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  • @bellaangus1213
    @bellaangus1213 3 роки тому +1656

    My husband and I got married 6 months after meeting.
    We were married 37 years and couldn’t have kids, so we got ginormous dogs.
    Ray unexpectedly died at the end of 2020, I’m heartbroken, but I had the most amazing, loving husband and he’s in Heaven.
    I’m still a hot mess, but I’m able to talk about him without being hysterical.
    Day by day and sometimes hour by hour.
    One and done.

    • @jayaitch88
      @jayaitch88 3 роки тому +80

      I’m so sorry to hear about your tragic loss! Blessed are you for experiencing a love that not everyone does and having beautiful memories you can look back on! All the best to you.

    • @sandalette2724
      @sandalette2724 3 роки тому +17

      💖🕯️

    • @brooklynooklyn
      @brooklynooklyn 3 роки тому +32

      @@jayaitch88 I’m so sorry for your loss. How amazing that you got to love each other for 37 years. I hope it gets easier as time passes.

    • @monetbrown4039
      @monetbrown4039 3 роки тому +28

      I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm praying for you.💜💜
      The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
      Psalms 34:18 NIV

    • @yomama5304
      @yomama5304 3 роки тому +22

      Bless your heart. I'm so sorry for your loss. It's hard to love and lose but it's worse to never have that love at all.

  • @donnieboughton1730
    @donnieboughton1730 3 роки тому +1412

    I couldn't decide if Derek or Sarah was the lucky one. Now I realize it's Jack.

    • @Indy__isnt_it
      @Indy__isnt_it 3 роки тому +52

      That's a great question, and the *perfect* answer!

    • @jannafanta5707
      @jannafanta5707 3 роки тому +9

      yes!!

    • @SunnyRain0614
      @SunnyRain0614 3 роки тому +17

      Awesome comment!

    • @susanteeter1007
      @susanteeter1007 3 роки тому +9

      I love that and it is very true if those to weren't married and doesn't matter what age little jack would not be in this world love u all and love this channel ❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️ I hope this is a little inspiring to those that think opposite

    • @lauraborealis9246
      @lauraborealis9246 3 роки тому +5

      @@Indy__isnt_it perfect question perfect answer!

  • @joannallen2959
    @joannallen2959 3 роки тому +2501

    My husband and I were 19 and 18 when we married 51 years ago in June. Everyone thought it wouldn’t last.

    • @SarahAndDerik
      @SarahAndDerik  3 роки тому +436

      I LOVE hearing this! So amazing 🙌

    • @meanpeoplesuckalot8690
      @meanpeoplesuckalot8690 3 роки тому +220

      My best friends got married at 17 and 19 in 1982. They raised 4 wonderful children and are still happily married and each other's best friend. Their love for each other was beautiful then and is still now.

    • @amazinggrace879
      @amazinggrace879 3 роки тому +70

      May you both have many happy years ahead together❣️
      🕊God bless you both❣️😇🎉🎶💝

    • @heyitsjustme.680
      @heyitsjustme.680 3 роки тому +32

      This is fantastic! Congrats!!

    • @chanteledutoit8592
      @chanteledutoit8592 3 роки тому +77

      My mom was 19 and my dad was 20 when they got married. They had me 1 year later ... when they got married my dad was in the army so they had that also that made thins hard sometimes but they got through it and I use them as my rolemodel in my life and marriage. ❣

  • @leemi-cha3229
    @leemi-cha3229 3 роки тому +855

    My husband and I got married after knowing each other 9 days. I was 19 and he was 21. It’s almost our 46th anniversary. I still adore my handsome, gentleman husband.

    • @sarahak880
      @sarahak880 3 роки тому +37

      9 days ?! Waw 😮

    • @leemi-cha3229
      @leemi-cha3229 3 роки тому +63

      @@sarahak880 Grandma always told me to marry a man I met at church. She didn’t give a specific timeline! Lol. He was on leave from the military, and had to report to his new duty station. We even had a small church wedding. God made it happen, and God made it work.

    • @susanmartin3762
      @susanmartin3762 3 роки тому +4

      Are you Danny Boniduci and Gretchen in disguise?👨‍🦰👱‍♀️ They knew each other one whole day when they got married. It lasted 8 years. 😂😂

    • @margybernard
      @margybernard 3 роки тому +6

      Blessed are you amongst women! 💕🙏🏽

    • @leemi-cha3229
      @leemi-cha3229 3 роки тому +3

      @@margybernard I truly am! Thank you.

  • @BrokenAngel2480
    @BrokenAngel2480 3 роки тому +571

    My mom and dad were 14 and 15 respectively, were married for 58 years. They passed away 47 days apart. So in 48 years they were only apart for 47 days! You guys act so much like they did!

    • @amazinggrace879
      @amazinggrace879 3 роки тому +13

      How wonderful you got to witness their love❣️
      May God un-break your heart and fill you with HIS peace❣️
      🕊God bless you❣️😇🎉🎶💝

    • @Jo-Anne-mn7bq
      @Jo-Anne-mn7bq 3 роки тому +15

      Wow!!!! One couldn’t go on without the other, BEAUTIFUL 💕

    • @heatherlynsey3092
      @heatherlynsey3092 3 роки тому +7

      They do say you can pass from a broken heart, that’s so sad but beautiful at the same time. Wow 😭😭😭

    • @LLStark
      @LLStark 3 роки тому +2

      Wow!! Thats amazing!

    • @thebeautifulgamethapa4227
      @thebeautifulgamethapa4227 2 роки тому

      ❤️❤️❤️

  • @kays7543
    @kays7543 3 роки тому +348

    🌻I was 17 and my hubby was 21. Been married now for 44 years! It’s not always a cake walk. Change together. ♥️

    • @jessicatalukdar1354
      @jessicatalukdar1354 3 роки тому +2

      I'm 17 now. Also that's great hope you both always stay happy together.

