xdiamondgirl19 6 років тому +13

    She gave me hope, thank you

  • @BalanceHealthWellnessMusic
    @BalanceHealthWellnessMusic 3 роки тому +5

    Beautifully said. Embracing joy changed my life.

  • @adinabudacov9669
    @adinabudacov9669 6 років тому +67

    Fantastic topic...OMG joy is not easy to be found, sort of like love...the more you search it the more it hides away...and like love when you stop searching here it comes!

  • @batsy1017
    @batsy1017 6 років тому +9

    i love her voice. so calm and soothing. could listen to her all day

  • @IndigoHazelnut
    @IndigoHazelnut 6 років тому +3

    Thank you so much for this talk Ingrid! I love how you are nearly in tears at the end of the talk.. it was such a genuine reaction from the applause you got! Much love

  • @karajuntoslifecoaching2029
    @karajuntoslifecoaching2029 6 років тому +4

    I just love how the images already make me (and everybody else!??) joyful!! The schools are a great example of how much changes, once you change the paint. Imagine, this is only about the colour and it makes so much difference. If we can't change our cities and offices (yet), how about we start with brightening up our personal lives! Thank you for the inspiration :-)

  • @christopherscotellaro
    @christopherscotellaro 5 місяців тому

    Always loved TED. Joy? Fleeting. But joy does need to be an integral part of everyone’s unique ‘difficult paths’ in this life. For me currently, there’s so little happiness. Tough personal times. Grateful for her talk. Peace n’ luv to everyone.

  • @celestialcircledance
    @celestialcircledance 6 років тому +3

    The sun radiating warmth , anything sweet tasting being around flowers and my Chihuahua bring me great joy :)

    • @charr120
      @charr120 5 років тому +1

      celestialcircledance I think we might be the same person.

  • @endlesshappydays8139
    @endlesshappydays8139 6 років тому +2

    I look for joy in the small things in every day, and in my friends and family. Vlogging happy days has also given me a lot of joy because then I can re-live it x

  • @nothinginteresting1662
    @nothinginteresting1662 Рік тому +1

    Bright colors, Curves, Symmetry, Patterns- all of the things that Designers learn to create. And this is just Visual.
    Harmonious sounds and music also bring joy. That's auditory
    And so does delicious food.
    And so does fragrance of Lavender.
    And so does touching certain surfaces.
    In short, joy can be found in all our experiences only if we experience things fully. Slow down. Let the experience sink in. When you rush to switch experiences, you miss the joy that the experience brings.
    Those who design experiences may want to consider how to design to produce harmony.

  • @mtmahta
    @mtmahta 6 років тому +7

    Her dress and nail polish! she is full of joy😊

  • @Gary14305
    @Gary14305 6 років тому +1

    What a gift to humanity. I wish I could find more.

  • @Success2gether
    @Success2gether 5 років тому +1

    That's why I love Florida so much. Everything is just so bright, and lots of colorful houses and buildings.

  • @tellingfoxtales
    @tellingfoxtales 6 років тому +10

    Really enjoyed this, determined to bring more joy into everyday life.

  • @juliebrown4087
    @juliebrown4087 5 років тому +2

    I love this!! I have come back to it again and again, and watched it over and over. It's so inspiring. This video brings me joy!

  • @ChiNguyen-bc4kt
    @ChiNguyen-bc4kt 6 років тому +4

    A nice talk! I'm now convinced that The world really needs more colour !

  • @JacinthadeGruiter
    @JacinthadeGruiter 5 років тому +2

    Great talk! I could have said it better. Joy is so important. Colors, shapes, it just brightens your day. That's why I painted my house in bright colors. People might call me crazy or weird, but it makes me happy :-)

  • @jiayou11
    @jiayou11 2 роки тому

    This is my favourite TED Talk along talks about Neuroscience.

  • @andrewthomas695
    @andrewthomas695 2 роки тому +2

    This should have more views. But perhaps because joy is the topic, people might think it is not serious. That is sad for them.

  • @stephaniesmith3544
    @stephaniesmith3544 6 років тому +11

    In engineering we briefly go over the joyful effects of timber design and construction. To a lesser extent, timber is an inherently more comforting and joyful aesthetic than say concrete or steel. We just need to take it one step further and spread awareness, create a trend. Make it the norm to make workplaces more aesthetic like the ones in her presentation. The 9 to 5 life may not be so monotonous and dreary if that were to occur.

    • @DanTheManIOM
      @DanTheManIOM 2 роки тому

      When I found my first book on timberframing, I had to read the whole thing, right then. The big room with open frame work, just beautiful. Think about old boats (Chris Craft) and old campers, lots of wood there, and a warmth.

