I really appreciate this video... because it helps me to think about how people can receive anyone's Way of talking to them including myself Even when we don't mean to hurt people with the way we think Or could end up Responding to or telling Someone something that we think Wouldn't bother them at all ... especially for the rest of their life. I've been concerned about those kind of things, even before this video. But I don't know if I've had all of this kind of information from this amount people. Thank you 🙂💐
My mom once told me I was the reason for her unhappiness after an argument. I 100% know if I brought it up to her she would have no memory of it. "The axe forgets but the tree remembers"
The axe forgets but the tree remembers is genuinely one of the truest things I’ve come across. I’ll bring something up that my brother or parent or someone else said that was hurtful, but say it in a manner that nonchalant and they almost never remember what I was talking about. Anyway, I hope you’re doing good and not letting a past experience stop you from pursuing your own happiness
Indeed. I remember when back in school I brought up the topic of the university I would like to go to my mom. I wanted to go to a design university and my mom replied in a rather strict voice "you have to earn money for bread" implying that I can't afford to follow my dreams because she thought designers couldn't make even a penny, but she actually had no idea. We weren't even in the middle of an argument or anything. I was really upset and unsure of my future. It stinged how abruptly she ruined my dreams. Then that topic came up again, can't remember exactly in what context, but she said "why not?" or some other form of acceptance. I looked at her with round eyes like "wtf you rejected the idea yourself" lol. She couldn't remember rejecting first and even tried to deny it.
It’s a nervous reaction to speaking on a vulnerable topic, it’s almost like a self soothing action to subconsciously calm yourself down whilst recounting traumatic/hurtful experiences.
I related to her and everything she said so much. My mom suffers from depression/mental illness and has said very hurtful things to me throughout my life. I always thought it was me, that she didn't like me or love me. I found out my third year of college that she has been depressed her whole life. She told me one day when I came home from school that was thinking all day about what to write in her goodbye letter to me and my siblings, but changed her mind because she didn't want to leave her pets behind...I was completely shocked and confused. My Dad didn't even want to talk about it, but my older sister explained everything to me and it was like a huge weight lifted from me and everything made sense. Thankfully my mom has gotten a lot better over the years.
What a disgusting thing to word out in front of your own child. Yes, everybody feels dread just thinking about what they or their child should be or has the chance to be in the future, but saying it like this, its called avoiding your responsibilities as a parent. Im really sorry that your dad said this to you, the future is a mere factor of our lives to take in as we try to properly adjust to the present. So, id say you will probably have a succesful or at least somewhat good future, and if not, at least still alive because thats all that matters and all that you need to be considered human, human which makes many, many mistakes. Love to you💗🫶
had something similar to "you will have no future, there's only a dark road in your future". rough translation from my language. I was 13 then,that too from my mother. Didn't know the implications back then, but think about it sometimes
"When you die, you don't have to leave a will because no one will miss you." She was a math teacher and said this in 2012 in the middle of a class. I still remember everyone's silence.
@@champiloe7715 thank you 💕 I'm doing great, but sometimes I catch myself thinking about it, because now that im an adult I think "why would an adult say something like that to a kid." she said that because I was friends with a classmate who was repeating the year and there was a rivalry between them (?)
Wow. I am so sorry she said that to you. Some people suck monkey balls man. 😔😒 she was clearly abusing her power as your “superior”. It’s never ok to project your issues onto others- period. And it’s always optional to be a bitch. I’m so sorry. Sending you healing, strength, and grace you beautiful soul 💕
@@abadedo well when you put sand on an oyster, it gets tensed and ends up making a pearl, so you received sand but you made the most beautiful thing out of it, yk like you had bad days, but you grew out stronger
@@abadedo When sand gets stuck in an oyster it is very irritating to it, so it puts layers and layers of a special coating that it makes to make it less irritating, which eventually turns it into a beautiful pearl. Basically the analogy is that he took something painful and turned it into something beautiful.
I was in rock bottom of my drug addiction, and my mom told me "I love you, but I've given up on you, I can't afford to care what happens to you anymore. You're living on borrowed time, now I'm just waiting for the call telling me you didn't wake up this time" I still remind myself of that quote whenever I get thoughts of relapsing, I'm now 13 months sober
I’m so sorry she would be so cold to say that to you. I don’t know what your relationship with her is like now, but with complete sincerity I am so proud of you. Relapsing is a strong bitch, and here you are, even stronger. ❤
“I love you but I don’t like you” It hits deeper when in context because my mom was explaining that she doesn’t like my personality and she was kind of saying that she only loved me because she felt that she had to. There was a lot within this conversation that still hurts but that was the line that really stuck with me.
I've had this one from my mum before too. It hurts so much. Im sorry you went through that and I hope you have a really loving chosen family in your life now. Thankfully I have found mine, and whilst I might not ever feel comfortable with my parents, at least I have friends who love me dearly and make sure to show it
I was about to comment this exact thing! I was around 12 years old and my mother said the exact same words...I'm 48 now and she still wonders why I'm so angry at her. It stuck! Not to mention the thousands of hurtful and toxic words and actions before and after but this was a "oh, this explains all of that...you just don't like me" I haven't spoken to her in years because she told my 11 year old son THE SAME THING! He then went on to do a school project in grade 6 on bullying and she was the subject of that paper.
My father once told me: "You have been ruining my life ever since the day you were born". Some nights this sentence still makes me cry, even after all these years
I think his negative mindset is ruining his life, not you. He's just taking it on you because he's being bitter and spiteful. He should look in the mirror and fix himself. Not make it someone else's responsibility. I hope you are doing okay and please, don't believe in his rubbish.
Oh dear. My dad told me the same thing many years ago. Now as a father myself I could never say such a thing to my child but I must admit I'm overwhelmed by the responsibilities. Probably the reason why I did forgive my dad because I kind of understand his position. If you hold grudges you'll never get over these things. Have a blessed life
@@thefooshislooseof course that’s true, but that grain of sand will never be seen again. And the pearl that develops to hide it is beautiful and strong.
@@oe542 I thought of it in the context of a poor family talking to their child. Still very sweet intentions, but its definitely heartbreaking to think about if we're talking about someone who genuinely wants to provide but literally cannot.
When I told my dad I was going to go to law school, he suggested I instead go into teaching because I didn’t have what it takes to be a good lawyer. I ended up graduating from Harvard Law and now have a successful practice in NYC.
Congrats!!! So proud of you whoever you are I'm happy you worked so hard. A little joke here you can now channel your inner Elle Woods. Jk Jk. Wishing you the best, dude. You deserve to.
honestly this camera angle always reveals to me how beautiful every single person is, you hear their story and maybe feel sorry for them while looking in their face and seeing little imperfections that makes them human too. Everyone is trying their hardest to get through life and I LOVE how good that is displayed on this channel it is amazing!
Someone once asked me and a friend go smile, and then told me I had a creepy smile. I just tried to smile genuinely. The world is so mean and I just didn't ask for it. I'll never smile for a stranger again.
I had this similar experience a couple of months ago. Honestly i can't really give any advice, but the best thing you could do is smile only for yourself
Hey, my name is also Caleb and i was told the same thing It was in class, and the boy sitting avorss from me said "Caleb's smile is so disgusting" It hurt. But guess what? The girl in lessons said my smile was pretty and my teeth were perfect. My dad loves to see me smile My nephews and cousins love when i'm happy Just cause one person doesnt like you doesnt mean everyone wont, in fact the reality is that the person who doesnt like you is the exact same person you shouldnt care about Imagine if i stopped smiling cause this boy said that to me? I smile every f*cking day
I lost our 1st baby, a daughter, at 27 weeks, she was stillborn. After her funeral my grandmother told me, “This was Gods way of telling you you weren’t ready to be a mother yet.” Those words broke me to my soul. We would go on to have a healthy baby boy who is now 15.
No, we assume that if something happens it is God's will that it happens. That's NOT true. What your friend told you is probably not true. 2 Peter 3:9 The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, *not willing that any should perish,* but that all should come to repentance. Question: Do people perish? Answer: YES, they do! Therefore: Not everything that happens is God's will... Things are not so black and white, and this is precisely why we should be careful with the sayings we say: "If it is God's will, it'll happen", "God will only help those who help themselves", "Miracles ended with the apostles", etc. When we pray and don't receive an answer to our prayers, the typical response from us Christians is that "God may simply be saying No". That CAN be true, because indeed, sometimes the answer is no. HOWEVER, there are times in the Bible where the answer was no, and the faith of person asking God changed his mind, like the Samaritan woman who had a possessed daughter whom Jesus said no to because he was only sent to the tribes of Israel. Her faith changed Jesus' mind. How about the woman with the issue of blood? SHE DIDNT EVEN ASK! SHE >>> TOOK
Oh sweet girl. What she told you isn’t true at all. The older generations were very rough and tough. They had the same things told to them so they honestly didn’t know better. I’m sure she thought she was comforting you in some twisted way. I’m so sorry. Her words were so wrong and most definitely not the truth. Your sweet baby will greet you in Heaven one day and you WILL hold that child, alive and well.
❤️ I understand. I had several losses, nearly died when my tube ruptured from my second tubal pregnancy. And at some point,my brother looked at me with his entire soul meaning well and said "It's ok Trish. God has other plans for you. God doesn't give everyone babies." I was 6 weeks pregnant at that time. In secret.... My son is almost 11 years old now. I'll never forget how much his statement hurt. ❤️
She was wrong. God's will, indeed, is that we come through struggles and sufferings and end up being stronger. Jesus' way to Golgoth shows us how we should be humble and carry our own crosses till the end to get a reward in Heaven. It is how it is. I'm happy for your family, for your son. Blessings;)
The difference is that no matter what, hurting someone’s feelings is a bigger deal than all of y’all are making it out to be. The rock will sink, it might not always affect the oceans current but it does make the water ripple.
Not totally true. If you're white you have no idea what direct or indirect racism is like. If you're a passing cis man you have no idea what intense sexism is like. There's no "similar" experience.
@@jellojiggler1693 I think the "similar" experience is the deep pain that a lot of people feel in a whole lot of different contexts. Most people get hurt in their own right. Let's not be dense and understand that issues of discrimination are most likely not what the original comment was referring to.
My highschool home economics teacher pulling me to the side one day just to say "I give up on you". That hurt so bad that day because I was trying my best.
My mum told me on one of her last days of battling cancer “I’m scared to fall asleep because I know I’m going to die.” I tried to hold it together but later cried so hard I puked.
Sorry for your loss. I understand your pain, that kind of thing is really hard to handle and to hear. Eventually, we'll all be there. When you are young you think that someone said to you something really mean and serious, until the days where you begin to deal with the real shit like that. Wherever your mother is, i hope she is at peace now.
i’m so sorry. i lost my grandma due to cancer and i was so upset. now i know that she’s safe in heaven with my grandfather. stay strong and never give up your fight of being strong and living a good life! 💕
"I miss when you used to be so little and sweet, you've turned nasty & cold." I was told this after finally escaping my childhood home of abuse, regularly going to therapy, and learning to set boundaries. As a child and for most of my teenage years, I was a total pushover; extremely well behaved and nice to absolutely everyone. This comment to me felt like her saying, "I miss when we could manipulate and walk all over you". I still feel guilty for standing up for myself today, because I feel like people liked me better when it was all a facade
Don't forget that today you are SAFE and stronger. by fixing limits you allow yourself to live with more self-esteem and protecting yourself from unger is the only way to meet people who deserve to be in your life. Its okay to feel guilty sometimes but you must be sure that if people don't understand that, it just means that they are not ready to have the chance to have you in their lifes. And if they dont see that you deserve happiness and serenity, they must keep their opinion for themselves. Sorry for my Bad english...
I just wanted to share with you, I always tried to be kind and do whatever people asked me, but I think it just wasn't my personality type, because I grew up with my mom always saying how nasty I was, how unpleasant, spoiled and unsympathetic. She used to say that to me as a child and I kept trying to change my personality, be kind and all that, but sometimes don't matter what we do, if you set boundaries this type of people will think that way...
literally my mom tells me the EXACT same thing, and it always feels like she's telling me "i loved you more back then" cause she constantly tells me how she hates spending time with me and how rude i am to her which is totally not true
I 100% agree, my family thinks I'm this cold heartless person but it's only just to them because I stood up for myself and learned so much from escaping family abuse and it's made me a stronger more loving person towards people who genuinely deserve my kindness
My stepdad told me I was worthless and would never amount to anything. I’m 54 and I still remember that. I tell my kids the things that he and my mother said to me and asked if they could imagine my wife or I saying something like that to them. They both said no. I am a better father than he ever was.
When i was 11 my step-"dad" told me he wished me a bitter life. he also dragged me across the floor, forced me outside, and refused me a bathroom for 6 hours while i was outside. in the texas heat. i was scared to eat the pbj he made for me because i thought he put something in it to kill me and didn't drink the water because of that reason. that was on a school day, too. so the teachers were asking me why i wasn't there, and i couldn't tell them. and then he tells me he loves me.
My step mother said the same stuff to me. While I'll never get an apology from her for the ways in which she physically abused and mentally berated me, it's cathartic to hear from people that have gone through similar hardships.
My mom was leaving my dad for the zillionth time. She took my sisters into the pick-up truck and told me to get in the back because we were leaving. The whole time she was driving away, I begged her to stop and let me out so I could go back home. She stopped the truck only a little ways down the road, turned around and said, "Go, then! Abandon your mama again!" I jumped out of the back of the truck and ran crying back to my dad. Something broke in me that day and I've never looked at my mom the same way since.
It's so sad to see how brainwashed the first guy is. His mom completely destroyed his dreams to the point where he truly believes that he is lazy and can't accomplish his goals. If he had the support from his mom that he needed, I guarantee you his entire life would be different.
@@memenazi7078 You must have perfect parents. you can see in the man's eyes he believes the words his mother told him. I mean most men get riduculed for disrespecting their mother or not listening to the "mother knows best" bullcrap
I find it interesting that no one in this comment thread caught on to the fact that he wasn't white, and her comment had to do with how non-white people, especially Latinos, simply aren't allowed to accomplish more because casual racism is a hell of a drug.
I was caring for my grandma who had Alzheimer's and had quit my job to do so. On a day she didn't recognize me she told me about her grandchildren and how successful they all were. Then she said "except my oldest(me). She will never amount to anything.". I was 46 at the time and enrolled in college the next day. I graduate in May and although I'm proud of myself, I was proud of myself before too. I just hate I let it effect me so deeply.
I had a grandmother like that. She was a miserable person. Very insecure. She ended up getting a degree in her 80's simply because her siblings both had degrees. lol. She tried to offload her insecurity onto everyone she knew by making snide comments. Pathetic. Just know that what your grandmother said was all about HER weakness as a person, not yours.
I cant imagine how much that must have stung, Alzheimer's is such a rough process. You really are amazing for stepping up for your grandmother. Congratulations on your upcoming graduation!
It's crazy that i haven't heard that before, but i suppose the best quotes don't always come from writers or movie directors, but everyday people who have thought about their lives for a long time.
@@Zip_zow Hahahahaha, oh man well that's ridiculous, the one time i try to make a sort of profound and wise comment, and it's from fukin' shark tales... 💀Good movie tho!
The talk when my Mom and Dad sat me down to tell me I had Cancer. It’s the only conversation from my childhood I can vividly remember and it’s left me with a lot of dread when it comes to my daily life. Fearful that if I don’t schedule the right appointment in time as I develop more as an adult, I could die because I was too late to find another growth, I don’t think children should ever need to fully comprehend their own death at such a young age.
“We were never really that close” said to me by someone I considered a very close trusted friend who I had spent almost every single day with for a year and was vulnerable with . Instantly started crying in front of them when they said that cause it felt like the deepest betrayal
I hope you're doing well right now. Hearing your story reminds me someone that I know so well and we love to hang out as a friend, doing silly stuff and have fun together for 5 years and one time she said to me that I was nothing for her and started to cut me off. She said that she is in a crippling depression and she kinda shut down and blocked everyone from her life. I'm trying to get in touch with her again just want to make sure that she was okay and she said it in front of my face. That I was nothing for her....I don't know if she meant it or not but it was heart shattering moment for me. I mean 5 years of ups and downs in our life mean nothing to hear makes me question my existence, do I really matter as a person? To my family, friends or even myself? It started my insecurities every time I want to achieve my dream or starting a relationship. I kept asking to myself is it gonna be matter or not.
