The TRUTH about getting married at 19 & 20 | The Beeston Fam

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  • @bellaangus1213
    @bellaangus1213 3 роки тому +1656

    My husband and I got married 6 months after meeting.
    We were married 37 years and couldn’t have kids, so we got ginormous dogs.
    Ray unexpectedly died at the end of 2020, I’m heartbroken, but I had the most amazing, loving husband and he’s in Heaven.
    I’m still a hot mess, but I’m able to talk about him without being hysterical.
    Day by day and sometimes hour by hour.
    One and done.

    • @jayaitch88
      @jayaitch88 3 роки тому +80

      I’m so sorry to hear about your tragic loss! Blessed are you for experiencing a love that not everyone does and having beautiful memories you can look back on! All the best to you.

    • @sandalette2724
      @sandalette2724 3 роки тому +17

      💖🕯️

    • @brooklynooklyn
      @brooklynooklyn 3 роки тому +32

      @@jayaitch88 I’m so sorry for your loss. How amazing that you got to love each other for 37 years. I hope it gets easier as time passes.

    • @monetbrown4039
      @monetbrown4039 3 роки тому +28

      I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm praying for you.💜💜
      The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
      Psalms 34:18 NIV

    • @yomama5304
      @yomama5304 3 роки тому +22

      Bless your heart. I'm so sorry for your loss. It's hard to love and lose but it's worse to never have that love at all.

  • @laurie1stringer
    @laurie1stringer 3 роки тому +38

    17 and 19 when we got married...only knew each other 4 months...celebrated 33 years in February😍

  • @jodybrand3076
    @jodybrand3076 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for sharing and being transparent. Blessings and favor prayed over you. 🙏 We were engaged after 2 months, married 4 months later and we were 19 and 23. Our family and friends kept telling us to wait. We knew it was right. We’ve had our struggles, but we wouldn’t change anything. God is so good and has always been there and helped us through. We have 2 wonderful sons, a daughter-in-law and granddaughter now. We are blessed! We are about to celebrate 33 years 😀

  • @joannelangevin486
    @joannelangevin486 Рік тому

    I married at 20 yrs. Old Also! I am now 51 yrs. Into our marriage, I loved being married young I had the energy to take care of our children who are only 18 months apart. I loved every minute of being a young mother ! I am now 51 years into our marriage. our children are grown and we’re still young enough to enjoy our grandchildren and our life. ❤ the secret to happy marriage is when things go wrong you figure out how to fix it and move on. ! 😊

  • @hoptoit5910
    @hoptoit5910 2 роки тому +1

    This is the 2nd time I’ve watched this. I really believe things happen because they’re meant to. You guys met for a reason and we’re meant to be together 💕

  • @ruthstafford2640
    @ruthstafford2640 5 місяців тому

    Sarah and Derek are such a wonderful couple I'm praying for you all you deserve the best 🙏🏻

  • @chelagem6091
    @chelagem6091 3 роки тому

    I was married young to a older guy and now we’re divorcing , but so happy to see y’all did work out , my husband wasn’t the love of my life but y’all are meant 4 each other ❤️

  • @melaniefredericks8969
    @melaniefredericks8969 2 роки тому

    You are both very young and so mature. Thank you for sharing something so personal. 😊

  • @dabreal82
    @dabreal82 3 роки тому +1412

    I couldn't decide if Derek or Sarah was the lucky one. Now I realize it's Jack.

    • @Indy__isnt_it
      @Indy__isnt_it 3 роки тому +52

      That's a great question, and the *perfect* answer!

    • @jannafanta5707
      @jannafanta5707 3 роки тому +9

      yes!!

    • @SunnyRain0614
      @SunnyRain0614 3 роки тому +17

      Awesome comment!

    • @susanteeter1007
      @susanteeter1007 3 роки тому +9

      I love that and it is very true if those to weren't married and doesn't matter what age little jack would not be in this world love u all and love this channel ❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️😘❤️ I hope this is a little inspiring to those that think opposite

    • @lauraborealis9246
      @lauraborealis9246 3 роки тому +5

      @@Indy__isnt_it perfect question perfect answer!

  • @joannallen2959
    @joannallen2959 3 роки тому +2502

    My husband and I were 19 and 18 when we married 51 years ago in June. Everyone thought it wouldn’t last.

    • @SarahAndDerik
      @SarahAndDerik  3 роки тому +436

      I LOVE hearing this! So amazing 🙌

    • @meanpeoplesuckalot8690
      @meanpeoplesuckalot8690 3 роки тому +220

      My best friends got married at 17 and 19 in 1982. They raised 4 wonderful children and are still happily married and each other's best friend. Their love for each other was beautiful then and is still now.

    • @amazinggrace879
      @amazinggrace879 3 роки тому +70

      May you both have many happy years ahead together❣️
      🕊God bless you both❣️😇🎉🎶💝

    • @heyitsjustme.680
      @heyitsjustme.680 3 роки тому +32

      This is fantastic! Congrats!!

    • @chanteledutoit8592
      @chanteledutoit8592 3 роки тому +77

      My mom was 19 and my dad was 20 when they got married. They had me 1 year later ... when they got married my dad was in the army so they had that also that made thins hard sometimes but they got through it and I use them as my rolemodel in my life and marriage. ❣

  • @BrokenAngel2480
    @BrokenAngel2480 3 роки тому +573

    My mom and dad were 14 and 15 respectively, were married for 58 years. They passed away 47 days apart. So in 48 years they were only apart for 47 days! You guys act so much like they did!