    • @ktown8139
      @ktown8139 2 роки тому +7

      It’s wonderful to hear about couples who have worked to stay married & in love, especially during a time when marriage almost seems disposable to so many other couples. My parents have also been amazing role models in the same manner. They are currently less than a year away from 70 yrs of marriage. Unfortunately, my dad is in the last stages of hospice (cancer) & it is very clear that he won’t make it to those 70 years. My heart is completely broken, but I’m so proud of the way my mom is currently handling so very much. I can’t even begin to imagine the way our lives will be in the coming months. Please enjoy every moment you get together in the life you have created & earned as a family. Thank you for another happy thought that I will weave into others, including my happy family memories while we are trying to cope & move through the next short weeks we are given.

  • @bridgetpeek4843
    @bridgetpeek4843 3 роки тому +177

    I got married young. I was 19 and my boyfriend was 21.
    40 years strong and 9 grandchildren later. Compromise is key. Still madly in love. With God all things are possible ❤️🙏🏻

    • @julianndavis9415
      @julianndavis9415 2 роки тому +3

      Congrats on 40 years! Compromise and apologies. When ONLY one compromises and apologizes it is miserable.
      There is a couple in my congregation that says they try to ‘be better at’ compromising and apologizing than their partner. They are 82 and 85 and look at each other like teenagers with goo goo eyes

    • @JohnDoe-td1zj
      @JohnDoe-td1zj 2 роки тому +3

      Amen.

    • @amandapanda2284
      @amandapanda2284 2 роки тому +1

      Amen !

  • @clittle1807
    @clittle1807 3 роки тому +191

    My husband and I got married at 18 and 20... we are 20 years strong and just paid off our house. 5 kids 2 in college and loving life.

  • @susansmith493
    @susansmith493 3 роки тому +64

    Hubby and I married as teens ... 40 years ago. Still in love with this noble, decent, humble man. I have two sons exactly like him. I'm a lucky lucky woman.

  • @cherylmcmanus952
    @cherylmcmanus952 3 роки тому +66

    I was 19 and my husband was 20. Yes we heard the same thing as y’all did. The arrangement was that I would stay in college while my husband would work full time. First question asked was do you have to get married. The answer was no. We want to. I did become pregnant with our first child 9 months after we were married. His father told us that marriage is not a bed of roses. I answered back with that it was. A bed of roses have thorns. Things that do happen. We also heard that it would not last because we were too young and didn’t know what we wanted. We have been married for 46 years. Yes it has been rough and ups and downs. But would not have it any other way. If y’all would accept one thing about marriage, I would say for a successful marriage is to have God at the center of your marriage. Money means very little to us today. It is spending time together. Just love each other and ALWAYS tell each other that you love them everyday!!! Don’t get upset with little things and be very appreciative over thoughtful things.

  • @Rhiles44
    @Rhiles44 3 роки тому +74

    Got married at 18 and 20 and will be celebrating 10 years this year. Been together 14 years total. Best decision I have ever made. Nobody thought we would make it either.

  • @pamelataylor8275
    @pamelataylor8275 3 роки тому +105

    I got pregnant at 18 and unfortunately our plan fell through because of outside influences, but when our son was 8 months old, and we were 19 and 20 years old, we finally tied the knot. We’re now almost 21 and 22 and expecting baby #2!

  • @cherieselauer7829
    @cherieselauer7829 Рік тому +80

    My husband and I got married when I was 19 and he was 22! We have been together for 36 years! Best wishes for you guys!!

  • @hisladydi2775
    @hisladydi2775 3 роки тому +140

    I love how you both are AUTHENTIC!! Always be PROUD of your marriage and celebrate your love! Please don’t allow the “social norms” pressure you into anything! I absolutely believe your partnership is the “right way” grow /learn together this builds a solid family union. The best gift you can give your children is a solid union with each other.

    • @fyrnahardman4206
      @fyrnahardman4206 3 роки тому +6

      You both are a pleasure to watch, so genuine and the love you have together and with Jack is a joy.
      Life throws a lot at us good and not so good but if you hang on to each other and to the Lord Jesus you will make it. You will prosper in all you do.
      Bless the three of you and any more children you have , may you all stay well and safe.

  • @michelletavoian483
    @michelletavoian483 3 роки тому +87

    My parents were married in their early 20's. Celebrated their 62nd anniversary last year.

  • @debbiesanderson9179
    @debbiesanderson9179 Рік тому +26

    My older sister married at 16 she was pregnant she is still married today to a amazing guy for 50 plus years now it works.

  • @amberpananos2822
    @amberpananos2822 3 роки тому +266

    I'm so glad, I found your channel. My hubby and I got married young as well. We were 19 and 21, and this June it will be our 27 yrs. anniversary. We didn't have an accident to deal with. I do understand growing up together and learning as you go. I was diagnosed with some pretty major health conditions that we've had to learn to deal with these last 10 yrs. I think learning together has become second nature to us because of learning together young. Just remember that you're in love and that will always help.

    • @SarahAndDerik
      @SarahAndDerik  3 роки тому +34

      I LOVE this. So good to hear that! Thank you 🙏🙏

    • @nadinegomez8858
      @nadinegomez8858 3 роки тому +2

      Does he genuinely treat you with respect and does he not watch porn?
      I know those are weird questions but I’m starting to lose faith that there are still men who genuinely love and treat their wives with respect

    • @grandmakris8935
      @grandmakris8935 2 роки тому +2

      I'm 55 and have been remarried for 14 years. I got sick a year and a half after we were married and he loves me unconditionally! I love this man more each day were together!

    • @grandmakris8935
      @grandmakris8935 2 роки тому +1

      @@nadinegomez8858 They are out there you just have to have faith!