@@bishhsasspusi2904 i didnt need an elaboration, thank you. what i said is what i said. period. also, your analogy was shitty and confusing as hell. close friends dont randomly punch each other, leave, and come back the next day all of a sudden.
I've been told a number of painful things, but as someone who was bullied daily in school, the one thing that hurt the most was when a kid in my class stood up and polled the room by asking who was _actually_ my friend. Luckily, it was followed up by two words that saved my life. A girl stood up and said, "I am." And that squashed it.
i vaguely remember this happening to someone in my middle school social studies class (quite possibly 6th grade). i remember wanting to say “i am” but don’t remember if i actually said anything. people picked on me because i would talk to him about anime and we would have actual conversations about things that made us happy.
*”Can you just develop an eating disorder?”* When I was smaller, I was a bit chubbier than other kids. My mother always told me, since little legs, I should *start losing weight.* Everytime I ate something sweet or just a normal, healthy meal. I felt as it was..wrong In school, I was compared to a cow. In athletics, I was a bit slow. When I asked for a water break, my teacher went like- “Such a cow. Okay, go on!” When I ate lunch and my father and siblings went upstairs or to work, my mother told me -“You know, an eating disorder wouldn’t be bad for you.” At the time, I didn’t know what was an eating disorder was (I was a 1st grader.) I thought it was a type of diet. My grandma (No, my grandma wasn’t those type that went like “Your skin and bones, eat!” One plate and thats enough she always says) was worried for my health a bit considering I didn’t eat much. I started eating more and then, again, the *start losing weight* sentence came back. When I was nine, I stopped eating. I would just puke the food out, I had a *fear* of gaining weight. My mother took me to the doctors, they told me I was bulimic and anorexic. My mother was so happy that she said this on the way home *-Im finally gonna have a perfect skinny daughter.*
As someone who was called “disgustingly obese” (when I wasn’t) by a doctor at the age of 4 which caused me to have self esteem issues since then, I’m very sorry that happened to you it’s so horrible that your own mother caused that. Woman have thyroid issues in my family that makes it extremely hard to lose weight. It didn’t matter how much I worked out, if I ate healthy, if I ate 1 meal a day I always gained weight. The only time I lost any weight was when I wasn’t able to eat due to a medical issue, I was pretty much starving myself unintentionally but I never noticed how long it had been since I last ate an actual meal because I had a lack of appetite as a side of effect to my medical problems. After I got my appetite back I quickly gained all the weight back and even more. I’ve been pretty miserable since then. I’m sad to say it but in a desperation to drop some pounds because I know the regular way doesn’t work on me I didn’t eat for 4 days which caused me to drop 5 pounds. My mom noticed quickly though and made my favorite soup knowing I’d eat it, it was also her birthday so we went to a restaurant. I gained back the few pounds I lost.
"Talking to you is like... the light is on, but no one is home." I've battled with depression and i never really thought that other people could see... how empty I am.
i can definitely relate, i wear dark ass sunglasses whenever i can, because without them, people say i look dead, hateful, empty, ugly, sad, you get the idea. i wish people would simply see past my eyes, i’m extremely self conscious of how my eyes look
Lmao that just means you have attention issues or take a while to come up with sentences, i mean no disrespect, different things hurt different people i just find it funny that that word has a completely different meaning to me and prob wouldn't do much to me since I know i have attention issues nor am I good at conversing
@@AniolPB just born like that, my eyes have a narrow and aggressive shape plus i have pretty bad eye bags because i have trouble sleeping. the glasses are also for light sensitivity
I am autistic, and at one point I went to a restaurant with my grandfather's wife (no biological relation to me, incidentally) and it was very loud and crowded and generally overwhelming, which caused me to start having a meltdown. I covered my ears and started trying to get to the restroom so I could catch my breath, and she told me that I was making a scene. I've had to un-learn that kind of messaging, and teach myself that I'm not being burdensome for occasionally needing a break when everything is just too much.
My brother is autistic and whenever we r in public places and he throws a tantrum, I’d make sure to inform ppl “he has autism” thank you everyone no more staring needed lol.
I'm autistic too, I also have meltdowns due to sensory processing problems regularly. And despite my parents knowing that certain noises physically hurt me, they make them anyway then get angry and start mocking me when I ask them to stop :( sad to think this is a common experience
I'm autistic as well, one of the worst things said to me was by my mum : "Kids like you get locked up", because I was stimming. In her defense, she didn't (and still don't) know I was autistic
I really hope people start accepting us autistic people in the future like they did with physically disabled people. I’m getting tired. Mentally mostly, but physically as well now. It’s taking it’s toll on me. I feel like people usually see us as straight up stupid or they (rarely but still) expect us to be a savant (really smart like they show in media) With all that being said.. I feel as if they really shouldn’t have categorized us all under “Autism Spectrum Disorder” It’s not specific at all.
When I came out, I was completely disowned by my entire family. It's been 10 years since they've spoken to me. The most painful thing I've ever been told? Not being worth enough for words at all.
I'm so sorry that happened to you. I hope you've found a chosen family by now who love and support you and that you find ways to be happy anyway with your life. It's their loss really but I get how much it must hurt.
You are worthy of words and of love as proven by the people that have answered you. I hope one day you come to a place or already have where you have people around you that see you for the treasure you are. We don't choose our blood relatives, but our real family is the one we keep around.
the way these are filmed so intimately and close is like your entering their perspective their world in a way and feels so sensual and connecting and immersive rlly touches your soul and makes you think
The most painful thing I've been told was "your son no longer has a heartbeat" my wife was 32 weeks pregnant at the time. His name was Emmett. About 10 months after that we were blessed with healthy twins. The loss of Emmett still hurts to this day so badly.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your son 😢. I lost my twins 23 years ago. I now have a 12 yr old daughter but I will never stop missing my twin babies. I take comfort in knowing they are waiting for me in Heaven. Just as your Emmet is. God bless you and your family.
The same thing actually happened to me back in my mid 20's, 24 to be exact. I'm so sorry for your loss by the way! Trust me, I know the God awful feeling. I had an almost two year old son at the time (who's now 18). I had no inclination that anything was wrong or abnormal with my pregnancy or unborn baby...in fact, I just had a good looking ultrasound not long before. Then after a more recent ultrasound, I got the worst phone call of my life, I couldn't believe the doc's words & that he had the audacity to tell me over the phone! I was so alarmed, freaked out & utterly shocked that I literally threw the landline phone to the ground & ran into the bathroom, where I dropped to my knees screaming & crying that this couldn't possibly be true. One minute I was outside on a beautiful day refinishing a kitchen table, next minute I receive a phone call that made my entire world fall apart. I didn't understand, I was healthy, my son was healthy, why would this happen??? Thankfully with time, I have been able to heal somewhat, but I will forever feel an empty space, a void if you will, in my heart for the child I unexpectedly lost back in Summer of 2006! I'm blessed now with 4 amazing children, but they still could never compare or replace the one I lost. I named the child I lost Abiah, which means child of God in Hebrew.💗
My love and I are planning to have children one day, and this is one of my biggest fears. I can't even begin to imagine how heartbreaking this is, or how much it can destroy you. And I hope I never find out. I hope you both heal well. And thank God for the twins :)
What a great quote "It must be harder to be her, then to be around her" I think this can be applied for many people (not all) that hurt us, let's let compassion lead the way 💕
I disagree. That just creates a negative energy around that person. People will then want to stay away from that person, because it's hard to be around them without feeling drained. Having compassion and empathy is important but not to the point of sacrificing your own happiness.
@@OpenDoor19 I don't think you should sacrifice your own happiness at all. What I have takem for myself from the quote, is that it can be applied for those people we 'have to' have in our lives, i.e. a bad coworker, a mom you have to live with because you are to young to move... looking at their saddening behaviour from the side of conpassion can in my opinion even release you from part if the hurt they are causing you, because you develop greater control over your emotions by understanding why someone may be a certain way. Do I make sense?
@@OpenDoor19 I have been thinking about this quite a bit today after listening to a minimalism book. So much modern literature talks about separating from any negativity, to a large degree I can see the wisdom in that. The book I finished though ended beautifully by saying people are not like things that we just throw out or discard when they don't serve us well, they take a lot of love, nurture, and patience. I know for me love your enemies and do good to them which despitefully use you has been hard but also a blessing and has made things much better in the long run emotionally for me with relationships I wanted to cut off so many times.
I was raped by a church elder and when I finally got the guts to say something to another church leader he said he knew I was promiscuous (I was 15) and probably consented. The assaults continued for 18 months when he left the church. I always thought I wasn't worth rescuing, dated bums who were abusive, until I met my husband when I was 22 and he made everything better, step by step.
Hey there, sorry that u went through something like that, can't imagine how painful it must be to be blamed when u were just a child and the victim... Glad to know that u are with someone who has made things better for u. Sending u lot of blessings and healing 🖤🌌🌊🌻
I’m so sorry love, you couldn’t have even consented at that time and it was not your fault !! I’m glad your husband stepped in and helped, I hope you’re doing better 💗💗
honestly a lot of people have said some really painful things to me, but I think the worst one was when my dad (whom I didn't and still don't have a good relationship with) told me something along the lines of "You'll be living on the streets for the rest of your life". He has said this multiple times, and I can not wait till I turn 18 so I can leave and never look back.
When my infant daughter died from SIDS, I had my father on the phone, begging for support. It escalated to a fight where he judged me for how I coped with my grief. When I defended myself saying "Dad, my daughter died", he said "And sometimes I envy you for that." Still can't believe he said that.
"Goodbye, shipmate." My grandfather had Alzheimer's at the end of his life. I never got the chance to visit him often because I was busy with work. But he kept a picture of me by his bed. The picture that was taken of me after my commission. As some background, my grandfather served in the Navy at the tail end of wwii. Growing up he always taught me to never say goodbye unless I never intend on seeing the other person again. He always said 'see you later'. Well, my fiancée and I were able to visit him in the senior home. He recognized me as 'the officer in the picture'. He was so excited to talk to me about how much the Navy has changed. When we finally had to leave, he said those words to me and it shot chills up my spine. That was the last time I saw my grandfather.
That first one is terrifying. The impact a parent has on a child... he's a middle aged man who still believes the words that came out of her mouth. It's extremely sad to see that he still holds her disgusting words close to him.
not really, nothing wrong to be normal, if your dreams are destroyed by words and not failures then he didn't want it that bad, he was just a kid that said like everybody else something crazy to get a reaction.
@@r3tardsheep420 His dreams weren't destroyed by just that. He obviously meant it was hurtful. Our dreams are destroyed by whatever the f**k our realities demand us to sacrifice. Some people need to sacrifice more than others. "Not having anything to lose" is often the one common thing, amidst the success stories told by people of different kinds and places. Cuz it's when one has too much sh*t to lose, it gets tougher to prioritize the dreams. Betrayal only comes from the ones we trust. A thousand strangers could've told him bs and he wouldn't be as affected. Video shows him saying the one same thing to everyone who played it. But, people always hear what they want to hear.
being realistic of reality is needed living in your dreams dont help you that one of the biggest reasons why society is collapsing and failing because majority of humanity living in dream world@@WoozyCool
@@r3tardsheep420 uhm, i think that words can really change your dreams in the wrong mindset, if you think like the man "We just don't get there" and you have an ambience where everyone discourage your effort, well...its oubvious that you are gonna abandon those dreams and ambitions. Not everyone is teached by things like growth mindset, grit or a value driven life, some pepole just make their kids think that they are what they are now and thats it, and they never praise them if they dont have instant winning in their dreams
You may have been a mistake in her eyes, but she's objectively a failure as a parent. You mean the world to someone , and she'll never get to see that love.
“You don’t have what it takes to become a doctor” This came from my dad (a doctor himself)… and now I’m in my second year of my medical residency. You can be whoever you want to be. Don’t let them get to you.
I was told I would never get a woman due to my micro penus, well I hit the books became an accountant and now have an 18 year old French model she only does @nal so my size doesn't bother her
2:04 - this one struck deep. the last time i spoke with my dad after giving him so many chances, he told me to unalive myself. it’s been about two years, and now he’s greatly sick, probably about to pass, and i haven’t said a word to him but have received nothing but horrible messages every few months. i appreciate the perspective. it really must be harder living in his reality.
"You're making a mistake Ryana, and when you realize that, I'll be waiting." The last words my dad ever spoke to me, a 13 year old at the time, as he was getting taken out of the courtroom after being found guilty and receiving 40+ years in prison for incest, sexual assault, stalking, and the list goes on. His comment may not be as explicit as what others have experienced, but it still cuts deep knowing that he's so sick in the head, that he doesn't even acknowledge or care about how much he has broken his own daughter.
I am also a victim of incest, my family defended the pedophile until the day he died. This wired loyal sexual family makes me feel sick of being a part of in any way. I know exactly how you feel, the fact he had the guts to even speak to you in that way makes me sick for you. I hope you know we are not broken, we are stronger than most people. Sexual assault and molestation is terrible, but when it's from your own family it's a different level of abuse.
Princess, I am soooo sorry for that, you didn't deserve it, you didn't do anything to cause it, I hope you remember that every single day while you heal, I wanted to thank you for waking up every morning and give the best of you to everyone that's around you. Thank you for bringing so much light into this world, your unique, please never give up. Your asome and so sweet 🥺 we all want to see you happy
My dad said the same comment recently in an email (I left him 4-5 yrs. Ago but he still sends mean and gaslighting emails(I blocked his texts so he emails) multiple times a month. Basically just a classic gaslighting comment to make you feel guilty
"You know, I never really loved you." My Mom, on the phone with me, stating this out of the blue like it meant nothing. I cried a lot after that phone call. After so many years of manipulation, I'm glad to say I've cut all ties with her.
I don't think I ever really loved my mom, to be honest. Yeah, she made up for my physical needs but that doesn't amount to the years of abuse I suffered. She's one of the biggest reasons why I have borderline personality disorder🙃
Lucky, mine falsified charges on me and tried to take my dog after I went back after 6 years, rescued her from an unfrunished basement(mother), paid for a lakehouse for her to stay in etc. Cops didn't even record the medication bottles that her new puppy ate. She's on Xanax, Klonopin, Oxycodone, Methadone, Perc, Prozac and others. Still on the run, court system would never believe it since the cops left her new puppy eating the medication bottles out. She grabbed me by my hair, pulled me partly on the couch and said "I could hurt you so bad" and tied to bicycle kick me in the dick. Can't believe the Sheriff deputy left the medication bottles out. I saved up over 100k to help my mother with her 3 horses, 2 dogs, 2 cats etc (She couldn't afford to pay for them off $1100 social security a month so I paid over 20k for them in the course of a year.. When I told her I was done and leaving she did that. No hope in fighting the charges without the medication bottles being taken for evidence. Can't believe the cop left it out. When he randomly showed up like 7 hourds later (she called) he was forcing his way in with his hand on his gun. He said I let him in in the report.
"I'm sorry but I am not quite sure I know who you are." My wife a month before she passed away from Bone marrow cancer. She had just had a tumor removed from her cerebral cortex and suffered memory loss. She knew I was a warm person, and she felt genuine care from me but did not ultimately know who I was. Those words were the first she said to me when she came out of her medically induced coma after the surgery. Low chance of survival. I miss you Jules
hi. so…wow. your story made me think a lot, and even if you’re a completely stranger i want to give you a big hug because you deserve it . i hope you’re ok now, and i know it’s hard (i lost my dad three years ago and now i have to carry the weight of pain in my teenage years) but i know you can do it. stay safe. bye :))
Yeah the abuse I experienced with my ex boyfriend was always something he struggled to acknowledge. He was in flat out denial . With his mother, he recognized that he treated me badly. But with me, it was like "you take one domestic violence course and you think you can label our relationship as abusive ? That's not what this is. . And if you think it is, just leave. " needless to say, I tried leaving many times. He passed in 2021. But part of me is so relieved. It's only recently I've had all these episodes of red flag abusive moments come back to me in memories. As painful as it is to go through my past and realize that yeah, he was a messed up human being. I also dealt with him tell me I wasn't conventionally beautiful according to society's standards. I am discovering myself again and will never let anyone hurt me like he did ever again
bro... we are so used to see "perfection" in social media, with plastic surgery, filters, angles and stuff that we dont stop to see the variety and beautyfullness of human natural face... I mean, I love the close ups, you can see all the beautiful details in their faces, wrinckled eyes, freckles, big and small teeth... big and small eyes, human expression.. just that.
forget about everything you can 'fake' in social media. There IS people who are insanely beautiful, the thing is they are the ones who post more photos, have more followers and are more probable to be shown in your phone. The average isn't that. They are the 5% in real life, but seem to be shown 100% of the time in social media
"If you died, maybe the world would be a little better." My sister said this to me. I tried brushing it off the day I heard it, but a while after whenever I thought about it, I cried or even got so mad I did some bad things. At some point, I started thinking that she was right. Now we're on good terms, but that sentence still hits hard sometimes.