    • @amazinggrace879
      @amazinggrace879 3 роки тому +13

      How wonderful you got to witness their love❣️
      May God un-break your heart and fill you with HIS peace❣️
      🕊God bless you❣️😇🎉🎶💝

    • @Jo-Anne-mn7bq
      @Jo-Anne-mn7bq 3 роки тому +15

      Wow!!!! One couldn’t go on without the other, BEAUTIFUL 💕

    • @heatherlynsey3092
      @heatherlynsey3092 3 роки тому +7

      They do say you can pass from a broken heart, that’s so sad but beautiful at the same time. Wow 😭😭😭

    • @LLStark
      @LLStark 3 роки тому +2

      Wow!! Thats amazing!

    • @thebeautifulgamethapa4227
      @thebeautifulgamethapa4227 2 роки тому

      ❤️❤️❤️

  • @leemi-cha3229
    @leemi-cha3229 3 роки тому +855

    My husband and I got married after knowing each other 9 days. I was 19 and he was 21. It’s almost our 46th anniversary. I still adore my handsome, gentleman husband.

    • @sarahak880
      @sarahak880 3 роки тому +37

      9 days ?! Waw 😮

    • @leemi-cha3229
      @leemi-cha3229 3 роки тому +63

      @@sarahak880 Grandma always told me to marry a man I met at church. She didn’t give a specific timeline! Lol. He was on leave from the military, and had to report to his new duty station. We even had a small church wedding. God made it happen, and God made it work.

    • @susanmartin3762
      @susanmartin3762 3 роки тому +4

      Are you Danny Boniduci and Gretchen in disguise?👨‍🦰👱‍♀️ They knew each other one whole day when they got married. It lasted 8 years. 😂😂

    • @margybernard
      @margybernard 3 роки тому +6

      Blessed are you amongst women! 💕🙏🏽

    • @leemi-cha3229
      @leemi-cha3229 3 роки тому +3

      @@margybernard I truly am! Thank you.

  • @kays7543
    @kays7543 3 роки тому +348

    🌻I was 17 and my hubby was 21. Been married now for 44 years! It’s not always a cake walk. Change together. ♥️

    • @jessicatalukdar1354
      @jessicatalukdar1354 3 роки тому +2

      I'm 17 now. Also that's great hope you both always stay happy together.

    • @ktown8139
      @ktown8139 2 роки тому +7

      It’s wonderful to hear about couples who have worked to stay married & in love, especially during a time when marriage almost seems disposable to so many other couples. My parents have also been amazing role models in the same manner. They are currently less than a year away from 70 yrs of marriage. Unfortunately, my dad is in the last stages of hospice (cancer) & it is very clear that he won’t make it to those 70 years. My heart is completely broken, but I’m so proud of the way my mom is currently handling so very much. I can’t even begin to imagine the way our lives will be in the coming months. Please enjoy every moment you get together in the life you have created & earned as a family. Thank you for another happy thought that I will weave into others, including my happy family memories while we are trying to cope & move through the next short weeks we are given.

  • @clittle1807
    @clittle1807 3 роки тому +191

    My husband and I got married at 18 and 20... we are 20 years strong and just paid off our house. 5 kids 2 in college and loving life.

  • @michelletavoian483
    @michelletavoian483 3 роки тому +87

    My parents were married in their early 20's. Celebrated their 62nd anniversary last year.

  • @bridgetpeek4843
    @bridgetpeek4843 3 роки тому +177

    I got married young. I was 19 and my boyfriend was 21.
    40 years strong and 9 grandchildren later. Compromise is key. Still madly in love. With God all things are possible ❤️🙏🏻

    • @julianndavis9415
      @julianndavis9415 2 роки тому +3

      Congrats on 40 years! Compromise and apologies. When ONLY one compromises and apologizes it is miserable.
      There is a couple in my congregation that says they try to ‘be better at’ compromising and apologizing than their partner. They are 82 and 85 and look at each other like teenagers with goo goo eyes

    • @JohnDoe-td1zj
      @JohnDoe-td1zj 2 роки тому +3

      Amen.

    • @amandapanda2284
      @amandapanda2284 2 роки тому +1

      Amen !

  • @daustin439
    @daustin439 3 роки тому +81

    Sarah, you’re very adorable. You both are. You’re such a girl. LOL. You guys are a bright light in a pretty dark world.

  • @susansmith493
    @susansmith493 3 роки тому +64

    Hubby and I married as teens ... 40 years ago. Still in love with this noble, decent, humble man. I have two sons exactly like him. I'm a lucky lucky woman.

  • @cherylmcmanus952
    @cherylmcmanus952 3 роки тому +66

    I was 19 and my husband was 20. Yes we heard the same thing as y’all did. The arrangement was that I would stay in college while my husband would work full time. First question asked was do you have to get married. The answer was no. We want to. I did become pregnant with our first child 9 months after we were married. His father told us that marriage is not a bed of roses. I answered back with that it was. A bed of roses have thorns. Things that do happen. We also heard that it would not last because we were too young and didn’t know what we wanted. We have been married for 46 years. Yes it has been rough and ups and downs. But would not have it any other way. If y’all would accept one thing about marriage, I would say for a successful marriage is to have God at the center of your marriage. Money means very little to us today. It is spending time together. Just love each other and ALWAYS tell each other that you love them everyday!!! Don’t get upset with little things and be very appreciative over thoughtful things.