    • @serpentines6356
      @serpentines6356 2 роки тому +1

      @@nadinegomez8858 Yeah. They are out there. If you are looking for the right guy, you need to know yourself, be clear with your values, be honest about that, trust your intuition, search for the right guy. It can take a lot of looking these days, but keep at it.

  • @laurie1stringer
    @laurie1stringer 3 роки тому +38

    17 and 19 when we got married...only knew each other 4 months...celebrated 33 years in February😍

  • @mrsroseblack9310
    @mrsroseblack9310 Рік тому +42

    18 and 20.. been married 18 years now.. half of my life! After adventures and two children, I can’t imagine it any differently! Looking forward to the rest of our days together.

  • @Blackbear1913
    @Blackbear1913 Рік тому +28

    I have seen you two on tik tok and as im in my early 50's is so heartwarming to see you as a young couple, you are such a positive role model to your peers in a world where so much is fake and family values are somewhat lost. your parents must be very proud ❤

  • @Jemmyjo
    @Jemmyjo Рік тому +24

    We married in less then 6 months at 18 and 25. We just celebrated our 34th. It is a commitment. We have raised 6 kids, they are all well adjusted successful adults. We’ve done a great job. We finally are back to the two of us again, and it’s great. I think people don’t realize that it’s really hard sometimes. You have to continually better yourself. Keep yourself interesting for each other. Learn to talk and listen. I wish people could all experience what it is to have this life partner, that always has your back. Is always there for you. I dread the day one of us dies and the other has to go on.

  • @mrskbraz
    @mrskbraz 3 роки тому +59

    I meet my husband when I was 17 he was 18- I fell pregnant after 5 months of dating and let’s say we had another 2 more children - THEN we got married when I was 23 - I’m 37 now so 20 years together married 14years (this year in dec )
    Age isn’t a huge thing in my book it’s wether or not your mature enough and love each other enough to make it work - opinions of others are just that opinions - you do what works for you - and looks like it work for you guys

  • @lisablaylock8791
    @lisablaylock8791 3 роки тому +73

    As a 50+ year old, non-grandma- I’ve fallen for Jack! Thank you both for sharing Jack with your social community!!!

  • @jringo2281
    @jringo2281 3 роки тому +23

    I was 28 my husband was 36. He proposed after 2 weeks. We were married 9 months later. We will be celebrating 37 years of marriage in September.
    When it's right you know it.
    Anne

  • @blessedbeauty3989
    @blessedbeauty3989 3 роки тому +26

    I was 18 and my husband was 23 and we've been married for 16 years. Had a ton of people say it wouldn't last and it was just puppy love and we're the only ones in our friend group who are still happily married.

  • @4evergr8tful68
    @4evergr8tful68 3 роки тому +101

    My husband was 19 and I 16 when we got married. That was 48 years ago. We have 3 wonderful children and the cutest grandchildren in the whole world. Like every couple we've had our ups and downs but our love and commitment to each other gets stronger every day.

    • @stardustgirl2904
      @stardustgirl2904 Рік тому

      Everyone has, up's and downs in life and they will come at any age! Better to get married and be in love, and have the person you want.
      In my church everyone goes to college before they graduate from high school,and people get married younger. When you come back from your two year mission, and you have lot's, of college done it's not as hard. Me and my husband just turned 23 and that's kinda old, but we looked high school age. It's been wonderful to be by my husbands side, we have been married for 30 years and in every card ♦️ he gives me he says I wish I could of married you sooner ,so I could love you longer! And I feel the same! Getting married younger is natural, you don't have all the drama of having sex and dating a bunch! When you follow bGod and put him first , it will work out!

  • @karenkluwin8856
    @karenkluwin8856 Рік тому +51

    Like so many others that have commented....I was just 19 (by 2 wks) and hubby was just 21 --- it was good yet hard to be married young. And he was in the Navy, and left for a 7mo deployment right after our 1st anniversary. I agree, getting married young was the best decision we made, yes it was hard at times, but it lasted thru 8moves (including to Guam), 2 kids, and then I lost him to cancer just shy of our 45th anniversary. Enjoy your lives as much as you've been doing.

    • @donnahainline6531
      @donnahainline6531 Рік тому +2

      So sorry,lozt mine after 55 yrs.true love makes it sooooo hard.

  • @nonnie8388
    @nonnie8388 3 роки тому +36

    You both have figured out “the secret to life”
    Perseverance, commitment, trust, respect for yourself and each other, live in the moment.
    You are more mature within yourselves and together as a couple than many adults I know still struggling to cope with life. God Bless you, your forever youthfulness, and commitment to raising well adjusted, kind, loving children. Jack will be surfing soon in a video and I look forward to seeing that! 🤙🏼🌸🌊

  • @laurenspointofview
    @laurenspointofview 3 роки тому +70

    Thanks for not being afraid to touch on the harder times! We definitely all go through some version of it in our marriages and relationships, and social media can make a lot of us forget that it’s normal to go through difficult things and not feel completely happy all the time. Love following you guys! I wish we lived in Hawaii so we could be friends. 😂❤️

    • @SarahAndDerik
      @SarahAndDerik  3 роки тому +6

      Awe this was so sweet! Thank you so much! I know we’d be friends🤗🤗

  • @annenolan884
    @annenolan884 3 роки тому +15

    My husband and I were 21 and 22 when we married and we're heading to 31 years this year and are still in love x 2 beautiful son's 28 and 25 , don't listen to anyone, stay in love, stay happy xx

  • @catherinemetauten3649
    @catherinemetauten3649 3 роки тому +28

    NO ONE knows down the road what’s going to happen. Life is short. Live it and love it to the fullest.

    • @harperz9779
      @harperz9779 3 роки тому

      Very True! This couple do seem to have a lot of support around them,from both families, and a very mature couple as well, lovely future ahead.

