Therapists, what was your "I need a minute" moment?
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CPS is so terrible.
CPS: takes child away from biological parents for lack of funds.
Also CPS: gives funds to the new foster parents of the child to help support them.
No surprises there, backed by racism and employed by catholic cultists
CPS does 3 things- pick the wrong parent during custody battles, punish poor parents, and ignore actual abuse. This is why any time I see an Amber Alert and find out a parent took their kid and ghosted after a court battle removed their parental rights...I ignore it. Everyone should.
Children are treated like property.
Yeah.. i really hate clicks per second too 😢
Nah that story with the mom and the little boy made me sick the fact they saw nothing wrong
She knows how to play the system obviously, probably done worse too yet knows the key words and answers that will let her carry on. Whoever allowed that to happen should be fired.
That's a disgusting violation of the child
It's like no one takes women predators seriously. They do exist. It's sickening they get away with this.
@@maroontiger1361 Or when they don't, they get heavily reduced sentences. All because they are a woman (possibly has a child too, like this story)
@@Kazuma127 Yeah, I had a friend in grade school whose Mom abused her and her other siblings. The father only got custody of my friend, and none of her siblings.
My mom was seggually abusive. Its fucked how people dont think women can be perpetrators. People dont believe kids, they hear "but she's your mother " and these women go on to do so much damage, and not to just their kids.
I'm sorry that happened to you. You deserved better. I hope you're doing ok.
There are plenty of women who are toxic...evil.. psychopaths, sociopaths...and they abuse in every form.... Iam so very sorry for what happened to you ❤
People who downplay abuse need their heads read. Abuse is abuse. Your relationship to the perpetrator, whether stranger, intimate partner or family member, is irrelevant to how you are entitled to feel about the abuse and the abuser.
I hope you’re well and I’m so sorry about what you experienced ♥️♥️
Kids deserve love, not abuse
Hey heard of double standards
3:16 Thats absolutely vile. At a very young age I was taking away from my mother by CPS. They deemed her a danger to me because my biological father was an abuser, so therefore she must be as well (she did nothing but protect me from that asswipe). She got me back 2 years later, but not being with my mother for those crucial years developmentally has really messed me up.
The fact that CPS, with all the evidence against the woman in that story, didn’t take her away from her son, is absolutely disgraceful to people like me, who were taken away for much less. I hope that boy, against all odds, was able to push past everything that happened to him.
I had the exact same experience. What is wrong with these people???
I’m so sorry you went through that. It should be disgraceful to anyone who heard/read that story,
We have seen circumstances in which the woman was bedridden and pregnant and unable to do anything and because the father was a lazy lay about and the house got dirty and dangerous to both the mother the children and the new upcoming baby the court system through the book at the mother because she didn't do enough or leave even though she physically couldn't get out of the bed.
That woman in the hospital is disgusting, she knows how to play the system and knows every trick to get away with it, maybe worse. I bet if a man did that, he’d be in prison no questions asked and never allowed near a kid again. That’s how disgusting it is.
i hope the dad sues for custody. although the downright idiotic cps worker isn't making it easier. except - show the family court judge and i bet they'd overrule cps. holy buckets.
@@maranathaschraag5757 They’d probably take into account the “child’s” needs and side with that vile woman, she’s managed to fool them before so she can do it again.
@@maranathaschraag5757 nah, they’d see the “child’s” needs and let the “mother” keep the poor guy.
Not true. Men can do the same. I heard horrible stories.
Nope. If a man did this, just the social outcry would change, he'd still have a high chance of never seeing prison or even losing his job. That's how fucked the system is. Female predators definitely have it easier though.
As a foster parent, I’ll say the second hand trauma foster parents experience is intense. We have to help children process and regulate after DCF forces them to have visitations with their abusers. We have to build trust with them, but we can’t do anything to prevent them from going to these mandatory visitations that only perpetuate their trauma. The system is so messed up. I recently closed my license because I was unwilling to be complicit in the system anymore. I’m now actively working on child advocacy efforts to create legislation that puts children’s best interest first.
Not a foster parent, but I think I understand your pain somewhat. My family took in the daughter of a long time friend one year, after the teen asked police to bring her to us (I was her primary babysitter and a second mom to her). Her mom had hit her after another brutal verbal battle and she’d had enough.
She was with us for 5 months, only seeing her mom for brief times with us present.
Her social worker came one day when my parents were in another province for 2 weeks. I was not the legal guardian and had no right to be present so I had to listen from another room. The worker told this 14 year old that if they didn’t return to their mom that the mom would hurt herself.
From day one the authorities only cared about the mom’s wellbeing…it took almost 2 months before they talked to the young girl.
So she was forced to go back for a weekend. When she returned…she was gone. Everything she had been was gone and there was a new person in her body. No joy, no life, no hope…just anger and resentment.
She moved back with her mom right after that weekend.
I still mourn for the sweet girl I helped raise. We have no contact anymore and that is best as what she became was a bitter shell of what I had known. My only solace was her one goal seemed to be to make her mother’s life hell for forcing her back. And she achieved that. Thankfully she also has been able to make an ok life for herself.
I will never forgive child services for what they did.
Ugh. 😢
My mom used to work for CPS. Thank you for all you did and are now doing for children's rights. The system has some huge flaws and hurts a lot of people.
I'm super fucking proud of you for everything you're doing.
@@gdtestqueenI'm currently studying to be a social worker and this... this is just insane. It's literally one of the first things we learn in psychology (though you don't even need to be taught this sentiment ) that it's an absolute no-go what this Social Worker did. It's literally parentification, as in putting the child into a position where they have to be the caregiver to their adult parent. I'm so sorry that happened to that girl and you.
I was what most would consider to be a "quiet antisocial nerd" in school. I never had a friend group larger than 1-2 people, and never grew out of calling all of my friends my best friend. That was until highschool. Freshman year I made a new friend, and he and I just clicked instantly. We loved the same books, the same games, the same subjects in school, and wanted to go into the same carrier field. We even talked about opening a company together. Fast forward to the following year, and he and I don't share classes anymore, but we are still in the same homeroom so I still see and chat with him daily.
One day in mid November, he tells me and another one of his friends who is in the same homeroom that he had attempted to end himself over the weekend. I didn't pry as to why, but instead focused on trying to think of ways to get him not to do it again, and I remembered something my sister who also struggled with self harm told me, which was to draw something on your arm to remind yourself of the people who you would leave behind if you died. We decided to do that with the souls from undertale (the game had just came out that year so we were hugely into it) and I even stole a marker from one of my teachers to draw mine.