  • @prasad7654
    @prasad7654 Рік тому

    Probably the best simple Ted talk ever.

  • @TerryBowl
    @TerryBowl 6 років тому +1

    This is a lot more serious and down to earth than i expected. Good job.

  • @madeinaotearoanz
    @madeinaotearoanz 6 років тому +2

    Joy = Celebrating simple pleasures in life!

  • @saramilhano3134
    @saramilhano3134 2 роки тому +1

    My favorite Ted talk so far! ❤🧡💛💚💙

  • @richelletreloar4253
    @richelletreloar4253 3 роки тому +2

    Standing over a sink full of dishes, my kids playing play dough at the table. I. AM. SOBBING.
    I have been seriously creating art since I was 16. It's wildly misunderstood. People chop my art to horrible. But this helps me understand what I've been chasing for 20 years. 😭 I always question my talents and abilities. But this helps to know I'm on the right path.
    Thank you Thank you thank you
    @Richelleoncanvas ❤

    • @DanTheManIOM
      @DanTheManIOM 2 роки тому

      Richelle, I gave art up in HS because I could not get an A and we ALL had to get A's to get into College, right ? - You might want to check out FIlm Courage, Brad Rushing, he talks about just do the work. Maybe you can spend time with your kids and reconnect to your love of art and share that with your little ones.

    • @robinholbrook6576
      @robinholbrook6576 10 місяців тому

      @@DanTheManIOMDan, where might I find this ?

  • @andrewmulligan6844
    @andrewmulligan6844 3 роки тому +1

    Singing
    Cause I got joy Joy Joy down in my heart
    Thank you Granny

  • @FoxMamba
    @FoxMamba 6 років тому +1

    Without really knowing, I have now realized I have created or evoke joy in others and myself by sharing the things that I enjoy and love. My colorful gaming room and my love of rgb lights. Thank you I now understand the small little impact being in the moment or color means. :)

  • @kickinrocks6055
    @kickinrocks6055 6 років тому +5

    Things are built into rectangles because it's an efficient shape for building in a real world, with real materials. It takes creativity and hard work to entrench the same world with curves, or natural shapes. But it's nice when done well.

  • @jani5201
    @jani5201 6 років тому +2

    Brilliant talk. That really resonated with me. This talk brought me joy.

  • @user-lr5zx7jn7l
    @user-lr5zx7jn7l 6 років тому +9

    live a creative life

  • @brandybaker7499
    @brandybaker7499 6 років тому +2

    This was so inspiring. Thank you for making me want to go make the world more joyful, even if it’s just by putting balloons in random places!

  • @Grapefruit_cosplay
    @Grapefruit_cosplay 4 роки тому +2

    I work in designing schools and we often get the comment that "color is too distracting for our kids !" And it always makes me so sad. I understand the need for kids with sensory issues to have calming environments, so the issue runs deeper than just personal taste, but I can't help but feel that some of the joy in spaces are sucked out when we neglect color.

  • @michelleburrow1227
    @michelleburrow1227 2 роки тому

    wow you have just taught me a great life lesson and a different perspective on feeling depressed, thank you

  • @Lunareon
    @Lunareon 6 років тому +2

    What a delightful talk! Thank you for spreading joy! :)

  • @LeonidasGGG
    @LeonidasGGG 6 років тому +2

    I have immense joy in my life and everyone around me feels better by spending time with me.
    Still, everyone still tells me to get a job.

    • @gracechan3039
      @gracechan3039 4 роки тому

      Leonidas GGG This comment brought me joy

  • @yehjane9445
    @yehjane9445 5 років тому

    Ingrid's speech is so good I love it
    thank you for sharing with us
    also noticed that her choice of words are very delicate
    love these kind of topics .

  • @santosawidjaja
    @santosawidjaja 3 роки тому +1

    Lasting joy is more essential than temporary joy/excitement

  • @drcunda1
    @drcunda1 4 дні тому

    If you are seeking, seek us with joy
    For we live in the kingdom of joy.
    Do not give your heart to anything else
    But to the love of those who are clear joy...
    💚
    RUMI

  • @ayasarsour2860
    @ayasarsour2860 11 місяців тому +1

    Amazing, thank you very much 😊😊

  • @allbrightclub
    @allbrightclub Рік тому

    The Arts & Crafts Movement said something along the lines of:
    'the joy experienced through the hand of the maker is passed on to the user'
    - We have found this to be true, as well as the best use of our hands (with our head and heart)

  • @tommyjohnson8016
    @tommyjohnson8016 2 роки тому +1

    Today I felt joy after doing 18 push ups then seeing a pigion walk across were I did it and look at me like it was happy for me.