I'm so sorry that happened. Siblings can be hard to deal with, especially if they're girls. I've gone through the same thing. (I'm the oldest sibling of another sibling.) I hope you stay strong because people need you, and I'm here too. I hope your sister realizes you can be the best sibling in the world.
“It’s a pearl now, not a grain of sand.” What a great way of putting it, taking something that really did hurt you and turning into something positive.
I was told so many times by my parents when I was growing up how much of a burden I was because of my emotional imbalance due to their abuse and neglect. It made it incredibly hard to not view myself as worthless. I still struggle to view myself positively to this day
the most painful thing someone has told me was "I'm sorry for embarrassing you". my mom told me that in the store when we were walking together, she has a disability with her back where her disc slipped out and she can't walk completely normal and she's in pain every day. she apologized for not being able to be a normal mom. that shattered my heart.
this one got me, everyone's complaining about someone saying normal rude comments when honestly worst things will come to them But this, this is truly sad because it wasn't your feelings that was hurt, it was your heart You seem like a wonderful person, what did you tell your mom afterwards?
@@marshymoo5765 i told my mom something along the lines of: "it isn't your fault, you're a great mom and i will never be embarrassed of you because of this!! you can't control it and i will always love you" thank you so much for this comment though, you seem like a wonderful person too ❤
@@sneakytori I saw some people complain about being called annoying or stupid, which is something everyone in their life gets called at some point. Maybe if it's from their parents then that's different (idk I'm Hispanic my mom calls me a lot of mean things as nicknames😭🤞) but I don't understand how that can be the most painful thing said.
This quote from Harry Potter is always on my mind, a quote by Dumbledore “Words are, in my not-so-humble opinion, our most inexhaustible source of magic. Capable of both inflicting injury, and remedying it.”
I re-watched this last week and that quote hit me so much harder than ever. After doing a lot of work on myself the last couple of years and thinking of all the things people have said to me that hurt (intentional and not), it really sunk in.
@@emilbia same and a lot of the things I've said to people over the years. Life is about changing and becoming better, how terrible it would be if you stayed rotten.
@@32JEAN34 Whether religion is real or not. Literally almost every verse speaks FACTS. And despite the harm it did in the past I'm sure it helps millions of more lives.
@@hinamatsuro1908 You're right. If people would just read the whole book for themselves instead of judging everything from what they hear about it (yes even from pastors) then things could be so much better haha Even if you don't believe in Jesus - there's such great wisdom written in there from so many different people. ALso really great to learn things about the jewish culture and their history.
"You only ever apologize to make yourself feel better." My ex said this to me. It was the longest relationship I have ever had. It has made me question everything I have ever done.
It's a simple one, but being called ugly is one of the worst feelings ever. You can't do anything about it, but people don't seem to understand that for some reason.
It's true... I just had an experience today... I can't get over that eventhough I rarely care of what people say about me... One of my friends came up to me today and told me this. So there's a boy in my grade who likes me from about 2 years now. And I never gave him any hopes. But a week ago or so, my bench partner told our chemistry teacher about this. She just wanted our teacher to help me out of this situation. But the teacher called me and verified if it's true. Then she called the boy and told him: "Why's your choice so bad? I thought you could do better than that." The boy told it to his sister who happens to be my friend. So today she told me and eventhough I've heard it many times, it came from the most unexpected person. She was the teacher I looked upon. I helped her many times because she's from other place and lives alone. She always comes up to me whenever she needs any sorts of thing. So, I thought we had created a little bonding, but guess I was wrong. 😢
people understand and that's why they say it. it's just malicious and mean to its core. i'm sorry you had to hear that bullshit. no one's ugly to everyone. 'ugly' is a very situational thing and only the most inhuman person would call someone ugly
@@yashvipatel2514It might have been a joke since you were so close, but then again it's better to talk about it with your teacher if it is bothering you. I've had people joke, and it would hurt me. They would later apologies to release their mistake, and they were sincere.
Before my cousin committed suicide, his last words to me the day before were "When you die, the flies will always be the first to know" A year later, that still shakes me
That's crazy! You would think that ones experience in being able to live life would consist of something/someone that wouldn't drive them to think this deeply about harming, much less killing themselves. But things like arrogance, ignirance, inconsistency, greed, inconsideration, hatred, vileness and brokeness have a way of finding and destroying whomever it can. Some of what I've heard here is definitely wild. I get that everyone isn't going to fight back or express disdain and certain negatives towards those that harm/try to harm, break and destroy them, but sometimes .....
Being told i was ugly by my mom and "as beautiful as a truck" by my dad because "trucks are ugly".. no wonder i feel so ugly and disgusting all the time
"Stop drawing attention to yourself. That's how you get into these messes." When I was sexually assaulted by some boys in school and I finally told my folks a few years later. I'm a guy btw. And the "attention" I drew to myself was because I have ADHD and Autism. Which they hated thinking their son was neurologically divergent.
A therapist once told me that the trauma that i went through wasn't real trauma. They claimed that real trauma was sex trafficking, sexual abuse, r*pe, or war related trauma, but I've been through severe emotional and physical neglect and abandonment when I was young and on top of all that I was physically abused during early teenage years. To have someone who's meant to help people say that your trauma isn't real is one of the most painful things someone could say.
Sweet Dear Jesus... I'm not sure how a therapist could have that mindset and still be in business. Trauma is relative, and the same event will be experienced by people in different ways. Your trauma is real, and you deserve to have someone caring guide you to resolution... whatever that looks like.
I led my mom to my room to talk with her about my horrible mental health state at the time and i was also in school and she said to me "nothing you are dealing with could possibly be more important than your schoolwork and education". Like... damn
I'm sorry but in no world is anything more important than your mental health. Please if you feel like you need help get it even if you have to fight for it
This is a horrible thing to say to someone. If a person is not doing okay mentally, they will not even have the strength for their life and education to begin with. Mental health is the most important aspect of your life, neglecting it for some studies and education is so stupid. I hope you are doing better now! As the person above said, nothing is more important than your own mental health, and it's important to give it a lot of attention and care
One of the most painful things that I have been told went along the lines of "You are not sad, you have everything in your life" I am grateful for everything in my life, but it hurt a lot especially since my family never truly understand my point of view, they always shut me up whenever I try to open up about my mental struggles and I feel like I am talking to a wall
"people who are actually suicidal don't act like you do." my mother said this to me after i had spoken to my sister about how i had a plan to end my own life. and i was really happy about it, and joking about it and everything, because i was happy i was finally going to get away from all of the abuse i had dealt with. and she wound up saying that to my mother. she said that to me on the way home from one of my appointments with my psychiatrist. it still hurts when i think about it. i was 12.
My mom just simply told me that I would go to hell and be judged after I'm dead if I were to kill myself. She's a only a bit of an asshole but she's mostly just a religious nut.
@@Sofiaode18 She cares about you...she didnt want you to die. She wanted you to love God like she does ;-;. People dont see hell as a bad thing sometimes...but as someone touches it and realize how bad it is. They think their kids know how bad it is and agree...but you have no clue. You just think how terrible life is and how much you hate yourself. Shes seen what hell is like...you havent...this life may seem like it...but its not.
@@LucielStarz123 begone troll, it's very common for suicidal people to be gleeful in the months, weeks, days prior to their attempt because it'll be over soon in their mind, it's a phenomenon therapists have been trying to raise awareness on for years, stop basing your ideas of what people with mental health issues are like off of TV and don't be nasty to strangers
@@LawrenceTimme No I think she knows. But bad people are usually not happy, thats her take away from her experiences and I can say I experienced the same. People who say hurtful stuff are often very unhappy with themselves and their lifes.
Once, I was hanging out with my girlfriend, just chatting and laughing and suddenly, she began to cry. I asked what was wrong and she just said “please don’t kill yourself. Promise me you won’t. Please.” I wish I didn’t make the people I love worry about me so much.
When I was in hospital for cancer treatment, I had a reaction to one of the therapies that put me in an extreme amount of pain, the kind that makes you lose control of your body, forget how to talk, leave you traumatised and hallucinating for months after (it hasn't been long enough for me to determine if it will leave me). But the most painful part of it all for me, was my father watching it, and seeing his son suffer like I did. And the most painful thing that has ever been told to me in my life is when my father, who has probably the most tragic, traumatic, and painful lives of all the people I know, told me that the worst thing he has ever experienced, out of all the things he's been through, was sitting in that hospital room and watching me writhe and babble and scream and cry, knowing there was nothing he could do.
Wow that is horribly gruesome, painful in many ways... and how horrible that this kind of extreme agony can be a legit reaction to a cancer treatment method. I hope you'll recover completely! Best wishes
I was sexually assaulted at the ages of 7-8. I told my parents and they said “Let’s pray about it.” I didn’t notice anything bad about it but now… hurts beyond anything. They didn’t truly care. They didn’t care about its ramifications. Nothing happened after. Additionally, I had to see the guy who did that to me everyday because he was my next door neighbor in an apartment complex. And we went to the same church. It’s heartbreaking to realize that your own parents didn’t care about it so no one else did. But you know, such is life.
@@CansuBilal it’s hard to locate help too. I’ve tried a lot but you can’t do much as a minor still. Once I can finally leave this house, I’ll definitely look for aid. It will never fix what happened but I hope it will bring me some ease
It sounds like one of those lame ass wannabe wise lines, someone says to you, when they don't have the balls to straight up tell you they want to break up.
"I have more intelligence in my pinky finger than you'll ever have in your whole body." - my dad when I was 12. Things have changed since then, but I haven't forgotten.
Um . I would probably not live near them if they're that cruel. Would be the emotionally healthy thing to do. Boundaries. That's tough, I'm realizing some people have mean parents 👀🙏 They give you birth, and then you're meant to spread your wings and fly away, not be stuck under them. At least, that's the healthy way. Be kind to yourself and give yourself some space. You can still honor her by living a positive, honorable life, and loving her from afar and keeping in touch rarely. I love my folks, and we've definitely worked through things. But even in healthy settings now, I needed my space to push myself and grow. Hope this helps
@@khanhfident . Thx so much from one who has been thru it. I'Nm sorry that you've experienced it too!!! Not everyone who can become a parent, ........ should become a parent.
your pfp is incredible, i once looked at myself in the mirror and realised how different looked to everyone else , and thought to myself that i dont look real enough to be liked by my peers :(
"Stop smiling/laughing, you look ugly like that." Basically I've been told that so many times, by friends, family, etc. I have gaps between my teeth, and you can see it when I smile. I don't even know if it's ugly or not, I just know that I always try not to smile or laugh with my mouth open, or I always try to have my hand hiding it. Because I don't want people to see that or have to look at my ugly face when I smile. So yeah, now even in my most happy moments I have to think and control myself about what other people will think of me. Don't ever say that to anyone, really, it will just make them stop smiling or laughing all together.
Beauty standards is just stupid. In Africa, at least where I’m from a gap is a sign of beauty and guess what, my sister is was always praised by having a gap like the rest of the family and not me.
I'm so sorry to hear that you had to go through that :( I'm sure you've got an amazing smile and it doesn't matter if you have gaps between your teeth or not, you're still an incredibly beautiful person with a wonderful smile and I hope you find people who will understand and love you for who you are. Nothing makes me more happy than seeing someone smile out of pure joy and happiness so its never ever something ugly imo. Everyone has beautiful smile :)) I hope you get to love your smile with time
what the hell? i love tooth gaps. they're so cute and smiles like that are extra heartwarming for me to see. i hate when people expect others to look completely "perfect". everything that's considered an imperfection to others i absolutely love. tooth gaps, freckles, chubbiness, glasses-you name it. imperfections, to me, are what make someone perfect. plus, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. if we all lived without imperfections then, not only would any of us lack any sort of unique physical qualities, but we wouldn't even exist in the first place since opinions are going to depend so much on who holds those opinions. i mean, look at billie eilish, for example. so many people think she's pretty and even go as far as to sexualize her (which is disgusting, mind you) but i bet there are quite a few people out there that aren't so fond of the way she looks, because that's just how opinions go. honestly, try not to even take them seriously. chances are, they were probably taught to be self-critical and to pass judgment around and, considering the fact that you have a feature that wouldn't fit in their criteria, their first thought was to take it out on you. it's really discouraging how sad they seem to be that they need to force others to feel bad in order to feel better. also, my best friend whom i only know online has a tooth gap, and if i ever meet them in person, the first thing i will be looking for is their smile. not because they have a tooth gap, but because i'm happy when they're happy. the difference is that i don't care about what the structure of their teeth look like and i don't care about anyone else's. try to work on allowing yourself to smile whenever you find yourself able to. i promise you that there are plenty of people who would find it beautiful.
"You knew what you were doing." Said my older brother when news broke out that I had been raped 2 years prior at the age of 13 by my middle school best friends 21 year old brother. I didn't tell anyone for years out of fear that I would be blamed but I broke down one day out of stress from all the insistent familial abuse of me being "difficult" via typical SA aftermaths. I'm almost 24 now and it cuts me to the core to this day. It would appear I was proven right for not speaking up sooner.
I'm so sorry Christina, that you were betrayed first by your friends and then again by your brother. I cannot even begin to comprehend the pain and distance that created in your life, I only hope you are surrounded by people who understand you and love you and care for you because you don't deserve to go through this world alone. You've put up a great fight for so long and I hope you keep it up, sleep well, stay hydrated and try to keep your head up. Even from random internet strangers like me know we believe you and you matter
My little brother (who has ADHD and undiagnosed autism) asked me one day “People at my school think I’m weird because I am different. Do you think I’m weird because I’m different?” I held myself together long enough to tell him that just because he’s different doesn’t mean he’s a bad or weird kid. I cried later that night.
Much respect for being there for your little brother when he needed you most. It takes strength to respond with love and reassurance in such a difficult moment. It’s heartbreaking that he even had to ask that question, but the fact that you were there to support him shows how much he means to you. You’re doing an amazing job as a sibling, and your brother is lucky to have someone like you in his life who understands and cares for him so deeply. I also have a little brother, and I wish I were better at being the big brother he deserves. I’m not the man I want to be yet, and I don’t think I’m a good role model for him, sadly.
You have feelings and are a human with good understanding social behavior. It's rare to see that in this sick world. But as the saying goes: In this world there's known humans but few friends. Very inspiring your story
Tell him about the etymology of the word 'weird'; it means 'in touch with the unknown/authentic, one who understands nature/mystery' so they basically are saying he is authentic and they don't know how to feel about it because THEY are not.
My dad would always tell me about how terrible my acne was and would point out the dark circles under my eyes. I had enough of it one day and decided to tell my aunt about it. The next day I was talking to my sister and we were joking about something, and my aunt came to my sister’s defense and told me that I was “ugly and no one wants to look at me anyway.” I was embarrassed and ashamed. I regret telling her about my situation with my father.
@@OcnarfPro my aunt moved out recently so we don't talk anymore, but I'm on good terms with my dad now. i wouldn't say it's picture perfect, we're not that close, but he's helping with my skin problems.
That’s so sad.. to share vulnerable feelings with someone and have them use it against you or hurt you. Your aunt is blind to true beauty if she looks past a great personality and fixates on your “imperfections” Personally, dark circles bring out the eyes, and they really don’t look bad. I actually use dark makeup around my eyes. Acne is very common to have, and you aren’t ugly because you have it. Many gorgeous people have acne, and many other imperfections on top of that. Ignore what they say, for they are only trying to bring you down. They are not worth feeling hurt over. Know your worth, ❤️ peace and love ❤️
My narcissistic mother encouraging me to unalive myself with telling me to “yeah, do it!” In response to me telling her to leave me alone and in peace or I would unalive myself. This is not close to the the most cruel things she has told me, but it was oddly validating because it confirmed how much she resents and dislikes me. Narcissistic parents are a never-ending nightmare… escape them as soon as possible to because they will take years off your life with chronic-stress, PTSD, and chronic health issues, including autoimmune diseases.