But then fall break came, and on the first day back they announced over the speakers that he was gone. I didn't even hear the full announcement as when I heard his first name I just blacked out the rest of it and went through my day hoping it wasn't him. Reality, unfortunately, did not care about my hopes, and when it came time for homeroom I nervously asked where he was, and was told he really was gone. Something in me broke for a moment, as rather than crying or sobbing I simply laughed at the irony that me and my sister's best friends had both ended themselves exactly one year apart from each other. I still remember the worst part was going to the counselor's office to call my mother to tell her and maybe get some kind of sympathy for suffering such a terrible loss only for her to tell me that she thought I was lying about being friends with the student to get out of class, because I had never told her about him. That honestly shocked me out of any emotions I felt about what had happened, and I honestly don't think I have ever processed the grief I felt. You may be glad to at least know that I have cut my mother out of my life now.
Sorry if this is hard to read, youtube comments aren't very friendly when it comes to formatting, and I am trying to write from memories from almost 5 years ago.
My mother wasn't very empathetic, either. It's not right for people to make light of someone else's grief. I'm so sorry you went through that.
The formatting is fine. I'm so sorry you went through that. I hope you're at least in a better place now that you're away from your mother, and I hope you chase your dreams in honor of your friend.
@@rwbyab7423 I just got accepted into college for a game development degree. The dream is still going strong.
It wasn't hard to read because of the formatting, but because of the content. That is absolutely horrible, and I'm so sorry that you went through that.
Can relate. My mother would have reacted similarly. Some parents don't deserve kids.
Most soldiers would not find that story of murdering that bust full of civilians funny, those people are complete psychos
Canadian military you’d be up on charges, holy crap.
Yeah... I hope that story was fake... but it might not have been.
Depends how far you are down the road of just wanting to kill everything that moves, US military apparently very very much creates such things more or less on purpose.
Timestamp?
Found it 12:00
Story 12 btw
Also how disgusting... How is killing the innocent (most likely) "funny"?
I'm ex navy (wont say which one) I've seen horrific things, none of it is funny, neither is that bus
My late husband and I had a conversation one time that basically went, “Well, we’re having to pay $100 per therapy session now that you got disability.” “Well, I think it’s worth it; I think it helps me.” “Hey, if you think it’s helping you, we have the money; no problem, you can keep going. I think my therapist is helping me to, even though it’s kinda inconvenient for me to go.” “Well, if you think your therapist is helping you, I want you to go; I can watch the kids!”. Damn, I miss that man… (he died of esophageal cancer, due to decades of poorly treated acid reflux) 🥺
Sounds lovely.
I hope you get to see him in your dreams until you're together again.
Our condolences for your loss.
We are confused how you are able to survive on disability, by yourself that is not something we would be capable of doing.
Oh you were probably able to work ahead of time and managed to receive SSDI not SSI we just remembered people on SSDI actually are given more money than people who have never been able to work before because they pay into the system a certain amount of time.
Sorry we got confused because we don't believe that people on SSI are ever capable of not being homeless if they have no one to rely on after family dies
Because the places that are supposed to help with housing fundings are no longer taking assisting people
Grief is odd. During the crisis event I will be as calm and composed as normal. Even for a bit after I remain feeling normal. It's only after all the dust has settled that things sink in for me and it all comes crashing down. For me, grief is a delayed response, but I like it that way because it allows me to help others while things are hardest.
Its like the saying goes you dont cry because you’re weak you cry because you’ve been strong for too long
Story 12. Vet here. I promise the guys that "lit up the bus" still have nightmares and CPTSD years later.
Years after the fact, we can't admit the pain and hide it with laughter.
Why do you think suicide is so high among war vets? If we talk about it we are monsters and if we ask for help the therapists cant handle it!
I really think a requirement is needed for veterans to be seen only by veterans if they opt for it when it comes to mental health. Far too many therapists can’t handle crisis without succumbing to their experiences and advocating for causes that harm because they’re reacting personally instead of objectively. It’s fucking hard but not impossible.
@@cynreiusacari3163 Make a veterans - to - therapists pipeline?
Well, it’s a month later, Happy Memorial Day. I just wanted to thank you for your service, the horrors and sacrifices that you make, physically, mentally, emotionally, for our country is monumetal. I have nothing but respect for you veterans. Just keep in mind, it wasn’t for nothing. I have a few family members that served in Vietnam and their story’s are truly haunting. Those who go through that are the strongest people on earth. I can’t imagine how hard it is for you, but just keep in mind that people love you
Not just war veterans, men/boys are denied their feelings, all their lives. It’s so harmful.
It blows my mind how any of you are celebrated and held in high regards.
18:26 Like the teacher who posted, I have heard multiple horrors during my many years of teaching high school. Abuse, sexual assaults, drug-addicted parents, you name it, and in any combination you can imagine. At a certain point I had to realize that I simply couldn't save kids, but I sure as hell could give them a safe space, snacks included, to talk. I now give "grandma hugs" to those who ask (almost always girls) at my wonderful little rural high school. I can only hope and pray that I never gave a child the impression I didn't care.
From one perspective this is ‘all you can do’, but from another perspective it is everything that some could never do.
Those kids need(ed) you, and you unfailingly showed the hell up for them. I’m thankful for them having a teacher like you - Grandma hugs can solve a lot more than we think, haha.
Thank you, those hugs mean more than you know
Not a therapist, but ...
I had a classmate when I was in high school who was clearly suffering from some sort of mental illness. He would have frequent flare-ups during class and would go out into the hallway to calm down. If you were within a few classrooms of him and paid enough attention, you could hear him in the background, but most people ignored him. I didn't, though. I sat with him at lunch and listened to him ramble while quietly eating, most days. We had a 'weird kids' table and I was part of it, mostly due to being autistic and 'off-putting'.
Still, one day I found him in the hallway on my way back from the bathroom, having a full blown meltdown to the point where he didn't even register me being there or talking to him. Once I figured that out, I ended up hugging him and gently reassuring him through it, not sure if he even knew who I was or what was going on. In my memory we were like that for a long time but at most it must've been five, maybe ten minutes or so of him just incoherently yelling and ranting and crying.