  • @pattitannenbaum486
    @pattitannenbaum486 2 роки тому +22

    Hi guys. The first time I got married, I was 21 and he was 24. We separated one week shy of our 2nd anniversary. I was way too immature for marriage. The second, and last time, I got married, I was 35 and he was 50. We've now been married 21 years, but it hasn't been easy. I found out in 2001 that I have some brain damage. When my mom was pregnant with me, she had 2 heart attacks in her 6th month. They really didn't know that much about brain damage back then, so I was labeled a difficult child. Now that I know, I'm constantly working on myself. I feel like I relate to Derek in that area. Keep working on yourself. It's all worth it in the end.

  • @moneyboss618
    @moneyboss618 3 роки тому +5

    I'm 43 years old and never been married. But let me just say that u 2 are so inspiring. I don't follow many people on UA-cam I'm mostly on here for business but one day I saw one of the short videos sara made about her husband with their baby while she was at work and it absolutely touched my ♡ when I watched it. U both are such wonderful parents and have a beautiful little guy. I see so many fake people and couples just wanting views on UA-cam but when I watch u guys I feel such a sense of realism that is super hard to find these days- thank u for sharing your lives with everyone out there. For me I found hope that one day I can have something as amazing as what I see between the 2 of you! I feel like when God created each of u he definitely had the other one in mind. I've never seen a more amazing union between 2 people or a more beautiful family. I definitely think that you have something very special and I wish your little family nothing but total happiness and love for all the years to come. I look forward to watching your videos when I have the chance. I always feel more positive and actually happier afterwards. Thank you for touching my life without even knowing it. Bless you

  • @victoria-gy6gh
    @victoria-gy6gh 3 роки тому +36

    thank you so much for this video.. my husband and i got married a year ago last weekend, he was 22 and i was 20. so much of what you’ve said has resonated with me and has given me peace - our first year has been so difficult and i find myself comparing myself to other couples marriages often.
    thank you for being honest!!❤️

    • @nadinegomez8858
      @nadinegomez8858 3 роки тому +1

      Does he genuinely treat you with respect and does he not watch porn?
      I know those are weird questions but I’m starting to lose faith that there are still men who genuinely love and treat their wives with respect

    • @laughteraddict1003
      @laughteraddict1003 3 роки тому

      Marriage is not easy my dear. Who taught you to ride a bike ? Now who taught you (and your spouse)how to have a loving healthy relationship ? We just mirror what we know from childhood and that isn't always a good thing. Don't be hard on yourself or your husband. Be compassionate toward each other. In my opinion conflict resolution is the most important thing you can learn. No two people will see the same. Communicate without yelling,name calling or giving the cold shoulder. If you're upset talk when you've relaxed. Anyway I hope your marriage is a success

    • @laughteraddict1003
      @laughteraddict1003 3 роки тому +1

      @@nadinegomez8858 that goes for women too. Can't tell you how many times I've seen a wife talk to her husband like he's a disobedient child

    • @patmaurer8541
      @patmaurer8541 Рік тому

      @Nadine Gomez As a single in mid-life, I get discouraged at times, too. Are there any men who are age appropriate, and not bitter from divorce? Either way, I figure if I'm out there serving, among people of faith, basically *living* my values, I'm much more likely to meet a guy who shares those values! 😉

    • @patmaurer8541
      @patmaurer8541 Рік тому

      @Laughter Addict ooh! Yes. Disrespect is a HUGE red flag for me--including in a man who's willing to allow it! "We teach others how to treat us by what we're willing to permit."

  • @shelbymanners6729
    @shelbymanners6729 3 роки тому +12

    We got married at 18 and 19,
    Paid less than $1k for our own wedding and made it 33 years. When you know, you know. 🥰. Love and blessings to this beautiful family.

  • @rivkahanson1964
    @rivkahanson1964 2 роки тому +7

    We got married at 19 and 21, and have been going for 12 years and counting!! 4 kids later and our home is a strong and happy place. In our culture getting married young is normal for exactly the reasons you said, you grow together, you don't come in with preconceived ideas and you are ready to set out in life together. You share all of your dreams and they become your shared dreams. So happy that you guys are really happy together, love your videos!! Jack is divine!! Good luck

  • @peacockgrandma
    @peacockgrandma 2 роки тому +3

    There is constructive arguing, (listing pros and cons to come to a final decision and expressing your feelings about each idea) and then there is attack arguing. Make sure you don't mentally or emotionally or psychologically attack each other when you disagree. I like to use the "This is what I heard you say, this is what I think you mean, is that correct?" conversation; so you never have misunderstandings or assume each others thoughts and feelings. You never want to think 20 years from now; at what point did I or my spouse become each others enemy. I love the way that both of you have learned to solve life's problems together and work together to make decisions. That is what a successful love story is all about. I love hearing your stories! Yes, it does give others strength to see that. You also give your viewers a lot to smile and laugh about in a discouraging world. Thank you for that.

  • @risapaynter800
    @risapaynter800 Рік тому +5

    I was 17 and my husband 20. Next year we will celebrate 50 years of ups and downs but lots of love!

  • @blonksnarvish
    @blonksnarvish 3 роки тому +23

    Thanks for the video and for sharing! I also got married young, and we've known each other since we were 15; its been 17 years together now, and we are only stronger together as the time goes by! It's awesome to hear how it was for other young married couples to handle family and friends reactions to marrying young.

    • @SarahAndDerik
      @SarahAndDerik  3 роки тому +4

      Love to hear this! That’s so awesome 🤍

  • @marnie8943
    @marnie8943 3 роки тому +4

    My son and Dil married at 18. Last year was their 25th anniversary. Both sets of parents tried to get them to just live together for six months. No. They wanted to get married. They didn't have to get our permission, and I wouldn't have stopped them. They've grown up together, had problems, and worked them out. They are still together, but they would be the first to tell you that God is at the front of their marriage. He's the reason they stayed together during the hard times, and enjoy the good times.