  • @cherieselauer7829
    @cherieselauer7829 Рік тому +80

    My husband and I got married when I was 19 and he was 22! We have been together for 36 years! Best wishes for you guys!!

  • @hisladydi2775
    @hisladydi2775 3 роки тому +140

    I love how you both are AUTHENTIC!! Always be PROUD of your marriage and celebrate your love! Please don’t allow the “social norms” pressure you into anything! I absolutely believe your partnership is the “right way” grow /learn together this builds a solid family union. The best gift you can give your children is a solid union with each other.

    • @fyrnahardman4206
      @fyrnahardman4206 3 роки тому +6

      You both are a pleasure to watch, so genuine and the love you have together and with Jack is a joy.
      Life throws a lot at us good and not so good but if you hang on to each other and to the Lord Jesus you will make it. You will prosper in all you do.
      Bless the three of you and any more children you have , may you all stay well and safe.

  • @mrskbraz
    @mrskbraz 3 роки тому +59

    I meet my husband when I was 17 he was 18- I fell pregnant after 5 months of dating and let’s say we had another 2 more children - THEN we got married when I was 23 - I’m 37 now so 20 years together married 14years (this year in dec )
    Age isn’t a huge thing in my book it’s wether or not your mature enough and love each other enough to make it work - opinions of others are just that opinions - you do what works for you - and looks like it work for you guys

  • @Rhiles44
    @Rhiles44 3 роки тому +74

    Got married at 18 and 20 and will be celebrating 10 years this year. Been together 14 years total. Best decision I have ever made. Nobody thought we would make it either.

  • @laurenspointofview
    @laurenspointofview 3 роки тому +70

    Thanks for not being afraid to touch on the harder times! We definitely all go through some version of it in our marriages and relationships, and social media can make a lot of us forget that it’s normal to go through difficult things and not feel completely happy all the time. Love following you guys! I wish we lived in Hawaii so we could be friends. 😂❤️

    • @SarahAndDerik
      @SarahAndDerik  3 роки тому +6

      Awe this was so sweet! Thank you so much! I know we’d be friends🤗🤗

  • @debbiesanderson9179
    @debbiesanderson9179 Рік тому +26

    My older sister married at 16 she was pregnant she is still married today to a amazing guy for 50 plus years now it works.

  • @pamelataylor8275
    @pamelataylor8275 3 роки тому +105

    I got pregnant at 18 and unfortunately our plan fell through because of outside influences, but when our son was 8 months old, and we were 19 and 20 years old, we finally tied the knot. We’re now almost 21 and 22 and expecting baby #2!

  • @klharrell7722
    @klharrell7722 3 роки тому +145

    When Jesus is the head of your marriage you will make it ♥️

  • @amberpananos2822
    @amberpananos2822 3 роки тому +266

    I'm so glad, I found your channel. My hubby and I got married young as well. We were 19 and 21, and this June it will be our 27 yrs. anniversary. We didn't have an accident to deal with. I do understand growing up together and learning as you go. I was diagnosed with some pretty major health conditions that we've had to learn to deal with these last 10 yrs. I think learning together has become second nature to us because of learning together young. Just remember that you're in love and that will always help.

    • @SarahAndDerik
      @SarahAndDerik  3 роки тому +34

      I LOVE this. So good to hear that! Thank you 🙏🙏

    • @nadinegomez8858
      @nadinegomez8858 3 роки тому +2

      Does he genuinely treat you with respect and does he not watch porn?
      I know those are weird questions but I’m starting to lose faith that there are still men who genuinely love and treat their wives with respect

    • @grandmakris8935
      @grandmakris8935 3 роки тому +2

      I'm 55 and have been remarried for 14 years. I got sick a year and a half after we were married and he loves me unconditionally! I love this man more each day were together!

    • @grandmakris8935
      @grandmakris8935 3 роки тому +1

      @@nadinegomez8858 They are out there you just have to have faith!

    • @serpentines6356
      @serpentines6356 2 роки тому +1

      @@nadinegomez8858 Yeah. They are out there. If you are looking for the right guy, you need to know yourself, be clear with your values, be honest about that, trust your intuition, search for the right guy. It can take a lot of looking these days, but keep at it.

  • @mrsroseblack9310
    @mrsroseblack9310 Рік тому +42

    18 and 20.. been married 18 years now.. half of my life! After adventures and two children, I can’t imagine it any differently! Looking forward to the rest of our days together.

  • @karenkluwin8856
    @karenkluwin8856 Рік тому +51

    Like so many others that have commented....I was just 19 (by 2 wks) and hubby was just 21 --- it was good yet hard to be married young. And he was in the Navy, and left for a 7mo deployment right after our 1st anniversary. I agree, getting married young was the best decision we made, yes it was hard at times, but it lasted thru 8moves (including to Guam), 2 kids, and then I lost him to cancer just shy of our 45th anniversary. Enjoy your lives as much as you've been doing.