Eventually some of the faculty showed up, including one of his parents, and took him away. I was given permission to take a moment before heading back to my class, which I did. It was rattling knowing that someone I cared about, who on his good days was a funny and endearing guy, could drift that far from sanity and not come back down from it on his own. We were good friends throughout all of high school, even on his bad days, and he admitted to me once that he was afraid of himself. He never hurt me or anyone else, but sometimes he'd bite at his hands or arms with such a vengeance that it was horrific to watch.
I can only hope that now, a decade later, he's still doing well and getting the help he needs. I lost contact with a lot of school friends but I'll never forget that look in his eyes, it was like he was on a different planet completely. I never knew what exactly was going on, but I hope that I was a positive influence in his life.
It was a beautiful story. I'm glad you were able to do what you did and I'm sure it made a little difference in his life
We would like to point out this is not entirely safe.
For future reference to anyone regardless of any age reading this.
It is perfectly fine to attempt to engage with someone having a meltdown but unless you know why they are having the meltdown touching them could put your life in danger be very careful.
Make random ticking noises to distract them say random words make smells that are unable to not notice calming ones soothe them without touching them because if they are a victim of physical or sexual assault and are in the middle of a PTSD induced breakdown they could physically see you as their attacker being unaware of what is happening around them and would go to jail for severely hurting you while in the midst of a delusion excited by their attack.
We know personally when we were a child that we used to have severe issues to where we would have full-blown panic attacks in which we would be in school but then our brains would no longer see the school we would see where we were abused and we would start panicking and if someone had touched us while we were in that state we would have only been able to see the faces of our attackers.
We would have lashed out we would have attacked people we attacked ourselves when we saw ourselves in the mirror.
Because our brain could not register who we were seeing as ourselves PTSD is a horrible thing to go through.
There is a reason they train you to become numb to what happened to you so that it doesn't happen in such a negative and overwhelming stance
We would also like to point out that biting oneself and harming oneself is a sign of severe negative trauma that has induced self-hate.
If an act of abuse has caused you to develop a disorder that you cannot cure that people hate you because of or treat you like you are a threat because of when you are experiencing that disorder in public you will hate yourself for feeling it and become so afraid others already know you have it that you will try to hurt yourself to make it go away.
We know this because we developed homicidal ideations and were treated like trash because of it, one of the traits of the type of autism low-functioning that we have is that our brain does not register our emotions very well and tells us if we are extremely sad to stressed or upset by experiencing extremely violent images which used to freak us out when we were a child because we didn't understand what was going on and anytime we explained it they treated like we were going to hurt someone when in reality we were just being frightened by a brain.
we also were placed in a room with people who experienced paraphilia is like sadism and pedophilia because we were groomed into experiencing sexual dysfunctions we didn't have because of our usage of medical treatment for the trauma we were experiencing being misinterpreted by people not qualified to speak on the subject as evidence we had something we don't.
Translation don't go around telling people who are expressing themselves using fiction that they are pedophiles because you will cause them to develop a form of OCD that will make them try to hurt themselves, and then the doctor will need to put them in the room with actual sadists and pedophiles so that they can get a first-hand experience of how that condition is actually experienced by the people who actually experienced it so that they can tell the difference between what they are experiencing and what you say they are experiencing.
And don't go around saying that people who are using fiction that involves characters that appear or are actually under age are always doing it because of sexual reasons because CSA victims use fiction to manage trauma in the same way children use Barbie dolls to manage trauma.
Sorry for long circumstance we just wanted to make sure that people understood that this form of lashing out is something that people who experienced the worst aftermath of a negative circumstance will do.
We should also note that we used to hit ourselves when we were unable to understand things we knew we should be able to understand because at the time we did not realize that severe distress impaired our cognitive functioning and so we couldn't comprehend why something we could understand minutes before was registering like someone was speaking Klingon to us
Respect to all therapists, don’t know how they don’t break down and cry after hearing some of these stories
Not all. Trust me, not all deserve respect. I've seen many, and quite a few are hurting far more than they're helping.
We bottle it up and then, when we go to see our own therapists once a week, we pour our hearts out. We keep it together because we know our patient NEED us to keep it together so they don't feel the need to protect us from hearing the information, therefore keeping things to themselves as a consequence
We know some of our therapists broke down crying in the session.
Back then we didn't manage our emotions very well and our body forced us not to experience them because we are over stimulated by a lot of stuff.
So we became very confused.
But now that our body manages that kind of emotion far better than it did back then and is not as easily overstimulated but is still overstimulating possibility.
We comprehend that the individual was overwhelmed by what we went through and seeing them experience emotion was able to help us understand something was in fact wrong with our development because we should have been feeling things that we couldn't at the time.
Basically we are saying that if we had not seen our therapist break down crying we would never have learned that our body is not responding properly and this would not have sent us on a quest to learn what is different between us and other people which would have led to us never learning about our condition and how our body manages over stimulation
@@tanschi8449
We hope that you are joking, every good therapist knows that you are not supposed to bottle up your emotions you're supposed to redirect them.
We would hope that no therapist bottles up their emotions they always redirect them because if they are bottling up their emotions they run the risk of showing even through body language their clients that they should be bottling their emotions and suppressing things suppression is harmful.
I couldn't get past story 4. That poor kid. CPS failed him. I hope somehow that he got away from that horror show of a mom. No wonder he had issues, that kind of abuse fucking messes with you. It's been 24 years since I was abused by someone significantly older than me and I STILL tense up and go nonverbal at any feeling or emotion that reminds me of that day.
My parents' neighbour is a social worker. Every Christmas she sends a letter to my parents and they are...something. Her first sentence is always about how drunk she is while writing it. Then its just two pages of bitching about how her kids are losers and not going anywhere in life, how many car accidents they caused in the past year and how expensive it is to pay for their insurance, and other lovely sentiments. Its not just her kids either; her last letter expressed how fat her husband has gotten and how she wishes he gets paid more as a tire shop manager. I bet her job is tough, but bashing your family to your neighbours around the supposed "happiest time of the year" seems like a bad coping mechanism.
Well, better to tell it to your parents than her family
Social Worker Student here, unfortunately the field attracts both highly empathic people and highly manipulative/shitty people. That and the fact that it's a highly stressful and emotionally draining job. Doesn't make it any better but it's an unfortunate truth that some SWs spiral after time.
It sounds like she's really been going through it. Those are probably the least of her grievances. Of course it's not right nor proper of her to say such things, especially to a neighbor, but I'd say give her some grace. I hope someone can help her get back on track.