  • @JC-ll8rq
    @JC-ll8rq 3 роки тому +13

    My husband and I were 16 when we met, 19 when we got married and just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary. Best wishes to your beautiful family.

  • @JennaLeigh
    @JennaLeigh 3 роки тому +2

    I LOVE hearing your insights. I'm 39- been engaged three times(ouch- I know), never married, no kids. A while back I had this epiphany that not every person has a "soulmate" or is meant to be married.... And it changed my entire outlook on things. I rededicated my life to Christ and focused on building myself up. If someone comes along... Maybe we'll see. But at this point I'm so fiercely independent I don't see it happening.
    It's fascinating to see people so far on the other end of that spectrum. I NEVER watch "family vloggers"- they feel so artificial and money driven... But finding your shorts.... The love you have for one another and for tiny Jack dude radiates from you! The love of Christ is powerful within you and you're just such a breath of fresh air in this crazy UA-cam world. All the best to you beautiful people!💖💖

  • @Hoocuspoocus
    @Hoocuspoocus 3 роки тому +46

    My parents were 16 and 18 when they met, 18 and 20 when they married. This year is their 64th wedding anniversary.
    They've overcome so many hurdles in their lives, but come through stronger every time. Love overcomes all ♥️ I wish you both a long and blissful life together 🤗

    • @gmf4769
      @gmf4769 2 роки тому

      Oh How lovely

  • @IslanderloverBKK
    @IslanderloverBKK 3 роки тому +27

    Even they got married young, they seem to be very responsible and love each other. I am usually against young marriage, like for me 23+ would be fine. But there are exceptions like them, because they cherish each other.

  • @katiehartz3758
    @katiehartz3758 3 роки тому +34

    LOVE THIS SO MUCH!!! My husband and I got married at 18 and 19, and can definitely say that all of this is so true! It was super hard just having family doubt your decision, but trusting the Lord with it cleared so much doubt for us!! Living life and making those big decisions together is great and wouldn't have it any other way!! So glad you guys are sharing your story, it helps reaffirm others like myself that marriage doesn't have to follow the same timeline as everyone else! You guys rock! :)

    • @SarahAndDerik
      @SarahAndDerik  3 роки тому +2

      We seriously love this! So glad to hear that! Thank you🙏❤️

    • @nadinegomez8858
      @nadinegomez8858 3 роки тому

      Does he genuinely treat you with respect and does he not watch porn?
      I know those are weird questions but I’m starting to lose faith that there are still men who genuinely love and treat their wives with respect

  • @janweems2562
    @janweems2562 3 роки тому +5

    My husband and I dated for only 3 months and got married. Had a baby 5 years later and will be celebrating our 45th anniversary in January. Your heart just knows and your faith makes it strong.

  • @mzlibertyrose8586
    @mzlibertyrose8586 3 роки тому +14

    My husband and I were 20 and 21. I had just turned 20 in July when we got married in September. So many people said it wouldn't last (even though at that point we'd been dating for 2 years!)... We'll be celebrating our 15 year wedding anniversary this September!! Neither of us would change a thing, because it's made us who we are today. We grew up together, learned how to be an adult and have supported each other through everything! Marriage is extremely hard work, but with every effort that's put into it! The vows we spoke that day are very sacred, for which we don't take lightly! So, divorce is never an option for either of us! "For richer or poorer, for better or for worse, in sickness and in health" Kudos to you both for taking that leap of faith! 🥰
    I feel like I should add that we started saying I love you after 1 week of dating and he proposed about 2 weeks after that. We graduated high school and after 2 years then got married. 🤗

  • @LoisFox131
    @LoisFox131 3 роки тому +6

    My son and daughter-in-law started dating when they were 16 and 19 and were married at 20 and 23. They are very much in love and compatible. You have the same connection they do. I love watching your videos. You are real people and very positive role models. You are setting a great example for other young people. Sometimes you just know and taking a leap of faith is the only course of action. You are lovely people!❤️

  • @1northernchoice
    @1northernchoice 3 роки тому +6

    We were both 20 when we married in 1983. My husbands coworkers put bets on how long we’d last. Being military we lost touch with them but chuckle every anniversary about who’s winning the bet! ❤️Still married! Some days are harder than others but a vow is a vow and we put the Lord in the center of our marriage. Blessings to y’all and your beautiful family.When things are hard pray together and pray for each other!

    • @susannaCdonovan23
      @susannaCdonovan23 3 роки тому

      Putting the Lord in the center is definitely a good recipe for success. Congratulations to you both 💞

  • @sherrysimmons5553
    @sherrysimmons5553 3 роки тому +5

    My parents were married very young. 1947 was a different world than today. Mom was 15 and Dad was 19. They had their fights, raised kids, theirs and their nieces and nephews too, they built a life together and stayed together for 53 years until my Dad's death in 1999. Mom just reacently passed away last month. Dad was her one and only and she was still in love with him till the day she died. I pray they are reunited in the kingdom of heaven today. They are proof that it can be done. Hang in there guys. ❤✌

  • @jillmelton71
    @jillmelton71 3 роки тому +42

    I’m a new subscriber and I just obsessed with how adorable your family is and the love you’ll show each other. What a blessing

  • @milasheek6774
    @milasheek6774 Рік тому +16

    I really like the idea your church has. Doesn't seem like anyone does what you guys did anymore. knowing you guys waited is like a breath of fresh air!! Love you guys lots!!💞

    • @tonyaperry4763
      @tonyaperry4763 Рік тому +6

      It doesn't matter what church or denomination.
      Every born again Christian should have the respect for themselves a each other.
      It is Biblical. Morals do matter in life!

  • @beckyklepper315
    @beckyklepper315 3 роки тому +5

    The first year of marriage... when you do it in the right way...is the hardest. You both are doing pretty awesome at being raw and him.