The most painful thing someone ever told me was: “You’re friend was found dead yesterday, and we wanted to see if you were alright.” those words still haunt me to this day. He knew I was the only one who he spoke to about everything so he asked me questions and I didn’t know my friend was dead until he told me and I haven’t been the same since. I went through a psychotic phrase after his death since he killed himself and I wanted to kill my bullies, who still harrassed me after his death and encouraged me to do it as well. I wanted to make them feel how I felt. A year later i almost tried to kill myself, I was 13 by then, I lost my best friend when I was 12. I’ve known him since I was 5 and he was my closest companion who I thought I’d spend my life with and I’m still not over his death at all. Sometimes I still feel really shitty that I could of helped him. I miss him a lot. He would be turning 21 in May this year. He’s a year older than me.
Hey, how are you? I really hope you're ok. I can't imagine going through what you've endured this time, what you're fighting as i write. I'm 22 now, building my life and struggling with my mental health, but learning from it. If you need someone to chat about life, or whatever you want, just answer and we'll talk about it. I know my offering might sound shallow, but it's honest. If there is something i can say to you to help you get through this, i want to be able to do it. Don't let your light and uniqueness be swallowed by this world. Instead, embrace and light all the world around you with the gifts you have. Live your life as greatly as possible as the best revenge against those who've been trying to take it away from you.
I am so sorry your friend at the time was rude enough to ask questions they had no right in asking when they knew your best friend died. I hope you have better friends than that person that put their nosy interests in front of your wellbeing. As for death, as someone who has lost a few people in a short amount of time between them as well. I will give you some unsolicited advice. When people say: 'You will get over it eventually' or 'You have to move on ect ect'. They don't know what they are talking about. You don't get over it I am afraid. But you do learn to live with it and that is the best way to deal with it and you are already doing it. You will always miss him, you will always have moments of sadness and/or tears. But know that is okay. It is normal. That is just how much you loved your best friend. As for helping your best friend, I am sure you did everything you could for him. It was an awful and very sad thing to have happened to him and you in turn. I hope you are okay. Please be kind to yourself.
I'm so so fucking sorry, I lost one of my friends back in August from s*icide and I know how hard it hurts to loose someone close to you. my friend had just turned 18 and he's a year older than me too. I'm glad you're still alive because I struggle with those things too and i know he would want to you be alive and happy. If you need someone to talk to about all of this, I'm here for you even though I'm just a stranger on the internet
i'm really sorrry about what you've been through and i know you propably know this, but it was not your fault, you were only 12, how could you have known and helped at such a young age i hope you feel better nowadays
My grandmother said to me: "I hope you don't get accepted" when I told her about how I applied for a school in the US (since I'm Mexican) and she said that to me in front of my whole family... It was devastating to say the least.
“Our daughter is a social reject. Nobody will ever want to be around her because of the way she is” - my father to my mother. I had overheard the conversation while in my room. I’m autistic and have struggled with anxiety issues for the majority of my life.
I don't think you should take those words to your heart. It will just make your life difficult. People says a lots of things. But at the end of the day those all become meaningless, only the end results matter. So take the good words and try to live a good life cause if you let those negative words affect you it is just your loss.
Then prove them wrong. You don't have to prove anything to them but don't believe that. It'll only drag you down. Look past it and go beyond the shackles that hold you! Keep going and don't give up. I wish you all the best!
@@salmanrifat1375 Wow, thanks I'm cured. "Just be positive and see the good in life" super helpful and insightful. Definitely not ripped from the back of a Hallmark greeting card.
My mom said to me, after a suicide attempt while manic as I held her "I have demons inside me, I'm sorry, they're inside you too." She eventually died from her bipolar disorder, but I think about her saying this a lot. I was 15.
@@ShadareaRapt Nothing to do with real demons though, her mother suffered from a serious illness. But Jesus can definitely help against feeling hopeless if one lets it happen
I went through a similar situation a few months ago I told my mom during a mental break down what id been thinking of doing and feeling and she made it so much worse she said, "suicidal people dont tell people their suicidal" and that i might be a psychopath..right after she told my dad in which he said the same thing and started telling the rest of my family so now everyone walks around egg shells with me and thinks im super sensitive and what not, I wish it could have just been a personal thing between me and my mom or maybe I shouldn't have said anything but now I dont think my family sees me the same anymore.
I was bullied for 2 years because of the way I looked and the way I sounded when I spoke. When I finally changed schools, I was finally able to look people in the eye because they treated me better. But one day while talking to a classmate she asked "Don't you realize that others are making fun of you?" Even if it doesn't seem like much, in that moment it really destroyed the idea of that I was finally seen as a person.
Just know that when people are this cruel, there is something inside of them that they are feeling hatred towards. It is nothing to do with you, that is their own shit. I'm so sorry you had to deal with this ❤
Something similar happened to me. I was trying my hardest to fit in a group of friends. I thought I was finally feeling comfortable around them. And then, someone said: “hey, why are you like that?”. And he asked again: “really. Why are you like that?”. His gf changed the subject and the road went on. But a part of me really died that day. On the other side, reliving this moment later in life, I noticed my mistakes and found out who I really was. Today, I am much more confident, and I dont need to ask for my real friends love anymore. But again, that hurted like hell
"The cancer is back...and this time, it's everywhere." - my mom a little over 4 years ago told me this. She was diagnosed that August and by January of the following year, she was gone. I have so many regrets; ways that I could have been a better daughter. I still feel guilty about it.
I am so sorry, Cancer is a horrendous thing, the definition of pure evil and pure pain. But you can't let that guilt bring you down, one thing I've learned recently is no matter what, when you can't go back, you will always have regrets, it is inevitable. We as humans are imperfect creatures seeking perfection, you will always find something to criticize and regret if you look for one. Nobody is perfect and I am sure she enjoyed every moment she had with you. I'm sure you've heard it before but, don't feel regret of what could've been and be happy for what was. I wish you the best :)
My mom when I was a little kid and said that I would never be anybody because my dad was nobody, and that has always stuck with me. It still hurts to this day. It cuts deep real deep.
parents should be the place of safety and a support in life. Though because we're naturaly trying to make that bond with out parents, theirs words are more important to us and we get hurt more by them, then if a stranger said them to us
In college, dealing with the deepest depression in my life. At our graduation party my "friends" congratulated me. Not for graduating, they had made bets in which year I would have killed myself. I had surprassed their expectations. I still struggle with depressive episodes and that has truly hurt me on such a deep level.
Damn, this resonated with me quite a bit. I found myself in a similar situation, but I hope my classmates will never be cruel enough to tell something like that to my face. I wish you the best, man. I heard you, you're not alone.
I was crying to my mom on the phone, talking about how low my self-esteem was and my struggles with school. With the coldest voice she just said "Stop." and hung up. That hurt me so much. We've never been super super close but she was still my mom and I just needed someone to talk to and be comforted by.
Yes, but the only reason why she ever phoned with you was that you are her daughter, or you over-talked every BS and she was pissed off, OR just think about it, maybe she has the same problems(or others) and not the power to help you and herself
I grew up Mormon. When I was 17 I fell in love with a girl in the church. I never felt more understood and accepted by another human being. The problem is that the church sends men on a two year mission abroad when they turn 18 but I had been experiencing faith issues for several years so I decided not to go. This is a very taboo decision in the church so it caused her parents to disapprove of me. She ended up moving away to college and we continued our relationship in secret for two years. Unfortunately she lost her scholarship and had to move back home. Her parents found out we were still dating, and they called me and told me I was never going to see her again. They were right. No goodbyes or anything. That was the most painful thing I was ever told. I went to the garage where I could be alone and I cried a puddle of tears. That was 10 years ago, but tbh I think something broke inside me that day.
I've had a torturous life. I remember hearing a quote "If you're stupid you better be tough." Well I don't know if I'm tough, or tough enough anyways, but I'll hang in there as long as I can. There's so many things I can remember and so much I can't. At this point moments of pain seem so meaningless, so not worth recounting. Split my head open, my hands, my feet, burnt, frozen, concussed (more than once), my parents saying they think I'm slow or just being insecure about all kinds of things, my brother being a prick, breaking bones, being horribly sick, being bullied, losing 21 pets in 16 years, having 16 jobs by 26, the list doesn't end. I hope I can still be gentle. I'd hate if my suffering stopped me from caring for others.
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I really appreciate this video... because it helps me to think about how people can receive anyone's Way of talking to them including myself Even when we don't mean to hurt people with the way we think Or could end up Responding to or telling Someone something that we think Wouldn't bother them at all ... especially for the rest of their life. I've been concerned about those kind of things, even before this video. But I don't know if I've had all of this kind of information from this amount people. Thank you 🙂💐
mine was my mom saying i wish you were never born
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My mom once told me I was the reason for her unhappiness after an argument. I 100% know if I brought it up to her she would have no memory of it. "The axe forgets but the tree remembers"
The axe forgets but the tree remembers is genuinely one of the truest things I’ve come across. I’ll bring something up that my brother or parent or someone else said that was hurtful, but say it in a manner that nonchalant and they almost never remember what I was talking about.
Anyway, I hope you’re doing good and not letting a past experience stop you from pursuing your own happiness
Wow, I love that quote! Thank you
she told me she didnt know why she listened to god :(
We all say things in the heat of the moment but it doesn't make it true.
Indeed. I remember when back in school I brought up the topic of the university I would like to go to my mom. I wanted to go to a design university and my mom replied in a rather strict voice "you have to earn money for bread" implying that I can't afford to follow my dreams because she thought designers couldn't make even a penny, but she actually had no idea. We weren't even in the middle of an argument or anything. I was really upset and unsure of my future. It stinged how abruptly she ruined my dreams. Then that topic came up again, can't remember exactly in what context, but she said "why not?" or some other form of acceptance. I looked at her with round eyes like "wtf you rejected the idea yourself" lol. She couldn't remember rejecting first and even tried to deny it.
It’s funny how we smile even though we’re in immense pain
That’s what my now-ex told me, I asked them if they’re gonna be okay, they just said they’re gonna keep everything to themselves.. 🙁
It's because humans have been conditioned to hide and suppress how they truly feel
I wish it wasn’t that way
It’s a nervous reaction to speaking on a vulnerable topic, it’s almost like a self soothing action to subconsciously calm yourself down whilst recounting traumatic/hurtful experiences.
@surprisedpikachu shut up....yes some people in the world have it harder than others but nobodys feelings should be invalidated because of it
The "must be harder to be her than be around her" lady has such admirable emotional intelligence 💖
Idk i think she is making excuses for her mother , it's a good thing to be empathetic and understanding but that was still shitty parenting
I legit feel like I needed to hear that.
100% agree Lived it
I related to her and everything she said so much.
My mom suffers from depression/mental illness and has said very hurtful things to me throughout my life. I always thought it was me, that she didn't like me or love me. I found out my third year of college that she has been depressed her whole life. She told me one day when I came home from school that was thinking all day about what to write in her goodbye letter to me and my siblings, but changed her mind because she didn't want to leave her pets behind...I was completely shocked and confused. My Dad didn't even want to talk about it, but my older sister explained everything to me and it was like a huge weight lifted from me and everything made sense. Thankfully my mom has gotten a lot better over the years.
Ya what she said is sumthing i'll never forget.
"When I look at you and think of your future the only thing I feel is dread"
Thanks dad
How terrible. I’m so sorry. 😢
What a disgusting thing to word out in front of your own child. Yes, everybody feels dread just thinking about what they or their child should be or has the chance to be in the future, but saying it like this, its called avoiding your responsibilities as a parent. Im really sorry that your dad said this to you, the future is a mere factor of our lives to take in as we try to properly adjust to the present. So, id say you will probably have a succesful or at least somewhat good future, and if not, at least still alive because thats all that matters and all that you need to be considered human, human which makes many, many mistakes. Love to you💗🫶
had something similar to "you will have no future, there's only a dark road in your future". rough translation from my language. I was 13 then,that too from my mother. Didn't know the implications back then, but think about it sometimes
Hope you got yourself together
@@nneisler you sound like my dad
"When you die, you don't have to leave a will because no one will miss you."
She was a math teacher and said this in 2012 in the middle of a class. I still remember everyone's silence.
Omg that’s an horrible thing to say, I hope you know it’s not true and you’re doing well 💕
@@champiloe7715 thank you 💕 I'm doing great, but sometimes I catch myself thinking about it, because now that im an adult I think "why would an adult say something like that to a kid."
she said that because I was friends with a classmate who was repeating the year and there was a rivalry between them (?)
What a terrible thing to say to anyone. Specially to a teen.... Hope you're doing fine
Wow. I am so sorry she said that to you. Some people suck monkey balls man. 😔😒 she was clearly abusing her power as your “superior”. It’s never ok to project your issues onto others- period. And it’s always optional to be a bitch. I’m so sorry. Sending you healing, strength, and grace you beautiful soul 💕
if my teacher said that to me I’d definitely snap and roast the hell out of her
“It’s a pearl now, not a grain of sand.”
That was beautifully worded.
Yes but I don't know what did he mean?
@@abadedo He meant that instead of it being a stupid or negative thing to remember that its now a pearl something beautiful or funny to look back at
@@abadedo well when you put sand on an oyster, it gets tensed and ends up making a pearl, so you received sand but you made the most beautiful thing out of it, yk like you had bad days, but you grew out stronger
@@abadedo I saw it as something scratchy to the touch now being smooth and comfortable with time.
@@abadedo When sand gets stuck in an oyster it is very irritating to it, so it puts layers and layers of a special coating that it makes to make it less irritating, which eventually turns it into a beautiful pearl. Basically the analogy is that he took something painful and turned it into something beautiful.
I was in rock bottom of my drug addiction, and my mom told me "I love you, but I've given up on you, I can't afford to care what happens to you anymore. You're living on borrowed time, now I'm just waiting for the call telling me you didn't wake up this time"
I still remind myself of that quote whenever I get thoughts of relapsing, I'm now 13 months sober
I’m so sorry she would be so cold to say that to you. I don’t know what your relationship with her is like now, but with complete sincerity I am so proud of you. Relapsing is a strong bitch, and here you are, even stronger. ❤
Keep going bro
@@SuzieGuru1023 do you really think that's being cold or lovingly honest.
@@hllyenaylleth9576 Maybe it was indeed intended to be lovingly honest. But a lot of hurtful things can come from a place of love.
@SuzieGuru1023 that's perspective
“I love you but I don’t like you”
It hits deeper when in context because my mom was explaining that she doesn’t like my personality and she was kind of saying that she only loved me because she felt that she had to. There was a lot within this conversation that still hurts but that was the line that really stuck with me.
I've had this one from my mum before too. It hurts so much. Im sorry you went through that and I hope you have a really loving chosen family in your life now. Thankfully I have found mine, and whilst I might not ever feel comfortable with my parents, at least I have friends who love me dearly and make sure to show it
Ive heard this too many times from my parents..
I'm so scared I'm going to have a child and feel that. I could never, EVER say that to my kid, I think, but I'd be scared to think it.
That's my most painful thing too, also said by my mom.
I was about to comment this exact thing! I was around 12 years old and my mother said the exact same words...I'm 48 now and she still wonders why I'm so angry at her. It stuck!
Not to mention the thousands of hurtful and toxic words and actions before and after but this was a "oh, this explains all of that...you just don't like me"
I haven't spoken to her in years because she told my 11 year old son THE SAME THING! He then went on to do a school project in grade 6 on bullying and she was the subject of that paper.
My father once told me: "You have been ruining my life ever since the day you were born". Some nights this sentence still makes me cry, even after all these years
I think his negative mindset is ruining his life, not you. He's just taking it on you because he's being bitter and spiteful. He should look in the mirror and fix himself. Not make it someone else's responsibility. I hope you are doing okay and please, don't believe in his rubbish.
what the actual fuck is wrong with him. I'm so sorry like incredibly sorry that was said to you. No one should ever have to hear something like that
I'm so sorry. I'm sure you bring joy to many other people and mean the world to them. Please keep your head up!
Sending you so much love and healing. My dad used to say hurtful things like this “you’re always the problem child” “everyone despises you”
Oh dear. My dad told me the same thing many years ago. Now as a father myself I could never say such a thing to my child but I must admit I'm overwhelmed by the responsibilities. Probably the reason why I did forgive my dad because I kind of understand his position. If you hold grudges you'll never get over these things. Have a blessed life
“It’s a pearl now, not a grain of sand.”