    • @donnahainline6531
      @donnahainline6531 Рік тому +2

      So sorry,lozt mine after 55 yrs.true love makes it sooooo hard.

  • @carriea8165
    @carriea8165 3 роки тому +26

    ...fun fact: crabs dont have it so easy - they get eaten

  • @Blackbear1913
    @Blackbear1913 Рік тому +28

    I have seen you two on tik tok and as im in my early 50's is so heartwarming to see you as a young couple, you are such a positive role model to your peers in a world where so much is fake and family values are somewhat lost. your parents must be very proud ❤

  • @IslanderloverBKK
    @IslanderloverBKK 3 роки тому +27

    Even they got married young, they seem to be very responsible and love each other. I am usually against young marriage, like for me 23+ would be fine. But there are exceptions like them, because they cherish each other.

  • @catherinemetauten3649
    @catherinemetauten3649 3 роки тому +28

    NO ONE knows down the road what’s going to happen. Life is short. Live it and love it to the fullest.

    • @harperz9779
      @harperz9779 3 роки тому

      Very True! This couple do seem to have a lot of support around them,from both families, and a very mature couple as well, lovely future ahead.

  • @luckofthehijabi4727
    @luckofthehijabi4727 3 роки тому +68

    I never knew that in ur church u cant live with ur partner before marriage. In islam we have the almost the same belief that we dont live and have sex before marriage with our potential spouse! Ya learn somethig new everyday❤❤

    • @jasmincass573
      @jasmincass573 3 роки тому +7

      Not every christian does that. Alot of them are boyfriend and girlfriend in the church. And doing everything

    • @africanodyssey4805
      @africanodyssey4805 3 роки тому +16

      Yeah Christianity has a lot of the same beliefs as Islam lol, it’s just that there are more Christians than Muslims that openly disregard them

    • @jarjardaze2485
      @jarjardaze2485 3 роки тому +3

      No not really. There's not a specific rule that forbids living together but sex before marriage is forbidden so many couples avoid living together so they wouldn't end up sleeping together

    • @lisablaylock8791
      @lisablaylock8791 3 роки тому +8

      Devout, orthodox Christians who desire to be pleasing to God believes in purity - before and after marriage.

    • @margybernard
      @margybernard 3 роки тому +10

      @luckofthehijabi These are the Christian rules as well, prescribed in the bible. People choose to ignore them. Believe it or not, many abide to the Word even in these days and age.

  • @jringo2281
    @jringo2281 3 роки тому +23

    I was 28 my husband was 36. He proposed after 2 weeks. We were married 9 months later. We will be celebrating 37 years of marriage in September.
    When it's right you know it.
    Anne

  • @_rachde
    @_rachde 3 роки тому +23

    I had a joke with my nephew, that I was just going to buy him items for his first apartment rather than baby toys because he always would grab cups and bowls and whisks instead of his things.

  • @blessedbeauty3989
    @blessedbeauty3989 3 роки тому +26

    I was 18 and my husband was 23 and we've been married for 16 years. Had a ton of people say it wouldn't last and it was just puppy love and we're the only ones in our friend group who are still happily married.

  • @4evergr8tful68
    @4evergr8tful68 3 роки тому +101

    My husband was 19 and I 16 when we got married. That was 48 years ago. We have 3 wonderful children and the cutest grandchildren in the whole world. Like every couple we've had our ups and downs but our love and commitment to each other gets stronger every day.

    • @stardustgirl2904
      @stardustgirl2904 Рік тому

      Everyone has, up's and downs in life and they will come at any age! Better to get married and be in love, and have the person you want.
      In my church everyone goes to college before they graduate from high school,and people get married younger. When you come back from your two year mission, and you have lot's, of college done it's not as hard. Me and my husband just turned 23 and that's kinda old, but we looked high school age. It's been wonderful to be by my husbands side, we have been married for 30 years and in every card ♦️ he gives me he says I wish I could of married you sooner ,so I could love you longer! And I feel the same! Getting married younger is natural, you don't have all the drama of having sex and dating a bunch! When you follow bGod and put him first , it will work out!

  • @Jemmyjo
    @Jemmyjo Рік тому +24

    We married in less then 6 months at 18 and 25. We just celebrated our 34th. It is a commitment. We have raised 6 kids, they are all well adjusted successful adults. We’ve done a great job. We finally are back to the two of us again, and it’s great. I think people don’t realize that it’s really hard sometimes. You have to continually better yourself. Keep yourself interesting for each other. Learn to talk and listen. I wish people could all experience what it is to have this life partner, that always has your back. Is always there for you. I dread the day one of us dies and the other has to go on.