  • @larasmith2931
    @larasmith2931 5 років тому

    🦋life is to short not to have joy in what you do. If your happy with what u do, you should have joy

  • @pvsk10
    @pvsk10 4 місяці тому

    Important talk. This needs more views!

  • @clarily-561
    @clarily-561 3 роки тому +1

    I love this talk, it was very eye-opening to me! Thank you :)

  • @Meandmymirror
    @Meandmymirror 2 роки тому +2

    I want to move to Florida because it’s so colorful. The houses are pink and blue and green here in Kansas everything is gray and bleak

  • @ShineSun
    @ShineSun 6 років тому +11

    Very nice one.thank you for sharing this.

  • @lisakasprzycki
    @lisakasprzycki 6 років тому

    that dress brings me joy ! the drape in the color block ... gee !

  • @armanmalik1290
    @armanmalik1290 6 років тому

    it's really true. I mostly believe it that joy is hidden where you don't find it. I find my joy every where though I am in danger.because I believe that my joy may be steady if I can enjoy it.I may suggest that your joy is you

  • @NadzeyaHaslauskaya
    @NadzeyaHaslauskaya 6 років тому +1

    So interesting and nice talk! Thank you!

  • @tyelordietrich4268
    @tyelordietrich4268 Рік тому

    Thankyou so very much for your work💗

  • @5hredder
    @5hredder 6 років тому +3

    the items themselves have values of joy assigned to them not because of the colors or shapes themselves, but rather what the color combinations and shapes mean. the vibrant colors and excitingly flavorful images remind us of moments when life is sweeter than the state at which we see the surroundings normally. in other words, the images simply trigger subconsious memories of the past, when everything was simpler... to give an example to support my arguement, these bright colors don't really trigger the same type of joy as do the more angular shapes and concrete colors. or, the greens and browns found in nature. maybe it is because these were the colors of my childhood, and the assosiation of colors that create a feeling of joy are associated with the enviornments that have felt most comfortable in the past.

  • @dariiakarkunova8998
    @dariiakarkunova8998 3 місяці тому

    Love these ideas! Thanks!

  • @joriwilkinson
    @joriwilkinson 3 роки тому +2

    I don’t think it’s color as much as things that remind us of our childhood. For instance a treehouse lacks color but can bring great Joy! Also a good design with neutral colors can create a feeling of abundance. Just my perspective

  • @sunshineo23
    @sunshineo23 6 років тому

    Love this talk! Last good TED talk was months ago.

  • @nancyball9593
    @nancyball9593 3 роки тому +4

    One thing you didn't mention was that all your examples of joyful environments were also uncluttered with lots of clear space, often white, between the colorful shapes. Clutter has the opposite effect of your joyful objects.

    • @DanTheManIOM
      @DanTheManIOM 2 роки тому +1

      So true. In the morning, I love seeing a clean kitchen island, a clear kitchen table and an empty sink, clear counter tops...that's JOY !

  • @zacheray
    @zacheray 3 роки тому +1

    Joy is biblical and promised, it’s something knowing God brings you

  • @jackiedunlop5026
    @jackiedunlop5026 3 роки тому

    Thank you so much for sharing your research and your journey - I found it fascinating and joyful !!

  • @alexafd8
    @alexafd8 6 років тому

    What a wonderful speech! You are spot on about the importance of celebrating joy on a daily basis. Well researched and presented! Laughter Yoga will help get you there. Alexa Drubay

  • @BTSArmy-zx4lm
    @BTSArmy-zx4lm 5 років тому +131

    Am I the only one who has to watch this video for homework?😂

    • @starambe
      @starambe 4 роки тому +11

      Sounds like you have a rad teacher!

    • @luanaescajadillo2786
      @luanaescajadillo2786 4 роки тому +2

      Me too! For a worksheet called the four c’S to make connections with the video, I do this every week

    • @brit2902
      @brit2902 3 роки тому

      same here LOL it was fun though

    • @stephenfogerty9315
      @stephenfogerty9315 3 роки тому +2

      My homework too, but for a ECS course

    • @deviacamara2257
      @deviacamara2257 3 роки тому

      Me to

  • @DianneFlemington
    @DianneFlemington 4 роки тому +1

    A refreshing, inspiring message! Will definitely create these conversations within my Team Performance Coaching sessions and with my leaders! :D

  • @annslezewick6217
    @annslezewick6217 6 років тому +4

    this makes sense. I know that in Feng Shui they advise you to have roundness in your furniture and environment. The points made by 2 walls coming together and jutting out into a room are called poison arrows. Angles pointing at us feel threatening. Also why do I feel comforted when I see older architectural designs for homes and buildings, but not so much by modern architecture, even the ones she showed. Maybe comfort is a different esthetic than joy?