The mother and the son -- I just yelled "NO F^^KING WAY"
when it said CPS didn't intervene. Aw, FFS.
I’m behavior therapist. I work with kids that have a lot of aggression and “anger issues” and work on them using functional communication instead lashing out, like saying “can I have a break” instead of running out of the room or throwing a tantrum. One day I was dealing with a five year year old and for no particular reason that I could tell got out of his car walked into the building into the therapy room and put his head through the window. I was so stunned in the moment I thought he had thrown something out of it until i realized he was pulling his head out of the window and tried to rub his head, which I stopped but I was so panicked I couldn’t see if there was glass in his forehead (he was completely unharmed expect for a headache). There had been no warning signs or even vocalizations that he was upset. I hadn’t even turned on the lights in the rooms; that’s how quickly it happened. I panicked, holding his hands so he could touch the glass and called my coworkers to come check on him and went into my office and pulled myself together. After that we work 2 on 1 with him for a while in rooms without windows and I was pulled of the case for a few weeks.
We also found out that he does this at home at lot but his mother had fail to tell us because he hadn’t broken any of the windows there.
UK primary (4-11yrs) school teacher. I trained in group therapy for children as part of my teaching career. In groups the children were learning to socialise and trust each other amongst other things, however it had the result that the kids in my group used to come to me to unload their trauma, their fear, their anger. It greatly shortened my time in teaching , i had my own issues with physical and mental health (and undiagnosed neurodiversity) and eventually it got to be too much.
That's too bad. I strongly believe that people who are offering help like this needs a strong support system as well. Otherwise burn out is just so expected of it
i truly appreciate your kindness and empathy. you telling me to do something to regulate my emotions and such.. it helps me more than just end of video kind of stuff. i genuinely struggle outside of the internet to take care of myself and do things i enjoy so your comments basically directing me to do so helps me on a bigger level. thank you
❤ I agree, thank you for your work and compassion sharing these stories.
Same! It felt really refreshing honestly... I've been watching content like this basically as a way to distract myself from my own trauma (like in a, see, this is far worse so nothing to worry about- to myself) but i honestly know it's quite a bad distractor and so idk it was very comforting :,)
I work in elderly care. It's not therapy but it is very demanding. You see a lot of things. Having to have the quick thinking to try to keep someone alive while calling for an ambulance, dealing with those with dementia and confusion, having the risk of being hit on the job, among other things. Can be a lot sometimes.
I get it. I was sent off to do work experience in an elderly care place as a 15 year old. It was scarring.
God, these stories really put things into perspective. My problems seem soo small. My condolences to all these victims and tragic cases.
It's unhealthy to compare your woes to someone else's and think your problems are small. If it's taking a toll it's taking a toll.
@@jacobsalmi5582 to me, minimizing my own pain allows me to carry on and not identify with it. Because it doesn’t exactly go away. So the best I can do, is keep myself from becoming my pain.
Story 19: I can painfully relate to that one. Not what exactly happened to the girl and her friend, but for the teacher going far beyond his "job". For me it has been a little more than 20 years ago when my mathematics teacher intervened to help me when nobody else did. My parents were divorced, no contact with father. By now I know I have cPTSD from the abusive ways I was raised. When I was 15, my issues started to manifest in Anorexia. I was also depressed and self-harming. It was my teacher who reacted, who really "saw" me and send me to the school psychological service. I still don't know how long my mother would have waited to take me to a mental health professional, or if she would have done it at all. I desperately wanted her to do it (but felt like I could not ask for it). She was even angry at first (confirming my fear) because she has alwawys been very "private" and did not want anything "private" to leak out.
It took me years of therapy to fully realise what that teacher had done for me. I still have very severe mental health issues and by now chronified ED. That does not change what the teacher did. As OP said "going the extra mile". It's sad that he apparently was more worried about my wellbeing than my own family. I actually contacted him, feeling the growing need to deeply thank him. It was not an easy step to do (me having AVPD definitely not helping in that), but I overcame my anxiety. He was thankful, understanding, and also sad that I still am struggling so much. But I feel extremely relieved that I finally let him know.
We have never heard of avpd what is that?
@@bronyinsticks AVPD is short for Avoidant Personality Disorder. It's one of the anxious cluster Personality disorders (and may seem similar to Social Anxiety, but is not quite the same).
One big issue is being very fearful of doing something wrong in relations with other people, pretty much allways seing worst case scenarios, being quick to think that you allways do wrong regardless of your actions and people will hate you/the situation will be awful.. Also having a very hard time taking decisions, completely stressing out over (for an outsider seemingly minor) things. Getting so fearful that you end up avoiding all sorts of things. And beat yourself up for that too. It's hard to explain in short.
It meens you can stress out yourself with mental fights in your head that you end up getting physically ill from it.
It's annoying. (But I'm glad I have the diagnosis)
"Not a therapist, but -" This shit gets on my nerves
I still find the stories interesting to hear
@@amya_25 Ye
I was in foster care, and I was in a few very awful homes. I remember being locked in a basement with no lights at the earliest age of 2. Dcf did nothing even when I complained. Im lucky that I got adopted when I was 13 and got therapy. I had major trust issues and always found it hard to have anyone truly close to me. I can care for people but I will never expose my “true” self. Therapist said that I have a passive guard in my mind to keep people away. It’s kinda sad because I wish I could call my adopted parents mom and dad in person but I can’t. I could only imagine how those other kids in the system have been traumatized and broken they are.
'we moved to Flordia from Miami'.
.... What..?
That's what I thought I heard 😂 I thought I misheard haha
@hburke45 me too! 😂
I don't get it... is it an American thing?
@skymed3095 nope, it's confusing to me as a born-and-raised American, too! 😆
@@skymed3095just in case you’re confused why we’re confused, Miami is in Florida.
I’ve been in mental health services for over 20 years and I’ve never heard of a therapist killing themselves because of a patient’s trauma…
There is absolutely no way I showed up seconds later.
what?
@sdbx2 I cliked on this when the posting time was "36 seconds ago"
@@NijutheWolf oh ok
I told my therapist that i saw myself as closer to a chair than a person. She had to sit on that for a minute
Sorry if this is inappropriate, but that was a really good pun.
@@The-Marked-Warrior and entirely unintentional 🤣🤣
I feel like regarding the cops and soldiers stories that they are so calloused after years on the job and the messed up stuff they had seen that they don't even think about the stories they tell as horrible because everyone else around them is used to hearing horrible stories like that and just have to brush them off or use humor as a way to deal with the messed up situations they see/saw everyday.