What a beautiful way to look at something that once hurt so badly.
This is the way we integrate. Realizing that our wounds are also our gifts... if we accept reality and learn to move forward in a positive way.
Except the part that the grain of sand is just hidden deep inside and not gone :(
@@thefooshislooseof course that’s true, but that grain of sand will never be seen again. And the pearl that develops to hide it is beautiful and strong.
"You deserve the world but i don't know how to give it to you" is a very sweet thing to say to someone.
Yea that is perfectly fine to say. You’re not a victim because someone doesn’t want to be involved with you as much as you want to with them.
@@oe542 I thought of it in the context of a poor family talking to their child. Still very sweet intentions, but its definitely heartbreaking to think about if we're talking about someone who genuinely wants to provide but literally cannot.
When I told my dad I was going to go to law school, he suggested I instead go into teaching because I didn’t have what it takes to be a good lawyer. I ended up graduating from Harvard Law and now have a successful practice in NYC.
Success is the best revenge. I hope your dad enjoyed his humble pie.
That's so AMAZING!!! Congratulations 👏🏻👏🏻
"It was reverse psychology, I MADE YOU."
-your dad, probably
Teaching sucks lol take it from me
Congrats!!! So proud of you whoever you are I'm happy you worked so hard. A little joke here you can now channel your inner Elle Woods. Jk Jk. Wishing you the best, dude. You deserve to.
"Your brother committed suicide" My dad called to let me know back in March of 22. Still the most soul wrenching moment of my life.
My condolences bro thats really sad
i hope your doing well man this made me scared
im sorry man. we really dont know how much we love our siblings do we 😔wishing you well
god bless u man. its hard but i feel you. i dont understand you, but i feel you
I'm so sorry that happened. My deepest condolences to you and your family
honestly this camera angle always reveals to me how beautiful every single person is, you hear their story and maybe feel sorry for them while looking in their face and seeing little imperfections that makes them human too. Everyone is trying their hardest to get through life and I LOVE how good that is displayed on this channel it is amazing!
Yess?! I fall for each of them, they're so pretty .. i guess it's the intimacy of the video that makes us feel all sorta things
@@Amanda.656 intimacy is like a love spell
yess, it makes me think "people are beautiful, maybe I'm beautiful too"
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Yes I also believe the camera is so close because it allows us to feel a more personal connection with the person speaking
Someone once asked me and a friend go smile, and then told me I had a creepy smile. I just tried to smile genuinely. The world is so mean and I just didn't ask for it. I'll never smile for a stranger again.
I had this similar experience a couple of months ago. Honestly i can't really give any advice, but the best thing you could do is smile only for yourself
Hey, my name is also Caleb and i was told the same thing
It was in class, and the boy sitting avorss from me said "Caleb's smile is so disgusting"
It hurt. But guess what?
The girl in lessons said my smile was pretty and my teeth were perfect.
My dad loves to see me smile
My nephews and cousins love when i'm happy
Just cause one person doesnt like you doesnt mean everyone wont, in fact the reality is that the person who doesnt like you is the exact same person you shouldnt care about
Imagine if i stopped smiling cause this boy said that to me? I smile every f*cking day
@@dappapandayou’re such a sweet person ❤
I lost our 1st baby, a daughter, at 27 weeks, she was stillborn. After her funeral my grandmother told me, “This was Gods way of telling you you weren’t ready to be a mother yet.” Those words broke me to my soul. We would go on to have a healthy baby boy who is now 15.
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No, we assume that if something happens it is God's will that it happens. That's NOT true. What your friend told you is probably not true.
2 Peter 3:9
The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, *not willing that any should perish,* but that all should come to repentance.
Question: Do people perish?
Answer: YES, they do!
Therefore: Not everything that happens is God's will...
Things are not so black and white, and this is precisely why we should be careful with the sayings we say: "If it is God's will, it'll happen", "God will only help those who help themselves", "Miracles ended with the apostles", etc.
When we pray and don't receive an answer to our prayers, the typical response from us Christians is that "God may simply be saying No". That CAN be true, because indeed, sometimes the answer is no. HOWEVER, there are times in the Bible where the answer was no, and the faith of person asking God changed his mind, like the Samaritan woman who had a possessed daughter whom Jesus said no to because he was only sent to the tribes of Israel. Her faith changed Jesus' mind. How about the woman with the issue of blood? SHE DIDNT EVEN ASK! SHE >>> TOOK
Oh sweet girl. What she told you isn’t true at all. The older generations were very rough and tough. They had the same things told to them so they honestly didn’t know better. I’m sure she thought she was comforting you in some twisted way. I’m so sorry. Her words were so wrong and most definitely not the truth. Your sweet baby will greet you in Heaven one day and you WILL hold that child, alive and well.
❤️ I understand. I had several losses, nearly died when my tube ruptured from my second tubal pregnancy. And at some point,my brother looked at me with his entire soul meaning well and said "It's ok Trish. God has other plans for you. God doesn't give everyone babies."
I was 6 weeks pregnant at that time. In secret.... My son is almost 11 years old now.
I'll never forget how much his statement hurt. ❤️
She was wrong. God's will, indeed, is that we come through struggles and sufferings and end up being stronger. Jesus' way to Golgoth shows us how we should be humble and carry our own crosses till the end to get a reward in Heaven. It is how it is. I'm happy for your family, for your son. Blessings;)
"Hurting someone’s feelings is as easy as throwing a rock in the ocean, but do you know how deep that rock goes?"
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It goes as deep as the ocean allows it
@@goober3097 lmao no it doesnt. the rock sinks. doesnt matter where it ends up after, it sinks.
@@vismattress5760 What's the difference?
The difference is that no matter what, hurting someone’s feelings is a bigger deal than all of y’all are making it out to be. The rock will sink, it might not always affect the oceans current but it does make the water ripple.
This just shows we all share similar experiences but we just never talk about our troubles because we want to protect ourselves
Oh yes you never know who would start being disrespectful, or walk all over you or target your weaknesses to get ahead.
That’s why people don’t talk about being depressed
absolutely!
Not totally true. If you're white you have no idea what direct or indirect racism is like. If you're a passing cis man you have no idea what intense sexism is like. There's no "similar" experience.
@@jellojiggler1693 I think the "similar" experience is the deep pain that a lot of people feel in a whole lot of different contexts. Most people get hurt in their own right. Let's not be dense and understand that issues of discrimination are most likely not what the original comment was referring to.
My highschool home economics teacher pulling me to the side one day just to say "I give up on you". That hurt so bad that day because I was trying my best.
Hope things are better now
My mum told me on one of her last days of battling cancer “I’m scared to fall asleep because I know I’m going to die.”
I tried to hold it together but later cried so hard I puked.
Sorry for your loss. I understand your pain, that kind of thing is really hard to handle and to hear. Eventually, we'll all be there. When you are young you think that someone said to you something really mean and serious, until the days where you begin to deal with the real shit like that. Wherever your mother is, i hope she is at peace now.
im so sorry, i lost someone too from cancer recently. ur not alone in this
i’m so sorry. i lost my grandma due to cancer and i was so upset. now i know that she’s safe in heaven with my grandfather. stay strong and never give up your fight of being strong and living a good life! 💕
Yo that sucks, hope you're feelin better
I'm so sorry for your loss that is absolutely terrible. I cannot fathom the pain you must feel
"I miss when you used to be so little and sweet, you've turned nasty & cold."
I was told this after finally escaping my childhood home of abuse, regularly going to therapy, and learning to set boundaries. As a child and for most of my teenage years, I was a total pushover; extremely well behaved and nice to absolutely everyone. This comment to me felt like her saying, "I miss when we could manipulate and walk all over you". I still feel guilty for standing up for myself today, because I feel like people liked me better when it was all a facade
Don't forget that today you are SAFE and stronger. by fixing limits you allow yourself to live with more self-esteem and protecting yourself from unger is the only way to meet people who deserve to be in your life. Its okay to feel guilty sometimes but you must be sure that if people don't understand that, it just means that they are not ready to have the chance to have you in their lifes. And if they dont see that you deserve happiness and serenity, they must keep their opinion for themselves. Sorry for my Bad english...
this^^^
I just wanted to share with you, I always tried to be kind and do whatever people asked me, but I think it just wasn't my personality type, because I grew up with my mom always saying how nasty I was, how unpleasant, spoiled and unsympathetic. She used to say that to me as a child and I kept trying to change my personality, be kind and all that, but sometimes don't matter what we do, if you set boundaries this type of people will think that way...
literally my mom tells me the EXACT same thing, and it always feels like she's telling me "i loved you more back then" cause she constantly tells me how she hates spending time with me and how rude i am to her which is totally not true
I 100% agree, my family thinks I'm this cold heartless person but it's only just to them because I stood up for myself and learned so much from escaping family abuse and it's made me a stronger more loving person towards people who genuinely deserve my kindness
My stepdad told me I was worthless and would never amount to anything.
I’m 54 and I still remember that.
I tell my kids the things that he and my mother said to me and asked if they could imagine my wife or I saying something like that to them.
They both said no.
I am a better father than he ever was.
I'm proud of you!
When i was 11 my step-"dad" told me he wished me a bitter life. he also dragged me across the floor, forced me outside, and refused me a bathroom for 6 hours while i was outside. in the texas heat. i was scared to eat the pbj he made for me because i thought he put something in it to kill me and didn't drink the water because of that reason. that was on a school day, too. so the teachers were asking me why i wasn't there, and i couldn't tell them. and then he tells me he loves me.
My step mother said the same stuff to me. While I'll never get an apology from her for the ways in which she physically abused and mentally berated me, it's cathartic to hear from people that have gone through similar hardships.
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and you should continue to be a better father.
My mom was leaving my dad for the zillionth time. She took my sisters into the pick-up truck and told me to get in the back because we were leaving. The whole time she was driving away, I begged her to stop and let me out so I could go back home.
She stopped the truck only a little ways down the road, turned around and said, "Go, then! Abandon your mama again!"
I jumped out of the back of the truck and ran crying back to my dad. Something broke in me that day and I've never looked at my mom the same way since.
It's so sad to see how brainwashed the first guy is. His mom completely destroyed his dreams to the point where he truly believes that he is lazy and can't accomplish his goals. If he had the support from his mom that he needed, I guarantee you his entire life would be different.
I’m sure that’s not what stopped him, it’s probably just a dream
@@memenazi7078 You must have perfect parents. you can see in the man's eyes he believes the words his mother told him. I mean most men get riduculed for disrespecting their mother or not listening to the "mother knows best" bullcrap
If her mom had a supporter who supports music 😭😭😭
@@OmniArcher shouldn't have listened I guess
I find it interesting that no one in this comment thread caught on to the fact that he wasn't white, and her comment had to do with how non-white people, especially Latinos, simply aren't allowed to accomplish more because casual racism is a hell of a drug.
I was caring for my grandma who had Alzheimer's and had quit my job to do so. On a day she didn't recognize me she told me about her grandchildren and how successful they all were. Then she said "except my oldest(me). She will never amount to anything.". I was 46 at the time and enrolled in college the next day. I graduate in May and although I'm proud of myself, I was proud of myself before too. I just hate I let it effect me so deeply.
I'm sorry. I love you and sm very proud of your progress and of just you in general. Keep smiling and bleeding the world with your beauty. 😌❤
Congratulations on graduating!! 🌺🦋🌟🌸🌷
I had a grandmother like that. She was a miserable person. Very insecure. She ended up getting a degree in her 80's simply because her siblings both had degrees. lol. She tried to offload her insecurity onto everyone she knew by making snide comments. Pathetic. Just know that what your grandmother said was all about HER weakness as a person, not yours.
I cant imagine how much that must have stung, Alzheimer's is such a rough process. You really are amazing for stepping up for your grandmother. Congratulations on your upcoming graduation!
You turned her mean comments into fuel to accomplish a degree. Hold onto that and let the pain go.
"it's a pearl now, not a grain of sand" Is such a beautiful quote
It's crazy that i haven't heard that before, but i suppose the best quotes don't always come from writers or movie directors, but everyday people who have thought about their lives for a long time.
Isn’t that a quote from shark tales????💀
@@argmarc it literally came from a movie💀
@@Zip_zow Hahahahaha, oh man well that's ridiculous, the one time i try to make a sort of profound and wise comment, and it's from fukin' shark tales... 💀Good movie tho!
@@argmarcthis is mf hilarious 😭
The talk when my Mom and Dad sat me down to tell me I had Cancer. It’s the only conversation from my childhood I can vividly remember and it’s left me with a lot of dread when it comes to my daily life. Fearful that if I don’t schedule the right appointment in time as I develop more as an adult, I could die because I was too late to find another growth, I don’t think children should ever need to fully comprehend their own death at such a young age.
Sending you lots and lots of love 🤍
I was 5 years old when I finally understood death is inevitable .. sure, I cried for two minutes then slowly began to accept it and be okay with it
“We were never really that close” said to me by someone I considered a very close trusted friend who I had spent almost every single day with for a year and was vulnerable with . Instantly started crying in front of them when they said that cause it felt like the deepest betrayal
Well. That person is awful. I hope you are okay.
You did not deserve that, I hope you're doing okay. They obviously couldn't see how valuable you are
I hope you're doing well right now. Hearing your story reminds me someone that I know so well and we love to hang out as a friend, doing silly stuff and have fun together for 5 years and one time she said to me that I was nothing for her and started to cut me off. She said that she is in a crippling depression and she kinda shut down and blocked everyone from her life. I'm trying to get in touch with her again just want to make sure that she was okay and she said it in front of my face. That I was nothing for her....I don't know if she meant it or not but it was heart shattering moment for me.
I mean 5 years of ups and downs in our life mean nothing to hear makes me question my existence, do I really matter as a person? To my family, friends or even myself? It started my insecurities every time I want to achieve my dream or starting a relationship. I kept asking to myself is it gonna be matter or not.
then.. you never really felt close.
@@bishhsasspusi2904 i didnt need an elaboration, thank you. what i said is what i said. period.
also, your analogy was shitty and confusing as hell. close friends dont randomly punch each other, leave, and come back the next day all of a sudden.
I've been told a number of painful things, but as someone who was bullied daily in school, the one thing that hurt the most was when a kid in my class stood up and polled the room by asking who was _actually_ my friend.
Luckily, it was followed up by two words that saved my life. A girl stood up and said, "I am." And that squashed it.
This girl ❤
An ally ❤
This girl deserves EVERYTHING, fr.
i vaguely remember this happening to someone in my middle school social studies class (quite possibly 6th grade). i remember wanting to say “i am” but don’t remember if i actually said anything.
people picked on me because i would talk to him about anime and we would have actual conversations about things that made us happy.
As my younger brother so succinctly said, "Kids are the meanest people in the world."
*”Can you just develop an eating disorder?”*
When I was smaller, I was a bit chubbier than other kids. My mother always told me, since little legs, I should *start losing weight.* Everytime I ate something sweet or just a normal, healthy meal. I felt as it was..wrong
In school, I was compared to a cow. In athletics, I was a bit slow. When I asked for a water break, my teacher went like- “Such a cow. Okay, go on!”
When I ate lunch and my father and siblings went upstairs or to work, my mother told me -“You know, an eating disorder wouldn’t be bad for you.” At the time, I didn’t know what was an eating disorder was (I was a 1st grader.) I thought it was a type of diet. My grandma (No, my grandma wasn’t those type that went like “Your skin and bones, eat!” One plate and thats enough she always says) was worried for my health a bit considering I didn’t eat much.
I started eating more and then, again, the *start losing weight* sentence came back. When I was nine, I stopped eating. I would just puke the food out, I had a *fear* of gaining weight.
My mother took me to the doctors, they told me I was bulimic and anorexic. My mother was so happy that she said this on the way home *-Im finally gonna have a perfect skinny daughter.*
I'm really sorry you didn't deserve that
That is absolutely so fucked up…. A fucking child especially doesn’t deserve to be treated like that wtf..
That isn't a mother, that's an old hag whom you happened to pop out of. I am so so so sorry that you had to go through that.