    • @MariaSanchez-cr2tg
      @MariaSanchez-cr2tg 2 роки тому

      Well, I think that's just more of a matter of taste! Of course not everybody will visually enjoy those type of buildings or even like bright colors, but that's not the big point anyway, as preference is different from things that stimulate joy.

  • @oase248
    @oase248 5 років тому +1

    What a beautiful soul.

  • @johnmcgrath2842
    @johnmcgrath2842 3 роки тому +1

    Your talk was wonderful and important. A few lucky people become mature adults but retain much of their "child." Such people, my wife is one, experience and express joy throughout each day. I wrote the following poem about my wife:
    Magnolia Blessing
    What angel rested there upon the height?
    From heaven’s touch is born a wondrous form.
    How sharply does such beauty focus sight,
    Of Eden’s realm does it the earth inform.
    It seems my helpmate often visits there,
    That she uncovers joy this world conceals,
    And finding it invites mankind to share,
    To countless souls her happiness reveals.
    The clear intent, that flowers grace this sphere,
    Does not remove their hold upon the heart.
    In their embrace the moments shared endear,
    The fears that cloud our earthly days depart.
    No esoteric gift the gods bestow,
    Their flowers shine for all who yearn below.

  • @koshabhuskute7597
    @koshabhuskute7597 6 років тому

    What a reflection on joy!!!!
    Absolutely amazed by your analytical skills!!!!
    The topic itself attracted me to watch the video(i usually do not watch the ones which are in my recommendations!)
    Beautifully explained...nd very engrossing♥️♥️♥️

  • @besunil
    @besunil 6 років тому

    Something deep in this talk , which realted to our happiness . I joy the talk 😃☺️

  • @julesbritta
    @julesbritta 6 років тому

    So good! So eloquently delivered.

  • @jemueldaparquinones220
    @jemueldaparquinones220 6 років тому

    We must got Joy down in our hearts...

  • @DesignedByTaz
    @DesignedByTaz 2 роки тому

    Amazing talk, thank you!

  • @1FaithfulDevotion
    @1FaithfulDevotion 6 років тому

    Bravo, Bravo, Bravo!

  • @fyisic
    @fyisic 6 років тому +85

    Great talk. Nothing is more depressing than grey concrete. i´d honestly would prefer graffiti.

  • @emmaulrikketop6671
    @emmaulrikketop6671 6 років тому +2

    Love this!!

  • @TheMoneyMakingMentor
    @TheMoneyMakingMentor Рік тому

    This is a great perspective

  • @tanialupin
    @tanialupin 6 років тому

    This presentation gave me joy... and insight

  • @jirihozpodebrad23
    @jirihozpodebrad23 11 місяців тому +1

    Very good!🎉

  • @dmorris1844
    @dmorris1844 6 років тому

    Joyful aesthetics to reverse aging. I love this!

  • @goddessandcuchi
    @goddessandcuchi 11 місяців тому +1

    And thank you for joy insights...😅

  • @jimnicosia5934
    @jimnicosia5934 6 років тому

    Great talk, Ingrid Fetell

  • @unintentional666
    @unintentional666 6 років тому

    Embrace joy to pursue happiness!

  • @horacechen8179
    @horacechen8179 Рік тому

    Thank you 🎉

  • @marrykurie48
    @marrykurie48 6 років тому +18

    What about cozy things? Sure, you can't include them into architecture, but I am pretty certain that they are a considerable part of joy. Just a thought...

  • @nonelost1
    @nonelost1 4 роки тому

    Wow! This explains why I love 1958 - early 1964 VW bugs and sunroof bugs, and also inflatable playground rubber balls, in such a way that I no longer need to feel childish for loving these things.

  • @Danielmakesthings
    @Danielmakesthings 2 роки тому

    This is AWESOME!

  • @sirdeepy555
    @sirdeepy555 Рік тому

    🦋❤️🎶❤️🦋A THIRD OF THE GOAT KINGDOM IS JOY!❤️🦋🎶❤️🦋

  • @FatalDevotee1
    @FatalDevotee1 6 років тому

    That brought me some joy!

  • @dr.omar.insights2000
    @dr.omar.insights2000 6 років тому +2

    Great talk

  • @pnwlady
    @pnwlady 3 роки тому

    Best feedback ever. 💜

  • @karinwarren1
    @karinwarren1 6 років тому

    Thank you!!