  • @daphne3627
    @daphne3627 3 роки тому +7

    My grandmother got married to my grandfather when she was 17, when my grandfather was 60 (before i was born) he had a head trauma and because of that became a whole new person. Yet i have never seen people love each other more than my grandparents. The way my grandmother never had the feeling to let him go. And always took care of him.

  • @maggieoconnor413
    @maggieoconnor413 3 роки тому +18

    Jack Jack is so cute! It’s so amazing how Derik and Jack have such an amazing bond! Your family is adorable

    • @SarahAndDerik
      @SarahAndDerik  3 роки тому +3

      It’s my favorite thing! Thank you🙏🤍

  • @laurenhadley7596
    @laurenhadley7596 2 роки тому +5

    I was pregnant on my wedding day, while I married an eighteen-year-old and I was twenty. I totally know where Sarah is coming from because it is scary to put a lot of trust in someone to make sure our family was going to be secure. Now my husband is a fourth-year medical student going to be a surgeon soon and I am on my way to becoming a special education teacher. Life gets pretty complicated but it is also nice when people are genuine and honest about hard times because we all have them and instead of judging, it is nice to feel that we are not the only ones who are struggling.

  • @miriz4476
    @miriz4476 3 роки тому +5

    So kind of you both to be so open and vulnerable ! I am an orthodox Jewish woman . We also get married fairly young and do not have sex before marriage. We often talk in our community about the first year being difficult and a huge adjustment. We don’t really view it as a “honey moon “ period . Continue growing together and may G-D bless you all with health , complete recovery , joy, laughter and all the good things He offers in this world !!!

    • @SarahAndDerik
      @SarahAndDerik  3 роки тому +3

      Super nice of you to share this! Thank you🙏🙏

  • @chrystallee5528
    @chrystallee5528 3 роки тому +6

    I think it's great when people marry young. If you find your other half take the leap. Just do it.
    There's really no point to dating around. It just makes you jaded and cynical. You're young and happy and un-marred by negative experiences. That's a beautiful thing. I hope you stay in love and the best of friends until the end. Seeing your happiness gives me hope. 💜

  • @soltera
    @soltera 2 роки тому +7

    I am not in a relationship. not planning to be in one anymore, but I love watching happy couples like you. you guys keep my heart warm because I really feel the love you have for each other. I'm glad you found each other.

  • @paruldatta3565
    @paruldatta3565 3 роки тому +2

    Good decision girl about keeping fears aside regarding the unknown.
    Keep love, understanding, courage and support alive in your family and life will be worth a shot. This is for both of you dear young parents.
    Don't be scared, fears should not have any space in one's life. I support your life's decision - marriage and Jack at young age. Just be calculative enough for each aspect of your lives, and be prepared for the fluctuations of life. Three of you are lovely souls and don't worry everything will be great...
    Last but not least - COMMUNICATION solves many many issues. Be open to talk to each other about issues, meaningful communication. Husband and wife are the main pillars of any family.... Keep things strong among yourselves.
    Loads of love to all of you esp. "Jack the heart stealer" 💕

  • @robinbronze9551
    @robinbronze9551 3 роки тому +3

    I did everything backwards the first time. I got pregnant and gave birth to my firstborn in January. I turned 19 in March and got married to my baby’s father in April. That marriage lasted 10 years, and I think it it was because we were both too immature emotionally. I wanted the happily ever after family and I think he felt trapped. In comparison, you both seem so much more mature and ready, and have made a beautiful family that I see lasting forever. 1st year is always hard, but you both are well matched. You will be happily ever after. Congrats, and I LOVE getting to know you all. ❤️

  • @80SGIRL4EVR
    @80SGIRL4EVR Рік тому +1

    I was 19 and hubby was 23.....we grew up together.....as in, we learned how to adult together. We celebrate 32 years together this year. We have two adult children and we couldnt be happier. It wasnt all roses but to look back on it all........Im proud!!!!!! We stuck it out...we worked thru the hardships and it made our love grow & enriched with life lessons learned TOGETHER!!!!! Keep doing what you are doing! Dont listen to any negativity.......you KNOW your own heart! Going thru hardships in life together, makes your love grow on a deeper level!!!!!

  • @brittanypavlovic1038
    @brittanypavlovic1038 3 роки тому +15

    I love how authentic and genuine your beautiful family is ❤

  • @ladyofthewoods2448
    @ladyofthewoods2448 3 роки тому +24

    I really admire the moral value of being married before sex, not having sex unless your married. You two are such a good example of how it should be, life is not perfect one day at a time. Older people don’t know what the future will bring either. Blessings to you thank you for your openness .❤️

    • @patmaurer8541
      @patmaurer8541 Рік тому +1

      Since my divorce, it's been challenging at times! But when we realize someone we've been seeing isn't a good match, it's much easier to move on. You're disappointed, of course; you miss them. But there's no embarrassment or jealousy or angst, because you haven't 'over-shared' yourself. Does that make sense? :-)

  • @MaryKate071
    @MaryKate071 3 роки тому +7

    You are allowed to get married whenever you think it’s right for the both of you. It’s your life and your commitment. You understand what you are getting into when you make those vows. Don’t let anyone else try to convince what’s best for the both of you. So many people have so many opinions about things that don’t directly affect them. Although your parents had the best intentions for you, only you can decide when it’s right to get married. Love you guys!

    • @coolwater55
      @coolwater55 3 роки тому

      Your statement is so true, except I’d tweak that one understands what they are getting into with marriage!
      No one truly does, and that’s the whole idea. A brand new experience for every couple!
      Same goes for having children.
      There are some loose unchangeable guides, like basic survival and nurturing- but for most part - it’s mean to to be unique unto each person, couple and family! Makes life far more interesting!😊🤗

  • @suec8304
    @suec8304 Рік тому +5

    I married my Viet Nam vet Army husband at 19 & he was 21. He was so interesting. We could talk the night away. However, after we were married for a year his best friend became an issue and we separated. I was already pregnant and ended up raising our daughter by myself. I’m delighted when I see other couples make their marriages work. It gives me hope

  • @jaygee8885
    @jaygee8885 3 роки тому +13

    Love this family, stay Happy forever!!!!We got married at a young age also. 41 years and still going. Keep the communications going.