As someone who was called “disgustingly obese” (when I wasn’t) by a doctor at the age of 4 which caused me to have self esteem issues since then, I’m very sorry that happened to you it’s so horrible that your own mother caused that. Woman have thyroid issues in my family that makes it extremely hard to lose weight. It didn’t matter how much I worked out, if I ate healthy, if I ate 1 meal a day I always gained weight. The only time I lost any weight was when I wasn’t able to eat due to a medical issue, I was pretty much starving myself unintentionally but I never noticed how long it had been since I last ate an actual meal because I had a lack of appetite as a side of effect to my medical problems. After I got my appetite back I quickly gained all the weight back and even more. I’ve been pretty miserable since then. I’m sad to say it but in a desperation to drop some pounds because I know the regular way doesn’t work on me I didn’t eat for 4 days which caused me to drop 5 pounds. My mom noticed quickly though and made my favorite soup knowing I’d eat it, it was also her birthday so we went to a restaurant. I gained back the few pounds I lost.
Some parents just don’t deserve to be parents
I just want to hug every single person in this video. And have a good cry with them.
Same.
"Talking to you is like... the light is on, but no one is home." I've battled with depression and i never really thought that other people could see... how empty I am.
That's awful, I hope you are feeling better now
i can definitely relate, i wear dark ass sunglasses whenever i can, because without them, people say i look dead, hateful, empty, ugly, sad, you get the idea. i wish people would simply see past my eyes, i’m extremely self conscious of how my eyes look
@@BlackFlame987 Why do they look like that?
Lmao that just means you have attention issues or take a while to come up with sentences, i mean no disrespect, different things hurt different people i just find it funny that that word has a completely different meaning to me and prob wouldn't do much to me since I know i have attention issues nor am I good at conversing
@@AniolPB just born like that, my eyes have a narrow and aggressive shape plus i have pretty bad eye bags because i have trouble sleeping. the glasses are also for light sensitivity
I am autistic, and at one point I went to a restaurant with my grandfather's wife (no biological relation to me, incidentally) and it was very loud and crowded and generally overwhelming, which caused me to start having a meltdown. I covered my ears and started trying to get to the restroom so I could catch my breath, and she told me that I was making a scene. I've had to un-learn that kind of messaging, and teach myself that I'm not being burdensome for occasionally needing a break when everything is just too much.
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My brother is autistic and whenever we r in public places and he throws a tantrum, I’d make sure to inform ppl “he has autism” thank you everyone no more staring needed lol.
I'm autistic too, I also have meltdowns due to sensory processing problems regularly. And despite my parents knowing that certain noises physically hurt me, they make them anyway then get angry and start mocking me when I ask them to stop :( sad to think this is a common experience
I'm autistic as well, one of the worst things said to me was by my mum : "Kids like you get locked up", because I was stimming. In her defense, she didn't (and still don't) know I was autistic
I really hope people start accepting us autistic people in the future like they did with physically disabled people. I’m getting tired. Mentally mostly, but physically as well now. It’s taking it’s toll on me.
I feel like people usually see us as straight up stupid or they (rarely but still) expect us to be a savant (really smart like they show in media)
With all that being said.. I feel as if they really shouldn’t have categorized us all under “Autism Spectrum Disorder”
It’s not specific at all.
When I came out, I was completely disowned by my entire family. It's been 10 years since they've spoken to me. The most painful thing I've ever been told? Not being worth enough for words at all.
I'm so sorry that happened to you. I hope you've found a chosen family by now who love and support you and that you find ways to be happy anyway with your life. It's their loss really but I get how much it must hurt.
So sorry this happened to you, honestly, not everyone deserves to be family and it seems, your blood relatives don't deserve you at all.
You are worthy of words and of love as proven by the people that have answered you. I hope one day you come to a place or already have where you have people around you that see you for the treasure you are. We don't choose our blood relatives, but our real family is the one we keep around.
You ARE worth it!
Well you're family don't see what a beautiful person you are my advice is if they can't accept you for you you don't need them
the way these are filmed so intimately and close is like your entering their perspective their world in a way and feels so sensual and connecting and immersive rlly touches your soul and makes you think
The most painful thing I've been told was "your son no longer has a heartbeat" my wife was 32 weeks pregnant at the time. His name was Emmett. About 10 months after that we were blessed with healthy twins. The loss of Emmett still hurts to this day so badly.
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I'm so sorry for the loss of your son 😢. I lost my twins 23 years ago. I now have a 12 yr old daughter but I will never stop missing my twin babies. I take comfort in knowing they are waiting for me in Heaven. Just as your Emmet is. God bless you and your family.
Im really sorry ronald
The same thing actually happened to me back in my mid 20's, 24 to be exact. I'm so sorry for your loss by the way! Trust me, I know the God awful feeling. I had an almost two year old son at the time (who's now 18). I had no inclination that anything was wrong or abnormal with my pregnancy or unborn baby...in fact, I just had a good looking ultrasound not long before. Then after a more recent ultrasound, I got the worst phone call of my life, I couldn't believe the doc's words & that he had the audacity to tell me over the phone! I was so alarmed, freaked out & utterly shocked that I literally threw the landline phone to the ground & ran into the bathroom, where I dropped to my knees screaming & crying that this couldn't possibly be true. One minute I was outside on a beautiful day refinishing a kitchen table, next minute I receive a phone call that made my entire world fall apart. I didn't understand, I was healthy, my son was healthy, why would this happen??? Thankfully with time, I have been able to heal somewhat, but I will forever feel an empty space, a void if you will, in my heart for the child I unexpectedly lost back in Summer of 2006! I'm blessed now with 4 amazing children, but they still could never compare or replace the one I lost. I named the child I lost Abiah, which means child of God in Hebrew.💗
My love and I are planning to have children one day, and this is one of my biggest fears. I can't even begin to imagine how heartbreaking this is, or how much it can destroy you. And I hope I never find out.
I hope you both heal well. And thank God for the twins :)
What a great quote "It must be harder to be her, then to be around her" I think this can be applied for many people (not all) that hurt us, let's let compassion lead the way 💕
I disagree. That just creates a negative energy around that person. People will then want to stay away from that person, because it's hard to be around them without feeling drained. Having compassion and empathy is important but not to the point of sacrificing your own happiness.
I hate to be that one person but....
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@@OpenDoor19 I don't think you should sacrifice your own happiness at all. What I have takem for myself from the quote, is that it can be applied for those people we 'have to' have in our lives, i.e. a bad coworker, a mom you have to live with because you are to young to move... looking at their saddening behaviour from the side of conpassion can in my opinion even release you from part if the hurt they are causing you, because you develop greater control over your emotions by understanding why someone may be a certain way. Do I make sense?
@@natalia3083 You do. I just find it hard to find compassion for those people we have in life who are supposed to love us, hurt us.
@@OpenDoor19 I have been thinking about this quite a bit today after listening to a minimalism book. So much modern literature talks about separating from any negativity, to a large degree I can see the wisdom in that. The book I finished though ended beautifully by saying people are not like things that we just throw out or discard when they don't serve us well, they take a lot of love, nurture, and patience. I know for me love your enemies and do good to them which despitefully use you has been hard but also a blessing and has made things much better in the long run emotionally for me with relationships I wanted to cut off so many times.
I was raped by a church elder and when I finally got the guts to say something to another church leader he said he knew I was promiscuous (I was 15) and probably consented. The assaults continued for 18 months when he left the church. I always thought I wasn't worth rescuing, dated bums who were abusive, until I met my husband when I was 22 and he made everything better, step by step.
Hey there, sorry that u went through something like that, can't imagine how painful it must be to be blamed when u were just a child and the victim... Glad to know that u are with someone who has made things better for u. Sending u lot of blessings and healing 🖤🌌🌊🌻
I’m so sorry love, you couldn’t have even consented at that time and it was not your fault !! I’m glad your husband stepped in and helped, I hope you’re doing better 💗💗
I am really sorry. I feel you and I believe you.
So glad you found someone who makes you feel loved and appreciated! Keep healing and shinning babe!
I’m so sorry that you went through that and just know that it wasn’t your fault whatsoever. sending you so much love your way 💞
honestly a lot of people have said some really painful things to me, but I think the worst one was when my dad (whom I didn't and still don't have a good relationship with) told me something along the lines of "You'll be living on the streets for the rest of your life". He has said this multiple times, and I can not wait till I turn 18 so I can leave and never look back.
Believe in yourself. You can make it.
When my infant daughter died from SIDS, I had my father on the phone, begging for support. It escalated to a fight where he judged me for how I coped with my grief. When I defended myself saying "Dad, my daughter died", he said "And sometimes I envy you for that." Still can't believe he said that.
I'm so sorry for your loss and I hope you have loved ones near who love you. I can't truly imagine your pain x
no way thats so evil. hope things r better
Wow, that's honestly a very sick thing you can say
Omg.... I'm so sorry. He should've never said that. That's some evil shiz right there
i would never EVER forgive my dad if he said that im so sorry and i hope ur baby goes to heaven
"Goodbye, shipmate."
My grandfather had Alzheimer's at the end of his life. I never got the chance to visit him often because I was busy with work. But he kept a picture of me by his bed. The picture that was taken of me after my commission. As some background, my grandfather served in the Navy at the tail end of wwii. Growing up he always taught me to never say goodbye unless I never intend on seeing the other person again. He always said 'see you later'. Well, my fiancée and I were able to visit him in the senior home. He recognized me as 'the officer in the picture'. He was so excited to talk to me about how much the Navy has changed. When we finally had to leave, he said those words to me and it shot chills up my spine. That was the last time I saw my grandfather.
As someone who loves my grandfather more than my life, this was beyond painful to read ...... May that beautiful soul rest in peace
dudeee i got chills up my spine just by reading that holy shit
Damn I felt that
Those first words you put in quotes... that sent shivers up and down my spine...
My grandfather was integral to me.
I'm so like him.
He was a giver.
Blessed to have known him.💯❤️🌹
That first one is terrifying. The impact a parent has on a child... he's a middle aged man who still believes the words that came out of her mouth. It's extremely sad to see that he still holds her disgusting words close to him.
not really, nothing wrong to be normal, if your dreams are destroyed by words and not failures then he didn't want it that bad, he was just a kid that said like everybody else something crazy to get a reaction.
@@r3tardsheep420 His dreams weren't destroyed by just that. He obviously meant it was hurtful.
Our dreams are destroyed by whatever the f**k our realities demand us to sacrifice. Some people need to sacrifice more than others.
"Not having anything to lose" is often the one common thing, amidst the success stories told by people of different kinds and places.
Cuz it's when one has too much sh*t to lose, it gets tougher to prioritize the dreams.
Betrayal only comes from the ones we trust. A thousand strangers could've told him bs and he wouldn't be as affected.
Video shows him saying the one same thing to everyone who played it.
But, people always hear what they want to hear.
no, the mother was correct Hollywood is shit and the chance of you succeeding is low very low
being realistic of reality is needed living in your dreams dont help you that one of the biggest reasons why society is collapsing and failing because majority of humanity living in dream world@@WoozyCool
@@r3tardsheep420 uhm, i think that words can really change your dreams in the wrong mindset, if you think like the man "We just don't get there" and you have an ambience where everyone discourage your effort, well...its oubvious that you are gonna abandon those dreams and ambitions. Not everyone is teached by things like growth mindset, grit or a value driven life, some pepole just make their kids think that they are what they are now and thats it, and they never praise them if they dont have instant winning in their dreams
At 1:55 that woman was so heartbreaking and also lovely she broke my heart.
“I’m worried I’m missing out on something because I’m with you”
I still think about that one
Whoever said that to you is a selfish piece of sht like actually
Oh man how I cried when my ex said something similar. it’s partially the reason why I stay single and focus on my art
@@Iscreamaboutleechesyou deserve love. no one can tell you that you do or don't.
I've heard very similar verbiage. Not a great feeling.
@@Iscreamaboutleeches Same. People closest to your heart always hurt you the most. The pain they cause is everlasting and they couldn't care less.
The day my mother died she told me "I wish you were never born. You were a mistake. I hate you" Seventeen years later and those words still haunt me.
This is why ppl need to stop pushing women to having kids
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@@Fatima-kp8hi THAT'S what you took from this? Okay.
You may have been a mistake in her eyes, but she's objectively a failure as a parent. You mean the world to someone , and she'll never get to see that love.
So sorry you had such a human as mother. You are worth so much!
“You don’t have what it takes to become a doctor”
This came from my dad (a doctor himself)… and now I’m in my second year of my medical residency. You can be whoever you want to be. Don’t let them get to you.
So proud of u 💛
I was told I would never get a woman due to my micro penus, well I hit the books became an accountant and now have an 18 year old French model she only does @nal so my size doesn't bother her
True love = the love of God!
*God himself went to the cross for you out of love for you as a human being*
Philippians 2:5-8
My dad said the same to me but I do it anyway, so far he’s been the only one saying this
Proud of you , keep your head high up honey ❤
2:04 - this one struck deep.
the last time i spoke with my dad after giving him so many chances, he told me to unalive myself.
it’s been about two years, and now he’s greatly sick, probably about to pass, and i haven’t said a word to him but have received nothing but horrible messages every few months.
i appreciate the perspective. it really must be harder living in his reality.
"You're making a mistake Ryana, and when you realize that, I'll be waiting."
The last words my dad ever spoke to me, a 13 year old at the time, as he was getting taken out of the courtroom after being found guilty and receiving 40+ years in prison for incest, sexual assault, stalking, and the list goes on. His comment may not be as explicit as what others have experienced, but it still cuts deep knowing that he's so sick in the head, that he doesn't even acknowledge or care about how much he has broken his own daughter.
You are not broken. Just in need of repairs. And one day, you will be whole again and he the one broken. Stay strong and stay safe ❤️
@@ghoultooth thank you so much for this 💗
I am also a victim of incest, my family defended the pedophile until the day he died. This wired loyal sexual family makes me feel sick of being a part of in any way. I know exactly how you feel, the fact he had the guts to even speak to you in that way makes me sick for you. I hope you know we are not broken, we are stronger than most people. Sexual assault and molestation is terrible, but when it's from your own family it's a different level of abuse.
Princess, I am soooo sorry for that, you didn't deserve it, you didn't do anything to cause it, I hope you remember that every single day while you heal, I wanted to thank you for waking up every morning and give the best of you to everyone that's around you. Thank you for bringing so much light into this world, your unique, please never give up. Your asome and so sweet 🥺 we all want to see you happy
My dad said the same comment recently in an email (I left him 4-5 yrs. Ago but he still sends mean and gaslighting emails(I blocked his texts so he emails) multiple times a month.
Basically just a classic gaslighting comment to make you feel guilty
"You know, I never really loved you."
My Mom, on the phone with me, stating this out of the blue like it meant nothing. I cried a lot after that phone call. After so many years of manipulation, I'm glad to say I've cut all ties with her.
I could never imagine. Please take care of yourself and find those who will love all of who you are. You have purpose🤍
That must have hurt really bad. Glad you cut her off, you deserve to be loved.
I don't think I ever really loved my mom, to be honest. Yeah, she made up for my physical needs but that doesn't amount to the years of abuse I suffered. She's one of the biggest reasons why I have borderline personality disorder🙃
Lucky, mine falsified charges on me and tried to take my dog after I went back after 6 years, rescued her from an unfrunished basement(mother), paid for a lakehouse for her to stay in etc. Cops didn't even record the medication bottles that her new puppy ate. She's on Xanax, Klonopin, Oxycodone, Methadone, Perc, Prozac and others. Still on the run, court system would never believe it since the cops left her new puppy eating the medication bottles out. She grabbed me by my hair, pulled me partly on the couch and said "I could hurt you so bad" and tied to bicycle kick me in the dick. Can't believe the Sheriff deputy left the medication bottles out. I saved up over 100k to help my mother with her 3 horses, 2 dogs, 2 cats etc (She couldn't afford to pay for them off $1100 social security a month so I paid over 20k for them in the course of a year.. When I told her I was done and leaving she did that. No hope in fighting the charges without the medication bottles being taken for evidence. Can't believe the cop left it out. When he randomly showed up like 7 hourds later (she called) he was forcing his way in with his hand on his gun. He said I let him in in the report.
i am so sorry that happened to you
"I'm sorry but I am not quite sure I know who you are."
My wife a month before she passed away from Bone marrow cancer. She had just had a tumor removed from her cerebral cortex and suffered memory loss. She knew I was a warm person, and she felt genuine care from me but did not ultimately know who I was.
Those words were the first she said to me when she came out of her medically induced coma after the surgery. Low chance of survival.