My mom works for animal control in a large city and see so many abuse/cruelty cases that she doesn't even think twice about telling us the messed up stories about her work days. I grew up listening to this and have known the horrors other people don't wanna know about the worst animal abuse cases, but no longer think anything of it. It was actually weird hearing other people talk about "evil pet owners" and the supposed abuse on their animals, when in reality it's actually about as mild as it gets. I also used to get in trouble by others for knowing a "little too much" about animal fighting rings cause I've heard stories about them growing up and think nothing of it while others are horrified by it.
I once did an animal presentation about animal abuse for a college class and even gave a disclaimer and even made sure the pictures used were not too horrific or showed any gore, but was still stopped halfway through by the teacher cause I accidently made half the class cry and several others nauseated just from my facts. Still got an A though.
This. Once posted a picture of a dead abused child during a discord chat with friend and was like, "Guess what the parents' excuse was? the boy fell off the bad. Such BS, right?"
Response I got was, "Hey, please don't post a dead, brutalized child on here."
And then hit me... other people aren't used to that kind of thing.
People who don’t deal with violence and the sheer depravity of what humans are capable of don’t realize how messed up those who do are. You HAVE to dissociate with the horror or you’ll break your mind. Those cops at the conference weren’t being callous just because. The job and what they see every day has just desensitized them. It’s a coping mechanism.
Our therapist actually informed us that it's the opposite.
It isn't that your mind isn't broken the fact that you are dissociating from the horror is a part of the brokenness it's how the brain breaks.
Dissociative identity disorder is literally visual representation of this function in the brain.
It's when you break and your psyche alters its functioning for that purpose of breaking so that the pain does not hurt so bad.
It's a natural and healthy defense mechanism that can become unhealthy if not kept in check.
This is why our therapist says that it's not healthy to say that breaking is a bad thing or being broken is a bad thing.
We are not clay pots we are living things our body is a living thing when we break it mends itself.
There is no such thing as a person that is permanently shattered and broken only a person whose brain is dealing with trauma in a way that suits them best even if it doesn't suit society well
With regards to the unempathetic cops... I personally know someone who fought in Ireland during the Troubles. He jokes about it now, but he hates bringing up the subject. It's his way of dealing with things, and I'd not be surprised if its the cops' way of dealing with things too.
True, but they shouldn't have made that poor dude listen to them.
Exposing others to trauma forcibly? There's a time and place.
Not a therapist, but was training to be one. The reason I never went through was because during that time, I was s*xually harassed by my mother and it just broke me. I knew I wouldn’t be able help anyone if I didn’t even have anyone to talk to about this. She’s always been a big part of my life so breaking away would’ve horrible, but just hearing her voice would make me flinch. I went onto coding and still haven’t told anyone yet.
When you are able to afford it, please, get a therapist so you can work throught your trauma. It can affect your quality of life in invisible ways. I hope you can find people in your that can comfort you and make you feel safe in the future. Good luck and safe travels.
@@zyrevelvrein2388 thank you, you don’t know how much your comment means to me. If you don’t mind I’m going to rant a little.
I honestly sometimes doubt whether or not she harassed me and if it even affected me that way or if I was just blowing it out of proportion. I’d gone through s*xual assault before and she was the one there for me so I was able to heal and put it past me.
When the incident with her occurred I was too confused and emotionally abused by her to do anything. Ever since I was young, if I was reluctant to do something she’d asked if I truly loved her if I couldn’t just do it for her? She’d never give up until I actually did the thing even if I reassured her I did love her. This time it was something I really didn’t want to do for her.
I didn’t register it as harassment until a new friend at the time asked if I was okay with hugging which I’d usually would be, but I realized they asked it because I had flinched several times when someone came close to me. It hit even more when a friend of mine asked if I loved them when they needed to be consoled and the words were just lodged in my throat, feeling as though even if I did say it I’d have to do something for them to prove it.
I’d always had a fear of affection due to my mothers emotional abuse, but at that time I was slowly coming to terms with it and actually allowed friends to come into my life. But after the incident the fear grew much worse, I have people around me and I feel pathetic for not being able to say anything. I am slowly building the savings and courage to talk to a professional, thank you again for just making me feel validated.
I have a story, and it’s from when I was in 8th grade, only 13. I was nowhere near a therapist, I just knew a little about psychology because I have a huge interest in it and I thought it might help with what I had/have going on. I had a friend (E) who was suicidal, and whenever they felt like committing, they would text me and their partner (W). This happened multiple times, at least twice, probably more; E texted us and said something along the lines of “I can’t do this anymore, i don’t blame you, know it’s not your fault, I love you.” Myself and W would try to contact E and talk them down from it, also talking to each other to check up on who E was replying to. After a little bit of back-and-forth they would stop replying for a little while. Something would happen between W and E, I think they would call each other(?) and everything would be fine again. At some point during that year, E planned to run away from their home and told us about it. They refused to make a plan, contact anyone who could help, and even if they did, they would say only minimal information. They contacted us whenever they wanted and we were forced to reply in fear of what would happen to them. This, obviously, put a lot of stress on us, especially because W and I were both already dealing with our own mental health issues. I was never actually able to take a minute because I was constantly worried about E and what was happening to them. This entire situation gave me three panic attacks within 6 hours. Then, a few weeks later it was back to worrying about E and their problems, I barely paid attention to how this impacted me at all, the panic attacks were caused by the stress of dealing with that whole ordeal, and I barely got a two-day break from it. Anyway, sorry for the essay, thanks for reading this, I hope you have a wonderful day and by whatever deity you believe in if you don’t pay attention to your mental health I will make sure you do, dammit.
You sound like a great friend. I hope E is doing ok now aswell as you. I’m sorry you had to go through that stress. I’m actually at the hospital now for a failed attempt and have been for the past week, bored out of my mind. I’m 14 so yeah it can be tough around this age definitely.
@@randomperson8341 thank you, I try to be. Dealing with stressors and walking on eggshells for friends’ sensitivities can be difficult at times, but it’s totally worth it for good friends. I got medication for my anxiety and it’s helping a lot, not super sure about E, but I think they’re doing well.
My heart breaks for all the kids... thanks therapists for helping them...
If you're volunteering for a crisis line, you have my utmost respect. That is not for the feint of heart, the things you end up hearing, while being practically powerless on the other side of the phone.