  • @nonnie8388
    @nonnie8388 3 роки тому +36

    You both have figured out “the secret to life”
    Perseverance, commitment, trust, respect for yourself and each other, live in the moment.
    You are more mature within yourselves and together as a couple than many adults I know still struggling to cope with life. God Bless you, your forever youthfulness, and commitment to raising well adjusted, kind, loving children. Jack will be surfing soon in a video and I look forward to seeing that! 🤙🏼🌸🌊

  • @jillmelton71
    @jillmelton71 3 роки тому +42

    I’m a new subscriber and I just obsessed with how adorable your family is and the love you’ll show each other. What a blessing

  • @andreaschroeder2913
    @andreaschroeder2913 3 роки тому +15

    I was 17 and my husband 19 that was 39 years ago and he’s still my best friend💕

  • @dollymadison2397
    @dollymadison2397 3 роки тому +92

    The vast of the couples I know that are still married & walking around like a Hallmark card were married right out of High school or shortly after meeting ea other.
    Most of the ones who lived together first and or waited 5-10+ yrs to get married were a disaster that ended badly & were divorced faster than they married. Also, from what I've Observed, it's not about how much they love ea other. I mean, of COURSE they love each other, but it's HOW they do marriage. Having a Christ-based home is crucial imo. Say you're arguing, you can check to see what scripture says. Or not sure of which is the best course to take, pray about & see where the Holy Spirit leads. I think human egos are often too troublesome for marriage and family, so having an outside touchstone is key. So, who's the one that'll never steer you wrong? Right?

    • @helterskelter2020
      @helterskelter2020 3 роки тому +5

      People of all faiths have long-lasting, happy and successful marriages. It has to do with people's character and nature. My father was an agnostic, my mother a believer. They had a very happy marriage of 38 years. Would have been longer if my father hadn't died at the age of 71.

    • @mz8194
      @mz8194 3 роки тому +1

      You wrote a lot of nonsense. The cult culture in the US is unnatural formmost peoole. , but if you are happy, that is fine. The church rukes are made by men who impose their vision to others. I am so glad I live in Europe

  • @korkyames4548
    @korkyames4548 Рік тому +38

    Awwww, good on you !! The love shines...l turned 18 and hubby ❤ was 19 , High school sweethearts. We had 37 years growing up together (he passed at age 55.we had two girls and two boys, and now lm a great‐gramma almost 82....Our first year was our worst also.! If you're life is half the adventure ours was, your life will be epic. Blessings, love and long ❤ life to you !!!

  • @lisablaylock8791
    @lisablaylock8791 3 роки тому +73

    As a 50+ year old, non-grandma- I’ve fallen for Jack! Thank you both for sharing Jack with your social community!!!

  • @annenolan884
    @annenolan884 3 роки тому +15

    My husband and I were 21 and 22 when we married and we're heading to 31 years this year and are still in love x 2 beautiful son's 28 and 25 , don't listen to anyone, stay in love, stay happy xx

  • @handlingthehowards9543
    @handlingthehowards9543 3 роки тому +10

    I was 20 when my husband and I got married. My husband was 21. We are celebrating our 15th wedding anniversary July 1 st.

  • @victoria-gy6gh
    @victoria-gy6gh 3 роки тому +36

    thank you so much for this video.. my husband and i got married a year ago last weekend, he was 22 and i was 20. so much of what you’ve said has resonated with me and has given me peace - our first year has been so difficult and i find myself comparing myself to other couples marriages often.
    thank you for being honest!!❤️

    • @nadinegomez8858
      @nadinegomez8858 3 роки тому +1

      Does he genuinely treat you with respect and does he not watch porn?
      I know those are weird questions but I’m starting to lose faith that there are still men who genuinely love and treat their wives with respect

    • @laughteraddict1003
      @laughteraddict1003 3 роки тому

      Marriage is not easy my dear. Who taught you to ride a bike ? Now who taught you (and your spouse)how to have a loving healthy relationship ? We just mirror what we know from childhood and that isn't always a good thing. Don't be hard on yourself or your husband. Be compassionate toward each other. In my opinion conflict resolution is the most important thing you can learn. No two people will see the same. Communicate without yelling,name calling or giving the cold shoulder. If you're upset talk when you've relaxed. Anyway I hope your marriage is a success

    • @laughteraddict1003
      @laughteraddict1003 3 роки тому +1

      @@nadinegomez8858 that goes for women too. Can't tell you how many times I've seen a wife talk to her husband like he's a disobedient child

    • @patmaurer8541
      @patmaurer8541 Рік тому

      @Nadine Gomez As a single in mid-life, I get discouraged at times, too. Are there any men who are age appropriate, and not bitter from divorce? Either way, I figure if I'm out there serving, among people of faith, basically *living* my values, I'm much more likely to meet a guy who shares those values! 😉

    • @patmaurer8541
      @patmaurer8541 Рік тому

      @Laughter Addict ooh! Yes. Disrespect is a HUGE red flag for me--including in a man who's willing to allow it! "We teach others how to treat us by what we're willing to permit."

  • @kaylabruner1045
    @kaylabruner1045 3 роки тому +16

    Don't worry, Jack -- I don't like cold water either!!

  • @blonksnarvish
    @blonksnarvish 3 роки тому +23

    Thanks for the video and for sharing! I also got married young, and we've known each other since we were 15; its been 17 years together now, and we are only stronger together as the time goes by! It's awesome to hear how it was for other young married couples to handle family and friends reactions to marrying young.