I miss you Jules
I’m so sorry :( she’s definitely watching over you
I’m so sorry that happened, I’m sure she is watching over you ,she’s not suffering anymore she’s at peace
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hi. so…wow. your story made me think a lot, and even if you’re a completely stranger i want to give you a big hug because you deserve it . i hope you’re ok now, and i know it’s hard (i lost my dad three years ago and now i have to carry the weight of pain in my teenage years) but i know you can do it. stay safe. bye :))
@@fabrispot I’m so sorry for ur loss. sending much love
Yeah the abuse I experienced with my ex boyfriend was always something he struggled to acknowledge. He was in flat out denial . With his mother, he recognized that he treated me badly. But with me, it was like "you take one domestic violence course and you think you can label our relationship as abusive ? That's not what this is. . And if you think it is, just leave. " needless to say, I tried leaving many times. He passed in 2021. But part of me is so relieved. It's only recently I've had all these episodes of red flag abusive moments come back to me in memories. As painful as it is to go through my past and realize that yeah, he was a messed up human being. I also dealt with him tell me I wasn't conventionally beautiful according to society's standards. I am discovering myself again and will never let anyone hurt me like he did ever again
bro... we are so used to see "perfection" in social media, with plastic surgery, filters, angles and stuff that we dont stop to see the variety and beautyfullness of human natural face... I mean, I love the close ups, you can see all the beautiful details in their faces, wrinckled eyes, freckles, big and small teeth... big and small eyes, human expression.. just that.
forget about everything you can 'fake' in social media. There IS people who are insanely beautiful, the thing is they are the ones who post more photos, have more followers and are more probable to be shown in your phone. The average isn't that. They are the 5% in real life, but seem to be shown 100% of the time in social media
it makes them prettier in my eyes
it makes me less insecure to know I'm normal like everyone else.
Most reasonably intelligent people don't care for all of that. Could social media users please grow up?
What a beautiful thing to say ❤ have a good night friend 😊
"If you died, maybe the world would be a little better."
My sister said this to me. I tried brushing it off the day I heard it, but a while after whenever I thought about it, I cried or even got so mad I did some bad things. At some point, I started thinking that she was right. Now we're on good terms, but that sentence still hits hard sometimes.
I'm so sorry that happened. Siblings can be hard to deal with, especially if they're girls. I've gone through the same thing. (I'm the oldest sibling of another sibling.)
I hope you stay strong because people need you, and I'm here too. I hope your sister realizes you can be the best sibling in the world.
Same here something rude my older brother said to he but we are on good terms
Sameish
@@jennabouchard3839you and me are the same omg!
My brother said something like that to me and now, he doesn't even remember it
“It’s a pearl now, not a grain of sand.” What a great way of putting it, taking something that really did hurt you and turning into something positive.
I was told so many times by my parents when I was growing up how much of a burden I was because of my emotional imbalance due to their abuse and neglect. It made it incredibly hard to not view myself as worthless. I still struggle to view myself positively to this day
the most painful thing someone has told me was "I'm sorry for embarrassing you". my mom told me that in the store when we were walking together, she has a disability with her back where her disc slipped out and she can't walk completely normal and she's in pain every day. she apologized for not being able to be a normal mom. that shattered my heart.
this one got me, everyone's complaining about someone saying normal rude comments when honestly worst things will come to them
But this, this is truly sad because it wasn't your feelings that was hurt, it was your heart
You seem like a wonderful person, what did you tell your mom afterwards?
@@marshymoo5765 i told my mom something along the lines of: "it isn't your fault, you're a great mom and i will never be embarrassed of you because of this!! you can't control it and i will always love you" thank you so much for this comment though, you seem like a wonderful person too ❤
@@marshymoo5765 i’m sorry but wdym by “complaining” and “normal rude comments”
@@ihatecheese7508 Thank you! Your mom is very lucky to have you 😭♥️
@@sneakytori I saw some people complain about being called annoying or stupid, which is something everyone in their life gets called at some point. Maybe if it's from their parents then that's different (idk I'm Hispanic my mom calls me a lot of mean things as nicknames😭🤞) but I don't understand how that can be the most painful thing said.
"You are not good enough"
It comes in many forms.
It doesn't matter how they word it. It always means the same thing, and it always hurts like hell
We end up telling ourselves that often over time, like water on rock we fail to notice the groves it digs into us.
Technically still leaves room to be too good.
This quote from Harry Potter is always on my mind, a quote by Dumbledore “Words are, in my not-so-humble opinion, our most inexhaustible source of magic. Capable of both inflicting injury, and remedying it.”
I re-watched this last week and that quote hit me so much harder than ever. After doing a lot of work on myself the last couple of years and thinking of all the things people have said to me that hurt (intentional and not), it really sunk in.
@@emilbia same and a lot of the things I've said to people over the years. Life is about changing and becoming better, how terrible it would be if you stayed rotten.
That's also a bible verse haha Proverbs 15:4 “Gentle words bring life and health; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.”
@@32JEAN34 Whether religion is real or not. Literally almost every verse speaks FACTS. And despite the harm it did in the past I'm sure it helps millions of more lives.
@@hinamatsuro1908 You're right. If people would just read the whole book for themselves instead of judging everything from what they hear about it (yes even from pastors) then things could be so much better haha Even if you don't believe in Jesus - there's such great wisdom written in there from so many different people. ALso really great to learn things about the jewish culture and their history.
"You only ever apologize to make yourself feel better."
My ex said this to me. It was the longest relationship I have ever had. It has made me question everything I have ever done.
It's a simple one, but being called ugly is one of the worst feelings ever. You can't do anything about it, but people don't seem to understand that for some reason.
It's true... I just had an experience today... I can't get over that eventhough I rarely care of what people say about me...
One of my friends came up to me today and told me this. So there's a boy in my grade who likes me from about 2 years now. And I never gave him any hopes. But a week ago or so, my bench partner told our chemistry teacher about this. She just wanted our teacher to help me out of this situation. But the teacher called me and verified if it's true. Then she called the boy and told him: "Why's your choice so bad? I thought you could do better than that." The boy told it to his sister who happens to be my friend. So today she told me and eventhough I've heard it many times, it came from the most unexpected person. She was the teacher I looked upon. I helped her many times because she's from other place and lives alone. She always comes up to me whenever she needs any sorts of thing. So, I thought we had created a little bonding, but guess I was wrong. 😢
just brush your teeth better
@@head-clanka69 what do you mean? 🥺
people understand and that's why they say it. it's just malicious and mean to its core. i'm sorry you had to hear that bullshit. no one's ugly to everyone. 'ugly' is a very situational thing and only the most inhuman person would call someone ugly
@@yashvipatel2514It might have been a joke since you were so close, but then again it's better to talk about it with your teacher if it is bothering you. I've had people joke, and it would hurt me. They would later apologies to release their mistake, and they were sincere.
First guy "I internalized it, I made it come true." I fucking feel that one.
I really hope you achieve your dreams, so sorry to hear this 😭❤️
Before my cousin committed suicide, his last words to me the day before were "When you die, the flies will always be the first to know"
A year later, that still shakes me
What the f*ck is that even means? Thank God Cody another weak mf out of this life... scr*w him, don't think about it
Ok, that's so sad to be disturbing
I mean, i am sorry that this happen to you
That's crazy! You would think that ones experience in being able to live life would consist of something/someone that wouldn't drive them to think this deeply about harming, much less killing themselves. But things like arrogance, ignirance, inconsistency, greed, inconsideration, hatred, vileness and brokeness have a way of finding and destroying whomever it can. Some of what I've heard here is definitely wild. I get that everyone isn't going to fight back or express disdain and certain negatives towards those that harm/try to harm, break and destroy them, but sometimes .....
I’m sorry for your loss, that is an extremely disturbing and tragic thing to hear. Jesus…
Being told i was ugly by my mom and "as beautiful as a truck" by my dad because "trucks are ugly".. no wonder i feel so ugly and disgusting all the time
"Stop drawing attention to yourself. That's how you get into these messes."
When I was sexually assaulted by some boys in school and I finally told my folks a few years later. I'm a guy btw. And the "attention" I drew to myself was because I have ADHD and Autism. Which they hated thinking their son was neurologically divergent.
I'm sorry that happened. I hope you're feeling better now and have happiness
That`s awful. I`m very sorry that happened to you.
I'm sorry that happened to you.
that's so disgusting and insensitive from your parents
I’ve been told that as well , you aren’t alone sir !
A therapist once told me that the trauma that i went through wasn't real trauma. They claimed that real trauma was sex trafficking, sexual abuse, r*pe, or war related trauma, but I've been through severe emotional and physical neglect and abandonment when I was young and on top of all that I was physically abused during early teenage years. To have someone who's meant to help people say that your trauma isn't real is one of the most painful things someone could say.
Sweet Dear Jesus... I'm not sure how a therapist could have that mindset and still be in business. Trauma is relative, and the same event will be experienced by people in different ways. Your trauma is real, and you deserve to have someone caring guide you to resolution... whatever that looks like.
Her license should be absolutely taken away
Same.
this makes me wonder if it's possible to sue a therapist for malpractice
Good greif that made me angry reading some people really just don’t belong as therapists
I led my mom to my room to talk with her about my horrible mental health state at the time and i was also in school and she said to me "nothing you are dealing with could possibly be more important than your schoolwork and education". Like... damn
May I remember you that 90% of mental health problem are caused by a parent or both? Because her phrase Just proves It.
I'm sorry but in no world is anything more important than your mental health. Please if you feel like you need help get it even if you have to fight for it
This is a horrible thing to say to someone. If a person is not doing okay mentally, they will not even have the strength for their life and education to begin with. Mental health is the most important aspect of your life, neglecting it for some studies and education is so stupid. I hope you are doing better now!
As the person above said, nothing is more important than your own mental health, and it's important to give it a lot of attention and care
I told my father I get anxiety attacks when I get stressed and he just can't fathom the idea of a 16-yr-old getting stressed it's crazy
@@Eikorunu I'm quite sure he's forgetting that teenagers have feelings and emotions too, just like adults, and they do have reasons to be stressed
One of the most painful things that I have been told went along the lines of
"You are not sad, you have everything in your life"
I am grateful for everything in my life, but it hurt a lot especially since my family never truly understand my point of view, they always shut me up whenever I try to open up about my mental struggles and I feel like I am talking to a wall
"people who are actually suicidal don't act like you do."
my mother said this to me after i had spoken to my sister about how i had a plan to end my own life. and i was really happy about it, and joking about it and everything, because i was happy i was finally going to get away from all of the abuse i had dealt with. and she wound up saying that to my mother.
she said that to me on the way home from one of my appointments with my psychiatrist. it still hurts when i think about it.
i was 12.
My mom just simply told me that I would go to hell and be judged after I'm dead if I were to kill myself. She's a only a bit of an asshole but she's mostly just a religious nut.
@@Sofiaode18 yikes.. i don't understand how some people can be so cruel to their children
@@Sofiaode18 She cares about you...she didnt want you to die. She wanted you to love God like she does ;-;. People dont see hell as a bad thing sometimes...but as someone touches it and realize how bad it is. They think their kids know how bad it is and agree...but you have no clue. You just think how terrible life is and how much you hate yourself. Shes seen what hell is like...you havent...this life may seem like it...but its not.
Lol she’s right though .
@@LucielStarz123 begone troll, it's very common for suicidal people to be gleeful in the months, weeks, days prior to their attempt because it'll be over soon in their mind, it's a phenomenon therapists have been trying to raise awareness on for years, stop basing your ideas of what people with mental health issues are like off of TV and don't be nasty to strangers
"i always remind myself ,that it must be harder to be her then to be around her." That struck me so hard,she truly thinks out of the box.
thats just such an adult way to handle it. Proud of people who can do that, major respect
Sounds like a cope tbh. You don't want to think someone you love is a bad person.
@@LawrenceTimme No I think she knows. But bad people are usually not happy, thats her take away from her experiences and I can say I experienced the same. People who say hurtful stuff are often very unhappy with themselves and their lifes.
Only it probably isn't true. The mother is most likely a narcissist and narcissists are not human.
I mean, how do you know? @@d3fau1thmph
Once, I was hanging out with my girlfriend, just chatting and laughing and suddenly, she began to cry. I asked what was wrong and she just said “please don’t kill yourself. Promise me you won’t. Please.”
I wish I didn’t make the people I love worry about me so much.
you're lucky to have people that care that much about you. If anything this speaks to her character, keep an eye on her.
I have had this happen to me more times than I can count. I hate being so unstable, and I hate that I feel guilty for my pain.
yo how are you holding up bro?
I wish someone would say that to me
this is gonna make me cry
When I was in hospital for cancer treatment, I had a reaction to one of the therapies that put me in an extreme amount of pain, the kind that makes you lose control of your body, forget how to talk, leave you traumatised and hallucinating for months after (it hasn't been long enough for me to determine if it will leave me). But the most painful part of it all for me, was my father watching it, and seeing his son suffer like I did. And the most painful thing that has ever been told to me in my life is when my father, who has probably the most tragic, traumatic, and painful lives of all the people I know, told me that the worst thing he has ever experienced, out of all the things he's been through, was sitting in that hospital room and watching me writhe and babble and scream and cry, knowing there was nothing he could do.
Wow that is horribly gruesome, painful in many ways... and how horrible that this kind of extreme agony can be a legit reaction to a cancer treatment method. I hope you'll recover completely! Best wishes
@@suzienothing9855 I am much better now, still undergoing treatment but nowhere near as bad.
I was sexually assaulted at the ages of 7-8. I told my parents and they said “Let’s pray about it.” I didn’t notice anything bad about it but now… hurts beyond anything. They didn’t truly care. They didn’t care about its ramifications. Nothing happened after.
Additionally, I had to see the guy who did that to me everyday because he was my next door neighbor in an apartment complex. And we went to the same church. It’s heartbreaking to realize that your own parents didn’t care about it so no one else did. But you know, such is life.
I feel you... It's way more difficult to deal with those traumas when u grow up. It will never heal, the pain is still there
that’s awful I’m so sorry
@@CansuBilal it’s hard to locate help too. I’ve tried a lot but you can’t do much as a minor still. Once I can finally leave this house, I’ll definitely look for aid. It will never fix what happened but I hope it will bring me some ease
@@nix3081 It will help trust me!
I am so sorry that happened to you, you deserved protection from your parents... I hope you're doing good, sending you lots of love 💗
it's crazy how a single phrase can stick with you for decades to come and completely crush you.
“You deserve the world, but I don’t know how to give it to you” sounds really wholesome actually.
It sounds like one of those lame ass wannabe wise lines, someone says to you, when they don't have the balls to straight up tell you they want to break up.
@@heroinmaker8423 Yeah. I wish we knew what the context was. It’s most likely something around those lines unfortunately
Sounds like it was a heartreaking goodbye. I once broke up with a girl because I didn't think I was good enough for her. Never spoke to her again.
Sounds like a hearts cry
I honestly didn't get this one either.. I kind of thought she just said whatever. It more than likely is someone breaking up with her saying so
"I have more intelligence in my pinky finger than you'll ever have in your whole body." - my dad when I was 12. Things have changed since then, but I haven't forgotten.
"It must be harder to be her than to be around her" really brought comfort to my toxic relationship with my mother. Thank you. 🖤
I immediately thought of my mother too
@@isabellewhite3505 Sending you many hugs. 🖤 Maternal trauma is definitely real.
I 🤔 about that too
Um . I would probably not live near them if they're that cruel. Would be the emotionally healthy thing to do. Boundaries. That's tough, I'm realizing some people have mean parents 👀🙏
They give you birth, and then you're meant to spread your wings and fly away, not be stuck under them. At least, that's the healthy way. Be kind to yourself and give yourself some space. You can still honor her by living a positive, honorable life, and loving her from afar and keeping in touch rarely.
I love my folks, and we've definitely worked through things. But even in healthy settings now, I needed my space to push myself and grow. Hope this helps
@@khanhfident . Thx so much from one who has been thru it. I'Nm sorry that you've experienced it too!!!
Not everyone who can become a parent, ........ should become a parent.
"You're not yourself"
When I was trying so hard to find things that made me me again and regain my confidence in my personality
"I can't recognize you anymore!", said my mother one day... and I can't recognize myself anymore neither.
Hope you are feeling like yourself recently.
your pfp is incredible,
i once looked at myself in the mirror and realised how different looked to everyone else , and thought to myself that i dont look real enough to be liked by my peers :(
That’s same as “Bros not him” which my classmates think it’s ok to say
"Stop smiling/laughing, you look ugly like that."