Okay some of these made me cry, those poor souls :(
Im not a therapist, however despite my own mental health struggles i have always tried to be there for others, sometimes to my own detriment. I can no longer count the number of times on two hands that i have talked someone down from ending their own life or been the shoulder to cry on when someone was grieving. But like i said, im not a therapist, im not trained, and im not mentally healthy myself. I know i need therapy for a multitude of reasons, but unfortunately it is really hard to get if you can’t pay for it where i live. What i can say is, if you are going through something, please talk to someone, and reach out for help, there are people who care.
It's really fucked how kids can go through the worst shit then be expected to go to school the next day.
I have so much beef with CPS
A lot of respect to people in these professions
Therapists and first responders really don't get enough credit. It's also nice to watch a video right after it comes out and see the views and likes go up :) (8th comment)
When my mom passed from a heart attack, the first EMT that responded was my coworker's boyfriend. He had only been an EMT for a few months. He did everything he possibly could, but from what the physician told me, there wasn't any possibility of saving her. For some reason, knowing the victim was the mother of someone he knew messed him up.
He went to the funeral. When he saw me he lost it. He kept crying and apologizing. Apparently, no one followed up with him to let him know my mother was gone before he even received the call. I felt so bad for him. All I could do was tell him it was never his fault. I have so much respect for first responders now.
My mom keeps, touching me weirdly, doesn't matter how many times I tell her to stop. She never does. And no one believes me because she's my mom. And even if they do believe me, they think it's completely normal and innocent. I'm so tired
okay, first. i'm so, so fucking sorry that's happening to you. as a victim of s/a, i know what it does to affect trust with people and your relationships with some.
two. you need to reach out for help. not just suggesting that you can, no. you NEED to. if you can't call 911 then reach out to a friend or trusted family member-hell, even a teacher-and ask them to call for you. again, i hope you get the help you deserve and i hope that sick woman gets sentenced fairly. and the fact that people think it's normal is so fucking sickening. i'm so, so, so dearly sorry you've had to endure this for who the hell knows how long.
Even if it's just her hands on your back, you're allowed to set your own boundaries.
For example, people with autism have sensitivities to touch and might not like being touched often.
So, if you don't feel safe or heard when you're being touched, that is categorically wrong of your mom to do. For the people denying it's a problem. Ask them if you can demonstrate. If they say, no, say, well my mom never responds to when I say, no; how would you feel if I did it anyway?
You might make a little progress that way, but those people are only "half safe", meaning not actually safe, but maybe safer than your mom.
Getting help is hard to do depending on where you are. Instead you can also just not be around. Take up more school activities, do extra projects with teachers and so on. You can take some of your life back even if you can't take it all back.
Idk what to say. My heart goes out to you! That sounds horrible. Do what the above person said and try to seek help from someone. There are caring people out there.
The therapist in story 3 must have felt like such a failure that they weren't able to help them 🥺
I was in therapy once, now I aim to become a trauma therapist because of that guy that helped. If not for him, I honestly would've killed myself. Now I wanna be a therapist and help other people get through the bad times like I had. We all could use some help.
I’m honestly amazed that people can hear this stuff and not break down I worked in memory care and the amount of people who relived the worst moments of there life or cursed god for letting them live this long was enough to almost break me it was the old lady dieing in my arms as I got her dressed that made me step away from 14 years of it but I can’t only imagine what hearing peoples trauma everyday can do to you.
Story 20: Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. She wasn't really suicidal she just wanted attention and to feel special. The caller says the father is a dbag, but can you imagine living w/a mother who threatens suic1de all the time. Let's be honest she was no angel & may have been lying about the child's father.
I like that the speaker's voice is dynamic and actually adds to the experience
CPS sucks. ive delt with them more times than i can count. i was abused and assaulted for years of my life but still, to this day i have been see as a liar to all my friends, family, and even past therapists. there were so many CPS calls to come get me over the years that they just STOPPED showing up. freshmen year was my last year in school due to my trauma, i couldn’t go more than 30 minutes in a classroom without breaking down. one time in happened the counselor helped me and i admitted everything to her. she called CPS but they never came. she called again and again and again over the 2 months i was there and not once did they come. ive had police break down my bedroom door because i locked myself in there since i didnt feel safe around my family, they saw it as me probably in there by myself doing drugs or drinking and being a rebellious kid. ive had paramedics refuse to take me to the hospital because i was “causing too many problems” (i was curled up in my closet sobbing and having a flashback)
i still deal with the trauma of these instances every single day of my life and i can only pray ill live to 18 when im finally able to leave my house and never see my family again.
Only a a few story's in and it's extremely deep 🤯
I can relate my childhood to a lot of these stories. Maybe I've got more trauma than I thought. I think it may be time to go see a therapist.
CPS is gross and fraudulent, how can they let that boy continue to stay with his mom?
My therapist said that she couldnt help me anymore, after i found out i had ptsd, that it wasnt in her pay grade...
Coming from someone that had CPS heavily involved with my childhood, they are a f***king failer and a joke
Not a therapist but i remember when i went to therapy, the medical therapist was needing a minute
I was so ready to self analyse that i had mapped a massive amount of everything I saw as remotely relevant. So when she was explaining to me a way to use a certain method to explain a behaviour and connected train of thought, she said that it could be my "homework". Usually people need a second appointment to work it out together though so she assured me it was no problem if i wouldn't be able to get it done. By the time she was done with her word i told her i had already 2 situations filled into the method. It caused me to be able to be "diagnosed" without being redirected to an actual full on therapist. This one was just to chdck if stress had a connection with my heartburns and low blood pressure. But we found out the root cause of all the stress and made a plan. Amazing lady
One of my friends is a school counsellor and I remember her telling me about this time when she had to inform two students from her school that their father had been shot and killed because their mother was absolutely hysterical and unable to tell them herself.
If you don't also want to be a psychiatrist then don't be a teacher. You're with those kids all day everyday. YOU are the responsible adult in charge and therefore when the student is in YOUR care you have a duty to do what's best for them and be connected.
I'm not a mental health professional, but I've helped a lot of people in crisis. It hurts. You have to dig deep and use your empathy to help them, but this comes with a horrible emotional cost to yourself. I pay it gladly, because I know I have saved lives. Only once did I have to disengage, because it was hurting me too much; the person in question was self-destructing with drugs. Went from being on track to becoming a lawyer to failing out and becoming a felon within two years (two DUIs).