    • @SarahAndDerik
      @SarahAndDerik  3 роки тому +4

      Love to hear this! That’s so awesome 🤍

  • @loripark6391
    @loripark6391 3 роки тому +8

    Rick and I have been together since I was 16, he was 17. Everyone thought we're too young and should date other people. For 22 years we have proved them wrong😉 There's a sweet song by Vincent Gill, Look At Us. It's my inspiration💜

  • @conmcnard8468
    @conmcnard8468 3 роки тому +13

    We got married when I was 18, my husband was 19, had our first child at 19/20, second at 20/21, and I drove myself to the hospital both times and had them all natural! Third we were 23/24, car was broke down, so my uncle drove! My husband wasn't able to drive and still isn't because of his eyesight, he was born with it, we are 50 and 51 and still best friends 😄

    • @carolinehannah5188
      @carolinehannah5188 Рік тому

      So, all comments; most couples have been married 20, 30, 40, 50 years

  • @maggieoconnor413
    @maggieoconnor413 3 роки тому +18

    Jack Jack is so cute! It’s so amazing how Derik and Jack have such an amazing bond! Your family is adorable

    • @SarahAndDerik
      @SarahAndDerik  3 роки тому +3

      It’s my favorite thing! Thank you🙏🤍

  • @loriwinters6831
    @loriwinters6831 3 роки тому +11

    Oh how beautiful day you three had. It was. I've started watching & both of you are the same age my sister & her husband were when they were married. Three yrs. later they had their 1st child. In October it will be their 50th wedding anniversary. Best to you both and Gods blessings to you also!!!❤

  • @pattitannenbaum486
    @pattitannenbaum486 2 роки тому +22

    Hi guys. The first time I got married, I was 21 and he was 24. We separated one week shy of our 2nd anniversary. I was way too immature for marriage. The second, and last time, I got married, I was 35 and he was 50. We've now been married 21 years, but it hasn't been easy. I found out in 2001 that I have some brain damage. When my mom was pregnant with me, she had 2 heart attacks in her 6th month. They really didn't know that much about brain damage back then, so I was labeled a difficult child. Now that I know, I'm constantly working on myself. I feel like I relate to Derek in that area. Keep working on yourself. It's all worth it in the end.

  • @shelbymanners6729
    @shelbymanners6729 3 роки тому +12

    We got married at 18 and 19,
    Paid less than $1k for our own wedding and made it 33 years. When you know, you know. 🥰. Love and blessings to this beautiful family.

  • @nikeyaharris-love2047
    @nikeyaharris-love2047 3 роки тому +12

    AS LONG AS YOU GUYS HAVE "LOVE" IN YOUR FAMILY, EVERYTHING WILL BE ALRIGHT IN THE END!! YOU CAN DO THIS SARAH AND DERIK!!! MAKING US BELIEVE IN LOVE AND FAMILY IN PANDEMIC ERA!! LOVE Y'ALL BUNCHES!! # THIS LIFE'S REALLY A BEACH!!!! 💯👍✌️🥰🌈💙💙💙💙👣👣🙏

  • @jaygee8885
    @jaygee8885 3 роки тому +13

    Love this family, stay Happy forever!!!!We got married at a young age also. 41 years and still going. Keep the communications going.

  • @joni5571
    @joni5571 Рік тому +10

    my brother married his wife - she was 16, he was 21 and married 2 weeks after meeting, they have been married 53 years

  • @JC-ll8rq
    @JC-ll8rq 3 роки тому +13

    My husband and I were 16 when we met, 19 when we got married and just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary. Best wishes to your beautiful family.

  • @milasheek6774
    @milasheek6774 Рік тому +16

    I really like the idea your church has. Doesn't seem like anyone does what you guys did anymore. knowing you guys waited is like a breath of fresh air!! Love you guys lots!!💞

    • @tonyaperry4763
      @tonyaperry4763 Рік тому +6

      It doesn't matter what church or denomination.
      Every born again Christian should have the respect for themselves a each other.
      It is Biblical. Morals do matter in life!

  • @risapaynter800
    @risapaynter800 Рік тому +5

    I was 17 and my husband 20. Next year we will celebrate 50 years of ups and downs but lots of love!

  • @Franniethegreat
    @Franniethegreat 3 роки тому +11

    You guys are excellent parents. im 38 and want u to adopt me. I love how much u live your baby boy.

  • @kristinecrowley8321
    @kristinecrowley8321 3 роки тому +6

    So pretty. Is that Kailua beach? Also, just found your channel and you guys are the cutest! Jack is so adorable and he has my favorite boy baby name!

  • @brittanypavlovic1038
    @brittanypavlovic1038 3 роки тому +15

    I love how authentic and genuine your beautiful family is ❤

  • @theresadavis6301
    @theresadavis6301 3 роки тому +9

    My husband and I were married when we were 18 and 19, and we’re still married 43 years later!

  • @kandiehill4693
    @kandiehill4693 3 роки тому +15

    Awesome! Thanks for always being yourselves and honest!

  • @soltera
    @soltera 2 роки тому +7

    I am not in a relationship. not planning to be in one anymore, but I love watching happy couples like you. you guys keep my heart warm because I really feel the love you have for each other. I'm glad you found each other.

  • @marnie8943
    @marnie8943 3 роки тому +4

    My son and Dil married at 18. Last year was their 25th anniversary. Both sets of parents tried to get them to just live together for six months. No. They wanted to get married. They didn't have to get our permission, and I wouldn't have stopped them. They've grown up together, had problems, and worked them out. They are still together, but they would be the first to tell you that God is at the front of their marriage. He's the reason they stayed together during the hard times, and enjoy the good times.