Basically I've been told that so many times, by friends, family, etc. I have gaps between my teeth, and you can see it when I smile. I don't even know if it's ugly or not, I just know that I always try not to smile or laugh with my mouth open, or I always try to have my hand hiding it. Because I don't want people to see that or have to look at my ugly face when I smile.
So yeah, now even in my most happy moments I have to think and control myself about what other people will think of me.
Don't ever say that to anyone, really, it will just make them stop smiling or laughing all together.
You don’t deserve that
Beauty standards is just stupid. In Africa, at least where I’m from a gap is a sign of beauty and guess what, my sister is was always praised by having a gap like the rest of the family and not me.
I'm so sorry to hear that you had to go through that :( I'm sure you've got an amazing smile and it doesn't matter if you have gaps between your teeth or not, you're still an incredibly beautiful person with a wonderful smile and I hope you find people who will understand and love you for who you are. Nothing makes me more happy than seeing someone smile out of pure joy and happiness so its never ever something ugly imo. Everyone has beautiful smile :))
I hope you get to love your smile with time
what the hell? i love tooth gaps. they're so cute and smiles like that are extra heartwarming for me to see.
i hate when people expect others to look completely "perfect". everything that's considered an imperfection to others i absolutely love. tooth gaps, freckles, chubbiness, glasses-you name it. imperfections, to me, are what make someone perfect.
plus, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. if we all lived without imperfections then, not only would any of us lack any sort of unique physical qualities, but we wouldn't even exist in the first place since opinions are going to depend so much on who holds those opinions. i mean, look at billie eilish, for example. so many people think she's pretty and even go as far as to sexualize her (which is disgusting, mind you) but i bet there are quite a few people out there that aren't so fond of the way she looks, because that's just how opinions go.
honestly, try not to even take them seriously. chances are, they were probably taught to be self-critical and to pass judgment around and, considering the fact that you have a feature that wouldn't fit in their criteria, their first thought was to take it out on you. it's really discouraging how sad they seem to be that they need to force others to feel bad in order to feel better.
also, my best friend whom i only know online has a tooth gap, and if i ever meet them in person, the first thing i will be looking for is their smile. not because they have a tooth gap, but because i'm happy when they're happy. the difference is that i don't care about what the structure of their teeth look like and i don't care about anyone else's.
try to work on allowing yourself to smile whenever you find yourself able to. i promise you that there are plenty of people who would find it beautiful.
no 🥺 you and your smile are so cute, never ever stop‼️
Probably the most painful thing I've been told is "you're too busy to love anyone"
"You knew what you were doing." Said my older brother when news broke out that I had been raped 2 years prior at the age of 13 by my middle school best friends 21 year old brother.
I didn't tell anyone for years out of fear that I would be blamed but I broke down one day out of stress from all the insistent familial abuse of me being "difficult" via typical SA aftermaths.
I'm almost 24 now and it cuts me to the core to this day. It would appear I was proven right for not speaking up sooner.
💝
I'm so sorry Christina, that you were betrayed first by your friends and then again by your brother. I cannot even begin to comprehend the pain and distance that created in your life, I only hope you are surrounded by people who understand you and love you and care for you because you don't deserve to go through this world alone. You've put up a great fight for so long and I hope you keep it up, sleep well, stay hydrated and try to keep your head up. Even from random internet strangers like me know we believe you and you matter
I've never seen you, and I will never comprehend what you went through
But it's sickening to know you were treated that way.
☹️ That's so infuriating. I hope you no longer speak to your brother.
I hope you'll heal from all of this 🌺😘
My little brother (who has ADHD and undiagnosed autism) asked me one day “People at my school think I’m weird because I am different. Do you think I’m weird because I’m different?” I held myself together long enough to tell him that just because he’s different doesn’t mean he’s a bad or weird kid. I cried later that night.
Much respect for being there for your little brother when he needed you most. It takes strength to respond with love and reassurance in such a difficult moment. It’s heartbreaking that he even had to ask that question, but the fact that you were there to support him shows how much he means to you. You’re doing an amazing job as a sibling, and your brother is lucky to have someone like you in his life who understands and cares for him so deeply. I also have a little brother, and I wish I were better at being the big brother he deserves. I’m not the man I want to be yet, and I don’t think I’m a good role model for him, sadly.
You have feelings and are a human with good understanding social behavior. It's rare to see that in this sick world. But as the saying goes: In this world there's known humans but few friends. Very inspiring your story
Tell him about the etymology of the word 'weird'; it means 'in touch with the unknown/authentic, one who understands nature/mystery' so they basically are saying he is authentic and they don't know how to feel about it because THEY are not.
@cessactdmKinda like how some people promote ableism and opinions no one asked for on UA-cam.
Weird is only bad if you think of it that way, y'know? Normal is a setting on a washing machine.
My dad would always tell me about how terrible my acne was and would point out the dark circles under my eyes. I had enough of it one day and decided to tell my aunt about it. The next day I was talking to my sister and we were joking about something, and my aunt came to my sister’s defense and told me that I was “ugly and no one wants to look at me anyway.”
I was embarrassed and ashamed. I regret telling her about my situation with my father.
What were you joking about?
a cartoon show. i was joking about how the characters looked
@@ahaha1414 are ur relations with aunt and papa good now?
@@OcnarfPro my aunt moved out recently so we don't talk anymore, but I'm on good terms with my dad now. i wouldn't say it's picture perfect, we're not that close, but he's helping with my skin problems.
That’s so sad.. to share vulnerable feelings with someone and have them use it against you or hurt you. Your aunt is blind to true beauty if she looks past a great personality and fixates on your “imperfections”
Personally, dark circles bring out the eyes, and they really don’t look bad. I actually use dark makeup around my eyes. Acne is very common to have, and you aren’t ugly because you have it. Many gorgeous people have acne, and many other imperfections on top of that.
Ignore what they say, for they are only trying to bring you down. They are not worth feeling hurt over. Know your worth, ❤️ peace and love ❤️
My narcissistic mother encouraging me to unalive myself with telling me to “yeah, do it!” In response to me telling her to leave me alone and in peace or I would unalive myself. This is not close to the the most cruel things she has told me, but it was oddly validating because it confirmed how much she resents and dislikes me. Narcissistic parents are a never-ending nightmare… escape them as soon as possible to because they will take years off your life with chronic-stress, PTSD, and chronic health issues, including autoimmune diseases.
The most painful thing someone ever told me was: “You’re friend was found dead yesterday, and we wanted to see if you were alright.” those words still haunt me to this day. He knew I was the only one who he spoke to about everything so he asked me questions and I didn’t know my friend was dead until he told me and I haven’t been the same since. I went through a psychotic phrase after his death since he killed himself and I wanted to kill my bullies, who still harrassed me after his death and encouraged me to do it as well. I wanted to make them feel how I felt. A year later i almost tried to kill myself, I was 13 by then, I lost my best friend when I was 12. I’ve known him since I was 5 and he was my closest companion who I thought I’d spend my life with and I’m still not over his death at all. Sometimes I still feel really shitty that I could of helped him. I miss him a lot. He would be turning 21 in May this year. He’s a year older than me.
Hey, how are you? I really hope you're ok. I can't imagine going through what you've endured this time, what you're fighting as i write.
I'm 22 now, building my life and struggling with my mental health, but learning from it. If you need someone to chat about life, or whatever you want, just answer and we'll talk about it.
I know my offering might sound shallow, but it's honest. If there is something i can say to you to help you get through this, i want to be able to do it.
Don't let your light and uniqueness be swallowed by this world. Instead, embrace and light all the world around you with the gifts you have. Live your life as greatly as possible as the best revenge against those who've been trying to take it away from you.
I am so sorry your friend at the time was rude enough to ask questions they had no right in asking when they knew your best friend died. I hope you have better friends than that person that put their nosy interests in front of your wellbeing. As for death, as someone who has lost a few people in a short amount of time between them as well. I will give you some unsolicited advice. When people say: 'You will get over it eventually' or 'You have to move on ect ect'. They don't know what they are talking about. You don't get over it I am afraid. But you do learn to live with it and that is the best way to deal with it and you are already doing it. You will always miss him, you will always have moments of sadness and/or tears. But know that is okay. It is normal. That is just how much you loved your best friend. As for helping your best friend, I am sure you did everything you could for him. It was an awful and very sad thing to have happened to him and you in turn. I hope you are okay. Please be kind to yourself.
I'm so so fucking sorry, I lost one of my friends back in August from s*icide and I know how hard it hurts to loose someone close to you. my friend had just turned 18 and he's a year older than me too. I'm glad you're still alive because I struggle with those things too and i know he would want to you be alive and happy. If you need someone to talk to about all of this, I'm here for you even though I'm just a stranger on the internet
i'm really sorrry about what you've been through and i know you propably know this, but it was not your fault, you were only 12, how could you have known and helped at such a young age
i hope you feel better nowadays
Omg this hurts my soul so much. I’m so sorry for your loss. He was so young. He’s an angel now, take care of yourself
My grandmother said to me: "I hope you don't get accepted" when I told her about how I applied for a school in the US (since I'm Mexican) and she said that to me in front of my whole family... It was devastating to say the least.
OML OK PEOPLE PLS DONT SAY THAT-
Anyways D: that's just painful. Well I'll be one of the people to accept you
Did you get accepted?
Hope you get accepted
Viva México 😎
get accepted and literally smack her with the acceptance letter
“Our daughter is a social reject. Nobody will ever want to be around her because of the way she is”
- my father to my mother. I had overheard the conversation while in my room.
I’m autistic and have struggled with anxiety issues for the majority of my life.
Sounds like something my dad would have said. He hated me.
All the love to u ❤
I don't think you should take those words to your heart. It will just make your life difficult. People says a lots of things. But at the end of the day those all become meaningless, only the end results matter. So take the good words and try to live a good life cause if you let those negative words affect you it is just your loss.
Then prove them wrong. You don't have to prove anything to them but don't believe that. It'll only drag you down. Look past it and go beyond the shackles that hold you! Keep going and don't give up. I wish you all the best!
@@salmanrifat1375 Wow, thanks I'm cured. "Just be positive and see the good in life" super helpful and insightful. Definitely not ripped from the back of a Hallmark greeting card.
My mom said to me, after a suicide attempt while manic as I held her "I have demons inside me, I'm sorry, they're inside you too."
She eventually died from her bipolar disorder, but I think about her saying this a lot. I was 15.
I don't get you, but if you wanna talk about it, i'm here
@@ShadareaRapt Nothing to do with real demons though, her mother suffered from a serious illness. But Jesus can definitely help against feeling hopeless if one lets it happen
@@ShadareaRapt just shut up 💀
@@ShadareaRaptreligious trauma and psychosis is a real problem. Do not use religion in place of medicine and science. It kills people.
I went through a similar situation a few months ago I told my mom during a mental break down what id been thinking of doing and feeling and she made it so much worse she said, "suicidal people dont tell people their suicidal" and that i might be a psychopath..right after she told my dad in which he said the same thing and started telling the rest of my family so now everyone walks around egg shells with me and thinks im super sensitive and what not, I wish it could have just been a personal thing between me and my mom or maybe I shouldn't have said anything but now I dont think my family sees me the same anymore.
I was bullied for 2 years because of the way I looked and the way I sounded when I spoke. When I finally changed schools, I was finally able to look people in the eye because they treated me better. But one day while talking to a classmate she asked "Don't you realize that others are making fun of you?"
Even if it doesn't seem like much, in that moment it really destroyed the idea of that I was finally seen as a person.
Had a similar incident
I'm sorry that sucks ❤
been there too
Just know that when people are this cruel, there is something inside of them that they are feeling hatred towards. It is nothing to do with you, that is their own shit. I'm so sorry you had to deal with this ❤
Something similar happened to me. I was trying my hardest to fit in a group of friends. I thought I was finally feeling comfortable around them. And then, someone said: “hey, why are you like that?”. And he asked again: “really. Why are you like that?”. His gf changed the subject and the road went on. But a part of me really died that day. On the other side, reliving this moment later in life, I noticed my mistakes and found out who I really was. Today, I am much more confident, and I dont need to ask for my real friends love anymore. But again, that hurted like hell
"The cancer is back...and this time, it's everywhere." - my mom a little over 4 years ago told me this. She was diagnosed that August and by January of the following year, she was gone. I have so many regrets; ways that I could have been a better daughter. I still feel guilty about it.
I am so sorry, Cancer is a horrendous thing, the definition of pure evil and pure pain. But you can't let that guilt bring you down, one thing I've learned recently is no matter what, when you can't go back, you will always have regrets, it is inevitable. We as humans are imperfect creatures seeking perfection, you will always find something to criticize and regret if you look for one. Nobody is perfect and I am sure she enjoyed every moment she had with you. I'm sure you've heard it before but, don't feel regret of what could've been and be happy for what was. I wish you the best :)
She forgives you
I have that same guilt.
Parents always forgive. You will make her proud by being a good person moving forward.
LITERALLY MORE PAINFUL THAN EVERYTHING SAID IN THIS VIDEO COMBINED, may her soul rest in peace and may you find peace too
My mom when I was a little kid and said that I would never be anybody because my dad was nobody, and that has always stuck with me. It still hurts to this day. It cuts deep real deep.
it’s so sad the number of people saying that the worst things that they had ever heard was something told by their parents
parents should be the place of safety and a support in life. Though because we're naturaly trying to make that bond with out parents, theirs words are more important to us and we get hurt more by them, then if a stranger said them to us
this is so fitting considering your pfp is diane
“crying doesn’t make you weak it mean you’ve been strong for to long” - best friend
-Johnny Depp
In college, dealing with the deepest depression in my life. At our graduation party my "friends" congratulated me. Not for graduating, they had made bets in which year I would have killed myself. I had surprassed their expectations. I still struggle with depressive episodes and that has truly hurt me on such a deep level.
I’m so sorry this happened
wow bro. how the hell did you even find people like that
Not friends.. i hope you do not have them in your life anymore.
Damn, this resonated with me quite a bit. I found myself in a similar situation, but I hope my classmates will never be cruel enough to tell something like that to my face. I wish you the best, man. I heard you, you're not alone.
Do you need a hug, little baby?
I was once told that I am "Not deserving of love" and "your love is a little too much" and I think about those all the time
Nobody has ever told me anything as painful as the things I have told myself.
This
The most relatable quote of our generation's mindset it seems.
Damn
Impostor syndrome too huh?
Me too
I was crying to my mom on the phone, talking about how low my self-esteem was and my struggles with school. With the coldest voice she just said "Stop." and hung up. That hurt me so much. We've never been super super close but she was still my mom and I just needed someone to talk to and be comforted by.
❤️❤️❤️
Ooh I hope you’re doing well now 🧸🌹
I’m so sorry. I’m so so sorry.
Yes, but the only reason why she ever phoned with you was that you are her daughter, or you over-talked every BS and she was pissed off, OR just think about it, maybe she has the same problems(or others) and not the power to help you and herself
she has a narcissistic personality disorder
I grew up Mormon. When I was 17 I fell in love with a girl in the church. I never felt more understood and accepted by another human being. The problem is that the church sends men on a two year mission abroad when they turn 18 but I had been experiencing faith issues for several years so I decided not to go. This is a very taboo decision in the church so it caused her parents to disapprove of me. She ended up moving away to college and we continued our relationship in secret for two years. Unfortunately she lost her scholarship and had to move back home. Her parents found out we were still dating, and they called me and told me I was never going to see her again. They were right. No goodbyes or anything. That was the most painful thing I was ever told. I went to the garage where I could be alone and I cried a puddle of tears. That was 10 years ago, but tbh I think something broke inside me that day.
Maybe you will get to see her one day
I hope you're doing okay buddy
Maybe you can bribe one of the people who knows her family to tell you where they currently live?
You should try and find her again
I'm sorry, even though you probably will never forget her I hope your happier now
I've had a torturous life. I remember hearing a quote "If you're stupid you better be tough." Well I don't know if I'm tough, or tough enough anyways, but I'll hang in there as long as I can. There's so many things I can remember and so much I can't. At this point moments of pain seem so meaningless, so not worth recounting. Split my head open, my hands, my feet, burnt, frozen, concussed (more than once), my parents saying they think I'm slow or just being insecure about all kinds of things, my brother being a prick, breaking bones, being horribly sick, being bullied, losing 21 pets in 16 years, having 16 jobs by 26, the list doesn't end. I hope I can still be gentle. I'd hate if my suffering stopped me from caring for others.
"it's a pearl now, not a grain of sand "
Seriously ! How inspirational 💖