  • @Debra11
    @Debra11 3 роки тому +7

    Talking about your journey is helping so many people. Thank you for your honesty in relationship talk. Keeping it real is important and that's what you do through good times and bad, everything always works out more than fine.

  • @loriwinters6831
    @loriwinters6831 3 роки тому +11

    Oh how beautiful day you three had. It was. I've started watching & both of you are the same age my sister & her husband were when they were married. Three yrs. later they had their 1st child. In October it will be their 50th wedding anniversary. Best to you both and Gods blessings to you also!!!❤

  • @julieburden4067
    @julieburden4067 8 місяців тому +1

    I married my first husband when I was 17 and he was 19! We were together for 6 years, but half that time he was on a submarine, halfway around the world! That made our marriage almost impossible! I’ll always love him. My second husband and I just celebrated our 46th anniversary, and couldn’t be happier! You’re such an adorable couple, and I can feel the love between you! Good luck! 🥰💕🤗🥰🙏🏻

  • @mikaylanol5703
    @mikaylanol5703 3 роки тому +25

    my husband & i were 19 & 21 when we got married! 6 months later we moved from Fl to Oahu. my family was very negative about it. this summer we celebrate 4 years of marriage & our sons 1st birthday this October! i think now my family sees that it was the best thing for the both of us. i wouldnt change a thing about getting married young & the struggles that came along with it.

  • @conmcnard8468
    @conmcnard8468 3 роки тому +13

    We got married when I was 18, my husband was 19, had our first child at 19/20, second at 20/21, and I drove myself to the hospital both times and had them all natural! Third we were 23/24, car was broke down, so my uncle drove! My husband wasn't able to drive and still isn't because of his eyesight, he was born with it, we are 50 and 51 and still best friends 😄

    • @carolinehannah5188
      @carolinehannah5188 Рік тому

      So, all comments; most couples have been married 20, 30, 40, 50 years

  • @joni5571
    @joni5571 Рік тому +10

    my brother married his wife - she was 16, he was 21 and married 2 weeks after meeting, they have been married 53 years

  • @sharithompson1672
    @sharithompson1672 3 роки тому +13

    I got married in my 30s and, while we’d grown into ourselves, we didn’t grow together like you did. The first year was HARD! It has ended up positive and we’ve been on the same page for years but, like you said, any (or most) marriages are work no matter what age you start. But sooo worth it and for you guys, young was your best path. 💕

  • @AM-qg6bj
    @AM-qg6bj 3 роки тому +6

    I met my husband at 19 and we married when I was just shy of 22 - we’ve just celebrated 29 years married in May! When ya know, ya know. 😊

  • @andrealinder86
    @andrealinder86 2 роки тому +2

    I love your videos. My husband and I also got married at 19 and 20, 11 years ago. My family thought I was crazy, maybe I was. But we have lasted this long due to our undying love for each other. We’ve been through rough times but have gotten through them together. I went through a phase where I thought we wouldn’t be able to have kids but 9 years after we got married I found out we were finally pregnant and our little girl was born in May 2020 💜 and now we have baby girl #2 due in about a month. I love seeing how Jack is growing up and is the same age as our little girl. Every video I see of yours is so relatable and I love sharing them with my husband and having a good laugh. You guys are amazing and so blessed.

  • @nikeyaharris-love2047
    @nikeyaharris-love2047 3 роки тому +12

    AS LONG AS YOU GUYS HAVE "LOVE" IN YOUR FAMILY, EVERYTHING WILL BE ALRIGHT IN THE END!! YOU CAN DO THIS SARAH AND DERIK!!! MAKING US BELIEVE IN LOVE AND FAMILY IN PANDEMIC ERA!! LOVE Y'ALL BUNCHES!! # THIS LIFE'S REALLY A BEACH!!!! 💯👍✌️🥰🌈💙💙💙💙👣👣🙏

  • @shirleyvincent131
    @shirleyvincent131 2 роки тому +5

    None of us know what the future holds, you can’t base your life on what if’s. I think you two were made for each other. It’s so obvious that you love each other. 😘🙏🏻

  • @zachshackelford9181
    @zachshackelford9181 3 роки тому +28

    Thank you guys for sharing the ups and downs of a relationship/marriage. It’ll help a lot of people. You guys are awesome ❤️

  • @klharrell7722
    @klharrell7722 3 роки тому +145

    When Jesus is the head of your marriage you will make it ♥️

  • @valerietaylor-haines876
    @valerietaylor-haines876 3 роки тому +4

    My husband and I met when I was 13 and he was sixteen. Married when I was 16 and he was just a month and a half away from 19. Married May 8th 1968. 53 years ago but been together 56 years. 2 daughters and then two sons. 3 Granddaughters and 2 grandson's and a great grandson who just turned 6 months old. We have had hard times that made my husband and I closer. Would do it all over again in a heartbeat! You two are meant to be together and you have an adorable baby boy!!! I just subscribed and am looking forward to watching your adventures 😀 Love from Woodinville,Washington.

    • @sherrysmith291
      @sherrysmith291 2 роки тому

      Awesome testimony and encouragement.
      I love reading the comments so I learn thru others too. This young family is the sweetest and I pray for them to influence many young..and older newlyweds.