  • @Hoocuspoocus
    @Hoocuspoocus 3 роки тому +46

    My parents were 16 and 18 when they met, 18 and 20 when they married. This year is their 64th wedding anniversary.
    They've overcome so many hurdles in their lives, but come through stronger every time. Love overcomes all ♥️ I wish you both a long and blissful life together 🤗

    • @gmf4769
      @gmf4769 2 роки тому

      Oh How lovely

  • @sheilascoyne861
    @sheilascoyne861 3 роки тому +13

    Absolutely truth, love and prayers and blessings ❤🙏🌞

  • @cmmama10
    @cmmama10 3 роки тому +5

    We were 19 & 20 when my hubby and I got married too! This year we will be married 31 yrs in September.

  • @happyhappy-et5zs
    @happyhappy-et5zs 3 роки тому +7

    My goodness how beautiful is that view!? Hawaii is so beautiful ❤️

  • @SweetyD2023
    @SweetyD2023 3 роки тому +6

    I'm just curious & maybe you have already talked about it but what jobs do you have? Jack is adorable & I wish you all the best with your lovely family. I love watching him go crazy when Jack wakes up so he can play with him. You both are great parents! I'm a grandma & in the South people married really young back then. My mom was 13 & my Dad was 17 when they married. My dad passed away in September of last year. They had been married for 67 years. So it is very possible for your marriage to last. Just keep communication open & never go to bed mad. Walk away & calm down if you are in a disagreement because you don't want to say things that you will regret later. Stay true to your faith. Always, everyday, don't forget to say I love you! That was the advice my mother & father gave me. ❤

  • @PaulaakaPaben
    @PaulaakaPaben Рік тому +3

    You were not all that young! I was 16 and my Hubby was 19! 5 children later and 52 years together We are still here together! Everybody said it would not last! Fooled them all! Now our family get togethers are around 40 of our Children ,Grandchildren and Great Grandchildren!

  • @sherrysimmons5553
    @sherrysimmons5553 3 роки тому +5

    My parents were married very young. 1947 was a different world than today. Mom was 15 and Dad was 19. They had their fights, raised kids, theirs and their nieces and nephews too, they built a life together and stayed together for 53 years until my Dad's death in 1999. Mom just reacently passed away last month. Dad was her one and only and she was still in love with him till the day she died. I pray they are reunited in the kingdom of heaven today. They are proof that it can be done. Hang in there guys. ❤✌

  • @moneyboss618
    @moneyboss618 3 роки тому +5

    I'm 43 years old and never been married. But let me just say that u 2 are so inspiring. I don't follow many people on UA-cam I'm mostly on here for business but one day I saw one of the short videos sara made about her husband with their baby while she was at work and it absolutely touched my ♡ when I watched it. U both are such wonderful parents and have a beautiful little guy. I see so many fake people and couples just wanting views on UA-cam but when I watch u guys I feel such a sense of realism that is super hard to find these days- thank u for sharing your lives with everyone out there. For me I found hope that one day I can have something as amazing as what I see between the 2 of you! I feel like when God created each of u he definitely had the other one in mind. I've never seen a more amazing union between 2 people or a more beautiful family. I definitely think that you have something very special and I wish your little family nothing but total happiness and love for all the years to come. I look forward to watching your videos when I have the chance. I always feel more positive and actually happier afterwards. Thank you for touching my life without even knowing it. Bless you

  • @chrystallee5528
    @chrystallee5528 3 роки тому +6

    I think it's great when people marry young. If you find your other half take the leap. Just do it.
    There's really no point to dating around. It just makes you jaded and cynical. You're young and happy and un-marred by negative experiences. That's a beautiful thing. I hope you stay in love and the best of friends until the end. Seeing your happiness gives me hope. 💜

  • @carlagrodriguez2076
    @carlagrodriguez2076 3 роки тому +9

    Having your parent's love and support is key to starting a strong marriage well. In law problems are very hard on marriages

  • @rivkahanson1964
    @rivkahanson1964 2 роки тому +7

    We got married at 19 and 21, and have been going for 12 years and counting!! 4 kids later and our home is a strong and happy place. In our culture getting married young is normal for exactly the reasons you said, you grow together, you don't come in with preconceived ideas and you are ready to set out in life together. You share all of your dreams and they become your shared dreams. So happy that you guys are really happy together, love your videos!! Jack is divine!! Good luck

  • @michelledermgrdichian
    @michelledermgrdichian 3 роки тому +11

    jack is so cute the beaches are so beautiful, i was born i Hawaii and i wish i was their

  • @ajcurran100
    @ajcurran100 3 роки тому +25

    Your story telling abilities is fantastic. I am so enjoying getting to know your little family.
    Jack is a sweetheart ❤️

  • @zachshackelford9181
    @zachshackelford9181 3 роки тому +28

    Thank you guys for sharing the ups and downs of a relationship/marriage. It’ll help a lot of people. You guys are awesome ❤️

  • @Debra11
    @Debra11 3 роки тому +7

    Talking about your journey is helping so many people. Thank you for your honesty in relationship talk. Keeping it real is important and that's what you do through good times and bad, everything always works out more than fine.

  • @mikaylanol5703
    @mikaylanol5703 3 роки тому +25

    my husband & i were 19 & 21 when we got married! 6 months later we moved from Fl to Oahu. my family was very negative about it. this summer we celebrate 4 years of marriage & our sons 1st birthday this October! i think now my family sees that it was the best thing for the both of us. i wouldnt change a thing about getting married young & the struggles that came along with it.