Cps does not care of the victim is male especially if the perpetrator is female especially a motherly figure
I worked at an elementary school and a student with a rough background reported she wanted to unalive herself and had a plan to do it. She was in first grade.
Also in college I had 3 friends try to unalive themselves within one month. None were successful thank goodness but one ended up staying with me for a week and had to check in with me every 3 hours to make sure he wouldn’t try again.
Sometimes you wonder how these therapists can survive without having their own therapist.
The woman who lost her baby reminded me of when my grandmother passed. The family knew it was coming as she'd been not eating much for a couple of days, when the call came that she'd passed my parents and I went to see her and it felt surreal. She had alzheimers and dimentia so it felt like for me that she'd already gone, the woman I knew from childhood had been gone for years at this point. I don't know how things will hit at the one year mark, but I'm not sure there will be tears.
It’s amazing how desensitized trauma makes people’s brains for the sake of survival.
y'know I wonder if the younger generation would be more desensitized to hearing this type of stuff (because the internet has shown us a lot of bs) and therefore able to better handle hearing such terrible things
I will never forget his funeral. Seeing him in the corner of my eye for the last time. How his face didn’t really look the same. I just remember staring at his hands. Sobbing in my teacher’s arms. The smell of death in the room.
If i had the mentality i would really want to be a therapist, but im way too emotional for that and i just know I wouldnt be able to carry the burden ov everyones trauma 🙁 i think its admirable to see how therapists can change peoples lifes
the fact this doesnt really phase me shows i have somehting wrong..
“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted,
And saves the crushed in spirit.“
Psalm 34:18 ESV
"War isn't hell. In hell there are no innocent bystanders. In war, the streets are littered by their remains."
I was confused the grief counselor having to go to the back room. I'm not a counselor, but a nurse in Germany and we are encouraged to cry with patients, if that's what it comes down to. Sharing emotions and showing that you actually care and generally just being human does help a lot more than throwing out typical phrases. Think a tight hug as opposed to "well, sorry for your loss. Gotta go now."
“Locked him in a dog kennel and forced him to watch him murder his Mom” i need a few decades to recover from that and i wasnt even the one to experience that, my prayers go out to this boy and hopefully he will live a healthy and good life.
Ikr? the most screwed up story here :'(
can i have any of these therapists pls my first one just told me to talk to my guidance counselor instead and the second one thought everything i said was the funniest thing she'd ever heard
Actually re: story two, I used to know someone with a degree in psychology and apparently it's not unusual/unheard of for sexual advixe to be part of therapy. Obviously some people are specialized in relationships (or on the dark end, sexual abuse) but it's a pretty common human experience to seek intimacy and to have questions about how to get it, why it's not going well, etc so sexual troubles can indeed be a topic of therapy ahaha
"I'm still a teacher and I've had to harden my heart and realize I can't help everyone" I've been teaching abroad for about 4 years and at this point I feel so under qualified for the amount of work that I do. And every time I vent/try to talk about with it others everyone is just so cold like "Well those aren't your children and there's nothing you can do right? So just save yourself" I mean yeah I get it, and my leadership is kinda in the same boat, I think we are in burn out with the sheer amount of children we get at our academy with ... "extra spice" but its so sad because these are elementary school kids going through like either legit adult problems, bullying/abuse at home or mental issues/challenges (idk how to say it properly so forgive me if thats wrong) and I feel ill equip to help them and it makes me sad. Plus the locals are just like "The kids are all little liars" I mean a few of them, ok maybe do it for attention but there's no way it's all of them. So many confess to graphic physical or mental punishments for simple mistakes, lack of performance or what I think would be fair to call normal child behavior. These days I have this boy that will rock back and forth in the fetal position. Or completely lose his shit over what I think could be consisted a simple thing (example, asked him to say "A" or "B" or use finger signals to signal 1 or 2 and if he just wasn't in the mood, there's tears, physical soothing attempts, etc). But yet Im just simply told to "keep going on with the class and just give him compliments" and idk I feel like Im hurting him by pushing him to continue... but thats my only choice if I want to stay in good graces at work.
I just want to remind people that sometimes our troops have been through hell and put others through it. And sometimes the only way to keep on going is to laugh at something that is in no way funny but to confront it for what it is would break thier minds. They're not always trying to be horrible 😢
It's monstrous
@@GiordanDiodato War is monstrous
I just realised my CPTSD is what sent my psychologist out of the room for "a minute" a couple of times. And I doubt my case is the worst she's ever come across so...😢
Yay you posted!!
Story 3 - i saw my first murder when i was about 4-5years old guy came up knocked on door shoot at head and chest a few times and ran off after that at 7-8 years old saw another one idk if that has a reason for me not to feel emotions but i dont really feel emotions maybe i just wanted to get this off my chest i never told anyone that i saw this until about 2 years ago i am in my 30s now idk but my life is cool now
Im the double wammy. Soldier and in the mental health field.
We have emoathy, but you also have to put that away because the job will get to you if you dint. No one comes to these services because they are at their peak selves.
Ive dealt with tons of suicides and a few attempted murders. Rapes, molestation, and etc.
You have to find the humor to get theough it at times. Mostly though we keep to ulour kind because we get it.
my s/o is a therapist for kids/teens, and obviously he can't tell me much about what he talks about in sessions day-to-day, so i do like to hear stories so i can stay reminded of what kind of things he goes through each day
Not a therapist but this is my story
I am severely bullied and have been assaulted (not sexual) by many people, pushed down stairs, barged into fences, had stuff thrown at me, ect. And I began school therapy thing and they have really helped me but I haven't came clean to them too much as while I was in super dark place I never told them that I was planing on taking my own life (I never went through with it yet and I'm only saying yet cause I get random deppresive episodes that could last days)
I'm honestly surprised I haven't ended up in hospital for my mental health yet but a part of me feels like 2024 is the year I end up hospitalised because of my shirt mental health
if i was on the phone with someone while they died, i dont know how i could live with that
Me about 1/3 into the video: "Oh gosh, I need a minute..."