  • @lizzieb19450
    @lizzieb19450 2 роки тому

    Nobody’s marriage is perfect and everyone fights but it is how u fight. Arguing and “fighting” is healthy if u are doing the right way and u still respect each other. Burying feelings or trying not to talk about issues or pretend they are not there is the sure way to get divorced.
    It is a testament to y’all’s love and resilience that u are growing and learning together. But in the same token, y’all are the exception and young people need to really think before they leap! Sounds like y’all had incredible family support which also helps when u get married that young and of course ur core beliefs are the same. And I believe that is very very important!
    Wishing y’all many more years of happiness and love!!!❤️

  • @caitlincunningham8354
    @caitlincunningham8354 3 роки тому +3

    I was married at 19. My husband was 24.
    We are happily married 20 years later💖
    You are perfect for each other. Thanks for sharing your story.

  • @daustin439
    @daustin439 3 роки тому +81

    Sarah, you’re very adorable. You both are. You’re such a girl. LOL. You guys are a bright light in a pretty dark world.

  • @theresadavis6301
    @theresadavis6301 3 роки тому +9

    My husband and I were married when we were 18 and 19, and we’re still married 43 years later!

  • @shamimr2510
    @shamimr2510 Рік тому +1

    When you marry young you don’t have any pre conceived ideas about marriage. You grow together within your marriage. May you always be happy, and together.

  • @Jeaniemarie65
    @Jeaniemarie65 3 роки тому +10

    You two are very sweet! Keep communicating and LAUGHING. It's what makes the sauce so awesome. LOL Jack's smiling face at the camera! I can't wait for Derik's story.

    • @SarahAndDerik
      @SarahAndDerik  3 роки тому +2

      Thank you so much! So excited to tell it!

  • @marinriver
    @marinriver 3 роки тому +1

    My husband and I married young as well...I was 18, he was 20. In our 24 years of marriage, we have learned and are still learning to love each other as our Savior Jesus Christ loves us with an agape love. He died on the cross to pay for our sins while we were yet sinners. Marriage teaches us a lot about that type of sacrificial love and my husband and I are still learning how to love each other sacrificially. The inerrant Word of God keeps us focused on eternity and not on trivial and temporary things in this world. May God continue to bless your marriage. Thanks for sharing your story.

  • @carlagrodriguez2076
    @carlagrodriguez2076 3 роки тому +9

    Having your parent's love and support is key to starting a strong marriage well. In law problems are very hard on marriages

  • @ritathoma1518
    @ritathoma1518 Рік тому +3

    I can see how much you guys love each other and your little boy is just the cutest! Thanks so much for sharing your story. Usually, I don’t have an interest in watching life stories but as a couple with family, you guys are such an amazing force and also that you are Christians. You guys are truly such an inspiration to everyone, young and old. I have always wanted to text messages to you guys but it has taken me soooo long to find out how to. I have a new phone and a different make and I am not computer literate at all ha ha!! 😂❤

  • @andreaschroeder2913
    @andreaschroeder2913 3 роки тому +15

    I was 17 and my husband 19 that was 39 years ago and he’s still my best friend💕

  • @AmberAura22
    @AmberAura22 Рік тому +22

    I met my partner and we married after 3 months...we have been together for nearly 13 years now and we're still very happy...when you meet "The One" you know ❤️

    • @brve_he4rt29
      @brve_he4rt29 Рік тому +1

      It's true. I believe in love at first sight and soul mates. You know right away and nothing stops it

  • @ajcurran100
    @ajcurran100 3 роки тому +25

    Your story telling abilities is fantastic. I am so enjoying getting to know your little family.
    Jack is a sweetheart ❤️

  • @sassygalv2161
    @sassygalv2161 Рік тому

    Being transparent is so needed, y'all's honesty is an example to many.
    Suppressing feelings, instead of expressing them up front honestly, is what has caused so much destruction in marriages, families, friendships, business partners, Ministries, etc.
    Facing every issue head on chosing to put Jesus at the center of All circumstances & challenges brings understanding, healing, healthy communication, growth & mature relationship.
    God Bless You both for sharing your life, your testimonies, it does Minister Truth to many that are struggling.
    Your transparency let's others know they are not alone & that ignoring, giving up, stuffing or running away is not the answer.
    God Bless you both & your Family.

  • @korkyames4548
    @korkyames4548 Рік тому +38

    Awwww, good on you !! The love shines...l turned 18 and hubby ❤ was 19 , High school sweethearts. We had 37 years growing up together (he passed at age 55.we had two girls and two boys, and now lm a great‐gramma almost 82....Our first year was our worst also.! If you're life is half the adventure ours was, your life will be epic. Blessings, love and long ❤ life to you !!!

  • @susie9010
    @susie9010 Рік тому +2

    You two are perfect… your marriage will go through peaks and valleys but you have to remember why you fell in love in the first place. Here is to forever! ❤

  • @deeds517
    @deeds517 3 роки тому +28

    My husband was 19 and I was 20 💕 30 years later we are still together you guys are so adorable together lots of love to you and Jack .

  • @rlross49
    @rlross49 3 роки тому +2

    I was 18 and my husband was 19 when we got married. He was just starting college, so I had to work full time. He worked part time while going to school. It was hard, but we made it for 54 years. We have 2 wonderful daughters and 2 wonderful granddaughters and twin great granddaughters! We love all of our girls!

  • @_rachde
    @_rachde 3 роки тому +23

    I had a joke with my nephew, that I was just going to buy him items for his first apartment rather than baby toys because he always would grab cups and bowls and whisks instead of his things.

  • @jodybrand3076
    @jodybrand3076 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for sharing and being transparent. Blessings and favor prayed over you. 🙏 We were engaged after 2 months, married 4 months later and we were 19 and 23. Our family and friends kept telling us to wait. We knew it was right. We’ve had our struggles, but we wouldn’t change anything. God is so good and has always been there and helped us through. We have 2 wonderful sons, a daughter-in-law and granddaughter now. We are blessed! We are about to celebrate 33 years 😀