  • @suec8304
    @suec8304 Рік тому +5

    I married my Viet Nam vet Army husband at 19 & he was 21. He was so interesting. We could talk the night away. However, after we were married for a year his best friend became an issue and we separated. I was already pregnant and ended up raising our daughter by myself. I’m delighted when I see other couples make their marriages work. It gives me hope

  • @gabie8075
    @gabie8075 3 роки тому +8

    My husband and I got married at 19 and 22 we are coming up on 4 years. Their has never been a question in our mind that maybe we wouldn't work out. After the first month of dating we knew we were like glue never parting.

    • @nitink.a567
      @nitink.a567 3 роки тому

      How do you all decide to get married so young? I'm much older than you both & still I feel really scared of marriage. I always thought a guy should be atleast 28, to be married, & I still see people under 23 as kids & way too early for marriage like responsibility.. Enlighten me please.

  • @daphne3627
    @daphne3627 3 роки тому +7

    My grandmother got married to my grandfather when she was 17, when my grandfather was 60 (before i was born) he had a head trauma and because of that became a whole new person. Yet i have never seen people love each other more than my grandparents. The way my grandmother never had the feeling to let him go. And always took care of him.

  • @Jeaniemarie65
    @Jeaniemarie65 3 роки тому +10

    You two are very sweet! Keep communicating and LAUGHING. It's what makes the sauce so awesome. LOL Jack's smiling face at the camera! I can't wait for Derik's story.

    • @SarahAndDerik
      @SarahAndDerik  3 роки тому +2

      Thank you so much! So excited to tell it!

  • @paruldatta3565
    @paruldatta3565 3 роки тому +2

    Good decision girl about keeping fears aside regarding the unknown.
    Keep love, understanding, courage and support alive in your family and life will be worth a shot. This is for both of you dear young parents.
    Don't be scared, fears should not have any space in one's life. I support your life's decision - marriage and Jack at young age. Just be calculative enough for each aspect of your lives, and be prepared for the fluctuations of life. Three of you are lovely souls and don't worry everything will be great...
    Last but not least - COMMUNICATION solves many many issues. Be open to talk to each other about issues, meaningful communication. Husband and wife are the main pillars of any family.... Keep things strong among yourselves.
    Loads of love to all of you esp. "Jack the heart stealer" 💕

  • @AM-qg6bj
    @AM-qg6bj 3 роки тому +6

    I met my husband at 19 and we married when I was just shy of 22 - we’ve just celebrated 29 years married in May! When ya know, ya know. 😊

  • @1northernchoice
    @1northernchoice 3 роки тому +6

    We were both 20 when we married in 1983. My husbands coworkers put bets on how long we’d last. Being military we lost touch with them but chuckle every anniversary about who’s winning the bet! ❤️Still married! Some days are harder than others but a vow is a vow and we put the Lord in the center of our marriage. Blessings to y’all and your beautiful family.When things are hard pray together and pray for each other!

    • @susannaCdonovan23
      @susannaCdonovan23 3 роки тому

      Putting the Lord in the center is definitely a good recipe for success. Congratulations to you both 💞

  • @MelissaMarieMinistries
    @MelissaMarieMinistries 3 роки тому +4

    What do you guys do for a living to afford living in Hawaii at such a young age?!!

  • @janweems2562
    @janweems2562 3 роки тому +5

    My husband and I dated for only 3 months and got married. Had a baby 5 years later and will be celebrating our 45th anniversary in January. Your heart just knows and your faith makes it strong.

  • @AmberAura22
    @AmberAura22 Рік тому +22

    I met my partner and we married after 3 months...we have been together for nearly 13 years now and we're still very happy...when you meet "The One" you know ❤️

    • @brve_he4rt29
      @brve_he4rt29 Рік тому +1

      It's true. I believe in love at first sight and soul mates. You know right away and nothing stops it

  • @shirleyvincent131
    @shirleyvincent131 2 роки тому +5

    None of us know what the future holds, you can’t base your life on what if’s. I think you two were made for each other. It’s so obvious that you love each other. 😘🙏🏻

  • @LoisFox131
    @LoisFox131 3 роки тому +6

    My son and daughter-in-law started dating when they were 16 and 19 and were married at 20 and 23. They are very much in love and compatible. You have the same connection they do. I love watching your videos. You are real people and very positive role models. You are setting a great example for other young people. Sometimes you just know and taking a leap of faith is the only course of action. You are lovely people!❤️

  • @ladyofthewoods2448
    @ladyofthewoods2448 3 роки тому +24

    I really admire the moral value of being married before sex, not having sex unless your married. You two are such a good example of how it should be, life is not perfect one day at a time. Older people don’t know what the future will bring either. Blessings to you thank you for your openness .❤️

    • @patmaurer8541
      @patmaurer8541 Рік тому +1

      Since my divorce, it's been challenging at times! But when we realize someone we've been seeing isn't a good match, it's much easier to move on. You're disappointed, of course; you miss them. But there's no embarrassment or jealousy or angst, because you haven't 'over-shared' yourself. Does that make sense? :-)

  • @itsm3333
    @itsm3333 3 роки тому +6

    Thank you for sharing your marriage testimony. This is so encouraging ♥️ thank you for being a light in the youtube community. God loves you guys