That first one um wow that sucks 3:21 my good sit what in the flying hell that’s the worst excuse I’ve ever heard and I’ve heard a lot of bad excuses um story 10 is that not just want they think there partner is doing hmmm vary suspicious ops client 12:21 hay props to op for including men in there 20:49 oh my god I got nothing to say just wow
To be honest i don't know if it's a lack of empathy or just being insensitive or if just totally detached. But i've heard so many story like this, i've seen so much stuff on the days where the internet wasn't moderated and to be frank i can easely find some messed shit up with just a few key word even now a day. It doesn't really make me feel anything anymore, we speaking i saw people end themself on web cam level of stuff. Maybe not totally lacking empathy when i think this world is just totally fucked up, but i don't know anymore.,
People have limit to their empathy, it's a resource. We can't give it to everyone or we will be burned out. It doesn't make you abnormal or a bad person, usually people have the most empathy to their loved ones.
I also believe you can get numb to this kind of stuff especially on the internet when you aren't physically there to fitness it.
That cps story is just like what i imagined and probably the reason why i haven't spoken about my stuff ever....
I worked in a school for mentally disturbed children with violent behavior. One day after work, we went to a bar that was popular with the local police officers .. we laughed at the most messed up stories.. because if you can't laugh about it.. you'll break and just cry.
16:05 We don't do it on purpose, it's that we experience so much that our barometer for "normal" is off-center. Even vets who haven't been to any battle zones will have a handful of traumatic crap happen to us, plus we hear so many more. Most of the time if you politely ask us to tone it down in your presence, we'll at least try.
This. I'm not military, I've just had a brutal life. Bullied by both peers and adults, misdiagnosed for money as a kid (not a joke), raed at gunpoint, later raed by my ex-husband so many times I lost count (quadruple digits--too terrified to escape), cheated on by both spouses, yadda yadda yadda. This entire video just sounded like another day.
It's called read the room
@@GiordanDiodato Sure, and why don't homeless people just buy houses?
I agree, I'm a veterinary nurse and have seen some things! Chatting about it with colleagues helps process the experience, sometimes that might be at a restaurant etc. so other people can overhear, but if they requested I stop I would. I might not be aware of how much what I'm saying is affecting others, and I think it's true for all the front line/medical/military professionals. There's no malice of 'listen to this, so I can disturb you', just trying to talk to others about something I see daily.
Story 20. Play around with death to much it will happen eventually.
to story 12, the one with the army: my best friend got deployed a few months back and it was literally the worst thing ever. He was always really loving, very kind and overall one of the happiest and most compassionate people i knew, no matter what life threw at him he always was seeing the positive sides of it. The army broke him completly, he was a shell of his former self, he was hating on "their enemies" bc the army LITERALLY brainwashed him. He knows that the cycle of revenge is just horrible and that it is also stupid and never will make anything better, but then he started to actually believing in it and wanted to avenge his friends that died (in gaza aswell).
His wife literally wrote me (said to that: we never had contact before since she has rly bad social anxiety) and wrote that "her loving husband turned into this heart-broken empty body" and words never hit me harder. I was never confronted with anything war-related before that all happened and it destroyed me mentally seeing him like that, being scared and not knowing if he might have died while they did some training, if they got bombed or whatever.
To that aswell: He nearly died last year bc of some medical problems, the fact that the army even deployed him is just plain up enraging (he wasnt in a good medical state at all and no actual doctor would have allowed him to go to the army!) - where its just enraging me how his homeland is handling that, its just irresponsible, they just deploy everyone and dont even care if they are in a state to be able to actually fight or if they would just go there and die.
He was that exhausted from the training over the past 4 months, a week back he collapsed. He managed to wake up and is now recovering, they (the hospital) forbid him to go back for a month and that he has to rest - he now got a permit that allows him to not go back there, after his wife and me were begging him to get that. I was always kinda still behind him, accepting his descision, eventhough i think everything war-related is just beyond stupid (he got raised the way that war is sth kinda glorified and its sth good if u served for ur land), but after he collapsed i lost it. I also told him, that if he would go back, the next time he would collapse, he would not wake up and that i couldnt take that anymore, same with his wife. Her and i were just worried all of the time and we just didnt want to anymore, it was painful. It was 4 months of constant pain, where everyday just feels like hell and u dont know if he is still alive or not..
It was ultimately the thing that made him agree to getting the permit.
(+ the way they were treated, didnt even get a day to rest, got the most disgusting stuff to eat [their teeth broke bc it was that hard or the got hot bell peppers with spicy cheese in them???] and literally nothing was done to actually get them in a healthy and strong shape, which would be smart for good soldiers, is just disgusting. the didnt only break them mentally but also physically, they were all super exhausted [they got no nutrients, so no energy so obviously they are + they werent properly provided with water or anything for hours while they were in the desert training for days and hours on end])
This is heart breaking
I feel like we as the internet need to do something about that mom and SA'd son? @UnderSparked can we trace that Reddit user at all? This abuse could be ongoing currently?
I miss my therapist she was awesome
You know what. I do actually need a minute after watching this.
My "I need a minute", even if I dont work with peoples with trauma, was when my snake died. I had to go to work, and I did, I was thinking that I was fine. But when a co worker said to me "Are you ok ?" I broke down. I had for two years, and its was my fault, her tail was "dead" and it infected her, I think...
It still hurt everytime I think about her
I hahe a new snake, that is too little for her age, and I take extra attention on her. She is a good, sweet girl, and I hope I can help her get on the good shape for her age
the therapist in the first story should _NOT_ have taken on the wife as a client
The second to last one hit me hard, as I grieved a bit differently when my grandma died. I heard the news while my dad and I were at another late family member's memorial, and I just sat there alone feeling numb. Next thing I know, I was in the bathroom crying.
My relationship with her was... odd. I was her only grandkid and she was the only grandparent I was ever close with during childhood, so I idolized her for the first 12-13 years of my life. Unfortunately, I'd find out how much of an asshole she could be to my dad (which, in hindsight, was deserved), my mom (her own *daughter*), and even me. I never talked about what I found out about my grandma to her, but my idolization of her crushed into being wary around her until her passing when I was 14.
Good therapists are amazing for your mental health, accept no substitute. A bad therapist, or worse, one that’s worked out that there is no financial benefit to actually fixing you, will do more damage to your psyche than having never seen a therapist at all. Be discretionary with who you trust your mental health to.
I hate that CPS listens to the abuser over the victim, Like the abuser won't lie to save their ass??? Yeah.
it's crazy how a lot these stories have things like cps or medical professionals or something included and they do absolutely nothing to help. our mental health system is so fucking messed up
Not me, but my therapist. She does online and in person meetings and I was in an online meeting… the patient before me was in person and tried to end themselves in front of her, and she needed a minute